Okay, so now that I covered what that is and
how you could easily get caught into it, I want
you to think about something, which is the whole
point of this channel in the first place anyway.
What if it were you? How would you have handled
the situation? Or if you knew someone who needed
help who was raped in some way or some form,
how would you have helped them? Or would you
help them? Or would you just sit back and watch
and say, oh, don't worry about it. I'm not going
to worry about that person. Sure, they were affected.
Sure, they're emotionally distraught. But someone
will come and help them eventually. Why couldn't
it just be you? Why couldn't you help them? How
would you feel if you were in that person's situation
and you felt horrible? Your emotions were all
over the place. Your body didn't want to function
like it was supposed to. And you were scared
about every single person that came across your
path. You were afraid to even ask for help because
you were afraid something else might happen.
How would you feel if you were that person? You
know, and nobody wanted to help you. I'm going
to go back to the example I used of the person
who sits on the side of the street back on episode
one that I recorded. If you were that person
sitting under the street, wouldn't you want someone
to help you? I mean, if you were legitimately
sitting there because you had no one else to
turn to, you had no way of making up any money
because you had no identity. You had no name,
nothing to your name, nothing you could say you
owe. Wouldn't you want someone to help you if
you were in that person's situation? I'm pretty
sure you would. Even the smallest thing, like
a sandwich, would have made a difference. For
these people who have been raped, just simply
calling the local rape network or even the police
to help. is enough to help these people. But
you wouldn't know unless you actually tried.
You know, you have nothing to be afraid of. You
have nothing to lose in helping these people.
And yet more people every single day would rather
sit on their butt and be like, oh, don't worry
about it. It will never happen to me. Or it won't
happen to anybody I know. But then when it happens
to you, you're like, well, why isn't anyone helping
me? Just consider the fact that a couple days
ago, you were saying the same thing that everyone
else is probably saying, and they're probably
not going to help you. And the ones that do might
be the only people you can literally and truly
call your friends. These people, you say that
they're your friends, you say they're close to
you, you need to stop and think and ask yourself,
and even ask them, if you were to get stuck in
this type of situation, would they help you?
And if so, how immediately? I see women helping
a lot of women out. But are they helping for
the right reason? Or are they helping because
they get something out of it and the other person
is stuck all by themselves in a lonely cave?
Think about that. so with that being said it's
currently 2 14 a .m so let's go ahead and continue
off of that if you think you know someone or
you know someone who has been raped or that person
was you there's a couple things i want you to
do okay first off don't blame yourself okay The
rape wasn't your fault, okay? Talk to an adult,
go to the police station or a hospital right
away. If you don't have an adult to talk to first,
just go straight to the police station or the
hospital, okay? Second, don't urinate, or in
some people's cases, don't pee before getting
any help, okay? Get a urine test as soon as possible,
okay? a urine test can tell if someone gave you
a date rape drug but these drugs can leave your
system in as little as 12 hours so with that
being said don't even go take a dunk okay don't
don't in some people's cases don't go poop okay
don't bathe or change clothes at all okay before
you get any help doing these things can remove
any possible evidence of the rape such as even
semen uh fluid from men or even women because
it does it does happen in reverse okay or even
hair that belongs to that person could be on
you okay next get medical care right away okay
tell the doctor or nurse if you think you were
drugged he or she will give you a urine test
right away because a date rape drug leaves your
body so quickly you also get a medical exam to
make sure you don't have any other injuries the
doctor or nurse will test you for sexual transmitted
diseases including hiv and otherwise and offer
you emergency contraception to prevent pregnancy
if that is the case unless you want the child
if the doctor or nurse does not mention testing
for stds or emergency contraception you need
to ask them for it Second to last, get emotional
support. You may feel terribly shocked, afraid,
or even emotionally numb, but whatever you're
feeling, talk to someone who cares about you
personally. Get help from a mental health professional.
A hospital usually can put you in touch with
a counselor or support group. You can talk about...
talk with a hotline counselor i have the information
and the phone numbers for that if you need it
and then talk to your parent or guardian okay
a counselor can help you talk with your parents
or guardians they may be upset but you know that's
just because they care about you there's no reason
to worry about that in the first place okay so
with this being said these are free hotlines
that are available 24 hours a day and can even
help Anybody who's been sexually assaulted or
if they need advice. The National Sexual Assault
Hotline is 1 -800 -656 -HOPE. For those who don't
know, that's 1 -800 -656 -4673. Then there's
the National Domestic Violence Hotline, which
is 1 -800 -799 -7233. And then the Girls and
Boys Town National Hotline as well. The Girls
and Boys Town National Hotline is 1 -800 -448
-3000 or for TDD, 1 -800 -448 -1833. These lines
will help anybody who is in need of help. You
can also help find local resources. You can also
find those there, including women's shelters
and other services through your local phone book,
religious center, school, counselor, nurse, and
or doctor's office. Also consider self -defense.
Stranger rape, date rape are never the victim's
fault, but they may be some things you can do
to protect yourself as well. Stay calm and think.
That's the first thing. If someone surprises
you with an attack, don't be focused. Don't focus
on fighting back. Focus on getting away. aware
of your surroundings you may be able to get away
before something even happens for example say
you're jogging and you happen to have a feeling
that someone is watching you you know don't ignore
your instincts immediately leave the area and
move towards people okay Second, make a noise.
A lot of it. If someone's approaching you and
you feel uncomfortable, don't stay silent. Shout
no or get away. You can also shout help me or
even fire. Use your voice even if you don't think
other people will hear you. It may startle an
attacker long enough for you to run or even drive
away. Last but not least, carry a goddamn cell
phone if possible. Make sure it is charged, okay?
Make sure it is programmed with your parents'
phone number, and even 911 in case you're threatened,
you can call it immediately. It's better to be
safe than sorry, and don't be afraid to shout,
I've already called the police if they're approaching
you, okay? Sometimes girls worry about being
nice and don't want to draw attention to themselves,
but some girls may fear of making a big deal
about nothing. But even if your gut tells them
to worry, the most important thing is for you
to be safe. So don't worry about other people
or what they think. It's better to be safe than
sorry. And that brings an end to this segment.