Welcome back to Internet Frenzy. What's happening,
gang? That scared me. I wasn't expecting you
to start. Hey, I guess I should remind you that
you're on a podcast. That was awesome. I was
just zoned out. And then all of a sudden, welcome
back. I'm back. Thank you for the welcome. You
know what? Happy Late Father's Day, dads. Blessings.
We love you. We are you. This episode was supposed
to air today. Yeah. But it was Father's Day.
True. Was I reporting a podcast on Father's Day?
No. I was not. I could have been co -worked,
but we had other stuff going on. Did I film a
podcast episode on Mother's Day, though? It was
so long ago. Oh. I don't remember. The answer
is yes. I did. Mm. Yeah, I had to just add that
in there. But that's OK, because you want to
know something really cool? Tell me. We got the
best package in the mail. It was at our front
door. So not the mail. Where packages arrive?
Yes, correct. Open the door. The most beautiful
box that had tape on it. That's it. Skinny Dip.
Maybe you're going to put the people to sleep
right now. No, no, no, no. Just hear me out.
Hear me out. You guys, what was in this box changed
the game. Skinny Dip, everything Skinny Dip touches
is so... Good. No, you're right. So the bag is
not being shown at this very moment on our YouTube
podcast listeners go to our YouTube if you want
to Visually see these bags guys. We tried. What
was it called again? It was the cinnamon Cashew.
Oh my gosh They could did it could have been
called crack. Yeah Yes, it probably was called
that I'm not joking like one taste of this stuff.
I was done It's done. That's why it's not sitting
right here because we deleted it like Moments
after we opened it was so dangerous. It's so
good. So good skinny dip you guys know what you're
doing Here's the slogan right snack with no strings
attached. Oh, come on now They're so good. Thanks
for the love skinny dip. Yeah, skinny dip shot
out. We're gonna be stuck on things this episode
So in conjunction with Father's Day, this would
have been filmed on Father's Day, it wasn't.
But to celebrate the dads, we have to do what
we did for the moms. We can't just talk about
how noble and how great all the dads are because
one, that's not real life. They're pieces of
shit. And two, that's not that fun to talk about.
Like on Father's Day, we got to share all of
our stuff. We got to be happy about dads. And
that's where that ended. So this week's episode
is called the dadliest catch. Hey, I love that.
And here's just a quick rundown of the stories
before we recap last week's episode. So the first
story that you're going to hear this week is
my dad is marrying my ex's mom. Just wait. Next
one is in my VA hole for telling my BF that my
dad is dead when he's actually alive. Spoiler
alert that might be recycled. You might have
heard that one somewhere before. This is a story
We had to use it again for this episode because
it fit too well, but we have we've talked about
that story before So it's crazy. We're gonna
jump in next one is my husband refuses to change
diapers What and then last my husband's grandpa
made bad comments about me Oh, so this one is
not about husband being bad dad not about husband's
dad. It's husband's grandpa bad things So that's
what we're in for this week. Now, quick recap
of last week. It was the blood half -bloods and
the in -law apocalypse. We had putting my brother's
girlfriend in her place, the story about OP,
owning half the house, telling the girlfriend,
uh -uh, sister, this is my house. And then we
have the son that told his dad not to marry the
girlfriend. Real or fake? That was real. Would
I be the a -hole for ditching my disabled dad?
That was a sad one. I made us both cry. He didn't
end up ditching his disabled dad. The update
comes after he passed away. It was a real, real
story. And the last one happened to be the fake.
Telling my twin sister that her boyfriend hit
on me. That was the fake. So if you had that
one pegged, you guys are getting good. If you
didn't, keep practicing. Noelle had it pegged.
She texted me and told me. I think the last one's
the fake. Noelle, you're getting good. Keep listening.
You're not going to know this one. All right,
well let's get into the episode. The dadliest
catch. If you hear us chewing, it's because Skinny
Dip is delicious and we're not gonna be able
to stop eating these almonds. So I'm sorry in
advance. I'm gonna at least chew with my mouth
closed. We'll see if I can get her to do the
same. I will, I promise. The first story is gonna
knock your damn socks off. So buckle up people.
This one comes from Best of Redditor Updates,
my favorite sub on Earth. The title is, my dad
is marrying my ex's mom and now he's mad I'm
not going to the wedding. Okay. Are you ready?
Yeah, I'm ready. Let's see about it. Don't really
know how to start this, but whatever. I'm 24.
I used to date this girl, Maya, also 24 while
in college like three years ago. We broke up
a couple years ago. It wasn't some big blow up
or anything. Just kind of slowly stopped working
and haven't really talked since. So a while ago,
my dad, he's 52, told me he was seeing someone.
I didn't think much of it. Cool. Good for him.
We're not super close, but we talk here and there.
Then he drops that he's been dating Maya's mom.
Yeah, I literally thought he was joking at first.
I kind of just stared at him, but no, he was
serious. They met at some charity pickleball
thing. Don't ask, IDK. and have apparently been
seeing each other for a few months at that point.
Never mentioned it until then. I didn't even
know how to respond. Like, it's not illegal or
anything, but... Bro. Anyway, now they're engaged.
Wedding is coming up and somehow I'm expected
to be totally fine with it. Even ask me if I
wanted to walk her, Maya, down the aisle. Like,
why would I do that? I told him I'm not really
comfortable with any of it and I wasn't gonna
be at the wedding. He got pissed, like wouldn't
talk to me for a bit. Then he sent me this long
text about how I'm being selfish and quote, this
isn't about you. But like you're marrying the
mom of the person I was in a serious relationship
with for years. That's weird, right? I don't
think I'm crazy for needing some space from that.
Now some people in my family think I'm overreacting.
Others are like, WTF is going on over there.
I don't know, just needed to get that out. This
whole thing feels unreal. Maya and the dad have
been dating. We don't know how long correct Maya's
mom. My dad. Thank goodness. It's the mom. Yes,
and Was OP and his girlfriend did they end on
good terms or bad terms? What it said was? It
wasn't some big blow -up or anything just kind
of slowly stopped working and we haven't really
talked since right? Okay. Sorry. Sorry Wow, and
now he's finding out that they're dating all
of a sudden And is dad like sympathetic at all
towards it or no? It doesn't sound like it based
on what OP says. There's nothing that indicates
that dad is sympathetic about it. But OP doesn't
take well to it. Right. Dad says you're being
selfish. Like says you're like this isn't about
you at this point. So put yourself in dad's shoes.
OK. You're single. You meet somebody or even
even your Maya's. You're the mom. It doesn't
matter the gender in this case. Like you're.
your child has a history with someone and you're
not like if you have chemistry with the person
you're not going to date that person they've
been broken up for two years your kids are like
early 20s or whatever oh that's hard to meet
that person it's not like you weren't like connected
in family they weren't married as a parent i'm
choosing my kid over a relationship yeah i don't
think i could do what the dad did the dad's doing
it dirty like really the son's obviously not
comfortable with it like Don't think I could
do that to my kid if she dated someone for three
years it ended But then I'm dating the dad of
my daughter's ex -boyfriend That sucks. You want
to you want to know something what this is a
real thing. This is a real story. I Know a couple
from high school. They were like a year or two
older than me. No, they were dating Continued
to date no The guy went on his mission. No His
dad and her mom got married while he was on his
mission He came home. No, and he married a stepsister
You said it dead dead ass serious That's a true
real story that that not even a story. That's
that is people that I know are they still all
together I Have no idea cuz I it's been a very
long time. Oh No I didn't choose it for them.
Stop! It wasn't me. Okay, good for them. This
is the thing. I don't know. If you can't relate
to the parents, then you can't relate to the
parents. You're just thinking about it from the
kid's perspective. But these parents are lonely
adults in their 50s. They find somebody that
they really vibe with and it's a foregone relationship
in this post. It's not something that is like...
They're not actively dating. They ended. They're
not in each other's lives anymore. Yeah. But
it's like you're bringing that back. Like I'm
picturing like, I'm picturing like my ex and
my mom dating my ex's dad. Like it's like bringing
your good and be reconnected at that point again.
And I would hate that. Like I would not like
that. Yeah. It doesn't work for your life. It
doesn't because your parents are still married.
They've been married for 36 years and you can't
even fathom your mom dating anybody anyway. But
if she was actually single and lonely and sad,
you might just feel different because it's about
the fact that they found someone. I -26 lost
my mother to cancer when I was eight and I've
always had an absent father. I only found out
who he was when I was 13 and even then he did
not want custody of me and forcing me to stay
in the foster system until I was 18. Over my
whole life I have had about five conversations
with him give or take. He is like a stranger
to me. He appears once in a blue moon to ask
for money or something along those lines. It
doesn't really bother me anymore. I've just learned
to accept it now but I don't like talking about
it so to avoid that conversation with people
I usually just say both my parents are dead.
This leads me to a year and a half ago when I
had just started dating my boyfriend 25m and
like usual I had just told him my parents were
dead. but the other day my dad showed up at my
door. I still don't know how he knows where I
live and asked for a hundred dollars except my
boyfriend was there and he obviously found out
my dad was not dead. This led to a long conversation
with him that night where I explained the whole
situation. He said this was a breach of trust
between us since I lied about my dad and that
he needed some space to rethink our relationship
but he doesn't think he will leave me. I felt
so shitty and that I should have told him earlier
but I'm going to be honest I just didn't think.
So, am I the a -hole? That, it just sucks. Yeah.
Like, she doesn't have a dad. This dude is absent,
he's a loser, he lets her stay in foster care,
and he shows up and asks for money. I don't blame
her for saying that the dude was dead and gone.
Yeah, no. Like that is, that's pain, that's trauma,
and to think that she has to deal with this being
put in a frickin' blender, she's a human pretzel,
like, oh, he thinks that my dad's dead and now
he's here asking for money, it's like, She feels
like shit because of this. She feels like shit
because of this. And none of it's her fault.
Yeah. I don't think, I mean, yeah, she, under
perfect circumstances, she could have been like,
yeah, my dad is actually alive somewhere. Don't
know what he's doing. He let me stay in foster
care. I just think when you first meet somebody,
you don't always want to go and be like, yeah,
I'm an incredibly traumatized person for X, Y,
and Z reason. Like. That's not that's not how
you do it. So it would be much easier even though
saying both my parents are dead like that's Pretty
striking anyway. Yeah. Well, there is an update
Yes, it says my boyfriend texts me five minutes
ago asking to talk So we are going to have a
full in -depth conversation a month after work
and I'll update again then smiley face So this
is update two and it's the last update before
I get to the update. I would like to clear things
up I have only given money to my dad once, when
I was still desperate for his love and acceptance,
but he did not get any money this time. 2. Despite
his confusion, my boyfriend stepped in to defend
me and get my dad to leave, and it was only after
my dad left he asked me about it. Now onto the
update. My boyfriend told me that all of the
sudden information, along with the knowledge
I hadn't told him the truth, was very overwhelming
and he just needed some space to not say the
wrong thing. He also said that he got why I lied
initially, and he wasn't mad that I lied, more
hurt that I felt like I couldn't tell him about
it. He also mentioned that he couldn't be there
for me if he didn't know what was going on. The
conversation ended in tears and it's the most
vulnerable I have been in front of someone. He
was very understanding and we have decided to
draw a line in the sand and start again, if that
makes sense. I have also looked into therapy
for my childhood trauma and all in all, I'm using
this as an opportunity to better myself and heal
fully. Thank you all for your kind comments.
Go therapy. We love it. No, that's, hey, that's
great. I love how he handled that. Very, very
relatable in the sense that you're like, why
the hell could you not tell me the truth about
your dad? Why did you have to lie? Yeah. But
I feel like the boyfriend was so, so understanding.
He was very like, I don't know, I felt like very
mature about his response. Like I needed space
so I didn't say the wrong thing. Like I feel
like some people like, hey, probably me honestly
at that point would have like lashed out in that
moment. Like, what the frick? Why are you lying?
You're a liar. And instead he was like, okay,
there's obviously something really sad about
this. So I don't want to hurt her. So I'm going
to step away and really think about what the
frick just happened. I don't know if that makes
sense, but it definitely makes sense. And it's
that is that's the best part about it. He very
clearly has high emotional intelligence because
he even the way that she wrote it is he's like,
I just felt overwhelmed and I needed to step
away so I didn't say the wrong thing. Yeah. Like
hats off to that guy because handled it correctly.
It would be overwhelming. That'd be so jarring.
That's such a massive thing to find out about.
Like. Oh, you you lied to me about your. dad
actually being alive and it's actually this crappy
thing, I would have loved to just be there for
you for that. Yeah. It's cool. I love this story.
I love that he handles it like a champ. I love
that it points OP to therapy. Yes. Which is great.
And big loser in the story, dad. Bye, dad. He
is the dadliest catch. Just one of those ones
that you toss right back in when you reel them
in. Yeah. I love it. All right, it's your turn.
Yeah, it is. Should we do this? All right, this
one comes from best of Redditor updates. Am I
overreacting? My husband refuses to change our
baby's diapers. No, you're not overreacting.
My husband 23M and I22F have a beautiful eight
week old daughter. He seems somewhat excited
to be a dad throughout my pregnancy, but I feel
like maybe he wasn't as excited as I thought
slash hoped. We had a miscarriage in November
of 2023 frowny face and he seemed more excited
during that pregnancy than he did this time.
Throughout the pregnancy he would say he's excited
but that he doesn't want to change diapers because
it's gross. I had a talk with him about how I
understand why it can be intimidating because
he is a man and she is a baby girl and she has
different parts than he does and it can feel
intimidating to clean those parts correctly because
he has never changed a diaper before. I reassured
him that I would be here to help and show him
what to do. He even practiced putting a diaper
on a stuffed teddy bear before I had the baby.
I thought he would get over it after I had the
baby, but he did not. He refuses to even be in
the room while I change her. Every time I bring
it up and ask, so when do you want to start changing
her diaper? He just says, we're doing this again.
I do not regret having my baby. I've always wanted
a baby and was definitely ready, but I feel like
he was not ready. Am I overreacting? How can
I talk with him about this? What is wrong with
this man? He's giving me real creep vibes. Hundo
P. What are you concerned about, bud? Yeah, what's
the malfunction? No, actually, like you can wipe
your own butt, you can wipe your own babies.
Tell him. So he's 23, she's 24. So they're relatively
young. That's so young, gava kid. This is part
of the first post. It says, edit to add. I asked
him what was so gross about changing diapers
and he said everything. the different parts and
then kind of trailed off that there was more
to that sentence than what was said. He said
that she is never away from me, so why should
he have to do it? The different parts and then
kind of trailed off like there was more to that
sentence than what was said. He said that she
is never away from me, so why should he have
to do it? He said, why would I take her from
you to change her and then bring her back when
you could just do it? Dude, this guy sucks. And
I said, because you're her dad. What if something
happened to me or what if I had to leave her
with you for an hour or two? And he said at that
point, he would look it up on YouTube and wouldn't
leave her sitting in a soiled diaper. Are you
kidding? No. You're kidding. I wish I was. The
first update comes one day later. So, oh, he
says, so I read all 416 comments on the previous
post. You all collectively agreed that I was
not overreacting, that my husband is a shitty
father and husband, that I married a loser and
that I should leave if he doesn't change his
ways. So after he got home from work last night
the baby needed to be changed so I asked him
to come into the other room and simply observe
while I changed the diaper and he agreed. I said
he could observe a few diaper changes and then
when it was just a plain pee diaper I would let
him know that it's his turn and he once again
argued about not wanting to change diapers. I
told him that he will eventually have to suck
it up because he is a parent now and if he didn't
want to be a parent he shouldn't have agreed
to become one. Yeah. He said he didn't want to
be a dad as bad as I wanted him to be and that
he only got me pregnant because I wanted to be
a mom so bad. Oh this poor girl. I reminded him
that he was the one that got the conversation
about kids started several years ago when he
said he wouldn't mind having a kid. He said yeah
I wouldn't mind and then I cut him off and said
but you only want the fun parts and not any of
the gross non -fun parts. I told him that I'm
on the verge of being burnt out and that I feel
like a married single mom. He said I was bashing
him and I said I wasn't bashing but simply pointing
out the obvious. And then I left the room because
the baby was crying to be fed. He joined me in
the other room a few minutes later to apologize
and restated that he just doesn't want to change
diapers. I asked him what the issue is with changing
diapers and he said he feels like a man shouldn't
change a little girl's diapers. I'm disgusted.
He's afraid people will see him as a pedophile.
I told him nobody will see him as a pedophile
because that is his child. It would be different
if he volunteered to change a little girl that
wasn't his child. I told him that he should start
sooner rather than later because the diapers
won't get any easier, they will only become nastier.
In the end he agreed to observe a few diaper
changes to learn what to do and then start with
pee diapers and maybe eventually change poopy
diapers. He seems to have a serious issue with
the poop part, but I told him he could get some
rubber gloves and some masks and put peppermint
oil on the mask so he won't have to smell it.
One of you recommended the peppermint oil on
the mask. Good idea, by the way. I will be asking
him to join me for every diaper change between
the time he gets home from work and the time
we go to bed. Since I am a stay at home mom and
he works, I will not ask him to get up during
the night unless he just wants to. I know some
slash most of you will probably not like that,
but for now... That is what we will do until
he gets comfortable with daytime diaper changes.
In a few days, on a night where he doesn't have
to work the next day, I will ask him to get up
and join us for the midnight diaper changes.
I hope he will change and become a more active
parent in our baby's life. To all of you who
said I should leave because being a single mom
is better than being a married single mom, I
would rather be a married single mom who doesn't
have to leave my baby with the stranger and go
to work. At least this way, he goes to work and
makes money and I get to stay home with my baby.
I will keep pushing him and working on him to
make him a more active parent. I know we are
too young to be having children, but I felt like
I was way more ready. My oldest sister has special
needs to the highest degree and has to wear diapers,
so all my life I've been changing diapers. I've
helped several family members with their babies
from newborn age to two or three. So I've helped
raise several babies, around six babies in parentheses.
Wow. So I knew being a mom was all I've ever
wanted, and I was just waiting for him to be
ready, and I thought he was. But I guess not.
Thank you for reading this update in the original
post. I appreciate all the advice and help. I
apologize for my shit show of a life, lol. I
like I honestly feel like I want to cry because
the way I'm taking all this is that he is a pile
of oil and to steer clear of her daughter anywhere
near him and do not have him do the diapers at
this point like I could be totally totally went
thousand percent wrong with that and this guy
is truly just so what he is saying You know,
it's true. But I just do not trust that. I think
that is so weird. I don't know. You tell me you
have a daughter. You're a male. You never have
changed a diaper before your kid. So like one,
I never got pushback from you changing a diaper.
Do you think this is weird? Do you think it's
a red flag? I don't. At first, when I first started
reading the story, I thought there's a possibility
that he's a creep or something weird like that.
But the more that we read about him, it's just
that he is just a man child. He's just one of
those dudes that like doesn't want to do any
of the stuff that he doesn't want to do. And
there's a last update. So I'm going to read it
and it gives more context to how he is as a person.
Okay. But it's in the comments that people are
making about him. It is just truly that she is
in a horrible relationship with a loser of a
guy that is not equipped to be a father. Being
a father means you do the things that you don't
want to do. And guess what? Who likes Poopy diapers,
no one. Guys don't like poopy diapers. We never
will. It becomes something that you just deal
with and it's like, whatever, it's not a big
deal. But like, yeah, women's parts are different.
So guess what? Changing a poopy diaper on a newborn
baby, it's intimidating at first, because you're
like, I want to make sure that she's good, that
she's clean. Everything's good. And so I can
only relate to the part of being like, it's something
I have to learn. I have to... figure out how
to do it. But zero reluctance whatsoever because
you're a dad. That is your child. It doesn't
matter what it is. If it's running through a
freaking brick wall, you do that because that's
what dads do. Well, here's the update from one
and a half months later. So it's been about a
month. I've talked it over with him again and
again. We've argued about it a few times, the
most recent argument being a few days ago. He
watched me change a handful of diapers and I
kept reminding him that he needs to do it and
that he can start with pee diapers and eventually
work his way to the gross poopy diapers. I started
small. When I would change her, I would get her
all cleaned up and when the only step left was
putting on a clean diaper, I would bring her
to him with no diaper on and lay her on the bed
and him the clean diaper and say, here, do it.
Of course he complained, but I made him do it.
After a few times of that, I brought it up again.
That was when we had the most recent argument.
We argued for a few minutes. He gave the same
BS excuses about how it's gross and how he doesn't
want to do it and I reminded him that being an
adult and especially a parent means doing things
you don't want to do sometimes. He feels like
just because he goes to work he is exempt from
housework and taking care of our baby. I reminded
him that I can't do 100 % of the baby care and
100 % of the housework. If he expects me to do
100 % of the housework, then we will be a team
and he will help with baby care. If he refuses
to help with the baby, then he needs to help
with the housework. The argument didn't end well
and I gave him the cold shoulder and some attitude
for a few days. I also completely stopped doing
housework. Laundry was piling up. Sink full of
dirty dishes. The house was a wreck. It was bothering
me because I hate for it to look like that, but
I knew I had to stand my ground. For a few days
I did nothing but baby care. Then yesterday he
did a few loads of laundry because we barely
had anything clean left. He finished eating his
dinner before me. I asked him to take her so
I could finish eating. He agreed and took her
out of the room. A few minutes later he pokes
his head out of the room. holding a diaper and
asks, is this the right diaper? There were two
different brands on the changing table and we
had to size up recently because our little lady
is a chonk, so I guess he got confused. I said
yes and immediately followed him into the other
room to observe the diaper change and give direction
if needed. He did a decent job on his own without
any help. I was pleasantly surprised that he
did it without me asking or arguing. I started
to say thank you but decided against it because
it's not like he's doing me a favor. He's doing
what a dad is supposed to do. So instead I gave
him a fist bump and said good job. I asked him
what made him decide to do it after all this
time, and he said that he was tired of me being
on his ass about it all the time. So I guess
I will stay on his ass about it and make sure
he continues on his path of improvement. Thank
you all for all the advice and help you have
given. I'm slightly happy with this recent improvement,
but wish it had come a long way sooner. And then
we've got comments. Let me find the best one.
But he didn't realize he needs to participate.
In her own words, he did it because, quote, he
was tired of me being on his ass about it all
the time. So now her solution is to quote, stay
on his ass about it. So she gets to be a mother
to a man child. I'm glad you're happy, OP, but
I hope you have financial security for when you
eventually get sick of mothering a grown adult.
Literally, I'm like, oh my gosh. That's a great
comment. OP responded to that. She said, thank
you. I was almost ready to give up. I was tired
of having the same argument over and over with
no results. I mentioned staying with my parents
and said I doubted he would even miss us and
he said he would. So maybe the idea of us not
being around made him sad and he decided to be
an active parent. I'm not 100 % sure what happens
in that man's brain, but as long as there's improvement,
I won't question it. Wow. And there's a couple
of others that are really good. I want to know
what he thinks will happen if you leave him for
being unsupportive. Will he just not see his
daughter at all? Or will he have to step his
ass up because no one else is there to do it
for him? Maybe he needs a new perspective and
you need a lunch date with friends. And then
OP responds, We discussed potential divorce and
I asked him how he thinks he will get to see
her when he won't and doesn't know how to change
her, bathe her, feed her, or rock her to sleep.
He said he would do it if we divorced and I asked
why he won't do it now and his dumbass response
was Why would I do it when you can just do it?
I know a lot of comments are saying that this
isn't a win, but it is what it is. This girl,
do better for your child. Holy shiz. What is
sad, to me what's so sad about this is that she's
a stay at home mom, and she's only staying with
this loser because she feels trapped. Because
if she does, this is the broken system that we
live in. Like if she does leave him, then guess
what? She has to go to work. She has to support
herself, and then. Baby has to go to daycare.
That's the only option. It is not the only option.
It's not. She has family. She can move in with
her family. She can go to school online. She
can become a photographer. You choose your hours
and get really, really good at it and you will
1 ,000 % be able to afford living, especially
if you live with your parents. So you think that's
the solution. Just move in with your parents
and become a photographer. At least you're not
with a freaking dirt bag and he's not a dirt
bag. He's just a loser No, he's not I don't there's
nothing about this that says that he's a pedophile.
You can still take it that way But the bottom
line is is that he's just he's just doesn't want
to do the hard things He's like probably one
of those silver spoon kids that just If he doesn't
want to do it, he's not gonna do it. No, I that's
so extreme how he is it's You have friends that
are that type of what you're? describing and
not one of them would say, I will never change
my daughter's diaper. Okay, so not one of them.
I will agree to disagree with you. You're taking
such a firm stance on it. I think the guy's just
pathetic. Okay. I think he's just a loser that
and she's enabling the behavior to the extent
that she's like it is what it is. It's a win.
The fact that The fact that he changed the diaper
a couple of times, like I'll take it for what
it is because I don't want to be a single mom
that has to work and put my kid in daycare. This
is so crazy to me. This is so mind boggling.
But you know what? I'm not always right. So and
I pray I am so wrong on this one. I pray that
you are right. Well, I'll tell you this. If there
was an update, I wouldn't even want to know it
at this point. No, the guy's a loser. All I would
want to know is that she finally left him and
that she's either happy single or she's found
a guy that can just simply contribute. Yes. So
here's here's one last one. Why would I do it
if you can just do it? Do you see how foolish
that is? Why would I be married to a man making
more work for me and contributing nothing but
a paycheck and a bad attitude? I can avoid all
of that mess you create, have my own paycheck
and my daughter and I can live without the extra
work and complaining you provide. Seriously,
what did he expect his role was in a marriage?
I'm single at 40 and it sucks I dearly wanted
a husband and kids But every single relationship
got to this point point where I had to look at
the man in my life and ask What the F is the
point of view? And there isn't a single one I
regret leaving F being someone's kitchen appliance
for life. Let's use your name username's name.
The swear jar is my 401k Oh my gosh, that's hilarious.
She's probably making... That is so clever. That's
a great one. Shout out to her. I hope she finds
us. I hope she finds us too, and I hope she finds
a man because she's single and 40 with no kids.
We know a couple. And she's obviously out here
just crafting up Reddit replies. And usernames.
Yeah, that too. OP responded to that and said,
I'm almost to that point. If he doesn't get his
shit together and continue improving, then I'm
done. My mom has a spare room and would love
nothing more than getting to see her grandbaby
on a daily basis. Yeah, thank you. I may buy
myself a Canon T7i and I'm gonna go be a photographer.
Facts, do it. I encourage it. Wow, what a crazy
story, Joe. Nice work. Thanks. Alright, here's
my story and this is the last story. Am I the
a -hole for getting mad at a comment my husband's
grandpa made? My husband, M25 and I, F25, have
been married for some time now. When we were
first dating, he told me he was from the southern
part of the United States and assured me that
his family would welcome me. He did this because
I'm Puerto Rican and I was a bit worried about
how they would treat me. The first time I met
his family while we were dating, everything went
well except with his grandpa. He has or is starting
to have dementia, if I'm not mistaken, so he
isn't always mentally well. Before all that happened,
he worked from the ground up to be where he is
at today. However, he wasn't the best boss, father
or husband. This means that he would always make
jokes on the expense of other people including
his grandchildren. I guess the dementia hasn't
messed that part up because when we first met
he joked that I could have chosen someone better
to which I kind of laughed but told him that
I chose a good person. Then later he blatantly
asked my husband why he didn't bring home a blonde.
I have dark brown hair and light brown skin.
I felt weird hearing that but decided to ignore
it and so did my husband. My husband later apologized
to me for not saying something to his grandpa.
We decided to host Father's Day at our house.
We recently moved to my husband's hometown so
we get to see his family more. Because we are
pregnant with our first child and wanted to tell
my husband's family the gender. While we were
eating we asked my sister -in -law if she could
do a cute video asking everyone what they thought
the baby would be. She started recording and
when she got to her grandpa he first stayed quiet.
Then she asked again what he thought the baby
would be and he said, it's a monkey. At first
I did not understand at all what he said but
I saw that everyone laughed so I assumed it wasn't
anything bad. Then they asked him again and he
said he thought it would be a boy. Later on,
I rewatched the video and finally understood
what he said. I began to feel conflicted because
now it's the second time he has said a weird
comment and nobody thought it was weird. I decided
to ask my husband what he thought about and he
said his grandpa was just joking. I told him
that maybe he was, but it's the second time he's
made a weird comment when it comes to us. He
told me that his grandpa is in his 80s and has
always made fun of everyone. I told him that
just because he has always done that and everyone
thinks it's the norm, it is not okay. He told
me he couldn't understand why I was upset by
a joke to which I replied that maybe it's because
they are from the South and they are racist.
Now he's upset and thinks I accused his whole
family of being racist since they left. Am I
the a -hole for reacting that way and saying
those things? Oh, boy. Oh, there's so much to
unpack here. Yeah, I kind of feel like sick and
sad about it. Well, of course. Yeah, of course.
Like she has every right to feel sad and to question
it. And hopefully this doesn't offend anyone,
but. Reality is like as generations have gone
on people that are our age I feel like what would
be racism is very it's it's a lot more rare like
it's not people are not blatantly racist you
get just as far down the line is like The generation
that is our parents and they're comfortable saying
things and they're comfortable laughing at things
that we don't think is funny Yeah, you know that
that whole thing. I don't think anyone in our
family is blatantly racist, but generationally
it was a different time for that age group and
I don't know how else to really put that delicately
other than different times certain things are
like learned behaviors. Oh absolutely. So there's
all of that that contributes to this but what
I wanted to say is like it almost seems wrong
to hold the grandfather accountable with the
dementia because he has dementia. Even if you
wanted him to take responsibility for it it's
like five minutes later he could be like who
are you? Oh, absolutely. But I do, I just feel
like more than anything, what she needs to be
able to hold space for that and feel safe to
be able to talk about it with her husband. Yeah,
of course. And he needs to be able to, it isn't
a laughing matter. It's not like, it just makes
me really sad for her. And also when you're talking
about the generations and how we're different
now and like, things that are funny to them when
they say it to us, we're like, that's not fricking
funny. Like that's actually, that's racist. Don't
say that. It just makes me very grateful for
our time, how we can understand that it's wrong.
Right. I don't know. Like, I just feel like I
just love we're all opening our eyes to like.
Yeah. Just seeing people as people. It's like,
that's, that's really what it boils down to is
we have our differences that we should respect
and accept, but. Everything that's gone in the
world social media mixing viewpoints like it's
about the behavior that is learned It's about
the fact that we've been exposed to a lot more
We hear more from kind of what other people experience
about racism and it's also ugly Yeah, our generation
is just much more Aware of how hurtful some of
those things actually are it's messed up that
people laughed at the joke It's not something
that's a laughing matter. I mean, that's it.
That's a a really offensive thing to say. Yeah,
no, that was really mean. And even the even the
first one, like you should have brought a blonde
helm instead of a brunette. It's like, yeah.
OK, I get that grandpa has dementia. I put myself
in this situation. Grandpa that has dementia
says something that is just off the wall. I'm
sorry to say I'm going to chuckle because I feel
awkward as can be. And what I would do if I was
in the situations, I might I might chuckle about
it and know instantly that OP is like if that's
not funny at all and I would want to be like
hey I'm I'm so sorry about what he said like
that that is not cool and like we laugh but That's
not funny at all. The guys lost his marbles.
Yeah. Yeah, I don't know I don't know what I
would do in that moment, but I know what you
would do What I'd probably call them out you
would you and it's that's what that's what I
was pointing out about it being a personality
things People handle things differently. She's
mad at the family and so I get why her Husband
or boyfriend whoever it is. I get why he's like
they're not all that bad. I promise. Yeah, I
Well, I do want to comment this this is so this
is one of the comments from relevant highlight
90 My grandfather with dementia got really racist
and weirdly sexual towards family members and
guess what my family didn't do Laugh at it. They
jumped in corrected him stopped and protected
the members of the family who needed protecting
And my family sucks, so there's a really low
bar. The fact that his family laughed told you
all that you need to know about his family. The
fact that your husband is defending their laughter
tells you all that you need to know about your
husband. In your shoes, I'd be calling divorce
lawyers without even a thought. NTA. To me, that's
an agree to disagree. It's not because it's funny.
It's not funny. The joke's not funny. But grandpa
has dementia and he doesn't know what's going
on. And sometimes the easiest way to break the
tension is to just like, haha, it's not funny.
There's not a world that exists where that's
making racist degrading jokes. It is not comical.
The reality is, is that those situations, everybody
navigates them a little differently. The other
thing is that we don't even actually know, like
what was the extent of the laughing? She just
said that they laughed. Are they like, are they
belly laughing? Oh, grandpa, you're hilarious.
No, it's like, oh, grandpa, you're, haha, you're
crazy. Overall, I just feel like OP needs a hug
and she needs to feel support and not feel like
they all think that she can just be like comic
relief or whatever. What would be the right saying
for that? Yeah, like the butt of the joke or
anything like that. It's not funny. The husband
needs to step up and to be there for her and
to defend her. Doesn't matter if the grandpa
has dementia, he still should correct that and
say it's inappropriate. Look at him and say,
No, my baby's not a monkey. It is a human being.
And that's, like, you're a... Like, what's so
funny, Grandpa? I'm gonna smack those dentures
out your mouth, boy. He doesn't even have them
anymore. He's still freaking old. Oh man. Okay,
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