Good morning, everybody. It is 4 a .m. and it
is the 15th of March. It is so good to hear from
you guys again. We're going to go ahead and pick
up a topic that I feel it's not really discussed
as much as it should here on this station. Like
I said before, This station is about thoughts.
Things to think about. You know, if you were
the other person, stuff to consider. Alright?
Yes, I am neogentrics. The topic for today we're
going to go ahead and discuss is respect. Okay,
we're going to cover basic, I guess you can say,
morals that people tend to overlook. Okay? Why?
I have no idea. First off, Let me define what
respect is, okay? The definition in a, and I'm
going to give the dictionary definition first,
is a feeling of deep admiration for someone or
something elicited by their abilities, qualities,
or achievements, a .k .a. a particular aspect,
point, or detail. And then there's the verb definition,
if I'm going to use that in, you know, in actionable
format, is basically to admire. uh someone or
something deeply as a result of their abilities
qualities or achievements um and for whatever
reason i had to memorize that when i was in high
school so i have that ingrained in my head thank
you my parents respect is basically is a positive
feeling or action shown towards someone or something
uh considered important this could be your parents
your boss or even your friends you know it's
basically someone held in high esteem or regard
it's conveys a sense of admiration for good or
valuable qualities you know usually towards people
um not typically not just not particularly things
okay now granted this doesn't mean that people
don't show respect to inanimate objects such
as cemeteries granted i'm pretty sure if you
showed a cemetery any sort of disrespect you
would be ridiculed heavily by a lot of people
okay so we'll go ahead and say this real quick
um respect isn't just a language it's also something
that you can either say or something that you
do okay In other cultures, you know, it is recommended
for the kids or children to kiss the hands of
their parents, grandparents, and or their teachers
as a sign of respect. Whereas in other cultures,
it's a sign of respect to bow and touch one's
foot. Honorifics is another word for it. It's
basically another way of showing respect to someone.
And with that being said, In showing someone
respect, you're also showing them admiration,
dignity, honor, you know, and you have a high
level of self -esteem in doing so. You retain
what little dignity you have, and at the same
spot, you allow the other person to understand
that you are also a respectable person yourself.
This is something that a lot of people must keep
in mind, especially when they're getting ready
to do something, or they're trying to make a
first... good first impression if you're going
in for a job okay you want to dress up as nice
as you can because you want the first impression
to be as good as possible right most people they
Wear a suit they put on the perfume or cologne
if you're a guy Hopefully you do take a shower
as that is a sign of respect now granite in some
cultures in some countries You know people don't
take a shower for days and weeks on end and that's
just the way they are So I mean just because
a person smells does not mean it's entirely their
fault It just means that that was their culture
another way of showing respect is to despite
how bad that probably may sound to you or how
bad it may stink you don't call them out on it
you don't say anything about it you just leave
them be if you can't handle the smell you know
you leave you definitely don't want to insult
them because if you insult them well that's just
signs of disrespect let me go ahead and cover
some disrespect um as well um and then i'll cover
signs of complete respect for somebody as well
all right first thing to cover 10 signs of disrespect
first off always saying yes okay even when you
really want to say no you want to please everyone
right Well, when you say yes, everyone is happy
and all is good, except for one little thing.
You're not happy. You say yes even when you don't
even have the time to do whatever it is that
you're asked to do. Time to stop doing that.
You need to practice saying no, as this is still
a sign of disrespect, as you very well know you
can't do it, but you still insist. Second thing
is smile and nod, okay? You sometimes find yourself
agreeing with someone's statement even if it's
ridiculous or goes against everything you believe
in. Just so you don't offend them or start an
argument. You need to find your voice. Start
standing up for what you believe in. You don't
have to agree with everyone and maybe not everyone
is going to like your opinion. Well, too bad.
It's better to be honest and straightforward
than to be disrespectful in that manner. 3. Put
yourself last. Okay? I get that as parents, you
know, they find themselves putting their children
first and their needs, which is totally understandable,
last. But remember one thing. You are no good
to anyone if you aren't good yourself. You need
to take care of yourself. Your needs are just
as important as anybody else. If not more, ask...
everyone else's okay you need to take care of
you okay it's okay but remember you're just as
important for hiding your feelings okay those
matter too You are afraid to show or express
your feelings because everyone else's feelings
are more important. Wrong. Your feelings are
important. If no one knows how you feel, they
will continue to do the things that have hurt
your feelings in the first place. And if such
is the case, tell them how you feel. It's better
than having them constantly disrespecting you.
The topics that I'm covering... just to take
a short snip here, are for those who feel as
though they've been disrespected, okay? I will
cover how to be respectful in a minute. Five,
hanging with the wrong people. You're still friends
with some of the toxic people you secretly long
to dump, okay? You don't dump them because they've
been in your life since high school, or worse
yet, they are family. You don't have to hang
around toxic people out of obligation. I guarantee
you, you don't. Get rid of them and be happy.
6. Poor self -talk. Those words you keep telling
yourself, I'm not good enough, smart enough,
pretty enough, handsome enough, etc. You need
to be removed from your vocabulary first off.
You need to respect yourself enough to know and
firmly believe you are enough. Often, we tell
ourselves negative things without even realizing
or really thinking about what we say. You need
to watch yourself talk and you need to make it
good. You want to uplift yourself, not tear yourself
apart. 7. Pretending to be someone else. This
is something no one should ever do. We've all
done this, I think. Anyway, we try to impress
people and put on a facade so that they will
like us or accept us. you know, into their little
circle of friends. If you have to pretend to
be someone else, then you're not worthy of their
friendship, or even rather yet, they're not worthy
to be your friend. If they can't accept you for
who you are, then find other people who will,
okay? Don't sacrifice you and who you are for
the sake of them. You won't be happy, and eventually
will drift away anyway. So in other words, it's
pointless and a waste of energy. Eight, doing
things that go against your nature. Most of us
still try to fit in. What we do is end up doing
stuff that's completely out of character. Just
so we can fit in. The cool people go bar hopping.
You don't. In fact, you don't even really like
to drink or even go out to parties. But, you
jump on the bag wagon and join in with them just
because you want to fit in. Well, this is never
a good idea and you are sacrificing your valley
values and your morals You don't need to do this
and it is ridiculous to go against your nature
It's just dumb for one you can end up putting
yourself in a lot of trouble And as the last
topic I discussed was date rape this can also
put you in a very bad position for this to happen
Why would you want to put yourself in a position
where you constantly hurt yourself or put yourself
at risk of being violated? consider this