WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.600 Welcome back to Internet frenzy. I'm Whitney 00:00:02.600 --> 00:00:05.599 and my co -host Joe is not here again today. 00:00:05.639 --> 00:00:08.199 I'm so sorry you guys I know you miss him Joe's 00:00:08.199 --> 00:00:10.640 dad's in town So he's just been so busy you hanging 00:00:10.640 --> 00:00:12.960 with him and this is the only time I can film 00:00:12.960 --> 00:00:16.460 and edit So tonight's the night The episode tonight 00:00:16.460 --> 00:00:19.760 is ho ho. Holy shit. So this is gonna be really 00:00:19.760 --> 00:00:22.140 fun I know Christmas is come and gone things 00:00:22.140 --> 00:00:24.739 were too crazy. I was not able to film an episode 00:00:24.739 --> 00:00:28.699 before Christmas, but these stories had me absolutely 00:00:28.699 --> 00:00:31.500 shook. I mean, literally, ho ho, holy shit. That's 00:00:31.500 --> 00:00:33.159 literally what I have to say. And it's all I 00:00:33.159 --> 00:00:35.840 have to say. Before we hop into this week's episode, 00:00:36.320 --> 00:00:39.899 I wanted to talk about last week's episode was 00:00:39.899 --> 00:00:42.799 my wife's trainer. So basically he caught the 00:00:42.799 --> 00:00:46.039 trainer hooking up with his wife in the car. 00:00:46.799 --> 00:00:48.920 And then the other one was kissed a random girl. 00:00:48.960 --> 00:00:51.460 That was like a shorter story of a husband was 00:00:51.460 --> 00:00:53.679 at a bar and he told his wife he kissed her. 00:00:53.780 --> 00:00:55.380 But people in the comments were saying, I don't 00:00:55.380 --> 00:00:57.979 think it was just a kiss. Then there was the 00:00:57.979 --> 00:01:00.320 hall pass where it was someone local to her She 00:01:00.320 --> 00:01:02.439 was asking for that person to be a hall pass 00:01:02.439 --> 00:01:04.659 and she ended up Looking up with them and the 00:01:04.659 --> 00:01:07.219 boyfriend dumped her because of it and then the 00:01:07.219 --> 00:01:10.280 other one was another cheating story I'm at the 00:01:10.280 --> 00:01:11.840 top of my head. I'm so sorry. I can't remember 00:01:11.840 --> 00:01:13.739 the logistics of all that but it wasn't the fake 00:01:13.739 --> 00:01:15.879 So it doesn't really matter but basically someone 00:01:15.879 --> 00:01:19.439 cheated But the fake of last week's episode was 00:01:19.439 --> 00:01:23.420 my wife's trainer So that was the fake one if 00:01:23.420 --> 00:01:27.239 you got it, right? You get a prize and it's a 00:01:27.239 --> 00:01:29.599 high five. Okay, let's get started with this 00:01:29.599 --> 00:01:33.000 week's episode. It's a good one. Let's do this. 00:01:51.180 --> 00:01:53.680 Am I the asshole for asking my husband's friend 00:01:53.680 --> 00:01:57.420 to leave on Christmas night? I29F and my husband 00:01:57.420 --> 00:01:59.700 31M have been married for just under a year. 00:02:00.079 --> 00:02:02.099 This was our first Christmas hosting both of 00:02:02.099 --> 00:02:04.299 our families together in our home, which felt 00:02:04.299 --> 00:02:06.980 like a big deal to me. I spent weeks planning 00:02:06.980 --> 00:02:09.080 the menu, decorating, and trying to make everything 00:02:09.080 --> 00:02:11.020 feel warm and welcoming. Everything was going 00:02:11.020 --> 00:02:13.360 fine during the day. Both families came over, 00:02:13.400 --> 00:02:15.520 we opened gifts, ate dinner, and people slowly 00:02:15.520 --> 00:02:19.039 started leaving. By around 8 .30 p .m., it was 00:02:19.039 --> 00:02:21.800 just me, my husband, and a couple of close friends 00:02:21.800 --> 00:02:23.960 who had stopped by briefly. That's when his friend 00:02:23.960 --> 00:02:26.180 showed up. I'll call her Elle. She's someone 00:02:26.180 --> 00:02:28.319 my husband knows from work. I've met her a handful 00:02:28.319 --> 00:02:30.120 of times in group settings, but I wouldn't say 00:02:30.120 --> 00:02:32.580 we're close. She texted my husband earlier that 00:02:32.580 --> 00:02:34.599 day asking if she could stop by because she didn't 00:02:34.599 --> 00:02:36.979 want to be alone on Christmas, and he said yes 00:02:36.979 --> 00:02:39.539 without really checking in with me. I wasn't 00:02:39.539 --> 00:02:41.080 thrilled, but I didn't want to start a fight 00:02:41.080 --> 00:02:43.599 for Christmas. When Elle arrived, she seemed 00:02:43.599 --> 00:02:46.259 emotional. She brought a bottle of wine and kept 00:02:46.259 --> 00:02:48.300 saying how grateful she was that my husband had 00:02:48.300 --> 00:02:51.000 always been there for her, especially during 00:02:51.000 --> 00:02:53.610 a hard year. I tried to be polite, but it quickly 00:02:53.610 --> 00:02:55.949 felt like I was intruding on their conversation 00:02:55.949 --> 00:02:58.490 in my own living room. At one point, she started 00:02:58.490 --> 00:03:00.490 telling stories about Christmases they had spent 00:03:00.490 --> 00:03:02.889 together before he met me. I didn't even know 00:03:02.889 --> 00:03:05.430 they had celebrated holidays together. She laughed 00:03:05.430 --> 00:03:07.310 and said, yeah, it was kind of our thing back 00:03:07.310 --> 00:03:09.349 then. That made me uncomfortable, but I stayed 00:03:09.349 --> 00:03:11.169 quiet. The breaking point came when she handed 00:03:11.169 --> 00:03:13.710 my husband a small wrapped gift and said, I wasn't 00:03:13.710 --> 00:03:15.409 sure if this would be weird, but I wanted you 00:03:15.409 --> 00:03:18.330 to have it. He opened it and froze. I didn't 00:03:18.330 --> 00:03:20.330 see what it was, but he quickly put it back in 00:03:20.330 --> 00:03:23.069 the box and set it aside. Al then looked at me 00:03:23.069 --> 00:03:25.009 and said, I hope this is okay. He knows what 00:03:25.009 --> 00:03:27.129 it means. That's when I asked her as calmly as 00:03:27.129 --> 00:03:29.030 I could if maybe tonight wasn't the best night 00:03:29.030 --> 00:03:31.030 and if she could head home. I said it was late 00:03:31.030 --> 00:03:33.310 and we had an early morning. She immediately 00:03:33.310 --> 00:03:35.289 started crying and accused me of embarrassing 00:03:35.289 --> 00:03:38.189 her and making Christmas about jealousy. My husband 00:03:38.189 --> 00:03:39.889 pulled me aside and said I was being rude and 00:03:39.889 --> 00:03:41.650 that she was just a friend who needed support. 00:03:42.110 --> 00:03:44.189 I told him I felt blindsided and uncomfortable 00:03:44.189 --> 00:03:46.569 in my own home. She ended up leaving but the 00:03:46.569 --> 00:03:48.629 rest of the night was tense. My husband barely 00:03:48.629 --> 00:03:50.750 spoke to me and said I ruined his Christmas by 00:03:50.750 --> 00:03:53.409 making someone feel unwanted. Now he's saying 00:03:53.409 --> 00:03:55.870 I owe her an apology and that I should have handled 00:03:55.870 --> 00:03:59.469 it differently. Am I an asshole? Wow wow wow 00:03:59.469 --> 00:04:03.509 wow wow. I was shook when I read this story. 00:04:04.289 --> 00:04:07.810 I would be absolutely livid. So uncomfortable. 00:04:08.430 --> 00:04:10.949 Elle is so on the wrong. It's so inappropriate. 00:04:11.650 --> 00:04:14.550 And the husband more than anything. He's sorry. 00:04:14.909 --> 00:04:17.089 the husband's in the wrong. I feel like it's 00:04:17.089 --> 00:04:19.209 very strange that he didn't even ask the wife 00:04:19.209 --> 00:04:21.470 to begin with. If he can invite someone else 00:04:21.470 --> 00:04:24.670 over, especially like a female coworker, that 00:04:24.670 --> 00:04:28.310 would be very, very upsetting. I would not like 00:04:28.310 --> 00:04:29.769 that whatsoever. And the fact she didn't even 00:04:29.769 --> 00:04:31.870 know that they spent holidays together prior, 00:04:31.970 --> 00:04:35.170 that's like a screaming red flag. I would be 00:04:35.170 --> 00:04:37.769 feeling very, very insecure and triggered at 00:04:37.769 --> 00:04:40.470 that point. It would really, really bother me. 00:04:40.550 --> 00:04:43.490 And I think it's so terrible that he's like defending 00:04:43.490 --> 00:04:47.160 his coworker rather than like validating his 00:04:47.160 --> 00:04:51.180 wife like he's so focused on Defending her and 00:04:51.180 --> 00:04:54.139 that is it just like shows the red flag So like 00:04:54.139 --> 00:04:55.939 where his heart is I feel like at that point 00:04:55.939 --> 00:04:58.360 like he is not focused on what actually matters 00:04:58.360 --> 00:05:01.079 And he's not seeing what he's doing is wrong 00:05:01.079 --> 00:05:04.839 But it gets worse you guys so there's an update 00:05:04.839 --> 00:05:07.560 I found out what the gift was I asked my husband 00:05:07.560 --> 00:05:09.480 again about the gift after reading through the 00:05:09.480 --> 00:05:12.100 comments here And he finally told me It was a 00:05:12.100 --> 00:05:13.819 framed photo of the two of them from a Christmas 00:05:13.819 --> 00:05:16.000 a few years ago before he met. He said it was 00:05:16.000 --> 00:05:18.139 taken after they spent the day volunteering together 00:05:18.139 --> 00:05:19.939 and that she'd written a note on the back about 00:05:19.939 --> 00:05:22.259 how that Christmas changed everything for her. 00:05:22.480 --> 00:05:25.120 He admitted he froze because he didn't expect 00:05:25.120 --> 00:05:26.899 something that personal and didn't want to open 00:05:26.899 --> 00:05:29.500 it in front of me. He swears nothing of her physical 00:05:29.500 --> 00:05:31.920 happened between them, but he also admitted that 00:05:31.920 --> 00:05:33.759 they had talked in the past about what might 00:05:33.759 --> 00:05:36.019 have been before he started dating me. That hurt 00:05:36.019 --> 00:06:03.360 more than I expected. Yikes. What do you guys 00:06:03.360 --> 00:06:04.939 think? I would love to know I wish I could chat 00:06:04.939 --> 00:06:07.199 with every single one of you as I'm talking because 00:06:07.199 --> 00:06:09.240 I Would love to hear all of your guys's thoughts 00:06:09.240 --> 00:06:11.980 on this story This is hard like I feel like this 00:06:11.980 --> 00:06:14.680 would be something that I would not really feel 00:06:14.680 --> 00:06:16.319 comfortable with my husband staying and like 00:06:16.319 --> 00:06:18.120 working with this girl But it's also like you 00:06:18.120 --> 00:06:20.220 can't just get up and leave like what if his 00:06:20.220 --> 00:06:21.860 job is a really good job And he absolutely loves 00:06:21.860 --> 00:06:25.240 it. So I really hope this husband is not gonna 00:06:25.449 --> 00:06:27.730 you know, cross those lines and take it a step 00:06:27.730 --> 00:06:31.009 further and betray his spouse. But I'm glad he 00:06:31.009 --> 00:06:33.269 apologized. But I just feel like there's more 00:06:33.269 --> 00:06:35.790 that needs to be addressed here. OK, here's story 00:06:35.790 --> 00:06:38.490 number two. Am I available for refusing to let 00:06:38.490 --> 00:06:41.009 my son take his Christmas gifts to my ex -wife's 00:06:41.009 --> 00:06:43.290 house to share with the other children there? 00:06:43.800 --> 00:06:46.240 My ex -wife and I had a bitter divorce six years 00:06:46.240 --> 00:06:48.639 ago. We don't get along and we don't communicate 00:06:48.639 --> 00:06:50.540 about anything other than our 10 year old son 00:06:50.540 --> 00:06:52.759 and when it comes to him, we often disagree on 00:06:52.759 --> 00:06:55.040 big decisions and we need mediation to come to 00:06:55.040 --> 00:06:57.680 an agreement. And at times that also means we 00:06:57.680 --> 00:06:59.819 end up in court for a decision. Things have been 00:06:59.819 --> 00:07:01.839 worse on that front since she remarried. Her 00:07:01.839 --> 00:07:04.319 husband has three of his own kids, 18 plus, nine 00:07:04.319 --> 00:07:06.319 and eight. They also have a four year old daughter 00:07:06.319 --> 00:07:08.480 together. The problem since her second marriage 00:07:08.480 --> 00:07:11.420 is the belief that they have a duty to make sure 00:07:11.420 --> 00:07:13.399 things are fair and equal between the children 00:07:13.399 --> 00:07:15.779 in their house and because they have a belief 00:07:15.779 --> 00:07:17.680 that their household is more important and that 00:07:17.680 --> 00:07:19.800 certain experiences belong to them as a family. 00:07:20.160 --> 00:07:22.040 And then I should refrain from doing those things 00:07:22.040 --> 00:07:24.079 with my son. Examples of this are when I took 00:07:24.079 --> 00:07:25.899 my son to Disney and they were upset because 00:07:25.899 --> 00:07:27.720 they had a five -year plan to take their family 00:07:27.720 --> 00:07:30.100 there. This was never mentioned to me and I thought 00:07:30.100 --> 00:07:32.040 it was unfair to say I couldn't bring our son 00:07:32.040 --> 00:07:34.360 until they got to take him. Another example was 00:07:34.360 --> 00:07:36.360 signing my son up for ice skating lessons when 00:07:36.360 --> 00:07:38.800 he wanted. I signed them up close to where we 00:07:38.800 --> 00:07:40.839 live, which my ex signed off on at first, but 00:07:40.839 --> 00:07:42.779 then they couldn't afford it for the other kids, 00:07:43.000 --> 00:07:44.740 couldn't give them similar opportunities, and 00:07:44.740 --> 00:07:46.800 it was a big deal. We also had issues with my 00:07:46.800 --> 00:07:49.220 son's birthday party when I throw them because 00:07:49.220 --> 00:07:51.689 they can't compete with what I do. take my son 00:07:51.689 --> 00:07:53.550 and his chosen guests somewhere cool. And their 00:07:53.550 --> 00:07:55.649 other kids don't get the same. Added to that 00:07:55.649 --> 00:07:57.730 was the other kids not being invited, but my 00:07:57.730 --> 00:07:59.550 son didn't want them there, and I let him decide 00:07:59.550 --> 00:08:01.810 the guest list. My son loves gaming, so I got 00:08:01.810 --> 00:08:04.269 him a console for Christmas. My ex saw me buy 00:08:04.269 --> 00:08:06.269 it a few weeks ago, and she directly asked me 00:08:06.269 --> 00:08:08.269 if it was for our son. I told her it wasn't any 00:08:08.269 --> 00:08:10.110 of her business, which she took to mean yes, 00:08:10.129 --> 00:08:11.870 and she told me I should let him share it and 00:08:11.870 --> 00:08:13.689 bring it to her house. She's brought this up 00:08:13.689 --> 00:08:15.930 multiple times since, and I ignore her every 00:08:15.930 --> 00:08:17.949 time. She told me she was going to ask her son 00:08:17.949 --> 00:08:19.990 to ask me, and I told her no, and I would not 00:08:19.990 --> 00:08:22.139 allow it either way. I said she needs to leave 00:08:22.139 --> 00:08:24.319 him out of our disagreements too. This was all 00:08:24.319 --> 00:08:26.439 via email. My son doesn't like sharing at his 00:08:26.439 --> 00:08:28.199 mom's house because stuff gets broken by the 00:08:28.199 --> 00:08:30.480 other kids or they hog stuff. He chooses to keep 00:08:30.480 --> 00:08:33.240 the stuff I buy with him with me and use them 00:08:33.240 --> 00:08:35.480 weeks he spends with me. But I have told him 00:08:35.480 --> 00:08:37.580 that anything expensive should stay so it doesn't 00:08:37.580 --> 00:08:40.220 get broken. I also worry about them keeping nice 00:08:40.220 --> 00:08:42.159 stuff and claiming my son said it was fine or 00:08:42.159 --> 00:08:44.580 my ex arguing that the other kids use it or more 00:08:44.580 --> 00:08:47.019 some shit. I could see her pulling a stunt like 00:08:47.019 --> 00:08:48.960 that. She's furious about the console because 00:08:48.960 --> 00:08:51.139 it's a Switch 2 and would be perfect for family 00:08:51.139 --> 00:08:53.139 gaming according to her. But I am not buying 00:08:53.139 --> 00:08:56.279 for her stepkids or her other bio child. I buy 00:08:56.279 --> 00:08:58.940 for our son and our son alone. Does this make 00:08:58.940 --> 00:09:02.480 me the asshole? pale pumpkin commented not the 00:09:02.480 --> 00:09:04.399 asshole please make sure this is documented for 00:09:04.399 --> 00:09:06.299 your lawyer not letting you do activities with 00:09:06.299 --> 00:09:08.600 your son on your time goes way beyond a custody 00:09:08.600 --> 00:09:11.179 agreement you also have the right to keep property 00:09:11.179 --> 00:09:14.200 you bought in your home she's overstepping and 00:09:14.200 --> 00:09:19.399 i completely agree that is absolutely crazy and 00:09:19.399 --> 00:09:21.460 it's really sad i feel like the son's gonna need 00:09:21.460 --> 00:09:24.080 therapy for all of this because he should not 00:09:24.080 --> 00:09:25.879 be involved in any of that it sounds like the 00:09:25.879 --> 00:09:29.710 mom is really really controlling and she's definitely 00:09:29.710 --> 00:09:31.549 jealous that the husband can just do what she 00:09:31.549 --> 00:09:34.750 wants do what he wants with his son and buy him 00:09:34.750 --> 00:09:37.789 whatever he wants but she obviously doesn't have 00:09:37.789 --> 00:09:40.789 that ability honestly it sounds like the husband 00:09:40.789 --> 00:09:43.090 is doing everything right he has every right 00:09:43.090 --> 00:09:46.850 to not have the son bring his stuff that he buys 00:09:46.850 --> 00:09:49.370 his son for his home over there so I would be 00:09:49.370 --> 00:09:51.929 the same way I'd be like absolutely not not happening 00:09:52.519 --> 00:09:55.120 Goodbye. Okay, story number three. Am I the asshole 00:09:55.120 --> 00:09:57.080 for telling my mother -in -law she sucks at hosting 00:09:57.080 --> 00:10:00.059 and her food sucks? My mother -in -law loves 00:10:00.059 --> 00:10:01.899 to host, but more than a couple of people have 00:10:01.899 --> 00:10:03.600 expressed that she's not very accommodating. 00:10:03.960 --> 00:10:05.639 Over the years I've witnessed her, for example, 00:10:05.820 --> 00:10:07.440 not have enough chairs for everyone to sit on 00:10:07.440 --> 00:10:09.700 and said, well, just take turns. She makes this 00:10:09.700 --> 00:10:12.059 heaven awful potato salad that looks like soup 00:10:12.059 --> 00:10:14.220 with uncooked potatoes in it because she prefers 00:10:14.220 --> 00:10:17.019 a crunch in hers. She'll refuse to have anything 00:10:17.019 --> 00:10:18.840 other than water because she doesn't drink anything 00:10:18.840 --> 00:10:20.840 else. The one that took the cake was last year 00:10:20.840 --> 00:10:22.759 when she insisted on making the turkey and it 00:10:22.759 --> 00:10:25.480 was unsalted with no seasonings. Everyone thought 00:10:25.480 --> 00:10:27.820 it had to be an accident, but nope, she said 00:10:27.820 --> 00:10:29.600 she doesn't like salt or seasonings, so that's 00:10:29.600 --> 00:10:32.100 how she made it. She's got so upset over everyone's 00:10:32.100 --> 00:10:34.799 reaction that she just threw more than half the 00:10:34.799 --> 00:10:37.080 turkey away out of anger. Well, this Thanksgiving, 00:10:37.259 --> 00:10:38.840 we're all gathered around talking, laughing, 00:10:39.039 --> 00:10:41.139 avoiding a potato soup, et cetera, when someone 00:10:41.139 --> 00:10:42.779 mentioned Christmas and what we would like to 00:10:42.779 --> 00:10:45.039 receive. I mentioned I would love a KitchenAid 00:10:45.039 --> 00:10:47.360 to make different things and slowly get the attachments. 00:10:47.559 --> 00:10:50.039 She cut me off and said, you? Cooking? Yeah, 00:10:50.080 --> 00:10:52.820 that'll be the day. It'll be the most expensive 00:10:52.820 --> 00:10:54.919 paperweight ever. To be honest, I don't know 00:10:54.919 --> 00:10:57.080 why she would say that if me and my husband cook 00:10:57.080 --> 00:10:59.139 daily and hardly go out to eat as going out with 00:10:59.139 --> 00:11:01.539 two kids under five is overstimulating for us 00:11:01.539 --> 00:11:04.259 at the moment. The rest went like this. I blurted 00:11:04.259 --> 00:11:07.159 out, at least I know how to boil an effing potato 00:11:07.159 --> 00:11:09.779 current and I'm not scared of seasonings. She 00:11:09.779 --> 00:11:11.580 stammered back, you don't have to eat it if you 00:11:11.580 --> 00:11:14.460 don't like it. Wow, that's the most accommodating 00:11:14.460 --> 00:11:17.179 thing you've ever offered to me or anyone really. 00:11:17.600 --> 00:11:20.080 You're just so ungrateful, and you're a shitty 00:11:20.080 --> 00:11:23.440 host. Finally, my husband stepped in and defused 00:11:23.440 --> 00:11:26.279 the situation, but am I the asshole here? To 00:11:26.279 --> 00:11:28.480 be honest, this isn't the first time she took 00:11:28.480 --> 00:11:30.799 a jab at me. She said in front of everyone before 00:11:30.799 --> 00:11:32.899 that I would pop pills every day if I could. 00:11:33.259 --> 00:11:35.139 I don't even like to take Tylenol, so I don't 00:11:35.139 --> 00:11:37.279 know where she got that one. So this was strike 00:11:37.279 --> 00:11:42.090 two. A little store clove. Commented bold words 00:11:42.090 --> 00:11:44.190 for someone who lives with their mother -in -law, 00:11:44.309 --> 00:11:46.190 which is weird I don't know why they would comment 00:11:46.190 --> 00:11:49.110 that because in post it doesn't say that they're 00:11:49.110 --> 00:11:51.970 They live with them. I'm guessing that they like 00:11:51.970 --> 00:11:54.129 went to their profile and saw that they had posted 00:11:54.129 --> 00:11:55.669 about living with their mother -in -law That's 00:11:55.669 --> 00:11:58.190 my best guess and someone else said now we get 00:11:58.190 --> 00:12:00.889 the rest of the story If op is such a cook and 00:12:00.889 --> 00:12:02.409 insists that they cook every night Why don't 00:12:02.409 --> 00:12:04.330 they cook the food for the party being hosted 00:12:04.330 --> 00:12:06.970 at the house? They live in but don't own or legally 00:12:06.970 --> 00:12:10.169 rent. So it sounds like this OP just really hates 00:12:10.169 --> 00:12:12.470 their mother -in -law and is pissed off at them 00:12:12.470 --> 00:12:15.649 but lives with them. Wow everyone's going crazy 00:12:15.649 --> 00:12:19.850 at OP saying that the OP is the B and that yeah 00:12:19.850 --> 00:12:22.250 they do live with them. I do think the mother 00:12:22.250 --> 00:12:26.309 -in -law jabs are just not necessary like what 00:12:26.309 --> 00:12:29.370 what was the point of kind of like taking a jab 00:12:29.370 --> 00:12:31.490 at her when she wanted a KitchenAid? That's kind 00:12:31.490 --> 00:12:34.789 of stupid. Okay last story. Am I the a -hole 00:12:34.789 --> 00:12:36.929 for making my daughter's boyfriend buy a new 00:12:36.929 --> 00:12:40.059 t -shirt? Okay, can you please settle a mild 00:12:40.059 --> 00:12:42.679 dispute for my family? The 23rd of December, 00:12:42.899 --> 00:12:46.120 my daughter's 19, BF19, came for dinner. We had 00:12:46.120 --> 00:12:47.879 a dinner then because he's going away with his 00:12:47.879 --> 00:12:50.019 family for Christmas. He arrived, rang the bell, 00:12:50.019 --> 00:12:51.980 and I answered the door. He came in, took off 00:12:51.980 --> 00:12:54.480 his jacket, and that's when I saw it. He was 00:12:54.480 --> 00:12:56.399 wearing a t -shirt that said, it's not gonna 00:12:56.399 --> 00:12:59.299 suck itself. I took one look at that shirt and 00:12:59.299 --> 00:13:01.600 asked him if he had any money. He said no and 00:13:01.600 --> 00:13:04.000 asked why. I told him that the shirt showed a 00:13:04.000 --> 00:13:06.200 marked lack of respect for both my daughter and 00:13:06.200 --> 00:13:08.759 my wife. I pulled two 20s out of my wallet and 00:13:08.759 --> 00:13:10.820 quietly ushered him back out the door and towards 00:13:10.820 --> 00:13:13.080 the Walmart three miles away and told him to 00:13:13.080 --> 00:13:15.759 buy a more respectful shirt and come back on 00:13:15.759 --> 00:13:18.480 with it and come back with it on. Mind you, this 00:13:18.480 --> 00:13:20.700 whole exchange took place between him and I without 00:13:20.700 --> 00:13:23.200 an audience. He was gone for 15 minutes, came 00:13:23.200 --> 00:13:25.919 back with a nice polo shirt on. We had a nice 00:13:25.919 --> 00:13:27.720 dinner together and nothing was mentioned of 00:13:27.720 --> 00:13:29.710 the incident. The next day, my daughter came 00:13:29.710 --> 00:13:32.509 to me and mother and told us what I did, humiliated 00:13:32.509 --> 00:13:34.909 him. They aren't in breakup territory or anything 00:13:34.909 --> 00:13:36.889 and no yelling or anything of the sort went on. 00:13:37.190 --> 00:13:40.029 My wife did tell me I could have handled it differently. 00:13:40.309 --> 00:13:42.330 So Reddit, am I wrong for handling it this way? 00:13:42.409 --> 00:13:44.990 And if so, how could I have handled it? Small 00:13:44.990 --> 00:13:48.009 edit. I'm 57 and a long hauled truck driver. 00:13:48.070 --> 00:13:50.809 So I've had my fair share of bad moments. Most 00:13:50.809 --> 00:13:52.750 of us guys here can remember stupid things that 00:13:52.750 --> 00:13:55.210 we did as a teen even into our 20s. The ones 00:13:55.210 --> 00:13:57.129 that stand out for me are the ones where someone 00:13:57.129 --> 00:13:59.429 didn't react with anger or malice. They were 00:13:59.429 --> 00:14:01.429 the ones that someone reacted with constructive 00:14:01.429 --> 00:14:03.730 kindness, one where a quiet redemption was offered, 00:14:03.950 --> 00:14:06.250 where a mirror was quietly held up to my behavior. 00:14:06.450 --> 00:14:08.309 Those are the ones I learned from and appreciated 00:14:08.309 --> 00:14:10.230 the most. Hopefully it comes out the other side 00:14:10.230 --> 00:14:12.370 with a new appreciation for kindness offered 00:14:12.370 --> 00:14:15.029 quietly and without fanfare. Just my thoughts. 00:14:15.629 --> 00:14:17.929 Consistent Star said, not the asshole. I think 00:14:17.929 --> 00:14:20.110 you handled it well. He was an idiot to think 00:14:20.110 --> 00:14:22.210 that the shirt would go over well with his girlfriend's 00:14:22.210 --> 00:14:24.210 family and is lucky you didn't give him more 00:14:24.210 --> 00:14:26.889 grief for it. I actually think he handled that 00:14:26.889 --> 00:14:29.809 very, very well. I think the shirt was extremely 00:14:29.809 --> 00:14:32.429 inappropriate. I think it's really funny that 00:14:32.429 --> 00:14:34.850 the boyfriend then was like whining to the girlfriend 00:14:34.850 --> 00:14:38.009 that night or the next day about it because it 00:14:38.009 --> 00:14:40.169 really is like, come on, dude, the dad handled 00:14:40.169 --> 00:14:42.919 it better than most dads would have. And it was 00:14:42.919 --> 00:14:44.700 Christmas dinner. What are you doing showing 00:14:44.700 --> 00:14:47.340 up with a shirt like that? That is absolutely 00:14:47.340 --> 00:14:51.279 crazy to me and so disrespectful. And I love 00:14:51.279 --> 00:14:53.620 that he handed him $40 and said, go buy a new 00:14:53.620 --> 00:14:57.440 shirt. I think he handled it perfectly and lesson 00:14:57.440 --> 00:14:59.860 learned for that kid. I guarantee he's not going 00:14:59.860 --> 00:15:03.080 to do it again. And if he did, that is a major 00:15:03.080 --> 00:15:06.419 red flag and he needs to be gone from the family. 00:15:06.759 --> 00:15:11.129 Well, that was an episode of crazy stories and 00:15:11.129 --> 00:15:13.470 Christmas was absolutely insane. I hope you all 00:15:13.470 --> 00:15:15.909 had a really great Christmas. Our Christmas was 00:15:15.909 --> 00:15:19.850 so busy. So many fun activities that we did and 00:15:19.850 --> 00:15:22.090 we had such a good time. Thank you guys so much 00:15:22.090 --> 00:15:24.250 for listening. I hope you enjoyed this episode 00:15:24.250 --> 00:15:26.870 and stay tuned for next week where we will release 00:15:26.870 --> 00:15:30.110 which story of these four that I told is a fake 00:15:30.110 --> 00:15:32.950 story. We'll catch you guys next time. Have a 00:15:32.950 --> 00:15:39.470 great week. internet friendly. Love you guys.