WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.640 Welcome back to Internet Frenzy. Welcome back, 00:00:03.819 --> 00:00:06.960 guys. How are you? Happy to be back. Let's jump 00:00:06.960 --> 00:00:08.919 right into it. Last week, we had the episode 00:00:08.919 --> 00:00:11.460 about conspiracy theories. That was fun. Not 00:00:11.460 --> 00:00:13.439 going to recap every single story. I will just 00:00:13.439 --> 00:00:15.880 tell you the one that was fake. It was my story, 00:00:16.059 --> 00:00:19.000 the one about them finding a little silver box 00:00:19.000 --> 00:00:22.079 at the World Trade Center. Not one of my best 00:00:22.079 --> 00:00:24.500 fake stories, but we roll with it. There were 00:00:24.500 --> 00:00:29.719 no aliens involved in 9 -11. That we know of. 00:00:29.899 --> 00:00:32.619 Well, that we know of. Exactly. That was the 00:00:32.619 --> 00:00:34.280 fake one. So if you guys, if you guessed that 00:00:34.280 --> 00:00:37.539 already, good on ya. If you didn't, keep practicing. 00:00:37.719 --> 00:00:40.039 That one was pretty obvious. In my opinion, we 00:00:40.039 --> 00:00:41.960 know the Charlie Kirk one wasn't fake. Let's 00:00:41.960 --> 00:00:45.039 jump into this week's episode, shall we? We shall. 00:00:45.259 --> 00:00:47.780 I'm excited. What's the theme on this week's 00:00:47.780 --> 00:00:51.659 episode? Summer's wildest Reddit updates. It's 00:00:51.659 --> 00:00:55.060 fall now, guys. So we've got to close the chapter 00:00:55.060 --> 00:00:57.039 of summer. and we're going to come out with a 00:00:57.039 --> 00:00:59.659 bang. And don't worry, the next few episodes 00:00:59.659 --> 00:01:03.020 after this are going to be spooky, Halloween, 00:01:03.799 --> 00:01:06.980 scary, creepy, crawly. I am so excited. This 00:01:06.980 --> 00:01:09.599 is my favorite month of us doing episodes is 00:01:09.599 --> 00:01:12.599 October. It's it's pretty decent. It's pretty 00:01:12.599 --> 00:01:15.400 decent. But summer was good and Reddit was good 00:01:15.400 --> 00:01:18.099 to us this summer, the story. So I'm excited 00:01:18.099 --> 00:01:20.540 to share some of them. We jumping right into 00:01:20.540 --> 00:01:41.920 it. So I'm going to start us off. This story 00:01:41.920 --> 00:01:44.939 comes from best of Redditor updates. The original 00:01:44.939 --> 00:01:49.200 was posted in June, 2024. And the final update 00:01:49.200 --> 00:01:54.319 was September 27th, 2025. So this spanned two 00:01:54.319 --> 00:01:58.980 summers. This one's a doozy. My fiance was tricked 00:01:58.980 --> 00:02:04.209 and lost our down payment and savings. My fiance 00:02:04.209 --> 00:02:06.549 was selling his old mountain bike online someone 00:02:06.549 --> 00:02:09.110 messaged my fiance with an offer and this person 00:02:09.110 --> 00:02:12.090 said they would send It this the the rider says 00:02:12.090 --> 00:02:15.270 my fiance like every other words. It's a little 00:02:15.270 --> 00:02:18.370 bit excessive feels like to me So I'm gonna do 00:02:18.370 --> 00:02:20.789 my own little edits. Let's just call the fiance 00:02:20.789 --> 00:02:24.610 D Someone messaged Dee with an offer and this 00:02:24.610 --> 00:02:26.810 person said they would send Dee the funds in 00:02:26.810 --> 00:02:28.590 advance and send their cousin to pick up the 00:02:28.590 --> 00:02:30.810 bike the next day. Dee had promised me he would 00:02:30.810 --> 00:02:33.229 only accept pick up in person with cash in hand. 00:02:33.509 --> 00:02:35.770 For context, and so this post makes sense, in 00:02:35.770 --> 00:02:38.330 Canada the main way and safest transferring funds 00:02:38.330 --> 00:02:40.689 done is through your bank. It's tied to your 00:02:40.689 --> 00:02:42.569 bank account. You can only transfer what you 00:02:42.569 --> 00:02:44.650 have in your bank account and even then there's 00:02:44.650 --> 00:02:47.310 a daily limit. It is also tied to your identity 00:02:47.310 --> 00:02:49.680 since it's tied to your bank account. D told 00:02:49.680 --> 00:02:51.879 the buyer he would accept a transfer. This is 00:02:51.879 --> 00:02:54.199 where the scam started. The buyer sent it, but 00:02:54.199 --> 00:02:56.960 he accidentally added an extra zero to the amount. 00:02:57.159 --> 00:02:59.539 My fiance told the buyer he would transfer it 00:02:59.539 --> 00:03:02.780 back since it was a mistake. He told my fiance 00:03:02.780 --> 00:03:05.780 that he got locked out of his bank due to the 00:03:05.780 --> 00:03:08.500 mistake with the previous transfer. So my fiance 00:03:08.500 --> 00:03:11.580 should transfer it to his, the buyer's cousin's 00:03:11.580 --> 00:03:15.819 account. No. My fiance did that. I have no idea 00:03:15.819 --> 00:03:19.800 why my fiance, D, CCY, a hundred times, sent 00:03:19.800 --> 00:03:21.759 back the whole amount instead of the extra minus 00:03:21.759 --> 00:03:23.780 the payment for the bike. The buyer sent another 00:03:23.780 --> 00:03:26.500 transfer and the same thing happened. Then the 00:03:26.500 --> 00:03:28.900 buyer asked Dee to use a different app that starts 00:03:28.900 --> 00:03:31.419 with a P since he was still locked out of his 00:03:31.419 --> 00:03:34.020 bank account. He sent it to Dee, but again, he 00:03:34.020 --> 00:03:36.539 added an extra zero to the amount and also doubled 00:03:36.539 --> 00:03:39.340 it. Again, my fiance sent back the funds. The 00:03:39.340 --> 00:03:42.520 buyer then asked if Dee would take a check. They 00:03:42.520 --> 00:03:45.020 arranged for my fiance to meet the buyer's cousin 00:03:45.020 --> 00:03:47.259 in person and they would exchange the bike for 00:03:47.259 --> 00:03:49.729 the check. When Dee got the check, it was higher 00:03:49.729 --> 00:03:52.210 than the agreed upon amount, but the cousin told 00:03:52.210 --> 00:03:55.870 Dee it was a bonus for all his trouble. Dee deposited 00:03:55.870 --> 00:03:57.770 the check and eventually used some of the funds 00:03:57.770 --> 00:04:00.530 or attempted to. The funds from the first transfer 00:04:00.530 --> 00:04:02.789 was from a bank account that was stolen due to 00:04:02.789 --> 00:04:05.610 identity theft. That transfer was reversed. The 00:04:05.610 --> 00:04:07.449 funds from the transfer on the other app was 00:04:07.449 --> 00:04:09.870 stolen from an account as well, and the app reversed 00:04:09.870 --> 00:04:12.710 that transfer. The check was fake and was clawed 00:04:12.710 --> 00:04:15.169 back by the bank. This all on top of the transfers 00:04:15.169 --> 00:04:17.389 that my fiance made to pay back the criminal. 00:04:17.990 --> 00:04:22.050 Our entire savings account is gone. What we had 00:04:22.050 --> 00:04:24.410 saved for a down payment, we were looking for 00:04:24.410 --> 00:04:26.740 a house and now everything is gone. I didn't 00:04:26.740 --> 00:04:28.959 find out about any of this until after the fact. 00:04:29.160 --> 00:04:31.300 I get alerts anytime there's a transaction on 00:04:31.300 --> 00:04:33.899 our savings account, but my fiance deleted them. 00:04:34.199 --> 00:04:36.740 I do shift work, so I was asleep. My fiance went 00:04:36.740 --> 00:04:38.720 into my phone and deleted the text because he 00:04:38.720 --> 00:04:40.620 didn't want me to find out he broke his promise 00:04:40.620 --> 00:04:43.600 about only accepting cash for the bike. No. I 00:04:43.600 --> 00:04:46.180 am so angry. I'm not an angry guy in general, 00:04:46.220 --> 00:04:49.069 but I am furious about this. Oh my God. We've 00:04:49.069 --> 00:04:50.829 been dealing with the bank and with the other 00:04:50.829 --> 00:04:53.389 app no success We took the messages between my 00:04:53.389 --> 00:04:55.589 fiance and the buyer and the doorbell cam footage 00:04:55.589 --> 00:04:58.069 to different levels of the police However, it 00:04:58.069 --> 00:05:00.990 didn't change anything our money is gone We were 00:05:00.990 --> 00:05:03.149 hoping the bank could reverse the transfers my 00:05:03.149 --> 00:05:05.610 fiance made at least but the transfers were made 00:05:05.610 --> 00:05:07.470 into a compromised account And the money was 00:05:07.470 --> 00:05:10.069 immediately moved stop stop the story. I'm gonna 00:05:10.069 --> 00:05:14.589 throw up Yeah, you love money The bank also says 00:05:14.589 --> 00:05:17.009 my fiance voluntarily and willingly made the 00:05:17.009 --> 00:05:19.350 transfers. We've given the police report to the 00:05:19.350 --> 00:05:21.089 bank, but it's not likely to change anything. 00:05:21.529 --> 00:05:23.910 Also, because of the fake check, our savings 00:05:23.910 --> 00:05:26.629 account was closed. It had a zero balance, and 00:05:26.629 --> 00:05:30.790 so is my fiance's personal bank account. Zero? 00:05:31.170 --> 00:05:34.029 Zero. I use a different bank, so my personal 00:05:34.029 --> 00:05:36.569 bank account wasn't affected. The bank says my 00:05:36.569 --> 00:05:38.889 fiance has to take his banking somewhere else 00:05:38.889 --> 00:05:40.629 and also that they will not provide mortgage 00:05:40.629 --> 00:05:43.300 services to us. not that we will be buying a 00:05:43.300 --> 00:05:45.439 house now since our entire down payment is gone. 00:05:45.639 --> 00:05:47.579 I have warned my fiance that anyone who says 00:05:47.579 --> 00:05:49.560 they can recover the money is lying and he must 00:05:49.560 --> 00:05:51.600 ignore them. I will also ignore anyone who says 00:05:51.600 --> 00:05:53.759 they can do that. I'm devastated. I know it was 00:05:53.759 --> 00:05:55.639 just money, but I feel like I'm on a nightmare. 00:05:55.839 --> 00:05:58.720 I tried to be a calm and laid back guy, but that 00:05:58.720 --> 00:06:00.540 money was everything we had. We had to cancel 00:06:00.540 --> 00:06:02.439 our wedding venue so we could get our deposit 00:06:02.439 --> 00:06:04.939 back just so we could afford our rent for July. 00:06:05.839 --> 00:06:08.620 I'm so angry with my fiance not just about getting 00:06:08.620 --> 00:06:10.819 tricked but because he lied to me He broke his 00:06:10.819 --> 00:06:13.199 promise and he lied to me more than the money. 00:06:13.199 --> 00:06:15.459 He broke my heart. And right now I hate him This 00:06:15.459 --> 00:06:18.120 is like a nightmare. I can't wake up from Thanks 00:06:18.120 --> 00:06:24.060 for listening. Oh My god, he's banged up. Oh 00:06:24.060 --> 00:06:27.379 I want to know how much money he had. I mean, 00:06:27.379 --> 00:06:30.699 I guess it doesn't really matter either way like 00:06:31.470 --> 00:06:34.110 I'm just thinking, so he said that he added a 00:06:34.110 --> 00:06:36.730 zero on two of the transactions. So I'm thinking 00:06:36.730 --> 00:06:39.110 maybe it's like a middle of the road mountain 00:06:39.110 --> 00:06:41.629 bike. Let's just say hypothetically, it's a $600 00:06:41.629 --> 00:06:46.290 bike. Yeah, twice. And then there was one time 00:06:46.290 --> 00:06:48.449 he said that he added a zero and then doubled 00:06:48.449 --> 00:06:53.930 it. Yeah, it's like, wait, oh yeah, you sent 00:06:53.930 --> 00:06:57.790 me 12 grand. I'll just send this back. Okay, 00:06:57.810 --> 00:07:00.069 so they're from Canada? Yeah. And they were living 00:07:00.069 --> 00:07:02.230 in Canada. Everything's in Canada. Yeah. Okay. 00:07:02.290 --> 00:07:06.009 Okay. Have Canada people not heard this? Like 00:07:06.009 --> 00:07:09.310 how they do this scamming wise? All the comments 00:07:09.310 --> 00:07:12.810 are like, dog. They hit me with my, they hit 00:07:12.810 --> 00:07:15.689 my husband with this in 03 and he sniffed it 00:07:15.689 --> 00:07:22.550 out then like, like, come on. Okay. Is there 00:07:22.550 --> 00:07:25.910 updates to this? There is an update. Oh my gosh. 00:07:27.459 --> 00:07:29.800 Is there any other thoughts you have? For me, 00:07:29.980 --> 00:07:33.240 no. It's just, dude, don't do that. What do you 00:07:33.240 --> 00:07:35.600 think about? Is the relationship salvageable 00:07:35.600 --> 00:07:39.100 is what I want to know. Oh, shoot. So this is 00:07:39.100 --> 00:07:41.959 15 months later. That's a long time. That's enough 00:07:41.959 --> 00:07:44.139 time for them to figure their crap out. It's 00:07:44.139 --> 00:07:47.259 been a rough year, but I32M wanted to post an 00:07:47.259 --> 00:07:49.319 update because so many people were helpful and 00:07:49.319 --> 00:07:51.720 supportive in what was a very dark time. My fiance 00:07:51.720 --> 00:07:55.220 David, M33, See why I called him D? Had promised 00:07:55.220 --> 00:07:57.300 me he would only take cash in person when selling 00:07:57.300 --> 00:07:59.240 his old mountain bike. I don't know why he accepted 00:07:59.240 --> 00:08:01.420 advance payments from someone he never met. I 00:08:01.420 --> 00:08:03.300 don't know why he kept taking electronic payments 00:08:03.300 --> 00:08:05.180 when there were so many problems. I don't know 00:08:05.180 --> 00:08:07.079 why he accepted advance payments from someone 00:08:07.079 --> 00:08:08.959 he never met. I don't know why he kept taking 00:08:08.959 --> 00:08:11.100 electronic payments when there were so many problems. 00:08:11.240 --> 00:08:13.480 I don't know why he took a check instead of cash 00:08:13.480 --> 00:08:16.160 when he met the buyer in person. He lied to me 00:08:16.160 --> 00:08:18.139 about that. He also tried to hide it from me 00:08:18.139 --> 00:08:19.980 when the money started to be clawed back. He 00:08:19.980 --> 00:08:22.040 turned off the text alerts option from our bank 00:08:22.040 --> 00:08:23.660 when I was sleeping so I didn't realize what 00:08:23.660 --> 00:08:25.519 was going on or that money was getting clawed 00:08:25.519 --> 00:08:27.560 back. Losing the money when we were in the middle 00:08:27.560 --> 00:08:29.699 of looking for a house was devastating. What 00:08:29.699 --> 00:08:31.819 was even more devastating was David lying and 00:08:31.819 --> 00:08:34.159 trying to hide this from me. Between his lying, 00:08:34.519 --> 00:08:36.480 acting like this wasn't a big deal, losing our 00:08:36.480 --> 00:08:38.240 down payment and having to cancel our wedding 00:08:38.240 --> 00:08:40.100 venue to get our deposit back so we could pay 00:08:40.100 --> 00:08:42.419 our rent, my relationship with David fell apart. 00:08:42.519 --> 00:08:44.659 I was so angry with him. I've spent the last 00:08:44.659 --> 00:08:46.820 year dealing with the police, the bank and the 00:08:46.820 --> 00:08:49.080 other app and all of the wedding vendors we had 00:08:49.080 --> 00:08:51.600 to cancel on. The police say it is a common scam 00:08:51.600 --> 00:08:53.639 and David wasn't the only victim they know about. 00:08:53.779 --> 00:08:55.899 It was hell. Even worse than all of that was 00:08:55.899 --> 00:08:58.159 David lying to me and doing this and not realizing 00:08:58.159 --> 00:09:00.120 he was being tricked out of our money. David 00:09:00.120 --> 00:09:02.700 and I had moved out here a few years ago because 00:09:02.700 --> 00:09:04.659 the house prices were the lowest in the country. 00:09:04.799 --> 00:09:06.919 After we broke up, I heard David move back to 00:09:06.919 --> 00:09:09.080 his home province. I'm staying here. I have a 00:09:09.080 --> 00:09:11.159 life here, a good job and I'm not exactly on 00:09:11.159 --> 00:09:14.080 the best terms with my family. But having to 00:09:14.080 --> 00:09:16.019 start over from scratch after what David did 00:09:16.019 --> 00:09:18.620 was hard. The last year was a dark time. Not 00:09:18.620 --> 00:09:20.580 the worst of my life, but close. David tried 00:09:20.580 --> 00:09:23.039 to say I was victim blaming him because I was 00:09:23.039 --> 00:09:25.419 angry. He said he tried to hide what happened 00:09:25.419 --> 00:09:28.000 because he was ashamed. But he destroyed my trust 00:09:28.000 --> 00:09:30.360 and our relationship. Some days I still can't 00:09:30.360 --> 00:09:32.440 believe this happened. In short, my relationship 00:09:32.440 --> 00:09:34.720 with David is over. I had to find a new place 00:09:34.720 --> 00:09:36.720 to live. Our savings were lost and I'm starting 00:09:36.720 --> 00:09:39.440 over from scratch. I will be okay, but it was 00:09:39.440 --> 00:09:42.710 a hard year. Like, it's crazy to me is that I 00:09:42.710 --> 00:09:46.649 feel like everyone obviously has the agency to, 00:09:46.769 --> 00:09:49.230 like, choose which hard you're going to take. 00:09:49.350 --> 00:09:51.429 Like, there's a fork in the road at that point. 00:09:51.870 --> 00:09:55.210 Which one am I choosing? And there's so many 00:09:55.210 --> 00:09:58.889 people that I have been around or like I, like 00:09:58.889 --> 00:10:01.490 friends and family where I've seen them all at 00:10:01.490 --> 00:10:04.610 that fork in the road. I'd say 95 % of them have 00:10:04.610 --> 00:10:07.820 chosen to stay. with their couple, you know, 00:10:07.820 --> 00:10:10.279 and then I've seen the other 5 % choose to like, 00:10:10.419 --> 00:10:13.100 I know I'm out. And it's just interesting both 00:10:13.100 --> 00:10:16.740 sides, they both have like heart. So just listening 00:10:16.740 --> 00:10:20.059 to him, like, I was thinking like, what if he 00:10:20.059 --> 00:10:22.779 would have chosen to stay, there's other people 00:10:22.779 --> 00:10:24.860 out there that I've worked through things that 00:10:24.860 --> 00:10:29.019 are probably worse than that. Yeah, I would say 00:10:29.019 --> 00:10:32.019 and so it's just, I don't know, it's just interesting 00:10:32.019 --> 00:10:35.220 to me that like he decided to dip from that. 00:10:35.370 --> 00:10:38.610 Yeah, I did you I think actually that's a that's 00:10:38.610 --> 00:10:41.409 a good point because if you wanted to really 00:10:41.409 --> 00:10:44.289 empathize with David The one that got scammed 00:10:44.289 --> 00:10:47.009 panicked and didn't want to get caught with something 00:10:47.009 --> 00:10:50.309 like being so stupid Yeah, that's like it's really 00:10:50.309 --> 00:10:52.789 easy to be like dude. You're a moron like why 00:10:52.789 --> 00:10:55.350 didn't you why didn't you know but like I've 00:10:55.350 --> 00:10:58.529 I've been scammed before I Know this story made 00:10:58.529 --> 00:11:00.350 me think of that when you first started reading 00:11:00.350 --> 00:11:03.049 I was dying laughing because I was the fiance 00:11:03.049 --> 00:11:06.220 in this story Yeah, I mean like I was like kind 00:11:06.220 --> 00:11:08.740 of mad at you like what were you asking? What 00:11:08.740 --> 00:11:11.159 were you thinking and like I'll tell it really 00:11:11.159 --> 00:11:13.580 quick I've actually told it on like one of our 00:11:13.580 --> 00:11:16.000 early episodes of the podcast, but I was driving 00:11:16.000 --> 00:11:19.080 for door dash and There's some elaborate scheme 00:11:19.080 --> 00:11:21.139 where they use an IP address They make a door 00:11:21.139 --> 00:11:23.539 dash order They have no intention of paying for 00:11:23.539 --> 00:11:26.700 and then they use a door dash like they put their 00:11:26.700 --> 00:11:29.460 caller ID as door dash and they call you and 00:11:29.460 --> 00:11:31.509 so I was like I don't know if they knew, but 00:11:31.509 --> 00:11:34.049 I was very early on in my dashing. We had fallen 00:11:34.049 --> 00:11:37.009 on hard times financially for a number of reasons 00:11:37.009 --> 00:11:40.129 that we won't go into right now. And it was, 00:11:40.129 --> 00:11:42.409 it was just rough, but I was door dashing for 00:11:42.409 --> 00:11:45.169 a very short time, a couple of days, but had 00:11:45.169 --> 00:11:47.690 made maybe like about 200 bucks because I was 00:11:47.690 --> 00:11:50.330 doing it pretty regularly. And all of a sudden 00:11:50.330 --> 00:11:53.450 I get this call on my phone and it comes up and 00:11:53.450 --> 00:11:56.490 like has caller ID on just my iPhone. It says 00:11:56.490 --> 00:11:59.879 door dash. So I answer it. And persons sounded 00:11:59.879 --> 00:12:02.559 legit. Like they sounded like they knew their 00:12:02.559 --> 00:12:05.179 stuff. They're like, hello, yeah, you just received 00:12:05.179 --> 00:12:06.960 an order, right? Like you just received an order 00:12:06.960 --> 00:12:10.200 to go to Wendy's. We just need you to, we're 00:12:10.200 --> 00:12:12.960 gonna walk you through disabling the order. Go 00:12:12.960 --> 00:12:15.580 ahead and pull over. I pulled over, did this 00:12:15.580 --> 00:12:17.580 thing and they're like walking me through and 00:12:17.580 --> 00:12:20.620 I had to update my email or have an email sent 00:12:20.620 --> 00:12:23.200 through to me. And so like I gave them my email 00:12:23.200 --> 00:12:25.779 address to have it sent through. Yeah, and it 00:12:25.779 --> 00:12:28.019 was like an immediate transfer thing anyways, 00:12:28.120 --> 00:12:30.259 the long and short of it is it was some elaborate 00:12:30.259 --> 00:12:32.759 scheme They were using an IP address They've 00:12:32.759 --> 00:12:35.200 made a fake door dash order a real Dasher picked 00:12:35.200 --> 00:12:37.620 it up and somehow they were able to contact me 00:12:37.620 --> 00:12:40.100 and because they got my email They were able 00:12:40.100 --> 00:12:43.059 to access my account or I think they I think 00:12:43.059 --> 00:12:45.419 they asked for the code seem I'm dumb I'm the 00:12:45.419 --> 00:12:49.000 dumb one but whatever it was they they got in 00:12:49.000 --> 00:12:51.399 there and they immediately transferred the like 00:12:51.399 --> 00:12:56.110 $200 or whatever and I I was decide myself i 00:12:56.110 --> 00:12:58.590 couldn't believe it we were literally like heavenly 00:12:58.590 --> 00:13:02.970 father what is happening like we can't afford 00:13:02.970 --> 00:13:06.590 anything right now please that money was literally 00:13:06.590 --> 00:13:08.769 that $200 was going to be our groceries for the 00:13:08.769 --> 00:13:12.830 freaking month eating ramen like it was we were 00:13:12.830 --> 00:13:15.450 really really low at that point and it was the 00:13:15.450 --> 00:13:19.029 worst thing scammers how dare you do you know 00:13:19.029 --> 00:13:22.429 stravers scam the rich like what are you doing 00:13:22.429 --> 00:13:25.409 it's like If you have to scam for a living, how 00:13:25.409 --> 00:13:28.230 do you target the people that are doing like 00:13:28.230 --> 00:13:31.070 what your dumb ass should be doing? Get out there 00:13:31.070 --> 00:13:34.149 and door dash and don't steal from the dashers. 00:13:34.710 --> 00:13:37.669 That's such bullshit. Oh, that pisses me off. 00:13:37.990 --> 00:13:42.929 We were devastated. So I was trying, but I think 00:13:42.929 --> 00:13:44.429 I think that's how I could relate a little bit 00:13:44.429 --> 00:13:47.009 to this story. I mean, I can't, but I can. It's 00:13:47.009 --> 00:13:49.690 just like he made a dumb mistake. And yes, he 00:13:49.690 --> 00:13:51.860 lied and was trying to hide it because He knew 00:13:51.860 --> 00:13:55.100 it was such a big deal. $200 is nothing compared 00:13:55.100 --> 00:13:57.259 to what they were. Right. No, yeah. Nothing. 00:13:57.440 --> 00:14:00.200 But I just that feeling of just like, Joe, are 00:14:00.200 --> 00:14:03.179 you serious? Like, how did you not know? I'm 00:14:03.179 --> 00:14:06.200 like, I don't know what you want me to say. I've 00:14:06.200 --> 00:14:08.820 never gotten a phone call from DoorDash before. 00:14:09.100 --> 00:14:11.460 And whatever they used to strip, it was like 00:14:11.460 --> 00:14:13.559 they knew what they were doing. And then when 00:14:13.559 --> 00:14:15.720 I called DoorDash customer support, they're like, 00:14:15.799 --> 00:14:18.539 oh, yeah, like you don't we don't ever call you. 00:14:18.740 --> 00:14:21.639 I was like, how? OK, thanks for telling me, but 00:14:21.639 --> 00:14:23.419 how would I ever know that? No, what I wanted 00:14:23.419 --> 00:14:25.860 to say, though, is just to be the voice of reason 00:14:25.860 --> 00:14:29.320 a little bit, just like just a smidge. It's so 00:14:29.320 --> 00:14:31.279 easy again to be like, yeah, David's an idiot. 00:14:31.500 --> 00:14:32.899 You shouldn't have fallen for it, blah, blah, 00:14:32.899 --> 00:14:35.379 blah. Yeah. But if you really want to empathize, 00:14:35.500 --> 00:14:38.120 put yourself in somebody else's shoes. Like just 00:14:38.120 --> 00:14:42.419 think about not knowing. Like think about David 00:14:42.419 --> 00:14:44.779 like trying to get this deal done. He's excited. 00:14:44.899 --> 00:14:47.179 He's getting money for his bike. It comes through 00:14:47.179 --> 00:14:49.929 and he's like. It's not that the red flag goes 00:14:49.929 --> 00:14:52.309 off and he ignores it. He did it multiple times. 00:14:52.389 --> 00:14:55.809 So it's like, it's just pure ignorance. And that 00:14:55.809 --> 00:14:58.370 deserves nothing but just like sympathy. Like, 00:14:58.370 --> 00:15:00.409 sorry, dude, that sucks that that happened to 00:15:00.409 --> 00:15:03.269 you. Because if you don't know, it doesn't cross 00:15:03.269 --> 00:15:06.289 your mind. You don't know. But in the middle 00:15:06.289 --> 00:15:08.330 of the night, he turned off his alerts and his 00:15:08.330 --> 00:15:11.389 notifications. Like, there is a sense of like... 00:15:11.389 --> 00:15:16.820 A pause. A pause. Pause. A pause. I'm saying 00:15:16.820 --> 00:15:20.259 just for where his mind, just from where he was 00:15:20.259 --> 00:15:23.019 operating from, like that's a horrible thing 00:15:23.019 --> 00:15:24.759 to have to go through. And then he's worried 00:15:24.759 --> 00:15:28.460 about like getting eviscerated by obviously the 00:15:28.460 --> 00:15:31.179 type A person in the relationship. I'm not justifying 00:15:31.179 --> 00:15:34.299 it by any means. Turning off the text was completely 00:15:34.299 --> 00:15:36.720 wrong. Don't just call David an idiot. That's 00:15:36.720 --> 00:15:39.679 all I'm trying to say. David is learning by example. 00:15:39.840 --> 00:15:43.379 It's like a four year old. If I took my kid's 00:15:43.379 --> 00:15:45.799 toy away, with no intention of giving it back 00:15:45.799 --> 00:15:47.840 and I go and throw it in the dumpster. I should 00:15:47.840 --> 00:15:50.919 do that, that was messed up. David's the kid, 00:15:51.240 --> 00:15:57.940 okay? Oh gosh, that's like 30 years old. But 00:15:57.940 --> 00:15:59.980 yeah, no, I get it. I get where you're going. 00:16:00.019 --> 00:16:03.159 Do you? No, yeah, I do. That's my main objective. 00:16:03.320 --> 00:16:05.600 If any of you get it too, that's bonus, but. 00:16:05.899 --> 00:16:08.740 As long as I do. Yeah. That was a crazy story. 00:16:08.799 --> 00:16:11.100 You like it? Yeah, that was really good. Yeah, 00:16:11.100 --> 00:16:13.240 the next one is gonna make everyone cry, so. 00:16:13.340 --> 00:16:16.620 Well, I'm up next. I'm meaning after you go. 00:16:16.940 --> 00:16:19.960 Of course. Okay. My best friend's husband went 00:16:19.960 --> 00:16:23.059 through my phone and it ended our friendship. 00:16:23.659 --> 00:16:26.360 My 26F best friend 26F and I had been friends 00:16:26.360 --> 00:16:28.659 since we were little. We grew up on a small town 00:16:28.659 --> 00:16:31.149 and played on the same sports teams. We went 00:16:31.149 --> 00:16:32.990 to different public schools but eventually went 00:16:32.990 --> 00:16:34.929 to the same high school and had prom together. 00:16:35.149 --> 00:16:37.850 I was her maid of honor and we even have a couple 00:16:37.850 --> 00:16:39.990 matching tattoos together. Essentially we've 00:16:39.990 --> 00:16:41.929 been through all the ups and downs of life together. 00:16:42.110 --> 00:16:43.470 She's one of those people I always thought would 00:16:43.470 --> 00:16:46.570 be in my life forever as her husband, 26M. I 00:16:46.570 --> 00:16:48.289 was actually friends with him before they even 00:16:48.289 --> 00:16:50.450 got together. We met in high school and there 00:16:50.450 --> 00:16:52.149 have been many times that we were there for each 00:16:52.149 --> 00:16:55.759 other and I consider him a best friend. That's 00:16:55.759 --> 00:16:57.659 why what happened completely shocked me and has 00:16:57.659 --> 00:17:00.440 left our friendship in pieces. One day she and 00:17:00.440 --> 00:17:02.639 I went for a long walk to check out a new grocery 00:17:02.639 --> 00:17:04.839 store in town. Yes, in small towns we get excited 00:17:04.839 --> 00:17:06.960 about things like a new grocery store. I left 00:17:06.960 --> 00:17:09.299 my phone at her house like I've done many, many, 00:17:09.299 --> 00:17:12.119 many times before and we went on our way. About 00:17:12.119 --> 00:17:13.779 halfway there she got a call from her husband. 00:17:13.920 --> 00:17:16.039 I believe just checking in but also to say my 00:17:16.039 --> 00:17:18.849 phone's alarm was going off. I told her I didn't 00:17:18.849 --> 00:17:21.390 have any alarms set but he asked for my Pabst 00:17:21.390 --> 00:17:24.289 code so he could turn it off. I didn't give it 00:17:24.289 --> 00:17:26.769 much thought but it seems responsible. I gave 00:17:26.769 --> 00:17:29.410 it to her to pass along. Keep in mind they both 00:17:29.410 --> 00:17:31.710 have had access to my phone before either to 00:17:31.710 --> 00:17:33.230 call themselves because they lost their phone 00:17:33.230 --> 00:17:35.369 in the couch or to look something up and didn't 00:17:35.369 --> 00:17:37.809 want to get up on their own phone that was charging 00:17:37.809 --> 00:17:40.609 a ways away. Either way I have trusted both of 00:17:40.609 --> 00:17:42.670 them for years with my phone and to respect our 00:17:42.670 --> 00:17:44.950 privacy. When we got back about three and a half 00:17:44.950 --> 00:17:47.660 hours later like I said a long walk I checked 00:17:47.660 --> 00:17:49.420 my phone and it could see that the alarm clock 00:17:49.420 --> 00:17:51.440 app was still left open in the background, so 00:17:51.440 --> 00:17:53.480 I assumed he'd go into that app and turn off 00:17:53.480 --> 00:17:56.220 an alarm. Then I see that my phone was left on 00:17:56.220 --> 00:17:58.180 a different page than where the alarm clock app 00:17:58.180 --> 00:18:01.579 had been. My clock app is on my home page. I 00:18:01.579 --> 00:18:04.000 also always write to my home page before locking 00:18:04.000 --> 00:18:06.859 my phone. I mean, I have some weird OCD tendencies 00:18:06.859 --> 00:18:10.380 to always do this. If I forget, I will open my 00:18:10.380 --> 00:18:12.660 phone again and do it. I cannot emphasize this 00:18:12.660 --> 00:18:14.740 enough that I always do this. So it was weird 00:18:14.740 --> 00:18:17.059 that I was swiped two pages over. Then I noticed 00:18:17.059 --> 00:18:20.059 I missed a call from my boyfriend 25m and a bunch 00:18:20.059 --> 00:18:22.380 of snapchat notifications from our work friends 00:18:22.380 --> 00:18:24.579 group chat. When I asked her husband if that's 00:18:24.579 --> 00:18:26.859 what he heard going off, he avoided eye contact 00:18:26.859 --> 00:18:29.039 and vaguely said, I don't know, it was just some 00:18:29.039 --> 00:18:31.880 alarm sound. Later at home, I told my roommate 00:18:31.880 --> 00:18:34.579 23f in her friend 23f what happened and why I 00:18:34.579 --> 00:18:36.339 felt weird about it but was looking for them 00:18:36.339 --> 00:18:39.339 to both tell me I'm crazy. and overthinking things. 00:18:39.640 --> 00:18:41.539 But, my roommate being the little detective that 00:18:41.539 --> 00:18:44.059 she is, checked my phone's screen time history. 00:18:44.539 --> 00:18:46.319 And that's when things got really unsettling. 00:18:46.420 --> 00:18:48.220 According to screen time during the hours I was 00:18:48.220 --> 00:18:50.799 gone, my phone showed about 15 minutes in Snapchat, 00:18:51.380 --> 00:18:54.599 15 minutes in my photos, 10 minutes in my Google 00:18:54.599 --> 00:18:57.460 photos, and five minutes in my text messages, 00:18:57.880 --> 00:19:01.440 and only 15 seconds in the alarm clock app. I'm 00:19:01.440 --> 00:19:03.720 stunned. We did some research and learned that 00:19:03.720 --> 00:19:05.839 background apps don't count towards screen time. 00:19:06.029 --> 00:19:08.589 unless they're actively open on the screen. So 00:19:08.589 --> 00:19:11.829 this meant he was actively in those apps. I immediately 00:19:11.829 --> 00:19:13.650 confronted my best friend about it. She spoke 00:19:13.650 --> 00:19:15.829 to her husband right away to get a reason for 00:19:15.829 --> 00:19:17.289 this, but of course he came back with a bunch 00:19:17.289 --> 00:19:20.069 of inconsistent excuses saying he only opened 00:19:20.069 --> 00:19:21.930 apps to stop the alarm and didn't actually look 00:19:21.930 --> 00:19:24.549 at anything. He claimed he opened apps with notifications 00:19:24.549 --> 00:19:26.630 but didn't read them, then closed them all. But 00:19:26.630 --> 00:19:28.529 his story kept changing and nothing explained 00:19:28.529 --> 00:19:31.509 why he was in my photos at all where there are 00:19:31.509 --> 00:19:34.599 no alarms or notifications. When I pointed out 00:19:34.599 --> 00:19:36.339 the holes in his story and the screen time proof, 00:19:36.380 --> 00:19:38.500 she asked me, do you have proof he went through 00:19:38.500 --> 00:19:40.619 your photos? I just don't understand why you're 00:19:40.619 --> 00:19:43.279 so adamant that he's lying. That honestly broke 00:19:43.279 --> 00:19:45.720 me. I showed her the evidence and she still defended 00:19:45.720 --> 00:19:47.680 him. I can understand that they are married and 00:19:47.680 --> 00:19:49.559 she's going to take her partner's word, but the 00:19:49.559 --> 00:19:52.319 proof I had was pretty solid. I can't understand 00:19:52.319 --> 00:19:55.140 denying it. Maybe I can see having a united front 00:19:55.140 --> 00:19:57.650 and questioning it behind closed doors. but she 00:19:57.650 --> 00:19:59.269 completely ignored and dismissed my feelings 00:19:59.269 --> 00:20:01.130 and wanted to brush us under the rug. I took 00:20:01.130 --> 00:20:02.829 a couple of days and talked to my boyfriend about 00:20:02.829 --> 00:20:05.470 this since they're also his friends too. My boyfriend 00:20:05.470 --> 00:20:06.750 and her husband had known each other and grew 00:20:06.750 --> 00:20:09.109 up with each other since they were babies. They 00:20:09.109 --> 00:20:10.769 got really close in college when they all lived 00:20:10.769 --> 00:20:12.690 together and when my boyfriend and I started 00:20:12.690 --> 00:20:15.589 dating the double's dates never stopped. My boyfriend 00:20:15.589 --> 00:20:17.690 felt disrespected and violated as well since 00:20:17.690 --> 00:20:20.450 we did start dating in COVID and have sent things 00:20:20.450 --> 00:20:23.299 back and forth. it wasn't just my personal photos 00:20:23.299 --> 00:20:24.980 that he could have been looking through. From 00:20:24.980 --> 00:20:26.839 posting the first hint a lot of people were stuck 00:20:26.839 --> 00:20:29.059 on the fact that I didn't hide or lock my nudes 00:20:29.059 --> 00:20:31.240 which I did but the password in my phone is the 00:20:31.240 --> 00:20:33.779 same password to the hidden album. After a couple 00:20:33.779 --> 00:20:35.940 of days she had tried to text me and send me 00:20:35.940 --> 00:20:37.859 memes like nothing had happened so I explained 00:20:37.859 --> 00:20:39.779 it again that it was wrong what her husband did 00:20:39.779 --> 00:20:42.279 and if I was her I'd look through his phone. 00:20:42.539 --> 00:20:45.019 I asked for space and I haven't spoken to either 00:20:45.019 --> 00:20:47.680 of them in three months. My phone plan was up 00:20:47.680 --> 00:20:49.619 and I got a new phone but there was some confusion 00:20:49.619 --> 00:20:51.619 about keeping my number and now I have a new 00:20:51.619 --> 00:20:53.700 one. So she couldn't contact me even if she wanted 00:20:53.700 --> 00:20:56.019 to. My boyfriend wants nothing to do with them 00:20:56.019 --> 00:20:57.859 and he also believes her husband is a cheating 00:20:57.859 --> 00:21:00.559 asshole I was looking for news. He thinks that 00:21:00.559 --> 00:21:03.140 we're better off without them. I feel so heartbroken 00:21:03.140 --> 00:21:05.299 and betrayed and I keep going back and forth 00:21:05.299 --> 00:21:08.660 on what to do. Should I try reaching out so she 00:21:08.660 --> 00:21:11.240 at least has my new number? Or should I cut my 00:21:11.240 --> 00:21:15.680 losses and move on? This lady needs to know what 00:21:15.680 --> 00:21:20.140 a TLDR is. It's as simple as husband's friends 00:21:20.140 --> 00:21:23.019 look for my nudes. Am I the a -hole for not wanting 00:21:23.019 --> 00:21:24.980 to be their friend anymore? Do you think that's 00:21:24.980 --> 00:21:27.880 what happened? Yeah. So do you think there actually 00:21:27.880 --> 00:21:29.839 was an alarm or do you think he was just there 00:21:29.839 --> 00:21:34.319 and saw her farm and down the look? The fact 00:21:34.319 --> 00:21:36.980 that she even fell for it, she's as dumb as David, 00:21:37.940 --> 00:21:40.289 literally, because When an alarm goes off on 00:21:40.289 --> 00:21:42.890 your phone, there's snooze and stop, whether 00:21:42.890 --> 00:21:46.470 it's locked or not. Yeah, exactly. She I don't 00:21:46.470 --> 00:21:49.829 have words. Don't give that guy your password 00:21:49.829 --> 00:21:52.089 to your phone. And when you're in Podunk, small 00:21:52.089 --> 00:21:55.730 town USA, take your phone with you so that if 00:21:55.730 --> 00:22:01.170 you get kidnapped, they can track you. Anytime, 00:22:01.430 --> 00:22:03.369 anytime we go anywhere, we go to the gas station 00:22:03.369 --> 00:22:06.549 or the movies or whatever, she tries to leave 00:22:06.549 --> 00:22:09.309 her phone. I'm like, take your damn phone. There's 00:22:09.309 --> 00:22:10.869 a reason that you have it and it's supposed to 00:22:10.869 --> 00:22:14.029 go everywhere with you. It's You need it on you. 00:22:14.170 --> 00:22:16.769 It's safety. I never yeah, I never move my phone 00:22:16.769 --> 00:22:19.829 like the other day I had to run into Trader Joe's 00:22:19.829 --> 00:22:23.390 and I left my phone in the car and ran in Joe 00:22:23.390 --> 00:22:25.630 parked and I didn't know he was so I just sat 00:22:25.630 --> 00:22:28.150 outside the Trader Joe's just staring into the 00:22:28.150 --> 00:22:31.970 abyss What do you guys think I was doing? honking 00:22:31.970 --> 00:22:35.049 no, I it's a parking lot full of people I was 00:22:35.049 --> 00:22:38.529 parked just like just on the opposite side and 00:22:38.700 --> 00:22:42.279 I see you walk out and you walk and look and 00:22:42.279 --> 00:22:45.200 like she's looking right at where I am. So I'm 00:22:45.200 --> 00:22:47.460 like, OK, she's going to walk over here. It's 00:22:47.460 --> 00:22:50.019 great. And then she just stops and turns around 00:22:50.019 --> 00:22:52.599 and goes back to the front. Like, oh, she wants 00:22:52.599 --> 00:22:56.000 me to go and like drive the carriage up to the 00:22:56.000 --> 00:22:58.180 front and, you know, put her in the chariot and 00:22:58.180 --> 00:23:03.500 we go on about our day. So this is like. This 00:23:03.500 --> 00:23:05.740 little Trader Joe's parking lot and just like 00:23:05.740 --> 00:23:08.140 the road rage. I can just feel it right now because 00:23:08.140 --> 00:23:10.819 people are just backing up into you, walking 00:23:10.819 --> 00:23:13.119 across. You can't go anywhere. It takes so long. 00:23:13.319 --> 00:23:17.000 So I have to back up and swoop down and around. 00:23:17.059 --> 00:23:20.799 And on my way around, I get up to the front through 00:23:20.799 --> 00:23:24.400 thousands of people and I'm looking and she's 00:23:24.400 --> 00:23:26.920 gone. And guess what? She doesn't have a phone. 00:23:28.759 --> 00:23:33.539 Gosh, I'm like, where the hell did she go? Where 00:23:33.539 --> 00:23:35.559 like you were at the front of the store. You 00:23:35.559 --> 00:23:37.660 started walking towards me and then you stop. 00:23:38.740 --> 00:23:42.579 Where are you? I was there. Like looking through 00:23:42.579 --> 00:23:45.039 where I was parked to the parking space is still 00:23:45.039 --> 00:23:49.140 open. I don't know what to do. She'd like walk 00:23:49.140 --> 00:23:51.319 all the way down to the end over to the side. 00:23:51.480 --> 00:23:55.440 Who even knows? Finally spots me. See, I don't 00:23:55.440 --> 00:23:58.839 bring my phone. That could happen to me. I felt 00:23:58.839 --> 00:24:01.359 like that would happen. Oh, you'd be like, oh 00:24:01.359 --> 00:24:05.859 yeah, here's my code. Go ahead and look through 00:24:05.859 --> 00:24:08.720 it, Kevin. I think she's just more upset that 00:24:08.720 --> 00:24:10.900 the friend's not believing her and she's like, 00:24:10.920 --> 00:24:13.539 dude, your husband's a piece of shiz. He's freaking 00:24:13.539 --> 00:24:16.759 like cheating on you. Let's go to mine. This 00:24:16.759 --> 00:24:19.039 one comes from best of Redditor updates. What 00:24:19.039 --> 00:24:22.000 IBDA hole if I didn't tell my best friend that 00:24:22.000 --> 00:24:24.940 I'm dying. I recently got diagnosed with stage 00:24:24.940 --> 00:24:27.759 four lung cancer that somehow went undetected 00:24:27.759 --> 00:24:30.359 before. and I have up to three months to live 00:24:30.359 --> 00:24:32.539 according to the doctor. I could try treatments, 00:24:32.779 --> 00:24:34.720 but it's going to be expensive as hell and at 00:24:34.720 --> 00:24:36.680 most it's going to extend my life by a few more 00:24:36.680 --> 00:24:39.579 months before I die anyways. So I decided I'd 00:24:39.579 --> 00:24:41.680 just take it and face it head on. And now my 00:24:41.680 --> 00:24:43.960 best friend since forever and his wife finally 00:24:43.960 --> 00:24:46.119 got pregnant after eight years of trying with 00:24:46.119 --> 00:24:48.619 no luck and they're genuinely the happiest I've 00:24:48.619 --> 00:24:51.269 ever seen them. He knows I was in the hospital 00:24:51.269 --> 00:24:53.269 and they came to check on me multiple times and 00:24:53.269 --> 00:24:54.849 I just told them that they shouldn't bother and 00:24:54.849 --> 00:24:56.990 that it wasn't serious. I don't wanna make one 00:24:56.990 --> 00:24:59.230 of the happiest times of both of their lives 00:24:59.230 --> 00:25:01.430 sad just for me. It's gonna happen eventually 00:25:01.430 --> 00:25:03.930 when I do go and I know it's gonna destroy him 00:25:03.930 --> 00:25:05.950 because we're genuinely closer to each other 00:25:05.950 --> 00:25:08.069 than we are to our own siblings. He already told 00:25:08.069 --> 00:25:10.630 me that I'm gonna be his daughter's godfather. 00:25:10.809 --> 00:25:13.049 And I genuinely hope I'd get to see her at least 00:25:13.049 --> 00:25:15.480 once before I go. I'm single with no children 00:25:15.480 --> 00:25:17.740 and I'm planning to split my estate to give some 00:25:17.740 --> 00:25:19.799 to my older sister and set up college funds for 00:25:19.799 --> 00:25:21.900 her three children who I love very much and to 00:25:21.900 --> 00:25:23.779 my parents and I want to give something to my 00:25:23.779 --> 00:25:25.539 friend. I want to set up a little college fund 00:25:25.539 --> 00:25:27.799 for their future baby daughter. I'm also writing 00:25:27.799 --> 00:25:30.420 a long personalized letter to a lot of family 00:25:30.420 --> 00:25:32.559 and friends and I'm writing his now and I can't 00:25:32.559 --> 00:25:34.799 stop crying. I'm apologizing for keeping this 00:25:34.799 --> 00:25:36.819 a secret and I said I didn't want to take the 00:25:36.819 --> 00:25:39.220 spotlight and I love him and his wife and that 00:25:39.220 --> 00:25:41.000 I know their daughter would be the most loved 00:25:41.000 --> 00:25:42.880 baby in the world. But I'm wondering if this 00:25:42.880 --> 00:25:45.359 is the right thing to do or if it hurt him even 00:25:45.359 --> 00:25:49.119 more when I go should I just tell him oh that's 00:25:49.119 --> 00:25:52.240 so sad we're an incredible person that's tough 00:25:52.240 --> 00:25:55.019 huh he's so alone this is like in this family 00:25:55.019 --> 00:25:57.599 doesn't know I mean that's not part of the story 00:25:57.599 --> 00:26:00.809 but we don't know for sure but there is I'm just 00:26:00.809 --> 00:26:03.109 gonna tell for your sake right now, there is 00:26:03.109 --> 00:26:05.430 an update. You could read the comments on best 00:26:05.430 --> 00:26:07.549 redditor updates. I'm not going to, but this 00:26:07.549 --> 00:26:10.369 is the update. He posted it the same day, only 00:26:10.369 --> 00:26:13.589 five hours after the original post. Oh wow. Thanks 00:26:13.589 --> 00:26:15.970 for all your kind words to me and I'm sorry about 00:26:15.970 --> 00:26:18.150 all your loved ones who suffered the same. Almost 00:26:18.150 --> 00:26:20.390 all of you suggested telling him about it and 00:26:20.390 --> 00:26:22.390 y 'all gave me perspectives I honestly didn't 00:26:22.390 --> 00:26:24.849 think about and so I did it last night. Right 00:26:24.849 --> 00:26:27.349 now it's 6am over here, but last night after 00:26:27.349 --> 00:26:29.549 I posted it and got most of your messages, I 00:26:29.549 --> 00:26:31.529 called him. He answered on the second ring and 00:26:31.529 --> 00:26:33.549 I just broke down and started crying. I told 00:26:33.549 --> 00:26:35.490 him everything about why I was really in the 00:26:35.490 --> 00:26:37.890 hospital that time and about my diagnosis and 00:26:37.890 --> 00:26:40.529 the fact I have up to 3 months to live. He broke 00:26:40.529 --> 00:26:43.049 down and called me a bastard and a liar and told 00:26:43.049 --> 00:26:45.210 me to stop effing with him. Then he hung up on 00:26:45.210 --> 00:26:47.980 me. and 15 minutes later he came over still in 00:26:47.980 --> 00:26:50.319 his pajamas and we just hugged and cried. I showed 00:26:50.319 --> 00:26:52.619 him my medical records and reports and I showed 00:26:52.619 --> 00:26:55.119 him the post and the comments and he called me 00:26:55.119 --> 00:26:57.460 crazy and a damn idiot for even thinking about 00:26:57.460 --> 00:27:00.339 not telling him. He said he'd have hated me and 00:27:00.339 --> 00:27:02.480 himself if I died without telling him before 00:27:02.480 --> 00:27:04.619 that. And he said I'm more important to him than 00:27:04.619 --> 00:27:06.980 a million babies. We stayed up the entire night 00:27:06.980 --> 00:27:09.700 just talking about it and life and reliving our 00:27:09.700 --> 00:27:12.019 memories and laughing and crying and stuff. He 00:27:12.019 --> 00:27:15.859 even took a video of us just talking. I cannot 00:27:15.859 --> 00:27:19.460 do it. Sad. Death is sad. He even took a video 00:27:19.460 --> 00:27:22.259 of us just talking and he asked if I really wanted 00:27:22.259 --> 00:27:24.160 to leave something to him and his daughter. And 00:27:24.160 --> 00:27:25.960 I was like, yeah. I joked that I wouldn't be 00:27:25.960 --> 00:27:27.640 needing the money anyway and that I'm throwing 00:27:27.640 --> 00:27:29.799 it in the trash basically. And he laughed like 00:27:29.799 --> 00:27:31.940 it's the funniest thing ever. He just left right 00:27:31.940 --> 00:27:34.519 now because his wife has an early doctor's appointment 00:27:34.519 --> 00:27:36.920 tomorrow. And I begged him before that that I 00:27:36.920 --> 00:27:39.180 don't want any pity or sadness from him or anybody 00:27:39.180 --> 00:27:41.519 else. And he said, bitch, I'd never cry for you. 00:27:41.690 --> 00:27:43.609 after a whole night of him indeed crying for 00:27:43.609 --> 00:27:45.470 me, by the way. And we hugged and he told me 00:27:45.470 --> 00:27:47.430 to get some sleep and rest because we have a 00:27:47.430 --> 00:27:49.250 long day today. I asked what he meant and he 00:27:49.250 --> 00:27:51.250 told me I'd see. So yeah, I feel like a huge 00:27:51.250 --> 00:27:53.369 weight was lifted off me and it's mainly thanks 00:27:53.369 --> 00:27:55.490 to all of you. Thank you again. Update number 00:27:55.490 --> 00:27:58.109 two. Okay, good. I can't reply to any comments 00:27:58.109 --> 00:28:00.470 or post anything on my original account and I 00:28:00.470 --> 00:28:02.250 wanted to give you all one last update because 00:28:02.250 --> 00:28:03.849 none of this would have happened without y 'all. 00:28:03.970 --> 00:28:06.170 So there was no doctor's appointment. instead 00:28:06.170 --> 00:28:09.089 he had his wife bake me this family recipe cake 00:28:09.089 --> 00:28:11.309 that I absolutely love and they came over at 00:28:11.309 --> 00:28:13.769 10 a .m. with the cake his wife gave me the biggest 00:28:13.769 --> 00:28:16.269 mama bear hug and cried and said she loves me 00:28:16.269 --> 00:28:18.569 and asked if it was true and I said yeah and 00:28:18.569 --> 00:28:21.029 we sat down and cried they were crying for me 00:28:21.029 --> 00:28:23.269 but I was crying because the cake was so good 00:28:24.309 --> 00:28:26.950 Then they took me out for a family fun day out 00:28:26.950 --> 00:28:29.150 and it was honestly so good We went to the mall 00:28:29.150 --> 00:28:31.190 and watched the conjuring movie in the cinema 00:28:31.190 --> 00:28:34.069 because we all love horror And we even did carding 00:28:34.069 --> 00:28:35.890 just me and my friend though because she's too 00:28:35.890 --> 00:28:37.789 pregnant for this They took me to my favorite 00:28:37.789 --> 00:28:40.329 restaurant and refused to let me pay for anything 00:28:40.329 --> 00:28:42.950 the entire day We then went to a beach and watched 00:28:42.950 --> 00:28:44.950 the Sun go down and we just talked more about 00:28:44.950 --> 00:28:47.049 it and we cried some more I told them when I'm 00:28:47.049 --> 00:28:49.089 dead I don't want them to be sad at all for me 00:28:49.089 --> 00:28:51.009 or else I'd haunt them forever and I told them 00:28:51.009 --> 00:28:53.150 to love their baby daughter extra hard for me 00:28:53.150 --> 00:28:55.609 and they film multiple videos of me saying they 00:28:55.609 --> 00:28:57.730 want to remember my voice which honestly hit 00:28:57.730 --> 00:28:59.849 me really hard. They told me they wanted me to 00:28:59.849 --> 00:29:02.170 move in with them until I go because they wanted 00:29:02.170 --> 00:29:04.430 as much time with me as possible and would love 00:29:04.430 --> 00:29:06.789 having me around and honestly it's perfect timing 00:29:06.789 --> 00:29:09.210 because my lease literally ends two weeks from 00:29:09.210 --> 00:29:11.190 now. They don't want to leave me alone so they're 00:29:11.190 --> 00:29:13.250 both sleeping at my place tonight. We're giving 00:29:13.250 --> 00:29:15.470 my bed to his wife and we're taking the couches. 00:29:15.529 --> 00:29:17.569 I don't wish this sickness on my worst enemy 00:29:17.569 --> 00:29:19.730 but honestly I'm feeling so lucky and loved right 00:29:19.730 --> 00:29:21.750 now. They literally would not leave me alone 00:29:21.750 --> 00:29:24.230 and honestly I couldn't be any I just wish I'd 00:29:24.230 --> 00:29:27.009 get to meet their baby at least once before I 00:29:27.009 --> 00:29:29.529 die and it's possible because she's in her seventh 00:29:29.529 --> 00:29:32.130 month Tomorrow I'm planning to go and tell the 00:29:32.130 --> 00:29:34.269 rest of my closest family and friends again Thanks 00:29:34.269 --> 00:29:36.670 for all your nice words to me. This was posted 00:29:36.670 --> 00:29:40.690 on the 27th of September Took him to play games 00:29:40.690 --> 00:29:46.349 go -karting Yeah, like we'll do it when you're 00:29:46.349 --> 00:29:51.279 like you're there somebody commented, damn someone 00:29:51.279 --> 00:29:55.940 is aggressively cutting onions near me. It's 00:29:55.940 --> 00:29:58.220 crazy though because that is it's a very moving 00:29:58.220 --> 00:30:02.200 story. You can feel just from OP who is very 00:30:02.200 --> 00:30:04.519 much a dude writer. Everything's just a comma. 00:30:04.660 --> 00:30:07.920 A little bit hard to read, but he and that best 00:30:07.920 --> 00:30:11.279 friend are straight up like two peas in a pod. 00:30:11.599 --> 00:30:14.359 And OP, OOP, so the guy that posted the original, 00:30:14.400 --> 00:30:17.420 the guy that's dying, he comments all over the 00:30:17.420 --> 00:30:19.740 place. He's got a good sense of humor. It's fun 00:30:19.740 --> 00:30:21.859 if you want to go read it. Painful to try to 00:30:21.859 --> 00:30:24.160 put yourself in their shoes, but would you want 00:30:24.160 --> 00:30:26.720 to tell? Would you make like this kind of whatever? 00:30:27.180 --> 00:30:29.279 Not like a parade, but like you want to be like, 00:30:29.759 --> 00:30:33.460 hey everyone, I'm terminal. Yeah, I'm telling 00:30:33.460 --> 00:30:36.099 everyone because I would be so scared. I would 00:30:36.099 --> 00:30:38.819 need my people. Like I wouldn't want to be alone 00:30:38.819 --> 00:30:41.279 in that. I wouldn't have want to deal with that. 00:30:41.950 --> 00:30:45.289 But I'm like who would you tell would you because 00:30:45.289 --> 00:30:47.250 it's you have to think about how exhausting that 00:30:47.250 --> 00:30:49.170 would be people that love you They're just gonna 00:30:49.170 --> 00:30:51.230 turn into a puddle and like yeah, there's support 00:30:51.230 --> 00:30:57.269 there, but it's also like this like Yeah, you're 00:30:57.269 --> 00:30:59.829 causing them to grieve you and you're still there 00:30:59.829 --> 00:31:03.049 but that's like I think I just think it's cool 00:31:03.049 --> 00:31:05.509 the friend and the friend's wife They did a perfect 00:31:05.509 --> 00:31:07.809 example of that's how you support somebody in 00:31:07.809 --> 00:31:11.480 that it's like be there for them, love them. 00:31:12.539 --> 00:31:15.480 That's so terrible. That's so horrific. Would 00:31:15.480 --> 00:31:18.779 you tell them? Yeah. I think I would tell. How's 00:31:18.779 --> 00:31:21.220 that for an update story? That's sad. I'm probably 00:31:21.220 --> 00:31:23.400 not ending on that because I'm going to be depressed. 00:31:23.799 --> 00:31:26.519 OP is not the a -hole though. That was the consensus. 00:31:26.880 --> 00:31:29.000 Not to my story. Am I the a -hole for asking 00:31:29.000 --> 00:31:32.819 a girl not to film me at the gym? I23F was at 00:31:32.819 --> 00:31:34.720 the gym yesterday when I noticed a girl setting 00:31:34.720 --> 00:31:37.279 up her phone across from me. At first I brushed 00:31:37.279 --> 00:31:39.359 it off, people record themselves all the time, 00:31:39.420 --> 00:31:41.920 but after my first couple reps, I realized I 00:31:41.920 --> 00:31:44.579 was dead center in her shot. I instantly felt 00:31:44.579 --> 00:31:46.319 embarrassed, the thought of it being background 00:31:46.319 --> 00:31:48.720 content for some stranger's TikTok made my stomach 00:31:48.720 --> 00:31:50.940 drop. I racked the weights, cleaned up my area, 00:31:51.039 --> 00:31:53.279 and decided to move to a machine on the other 00:31:53.279 --> 00:31:55.359 side of the room. I got through one set in my 00:31:55.359 --> 00:31:57.710 new spot before I noticed her again. She had 00:31:57.710 --> 00:31:59.789 walked over, set her phone up right next to me, 00:31:59.829 --> 00:32:02.369 and once again had me in the fray. This time, 00:32:02.470 --> 00:32:04.549 I couldn't just ignore it. Between sets, I tried 00:32:04.549 --> 00:32:06.430 to get her attention and said, hey, would you 00:32:06.430 --> 00:32:08.869 mind angling it so I'm not in the shot? She looked 00:32:08.869 --> 00:32:11.289 straight at me, tapped her headphones, mimed, 00:32:11.369 --> 00:32:14.369 I can't hear you, and just kept going. At this 00:32:14.369 --> 00:32:16.190 point, I was getting hella pissed, so I went 00:32:16.190 --> 00:32:18.490 into the bathroom to try and calm down. When 00:32:18.490 --> 00:32:21.109 I came back out, I nearly bumped into her. She 00:32:21.109 --> 00:32:23.269 was glued to her phone, editing the very footage 00:32:23.269 --> 00:32:25.789 she had just taken with me in it. She walked 00:32:25.789 --> 00:32:27.970 past me without even noticing. That's when I 00:32:27.970 --> 00:32:30.210 decided to find a worker and explain. I told 00:32:30.210 --> 00:32:32.069 him what happened and he said, Oh, she's not 00:32:32.069 --> 00:32:34.809 filming here. She's just filming herself and 00:32:34.809 --> 00:32:37.349 brushed me off like I was being dramatic. I tried 00:32:37.349 --> 00:32:39.490 to hold my ground, but he clearly was not having 00:32:39.490 --> 00:32:42.210 it. So I decided to head home. I sat in my car 00:32:42.210 --> 00:32:44.529 for a few minutes, still were playing it in my 00:32:44.529 --> 00:32:46.950 head raging. That's when I saw the worker walking 00:32:46.950 --> 00:32:49.509 out of the building, holding hands with the TikToker. 00:32:49.819 --> 00:32:52.400 They laughed, got into the same car, and drove 00:32:52.400 --> 00:32:54.819 away together. I went from feeling brushed off 00:32:54.819 --> 00:32:57.660 to realizing I never even had a chance of being 00:32:57.660 --> 00:33:01.220 taken seriously. So, am I the a -hole for not 00:33:01.220 --> 00:33:03.099 wanting to be in the background of her TikToks, 00:33:03.099 --> 00:33:05.039 or is it that just something you have to accept 00:33:05.039 --> 00:33:08.140 if you work out in public? No, you're not the 00:33:08.140 --> 00:33:10.160 a -hole. And guess what? There's a whole guy 00:33:10.160 --> 00:33:13.099 that's made millions of dollars just eviscerating 00:33:13.099 --> 00:33:16.700 people that do that. Joey Swole? Yeah, I love 00:33:16.700 --> 00:33:20.779 his videos. I really do. Be better. Have you 00:33:20.779 --> 00:33:23.079 ever had that experience where someone was like 00:33:23.079 --> 00:33:24.579 filming and you're like in the background and 00:33:24.579 --> 00:33:30.400 you notice No, not in recent memory, but that's 00:33:30.400 --> 00:33:33.980 it the gym we go to film. He's not allowed Yeah, 00:33:34.180 --> 00:33:36.480 I'm sure people still like sneak in and do stuff, 00:33:36.480 --> 00:33:39.890 but I also just I don't care. Yeah, I don't see 00:33:39.890 --> 00:33:42.430 anyone really. I've seen a few. Well, I have 00:33:42.430 --> 00:33:46.069 an experience. So I just got back into going 00:33:46.069 --> 00:33:48.730 to the gym. I decided I was going to take this 00:33:48.730 --> 00:33:51.970 like hip hop class. So I take this hip hop class 00:33:51.970 --> 00:33:54.109 and I go in thinking like, Oh, it's gonna be 00:33:54.109 --> 00:33:56.150 fun. They're gonna like teach us a dance in the 00:33:56.150 --> 00:33:57.950 class and then we're going to do it. Cause like 00:33:57.950 --> 00:34:00.930 with high fit or anything like that, you're like 00:34:00.930 --> 00:34:03.769 learning the dance as you go. And it's like easy 00:34:03.769 --> 00:34:07.029 steps that you take by the end of the Class you're 00:34:07.029 --> 00:34:09.030 like you're in it with the class. You're not 00:34:09.030 --> 00:34:10.769 just like standing on the side looking like an 00:34:10.769 --> 00:34:12.590 idiot Like I don't know what's happening. So 00:34:12.590 --> 00:34:14.269 I figured that's what this hip -hop class would 00:34:14.269 --> 00:34:18.369 be No, it's so stupid how they set this up. I 00:34:18.369 --> 00:34:20.869 haven't been since that's fine. Anyways walk 00:34:20.869 --> 00:34:23.789 in thinking I'm just gonna learn it I am standing 00:34:23.789 --> 00:34:25.750 there. I went in the back I'm standing there 00:34:25.750 --> 00:34:28.489 looking like an idiot because I could not figure 00:34:28.489 --> 00:34:30.769 it out Larry you walk in they turn the music 00:34:30.769 --> 00:34:34.929 on girls boom just start doing all the crap, 00:34:35.050 --> 00:34:38.550 twerking on the floor, rolling iron splits. I 00:34:38.550 --> 00:34:40.090 don't even freaking know. And I'm just standing 00:34:40.090 --> 00:34:42.309 there, what in the hell? Where are we? What am 00:34:42.309 --> 00:34:45.710 I doing here? And everyone in the back didn't 00:34:45.710 --> 00:34:47.710 know what they were doing. So we all are just 00:34:47.710 --> 00:34:49.429 like scattering. You know, when you're like trying 00:34:49.429 --> 00:34:51.570 to do a dance that you don't know the dance and 00:34:51.570 --> 00:34:54.429 so you're like five steps behind. Yeah. It was 00:34:54.429 --> 00:34:56.489 literally us in the back the whole time. And 00:34:56.489 --> 00:34:58.230 I was next to this grandma and she had been to 00:34:58.230 --> 00:35:00.110 a few classes before, so she knew a little bit 00:35:00.110 --> 00:35:03.659 more than me. But they do new dances every class. 00:35:03.820 --> 00:35:06.280 So I'm trying so hard. I'm like bright red because 00:35:06.280 --> 00:35:09.340 I am getting a workout and I'm trying. And I 00:35:09.340 --> 00:35:12.260 just, I don't feel attractive at all. Like I 00:35:12.260 --> 00:35:13.880 don't feel bad about myself while I'm doing it, 00:35:13.880 --> 00:35:16.480 but I'm like, I'm just going to try. I, it was 00:35:16.480 --> 00:35:18.679 almost at the end of the workout or the hippo 00:35:18.679 --> 00:35:20.880 fast. I like look in the corner of my eye to 00:35:20.880 --> 00:35:26.179 my right. There's an iPhone set up directly at 00:35:26.179 --> 00:35:28.820 me and it's the front train so I can see it. 00:35:28.820 --> 00:35:32.039 Like I am in the shot. it's me and then there 00:35:32.039 --> 00:35:34.260 was this lady that was next to me and it was 00:35:34.260 --> 00:35:36.840 her phone she was filming and she was filming 00:35:36.840 --> 00:35:40.000 me and her doing this class and i'm literally 00:35:40.000 --> 00:35:43.800 like oh my gosh this entire class i've been filmed 00:35:43.800 --> 00:35:48.480 and i look like an idiot i mean if that was posted 00:35:48.480 --> 00:35:51.519 on tiktok i promise you it would have gone viral 00:35:51.519 --> 00:35:57.110 i promise you because i was trying so hard And 00:35:57.110 --> 00:35:59.230 I looked like an absolute idiot. I mean, who 00:35:59.230 --> 00:36:00.750 knows? Maybe people would have been like, oh, 00:36:00.769 --> 00:36:03.769 that poor girl. I prefer her for trying. Or they'd 00:36:03.769 --> 00:36:05.929 have been like, that fat loser. What is she doing? 00:36:06.050 --> 00:36:08.030 Get out of the class. Why didn't you ask her 00:36:08.030 --> 00:36:11.010 to airdrop it to you? I would have cried. So 00:36:11.010 --> 00:36:13.309 anyways, I see it and I like look away and I'm 00:36:13.309 --> 00:36:16.429 like, oh my gosh, are you? I felt so violated 00:36:16.429 --> 00:36:19.369 and so just like, it was just so ridiculous. 00:36:19.610 --> 00:36:22.769 It should not have been allowed. And I immediately, 00:36:23.449 --> 00:36:26.150 what's wrong? Are you crying? No, no, I'm not. 00:36:26.219 --> 00:36:28.659 I immediately grabbed my stuff and just like 00:36:28.659 --> 00:36:31.239 walked out. I was like, I mean, I took the second 00:36:31.239 --> 00:36:34.179 to think and I was like, no, I don't feel comfortable. 00:36:34.239 --> 00:36:36.079 And I also didn't feel comfortable looking at 00:36:36.079 --> 00:36:38.079 this lady and being like, get your phone away 00:36:38.079 --> 00:36:40.039 from me. Like, what are you doing filming me? 00:36:40.539 --> 00:36:42.480 But I was like raging. I was so embarrassed, 00:36:42.599 --> 00:36:45.440 so upset. I just felt so violated. Anyways, I 00:36:45.440 --> 00:36:46.940 grabbed my stuff and I just like walked out of 00:36:46.940 --> 00:36:49.280 the class, had like maybe 10 minutes left. I 00:36:49.280 --> 00:36:51.639 have never been back since and I've never seen 00:36:51.639 --> 00:36:54.199 that video of me on social media, thank goodness. 00:36:54.420 --> 00:36:58.440 Probably has like 12 followers. Yeah, she has, 00:36:58.539 --> 00:37:01.820 probably. This story, when I read it on Reddit, 00:37:01.960 --> 00:37:05.480 I was like, read it on Reddit. That's what it's 00:37:05.480 --> 00:37:09.159 based on, you get it? Anyways, that's my story 00:37:09.159 --> 00:37:11.820 about the gym and I don't think phones should 00:37:11.820 --> 00:37:13.599 be allowed at all. I think there needs to be 00:37:13.599 --> 00:37:16.139 like set places for influencers that they can't 00:37:16.139 --> 00:37:19.780 go. Like hell? At the gym. Yeah. Yeah, there 00:37:19.780 --> 00:37:21.340 should definitely be set places because I mean 00:37:21.340 --> 00:37:23.159 I get it if you're a fitness influencer you got 00:37:23.159 --> 00:37:25.539 to get content and gyms would best way to do 00:37:25.539 --> 00:37:29.079 it, but People that are just trying to get their 00:37:29.079 --> 00:37:32.760 spark back man like for it What is freaking normal 00:37:32.760 --> 00:37:36.719 average -sized people be yeah? Let us be let's 00:37:36.719 --> 00:37:38.460 be it all right. Well our daughter just woke 00:37:38.460 --> 00:37:41.380 up, so let's finish up this Okay, I'm not gonna 00:37:41.380 --> 00:37:44.619 get any time to game all right guys. Well that 00:37:44.619 --> 00:37:48.139 was that was wrapping up the summer Reddit stories 00:37:48.139 --> 00:37:50.699 what this is the ninth time you want to dab me 00:37:50.699 --> 00:37:54.679 up go ahead dab me up cuz Shit, yeah, bud. Okay. 00:37:54.719 --> 00:37:59.860 Can I end this now? Gosh The vibes are different 00:37:59.860 --> 00:38:02.360 over here today. We'll see you guys next week 00:38:02.360 --> 00:38:05.800 if we do I don't know what's going on Follow 00:38:05.800 --> 00:38:09.300 along like comment. 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