WEBVTT 00:00:11.430 --> 00:00:13.910 Hey there everybody, how are you guys doing today? 00:00:13.929 --> 00:00:15.929 It's been a while since I've been up and I haven't 00:00:15.929 --> 00:00:18.429 been able to do my podcast this morning like 00:00:18.429 --> 00:00:21.010 I wanted to. It is currently 742 where I'm at 00:00:21.010 --> 00:00:25.460 right now and the temperature is 38. I know it 00:00:25.460 --> 00:00:27.460 sounds like it's cold, but it is actually not 00:00:27.460 --> 00:00:29.820 all that cold. So, what I'm going to go ahead 00:00:29.820 --> 00:00:32.460 and do today is I'm going to cover the last couple 00:00:32.460 --> 00:00:35.219 of topics as far as the men's side of relationships 00:00:35.219 --> 00:00:37.299 for this Food for Thoughts segment of Thoughts 00:00:37.299 --> 00:00:40.579 If It Were You. And then we're going to get started 00:00:40.579 --> 00:00:43.240 with the women's side. Remember, every relationship 00:00:43.240 --> 00:00:46.500 has two sides. And it's very, very important 00:00:46.500 --> 00:00:50.140 that we do our part to make sure that it lasts 00:00:50.140 --> 00:00:52.880 and each side can enjoy the full benefits of 00:00:52.880 --> 00:00:55.920 being in that relationship together. okay as 00:00:55.920 --> 00:00:59.520 far as dating is concerned men there are three 00:00:59.520 --> 00:01:02.119 things I would like you to think about okay first 00:01:02.119 --> 00:01:04.459 off know what you're looking for I know I've 00:01:04.459 --> 00:01:06.599 mentioned this before but if you just want to 00:01:06.599 --> 00:01:09.120 have fun and play you don't need to be too picky 00:01:09.120 --> 00:01:11.480 but if you're ready for a long -term relationship 00:01:11.480 --> 00:01:13.540 it's critical that you choose a partner who is 00:01:13.540 --> 00:01:16.239 a great match for you keep this in mind because 00:01:16.239 --> 00:01:18.060 by finding the right kind of partner who has 00:01:18.060 --> 00:01:20.700 the same interest as you your compatibility will 00:01:20.700 --> 00:01:24.549 be a lot higher than a person who's just there 00:01:24.549 --> 00:01:27.750 to have some fun for the split second of the 00:01:27.750 --> 00:01:29.870 time that they're with you, and who may not even 00:01:29.870 --> 00:01:31.790 remember your name by the time they wake up tomorrow. 00:01:33.109 --> 00:01:36.090 Second, clarify your deal -breakers, okay? Your 00:01:36.090 --> 00:01:38.290 sweetie needs to know all your essential relationship 00:01:38.290 --> 00:01:41.890 requirements, so you need to know what they are 00:01:41.890 --> 00:01:45.450 and be willing to say no if even one is missing, 00:01:45.569 --> 00:01:48.390 okay? Possible requirements might be honesty, 00:01:48.489 --> 00:01:52.430 passion, want or don't want children. Love natures, 00:01:52.430 --> 00:01:56.790 animals, sports, religion. Yes, even religion. 00:01:57.109 --> 00:02:01.189 Etc. Whatever is not on your list is negotiable. 00:02:01.469 --> 00:02:05.090 However, get clear on what needs to be there. 00:02:05.250 --> 00:02:08.449 Alright? I can't stress how important these things 00:02:08.449 --> 00:02:13.490 are. Third, get support. If you want to succeed 00:02:13.490 --> 00:02:17.770 in an area or any area in your life with that 00:02:17.770 --> 00:02:19.750 person, you will get there a lot faster with 00:02:19.750 --> 00:02:23.759 expert coaching. Let me help you create a life 00:02:23.759 --> 00:02:28.240 you love with the love of your life. And that's 00:02:28.240 --> 00:02:32.620 the whole point of most of the stuff that a fellow 00:02:32.620 --> 00:02:37.599 person that I know, Dr. Wendy Leon, says. She's 00:02:37.599 --> 00:02:40.120 good at helping out with dating advice and such. 00:02:40.599 --> 00:02:43.560 And she has her own webinar as well on her website, 00:02:43.740 --> 00:02:48.060 DrWendyLeon .com. Though she is a psychologist, 00:02:48.199 --> 00:02:51.099 she is also pretty good at relationships and 00:02:51.099 --> 00:02:54.900 is a life coach. So if you need an extra hand 00:02:54.900 --> 00:02:57.699 with roadmapping to success, she's a great place 00:02:57.699 --> 00:03:01.159 to go as well. Next on this segment, we're going 00:03:01.159 --> 00:03:04.900 to take a short break. And I mean short. And 00:03:04.900 --> 00:03:08.539 then we're going to talk about the last 10 things 00:03:08.539 --> 00:03:11.939 tonight as far as relationship tips for guys 00:03:11.939 --> 00:03:15.360 along with a few other things. And then that 00:03:15.360 --> 00:03:31.099 will be it. Okay. And we are back. Okay. So like 00:03:31.099 --> 00:03:33.259 I promised, here are 10 relationship tips for 00:03:33.259 --> 00:03:36.120 guys. And they need to keep this in mind as we're 00:03:36.120 --> 00:03:38.379 finishing up this song. If they wish to keep 00:03:38.379 --> 00:03:42.150 their woman. and their relationship health. First 00:03:42.150 --> 00:03:46.169 one is communication is key. Nobody is a mind 00:03:46.169 --> 00:03:48.370 reader and talking is the only way to know what's 00:03:48.370 --> 00:03:50.689 on someone's mind. Become aware of her body language 00:03:50.689 --> 00:03:53.509 as well. If she's telling you everything is fine, 00:03:53.650 --> 00:03:55.969 yet her eyes are glaring and her hands are on 00:03:55.969 --> 00:03:58.069 her hips, you know that that's definitely not 00:03:58.069 --> 00:04:01.710 good whatsoever. Second, trust is essential. 00:04:02.539 --> 00:04:04.740 If you know you have each other's back, your 00:04:04.740 --> 00:04:07.500 relationship will thrive. Don't lie, don't cheat, 00:04:07.580 --> 00:04:11.759 and definitely don't be dishonest. I've mentioned 00:04:11.759 --> 00:04:14.659 this before, but lying does not help you at all 00:04:14.659 --> 00:04:20.100 in any relationship. Next, number three, say 00:04:20.100 --> 00:04:22.839 you're sorry and admit when you're wrong. This 00:04:22.839 --> 00:04:26.540 is a big one, especially for them. If your need 00:04:26.540 --> 00:04:28.699 to be right is more important than your woman's 00:04:28.699 --> 00:04:31.800 feelings, then you both lose. You'll both win 00:04:31.800 --> 00:04:34.040 if you can at least compromise and see each other's 00:04:34.040 --> 00:04:37.060 side and understand how each other feels. That's 00:04:37.060 --> 00:04:39.139 more important than always proving that you're 00:04:39.139 --> 00:04:41.959 right. Sometimes your ego can be your worst enemy. 00:04:44.110 --> 00:04:46.430 Take care of yourself physically and mentally. 00:04:46.790 --> 00:04:49.370 She wants to be with a healthy, balanced man. 00:04:49.569 --> 00:04:51.649 And if you aren't, it will affect your relationship. 00:04:52.129 --> 00:04:54.410 Like on an airplane, when the oxygen masks drop, 00:04:54.790 --> 00:04:56.569 you're always supposed to put it on yourself 00:04:56.569 --> 00:04:59.149 before placing it on others. This is also to 00:04:59.149 --> 00:05:01.069 ensure that you don't pass out in the process 00:05:01.069 --> 00:05:05.610 as well. 5. You need to be kind and respectful 00:05:05.610 --> 00:05:09.389 to each other. Keep your cell phones out of your 00:05:09.389 --> 00:05:16.149 relationship. Issues can occur from either a 00:05:16.149 --> 00:05:18.709 he said, she said something or other, or just 00:05:18.709 --> 00:05:21.750 a simple mistype on a simple text can cause a 00:05:21.750 --> 00:05:25.949 lot of issues. Okay? Seven, make time for yourself. 00:05:26.230 --> 00:05:28.329 Okay? Don't lose your identity, your friends, 00:05:28.370 --> 00:05:30.790 or your passions just for the sake of your partner. 00:05:30.949 --> 00:05:33.790 Okay? She loves you for who you are, not for 00:05:33.790 --> 00:05:36.569 what you do. So, if that is the case, then she 00:05:36.569 --> 00:05:40.050 truly does care for you. losing yourself and 00:05:40.050 --> 00:05:42.250 becoming something that you're not will possibly 00:05:42.250 --> 00:05:44.769 push her away as you will no longer be the person 00:05:44.769 --> 00:05:47.829 that she originally fell in love with. 8. And 00:05:47.829 --> 00:05:49.850 even though I haven't talked about this too much, 00:05:49.910 --> 00:05:52.310 you need to stay sexual with your partner, okay? 00:05:52.589 --> 00:05:55.089 It always makes her feel sexy and desirable and 00:05:55.089 --> 00:05:57.310 at the same time it keeps her desires at a minimum 00:05:57.310 --> 00:05:59.949 so she's not looking elsewhere for those needs 00:05:59.949 --> 00:06:03.540 to be taken care of, okay? 9. you need to be 00:06:03.540 --> 00:06:06.180 thoughtful okay like i mentioned before quick 00:06:06.180 --> 00:06:08.540 cards gifts small tokens of affection things 00:06:08.540 --> 00:06:11.399 that are minuscule that may not always seem like 00:06:11.399 --> 00:06:13.279 they're all too important but remember it's the 00:06:13.279 --> 00:06:17.259 thought that counts okay and ten one of the most 00:06:17.259 --> 00:06:21.339 important things okay for uh that you need to 00:06:21.339 --> 00:06:23.399 keep in mind with your relationship okay remember 00:06:23.399 --> 00:06:27.800 that fighting is okay okay but don't let it issues 00:06:27.800 --> 00:06:31.180 fester as a result of it okay you may need time 00:06:31.180 --> 00:06:34.319 to you know You may need to take time for it 00:06:34.319 --> 00:06:37.240 as a timeout or something or such when you come 00:06:37.240 --> 00:06:40.139 back or so. But you need to listen to each other 00:06:40.139 --> 00:06:43.259 at least to know what the issues are. There is 00:06:43.259 --> 00:06:45.220 no problem in fighting. Every good relationship 00:06:45.220 --> 00:06:48.319 has its quirks. It's whether or not you choose 00:06:48.319 --> 00:06:51.220 to take care of the issues and correct them that 00:06:51.220 --> 00:06:54.220 most relationships end up falling apart or end 00:06:54.220 --> 00:06:55.939 up with the discussion of maybe we should see 00:06:55.939 --> 00:06:58.180 other people or this isn't going to work, which 00:06:58.180 --> 00:07:00.680 is not something anybody wants to hear. You need 00:07:00.680 --> 00:07:04.439 to keep this in mind, okay? and one last thing 00:07:04.439 --> 00:07:07.180 with that being said on that topic be her best 00:07:07.180 --> 00:07:12.060 friend first okay enough said because if you 00:07:12.060 --> 00:07:14.360 can't be her best friend and be there for her 00:07:14.360 --> 00:07:17.540 when she needs you well then you're not gonna 00:07:17.540 --> 00:07:20.540 be the kind of guy she needs when it's time for 00:07:20.540 --> 00:07:23.120 you to step up and actually be the boyfriend 00:07:23.120 --> 00:07:27.019 that she wants you to be okay and that is all 00:07:27.019 --> 00:07:30.120 for this topic I think I do believe I've covered 00:07:32.639 --> 00:07:36.779 everything from beginning to end as far as the 00:07:36.779 --> 00:07:39.660 men's side of this chapter. And that brings this 00:07:39.660 --> 00:07:44.379 whole thing to a close. I do not remember if 00:07:44.379 --> 00:07:46.259 I had something else here. I'm looking through 00:07:46.259 --> 00:07:49.000 my notes right now. If I do, I will bring it 00:07:49.000 --> 00:07:51.939 up in the next piece. And if not, then the next 00:07:51.939 --> 00:07:54.500 piece will be the end and closer of Thoughts 00:07:54.500 --> 00:07:56.879 If It Were You, Relationships from the Men's 00:07:56.879 --> 00:07:59.939 Side. Thank you again for listening to this podcast. 00:08:00.490 --> 00:08:03.050 And the next time that we talk, we'll be continuing 00:08:03.050 --> 00:08:05.209 up and picking up with the women's side of this 00:08:05.209 --> 00:08:08.370 discussion. Until then, enjoy the rest of your 00:08:08.370 --> 00:08:16.790 day. Okay, well, that was an exciting saga that 00:08:16.790 --> 00:08:19.389 we did just now. We covered everything from the 00:08:19.389 --> 00:08:21.750 beginning to the end as far as the guy side of 00:08:21.750 --> 00:08:24.329 any relationship, whether you're initializing 00:08:24.329 --> 00:08:26.829 the date, trying to find the right girl, or if 00:08:26.829 --> 00:08:28.670 you're currently already dating or with your 00:08:28.670 --> 00:08:31.310 girl and trying to satisfy her needs or understand 00:08:31.310 --> 00:08:33.570 her for the most part. You just need to remember 00:08:33.570 --> 00:08:35.809 one thing. You don't need to completely understand 00:08:35.809 --> 00:08:38.250 the way she thinks. You just need to learn to 00:08:38.250 --> 00:08:40.190 understand what she needs you and wants you to 00:08:40.190 --> 00:08:43.409 understand about her and learn her emotions. 00:08:43.470 --> 00:08:46.629 Learn what she does. Learn how she does certain 00:08:46.629 --> 00:08:49.789 things. So that when it comes down to it, if 00:08:49.789 --> 00:08:51.710 there's any issues, it'll be easily resolved. 00:08:51.950 --> 00:08:53.870 Because not only do you trust each other, you 00:08:53.870 --> 00:08:57.529 know each other pretty well. And with that, you 00:08:57.529 --> 00:08:59.950 know, again, like I said, guys, never raise your 00:08:59.950 --> 00:09:02.009 hand to a woman. Always respect her whether or 00:09:02.009 --> 00:09:07.529 not she deserves it. And, you know, treat her 00:09:07.529 --> 00:09:10.269 like the gem that you would if you had one. That, 00:09:10.450 --> 00:09:14.230 say, like I mentioned before, a famous football 00:09:14.230 --> 00:09:16.669 player walked up to you hands you his football 00:09:16.669 --> 00:09:19.570 says thank you for being my support signs the 00:09:19.570 --> 00:09:22.129 ball and gives it to you the same way you would 00:09:22.129 --> 00:09:23.809 treat that ball with respect you need to treat 00:09:23.809 --> 00:09:28.230 your woman the same way and as well as that is 00:09:28.230 --> 00:09:30.429 concerned like i said presentation is everything 00:09:30.429 --> 00:09:33.909 always be confident in your abilities know what 00:09:33.909 --> 00:09:36.409 you want write it down if you have to so it's 00:09:36.409 --> 00:09:38.970 not just a figment of your imagination and never 00:09:38.970 --> 00:09:42.080 settle for less than what you believe you deserve 00:09:42.080 --> 00:09:44.980 always set a standard and then with that like 00:09:44.980 --> 00:09:48.559 i said before with the rest of this recap here 00:09:48.559 --> 00:09:52.100 always have a plan for the future always include 00:09:52.100 --> 00:09:55.279 your mate in your plans for the future and but 00:09:55.279 --> 00:09:57.840 at the same time don't overthink it don't go 00:09:57.840 --> 00:10:00.820 too far you know let everything roll as it needs 00:10:00.820 --> 00:10:04.299 to as it's supposed to happen okay Don't force 00:10:04.299 --> 00:10:06.159 anything to happen. Never force your girl to 00:10:06.159 --> 00:10:08.960 do anything she doesn't want to do. At the same 00:10:08.960 --> 00:10:12.139 time, like I said before, keep your eyes and 00:10:12.139 --> 00:10:14.659 your hands away from porn. It's a good way to 00:10:14.659 --> 00:10:16.820 get started, but again, if you focus too much 00:10:16.820 --> 00:10:19.419 on it, your attraction between you and your mate 00:10:19.419 --> 00:10:23.580 will be lost. Keep that in mind. As well as being 00:10:23.580 --> 00:10:25.600 in a relationship or already being married or 00:10:25.600 --> 00:10:27.799 on the verge of being married, you need to remember 00:10:27.799 --> 00:10:30.779 to keep your sexual nature with your wife, girlfriend, 00:10:30.960 --> 00:10:34.470 or significant other. active as much as possible 00:10:34.470 --> 00:10:37.110 not too too often like every single day or every 00:10:37.110 --> 00:10:39.830 couple of hours just enough so that both of your 00:10:39.830 --> 00:10:43.370 needs are satisfied so there's no need to go 00:10:43.370 --> 00:10:46.309 looking elsewhere to satisfy these needs at the 00:10:46.309 --> 00:10:48.350 same time guys always remember to protect your 00:10:48.350 --> 00:10:51.610 woman but not in a way where it looks like You're 00:10:51.610 --> 00:10:53.769 taking command just because you're a guy. Never 00:10:53.769 --> 00:10:55.970 do that. No woman wants to see a guy do that 00:10:55.970 --> 00:10:58.370 as it's considered disrespectful to them and 00:10:58.370 --> 00:11:01.250 you believe that they are weak. Women are not 00:11:01.250 --> 00:11:03.889 weak. They are some of the strongest beings here 00:11:03.889 --> 00:11:06.649 on the planet as far as guys are concerned as 00:11:06.649 --> 00:11:10.809 they are the only ones that have the ability 00:11:10.809 --> 00:11:13.090 to bear children and that kind of strain on their 00:11:13.090 --> 00:11:18.850 body is extremely painful. Let me see here. Do 00:11:18.850 --> 00:11:20.710 I have anything else I need to add to this recap? 00:11:21.110 --> 00:11:28.809 I do believe that is it for the recap. I hope 00:11:28.809 --> 00:11:31.389 you guys enjoy the rest of your day, and thank 00:11:31.389 --> 00:11:35.009 you again for listening to this entire shindig. 00:11:36.230 --> 00:11:38.789 Please join me again for the next piece when 00:11:38.789 --> 00:11:42.009 we get ready to do the one inside. Thank you, 00:11:42.009 --> 00:11:43.789 and have a very blessed day.