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Welcome back, everybody. It is Thoughts If It

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Were You, Food for Thought by Neogentrix. Now,

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the month is coming up to a close rather quickly,

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so these episodes are going to be coming out

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rather fast. Please forgive me, as April is supposed

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to start tomorrow. We're going to go ahead and

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finish up the moral series this weekend as best

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as we can. And today I'm going to go ahead and

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cover politeness. By definition, it is the behavior

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that is respectful and considerate of other people.

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Now, granted, we already covered respect, so

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I won't be covering a lot on that specific aspect

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of politeness as we already have covered it before.

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The use of the word in a sentence, seeing how

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I keep doing this regardless, is defined as behaving

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in a socially acceptable way with proper manners

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and etiquette. And this is a notable fact, no

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matter where you go, especially in foreign countries

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such as England. Being polite means being aware

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and respecting the feelings of other people.

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We may not always notice politeness, but we usually

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notice rudeness or inconsiderate behavior. And

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then such reasoning, we act on that without even

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thinking about it. Okay. You can apply. the following

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traits that I'm going to list in terms of being

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polite where they are appropriate to most interactions

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with other friends, colleagues, family, customers,

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etc. Always use common sense. Hopefully you have

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that and try to behave as appropriately as possible,

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taking into account any cultural differences.

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These are important. First things first, say

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hello to people. Greet people appropriately.

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Gain eye contact and smile naturally, shaking

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hands or a hug where appropriate, but say hello,

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especially to colleagues and other people you

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see every day. Be approachable. Do not blank

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people just because you're having a bad day.

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Two, take time to make some small talk. Perhaps

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mention the weather or ask about the person's

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family, talk about something that is in the news.

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Make an effort to engage in light conversations,

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show some interest, but don't overdo it. Remain

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friendly and positive. Pick up on the verbal

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and nonverbal signs from the other person. 3.

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Try to remember things about the other person

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and comment appropriately. Use their spouse's

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name, their birthday, or any significant events

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that have occurred or are about to occur in their

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life. Always be mindful of others' problems and

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difficult life events. 4. Always use please and

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thank you. This is a must. It's not optional.

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Make sure you thank people for their input or

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contribution. Always include please when asking

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for something, and if somebody offers you something,

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you say yes, please, or no, thank you. Five,

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praise and or congratulate the others in their

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achievements. Praise needs to be... seen as genuine

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you can't just say it just to say it you have

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to mean it this can be difficult if you feel

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jealous or angry and believe me the other person

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can tell six at work be polite and helpful to

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your subordinates as well as your bosses respectful

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and acknowledge the positions roles and duties

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of others even if the person doesn't deserve

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it seven Use appropriate language. Be respectful

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of gender, race, religion, political viewpoints,

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and other potential controversial or difficult

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subjects. Do not make derogatory or potentially

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inflammatory comments for no reason, regardless

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of how you feel. Learn to listen attentively.

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Pay attention to others while they speak. And

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do not get distracted in conversation and definitely

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do not interrupt. Trust me, we'll cover listening

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skills later. Respect other people's time. This

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is number nine. Try to be precise and to the

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point and explanations learning to be rushed.

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Ten, be assertive when necessary, but respect

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the right of others to be assertive too. Okay.

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Eleven, avoid gossip. Definitely do this. Try

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to have positive things to say about other people.

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Twelve, apologize for your mistakes. If you say

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or do something that may be considered rude or

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embarrassing, then apologize, but don't overdo

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your apologies. This can be seen as overly zealous

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and rude. Avoid jargon and vocabulary that may

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be difficult for others to understand. Explain

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complex ideas and instructions carefully. Do

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not appear arrogant. I have done that before,

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so I can say that. It has a very, very negative

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effect. 14 is simple. Respect. And be prepared

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to listen to the ideas and opinions of others.

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15. Dress appropriately for the situation. Avoid

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wearing revealing clothes in public and avoid

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staring at others who are wearing revealing clothes

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as well. Also, avoid being dressed too casually

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for the situation depending on where you're at.

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16. Use humor carefully. Aim not to cause any

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offense and know the boundaries of appropriate

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language for different situations. 17. Practice

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good personal hygiene. Wash and brush your teeth

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regularly. Hopefully you do. Change your clothes

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and use deodorant, please. On that note, avoid

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strong perfumes, aftershaves, and colognes, if

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possible. 18. Be punctual. If you have arranged

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to meet somebody at a certain time, make sure

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you're on time or even a few minutes early. If

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you're going to be late, let the other person

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or people know as far in advance as you can.

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Do not rely on feeble or exaggerated excuses

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to explain lateness. Respect other people's time

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and don't waste it. 19. Always practice good

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table manners when eating around others and avoid

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foods with strong odors. Do not talk with your

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mouth full or chew with your mouth open. and

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eat quietly and finally 20 do not pick your nose

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or ears chew on your fingernails or bite your

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fingernails in public please avoid playing excessively

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with your hair these are all terms and things

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that you can do to have a polite but pleasant

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persona now granted what you do in your private

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chambers that's up to you but This is just the

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basis of what you need on how to be polite. Good

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manners cost nothing but can make a difference

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to how other people feel about you or the organizations

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you are representing. When you're polite and

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show good manners, others are more likely to

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be polite and courteous in return. You can improve

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your face -to -face and interpersonal relationships

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with others in many, many different ways. There

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are books and other subscriptions out there for

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different things that can help you do such. You

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know, I'm not going to cover a lot of them, but

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I'm just covering the basis of this. All right.

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Well, that brings a close to this episode for

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this podcast. In the next episode, I'm going

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to cover balancing politeness with honesty. And

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then we're going to go ahead and cover the next

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tomorrow.