final stage stage seven he's ready to love at
this point okay if a man if a man's convinced
that he truly likes the girl and wants to be
with her he enters the final stage of love where
he's ready to fall in love with the girl on the
other hand if he's not really convinced that
the girl is the right name for him he may start
avoiding her or losing interest in pleasing her
because of his confusion Ever dated a really
great guy who started to behave like a jerk after
a couple of weeks into love? Well, now you basically
know what happened and why it turned out the
way it did. It wasn't necessarily your fault.
It's probably more so the decision that he finally
came to after reaching this stage. However, you
can turn the game in your favor. How men fall
in love with a woman is annoying. And it is more
annoying to know that a man... that men have
to actually make women fall in love with them
before they even think about going out with you.
However, that's the way men fall in love and
they really have no choice about it. But if you
really want to beat the guy at his own game,
don't make it obvious that you really like him
at the first instant. Keep it simple and play
hard to get for a while. It may make him work
harder to win your love. and when he does finally
win you over he'll never ever want to lose you
leave you because you're such a tough catch to
get or let go okay well how do i put this you
may know you may now know how men fall in love
with women and even the seven stages of love
for men but if you want to win his heart over
and make him want you always remember to make
him work for your affection don't just you know
give it away like most people do that's definitely
not the way you want to go about it Okay? How
do I put this? Oh yeah, something else I wanted
to cover. And I'm going to go ahead and start
it right now. 10 reasons why saying I love you
too soon can actually hurt your relationship
and not be healthy for you. Okay? When you're
falling in love with someone, it's hard to hold
yourself back from taking the plunge. And if
you're smitten by someone you're dating, chances
are you're really enthusiastic about saying I
love you and taking the next step. But how soon
is too soon? You need to ask this question. You
know, when is the right time to say that? Or
why is it better to wait instead of blurting
it right out when you feel it? You know, it's...
How do I put it? Love takes time. You may be
madly infatuated with someone you've met on a
date once, or you may think that you're in love
after your first kiss, but it's not really love
at all. It's just the first stage of several
stages of that mushy thing called love. And like
I mentioned in the last bit, how guys fall in
love, it takes a while. So, let's go into 10
reasons why... It's not such a good idea to just
rush into it. Okay one The guessing game is over.
Okay, the excitement of playing hard to get with
each other Is what makes falling in love so much
fun both of you like each other a lot and can
stop touching each other and feel so good inside
each Every time both of you meet you're not in
a relationship yet, but both of you are falling
hard for each other already If you say, I love
you too soon, the excitement of wondering what's
on each other's mind would end overnight. And
it's not a bad thing, but a long courting almost
always gives a better chance for a relationship
because both of you waited so long before taking
the plunge and actually making it obvious. Okay?
Two, are you an excessive... obsessive lover
okay but some people are obsessive lovers they
jump into a new relationship with someone as
soon as one rush ends because they can't stay
single they love being in love and need love
to feel complete these kinds of lovers end up
saying I love you with even without realizing
whether they're really in love with their date
or not and as you meet and as you Meet your date
often over time instead of trying to build the
love you may spend many of your days trying to
convince yourself that you've actually met the
one Which will then in turn actually hurt you
when you realize he's not the one that you want
Okay, move it on to three, okay When there's
no reciprocation, if you say I love you and your
date doesn't respond with the same sentence,
it makes the whole relationship go backwards.
It'll leave one of you confused and the other
one angry, and that builds insecurities and fills
the air with a lot of awkwardness. Unless you're
completely smitten by this person you're dating
and don't care whether they love you back or
not, avoid saying it too soon or at all. Which
brings us to number four, a big misunderstanding.
If you say something as serious as I love you
very early into the relationship, your date may
think you're not really in love with them but
are just saying it to please them. That's really
the worst thing because your three magical words
have just lost all meaning to your date and will
never again be usable. However, number five,
how well do you know each other? You need to
consider this as well before even even considering
those three words. People get infatuated by each
other at first sight. They don't fall in love.
If you really need to love someone, you need
to love them for who they are. So what do you
know about your date? You need to ask this question.
Do you know about their exes, how many relationships
they've been in, about their likes and dislikes,
and the kind of person they are? Always make
sure you actually like the person you're dating
for their personality before professing your
love to them. with that being said bringing up
the topic of his exes in previous relationships
this brings us to number six are you insecure
ask yourself this question sincerely okay are
you saying i love you to this special person
just to cover up your insecurities some smitten
lovers say those words just to beat any competition
out of the way or arm twists the one they're
dating so they can feel more secure about the
relationship or push away anyone else who's threatening
that relationship if you have to profess your
love to do it for the right reasons. You know,
don't do it for these other reasons, because
all you're going to end up doing is not only
hurting yourself in the long run by end up pushing
him away or her away unintentionally, but you're
actually going to push away people who might
actually be helpful to you in keeping him or
her with you. Which brings us to number seven,
stuck in love. If you're one of, if you are,
how do I put this? If one of you says I love
you too soon and the other person accepts and
responds with the same line without really thinking,
one or both of you feel stuck in the relationship
because it all happened way too fast. If you
say it too soon, your lover may even get angry
with you if they jumped in too fast and reciprocate
it by saying that they love you too. And instead
of focusing on love, your partner may have to
spend all their time wondering if they really
need to be in a serious relationship with you.
Consider this. Would you actually like that?
You know, if that's not the case, you know, that
brings us to number eight. Pressure doesn't always
work, okay? Once you've said it, the secret's
out in the open for you and your date to see,
and you can't take your words back again. What
if your date is just a casual relationship with
you and doesn't want anything serious just yet?
They may really love you, but they may still
be unsure about doing anything about it. And
remember, there's no going back once you say
it. So if your date's uncertain about the future
of the romance, saying I love you will force
them to think about it. And the extra pressure
on deciding immediately may just force your date
into turning you down or walking away. And if
they're not ready to be held down in a serious
relationship whatsoever. You know, and at the
same time, this brings us to nine. Prove your
love. If you really want to say I love you and
hear it back from your date, then learn to play
it safe. Instead of saying I love you, prove
your love through your actions. Don't say how
much you love your date, but show it through
your romantic gestures. If your date loves you,
they'll reciprocate with happiness. But if they
aren't looking for something serious, they'd
seem uncomfortable with your affection, which
will then show whether or not they care for you.
On that note, that brings us to the final point,
number 10. Watch their response to your love.
Okay, you'll know if your date loves you back
if they go out of their way to do something for
you, too. After you smother your date with love
and romance, wait and watch their response. If
your date really loves you, they start indulging
in little romantic gestures like buying gifts
or going out of their way to do something nice
for you. I've experienced this firsthand, whereas
I've also been kicked to the curb a bunch of
times as a result of this, so I can honestly
say that this works. However, if that happens,
yeah, your date loves you. On the other hand,
if your date doesn't respond in kind, perhaps
they just need more time to fall madly in love
with you. Please consider this as you move forward.
All right. With that being said, I'm going to
go ahead and finish it up with this tonight here.
When is the best time to say I love you? And,
you know, this is something that you have to
actually stop and consider. You know, express
your love when you believe you're truly in love,
okay? But at the same time, be certain that your
date is ready to hear it. A good rule of thumb
here would be both of you should have spent at
least a month seriously dating each other each
and must have at least met each other on at least
five real romantic dates. To some, I mean, to
summarize that in a nutshell, you know, you have
to at least, I want to say, been together at
least a month to two months, actually going out
with each other and trying to make the relationship
work seriously before ever deciding whether or
not you can stay or even considering the thought
of saying I love you. For some people, it has
to be six months. Some has to be a year. But,
you know, whatever works. and the only way you
will know this is by actually getting to know
your partner okay well to some this may seem
like it's all way too fast you know others it
may seem like a lot of waiting okay but a month
into dating each other is a perfect time to express
your love for this special someone whoever it
is whether it be a guy or woman even though i
am doing the women's side right now the infatuation
would have peaked and led to something a lot
more beautiful and big chances are It could just
be love, but you won't know until you actually
wait it out. You know, the waiting game. If you
wait too long, keep this in mind, your new date
may get bored or wonder if the relationship's
even going anywhere. And if you say it too soon,
you may ruin your relationship because of all
the added pressure and confusion. So yes, while
it is a waiting game, you need to know where
the stop and go are. Kind of like driving. You
don't want to drive too soon as soon as the light
has turned green because you could be hit. But
you don't want to drive too late as you could
make everyone else behind you upset. If you want
the experience to seem like a fairytale romance,
take your time while saying I love you and read
the signs. Keep an eye on the budding relationship
and take the plunge when you feel like love's
all around in the air. Well, that concludes this
segment of thoughts if it were you relationships
on the women's side. I really don't have anything
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