Yo, yo, yo, what's up, what's up? This is Neogentrix
with Food for Thought, Thoughts If It Were You
Relationships. I did say I was going to get started
on the women's side, and here we are. There are
a couple of tips that I have for the women for
their side of the relationship, and yes, while
I do, do really, really... focus on the guys
more so than the women's side. Women need to
remember that it's not always all about them.
Relationships take two people for it to work.
So if you're expecting the guy to do all the
work, keep in mind that, you know, unless you
put in some effort, it's not going to do anything.
It's not going to move forward. It's not going
to have any leeway whatsoever. Okay. Just so
you know, love isn't complicated or painful.
Okay. In fact, it's effortless. As long as you
keep Keep in mind some of these tips that I'm
gonna run through in the next couple of days
or hours however long it takes me to go ahead
and complete this podcast for this second half
and Then finalize it with some tips for both
sides together as a whole You know Your relationship
should be sound as I mentioned before in the
previous set on the guy's side There are a lot
of stuff that guys have to keep in mind, you
know, in order to keep the relationship stable.
And while, yes, it does seem like it's a lot
of stuff, and while much of it is corny for the
fact that guys have to do this, for the most
part, just keep in mind that, you know, you don't
make it easy on us, and we try our best, okay?
So, things to keep in mind, you know. Like, things
that I hear a lot, you know. Women having a hard
time in love they find themselves getting frustrated
with their man to no end for no reason You know
they get worried about the man is he into you
the way he once was things like that No most
women in general want a perfect romance they
want a perfect man yet somehow most men and women
just don't seem happy when they come together
to create that kind of romance you know basically
it starts off perfectly just like they say it
would in fairy tales but it you know it's all
bliss and romance for about a year or two and
then things basically start to change you know
that perfect romance you once found just vanishes
into thin air right before your eyes you know
most people have experienced this most often
than not you know but the thing is When it starts
to fade it's never too late to try to fix that
issue and bring the love and happiness back into
your life the only downside is You know you have
to actually get up off your butt and do it you
know if you're committed to your relationship
You know continue listening on into this these
segments coming up soon in the next couple of
days or so and Try to see where you're going
wrong as far as the female side is concerned.
Obviously, I already covered the guy's side.
And for those who actually listen, they're going
to do their best to fix it. So anyway, we're
going to move on into these topics. To start
off with, I'm going to go ahead and say I have
23 major tips. And then I have a couple of others
to follow up after. But let me go ahead and hit
this point on the head after a short interlude.
And then we're going to go ahead and cover the
first three. tonight and then we'll move on to
the next uh few later all right all right and
i'm back just so you guys know it is 2 37 a .m
where i'm at and the temperature is 16 degrees
all right And no, I'm not in Houston, unfortunately.
Anyway, many women tell me this a lot, okay?
They say that they try hard, but they just can't
make relationships work, okay? A few others say
that they have no idea when the relationship
started to go bad. But in reality, you know,
we all know what we need to do to fix the relationship
all the time. The problem is we procrastinate.
Y 'all assume the effort is just not worth the
hassle or, you know... we're too egotistical
to bend over you know so if you really really
want your relationship to work out just keep
one piece of advice in mind you know trust your
instincts for the most part but not completely
okay um it's as simple as that i mean if you
feel something's not right in all probability
something is definitely wrong but communication
and making an effort are key in keeping your
relationship sound and you know Because not all
the times is the relationship caused because
of your man as him being a bad guy and such.
Okay, but at the same time Most often than not
relationships just become stagnant and you and
your lover just basically have started to you
know Take the relationship for granted like y
'all expect each other to be there and it goes
from being a two -person relationship into a
standard friendship, okay Anyway If you're looking
for relationship advice as far as this is going,
like I said before, I do have 23 tips that you
could possibly try. Remember, the whole focus
of this station and podcast is to give you something
to think about, stuff to consider that could
possibly help improve your relationships, okay?
It'll help you experience better relationships
and have a better love life as well, okay? First
things first. let me just start off with this
the number one thing uh the first thing in my
list here is play with him okay playfulness is
one thing that holds a happy relationship together
more than anything else okay just because you're
past your childhood doesn't mean you should act
all grown up all the time okay i'm gonna go ahead
and be honest with you no no guy wants a woman
who's so grown up that she doesn't know how to
have fun anymore okay it bores us it irritates
us and it just basically turns us off okay i'll
just go ahead and say that right now second men
are easily influenced by other men around them
in their life okay so if his friends and other
guys in his room think you're a dream catch he'll
fall more in love and stay more in love with
you rather than avoid straying away from you
just keep this in mind okay that's the second
thing third not all men understand art of chivalry
okay so You can't expect them to do this completely,
okay? Romantic gestures and romance, instead
of giving up on him, you need to show him the
way by example. He'll learn to treat you with
respect if you do this. Don't assume every guy
knows how to do this. And at the same time, if
a guy does act this way, don't assume by default
it's too good to be true. Consider how he was
raised, if he mentions it or if he even talks
about it, or ask him, okay? Don't just... you
know assume that he's after something just because
he's acting in this manner okay the fourth point
is you know at least put in an effort to listen
to his point of view you know before arguing
back or cutting across him or you know cutting
him out of your life all together okay it's the
easiest way to prevent tempers from rising and
you know don't be condescending either okay always
consider his feelings too not just your own remember
a relationship requires two people to work together
it is not all about you all right You know, I
know this may sound bad coming from another guy
giving women advice as far as relationships are
concerned, but having had a decent relationship
last from about four and a half years up until
the point when my girlfriend's dad died and everything
pretty much went to emotional hell with her.
You know. these are things to keep in mind and
then i have to teach her in the same way in regard
so that she was able to understand me better
and at the same time she taught me stuff about
her to help me understand her better which enabled
our relationship to move forward with no issues
okay okay moving on to the next topic number
five women please keep this in mind okay you
can't change someone who doesn't want to be changed
all right help your man understand you better
and help him learn by example okay but if he
doesn't want to change for you perhaps he doesn't
want doesn't respect you or care enough for you
and you need someone else who can love you for
who you are keep this in mind you know don't
don't change yourself for the sake of someone
else who doesn't care for you, okay? If he can't,
in a manner of speaking, like I told them before
in my previous set, man up and, you know, change
for the sake of their woman and care for them
the way they want to be cared for, you know,
then that person shouldn't be with you in the
first place at all. But at the same time... You
women also need to help a guy understand you
better so that he knows why you want him to do
certain things a certain way rather than forcing
him to do it, okay? Six, don't constantly remind
him of his past failures, okay? Unlike women
who can usually move on past some of these things
but yet still hold a grudge on smaller things,
men are actually very sensitive when it comes
to past mistakes, okay? He'll clam up like a
shell if you use his past failures to get him
to accept defeat or listen to you. And this is
not something you want. You want him to listen
to you, hear what you have to say, and then make
the change and not do it again. You don't want
to push him further away from you than you already
have if this entire instance was caused by a
fight or a simple dispute over something simple.
In regards to just him talking to another person
or you see him talking to the waitress across
the hall. Don't use this as a bargaining chip
just to get him to do what you want him to do.
Okay? You want your relationship to be sound
and have trust between you and him. And this
is one way to completely destroy that. Seven.
Don't blame yourself. Okay? You're never entirely...
It's never entirely... How do I put it? You're
never entirely at fault. if the relationship
starts to suffer. So don't blame yourself completely.
If you're experiencing a bad relationship, accept
responsibility, but never, never blame yourself
unless it really is your fault. Unless you're
the reason why the relationship is failing, this
topic, this thought should never even cross your
mind in the first place. Anyway, so for the sake
of the rest of the pieces I'm going to cover
today, I'm gonna cover the rest of the 23 tips
like I said in the next couple of days maybe
in a couple of hours, but I'm gonna go back up
to the Previous topics in the next piece, and
I'm gonna cover those however. I have one more
tip for you today, okay? Hey Keep this in mind
Men can't read minds as convinced as you are
that men should have the innate ability to read
a woman's mind They can't. They really just can't,
okay? You need to speak your mind, and he will
listen to your thoughts. If you don't tell us
what you want us to do, don't tell us what's
on your mind, even if it's something as simple
as, you know, him moving the sugar to the other
side of the counter, even though you want it
next to the fridge. Unless you tell us that that
bothers you, you know, or him just posting one
of his friend's pictures on his Facebook on his
wall just because he likes something specific
about her, like her hair or whatever. unless
you tell us that something is wrong we're not
gonna know and we're gonna be like well it's
just it's a no it ain't no thing it's just something
simple when in reality it's just something that
bothers the heck out of you okay tell us what's
wrong because unless you tell us we can't fix
the issue all right anyway like i said before
I'm going to cover the rest of the 23 topics
in the next couple of podcasts. But in the next
piece, we're going to go back over a couple of
the ones I just mentioned just to ensure that
you understand what I'm talking about. Okay,
going back to the previous topic. Wanting your
boyfriend to treat you like a lady without you
having to tell him to do things all the time,
okay? are simple steps to change your playboy
into a chivalrous uh chivalry knight but at the
same time you know again like i said before you
can't force him to do it okay you want him to
treat you the way you want to be treated you
know but keep in mind that you know guys we as
logical as we are as great as we can be you know
we're no super geniuses we can't read minds you
know simple things are easier easy for us to
forget especially if we work all day okay so
just simple things and you have you know just
minuscule lightly mentioning these things you
know as like nonchalantly as you can to get him
in the habit of doing these you know one of the
main things is getting him to open the car door
okay you know next time you both go out you know
and he parks the car and is about to step out
you know place your handbag on your lap and you
know start to go though uh through it as as you
continue to sit in the car you know pull out
your lip gloss check your face do something pretend
to be completely engrossed checking your face
you know he'll probably get tired of waiting
for you to come out and he'll just walk over
to your side open your door for you okay now
while this does seem a bit mean at the same time
for some guys this is the only way to get them
to do that you know At the same, you know regardless,
you know, this is when you flash your cutest
smile and say oh that is so sweet of you, you
know, or it's it's just so sweet of you to do
that, you know and Thank you, you know, he'll
get the hit, you know that you enjoy this type
of thing, you know He'll do it more often or
at least whenever possible, you know, if he still
doesn't get it You know, you still have your
handbag to do it all over again, you know if
Repeating it is what it takes to get the guy
to understand, you know, I'd recommend doing
it. You know, getting him to open doors at restaurants
is another good way to move forward. You know,
after a good meal at a restaurant, as you walk
towards the door, you know, take his arm and
yours and hold hands as you lean towards him.
You know, as you get near the door, you know,
slow your pace just a little bit and allow him
to get the door first, you know. it's obvious
he'll push the door open you know this is when
you fasten up just a bit and walk through the
door first even if it doesn't come naturally
to him to allow you to walk through first when
you step out catch a glance at him and just smile
and look away but hold that smile on your face
he'll be very curious to know what you're smiling
about you know and when you tell him how sweet
he was to open the door for you that moment will
become something he'll he's going to remember
for eternity because he knows it made you happy
okay things like that you know next would be
considered you know buying him buying you flowers
okay while this may seem cliche in the sense
you know again it's not something bad but it
also helps train your guy to treat you with more
respect like i mentioned before you know it's
not hard to let your guy know that you love flowers
he probably already knows this but He might have
just forgotten that special gestures of getting
your flowers over the months or years or time
in general, you know, makes the world to you,
you know. So next time you, just throwing this
out there, the next time you pass a florist,
take time to smell the flowers. Stop by the flower
shop. Tell them how beautiful it looks. You know,
most guys will definitely pick them up for you.
You know, you could... brush his cheek with your
hand or give him a kiss or something to let him
know how nice and special you feel for him doing
this don't be surprised when your guy knocks
on your door the following week with a beautiful
posse of flowers now granted again not all guys
will do this some will take some time to train
them to understand this but at the same time
you know simple gestures like this by letting
us know that they work can help out a lot okay
moving on to the next bit