Hey, hey, hey everybody, it's Neogentrics with
Food for Thought, Thoughts If It Were You. Today
we're going to take a slight deviation from what
I said I was going to talk about before. Now,
you know I'm covering essential skills, personal
skills, interpersonal skills. I'm even going
to cover some leadership learning skills, presentation
skills, maybe a few writing, numerical, and parenting
skills later. But for the moment, let's take
a step back at a personal skill that... A friend
of mine asked me about today. It's a little strange.
Typically, I don't really like answering questions.
I like asking questions and making other people
think about it so they can come to their own
realization of what they mean. Well, my friend
came to me today and he asked me a question.
The question he asked is, what is anger? Of course,
I had to stop and look at him like, are you serious?
I mean, you know, anger is a natural, though
sometimes unwanted, irrational emotion that everybody
experiences from time to time in their life.
And I just looked at him. I kind of had to ask,
I mean, why would you ask me what is anger? You
know, I mean, come to think of it, I stopped
for a second. I thought, do you listen to my
podcast at all? And, you know, he said he did.
With that in consideration, I said, okay, I'll
answer your question. But for all those who wonder
what is anger as well, I want to go ahead and
cover that today on my podcast. So I told him
I'll do a podcast on it. That way you get your
answer. And if anyone else is wondering what
is anger, I'll cover it for them as well. What
is anger? Well, like I said before, it is a natural,
though sometimes unwanted, irrational emotional
response that most people get. Anger experts
describe the emotion as a primary natural emotion
that has evolved as a way of surviving and protecting
yourself from what is considered a wrongdoing.
Well, let me go a little deeper into that. A
little bit, not by a whole lot. Mild anger may
be brought on by feeling tired, stressed, or
even irritated. I can definitely testify to this
as I'm irritated about maybe 75 % of the time.
In fact, we are more likely to feel irritated
if our basic human needs such as food, shelter,
even sex and sleep, etc. are not met or are jeopardized
in some way. We also may become angry when reacting
to frustration, criticism that we don't like,
or a threat. And it's not necessarily a bad or
inappropriate reaction, but however, the way
you go about it can be kind of negative. We can
also feel irritated by other people's beliefs,
you know, opinions, actions, hence anger can
affect our ability to communicate effectively,
making us more likely to say or do unreasonable
or irrational things. Being unreasonable or irrational
can lead others around us to feel threatened.
Even resentful or angry themselves or you know
again these can all be barriers to effective
communicate to effective communication Anger
can also be a secondary emotion to feeling sad
frightened threatened or even lonely You know
it's useful to try to understand why you or somebody
else is feeling angry at any given time so The
root causes can be addressed and problem solved
However, anger is not just a state of mind. It
can trigger physical changes, including an increased
heart rate, blood pressure. Levels of hormones
such as adrenaline prepared us physically for
a fight. That's why a lot of people break out
in fights, because they're upset. Due to these
physical effects, long -term anger can be detrimental
to health and well -being. a healthy thing in
retrospect for a long term. You know, now that
I think about it, I'm talking about what is anger.
Let me take a sidestep here and talk about how
anger is expressed. You know, it can be expressed
in many different ways. Different types of anger
affect different people differently. I think
I could have worded that better. And can manifest
to produce different actions and even signs of
anger. You know, the most common sign of anger
are both verbal and non -verbal. You can be abusive
even without actually raising your hand and hitting
people. And again, I'm going to go ahead and
back step here a little bit. Guys, it doesn't
matter how angry you are, never raise your hand
to a woman. Okay? Unless you're really sincerely
looking to go to jail. Or die. Anything. Anyway.
It can be clear that somebody is angry from what
they say or how they say it, or from their tone
of voice. Anger can also be expressed through
body language and even non -verbal cues. Trying
to look physically bigger, therefore more intimidating.
I see this more from guys than women. Staring,
frowning, clenching a fist. You know, some people
are very internalizing with their anger, and
it may be difficult to even notice any physical
signs. You know, it is however, how do I put
this, unusual for an actual physical attack to
transpire without warning signs appearing first.
You know, like him raising his hand, swinging
at you, or making advances. And I don't know
why I'm using guys as the basic response here.
I guess it's because it's common. But women do
this too. It's just a little more dangerous.
What makes people angry? Well... At a basic instinctual
level, anger may be used as a way to help protect
territory or family members. Secure or protect
mating privileges, protect against loss of food
or any other possessions. Let me think here.
Or as a response to or perceived threats. Other
reasons can be very diverse, sometimes rational,
sometimes irrational. Irrational anger may mean
that you have a problem with managing your anger
or even accepting that you are angry. I'm covering
what anger is. I guess I should cover anger management
next. Yeah, I'll do that. So, some common triggers
to anger would be... It's going to be kind of
a list. It took me a while to write this, okay?
Grief or sadness, loss of a family member, friend,
or loved one. Rudeness, poor interpersonal skills,
or just bad service. That one seems to be very,
very common. I don't know why. Tiredness, since
people may have shorter tempers and may be more
irritable when tired. I am one of those. I have
to admit it. It's unfortunate, but when I'm tired,
I don't want to be bothered. Hungry. This one
seems to be very common. I'm just going to leave
that one alone. Injustice. You know, for example,
being bullied, humiliated, or what's the word?
Embarrassed. Or being told that you or your loved
one has a serious illness. The last one is actually
pretty common, but the first three are very,
very common. It happens in public schools. Sexual
frustration. I wouldn't know about that one too
much because, well, I don't do that. So, money
problems and the stress associated with debt,
some form of stress on realistic deadlines, and
things beyond immediate control such as being
stuck in traffic. I'm going to be honest with
you guys. If you're getting upset because you're
stuck in traffic, you should have left earlier.
Okay? A feeling of failure or disappointment,
going back to the previous topic of being stuck
in traffic, as a prime example. Being angry as
a result of taking drugs or alcohol when withdrawing
from such substances. Now, that one is going
to be uncontrollable. If you're having issues
with anger because you're doing that. I don't
think I did a podcast on drugs and alcohol yet,
but I will do one soon. When it comes down to
that, you just need... help okay having a crime
committed against you or loved one theft violence
sexual offenses um but also more minor things
such as feeling or of being treated inappropriately
this one seems to be common uh being either physically
or mentally unwell um being in pain or living
with a serious illness can lead to even feeling
angry and believe you me it took me a while to
make this list So, let me think for a second.
Even with all of that in that list, here's another
question for you. Another something to think
about. Can anger make you ill? Well, when we
are angry, our bodies release the hormones, adrenaline,
and what's the other one called? I think it's
pronounced cortisol. The same hormones release
when we encounter stress. And I will cover stress.
Not today, but at another point. As a result
of these releases in hormones, our blood pressure,
pulse, body temperature, breathing rate may increase,
sometimes to potentially dangerous levels, and
it can make you very, very sick. The natural
chemical reaction is designed to give us an instant
boost of energy and power, and is often referred
to as the fight -or -flight reaction. This means
that the body and mind prepared for a fight,
or for running away from danger. I don't know
which one's more common because I've never been
in either. So I guess it just depends on your
situation. However, people who get angry often
cannot manage their anger effectively and can
become ill. Just as stress that is left unresolved
will make you sick. Our bodies are not designed
to withstand high levels of adrenaline and cortisol
over long periods of time or on a regular basis.
And if your body is, I... think you need to go
see a doctor because that's not normal. And don't
ask me what is normal. That's a debate all on
its own. Some of the health problems that can
and may occur as a result of being angry regularly
or for an extended period can include the following.
I have a short list here. I got this from my
doctor. If you don't believe me, go look it up
yourself or ask your doctor. Anxin pains, usually
in the back and head. High blood pressure, which
can, in severe cases, lead to serious complaints
such as stroke or cardiac arrest. This has happened.
Sleep problems, like deprivation of sleep or
excessive sleeping. Problems with digestion.
Skin disorders, reduced thresholds for pain.
Impaired immune system. That last one is actually
a very big problem. And, you know, on that note,
anger can also lead to psychological problems
such as depression, reduced self -control, eating
disorders, alcoholism, substance abuse, self
-injury. I mean, it should be clear, therefore,
that anger can be detrimental to your health.
If anger is or becoming a problem, it should
be managed, you know. And, you know, after having
covered the question that my friend asked, what
is anger? In this big of detail, for that matter,
I'm going to go ahead and cover on my next podcast,
how to manage your anger for the sake of those
who don't know. Then I know I covered depression.
I'm going to go back through my notes, see what
I have covered. And if I haven't covered everything,
I will revisit depression one more time. However,
there is a topic I am going to cover next, aside
from anger management, and that would be sleep.
Okay? I know it's not a big topic and not a lot
of people are interested in it, but wouldn't
you at least want to be able to sleep more efficiently,
more soundly, and get the optimal amount of rest
you can, even in a small period of time? I would
think that it's worth the... trip into that topic.
So I'll go ahead and cover that after I cover
anger management for those who have anger issues
and are seeking for a way to resolve that. And
as always, thank you for listening. You guys
are great. I enjoy having you guys listen to
my podcast and giving me all these really great
suggestions on stuff to cover. From the essential
skills, personal skills, so on and so forth.
I mean, I may not be going in order with all
these different things, but I'm going to go ahead
and do my best to cover as many of them as I
can. I'm not a guru in all this information.
Remember, I'm only giving you what I know. As
the questions are asked, I answer them. And this
is the response that I give everybody when they
listen to my podcast and they ask me, have you
covered this topic yet? And if you have, which
episode is it? Or if you're going to cover it,
when so I know when to listen or at least to
be looking out for it along with all my other
podcasts. Because we covered so many topics in
the last 62 episodes so far that. You know, I've
been a little all over the place. I haven't really
been self -contained within one specific topic
since I covered relationships. And on that note,
I did cover relationships to the point where
you are dating the other person or intending
to date someone. What I have not covered. It's
what goes on beyond the relationship once you
actually get together with the other person.
And that I will be visiting a little bit later.
Granted, the only reason I covered relationships
was because of Valentine's. So just to be clear,
I'm not done with that topic just yet. All right.
So enjoy the rest of your day. And I'll talk
to you guys later. Neogentrix out.