WEBVTT 00:00:05.799 --> 00:00:10.960 final stage stage seven he's ready to love at 00:00:10.960 --> 00:00:13.519 this point okay if a man if a man's convinced 00:00:13.519 --> 00:00:16.280 that he truly likes the girl and wants to be 00:00:16.280 --> 00:00:18.420 with her he enters the final stage of love where 00:00:18.420 --> 00:00:20.660 he's ready to fall in love with the girl on the 00:00:20.660 --> 00:00:22.460 other hand if he's not really convinced that 00:00:22.460 --> 00:00:24.359 the girl is the right name for him he may start 00:00:24.359 --> 00:00:26.679 avoiding her or losing interest in pleasing her 00:00:26.679 --> 00:00:31.329 because of his confusion Ever dated a really 00:00:31.329 --> 00:00:33.729 great guy who started to behave like a jerk after 00:00:33.729 --> 00:00:37.170 a couple of weeks into love? Well, now you basically 00:00:37.170 --> 00:00:40.210 know what happened and why it turned out the 00:00:40.210 --> 00:00:42.469 way it did. It wasn't necessarily your fault. 00:00:42.869 --> 00:00:45.149 It's probably more so the decision that he finally 00:00:45.149 --> 00:00:49.689 came to after reaching this stage. However, you 00:00:49.689 --> 00:00:53.350 can turn the game in your favor. How men fall 00:00:53.350 --> 00:00:55.909 in love with a woman is annoying. And it is more 00:00:55.909 --> 00:00:59.340 annoying to know that a man... that men have 00:00:59.340 --> 00:01:01.679 to actually make women fall in love with them 00:01:01.679 --> 00:01:03.560 before they even think about going out with you. 00:01:03.640 --> 00:01:07.939 However, that's the way men fall in love and 00:01:07.939 --> 00:01:11.959 they really have no choice about it. But if you 00:01:11.959 --> 00:01:13.840 really want to beat the guy at his own game, 00:01:14.180 --> 00:01:16.659 don't make it obvious that you really like him 00:01:16.659 --> 00:01:18.700 at the first instant. Keep it simple and play 00:01:18.700 --> 00:01:22.060 hard to get for a while. It may make him work 00:01:22.060 --> 00:01:24.810 harder to win your love. and when he does finally 00:01:24.810 --> 00:01:27.370 win you over he'll never ever want to lose you 00:01:27.370 --> 00:01:29.609 leave you because you're such a tough catch to 00:01:29.609 --> 00:01:34.450 get or let go okay well how do i put this you 00:01:34.450 --> 00:01:37.170 may know you may now know how men fall in love 00:01:37.170 --> 00:01:39.689 with women and even the seven stages of love 00:01:39.689 --> 00:01:42.250 for men but if you want to win his heart over 00:01:42.250 --> 00:01:45.769 and make him want you always remember to make 00:01:45.769 --> 00:01:47.909 him work for your affection don't just you know 00:01:47.909 --> 00:01:51.489 give it away like most people do that's definitely 00:01:51.489 --> 00:01:56.170 not the way you want to go about it Okay? How 00:01:56.170 --> 00:02:01.829 do I put this? Oh yeah, something else I wanted 00:02:01.829 --> 00:02:03.469 to cover. And I'm going to go ahead and start 00:02:03.469 --> 00:02:15.030 it right now. 10 reasons why saying I love you 00:02:15.030 --> 00:02:19.069 too soon can actually hurt your relationship 00:02:19.069 --> 00:02:22.819 and not be healthy for you. Okay? When you're 00:02:22.819 --> 00:02:24.360 falling in love with someone, it's hard to hold 00:02:24.360 --> 00:02:26.340 yourself back from taking the plunge. And if 00:02:26.340 --> 00:02:28.280 you're smitten by someone you're dating, chances 00:02:28.280 --> 00:02:31.599 are you're really enthusiastic about saying I 00:02:31.599 --> 00:02:35.300 love you and taking the next step. But how soon 00:02:35.300 --> 00:02:39.000 is too soon? You need to ask this question. You 00:02:39.000 --> 00:02:41.199 know, when is the right time to say that? Or 00:02:41.199 --> 00:02:43.620 why is it better to wait instead of blurting 00:02:43.620 --> 00:02:45.719 it right out when you feel it? You know, it's... 00:02:45.719 --> 00:02:49.810 How do I put it? Love takes time. You may be 00:02:49.810 --> 00:02:52.189 madly infatuated with someone you've met on a 00:02:52.189 --> 00:02:55.449 date once, or you may think that you're in love 00:02:55.449 --> 00:02:58.169 after your first kiss, but it's not really love 00:02:58.169 --> 00:03:00.310 at all. It's just the first stage of several 00:03:00.310 --> 00:03:04.750 stages of that mushy thing called love. And like 00:03:04.750 --> 00:03:07.229 I mentioned in the last bit, how guys fall in 00:03:07.229 --> 00:03:14.050 love, it takes a while. So, let's go into 10 00:03:14.050 --> 00:03:17.930 reasons why... It's not such a good idea to just 00:03:17.930 --> 00:03:22.050 rush into it. Okay one The guessing game is over. 00:03:22.509 --> 00:03:25.870 Okay, the excitement of playing hard to get with 00:03:25.870 --> 00:03:28.770 each other Is what makes falling in love so much 00:03:28.770 --> 00:03:31.210 fun both of you like each other a lot and can 00:03:31.210 --> 00:03:33.710 stop touching each other and feel so good inside 00:03:33.710 --> 00:03:37.770 each Every time both of you meet you're not in 00:03:37.770 --> 00:03:39.750 a relationship yet, but both of you are falling 00:03:39.750 --> 00:03:42.509 hard for each other already If you say, I love 00:03:42.509 --> 00:03:44.469 you too soon, the excitement of wondering what's 00:03:44.469 --> 00:03:47.550 on each other's mind would end overnight. And 00:03:47.550 --> 00:03:51.169 it's not a bad thing, but a long courting almost 00:03:51.169 --> 00:03:53.629 always gives a better chance for a relationship 00:03:53.629 --> 00:03:59.050 because both of you waited so long before taking 00:03:59.050 --> 00:04:01.990 the plunge and actually making it obvious. Okay? 00:04:02.849 --> 00:04:05.780 Two, are you an excessive... obsessive lover 00:04:05.780 --> 00:04:08.520 okay but some people are obsessive lovers they 00:04:08.520 --> 00:04:10.539 jump into a new relationship with someone as 00:04:10.539 --> 00:04:13.199 soon as one rush ends because they can't stay 00:04:13.199 --> 00:04:16.120 single they love being in love and need love 00:04:16.120 --> 00:04:18.879 to feel complete these kinds of lovers end up 00:04:18.879 --> 00:04:21.139 saying I love you with even without realizing 00:04:21.139 --> 00:04:24.379 whether they're really in love with their date 00:04:24.379 --> 00:04:29.920 or not and as you meet and as you Meet your date 00:04:29.920 --> 00:04:32.279 often over time instead of trying to build the 00:04:32.279 --> 00:04:34.439 love you may spend many of your days trying to 00:04:34.439 --> 00:04:36.779 convince yourself that you've actually met the 00:04:36.779 --> 00:04:40.540 one Which will then in turn actually hurt you 00:04:40.540 --> 00:04:43.120 when you realize he's not the one that you want 00:04:43.120 --> 00:04:57.930 Okay, move it on to three, okay When there's 00:04:57.930 --> 00:05:01.350 no reciprocation, if you say I love you and your 00:05:01.350 --> 00:05:03.069 date doesn't respond with the same sentence, 00:05:03.189 --> 00:05:04.930 it makes the whole relationship go backwards. 00:05:05.529 --> 00:05:08.089 It'll leave one of you confused and the other 00:05:08.089 --> 00:05:10.649 one angry, and that builds insecurities and fills 00:05:10.649 --> 00:05:13.050 the air with a lot of awkwardness. Unless you're 00:05:13.050 --> 00:05:15.149 completely smitten by this person you're dating 00:05:15.149 --> 00:05:17.310 and don't care whether they love you back or 00:05:17.310 --> 00:05:21.500 not, avoid saying it too soon or at all. Which 00:05:21.500 --> 00:05:23.339 brings us to number four, a big misunderstanding. 00:05:23.560 --> 00:05:25.740 If you say something as serious as I love you 00:05:25.740 --> 00:05:28.319 very early into the relationship, your date may 00:05:28.319 --> 00:05:30.480 think you're not really in love with them but 00:05:30.480 --> 00:05:33.399 are just saying it to please them. That's really 00:05:33.399 --> 00:05:36.120 the worst thing because your three magical words 00:05:36.120 --> 00:05:38.600 have just lost all meaning to your date and will 00:05:38.600 --> 00:05:42.199 never again be usable. However, number five, 00:05:42.360 --> 00:05:44.060 how well do you know each other? You need to 00:05:44.060 --> 00:05:46.699 consider this as well before even even considering 00:05:46.699 --> 00:05:50.540 those three words. People get infatuated by each 00:05:50.540 --> 00:05:53.019 other at first sight. They don't fall in love. 00:05:53.100 --> 00:05:55.899 If you really need to love someone, you need 00:05:55.899 --> 00:05:59.600 to love them for who they are. So what do you 00:05:59.600 --> 00:06:01.819 know about your date? You need to ask this question. 00:06:01.980 --> 00:06:04.939 Do you know about their exes, how many relationships 00:06:04.939 --> 00:06:07.839 they've been in, about their likes and dislikes, 00:06:07.879 --> 00:06:11.399 and the kind of person they are? Always make 00:06:11.399 --> 00:06:13.399 sure you actually like the person you're dating 00:06:13.399 --> 00:06:15.660 for their personality before professing your 00:06:15.660 --> 00:06:18.649 love to them. with that being said bringing up 00:06:18.649 --> 00:06:20.889 the topic of his exes in previous relationships 00:06:20.889 --> 00:06:24.029 this brings us to number six are you insecure 00:06:24.029 --> 00:06:27.269 ask yourself this question sincerely okay are 00:06:27.269 --> 00:06:29.250 you saying i love you to this special person 00:06:29.250 --> 00:06:32.290 just to cover up your insecurities some smitten 00:06:32.290 --> 00:06:34.670 lovers say those words just to beat any competition 00:06:34.670 --> 00:06:37.509 out of the way or arm twists the one they're 00:06:37.509 --> 00:06:39.329 dating so they can feel more secure about the 00:06:39.329 --> 00:06:42.550 relationship or push away anyone else who's threatening 00:06:42.550 --> 00:06:45.610 that relationship if you have to profess your 00:06:45.610 --> 00:06:49.029 love to do it for the right reasons. You know, 00:06:49.069 --> 00:06:51.850 don't do it for these other reasons, because 00:06:51.850 --> 00:06:53.029 all you're going to end up doing is not only 00:06:53.029 --> 00:06:55.990 hurting yourself in the long run by end up pushing 00:06:55.990 --> 00:06:59.370 him away or her away unintentionally, but you're 00:06:59.370 --> 00:07:00.810 actually going to push away people who might 00:07:00.810 --> 00:07:03.790 actually be helpful to you in keeping him or 00:07:03.790 --> 00:07:07.709 her with you. Which brings us to number seven, 00:07:07.930 --> 00:07:11.829 stuck in love. If you're one of, if you are, 00:07:12.029 --> 00:07:14.610 how do I put this? If one of you says I love 00:07:14.610 --> 00:07:16.850 you too soon and the other person accepts and 00:07:16.850 --> 00:07:19.230 responds with the same line without really thinking, 00:07:19.430 --> 00:07:22.069 one or both of you feel stuck in the relationship 00:07:22.069 --> 00:07:25.620 because it all happened way too fast. If you 00:07:25.620 --> 00:07:28.259 say it too soon, your lover may even get angry 00:07:28.259 --> 00:07:31.399 with you if they jumped in too fast and reciprocate 00:07:31.399 --> 00:07:33.540 it by saying that they love you too. And instead 00:07:33.540 --> 00:07:36.899 of focusing on love, your partner may have to 00:07:36.899 --> 00:07:38.779 spend all their time wondering if they really 00:07:38.779 --> 00:07:41.079 need to be in a serious relationship with you. 00:07:41.980 --> 00:07:44.399 Consider this. Would you actually like that? 00:07:45.120 --> 00:07:50.300 You know, if that's not the case, you know, that 00:07:50.300 --> 00:07:53.279 brings us to number eight. Pressure doesn't always 00:07:53.279 --> 00:07:57.569 work, okay? Once you've said it, the secret's 00:07:57.569 --> 00:07:59.490 out in the open for you and your date to see, 00:07:59.569 --> 00:08:02.709 and you can't take your words back again. What 00:08:02.709 --> 00:08:05.389 if your date is just a casual relationship with 00:08:05.389 --> 00:08:07.389 you and doesn't want anything serious just yet? 00:08:07.850 --> 00:08:10.230 They may really love you, but they may still 00:08:10.230 --> 00:08:13.290 be unsure about doing anything about it. And 00:08:13.290 --> 00:08:15.230 remember, there's no going back once you say 00:08:15.230 --> 00:08:18.350 it. So if your date's uncertain about the future 00:08:18.350 --> 00:08:20.470 of the romance, saying I love you will force 00:08:20.470 --> 00:08:22.889 them to think about it. And the extra pressure 00:08:22.889 --> 00:08:25.290 on deciding immediately may just force your date 00:08:25.290 --> 00:08:28.449 into turning you down or walking away. And if 00:08:28.449 --> 00:08:30.329 they're not ready to be held down in a serious 00:08:30.329 --> 00:08:33.610 relationship whatsoever. You know, and at the 00:08:33.610 --> 00:08:36.450 same time, this brings us to nine. Prove your 00:08:36.450 --> 00:08:39.149 love. If you really want to say I love you and 00:08:39.149 --> 00:08:41.149 hear it back from your date, then learn to play 00:08:41.149 --> 00:08:43.850 it safe. Instead of saying I love you, prove 00:08:43.850 --> 00:08:46.169 your love through your actions. Don't say how 00:08:46.169 --> 00:08:48.230 much you love your date, but show it through 00:08:48.230 --> 00:08:50.850 your romantic gestures. If your date loves you, 00:08:50.909 --> 00:08:53.190 they'll reciprocate with happiness. But if they 00:08:53.190 --> 00:08:55.309 aren't looking for something serious, they'd 00:08:55.309 --> 00:08:57.769 seem uncomfortable with your affection, which 00:08:57.769 --> 00:08:59.730 will then show whether or not they care for you. 00:09:00.230 --> 00:09:02.490 On that note, that brings us to the final point, 00:09:02.590 --> 00:09:05.269 number 10. Watch their response to your love. 00:09:05.720 --> 00:09:07.980 Okay, you'll know if your date loves you back 00:09:07.980 --> 00:09:10.100 if they go out of their way to do something for 00:09:10.100 --> 00:09:13.360 you, too. After you smother your date with love 00:09:13.360 --> 00:09:15.639 and romance, wait and watch their response. If 00:09:15.639 --> 00:09:18.019 your date really loves you, they start indulging 00:09:18.019 --> 00:09:20.860 in little romantic gestures like buying gifts 00:09:20.860 --> 00:09:23.539 or going out of their way to do something nice 00:09:23.539 --> 00:09:26.039 for you. I've experienced this firsthand, whereas 00:09:26.039 --> 00:09:28.659 I've also been kicked to the curb a bunch of 00:09:28.659 --> 00:09:30.700 times as a result of this, so I can honestly 00:09:30.700 --> 00:09:33.539 say that this works. However, if that happens, 00:09:33.700 --> 00:09:35.580 yeah, your date loves you. On the other hand, 00:09:35.580 --> 00:09:37.779 if your date doesn't respond in kind, perhaps 00:09:37.779 --> 00:09:40.620 they just need more time to fall madly in love 00:09:40.620 --> 00:09:43.340 with you. Please consider this as you move forward. 00:09:49.000 --> 00:09:51.840 All right. With that being said, I'm going to 00:09:51.840 --> 00:09:53.519 go ahead and finish it up with this tonight here. 00:09:54.720 --> 00:09:57.039 When is the best time to say I love you? And, 00:09:57.039 --> 00:09:58.860 you know, this is something that you have to 00:09:58.860 --> 00:10:01.259 actually stop and consider. You know, express 00:10:01.259 --> 00:10:04.240 your love when you believe you're truly in love, 00:10:04.360 --> 00:10:07.399 okay? But at the same time, be certain that your 00:10:07.399 --> 00:10:10.340 date is ready to hear it. A good rule of thumb 00:10:10.340 --> 00:10:12.639 here would be both of you should have spent at 00:10:12.639 --> 00:10:16.279 least a month seriously dating each other each 00:10:16.279 --> 00:10:21.720 and must have at least met each other on at least 00:10:21.720 --> 00:10:28.440 five real romantic dates. To some, I mean, to 00:10:28.440 --> 00:10:31.580 summarize that in a nutshell, you know, you have 00:10:31.580 --> 00:10:34.419 to at least, I want to say, been together at 00:10:34.419 --> 00:10:37.720 least a month to two months, actually going out 00:10:37.720 --> 00:10:39.620 with each other and trying to make the relationship 00:10:39.620 --> 00:10:43.240 work seriously before ever deciding whether or 00:10:43.240 --> 00:10:46.320 not you can stay or even considering the thought 00:10:46.320 --> 00:10:48.399 of saying I love you. For some people, it has 00:10:48.399 --> 00:10:51.659 to be six months. Some has to be a year. But, 00:10:51.720 --> 00:10:54.379 you know, whatever works. and the only way you 00:10:54.379 --> 00:10:56.100 will know this is by actually getting to know 00:10:56.100 --> 00:10:59.580 your partner okay well to some this may seem 00:10:59.580 --> 00:11:02.600 like it's all way too fast you know others it 00:11:02.600 --> 00:11:05.179 may seem like a lot of waiting okay but a month 00:11:05.179 --> 00:11:07.379 into dating each other is a perfect time to express 00:11:07.379 --> 00:11:10.500 your love for this special someone whoever it 00:11:10.500 --> 00:11:13.200 is whether it be a guy or woman even though i 00:11:13.200 --> 00:11:15.500 am doing the women's side right now the infatuation 00:11:15.500 --> 00:11:17.980 would have peaked and led to something a lot 00:11:17.980 --> 00:11:23.039 more beautiful and big chances are It could just 00:11:23.039 --> 00:11:26.059 be love, but you won't know until you actually 00:11:26.059 --> 00:11:29.059 wait it out. You know, the waiting game. If you 00:11:29.059 --> 00:11:33.500 wait too long, keep this in mind, your new date 00:11:33.500 --> 00:11:35.720 may get bored or wonder if the relationship's 00:11:35.720 --> 00:11:38.519 even going anywhere. And if you say it too soon, 00:11:38.580 --> 00:11:40.799 you may ruin your relationship because of all 00:11:40.799 --> 00:11:43.379 the added pressure and confusion. So yes, while 00:11:43.379 --> 00:11:46.799 it is a waiting game, you need to know where 00:11:46.799 --> 00:11:50.860 the stop and go are. Kind of like driving. You 00:11:50.860 --> 00:11:52.899 don't want to drive too soon as soon as the light 00:11:52.899 --> 00:11:55.799 has turned green because you could be hit. But 00:11:55.799 --> 00:11:57.519 you don't want to drive too late as you could 00:11:57.519 --> 00:12:01.159 make everyone else behind you upset. If you want 00:12:01.159 --> 00:12:04.960 the experience to seem like a fairytale romance, 00:12:05.240 --> 00:12:08.639 take your time while saying I love you and read 00:12:08.639 --> 00:12:11.279 the signs. Keep an eye on the budding relationship 00:12:11.279 --> 00:12:14.100 and take the plunge when you feel like love's 00:12:14.100 --> 00:12:19.000 all around in the air. Well, that concludes this 00:12:19.000 --> 00:12:22.720 segment of thoughts if it were you relationships 00:12:22.720 --> 00:12:26.360 on the women's side. I really don't have anything 00:12:26.360 --> 00:12:32.600 else left to add to this. But again, if you have 00:12:32.600 --> 00:12:36.100 any other thoughts, anything else you think I 00:12:36.100 --> 00:12:38.200 missed or something that you want to add to it, 00:12:38.620 --> 00:12:40.860 you know, feel free to click that call in button 00:12:40.860 --> 00:12:45.750 and let me know. right here on Anchor. And for 00:12:45.750 --> 00:12:48.210 those who are listening to the podcast, if you 00:12:48.210 --> 00:12:50.230 just happen to know who the original person was 00:12:50.230 --> 00:12:54.750 who gave it to you or you are listening via a 00:12:54.750 --> 00:12:57.909 friend or you actually have met me in person, 00:12:58.029 --> 00:13:01.230 feel free to stop me whenever you feel like you 00:13:01.230 --> 00:13:04.230 need to and give me a shout out. Tell me if you 00:13:04.230 --> 00:13:07.049 have any ideas for future topics or if you feel 00:13:07.049 --> 00:13:08.950 like I missed something to let me know. Okay? 00:13:09.880 --> 00:13:12.480 That brings an end to the thoughts, if it were 00:13:12.480 --> 00:13:16.600 you, relationships topic. Hopefully tomorrow 00:13:16.600 --> 00:13:18.580 or the following day, we'll be moving into a 00:13:18.580 --> 00:13:22.639 whole new subject and we'll see how it goes from 00:13:22.639 --> 00:13:25.759 there. I thank you guys for your time and enjoy 00:13:25.759 --> 00:13:28.519 the rest of your day. Brings the end of this 00:13:28.519 --> 00:13:39.220 piece for this podcast. Thank you.