WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.259 Welcome back, y 'all. We are so excited for this 00:00:02.259 --> 00:00:04.259 week's episode. It's a really good one. But first, 00:00:04.679 --> 00:00:07.139 we need to talk about last week's stories. Sorry 00:00:07.139 --> 00:00:09.580 if you hear some background noise. Our dogs are 00:00:09.580 --> 00:00:12.320 eating their dinner. We had four stories last 00:00:12.320 --> 00:00:14.980 week. One of them was the fake. Let's find out 00:00:14.980 --> 00:00:17.660 officially which one was the fake. So there was, 00:00:17.820 --> 00:00:19.600 would I be the a -hole if I divorced my wife 00:00:19.600 --> 00:00:22.600 because she does not want me actively involved 00:00:22.600 --> 00:00:25.609 in raising our children. That's story one. Story 00:00:25.609 --> 00:00:28.730 two, coworker Jenna, she's being rude. Am I the 00:00:28.730 --> 00:00:31.730 a -hole for blowing up on my coworker? Story 00:00:31.730 --> 00:00:34.810 three, am I the a -hole for letting my husband's 00:00:34.810 --> 00:00:37.909 mistress meal prep for him and the kids? Story 00:00:37.909 --> 00:00:40.009 number four, am I the a -hole for wanting my 00:00:40.009 --> 00:00:43.670 girl best friend to be the best man? That one 00:00:43.670 --> 00:00:46.850 was a hot take on social media. Actually, it 00:00:46.850 --> 00:00:49.189 wasn't even a hot take. Everyone was agreeing 00:00:49.189 --> 00:00:52.450 that the girl should have been the best man. 00:00:53.049 --> 00:00:55.890 Really? Yes, everyone every comment was like 00:00:55.890 --> 00:00:57.689 she's the a -hole she's the a -hole and then 00:00:57.689 --> 00:01:00.969 when I posted the update of She cheated on him. 00:01:01.009 --> 00:01:03.429 They were like, yep. We knew he didn't like her 00:01:03.429 --> 00:01:06.329 everyone and then at the end there's like a clip 00:01:06.329 --> 00:01:10.120 where I say like he's still the a -hole and people 00:01:10.120 --> 00:01:12.379 were getting on me about that they're like she 00:01:12.379 --> 00:01:14.760 better have been joking because he is not the 00:01:14.760 --> 00:01:17.760 a -hole it's him or her that is I was just gonna 00:01:17.760 --> 00:01:19.700 ask how you feel about that cuz that was like 00:01:19.700 --> 00:01:23.540 you didn't like yeah no cuz I'm just so I'm just 00:01:23.540 --> 00:01:27.200 so about the girls feelings I feel like I'm more 00:01:27.200 --> 00:01:30.439 drawn towards like sticking up for the girl but 00:01:31.070 --> 00:01:33.810 Was kidding when I said that it was like sarcasm 00:01:33.810 --> 00:01:36.510 and I mean it got people to chuckle So I'm fine 00:01:36.510 --> 00:01:39.030 with it. But yeah, I got some heat on it for 00:01:39.030 --> 00:01:41.629 sure. I was like, all right Fair I'll take it 00:01:41.629 --> 00:01:46.370 the fake of last week was Am I the a -hole for 00:01:46.370 --> 00:01:50.329 blowing up of my co -worker? Jenna story Jenna 00:01:50.329 --> 00:01:53.909 story. So this is the one where she was microwaving 00:01:53.909 --> 00:01:57.250 fish in the kitchen at work and then they're 00:01:57.250 --> 00:01:59.209 at this like what was it like a party or something 00:01:59.209 --> 00:02:01.569 and she like called her out was like Jenna stop 00:02:01.569 --> 00:02:04.950 it you're a jerk just like the lamest little 00:02:04.950 --> 00:02:08.530 comments so anyways not our juiciest fake story 00:02:08.530 --> 00:02:10.729 but we tricked Kenna and Tanner when they were 00:02:10.729 --> 00:02:13.169 here they chose I don't remember they both chose 00:02:13.169 --> 00:02:15.330 a different one for the fake and they were both 00:02:15.330 --> 00:02:18.069 wrong so we tricked them and that was like you 00:02:18.069 --> 00:02:20.210 would have hoped that reality was fake some of 00:02:20.210 --> 00:02:23.479 those stories were like They were like, you would 00:02:23.479 --> 00:02:25.219 have thought the real ones were the fake ones. 00:02:25.360 --> 00:02:28.400 Yeah, no, exactly. So now for this week, we are 00:02:28.400 --> 00:02:31.419 so excited to talk about what the episode is. 00:02:31.599 --> 00:02:35.620 And it is Mother -in -law from Hell. The old 00:02:35.620 --> 00:02:39.340 monster -in -law, people. This is going to be 00:02:39.340 --> 00:02:41.000 a good one. I feel like there's so many people 00:02:41.000 --> 00:02:43.580 out here that can relate to having a mother -in 00:02:43.580 --> 00:02:45.400 -law that they either hate or they just don't 00:02:45.400 --> 00:02:48.860 really like or they're scared of, you know, or 00:02:48.860 --> 00:02:51.219 they love them. The bottom line is that blending 00:02:51.219 --> 00:02:54.699 families is not always easy to do. Right. Cultural 00:02:54.699 --> 00:02:57.060 backgrounds are different. All that stuff. So 00:02:57.060 --> 00:02:59.819 this story comes from the subreddit Mother in 00:02:59.819 --> 00:03:20.729 Laws from Hell. My monster -in -law used our 00:03:20.729 --> 00:03:23.449 miscarriage to make herself the victim Beyonce 00:03:23.449 --> 00:03:28.330 thinks I'm overreacting how oh What okay go we've 00:03:28.330 --> 00:03:30.669 been no contact with my fiance's mother for two 00:03:30.669 --> 00:03:33.969 years. She's a textbook narcissist Manipulative 00:03:33.969 --> 00:03:36.629 boundary -crushing and incapable of seeing beyond 00:03:36.629 --> 00:03:39.990 herself every interaction with her is drama guilt 00:03:39.990 --> 00:03:43.310 -tripping or manipulation She sent endless emotional 00:03:43.310 --> 00:03:45.909 tirades to the family whatsapp, turned the smallest 00:03:45.909 --> 00:03:47.949 things into chaos, and has always made it clear 00:03:47.949 --> 00:03:50.610 that she sees me as a threat to her control over 00:03:50.610 --> 00:03:53.569 my fiance. The breaking point back then was after 00:03:53.569 --> 00:03:55.990 a family trip where she bombarded us with messages 00:03:55.990 --> 00:03:58.889 blaming me for isolating her, saying things like 00:03:58.889 --> 00:04:01.750 I was cold, heartless, and destroying the family. 00:04:02.250 --> 00:04:04.629 She even sent a massive rant to the group chat 00:04:04.629 --> 00:04:08.330 attacking me directly. My fiance confronted her 00:04:08.330 --> 00:04:11.759 and her response was, science. Literary. She 00:04:11.759 --> 00:04:13.620 gave him the silent treatment for months and 00:04:13.620 --> 00:04:15.979 then reappeared like nothing had happened. Since 00:04:15.979 --> 00:04:18.500 then she has pretended I don't exist. No hello, 00:04:18.720 --> 00:04:21.959 no acknowledgement. Like I'm invisible. So we 00:04:21.959 --> 00:04:24.459 cut contact. And honestly those two years without 00:04:24.459 --> 00:04:27.160 her were the most peaceful of our relationship. 00:04:27.420 --> 00:04:29.279 We could breathe again. Earlier this year we 00:04:29.279 --> 00:04:31.720 got pregnant. Given everything, we chose not 00:04:31.720 --> 00:04:33.879 to tell her. That moment wasn't hers to have. 00:04:33.980 --> 00:04:35.980 It was ours. We wanted to build a new chapter 00:04:35.980 --> 00:04:38.879 for our family. Not one she could infect with 00:04:38.879 --> 00:04:42.199 her toxicity. Then we lost the baby. It was devastating. 00:04:42.600 --> 00:04:45.439 Grief like that changes you. Changes your relationship. 00:04:45.699 --> 00:04:47.439 It breaks something inside you that you can't 00:04:47.439 --> 00:04:50.600 fully explain. And then somehow she found out. 00:04:50.839 --> 00:04:53.560 Not from us, of course. And her very first reaction 00:04:53.560 --> 00:04:56.720 wasn't compassion. It wasn't, I'm so sorry. It 00:04:56.720 --> 00:05:00.240 was, you're blaming me. She's selfish. Maybe 00:05:00.240 --> 00:05:04.399 God didn't want you to have the baby. Ew. That 00:05:04.399 --> 00:05:07.620 is so repulsive. I'm not paraphrasing. She said 00:05:07.620 --> 00:05:10.620 those exact words. No empathy, no humanity, just 00:05:10.620 --> 00:05:13.540 centering herself, playing the victim, and even 00:05:13.540 --> 00:05:16.500 daring to frame our miscarriage as divine punishment 00:05:16.500 --> 00:05:20.860 for our choices. I cannot deal with that type 00:05:20.860 --> 00:05:24.899 of stuff. That would be so... I'd punch her in 00:05:24.899 --> 00:05:29.459 the face. Divine punishment? Give me a big, huge, 00:05:29.800 --> 00:05:33.540 fat rake. Oh, okay. I heard the audio and something 00:05:33.540 --> 00:05:36.160 inside me snapped, not just anger, pure rage. 00:05:36.540 --> 00:05:39.620 Who does that? Who weaponizes someone's miscarriage 00:05:39.620 --> 00:05:42.500 to make themselves the victim? So I told my fiance 00:05:42.500 --> 00:05:45.300 no more, this time for real. Hard boundaries, 00:05:45.680 --> 00:05:48.920 not maybe she'll change energy, not let's just 00:05:48.920 --> 00:05:51.399 avoid her for now. I needed him to block her, 00:05:51.500 --> 00:05:54.019 cut her off, and never let her feed on our grief 00:05:54.019 --> 00:05:57.560 again. And he said I was overreacting. Then came 00:05:57.560 --> 00:06:00.329 the cavalry, the sister and his stepdad. They 00:06:00.329 --> 00:06:02.250 jumped in with guilt trips and manipulation, 00:06:02.370 --> 00:06:05.050 telling him he was going too far, that she didn't 00:06:05.050 --> 00:06:07.709 mean it like that, that she was just emotional, 00:06:08.170 --> 00:06:10.589 that was making it worse. His sister said she 00:06:10.589 --> 00:06:12.829 suffers because of the tension and can't see 00:06:12.829 --> 00:06:15.490 him the same way anymore. His stepdad sent a 00:06:15.490 --> 00:06:17.930 long message blaming me directly, comparing me 00:06:17.930 --> 00:06:20.329 to his exes and saying my fiance had changed 00:06:20.329 --> 00:06:23.589 because of me. And the worst part? It's working. 00:06:24.430 --> 00:06:27.629 My fiance is pulling away. He's confused, defensive, 00:06:27.970 --> 00:06:31.199 and distant. He doesn't see how toxic this all 00:06:31.199 --> 00:06:33.600 is because he's been raised to tolerate it, to 00:06:33.600 --> 00:06:36.360 minimize it, to survive in it. He thinks keeping 00:06:36.360 --> 00:06:38.600 the peace is neutral, but in reality, it's siding 00:06:38.600 --> 00:06:41.660 with her. Meanwhile, I feel alone. I'm grieving 00:06:41.660 --> 00:06:43.819 a baby I lost, and now I feel like I'm losing 00:06:43.819 --> 00:06:46.779 him too. And I'm so tired. This is in my head 00:06:46.779 --> 00:06:49.600 every single day. I can accept that his personality 00:06:49.600 --> 00:06:51.899 is more conflict avoidant than mine, but I cannot 00:06:51.899 --> 00:06:54.620 accept him failing to protect our family when 00:06:54.620 --> 00:06:56.959 we are under attack. Because that's what this 00:06:56.959 --> 00:06:59.699 is, an attack. Let's be honest. That's exactly 00:06:59.699 --> 00:07:02.600 what she wants to drive a wedge between us to 00:07:02.600 --> 00:07:05.259 make me the scapegoat to keep him in orbit around 00:07:05.259 --> 00:07:08.199 her So here I am posting because I feel like 00:07:08.199 --> 00:07:10.579 I'm going crazy posting because I need to validate 00:07:10.579 --> 00:07:13.360 what I feel Posting because I honestly don't 00:07:13.360 --> 00:07:15.480 know what to do anymore How do you deal with 00:07:15.480 --> 00:07:17.660 the partner who won't set hard boundaries with 00:07:17.660 --> 00:07:19.800 the toxic parent even when it's already cost 00:07:19.800 --> 00:07:22.399 you this much? How do you keep fighting for your 00:07:22.399 --> 00:07:23.879 family when it feels like you're the only one 00:07:23.879 --> 00:07:26.199 doing it? I want advice, I want perspective, 00:07:26.660 --> 00:07:28.319 but mostly I just need to say this out loud. 00:07:28.459 --> 00:07:30.980 This hurts so much more than I ever expected. 00:07:31.240 --> 00:07:36.139 Oh, that's so heavy. This one is heavy. It's 00:07:36.139 --> 00:07:40.579 so heavy because I completely see her side of 00:07:40.579 --> 00:07:43.399 things and having it be a miscarriage. That's 00:07:43.399 --> 00:07:45.920 like Joe and I, we had a miscarriage two years 00:07:45.920 --> 00:07:49.339 ago. You can't really put words to that experience. 00:07:49.420 --> 00:07:52.720 Like, I don't know. It's really hard. For me 00:07:52.720 --> 00:07:54.560 personally, I feel like everyone grooves it differently. 00:07:54.699 --> 00:07:57.579 For me, it was more of like a shock factor when 00:07:57.579 --> 00:08:00.199 it all first happened. Then it was like slowly 00:08:00.199 --> 00:08:02.220 as time went on. That's when I really started 00:08:02.220 --> 00:08:04.959 like being more upset and like devastated by 00:08:04.959 --> 00:08:07.579 it and could actually like reflect on it. So 00:08:07.579 --> 00:08:11.139 I can relate in this. in a way of like what she's 00:08:11.139 --> 00:08:13.480 going through with the miscarriage and to have 00:08:13.480 --> 00:08:15.420 your own mother -in -law say those things to 00:08:15.420 --> 00:08:17.540 like family and friends or whoever she was talking 00:08:17.540 --> 00:08:20.399 to about it and getting that back oh my gosh 00:08:20.399 --> 00:08:23.680 i don't blame her for wanting to cut ties at 00:08:23.680 --> 00:08:25.899 all with that because i would be like that's 00:08:25.899 --> 00:08:28.699 unforgivable at least for a bit like i need i 00:08:28.699 --> 00:08:32.320 need time like f you kind of thing but i kind 00:08:32.320 --> 00:08:35.440 of feel bad for him a little bit because that 00:08:35.440 --> 00:08:37.919 is his family and i think you can speak more 00:08:37.919 --> 00:08:41.169 to this because I mean, you see his side when 00:08:41.169 --> 00:08:42.929 it comes to like, it's your family and you want 00:08:42.929 --> 00:08:45.490 to stay close to them. Yeah. Well, what it really 00:08:45.490 --> 00:08:48.490 comes down to is just what people's expectations 00:08:48.490 --> 00:08:51.090 are. All that stuff, the sociology, how people 00:08:51.090 --> 00:08:53.950 are raised, all that factors in. She kind of 00:08:53.950 --> 00:08:57.649 makes it sound like he has no backbone, like 00:08:57.649 --> 00:09:01.090 he has no spine in the situation. And some of 00:09:01.090 --> 00:09:03.029 the comments were saying some of that stuff too. 00:09:03.309 --> 00:09:05.889 And it's just so hard to take somebody from one 00:09:05.889 --> 00:09:08.759 world. and have them empathize with somebody 00:09:08.759 --> 00:09:11.059 from another world, that it's really hard to 00:09:11.059 --> 00:09:14.019 breach that gap. Well, my thought was, after 00:09:14.019 --> 00:09:16.299 reading the story, is that they need to hunker 00:09:16.299 --> 00:09:19.639 down, and they need to mourn, and they need to 00:09:19.639 --> 00:09:22.159 heal emotionally just from the miscarriage alone. 00:09:22.440 --> 00:09:25.019 For her to kind of like wage war on the family, 00:09:25.080 --> 00:09:27.080 I don't think she's doing herself as much favors 00:09:27.080 --> 00:09:29.820 as she thinks she is. Being like, I didn't keep 00:09:29.820 --> 00:09:31.580 her away from me. It's like, you're probably 00:09:31.580 --> 00:09:34.360 just dealing with your loss more than anything. 00:09:34.620 --> 00:09:37.139 Come together as a couple, be there for each 00:09:37.139 --> 00:09:41.120 other, and heal. I don't know what that's supposed 00:09:41.120 --> 00:09:43.879 to look like other than you just don't pay it 00:09:43.879 --> 00:09:47.740 as much energy, maybe. Just don't make it about 00:09:47.740 --> 00:09:51.379 their family because you can't win. You're putting 00:09:51.379 --> 00:09:55.960 him in an impossible situation. It is so impossibly 00:09:55.960 --> 00:09:59.480 difficult to cut ties or to go culture here, 00:09:59.580 --> 00:10:02.360 to establish boundaries. It doesn't work the 00:10:02.360 --> 00:10:05.149 way that people want it to work. There's no good 00:10:05.149 --> 00:10:08.889 solution. It sucks. It sucks for OP. She lost 00:10:08.889 --> 00:10:11.090 a baby. And I can only empathize for a mother, 00:10:11.250 --> 00:10:12.750 because there's, like, hormones and stuff that 00:10:12.750 --> 00:10:15.730 go into it. We were not planning the pregnancy 00:10:15.730 --> 00:10:18.029 that we lost. I mean, it's just weird to think, 00:10:18.029 --> 00:10:21.889 like, you can't have your random intrusive thoughts 00:10:21.889 --> 00:10:24.269 of, like, what would be crazy if we had a baby 00:10:24.269 --> 00:10:26.649 that was two right now, or whatever, you know? 00:10:26.690 --> 00:10:28.549 It's like, you have these thoughts of, like, 00:10:28.649 --> 00:10:31.340 what could have been. And I don't know if their 00:10:31.340 --> 00:10:33.399 pregnancy was planned or not planned, but it 00:10:33.399 --> 00:10:35.460 sounds like it. It's something that can affect 00:10:35.460 --> 00:10:38.960 you for long periods of time, even with help. 00:10:40.000 --> 00:10:43.039 It's. It is erratic and it's just significant. 00:10:43.200 --> 00:10:45.059 It's not nothing, but that's what I think. I 00:10:45.059 --> 00:10:47.100 mean, they need to focus on their own relationship 00:10:47.100 --> 00:10:50.179 and mourn and heal. Let's go to story number 00:10:50.179 --> 00:10:52.580 two. And this is off Reddit. This is mother -in 00:10:52.580 --> 00:10:54.879 -law's from home. Tried to call herself mama 00:10:54.879 --> 00:10:59.120 while talking to my baby. It finally happened 00:10:59.120 --> 00:11:01.080 only took her eight months to grow the nerve 00:11:01.080 --> 00:11:04.100 to try and call herself mama to my baby a little 00:11:04.100 --> 00:11:06.460 bit of a backstory This woman made my pregnancy 00:11:06.460 --> 00:11:08.779 a nightmare. There was always drama. She managed 00:11:08.779 --> 00:11:10.600 to make everything about herself She didn't care 00:11:10.600 --> 00:11:12.919 about the baby until he was born and she could 00:11:12.919 --> 00:11:15.500 physically hold him I was ready to go no contact, 00:11:15.559 --> 00:11:17.460 but I wanted my child to know his grandmother 00:11:17.460 --> 00:11:19.639 She's visited her home and only has time with 00:11:19.639 --> 00:11:21.899 them while one of us is around She treats him 00:11:21.899 --> 00:11:25.299 more so as a doll she can hold to look at not 00:11:25.299 --> 00:11:27.879 cuddle or a dancing monkey she can and make stand 00:11:27.879 --> 00:11:29.940 up and practice walking because her son started 00:11:29.940 --> 00:11:32.379 walking at six months. I'm constantly reminded. 00:11:32.659 --> 00:11:35.700 She truly believes this, LOL. She hadn't visited 00:11:35.700 --> 00:11:38.120 for about a month for various reasons, so my 00:11:38.120 --> 00:11:40.220 husband FaceTimed her this afternoon. She didn't 00:11:40.220 --> 00:11:42.279 know I was around and could hear everything. 00:11:42.460 --> 00:11:45.659 It's the typical, how's my baby boy? My baby 00:11:45.659 --> 00:11:48.320 is so smart. He looks exactly like you did when 00:11:48.320 --> 00:11:51.700 you were his age, DH. And she says, look at mama 00:11:51.700 --> 00:11:54.500 Z. I stopped what I was doing and started listening 00:11:54.500 --> 00:11:56.779 to make sure I heard her right. Sure enough, 00:11:56.919 --> 00:12:00.000 she doubles down. Baby boy, look at Mama Z. My 00:12:00.000 --> 00:12:02.399 husband corrected her and told her she's not 00:12:02.399 --> 00:12:06.019 mama. Thank heavens. Her excuse? She doesn't 00:12:06.019 --> 00:12:09.159 think grandma suits her. She's not just a grandma. 00:12:09.820 --> 00:12:13.039 Fine by me. We had already settled on ZZ being 00:12:13.039 --> 00:12:16.539 her grandparent name for this very reason. ZZ. 00:12:17.079 --> 00:12:19.659 Wow, anyone ZZ out there? Is there any ZZs? I've 00:12:19.659 --> 00:12:21.639 never heard that before. As my husband continued 00:12:21.639 --> 00:12:23.700 their conversation, he panned the camera over 00:12:23.700 --> 00:12:25.779 to me and she goes, oh hi, I didn't realize you 00:12:25.779 --> 00:12:28.120 were home. In the most sheepest way possible. 00:12:28.600 --> 00:12:30.919 I was so mad I didn't have anything really to 00:12:30.919 --> 00:12:33.720 say. I completely froze up from anger, unfortunately. 00:12:33.879 --> 00:12:36.120 I just know she wouldn't have given this mama 00:12:36.120 --> 00:12:39.799 Z a test if she knew I was in the room. Mama, 00:12:40.419 --> 00:12:44.080 I still cannot believe the nerve of this woman. 00:12:46.399 --> 00:12:48.500 Okay, let's think about this. Okay, guys, I got 00:12:48.500 --> 00:12:50.679 a crazy story for you, though. This is one of 00:12:50.679 --> 00:12:54.120 my worst stories I have ever done in my life, 00:12:54.179 --> 00:12:56.480 okay? So you're about to hear it. So I nannied 00:12:56.480 --> 00:12:58.899 this family, absolutely loved them, still have 00:12:58.899 --> 00:13:01.019 a relationship with them, love, love, love the 00:13:01.019 --> 00:13:03.840 family. My sister, I'm really, really close to 00:13:03.840 --> 00:13:06.000 my sister, and I would always hang out with her 00:13:06.000 --> 00:13:08.919 and my niece and nephew. And my sister always 00:13:08.919 --> 00:13:12.500 would say, oh, come to mama, come to mama, come 00:13:12.500 --> 00:13:15.379 to mama. Like, that was my sister saying whenever, 00:13:15.379 --> 00:13:18.470 like, her Bodie my nephew would like start crying 00:13:18.470 --> 00:13:21.110 or whatever and he's a baby. So anyways, I'm 00:13:21.110 --> 00:13:23.710 always hearing that Well, it was like a Friday 00:13:23.710 --> 00:13:26.049 So, you know, I'm about to go home and we're 00:13:26.049 --> 00:13:28.269 outside and the family comes outside and the 00:13:28.269 --> 00:13:30.929 mom comes outside Love her and I'm so thankful. 00:13:31.250 --> 00:13:34.870 She hopefully never judged me on this but we're 00:13:34.870 --> 00:13:37.029 outside and one of the little boys he was like 00:13:37.029 --> 00:13:39.990 five at the time he fell onto like the rock by 00:13:39.990 --> 00:13:43.009 the pool and he started crying and I literally 00:13:43.009 --> 00:13:47.740 said oh come to mama and i right in front of 00:13:47.740 --> 00:13:52.519 the mom you guys i and i just went i went pale 00:13:52.519 --> 00:13:55.360 or i went bright red i don't know which one but 00:13:55.360 --> 00:13:57.600 it was one of them and the mom just like looked 00:13:57.600 --> 00:14:00.340 at me and i just like froze didn't look back 00:14:00.340 --> 00:14:03.000 i just like stared into the abyss like oh my 00:14:03.000 --> 00:14:06.200 hell he a comes over to me and i like hug him 00:14:06.200 --> 00:14:10.000 and i'm like here go to your mom and i hand him 00:14:10.000 --> 00:14:14.169 over to the mom And I was literally like, I wish 00:14:14.169 --> 00:14:15.850 in that moment I would have been like, I don't 00:14:15.850 --> 00:14:18.070 know why I just said that. I swear I have never 00:14:18.070 --> 00:14:20.009 told him to come to mama and pretended to be 00:14:20.009 --> 00:14:22.549 his mom before. Like I wish I would have said 00:14:22.549 --> 00:14:25.649 something. I said nothing. I can't. And then 00:14:25.649 --> 00:14:28.070 I go, okay, I'm going to head out. And I left. 00:14:28.169 --> 00:14:31.570 You just stood on business. I said, come to mama. 00:14:32.029 --> 00:14:36.000 If I had a nanny. They said that the way the 00:14:36.000 --> 00:14:39.240 way I said it too. It was so just natural. It 00:14:39.240 --> 00:14:46.059 was so coming to mama That is oh I thought I 00:14:46.059 --> 00:14:49.200 thought for sure would be like I am NOT your 00:14:49.200 --> 00:14:52.779 mom But I will help you in this moment, and you're 00:14:52.779 --> 00:14:57.360 just like act go to your rid the real one I'm 00:14:57.360 --> 00:15:01.970 the paid one you go to the one that pays me I 00:15:01.970 --> 00:15:05.029 was sick. Just talking about it now makes me 00:15:05.029 --> 00:15:07.210 so sick because I'm just like, I cannot believe 00:15:07.210 --> 00:15:10.309 I said that. So when I hear this, I'm just dying 00:15:10.309 --> 00:15:12.389 because it just reminds me of that crazy story 00:15:12.389 --> 00:15:15.210 that I had one time. Only once. Don't worry. 00:15:15.429 --> 00:15:18.190 I only did it once. So who do you think is the 00:15:18.190 --> 00:15:19.929 a -hole? The mother -in -law? Really, if you 00:15:19.929 --> 00:15:21.830 had to pick a side, mother -in -law or the girl? 00:15:22.509 --> 00:15:27.490 The girl. Whoa, I think mother -in -law. It's 00:15:27.490 --> 00:15:29.950 Mama Z. The only reason the mother -in -law would 00:15:29.950 --> 00:15:31.610 be the a -hole in this story is because she was 00:15:31.610 --> 00:15:34.809 like, I didn't know you were hung. I just think 00:15:34.809 --> 00:15:36.610 grandmas need to figure out their name. You don't 00:15:36.610 --> 00:15:38.909 have to go by grandma. Like that makes you feel 00:15:38.909 --> 00:15:44.450 too old, but you're not mama. Go by Gigi, Mimi, 00:15:45.009 --> 00:15:50.289 Mima, Nanny. Manu's flash, you are old. You're 00:15:50.289 --> 00:15:52.409 all grandmas in my eyes. Yeah, you know what? 00:15:52.610 --> 00:15:57.710 Grow up. All of you. I'm just kidding. You can 00:15:57.710 --> 00:16:01.450 be called whatever you want. Just not mom. Grandma 00:16:01.450 --> 00:16:04.629 vibes don't fit me. Well, you're a grandma now. 00:16:06.350 --> 00:16:10.190 You're a grandma. The title of this one is, My 00:16:10.190 --> 00:16:12.350 mother -in -law surprised us by painting our 00:16:12.350 --> 00:16:15.289 kitchen while house sitting. Now she's furious. 00:16:15.549 --> 00:16:17.970 We hate it. My husband and I just celebrated 00:16:17.970 --> 00:16:20.289 our 10 year anniversary. We went on a getaway 00:16:20.289 --> 00:16:22.460 and left our dog with my mother -in -law. We 00:16:22.460 --> 00:16:24.340 honestly thought the worst thing we'd come home 00:16:24.340 --> 00:16:27.600 to was a messy sink. Instead, she repainted our 00:16:27.600 --> 00:16:31.299 entire kitchen. Our white cabinets, now bright 00:16:31.299 --> 00:16:35.159 royal blue. The backsplash, yellow. And she even 00:16:35.159 --> 00:16:38.279 hung up a random painting of sunflowers above 00:16:38.279 --> 00:16:40.659 the stove. She was waiting for us when we walked 00:16:40.659 --> 00:16:43.409 in beaming. I just love these colors. Doesn't 00:16:43.409 --> 00:16:46.250 it brighten everything up so much? Why is so 00:16:46.250 --> 00:16:48.549 boring? This gives your home personality. Look, 00:16:48.570 --> 00:16:50.850 I even found the painting that ties it all together. 00:16:51.110 --> 00:16:53.230 My husband and I just stood there. He finally 00:16:53.230 --> 00:16:57.330 managed. Wow, that's really different. I added, 00:16:57.409 --> 00:17:00.210 we definitely weren't expecting this. She laughed 00:17:00.210 --> 00:17:02.210 and said, well, that's the fun of a surprise. 00:17:02.690 --> 00:17:05.369 You'll love it once you get used to it. We didn't. 00:17:05.470 --> 00:17:07.769 A week later, we sat down with her and said, 00:17:08.190 --> 00:17:09.869 we know you meant well, but we actually don't 00:17:09.869 --> 00:17:11.910 like the colors. This isn't our style. And now 00:17:11.910 --> 00:17:14.170 we're stuck paying to change it back. Her face 00:17:14.170 --> 00:17:16.910 changed instantly. Are you serious? I spent days 00:17:16.910 --> 00:17:18.869 on that kitchen. Do you know how much I saved 00:17:18.869 --> 00:17:21.170 you? You should be thanking me. My husband tried 00:17:21.170 --> 00:17:23.930 to keep calm. Mom, we didn't want to change the 00:17:23.930 --> 00:17:26.509 kitchen. We liked it the way it was. She shot 00:17:26.509 --> 00:17:29.450 back. No, you liked it. She didn't. Don't you 00:17:29.450 --> 00:17:31.930 see how much better it looks now? You're just 00:17:31.930 --> 00:17:35.269 being ungrateful. Then she stormed out. Now she's 00:17:35.269 --> 00:17:37.430 telling family that we insulted her gift and 00:17:37.430 --> 00:17:39.789 that I only hate it because it was her idea. 00:17:40.609 --> 00:17:44.349 Oh my gosh. So here we are out of money to fix 00:17:44.349 --> 00:17:46.309 a kitchen we loved with a mother -in -law who 00:17:46.309 --> 00:17:49.089 won't speak to us until we apologize for not 00:17:49.089 --> 00:17:52.309 liking her surprise. Could you imagine you're 00:17:52.309 --> 00:17:55.849 on your 10th year anniversary, which cheers to 00:17:55.849 --> 00:17:58.829 them because marriage is not super easy, guys. 00:17:59.079 --> 00:18:02.079 If you didn't know already, they went on an anniversary 00:18:02.079 --> 00:18:04.880 and come home. I'm like looking at my beautiful 00:18:04.880 --> 00:18:08.420 white cabinet kitchen and walking in and it being 00:18:08.420 --> 00:18:13.380 bright yellow backsplash and blue cabinets with 00:18:13.380 --> 00:18:16.619 a sunflower painting. When I think of backsplash, 00:18:16.759 --> 00:18:18.819 though, like I don't think I'm big. Like I'm 00:18:18.819 --> 00:18:21.480 imagining those royal blue cabinets. I could 00:18:21.480 --> 00:18:24.630 probably get down with royal blue cabinets. Baby, 00:18:24.990 --> 00:18:28.450 baby, baby, you're literally... His style is 00:18:28.450 --> 00:18:30.789 so disgusting, you guys. Don't even listen to 00:18:30.789 --> 00:18:34.589 him. What style? Like, I've not styled one thing. 00:18:35.049 --> 00:18:38.309 You picked these chairs. That's true. You have 00:18:38.309 --> 00:18:40.650 a comment if you like these chairs. If you don't, 00:18:40.710 --> 00:18:42.890 if you think we should have gotten other ones, 00:18:43.210 --> 00:18:45.769 then let us know. No. Do you think the mother 00:18:45.769 --> 00:18:48.269 -in -law's that a -hole? Yeah. I mean, this one, 00:18:48.630 --> 00:18:50.650 I always am a little bit, like, want to give 00:18:50.650 --> 00:18:53.809 people the benefit of the doubt on gifts. I feel 00:18:53.809 --> 00:18:57.509 bad because, like, did she sub it out? They didn't 00:18:57.509 --> 00:18:59.910 say if she had somebody paint it or if she physically 00:18:59.910 --> 00:19:02.890 did the work. I feel like, realistically, she 00:19:02.890 --> 00:19:05.089 probably subbed it out because there's no way 00:19:05.089 --> 00:19:07.619 an old grandma is going to be able to do... that 00:19:07.619 --> 00:19:09.940 in a few days. She doesn't ought to do a freakin' 00:19:10.259 --> 00:19:12.660 black splash. If I did pick the painting up at 00:19:12.660 --> 00:19:15.359 Goodwill and she might have hung that, I don't 00:19:15.359 --> 00:19:18.319 know. What if she got it in a Hobby Lobby? What 00:19:18.319 --> 00:19:21.920 if she got it at an art convention? Oh. A farmer's 00:19:21.920 --> 00:19:24.700 market, like it's real art. I don't know. If 00:19:24.700 --> 00:19:27.200 you give a GIF that's out there though, you're 00:19:27.200 --> 00:19:30.019 the asshole. You need to know, that was like 00:19:30.019 --> 00:19:32.079 literally her just doing what she wanted thinking 00:19:32.079 --> 00:19:35.240 it was like better than what they had. Yeah. 00:19:35.559 --> 00:19:39.009 Alright. get a new mother -in -law yeah my story 00:19:39.009 --> 00:19:41.849 here we go my mother -in -law has finally fully 00:19:41.849 --> 00:19:44.289 shown her true colors this is off mother -in 00:19:44.289 --> 00:19:46.829 -laws from home for some background i -32f have 00:19:46.829 --> 00:19:49.930 been with my husband 32m for nearly 16 years 00:19:49.930 --> 00:19:51.769 we're high school seahorses and have an incredible 00:19:51.769 --> 00:19:54.200 relationship together We only just married this 00:19:54.200 --> 00:19:56.920 past year, after nine years of being engaged. 00:19:57.099 --> 00:19:59.039 This doesn't have anything to do with our relationship. 00:19:59.519 --> 00:20:01.339 I just wanted to have a dream wedding and so 00:20:01.339 --> 00:20:03.299 we waited until we were in a place financially 00:20:03.299 --> 00:20:05.359 that we could afford to have everything we wanted. 00:20:05.559 --> 00:20:07.779 Four years ago we moved in with my husband's 00:20:07.779 --> 00:20:10.559 parents at their insistence. His mother claimed 00:20:10.559 --> 00:20:12.740 she wanted to help us save money, but even back 00:20:12.740 --> 00:20:15.500 then I was incredibly wary. She likes to control 00:20:15.500 --> 00:20:17.680 situations, and I had worried she'd try to do 00:20:17.680 --> 00:20:19.779 the same with us. But in the end, our rent was 00:20:19.779 --> 00:20:21.779 going up, and I knew we'd be able to save money. 00:20:22.000 --> 00:20:24.059 Not to mention they have a five -bedroom house 00:20:24.059 --> 00:20:26.119 with a separate pool room, so I figured we'd 00:20:26.119 --> 00:20:28.059 have plenty of space to not step on anyone's 00:20:28.059 --> 00:20:30.900 toes. At first, things were fine. Well, as fine 00:20:30.900 --> 00:20:32.960 as they could be. My husband never had a good 00:20:32.960 --> 00:20:35.779 relationship with his father, as he was an incredibly 00:20:35.779 --> 00:20:38.059 unkind man and alcoholic. My mother -in -law 00:20:38.059 --> 00:20:40.220 has also always been passive aggressive towards 00:20:40.220 --> 00:20:42.259 me, and I'm sure talks about me behind my back. 00:20:42.319 --> 00:20:44.240 I'm not special though, because she does this 00:20:44.240 --> 00:20:46.200 with most people who she doesn't consider her 00:20:46.200 --> 00:20:48.299 family. Now getting into the problem that just 00:20:48.299 --> 00:20:50.660 happened. Last month my sister -in -law graduated 00:20:50.660 --> 00:20:53.099 from college. Her college is in a city six hours 00:20:53.099 --> 00:20:55.039 away from us, but my husband and I still took 00:20:55.039 --> 00:20:56.660 the time to travel down with the rest of the 00:20:56.660 --> 00:20:58.400 family over the weekend to watch her graduate 00:20:58.400 --> 00:21:00.519 and take her to a special dinner. That was all 00:21:00.519 --> 00:21:02.539 fine, but the very next weekend my mother -in 00:21:02.539 --> 00:21:04.440 -law planned to throw a huge expensive party 00:21:04.440 --> 00:21:06.299 at the house to celebrate my sister -in -law 00:21:06.299 --> 00:21:08.579 again. My husband and I had no problem with that 00:21:08.579 --> 00:21:10.740 either, but we would only be able to attend the 00:21:10.740 --> 00:21:13.109 first half of the party. You see, my aunt has 00:21:13.109 --> 00:21:15.589 brain cancer and it's terminal. My family was 00:21:15.589 --> 00:21:18.269 throwing an F cancer party the same night as 00:21:18.269 --> 00:21:20.329 the graduation party, but we figured it would 00:21:20.329 --> 00:21:22.630 be fine. The graduation party started at three 00:21:22.630 --> 00:21:24.690 while my aunt's party wouldn't start until seven. 00:21:25.029 --> 00:21:27.069 So we would just stay for the first few hours 00:21:27.069 --> 00:21:29.029 and then go to the other party to support my 00:21:29.029 --> 00:21:31.230 aunt. She didn't even want to have a large party 00:21:31.230 --> 00:21:33.190 and had told my mother -in -law as much, but 00:21:33.190 --> 00:21:35.049 had been ignored. My mother -in -law claimed 00:21:35.049 --> 00:21:37.029 that this party was for her since she's the one 00:21:37.029 --> 00:21:38.990 who had helped put my sister -in -law through 00:21:38.990 --> 00:21:41.160 college. Anyways, the night of the party we stayed 00:21:41.160 --> 00:21:42.920 and even helped set up for the party while my 00:21:42.920 --> 00:21:45.039 husband made some of the food. Then at seven, 00:21:45.099 --> 00:21:46.920 while everyone else was drinking and listening 00:21:46.920 --> 00:21:49.240 to the band my mother -in -law had hired, we 00:21:49.240 --> 00:21:51.680 left for my aunt's party. There were around 120 00:21:51.680 --> 00:21:53.579 people in attendance, so we knew we wouldn't 00:21:53.579 --> 00:21:55.599 be missed. This was proven true when the next 00:21:55.599 --> 00:21:57.339 night my mother -in -law mentioned that she hadn't 00:21:57.339 --> 00:21:59.759 seen us later in the night and had no idea we'd 00:21:59.759 --> 00:22:01.980 left. My husband told her the situation and that 00:22:01.980 --> 00:22:04.099 we had gone to my family's to support my aunt 00:22:04.099 --> 00:22:06.200 because she had terminal brain cancer. This is 00:22:06.200 --> 00:22:08.259 where everything fell apart and nothing will 00:22:08.259 --> 00:22:11.299 ever be the same. to say that she didn't care 00:22:11.299 --> 00:22:13.220 about my aunt, that she had already lived her 00:22:13.220 --> 00:22:14.599 life, and we should have stayed at the party 00:22:14.599 --> 00:22:16.720 because my sister -in -law is more important. 00:22:16.859 --> 00:22:19.400 I was honestly speechless. There were others 00:22:19.400 --> 00:22:21.400 of my husband's family members around, but they 00:22:21.400 --> 00:22:23.400 weren't a part of the conversation, so I don't 00:22:23.400 --> 00:22:26.019 believe any of them heard her. My husband proceeded 00:22:26.019 --> 00:22:28.579 to yell at his mother until she just walked away. 00:22:28.640 --> 00:22:31.279 I have been obviously furious with her ever since 00:22:31.279 --> 00:22:33.400 and have been ignoring her. My husband said that 00:22:33.400 --> 00:22:35.319 his mom was drunk when she said that and surely 00:22:35.319 --> 00:22:37.380 didn't mean it. I wanted to believe that too 00:22:37.380 --> 00:22:39.640 since it was such an evil thing to say. and I 00:22:39.640 --> 00:22:42.240 couldn't imagine any sane person actually believing 00:22:42.240 --> 00:22:44.240 it. While she's never been the most pleasant, 00:22:44.299 --> 00:22:46.380 this was so far out of the field I could hardly 00:22:46.380 --> 00:22:48.319 believe it. Last night while I was in my room, 00:22:48.480 --> 00:22:50.119 apparently my mother -in -law approached my husband 00:22:50.119 --> 00:22:52.319 and told him that I've been mean to her lately. 00:22:52.500 --> 00:22:55.099 I haven't been mean to her. I just haven't gone 00:22:55.099 --> 00:22:57.599 out of my way to be nice. He then decided to 00:22:57.599 --> 00:22:59.599 confront her and told her she needed to apologize 00:22:59.599 --> 00:23:01.890 for what she had said when she was drunk. He 00:23:01.890 --> 00:23:04.650 thought she'd be ashamed when reminded of the 00:23:04.650 --> 00:23:06.910 horrible things she said. To his horror, she 00:23:06.910 --> 00:23:09.630 doubled down. Even while sober, she claimed it 00:23:09.630 --> 00:23:11.710 was her right to have her beliefs, and her beliefs 00:23:11.710 --> 00:23:13.569 are that it doesn't matter that my aunt is dying 00:23:13.569 --> 00:23:16.099 from cancer and she doesn't care. This led into 00:23:16.099 --> 00:23:17.859 a fight between her and my husband, and he finally 00:23:17.859 --> 00:23:20.680 realized she's an irredeemable monster. He came 00:23:20.680 --> 00:23:22.160 to our room and told me we were going to begin 00:23:22.160 --> 00:23:24.500 the process of moving out and back into our town 00:23:24.500 --> 00:23:26.920 home, back into our own place. I'm more than 00:23:26.920 --> 00:23:28.619 fine with this. And before anyone tries to say 00:23:28.619 --> 00:23:30.339 that we are being ungrateful because she has 00:23:30.339 --> 00:23:32.660 supported us, no, it's actually the opposite. 00:23:33.019 --> 00:23:34.519 For the last two and a half years, my husband 00:23:34.519 --> 00:23:37.160 and I have been contributing around $1 ,500 per 00:23:37.160 --> 00:23:39.420 month towards household bills, including buying 00:23:39.420 --> 00:23:41.680 all the groceries and making dinner for her every 00:23:41.680 --> 00:23:44.440 night. In my city, we can find a nice two -bedroom 00:23:44.440 --> 00:23:46.680 apartment for $1 ,300, so we haven't actually 00:23:46.680 --> 00:23:48.700 been saving money at all. And some of you might 00:23:48.700 --> 00:23:50.700 ask, but why did you live with her so long? Well, 00:23:50.700 --> 00:23:52.579 we had no intention of staying for four years, 00:23:52.599 --> 00:23:54.759 but then two and a half years ago, my father 00:23:54.759 --> 00:23:57.359 -in -law died from cancer. That's right. She, 00:23:57.519 --> 00:23:59.099 of all people, should know the devastation of 00:23:59.099 --> 00:24:00.920 cancer and have sympathy, but she's a selfish 00:24:00.920 --> 00:24:03.259 narcissist, so nothing that doesn't directly 00:24:03.259 --> 00:24:05.500 affect her matters. So my husband and I stayed 00:24:05.500 --> 00:24:07.059 and helped pay the bills and made sure she was 00:24:07.059 --> 00:24:09.279 fed and not alone, and this is what we get. She 00:24:09.279 --> 00:24:11.140 even had the nerve to tell my husband that he's 00:24:11.140 --> 00:24:13.170 been using her despite the fact you pay half 00:24:13.170 --> 00:24:15.450 the bills. On the bright side, my husband has 00:24:15.450 --> 00:24:17.150 finally admitted that there is no coming back 00:24:17.150 --> 00:24:18.970 from this with his mother and once we move out 00:24:18.970 --> 00:24:21.470 we will be going to no contact. I'll update if 00:24:21.470 --> 00:24:23.329 anything else happens but at this point we're 00:24:23.329 --> 00:24:41.349 just ready to leave and never look back. That 00:24:41.349 --> 00:24:44.829 is just bananas. Somebody would say that. It's 00:24:44.829 --> 00:24:48.329 always going to be emotionally volatile and drawing 00:24:48.329 --> 00:24:51.269 such staunch lines in the sand. You have to protect 00:24:51.269 --> 00:24:53.950 your peace. That is important for a relationship. 00:24:54.089 --> 00:24:56.390 The relationship has to come first. This whole 00:24:56.390 --> 00:24:59.250 thing, it sounds like that's an absolutely asinine 00:24:59.250 --> 00:25:01.990 thing to say. It's so over the top, but it's 00:25:01.990 --> 00:25:05.829 like... Yeah. How do you, I don't think she's 00:25:05.829 --> 00:25:07.430 in her right mind. She couldn't be in her right 00:25:07.430 --> 00:25:09.950 mind. They said she was plastered. No, but she 00:25:09.950 --> 00:25:12.349 did it again when she was completely sober and 00:25:12.349 --> 00:25:14.589 she doubled down and they said even worse things 00:25:14.589 --> 00:25:17.890 at that point. So she's a terrible person, but. 00:25:17.990 --> 00:25:19.750 I think she's just digging her heels in. I think 00:25:19.750 --> 00:25:22.369 she's being a stubborn old bat. I don't think 00:25:22.369 --> 00:25:25.450 she's that old. She gives me like hot rich mom 00:25:25.450 --> 00:25:29.140 vibe. Really? Mm -hmm. Well, they've been together 00:25:29.140 --> 00:25:32.440 for 16 years, so she's not young. Yeah, she's 00:25:32.440 --> 00:25:37.519 probably like 60s. That's not that old. But 60s, 00:25:37.519 --> 00:25:40.900 single, husband died of cancer. I have one earring 00:25:40.900 --> 00:25:43.500 in my ear right now. Everyone, please notice 00:25:43.500 --> 00:25:46.180 that. It's fine. You can never undo that. I know. 00:25:46.220 --> 00:25:48.160 It's gonna be on the internet forever. That's 00:25:48.160 --> 00:25:49.920 so embarrassing. I forgot to put the other one 00:25:49.920 --> 00:25:52.980 in. I guess I really don't know. I know that... 00:25:52.990 --> 00:25:57.250 We have gone to therapy specifically around setting 00:25:57.250 --> 00:26:00.970 family boundaries. There's just nothing easy 00:26:00.970 --> 00:26:04.549 about it. Nothing easy about it. And what the 00:26:04.549 --> 00:26:07.829 mom did and what she said is effed. Woo, that 00:26:07.829 --> 00:26:10.289 stirred up lots of crazy drama, guys. Mother 00:26:10.289 --> 00:26:15.740 in law from hell. 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