WEBVTT 00:00:12.039 --> 00:00:15.019 guys welcome back to this station food for thought 00:00:15.019 --> 00:00:17.820 with neogentrics the time is currently 8 .04 00:00:17.820 --> 00:00:20.899 pm where i'm at and the temperature outside is 00:00:20.899 --> 00:00:27.460 25 degrees yes we're still on the relationship 00:00:27.460 --> 00:00:30.079 topic for the women's side and next i'm going 00:00:30.079 --> 00:00:34.439 to cover the how many how men fall in love the 00:00:34.439 --> 00:00:39.060 seven stages okay while it may not seem like 00:00:39.060 --> 00:00:41.840 it may apply to you keep in mind that again these 00:00:41.840 --> 00:00:44.280 tips are here to help you and how you choose 00:00:44.280 --> 00:00:46.799 to use them and what you do with them is up to 00:00:46.799 --> 00:00:49.340 you I'm just presenting them to you so you can 00:00:49.340 --> 00:00:52.020 have something to think about okay speaking of 00:00:52.020 --> 00:00:56.600 which stage one appreciation okay this is all 00:00:56.600 --> 00:00:58.740 about physical appearance and instant attraction 00:00:58.740 --> 00:01:02.299 now this should clear the doubts out for women 00:01:02.299 --> 00:01:05.879 stuff okay Men are rather shallow when it comes 00:01:05.879 --> 00:01:08.599 to getting attracted at first sight. While women 00:01:08.599 --> 00:01:11.379 may fall in love in the first conversation, men 00:01:11.379 --> 00:01:14.519 are attracted to a woman only for her physical 00:01:14.519 --> 00:01:18.200 aspects and, well, nothing else. Physical appearance 00:01:18.200 --> 00:01:21.439 is paramount for men, but it may not necessarily 00:01:21.439 --> 00:01:26.159 be the entire package. Each guy has their own 00:01:26.159 --> 00:01:28.760 preferences in what he likes about a woman, be 00:01:28.760 --> 00:01:31.939 it her face, her legs, her smile, even her size 00:01:31.939 --> 00:01:37.450 or her... the way she carries herself. Some of 00:01:37.450 --> 00:01:41.209 them, it's just the way she talks. It could even 00:01:41.209 --> 00:01:43.489 be the way she runs her hands through her hair. 00:01:43.629 --> 00:01:46.709 I mean, each one's a little bit different. A 00:01:46.709 --> 00:01:49.790 guy may not even know what it is about a girl 00:01:49.790 --> 00:01:51.829 he likes, but if he finds something attractive 00:01:51.829 --> 00:01:54.329 in her, he may experience the appreciation stage 00:01:54.329 --> 00:01:59.469 early on. As I sign out, while I will move on 00:01:59.469 --> 00:02:01.269 to stage two in a second, I'm going to just go 00:02:01.269 --> 00:02:03.450 ahead and quickly go over some stuff that guys 00:02:03.450 --> 00:02:07.150 find most attractive about women in this first 00:02:07.150 --> 00:02:11.789 piece here. Okay? So, what do guys like about 00:02:11.789 --> 00:02:14.229 women more than anything else? And, well, there 00:02:14.229 --> 00:02:18.530 was a poll that did summarize this. And you may 00:02:18.530 --> 00:02:21.150 or may not like this. But I'm just going to go 00:02:21.150 --> 00:02:24.479 ahead and list it again. When we did when the 00:02:24.479 --> 00:02:26.300 poll was done and I'm getting this information 00:02:26.300 --> 00:02:30.300 from a friend of mine she lent it to me Out of 00:02:30.300 --> 00:02:34.159 a lot of guys the most areas that most guys tend 00:02:34.159 --> 00:02:37.960 to pay attention to Or at least on the poll 20 00:02:37.960 --> 00:02:42.240 % of them did was the butt and 22 % was the chest 00:02:42.240 --> 00:02:46.139 Not really too surprising, but I did find this 00:02:46.139 --> 00:02:49.139 interesting that 19 % of them found the girls 00:02:49.139 --> 00:02:53.349 legs attractive Whereas, if I'm not mistaken 00:02:53.349 --> 00:02:58.490 here, I do believe about 7 % of them found both 00:02:58.490 --> 00:03:03.110 the eyes, the ears, and the nose attractive, 00:03:03.310 --> 00:03:06.389 while 11 % found their hair attractive. Okay? 00:03:06.870 --> 00:03:09.509 Just thought I'd go ahead and let you know. Now, 00:03:09.569 --> 00:03:11.469 these preferences may reflect what guys notice 00:03:11.469 --> 00:03:13.750 in girls all the time, but what about on a date? 00:03:13.830 --> 00:03:16.030 What do guys notice the most, and what do girls 00:03:16.030 --> 00:03:19.599 notice? and overlook in a guy. These facts here 00:03:19.599 --> 00:03:22.819 are things that you want to make sure you make 00:03:22.819 --> 00:03:27.379 note of. So, keeping in tune with what I was 00:03:27.379 --> 00:03:32.680 saying before, do you think... Actually, how 00:03:32.680 --> 00:03:36.319 do I ask this? So, what do you think guys like 00:03:36.319 --> 00:03:38.060 in a girl, really? This is the question that 00:03:38.060 --> 00:03:42.020 I want women to ask, okay? Do you really think... 00:03:42.400 --> 00:03:44.419 do you think that they reflect your preference 00:03:44.419 --> 00:03:46.599 or do you believe some guys are just wrong in 00:03:46.599 --> 00:03:50.020 the head i mean but all said and done the whole 00:03:50.020 --> 00:03:52.759 does reflect the preference of most men and well 00:03:52.759 --> 00:03:54.860 you'll just have to live with that unfortunately 00:03:54.860 --> 00:04:00.099 but ears and those two guys seriously you know 00:04:00.099 --> 00:04:02.879 working most women are confused because y 'all 00:04:02.879 --> 00:04:05.439 just you just added those for the fun of it you 00:04:05.439 --> 00:04:07.879 don't really care too much for it but perhaps 00:04:07.879 --> 00:04:11.300 a few people do love ears and some of them others 00:04:11.300 --> 00:04:15.180 some others than some more than others have a 00:04:15.180 --> 00:04:17.000 sense of humor too when it comes to figuring 00:04:17.000 --> 00:04:19.199 out what men find attractive in women as well 00:04:19.199 --> 00:04:22.519 so i mean rounding it all up though what do guys 00:04:22.519 --> 00:04:25.500 like in the girl physically well as i mentioned 00:04:25.500 --> 00:04:27.839 before the poll does kind of reveal that and 00:04:27.839 --> 00:04:32.139 it is rather obvious all three are just as close 00:04:32.139 --> 00:04:35.939 to the name as a clear winner but men Just in 00:04:35.939 --> 00:04:40.779 general love breasts butt and legs, okay? It's 00:04:40.779 --> 00:04:44.079 How do I put it so clearly what do guys like 00:04:44.079 --> 00:04:46.480 in the girls appearance perhaps? It's to each 00:04:46.480 --> 00:04:49.500 his own or perhaps No one really knows what men 00:04:49.500 --> 00:04:51.620 find attractive in women or just maybe girls 00:04:51.620 --> 00:04:55.560 are just so cute as a bottom That guys just like 00:04:55.560 --> 00:04:58.220 everything in a girl you never really know until 00:04:58.220 --> 00:05:16.660 you well get to know the guy you're with This 00:05:16.660 --> 00:05:20.879 brings us to stage two, infatuation. Men appreciate 00:05:20.879 --> 00:05:24.139 a lot of women on a daily basis. However, they 00:05:24.139 --> 00:05:26.399 try to steal second glances or get a girl's attention 00:05:26.399 --> 00:05:29.860 all the time. This isn't uncommon, but it's not 00:05:29.860 --> 00:05:34.220 always as successful either. Either because he's 00:05:34.220 --> 00:05:36.139 not trying hard enough or because the girl's 00:05:36.139 --> 00:05:39.680 just not interested in him. The infatuation stage 00:05:39.680 --> 00:05:42.060 of how men fall in love is also the wooing stage 00:05:42.060 --> 00:05:45.079 of love for men in the dating game, as far as 00:05:45.079 --> 00:05:47.379 they're concerned. A man may appreciate a lot 00:05:47.379 --> 00:05:49.360 of women, but he doesn't really get infatuated 00:05:49.360 --> 00:05:55.040 by all of them. If he appreciates a woman and 00:05:55.040 --> 00:05:59.579 is interested in wooing her or pursuing her, 00:05:59.920 --> 00:06:03.199 he enters into the infatuation phase. A man may 00:06:03.199 --> 00:06:06.160 pursue a woman in various ways, but if she doesn't 00:06:06.160 --> 00:06:08.519 accept his advances, he usually forgets this 00:06:08.519 --> 00:06:12.920 girl as just another attractive girl he'll try 00:06:12.920 --> 00:06:15.939 to go after her instead. It's easier for a man 00:06:15.939 --> 00:06:19.439 to like a girl one day and forget he ever liked 00:06:19.439 --> 00:06:24.220 her the next because he has so many stages to 00:06:24.220 --> 00:06:26.379 deal with before he even makes up his mind as 00:06:26.379 --> 00:06:29.569 to whether or not he He's going to fall in love 00:06:29.569 --> 00:06:32.290 with her or the next one that walks in front 00:06:32.290 --> 00:06:35.509 of him. This is definitely true for a lot of 00:06:35.509 --> 00:06:39.009 men, and it can't be bypassed, as this stage 00:06:39.009 --> 00:06:41.310 is necessary to move on to stage three, which 00:06:41.310 --> 00:06:46.430 is attraction. If an attractive girl reciprocates 00:06:46.430 --> 00:06:49.490 a guy's advances, he enters into the attraction 00:06:49.490 --> 00:06:52.930 stage of love. Until this stage, a guy can walk 00:06:52.930 --> 00:06:56.110 away from any girl without any pain or heartbreak, 00:06:56.170 --> 00:06:58.600 even if the girl rejects him. he's not really 00:06:58.600 --> 00:07:01.199 trying too hard and he's not really falling in 00:07:01.199 --> 00:07:03.860 love to uh to care about a rejection when he's 00:07:03.860 --> 00:07:07.360 trying to get lucky but if a girl does show the 00:07:07.360 --> 00:07:09.399 slightest sign of reciprocation or interest in 00:07:09.399 --> 00:07:12.100 the guy or even if he assumes she's into him 00:07:12.100 --> 00:07:15.199 the guy digs deep into this stage and then the 00:07:15.199 --> 00:07:18.420 attraction stage begins in this stage he decides 00:07:18.420 --> 00:07:24.040 to pursue the girl and make her like him um while 00:07:24.040 --> 00:07:27.040 this is not that big of an issue for most guys 00:07:27.040 --> 00:07:30.370 it does cause a lot of complications later on 00:07:30.370 --> 00:07:32.970 should he actually find out that she doesn't 00:07:32.970 --> 00:07:35.189 actually like him in which this case it does 00:07:35.189 --> 00:07:43.730 end up hurting him okay moving on this brings 00:07:43.730 --> 00:07:47.730 us to stage four okay this is impression understanding 00:07:47.730 --> 00:07:50.649 how men fall in love is complicated stuff but 00:07:50.649 --> 00:07:53.310 quite frankly he's nowhere close to falling in 00:07:53.310 --> 00:07:56.180 love right now even in this stage okay all he 00:07:56.180 --> 00:08:01.000 wants to do is make the girl like him so in men's 00:08:01.000 --> 00:08:04.160 terms he's basically showing off his mating potential 00:08:04.160 --> 00:08:08.560 to her um he plans dates and splurges on gifts 00:08:08.560 --> 00:08:12.680 to please her um sorry to please the woman he's 00:08:12.680 --> 00:08:15.079 definitely not in love but he does want something 00:08:15.079 --> 00:08:16.920 good to come out of this stage of impressions 00:08:16.920 --> 00:08:21.660 which is what most guys hope for Okay, which 00:08:21.660 --> 00:08:25.579 brings us to stage 5 if stage 4 succeeds. If 00:08:25.579 --> 00:08:27.899 a guy successfully breezing through the different 00:08:27.899 --> 00:08:31.860 stages of love, he'd start to wonder if there's 00:08:31.860 --> 00:08:34.639 something more in the air. But instead of falling 00:08:34.639 --> 00:08:36.779 in love with the girl, all he's worried about 00:08:36.779 --> 00:08:39.500 is how to convince the girl to fall in love with 00:08:39.500 --> 00:08:43.659 him. Okay? He would really like the girl in this 00:08:43.659 --> 00:08:47.259 stage and would definitely want to go out with 00:08:47.259 --> 00:08:49.740 her. but the uncertainty would still confuse 00:08:49.740 --> 00:08:52.700 him and he would not be at ease until he's certain 00:08:52.700 --> 00:08:56.879 the girl actually likes him okay this stage is 00:08:56.879 --> 00:08:59.179 especially prominent when a guy falls in love 00:08:59.179 --> 00:09:03.100 with a friend keep in mind that this can also 00:09:03.100 --> 00:09:06.779 cause problems he can't really try to impress 00:09:06.779 --> 00:09:09.720 her by buying gifts or taking her out on dates 00:09:09.720 --> 00:09:12.620 but yet he wouldn't be able to stop pondering 00:09:12.620 --> 00:09:15.019 over how to convince the girl to go out with 00:09:15.019 --> 00:09:18.139 him okay in this stage all the guy cares about 00:09:18.139 --> 00:09:21.899 is how to get the girl to like him um which again 00:09:21.899 --> 00:09:25.460 like i said can be a bit of a drag but it's usually 00:09:25.460 --> 00:09:30.399 pretty good um here being a guy as myself this 00:09:30.399 --> 00:09:35.580 is actually very hard um for a guy as far as 00:09:35.580 --> 00:09:38.259 trying to find out if she really does care for 00:09:38.259 --> 00:09:42.639 him in return okay most women they play along 00:09:42.639 --> 00:09:45.149 with this game only to end up hurting the guy 00:09:45.149 --> 00:09:48.230 in the end and but then at that point when they 00:09:48.230 --> 00:09:49.750 realize that they actually do have feelings for 00:09:49.750 --> 00:09:51.830 the guy they do like him it's already too late 00:09:51.830 --> 00:09:56.529 they basically just scared him away okay try 00:09:56.529 --> 00:09:59.070 not to do this which then brings us to stage 00:09:59.070 --> 00:10:04.690 six reaffirmation uh sorry let me say that again 00:10:04.690 --> 00:10:08.929 re -affirmation if he's able to convince the 00:10:08.929 --> 00:10:11.029 girl and make her fall in love with him he's 00:10:11.029 --> 00:10:14.210 a happy man okay He likes where the dating game 00:10:14.210 --> 00:10:17.490 is heading, but until now, in his pursuit of 00:10:17.490 --> 00:10:21.789 getting the girl to like him, he has not asked 00:10:21.789 --> 00:10:24.149 himself if he really likes the girl or whether 00:10:24.149 --> 00:10:26.909 he actually wants to go out with her. Until this 00:10:26.909 --> 00:10:30.690 stage of love, getting the girl to like him was 00:10:30.690 --> 00:10:34.210 a goal he's been focused on. Once the girl is 00:10:34.210 --> 00:10:37.029 in love with him, only then does the guy seriously 00:10:37.029 --> 00:10:40.389 start to consider if he wants to have a relationship 00:10:40.389 --> 00:10:43.870 with the girl who now loves him. It's a selfish 00:10:43.870 --> 00:10:48.649 move, but it's something evolution has taught 00:10:48.649 --> 00:10:51.990 all male species, or rather our Father in Heaven, 00:10:52.129 --> 00:10:55.429 for those who believe in the Bible. Don't waste 00:10:55.429 --> 00:10:58.590 time thinking. Spend your time searching for 00:10:58.590 --> 00:11:02.490 more places to bust a nut. Apparently that's 00:11:02.490 --> 00:11:07.409 what most guys consider to be the most prominent 00:11:07.409 --> 00:11:09.710 thing to do, and that's what evolution has taught 00:11:09.710 --> 00:11:12.080 them. However, that's not what the Bible has 00:11:12.080 --> 00:11:15.399 taught most people to do in the past. But again, 00:11:15.460 --> 00:11:18.539 this is not a religious station and I will not 00:11:18.539 --> 00:11:22.480 be going into that unless asked. So I'm going 00:11:22.480 --> 00:11:25.440 to go ahead and move on. Now that the girl is 00:11:25.440 --> 00:11:27.940 in love with him, he takes a couple of days to 00:11:27.940 --> 00:11:29.840 sit back and weigh the pros and cons of being 00:11:29.840 --> 00:11:31.980 in the relationship with that girl. You know, 00:11:32.000 --> 00:11:34.000 does he really love the girl too? And will he 00:11:34.000 --> 00:11:36.399 be happy with her? Is she the woman he wants 00:11:36.399 --> 00:11:40.720 and needs? This is key because If you don't fall 00:11:40.720 --> 00:11:43.440 into any of these categories after you've already 00:11:43.440 --> 00:11:46.940 fallen in love with the guy, unfortunately your 00:11:46.940 --> 00:11:49.019 chances of having a relationship with him will 00:11:49.019 --> 00:11:52.259 start to slim, or rather dim down to the point 00:11:52.259 --> 00:11:55.879 where it's possibly not possible at all. So, 00:11:56.039 --> 00:11:58.200 moving on.