Welcome back to internet frenzy. Welcome back
everyone. I'm Whitney and I'm Joe and we're in
enough frenzy What's so funny about that there's
literally nothing funny about it Joe, you know,
it's funny what we have a Christmas tree set
up and it is a couple days before Thanksgiving
currently That's like normal that every girlie
is gonna understand that I mean shout out to
those that understand that because it feels early
for me But I was just telling you this Something
about this holiday season. It feels like I'm
feeling the vibes like I'm feeling like it's
actually The season so I'm excited about that.
I'm excited for Thanksgiving. I know me too.
I feel so magical I feel like this Christmas
everything seems so much calmer Don't I have
had like a crazy couple of years? Where literally
life's just been spiraling and we felt like you've
been drowning to be honest. So to feel like we
are Catching our breath and everything is going
great. Fuck on wood right freaking out. Thank
you. Oh What's it was us don't park new? Yeah,
there it is. There we go spiraling here. Well,
it's gonna take more than that to kill my mood
Thank you. No one's here, bro. Our dogs are going
nuts. Sorry guys. Okay. Anyways pancake. Look
we were knocking That's it. No, you just wanted
to keep him going Oh my gosh. Welcome to the
podcast. Okay. Are you going to do the recap
of last week? Yes, I am. Okay. Last week's episode
was so fun and it was fun having you guys vote
on what theme we needed to do that more often
on our stories on Instagram and have you guys
vote what theme of the episode you want us to
do. But the last week's episode was family secrets.
Um, revealed the four stories were my aunt faked
her death and I just found out why. Second story,
it was revealed my dad had a secret other family
and now there's drama I effed up by talking about
a family secret. My mother told me as a child
And in my bay hole for being upset. My sister
has been in a secret relationship with my sister
for two years Which one do you think was the
fake? I don't remember now. It feels like so
long ago I know it's been a couple weeks since
we've filmed an episode but Fake was and this
one popped off on Instagram. Everyone was loving
this one. So I got to my own horn to do My aunt
faked her death and I just found out why and
technically it wasn't the aunt that faked her
death It was the grandma that faked the aunts
death So everyone on Instagram was commenting
that and being like no that this isn't true.
The title is misleading blah blah blah I was
like, oh, I didn't even catch that from chat
to BT. I remember noticing that. I remember noticing
the discrepancy when I was listening to your
story and thinking like, oh, chat. Oh, chat.
See, I should have been better about that one,
but a lot of people didn't get it. I'm thinking
that was the fake, so I did pretty good. Yeah,
there was a couple of other crazy ones. The whole,
the boyfriend, I mean the friend dating the little
sister. For two years secretly. Two years, that
was a real story, that's crazy. Crazy and the
parents not telling the son, that's so messed
up. But anyways, I am so excited for this week's
episode because of course Thanksgiving's coming
up, like ASAP this week. And we are really looking
forward to it. We love Thanksgiving. We get to
spend time with our families on both sides. And
it's just really fun. And I gain five pounds
every year. It's terrible. Five pounds? At least.
From Thanksgiving? Yes, I go crazy. It's fine.
I lose five pounds because I play quarterback
in the turkey bowl. Oh my gosh. I'm just kidding.
But I'm excited. We're also going to do the Mount
Rushmore of Thanksgiving food. Yeah, that's going
to be really fun. We'll do that at the end of
the episode, though. So let's get your horses.
Let's get into this week's episode. Joe, kick
it off for us. The title is. Humans going feast
mode. Let's freaking go feast mode. I'm ready
for a feast. Same. So to get this baby kicked
off, there's going to be a little bit on the
positive, a little bit on the negative, just
general Thanksgiving stories. So I turned to
the subreddit, ask Reddit for a Thanksgiving
post. And the question that was posed was, so
who ruined Thanksgiving this year? And this is
from last Thanksgiving. So just a couple of good
comments to get us kicked off in the Thanksgiving
mood. I like it. This is great. This is the very
first one on the thread. The very first comment
says, one niece says to another, at least I know
who my dad is while playing a version of Cards
Against Humanity. Just some nice holiday banter.
Can you imagine? I don't get it. I'm not going
to lie. It's exactly what it sounds like. It's
just conversation. You get the family all together.
They're playing a game. And one of them, like,
could you imagine saying to your cousin, like
you're joking around, like, well, at least I
know who my dad is, if they didn't know. Like
if they were, their dad was out of their lives.
Like if I'm in a game against my cousin and I'm
like, at least I know who my dad is. Like, what's
ruining Thanksgiving? It's not. It's, that's
just a - Let's just banter. Okay. Unless you
didn't have a dad. Can you imagine your your
dad? Was not a part of your life Yeah, but who
knows what their kind of banter and their humor
and like how their family jokes because I could
definitely see a family member saying something
funny like that You don't think so. It's it's
the fact that How uncomfortable is that gonna
make the whole family if she actually doesn't
know her dad like there's it's not that deep
It's just like a very simple like It's really
not that deep. Okay continue. It's just not the
types of things that you would want to hear.
I don't know. Yeah, I think I need to fix my
mentality here. This isn't like funny threat.
This isn't a funny threat. This is like a, this
is how my Thanksgiving got ruined. Correct. Okay.
Sorry. Let me change it. Cause I'm sitting here
like that's not that funny, but it's not funny.
Okay. Here we go. It's not funny. It ruins somebody's
Thanksgiving. Okay. So this one, this one's kind
of a, you'll understand this one. Oh gosh. My
daughter showed up three weeks early a few days
ago and doctor said she's still developing so
we shouldn't really take her anywhere outside
of our home for a few weeks. I unfortunately
had to cancel all plans of traveling out to my
dad's then out to my mom's then over to the wife's
parents house. It was tragic. The wife and I
and the baby were forced to stay home alone watching
Christmas movies, making an ad hoc Thanksgiving
dinner and laughing and having a great time peacefully
alone. P .S. Best Thanksgiving ever. There we
go. So the baby's born earlier than they expected
Yes off all the plans and they get to have Thanksgiving
at home with their brand new baby See that sounds
great But also the only thing I would need on
top of that to make it an actually good Thanksgiving
is like people dropping off a ton of Thanksgiving
food for me It's like postpartum. You don't want
to like cook a freaking Thanksgiving meal That's
his he said that they threw together an ad hoc
Thanksgiving dinner, which was that mean ad hoc?
I mean, it's kind of like your best effort. I
think Just kind of put together what you can.
Not good enough. It's not good enough for me,
but I'm glad they had a good time. You just want
to be the villain in the stories, don't you?
Continue. All right. There's a couple of other
ones. This one, I feel like you'll appreciate
this one. Okay. My cousin's new girlfriend who
brought her own Tupperware to my family's house
and proceeded to unasked scrape most of the leftovers
into her containers. You could have heard a pin
drop. I think my uncle almost launched across
the kitchen. It was priceless and will go down
in family Thanksgiving history. Stop it. I can't
even imagine. Can you imagine? I'm your girlfriend.
I've been to your family's Thanksgiving when
I was a girlfriend. Don't make me laugh. Let's
say our cousin. I showed up in your mom's house
with a double A. So good. I cannot even imagine.
Can you imagine like Isaiah and Marley? Marley's
dating Isaiah and comes to my family's Thanksgiving
and has a separate or bad... Marley just like
pulls out a collapsible, like a Russian doll.
There's like four different ones. They're all
good. Small compartmentalized. Honestly, I'd
respect it so much. Like if that was Marley,
I'd be like, dude, hell yeah, that's genius.
I feel like Marley will probably never hear this,
but that is a Marley thing. I could see Marley
doing that. Really? Could you not? No, no, now
I could now she's like in the fam, but I don't
think like as a girlfriend, just the first Thanksgiving
for you. Honestly, it's genius. I probably should
do that this year. I'm going to I'm going to
go ahead and veto that on your behalf on our
behalf. No, no, no. OK, I won't. But I want to.
So there's this thread is great. If you want
some entertainment. I had a Thanksgiving. Go
go look at all the crazy Thanksgiving folks.
But that's fine. Here's another one. My roommate's
mother's parrot who kept biting everyone. You
go to Thanksgiving and a parrot is just like.
You know, OK, one, I wouldn't even eat the food.
Birds gross me out so much. I think no, that's
messed up. I know, I know, but there's people
out there that like if I because I have dogs
and I people close to me won't eat my food because
I have dogs in my house. That's messed up right,
but also if there were birds and someone says
I probably wouldn't eat their food so You can't
be offended by the same thing that you would
turn around and do no. I'm not offended I was
here sad cuz I'm a good cook though, so I'm like
oh, you're missing out on my good food, but I
also Understand like I don't want dog care in
my food either Frick. Yeah, I just don't want
to get bit by a parrot okay back to that you're
right not so much about like The parrot doesn't
have to take a dump in my food. I just only a
bit by it. Is there anymore? Of course. It doesn't
end. I'll read two more. So it says, not sure
who, but we were walking our dogs when the police
pulled up down the street and started yelling,
get down, get down. We saw a dude spill out of
a house followed by about 10 family members,
all of them just screaming at him. Cops were
arresting him and some of the family started
trying to kick the crap out of the dude. So they
got arrested too. By the time it was done, there
were about five or six police cars and about
as many family members in cuffs edit for those
who are wondering all i can figure out is that
yes several of the family had already been in
jail for meth i didn't proofread this The one
who was getting arrested and beaten according
to word on the street was disinvited to Thanksgiving
after essaying one of the family members or attempting
to. He decided to re -invite himself by breaking
through the back door which explains why the
cops were spilling out from the backyard too.
Can't stress enough the importance of getting
an invitation to Thanksgiving. Don't just show
up unannounced, especially if any of those parameters
apply to you. You're gonna have to skip this
year. Oh my gosh. That's fun. That's eventful.
Could you imagine walking the dogs down the street
and you just see this whole ordeal? OK, this
isn't during Thanksgiving, but when we lived
in our apartment, we hear some commotion. This
is in our old place and we lived in a not quite
such a good part of town at this time. But we
hear like yelling and like something that definitely
sounded out of the ordinary. Yes, scary. And
I go to the door and we had a. a bit of fresh
baby. How old was our kid like? Oh, baby. And
we're we have a one bedroom apartment. So we're
literally in our living room and the front door
is right here and we're sitting on the couch.
So it's like walls are thin. Yeah. You can hear
everything. Well, not everything you can hear
like commotion. Yeah. And there's the way it
was set up was there was our door and then our
neighbor's door right next to each other. And
they were facing two other doors. So there's
this hallway that connects the two. And long
story short, the neighbors that live directly
across from us, they had a history, there were
people in and out, we'll just say it like that.
We weren't too sure about like, we didn't always
feel safe. That's all I'm gonna say. After we
hear this commotion, I looked through the peephole
and I literally see my neighbor holding a gun
and he's facing my door and I can see his entire
body in the frame going like this, holding. the
gun pointing it at somebody. And I'm like, Oh,
I just like back up from the door. I'm like,
um, someone's about to get shot in front of our
door. Like, this is not good. He's like, he has
a gun. He has a gun. What? What's going on? Like
freaking out or something. Yeah. Anyway, so,
um, we hear the commotion going back and forth.
I stay inside and no gunshots were fired. Ended
up being the nephew of the guy that lived there
and It was pretty crazy. Yeah, they were also
the neighbors that they set their apartment on
fire, their oven on fire in their apartment.
And the man, the dad, and he was like scrawny,
skinny guy, literally ripped the oven out of
the thing because they panicked. They didn't
want to set the fire off or whatever. It was
an oil fire. They tried to set it out and there
was just like crap all over the range. Crazy
scary. He dragged it out and we were hearing
screaming. and he literally opened his door and
he dragged the fired fire how am i i'm explaining
this terribly the burning fire oven and dragged
it out and there was black char like scrapes
everywhere yeah i don't know how long the thing
was burning for but he had he dragged it out
into like that middle walkway that I just described.
Yeah, right in front of our door. Firefighters
are showing up. So whoever I think his wife probably
called the police because they just thought their
house was going to burn down. They couldn't get
this thing out. And yeah, he went he went Hulk.
He went beast mode and dragged that thing out.
And it was there was like char marks where he
dragged it out into the curb. He wasn't going
to let all because we had neighbors above us
to one, two, three, four, five, six, seven. It
wasn't going to let all eight. units just go
up in flames. That's so scary. No, yeah, he went
beast mode. Talk about feast mode. Feast mode,
beast mode. He grabbed that oven and they couldn't
cook the rest of the night. And just imagine
that was probably just like some bacon. It was
on too hot and like. Frick. I don't know. Frick.
Well. OK, last one on this and then I'm done.
OK. Somebody's comment says my favorite part
of Thanksgiving is logging into Reddit and spending
hours reading about other people's Thanksgiving
drama. Wow. There's people out there that really
do that. Like our whole podcast is based off
us reading Reddit stories all the time, but I
can't imagine during Thanksgiving reading Reddit
stories. Yeah, me either. You're much more of
a Reddit guy than I am. It's just, yeah, there's
some of us like to consume the content. Yeah,
you're more of a consumer. I'm more of a, what
is it? Creator. Creator. Thank you. But I'm also
a creator too. Like I like the creating. Yeah,
you like both. I don't like consuming That was
a fun thread Joe. Thanks for entertaining us
with that. We're gonna go on to my story, which
is story number two That's why you pay me the
big bucks in my day hole for telling my husband.
There is a no football rule on Thanksgiving That's
messed up yes, yeah, I agree. Okay, but here
we go So I, 38F, host Thanksgiving every year
because my family is huge, like 50 plus people.
Cousins, cousins, cousins, everyone's kids running
around, the whole thing. It's loud, chaotic,
and honestly the only holiday I actually enjoy.
My husband, 40M, is a good guy, but he and the
other men in my family turn into zombies anytime
football is on. They disappear into the living
room, pile onto the couch, and stay there all
day. Every year it ends up being the woman cooking,
serving, cleaning, and managing 20 plus kids
while the guys are glued to the TV supervising
from the couch. This year I told them I wanted
Thanksgiving to be a no football day. Just this
one day. I said we have people coming in from
out of state, tons of kids to keep safe, and
honestly I'm tired of feeling like I'm running
a free daycare. while he gets to watch three
games back to back with his uncles. He got really
annoyed and said Thanksgiving is football and
that I'm messing with tradition. I told him he
can watch highlights later and he said if I turn
off the game this year, he'll just go to the
bar instead because at least they won't police
him. We argued for a bit and now he's sulking
like I disinvited him from the whole holiday.
My family hasn't heard about the rule yet and
I'm already dreading being the one who has to
announce it. Did you write this? No. Did you
post this? No, I love when the guys watch football.
I love watching the football. Look, here's the
problem. Was this recent? This is about this
Thanksgiving? Yes. This was posted a week ago.
Oh, no. Yeah, everyone's going nuts. So here's
the problem. Yeah. The lineup of games this year
is really good. What's the lineup? The matchups
are they're just really good matchups. We have
like the Chiefs Cowboys. They blame Chiefs have
to win. Both both teams have to win kind of surging.
Lots of fans going to score some points. It's
going to be fun. What else do we have? We have
the Lions always play. They have to play the
Lions Rams. That's what it is. That's it. That's
a killer matchup. Then the day after we also
have Eagles Bears. It's it's a very good slate
of NFL games. So it's not like it's not like
it's the old crappy Lions playing some other
crappy team. Like they're good games. So sorry
to the ladies, but the men, the sports fans are
going to be watching football. Of course, that's
part of Thanksgiving. There has to be football
on. Well, yeah, I don't understand why it has
to be so extreme. Why does she have to be like,
no football, TVs are off? Well, that's the thing
is not only is it the husband that's going to
have to be punished, it's all the men. Can you
imagine showing up to a Thanksgiving? Someone
else is hosting and they're like, yeah, no TVs.
Yeah, they're like, no football. She's mad because
she... whatever she cooked she said no TV no
no one's gonna want to go the next year after
that because their husbands are gonna be like
absolutely not I'm hosting I don't know if this
is this is a bad deal because I don't really
care who it is I'm gonna be giving them grief
yeah I'm gonna be talking smack I'm gonna be
like oh so like Jerry what you're you're not
not helping out around the house like tell you
what I volunteer to help Jerry do the dishes
After we're done if we can turn the football
game on is that okay with you Karen? What's gonna
end up happening is some one of the guys is gonna
have an iPad or like a phone And they're all
gonna be huddled in the corner watching on their
phone a hundred percent Like you can't escape
the fact that men want to watch football and
like what else all we want to do on the day that
we don't have to do anything is eat a bunch of
food and then let your brain just focus on the
dumb football that doesn't matter at all. Yeah,
I do understand what she's trying to say is like
the women are the ones that are more involved
with the kids on Thanksgiving while the men can
just shut off their brains and watch football.
Yeah, but don't you guys like that? No, it's
not really fair. No, I want to sit down and shout
with my cousin friends and eat and not care about
where my kid is. Well, lucky for you. That's
exactly what you're going to do while I watch
football and periodically go and check on her
kid and make sure she's still good. Yeah, you're
really good at multitasking, kind of. No, I'm
actually the worst at multitasking. My first
priority is my child, but I can watch and let
a few minutes pass without checking on her. I
will say, I want to give her the benefit of the
doubt too, because when you are hosting, that
makes it even more stressful. And so that does
add something to it. She doesn't want any of
the kids to get hurt and she needs help. Yeah,
she just needs to tell the husband, hey, have
your fun, watch your game, but I really need
you to help with cleaning up this year. Or I
really need you to do X, Y, and Z. Like I need
you to, to be involved. Yeah. But I think it's
more about during the party. She wants her kids
to be watched over and she doesn't want to feel
like she has to do it and host because when you're
hosting, you're having to like help with the
food. You're like, if the rolls are empty, you
got to. add more like there's there's crap you
got to do when you're a host and if you don't
like hosting then don't volunteer bro no there's
a difference i think most women there's not one
host out there that loves hosting but doesn't
get a little overwhelmed while hosting everyone
gets overwhelmed when they're hosting you see
me before i host i'm like we've got to clean
the whole house hurry yeah and i'm like we live
here People know we live here and this is what
a house looks like when it's lived in. No, you
got to look like it's not lived in Yeah, you
got to make it look like it's Perfect. Yeah,
like we are just the cleanest. Yeah. Well, like
we don't ever have a mess anywhere Yeah, like
every blanket is folded at all times. Yeah, cuz
we don't use them. They just they just sit there
The blankets you guys sorry, yeah, you love my
answer don't edit this out. I'm not go shout
out to weighted blankets I yesterday I put this
baby on didn't have to work didn't have to do
anything after I like woke up them in the morning
crushed a bowl of cereal laid on the couch put
this on first time in a while and I took a nap
for like three hours it was it was absurd went
to a different dimension all because of a weighted
blanket I'm a big believer so if you have a weighted
blanket you want to give me give me it All right,
so there is a couple comments. So this one says
she's not the a -hole. If you're hosting 50 plus
people, you shouldn't be the only one actually
working. Football basically sidelines half the
adults from helping. It's reasonable to ask for
everyone to be present for one day. Present?
Yeah. Do you know what present looks like for
us guys? Like, you guys are all... Chatty Kathy
just talking about who knows what your nails
and whatever you like to talk about Whatever.
Yeah, you're always like making jokes and you're
all probably talking about sex and stuff That's
what you all talk about. Oh my gosh shit. This
is just facts of life We talk about you know
what the guys talk about what oh the standings
we talk about. Yeah, it's crazy Like the Ravens
they were one in five now They're six and five
and they're the odds -on favorite to win the
AFC North. It's like If you don't have football,
we're still just going to talk about football.
And then after about five minutes, we're going
to be like, wait, why isn't the game on? Like,
hey, let's turn the game on. Where's the power
button on this TV? I'm going to go pushing it.
I'm going to be hitting input. I'm like, who's
got the remote? Somebody's going to have to tell
me that the games are off limits. And that's
not even to be disrespectful. What does being
present look like? I guess I'm underestimating
the whole, like, watching the kids. If it's like,
a backyard with the fence. But do you feel like
he's being a little dramatic about being like,
I'm going to go to the bar and fuck out football
in there. Yes. Like F my family time, I'm going
to the bar. Yes. That's kind of an issue. That's
that's not cool. I would not do that. You would
just be in the bathroom on your phone. No, I
wouldn't take no for an answer and be like, hey,
there's a compromise here. I'll do whatever you
need me to do to help. I really will. But the
TV thing on. Fine. Yeah. Take stuff down. Fine.
Yeah. Anything else? I will. I'll put a leash
on my kid and watch the game and the kid can
just play around the couch. Oh, my God. No, but
I there's always a compromise to be had. Football
and Thanksgiving. I'm not giving that up. OK,
so this one's that you're the a -hole. It's Thanksgiving.
Football is literally part of the holiday for
a lot of families asking every guy in the house
to give it up completely is going to feel controlling,
not collaborative. So that's true. Any other
comments you want to share? No, I mean, there's
tons, but they're all, it's honestly a mix, which
is surprising. There's a lot of not, not the
a -hole ones and it's a lot of women. Oh, surprise.
Yeah, they're all for it. There's not one guy
so far that I'm looking at that says all the
guys are going hard on her. Of course. Yeah.
They're like, you're freaking crazy. You don't
just take away what makes the holiday the holiday.
Yeah, exactly. Like, OK, fine. No football, no
Black Friday shopping. You don't get to go to
Target. Yep. You better be present with your
kids that day. Uh huh. While we all just sit
presently and look at each other. Exactly. So
anyways, those are my that's my story. Let's
go to the third one. That's a good one. I wanted
to switch gears and try to look for like just
something that felt good, something that inspired
some gratitude. It's not necessarily Thanksgiving
related, but in the spirit of being grateful.
It's not all doom and gloom in the world, right?
There's a lot of good stuff going on and it's
all about where we put our attention. And this
one, I stumbled across this post. This was originally
posted on Tumblr and somebody took screenshots
and posted it on Reddit. And the title is, On
the Kindness of Strangers. Oh, cool. The prompt
says, Tell me a soft memory. And this person
responded and said, We would find out later I
had burned off my entire cornea. about 65 % of
my eye. My doctor told me it is the organ with
the highest concentration of nerve endings, and
I was in an amount of pain that cannot be spoken.
Ouch. And I was blind. For the first time in
my life, I was totally blind. I kept thinking
about reading, about writing, weirdly just once
about driving. We had no idea if I would ever
see again. Just like that, my entire life was
different. It's a strange place to reference
for a soft memory to begin here. My siblings
were taking excellent care of me. There was a
moment in the hospital where just through bad
luck and timing Both of them had to step away
for a moment. I was crying at that point not
emotionally for three days after this I would
still be crying my tears like a mermaid's a frothy
pink with blood Yes, I mean kudos to them for
articulating it that way as persons in a lot
of pain My brother worried about leaving me yet
another just as bad emergency. I got her someone
said Don't worry. A soft hand held mine and she
started talking. Her name was Jess. She has a
wife named Clyde. They live a few blocks up the
street. Clyde fell down but the x -ray seemed
to be coming back better than expected. Jess
says she's got longer hair and more wrinkles
than an elephant. Jess describes every chair
in the room and every person. She talks about
her two kids and her cats and her favorite memories
from college. A doctor came. I had to switch
to a different waiting room. I tried to stand
up to follow the voice. I found Jess's hand following
me. She didn't let go. She kept talking the whole
way. Lamp to your left. Just a few more steps.
Okay, to your right is the ugliest painting.
Good, now a little more walking straight. You
got it, baby. In the new silence of the next
room, she sat me down and called my brother for
me, telling him where we'd gone to. And she stayed
there for a bit, just chatting, her voice echoing
in the eerie quiet, gently describing the room
to me. And then someone was rude. from the sound
of the voice a kid i think why is she crying
she just lost her vision jess said she can't
see oh said the kid that's scary the kid tells
me he is here because he has peace stuck up his
nose that makes me laugh his mom groans she tells
me about the kid he's six he likes paw patrol
and eating cheese about herself and about moving
from california jess says she's sorry but she
has to leave now she's got to go check on her
wife don't worry says the mom i got her and then
i felt her hand press into mine For hours like
that I am taken care of by strangers, each person
just talking with whatever comes to their mind,
not for any reward or celebrity or real reason
I guess, just because I am scared and alone and
in the hospital and blinded and need to be distracted.
Not everyone even got told the story, they would
just pick up in the silence with, oh by the way
the television is playing HGTV, do you like that
kind of thing? Yeah, me too, but could never
quite get into those open floor plans, I'll tell
you. By the time my brother is able to come back,
the room is buzzing. We talk to each other like
old friends, laughing, cracking jokes about,
if you don't like hospital food, wait until you
get on an airplane and can't believe I'm up past
two in the morning. What a party animal mine
becoming. I'm holding the hands of someone named
Drew who likes my crow tattoo and making crochet
snails. There are many dark moments full of pain
in this world. This in the low of absolute dark,
absolute pain. people find a way to paint in
it anyway the color splash of their voices this
triumphant radiating kindness of let's be here
together let me help you let's keep going i never
saw their faces i can't remember many of their
names but i think about them often in the way
we all took a deep breath and did something gentle
amongst the pain oh i thought that was sweet
that's really sweet i love that kudos to jess
first of all like She understood the assignment
right away. Putting her arm around OP, who can't
see anything. That's a terrifying thought in
and of itself. But she was like, yeah, I'll tell
you everything. Describing the chairs, having
a sense of humor. Oh yeah, lamp to your left,
ugliest painting in the world on your right.
Be glad you can't see it. I love that. And I
think we as humans do more of that than we realize.
And if we're not, I think that there's great
value in looking for those opportunities. Yep,
exactly. Looking for them, looking to do them,
looking for when they come up in your life. When
is somebody going out of their way to be kind
to you? Probably happens more than we realize.
It's all about perspective. Like yesterday, our
buddy Joel, he knocked on our door and stopped
by and he handed us homemade Oreos. They were
delicious. His wife made them, so also shout
out to Brie. They were so good. That was an act
of kindness for sure. That's really cool. I was
doing some work for a guy today and this guy
that I just met for the first time taking care
of his pool for months. He just gifted me because
I was there working. He gifted me a brand new
extension cord. It's like a very heavy duty extension
cord. He told me it's 150 bucks. Still got the
zip tie around it. It's brand new. Kind thing
to do. Yeah, it's super nice. Didn't have to
give me it. Like just looking for some way to
express his appreciation for. the work I was
doing. Yeah. You know, I mean, wasn't lost on
me. Tried to do a really good job, leave his
yard nice. So anyways. Something I really love,
especially during like, I feel like it only really
happens during like Christmas season. But it's
when you're in like a drive through and so the
person in front of you pays for yours. Oh my
gosh. It's happened to me twice. And I cried
full time because like I it's like something
so simple, but like. Was so happy and excited
and then you just pay it forward and I did the
car behind me But there was one year where I
was pretty broke and so I pulled up with a friend.
I'm like, how much is the cars behind me? Oh,
it's like 12 something like perfect. I'll do
it. That's It's smart to track, you know, can
you imagine like 64 bugs or uh, what about the
car behind that car? Yeah, like Can you not tell
them that this whole thing is good? I love hearing
about stuff like that and it's motivating to
me. It makes me want to do more of those types
of things because it makes you feel good and
you never know who really needs it. When was
the last one? It was oh, yeah. Do you remember
we were in Cafe Rio? Oh, yeah, and the guy just
like and we were like financially like not great
at that point and he literally we were me and
Joe and our daughter and We go to check out and
he's like, I got this. And he handed the girl
the card. And that was our first time eating
out in a long time because money was so, so tight.
We were really struggling. So go out and do something
for somebody. Somebody came to mind just even
thinking about that story. Shoot him a text message.
Buy him a sandwich. I don't know. Do something.
No, really. It goes such a long way. It does.
It goes a long way. And I've got a laundry list
of people that I could reach out to. You know
send a hundred bucks to or whatever. Oh Don't
worry, you're on the very top of my list. Yeah,
you can send me on their bikes honey. Yeah, I
do that every time Oh my gosh. Okay. Well, here's
my story and this is the last one So this is
off true off my chest I hate Thanksgiving in
three days a bunch of people are going to be
at my house None of which I invited and some
of which I don't even know Thanksgiving is my
mom's favorite holiday because she's social and
she loves doing things for others. For several
years she's been disabled, which means that getting
the groceries, cooking the food, cleaning the
house, serving the guests, looking after everyone,
and cleaning up afterwards falls on me. I am
not a social person and while I'm good at faking
it, doing so is very draining. Now add in other
annoyances like having to lock my dogs up for
the day because some of the people coming don't
like dogs. Plus one of her former students is
a smoker. And just being around someone who smokes
instantly gives me a day long headache. My mom
raised me by herself and was the best mother
I could have asked for. So even giving a hint
of my frustration would ruin her favorite holiday
because she would never ask me to do this if
she knew how much it bothered me. She's emotionally
fragile as a result of needing other people to
do things for her when she had always been the
caregiver before. I can't and won't say anything
about how I'm feeling because I want her to be
happy. But I needed somewhere to vent because
I've been cranky lately and it's affecting the
people I'm around. Best wishes to other introverts
going through the same struggle during the holiday
season. Oh, is that you? I am not an introvert.
I feel like I'm more of an extrovert, but I also
feel like I am an introvert because I don't like
going out. Like I don't like really being around
people. I'd rather be by myself. Yeah. So what
am I? Confusing. I'm a confused child. No, confusing.
I don't know. I think you are more of an introvert
just because when it comes to like when it comes
to how you process going through life, you don't
your battery doesn't get recharged by being extroverted
or like, yeah, interacting with people. Somehow
it's recharged by being alone. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
You would think I'm more extroverted because
I am. So when I am around people, I'm like fun
and loud and super funny. I was like, should
I plug a laugh here? Yeah. Yeah, that would have
helped. I think just like really kept the flow
of this. But you know, you're never going to.
Yeah, you're never going to give me one of those.
No, you got to earn it. And then and then it
always feels good. You make me laugh. It's the
best feeling when you make your husband laugh
once a year. Anyway, actually, it's even better
making him cry. Just kidding all the time. So.
In the spirit of like Thanksgiving and just kind
of what we were just talking about The only way
OP really gets through it is if she thinks about
what she is Truly grateful for this is just my
take and granted I could be just like her I could
be the one that's like kind of Scrooge and bah
humbug and like I hate this I'm doing too much
and blah blah. Her poor disabled mother is still
with her He still likes to celebrate Thanksgiving.
Yeah. And if you have to keep reminding yourself
that it's just about her and making sure she
has a good day, I feel like that would be enough
motivation for you to go to Costco and deal with
the crowds or like do whatever things you have
to do that nobody wants to do, but that are necessary
for Thanksgiving. Like, yeah, I get what you're
saying. Just do it. But this lady. Majestic jewels.
She said I'm not social either but also end up
hosting But a few things stand out that I would
absolutely speak about the dogs live there. It's
their house If someone doesn't like it, they
don't have to come it isn't their house the second
and it's the most important smokers smoke outside
No exceptions cigarette smoke stinks and gives
me a headache So basically your home your rules.
That's what hotty pop just said yeah, and that's
I mean, yeah your home your rules if people come
over For a big gathering like that, I go dogs
out personally. This poor lady, what does she
have to look forward to? Give her, give her the
best time. It's her favorite. Yeah. Go all out.
Have all the people and just cherish. Yeah. That
time that you get. And I think she will. She
said she's got a faking it, but I think just
ultimately she wanted to come on here and just
vent. And there is science behind this. Just
venting. doesn't make anyone feel better. We
all think it does. Yeah. You're essentially just
watering the plant. It's the very best thing
that you can do is reframe it and tell yourself
a different story. I think that but also I mean
it is good to express how you feel and like what's
actually going on because like in our therapy
we do EFT therapy and we do need to talk about
the good bad and ugly and this is one of the
ugly things for her. I mean that's That is fair.
And that would help her to connect. Like if she
was lacking in connection, sharing the good,
bad, and ugly would allow her walls to go down
and draw her closer to another. But she's trying
to vent to the whole entire internet. She's not
going to feel much connection, probably, other
than the connection of when you're feeling connected
to someone. giving that same negative energy
back, like validating your negative energy. Right.
You know, and that's not the healthiest way to
go about it. But anyways, those are the four
stories. So now I really want to play a game
with you until to end the episode. We're going
to be doing the Mount Rushmore of Thanksgiving
foods. So let's get started. Joe, I was first
last week, so I will let you do the honors and
be first this week. All right. Number one. So
when I use it, you can't use it, sucka. Yeah.
Candy dams, sweet potatoes, sweet potato casserole,
whatever you want to call it. All right. Mine,
green bean casserole. Damn it. Damn it. That
was my next one. You better not say the rest
of mine. OK, well, I'm if this is a contest,
guys, one of us has to win. Next, I get homemade
dinner rolls. Oh, that was my next one. Oh, that
is so devastating. Oh, shoot. All right. That
sucks. That sucks, Brad. I'm going to go deviled
eggs. I like those, but you fumbled. No, I didn't.
Yeah, I already know what you're saying next.
What? Oh, really? Yeah, go. What are you? OK.
Mashed potatoes and gravy. Wow, you fumbled I'm
gonna go Creamed corn. Oh, that's that's fine.
That's a good one. It's not a staple, but I love
cream corn I love the cranberry sauce with turkey
Like I don't even want turkey if I don't get
some cranberry sauce. I'm going cranberry sauce
All right. I Gotta go with something pasta ish.
I'm gonna go mac and cheese Mac and cheese. Yeah,
Tina's mac and cheese you Whoever, if that's
all you get for Thanksgiving. No, it has nothing
to do with a full meal. It's the top four best
Thanksgiving foods. Which Mount Rushmore do you
guys believe is the best Thanksgiving foods?
We're like, let's say you only would eat two
of the four of Joe's, but you would eat three
of the four of mine. I win. That's like basically
the version. Hey, you could just tell me. I won
the last one. We did best candies. I won it.
Everyone voted mine. You guys. So this one this
year or this Thanksgiving food one. Let's see.
Are you done? Yeah, I'm done. You're off your
show box? Yeah, kind of. I can't believe you
guys picked her. She put hot tamales on her freaking
Mount Rush one of her candies. That's not candy.
Don't even say anything else. No. Stop talking
over me. Hot tamales are ass. They're disgusting.
Have you ever put one up your ass? They're disgusting.
They're not any. Sorry. You're all invalid. Suck
my devil legs and let's end this episode. Cool.
I'll see you guys next week if I'm still alive.
Happy Thanksgiving, you guys. Joe, I'm thankful
for you. Happy Thanksgiving, guys. Guys, I'm
thankful for you. And I'm thankful for you too.
Thanks, babe. love you guys internet frenzy on
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