WEBVTT 00:00:03.519 --> 00:00:06.480 all right all right all right here's the last 00:00:06.480 --> 00:00:09.380 bit for this first piece right here right now 00:00:09.380 --> 00:00:12.359 okay guys i got some tips for you this will make 00:00:12.359 --> 00:00:15.279 as well they may help you may not help you but 00:00:15.279 --> 00:00:16.800 it'll at least give you an idea or something 00:00:16.800 --> 00:00:20.879 to think about when picking your lady or finding 00:00:20.879 --> 00:00:23.660 the one that you're with notice i said lady not 00:00:23.660 --> 00:00:27.019 girl not woman lady because that's exactly how 00:00:27.019 --> 00:00:28.780 you should be treating her like she is a lady 00:00:28.780 --> 00:00:30.879 if that means that when you're going on a date 00:00:30.879 --> 00:00:32.159 or you're coming to pick her up doesn't matter 00:00:32.159 --> 00:00:35.659 what it is you always show her your best always 00:00:35.659 --> 00:00:39.759 show her your best never your worst never your 00:00:39.759 --> 00:00:41.679 worst and when you do show her your worst you 00:00:41.679 --> 00:00:43.140 need to make sure that you're both on agreement 00:00:43.140 --> 00:00:46.659 right there right then So that you know both 00:00:46.659 --> 00:00:50.159 each other's good and bad. So don't talk about 00:00:50.159 --> 00:00:52.039 that. Yes, you have to actually talk about that. 00:00:52.179 --> 00:00:53.840 Don't just let her find out at random because 00:00:53.840 --> 00:00:56.039 I guarantee you she will hate you after the first 00:00:56.039 --> 00:00:59.600 10 minutes. Okay, so to keep this relationship 00:00:59.600 --> 00:01:03.179 sound, I'm going to give you four tips right 00:01:03.179 --> 00:01:05.980 here how to keep your lady feeling secure. So 00:01:05.980 --> 00:01:08.780 she'll know that you're not going to betray her 00:01:08.780 --> 00:01:11.519 straight up right here. First one is be forthcoming 00:01:11.519 --> 00:01:13.680 with information. You need to tell her information 00:01:13.680 --> 00:01:16.900 straight up front. don't delay don't wait a day 00:01:16.900 --> 00:01:18.519 don't wait a few hours don't even wait a few 00:01:18.519 --> 00:01:20.939 minutes let her know almost immediately as soon 00:01:20.939 --> 00:01:24.340 as you find out so that she has nothing to worry 00:01:24.340 --> 00:01:26.640 about she knows that you're taking this relationship 00:01:26.640 --> 00:01:29.739 sincerely okay you need to keep that in mind 00:01:29.739 --> 00:01:32.640 that's the number one tip right there second 00:01:32.640 --> 00:01:35.480 I'm not gonna tell you to take the lock off your 00:01:35.480 --> 00:01:37.579 phone but don't hesitate to let her see your 00:01:37.579 --> 00:01:39.840 phone you need to let her know she can trust 00:01:39.840 --> 00:01:41.500 you if that means you have to give her your phone 00:01:42.189 --> 00:01:44.370 Anytime she wants to see it just so she can look 00:01:44.370 --> 00:01:46.090 through your contact list or what have you by 00:01:46.090 --> 00:01:48.950 all means go for it Because as long as she knows 00:01:48.950 --> 00:01:51.450 she can trust you and she knows more about you 00:01:51.450 --> 00:01:53.530 and who you know who you're friends with and 00:01:53.530 --> 00:01:56.750 what have you The better off you'll be the second 00:01:56.750 --> 00:01:59.069 one is to communicate your plans for the future 00:01:59.069 --> 00:02:00.769 You need to let her know what your goals are 00:02:00.769 --> 00:02:03.909 what you're aiming for so she knows What you're 00:02:03.909 --> 00:02:06.409 trying to do and then nothing is a surprise. 00:02:06.709 --> 00:02:08.930 You're not trying to catch her off guard And 00:02:08.930 --> 00:02:11.270 she knows that you're with her your your your 00:02:12.170 --> 00:02:14.810 including her in your plans, at least, or let 00:02:14.810 --> 00:02:17.650 her know what your plans are with her. Be straightforward 00:02:17.650 --> 00:02:19.610 with that type of information. You need to let 00:02:19.610 --> 00:02:22.250 her know so the whole thing is secure. The last 00:02:22.250 --> 00:02:25.830 tip for making her feel secure is, for one, eliminate 00:02:25.830 --> 00:02:27.650 all your female friends. I'm not telling you 00:02:27.650 --> 00:02:29.610 to get rid of them. I'm not telling you to say, 00:02:29.650 --> 00:02:32.569 okay, I'm dating somebody. I don't want to see 00:02:32.569 --> 00:02:35.310 you ever again. You can still stay friends with 00:02:35.310 --> 00:02:37.569 them, but you need to make it known to all of 00:02:37.569 --> 00:02:40.250 them that you are dating a girl. already you 00:02:40.250 --> 00:02:41.669 found someone that you want to be with we need 00:02:41.669 --> 00:02:44.449 to keep our relationship strictly i guess you 00:02:44.449 --> 00:02:47.210 could say platonic and keep them at a distance 00:02:47.210 --> 00:02:50.650 okay and let your girlfriend know who your friends 00:02:50.650 --> 00:02:54.150 are so she knows and then let her know that you 00:02:54.150 --> 00:02:58.090 told them this already so that if something should 00:02:58.090 --> 00:03:00.729 come up if it's an emergency with with them and 00:03:00.729 --> 00:03:02.810 they call you just out of the blue because you're 00:03:02.810 --> 00:03:05.449 the only person they know to call let her know 00:03:05.449 --> 00:03:09.050 as well what is going on and don't leave her 00:03:09.050 --> 00:03:11.270 by herself to come and take care of them bring 00:03:11.270 --> 00:03:14.810 her with you okay if she says it's fine it's 00:03:14.810 --> 00:03:16.990 okay i trust you then great you can go on your 00:03:16.990 --> 00:03:19.810 own but do not ever leave your woman by herself 00:03:19.810 --> 00:03:22.990 to go help your friend because that's the first 00:03:22.990 --> 00:03:24.949 thing she's automatically gonna assume is something's 00:03:24.949 --> 00:03:27.629 wrong okay you need to keep that keep that in 00:03:27.629 --> 00:03:31.080 mind right there And the second tip here is do 00:03:31.080 --> 00:03:38.800 not nag her, okay? They take no joy in a nagging 00:03:38.800 --> 00:03:41.460 man, okay? The challenging thing for men to do 00:03:41.460 --> 00:03:45.460 is to nag, constantly ask her questions, constantly 00:03:45.460 --> 00:03:47.240 wanting to know how she's doing, where she's 00:03:47.240 --> 00:03:49.240 at. You know, it's great and all to ask her how 00:03:49.240 --> 00:03:50.580 she's doing. It's great and all to know where 00:03:50.580 --> 00:03:54.340 she's at. But no matter what you do, if you say 00:03:54.340 --> 00:03:56.599 you're going to do something, do it joyfully 00:03:56.599 --> 00:04:00.060 no excuses when you don't follow through you 00:04:00.060 --> 00:04:02.439 weaken your integrity and she will grow to distrust 00:04:02.439 --> 00:04:04.439 you and that's the last thing you need eventually 00:04:04.439 --> 00:04:07.020 she will nag you because she doesn't trust you 00:04:07.020 --> 00:04:09.379 and that is the one thing you definitely do not 00:04:09.379 --> 00:04:12.280 want to have okay me being a guy who loves my 00:04:12.280 --> 00:04:15.740 peace and quiet and like you know a sound mind 00:04:15.740 --> 00:04:18.879 this is the last thing i want also learn how 00:04:18.879 --> 00:04:21.439 to say no with kindness and mean it do not just 00:04:21.439 --> 00:04:24.199 be straight up say hell no i ain't doing it don't 00:04:24.199 --> 00:04:26.420 ever ever say that would you say that to your 00:04:26.420 --> 00:04:29.220 mom think about that for a minute watch your 00:04:29.220 --> 00:04:31.000 parents if you have parents that love each other 00:04:31.000 --> 00:04:33.100 and care for each other watch your dad don't 00:04:33.100 --> 00:04:34.959 parent him don't don't copy everything he does 00:04:34.959 --> 00:04:37.459 but watch what he does watch how he takes care 00:04:37.459 --> 00:04:39.660 of your mom watch how he loves her watch how 00:04:39.660 --> 00:04:42.100 he handles her and learn from him that way you 00:04:42.100 --> 00:04:43.800 don't make the same mistake that a lot of people 00:04:43.800 --> 00:04:46.360 do and their relationship ends a week or two 00:04:46.360 --> 00:04:48.980 or six months after it got started okay keep 00:04:48.980 --> 00:04:51.629 that in mind right there that's tip two After 00:04:51.629 --> 00:04:53.029 this short interlude, I'm going to bring you 00:04:53.029 --> 00:04:55.110 into the next couple of tips and then we'll finish 00:04:55.110 --> 00:05:21.740 off this topic right here, okay? So the next 00:05:21.740 --> 00:05:24.319 topic here, the next tip is to work out your 00:05:24.319 --> 00:05:26.379 anxiety early in your life as soon as possible, 00:05:26.439 --> 00:05:29.420 okay? This is a skill that can be easily learned. 00:05:29.560 --> 00:05:34.819 It's a good coach. It will help you tackle any 00:05:34.819 --> 00:05:37.120 issues and build your confidence, okay? This 00:05:37.120 --> 00:05:38.720 is something for all guys. It doesn't matter 00:05:38.720 --> 00:05:41.459 who or where you are, okay? You need to be able 00:05:41.459 --> 00:05:45.779 to talk to people normally, notably, honestly. 00:05:46.509 --> 00:05:48.490 i'm not telling them tell you tell them about 00:05:48.490 --> 00:05:50.930 your life no no you need to be naturally engaging 00:05:50.930 --> 00:05:53.430 okay this is something that will help make women 00:05:53.430 --> 00:05:55.110 comfortable around you when you talk to them 00:05:55.110 --> 00:05:57.029 and it'll also keep you in a practice of not 00:05:57.029 --> 00:05:59.870 being rude also it'll allow you to know which 00:05:59.870 --> 00:06:02.170 women to stay away from which ones you can actually 00:06:02.170 --> 00:06:04.449 talk to and but then at the same time know which 00:06:04.449 --> 00:06:08.949 ones are being mean or bothersome um in the same 00:06:08.949 --> 00:06:12.050 sense that you know issues with life or stuff 00:06:12.050 --> 00:06:13.870 that's happened to them okay something that you 00:06:13.870 --> 00:06:16.379 might say when politely talking to a woman is 00:06:16.379 --> 00:06:19.240 i'm so sorry i'm bothering you my intention is 00:06:19.240 --> 00:06:21.639 only to be polite and friendly i'm sorry if you 00:06:21.639 --> 00:06:23.540 thought i was looking for more and then you move 00:06:23.540 --> 00:06:25.699 on this is something when talking to women especially 00:06:25.699 --> 00:06:28.800 when they think that you want something that 00:06:28.800 --> 00:06:31.939 you actually are not after okay this is to keep 00:06:31.939 --> 00:06:36.379 your road nice and clean clear so that you know 00:06:36.379 --> 00:06:38.959 even if the conversation doesn't go well the 00:06:38.959 --> 00:06:40.839 first time you know you still have another chance 00:06:40.839 --> 00:06:43.060 another try to talk to them okay this is a known 00:06:43.060 --> 00:06:45.540 fact wait a lot of people even psychologists 00:06:45.540 --> 00:06:47.779 know this and it's just to keep the air clean 00:06:47.779 --> 00:06:54.060 so that they uh it works out well okay second 00:06:54.060 --> 00:06:56.860 thing is to have a woman friend that you know 00:06:56.860 --> 00:06:58.779 you can trust and ask for relationship advice 00:06:58.779 --> 00:07:01.120 the best people usually is family members that 00:07:01.120 --> 00:07:04.519 have had successful relationships and are easy 00:07:04.519 --> 00:07:07.399 to access easy to get to and the reason for this 00:07:07.399 --> 00:07:09.779 is to have someone who understands the female 00:07:09.779 --> 00:07:14.000 mind and can help you especially since men in 00:07:14.000 --> 00:07:17.240 general tend to get frustrated and dismissive 00:07:17.240 --> 00:07:19.439 towards women like they if they can't solve the 00:07:19.439 --> 00:07:21.839 problem immediately they just dismiss it and 00:07:21.839 --> 00:07:23.939 they don't even worry about it which then affects 00:07:23.939 --> 00:07:26.720 them affects the woman emotionally and it makes 00:07:26.720 --> 00:07:28.879 you want to either vent or process her feelings 00:07:28.879 --> 00:07:31.139 and she won't know what to do at the same time 00:07:31.780 --> 00:07:34.319 it's it's uh it's basically this entire process 00:07:34.319 --> 00:07:36.759 is to help make up and fulfill her emotional 00:07:36.759 --> 00:07:39.839 needs okay and men need to recognize this and 00:07:39.839 --> 00:07:41.800 learn to be patient that is one of the main things 00:07:41.800 --> 00:07:45.000 that guys are not very capable of doing is being 00:07:45.000 --> 00:07:47.360 patient you need to be patient with her you need 00:07:47.360 --> 00:07:49.740 to listen to her it doesn't matter if what she's 00:07:49.740 --> 00:07:51.680 talking about is completely another doesn't matter 00:07:51.680 --> 00:07:53.560 the whole point is to listen to her and listen 00:07:53.560 --> 00:07:56.970 through what she is saying Can hear what the 00:07:56.970 --> 00:07:58.709 issue is because she could be talking about a 00:07:58.709 --> 00:08:00.290 lot of stuff But there's a point to be made in 00:08:00.290 --> 00:08:01.410 there and there's something she wants you to 00:08:01.410 --> 00:08:04.839 hear. Okay Listening to her in earnest is the 00:08:04.839 --> 00:08:08.240 great, great way in helping her through her issues 00:08:08.240 --> 00:08:10.560 and her personal problems that you may not have 00:08:10.560 --> 00:08:12.339 noticed or she may not have ever said to you 00:08:12.339 --> 00:08:15.500 in public or straight up, okay? So that's a major 00:08:15.500 --> 00:08:18.860 thing right there. The next tip for relationships 00:08:18.860 --> 00:08:20.879 for men is, like I said before, is to listen 00:08:20.879 --> 00:08:24.160 up. Be the kind of guy that listens to her, hear 00:08:24.160 --> 00:08:26.600 how she talks, and you'll be able to show her 00:08:26.600 --> 00:08:28.579 how important she is to you straight up, okay? 00:08:29.279 --> 00:08:31.079 If you have any questions, you need to clarify 00:08:31.079 --> 00:08:34.460 them and draw out the answers from her, but in 00:08:34.460 --> 00:08:39.200 a way that doesn't aggravate or irritate her 00:08:39.200 --> 00:08:41.379 or just make her think you just want to end the 00:08:41.379 --> 00:08:44.779 conversation. Like I said before, open up with 00:08:44.779 --> 00:08:46.779 her. You need to be real. You need to communicate 00:08:46.779 --> 00:08:49.059 with her. Let her know you want the relationship 00:08:49.059 --> 00:08:51.580 and you want it to work. You want to at least 00:08:51.580 --> 00:08:53.740 date once or twice a week. You don't want it 00:08:53.740 --> 00:08:56.340 too, too often because then you'll get so... 00:08:56.600 --> 00:08:57.740 If you're used to seeing each other, you won't 00:08:57.740 --> 00:09:01.299 even want to see each other at all, okay? Spend 00:09:01.299 --> 00:09:03.240 the majority of your free time. If you can help 00:09:03.240 --> 00:09:06.940 it with her, also, you know, mingling friends, 00:09:07.120 --> 00:09:08.700 groups, and what have you. Decide what's right 00:09:08.700 --> 00:09:11.240 for you and her. But you need to talk to each 00:09:11.240 --> 00:09:12.519 other. You need to at least be near each other 00:09:12.519 --> 00:09:15.200 or at least on the same page, okay? And at the 00:09:15.200 --> 00:09:18.720 same time, you need to man up, okay? Straight 00:09:18.720 --> 00:09:21.279 up, this is personal experience here because 00:09:21.279 --> 00:09:23.039 I slipped up on one of my relationships, but 00:09:23.039 --> 00:09:25.279 it's fine. You know, I learned from it. Man up. 00:09:25.830 --> 00:09:28.370 Okay. It's fine to have a close relationship 00:09:28.370 --> 00:09:30.690 with your mom, but you need to remember that 00:09:30.690 --> 00:09:33.409 your girlfriend comes first or your wife or your 00:09:33.409 --> 00:09:35.190 spouse, what have you. You need to remember that 00:09:35.190 --> 00:09:37.809 she comes first. That means telling her your 00:09:37.809 --> 00:09:40.009 exciting news before you tell your mom, sharing 00:09:40.009 --> 00:09:42.549 your secrets with her and her alone and never 00:09:42.549 --> 00:09:44.049 giving her a reason to think that your mom is 00:09:44.049 --> 00:09:46.210 more important than she is. Okay. Women want 00:09:46.210 --> 00:09:48.350 a real man. They don't want a boy who looks like 00:09:48.350 --> 00:09:51.549 one. Okay. That's the worst possible thing a 00:09:51.549 --> 00:09:55.600 guy can do. And it just makes it just. uh how 00:09:55.600 --> 00:09:57.600 do i put it it makes women want to run for the 00:09:57.600 --> 00:09:59.480 hills and that's the last thing you you want 00:09:59.480 --> 00:10:02.000 a woman to do with you okay i'm i'm gonna just 00:10:02.000 --> 00:10:13.059 be real with you right now all right so Like 00:10:13.059 --> 00:10:14.840 I said, this is this is a lot of food for thought 00:10:14.840 --> 00:10:16.539 This is stuff that guys need to think about like 00:10:16.539 --> 00:10:18.500 I said thoughts if this were you you need to 00:10:18.500 --> 00:10:20.639 be careful what you do Okay, we're gonna go and 00:10:20.639 --> 00:10:23.120 now we're gonna focus on the guys portion here 00:10:23.120 --> 00:10:25.779 when you're on a date Okay, be present when you're 00:10:25.779 --> 00:10:28.419 on a date with her you need to start engaging 00:10:28.419 --> 00:10:32.360 her ask her questions truly listen Opposed to 00:10:32.360 --> 00:10:34.659 prejudice prejudging anything. She'll say to 00:10:34.659 --> 00:10:36.440 you. Okay, keep this in mind You need to get 00:10:36.440 --> 00:10:38.759 to know her values her beliefs her goals her 00:10:38.759 --> 00:10:41.909 dreams and be gentle Taking a deep breath, bringing 00:10:41.909 --> 00:10:44.730 your mind back to the moments when it wanders, 00:10:44.730 --> 00:10:46.610 okay? Do not let your mind wander. That's the 00:10:46.610 --> 00:10:49.110 last thing that you do. Be focused on what she's 00:10:49.110 --> 00:10:50.669 saying. It doesn't matter if she's boring. It 00:10:50.669 --> 00:10:51.809 doesn't matter if it sounds like that English 00:10:51.809 --> 00:10:54.190 teacher that you don't like listening to where 00:10:54.190 --> 00:10:56.830 you fell asleep in class. Don't ever, ever, when 00:10:56.830 --> 00:10:58.529 you're talking to a girl, fall asleep while talking 00:10:58.529 --> 00:11:00.389 to her or doze off. Because the second your mind 00:11:00.389 --> 00:11:03.559 starts to wander... this right here builds an 00:11:03.559 --> 00:11:05.179 insecurity between you and her and it starts 00:11:05.179 --> 00:11:06.840 building a wall that's going to be hard to tear 00:11:06.840 --> 00:11:08.740 down later okay you want her to trust you okay 00:11:08.740 --> 00:11:11.240 you need to bring your most confident self on 00:11:11.240 --> 00:11:13.559 each date and believe that you deserve to be 00:11:13.559 --> 00:11:15.840 loved okay believe that you deserve to be loved 00:11:15.840 --> 00:11:18.879 and so does she okay it's common to experience 00:11:18.879 --> 00:11:21.659 dating jitters but you just need to focus on 00:11:21.659 --> 00:11:23.559 your inner confidence and resist the urge to 00:11:23.559 --> 00:11:27.070 be self -critical in any way uh as far as your 00:11:27.070 --> 00:11:28.850 thoughts are concerned and remember that you 00:11:28.850 --> 00:11:30.929 attract a great partner through your own self 00:11:30.929 --> 00:11:33.169 -worth and availability so as confident as you 00:11:33.169 --> 00:11:35.929 can be just keep the conversation simple if you 00:11:35.929 --> 00:11:37.730 don't know what to say you know find something 00:11:37.730 --> 00:11:40.090 around you find a topic find something that she's 00:11:40.090 --> 00:11:41.809 interested in that you know a little bit about 00:11:41.809 --> 00:11:44.389 as well and strike a conversation with that okay 00:11:44.389 --> 00:11:47.000 or If you can't figure out anything to say, you 00:11:47.000 --> 00:11:48.299 just can't come up with something, you know, 00:11:48.299 --> 00:11:52.080 find something to do. Go to a carnival. Go see 00:11:52.080 --> 00:11:54.399 a movie. Go for a walk in the park. Something. 00:11:54.620 --> 00:11:56.759 You know, go out to eat. Just keep that in mind 00:11:56.759 --> 00:12:02.059 right there, okay? Next is... It's a major thing 00:12:02.059 --> 00:12:04.340 for guys. The reason why most relationships fall 00:12:04.340 --> 00:12:07.559 apart is because the important truth behind this 00:12:07.559 --> 00:12:10.580 is that you're hiding information. It becomes 00:12:10.580 --> 00:12:14.559 a habit because one or more of the partners, 00:12:14.679 --> 00:12:17.259 whether it's you or her, don't react well to 00:12:17.259 --> 00:12:20.539 the truth or have shame about their truth. This 00:12:20.539 --> 00:12:23.019 plays out with cheating. We want to avoid this 00:12:23.019 --> 00:12:25.240 at all possible. This is basically where one 00:12:25.240 --> 00:12:28.120 partner is abusively accused of being attractive 00:12:28.120 --> 00:12:30.019 to another person so that they start to hide. 00:12:30.590 --> 00:12:32.710 hide it and you know basically avoid conflict 00:12:32.710 --> 00:12:36.090 this repression makes the attraction grow and 00:12:36.090 --> 00:12:38.909 is fostered by the abnormality from their partner 00:12:38.909 --> 00:12:42.169 the i'm sorry the animosity abnormality i don't 00:12:42.169 --> 00:12:44.389 know why i said that from their partner basically 00:12:45.180 --> 00:12:47.919 The more resentful you are towards her for thinking 00:12:47.919 --> 00:12:50.820 that she's with another guy, or just because 00:12:50.820 --> 00:12:53.080 you see her with another guy, pushes her more 00:12:53.080 --> 00:12:54.759 towards that guy. That's something you want to 00:12:54.759 --> 00:12:57.000 completely avoid altogether. It doesn't matter 00:12:57.000 --> 00:12:58.299 if the guy walks up to her. It doesn't matter 00:12:58.299 --> 00:13:00.379 if he's friendly with her. You need to keep yourself 00:13:00.379 --> 00:13:02.899 calm and collected. Ask her about it, but be 00:13:02.899 --> 00:13:05.460 as direct, but as calm as you can about it without 00:13:05.460 --> 00:13:09.830 sounding mean or... over anxious or worried okay 00:13:09.830 --> 00:13:13.110 there's two angles in in which you have to approach 00:13:13.110 --> 00:13:15.289 this okay you both have to first be vulnerable 00:13:15.289 --> 00:13:17.470 and directly honest about everything that has 00:13:17.470 --> 00:13:20.409 happened with you with each other and with that 00:13:20.409 --> 00:13:22.409 other person as well so that they know what's 00:13:22.409 --> 00:13:25.529 going on okay you must be honest you must use 00:13:25.529 --> 00:13:27.409 honesty okay to force your partner to accept 00:13:27.409 --> 00:13:29.850 who you are okay i'm not telling you to say okay 00:13:29.850 --> 00:13:31.529 this is what's happened you need to believe me 00:13:31.529 --> 00:13:33.690 no that doesn't work that way if they don't believe 00:13:33.690 --> 00:13:36.870 it leave it okay create you're doing this so 00:13:36.870 --> 00:13:38.429 that you can create some space so that someone 00:13:38.429 --> 00:13:41.970 will okay secondly both must create an agreement 00:13:41.970 --> 00:13:47.110 of openness whereby you know each will not punish 00:13:47.110 --> 00:13:51.009 uh honesty but will work to accept it okay like 00:13:51.009 --> 00:13:54.350 say okay i accidentally uh drank too much and 00:13:54.350 --> 00:13:56.009 i ended up making out with this random girl but 00:13:56.009 --> 00:13:59.860 i didn't mean to do it okay first off yes If 00:13:59.860 --> 00:14:01.840 you got drunk, yes, it's your fault for anything 00:14:01.840 --> 00:14:03.960 that's happened. But at the same time, keep in 00:14:03.960 --> 00:14:06.700 mind that when you get drunk, you're not completely 00:14:06.700 --> 00:14:08.799 in control of yourself as well. And women are 00:14:08.799 --> 00:14:11.340 also notorious for this as well. I want the women 00:14:11.340 --> 00:14:12.860 to also think about that who are listening to 00:14:12.860 --> 00:14:15.159 this channel. You need to consider your actions 00:14:15.159 --> 00:14:17.120 as well, not just the guy's. It's easy to get 00:14:17.120 --> 00:14:18.919 mad at a guy for drinking and doing the wrong 00:14:18.919 --> 00:14:21.000 thing with someone else who he was with. But 00:14:21.000 --> 00:14:22.519 at the same time, you need to remember that you're 00:14:22.519 --> 00:14:25.100 just as vulnerable for that same type of situation 00:14:25.100 --> 00:14:28.730 as he is. you know most women being emotional 00:14:28.730 --> 00:14:32.129 from the get -go okay if you can't be this open 00:14:32.129 --> 00:14:34.129 and honest with someone then you don't need to 00:14:34.129 --> 00:14:36.129 be in a relationship at all okay because your 00:14:36.129 --> 00:14:39.450 shame and issues will harm both you and the other 00:14:39.450 --> 00:14:42.169 person you hook up with and most likely this 00:14:42.169 --> 00:14:44.429 will this is like i'm gonna just be honest with 00:14:44.429 --> 00:14:46.879 you this is like psychologically unhealthy for 00:14:46.879 --> 00:14:49.000 both of you. You need to work at your own self 00:14:49.000 --> 00:14:51.379 -acceptance pace and confidence. You need to 00:14:51.379 --> 00:14:53.840 work on your confidence first. Then you can go 00:14:53.840 --> 00:14:57.039 look for someone who enjoys you as you are. They 00:14:57.039 --> 00:14:58.720 need to appreciate you as you are.