I'm going to go ahead and keep going. Always
turns the tables on you. This is something that
a lot of people tend to do when they don't want
to talk about something specifically, okay? They
basically continue to, how do I put it, no matter
what the situation, they always turn the tables.
They justify their behavior until the end of
time and don't shy away from making it all your
fault every single time. They don't listen or
give you a chance to explain your side of the
story. Even if you do express, they make it all
about how irrational or unreasonable you are
for having unrealistic expectations and totally
invalidate your feelings. You're never able to
freely communicate and sometimes choose to keep
quiet to avoid conflict. This is not healthy.
And with that being said, they are never there
for you, okay? Don't we all have people in our
lives who take a whole lot from you but very
conveniently don't invest much back into the
relationship? It's basically like dating someone
that you love but it being one -sided and you're
doing all the work and they're not doing anything
to compensate you, okay? They're quick to lean
on you for support and advice and help. but are
never really there when you need them and have
excuses right at the tip of their tongue. They
are never attentive to your needs and always
make you feel guilty for asking too much even
though you aren't. I run into this a lot, especially
in relationships, which is one of the main reasons
why I'm single. It's by choice, not because I
don't want to be. On that note, Issues that you
run into for people who are like this is backbiting.
They have no courage to come and say things to
your face, so they talk behind your back and
spread rumors. If they genuinely care and respect
you, they should first come to you rather than
talk behind your back. Genuine people address
the issue head on and give you honest feedback,
even if it's sometimes hard for them to do so
or it's going to be hard for that person to hear.
You know, a lot of this stuff has to be considered.
in order to help other people but if you don't
well all you're doing is hurting them okay they
behave differently in public as a result of this
okay did you ever come across uh someone who
is very sweet caring when you are alone with
them but then totally change their colors in
public basically it's the same type of person
okay They act like you embarrass them and try
to hide the fact that they have been spending
a lot of time with you lately. They totally shoot
down your opinions in front of others. They make
you feel stupid. They don't pay much attention,
as they should. Such people are basically just
using you for their own needs, and they feel
they are far too superior to be seen with you.
This is typically a thing, especially for those
who are... really smart and have friends who
are so say there for them but all they really
want to do is have you there to help them with
their homework don't really spend time with you
and or hang out with you this is a common issue
amongst a lot of people especially in high school
and in college which then leads to issues of
peer pressure the irony is that the movie jumanji
that just recently came out also displays this
The type of girl who's too pretty to do anything.
The girl who's too smart to do anything. The
boy who's always helping his used -to -be friend
by doing all his homework, but then his friend
always treats him like trash. Sorry about that.
There's always that one person who's in the middle
of everything who has nothing to do with it,
but gets caught up in it anyway because he's
there. And he has these same kind of people around
him. All I can say is this. No matter what you
do, it is never enough for these people. No matter
what you do for them, they always get a feeling
that it's never enough. They never appreciate
anything you ever do or even pay attention to
know that you are trying your best, whether it's
an achievement at work or all you are looking
for is to hear, I am proud of you. or simply
a pat on the back maybe you can try to change
a certain behavioral trait that they are unhappy
with you know try to make them feel good about
themselves by being appreciative and holding
their hands you know through different difficult
situations they don't just value your efforts
they always take you for granted and it just
seems like a bottomless pit of selfishness and
that's just how most people are you know they
don't consider you they don't consider how you
feel That's the whole point of covering all these
topics of disrespect is so you know what it is
and how to deal with it. It comes in different
forms and is very subjective to each individual.
It happens in such a sneaky manner that you don't
even realize you're giving them the leeway to
treat you. like this unknowingly. The more you
put up with these weird behaviors, the more you
let them disrespect you. It also comes from a
place within you where you don't respect yourself
enough to feel you deserve better, which was
the whole point of the first 10 topics that I
covered in the previous episode. We sometimes
lack the confidence to stand up for ourselves.
You must be genuinely self -assured and know
exactly what you can and cannot put up with.
Everything starts and ends with self -respect.
You have to first respect yourself. Respect is
a two -way street. It can never be commanded.
It must be earned. I think it's more difficult
to earn respect than to earn money, to be honest.
Always put yourself first and have high self
-esteem. Don't waste time on people who are not
worth it and always know you deserve more. If
you are the one treating someone else disrespectfully,
however, then you need to do a self -check and
reflect if you would like someone to treat you
the same way. Otherwise, you may find yourself
in a deep pit and you will not be able to get
out on your own every choice you make to ignore
or fight inappropriate actions towards you will
determine how others treat you what you sow is
what you reap okay a very common phrase we all
know Love and respect yourself and you will automatically
not put up with unacceptable behavior. Stand
up for yourself because no one else will. And
respect is an emotion that can also invoke from
within, so it naturally comes into play when
you truly admire someone for their abilities.
It cannot be forced or bought. Keep that in mind.
With this, I end everything on this topic for
respect. Now, I'm going to continue throughout
the rest of the week and cover other morals as
there are many, many more. But I'm going to go
ahead and end it with this. If you wish to show
other people respect or you want to know if you
are being respected, here are five easy ways
to show your gratitude and respect. And this
is what I'm going to end with. First off, listen.
Okay, I know it sounds easy, but listening, truly
listening, can be one of the hardest skills to
master. If you want a person to know you respect
him or her, then tune in to what the person is
saying, look them into the eye, put down your
damn cell phone, and offer feedback when necessary.
Everyone appreciates the person who's willing
to listen to them and show genuine interest in
what they have to say. On that note, encouragement.
If you've ever had a bad day, then you know the
power of encouragement can be very helpful. We've
all had moments where we all needed someone to
tell us, don't worry, things will work out. It
may not seem like much at the time, but that
person will remember that you took the time and
interest in their feelings and well -being, as
well as a smile and an uplifting word can truly
brighten someone's day. Third, congratulate someone.
If someone does a great job, let them know about
it. In fact, let everybody know about it. Openly
congratulate someone for a job well done, especially
if you're a manager. Employees will work hard
and happier knowing that their manager has a
mutual respect for them and is willing to express
praise and or gratitude when it is deserved.
On that note, be helpful, okay? If you find a
friend or a co -worker in a jam, be willing to
help them if possible. No, you don't need anything
in return. It just shows that you respect them
enough to help them if they need it without asking
them for anything in return. Not to say that
you should take on half of their project, but
offering some advice or throwing in a bit of
your time will mean a lot if that friend or co
-worker has helped you in the past. Then returning
a favor will be a nice way to show both your
respect and gratitude. Okay? Kind of like how
I do these podcasts to help people I may or may
not know and get certain points across and help
them if they're too afraid to speak to other
people. Last but not least, say thank you. I
can't express this enough, but just simply saying
thank you to someone who's helping you, friends
with you, your parents, your teachers, your boss,
your employers, your coworkers, can do so...
So much for you and even open doors that you
never knew were even possible to open that you
couldn't have done on your own It may seem like
common sense But as many people just simply forget
to say it or at least forget how to say it with
sincerity You know I think you can be as simple
as a small as two words as much as buying someone
a gift nevertheless If the action is not done
with a hundred percent sincerity Then it's just
wasted Make sure people know you appreciate them
and their actions. Simply saying it in front
of someone else can make a big impact. With the
daily pressures on us, we often overlook opportunities
to thank and compliment people we are with. You
need to take time to show your appreciation and
gratitude. Not only does it make the other person
feel better, but you will feel uplifted as well.
If you want your relationships or organizations
to do well, just remember two basic guidelines
for success. Mutual respect and gratitude. They'll
take you very far. especially in the business
world, as it's becoming more and more complicated
and more relationship -based as time goes on.
And with that, I end this segment for respect
in the series that I'm covering right now on
morals and thoughts, if it were you. Thank you
for your time, and I look forward to picking
up on the next topic either later today or tomorrow
for the next episode. Thank you. Enjoy the rest
of your day.