WEBVTT 00:00:05.580 --> 00:00:07.940 Hey, this is Thoughts If You Were You, Relationships, 00:00:07.940 --> 00:00:10.939 the Women's Side by Neogentrics. I'm sorry, guys. 00:00:10.960 --> 00:00:13.699 I haven't been online for a while. And I haven't 00:00:13.699 --> 00:00:18.160 uploaded my podcast episode in a while. But stuff 00:00:18.160 --> 00:00:20.899 has been going on, school, work, you know, the 00:00:20.899 --> 00:00:23.500 basic stuff in life. Anyway, we're going to pick 00:00:23.500 --> 00:00:26.219 up where we left off with the Relationship Side 00:00:26.219 --> 00:00:29.800 for Women. And we'll finish it off, hopefully, 00:00:29.920 --> 00:00:33.780 within the next couple of minutes or so. So the 00:00:33.780 --> 00:00:35.340 first thing I'm going to go ahead and go back 00:00:35.340 --> 00:00:38.140 into and cover is, you know, whether or not a 00:00:38.140 --> 00:00:40.579 woman is high maintenance and if she's too rich 00:00:40.579 --> 00:00:43.200 for the man to afford, okay? While being high 00:00:43.200 --> 00:00:45.479 maintenance isn't always a bad thing, it can 00:00:45.479 --> 00:00:49.179 also be that it's in a way where the guy can't 00:00:49.179 --> 00:00:51.640 afford to even keep you around. And in this case, 00:00:51.679 --> 00:00:53.759 if you really do love that guy, but for the sake 00:00:53.759 --> 00:00:56.679 of him not having the money to keep up with you, 00:00:56.840 --> 00:00:59.100 being too high maintenance can actually hurt 00:00:59.100 --> 00:01:03.679 your relationship versus helping it, okay? Here 00:01:03.679 --> 00:01:07.480 are 15 signs that make a girl the kind of woman 00:01:07.480 --> 00:01:10.959 that most guys would want or don't want based 00:01:10.959 --> 00:01:15.200 off of how they act, okay? Here's the question 00:01:15.200 --> 00:01:17.200 first off before we start. Do you think you're 00:01:17.200 --> 00:01:19.819 a high maintenance woman? And if you do, these 00:01:19.819 --> 00:01:21.719 are 15 things you can use to check yourself. 00:01:22.040 --> 00:01:25.939 And if you don't think you are, then here's some 00:01:25.939 --> 00:01:27.939 things you probably either want or don't want 00:01:27.939 --> 00:01:31.019 considering the type of man you have. First up, 00:01:31.390 --> 00:01:34.670 all eyes on you okay all eyes always turn towards 00:01:34.670 --> 00:01:37.189 you no matter where you are you literally suck 00:01:37.189 --> 00:01:39.909 the air out of any room you walk into but no 00:01:39.909 --> 00:01:41.989 one ever notices your man unless you're clinging 00:01:41.989 --> 00:01:46.450 to his arm okay that's the first thing this isn't 00:01:46.450 --> 00:01:48.329 a bad thing but the same time it's not always 00:01:48.329 --> 00:01:51.590 a good thing okay two your man thinks your favorite 00:01:51.590 --> 00:01:54.670 restaurants are fine dining experiences you like 00:01:54.670 --> 00:01:57.230 being pampered in the finest places and there's 00:01:57.230 --> 00:01:59.280 really nothing wrong with it You know, well, 00:01:59.379 --> 00:02:02.280 unless your man can't afford it. And again, while 00:02:02.280 --> 00:02:05.219 this isn't a bad thing, it's not exactly a healthy 00:02:05.219 --> 00:02:08.979 thing either. Okay? Three. You need money to 00:02:08.979 --> 00:02:12.379 be happy. Okay? This may sound harsh, but it 00:02:12.379 --> 00:02:15.539 is so bad to want to be wealthy and have the 00:02:15.539 --> 00:02:18.000 money to indulge in the good stuff life has to 00:02:18.000 --> 00:02:21.819 offer. Okay? But keep in mind, money can't really 00:02:21.819 --> 00:02:24.419 buy you happiness. Only the man that you have 00:02:24.419 --> 00:02:28.689 can help you with that. Four. You like splurging 00:02:28.689 --> 00:02:32.389 on bling often. You like buying new jewelry or 00:02:32.389 --> 00:02:34.490 extravagant things several times a month, and 00:02:34.490 --> 00:02:37.110 that makes you happy. In mine, these objects 00:02:37.110 --> 00:02:39.289 don't last very long, and they do get old or 00:02:39.289 --> 00:02:43.090 outdated real soon after you buy them. But if 00:02:43.090 --> 00:02:45.509 you enjoy these types of things, more power to 00:02:45.509 --> 00:02:49.710 you. Keep in mind that even if you enjoy it and 00:02:49.710 --> 00:02:51.949 you have the money to spend on it, your man may 00:02:51.949 --> 00:02:55.650 or may not. Five. You think you're better than 00:02:55.650 --> 00:02:57.990 any other girl, and you do everything possible 00:02:57.990 --> 00:03:00.349 to hold that stand. You have a very high self 00:03:00.349 --> 00:03:02.610 -esteem and confidence and don't like being put 00:03:02.610 --> 00:03:05.569 down by any other woman. Well, that's fine and 00:03:05.569 --> 00:03:07.889 dandy, but you don't want to start a fight, okay? 00:03:08.530 --> 00:03:12.370 Six, you look like you stepped out of a salon 00:03:12.370 --> 00:03:14.849 all the time. You're always dressed up, always 00:03:14.849 --> 00:03:17.169 well -niced. Basically, you're beautiful and 00:03:17.169 --> 00:03:19.349 extremely well -dressed all the time, and any 00:03:19.349 --> 00:03:21.310 guy walks past, you can't help but notice you 00:03:21.310 --> 00:03:23.270 in awe. This isn't a bad thing. This is actually 00:03:23.270 --> 00:03:25.659 pretty good. It's also one of the things that 00:03:25.659 --> 00:03:29.400 helps turn a guy on as well as keep his attention 00:03:29.400 --> 00:03:33.680 focused on you. You pay a lot of attention to 00:03:33.680 --> 00:03:36.400 expensive details. You just can't help it. You 00:03:36.400 --> 00:03:38.300 know that there are expensive things that look 00:03:38.300 --> 00:03:42.520 better than average, most mass -produced stuff, 00:03:42.699 --> 00:03:45.300 but you like it when everything around you reflects 00:03:45.300 --> 00:03:47.919 your class and makes a style statement. There's 00:03:47.919 --> 00:03:51.490 nothing wrong with this, but... If you're always 00:03:51.490 --> 00:03:53.849 looking at the expensive details instead of how 00:03:53.849 --> 00:03:57.050 you can save money to have money later to spend 00:03:57.050 --> 00:03:59.330 on something expensive, you'll run out of money 00:03:59.330 --> 00:04:03.330 rather quickly, even if you are a rich guy's 00:04:03.330 --> 00:04:06.449 daughter. Keep that in mind. Eight, if you like 00:04:06.449 --> 00:04:08.930 something, you want that thing. You don't want 00:04:08.930 --> 00:04:11.169 it to be refused. You believe you deserve what 00:04:11.169 --> 00:04:13.169 you want, and you won't rest until you get it. 00:04:13.310 --> 00:04:15.150 Well, that's not a bad thing, but some people 00:04:15.150 --> 00:04:17.550 can consider you spoiled, and that's not a good 00:04:17.550 --> 00:04:20.879 thing at all. 9. Your man gets nervous when you 00:04:20.879 --> 00:04:25.000 tell him you need to shop. It's not like you 00:04:25.000 --> 00:04:28.800 to throw away money, but you only use it to look 00:04:28.800 --> 00:04:31.079 good and make things around you look good. But 00:04:31.079 --> 00:04:33.259 your man thinks you're just wasting money. Again, 00:04:33.319 --> 00:04:35.759 keep in mind, even if everything around you looks 00:04:35.759 --> 00:04:38.600 good and it's nice to make everything look great, 00:04:38.879 --> 00:04:42.699 it still can be considered wasting money, especially 00:04:42.699 --> 00:04:44.379 if you have other stuff that you need to be spending 00:04:44.379 --> 00:04:46.610 it on. we're gonna take a short break and we'll 00:04:46.610 --> 00:04:48.509 finish up this list and then move on to the next 00:04:48.509 --> 00:04:53.189 topic um this is a lot of stuff to think about 00:04:53.189 --> 00:05:03.189 all at once picking back up with number 10 okay 00:05:03.189 --> 00:05:06.069 glad to have you guys back keep in mind we're 00:05:06.069 --> 00:05:08.329 focusing on signs that you're a high maintenance 00:05:08.329 --> 00:05:11.170 woman and like i said before it's not a bad thing 00:05:11.170 --> 00:05:14.850 but um You need to consider how everyone else 00:05:14.850 --> 00:05:17.209 around you feels and how your boyfriend, husband, 00:05:17.329 --> 00:05:20.350 or such feels about you doing or having some 00:05:20.350 --> 00:05:23.250 of these traits. Again, it's not a bad thing, 00:05:23.310 --> 00:05:27.029 but it can lead to problems later. As I said 00:05:27.029 --> 00:05:29.129 before, number ten, you can't step out of the 00:05:29.129 --> 00:05:31.529 house without your makeup. You hate revealing 00:05:31.529 --> 00:05:35.009 any flaws, be it on your complexion or in any 00:05:35.009 --> 00:05:37.230 aspect of your life. You like looking like a 00:05:37.230 --> 00:05:40.110 glam goddess no matter where you go. This sounds 00:05:40.110 --> 00:05:42.379 like a lot of people that I know. they can't 00:05:42.379 --> 00:05:44.839 live without their makeup and quite frankly after 00:05:44.839 --> 00:05:47.199 a while that makeup does tend to mess up your 00:05:47.199 --> 00:05:50.019 skin and pretty soon you won't be able to cover 00:05:50.019 --> 00:05:52.899 up the flaws anymore this is fine but you know 00:05:52.899 --> 00:05:56.839 have some modesty when it comes to stuff like 00:05:56.839 --> 00:05:59.540 this even if you are a high maintenance type 00:05:59.540 --> 00:06:03.620 woman 11. you think you're a perfectionist okay 00:06:03.620 --> 00:06:08.300 well let's like i said let's keep this simple 00:06:09.129 --> 00:06:11.250 You may think you're a perfectionist, but your 00:06:11.250 --> 00:06:13.209 man will think that you're a spoiled brat. And 00:06:13.209 --> 00:06:17.269 you hate mediocrity in anything you do, so you 00:06:17.269 --> 00:06:19.829 want to be the best, and you want the best of 00:06:19.829 --> 00:06:22.910 everything. The only problem with this is, if 00:06:22.910 --> 00:06:25.029 you already have the best possible guy, but you 00:06:25.029 --> 00:06:26.889 don't think he is because he thinks you're a 00:06:26.889 --> 00:06:30.970 spoiled brat, well then, you just lost out on 00:06:30.970 --> 00:06:33.430 something that you'll never ever get again. So 00:06:33.430 --> 00:06:36.449 keep this in mind. Again, I know this is a lot 00:06:36.449 --> 00:06:38.660 of stuff to think about, but... This is stuff 00:06:38.660 --> 00:06:41.939 we need to consider. 12. You think you deserve 00:06:41.939 --> 00:06:44.079 a better man. Focusing on what I said a minute 00:06:44.079 --> 00:06:47.300 ago, you think you're way better than your guy. 00:06:47.480 --> 00:06:50.319 This thought may have passed your mind quite 00:06:50.319 --> 00:06:52.480 a few times, even though you pushed the thought 00:06:52.480 --> 00:06:59.019 away. 13. You have more guy friends slash admirers. 00:07:00.100 --> 00:07:02.720 You think you're a fun girl, but most girls usually 00:07:02.720 --> 00:07:05.939 hate you and think you're a snob. Guys love your 00:07:05.939 --> 00:07:08.220 company, but girls usually excuse themselves 00:07:08.220 --> 00:07:10.980 from you in the middle of a conversation. Not 00:07:10.980 --> 00:07:14.199 that you care. Again, this is not exactly a good 00:07:14.199 --> 00:07:16.600 thing. Though it may feel good to you, it actually 00:07:16.600 --> 00:07:19.680 hurts everyone around you. Fourteen, you want 00:07:19.680 --> 00:07:23.819 everything to be perfect. And if it's not, you 00:07:23.819 --> 00:07:26.439 want your man to fix it for you. You do not depend 00:07:26.439 --> 00:07:28.339 on your man for everything, but you do expect 00:07:28.339 --> 00:07:30.899 him to treat you like a queen. I'm going to just 00:07:30.899 --> 00:07:32.339 go ahead and straight up say this right now. 00:07:34.189 --> 00:07:36.110 Being high maintenance isn't a bad thing. Number 00:07:36.110 --> 00:07:40.610 14, the you want everything perfect thing can 00:07:40.610 --> 00:07:45.589 actually be one of the biggest issues that high 00:07:45.589 --> 00:07:48.410 maintenance women can have. Because you don't 00:07:48.410 --> 00:07:52.089 depend on your man for almost anything, but you 00:07:52.089 --> 00:07:53.970 expect him to treat you like a queen and fix 00:07:53.970 --> 00:07:56.829 everything, this could end up putting you into 00:07:56.829 --> 00:07:58.949 a corner where nobody will want to be around 00:07:58.949 --> 00:08:02.490 you whatsoever. except the guys who consider 00:08:02.490 --> 00:08:06.649 you to be basically a slut. And I don't condone 00:08:06.649 --> 00:08:09.209 that, okay? You can be high maintenance, but 00:08:09.209 --> 00:08:11.069 know where the limit is and know where to cut 00:08:11.069 --> 00:08:13.629 it off before you end up in a situation where 00:08:13.629 --> 00:08:17.910 you're basically a damsel in distress, okay? 00:08:18.350 --> 00:08:21.370 And last but not least, number 15, you get embarrassed 00:08:21.370 --> 00:08:23.610 easily. You feel terribly embarrassed when your 00:08:23.610 --> 00:08:26.089 man doesn't behave or look presentable. You even 00:08:26.089 --> 00:08:28.970 try to ignore his presence and or avoid him. 00:08:29.550 --> 00:08:32.330 After all, his bad manners are an insult to your 00:08:32.330 --> 00:08:37.590 gorgeous presence. Okay? Let me put it this way. 00:08:39.809 --> 00:08:41.769 High maintenance women and the men they date. 00:08:41.889 --> 00:08:45.570 Well, many men fear the idea of dating a high 00:08:45.570 --> 00:08:47.409 maintenance woman. They desperately want to date 00:08:47.409 --> 00:08:49.470 her, but shrivel up at the mere thought of it 00:08:49.470 --> 00:08:53.710 because, you know, but then again, a high maintenance 00:08:53.710 --> 00:08:56.789 woman isn't for every man, is she? Okay? In general, 00:08:56.870 --> 00:08:58.570 a high maintenance woman may sound scary to most 00:08:58.570 --> 00:09:01.299 men, but, It's never bad for a woman to know 00:09:01.299 --> 00:09:04.240 what she wants in life. In many ways, high maintenance 00:09:04.240 --> 00:09:08.759 is subjective. What may seem like high maintenance 00:09:08.759 --> 00:09:10.960 to one man may seem like nothing to another who 00:09:10.960 --> 00:09:13.580 can cater to her needs. After all, if a man can 00:09:13.580 --> 00:09:15.679 afford your whims, he obviously won't call you 00:09:15.679 --> 00:09:18.039 a high maintenance woman. But even if you're 00:09:18.039 --> 00:09:20.200 a big spender with a rich taste in everything, 00:09:20.519 --> 00:09:33.480 okay? But know that there's a limit, okay? The 00:09:33.480 --> 00:09:36.879 perfect high maintenance woman isn't a gold digger. 00:09:37.179 --> 00:09:42.039 She doesn't date a man only for his wealth and 00:09:42.039 --> 00:09:45.200 what he can offer her. She just wants a man to 00:09:45.200 --> 00:09:48.279 provide for her the lifestyle that she always 00:09:48.279 --> 00:09:51.580 had. You've always had the money and spurs a 00:09:51.580 --> 00:09:54.360 lot on yourself. There's nothing wrong in expecting 00:09:54.360 --> 00:09:56.460 your man to pay for all your needs once he's 00:09:56.460 --> 00:09:59.080 started dating you. You're not being high maintenance 00:09:59.080 --> 00:10:01.299 by doing that. You're maintaining the standard 00:10:01.299 --> 00:10:05.649 you've always had. There's a difference. So that 00:10:05.649 --> 00:10:07.870 brings up this question. Do high -maintenance 00:10:07.870 --> 00:10:11.529 women get better men? Well, how do I answer this? 00:10:12.330 --> 00:10:14.809 It may be unfair to other women, but high -maintenance 00:10:14.809 --> 00:10:17.870 women do get better men almost all the time. 00:10:17.950 --> 00:10:20.090 They're extremely confident and almost always 00:10:20.090 --> 00:10:22.750 have a better life unless they're with the wrong 00:10:22.750 --> 00:10:26.809 man. Point in case. I think they have made some 00:10:26.809 --> 00:10:29.610 movies based off of this same thought, so there's 00:10:29.610 --> 00:10:32.840 something to consider. Men love a chase. Not 00:10:32.840 --> 00:10:35.340 all of them, but men do love a chase. If you're 00:10:35.340 --> 00:10:38.779 a high maintenance and believe you're the best 00:10:38.779 --> 00:10:42.059 girl every man would be awed by your confidence 00:10:42.059 --> 00:10:44.460 and would try to woo you and win your fancy, 00:10:44.639 --> 00:10:46.740 well, being high maintenance is actually the 00:10:46.740 --> 00:10:51.259 best way to get yourself a very worthy man. Again, 00:10:51.399 --> 00:10:53.899 that depends on the person. Average men may call 00:10:53.899 --> 00:10:57.139 it a burden. Everyone call it... evolution. If 00:10:57.139 --> 00:10:59.360 a perfect guy could get any girl in the world, 00:10:59.519 --> 00:11:01.679 wouldn't he go for the sexiest and nicest girl 00:11:01.679 --> 00:11:05.080 in the world? I mean, if you believe you're the 00:11:05.080 --> 00:11:08.620 perfect girl, is it wrong to want the perfect 00:11:08.620 --> 00:11:12.879 guy too? And to be honest, it's not. Betty Cooper 00:11:12.879 --> 00:11:15.600 is low maintenance. She's the one who has to 00:11:15.600 --> 00:11:18.840 run behind guys. Veronica Lodge, on the other 00:11:18.840 --> 00:11:21.259 hand, is high maintenance. And Scarlett O 'Hara 00:11:21.259 --> 00:11:24.340 from Gone With The Wind is definitely high maintenance 00:11:24.340 --> 00:11:27.220 too. And these women have always had the pick 00:11:27.220 --> 00:11:30.120 of the finest men. High maintenance is respected 00:11:30.120 --> 00:11:32.759 and odd, but not all women can be her. Keep this 00:11:32.759 --> 00:11:39.960 in mind. And not all men can be with her. Knowing 00:11:39.960 --> 00:11:42.279 how to be high maintenance without overdoing 00:11:42.279 --> 00:11:47.159 it is definitely a key. Like I mentioned before, 00:11:47.360 --> 00:11:49.659 there are ways to keep guys interested in you. 00:11:50.879 --> 00:11:52.799 I'm not exactly going to cover those because 00:11:52.799 --> 00:11:56.120 there are about 30 possible known ways that you 00:11:56.120 --> 00:12:00.700 can do this. Again, if you want to know what 00:12:00.700 --> 00:12:03.899 those are here on Anchor, just hit the call button. 00:12:04.139 --> 00:12:07.080 Let me know. And I will definitely add this segment 00:12:07.080 --> 00:12:12.460 to this podcast. OK, so basically wrap this part 00:12:12.460 --> 00:12:16.200 here up is who are you? Are you a high maintenance 00:12:16.200 --> 00:12:18.879 woman who makes her man put up with her? Or an 00:12:18.879 --> 00:12:20.840 accommodating woman who puts up with her man? 00:12:21.039 --> 00:12:24.240 In this case, there is no clear winner here. 00:12:24.379 --> 00:12:29.419 Just a very thin red line. Know which one you 00:12:29.419 --> 00:12:31.919 are. Because you don't want to be on the bottom 00:12:31.919 --> 00:12:34.940 half. But at the same time, you don't want to 00:12:34.940 --> 00:12:38.159 be on the high end where no guy can reach you 00:12:38.159 --> 00:12:41.320 whatsoever. This is actually unfortunate for 00:12:41.320 --> 00:12:44.580 a lot of guys. You know, it makes you basically 00:12:44.580 --> 00:12:51.100 unreachable. Okay? Well, that's it for that piece. 00:12:51.919 --> 00:12:56.480 We're going to go ahead and move on to how men 00:12:56.480 --> 00:13:01.399 fall in love, the seven stages of it. We're going 00:13:01.399 --> 00:13:04.480 to take a short break right quick, and then we'll 00:13:04.480 --> 00:13:06.940 move on to this in my next episode for the podcast.