Okay. So now we're going to focus on the next
bit. Okay. So you've said all the right things.
Now you've got the girl, uh, before, you know,
it, you know, you're going to be a proud owner
of a cute little whatever, or have a couple of
puppies or, you know, what have you, or next
you might find more women, toiletries in your
bathroom and at the Macy's counter, but you know
what? It doesn't really matter right here. Okay.
You just need to remember the three don'ts. Okay.
First off, don't lose yourself. Okay. Don't disappear
into a couple. Make sure you each retain your
own interests and hobbies. Don't get so attached
to the hip that you never see your ego again.
Don't ever do that. Because as soon as you do
that and you completely lose yourself or lose
each other in this, everything becomes normalized.
Everything becomes expected. That's something
you don't ever want to do. And at the same time...
Don't let yourself go. Okay, just If she let
me use an analogy here, okay if she wanted a
baby Tiger for whatever reason she would have
found one Okay, but just because you have a significant
other does not mean you should stop going to
the gym and Spend your life in sweats. Okay,
it doesn't work that way she liked to put She
liked you Put together and fit so keep it up.
Okay Don't don't just sit at home and do nothing.
Okay, that's not that's not something you want
to do Okay, so keep that in mind. Don't let go
of yourself be who you are But you know at the
same time, you know keep this in mind if you
wanted something else you would have found it
already. All right Third don't stop having fun.
Okay, there will be plenty of there'll be plenty
of time from just dumb stuff and what have you
okay there will be there'll be puppies children
diapers chores things of the nature of the stuff
to do but you need to also remember to find time
to enjoy each other's company okay whether it's
a restaurant going out to the lounge going skiing
uh playing at the park it it doesn't matter what
it is okay you need to keep Find time to have
fun and enjoy each other's company without the
effects of life getting in the way. One of the
other major things I want to throw out there,
this isn't one of the three don'ts, but I'm just
going to put it out there. Do not consistently
talk about money, okay? Because that is one of
the major things. that can tear a relationship
apart okay doesn't matter how you feel about
it doesn't matter how she feels about it you
know the last thing that she should be talking
about right now is money okay because as soon
as money becomes an issue in a relationship or
becomes a main thing a reason why you do's and
you don'ts okay then you know as soon as you
have a fault or she falls through the relationship
tends to fall through as well because money is
an issue and you know no woman wants a broke
man but at the same time you know you want a
woman that will be there in case you fall through
and say you had a good job but then you happen
to lose it you want a woman that will you know
stay with you and help you so that means that
as long as you're not the main reason why your
money is dropping you know as a guy you shouldn't
have to worry about your lady leaving you because
you have no money okay because if she loves you
for who you are this shouldn't even be an issue
at the same time women you need to keep this
in mind a guy should not be based off of the
money he has or how much he makes now it's great
when we have when we have a lot of money don't
get me wrong everything will be a lot easier
be a lot simpler but if you base your relationship
on the fact of the type of job the guy has of
how much money he makes i'm guaranteeing you
right now you will be sorely disappointed and
your relationship will not be stable or last
very long okay all right next uh that's it for
this tip here um i think i'm gonna do like one
or two more tips and uh i'm gonna call it uh
cuts here in a while uh because right now it's
about 3 18 a .m here in houston and you know
i may be a night person but that doesn't mean
i don't want to sleep i still got other stuff
i got to do today as well okay guys so let me
hit you up for a couple more tips like i said
if you have anything you want to add if you have
a comment a concern about anything i'm telling
you right now any of these thoughts that i'm
putting out here for you to consider you know
I want to hear your piece. I want to hear what
you have to say. And that includes the women
too. I want to hear what you guys have to say.
If there's something you think I forgot to say
or something I haven't mentioned yet, you know,
you want to make sure I get my, get your point
in as well. You know, hit me up. Don't forget
to hit that call in button and let me know what's
up. All right. Again, this is Neogentrix. This
is Thoughts. If it were you, I'm going to continue
this segment with two more bits and I'm going
to call it breaks for a little while. Okay. Okay,
okay, okay. So moving on to the next piece here.
This is some good advice for men just in general,
okay? And I'm actually being dead serious about
this. So please, you know, consider this or at
least think about doing it. Now, whether you
do it or not, like I said before, this is up
to you. I'm just putting the advice out there.
I'm just letting you know. This is some stuff
for you to think about as is the theme of this
channel, okay? First off, don't ever text your
woman, okay? It's fine. everyone every so often
but you know seriously though if a woman texts
you or your your lady text you you need to still
at least attempt to call her you'll you'll win
her over a lot more you'll let her know you care
more when you at least put in the effort to at
least call her uh at some point whether it's
immediately after the text or a couple minutes
after a few minutes after you've been texting
for a little bit but you know seriously though
if you have like issues things that's going on
important updates or something great happened
or something bad happened you want to call her
you don't want to text her any information because
not only is it cold but it doesn't show what
it shows that you don't really care too much
to hear her voice or her actual physical reaction
okay also being the guy you need to make sure
you have reservations you need to plan Make a
date plan. Places to go during the week or places
to go after. A guy should always be good with
a date plan. This helps him get a second date
because if the first date went successful, this
is assuming that you haven't quite got her yet
or you're about to get a good date from... talking
to her. Say you've went on a date already. Having
planned out the second one already is a good
way to show that you really are thinking about
her and you really care. Because some women,
when they go on a date, if they liked it, the
first question that comes out of their mouth
is, so where are we going next time? And you
want to at least have an answer for that. Third,
and this is very important, regardless of where
you're at, be early. Okay, women get nervous
when the guy doesn't show up whether they're
not on time you need to be early Okay, it shows
that you made an effort and that you are calm
relaxed instead of apologizing and being short
-winded When she gets there, okay that you don't
ever ever want to be that way and like I said
being early and Showing that you care is i'm
sorry shows that you care and you know you want
her to know that you appreciate her and you want
to be there with her okay third i'm sorry third
fourth uh man i had this all planned out in my
head i promise uh be a gentleman okay like i
said earlier on in this set um be a gentleman
walk her to the cab walk her to your car what
have you whatever you're riding and whether it's
a bus or it doesn't matter what it is you know
you walk into the uh the vehicle and make sure
she gets in you know show interest in her safety
make sure her seat belts buckle and close the
door make sure she has all her belongings her
purse included okay this is just a natural guy
thing to do like i said before some women don't
like this type of thing they think that we're
being feministic or sexist i assure you we are
not it just shows that we care okay but like
i said i'll focus on the women's aspect uh later
right now we're just focusing on that okay and
on another note okay if the date went successful
or how you'll know if it's successful okay Call
for another date, but within the two day period,
not immediately, but then don't call like after
a week or something, but let her know that after
the day has completed, you know, a couple hours
later that you enjoyed it. Call her, don't text
her this. And then at the same time, don't forget
to ask when you can go on the next date. You
know, it shows interest and it shows that you're
looking forward to the next time and that you
enjoyed it. This also goes for women as well.
Just a personal thing here. And then another
thing to keep in mind when you're going on dates,
don't be afraid to take risks, okay? And show
interest. Forget playing it cool. Forget being
that guy who can do all this really great stuff,
okay? When she knows you're interested, it sparks
interest in her, even when it's never there before.
Your interest and attention on her also makes
you more attractive. Just keep this in mind.
There's nothing more attractive, or I guess you
could say sexier, than a man who's willing to
put it on, put himself on the line to be with
them. that's just a general approach right there
for guys in case you didn't understand why women
are the way they are when it comes to something
like this that's just simple as that avoid hanging
out go eat uh can i have your number never never
say can i have your number okay they're ambiguous
and it's not clear if it's you know you just
want to be their friend or if you want to take
them out okay or you want to go on a date can
i call you these are these are much better responses
and they're clear and more direct i know it's
a risk but you know She's already not going out
with you though. So what's the worst that can
happen? Keep that in mind? Okay, that's something
else to think about. Okay Okay, okay, okay So
I forgot to mention a minute ago, you know like
I said You want to be clear? What you said? Okay
Try not to be too vague women can't read your
mind i assure you they cannot read your mind
okay a lot of people a lot of guys automatically
assume that you know especially when they work
with other people that they uh they know when
a person's interested in how they feel when in
reality they have no idea okay and a lot of people
end up getting hurt because of this and it causes
a lot of stuff to go to basically go to hell
and you know it never improves okay at the same
time when i say be clear you know Be clear when
you're asking her What you want to do is the
same thing goes for women who you know ask guys
out because I know they do this, too You know
you need to be clear. We can't read your mind,
okay? I'd like to take you out or I want would
Would you like to go on a date with me or can
I call you you know these are much better? They're
clearer easier responses and like I said before
it's like you're you are taking a risk But I
guarantee you about 50 to 75 percent of the time
it will pay off even if she does say no uh let's
see here the um keep this in mind okay don't
settle okay don't be so quick to settle okay
and if you do find someone you need to find someone
who is worthy of you don't ever settle for anything
less okay don't and at the same time don't well
you know what i'll focus on that topic a little
bit later we'll we'll cover that later okay but
importantly for guys you know don't settle for
less but don't exclude the ones that you know
just because they don't look appealing or they
don't sound appealing you never know that person
could be the one person that is there that that's
for you okay you know along with that you know
it's imperative that you first of all believe
that having your ideal mate is possible okay
second believe that you deserve to have your
ideal mate okay usually men find no trouble attracting
material uh things that they want like House
car TVs clothes etc. You know even favorite sports
events and things of that nature which by the
way I'm not a sports person Okay the problem
lies in attracting their ideal mate is not having
a clear vision of the kind of person that they
are Attracted to and not settle for anything
that doesn't fit the description of the woman
of their dreams Okay, my suggestion is that you
should first have the kind of woman you're looking
for clearly written down in every detail This
includes their personality traits, their physical
attributes, as well as their religious beliefs.
Yes, like I said before, this is not a religious
channel. Don't get me wrong. But you need to
keep that in mind as well. Because there are
some women out there that are religiously strong
or believe a certain faith or thing. And they
will not change it for you or anybody. You need
to keep that in mind. uh for there you have a
physical manifestation of your ideal mate and
that's just the whole point of writing this down
okay so therefore she's no longer an idea or
a desire in your heart okay you'll find that
she literally will show up in your life so how
you'll know usually she'll be the one person
you least expect okay i just want to make this
known okay uh and this is from a um a woman's
perspective okay I understand a lot of guys out
there watch porn, okay? I'm not one of them.
Personally, I find it disrespectful to my mom
and my future mate, okay? But keep this in mind
for those of you who do, and I'm not going to
make you stop. This is your own personal decision,
okay? Do not watch a lot of it. Believe this
or not, do not watch a lot of it, okay? Actually,
you know what? I'm running out of time here.
Let me... Because you only get about five minutes
here for each... each bit for this podcast and
you know this is a big topic right here i'm gonna
have to cover this in more than one part so but
let me go ahead and cover what i can right now
in the next 30 seconds uh porn can kill the emotional
and physical intimacy in your relationship i'm
gonna just go ahead and say it off like that
right now okay in most practices i'm seeing a
growing there there are a lot of growing attractive
young couples who are emotionally disconnected
or not even being intimately involved and usually
it's the reason is be when when you start looking
into a little bit more you know it's usually
porn that causes the issue okay whether it's
whether the guy or the girl and this is i'm speaking
to the to the guys right now not so much the
women but you need to keep this in mind just
because it helps get you off Helps get the thing
started by watching too much of it. It can cause
a disconnect where you just see her as another
porn star So picking up where I left off like
I said From that last bit, you know porn is usually
the main main main reason that a lot of relationships
fall apart or they lose their intimacy or basically
the attraction between the two people sure it
may be okay for getting started but it's usually
something like this and you know I know a lot
of guys like I said before watch it it usually
becomes an addiction and at that point you know
it's just it's not something that women want
to come home to especially when they know that
the guy's been doing like because to be honest
If you're one of those guys out there that masturbate,
and personally, I'm against that, but again,
this is not about me. No girl, no woman, no lady,
there, there's a word, wants to come home to
the smell of a guy who's been kicking it off
from something like that. First off, it doesn't
set the mood. It's not very attractive, especially
if you had cleaned up your mess and you just
straight up fell asleep after you did it. It's
just not attractive whatsoever. And then on top
of that, for a woman to come home and find their
guy even doing it in the first place is embarrassing.
You would think it would be embarrassing to the
guy, but obviously if he's doing it, he's not
too worried about it. But for the woman, it is
embarrassing. Personally, I have nothing against
people who watch it, because I can't make you
change your mind. But if you're having a hard
time getting aroused by the real woman who's
actually with you, the one who's sleeping next
to you in the bed, but you're easily turned on
by some anonymous woman on a computer screen
or your phone or what have you, iPad, whatever,
that you don't even know, then right now, right
here, you need to consider this, that porn, that
stuff that you're watching may be the cause,
okay? There have been a lot of studies that have
shown that, you know, what do they call it? Dopamine,
the key factor, it's a chemical in your brain.
uh in your body that it reward it's a it's driven
learning that it can it's a certain addictive
drug it's addictive okay like cocaine amphetamine
uh morphine uh what's the other one called uh
i can't think of it at the moment uh i can't
think of it uh even cigarettes i guess you can
we'll go with that for now you know it it directly
affects the dopamine system in your body and
When someone gets sexually aroused, the same
areas in your brain that are activated as when
doing this is the same as in drugs. Especially
when a person is exposed to the novel stimuli,
the basic arousing, like just passing your hands
on the person or such. especially when it's sexual
in nature, it creates an intense rush that can
lead to an arousal or even an addiction to something.
This is why some guys, even women, are either
addicted to sex or they're addicted to porn,
and it can't be helped because it's become a
major part of your life. And one of the books
that I've read from my friend's personal experience,
and I've repeatedly had to help him out from
this. repeated exposure to the same thing over
and over again it transfers all those images
to your brain and then in your brain the way
you think you will after a while you'll start
to prefer those images to the real life to your
real life partner and it's basically you'll met
you'll never see her the way you used to you'll
never see her for what she is or what she's worth
because you'll always have that picture of that
other person you don't know I've never met uh
stuck in your head for as long as you as long
as you're with her and this causes a lot of insecurities
a lot of problems a lot of uh traction issues
this keeps you from connecting like you're supposed
to and it also keeps relationships from lasting
more than a couple of weeks a couple of days
or even a couple of months and it's sad but this
is this is the reality of things right now and
i want you guys i want all of you guys out there
who are listening to this to think about this
and consider Your actions, like I said earlier
on, your actions affect not only you, but the
people around you and even the woman that you're
with. That being said, I'm done with that topic.
Like I said, I don't care for porn. I find it
disrespectful. And as you can tell, if you don't
believe me, you can look up the information.
This is just a little bit food for thought. I
want you to think about it. Is it really okay?
Is it really healthy for you? Okay? Think about
it.