Hey, this is Thoughts If You Were You, Relationships,
the Women's Side by Neogentrics. I'm sorry, guys.
I haven't been online for a while. And I haven't
uploaded my podcast episode in a while. But stuff
has been going on, school, work, you know, the
basic stuff in life. Anyway, we're going to pick
up where we left off with the Relationship Side
for Women. And we'll finish it off, hopefully,
within the next couple of minutes or so. So the
first thing I'm going to go ahead and go back
into and cover is, you know, whether or not a
woman is high maintenance and if she's too rich
for the man to afford, okay? While being high
maintenance isn't always a bad thing, it can
also be that it's in a way where the guy can't
afford to even keep you around. And in this case,
if you really do love that guy, but for the sake
of him not having the money to keep up with you,
being too high maintenance can actually hurt
your relationship versus helping it, okay? Here
are 15 signs that make a girl the kind of woman
that most guys would want or don't want based
off of how they act, okay? Here's the question
first off before we start. Do you think you're
a high maintenance woman? And if you do, these
are 15 things you can use to check yourself.
And if you don't think you are, then here's some
things you probably either want or don't want
considering the type of man you have. First up,
all eyes on you okay all eyes always turn towards
you no matter where you are you literally suck
the air out of any room you walk into but no
one ever notices your man unless you're clinging
to his arm okay that's the first thing this isn't
a bad thing but the same time it's not always
a good thing okay two your man thinks your favorite
restaurants are fine dining experiences you like
being pampered in the finest places and there's
really nothing wrong with it You know, well,
unless your man can't afford it. And again, while
this isn't a bad thing, it's not exactly a healthy
thing either. Okay? Three. You need money to
be happy. Okay? This may sound harsh, but it
is so bad to want to be wealthy and have the
money to indulge in the good stuff life has to
offer. Okay? But keep in mind, money can't really
buy you happiness. Only the man that you have
can help you with that. Four. You like splurging
on bling often. You like buying new jewelry or
extravagant things several times a month, and
that makes you happy. In mine, these objects
don't last very long, and they do get old or
outdated real soon after you buy them. But if
you enjoy these types of things, more power to
you. Keep in mind that even if you enjoy it and
you have the money to spend on it, your man may
or may not. Five. You think you're better than
any other girl, and you do everything possible
to hold that stand. You have a very high self
-esteem and confidence and don't like being put
down by any other woman. Well, that's fine and
dandy, but you don't want to start a fight, okay?
Six, you look like you stepped out of a salon
all the time. You're always dressed up, always
well -niced. Basically, you're beautiful and
extremely well -dressed all the time, and any
guy walks past, you can't help but notice you
in awe. This isn't a bad thing. This is actually
pretty good. It's also one of the things that
helps turn a guy on as well as keep his attention
focused on you. You pay a lot of attention to
expensive details. You just can't help it. You
know that there are expensive things that look
better than average, most mass -produced stuff,
but you like it when everything around you reflects
your class and makes a style statement. There's
nothing wrong with this, but... If you're always
looking at the expensive details instead of how
you can save money to have money later to spend
on something expensive, you'll run out of money
rather quickly, even if you are a rich guy's
daughter. Keep that in mind. Eight, if you like
something, you want that thing. You don't want
it to be refused. You believe you deserve what
you want, and you won't rest until you get it.
Well, that's not a bad thing, but some people
can consider you spoiled, and that's not a good
thing at all. 9. Your man gets nervous when you
tell him you need to shop. It's not like you
to throw away money, but you only use it to look
good and make things around you look good. But
your man thinks you're just wasting money. Again,
keep in mind, even if everything around you looks
good and it's nice to make everything look great,
it still can be considered wasting money, especially
if you have other stuff that you need to be spending
it on. we're gonna take a short break and we'll
finish up this list and then move on to the next
topic um this is a lot of stuff to think about
all at once picking back up with number 10 okay
glad to have you guys back keep in mind we're
focusing on signs that you're a high maintenance
woman and like i said before it's not a bad thing
but um You need to consider how everyone else
around you feels and how your boyfriend, husband,
or such feels about you doing or having some
of these traits. Again, it's not a bad thing,
but it can lead to problems later. As I said
before, number ten, you can't step out of the
house without your makeup. You hate revealing
any flaws, be it on your complexion or in any
aspect of your life. You like looking like a
glam goddess no matter where you go. This sounds
like a lot of people that I know. they can't
live without their makeup and quite frankly after
a while that makeup does tend to mess up your
skin and pretty soon you won't be able to cover
up the flaws anymore this is fine but you know
have some modesty when it comes to stuff like
this even if you are a high maintenance type
woman 11. you think you're a perfectionist okay
well let's like i said let's keep this simple
You may think you're a perfectionist, but your
man will think that you're a spoiled brat. And
you hate mediocrity in anything you do, so you
want to be the best, and you want the best of
everything. The only problem with this is, if
you already have the best possible guy, but you
don't think he is because he thinks you're a
spoiled brat, well then, you just lost out on
something that you'll never ever get again. So
keep this in mind. Again, I know this is a lot
of stuff to think about, but... This is stuff
we need to consider. 12. You think you deserve
a better man. Focusing on what I said a minute
ago, you think you're way better than your guy.
This thought may have passed your mind quite
a few times, even though you pushed the thought
away. 13. You have more guy friends slash admirers.
You think you're a fun girl, but most girls usually
hate you and think you're a snob. Guys love your
company, but girls usually excuse themselves
from you in the middle of a conversation. Not
that you care. Again, this is not exactly a good
thing. Though it may feel good to you, it actually
hurts everyone around you. Fourteen, you want
everything to be perfect. And if it's not, you
want your man to fix it for you. You do not depend
on your man for everything, but you do expect
him to treat you like a queen. I'm going to just
go ahead and straight up say this right now.
Being high maintenance isn't a bad thing. Number
14, the you want everything perfect thing can
actually be one of the biggest issues that high
maintenance women can have. Because you don't
depend on your man for almost anything, but you
expect him to treat you like a queen and fix
everything, this could end up putting you into
a corner where nobody will want to be around
you whatsoever. except the guys who consider
you to be basically a slut. And I don't condone
that, okay? You can be high maintenance, but
know where the limit is and know where to cut
it off before you end up in a situation where
you're basically a damsel in distress, okay?
And last but not least, number 15, you get embarrassed
easily. You feel terribly embarrassed when your
man doesn't behave or look presentable. You even
try to ignore his presence and or avoid him.
After all, his bad manners are an insult to your
gorgeous presence. Okay? Let me put it this way.
High maintenance women and the men they date.
Well, many men fear the idea of dating a high
maintenance woman. They desperately want to date
her, but shrivel up at the mere thought of it
because, you know, but then again, a high maintenance
woman isn't for every man, is she? Okay? In general,
a high maintenance woman may sound scary to most
men, but, It's never bad for a woman to know
what she wants in life. In many ways, high maintenance
is subjective. What may seem like high maintenance
to one man may seem like nothing to another who
can cater to her needs. After all, if a man can
afford your whims, he obviously won't call you
a high maintenance woman. But even if you're
a big spender with a rich taste in everything,
okay? But know that there's a limit, okay? The
perfect high maintenance woman isn't a gold digger.
She doesn't date a man only for his wealth and
what he can offer her. She just wants a man to
provide for her the lifestyle that she always
had. You've always had the money and spurs a
lot on yourself. There's nothing wrong in expecting
your man to pay for all your needs once he's
started dating you. You're not being high maintenance
by doing that. You're maintaining the standard
you've always had. There's a difference. So that
brings up this question. Do high -maintenance
women get better men? Well, how do I answer this?
It may be unfair to other women, but high -maintenance
women do get better men almost all the time.
They're extremely confident and almost always
have a better life unless they're with the wrong
man. Point in case. I think they have made some
movies based off of this same thought, so there's
something to consider. Men love a chase. Not
all of them, but men do love a chase. If you're
a high maintenance and believe you're the best
girl every man would be awed by your confidence
and would try to woo you and win your fancy,
well, being high maintenance is actually the
best way to get yourself a very worthy man. Again,
that depends on the person. Average men may call
it a burden. Everyone call it... evolution. If
a perfect guy could get any girl in the world,
wouldn't he go for the sexiest and nicest girl
in the world? I mean, if you believe you're the
perfect girl, is it wrong to want the perfect
guy too? And to be honest, it's not. Betty Cooper
is low maintenance. She's the one who has to
run behind guys. Veronica Lodge, on the other
hand, is high maintenance. And Scarlett O 'Hara
from Gone With The Wind is definitely high maintenance
too. And these women have always had the pick
of the finest men. High maintenance is respected
and odd, but not all women can be her. Keep this
in mind. And not all men can be with her. Knowing
how to be high maintenance without overdoing
it is definitely a key. Like I mentioned before,
there are ways to keep guys interested in you.
I'm not exactly going to cover those because
there are about 30 possible known ways that you
can do this. Again, if you want to know what
those are here on Anchor, just hit the call button.
Let me know. And I will definitely add this segment
to this podcast. OK, so basically wrap this part
here up is who are you? Are you a high maintenance
woman who makes her man put up with her? Or an
accommodating woman who puts up with her man?
In this case, there is no clear winner here.
Just a very thin red line. Know which one you
are. Because you don't want to be on the bottom
half. But at the same time, you don't want to
be on the high end where no guy can reach you
whatsoever. This is actually unfortunate for
a lot of guys. You know, it makes you basically
unreachable. Okay? Well, that's it for that piece.
We're going to go ahead and move on to how men
fall in love, the seven stages of it. We're going
to take a short break right quick, and then we'll
move on to this in my next episode for the podcast.