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Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, what's up? This is Thuds

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If It Were You, and this is Neogentrics. How

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are you guys doing this morning? It is 7 o 'clock

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in the morning over here in Houston, and it is,

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I think, about 58 degrees. I didn't get up at

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2 this morning. I wasn't feeling well, so here

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we go. We're going to pick up where we left off

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yesterday with thoughts and relationships from

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the men's aspect. We're going to pick this up

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and carry it for a couple, a little bit longer,

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and then we'll look at the women's side like

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I promised yesterday. So, thinking of this podcast

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where I left off, going back into what we were

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talking about before, there are three keys to

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having a happy and successful relationship, especially

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for men, like I mentioned before. The first one

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is to try every day without exception. The day

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you stop trying is the day you stop caring, and

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your relationship basically dies. That's the

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last thing that any guy wants. Of course, knowing

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what the difference between trying and trying

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too hard is something that you need to be able

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to tell the difference between. by trying too

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hard you can accidentally or in in inadvertently

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push her away and that's not something that you

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want the second one is to make your woman feel

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sexy and wanted not only will this help uh increase

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your intimacy and the frequency of sex uh come

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on let's be real here that's kind of one of the

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things that most guys and women look forward

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to in a relationship anyway but also help prevent

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jealousy and insecurities Okay? You know, it's

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great when a woman knows that the second she

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walks in or when she's about to walk out, knowing

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that her husband's calling her into the room

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or, you know, being, I guess you could say, favoristic

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with her. Making her feel like she's the sexiest

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woman on the planet and that there's no other

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woman on the planet that's for him but her. Women

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love that type of thing. They won't say it physically,

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but emotionally, that's the way they are. The

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third thing is to be emotionally available enough

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to listen when she just needs someone to talk

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to, okay? This one's majorly important, unlike

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the other two, which are important, but this

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one takes the cake above most of the others,

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okay? You need to resist the urge to try to fix

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the problem, okay? If you're not sure what she

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needs when she comes to you, ask her. uh capacity

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for whatever she needs okay sometimes they just

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need a hug i mean i know that sounds cheesy but

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that's pretty much all they need sometimes sometimes

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you just want someone to hear them out and just

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be there and just give them a hug and make them

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feel better you don't have to do anything whatsoever

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all right so that's that okay next in uh the

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next piece i'm gonna talk about like five things

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that um guys can do to also increase the um the

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i guess you could say the relationship factor

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between the two of you and keep the connection

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there um in a way that'll make her feel special

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to uh i mean sorry not to in a way that'll help

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her make her feel special like she's majorly

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important uh in a way that you know She won't

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go looking for somebody else or think that you

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don't actually care. Okay, so this is just a

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couple of extra steps of precautions to take.

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We'll take a short interlude real quick right

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here, and then I'm going to get into these five

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facts. Alright, let's get into those five topics

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that can help men make his woman feel exceptional

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and help build trust between the two. The first

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thing in this list is to make sure that she can

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count on you. This alone for a woman is to be

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able to depend on a guy is huge. She needs to

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know that you will be there for her if you say

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you are going to be somewhere, then you actually

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show up on time, okay? If you say that you will

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call, you call. This is how trust is developed

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over time. And yes, while it may seem like simple,

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small things, they're majorly important, okay?

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The second one is show appreciation for the little

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and big things she does for you, okay? There

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are different ways to show appreciation and you

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better make sure it matches the way she loves.

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to express herself, okay? To be expressed, okay?

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For her. Be it verbal affirmation or a huge kiss,

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doesn't matter. It could even be a hug. It just

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depends on the woman that you're with, okay?

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Learn the woman that you're with. Learn her emotions.

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Learn her body language. Know what she likes.

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The last thing she wants to feel is taken for

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granted. If that happens, then know that she

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will be considering her other options in the

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near future. And like I said before, that's not

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something any guy wants to hear or have to think

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about. The third thing is tell her she's special

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and that she's the only one for you. And why?

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You need to have a why. No girl wants to just

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hear some empty blank lines with no meaning or

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depth behind them, okay? It's like going to watch

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a movie and all you saw is the beginning and

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the end credits. You have no idea what happened

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in the middle, okay? Your girlfriend wants to

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know you have eyes only for her. She needs to

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know why you chose to be with her and her alone.

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She wants to see that you will be loyal to her,

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which is something that's not very common today,

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okay? Most women worry that you will tire them

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move on before and become unfaithful That's a

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major issue nowadays and I can't say that this

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isn't true because it has happened to me before

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despite me despite my efforts to prove that I

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Only wanted her she still thought I was gonna

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leave her and she left so By expressing why you

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are with her she will feel more secure in the

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relationship and that you are not going anywhere.

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Okay Being this kind of guy that would follow

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most of these instructions that I've been giving

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you over the last couple of last few days Most

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girls will become a little uncomfortable with

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most this stuff because guys don't typically

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do this anymore So but this is to be expected

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at the same time. You can gain a lot of good

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friends that will trust you From this so this

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is a benefit for both sides as well The fourth

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thing is to demonstrate that she is being included

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in your future. OK, so when you talk about your

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vacation, make sure she's included with that

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in there, not just your family. Are you including

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her in the activities with your family and your

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friends? OK, so you need to make sure that. even

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though she's there with you that you actually

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have time to spend with her not just your family

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um especially during the holidays bring your

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girlfriend over let her spend time with your

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family as well make sure she's met your parents

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first off okay um all these actions demonstrate

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that you are including her in your future and

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that she is important and she's not just somebody

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that you're with just to be with okay that's

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not something that you want to have The fifth

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thing is to be sure you remember her birthday

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and other important dates with gifts and surprises.

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Now, this one's not too unfamiliar, but you need

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to make an effort to at least write these things

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down. I'm not saying go out on a tangent and

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say, oh, yeah, we met on January 25th, 2017 at

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6 p .m. at the Rochester's on the corner block.

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Now, that would be nice. Some girls are that

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detailed, but that's not exactly what I'm referring

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to here. OK, just keep that in mind. It is important

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to remember her birthday, holidays such as Valentine's

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Day, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, what have

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you. Now, granted, I don't celebrate holidays,

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but for her sake, do something to make her feel

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special. They like to feel special and that you

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make a big deal about these special occasions

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with an appropriate type of gift, a romantic

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dinner, a weekend away. Don't forget the flowers.

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Food. trinkets what have you anything you know

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anything that shows that she's special to you

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and worth all the effort that you put into it

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if you need to pull uh help pulling it together

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seek help uh but don't fall down here otherwise

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you'll basically be history okay if you can follow

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these five ways to make your girlfriend feel

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special and care for then you're on your way

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of being the man of her dreams and you know when

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you pop the question she'll either surely say

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yes uh with probably some hesitation but more

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than likely there won't be any okay so think

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about that real quick i'm gonna cover a little

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information from his book and then we're gonna

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move on a little bit further okay