WEBVTT 00:00:04.220 --> 00:00:06.900 Okay. So now we're going to focus on the next 00:00:06.900 --> 00:00:09.220 bit. Okay. So you've said all the right things. 00:00:09.339 --> 00:00:11.980 Now you've got the girl, uh, before, you know, 00:00:12.019 --> 00:00:13.519 it, you know, you're going to be a proud owner 00:00:13.519 --> 00:00:17.039 of a cute little whatever, or have a couple of 00:00:17.039 --> 00:00:20.019 puppies or, you know, what have you, or next 00:00:20.019 --> 00:00:21.980 you might find more women, toiletries in your 00:00:21.980 --> 00:00:23.859 bathroom and at the Macy's counter, but you know 00:00:23.859 --> 00:00:25.559 what? It doesn't really matter right here. Okay. 00:00:25.879 --> 00:00:28.620 You just need to remember the three don'ts. Okay. 00:00:29.320 --> 00:00:32.200 First off, don't lose yourself. Okay. Don't disappear 00:00:32.200 --> 00:00:36.119 into a couple. Make sure you each retain your 00:00:36.119 --> 00:00:39.299 own interests and hobbies. Don't get so attached 00:00:39.299 --> 00:00:43.420 to the hip that you never see your ego again. 00:00:43.799 --> 00:00:46.780 Don't ever do that. Because as soon as you do 00:00:46.780 --> 00:00:49.840 that and you completely lose yourself or lose 00:00:49.840 --> 00:00:54.780 each other in this, everything becomes normalized. 00:00:54.939 --> 00:00:57.859 Everything becomes expected. That's something 00:00:57.859 --> 00:00:59.880 you don't ever want to do. And at the same time... 00:01:00.629 --> 00:01:06.450 Don't let yourself go. Okay, just If she let 00:01:06.450 --> 00:01:09.950 me use an analogy here, okay if she wanted a 00:01:09.950 --> 00:01:12.670 baby Tiger for whatever reason she would have 00:01:12.670 --> 00:01:15.329 found one Okay, but just because you have a significant 00:01:15.329 --> 00:01:17.230 other does not mean you should stop going to 00:01:17.230 --> 00:01:20.549 the gym and Spend your life in sweats. Okay, 00:01:20.609 --> 00:01:24.209 it doesn't work that way she liked to put She 00:01:24.209 --> 00:01:28.549 liked you Put together and fit so keep it up. 00:01:28.609 --> 00:01:33.620 Okay Don't don't just sit at home and do nothing. 00:01:33.799 --> 00:01:35.700 Okay, that's not that's not something you want 00:01:35.700 --> 00:01:37.760 to do Okay, so keep that in mind. Don't let go 00:01:37.760 --> 00:01:40.560 of yourself be who you are But you know at the 00:01:40.560 --> 00:01:42.819 same time, you know keep this in mind if you 00:01:42.819 --> 00:01:44.400 wanted something else you would have found it 00:01:44.400 --> 00:01:49.159 already. All right Third don't stop having fun. 00:01:49.280 --> 00:01:51.659 Okay, there will be plenty of there'll be plenty 00:01:51.659 --> 00:01:56.870 of time from just dumb stuff and what have you 00:01:56.870 --> 00:01:59.049 okay there will be there'll be puppies children 00:01:59.049 --> 00:02:02.069 diapers chores things of the nature of the stuff 00:02:02.069 --> 00:02:04.269 to do but you need to also remember to find time 00:02:04.269 --> 00:02:06.670 to enjoy each other's company okay whether it's 00:02:06.670 --> 00:02:08.969 a restaurant going out to the lounge going skiing 00:02:08.969 --> 00:02:12.629 uh playing at the park it it doesn't matter what 00:02:12.629 --> 00:02:16.449 it is okay you need to keep Find time to have 00:02:16.449 --> 00:02:18.990 fun and enjoy each other's company without the 00:02:18.990 --> 00:02:21.849 effects of life getting in the way. One of the 00:02:21.849 --> 00:02:23.949 other major things I want to throw out there, 00:02:24.009 --> 00:02:25.509 this isn't one of the three don'ts, but I'm just 00:02:25.509 --> 00:02:28.969 going to put it out there. Do not consistently 00:02:28.969 --> 00:02:32.610 talk about money, okay? Because that is one of 00:02:32.610 --> 00:02:35.280 the major things. that can tear a relationship 00:02:35.280 --> 00:02:37.680 apart okay doesn't matter how you feel about 00:02:37.680 --> 00:02:39.800 it doesn't matter how she feels about it you 00:02:39.800 --> 00:02:41.159 know the last thing that she should be talking 00:02:41.159 --> 00:02:43.560 about right now is money okay because as soon 00:02:43.560 --> 00:02:46.479 as money becomes an issue in a relationship or 00:02:46.479 --> 00:02:49.199 becomes a main thing a reason why you do's and 00:02:49.199 --> 00:02:53.539 you don'ts okay then you know as soon as you 00:02:53.539 --> 00:02:57.259 have a fault or she falls through the relationship 00:02:57.259 --> 00:03:00.259 tends to fall through as well because money is 00:03:00.259 --> 00:03:03.870 an issue and you know no woman wants a broke 00:03:03.870 --> 00:03:07.349 man but at the same time you know you want a 00:03:07.349 --> 00:03:09.270 woman that will be there in case you fall through 00:03:09.270 --> 00:03:11.289 and say you had a good job but then you happen 00:03:11.289 --> 00:03:13.430 to lose it you want a woman that will you know 00:03:13.430 --> 00:03:16.389 stay with you and help you so that means that 00:03:16.389 --> 00:03:18.990 as long as you're not the main reason why your 00:03:18.990 --> 00:03:21.530 money is dropping you know as a guy you shouldn't 00:03:21.530 --> 00:03:23.449 have to worry about your lady leaving you because 00:03:23.449 --> 00:03:25.569 you have no money okay because if she loves you 00:03:25.569 --> 00:03:27.189 for who you are this shouldn't even be an issue 00:03:27.189 --> 00:03:29.750 at the same time women you need to keep this 00:03:29.750 --> 00:03:31.770 in mind a guy should not be based off of the 00:03:31.770 --> 00:03:34.469 money he has or how much he makes now it's great 00:03:34.469 --> 00:03:36.229 when we have when we have a lot of money don't 00:03:36.229 --> 00:03:38.289 get me wrong everything will be a lot easier 00:03:38.289 --> 00:03:40.469 be a lot simpler but if you base your relationship 00:03:40.469 --> 00:03:43.110 on the fact of the type of job the guy has of 00:03:43.110 --> 00:03:45.389 how much money he makes i'm guaranteeing you 00:03:45.389 --> 00:03:47.969 right now you will be sorely disappointed and 00:03:47.969 --> 00:03:49.490 your relationship will not be stable or last 00:03:49.490 --> 00:03:55.629 very long okay all right next uh that's it for 00:03:55.629 --> 00:03:59.349 this tip here um i think i'm gonna do like one 00:03:59.349 --> 00:04:03.229 or two more tips and uh i'm gonna call it uh 00:04:03.229 --> 00:04:05.889 cuts here in a while uh because right now it's 00:04:05.889 --> 00:04:08.949 about 3 18 a .m here in houston and you know 00:04:08.949 --> 00:04:10.789 i may be a night person but that doesn't mean 00:04:10.789 --> 00:04:12.229 i don't want to sleep i still got other stuff 00:04:12.229 --> 00:04:15.449 i got to do today as well okay guys so let me 00:04:15.449 --> 00:04:17.430 hit you up for a couple more tips like i said 00:04:17.430 --> 00:04:18.970 if you have anything you want to add if you have 00:04:18.970 --> 00:04:21.110 a comment a concern about anything i'm telling 00:04:21.110 --> 00:04:23.230 you right now any of these thoughts that i'm 00:04:23.230 --> 00:04:24.889 putting out here for you to consider you know 00:04:25.310 --> 00:04:27.269 I want to hear your piece. I want to hear what 00:04:27.269 --> 00:04:28.829 you have to say. And that includes the women 00:04:28.829 --> 00:04:30.209 too. I want to hear what you guys have to say. 00:04:30.230 --> 00:04:31.889 If there's something you think I forgot to say 00:04:31.889 --> 00:04:33.430 or something I haven't mentioned yet, you know, 00:04:33.430 --> 00:04:35.209 you want to make sure I get my, get your point 00:04:35.209 --> 00:04:37.610 in as well. You know, hit me up. Don't forget 00:04:37.610 --> 00:04:39.930 to hit that call in button and let me know what's 00:04:39.930 --> 00:04:42.009 up. All right. Again, this is Neogentrix. This 00:04:42.009 --> 00:04:46.310 is Thoughts. If it were you, I'm going to continue 00:04:46.310 --> 00:04:48.870 this segment with two more bits and I'm going 00:04:48.870 --> 00:04:55.930 to call it breaks for a little while. Okay. Okay, 00:04:55.970 --> 00:04:58.970 okay, okay. So moving on to the next piece here. 00:04:59.009 --> 00:05:01.310 This is some good advice for men just in general, 00:05:01.389 --> 00:05:04.790 okay? And I'm actually being dead serious about 00:05:04.790 --> 00:05:07.230 this. So please, you know, consider this or at 00:05:07.230 --> 00:05:08.649 least think about doing it. Now, whether you 00:05:08.649 --> 00:05:10.629 do it or not, like I said before, this is up 00:05:10.629 --> 00:05:12.509 to you. I'm just putting the advice out there. 00:05:12.569 --> 00:05:14.709 I'm just letting you know. This is some stuff 00:05:14.709 --> 00:05:16.649 for you to think about as is the theme of this 00:05:16.649 --> 00:05:21.949 channel, okay? First off, don't ever text your 00:05:21.949 --> 00:05:25.339 woman, okay? It's fine. everyone every so often 00:05:25.339 --> 00:05:27.259 but you know seriously though if a woman texts 00:05:27.259 --> 00:05:29.959 you or your your lady text you you need to still 00:05:29.959 --> 00:05:33.680 at least attempt to call her you'll you'll win 00:05:33.680 --> 00:05:36.379 her over a lot more you'll let her know you care 00:05:36.379 --> 00:05:37.899 more when you at least put in the effort to at 00:05:37.899 --> 00:05:41.019 least call her uh at some point whether it's 00:05:41.019 --> 00:05:42.720 immediately after the text or a couple minutes 00:05:42.720 --> 00:05:44.959 after a few minutes after you've been texting 00:05:44.959 --> 00:05:46.920 for a little bit but you know seriously though 00:05:46.920 --> 00:05:48.839 if you have like issues things that's going on 00:05:48.839 --> 00:05:52.000 important updates or something great happened 00:05:52.000 --> 00:05:53.759 or something bad happened you want to call her 00:05:53.759 --> 00:05:55.519 you don't want to text her any information because 00:05:55.519 --> 00:05:58.639 not only is it cold but it doesn't show what 00:05:58.639 --> 00:06:00.420 it shows that you don't really care too much 00:06:00.420 --> 00:06:03.019 to hear her voice or her actual physical reaction 00:06:03.019 --> 00:06:07.120 okay also being the guy you need to make sure 00:06:07.120 --> 00:06:09.689 you have reservations you need to plan Make a 00:06:09.689 --> 00:06:14.110 date plan. Places to go during the week or places 00:06:14.110 --> 00:06:16.610 to go after. A guy should always be good with 00:06:16.610 --> 00:06:20.290 a date plan. This helps him get a second date 00:06:20.290 --> 00:06:23.810 because if the first date went successful, this 00:06:23.810 --> 00:06:25.790 is assuming that you haven't quite got her yet 00:06:25.790 --> 00:06:28.449 or you're about to get a good date from... talking 00:06:28.449 --> 00:06:31.449 to her. Say you've went on a date already. Having 00:06:31.449 --> 00:06:33.970 planned out the second one already is a good 00:06:33.970 --> 00:06:36.050 way to show that you really are thinking about 00:06:36.050 --> 00:06:38.230 her and you really care. Because some women, 00:06:38.329 --> 00:06:39.829 when they go on a date, if they liked it, the 00:06:39.829 --> 00:06:41.089 first question that comes out of their mouth 00:06:41.089 --> 00:06:42.670 is, so where are we going next time? And you 00:06:42.670 --> 00:06:45.610 want to at least have an answer for that. Third, 00:06:45.769 --> 00:06:48.569 and this is very important, regardless of where 00:06:48.569 --> 00:06:52.060 you're at, be early. Okay, women get nervous 00:06:52.060 --> 00:06:54.240 when the guy doesn't show up whether they're 00:06:54.240 --> 00:06:56.819 not on time you need to be early Okay, it shows 00:06:56.819 --> 00:06:58.980 that you made an effort and that you are calm 00:06:58.980 --> 00:07:01.360 relaxed instead of apologizing and being short 00:07:01.360 --> 00:07:04.540 -winded When she gets there, okay that you don't 00:07:04.540 --> 00:07:08.180 ever ever want to be that way and like I said 00:07:08.180 --> 00:07:13.319 being early and Showing that you care is i'm 00:07:13.319 --> 00:07:15.759 sorry shows that you care and you know you want 00:07:15.759 --> 00:07:17.660 her to know that you appreciate her and you want 00:07:17.660 --> 00:07:20.420 to be there with her okay third i'm sorry third 00:07:20.420 --> 00:07:24.199 fourth uh man i had this all planned out in my 00:07:24.199 --> 00:07:27.399 head i promise uh be a gentleman okay like i 00:07:27.399 --> 00:07:30.660 said earlier on in this set um be a gentleman 00:07:30.660 --> 00:07:33.699 walk her to the cab walk her to your car what 00:07:33.699 --> 00:07:35.100 have you whatever you're riding and whether it's 00:07:35.100 --> 00:07:36.939 a bus or it doesn't matter what it is you know 00:07:36.939 --> 00:07:40.120 you walk into the uh the vehicle and make sure 00:07:40.120 --> 00:07:42.699 she gets in you know show interest in her safety 00:07:42.699 --> 00:07:44.620 make sure her seat belts buckle and close the 00:07:44.620 --> 00:07:46.600 door make sure she has all her belongings her 00:07:46.600 --> 00:07:49.339 purse included okay this is just a natural guy 00:07:49.339 --> 00:07:51.319 thing to do like i said before some women don't 00:07:51.319 --> 00:07:52.939 like this type of thing they think that we're 00:07:52.939 --> 00:07:55.079 being feministic or sexist i assure you we are 00:07:55.079 --> 00:07:57.420 not it just shows that we care okay but like 00:07:57.420 --> 00:08:00.139 i said i'll focus on the women's aspect uh later 00:08:00.139 --> 00:08:02.819 right now we're just focusing on that okay and 00:08:02.819 --> 00:08:05.379 on another note okay if the date went successful 00:08:05.379 --> 00:08:08.860 or how you'll know if it's successful okay Call 00:08:08.860 --> 00:08:11.180 for another date, but within the two day period, 00:08:11.259 --> 00:08:14.199 not immediately, but then don't call like after 00:08:14.199 --> 00:08:16.339 a week or something, but let her know that after 00:08:16.339 --> 00:08:18.459 the day has completed, you know, a couple hours 00:08:18.459 --> 00:08:22.069 later that you enjoyed it. Call her, don't text 00:08:22.069 --> 00:08:23.709 her this. And then at the same time, don't forget 00:08:23.709 --> 00:08:27.430 to ask when you can go on the next date. You 00:08:27.430 --> 00:08:28.910 know, it shows interest and it shows that you're 00:08:28.910 --> 00:08:30.709 looking forward to the next time and that you 00:08:30.709 --> 00:08:32.909 enjoyed it. This also goes for women as well. 00:08:34.110 --> 00:08:36.909 Just a personal thing here. And then another 00:08:36.909 --> 00:08:39.470 thing to keep in mind when you're going on dates, 00:08:39.690 --> 00:08:42.870 don't be afraid to take risks, okay? And show 00:08:42.870 --> 00:08:46.289 interest. Forget playing it cool. Forget being 00:08:46.289 --> 00:08:48.669 that guy who can do all this really great stuff, 00:08:48.789 --> 00:08:51.549 okay? When she knows you're interested, it sparks 00:08:51.549 --> 00:08:55.909 interest in her, even when it's never there before. 00:08:56.690 --> 00:08:59.809 Your interest and attention on her also makes 00:08:59.809 --> 00:09:01.789 you more attractive. Just keep this in mind. 00:09:01.830 --> 00:09:05.509 There's nothing more attractive, or I guess you 00:09:05.509 --> 00:09:07.350 could say sexier, than a man who's willing to 00:09:07.350 --> 00:09:13.149 put it on, put himself on the line to be with 00:09:13.149 --> 00:09:16.340 them. that's just a general approach right there 00:09:16.340 --> 00:09:18.580 for guys in case you didn't understand why women 00:09:18.580 --> 00:09:20.200 are the way they are when it comes to something 00:09:20.200 --> 00:09:22.960 like this that's just simple as that avoid hanging 00:09:22.960 --> 00:09:26.919 out go eat uh can i have your number never never 00:09:26.919 --> 00:09:29.580 say can i have your number okay they're ambiguous 00:09:29.580 --> 00:09:33.059 and it's not clear if it's you know you just 00:09:33.059 --> 00:09:34.899 want to be their friend or if you want to take 00:09:34.899 --> 00:09:37.120 them out okay or you want to go on a date can 00:09:37.120 --> 00:09:40.100 i call you these are these are much better responses 00:09:40.100 --> 00:09:42.299 and they're clear and more direct i know it's 00:09:42.299 --> 00:09:45.789 a risk but you know She's already not going out 00:09:45.789 --> 00:09:48.009 with you though. So what's the worst that can 00:09:48.009 --> 00:09:49.669 happen? Keep that in mind? Okay, that's something 00:09:49.669 --> 00:09:58.610 else to think about. Okay Okay, okay, okay So 00:09:58.610 --> 00:10:01.690 I forgot to mention a minute ago, you know like 00:10:01.690 --> 00:10:06.330 I said You want to be clear? What you said? Okay 00:10:06.330 --> 00:10:11.490 Try not to be too vague women can't read your 00:10:11.490 --> 00:10:14.129 mind i assure you they cannot read your mind 00:10:14.129 --> 00:10:16.529 okay a lot of people a lot of guys automatically 00:10:16.529 --> 00:10:19.330 assume that you know especially when they work 00:10:19.330 --> 00:10:21.789 with other people that they uh they know when 00:10:21.789 --> 00:10:23.529 a person's interested in how they feel when in 00:10:23.529 --> 00:10:26.590 reality they have no idea okay and a lot of people 00:10:26.590 --> 00:10:28.309 end up getting hurt because of this and it causes 00:10:28.309 --> 00:10:33.009 a lot of stuff to go to basically go to hell 00:10:33.009 --> 00:10:35.850 and you know it never improves okay at the same 00:10:35.850 --> 00:10:40.730 time when i say be clear you know Be clear when 00:10:40.730 --> 00:10:43.629 you're asking her What you want to do is the 00:10:43.629 --> 00:10:45.509 same thing goes for women who you know ask guys 00:10:45.509 --> 00:10:47.250 out because I know they do this, too You know 00:10:47.250 --> 00:10:48.990 you need to be clear. We can't read your mind, 00:10:49.090 --> 00:10:51.929 okay? I'd like to take you out or I want would 00:10:51.929 --> 00:10:54.090 Would you like to go on a date with me or can 00:10:54.090 --> 00:10:56.610 I call you you know these are much better? They're 00:10:56.610 --> 00:10:59.509 clearer easier responses and like I said before 00:10:59.509 --> 00:11:02.330 it's like you're you are taking a risk But I 00:11:02.330 --> 00:11:04.970 guarantee you about 50 to 75 percent of the time 00:11:04.970 --> 00:11:11.230 it will pay off even if she does say no uh let's 00:11:11.230 --> 00:11:16.470 see here the um keep this in mind okay don't 00:11:16.470 --> 00:11:19.409 settle okay don't be so quick to settle okay 00:11:19.409 --> 00:11:22.429 and if you do find someone you need to find someone 00:11:22.429 --> 00:11:26.970 who is worthy of you don't ever settle for anything 00:11:26.970 --> 00:11:32.490 less okay don't and at the same time don't well 00:11:32.490 --> 00:11:34.649 you know what i'll focus on that topic a little 00:11:34.649 --> 00:11:36.809 bit later we'll we'll cover that later okay but 00:11:36.809 --> 00:11:38.990 importantly for guys you know don't settle for 00:11:38.990 --> 00:11:43.620 less but don't exclude the ones that you know 00:11:43.620 --> 00:11:45.360 just because they don't look appealing or they 00:11:45.360 --> 00:11:47.679 don't sound appealing you never know that person 00:11:47.679 --> 00:11:50.019 could be the one person that is there that that's 00:11:50.019 --> 00:11:52.360 for you okay you know along with that you know 00:11:52.360 --> 00:11:55.480 it's imperative that you first of all believe 00:11:55.480 --> 00:11:58.440 that having your ideal mate is possible okay 00:11:58.440 --> 00:12:01.240 second believe that you deserve to have your 00:12:01.240 --> 00:12:03.879 ideal mate okay usually men find no trouble attracting 00:12:03.879 --> 00:12:08.840 material uh things that they want like House 00:12:08.840 --> 00:12:12.000 car TVs clothes etc. You know even favorite sports 00:12:12.000 --> 00:12:14.840 events and things of that nature which by the 00:12:14.840 --> 00:12:18.600 way I'm not a sports person Okay the problem 00:12:18.600 --> 00:12:21.159 lies in attracting their ideal mate is not having 00:12:21.159 --> 00:12:23.320 a clear vision of the kind of person that they 00:12:23.320 --> 00:12:26.000 are Attracted to and not settle for anything 00:12:26.000 --> 00:12:28.220 that doesn't fit the description of the woman 00:12:28.220 --> 00:12:30.320 of their dreams Okay, my suggestion is that you 00:12:30.320 --> 00:12:32.899 should first have the kind of woman you're looking 00:12:32.899 --> 00:12:36.519 for clearly written down in every detail This 00:12:36.519 --> 00:12:38.740 includes their personality traits, their physical 00:12:38.740 --> 00:12:41.980 attributes, as well as their religious beliefs. 00:12:46.259 --> 00:12:48.179 Yes, like I said before, this is not a religious 00:12:48.179 --> 00:12:50.940 channel. Don't get me wrong. But you need to 00:12:50.940 --> 00:12:52.419 keep that in mind as well. Because there are 00:12:52.419 --> 00:12:55.000 some women out there that are religiously strong 00:12:55.000 --> 00:12:59.539 or believe a certain faith or thing. And they 00:12:59.539 --> 00:13:02.399 will not change it for you or anybody. You need 00:13:02.399 --> 00:13:05.279 to keep that in mind. uh for there you have a 00:13:05.279 --> 00:13:07.259 physical manifestation of your ideal mate and 00:13:07.259 --> 00:13:08.539 that's just the whole point of writing this down 00:13:08.539 --> 00:13:11.019 okay so therefore she's no longer an idea or 00:13:11.019 --> 00:13:13.860 a desire in your heart okay you'll find that 00:13:13.860 --> 00:13:16.100 she literally will show up in your life so how 00:13:16.100 --> 00:13:18.179 you'll know usually she'll be the one person 00:13:18.179 --> 00:13:21.659 you least expect okay i just want to make this 00:13:21.659 --> 00:13:26.679 known okay uh and this is from a um a woman's 00:13:26.679 --> 00:13:29.879 perspective okay I understand a lot of guys out 00:13:29.879 --> 00:13:32.440 there watch porn, okay? I'm not one of them. 00:13:32.480 --> 00:13:34.720 Personally, I find it disrespectful to my mom 00:13:34.720 --> 00:13:37.360 and my future mate, okay? But keep this in mind 00:13:37.360 --> 00:13:39.419 for those of you who do, and I'm not going to 00:13:39.419 --> 00:13:41.600 make you stop. This is your own personal decision, 00:13:41.820 --> 00:13:45.460 okay? Do not watch a lot of it. Believe this 00:13:45.460 --> 00:13:49.460 or not, do not watch a lot of it, okay? Actually, 00:13:50.519 --> 00:13:51.980 you know what? I'm running out of time here. 00:13:52.179 --> 00:13:55.039 Let me... Because you only get about five minutes 00:13:55.039 --> 00:13:57.889 here for each... each bit for this podcast and 00:13:57.889 --> 00:14:00.009 you know this is a big topic right here i'm gonna 00:14:00.009 --> 00:14:02.070 have to cover this in more than one part so but 00:14:02.070 --> 00:14:04.350 let me go ahead and cover what i can right now 00:14:04.350 --> 00:14:10.570 in the next 30 seconds uh porn can kill the emotional 00:14:10.570 --> 00:14:13.090 and physical intimacy in your relationship i'm 00:14:13.090 --> 00:14:14.370 gonna just go ahead and say it off like that 00:14:14.370 --> 00:14:18.960 right now okay in most practices i'm seeing a 00:14:18.960 --> 00:14:21.759 growing there there are a lot of growing attractive 00:14:21.759 --> 00:14:24.379 young couples who are emotionally disconnected 00:14:24.379 --> 00:14:29.019 or not even being intimately involved and usually 00:14:29.019 --> 00:14:31.299 it's the reason is be when when you start looking 00:14:31.299 --> 00:14:32.980 into a little bit more you know it's usually 00:14:32.980 --> 00:14:36.000 porn that causes the issue okay whether it's 00:14:36.000 --> 00:14:38.440 whether the guy or the girl and this is i'm speaking 00:14:38.440 --> 00:14:40.600 to the to the guys right now not so much the 00:14:40.600 --> 00:14:44.019 women but you need to keep this in mind just 00:14:44.019 --> 00:14:47.019 because it helps get you off Helps get the thing 00:14:47.019 --> 00:14:49.299 started by watching too much of it. It can cause 00:14:49.299 --> 00:14:51.679 a disconnect where you just see her as another 00:14:51.679 --> 00:15:01.480 porn star So picking up where I left off like 00:15:01.480 --> 00:15:06.600 I said From that last bit, you know porn is usually 00:15:06.600 --> 00:15:11.320 the main main main reason that a lot of relationships 00:15:11.320 --> 00:15:16.389 fall apart or they lose their intimacy or basically 00:15:16.389 --> 00:15:19.289 the attraction between the two people sure it 00:15:19.289 --> 00:15:23.289 may be okay for getting started but it's usually 00:15:23.289 --> 00:15:26.509 something like this and you know I know a lot 00:15:26.509 --> 00:15:28.789 of guys like I said before watch it it usually 00:15:28.789 --> 00:15:31.590 becomes an addiction and at that point you know 00:15:31.590 --> 00:15:38.210 it's just it's not something that women want 00:15:38.210 --> 00:15:40.649 to come home to especially when they know that 00:15:40.649 --> 00:15:42.289 the guy's been doing like because to be honest 00:15:42.730 --> 00:15:44.710 If you're one of those guys out there that masturbate, 00:15:44.750 --> 00:15:47.029 and personally, I'm against that, but again, 00:15:47.110 --> 00:15:52.029 this is not about me. No girl, no woman, no lady, 00:15:52.169 --> 00:15:55.750 there, there's a word, wants to come home to 00:15:55.750 --> 00:15:58.769 the smell of a guy who's been kicking it off 00:15:58.769 --> 00:16:01.370 from something like that. First off, it doesn't 00:16:01.370 --> 00:16:03.769 set the mood. It's not very attractive, especially 00:16:03.769 --> 00:16:05.450 if you had cleaned up your mess and you just 00:16:05.450 --> 00:16:10.139 straight up fell asleep after you did it. It's 00:16:10.139 --> 00:16:13.320 just not attractive whatsoever. And then on top 00:16:13.320 --> 00:16:17.000 of that, for a woman to come home and find their 00:16:17.000 --> 00:16:18.980 guy even doing it in the first place is embarrassing. 00:16:20.039 --> 00:16:21.580 You would think it would be embarrassing to the 00:16:21.580 --> 00:16:23.080 guy, but obviously if he's doing it, he's not 00:16:23.080 --> 00:16:25.360 too worried about it. But for the woman, it is 00:16:25.360 --> 00:16:28.980 embarrassing. Personally, I have nothing against 00:16:28.980 --> 00:16:30.799 people who watch it, because I can't make you 00:16:30.799 --> 00:16:33.340 change your mind. But if you're having a hard 00:16:33.340 --> 00:16:35.659 time getting aroused by the real woman who's 00:16:35.659 --> 00:16:37.559 actually with you, the one who's sleeping next 00:16:37.559 --> 00:16:41.059 to you in the bed, but you're easily turned on 00:16:41.059 --> 00:16:42.759 by some anonymous woman on a computer screen 00:16:42.759 --> 00:16:45.100 or your phone or what have you, iPad, whatever, 00:16:45.259 --> 00:16:49.519 that you don't even know, then right now, right 00:16:49.519 --> 00:16:54.059 here, you need to consider this, that porn, that 00:16:54.059 --> 00:16:56.080 stuff that you're watching may be the cause, 00:16:56.279 --> 00:16:59.120 okay? There have been a lot of studies that have 00:16:59.120 --> 00:17:04.019 shown that, you know, what do they call it? Dopamine, 00:17:04.079 --> 00:17:08.299 the key factor, it's a chemical in your brain. 00:17:08.940 --> 00:17:13.599 uh in your body that it reward it's a it's driven 00:17:13.599 --> 00:17:16.500 learning that it can it's a certain addictive 00:17:16.500 --> 00:17:19.900 drug it's addictive okay like cocaine amphetamine 00:17:19.900 --> 00:17:23.980 uh morphine uh what's the other one called uh 00:17:23.980 --> 00:17:27.000 i can't think of it at the moment uh i can't 00:17:27.000 --> 00:17:29.359 think of it uh even cigarettes i guess you can 00:17:29.359 --> 00:17:32.720 we'll go with that for now you know it it directly 00:17:32.720 --> 00:17:35.059 affects the dopamine system in your body and 00:17:35.440 --> 00:17:37.519 When someone gets sexually aroused, the same 00:17:37.519 --> 00:17:41.319 areas in your brain that are activated as when 00:17:41.319 --> 00:17:44.779 doing this is the same as in drugs. Especially 00:17:44.779 --> 00:17:50.859 when a person is exposed to the novel stimuli, 00:17:51.420 --> 00:17:57.160 the basic arousing, like just passing your hands 00:17:57.160 --> 00:18:00.509 on the person or such. especially when it's sexual 00:18:00.509 --> 00:18:03.890 in nature, it creates an intense rush that can 00:18:03.890 --> 00:18:06.529 lead to an arousal or even an addiction to something. 00:18:06.710 --> 00:18:09.630 This is why some guys, even women, are either 00:18:09.630 --> 00:18:11.349 addicted to sex or they're addicted to porn, 00:18:11.450 --> 00:18:14.150 and it can't be helped because it's become a 00:18:14.150 --> 00:18:17.589 major part of your life. And one of the books 00:18:17.589 --> 00:18:20.789 that I've read from my friend's personal experience, 00:18:20.890 --> 00:18:24.809 and I've repeatedly had to help him out from 00:18:24.809 --> 00:18:29.460 this. repeated exposure to the same thing over 00:18:29.460 --> 00:18:32.880 and over again it transfers all those images 00:18:32.880 --> 00:18:36.619 to your brain and then in your brain the way 00:18:36.619 --> 00:18:38.960 you think you will after a while you'll start 00:18:38.960 --> 00:18:41.839 to prefer those images to the real life to your 00:18:41.839 --> 00:18:45.440 real life partner and it's basically you'll met 00:18:45.440 --> 00:18:47.940 you'll never see her the way you used to you'll 00:18:47.940 --> 00:18:50.119 never see her for what she is or what she's worth 00:18:50.119 --> 00:18:52.039 because you'll always have that picture of that 00:18:52.039 --> 00:18:55.299 other person you don't know I've never met uh 00:18:55.299 --> 00:18:58.539 stuck in your head for as long as you as long 00:18:58.539 --> 00:19:01.619 as you're with her and this causes a lot of insecurities 00:19:01.619 --> 00:19:04.819 a lot of problems a lot of uh traction issues 00:19:04.819 --> 00:19:07.500 this keeps you from connecting like you're supposed 00:19:07.500 --> 00:19:09.900 to and it also keeps relationships from lasting 00:19:09.900 --> 00:19:12.420 more than a couple of weeks a couple of days 00:19:12.420 --> 00:19:15.839 or even a couple of months and it's sad but this 00:19:15.839 --> 00:19:17.960 is this is the reality of things right now and 00:19:17.960 --> 00:19:19.940 i want you guys i want all of you guys out there 00:19:19.940 --> 00:19:21.880 who are listening to this to think about this 00:19:21.880 --> 00:19:25.619 and consider Your actions, like I said earlier 00:19:25.619 --> 00:19:28.380 on, your actions affect not only you, but the 00:19:28.380 --> 00:19:30.240 people around you and even the woman that you're 00:19:30.240 --> 00:19:35.839 with. That being said, I'm done with that topic. 00:19:36.339 --> 00:19:38.500 Like I said, I don't care for porn. I find it 00:19:38.500 --> 00:19:41.200 disrespectful. And as you can tell, if you don't 00:19:41.200 --> 00:19:42.660 believe me, you can look up the information. 00:19:42.759 --> 00:19:44.299 This is just a little bit food for thought. I 00:19:44.299 --> 00:19:47.220 want you to think about it. Is it really okay? 00:19:47.359 --> 00:19:51.059 Is it really healthy for you? Okay? Think about 00:19:51.059 --> 00:19:51.279 it.