Welcome back to Thoughts of People U, Food for
Thought by Neogentrics. It is 1am, here where
I'm at, and we're going to pick up where we left
off with the topic lesson I was going to cover.
We're going to cover emotional intelligence today,
based off of the whole understanding of understanding
others. Many of us are aware of IQ, which is
the intelligence quotient. It's designed to measure
intellectual intelligence. It gives a score from
a series of tests. Higher IQs indicate better
cognitive abilities and the ability to learn
and understand even at higher rates. People with
higher IQs are more likely to do well academically
without exerting the same amount of mental effort
as those with lower IQ scores. A logical assumption...
Therefore, it's that people with higher IQs will
be more successful at work and throughout life.
This assumption has been proven incorrect, however.
There is more to success than just simply being
clever. Emotional intelligence, or EI if you
will, sometimes called EQ, or the emotional quotient,
is a more modern concept and was only fully developed
in the mid -1900s by the very same Daniel Goleman.
Among others, of course. I gotta give props and
credit where it's due. Emotional intelligence,
by definition, is the measure of an individual's
ability to recognize and manage their emotions,
and the emotions of other people, both individually
and in groups. Okay? There are benefits of higher
emotional intelligence. Two of them are... People
with higher emotional intelligence find it easier
to form and maintain interpersonal relationships
and to fit in, as they say, particular situations.
People with higher emotional intelligence are
also better at understanding their own psychological
state, which can be basically included in managing
stress effectively and being less likely to suffer
from depression. There is no... correlation between
IQ and EI scores. In other words, academic aptitude
or IQ has no connection with how people understand
and deal with their emotions and the emotions
of others. In other words, the EI. This makes
perfect sense. We've all met very clever people
who nonetheless have no idea about how to deal
with people and the reverse. Some people have
high IQs and low emotional intelligence. and
vice versa. While some people score very highly
on both and some do not. IQ and emotional intelligence
attempt to measure different forms of human intelligence,
along with personality. These measures make up
an individual's psyche. Emotional intelligence
is the one part of the human psyche that we can
develop and improve by learning and practicing
new skills. You can learn more about these skills
from many pages in different books from different
people, especially Daniel Goldman's book. IQ
and personality are more static measures and
likely to stay reasonably constant throughout
life, although... You can develop your ability
to complete IQ tests very successfully, you know,
and show that you have a very high IQ just in
a different means, okay? You can find different
tests to help you measure your IQ, your emotional
intelligence level, and personality online in
the books, like I mentioned earlier. EI tests
require that the person taking the test answers
questions honestly. It is therefore a lot easier
to cheat. an EI test than it is on an IQ test,
whereas your IQ will be made known eventually.
Ultimately, emotional intelligence can only be
measured by how an individual progresses through
life, developing meaningful relationships with
others, their personal skills and understanding,
their ability to manage their own emotions, and
their personal skills. Elements of emotional
intelligence is one of the main things here that
I want to go ahead and cover as well, specifically
in this area. As Daniel Goleman divided emotional
intelligence into personal and social competencies,
which broadly split between personal and interpersonal
skills on the skills that you need as essential
skills, within each of these sections are a range
of skills which are elements of emotional intelligence.
I will cover the difference between the two,
which ones are under what. And while some of
the topics may sound familiar, as something I've
covered before, some I may not have gotten to
yet, but don't worry, I will cover them in detail
at a later date. Personal skills or competence.
How we manage ourselves. One of the main ways
is self -awareness. Under this category, we can
align emotional awareness, accurate self -assessing,
and even self -confidence. The next thing would
be considered self -regulation, which falls under
the categories of self -control, trustworthiness,
conscientiousness, adaptability, and innovation.
And finally for this category, motivation, which
has the topics of achievement drive, which is
the ability to keep going despite that, commitment,
initiative, and optimism. But these are personal
skills for confidence. However, social skills
fall into a different category. Those are how
we handle relationships with others. One of the
main things being empathy, as I said before,
in understanding others, developing others, service
orientations. Leveraging diversity and political
awareness. Also in the same category, obviously,
would be social skills. Following the category
of influence, communication, conflict management,
leadership, change catalysts, building bonds,
collaboration or cooperation with others, or
even team capabilities. Okay? Personal skills
and competencies. There are three areas of personal
skill and competencies in emotional intelligence,
and like I mentioned, the personal is self -awareness.
In self -awareness, you have emotional awareness,
accurate self -assessment, and self -confidence.
Self -awareness is the skill of being aware and
understanding your emotions as they occur and
as they evolve. It is wrong to think of emotions
as either positive or negative. Instead, you
should think of them as appropriate or inappropriate.
For example, Anger is usually associated with
being a negative emotion. However, it can be
completely reasonable and appropriate emotion
in certain situations or circumstances. Emotional
intelligence allows us to recognize our anger
and understand why this emotion even occurs.
Effective self -assessment of feelings and emotions
will help to improve your confidence and even
your self -esteem. Self -regulation, or self
-management, includes the self -control, trustworthiness,
conscientiousness, adaptability, and even innovation.
Having learned to be aware of your emotions,
the skill of self -regulation relates to managing
them inappropriately and proportionately. Skill
management skills relate to the emotions you
are feeling at any given time or in any given
situation or circumstance, and how well you manage
them. what you do with them, whether you behave
in a way which is recognized as good or virtuous
or not, which leaves only motivation left for
this section. Motivation, the final personal
skill aspect of emotional intelligence, is motivation.
Self -motivation includes our personal drive
to improve and achieve, commitment to our goals,
initiative, or readiness to act. on any opportunity
and optimism and resilience as well. Self -motivation
and personal time management are key skills in
this area. So do not make unreasonable demands
on yourself. Learn to be assertive rather than
just saying yes to the demands of others. And
like I mentioned before, I will cover some of
these other topics in a little more detail such
as self -regulation, self -motivation, time management,
or even the very well -known self -awareness
and confidence. We'll take a short break, and
I'll come back with our social interpersonal
skills and competencies. So next is social or
interpersonal skills or competencies. Interpersonal
skills are the skills we use to interact with
other people. They enable us to communicate appropriately
and build stronger, more meaningful relationships.
Emotional intelligence includes how we understand
others and their emotions, and our actions and
behaviors towards them. There are two key aspects,
like I mentioned before, empathy. Empathy is
an awareness of the needs and feelings of others,
both individually and in groups, and being able
to see things from the point of view of others.
Empathy helps us to develop a stronger understanding
of other people's situations. It includes understanding
others, developing others, helping a service
orientation, leveraging diversity and political
awareness. Empathy can often be difficult to
achieve. Learn to listen effectively to both
the verbal and non -verbal messages of others.
Include body movements, gestures, physical signs
of emotion. Use questions to find out more about
other people and what they are feeling and feedback
to clarify that you have correctly understood
their feelings. Acknowledge and respect the feelings
of others even if you disagree and avoid making
comments or statements that are judgmental, belittling,
rejecting, or even undermining. As this is the
whole point of empathy. The second aspect is
social skills. Social skills encompasses a wide
range of relationship and interpersonal skills.
These range from leadership through to influencing
and persuading and managing conflict, as well
as working in a team. The term social skills
covers a wide variety of skills and competencies,
many of which are rooted in self -esteem and
personal confidence. By developing your social
skills, being easy to talk to, being a good listener,
sharing and trustworthy, you also become more
charismatic and attractive to others. This tends
to improve self -esteem and confidence, which
makes it easier for positive personal dialogue,
and a greater understanding and acceptance of
your own emotions. In short, working on your
emotional intelligence could well be the most
important aspect of your personal development.
Research has shown that people with higher levels
of BI, or emotional intelligence, enjoy more
satisfying and successful careers and relationships.
If you think about ways to enhance your emotional
intelligence, you are likely to become more charismatic,
including being interesting and attractive to
others, and you will also give your self -esteem
a huge, much -needed boost if it needs it. So,
With that, it brings this topic of emotional
intelligence to a slightly abrupt end. Next time,
I will be talking a little bit more about emotions
and your emotional state. Until then, thank you
for listening. This is Foo for Thought Thoughts,
if it were you, by Neo Geo Tricks. Enjoy the
rest of your day.