WEBVTT 00:00:05.980 --> 00:00:09.179 Okay, so now that I covered what that is and 00:00:09.179 --> 00:00:13.580 how you could easily get caught into it, I want 00:00:13.580 --> 00:00:15.320 you to think about something, which is the whole 00:00:15.320 --> 00:00:17.179 point of this channel in the first place anyway. 00:00:19.379 --> 00:00:21.699 What if it were you? How would you have handled 00:00:21.699 --> 00:00:24.760 the situation? Or if you knew someone who needed 00:00:24.760 --> 00:00:28.320 help who was raped in some way or some form, 00:00:28.399 --> 00:00:32.130 how would you have helped them? Or would you 00:00:32.130 --> 00:00:34.229 help them? Or would you just sit back and watch 00:00:34.229 --> 00:00:37.149 and say, oh, don't worry about it. I'm not going 00:00:37.149 --> 00:00:39.149 to worry about that person. Sure, they were affected. 00:00:39.210 --> 00:00:41.710 Sure, they're emotionally distraught. But someone 00:00:41.710 --> 00:00:43.750 will come and help them eventually. Why couldn't 00:00:43.750 --> 00:00:46.450 it just be you? Why couldn't you help them? How 00:00:46.450 --> 00:00:48.250 would you feel if you were in that person's situation 00:00:48.250 --> 00:00:52.409 and you felt horrible? Your emotions were all 00:00:52.409 --> 00:00:54.770 over the place. Your body didn't want to function 00:00:54.770 --> 00:00:57.079 like it was supposed to. And you were scared 00:00:57.079 --> 00:00:59.479 about every single person that came across your 00:00:59.479 --> 00:01:02.320 path. You were afraid to even ask for help because 00:01:02.320 --> 00:01:03.979 you were afraid something else might happen. 00:01:04.060 --> 00:01:07.060 How would you feel if you were that person? You 00:01:07.060 --> 00:01:10.299 know, and nobody wanted to help you. I'm going 00:01:10.299 --> 00:01:12.439 to go back to the example I used of the person 00:01:12.439 --> 00:01:15.019 who sits on the side of the street back on episode 00:01:15.019 --> 00:01:20.680 one that I recorded. If you were that person 00:01:20.680 --> 00:01:22.079 sitting under the street, wouldn't you want someone 00:01:22.079 --> 00:01:24.349 to help you? I mean, if you were legitimately 00:01:24.349 --> 00:01:26.930 sitting there because you had no one else to 00:01:26.930 --> 00:01:29.069 turn to, you had no way of making up any money 00:01:29.069 --> 00:01:32.170 because you had no identity. You had no name, 00:01:32.209 --> 00:01:34.670 nothing to your name, nothing you could say you 00:01:34.670 --> 00:01:36.989 owe. Wouldn't you want someone to help you if 00:01:36.989 --> 00:01:38.769 you were in that person's situation? I'm pretty 00:01:38.769 --> 00:01:42.290 sure you would. Even the smallest thing, like 00:01:42.290 --> 00:01:44.709 a sandwich, would have made a difference. For 00:01:44.709 --> 00:01:46.250 these people who have been raped, just simply 00:01:46.250 --> 00:01:50.510 calling the local rape network or even the police 00:01:50.510 --> 00:01:54.340 to help. is enough to help these people. But 00:01:54.340 --> 00:01:56.340 you wouldn't know unless you actually tried. 00:01:57.599 --> 00:02:00.280 You know, you have nothing to be afraid of. You 00:02:00.280 --> 00:02:02.340 have nothing to lose in helping these people. 00:02:03.359 --> 00:02:06.420 And yet more people every single day would rather 00:02:06.420 --> 00:02:08.000 sit on their butt and be like, oh, don't worry 00:02:08.000 --> 00:02:11.259 about it. It will never happen to me. Or it won't 00:02:11.259 --> 00:02:13.759 happen to anybody I know. But then when it happens 00:02:13.759 --> 00:02:16.000 to you, you're like, well, why isn't anyone helping 00:02:16.000 --> 00:02:18.830 me? Just consider the fact that a couple days 00:02:18.830 --> 00:02:20.770 ago, you were saying the same thing that everyone 00:02:20.770 --> 00:02:22.610 else is probably saying, and they're probably 00:02:22.610 --> 00:02:27.229 not going to help you. And the ones that do might 00:02:27.229 --> 00:02:29.110 be the only people you can literally and truly 00:02:29.110 --> 00:02:33.310 call your friends. These people, you say that 00:02:33.310 --> 00:02:35.009 they're your friends, you say they're close to 00:02:35.009 --> 00:02:37.469 you, you need to stop and think and ask yourself, 00:02:37.750 --> 00:02:40.090 and even ask them, if you were to get stuck in 00:02:40.090 --> 00:02:41.810 this type of situation, would they help you? 00:02:41.870 --> 00:02:45.870 And if so, how immediately? I see women helping 00:02:45.870 --> 00:02:47.949 a lot of women out. But are they helping for 00:02:47.949 --> 00:02:50.430 the right reason? Or are they helping because 00:02:50.430 --> 00:02:52.770 they get something out of it and the other person 00:02:52.770 --> 00:02:55.310 is stuck all by themselves in a lonely cave? 00:02:56.629 --> 00:03:17.560 Think about that. so with that being said it's 00:03:17.560 --> 00:03:21.439 currently 2 14 a .m so let's go ahead and continue 00:03:21.439 --> 00:03:24.699 off of that if you think you know someone or 00:03:24.699 --> 00:03:27.479 you know someone who has been raped or that person 00:03:27.479 --> 00:03:30.800 was you there's a couple things i want you to 00:03:30.800 --> 00:03:36.819 do okay first off don't blame yourself okay The 00:03:36.819 --> 00:03:39.560 rape wasn't your fault, okay? Talk to an adult, 00:03:39.699 --> 00:03:41.719 go to the police station or a hospital right 00:03:41.719 --> 00:03:44.020 away. If you don't have an adult to talk to first, 00:03:44.199 --> 00:03:46.340 just go straight to the police station or the 00:03:46.340 --> 00:03:50.400 hospital, okay? Second, don't urinate, or in 00:03:50.400 --> 00:03:52.580 some people's cases, don't pee before getting 00:03:52.580 --> 00:03:56.259 any help, okay? Get a urine test as soon as possible, 00:03:56.460 --> 00:04:00.090 okay? a urine test can tell if someone gave you 00:04:00.090 --> 00:04:03.229 a date rape drug but these drugs can leave your 00:04:03.229 --> 00:04:07.009 system in as little as 12 hours so with that 00:04:07.009 --> 00:04:09.389 being said don't even go take a dunk okay don't 00:04:09.389 --> 00:04:12.389 don't in some people's cases don't go poop okay 00:04:12.389 --> 00:04:17.389 don't bathe or change clothes at all okay before 00:04:17.389 --> 00:04:19.850 you get any help doing these things can remove 00:04:19.850 --> 00:04:22.589 any possible evidence of the rape such as even 00:04:22.589 --> 00:04:25.649 semen uh fluid from men or even women because 00:04:25.649 --> 00:04:29.319 it does it does happen in reverse okay or even 00:04:29.319 --> 00:04:31.339 hair that belongs to that person could be on 00:04:31.339 --> 00:04:35.500 you okay next get medical care right away okay 00:04:35.500 --> 00:04:37.740 tell the doctor or nurse if you think you were 00:04:37.740 --> 00:04:39.779 drugged he or she will give you a urine test 00:04:39.779 --> 00:04:41.759 right away because a date rape drug leaves your 00:04:41.759 --> 00:04:44.889 body so quickly you also get a medical exam to 00:04:44.889 --> 00:04:47.209 make sure you don't have any other injuries the 00:04:47.209 --> 00:04:49.389 doctor or nurse will test you for sexual transmitted 00:04:49.389 --> 00:04:53.449 diseases including hiv and otherwise and offer 00:04:53.449 --> 00:04:56.170 you emergency contraception to prevent pregnancy 00:04:56.170 --> 00:04:59.170 if that is the case unless you want the child 00:04:59.170 --> 00:05:01.949 if the doctor or nurse does not mention testing 00:05:01.949 --> 00:05:04.949 for stds or emergency contraception you need 00:05:04.949 --> 00:05:08.649 to ask them for it Second to last, get emotional 00:05:08.649 --> 00:05:11.430 support. You may feel terribly shocked, afraid, 00:05:11.509 --> 00:05:13.910 or even emotionally numb, but whatever you're 00:05:13.910 --> 00:05:16.069 feeling, talk to someone who cares about you 00:05:16.069 --> 00:05:19.589 personally. Get help from a mental health professional. 00:05:20.050 --> 00:05:22.250 A hospital usually can put you in touch with 00:05:22.250 --> 00:05:25.490 a counselor or support group. You can talk about... 00:05:25.769 --> 00:05:28.490 talk with a hotline counselor i have the information 00:05:28.490 --> 00:05:29.930 and the phone numbers for that if you need it 00:05:29.930 --> 00:05:32.629 and then talk to your parent or guardian okay 00:05:32.629 --> 00:05:35.110 a counselor can help you talk with your parents 00:05:35.110 --> 00:05:37.990 or guardians they may be upset but you know that's 00:05:37.990 --> 00:05:39.910 just because they care about you there's no reason 00:05:39.910 --> 00:05:42.550 to worry about that in the first place okay so 00:05:42.550 --> 00:05:45.209 with this being said these are free hotlines 00:05:45.209 --> 00:05:47.889 that are available 24 hours a day and can even 00:05:47.889 --> 00:05:50.339 help Anybody who's been sexually assaulted or 00:05:50.339 --> 00:05:53.240 if they need advice. The National Sexual Assault 00:05:53.240 --> 00:05:58.420 Hotline is 1 -800 -656 -HOPE. For those who don't 00:05:58.420 --> 00:06:02.680 know, that's 1 -800 -656 -4673. Then there's 00:06:02.680 --> 00:06:05.839 the National Domestic Violence Hotline, which 00:06:05.839 --> 00:06:12.560 is 1 -800 -799 -7233. And then the Girls and 00:06:12.560 --> 00:06:17.589 Boys Town National Hotline as well. The Girls 00:06:17.589 --> 00:06:21.290 and Boys Town National Hotline is 1 -800 -448 00:06:21.290 --> 00:06:30.589 -3000 or for TDD, 1 -800 -448 -1833. These lines 00:06:30.589 --> 00:06:33.389 will help anybody who is in need of help. You 00:06:33.389 --> 00:06:36.389 can also help find local resources. You can also 00:06:36.389 --> 00:06:39.189 find those there, including women's shelters 00:06:39.189 --> 00:06:41.629 and other services through your local phone book, 00:06:41.790 --> 00:06:43.910 religious center, school, counselor, nurse, and 00:06:43.910 --> 00:06:47.560 or doctor's office. Also consider self -defense. 00:06:48.040 --> 00:06:50.959 Stranger rape, date rape are never the victim's 00:06:50.959 --> 00:06:53.360 fault, but they may be some things you can do 00:06:53.360 --> 00:06:57.180 to protect yourself as well. Stay calm and think. 00:06:57.220 --> 00:06:59.060 That's the first thing. If someone surprises 00:06:59.060 --> 00:07:02.000 you with an attack, don't be focused. Don't focus 00:07:02.000 --> 00:07:06.449 on fighting back. Focus on getting away. aware 00:07:06.449 --> 00:07:08.750 of your surroundings you may be able to get away 00:07:08.750 --> 00:07:10.949 before something even happens for example say 00:07:10.949 --> 00:07:12.689 you're jogging and you happen to have a feeling 00:07:12.689 --> 00:07:14.870 that someone is watching you you know don't ignore 00:07:14.870 --> 00:07:16.610 your instincts immediately leave the area and 00:07:16.610 --> 00:07:20.670 move towards people okay Second, make a noise. 00:07:20.850 --> 00:07:23.689 A lot of it. If someone's approaching you and 00:07:23.689 --> 00:07:26.810 you feel uncomfortable, don't stay silent. Shout 00:07:26.810 --> 00:07:32.029 no or get away. You can also shout help me or 00:07:32.029 --> 00:07:35.310 even fire. Use your voice even if you don't think 00:07:35.310 --> 00:07:37.610 other people will hear you. It may startle an 00:07:37.610 --> 00:07:39.629 attacker long enough for you to run or even drive 00:07:39.629 --> 00:07:43.470 away. Last but not least, carry a goddamn cell 00:07:43.470 --> 00:07:46.589 phone if possible. Make sure it is charged, okay? 00:07:46.790 --> 00:07:48.529 Make sure it is programmed with your parents' 00:07:48.670 --> 00:07:51.870 phone number, and even 911 in case you're threatened, 00:07:53.550 --> 00:07:55.649 you can call it immediately. It's better to be 00:07:55.649 --> 00:07:58.589 safe than sorry, and don't be afraid to shout, 00:07:58.709 --> 00:08:01.189 I've already called the police if they're approaching 00:08:01.189 --> 00:08:05.639 you, okay? Sometimes girls worry about being 00:08:05.639 --> 00:08:07.360 nice and don't want to draw attention to themselves, 00:08:07.560 --> 00:08:09.779 but some girls may fear of making a big deal 00:08:09.779 --> 00:08:12.240 about nothing. But even if your gut tells them 00:08:12.240 --> 00:08:16.860 to worry, the most important thing is for you 00:08:16.860 --> 00:08:20.259 to be safe. So don't worry about other people 00:08:20.259 --> 00:08:23.899 or what they think. It's better to be safe than 00:08:23.899 --> 00:08:28.199 sorry. And that brings an end to this segment.