WEBVTT 00:00:05.679 --> 00:00:09.939 Okay. So I'm going to give you 30 quick ways 00:00:09.939 --> 00:00:13.160 to keep a guy interested. Okay. And I'm going 00:00:13.160 --> 00:00:16.859 to do this in two parts real quick. And, but 00:00:16.859 --> 00:00:18.480 it might be one episode for those listening to 00:00:18.480 --> 00:00:21.579 this on the podcast. All right. Going back into 00:00:21.579 --> 00:00:25.079 the previous topic in the first eight. topics 00:00:25.079 --> 00:00:26.719 that i mentioned to you keeping that guy interested 00:00:26.719 --> 00:00:29.219 in you first thing you need to do is be spontaneous 00:00:29.219 --> 00:00:32.060 okay shock him on him make plans for the evening 00:00:32.060 --> 00:00:34.600 or plan an entire elaborate date by yourself 00:00:34.600 --> 00:00:36.679 okay surprise him and never be too predictable 00:00:36.679 --> 00:00:39.859 this doesn't mean that you know you expect you 00:00:39.859 --> 00:00:42.179 don't want him to plan a date out for you you 00:00:42.179 --> 00:00:45.000 know every so often you know you plan one so 00:00:45.000 --> 00:00:46.659 that he knows that you care enough to at least 00:00:46.659 --> 00:00:48.679 you know give him a break from all the trying 00:00:48.679 --> 00:00:51.740 to make you happy if he is already putting in 00:00:51.740 --> 00:00:54.109 the effort to do so too Don't change yourself. 00:00:54.310 --> 00:00:57.189 Stay true to the real person that you are. Don't 00:00:57.189 --> 00:00:59.070 change yourself constantly assuming he doesn't 00:00:59.070 --> 00:01:01.049 like your personality. But at the same time, 00:01:01.049 --> 00:01:03.969 be creative, but stick to your comfort zone. 00:01:04.030 --> 00:01:06.989 Don't step outside your comfort zone just to 00:01:06.989 --> 00:01:08.930 try something new to the point where you're not 00:01:08.930 --> 00:01:11.750 even the person that you initially were. Three, 00:01:11.849 --> 00:01:14.329 take initiative in bed, okay? If you're already 00:01:14.329 --> 00:01:16.409 with a guy that you love and you want to be with, 00:01:16.510 --> 00:01:19.230 you know, your guy may... like taking you taking 00:01:19.230 --> 00:01:21.129 control in the bed but when you dominate him 00:01:21.129 --> 00:01:23.890 in some cases and show off your confidence you 00:01:23.890 --> 00:01:26.030 know he can't be help can't help but be in awe 00:01:26.030 --> 00:01:28.250 of your confidence and sexiness in bed and at 00:01:28.250 --> 00:01:31.030 the same time he'll respond accordingly especially 00:01:31.030 --> 00:01:34.450 you know if he wants more in the future or he 00:01:34.450 --> 00:01:37.709 wants to do more that that night fourth which 00:01:37.709 --> 00:01:39.409 is probably something i shouldn't have to say 00:01:39.409 --> 00:01:42.040 but i'm gonna mention it anyway smell great all 00:01:42.040 --> 00:01:44.439 the time okay always smell great around him but 00:01:44.439 --> 00:01:47.939 don't overpower subtle fragrances with no sickly 00:01:47.939 --> 00:01:50.420 sweet perfumes though and at the same time you 00:01:50.420 --> 00:01:52.620 know always smell good and pay attention pay 00:01:52.620 --> 00:01:54.700 special attention to your personal hygiene and 00:01:54.700 --> 00:01:57.640 body odor just because something smells great 00:01:57.640 --> 00:02:00.140 does not mean it smells great on you for an extended 00:02:00.140 --> 00:02:05.219 period okay all his friends okay men are competitive 00:02:05.219 --> 00:02:07.579 as long as he thinks he has the best girl on 00:02:07.579 --> 00:02:09.740 the social circle he'll always cling to you and 00:02:09.740 --> 00:02:12.139 want to be with you you know by arming his friends 00:02:12.139 --> 00:02:14.120 and making them think you're a great girl and 00:02:14.120 --> 00:02:18.099 you've done a great job okay six learn to seduce 00:02:18.099 --> 00:02:20.080 him but in the right way okay seduction doesn't 00:02:20.080 --> 00:02:22.879 stop in the bed okay be sexy around him be creative 00:02:22.879 --> 00:02:25.680 wherever you go you know just simple things all 00:02:25.680 --> 00:02:28.879 right and you know seduction i'll i'll talk about 00:02:28.879 --> 00:02:33.520 that in a later piece okay uh show off his hobbies 00:02:33.520 --> 00:02:42.030 okay you know A guy would absolutely love a girl 00:02:42.030 --> 00:02:44.629 who shows interest in his special hobbies, be 00:02:44.629 --> 00:02:47.409 it playing an Xbox or climbing a mountain. Men 00:02:47.409 --> 00:02:49.949 want to spend their lives with a woman who truly 00:02:49.949 --> 00:02:53.030 understands them and connects to them. Show interest 00:02:53.030 --> 00:02:55.590 in his hobbies, but don't give up on your own 00:02:55.590 --> 00:02:58.169 at the same time to do what he wants to do because 00:02:58.169 --> 00:03:00.250 at the same time, you're not being true to yourself. 00:03:00.789 --> 00:03:03.449 Eight, and this is one of the major things that 00:03:03.449 --> 00:03:08.699 bothers most guys. Don't be a drama queen. Okay, 00:03:08.780 --> 00:03:10.879 it's alright to throw a fussy fit now and then 00:03:10.879 --> 00:03:14.620 but if your guy disrespects you. But no matter 00:03:14.620 --> 00:03:17.300 what, do not exaggerate a situation or blow it 00:03:17.300 --> 00:03:19.439 out of proportion just to prove a point. Okay, 00:03:19.520 --> 00:03:22.939 guys can see through the acts of even the best 00:03:22.939 --> 00:03:24.919 drama queens and unfortunately all it does is 00:03:24.919 --> 00:03:27.500 push us away. It doesn't make us want to fix 00:03:27.500 --> 00:03:29.960 the problem. It just makes us think that this 00:03:29.960 --> 00:03:34.120 woman is spoiled or doesn't really care what 00:03:34.120 --> 00:03:36.539 I think. they just want what they want and at 00:03:36.539 --> 00:03:38.879 the same time it pushes us away and lessens the 00:03:38.879 --> 00:03:43.060 attractiveness between you and him 9. be his 00:03:43.060 --> 00:03:45.719 shoulder to lean on also okay give him your strength 00:03:45.719 --> 00:03:48.479 and support when he is low on morale this helps 00:03:48.479 --> 00:03:51.300 out guys a lot you know reassure him and help 00:03:51.300 --> 00:03:54.120 him confide his problems to you be it his confidence 00:03:54.120 --> 00:03:56.939 and his warm pillow when he's in the dumps and 00:03:56.939 --> 00:03:59.909 he'll treat you like a goddess now granted Usually, 00:03:59.909 --> 00:04:02.210 this would be something that a woman would expect 00:04:02.210 --> 00:04:04.590 a guy to do, but keep in mind that even guys 00:04:04.590 --> 00:04:07.430 have emotional breakdowns as well. Be it rare 00:04:07.430 --> 00:04:11.469 as it is, it does happen. okay 10 be his arm 00:04:11.469 --> 00:04:14.310 candy okay look good in his arms and with when 00:04:14.310 --> 00:04:16.310 both of you are together okay get a new hairstyle 00:04:16.310 --> 00:04:18.569 now and then not all the time but now and then 00:04:18.569 --> 00:04:21.990 look fashionable classy and he'll never want 00:04:21.990 --> 00:04:24.430 you to leave his arms at all okay granted do 00:04:24.430 --> 00:04:26.790 not squeeze his arms to the point where he can't 00:04:26.790 --> 00:04:28.509 use them anymore because that's going to make 00:04:28.509 --> 00:04:30.790 them make him uncomfortable and want to move 00:04:30.790 --> 00:04:33.829 either on make you unhook his arm or walk away 00:04:34.620 --> 00:04:36.220 Granted, he will still love you and want to be 00:04:36.220 --> 00:04:37.800 with you, but he will want his arm to breathe 00:04:37.800 --> 00:04:40.660 more, okay? I bring this up because it has happened 00:04:40.660 --> 00:04:43.480 to me once before, and I have to make it known 00:04:43.480 --> 00:04:46.279 to my girlfriend that, you know, be it that it's 00:04:46.279 --> 00:04:49.259 great she's there, I like the feeling in my arms. 00:04:49.740 --> 00:04:52.779 Just throwing this out there, alright? Next. 00:05:00.920 --> 00:05:04.839 Okay, 11. Be financially secure, okay? This is 00:05:04.839 --> 00:05:06.779 something that you have to keep in mind. While 00:05:06.779 --> 00:05:08.399 it's great to have a guy that is financially 00:05:08.399 --> 00:05:10.740 sound, you need to make sure you're also financially 00:05:10.740 --> 00:05:12.860 sound for the sake of should something happen 00:05:12.860 --> 00:05:15.120 to him, okay? Be in control of your own finances 00:05:15.120 --> 00:05:17.779 as well and have a well -settled job. You know, 00:05:17.800 --> 00:05:20.180 guys love a girl with a steady head on her shoulders 00:05:20.180 --> 00:05:22.860 as well. At the same time, you know, they stay 00:05:22.860 --> 00:05:26.319 a mile away from a careless spending thrift. 00:05:26.360 --> 00:05:28.420 You know, basically gold diggers. They can't 00:05:28.420 --> 00:05:30.959 stand gold diggers. Now, granted, if he's some 00:05:30.959 --> 00:05:32.980 type of sugar daddy, then that's one thing. But 00:05:32.980 --> 00:05:35.459 at the same time, you know, Most normal guys 00:05:35.459 --> 00:05:38.319 do not really pay attention to women like that, 00:05:38.459 --> 00:05:41.639 okay? Well, at the same time, don't expect your 00:05:41.639 --> 00:05:43.959 man to always be some high and mighty person 00:05:43.959 --> 00:05:45.879 who has a great job, who can take care of himself. 00:05:46.279 --> 00:05:48.259 You might find that you're actually in love with 00:05:48.259 --> 00:05:50.680 a person who doesn't have a lot of anything going 00:05:50.680 --> 00:05:52.600 for him in the first place, and you might want 00:05:52.600 --> 00:05:54.959 to help him and support him, okay? And the only 00:05:54.959 --> 00:05:56.980 way to do this is for you to have a job and be 00:05:56.980 --> 00:06:01.319 financially secure yourself, okay? Next. Have 00:06:01.319 --> 00:06:03.379 intelligent conversations with your guy, okay? 00:06:03.500 --> 00:06:05.699 A guy may want an armed guinea when he's on the 00:06:05.699 --> 00:06:07.759 streets But he also wants a lover who can communicate 00:06:07.759 --> 00:06:10.480 with him and have intelligent conversations at 00:06:10.480 --> 00:06:12.680 the end of the day This doesn't mean all day. 00:06:12.839 --> 00:06:14.720 It just means there are certain parts of the 00:06:14.720 --> 00:06:17.560 day, okay? Next you want to win over his family 00:06:17.560 --> 00:06:20.480 Okay, guys are attached to their families and 00:06:20.480 --> 00:06:23.100 a few guys are even loyal mama's boys, which 00:06:23.100 --> 00:06:26.279 you know can't be helped Granted I did mention 00:06:26.279 --> 00:06:29.379 this in the guys section That no girl loves an 00:06:29.379 --> 00:06:32.240 excessive mama's boy, but at the same time, you 00:06:32.240 --> 00:06:33.860 know If you make his family and friends think 00:06:33.860 --> 00:06:35.920 you're a catch, you know He'll definitely love 00:06:35.920 --> 00:06:38.639 you more and he'll draw pull a little bit away 00:06:38.639 --> 00:06:41.180 from his mom. I'll start to depend more on you 00:06:41.850 --> 00:06:44.649 which is a good thing for you. Next, help him 00:06:44.649 --> 00:06:47.569 deal with life, okay? Men may behave like the 00:06:47.569 --> 00:06:49.490 saviors of the world, but inside there's still 00:06:49.490 --> 00:06:51.550 little boys who need a cuddle and a hug every 00:06:51.550 --> 00:06:54.089 now and then. You know, help your man deal with 00:06:54.089 --> 00:06:56.810 issues life throws at him, all right? Don't just, 00:06:56.810 --> 00:06:59.350 you know, ignore him and say, man up and deal 00:06:59.350 --> 00:07:01.589 with it, okay? Some guys are unable to do this. 00:07:02.430 --> 00:07:05.250 Next, public displays of affection, okay? Your 00:07:05.250 --> 00:07:10.199 man may be shy, may shy away for a bit of, a 00:07:10.199 --> 00:07:12.579 little PDA, but he still loves it when you cling 00:07:12.579 --> 00:07:15.139 to his arms like a damsel in distress. It makes 00:07:15.139 --> 00:07:17.899 him feel more powerful and yes, even a little 00:07:17.899 --> 00:07:23.240 bit sexy. While that's being said, stroke his 00:07:23.240 --> 00:07:26.040 ego a little. Not a lot, but a little. If you 00:07:26.040 --> 00:07:28.079 want to keep your guy interested and happy, learn 00:07:28.079 --> 00:07:30.319 to stroke his ego. Compliment his achievements. 00:07:30.579 --> 00:07:33.899 Give him a pat on the back when he's proud of 00:07:33.899 --> 00:07:36.379 something. Make him feel like a man and he'll 00:07:36.379 --> 00:07:39.949 stay your man. Be independent and dependent, 00:07:40.230 --> 00:07:42.310 okay? I understand this is a little confusing, 00:07:42.610 --> 00:07:45.170 but be dependent when you're with him, okay? 00:07:45.230 --> 00:07:47.550 Be independent when you're by yourself. Know 00:07:47.550 --> 00:07:49.670 the difference, all right? It'll make him feel 00:07:49.670 --> 00:07:51.949 more like a man when he's around you without 00:07:51.949 --> 00:07:55.189 really feeling like you're needy when he's busy 00:07:55.189 --> 00:07:58.050 doing something else, okay? If you're an independent 00:07:58.050 --> 00:08:00.149 type woman, that's great when you're all by yourself, 00:08:00.329 --> 00:08:02.069 but if you want your man to be with you, love 00:08:02.069 --> 00:08:05.329 you, and be attracted to you more, you know, 00:08:05.329 --> 00:08:09.230 learn to be dependent. on him and him only when 00:08:09.230 --> 00:08:11.870 you're with him okay this helps build the attraction 00:08:11.870 --> 00:08:14.230 between the two and learn more about each other 00:08:14.230 --> 00:08:17.889 um next be happy and interesting okay be interesting 00:08:17.889 --> 00:08:19.930 and creative with your life you'll see the happy 00:08:19.930 --> 00:08:22.870 side of everything even in the most mundane of 00:08:22.870 --> 00:08:26.029 days okay when you're you're an optimist you 00:08:26.029 --> 00:08:28.889 know you're if uh your infectious happiness will 00:08:28.889 --> 00:08:32.529 eventually definitely rub on to him as well okay 00:08:33.049 --> 00:08:35.190 At the same time, don't make him feel insecure. 00:08:35.730 --> 00:08:38.590 Flirt with others and talk to men, but never 00:08:38.590 --> 00:08:41.090 at the cost of his insecurity. When he's around, 00:08:41.210 --> 00:08:43.629 hug him close and he'll swell with the affection 00:08:43.629 --> 00:08:48.309 for you as well. Also, don't be easily available. 00:08:49.230 --> 00:08:52.049 Spend time with him, but don't be ready for him 00:08:52.049 --> 00:08:55.090 at his beck and call. Be there for him, but make 00:08:55.090 --> 00:08:58.850 him miss you when you aren't around. At the same 00:08:58.850 --> 00:09:01.909 time, you know, be smart and sassy, but don't 00:09:01.909 --> 00:09:06.110 ask stupid questions, okay? Guys may like a dumb 00:09:06.110 --> 00:09:09.590 bimbet at first, but they're not looking for 00:09:09.590 --> 00:09:12.350 a long -term relationship with them, okay? It 00:09:12.350 --> 00:09:15.690 just bothers them. At the same time, with that 00:09:15.690 --> 00:09:19.230 being said, and I have to laugh saying this a 00:09:19.230 --> 00:09:21.990 little bit, don't be clingy and needy, okay? 00:09:22.070 --> 00:09:24.269 Guys like a damsel who needs their help, but 00:09:24.269 --> 00:09:27.549 that stops once the infatuation period is over, 00:09:27.750 --> 00:09:30.250 okay? So, show him that you're self -reliant 00:09:30.250 --> 00:09:32.750 and he'll always look for ways to help you and 00:09:32.750 --> 00:09:35.090 please you, alright? Just keep that in mind. 00:09:35.210 --> 00:09:36.909 Again, these are a lot of things to think about, 00:09:36.970 --> 00:09:40.100 but, you know. There's a lot on the men's side 00:09:40.100 --> 00:09:42.639 as well so but I want everyone to have a successful 00:09:42.639 --> 00:09:44.600 relationship So I just want you guys to think 00:09:44.600 --> 00:09:46.019 about a lot of these topics that I'm covering 00:09:46.019 --> 00:09:48.279 You know and focus a little bit more on them, 00:09:48.340 --> 00:10:00.299 okay? Okay next be sexually innovative okay know 00:10:00.299 --> 00:10:02.750 your moves in bed and else everywhere else okay 00:10:02.750 --> 00:10:06.090 have sex in different places roleplay with him 00:10:06.090 --> 00:10:08.710 a little you know wear an apron and nothing else 00:10:08.710 --> 00:10:12.129 while cooking something special you know well 00:10:12.129 --> 00:10:14.690 this other one might seem ideal just keep in 00:10:14.690 --> 00:10:16.769 mind that some guys might not be into this you 00:10:16.769 --> 00:10:18.529 know you can always tie his hands to the bedpost 00:10:18.529 --> 00:10:20.629 you know you get the drift don't you at the same 00:10:20.629 --> 00:10:23.570 time you know find out what really turns him 00:10:23.570 --> 00:10:27.210 on now Not all guys might be into the BDSD type 00:10:27.210 --> 00:10:30.509 thing, but at the same time, you know, you might 00:10:30.509 --> 00:10:32.309 have one that does, you might have one that likes 00:10:32.309 --> 00:10:34.309 to do kinky things. You might have one that's 00:10:34.309 --> 00:10:36.210 just a freaking straight up nasty. You never 00:10:36.210 --> 00:10:38.690 know what kind of guy you really have until you 00:10:38.690 --> 00:10:40.809 start to get to know them a little bit. Okay. 00:10:41.049 --> 00:10:45.509 Just keep that in mind. All right. Next. Okay. 00:10:46.549 --> 00:10:49.590 With this next one, no matter what people say. 00:10:50.250 --> 00:10:52.909 you know the the the adage is you know the way 00:10:52.909 --> 00:10:54.690 a man the way to a man's heart is his stomach 00:10:54.690 --> 00:10:57.450 still holds good okay be a good cook it doesn't 00:10:57.450 --> 00:11:00.309 matter if he can cook look now know how to cook 00:11:00.309 --> 00:11:02.289 yourself and at the same time don't be afraid 00:11:02.289 --> 00:11:05.350 to eat what he cooks okay even if it does look 00:11:05.350 --> 00:11:08.149 a little scary unless he's some type of master 00:11:08.149 --> 00:11:12.070 chef okay learn to think like a guy now this 00:11:12.070 --> 00:11:14.269 is something that's a little hard um for some 00:11:14.269 --> 00:11:16.950 women but at the same time you know there's a 00:11:16.950 --> 00:11:19.120 lot of things that guys have a hard time with 00:11:19.120 --> 00:11:21.779 as well and they have to focus with you know 00:11:21.779 --> 00:11:23.840 guys and girls don't always think a lot along 00:11:23.840 --> 00:11:26.320 the same lines okay learn to think like him and 00:11:26.320 --> 00:11:28.539 his eyes will well up with happy tears to have 00:11:28.539 --> 00:11:32.679 the woman he loves be so special as to understand 00:11:32.679 --> 00:11:37.159 him a little bit better okay next don't ever 00:11:37.159 --> 00:11:39.860 be a pushover okay don't be the submissive wife 00:11:39.860 --> 00:11:42.779 okay you don't need to sit at his feet to earn 00:11:42.779 --> 00:11:47.039 his respect and love instead be opinionistic 00:11:47.039 --> 00:11:49.879 uh i'm sorry opinionated and throw him around 00:11:49.879 --> 00:11:52.759 uh when he throws his weight around you okay 00:11:52.759 --> 00:11:55.659 but again you know don't force him to do something 00:11:55.659 --> 00:11:59.940 he doesn't want to do next whip him when he can't 00:11:59.940 --> 00:12:02.919 behave okay treat him like a spoiled child when 00:12:02.919 --> 00:12:06.730 he doesn't behave Ignored his ignoring his childish 00:12:06.730 --> 00:12:09.669 behavior or scold him when he behaves like a 00:12:09.669 --> 00:12:12.350 slob You know be unpredictable and rude when 00:12:12.350 --> 00:12:14.870 he misbehaves and he'll fear you at the same 00:12:14.870 --> 00:12:17.049 time He'll respect you the same way he would 00:12:17.049 --> 00:12:20.889 his mom. Okay, and yes, unfortunately, this is 00:12:20.889 --> 00:12:24.049 something that's pretty advantageous with most 00:12:24.049 --> 00:12:27.309 guys as You know guys tend to stick to their 00:12:27.309 --> 00:12:30.230 moms Well girls tend to stick to their dads and 00:12:30.230 --> 00:12:32.870 this has been held true for the last millennia 00:12:33.830 --> 00:12:36.470 Next, make him proud of you. Guys may be shallow 00:12:36.470 --> 00:12:38.750 at first sight, but they still want a girl they 00:12:38.750 --> 00:12:41.710 can respect and admire. Be an achiever. Be a 00:12:41.710 --> 00:12:44.309 girl he can look up to and awe at the same time. 00:12:44.789 --> 00:12:48.649 Respect yourself. You're not a doormat. Let him 00:12:48.649 --> 00:12:50.509 know that you have the strength to move on if 00:12:50.509 --> 00:12:53.289 he does something stupid or treats you badly. 00:12:53.450 --> 00:12:55.210 And always make it look like you're the biggest 00:12:55.210 --> 00:12:58.149 prize he's won. Call yourself a prize in front 00:12:58.149 --> 00:13:00.639 of him. But, you know, show it to him by ignoring 00:13:00.639 --> 00:13:03.039 him or pushing him out of the bedroom when he 00:13:03.039 --> 00:13:05.240 misbehaves. Going back to that previous topic, 00:13:05.360 --> 00:13:08.100 you know, and at the same time, make him dependent 00:13:08.100 --> 00:13:10.659 on you. As long as he thinks he can't live without 00:13:10.659 --> 00:13:12.840 you or if he feels helpless without you, he'll 00:13:12.840 --> 00:13:15.460 always stay interested in you. OK, pick the traits 00:13:15.460 --> 00:13:17.820 you can use, you know, and you'll see how easy 00:13:17.820 --> 00:13:21.679 it is. It can be to keep a guy interested in 00:13:21.679 --> 00:13:24.879 you, but never let him use you or treat you like 00:13:24.879 --> 00:13:27.600 a pushover. And don't think twice about punishing 00:13:27.600 --> 00:13:30.620 him or putting him in his place when he doesn't 00:13:30.620 --> 00:13:34.000 treat you right. Earn his respect and let him 00:13:34.000 --> 00:13:36.159 earn yours. It's not something that's given, 00:13:36.279 --> 00:13:38.580 it's earned. Treat him with love and affection, 00:13:38.679 --> 00:13:41.240 but only if he deserves it after all. As long 00:13:41.240 --> 00:13:44.580 as he fears losing a catch like yourself, he'll 00:13:44.580 --> 00:13:47.820 never put a toe out of line at all. He'll always 00:13:47.820 --> 00:13:51.539 be there with you. And with that being said, 00:13:51.620 --> 00:13:53.440 when I say punish him, I'm throwing this out 00:13:53.440 --> 00:13:58.000 at the end of this piece here. Do not go after 00:13:58.000 --> 00:14:01.019 another guy. This will definitely push him away 00:14:01.019 --> 00:14:03.059 more so than it will be considered punishment. 00:14:03.259 --> 00:14:04.919 Because all he's going to want to do at this 00:14:04.919 --> 00:14:07.299 point is retaliate, which is always going to 00:14:07.299 --> 00:14:09.460 end up doing is breaking your little heart or 00:14:09.460 --> 00:14:11.620 hurting your feelings. And you don't want a guy 00:14:11.620 --> 00:14:13.080 to do this. Okay.