WEBVTT 00:00:36.109 --> 00:00:37.590 this is food for thought thoughts if it were 00:00:37.590 --> 00:00:41.670 you this is your host neogentrics it is four o 00:00:41.670 --> 00:00:43.490 'clock in the morning as you can probably tell 00:00:43.490 --> 00:00:45.210 from the intro i'm going to be doing something 00:00:45.210 --> 00:00:47.829 a little bit different today i'm still going 00:00:47.829 --> 00:00:51.929 to continue doing my dark truths reveal series 00:00:51.929 --> 00:00:54.530 i feel like it's getting a lot of traction and 00:00:54.530 --> 00:00:57.049 a lot of people who originally didn't care for 00:00:57.049 --> 00:00:59.170 this information it's starting to look forward 00:00:59.170 --> 00:01:00.929 to the next episode because they want to know 00:01:00.929 --> 00:01:04.959 what other stories I've found because they don't 00:01:04.959 --> 00:01:07.659 have the time to, you know, look it up. Well, 00:01:07.799 --> 00:01:09.840 like I said in my last episode, I'm not going 00:01:09.840 --> 00:01:12.340 to be doing it every single night because some 00:01:12.340 --> 00:01:13.579 people want to listen to something different. 00:01:13.620 --> 00:01:16.680 So tonight, based off of what you just heard, 00:01:16.799 --> 00:01:18.659 I'm going to cover something a little bit different. 00:01:18.939 --> 00:01:22.260 I'm going to go back to my skills that I was 00:01:22.260 --> 00:01:23.900 covering before. I want to cover something because 00:01:23.900 --> 00:01:25.879 I have a cousin and a couple of friends now that 00:01:25.879 --> 00:01:28.680 have kids. So I figured let's go ahead and cover 00:01:28.680 --> 00:01:31.120 that real quick and we'll move on into something 00:01:31.120 --> 00:01:34.400 else. And then. you'll get the next dark truth 00:01:34.400 --> 00:01:37.620 reveal episode within the next two days. So, 00:01:37.700 --> 00:01:44.180 with that in mind, let's go ahead and cover toddlers 00:01:44.180 --> 00:01:46.400 and young children. That's going to be the topic 00:01:46.400 --> 00:01:51.900 for today. So, before I covered pregnancy and 00:01:51.900 --> 00:01:54.780 babies, and I'm pretty sure it was about 20 or 00:01:54.780 --> 00:01:58.719 30 episodes back, and I didn't go any further 00:01:58.719 --> 00:02:00.799 than that. It's not that I didn't want to, it's 00:02:00.799 --> 00:02:03.900 just that most people still had toddlers well 00:02:03.900 --> 00:02:07.799 babies at that point and kind of weird to go 00:02:07.799 --> 00:02:10.039 into toddlers and young children when most everybody 00:02:10.039 --> 00:02:13.199 still has babies but seeing how it's been about 00:02:13.199 --> 00:02:15.259 almost a year now since I started that series 00:02:15.259 --> 00:02:18.560 I think it's time I started actually covering 00:02:18.560 --> 00:02:22.060 that so we'll take a short break right here and 00:02:22.060 --> 00:02:47.340 then we'll begin shortly after Right on. Let's 00:02:47.340 --> 00:02:49.120 go ahead and move on into the toddlers and young 00:02:49.120 --> 00:02:53.740 children's category, shall we? Now, after babyhood, 00:02:53.740 --> 00:02:56.419 the next stage of development is known as the 00:02:56.419 --> 00:02:58.819 toddler years. Now, generally speaking, this 00:02:58.819 --> 00:03:01.680 is a period, it tends to start anywhere from 00:03:01.680 --> 00:03:05.400 about 12 to 18 months of age. So almost about 00:03:05.400 --> 00:03:07.879 a year after the baby is born, give or take. 00:03:08.539 --> 00:03:11.139 And, you know, it will usually continue for a 00:03:11.139 --> 00:03:14.810 couple of years. It's a period of development 00:03:14.810 --> 00:03:18.310 characterized by the emergence of independence 00:03:18.310 --> 00:03:24.210 of both personality and movement. That's the 00:03:24.210 --> 00:03:26.469 word I'm looking for here. I mean, your baby 00:03:26.469 --> 00:03:28.509 who's in the early days had no idea that you 00:03:28.509 --> 00:03:31.990 were a separate person, okay? Will now be keen 00:03:31.990 --> 00:03:35.250 to assert their independence in every way possible, 00:03:35.530 --> 00:03:39.530 considering their mind isn't completely developed 00:03:39.530 --> 00:03:44.520 at this point, right? Of course, as the name 00:03:44.520 --> 00:03:47.539 toddler implies, they are now moving about freely, 00:03:47.659 --> 00:03:50.539 crawling or walking, if they have started walking 00:03:50.539 --> 00:03:52.659 at this point, which gives them extra freedom 00:03:52.659 --> 00:03:54.639 to make independent decisions about what they 00:03:54.639 --> 00:03:57.740 do and where they go, even if they have no idea. 00:03:58.439 --> 00:04:00.719 During the toddler years, children start to develop 00:04:00.719 --> 00:04:04.479 language. It begins to be possible to have a 00:04:04.479 --> 00:04:06.580 conversation with them. And it's fair to say 00:04:06.580 --> 00:04:08.919 that toddler years are delightful, if not challenging, 00:04:09.120 --> 00:04:14.629 of a developmental stage. The toddler years are 00:04:14.629 --> 00:04:17.670 full of laughter, both at and with your child, 00:04:17.769 --> 00:04:21.610 and most of them many happy times for most normal, 00:04:21.709 --> 00:04:24.750 decent parents. And they are also enormously 00:04:24.750 --> 00:04:28.050 challenging in many, many different ways. However, 00:04:28.250 --> 00:04:34.310 the assertion of independence and the frustration 00:04:34.310 --> 00:04:37.350 of not being able to achieve as much as they 00:04:37.350 --> 00:04:40.470 wanted often leads toddlers to challenging behaviors 00:04:40.470 --> 00:04:45.649 that we know them as Now, the toddler years are 00:04:45.649 --> 00:04:48.790 not called the terrible twos for nothing. And 00:04:48.790 --> 00:04:51.250 almost every child will throw at least one tantrum 00:04:51.250 --> 00:04:56.790 over the period. Now, keep in mind, you have 00:04:56.790 --> 00:04:59.149 to understand the toddlers and their behaviors. 00:04:59.649 --> 00:05:01.949 Otherwise, this doesn't help you and it actually 00:05:01.949 --> 00:05:04.170 hurts you in the long run. And you don't want 00:05:04.170 --> 00:05:08.709 to overbear your child. Now, keep in mind, I'm 00:05:08.709 --> 00:05:11.500 not saying that... Punishing your children means 00:05:11.500 --> 00:05:14.199 you have to beat the ever -living crap out of 00:05:14.199 --> 00:05:17.120 them. No, that's something totally different. 00:05:17.879 --> 00:05:20.339 Now, old school people have their way of disciplining 00:05:20.339 --> 00:05:23.399 people, their children, and the new generation 00:05:23.399 --> 00:05:24.839 has a way of disciplining their children that's 00:05:24.839 --> 00:05:27.019 completely different. Now, if you're one of those 00:05:27.019 --> 00:05:28.639 people who doesn't think disciplining your children 00:05:28.639 --> 00:05:32.060 is a good thing, or you see disciplining your 00:05:32.060 --> 00:05:34.420 children as just telling them no, well, to each 00:05:34.420 --> 00:05:36.589 their own. But you've seen the different effects. 00:05:36.990 --> 00:05:39.069 And in another podcast, I'll cover the difference 00:05:39.069 --> 00:05:42.750 between being a forceful parent that says everything 00:05:42.750 --> 00:05:44.850 versus a parent that actually does something. 00:05:45.589 --> 00:05:48.829 But until I get to that, we're just going to 00:05:48.829 --> 00:06:11.730 focus on this. Okay, so keeping in with the theme 00:06:11.730 --> 00:06:14.889 of what I just said, like I said, understanding 00:06:14.889 --> 00:06:18.129 toddlers and their behavior, the crucial issue 00:06:18.129 --> 00:06:21.910 in managing behavioral issues is to develop an 00:06:21.910 --> 00:06:23.829 understanding of your child and the reason for 00:06:23.829 --> 00:06:26.610 their behavior. Now, as a general rule, okay, 00:06:26.730 --> 00:06:29.910 children want parental attention and will do 00:06:29.910 --> 00:06:33.209 whatever is necessary to get it. Okay, they're 00:06:33.209 --> 00:06:36.899 self, excuse me, they're selfish. You know, including 00:06:36.899 --> 00:06:39.079 throwing tantrums. It's important to understand 00:06:39.079 --> 00:06:41.600 this and to avoid doing anything that may reinforce 00:06:41.600 --> 00:06:46.379 unwanted behavior in your child. You know, in 00:06:46.379 --> 00:06:49.199 other words, if you react to the tantrums with 00:06:49.199 --> 00:06:51.720 full -on 100 % attention, then the tantrums will 00:06:51.720 --> 00:06:53.839 continue because the child will see that it works. 00:06:54.560 --> 00:06:57.420 On the other hand, you can ignore them completely 00:06:57.420 --> 00:07:00.079 and carry on doing everything else. Then, you 00:07:00.079 --> 00:07:03.290 know... it is anyways possible that your child 00:07:03.290 --> 00:07:05.269 may decide that it's not worth throwing a tantrum 00:07:05.269 --> 00:07:08.209 anymore once they see it doesn't work at all. 00:07:09.170 --> 00:07:11.850 Now, this is why you may sometimes see brave 00:07:11.850 --> 00:07:14.410 parents sitting calmly down on the pavement or 00:07:14.410 --> 00:07:16.250 in the park while their child throws a tantrum 00:07:16.250 --> 00:07:19.029 on the floor next to them. They're simply waiting 00:07:19.029 --> 00:07:21.709 for the storm to pass, or waiting on the child 00:07:21.709 --> 00:07:24.850 to rather give up, if you will, on the whole 00:07:24.850 --> 00:07:30.500 thing. Now... I have more information I could 00:07:30.500 --> 00:07:33.259 go into on understanding your young child or 00:07:33.259 --> 00:07:37.339 toddler, but again, I'll hold off on that because 00:07:37.339 --> 00:07:39.819 there's a whole other podcast I want to do on 00:07:39.819 --> 00:07:42.439 managing toddler behavior and dealing with the 00:07:42.439 --> 00:07:44.079 tantrums in general. But this is just a quick 00:07:44.079 --> 00:07:47.800 overview is what I'm covering right now. Next 00:07:47.800 --> 00:07:51.839 would be feeding toddlers. Apart from toddler 00:07:51.839 --> 00:07:54.100 behavior, the other issue that seems to be a 00:07:54.100 --> 00:07:56.980 perennial issue for parents of toddlers is feeding 00:07:56.980 --> 00:08:00.050 them. Apparently, asserting independence means 00:08:00.050 --> 00:08:03.350 declaring a dislike for a wide range of previous 00:08:03.350 --> 00:08:07.430 acceptable foods and or ability to eat only pink, 00:08:07.589 --> 00:08:11.230 orange, white, or some other type of food. You 00:08:11.230 --> 00:08:15.930 know, as parents desperately ask themselves, 00:08:16.149 --> 00:08:18.050 you know, questions like, will my child always 00:08:18.050 --> 00:08:22.209 be a fussy eater? No. And is this really a phase? 00:08:22.250 --> 00:08:25.649 And if so, will it ever pass? Yeah. I mean, it 00:08:25.649 --> 00:08:28.829 just depends. Like I said before, I'll cover 00:08:28.829 --> 00:08:31.449 each one of these in a little more detail a little 00:08:31.449 --> 00:08:35.070 bit later. The only advice you really need to 00:08:35.070 --> 00:08:39.350 survive the toddler years is that this, too, 00:08:39.490 --> 00:08:41.669 is a phase. It will eventually pass, and you 00:08:41.669 --> 00:08:45.029 will face new problems and challenges. I hate 00:08:45.029 --> 00:08:47.690 to say it, but that's basically what parenting 00:08:47.690 --> 00:08:53.250 is. It's kind of sad, but that's the whole premise 00:08:53.250 --> 00:09:20.710 of it. All right, everybody. That's pretty much 00:09:20.710 --> 00:09:22.570 it for this podcast. I know it's going to be 00:09:22.570 --> 00:09:24.769 a little short compared to some of the others 00:09:24.769 --> 00:09:26.870 that I've done over the last couple of months 00:09:26.870 --> 00:09:31.509 up until the last year. But keep in mind, they're 00:09:31.509 --> 00:09:34.889 not supposed to be extremely long. A lot of people 00:09:34.889 --> 00:09:38.049 won't even sit here for that long if I give them 00:09:38.049 --> 00:09:42.110 an hour to two hour lecture on how to handle 00:09:42.110 --> 00:09:44.649 their children. As a matter of fact... most people 00:09:44.649 --> 00:09:46.509 don't want to hear that start with because they 00:09:46.509 --> 00:09:49.090 think everybody in their own mind is automatically 00:09:49.090 --> 00:09:52.549 going to think that they're a genius or an expert 00:09:52.549 --> 00:09:56.049 in whatever it is that they do okay no one's 00:09:56.049 --> 00:09:58.090 ever going to stop and think hey maybe i don't 00:09:58.090 --> 00:10:00.769 know how to do this i need help doesn't work 00:10:00.769 --> 00:10:07.470 that way thus we call it ego okay and pride and 00:10:07.470 --> 00:10:11.370 these are the two of the main emotions that basically 00:10:11.370 --> 00:10:14.110 drive humanity to the brink of extinction in 00:10:14.110 --> 00:10:19.850 the first place. And keeping this in mind real 00:10:19.850 --> 00:10:22.649 quick, it's not only men that this falls short 00:10:22.649 --> 00:10:25.389 on, it falls on women too, and it's pretty common 00:10:25.389 --> 00:10:28.710 with them as well as it is with men. Most often 00:10:28.710 --> 00:10:30.889 than not, arguments will start and men will sit 00:10:30.889 --> 00:10:33.409 there and they'll argue it out for about maybe 00:10:33.409 --> 00:10:35.129 5 or 10 minutes and then they'll get over it 00:10:35.129 --> 00:10:37.490 and forget it ever happened and move on. On the 00:10:37.490 --> 00:10:39.950 other hand, Women will tend to get upset about 00:10:39.950 --> 00:10:42.730 something, hold on to it like a personal grudge, 00:10:42.750 --> 00:10:44.929 and never let it go for the next years to come. 00:10:44.990 --> 00:10:46.490 And then the next time they see that person, 00:10:46.610 --> 00:10:48.529 either that feeling's going to come back or they're 00:10:48.529 --> 00:10:52.529 going to try to take it out on them. This is 00:10:52.529 --> 00:10:56.049 called emotional -based behavior. My next podcast, 00:10:56.389 --> 00:11:00.470 I feel like it's a time... Yeah, I feel like 00:11:00.470 --> 00:11:03.279 it's time I cover emotional behavior. Because 00:11:03.279 --> 00:11:05.259 this is a topic that seems to be plaguing a lot 00:11:05.259 --> 00:11:07.740 of people nowadays. When you let your emotions 00:11:07.740 --> 00:11:11.059 take over and it guides your actions, it can 00:11:11.059 --> 00:11:14.100 lead to a lot of distraught in the future. And 00:11:14.100 --> 00:11:17.179 it also helps because it helps you learn how 00:11:17.179 --> 00:11:20.000 to deal with people better and how to handle 00:11:20.000 --> 00:11:25.299 your children. Anyway, that's not the topic of 00:11:25.299 --> 00:11:27.940 today's podcast. Today's podcast was dealing 00:11:27.940 --> 00:11:30.120 with your children and understanding how to handle 00:11:30.120 --> 00:11:33.389 toddlers, basically. Now, if you want to know 00:11:33.389 --> 00:11:35.309 more about it and want me to go more in details, 00:11:35.429 --> 00:11:38.590 like dealing with the tantrums head on, or kind 00:11:38.590 --> 00:11:41.330 of understand your child more, or how to parent 00:11:41.330 --> 00:11:43.409 the difference between boys and girls, because 00:11:43.409 --> 00:11:46.269 each one's different, hit me up on my Facebook, 00:11:46.370 --> 00:11:48.929 Instagram, or Twitter. I'll be happy to give 00:11:48.929 --> 00:11:51.330 you a hand anytime and, you know, give you an 00:11:51.330 --> 00:11:53.850 episode based on what it is that you've asked. 00:11:54.629 --> 00:11:58.070 Now, enjoy the rest of your day. Peace. This 00:11:58.070 --> 00:12:00.490 is Neogentrix with Food for Thought, and this 00:12:00.490 --> 00:12:01.529 is Thoughts If It Were You.