Good morning, everybody. It is 5 a .m. here in
Houston. The temperature outside is, I do believe,
50 degrees. This is neogentrics. I don't know
what's up with the weather outside. It's kind
of warm, kind of muggy. It actually looks like
it's about to rain. If I'm not mistaken, it probably
has already started. Anyway, the topic I'm going
to be covering this week is the moral series,
and I did say that I was going to pick up today
with another topic. However, I've had a couple
of requests on self -esteem, so I'm going to
go ahead and cover that real quick today, and
then I'm going to pick back up with the next
moral, okay? First off, let me give you the definition
of what self -esteem actually is. It's considered
to be the confidence in one's own worth or abilities.
Basically, self -respect. Pride, dignity, or
self -regard. That's the best way I can put that
for just about anybody. Self -esteem basically
reflects an individual's overall subjective emotion
evaluation of him or herself's own worth. It
is a decision made by an individual as an attitude
towards themselves. Basically, it encompasses
their beliefs of what they think they are if
they're confident or worthy or not. Basically,
it's an emotional state, such as when you feel
triumph, despair, pride, or even shame. And don't
worry, I will cover those topics in the future.
The self -concept is what we think about the
self. In other words, whether or not you think
you're worthy. Self -esteem is attractive as
social psychologists construct because of researches
have basically conceptualized it as an influential
predictor of certain outcomes. Such as, you know,
academic achievement, happiness, satisfaction,
marriage, relationships, criminal behavior, and
what have you. Issues that arise from... not
having enough self -esteem would be worthlessness,
okay? Or depression. Now, I don't remember if
I covered depression or not. It might be in one
of the previous episodes. If it isn't, then look
forward to that episode. But I'm going to go
ahead and cover worthlessness right now. Worthlessness
is basically feeling that you aren't worthy.
If anyone's ever asked this question, That means
that you don't have a whole lot of self -esteem.
I can't blame you for this, but still, we can
do something about it. It's the strongest feeling
that can possibly lead to suicide in depressed
patients. Many people who experience multiple
setbacks in their lives, such as job loss, financial
struggle, divorce, or being overweight, can end
up feeling like their lives have no meaning,
and at times feel like there's no prospect of
improvement, and the more prolonged they are,
the more likely the patient will suffer from
depression. Self -worth is how you value yourself
and it's tied with self -esteem because self
-esteem is what we feel about ourselves. If you're
not feeling that you have any self -worth, then
simply improving self -esteem isn't going to
be enough and you won't believe it within yourself.
You need to improve both to get... real results
and one way to do that is through therapy many
of many of the same actions improve both self
-worth and self -esteem because they're so closely
tied together now let me cover some quick things
in this episode that you can do to improve on
self -esteem okay we all make mistakes and concentrating
on the big picture too much can make you feel
quite small so especially with things that don't
go right um rather than striving for perfection
and comparing yourself to others choose to focus
on how good you are okay celebrate the things
you're good at um even the small accomplishments
okay try avoid looking down at yourself instead
talk positively about yourself as if you were
talking to someone else When you talk to others,
you often value them above yourself and you don't
want to upset them. So basically do the same
thing with yourself. By talking to yourself the
same way, you'll be less likely to use thoughts
or words that bring you down. Be realistic about
things. If you're feeling overwhelmed, lower
your expectations a little. When you've reached
a goal, celebrate it. This will mean you're more
likely to achieve the goal and might even surpass
it. It's very very advisable, okay Actions that
improve self -worth will be you know, how do
I put this? Value is about making yourself feel
like you matter or that you make a difference
There are two ways to achieve this by helping
others and by valuing what you already know.
Start by making a contribution to your community,
volunteering with people less fortunate than
you are, so that you can show how much you have
to be thankful for. By being thankful, you'll
be able to see what aspects of your day are important.
Try to pick things each day that you're thankful
for. Kind of the same point as Thanksgiving,
but without the Thanksgiving. Anytime you feel
like you're talking negatively about yourself
pause stop and think you know about what you
would say if you were talking to someone else
instead it's likely you wouldn't be as critical
okay that's the thought i want people to think
about today i'm going to cover the depression
half of it later um but i will cover this little
bit here right now after this short break So,
that brings up the question, and I'm going to
go ahead and cover this now. Why do I feel worthless
when nothing helps? Well, often feelings of worthlessness
can be a symptom of depression. Many depression
disorders leave patients feeling alone, so unworthy
of social interaction and unworthy of help. The
trouble is, this is a vicious circle, and those
feeling often foster great depression, okay?
In cases like this, you'll need to see a professional.
Finding professionals help means considering
treatment, like medication, therapy, and even
inpatient treatment if the case is severe enough.
Specialists like those from BetterHelp are available
to determine if whatever is causing your issue
are from depression or specific trauma events.
They can help formulate coping plans so that
you don't feel this way. However, keep this in
mind. While they may be able to help you figure
out what the cause is, it's still up to you to
find a way to reduce it. They can give you whatever
medicines and such that they want, but if you're
not able to deal with this on your own, and it's
something that is relative to you, then you won't
be able to stop that weird feeling of whether
or not you're worthy. One of the most common
questions I get in regards to building self -confidence
is how do I stop feeling this way? The answer
is really simply, it's shockingly simple. I mean,
if you Google the question, you'll find hundreds
of pages with dozens of different suggestions.
There's really one main thing you need to do
to feel valuable and feel a sense of worth. Doesn't
even matter what else you do. If you don't take
this one step, you will always feel completely
worthless. Yes, one decision you make is going
to be more important than all the others. And
that decision is this. Decide to feel worthwhile.
Make the decision that you have value. Do it
right now. Try it out. You know, just say it
with me. I am worthy. I'm worthy. You know. Or
if it resonates more with you, choose, I have
value or I'm important. You see how empowering
this one little sentence is? There's no working
through things or letting things go at a precise
moment. It's as simple as the decision you make.
I'm worthy. Don't let the simpleness of this
advice make you doubt the power of it. I'm serious.
There's a lot of things in life that can basically
cause... People to think and feel that they're
not worthy. You know. And. I can understand.
I understand why you feel that way. But. If you
don't. Do something about it now. To change how
you feel. Then you'll never do anything about
it. Ever. And you'll continue to feel this way
no matter what. You know. The key piece here.
To understand. Is not. is that this is not an
affirmation or a mantra that you're trying to
tell yourself blankly throughout the day, knowing
deep down inside you don't believe it. You could
tell yourself, I'm going to the store, I'm going
to the store all day, knowing deep inside you're
not even going to try to get off your butt and
go to the store until next week. Saying it over
and over to yourself won't make you go to the
store. You won't go to the store until you decide
to go to the store. Once you make that decision,
then you put your shoes on, then your jacket,
look for your keys, and go to the store. You've
made the decision to do it. That's the difference
between an affirmation and making a decision.
Think about all the other things you've achieved
in your life and what one of the things that
you had done in order to move ahead was your
goal. You had to make a decision to do it. Without
making the decision, it always remains a wish
or something to do in the future. Alright, last
thing to leave you with. Worthlessness. I'm going
to leave you with three things. Three truths
to remember when you're feeling worthless. Everyone
battles this, even me. I have limited use of
my left hand from a car wreck when I was younger
due to a head injury. There is a lot of stuff
I can't do. I can't join the military. I can't
play contact sports. But you know what? I can
still cook. I can still read. I can still go
to school. I can still use the computer. So while
I may not be able to be physical like a lot of
other people, I still have my advantages and
such as well. And one of the things that helped
me move forward is the first thing is this. Remember,
you are valuable for who you are, not what you
do. You were created exclusively by God and for
God. More or less, depending on what you believe,
you know, that can go any kind of way. But this
is what I believe. I'm just giving my opinion
here. But these three things can help you too
because they help me. And believe that you are
valuable. There were no flaws in your design.
There's no errors in your construction. You are
handmade, custom designed, and fully loaded.
And because of that, you have an immeasurable
amount of worth. No human life could ever be
valued in money. Two, you have gifts. Embrace
them. Or you have weaknesses. There are gifts
to replace those weaknesses. I may not be able
to use my left hand efficiently. But I have a
high response time. I'm very active and super
adaptable to my situations and the people around
me. It makes it so easy to go to a job and get
along with the people there and even make friends.
Okay? It's not hard. Those gifts were given to
me in replacement for the other things that I
can't do. So while I may be six foot tall, that
doesn't mean I can play sports and do like everyone
else can. Okay, every person has gifts or strengths.
If you don't know yours, I'd encourage you to
ask five family members and friends this question.
And in one or two words, basically ask this.
In one or two words, what do you think is my
single greatest strength? Okay, that's the question.
They'll all probably give you similar answers.
Those answers identifying your area of giftness
will help you understand the truth that you are
valuable and you have a lot to offer the family
and, you know, your world. Okay, the family and
the world. Sorry. I said that, and I thought
about it, and just, I'm having one of those days,
hey, it's 5 a .m., okay, it's around 5 a .m.,
three, you weren't meant to do this alone, okay,
you, if you're constantly putting on a front
that you have it all together, and other people
will start to believe that you really do have
it together, so I challenge you to be honest
with trusted friends and family, share your struggles
with them, you know, let them help you carry
your burdens and encourage you, because the truth
is, you're never How do I put this? The truth
is you were never meant to do this alone. You're
never on your own, okay? We all struggle with
the feeling of worthlessness at one point in
our life or another. Instead of staying trapped
in the mindset of thinking that you have nothing
to offer, you need to remind yourself of those
three important truths, okay? If you feel that
you're in a season of struggle right now or if
you'd like to encourage someone who is, you know,
feel free. You know, I'm here. I'm always open
to suggestions. Just hit me up on my Facebook,
my Twitter, or anchor here, or even email me
if you have it, okay? On Facebook, my ID name
is Neogentrix. Literally search that, and you
will find me. Trust me. All right? That's all
I have on this topic for today. I will hit...
You guys up later with a whole new topic and
we'll continue our series on morals.