Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, what's up? This is Thuds
If It Were You, and this is Neogentrics. How
are you guys doing this morning? It is 7 o 'clock
in the morning over here in Houston, and it is,
I think, about 58 degrees. I didn't get up at
2 this morning. I wasn't feeling well, so here
we go. We're going to pick up where we left off
yesterday with thoughts and relationships from
the men's aspect. We're going to pick this up
and carry it for a couple, a little bit longer,
and then we'll look at the women's side like
I promised yesterday. So, thinking of this podcast
where I left off, going back into what we were
talking about before, there are three keys to
having a happy and successful relationship, especially
for men, like I mentioned before. The first one
is to try every day without exception. The day
you stop trying is the day you stop caring, and
your relationship basically dies. That's the
last thing that any guy wants. Of course, knowing
what the difference between trying and trying
too hard is something that you need to be able
to tell the difference between. by trying too
hard you can accidentally or in in inadvertently
push her away and that's not something that you
want the second one is to make your woman feel
sexy and wanted not only will this help uh increase
your intimacy and the frequency of sex uh come
on let's be real here that's kind of one of the
things that most guys and women look forward
to in a relationship anyway but also help prevent
jealousy and insecurities Okay? You know, it's
great when a woman knows that the second she
walks in or when she's about to walk out, knowing
that her husband's calling her into the room
or, you know, being, I guess you could say, favoristic
with her. Making her feel like she's the sexiest
woman on the planet and that there's no other
woman on the planet that's for him but her. Women
love that type of thing. They won't say it physically,
but emotionally, that's the way they are. The
third thing is to be emotionally available enough
to listen when she just needs someone to talk
to, okay? This one's majorly important, unlike
the other two, which are important, but this
one takes the cake above most of the others,
okay? You need to resist the urge to try to fix
the problem, okay? If you're not sure what she
needs when she comes to you, ask her. uh capacity
for whatever she needs okay sometimes they just
need a hug i mean i know that sounds cheesy but
that's pretty much all they need sometimes sometimes
you just want someone to hear them out and just
be there and just give them a hug and make them
feel better you don't have to do anything whatsoever
all right so that's that okay next in uh the
next piece i'm gonna talk about like five things
that um guys can do to also increase the um the
i guess you could say the relationship factor
between the two of you and keep the connection
there um in a way that'll make her feel special
to uh i mean sorry not to in a way that'll help
her make her feel special like she's majorly
important uh in a way that you know She won't
go looking for somebody else or think that you
don't actually care. Okay, so this is just a
couple of extra steps of precautions to take.
We'll take a short interlude real quick right
here, and then I'm going to get into these five
facts. Alright, let's get into those five topics
that can help men make his woman feel exceptional
and help build trust between the two. The first
thing in this list is to make sure that she can
count on you. This alone for a woman is to be
able to depend on a guy is huge. She needs to
know that you will be there for her if you say
you are going to be somewhere, then you actually
show up on time, okay? If you say that you will
call, you call. This is how trust is developed
over time. And yes, while it may seem like simple,
small things, they're majorly important, okay?
The second one is show appreciation for the little
and big things she does for you, okay? There
are different ways to show appreciation and you
better make sure it matches the way she loves.
to express herself, okay? To be expressed, okay?
For her. Be it verbal affirmation or a huge kiss,
doesn't matter. It could even be a hug. It just
depends on the woman that you're with, okay?
Learn the woman that you're with. Learn her emotions.
Learn her body language. Know what she likes.
The last thing she wants to feel is taken for
granted. If that happens, then know that she
will be considering her other options in the
near future. And like I said before, that's not
something any guy wants to hear or have to think
about. The third thing is tell her she's special
and that she's the only one for you. And why?
You need to have a why. No girl wants to just
hear some empty blank lines with no meaning or
depth behind them, okay? It's like going to watch
a movie and all you saw is the beginning and
the end credits. You have no idea what happened
in the middle, okay? Your girlfriend wants to
know you have eyes only for her. She needs to
know why you chose to be with her and her alone.
She wants to see that you will be loyal to her,
which is something that's not very common today,
okay? Most women worry that you will tire them
move on before and become unfaithful That's a
major issue nowadays and I can't say that this
isn't true because it has happened to me before
despite me despite my efforts to prove that I
Only wanted her she still thought I was gonna
leave her and she left so By expressing why you
are with her she will feel more secure in the
relationship and that you are not going anywhere.
Okay Being this kind of guy that would follow
most of these instructions that I've been giving
you over the last couple of last few days Most
girls will become a little uncomfortable with
most this stuff because guys don't typically
do this anymore So but this is to be expected
at the same time. You can gain a lot of good
friends that will trust you From this so this
is a benefit for both sides as well The fourth
thing is to demonstrate that she is being included
in your future. OK, so when you talk about your
vacation, make sure she's included with that
in there, not just your family. Are you including
her in the activities with your family and your
friends? OK, so you need to make sure that. even
though she's there with you that you actually
have time to spend with her not just your family
um especially during the holidays bring your
girlfriend over let her spend time with your
family as well make sure she's met your parents
first off okay um all these actions demonstrate
that you are including her in your future and
that she is important and she's not just somebody
that you're with just to be with okay that's
not something that you want to have The fifth
thing is to be sure you remember her birthday
and other important dates with gifts and surprises.
Now, this one's not too unfamiliar, but you need
to make an effort to at least write these things
down. I'm not saying go out on a tangent and
say, oh, yeah, we met on January 25th, 2017 at
6 p .m. at the Rochester's on the corner block.
Now, that would be nice. Some girls are that
detailed, but that's not exactly what I'm referring
to here. OK, just keep that in mind. It is important
to remember her birthday, holidays such as Valentine's
Day, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, what have
you. Now, granted, I don't celebrate holidays,
but for her sake, do something to make her feel
special. They like to feel special and that you
make a big deal about these special occasions
with an appropriate type of gift, a romantic
dinner, a weekend away. Don't forget the flowers.
Food. trinkets what have you anything you know
anything that shows that she's special to you
and worth all the effort that you put into it
if you need to pull uh help pulling it together
seek help uh but don't fall down here otherwise
you'll basically be history okay if you can follow
these five ways to make your girlfriend feel
special and care for then you're on your way
of being the man of her dreams and you know when
you pop the question she'll either surely say
yes uh with probably some hesitation but more
than likely there won't be any okay so think
about that real quick i'm gonna cover a little
information from his book and then we're gonna
move on a little bit further okay