picking up where we left off yesterday good morning
everybody it is 3 46 a .m here where i'm at and
the temperature is currently i don't believe
it is 18 degrees outside how are you guys doing
this morning this is neogentrics with thoughts
if it were you relationships from the women's
side i'm gonna pick it up where we left off yesterday
with the eighth point that i had initially talked
about you know men can't read minds um As convinced
as you are, you know, men should have the innate
ability to read a woman's mind. They just really
can't. So, you know, you need to speak your mind
and he'll listen to your thoughts more than likely
than not. Because no guy wants to upset a woman
where they don't know what's wrong. And it just
causes irritation and frustration between the
two. Okay? Nine. Pick up on number nine. No guy
likes a drama queen, okay? Especially if she
goes looking for ways to complicate the relationship,
okay? If you're the kind of person that constantly
is looking for things that are wrong, I'm going
to just go ahead and tell you right now, just
stop. Because no guy likes to deal with issues
and problems, okay? That's why most guys, when
they have an issue or stuff that bothers them,
they can't solve it, they leave it alone. That's
simply not because we don't have the urge to
want to fix it or solve the problem. It's just
that if it causes unnecessary issues, then we
consider it unwarranted and we don't want to
spend any unnecessary time and energy on it because
it doesn't benefit us in any way. And there's
no outcome in which we've actually, I guess you
could say prosper from. Okay. So causing. intentional
irritation just hurts the relationship and puts
and pushes the other person further away while
you may feel safer about everything that you
know keep in mind you're just pushing him further
and further away number 10 is the silent treatment
okay ignoring your boyfriend when he hurts you
uh may seem like the best way to teach him a
lesson but i'm gonna go ahead and be honest with
you truth be told the silent treatment won't
make him stop hurting you it only makes him a
better liar okay by you not saying anything he's
gonna think he can get away with it so unless
you correct him right there and then uh more
likely than not he's gonna continue doing what
he's doing you have to be straightforward and
honest and just tell straight up tell the truth
i know it's hard sometimes to do this but if
you can buck up and do the very thing i'm also
telling the guys to do and not lie to your partner
you know you'll be a better team for it Oh, and
ironically, number 11 from the list of 23 things
I mentioned in the beginning. You and your partner
are a team, okay? There's no winners or losers
between partners. Either both of you will win
or both of you will lose together. So any issues
have to be worked out to better the relationship
not to win points, okay? He's not higher than
you. You're not higher than him. Yes. don't get
me wrong if you're a bible person it does say
the man is the head of the household however
he is not a dictator it just means that he has
the last say so under the guidelines that god
set that is all it means okay he's supposed to
help protect you and you're supposed to help
protect him i'm just going to go ahead and throw
that in there right now um but neither one of
y 'all is higher than the other okay you all
work together sorry about that It's actually
pretty cold here. I can't help but yawn. I'm
just trying to stay awake. Warm in my room with
my blanket. I'm trying my best here. 12. Men
think they hate high -maintenance women, okay?
But that's exactly the kind of girl they secretly
desire, okay? A girl that wants them to do a
lot for them where they don't, you know, they
feel appreciated and such, okay? And don't worry,
if you're not sure whether or not you're a high
maintenance woman, I can definitely give you
15 signs in which that will help determine whether
or not you are. High maintenance to a point,
however, is a such thing as being too high maintenance
where a guy just can't deal with you whatsoever
and you don't want to be that kind of person,
okay? I'm going to take a short interlude here
and we're going to move on to the next five points.
Okay. Picking up back where we are at. We're
at number 13. Okay. Out of the 23 things. Love
is a complex blend of physical attraction and
emotional attachment for men. Okay. Make a man
realize that he needs you emotionally before
he sees all of you. Okay. There are seven stages
of love for men. I will cover that in a later
episode for this podcast. However. Just know
that there are some stages in doing this where
you can make a man fall for you before he ever
actually sees you. 14. Every guy loves a girl
who's a lady on the street, but yet like a hooker
in the bed. Okay, I'm not saying this. in the
sense that you know every man wants a hooker
no that's not the case um they just want they
want a woman who can be a woman when she needs
to be but a freak when she needs to be at the
same time but know that there's a time and a
place for everything okay um do not mix the two
all right next 15 know that love is full of layers
okay it takes time to fall in love and experience
the relationship one step at a time okay rushing
too soon and moving in together too soon can
make him think twice about his commitment to
you even before he really has fallen in love
with you okay um and there are 10 reasons why
um i have i have 10 reasons here why saying i
love you too soon also sucks um There are some
cases where that's not the case, but it depends
on the people that are actually together. Again,
this also depends on you as well. 16. Don't let
yourself go. You're in a long -term relationship.
Sexual attraction plays a big part in a happy
romance. Work out. Look your best. If you want
your man to desire you more than he desires any
other woman, be better than... any other woman
around you i'm not saying compete with them i'm
saying be the only thing he sees and be have
you know be what he likes most while still being
yourself okay with that being said number 17
is brought up insecurity woes don't wet i'm sorry
don't let your insecurities get the better of
you okay sex appeal is all in your mind and how
you project yourself okay so You know, if you're
having issues feeling sexy or desirable at times,
I got 14 easy tips for that as well. I will cover
that in another piece. Number 18. I know I probably
brought this up earlier in yesterday's podcast,
but I'm going to go ahead and say it again. Praise
him for his achievements, okay? Even if it's
small, you know, he'll try harder all the time
just to win your praise, okay? this is notorious
with just about any guy because you know every
guy i mean even women sometimes you know they
like to get a pat on the head saying good job
you did wonderful sweetheart or what have you
you did really good son you know most people
love this type of thing okay know that guys like
women who crave attention guys love being praised
for their achievements it strikes their ego a
little bit makes them feel good 19. Don't try
too hard to please your man. Okay, if your gestures
aren't reciprocated He just take you for granted.
Okay, instead make him realize just how lucky
he is to have you But at the same time, you know,
most guys just take things for granted instead
of realizing how lucky they are, you know There
are ways to tell There's a ways to make your
boyfriend want you more than ever like I probably
I mentioned before But at the same time, you
know don't Be overbearing, you know. 20 states
this, okay? This is my 20th point. A man needs
his space, okay? Even if he doesn't ask for it,
as long as he is by himself or with his guy friends,
you really have nothing to worry about. In fact,
it'll help both of you love each other better,
okay? Know how to give each other space without
being overbearing to each other, okay? Which
will bring us to our next piece. Well, that brings
us to our last three points for the 23 things,
and then I'm going to cover some side topics
as well here. 21 is this, okay? Get kinky, okay?
Kinky. K -I -N -K -L. Why? A relationship needs
to evolve all the time, and so does sexual intimacy.
If you think your sex life is starting to get
predictable or boring... Try something new every
now and then. Talking dirty is a great way to
kickstart your sexual adventure and bring a little
more desirability into it as well as a lot of
new surprises that you may or may not know you
were even capable of doing in the first place.
With that being said, should he slip up or do
something out of the norm? you accidentally hurt
each other or you get mad this brings us to point
22 okay and this is something that pushes all
guys away i'm sorry i have to go ahead and bring
this up now uh don't knee him below the belt
okay using sarcasm or snide comments aside you
know if he feels helpless or emotionally violated
he'll just straight up stop communicating with
you um with that being said also When I say don't
knee him below the belt, I also mean that literally.
Please don't aim below his waistline for anything,
even if you want to hit him. Nothing destroys
a guy's pride more than hitting him below the
belt, literally. It doesn't help him lean any
more closer to you. In fact, it actually pushes
him further away from you. And, ironically, into
the hospital. I'm not trying to be funny. I'm
dead serious. And I had a friend who, you know,
true story, was dating this girl because she
thought he was cheating on her when he tried
to buy her some stuff for self -defense. She
was still upset with him and without thinking.
When he displayed how to use her taser to her,
she tried to use it at the same time. She was
still mad at him when she tried to confront him
about it, but she went about it the wrong way.
Like I mentioned before, you know, don't let
your anger control you. And she tased him in
his nuts. Now, well, to women, that may not seem
like a big deal for us guys. That is just the
cringiest thought, one of the cringiest thoughts
possible. And as a result, he is now unable to
actually have kids. Does she regret her actions?
I have no idea. But once she finally came to
realize what she had done, let's put it this
way. She cried for days because now even if she
marries him, he can't he can't have kids, help
her have kids at any time. So it's unfortunate.
Which brings us to point 23. Be his shoulder
to lean on. Like I mentioned before, as macho
as he may seem, he's also a child who needs a
woman's love to give him emotional support and
strength. OK. while these tips could seem pleasantly
easy to follow um you need to keep in mind that
are they really that simple you know do you really
think you're following all these tips in your
own love life most people think they are um but
they never actually do okay You need to use these
23 must -know relationship advice tips for women
if you want to be able to create a better romance
for yourself and your man. After all, experiencing
a perfect romance doesn't have to be as hard
as most people think it is. And now I'm going
to cover... Now that I've finished covering the
23 must -knows, I'm going to cover some side
topics on the side to help women improve their...
I guess you could say... relationship abilities
and making themselves feel a little more confident
in their abilities.