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Good morning, everybody. It is 4 a .m. and it

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is the 15th of March. It is so good to hear from

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you guys again. We're going to go ahead and pick

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up a topic that I feel it's not really discussed

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as much as it should here on this station. Like

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I said before, This station is about thoughts.

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Things to think about. You know, if you were

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the other person, stuff to consider. Alright?

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Yes, I am neogentrics. The topic for today we're

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going to go ahead and discuss is respect. Okay,

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we're going to cover basic, I guess you can say,

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morals that people tend to overlook. Okay? Why?

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I have no idea. First off, Let me define what

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respect is, okay? The definition in a, and I'm

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going to give the dictionary definition first,

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is a feeling of deep admiration for someone or

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something elicited by their abilities, qualities,

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or achievements, a .k .a. a particular aspect,

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point, or detail. And then there's the verb definition,

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if I'm going to use that in, you know, in actionable

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format, is basically to admire. uh someone or

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something deeply as a result of their abilities

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qualities or achievements um and for whatever

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reason i had to memorize that when i was in high

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school so i have that ingrained in my head thank

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you my parents respect is basically is a positive

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feeling or action shown towards someone or something

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uh considered important this could be your parents

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your boss or even your friends you know it's

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basically someone held in high esteem or regard

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it's conveys a sense of admiration for good or

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valuable qualities you know usually towards people

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um not typically not just not particularly things

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okay now granted this doesn't mean that people

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don't show respect to inanimate objects such

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as cemeteries granted i'm pretty sure if you

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showed a cemetery any sort of disrespect you

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would be ridiculed heavily by a lot of people

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okay so we'll go ahead and say this real quick

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um respect isn't just a language it's also something

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that you can either say or something that you

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do okay In other cultures, you know, it is recommended

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for the kids or children to kiss the hands of

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their parents, grandparents, and or their teachers

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as a sign of respect. Whereas in other cultures,

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it's a sign of respect to bow and touch one's

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foot. Honorifics is another word for it. It's

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basically another way of showing respect to someone.

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And with that being said, In showing someone

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respect, you're also showing them admiration,

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dignity, honor, you know, and you have a high

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level of self -esteem in doing so. You retain

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what little dignity you have, and at the same

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spot, you allow the other person to understand

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that you are also a respectable person yourself.

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This is something that a lot of people must keep

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in mind, especially when they're getting ready

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to do something, or they're trying to make a

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first... good first impression if you're going

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in for a job okay you want to dress up as nice

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as you can because you want the first impression

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to be as good as possible right most people they

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Wear a suit they put on the perfume or cologne

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if you're a guy Hopefully you do take a shower

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as that is a sign of respect now granite in some

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cultures in some countries You know people don't

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take a shower for days and weeks on end and that's

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just the way they are So I mean just because

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a person smells does not mean it's entirely their

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fault It just means that that was their culture

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another way of showing respect is to despite

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how bad that probably may sound to you or how

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bad it may stink you don't call them out on it

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you don't say anything about it you just leave

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them be if you can't handle the smell you know

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you leave you definitely don't want to insult

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them because if you insult them well that's just

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signs of disrespect let me go ahead and cover

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some disrespect um as well um and then i'll cover

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signs of complete respect for somebody as well

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all right first thing to cover 10 signs of disrespect

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first off always saying yes okay even when you

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really want to say no you want to please everyone

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right Well, when you say yes, everyone is happy

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and all is good, except for one little thing.

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You're not happy. You say yes even when you don't

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even have the time to do whatever it is that

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you're asked to do. Time to stop doing that.

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You need to practice saying no, as this is still

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a sign of disrespect, as you very well know you

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can't do it, but you still insist. Second thing

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is smile and nod, okay? You sometimes find yourself

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agreeing with someone's statement even if it's

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ridiculous or goes against everything you believe

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in. Just so you don't offend them or start an

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argument. You need to find your voice. Start

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standing up for what you believe in. You don't

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have to agree with everyone and maybe not everyone

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is going to like your opinion. Well, too bad.

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It's better to be honest and straightforward

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than to be disrespectful in that manner. 3. Put

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yourself last. Okay? I get that as parents, you

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know, they find themselves putting their children

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first and their needs, which is totally understandable,

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last. But remember one thing. You are no good

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to anyone if you aren't good yourself. You need

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to take care of yourself. Your needs are just

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as important as anybody else. If not more, ask...

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everyone else's okay you need to take care of

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you okay it's okay but remember you're just as

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important for hiding your feelings okay those

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matter too You are afraid to show or express

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your feelings because everyone else's feelings

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are more important. Wrong. Your feelings are

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important. If no one knows how you feel, they

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will continue to do the things that have hurt

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your feelings in the first place. And if such

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is the case, tell them how you feel. It's better

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than having them constantly disrespecting you.

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The topics that I'm covering... just to take

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a short snip here, are for those who feel as

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though they've been disrespected, okay? I will

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cover how to be respectful in a minute. Five,

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hanging with the wrong people. You're still friends

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with some of the toxic people you secretly long

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to dump, okay? You don't dump them because they've

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been in your life since high school, or worse

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yet, they are family. You don't have to hang

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around toxic people out of obligation. I guarantee

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you, you don't. Get rid of them and be happy.

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6. Poor self -talk. Those words you keep telling

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yourself, I'm not good enough, smart enough,

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pretty enough, handsome enough, etc. You need

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to be removed from your vocabulary first off.

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You need to respect yourself enough to know and

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firmly believe you are enough. Often, we tell

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ourselves negative things without even realizing

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or really thinking about what we say. You need

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to watch yourself talk and you need to make it

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good. You want to uplift yourself, not tear yourself

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apart. 7. Pretending to be someone else. This

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is something no one should ever do. We've all

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done this, I think. Anyway, we try to impress

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people and put on a facade so that they will

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like us or accept us. you know, into their little

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circle of friends. If you have to pretend to

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be someone else, then you're not worthy of their

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friendship, or even rather yet, they're not worthy

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to be your friend. If they can't accept you for

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who you are, then find other people who will,

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okay? Don't sacrifice you and who you are for

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the sake of them. You won't be happy, and eventually

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will drift away anyway. So in other words, it's

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pointless and a waste of energy. Eight, doing

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things that go against your nature. Most of us

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still try to fit in. What we do is end up doing

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stuff that's completely out of character. Just

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so we can fit in. The cool people go bar hopping.

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You don't. In fact, you don't even really like

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to drink or even go out to parties. But, you

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jump on the bag wagon and join in with them just

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because you want to fit in. Well, this is never

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a good idea and you are sacrificing your valley

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values and your morals You don't need to do this

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and it is ridiculous to go against your nature

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It's just dumb for one you can end up putting

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yourself in a lot of trouble And as the last

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topic I discussed was date rape this can also

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put you in a very bad position for this to happen

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Why would you want to put yourself in a position

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where you constantly hurt yourself or put yourself

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at risk of being violated? consider this