all right all right all right here's the last
bit for this first piece right here right now
okay guys i got some tips for you this will make
as well they may help you may not help you but
it'll at least give you an idea or something
to think about when picking your lady or finding
the one that you're with notice i said lady not
girl not woman lady because that's exactly how
you should be treating her like she is a lady
if that means that when you're going on a date
or you're coming to pick her up doesn't matter
what it is you always show her your best always
show her your best never your worst never your
worst and when you do show her your worst you
need to make sure that you're both on agreement
right there right then So that you know both
each other's good and bad. So don't talk about
that. Yes, you have to actually talk about that.
Don't just let her find out at random because
I guarantee you she will hate you after the first
10 minutes. Okay, so to keep this relationship
sound, I'm going to give you four tips right
here how to keep your lady feeling secure. So
she'll know that you're not going to betray her
straight up right here. First one is be forthcoming
with information. You need to tell her information
straight up front. don't delay don't wait a day
don't wait a few hours don't even wait a few
minutes let her know almost immediately as soon
as you find out so that she has nothing to worry
about she knows that you're taking this relationship
sincerely okay you need to keep that in mind
that's the number one tip right there second
I'm not gonna tell you to take the lock off your
phone but don't hesitate to let her see your
phone you need to let her know she can trust
you if that means you have to give her your phone
Anytime she wants to see it just so she can look
through your contact list or what have you by
all means go for it Because as long as she knows
she can trust you and she knows more about you
and who you know who you're friends with and
what have you The better off you'll be the second
one is to communicate your plans for the future
You need to let her know what your goals are
what you're aiming for so she knows What you're
trying to do and then nothing is a surprise.
You're not trying to catch her off guard And
she knows that you're with her your your your
including her in your plans, at least, or let
her know what your plans are with her. Be straightforward
with that type of information. You need to let
her know so the whole thing is secure. The last
tip for making her feel secure is, for one, eliminate
all your female friends. I'm not telling you
to get rid of them. I'm not telling you to say,
okay, I'm dating somebody. I don't want to see
you ever again. You can still stay friends with
them, but you need to make it known to all of
them that you are dating a girl. already you
found someone that you want to be with we need
to keep our relationship strictly i guess you
could say platonic and keep them at a distance
okay and let your girlfriend know who your friends
are so she knows and then let her know that you
told them this already so that if something should
come up if it's an emergency with with them and
they call you just out of the blue because you're
the only person they know to call let her know
as well what is going on and don't leave her
by herself to come and take care of them bring
her with you okay if she says it's fine it's
okay i trust you then great you can go on your
own but do not ever leave your woman by herself
to go help your friend because that's the first
thing she's automatically gonna assume is something's
wrong okay you need to keep that keep that in
mind right there And the second tip here is do
not nag her, okay? They take no joy in a nagging
man, okay? The challenging thing for men to do
is to nag, constantly ask her questions, constantly
wanting to know how she's doing, where she's
at. You know, it's great and all to ask her how
she's doing. It's great and all to know where
she's at. But no matter what you do, if you say
you're going to do something, do it joyfully
no excuses when you don't follow through you
weaken your integrity and she will grow to distrust
you and that's the last thing you need eventually
she will nag you because she doesn't trust you
and that is the one thing you definitely do not
want to have okay me being a guy who loves my
peace and quiet and like you know a sound mind
this is the last thing i want also learn how
to say no with kindness and mean it do not just
be straight up say hell no i ain't doing it don't
ever ever say that would you say that to your
mom think about that for a minute watch your
parents if you have parents that love each other
and care for each other watch your dad don't
parent him don't don't copy everything he does
but watch what he does watch how he takes care
of your mom watch how he loves her watch how
he handles her and learn from him that way you
don't make the same mistake that a lot of people
do and their relationship ends a week or two
or six months after it got started okay keep
that in mind right there that's tip two After
this short interlude, I'm going to bring you
into the next couple of tips and then we'll finish
off this topic right here, okay? So the next
topic here, the next tip is to work out your
anxiety early in your life as soon as possible,
okay? This is a skill that can be easily learned.
It's a good coach. It will help you tackle any
issues and build your confidence, okay? This
is something for all guys. It doesn't matter
who or where you are, okay? You need to be able
to talk to people normally, notably, honestly.
i'm not telling them tell you tell them about
your life no no you need to be naturally engaging
okay this is something that will help make women
comfortable around you when you talk to them
and it'll also keep you in a practice of not
being rude also it'll allow you to know which
women to stay away from which ones you can actually
talk to and but then at the same time know which
ones are being mean or bothersome um in the same
sense that you know issues with life or stuff
that's happened to them okay something that you
might say when politely talking to a woman is
i'm so sorry i'm bothering you my intention is
only to be polite and friendly i'm sorry if you
thought i was looking for more and then you move
on this is something when talking to women especially
when they think that you want something that
you actually are not after okay this is to keep
your road nice and clean clear so that you know
even if the conversation doesn't go well the
first time you know you still have another chance
another try to talk to them okay this is a known
fact wait a lot of people even psychologists
know this and it's just to keep the air clean
so that they uh it works out well okay second
thing is to have a woman friend that you know
you can trust and ask for relationship advice
the best people usually is family members that
have had successful relationships and are easy
to access easy to get to and the reason for this
is to have someone who understands the female
mind and can help you especially since men in
general tend to get frustrated and dismissive
towards women like they if they can't solve the
problem immediately they just dismiss it and
they don't even worry about it which then affects
them affects the woman emotionally and it makes
you want to either vent or process her feelings
and she won't know what to do at the same time
it's it's uh it's basically this entire process
is to help make up and fulfill her emotional
needs okay and men need to recognize this and
learn to be patient that is one of the main things
that guys are not very capable of doing is being
patient you need to be patient with her you need
to listen to her it doesn't matter if what she's
talking about is completely another doesn't matter
the whole point is to listen to her and listen
through what she is saying Can hear what the
issue is because she could be talking about a
lot of stuff But there's a point to be made in
there and there's something she wants you to
hear. Okay Listening to her in earnest is the
great, great way in helping her through her issues
and her personal problems that you may not have
noticed or she may not have ever said to you
in public or straight up, okay? So that's a major
thing right there. The next tip for relationships
for men is, like I said before, is to listen
up. Be the kind of guy that listens to her, hear
how she talks, and you'll be able to show her
how important she is to you straight up, okay?
If you have any questions, you need to clarify
them and draw out the answers from her, but in
a way that doesn't aggravate or irritate her
or just make her think you just want to end the
conversation. Like I said before, open up with
her. You need to be real. You need to communicate
with her. Let her know you want the relationship
and you want it to work. You want to at least
date once or twice a week. You don't want it
too, too often because then you'll get so...
If you're used to seeing each other, you won't
even want to see each other at all, okay? Spend
the majority of your free time. If you can help
it with her, also, you know, mingling friends,
groups, and what have you. Decide what's right
for you and her. But you need to talk to each
other. You need to at least be near each other
or at least on the same page, okay? And at the
same time, you need to man up, okay? Straight
up, this is personal experience here because
I slipped up on one of my relationships, but
it's fine. You know, I learned from it. Man up.
Okay. It's fine to have a close relationship
with your mom, but you need to remember that
your girlfriend comes first or your wife or your
spouse, what have you. You need to remember that
she comes first. That means telling her your
exciting news before you tell your mom, sharing
your secrets with her and her alone and never
giving her a reason to think that your mom is
more important than she is. Okay. Women want
a real man. They don't want a boy who looks like
one. Okay. That's the worst possible thing a
guy can do. And it just makes it just. uh how
do i put it it makes women want to run for the
hills and that's the last thing you you want
a woman to do with you okay i'm i'm gonna just
be real with you right now all right so Like
I said, this is this is a lot of food for thought
This is stuff that guys need to think about like
I said thoughts if this were you you need to
be careful what you do Okay, we're gonna go and
now we're gonna focus on the guys portion here
when you're on a date Okay, be present when you're
on a date with her you need to start engaging
her ask her questions truly listen Opposed to
prejudice prejudging anything. She'll say to
you. Okay, keep this in mind You need to get
to know her values her beliefs her goals her
dreams and be gentle Taking a deep breath, bringing
your mind back to the moments when it wanders,
okay? Do not let your mind wander. That's the
last thing that you do. Be focused on what she's
saying. It doesn't matter if she's boring. It
doesn't matter if it sounds like that English
teacher that you don't like listening to where
you fell asleep in class. Don't ever, ever, when
you're talking to a girl, fall asleep while talking
to her or doze off. Because the second your mind
starts to wander... this right here builds an
insecurity between you and her and it starts
building a wall that's going to be hard to tear
down later okay you want her to trust you okay
you need to bring your most confident self on
each date and believe that you deserve to be
loved okay believe that you deserve to be loved
and so does she okay it's common to experience
dating jitters but you just need to focus on
your inner confidence and resist the urge to
be self -critical in any way uh as far as your
thoughts are concerned and remember that you
attract a great partner through your own self
-worth and availability so as confident as you
can be just keep the conversation simple if you
don't know what to say you know find something
around you find a topic find something that she's
interested in that you know a little bit about
as well and strike a conversation with that okay
or If you can't figure out anything to say, you
just can't come up with something, you know,
find something to do. Go to a carnival. Go see
a movie. Go for a walk in the park. Something.
You know, go out to eat. Just keep that in mind
right there, okay? Next is... It's a major thing
for guys. The reason why most relationships fall
apart is because the important truth behind this
is that you're hiding information. It becomes
a habit because one or more of the partners,
whether it's you or her, don't react well to
the truth or have shame about their truth. This
plays out with cheating. We want to avoid this
at all possible. This is basically where one
partner is abusively accused of being attractive
to another person so that they start to hide.
hide it and you know basically avoid conflict
this repression makes the attraction grow and
is fostered by the abnormality from their partner
the i'm sorry the animosity abnormality i don't
know why i said that from their partner basically
The more resentful you are towards her for thinking
that she's with another guy, or just because
you see her with another guy, pushes her more
towards that guy. That's something you want to
completely avoid altogether. It doesn't matter
if the guy walks up to her. It doesn't matter
if he's friendly with her. You need to keep yourself
calm and collected. Ask her about it, but be
as direct, but as calm as you can about it without
sounding mean or... over anxious or worried okay
there's two angles in in which you have to approach
this okay you both have to first be vulnerable
and directly honest about everything that has
happened with you with each other and with that
other person as well so that they know what's
going on okay you must be honest you must use
honesty okay to force your partner to accept
who you are okay i'm not telling you to say okay
this is what's happened you need to believe me
no that doesn't work that way if they don't believe
it leave it okay create you're doing this so
that you can create some space so that someone
will okay secondly both must create an agreement
of openness whereby you know each will not punish
uh honesty but will work to accept it okay like
say okay i accidentally uh drank too much and
i ended up making out with this random girl but
i didn't mean to do it okay first off yes If
you got drunk, yes, it's your fault for anything
that's happened. But at the same time, keep in
mind that when you get drunk, you're not completely
in control of yourself as well. And women are
also notorious for this as well. I want the women
to also think about that who are listening to
this channel. You need to consider your actions
as well, not just the guy's. It's easy to get
mad at a guy for drinking and doing the wrong
thing with someone else who he was with. But
at the same time, you need to remember that you're
just as vulnerable for that same type of situation
as he is. you know most women being emotional
from the get -go okay if you can't be this open
and honest with someone then you don't need to
be in a relationship at all okay because your
shame and issues will harm both you and the other
person you hook up with and most likely this
will this is like i'm gonna just be honest with
you this is like psychologically unhealthy for
both of you. You need to work at your own self
-acceptance pace and confidence. You need to
work on your confidence first. Then you can go
look for someone who enjoys you as you are. They
need to appreciate you as you are.