Welcome back to Internet frenzy. I'm Whitney
and my co -host Joe is not here again today.
I'm so sorry you guys I know you miss him Joe's
dad's in town So he's just been so busy you hanging
with him and this is the only time I can film
and edit So tonight's the night The episode tonight
is ho ho. Holy shit. So this is gonna be really
fun I know Christmas is come and gone things
were too crazy. I was not able to film an episode
before Christmas, but these stories had me absolutely
shook. I mean, literally, ho ho, holy shit. That's
literally what I have to say. And it's all I
have to say. Before we hop into this week's episode,
I wanted to talk about last week's episode was
my wife's trainer. So basically he caught the
trainer hooking up with his wife in the car.
And then the other one was kissed a random girl.
That was like a shorter story of a husband was
at a bar and he told his wife he kissed her.
But people in the comments were saying, I don't
think it was just a kiss. Then there was the
hall pass where it was someone local to her She
was asking for that person to be a hall pass
and she ended up Looking up with them and the
boyfriend dumped her because of it and then the
other one was another cheating story I'm at the
top of my head. I'm so sorry. I can't remember
the logistics of all that but it wasn't the fake
So it doesn't really matter but basically someone
cheated But the fake of last week's episode was
my wife's trainer So that was the fake one if
you got it, right? You get a prize and it's a
high five. Okay, let's get started with this
week's episode. It's a good one. Let's do this.
Am I the asshole for asking my husband's friend
to leave on Christmas night? I29F and my husband
31M have been married for just under a year.
This was our first Christmas hosting both of
our families together in our home, which felt
like a big deal to me. I spent weeks planning
the menu, decorating, and trying to make everything
feel warm and welcoming. Everything was going
fine during the day. Both families came over,
we opened gifts, ate dinner, and people slowly
started leaving. By around 8 .30 p .m., it was
just me, my husband, and a couple of close friends
who had stopped by briefly. That's when his friend
showed up. I'll call her Elle. She's someone
my husband knows from work. I've met her a handful
of times in group settings, but I wouldn't say
we're close. She texted my husband earlier that
day asking if she could stop by because she didn't
want to be alone on Christmas, and he said yes
without really checking in with me. I wasn't
thrilled, but I didn't want to start a fight
for Christmas. When Elle arrived, she seemed
emotional. She brought a bottle of wine and kept
saying how grateful she was that my husband had
always been there for her, especially during
a hard year. I tried to be polite, but it quickly
felt like I was intruding on their conversation
in my own living room. At one point, she started
telling stories about Christmases they had spent
together before he met me. I didn't even know
they had celebrated holidays together. She laughed
and said, yeah, it was kind of our thing back
then. That made me uncomfortable, but I stayed
quiet. The breaking point came when she handed
my husband a small wrapped gift and said, I wasn't
sure if this would be weird, but I wanted you
to have it. He opened it and froze. I didn't
see what it was, but he quickly put it back in
the box and set it aside. Al then looked at me
and said, I hope this is okay. He knows what
it means. That's when I asked her as calmly as
I could if maybe tonight wasn't the best night
and if she could head home. I said it was late
and we had an early morning. She immediately
started crying and accused me of embarrassing
her and making Christmas about jealousy. My husband
pulled me aside and said I was being rude and
that she was just a friend who needed support.
I told him I felt blindsided and uncomfortable
in my own home. She ended up leaving but the
rest of the night was tense. My husband barely
spoke to me and said I ruined his Christmas by
making someone feel unwanted. Now he's saying
I owe her an apology and that I should have handled
it differently. Am I an asshole? Wow wow wow
wow wow. I was shook when I read this story.
I would be absolutely livid. So uncomfortable.
Elle is so on the wrong. It's so inappropriate.
And the husband more than anything. He's sorry.
the husband's in the wrong. I feel like it's
very strange that he didn't even ask the wife
to begin with. If he can invite someone else
over, especially like a female coworker, that
would be very, very upsetting. I would not like
that whatsoever. And the fact she didn't even
know that they spent holidays together prior,
that's like a screaming red flag. I would be
feeling very, very insecure and triggered at
that point. It would really, really bother me.
And I think it's so terrible that he's like defending
his coworker rather than like validating his
wife like he's so focused on Defending her and
that is it just like shows the red flag So like
where his heart is I feel like at that point
like he is not focused on what actually matters
And he's not seeing what he's doing is wrong
But it gets worse you guys so there's an update
I found out what the gift was I asked my husband
again about the gift after reading through the
comments here And he finally told me It was a
framed photo of the two of them from a Christmas
a few years ago before he met. He said it was
taken after they spent the day volunteering together
and that she'd written a note on the back about
how that Christmas changed everything for her.
He admitted he froze because he didn't expect
something that personal and didn't want to open
it in front of me. He swears nothing of her physical
happened between them, but he also admitted that
they had talked in the past about what might
have been before he started dating me. That hurt
more than I expected. Yikes. What do you guys
think? I would love to know I wish I could chat
with every single one of you as I'm talking because
I Would love to hear all of your guys's thoughts
on this story This is hard like I feel like this
would be something that I would not really feel
comfortable with my husband staying and like
working with this girl But it's also like you
can't just get up and leave like what if his
job is a really good job And he absolutely loves
it. So I really hope this husband is not gonna
you know, cross those lines and take it a step
further and betray his spouse. But I'm glad he
apologized. But I just feel like there's more
that needs to be addressed here. OK, here's story
number two. Am I available for refusing to let
my son take his Christmas gifts to my ex -wife's
house to share with the other children there?
My ex -wife and I had a bitter divorce six years
ago. We don't get along and we don't communicate
about anything other than our 10 year old son
and when it comes to him, we often disagree on
big decisions and we need mediation to come to
an agreement. And at times that also means we
end up in court for a decision. Things have been
worse on that front since she remarried. Her
husband has three of his own kids, 18 plus, nine
and eight. They also have a four year old daughter
together. The problem since her second marriage
is the belief that they have a duty to make sure
things are fair and equal between the children
in their house and because they have a belief
that their household is more important and that
certain experiences belong to them as a family.
And then I should refrain from doing those things
with my son. Examples of this are when I took
my son to Disney and they were upset because
they had a five -year plan to take their family
there. This was never mentioned to me and I thought
it was unfair to say I couldn't bring our son
until they got to take him. Another example was
signing my son up for ice skating lessons when
he wanted. I signed them up close to where we
live, which my ex signed off on at first, but
then they couldn't afford it for the other kids,
couldn't give them similar opportunities, and
it was a big deal. We also had issues with my
son's birthday party when I throw them because
they can't compete with what I do. take my son
and his chosen guests somewhere cool. And their
other kids don't get the same. Added to that
was the other kids not being invited, but my
son didn't want them there, and I let him decide
the guest list. My son loves gaming, so I got
him a console for Christmas. My ex saw me buy
it a few weeks ago, and she directly asked me
if it was for our son. I told her it wasn't any
of her business, which she took to mean yes,
and she told me I should let him share it and
bring it to her house. She's brought this up
multiple times since, and I ignore her every
time. She told me she was going to ask her son
to ask me, and I told her no, and I would not
allow it either way. I said she needs to leave
him out of our disagreements too. This was all
via email. My son doesn't like sharing at his
mom's house because stuff gets broken by the
other kids or they hog stuff. He chooses to keep
the stuff I buy with him with me and use them
weeks he spends with me. But I have told him
that anything expensive should stay so it doesn't
get broken. I also worry about them keeping nice
stuff and claiming my son said it was fine or
my ex arguing that the other kids use it or more
some shit. I could see her pulling a stunt like
that. She's furious about the console because
it's a Switch 2 and would be perfect for family
gaming according to her. But I am not buying
for her stepkids or her other bio child. I buy
for our son and our son alone. Does this make
me the asshole? pale pumpkin commented not the
asshole please make sure this is documented for
your lawyer not letting you do activities with
your son on your time goes way beyond a custody
agreement you also have the right to keep property
you bought in your home she's overstepping and
i completely agree that is absolutely crazy and
it's really sad i feel like the son's gonna need
therapy for all of this because he should not
be involved in any of that it sounds like the
mom is really really controlling and she's definitely
jealous that the husband can just do what she
wants do what he wants with his son and buy him
whatever he wants but she obviously doesn't have
that ability honestly it sounds like the husband
is doing everything right he has every right
to not have the son bring his stuff that he buys
his son for his home over there so I would be
the same way I'd be like absolutely not not happening
Goodbye. Okay, story number three. Am I the asshole
for telling my mother -in -law she sucks at hosting
and her food sucks? My mother -in -law loves
to host, but more than a couple of people have
expressed that she's not very accommodating.
Over the years I've witnessed her, for example,
not have enough chairs for everyone to sit on
and said, well, just take turns. She makes this
heaven awful potato salad that looks like soup
with uncooked potatoes in it because she prefers
a crunch in hers. She'll refuse to have anything
other than water because she doesn't drink anything
else. The one that took the cake was last year
when she insisted on making the turkey and it
was unsalted with no seasonings. Everyone thought
it had to be an accident, but nope, she said
she doesn't like salt or seasonings, so that's
how she made it. She's got so upset over everyone's
reaction that she just threw more than half the
turkey away out of anger. Well, this Thanksgiving,
we're all gathered around talking, laughing,
avoiding a potato soup, et cetera, when someone
mentioned Christmas and what we would like to
receive. I mentioned I would love a KitchenAid
to make different things and slowly get the attachments.
She cut me off and said, you? Cooking? Yeah,
that'll be the day. It'll be the most expensive
paperweight ever. To be honest, I don't know
why she would say that if me and my husband cook
daily and hardly go out to eat as going out with
two kids under five is overstimulating for us
at the moment. The rest went like this. I blurted
out, at least I know how to boil an effing potato
current and I'm not scared of seasonings. She
stammered back, you don't have to eat it if you
don't like it. Wow, that's the most accommodating
thing you've ever offered to me or anyone really.
You're just so ungrateful, and you're a shitty
host. Finally, my husband stepped in and defused
the situation, but am I the asshole here? To
be honest, this isn't the first time she took
a jab at me. She said in front of everyone before
that I would pop pills every day if I could.
I don't even like to take Tylenol, so I don't
know where she got that one. So this was strike
two. A little store clove. Commented bold words
for someone who lives with their mother -in -law,
which is weird I don't know why they would comment
that because in post it doesn't say that they're
They live with them. I'm guessing that they like
went to their profile and saw that they had posted
about living with their mother -in -law That's
my best guess and someone else said now we get
the rest of the story If op is such a cook and
insists that they cook every night Why don't
they cook the food for the party being hosted
at the house? They live in but don't own or legally
rent. So it sounds like this OP just really hates
their mother -in -law and is pissed off at them
but lives with them. Wow everyone's going crazy
at OP saying that the OP is the B and that yeah
they do live with them. I do think the mother
-in -law jabs are just not necessary like what
what was the point of kind of like taking a jab
at her when she wanted a KitchenAid? That's kind
of stupid. Okay last story. Am I the a -hole
for making my daughter's boyfriend buy a new
t -shirt? Okay, can you please settle a mild
dispute for my family? The 23rd of December,
my daughter's 19, BF19, came for dinner. We had
a dinner then because he's going away with his
family for Christmas. He arrived, rang the bell,
and I answered the door. He came in, took off
his jacket, and that's when I saw it. He was
wearing a t -shirt that said, it's not gonna
suck itself. I took one look at that shirt and
asked him if he had any money. He said no and
asked why. I told him that the shirt showed a
marked lack of respect for both my daughter and
my wife. I pulled two 20s out of my wallet and
quietly ushered him back out the door and towards
the Walmart three miles away and told him to
buy a more respectful shirt and come back on
with it and come back with it on. Mind you, this
whole exchange took place between him and I without
an audience. He was gone for 15 minutes, came
back with a nice polo shirt on. We had a nice
dinner together and nothing was mentioned of
the incident. The next day, my daughter came
to me and mother and told us what I did, humiliated
him. They aren't in breakup territory or anything
and no yelling or anything of the sort went on.
My wife did tell me I could have handled it differently.
So Reddit, am I wrong for handling it this way?
And if so, how could I have handled it? Small
edit. I'm 57 and a long hauled truck driver.
So I've had my fair share of bad moments. Most
of us guys here can remember stupid things that
we did as a teen even into our 20s. The ones
that stand out for me are the ones where someone
didn't react with anger or malice. They were
the ones that someone reacted with constructive
kindness, one where a quiet redemption was offered,
where a mirror was quietly held up to my behavior.
Those are the ones I learned from and appreciated
the most. Hopefully it comes out the other side
with a new appreciation for kindness offered
quietly and without fanfare. Just my thoughts.
Consistent Star said, not the asshole. I think
you handled it well. He was an idiot to think
that the shirt would go over well with his girlfriend's
family and is lucky you didn't give him more
grief for it. I actually think he handled that
very, very well. I think the shirt was extremely
inappropriate. I think it's really funny that
the boyfriend then was like whining to the girlfriend
that night or the next day about it because it
really is like, come on, dude, the dad handled
it better than most dads would have. And it was
Christmas dinner. What are you doing showing
up with a shirt like that? That is absolutely
crazy to me and so disrespectful. And I love
that he handed him $40 and said, go buy a new
shirt. I think he handled it perfectly and lesson
learned for that kid. I guarantee he's not going
to do it again. And if he did, that is a major
red flag and he needs to be gone from the family.
Well, that was an episode of crazy stories and
Christmas was absolutely insane. I hope you all
had a really great Christmas. Our Christmas was
so busy. So many fun activities that we did and
we had such a good time. Thank you guys so much
for listening. I hope you enjoyed this episode
and stay tuned for next week where we will release
which story of these four that I told is a fake
story. We'll catch you guys next time. Have a
great week. internet friendly. Love you guys.