WEBVTT 00:00:08.230 --> 00:00:35.030 I give them a cure with a fresh new album. Hey, 00:00:35.030 --> 00:00:37.950 everybody. Welcome back. This is Food for Thought. 00:00:38.149 --> 00:00:41.149 Thoughts if it were you. Season two, and this 00:00:41.149 --> 00:00:44.549 is your host, Neogentrics. I don't know how you 00:00:44.549 --> 00:00:46.770 all have been, but I hope y 'all are all doing 00:00:46.770 --> 00:00:50.149 really, really well. It's currently, and I kid 00:00:50.149 --> 00:00:54.869 you not, about 22, 23 degrees here in Houston, 00:00:54.990 --> 00:00:59.170 and there is a snowstorm blowing our asses off. 00:00:59.469 --> 00:01:02.780 So, but... As long as everyone's at home and 00:01:02.780 --> 00:01:05.799 staying warm, everything will be all right. It 00:01:05.799 --> 00:01:09.760 is 2 a .m. right here where I am. Today's topic, 00:01:09.939 --> 00:01:12.519 we're going to go back to interpersonal skills. 00:01:12.719 --> 00:01:14.519 I told you all there was still a lot more stuff 00:01:14.519 --> 00:01:16.420 to cover, and there's a lot of things I want 00:01:16.420 --> 00:01:18.719 to get to. So today we're going to cover charisma. 00:01:18.840 --> 00:01:21.000 What is it? We're going to define it. We're going 00:01:21.000 --> 00:01:23.439 to figure out what it is, if it's something that 00:01:23.439 --> 00:01:25.900 could be learned, something that is taught, and 00:01:25.900 --> 00:01:29.340 how to be more charismatic, if you know what 00:01:29.340 --> 00:01:34.439 I mean. So, picking up where I left off, and 00:01:34.439 --> 00:01:36.540 it's been a while, so that's a long way to go 00:01:36.540 --> 00:01:41.620 back. What is charisma? That's the question. 00:01:42.819 --> 00:01:47.019 Charisma, in a sense, is the quality of being 00:01:47.019 --> 00:01:49.939 able to attract, charm, or influence those around 00:01:49.939 --> 00:01:52.680 you. It's usually easy to identify when someone 00:01:52.680 --> 00:01:57.370 is charismatic. However, often harder to say 00:01:57.370 --> 00:02:00.129 exactly what skills or qualities those people 00:02:00.129 --> 00:02:08.689 have that other less charismatic people lack. 00:02:08.909 --> 00:02:11.250 That's kind of a little hard to say. I mean, 00:02:11.270 --> 00:02:15.330 to be fair, it's not exactly an accurate assessment 00:02:15.330 --> 00:02:21.150 or judgment, but it beats being prejudiced, if 00:02:21.150 --> 00:02:23.469 you know what I mean. So, to make things more 00:02:23.469 --> 00:02:27.099 complicated... And then what I just said, there 00:02:27.099 --> 00:02:30.900 are different types of charismatic people. So 00:02:30.900 --> 00:02:33.860 some may be quieter than others, perhaps relying 00:02:33.860 --> 00:02:36.159 more on their personal charm than their words 00:02:36.159 --> 00:02:38.159 to influence others. And then there's others 00:02:38.159 --> 00:02:40.580 who are passionate communicators sweeping everyone 00:02:40.580 --> 00:02:44.060 along with their enthusiasm. Nothing wrong with 00:02:44.060 --> 00:02:46.819 this, but ultimately charisma is the result of 00:02:46.819 --> 00:02:48.860 excellent communication and interpersonal skills. 00:02:49.020 --> 00:02:52.060 It is therefore possible to develop and improve 00:02:52.060 --> 00:02:56.180 your charisma through these. uh functions and 00:02:56.180 --> 00:02:58.740 one of the things we're going to do today is 00:02:58.740 --> 00:03:00.620 we're going to like i said before we're going 00:03:00.620 --> 00:03:03.840 to define charisma talk about developing influence 00:03:03.840 --> 00:03:10.879 and how to develop affability so let's get in 00:03:10.879 --> 00:03:28.379 there and get started Alright everybody, so I 00:03:28.379 --> 00:03:32.120 did my research, as I always do, before I go 00:03:32.120 --> 00:03:35.560 into any topic that I wish to cover. So, like 00:03:35.560 --> 00:03:37.979 I said before, we're going to define what the 00:03:37.979 --> 00:03:43.659 heck charisma is. So, in order to do this, let's 00:03:43.659 --> 00:03:46.120 go to the University of Toronto and find out 00:03:46.120 --> 00:03:48.139 what they've found out. Because if I'm not mistaken, 00:03:48.240 --> 00:03:50.340 this was one of the areas they studied as well. 00:03:51.740 --> 00:03:54.099 And I think their study for charisma involved 00:03:54.099 --> 00:03:56.879 like about a thousand people. Anyway, this is 00:03:56.879 --> 00:03:59.759 what they pretty much found out. They found that 00:03:59.759 --> 00:04:02.680 charisma consists of a mixture of what they call 00:04:02.680 --> 00:04:06.360 ability and influence. Everybody's got a different 00:04:06.360 --> 00:04:09.819 set of both. Influence was defined as the leadership 00:04:09.819 --> 00:04:12.300 ability and strength of presence for that person. 00:04:12.500 --> 00:04:15.840 Whereas the ability was defined as being approachable, 00:04:15.979 --> 00:04:19.139 pleasant to be around, you know, that sort of 00:04:19.139 --> 00:04:25.560 thing. It turns out to be possible to quantify 00:04:25.560 --> 00:04:28.920 charisma in a sense that it almost seems that 00:04:28.920 --> 00:04:32.480 self -rated charisma levels are actually surprisingly 00:04:32.480 --> 00:04:35.759 accurate when compared with ratings of other 00:04:35.759 --> 00:04:38.339 people based off of the way they act and perform, 00:04:38.920 --> 00:04:42.639 whether naturally or such. Anyway, to quantify 00:04:42.639 --> 00:04:45.060 the amount of charisma that you have based off 00:04:45.060 --> 00:04:48.939 of these factors. that they use to define charisma, 00:04:49.180 --> 00:04:52.040 you can rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 5, where 00:04:52.040 --> 00:04:55.660 5 is the highest, against 6 specific statements. 00:04:55.939 --> 00:04:58.060 And these will help you define just how much 00:04:58.060 --> 00:05:02.100 charisma you really have. Now, let's start with 00:05:02.100 --> 00:05:05.839 this. I am someone who is, and then now I'm going 00:05:05.839 --> 00:05:07.899 to list all 6 of these, and now you can decide, 00:05:08.100 --> 00:05:12.259 based off these answers, rating yourself between 00:05:12.259 --> 00:05:15.819 1 to 5, just how much charisma you have. Okay? 00:05:17.150 --> 00:05:21.029 So, I'll tell you how the score works out at 00:05:21.029 --> 00:05:23.689 the end. So, just work with me here to come up 00:05:23.689 --> 00:05:26.910 with a number for each one of these. And then, 00:05:27.069 --> 00:05:32.730 I'll show you how to total out in the end. So, 00:05:32.750 --> 00:05:36.389 number one. I am someone who, one, has a presence 00:05:36.389 --> 00:05:42.050 in a room. We didn't think about that. Two, has 00:05:42.050 --> 00:05:47.180 the ability to influence people. Okay. Three, 00:05:47.180 --> 00:05:51.699 knows how to lead a group. Four, makes people 00:05:51.699 --> 00:05:54.660 feel comfortable, whether around them, with them, 00:05:54.699 --> 00:05:58.939 or, you know, so on. Five, smiles at people often, 00:05:59.079 --> 00:06:03.079 even if it's not for any particular reason. And 00:06:03.079 --> 00:06:09.060 then six, can get along with anyone. Now, give 00:06:09.060 --> 00:06:12.339 you a split second to come up with your scores 00:06:12.339 --> 00:06:15.579 for each one of those. Total them out. And then 00:06:15.579 --> 00:06:18.399 I want you to take that total for each one of 00:06:18.399 --> 00:06:20.699 them. Like if one was a four, two was a three, 00:06:20.879 --> 00:06:24.040 you know, so on each one down, add those totals 00:06:24.040 --> 00:06:26.420 up. Then I want you to divide that total by six. 00:06:26.540 --> 00:06:29.000 And that's what gives you your charisma value. 00:06:30.079 --> 00:06:32.459 It's just a way of weighting just how much charisma 00:06:32.459 --> 00:06:34.680 or an approximate amount of charisma that you 00:06:34.680 --> 00:06:37.459 have. Anything over 3 .7 is considered higher 00:06:37.459 --> 00:06:42.060 than average. Unfortunately for me, and this 00:06:42.060 --> 00:06:45.000 is not something I'm actually proud of. but mine 00:06:45.000 --> 00:06:49.019 came out pretty high. You want to know the real 00:06:49.019 --> 00:06:50.240 number, you're going to have to message me, though. 00:06:50.519 --> 00:06:55.500 But it's just a good way to, you know, build 00:06:55.500 --> 00:06:57.540 up a little self -confidence and understand just 00:06:57.540 --> 00:07:00.399 how much weight you carry with your influence. 00:07:00.680 --> 00:07:02.399 Everybody's a little bit different. If you're 00:07:02.399 --> 00:07:04.139 not sure, but everyone's always telling you to 00:07:04.139 --> 00:07:05.860 be careful of your actions because it influences 00:07:05.860 --> 00:07:08.279 a lot of people, this is one way to kind of weigh 00:07:08.279 --> 00:07:13.050 it out and get a rough estimate on... just how 00:07:13.050 --> 00:07:16.410 much damage you can actually do. We're going 00:07:16.410 --> 00:07:17.629 to take a short break, and then we're going to 00:07:17.629 --> 00:07:36.389 talk about developing influence. All right, everybody, 00:07:36.550 --> 00:07:39.959 continuing on. Let's talk about developing that 00:07:39.959 --> 00:07:44.139 influence that we mentioned before. So there 00:07:44.139 --> 00:07:46.540 are statements used to assess charisma that show 00:07:46.540 --> 00:07:51.860 that influence generally has three distinct parts. 00:07:52.160 --> 00:07:57.720 The first thing is your presence. Next is your 00:07:57.720 --> 00:08:00.860 ability to influence along with your ability 00:08:00.860 --> 00:08:04.160 to lead. Those are the three things. Presence 00:08:04.160 --> 00:08:06.639 is perhaps the most difficult to define and pin 00:08:06.639 --> 00:08:09.769 down. Those with presence can generally be said 00:08:09.769 --> 00:08:12.829 to be confident and believe in themselves. They're 00:08:12.829 --> 00:08:15.569 usually optimistic and resilient in the face 00:08:15.569 --> 00:08:18.629 of, you know, general setbacks and other things 00:08:18.629 --> 00:08:21.449 of that nature. In other words, charismatic people 00:08:21.449 --> 00:08:23.470 are confident people, or at least they have the 00:08:23.470 --> 00:08:26.430 ability to appear confident, even if they aren't 00:08:26.430 --> 00:08:30.939 100 % confident. Being confident to communicate 00:08:30.939 --> 00:08:33.480 in various different situations, one -on -one, 00:08:33.480 --> 00:08:35.779 in groups, in front of audiences, is a skill 00:08:35.779 --> 00:08:38.580 that many people struggle to even do. Whereas 00:08:38.580 --> 00:08:41.179 a charismatic person can only get peer comp... 00:08:41.320 --> 00:08:43.259 confident in different communications, but they 00:08:43.259 --> 00:08:45.820 can also help others to feel confident, thus 00:08:45.820 --> 00:08:49.139 aiding and enhancing in their communication processes 00:08:49.139 --> 00:08:52.019 between them, other people, so on and so forth. 00:08:52.159 --> 00:08:54.600 Charismatic people are confident in a positive 00:08:54.600 --> 00:08:58.340 way without being boastful, egotistical, prideful, 00:08:58.419 --> 00:09:02.620 things of that nature. As with confidence, charismatic 00:09:02.620 --> 00:09:07.600 people are rather or have the ability to appear 00:09:07.600 --> 00:09:12.809 optimistic. In other words, this means that they 00:09:12.809 --> 00:09:15.730 see the best in other people, situation, events, 00:09:16.230 --> 00:09:19.789 problems. They usually remain cheerful, bounce 00:09:19.789 --> 00:09:23.830 back. Again, they have a good set of resilience. 00:09:23.990 --> 00:09:26.690 Charismatic people have the capability to encourage 00:09:26.690 --> 00:09:29.570 others to see things as they do. Thus, they can 00:09:29.570 --> 00:09:32.750 also enthuse and enable other people to feel 00:09:32.750 --> 00:09:35.350 more optimistic themselves. Like they actually 00:09:35.350 --> 00:09:37.090 have the power to do something about it, even 00:09:37.090 --> 00:09:39.590 if the situation seems hopeless. In other words, 00:09:39.610 --> 00:09:42.750 positive thinking. Positive thinking and optimism 00:09:42.750 --> 00:09:46.129 can be very powerful forces for successful negotiations, 00:09:46.730 --> 00:09:52.450 problem solving, things of that nature. Charismatic 00:09:52.450 --> 00:09:56.850 people also have a good persuasive and influencing 00:09:56.850 --> 00:10:01.590 ability. They can often make people want what 00:10:01.590 --> 00:10:04.169 they want and unite them for a common, unified 00:10:04.169 --> 00:10:08.860 goal. Though with this ability comes a lot of 00:10:08.860 --> 00:10:11.860 setbacks and a lot of negative draws. So keep 00:10:11.860 --> 00:10:13.720 in mind that just because a person's charismatic 00:10:13.720 --> 00:10:15.460 and it's someone that you want to follow, you 00:10:15.460 --> 00:10:16.840 got to make sure that the goals that they're 00:10:16.840 --> 00:10:20.460 aiming towards is actually something worth following. 00:10:22.120 --> 00:10:27.960 So as with any other ability, this ability can 00:10:27.960 --> 00:10:30.720 be both good and bad. Charismatic leaders may 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:32.639 be able to influence and encourage their followers 00:10:32.639 --> 00:10:34.580 to do things that might even seem impossible. 00:10:35.059 --> 00:10:38.039 They can motivate people to do hard jobs. A charismatic 00:10:38.039 --> 00:10:45.960 confidence trickster, however, is the opposite 00:10:45.960 --> 00:10:48.220 of that. They may use their skills to gain the 00:10:48.220 --> 00:10:50.100 trust and respect of all of their victims before 00:10:50.100 --> 00:10:52.399 ultimately extorting them for all their money, 00:10:52.480 --> 00:10:55.399 valuables, or otherwise. So this is something 00:10:55.399 --> 00:10:59.480 to keep in mind. And then the final characteristic 00:10:59.480 --> 00:11:02.240 classified as part of influence for a charismatic 00:11:02.240 --> 00:11:06.100 person is that people often have very good leadership 00:11:06.100 --> 00:11:10.240 skills. Now, this may be seen by a lot of people 00:11:10.240 --> 00:11:12.840 as natural born leaders, even though they often 00:11:12.840 --> 00:11:16.379 spend years honing their skills to make leadership 00:11:16.379 --> 00:11:20.279 seem effortless. They're not natural leaders. 00:11:20.360 --> 00:11:23.399 They've had to practice. They're able to use 00:11:23.399 --> 00:11:25.580 a variety of different leadership styles to suit 00:11:25.580 --> 00:11:28.539 the circumstances that they're in and those that 00:11:28.539 --> 00:11:31.379 are leading. I'm sorry, those that they are leading. 00:11:32.039 --> 00:11:35.500 So with that being said, they're usually very 00:11:35.500 --> 00:11:37.879 good at developing and communicating a compelling 00:11:37.879 --> 00:11:40.820 vision, something that gets the people riled 00:11:40.820 --> 00:11:43.379 up. Their general communication skills are usually 00:11:43.379 --> 00:11:47.429 extremely strong. It's definitely something to 00:11:47.429 --> 00:11:50.889 look forward to when they speak. Like, they give 00:11:50.889 --> 00:11:57.389 you a reason to want what they want. So, all 00:11:57.389 --> 00:12:00.769 right. I know that was a lot of information all 00:12:00.769 --> 00:12:05.370 in a small, small time span. But, you know, I 00:12:05.370 --> 00:12:08.409 want to make sure I thoroughly explain this as 00:12:08.409 --> 00:12:11.210 best as I can where you guys can understand it. 00:12:12.110 --> 00:12:14.070 We're going to take a short break here, and then 00:12:14.070 --> 00:12:16.309 we're going to talk about how to develop affability. 00:12:27.990 --> 00:12:38.860 Now. Much like developing your influence is to 00:12:38.860 --> 00:12:41.519 have a lot of charisma or to develop your charisma, 00:12:41.580 --> 00:12:44.600 you also have to develop your affability. The 00:12:44.600 --> 00:12:48.080 main areas of affability are the ability to get 00:12:48.080 --> 00:12:50.899 on with people, smiling often, and genuinely 00:12:50.899 --> 00:12:54.220 being able to make people feel comfortable around 00:12:54.220 --> 00:12:56.519 you, near you, things of that nature. Perhaps 00:12:56.519 --> 00:12:59.620 the most important element of this is good emotional 00:12:59.620 --> 00:13:02.460 intelligence. I don't remember if I covered that 00:13:02.460 --> 00:13:05.539 or not, if I have. I'll definitely cover it in 00:13:05.539 --> 00:13:08.320 a future episode. So something else to look forward 00:13:08.320 --> 00:13:13.059 to. The ability to appear confident or optimistic. 00:13:13.139 --> 00:13:17.200 If you're not required, if you are not required, 00:13:17.419 --> 00:13:21.259 how do I want to put this? You have to appear 00:13:21.259 --> 00:13:24.100 confident and optimistic. If you're not, it requires 00:13:24.100 --> 00:13:27.639 a certain amount of acting on your part. Now, 00:13:27.679 --> 00:13:29.159 while this may seem like you're just putting 00:13:29.159 --> 00:13:32.519 on a fake face in front of other people, a lot 00:13:32.519 --> 00:13:35.879 of times that is necessary. But you have to be 00:13:35.879 --> 00:13:38.399 in control of your emotions. This is the only 00:13:38.399 --> 00:13:41.309 drawback to this, okay? You also need to be able 00:13:41.309 --> 00:13:43.750 to harness both your own and the other person's 00:13:43.750 --> 00:13:46.789 emotions positively in a certain way to achieve 00:13:46.789 --> 00:13:49.029 what it is that you're trying to achieve. Charismatic 00:13:49.029 --> 00:13:51.190 people are very good at showing true emotions 00:13:51.190 --> 00:13:54.190 when this works to their best advantage. They're 00:13:54.190 --> 00:13:57.169 usually also good at masking or acting in a certain 00:13:57.169 --> 00:13:59.509 way that makes others believe what they see, 00:13:59.610 --> 00:14:03.330 even if it's not what is real. The analogy of 00:14:03.330 --> 00:14:06.750 a swimming swan is useful in this example as 00:14:06.750 --> 00:14:10.620 calm and serene on the surface. but with a lot 00:14:10.620 --> 00:14:13.379 of hidden activity out of view to the casual 00:14:13.379 --> 00:14:15.679 observer. When you see a swan swimming on the 00:14:15.679 --> 00:14:19.019 water, the water looks smooth, like silk, it's 00:14:19.019 --> 00:14:21.659 not bubbling, it's not splashing, nothing. But 00:14:21.659 --> 00:14:24.820 underneath the water, that little quacker is 00:14:24.820 --> 00:14:28.639 kicking up a storm and swimming like crazy just 00:14:28.639 --> 00:14:33.840 to propel himself forward. Now, charismatic people 00:14:33.840 --> 00:14:36.080 are also very interesting in the sense that others 00:14:36.080 --> 00:14:38.659 want to listen to what they have to say. Because 00:14:38.659 --> 00:14:40.899 they give that kind of presence. This is partly 00:14:40.899 --> 00:14:43.879 because they have interesting things to say and 00:14:43.879 --> 00:14:46.720 a very compelling vision. Partly the way they 00:14:46.720 --> 00:14:49.639 communicate has something to do with this. Okay? 00:14:50.080 --> 00:14:53.179 And a matter of speaking, they are good storytellers. 00:14:53.220 --> 00:14:57.059 Okay? With an engaging manner of speaking and 00:14:57.059 --> 00:14:58.860 explaining. They're able to communicate their 00:14:58.860 --> 00:15:02.340 message clearly, concisely. Being able to be 00:15:02.340 --> 00:15:03.960 serious when they need to be serious. Injecting 00:15:03.960 --> 00:15:05.840 humor where appropriate to keep their audience 00:15:05.840 --> 00:15:08.940 as attentive and focused. And when they're on 00:15:08.940 --> 00:15:11.519 a one -on -one or small group situation, charismatic 00:15:11.519 --> 00:15:13.860 people will use open, relaxed body language, 00:15:13.919 --> 00:15:17.580 including lots of eye contact. They will watch 00:15:17.580 --> 00:15:20.019 for feedback from their audience and even clarify 00:15:20.019 --> 00:15:23.460 their position accordingly as they speak. When 00:15:23.460 --> 00:15:25.700 in larger groups or making a presentation to 00:15:25.700 --> 00:15:28.059 others, body language should become more exaggerated 00:15:28.059 --> 00:15:32.039 in an attempt to include everybody that they're 00:15:32.039 --> 00:15:35.279 trying to talk to. So, essentially, they're incorporating 00:15:35.279 --> 00:15:38.240 everybody and adjusting how they act, move, and 00:15:38.240 --> 00:15:40.399 feel based off of the way that everyone who's 00:15:40.399 --> 00:15:43.179 watching them is reacting to what they're saying 00:15:43.179 --> 00:15:46.259 or doing. Charismatic people are also interesting 00:15:46.259 --> 00:15:49.340 in a way that they generally want to listen to 00:15:49.340 --> 00:15:51.899 what others have to say, not just push their 00:15:51.899 --> 00:15:55.639 agenda. They're likely to ask open -ended questions 00:15:55.639 --> 00:15:57.399 to help them understand the views, opinions, 00:15:57.639 --> 00:16:05.169 and feelings of others. heartfelt or honest answers 00:16:05.169 --> 00:16:09.929 as a reply essentially charismatic people tend 00:16:09.929 --> 00:16:13.330 to be empathetic and even considerate towards 00:16:13.330 --> 00:16:15.950 others remembering details from previous conversations 00:16:15.950 --> 00:16:18.610 and therefore gaining the respect and trust of 00:16:18.610 --> 00:16:22.870 that person so I guess one way you can look at 00:16:22.870 --> 00:16:24.929 it is charismatic people are good at building 00:16:24.929 --> 00:16:28.049 rapport with others. A sincere smile, maintaining 00:16:28.049 --> 00:16:32.389 contact with their eyes, being polite and courteous, 00:16:32.429 --> 00:16:34.669 they're just effective ways of getting people 00:16:34.669 --> 00:16:39.450 on our side and making people much more likely 00:16:39.450 --> 00:16:41.429 to do anything that they ask them to do just 00:16:41.429 --> 00:16:43.169 because they treated them well and they're nice 00:16:43.169 --> 00:16:47.509 to them. So just something to keep in mind about 00:16:47.509 --> 00:16:54.179 how to develop your... your affability towards 00:16:54.179 --> 00:17:14.819 increasing the amount of charisma you have. Alright, 00:17:15.019 --> 00:17:17.700 and that's pretty much it. If you're able to 00:17:17.700 --> 00:17:21.000 build up those two areas, enough, you can build 00:17:21.000 --> 00:17:23.259 up your level of charisma to the point where 00:17:23.259 --> 00:17:25.720 anybody will do just about anything that you 00:17:25.720 --> 00:17:28.519 ask them to do. Your affability and your influence 00:17:28.519 --> 00:17:30.980 weigh a lot on other people and it, you know, 00:17:30.980 --> 00:17:35.279 essentially helps them decide how they want to 00:17:35.279 --> 00:17:37.339 follow you, how they want to listen to you, how 00:17:37.339 --> 00:17:39.839 they wish to believe you, or do anything moving 00:17:39.839 --> 00:17:42.470 forward having to do with you. If your charisma 00:17:42.470 --> 00:17:45.269 level is too high, it can also push people away, 00:17:45.390 --> 00:17:48.309 so keep this in mind. A lot of people like people 00:17:48.309 --> 00:17:50.730 who are charismatic, who show high levels of 00:17:50.730 --> 00:17:52.349 leadership. They're going to want to follow you, 00:17:52.390 --> 00:17:56.009 but at the same time, the reverse is also true. 00:17:56.750 --> 00:18:03.230 So, as a way to close this out, because we covered 00:18:03.230 --> 00:18:07.789 a lot of information today, final thoughts. Okay, 00:18:07.910 --> 00:18:13.079 well, let's see. Being charismatic involves communicating 00:18:13.079 --> 00:18:16.480 dynamically with passion and enthusiasm while 00:18:16.480 --> 00:18:20.440 displaying positive body language, okay, in a 00:18:20.440 --> 00:18:23.500 nutshell. It involves thinking positively, having 00:18:23.500 --> 00:18:27.319 optimism, being self -confident, and also being 00:18:27.319 --> 00:18:29.839 persuasive while building the respect and trust 00:18:29.839 --> 00:18:33.960 of others at the same time. Like I said before, 00:18:34.180 --> 00:18:36.480 while this may seem like it's difficult at first, 00:18:36.660 --> 00:18:39.500 with a little practice, anybody can do it and 00:18:39.500 --> 00:18:42.099 do it really, really well. We can all learn to 00:18:42.099 --> 00:18:43.940 be more charismatic by developing our interpersonal 00:18:43.940 --> 00:18:46.660 skills through understanding and practice. Remember 00:18:46.660 --> 00:18:52.559 that however charismatic you are, you still will 00:18:52.559 --> 00:18:55.339 not be able to please every person all the time. 00:18:56.170 --> 00:18:58.750 Please don't try. You will burn yourself out. 00:18:58.890 --> 00:19:01.789 It is exhausting. It's tiring. I'm speaking from 00:19:01.789 --> 00:19:07.430 experience here. It's not worth the effort. It 00:19:07.430 --> 00:19:09.569 doesn't mean that you don't try. You always want 00:19:09.569 --> 00:19:13.329 to push to be a better you. But not at the cost 00:19:13.329 --> 00:19:19.009 of hurting yourself. So keep that in mind. Alright. 00:19:19.650 --> 00:19:22.650 That's it about charisma today. Next time we're 00:19:22.650 --> 00:19:26.660 going to talk about tact and diplomacy. here 00:19:26.660 --> 00:19:30.420 on this channel. It's been great. I love having 00:19:30.420 --> 00:19:32.819 you guys. I enjoy the fact that y 'all love listening 00:19:32.819 --> 00:19:34.720 to what I have to say. I love y 'all's suggestions. 00:19:35.599 --> 00:19:37.539 Thank you for sticking with me even through these 00:19:37.539 --> 00:19:39.599 rough times. I hope you enjoy the rest of your 00:19:39.599 --> 00:19:43.660 day. This is Neogentrix. Food for thought. Thoughts 00:19:43.660 --> 00:19:45.319 if it were you. Signing out.