Hey there everybody, how are you guys doing today?
It's been a while since I've been up and I haven't
been able to do my podcast this morning like
I wanted to. It is currently 742 where I'm at
right now and the temperature is 38. I know it
sounds like it's cold, but it is actually not
all that cold. So, what I'm going to go ahead
and do today is I'm going to cover the last couple
of topics as far as the men's side of relationships
for this Food for Thoughts segment of Thoughts
If It Were You. And then we're going to get started
with the women's side. Remember, every relationship
has two sides. And it's very, very important
that we do our part to make sure that it lasts
and each side can enjoy the full benefits of
being in that relationship together. okay as
far as dating is concerned men there are three
things I would like you to think about okay first
off know what you're looking for I know I've
mentioned this before but if you just want to
have fun and play you don't need to be too picky
but if you're ready for a long -term relationship
it's critical that you choose a partner who is
a great match for you keep this in mind because
by finding the right kind of partner who has
the same interest as you your compatibility will
be a lot higher than a person who's just there
to have some fun for the split second of the
time that they're with you, and who may not even
remember your name by the time they wake up tomorrow.
Second, clarify your deal -breakers, okay? Your
sweetie needs to know all your essential relationship
requirements, so you need to know what they are
and be willing to say no if even one is missing,
okay? Possible requirements might be honesty,
passion, want or don't want children. Love natures,
animals, sports, religion. Yes, even religion.
Etc. Whatever is not on your list is negotiable.
However, get clear on what needs to be there.
Alright? I can't stress how important these things
are. Third, get support. If you want to succeed
in an area or any area in your life with that
person, you will get there a lot faster with
expert coaching. Let me help you create a life
you love with the love of your life. And that's
the whole point of most of the stuff that a fellow
person that I know, Dr. Wendy Leon, says. She's
good at helping out with dating advice and such.
And she has her own webinar as well on her website,
DrWendyLeon .com. Though she is a psychologist,
she is also pretty good at relationships and
is a life coach. So if you need an extra hand
with roadmapping to success, she's a great place
to go as well. Next on this segment, we're going
to take a short break. And I mean short. And
then we're going to talk about the last 10 things
tonight as far as relationship tips for guys
along with a few other things. And then that
will be it. Okay. And we are back. Okay. So like
I promised, here are 10 relationship tips for
guys. And they need to keep this in mind as we're
finishing up this song. If they wish to keep
their woman. and their relationship health. First
one is communication is key. Nobody is a mind
reader and talking is the only way to know what's
on someone's mind. Become aware of her body language
as well. If she's telling you everything is fine,
yet her eyes are glaring and her hands are on
her hips, you know that that's definitely not
good whatsoever. Second, trust is essential.
If you know you have each other's back, your
relationship will thrive. Don't lie, don't cheat,
and definitely don't be dishonest. I've mentioned
this before, but lying does not help you at all
in any relationship. Next, number three, say
you're sorry and admit when you're wrong. This
is a big one, especially for them. If your need
to be right is more important than your woman's
feelings, then you both lose. You'll both win
if you can at least compromise and see each other's
side and understand how each other feels. That's
more important than always proving that you're
right. Sometimes your ego can be your worst enemy.
Take care of yourself physically and mentally.
She wants to be with a healthy, balanced man.
And if you aren't, it will affect your relationship.
Like on an airplane, when the oxygen masks drop,
you're always supposed to put it on yourself
before placing it on others. This is also to
ensure that you don't pass out in the process
as well. 5. You need to be kind and respectful
to each other. Keep your cell phones out of your
relationship. Issues can occur from either a
he said, she said something or other, or just
a simple mistype on a simple text can cause a
lot of issues. Okay? Seven, make time for yourself.
Okay? Don't lose your identity, your friends,
or your passions just for the sake of your partner.
Okay? She loves you for who you are, not for
what you do. So, if that is the case, then she
truly does care for you. losing yourself and
becoming something that you're not will possibly
push her away as you will no longer be the person
that she originally fell in love with. 8. And
even though I haven't talked about this too much,
you need to stay sexual with your partner, okay?
It always makes her feel sexy and desirable and
at the same time it keeps her desires at a minimum
so she's not looking elsewhere for those needs
to be taken care of, okay? 9. you need to be
thoughtful okay like i mentioned before quick
cards gifts small tokens of affection things
that are minuscule that may not always seem like
they're all too important but remember it's the
thought that counts okay and ten one of the most
important things okay for uh that you need to
keep in mind with your relationship okay remember
that fighting is okay okay but don't let it issues
fester as a result of it okay you may need time
to you know You may need to take time for it
as a timeout or something or such when you come
back or so. But you need to listen to each other
at least to know what the issues are. There is
no problem in fighting. Every good relationship
has its quirks. It's whether or not you choose
to take care of the issues and correct them that
most relationships end up falling apart or end
up with the discussion of maybe we should see
other people or this isn't going to work, which
is not something anybody wants to hear. You need
to keep this in mind, okay? and one last thing
with that being said on that topic be her best
friend first okay enough said because if you
can't be her best friend and be there for her
when she needs you well then you're not gonna
be the kind of guy she needs when it's time for
you to step up and actually be the boyfriend
that she wants you to be okay and that is all
for this topic I think I do believe I've covered
everything from beginning to end as far as the
men's side of this chapter. And that brings this
whole thing to a close. I do not remember if
I had something else here. I'm looking through
my notes right now. If I do, I will bring it
up in the next piece. And if not, then the next
piece will be the end and closer of Thoughts
If It Were You, Relationships from the Men's
Side. Thank you again for listening to this podcast.
And the next time that we talk, we'll be continuing
up and picking up with the women's side of this
discussion. Until then, enjoy the rest of your
day. Okay, well, that was an exciting saga that
we did just now. We covered everything from the
beginning to the end as far as the guy side of
any relationship, whether you're initializing
the date, trying to find the right girl, or if
you're currently already dating or with your
girl and trying to satisfy her needs or understand
her for the most part. You just need to remember
one thing. You don't need to completely understand
the way she thinks. You just need to learn to
understand what she needs you and wants you to
understand about her and learn her emotions.
Learn what she does. Learn how she does certain
things. So that when it comes down to it, if
there's any issues, it'll be easily resolved.
Because not only do you trust each other, you
know each other pretty well. And with that, you
know, again, like I said, guys, never raise your
hand to a woman. Always respect her whether or
not she deserves it. And, you know, treat her
like the gem that you would if you had one. That,
say, like I mentioned before, a famous football
player walked up to you hands you his football
says thank you for being my support signs the
ball and gives it to you the same way you would
treat that ball with respect you need to treat
your woman the same way and as well as that is
concerned like i said presentation is everything
always be confident in your abilities know what
you want write it down if you have to so it's
not just a figment of your imagination and never
settle for less than what you believe you deserve
always set a standard and then with that like
i said before with the rest of this recap here
always have a plan for the future always include
your mate in your plans for the future and but
at the same time don't overthink it don't go
too far you know let everything roll as it needs
to as it's supposed to happen okay Don't force
anything to happen. Never force your girl to
do anything she doesn't want to do. At the same
time, like I said before, keep your eyes and
your hands away from porn. It's a good way to
get started, but again, if you focus too much
on it, your attraction between you and your mate
will be lost. Keep that in mind. As well as being
in a relationship or already being married or
on the verge of being married, you need to remember
to keep your sexual nature with your wife, girlfriend,
or significant other. active as much as possible
not too too often like every single day or every
couple of hours just enough so that both of your
needs are satisfied so there's no need to go
looking elsewhere to satisfy these needs at the
same time guys always remember to protect your
woman but not in a way where it looks like You're
taking command just because you're a guy. Never
do that. No woman wants to see a guy do that
as it's considered disrespectful to them and
you believe that they are weak. Women are not
weak. They are some of the strongest beings here
on the planet as far as guys are concerned as
they are the only ones that have the ability
to bear children and that kind of strain on their
body is extremely painful. Let me see here. Do
I have anything else I need to add to this recap?
I do believe that is it for the recap. I hope
you guys enjoy the rest of your day, and thank
you again for listening to this entire shindig.
Please join me again for the next piece when
we get ready to do the one inside. Thank you,
and have a very blessed day.