Okay, we're going to pick it up where we left
off yesterday. Welcome to Thoughts If It Were
You Relationship Series by Neogentrix. how are
you guys doing this morning it's currently 1
14 in the morning and it is cold outside a cold
front just hit us like it was nobody's business
after the rain that we got yesterday and the
temperature is now 40 no 39 degrees outside yes
it is cold uh i'm gonna pick up where we left
off yesterday i guess i was gonna hit about nine
points from donald trump's book regarding relationships
and yes even though this guy you know is Well,
I guess people say he's a womanizer. I don't
know. I don't really care He makes some pretty
interesting points I'm not gonna say I agree
with them, but I am gonna list them off Like
I said, this is thoughts things for you to think
about and I want you guys to focus on Some of
the information I'm gonna give you tonight Think
about it a little bit and then if you have any
comments or concerns about it Hit me up hit that
call in button and we'll discuss that and then
add it to the this podcast as well so other people
can hear your opinion as well so we can help
each other we want to help each other make the
relationship stable and keep it going for longer
than the standard of what nowadays has which
would be you know a couple of weeks a couple
days maybe even just a few months you know Everyone
wants to find that one person. They want to be
with that one person for longer than a couple
of weeks. They want to be able to stay with them
and say, yeah, I stayed with the same person
for five, six years and they didn't cheat on
me and I didn't cheat on them. We were faithful
to each other and we had a blast, okay? That's
what everybody wants, you know. Nobody wants
to find that one person, think it's the one person,
donate all their time to them only to find out
that that one person is a backstabbing, double
-crossing cheater. Now, but we're going to see
what we can do here about this real quick. it's
really really really important that especially
here since we're talking about the guy side right
now that guys pay attention to most of this information
and do something with it to help increase the
chances of the relationship lasting a lot longer
now granted some things can't be helped as most
of the work some of the work is going to be done
on the female side believe it or not despite
the fact that the guys it seems like the guys
do a lot of the work I guess some of it is done
on the female side. Keep in mind, while you may
be the one doing all the work, paying for all
the different stuff that y 'all do, and going
out and responsible for playing the dates and
everything, remember that the final say -so,
the final decision, is still on the woman's side,
okay? And again, like I said before, do not yell
at her. Treat her with respect. And, you know,
like I said before, don't you ever, ever waste
raise your hand to a woman. OK, unless you you're
insisting on going to jail. I mean, honestly,
in today's society, that's enough to wreck you
and pretty much ruin your life for the rest of
whatever you have left here on this planet. So
we're going to take a short break and then we're
going to break right into this. OK. So let's
get started with this, okay? First thing in this,
uh, first thing that this book covers is thinking
big, okay? Most people think small because they're
afraid of success and afraid of making decisions,
afraid of, you know, achieving anything or winning,
basically. I mean, you need to decide, uh, how
you want to have the best relationship of your
life that gives you an advantage over people.
instead of just playing around with just casual
dating or waiting for fate to plop someone in
your lap. It just doesn't work that way. Now,
granted, I won't say that it doesn't happen,
but it's just not common. Women love a man who
knows what he wants and goes after it. Actually,
this is one of the points in the book that I
actually do agree with. No woman wants a guy
who has no idea what the hell he wants to do
with his life. Okay. Just making that known right
now to maximize your options. Okay. Be flexible.
Don't be too attached to one person or outcome,
no matter how promising it may seem at first,
keep a few balls in the air, you know, until
you're ready to close the deal. And in other
words, you know, when you're talking to different
women you know don't just settle with just one
you know talk to a good couple of them until
you find the one that you think might be the
one and then you know start moving in that direction
with that one okay uh which brings us to the
third point actually knowing your market um keep
in mind that he speaks in terms of business but
at the same time you know he could still be used
for multiple different stuff as well okay do
you appeal keep this in mind you need to appeal
to a wide variety of people or at least or just
or rather do you just appeal to a small group
okay you need to be willing to meet a wide variety
of different people not just in small groups
okay or a specific type of group You need to
define what you're looking for as well. Don't
waste your time chasing women who aren't interested
whatsoever. And I think I pointed that out earlier
in this podcast as well. Just don't waste your
time on women who you don't think you can actually
get serious about. If you think that they're
just going to be there to be there but not actually
take you serious or actually move forward with
you, then you're just wasting your time. Which
brings us to the fourth point. Use your leverage.
The worst thing you can do in a deal such as
this would be to seem desperate. That's one of
the last things you want to seem. If you seem
desperate, and women can usually tell when a
guy is, they will manipulate you like it ain't
nobody's business. be screwed let's just say
it like that you know leverage is your biggest
strength okay it means having something the other
person wants or can't do without and no this
does not mean sex okay i'm gonna just go ahead
and straight up say that right now she decides
in if it's in her best interest to commit or
not based off of this okay um also do not brag
okay Most people, they don't want to brag. I
mean, honestly, in his book, he says to do so.
Don't be afraid to brag about your good qualities
and what you have to bring to a relationship.
And he makes a good point that it's a good thing
to talk about that, but don't go off on a tangent
and just constantly talk about yourself, okay?
Honestly, while women do want to know more about
you, they don't want to listen to a guy talking
about himself for eight hours, okay? Definitely,
definitely don't do that. I mean, on that note,
though, if you don't tell her, who will tell
her? about you okay and hopefully not your parents
just the thought of that you know if you can't
talk to her about your good points but you're
having your parents do it you might as well give
up having a relationship in the first place okay
The fifth thing on that note is to enhance your
location Okay, if you're shy or just not good
at meeting your meeting people by yourself You
need to put yourself in an area where there's
a much higher ratio of women than men Usually
colleges professions or social activities work
well for this where you have an advantage to
meet different people Whether it's a bowling
game a sports event what happening? Okay one
at this point, you know if you're actually The
kind of guy that most women want by putting yourself
in these environments, women will actually be
competing against each other for you or your
attention. And there's actually a book, another
book separate from this one that Trump has that
actually talks about this called Datanomics.
Personally, I haven't read this book yet, but
I have skimmed through it. And, you know, it
makes a lot of good points, which I might actually
cover in this segment. OK, I'm going to take
a short interlude and then we'll get on to the
last five points. OK. I'm gonna go into the six
point right now it in other words. Let's go ahead
and get the word out Okay, you need to let your
friends family know you're looking for someone
special and ask them who they know You know sign
up for online three online dating sites at least
submit your profile to professional matchmakers
Like final match comm or something like that,
you know put your phones away I'd be present
and open to meeting people when you're out and
about as well um this just opens and spreads
your horizons a little bit while i personally
don't condone dating sites again if you're the
kind of person who's just not used to talking
or rather being around people in general it can
help you uh get used to talking to people a little
bit more but at the same time you know it's better
to be out and about dressed appropriately of
course you know don't just walk outside wearing
rags looking like a bomb okay obviously you need
to dress to impress um if you're trying to attract
a woman okay but don't dress dress like you are
a million bucks in the sense that you know you
you care for you to treat yourself well um but
don't dress like you're a millionaire obviously
if you're not because then you know it gives
the wrong impression and then the woman's going
to expect you to back that up okay but the same
thing with that being said you know bringing
us to 0 .7 out of 9 you can't con people for
long okay that's why pickup artists can help
you get a date and or get laid but they uh come
up lacking in creating relationships okay so
while it's great they can help you meet people
or probably get you laid like i said a minute
ago um at the same time they're not gonna help
you get or keep the relationship you're with
with that person more or less you know you know
don't be that guy who talks a good game like
i said before and doesn't deliver You know, going
back to the way that you were dressed, you know,
being the same in the same fashion. Do what you
say you're going to do when you're saying you're
going to do it, you know, under promise and over
deliver. OK, it's better to under promise something
and over exceed what they expect than to over
promise and under deliver. OK. It's basically
the same thing as lying. And like I mentioned
earlier in this podcast, no girl likes a liar,
okay? Which brings us to point eight. Contain
the cost, okay? Meet for drinks and appetizers.
Finding the one can mean a lot of, can mean meeting
a lot of people, okay? Or rather, a lot of women.
Don't waste your hard -earned resources, whining
and dining, first dates with every single woman
that you meet. Honestly, it's a waste of time.
It's a waste of effort. It's a waste of money.
And the only one who actually benefits out of
those is the women who get a free meal. Not saying
there's anything wrong with that. But if you're
trying to find that one and you're trying to
conserve your wallet at the same time so you
can actually treat that one out properly, that's
not the way to go about it, okay? Last but not
least, point nine from his book. He said, don't
spend a lot of time worrying about what you could
have done differently or where things are going
way too early on, okay? you can usually you can't
predict where or when or how you'll meet the
one in that in the you know in in in the emphasis
right here we're just gonna say the one from
this point forward okay um but if you don't take
the ups and downs of data but if you don't take
the ups and downs of dating too seriously uh
you can actually have uh you can actually have
a lot of fun getting there you know let some
of the relationships still be a mystery, okay?
Don't try to plan every single thing out. I mean,
by doing that, you know, it's like you're basically
making it seem like she doesn't have a choice
in what she wants to do, and no girl likes to
be back to tour corner, okay? Just keep that
in mind, all right? Next, we're going to talk
about three important communication tips for
women, women, not women, for men to women in
this next bit so that it can improve just the
way you talk to her in general. All right. I'm
going to take a short interlude and pop right
into those. OK.