Welcome back everybody to Thoughts If It Were
You by Neo Gentrics. We're going to continue with
emotional intelligence as an interpersonal skill.
We're going to talk about the social skills required
that most people should have in the emotional
intelligence. Social skills is a very broad term
and I will cover that in general. But it is also
used quite specifically in the context of emotional
intelligence. In emotional intelligence, the
term social skills refers to the skills needed
to handle and influence other people's emotions
effectively. While this may sound like manipulation,
it can actually be as simple as understanding
that smiling at people makes them smile back.
can therefore make them feel much more positive.
Social skills can therefore be considered as
the final piece of emotional intelligence. A
jigsaw puzzle, if you will. Emotional intelligence
starts with understanding your own emotions,
which is self -awareness, then being able to
manage them, self -regulation, and then use them
to achieve your goals, self -motivation. Once
you're able to understand and manage yourself,
then you start to understand the emotions and
feelings of others, aka empathy, and finally
influence them in the terms of social skills.
The term social skills covers a wide range of
skills. The social skills in the emotional intelligence
sense include persuasion, influencing skills,
communication skills, Climate management skills,
leadership skills, change management skills,
building bonds or rapport, if you will. Collaboration
and cooperation. Basically, teamwork. The persuasion
and influence skills. Persuasion is the art of
enthusing others, if you will. and winning them
over to your ideas or purpose, cause, or course
of action. People who are persuasive or have
influence read the emotional currents in the
situation and fine -tune what they are saying
to appeal to those involved, in which case this
is not manipulation. Communication skills. Communication
skills are vital to good emotional intelligence.
You need to be able to listen to others and also
convey your own thoughts and perhaps more importantly
feelings. Good communicators, they listen well
to those around them. Make sure that they understand
what is said and seek for open sharing of information.
They're prepared to hear about problems and not
just want to be told about their names. They're
able to deal with difficult issues straight away
and don't allow problems to fester. They register
and act upon emotional cues in communicating,
making sure that their messages are appropriate
for the certain situation that is needed. If
you have problems with communicating and communication
skills, don't worry, I will cover it. But first,
let's cover conflict management skills. Conflict
and disagreements can arise at any time, often
seeming to appear out of thin air. The art of
managing and resolving conflict is crucial both
at home and at work. It starts by being aware
of the importance of tact and diplomacy, and
how these can be used to help to defuse difficult
situations. Good conflict managers are able to
bring disagreements into the open. and resolving
it. They use sharing of emotions to encourage
debate and open discussion, reducing the hidden
patterns and patterns, and helping each part
to recognize each other's feelings as well as
logical positions. They also try to win -win
solutions as well, but that's more of a transactional
analysis and negotiation of all skills, as well
as conflict resolution and meditation skills.
It has nothing to do with emotional intelligence.
Next is leadership skills. It may sound strange
to include leadership skills as part of social
skills, but surely EI is part of leadership.
Not the only way around, okay? The answer is
that leadership and emotional intelligence are
intricately linked. As we noted earlier, Only
those who are turned into their own and others'
emotions can help to influence. Perhaps the key
aspect of good leadership is influence and being
able to take others along with you. Some people
may call that charisma, but it is more profoundly.
It is a good emotion on topics. Good leaders
will be able to articulate a vision and enthuse
others with it. Not need to be in a homo -leadership
role to provide leadership. Support and guide
the performance of colleagues while holding them
accountable, and then lead by example. This is
leadership. Keep in mind, I will cover leadership
in more detail later, but I'm just giving a quick
overview of each one of these skills, social
skills, that is required for emotional intelligence.
Change management skills Effective change managers
often change as a change catalyst, or those who
make change happen without ailing to name everyone
involved. We can all understand that change is
naturally quite stressful for all those involved.
Good change catalysts, however, make it an exciting
opportunity rather than a threat. Independently,
they recognize the need for change and remove
the barriers. They challenge the status quo and
champion change. They also lead from the front,
modeling the desired change. In the process of
trying to do this, they also work on building
bonds or building rapport. It is vital to be
able to build and maintain relationships with
other people. Developing this skill leads to
better relationships and much better ability
to work and get on in life. are great networkers,
buildings, and maintaining a strong network of
contacts and connections. They're extremely good
at building rapport, but also work on establishing
relationships to keep them healthy. One hallmark
of people who are good at this skill is that
they have many friends among their work colleagues.
It's very much about valuing others. Being interested
in them and wanting to know more about them without
any secondary intentions behind it. Next, they're
able to cooperate and collaborate with others.
This is a good teamwork skill to have. There
are some people who work well with others. They
build good and productive working and other relationships
as well. This is a key social skill in emotional
intelligence. These people tend to see the relationship
as at least as important as the task in hand.
They value people as much as they, as much as
more as the activity itself. They actively collaborate,
sharing plans and ideas, work together to build
a whole better. I said that wrong. They, and
work together to build a better whole. I know
what I want to say. It's not coming up. In doing
so, they promote a cooperative climate in which
everyone is invited to contribute. They also
actively seek out opportunities for collaborative
working. When good team workers are in a team,
the team performs better. They draw other members
of the team in and help them to collaborate.
They build a team identity and therefore foster
commitment. They may do this from a leadership
role, or they may be a subordinate, but having
people like this in a team is crucial to success,
no matter who you are. A cycle of emotional intelligence.
Social skills are where good emotional intelligence
is perhaps most obvious. However, emotional intelligence
does not start or end with social skills. Instead,
it is a cycle, with its core lying with and in
the individual. Only those who understand and
regulate themselves and their emotions are able
to work well with the if and effectively with
others. Understanding is crucial to... Sorry
understanding this is crucial to developing your
emotional intelligence and deepening your bonds
with the people around It's one of those things
that You learn to come to understand that it's
not as It's not as mainstream as everyone would
understand or believe it to be While this skill
does require you to understand others and be
able to build upon your basic social skills,
not everyone has these skills. But they all can
be learned, if not earned, in some way or form.
If you're not sure if you have any of these skills,
or you'd like to know more about it, whether
I cover it or I don't, in one of my upcoming
podcasts, feel free to let me know. And I will
definitely cover it for you in as much detail
as I can, getting in as much information as possible
in a short time frame. So you can understand
what the basic gist of whatever that skill is
that you're looking for. So you can understand
it better, to utilize it in your everyday life.
I'm here to help everybody, if I can. Or at least
help those that need or want help. I provide
the information that most people can't even find.
Or don't know how to find or look for me. Or
they're not certain of me. Yes, I do talk a lot
in a lot of my podcasts. But I'm not saying what
I say because I enjoy speaking. I say what I
say because I know people need to know this and
not everybody does. And it's not fair to the
rest of us to assume that someone knows something
when they don't. Just based off of how they act.
And while situations may not allow for, say,
your mom, your dad, your uncle, aunt, or what
have you to teach you these skills, it doesn't
mean that they are inaccessible to you. So again,
I thank you for listening to my podcast. This
is Food for Thought. Thoughts If It Were You
by Neogentrics. And I hope you enjoy the rest
of your day.