everybody this is thoughts if it were you food
for thought by neogentrix relationships the women's
side and it is 12 23 a .m here where i am at
and the temperature outside is 28 degrees how
are you guys doing this morning last time we
were talking about relationships for the women's
side we covered 23 topics in which women can
use 23 things in which women can use to help
improve their relationship with the man that
they're with and Teach them how to love them
a little bit more and keep their eyes only on
them Today I'm gonna move on to the next bit
like I mentioned before we're gonna talk about
a couple of little tidbits here and there of
other things that women can do to improve their
relationships as well and then We'll finish it
off hopefully either today or tomorrow with these
podcasts on this radio station. All right. So
we're going to pick up where we left off, what
relationships need in order to grow and evolve
to become perfect, or at least perfect in a manner
of speaking, okay? Here are a few things to talk
about in a relationship that can help you do
just that, okay? The first thing you need to
keep in mind is that all relationships aren't
the same, and the status of your relationship
has a lot to do with the things you and your
partner talk about, okay? While conversation
comes naturally as two people start dating and
falling in love with each other, there are a
few conversations that can help create a perfect
relationship over time. So, first off, answer
this question. Again, remember the whole point
of this. on my station and my channel here for
this podcast is to make you think about what
you're doing so that you can improve your lifestyle
and make it better for both you and your loved
ones okay so answer this are you new in a relationship
or are you in a seasoned long -term relationship
you need to consider which one of these you're
actually in and what the state of it is okay
Things to talk about in a relationship, okay?
Conversations between couples have to be fun
and yet illuminating, okay? I can give you a
few things that you can talk about to keep it,
you know, exciting and love glowing strong, I
guess is the best way to put it, okay? Irrespective
of your relationship status, there are a few
conversation tips that can help both you and...
Help both of you understand each other and create
new exciting conversations that can keep the
relationship alive even when it doesn't involve
love and mosh. The first thing is daily individual
lives. Talk about each other's daily events and
activities. It can help both of you understand
more about each other's lives. Most couples ignore
these conversations and end up drifting away
from each other in no time because they don't
choose to learn about the other person. Okay.
Next would be movies and TV shows. Movies and
television shows are perfect conversation makers
for all couples. They provide for hours of gossiping
and interesting conversations with a fresh perspective
every day as they never are constant. Okay. Next
would be crushes and second glances. Okay. Do
you think someone in your workshop is attractive
or is someone from the third floor trying to
catch your attention by trying to flirt with
you? You know, talk to your partner about it.
It may feel uncomfortable at first, but these
conversations can actually bring both of you
more closer than even before and even eliminate
insecurities. At the same time, it'll also help
you avoid any unwanted attention. From other
people when you're trying to focus on the one
that you're with, okay We're gonna take a short
interlude right here and then we're gonna pick
it up with hobbies and interests All right next
topic that we're gonna cover here is hobbies
and interests, okay, do you like clubbing painting
playing games Talk about it with your partner.
Our hobbies and interests change all the time,
and keeping our lover in the loop will help both
of you understand each other's likes and dislikes
a lot better. Next would be silent conversations.
Silence is a beautiful thing in any relationship.
Just being able to sit next to each other without
feeling awkward or having to worry about what
to talk about is a sign of a perfect relationship
already. But then again, are you both being comfortable
with each other or just ignoring each other?
You need to consider that as well. Sometimes
you can be sitting there for the wrong reasons,
not saying anything to each other. Next, you
know, new relationships are more fun and exciting.
We're going to talk about those for a second.
It's touchy -feely, sexy, and doesn't involve
a hint of long -term relationship just yet, you
know. You may be floating on the bubble of infatuation
and everything may just seem perfect, but if
you want your relationship to stay the same forever,
talk about serious issues in a lighter vein and
avoid any long -term plans unless both of you
are definitely serious about the relationship.
Here are a few great things to talk about as
well as far as a new relationship, okay? Goals
and focus in life. New relationships are exciting
and mysterious, but it helps a lot to start understanding
each other's goals and aspirations in life early
in the relationship to avoid the pain of being
stuck in a relationship with two different goals
and ideologies toward life. You want to have
something similar or something close to the other
person, or at least be able to support each other
despite the goals that y 'all select. New places
to see. That's the next one here on my list.
Talking about new places to spend the weekend
together can be a lot of fun in the new relationship.
Do you have a few favorite hangouts where you
like to spend a few hours over the weekend? Or
did you just hear about a new restaurant or a
movie that you definitely wanted to check out?
These are things you can talk about to help improve
your relationship. With that being said, talk
about each other's lives. Talk about either of
your friends and their relationships. Talk about
work. either of your favorite shows on TV. In
a new relationship, even the most mundane of
conversations can make your partner's eyes light
up. Help both of you understand each other's
friends, interests, and everything else with
happy gossip, good gossip, not the bad kind.
There is a difference between good and bad gossip,
whereas one will help you as far as your relationship
and your life goes, and the other will destroy
everything that's in your path, which... No one
wants. Okay. Next thing is lifestyle and habits.
What does your partner like doing over the weekend?
Okay. How long do they take to dress up for a
night out? How long do they spend playing games
every evening? What about vacations, family,
pets, hobbies, and all the works? You know, couples
in a new relationship have so many exciting things
to talk about, don't they? You know, use these
conversations to learn about each other's lifestyles
and interests. You know, it can help judge your
compatibility for long term and avoid issues
in the long run. And then on top of that, I'm
going to go ahead and bring up a topic that's
kind of hard for some people to talk about. Their
past relationships. Past relationships are suspense
thrillers in the dating scenario. We want to
talk about it, but yet we're too scared to talk
about it because we feel like the time is right.
Talking about it before the time is right can
hurt you, but at the same time, if you don't
talk about it, it can cause problems later. Don't
talk about your past relationships until you're
a few months into the new relationship, unless,
of course, it crops up out of the blue into a
conversation, which is what I was saying before.
Hiding facts about past relationships or revealing
them too soon can create insecurities and confusion,
and that could damage a relationship before it
has time to even create a strong foundation.
So keep this in mind as well. Moving on. Next
thing to talk about in season long -term relationships,
okay? Long -term relationships are not easy to
experience, okay? But if you've been past a few
years and are still deeply in love with each
other, well, kudos to you, okay? I congratulate
you right here, right now. Here are a few things
to talk about in long -term relationships that
will ensure that both of you still think along
the same lines. After all, a perfect long -term
relationship isn't defined by two people in love
with each other. It's defined by the two people
who love each other and understand each other
more than anyone else in the world does. Things
you can actually talk about after this point.
Finances. Finances and money issues. play a big
part in any long -term relationship and monetary
satisfaction in a long -term relationship can
be achieved only if both partners discuss ways
to save money, invest money, and as well spend
it. Next would be your future together and paired
goals. Going back to the goals thing here. One
of the satisfying conversations of a long -term
relationship is the one involving future plans
and goals in life. You know, talk about your
dreams and aspirations with your partner and
make sure you know your partner's wants and dreams
in life too. Sometimes we assume we know everything
about our partner, but it takes a few conversations
and exchange of ideas to truly understand each
other instead of making wrong assumptions. It's
better to ask questions than to assume and make
an ass of yourself. Next would be vacations and
getaways. Vacations are a happy time for each
partner. Both of you work hard all year long
and may want to look forward to something exciting,
pleasurable, to renew the excitement of love
and life. Talk about vacation, even if you intend
to travel several months from now. Talking about
taking a break and romantic getaway can help
fill both of you with a surge of happiness and
motivation, even if there's a lot of hurdles
of pain today. It helps create relief. Next is
kids and families. Families may seem perfect
on the outside, but every one of them has a few
cracks that can be a minor annoyance. Discuss
about family matters and how either of you can
deal with it. Talk about kids and their lives
ahead. And if you don't have kids just yet, talk
about when you intend to have them and how you
can plan for them. Conversations like these are
better spoken earlier than later. Also, considering
how many you actually want to try to have. so
that you're not just having them at random. You
don't want to say, okay, we're just going to
have kids and say you're going to have two and
try but end up with three because a set came
out as twins. Always consider possibilities.
Next is intellectual conversations and emotional
growth. In a perfect relationship, both partners
must be able to predict each other's thinking
and behavior, but it doesn't end with a little...
end with little odd jobs or happy surprises,
okay? Life is a complex experience. That's as
unique as we are, okay? Have intellectual conversations
about life, the paths people choose, the hurdles
both of you have overcome, and mysterious forces
that both of you believe in, okay? When you grow
emotionally and intellectually as a couple, both
of you will come closer to each other spiritually
and intellectually, okay? And if that doesn't
make for a perfect couple, think about it. What
would, okay? Basically, to experience a perfect
relationship, you need to remember these little
things to talk about in any relationship because
they really, really can make the difference between
a happy, romantic ending and a very messed up,
twisted, confused one. Like I mentioned before,
I want to help you make your relationship more
stable. But the only way we can do this is if
you stop and consider your options and think
about what you're doing before you actually do
it. Okay. Well, that concludes my radio podcast
for the tonight. Uh, next we'll be covering the,
let me have a look here real quick. The next
topic we're going to cover is 10 reasons why
saying I love you too soon can cause issues.
and how to talk dirty to a guy and basically
sound really sexy, okay? But before I get to
that, like I mentioned before, these topics and
things in which I bring up are stuff for everyone
to consider and to think about. Yes, guys may
be logical and women may be more emotional, but
it doesn't stop the fact that we both have to
stop and consider the other side, how the other
person feels, and actually think about the actions
we do in these relationships to help us move
forward, okay? No relationship is going to move
forward and go in the direction it's supposed
to if we don't put in the effort to actually
make it work. While guys may have the hardest
side of most of the work in which to do, women
still need to consider their actions and what
they do because they can either help build the
attraction to the guy they're in love with or
want to be with, or they can completely destroy
it in a matter of seconds and without doing anything
to even fix it in the first place. Thinking that
you're right and always right and that no one
is more right than you because you're a female
and guys are all idiots is the wrong way to go
about it. Whether we are or not is irrelevant.
How you choose to handle that and what you do
with it is more important because if you consider
every guy to be the same and you don't even put
any trust in any one of us or even risk putting
yourself out there and trying to do some of the
work to help make the relationship work, it's
going to fail. OK, so I'm covering these topics
because I want to help both sides. OK, I'm not
rooting for the guys. I'm not rooting for the
women. I'm rooting for a successful relationship
that lasts more than six to eight months, possibly
a year. OK, you can't come to me and tell me
that you've had a good relationship for a year
and then it dies. Well, then it wasn't a good
relationship because it didn't manage to make
it any further than one year. but kudos to anyone
who's managed to stay in a relationship for more
than two to three years okay you must be doing
something right and that's for these tips that
i'm giving here just because you're doing something
right up until this point doesn't mean that you're
still going to continue to do so you need to
consider consider what you're doing and keep
doing what works but at the same time add a little
spice to your life so that it's not completely
boring as you're moving forward and you're not
just you know existing in the relationship and
you're just expecting both people to be there
as a whole this is considered a stagnant relationship
where basically you expect the other person always
be there but you're not doing anything to help
incite it okay Well, that brings this particular
radio podcast to an end. And until next time,
this is Neogentrix on Thoughts If It Were You,
Relationships The Women's Side. Okay? We will
pick this back up with the next piece next time.