WEBVTT 00:00:10.550 --> 00:00:12.070 Okay, we're going to pick it up where we left 00:00:12.070 --> 00:00:15.650 off yesterday. Welcome to Thoughts If It Were 00:00:15.650 --> 00:00:19.960 You Relationship Series by Neogentrix. how are 00:00:19.960 --> 00:00:21.420 you guys doing this morning it's currently 1 00:00:21.420 --> 00:00:24.859 14 in the morning and it is cold outside a cold 00:00:24.859 --> 00:00:26.820 front just hit us like it was nobody's business 00:00:26.820 --> 00:00:29.640 after the rain that we got yesterday and the 00:00:29.640 --> 00:00:33.820 temperature is now 40 no 39 degrees outside yes 00:00:33.820 --> 00:00:36.979 it is cold uh i'm gonna pick up where we left 00:00:36.979 --> 00:00:38.979 off yesterday i guess i was gonna hit about nine 00:00:38.979 --> 00:00:41.560 points from donald trump's book regarding relationships 00:00:41.560 --> 00:00:46.340 and yes even though this guy you know is Well, 00:00:46.399 --> 00:00:48.000 I guess people say he's a womanizer. I don't 00:00:48.000 --> 00:00:51.060 know. I don't really care He makes some pretty 00:00:51.060 --> 00:00:53.460 interesting points I'm not gonna say I agree 00:00:53.460 --> 00:00:55.060 with them, but I am gonna list them off Like 00:00:55.060 --> 00:00:57.759 I said, this is thoughts things for you to think 00:00:57.759 --> 00:01:02.200 about and I want you guys to focus on Some of 00:01:02.200 --> 00:01:04.780 the information I'm gonna give you tonight Think 00:01:04.780 --> 00:01:07.180 about it a little bit and then if you have any 00:01:07.180 --> 00:01:09.560 comments or concerns about it Hit me up hit that 00:01:09.560 --> 00:01:11.799 call in button and we'll discuss that and then 00:01:11.799 --> 00:01:16.290 add it to the this podcast as well so other people 00:01:16.290 --> 00:01:18.450 can hear your opinion as well so we can help 00:01:18.450 --> 00:01:20.370 each other we want to help each other make the 00:01:20.370 --> 00:01:24.150 relationship stable and keep it going for longer 00:01:24.150 --> 00:01:26.890 than the standard of what nowadays has which 00:01:26.890 --> 00:01:29.170 would be you know a couple of weeks a couple 00:01:29.170 --> 00:01:32.200 days maybe even just a few months you know Everyone 00:01:32.200 --> 00:01:34.019 wants to find that one person. They want to be 00:01:34.019 --> 00:01:36.219 with that one person for longer than a couple 00:01:36.219 --> 00:01:37.599 of weeks. They want to be able to stay with them 00:01:37.599 --> 00:01:39.079 and say, yeah, I stayed with the same person 00:01:39.079 --> 00:01:40.819 for five, six years and they didn't cheat on 00:01:40.819 --> 00:01:42.239 me and I didn't cheat on them. We were faithful 00:01:42.239 --> 00:01:44.540 to each other and we had a blast, okay? That's 00:01:44.540 --> 00:01:47.719 what everybody wants, you know. Nobody wants 00:01:47.719 --> 00:01:49.599 to find that one person, think it's the one person, 00:01:49.659 --> 00:01:51.299 donate all their time to them only to find out 00:01:51.299 --> 00:01:53.079 that that one person is a backstabbing, double 00:01:53.079 --> 00:01:56.840 -crossing cheater. Now, but we're going to see 00:01:56.840 --> 00:02:01.000 what we can do here about this real quick. it's 00:02:01.000 --> 00:02:05.739 really really really important that especially 00:02:05.739 --> 00:02:07.780 here since we're talking about the guy side right 00:02:07.780 --> 00:02:11.919 now that guys pay attention to most of this information 00:02:11.919 --> 00:02:16.080 and do something with it to help increase the 00:02:16.080 --> 00:02:18.620 chances of the relationship lasting a lot longer 00:02:18.620 --> 00:02:21.960 now granted some things can't be helped as most 00:02:21.960 --> 00:02:23.539 of the work some of the work is going to be done 00:02:23.539 --> 00:02:25.680 on the female side believe it or not despite 00:02:25.680 --> 00:02:27.620 the fact that the guys it seems like the guys 00:02:27.620 --> 00:02:32.569 do a lot of the work I guess some of it is done 00:02:32.569 --> 00:02:35.610 on the female side. Keep in mind, while you may 00:02:35.610 --> 00:02:37.569 be the one doing all the work, paying for all 00:02:37.569 --> 00:02:40.189 the different stuff that y 'all do, and going 00:02:40.189 --> 00:02:41.750 out and responsible for playing the dates and 00:02:41.750 --> 00:02:43.770 everything, remember that the final say -so, 00:02:43.830 --> 00:02:47.129 the final decision, is still on the woman's side, 00:02:47.289 --> 00:02:50.669 okay? And again, like I said before, do not yell 00:02:50.669 --> 00:02:54.050 at her. Treat her with respect. And, you know, 00:02:54.069 --> 00:02:57.169 like I said before, don't you ever, ever waste 00:02:57.169 --> 00:03:01.830 raise your hand to a woman. OK, unless you you're 00:03:01.830 --> 00:03:04.090 insisting on going to jail. I mean, honestly, 00:03:04.310 --> 00:03:07.289 in today's society, that's enough to wreck you 00:03:07.289 --> 00:03:09.409 and pretty much ruin your life for the rest of 00:03:09.409 --> 00:03:11.810 whatever you have left here on this planet. So 00:03:11.810 --> 00:03:13.210 we're going to take a short break and then we're 00:03:13.210 --> 00:03:22.830 going to break right into this. OK. So let's 00:03:22.830 --> 00:03:25.150 get started with this, okay? First thing in this, 00:03:25.250 --> 00:03:27.250 uh, first thing that this book covers is thinking 00:03:27.250 --> 00:03:29.870 big, okay? Most people think small because they're 00:03:29.870 --> 00:03:32.009 afraid of success and afraid of making decisions, 00:03:32.069 --> 00:03:35.270 afraid of, you know, achieving anything or winning, 00:03:35.409 --> 00:03:39.650 basically. I mean, you need to decide, uh, how 00:03:39.650 --> 00:03:42.270 you want to have the best relationship of your 00:03:42.270 --> 00:03:44.770 life that gives you an advantage over people. 00:03:45.310 --> 00:03:47.389 instead of just playing around with just casual 00:03:47.389 --> 00:03:49.629 dating or waiting for fate to plop someone in 00:03:49.629 --> 00:03:52.030 your lap. It just doesn't work that way. Now, 00:03:52.090 --> 00:03:55.610 granted, I won't say that it doesn't happen, 00:03:55.870 --> 00:03:59.949 but it's just not common. Women love a man who 00:03:59.949 --> 00:04:02.469 knows what he wants and goes after it. Actually, 00:04:03.050 --> 00:04:05.129 this is one of the points in the book that I 00:04:05.129 --> 00:04:09.210 actually do agree with. No woman wants a guy 00:04:09.210 --> 00:04:11.430 who has no idea what the hell he wants to do 00:04:11.430 --> 00:04:14.150 with his life. Okay. Just making that known right 00:04:14.150 --> 00:04:17.389 now to maximize your options. Okay. Be flexible. 00:04:17.389 --> 00:04:20.290 Don't be too attached to one person or outcome, 00:04:20.350 --> 00:04:23.250 no matter how promising it may seem at first, 00:04:23.350 --> 00:04:26.170 keep a few balls in the air, you know, until 00:04:26.170 --> 00:04:28.490 you're ready to close the deal. And in other 00:04:28.490 --> 00:04:30.680 words, you know, when you're talking to different 00:04:30.680 --> 00:04:33.060 women you know don't just settle with just one 00:04:33.060 --> 00:04:35.600 you know talk to a good couple of them until 00:04:35.600 --> 00:04:37.319 you find the one that you think might be the 00:04:37.319 --> 00:04:39.579 one and then you know start moving in that direction 00:04:39.579 --> 00:04:42.100 with that one okay uh which brings us to the 00:04:42.100 --> 00:04:45.079 third point actually knowing your market um keep 00:04:45.079 --> 00:04:47.379 in mind that he speaks in terms of business but 00:04:47.379 --> 00:04:49.279 at the same time you know he could still be used 00:04:49.279 --> 00:04:53.399 for multiple different stuff as well okay do 00:04:53.399 --> 00:04:55.240 you appeal keep this in mind you need to appeal 00:04:55.240 --> 00:04:59.300 to a wide variety of people or at least or just 00:04:59.709 --> 00:05:02.149 or rather do you just appeal to a small group 00:05:02.149 --> 00:05:04.910 okay you need to be willing to meet a wide variety 00:05:04.910 --> 00:05:06.670 of different people not just in small groups 00:05:06.670 --> 00:05:09.800 okay or a specific type of group You need to 00:05:09.800 --> 00:05:12.259 define what you're looking for as well. Don't 00:05:12.259 --> 00:05:14.199 waste your time chasing women who aren't interested 00:05:14.199 --> 00:05:16.879 whatsoever. And I think I pointed that out earlier 00:05:16.879 --> 00:05:21.019 in this podcast as well. Just don't waste your 00:05:21.019 --> 00:05:23.420 time on women who you don't think you can actually 00:05:23.420 --> 00:05:26.600 get serious about. If you think that they're 00:05:26.600 --> 00:05:29.160 just going to be there to be there but not actually 00:05:29.160 --> 00:05:31.839 take you serious or actually move forward with 00:05:31.839 --> 00:05:35.220 you, then you're just wasting your time. Which 00:05:35.220 --> 00:05:37.199 brings us to the fourth point. Use your leverage. 00:05:37.360 --> 00:05:41.339 The worst thing you can do in a deal such as 00:05:41.339 --> 00:05:44.860 this would be to seem desperate. That's one of 00:05:44.860 --> 00:05:48.199 the last things you want to seem. If you seem 00:05:48.199 --> 00:05:50.459 desperate, and women can usually tell when a 00:05:50.459 --> 00:05:55.720 guy is, they will manipulate you like it ain't 00:05:55.720 --> 00:05:59.350 nobody's business. be screwed let's just say 00:05:59.350 --> 00:06:01.230 it like that you know leverage is your biggest 00:06:01.230 --> 00:06:03.350 strength okay it means having something the other 00:06:03.350 --> 00:06:06.230 person wants or can't do without and no this 00:06:06.230 --> 00:06:09.509 does not mean sex okay i'm gonna just go ahead 00:06:09.509 --> 00:06:11.910 and straight up say that right now she decides 00:06:11.910 --> 00:06:14.790 in if it's in her best interest to commit or 00:06:14.790 --> 00:06:19.350 not based off of this okay um also do not brag 00:06:19.350 --> 00:06:24.209 okay Most people, they don't want to brag. I 00:06:24.209 --> 00:06:26.589 mean, honestly, in his book, he says to do so. 00:06:27.230 --> 00:06:29.449 Don't be afraid to brag about your good qualities 00:06:29.449 --> 00:06:31.589 and what you have to bring to a relationship. 00:06:31.810 --> 00:06:33.430 And he makes a good point that it's a good thing 00:06:33.430 --> 00:06:35.550 to talk about that, but don't go off on a tangent 00:06:35.550 --> 00:06:37.350 and just constantly talk about yourself, okay? 00:06:38.069 --> 00:06:40.509 Honestly, while women do want to know more about 00:06:40.509 --> 00:06:42.709 you, they don't want to listen to a guy talking 00:06:42.709 --> 00:06:45.170 about himself for eight hours, okay? Definitely, 00:06:45.250 --> 00:06:48.670 definitely don't do that. I mean, on that note, 00:06:48.689 --> 00:06:50.410 though, if you don't tell her, who will tell 00:06:50.410 --> 00:06:52.589 her? about you okay and hopefully not your parents 00:06:52.589 --> 00:06:58.449 just the thought of that you know if you can't 00:06:58.449 --> 00:07:00.009 talk to her about your good points but you're 00:07:00.009 --> 00:07:02.129 having your parents do it you might as well give 00:07:02.129 --> 00:07:05.610 up having a relationship in the first place okay 00:07:06.509 --> 00:07:09.829 The fifth thing on that note is to enhance your 00:07:09.829 --> 00:07:12.329 location Okay, if you're shy or just not good 00:07:12.329 --> 00:07:15.230 at meeting your meeting people by yourself You 00:07:15.230 --> 00:07:16.870 need to put yourself in an area where there's 00:07:16.870 --> 00:07:19.910 a much higher ratio of women than men Usually 00:07:19.910 --> 00:07:22.490 colleges professions or social activities work 00:07:22.490 --> 00:07:24.709 well for this where you have an advantage to 00:07:24.709 --> 00:07:26.189 meet different people Whether it's a bowling 00:07:26.189 --> 00:07:29.029 game a sports event what happening? Okay one 00:07:29.029 --> 00:07:31.970 at this point, you know if you're actually The 00:07:31.970 --> 00:07:33.990 kind of guy that most women want by putting yourself 00:07:33.990 --> 00:07:35.589 in these environments, women will actually be 00:07:35.589 --> 00:07:37.730 competing against each other for you or your 00:07:37.730 --> 00:07:40.529 attention. And there's actually a book, another 00:07:40.529 --> 00:07:43.250 book separate from this one that Trump has that 00:07:43.250 --> 00:07:45.110 actually talks about this called Datanomics. 00:07:45.689 --> 00:07:47.750 Personally, I haven't read this book yet, but 00:07:47.750 --> 00:07:50.129 I have skimmed through it. And, you know, it 00:07:50.129 --> 00:07:51.870 makes a lot of good points, which I might actually 00:07:51.870 --> 00:07:55.870 cover in this segment. OK, I'm going to take 00:07:55.870 --> 00:07:57.550 a short interlude and then we'll get on to the 00:07:57.550 --> 00:08:15.480 last five points. OK. I'm gonna go into the six 00:08:15.480 --> 00:08:18.259 point right now it in other words. Let's go ahead 00:08:18.259 --> 00:08:19.980 and get the word out Okay, you need to let your 00:08:19.980 --> 00:08:22.079 friends family know you're looking for someone 00:08:22.079 --> 00:08:24.819 special and ask them who they know You know sign 00:08:24.819 --> 00:08:27.399 up for online three online dating sites at least 00:08:27.399 --> 00:08:29.819 submit your profile to professional matchmakers 00:08:29.819 --> 00:08:33.500 Like final match comm or something like that, 00:08:33.559 --> 00:08:36.379 you know put your phones away I'd be present 00:08:36.379 --> 00:08:38.360 and open to meeting people when you're out and 00:08:38.360 --> 00:08:41.720 about as well um this just opens and spreads 00:08:41.720 --> 00:08:43.799 your horizons a little bit while i personally 00:08:43.799 --> 00:08:46.940 don't condone dating sites again if you're the 00:08:46.940 --> 00:08:50.159 kind of person who's just not used to talking 00:08:50.159 --> 00:08:54.179 or rather being around people in general it can 00:08:54.179 --> 00:08:56.820 help you uh get used to talking to people a little 00:08:56.820 --> 00:08:59.659 bit more but at the same time you know it's better 00:08:59.659 --> 00:09:02.779 to be out and about dressed appropriately of 00:09:02.779 --> 00:09:04.879 course you know don't just walk outside wearing 00:09:04.879 --> 00:09:07.460 rags looking like a bomb okay obviously you need 00:09:07.460 --> 00:09:10.759 to dress to impress um if you're trying to attract 00:09:10.759 --> 00:09:14.539 a woman okay but don't dress dress like you are 00:09:14.539 --> 00:09:16.320 a million bucks in the sense that you know you 00:09:16.320 --> 00:09:20.799 you care for you to treat yourself well um but 00:09:20.799 --> 00:09:22.600 don't dress like you're a millionaire obviously 00:09:22.600 --> 00:09:25.559 if you're not because then you know it gives 00:09:25.559 --> 00:09:27.259 the wrong impression and then the woman's going 00:09:27.259 --> 00:09:29.519 to expect you to back that up okay but the same 00:09:29.519 --> 00:09:31.500 thing with that being said you know bringing 00:09:31.500 --> 00:09:35.230 us to 0 .7 out of 9 you can't con people for 00:09:35.230 --> 00:09:37.750 long okay that's why pickup artists can help 00:09:37.750 --> 00:09:41.950 you get a date and or get laid but they uh come 00:09:41.950 --> 00:09:44.110 up lacking in creating relationships okay so 00:09:44.110 --> 00:09:46.649 while it's great they can help you meet people 00:09:46.649 --> 00:09:48.370 or probably get you laid like i said a minute 00:09:48.370 --> 00:09:52.110 ago um at the same time they're not gonna help 00:09:52.110 --> 00:09:54.690 you get or keep the relationship you're with 00:09:54.690 --> 00:09:57.850 with that person more or less you know you know 00:09:57.850 --> 00:10:00.470 don't be that guy who talks a good game like 00:10:00.470 --> 00:10:03.000 i said before and doesn't deliver You know, going 00:10:03.000 --> 00:10:04.620 back to the way that you were dressed, you know, 00:10:04.620 --> 00:10:08.980 being the same in the same fashion. Do what you 00:10:08.980 --> 00:10:11.960 say you're going to do when you're saying you're 00:10:11.960 --> 00:10:15.000 going to do it, you know, under promise and over 00:10:15.000 --> 00:10:18.779 deliver. OK, it's better to under promise something 00:10:18.779 --> 00:10:25.840 and over exceed what they expect than to over 00:10:25.840 --> 00:10:30.019 promise and under deliver. OK. It's basically 00:10:30.019 --> 00:10:32.419 the same thing as lying. And like I mentioned 00:10:32.419 --> 00:10:35.940 earlier in this podcast, no girl likes a liar, 00:10:36.080 --> 00:10:39.220 okay? Which brings us to point eight. Contain 00:10:39.220 --> 00:10:43.080 the cost, okay? Meet for drinks and appetizers. 00:10:43.120 --> 00:10:46.220 Finding the one can mean a lot of, can mean meeting 00:10:46.220 --> 00:10:48.860 a lot of people, okay? Or rather, a lot of women. 00:10:48.940 --> 00:10:51.539 Don't waste your hard -earned resources, whining 00:10:51.539 --> 00:10:53.639 and dining, first dates with every single woman 00:10:53.639 --> 00:10:56.019 that you meet. Honestly, it's a waste of time. 00:10:56.059 --> 00:10:57.559 It's a waste of effort. It's a waste of money. 00:10:58.299 --> 00:10:59.759 And the only one who actually benefits out of 00:10:59.759 --> 00:11:02.659 those is the women who get a free meal. Not saying 00:11:02.659 --> 00:11:05.740 there's anything wrong with that. But if you're 00:11:05.740 --> 00:11:07.399 trying to find that one and you're trying to 00:11:07.399 --> 00:11:08.899 conserve your wallet at the same time so you 00:11:08.899 --> 00:11:11.500 can actually treat that one out properly, that's 00:11:11.500 --> 00:11:13.779 not the way to go about it, okay? Last but not 00:11:13.779 --> 00:11:15.779 least, point nine from his book. He said, don't 00:11:15.779 --> 00:11:17.799 spend a lot of time worrying about what you could 00:11:17.799 --> 00:11:22.899 have done differently or where things are going 00:11:22.899 --> 00:11:26.519 way too early on, okay? you can usually you can't 00:11:26.519 --> 00:11:29.820 predict where or when or how you'll meet the 00:11:29.820 --> 00:11:33.980 one in that in the you know in in in the emphasis 00:11:33.980 --> 00:11:35.700 right here we're just gonna say the one from 00:11:35.700 --> 00:11:39.139 this point forward okay um but if you don't take 00:11:39.139 --> 00:11:41.820 the ups and downs of data but if you don't take 00:11:41.820 --> 00:11:45.159 the ups and downs of dating too seriously uh 00:11:45.159 --> 00:11:47.679 you can actually have uh you can actually have 00:11:47.679 --> 00:11:50.970 a lot of fun getting there you know let some 00:11:50.970 --> 00:11:53.409 of the relationships still be a mystery, okay? 00:11:53.470 --> 00:11:57.789 Don't try to plan every single thing out. I mean, 00:11:57.889 --> 00:12:04.389 by doing that, you know, it's like you're basically 00:12:04.389 --> 00:12:06.129 making it seem like she doesn't have a choice 00:12:06.129 --> 00:12:09.370 in what she wants to do, and no girl likes to 00:12:09.370 --> 00:12:11.690 be back to tour corner, okay? Just keep that 00:12:11.690 --> 00:12:13.860 in mind, all right? Next, we're going to talk 00:12:13.860 --> 00:12:17.379 about three important communication tips for 00:12:17.379 --> 00:12:21.740 women, women, not women, for men to women in 00:12:21.740 --> 00:12:26.539 this next bit so that it can improve just the 00:12:26.539 --> 00:12:28.899 way you talk to her in general. All right. I'm 00:12:28.899 --> 00:12:31.620 going to take a short interlude and pop right 00:12:31.620 --> 00:12:32.379 into those. OK.