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All right, we're in for a treat this week. So

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the theme sounds like a freaking episode of Harry

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Potter. I'm gonna tell you right now. Oh shoot.

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Gotta have to chat with GPT for the assist on

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this one. The title is Blood, Half -Bloods, and

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the In -Law Apocalypse. What? Stories about family

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beef. Oh my gosh. Okay, I'm ready. Let's freaking

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go. I'm scared. So the first story is putting

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brother's girlfriend in her place. Sounds like

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there's something fun there. Son tells his dad,

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do not marry your girlfriend. Absolute no. Oh

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no. Another poster asks, would I be the a -hole

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for ditching my disabled dad? And last but not

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least, we have a twin telling her twin sister

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that her boyfriend hit on her. Oh. That's not

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good. Some not so fun family drama is gonna unfold

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in this one. Oh gosh, but at least it's like

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he's hitting on someone that looks just like

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her rather than you find out that like your dude's

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looking at girls that look nothing like you.

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So it's like, I don't know. I mean, it's still

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a major portrayal, but at least there's that.

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So at least it doesn't nick your ego. At least

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it doesn't make you feel like he's like, you

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know, he wants something different. He just wants

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your twin sister. Yeah, he's like, you just slide

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into the DMs of somebody that's not you that

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looks exactly like you. That's horrible. Yeah,

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it's almost like, what's he looking for? Is it

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the personality? Who knows, but maybe we'll find

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out. And the two, it's like, I wonder if twins

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kind of have this sense of like competitiveness

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towards each other. Like, do you think they compare?

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All the twins in the world right now chime in

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because I know they're all so competitive. Really?

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A hundred percent. Okay. Like they want a low

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key be better and the hotter twin and like the

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more athletic twin, the better twin, the smarter

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twin, the smarter twin, all of it. Okay. It's

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no, I mean, it's sibling rivalry, but you are

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the exact same DNA pattern. You're like totally

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connected. Yeah. The exact same person. Dang.

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Okay, well, I'm ready. But let's chat about last

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week. That one's a rager. But last week was the

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episode when you just have to stick to your story.

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Featuring sticker you hopefully you guys have

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had a chance to check them out. They're freaking

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awesome. Yes. Big shouts to them. And that was

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a fun episode. We have the the story we started

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off with the story about the girl that was friends

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with benefits and she's mad because her hookup

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partner lying to her. And we have the the girl

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that was gaslighting her mom in line, you remember

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that? Yes, that was hilarious. Everyone on social

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media loved that one, by the way. They're like,

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OP is a gangster. When you hear the title, you

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think, no, that's bad. Yeah. Don't do that. Yeah.

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No, she, it was perfect. The next one was, I

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married my same gender best friend, even though

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we're both straight. Sounds like a pretty good

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premise. Yeah. Your premise, was that fake? Don't

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know. And then last but not least, it's Husband

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doesn't know that I dated his friend. OP is a

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female that she just is in too deep. She can't

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tell OP That she had a past with her with this

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guy. That one gave me nightmares. That one's

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terrible and It was fake. Oh Thank goodness.

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So shout out to you guys in the comments for

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for picking out when I saw a few of you out there

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Yeah, you guys you guys are getting good if you

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didn't know Then stay tuned this week. See if

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you can figure it out I don't think they're going

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to get this week's. I mean, they're getting good.

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blood, half bloods and the in -lawpocalypse.

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Tell me that doesn't sound like Harry Potter.

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It does. And I don't know what my song was, but

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we're going to go with it. It does sound like

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Harry Potter. That was like that was like when

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the Mary Oxy band starts to play. It sounded

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like you were Miguel from Coco. Yes, that's the

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best compliment. Thank you so much. You're welcome.

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But I mean, you're welcome. Thanks. Okay, first

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up, we have, am I the asshole for re -reminding

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my brother's girlfriend that I own half of the

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house we live in so she can't easily get rid

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of me? Okay, no, he owns half the house. She.

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Oh, wait, she owns half the house. Alright, let's

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dig in. Okay. I'm 15F, 15 years old female. I've

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been living with my big brother, 25, for the

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last three years. Our dad died three years ago

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and our mom abandoned us seven years ago and

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is living abroad in Japan with her new family.

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Ouch. Sucks. She says I'm very independent and

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don't need a lot of attention and generally mind

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my own business. So I'm not a nuisance or a third

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wheel. I just need to be left alone. The house

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we live in belonged to our dad and he left it

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equally to both of us. Okay. My brother's been

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seeing his girlfriend for a couple of years now.

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She's not bad and I generally liked her however

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she wants to move in here and they're talking

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about getting serious. I talked to my brother

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about how this would work and he thinks it's

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too soon to discuss it and we'll sort out the

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details when it's more serious. Okay so the other

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day she came to me and asked me about my plans

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about uni and if I wanted to stay around and

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I told her that yeah I plan to stay home while

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going to uni. She suggested it might be good

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for my growth to go to a different city and get

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exposed to new experiences and people. Also suggested

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boarding school for next year Oh My gosh, this

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girlfriend's dirty dirty that's messed up is

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I smelled BS So told her what it's really about

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and she mentioned that they're getting serious

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and want to start a family soon And I won't have

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a place here as they're growing family. I'm getting

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so mad right now I know talked about importance

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of nuclear family and all that nonsense. I asked

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why is she trying to get rid of me? I've done

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her no harm. She said it isn't personal, and

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it's just that their family will deserve to have

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their own space without relatives living with

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them. I reminded her that I own half of this

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space, so she's delusional if she thinks that

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she can just get rid of me. Fox. She initially

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said my brother has done enough for me already.

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Fine, I'd do something for him, but also said

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let's not continue this discussion now. Are you

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kidding? Later, my brother told me I was unnecessarily

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aggressive and instead should have come to him

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about what she said. I told him I didn't approach

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her. She was trying to manipulate me to get rid

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of me. He thinks she was wrong to do that, but

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I was unnecessarily aggressive and she didn't

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mean bad. And now I've damaged our relationship,

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maybe permanently. Oh, this girlfriend's a child.

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She's the worst. Later he had a fight with her.

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He hasn't talked to me since then. It's been

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about four days now. She also hasn't been over

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since then. A .I .T .A. for being too aggressive

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to her. Hell no. Good for this little girl. She

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is so intelligent for her age. That's that was

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my first thought was this girl was 15 And she's

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holding it down against 25 ish Manipulate a little

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brat and like how what 25 year old female is

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dating a guy The guy is 25 and taking care of

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his 15 year old sister that he has guardianship

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over her and The girls like hey sis, you're gonna

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have to scoot over gonna have to move out. I

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could never who could do that? literally never

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this girl is a piece of shit yeah yeah bad oh

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my gosh it is a bad I'm so livid here's the issue

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okay this is an issue for the listeners and for

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us this was posted seven hours ago oh there's

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no update no this is freshly fresh we're gonna

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have to keep tabs on this one oh please please

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save that Oh, it's getting Are the comments just

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loving her? Yeah, everyone of course everyone

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NTA not the asshole not the asshole. This is

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the most upvoted comment so far says NTA all

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these things she was suggesting like boarding

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school who would be paying for that your inheritance

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brother because it doesn't sound like it would

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be her covering any costs. It's yours and your

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brother's house even if she did move in it would

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still be yours and your brother's house she would

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just be living there. I'd have been a lot more

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blunt if someone had the audacity to tell me

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to move out because they felt entitled to my

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inheritance and what I should be doing with it.

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Facts. IMO the fact she hasn't been over and

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they haven't spoken is probably because she doubled

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down on what she said to you. Oh yeah for sure.

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So she's telling yeah telling her boyfriend like

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no she needs to leave. And your sister was so

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mean to me. She was so mean and aggressive. And

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I was just coming out a nice, genuine place where

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I just feel like she needs to explore and grow

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and do all these new, exciting things. I was

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coming from a good place. Move out of my house,

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little kid. No. It's F. This brother needs to

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dump her. I don't care. She's a bad person. And

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OP responded right away and said, it wouldn't

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surprise me if she's trying to force my brother

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to choose between us. A thousand percent. That

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makes me sick. And she's 15. She's 15. She's

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not 18. She's not 19. You're pushing a freaking

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sophomore in high school to think about leaving

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the house? To boarding school when her family

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got blown up? Her dad passed away three years

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ago. She was 12. 12. And she's 15 now. And she's

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even saying, I just want to chill in my room.

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I know. It's not like I'm out there hanging out

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with them, wanting to watch shows with them.

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That's how I would be. You kidding me? I'd be

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like, what's up, guys? He'd be cock -blocking

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like crazy. I'd be shameless about it. I'd be

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like, no, it's not time for that. We're going

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to watch the next episode of 2020. No, but that's

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this poor girl, I feel for her. And I hope that

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the brother does the right thing, but he's in

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a hard spot right now. He's in a hard spot, but

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he's in a spot where I hope he is seeing it clearly

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and seeing the girlfriend's true colors. You're

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right about that. Hopefully, hopefully he's seeing

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it, but I'm not holding my breath. Oh, man. That's

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a good story and terrible. Okay. Please keep

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us updated on that. Absolutely. I love it. Well,

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I'm ready for mine if you're ready for yours.

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Yeah. Okay. What was I doing? Oh yeah. I'm getting

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the story. Um, you're on a podcast right now.

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I got a text from someone and it threw me off.

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Okay. Am I the a -hole for telling my dad I don't

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want him to marry his girlfriend? Honestly, this

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is embarrassing so I'm using a throwaway. My

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parents both 46 got divorced six years ago. My

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mom remarried three years ago and my dad has

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had a few girlfriends. His current girlfriend

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is the only one he has ever brought around. My

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mom has met her and likes her and my sister idolizes

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her. She's nice and I don't dislike her. The

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actual problem? She's 27. Exactly 10 years older

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than me. To me, it's so weird. I don't understand

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why my dad wants to date someone so much younger

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than him. When he asked my sister and I if we

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were okay with him asking her to marry him, my

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sister was excited. I wasn't. I told him I wasn't

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comfortable with the age gap and thought she

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was just a sugar baby. Dad explained that she

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has her own career but said okay. Since that

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conversation, my dad has been really sad and

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the atmosphere in his house has changed. His

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girlfriend hasn't been by as frequently either.

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I feel kind of bad because I want my dad to be

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happy. That's tough. It's like, is he cool with

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dating? Is he cool with the dad dating in general?

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He just has a problem with the age gap? Yeah.

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I mean, I feel like that would be weird. You're

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27 and your dad's dating somebody that's, or

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sorry, he's 17. Your dad's dating somebody that's

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27. He's only 10 years older than him. And at

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17, you're like, you're kind of feeling more

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like adult -ish. it just that starts to feel

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yeah like you're I mean obviously he is closer

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to her age than the dad is right so that that

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would be striking I think for anybody I think

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it also it just puts a different perspective

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on your your parent like your parent is old enough

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I feel like to recognize that like that large

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of an age gap it's it's a little weird it's weird

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it's and you have to I think everybody initially

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would just question the motives That's what I'm

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trying to say. Which is what he did anyway. He's

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like, she's the sugar baby. She just wants, you

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know, she just wants his money. Like she's not

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actually into him. Well, and I'm what I'm going

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for is I feel like I would look at my parent

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differently on their motives. Like are they being

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gross by wanting a 27 year old female? Well,

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and is it is it gross if it's legal? Yes. 18

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is legal. But but like and that's gross. He's

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46. She's 27. Okay, it's there. They are full

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-blown adults I I don't I didn't hear I read

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this story. I read the story, but I didn't realize

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he was 46. So my bad 46 27 it still feels wrong

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It's a massive gap. It's big. So here's my question

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to you Okay, if let's just say you're single

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at 27. What's your ceiling 35 35 And he's got

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to be rich. But don't say anything else about

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anything. OK, sugar baby. I'll be a sugar baby,

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but I'm not freaking. What's it rocking the cradle?

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Yeah, robbing the cradle. You wouldn't. You would

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be in the cradle. You would be the one getting

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robbed. It's not rocked. No, no, it's robbing

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the cradle. But listen, thirty five. I just want

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you to really think about this for a second.

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So let's just say it's he's thirty seven. No,

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no. So 37 is too old. That's too old. If I'm

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20 what again? You're 27. So the other thing

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is she's in her career. 10 years? That's a lot.

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I will say though, like I have friends that marry

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guys that are 10 years older than them. And I

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don't think it's weird at all. I don't even think

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twice. I'm just thinking as a father and you're

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dating someone, he's 46. She is 27. That is very

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young. But this is the thing, okay? This is a

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good. So let's stick to that. No, it's there's

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the gap is massive. There's no two ways about

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it. Yeah. But I just think that there's there's

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always going to be extenuating circumstances.

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It's there's there's things that have to be weighed

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out if it's just some 27 year old that is just,

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you know, looking to be swept up by a guy that's

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got his money and she just wants to be taken

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care of. Red flags all over the place. Yeah.

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But what if it's not like that? What if What

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if the stars align? When it comes to the age

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thing, I think it's a hard thing to digest for

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a lot of people, but it's because a lot of those

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variables you just don't know about. It's what

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is his motives? What are her motives? Is it awesome?

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Is it normal? Is it a healthy relationship? Is

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it codependent? Is it, you know, any type of

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superiority complex? There are so many different

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things that you could assume. just based on the

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age gap, but there might be more for the story.

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No, that's fair. Well, there is more to the story

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because there is an update. Say what? Yeah. So

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it says, edit. This blew up bigger than I expected

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it to and found its way to my dad. Now he wants

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to have a talk this weekend. Oh, snap. Update.

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So my original post blew up and managed to find

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its way to both my dad and his girlfriend. Her

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name is Jenny. Jenny thought it was really funny

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while my dad was mortified. Some of the comments

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were really mean towards my dad, which made me

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a little sad. He's a great dad and trying his

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best. I'm eating my words right now, that's hilarious.

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As a whole, the comment section had me thinking

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about my father's love life too much, and I know

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now not to air my parents' business on the internet.

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To clear up some confusion, my dad was not asking

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for permission. He was simply asking how my sister

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and I would feel about him remarrying. As for

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the actual update... My dad sat me down and explained

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he wasn't upset over me or what I said. He was

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upset that he didn't know I was uncomfortable

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sooner. He told me that him and Jenny met at

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a conference and that they both thought the other

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was lying about their age. Jenny thought dad

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was younger and dad thought Jenny was older apparently

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because of how high up in her career she is.

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That's cool. It was nice to hear that dad wasn't

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intentionally going for women in their 20s and

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that Jenny was the first girl he dated that young.

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I still get the ick. Jenny took me out solo for

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matcha the other day too. She said she never

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wanted to be a mom and doesn't want kids. She

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said that she liked that dad already was a dad

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to older kids and didn't want more and that's

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why she kept dating him. She said she doesn't

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want me to think of her as a stepmom, just a

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cool adult. I apologize for calling her a gold

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digger and she said it wasn't a problem. Apparently

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she could see why I would have thought that and

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isn't upset. Jenny wants the internet to know

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that she's about to turn 28 in a few days. Anyway,

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dad's not really upset with me. I still like

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Jenny. Everything has been cleared up, and I'm

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not really uncomfortable anymore. Thanks, Reddit.

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Okay, so we love it. I do love it for her. It

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seems like she was able to get things off her

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chest. It sounds like they communicated in a

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mature way. I love that it worked out for her.

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But this dad, you can't tell me that he, low

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key, there's gotta be the, I don't know, I'm

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not a man. I just think men are gross. and younger

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women men always are drawn to and so you can't

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tell me that he find out she's 27 and he's not

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like oh my gosh oh wait like dang like i could

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pull a 27 year old she's so hot and fresh and

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young and new but so does that make him bad it

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makes it a little icky if it's your father it

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just feels weird i yeah i mean i could understand

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for sure that it would feel weird but knowing

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If she's in her career, she doesn't want kids.

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They have things that match up in their lifestyle.

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It's like, okay, it's not like she's just some

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child to him. There's actually some congruence

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for them. There's grounds for them to have a

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relationship. Right. And it's not just about

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the fact like, oh, she's fresh and I can pull

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a young babe. It's not that. But then again,

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this is my feeling. If you were to go and pull

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guys that are single at 46, if you're going to

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ask them, Would you be comfortable dating a 27

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year old? They're going to say no. But if a 27

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year old showed interest in them, they're not

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going to shut it down. I want to flip the script

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on you and say like, we're divorced. I'm 46 years

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old. I have our children. Let's say we have five

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kids. And how old is this OP? OP 17. And our

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daughter or our son. is 17 years old and I'm

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dating a 27 year old and things are getting serious

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and I'm 46 years old. It does feel, I mean sorry,

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the reality is it feels a little bit different

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giving the gender swap. Why? Because now you're

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seeing it in a different light. Because you would

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be searching for a doctor and there's not going

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to be a 27 year old doctor ready to rock and

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roll. What if he has a great career? I mean so

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if it was literally, if it was apples to apples.

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Yeah. I would be like, okay, go get it. Go get

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it. No, you would not. I would look at him and

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be like, were you held as a child? I'd be hot

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as a 46 year old, sir. Of course. You would say,

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you lucky son of a gun. That's what you would

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say. And you'd say, I wish I was you. And I'd

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say, if you break her heart, I will kill you.

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Even though I already did because we're divorced.

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Right. If those other things in your life are

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synced up. Yeah, and age becomes less of a relevancy

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thing. It's just the fact that when you think

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of a 27 year old, and you think of a 46 year

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old, it would be in drastically different places

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in their life. But the fact that she's established

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in her career, she doesn't need his money. She's

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doing well. I know. And she's so what's the word

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emotionally mature? She she's great. She took

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the kid out. She's like, dude, I don't want to

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be your step mom. She's so cool. She's like,

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I totally get it. It's okay. You call me a gold

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digger. That's funny. Like It obviously shows

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that she's so secure in who she is. Right. And

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yeah, like the humor, the fact that she's like,

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by the way, tell the internet I'm close to 28.

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Exactly. Yeah. No, I really like her. I think

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if there'd be no reason why you would turn down

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46, I don't think you would look at a 46 year

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old that was interested in you. If you were attracted

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to him, you had, I think you'd be like, game

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on brother. Let's do this. No, I think you would.

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I do not. And I think, okay. It's easier to be

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like, no. there's something weird that's wrong

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blah blah blah but I don't I don't think I could

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but I think too there's got to be like some deep

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trauma within me as to why I'm responding so

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like double down on this because when I was 16

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I dated an older man and so I just think not

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like super old you guys not not 46 but still

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it's like It was not, I don't know how to explain

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it. I just think when I hear these age gaps where

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I just feel like the girl's way younger or even

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the guy's way younger than the girl, it freaks

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me out. It comes with this polarity, with this

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intensity where it's, you're not often starting

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on a level playing field. Yeah. It's this dynamic

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of like. What are the motives? Cause some, there

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are motives that are icky. Yeah, no, there's

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no doubt. It's just triggering. I don't like

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it. So anyways. That's my story. This would be

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the perfect time for me to read my bonus story.

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You have a bonus story? Listen, this is how it

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happened. OK, I found the stories that I wanted

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to use for the episode. I was doing my Reddit

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homework and I found another story that I really

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liked that just doesn't really fit in the theme.

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Oh, I have to read it. You have to read it. OK,

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I'm going to. Yeah, you should. This one comes

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from in my VA hole and it was just too fitting.

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And the fact that you brought up what you just

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brought up. I mean, the stars are aligning. Oh,

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wow. OK, I'm ready. Am I the a -hole for being

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mad at my wife saying breaking up with her ex

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was one of her biggest regrets? To a friend who

00:23:07.619 --> 00:23:12.079
is dating him. To a friend that's dating him?

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That is dating him. Now you know why I had to

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read it. I stumbled across it. I'm like, it's

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going in. It's pretty much just the title. The

00:23:23.819 --> 00:23:26.019
other day, one of my wife's friends was talking

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to her about a guy she was dating. It just happened

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to be my wife's ex. That sucks. The convo went

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to the friend, having some doubts about the guy.

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My wife said this, and I quote, He is the sweetest

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and most wonderful guy. Breaking up with him

00:23:41.869 --> 00:23:47.589
is one of my biggest regrets. Close quote. Divorce.

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Divorce right now. Are we like, whoa? And my

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immediate response was, excuse me? And it took

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my wife too long to catch on. She was like, what?

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And it took her a while to process what she said.

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I told her nevermind for now and let her finish

00:24:03.099 --> 00:24:05.359
the combo with her friend. Granted, her friend

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left pretty soon after that. We talked about

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it and honestly, I'm still pretty pissed. She

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said she got caught with it and that she didn't

00:24:12.140 --> 00:24:13.940
really mean it. Honestly, didn't make me feel

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any better, TBH. No. I've been keeping some space

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from her. And just a couple comments real quick.

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I bet her friend felt the same way as you. That's

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probably why the friend left shortly after. Nope,

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you're not the age and yes, you deserve a better

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explanation. Lots and lots of more of this. Oh,

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yeah, this is what I wanted to read. Man, my

00:24:33.309 --> 00:24:36.410
wife gaslit me for 15 years. Finally, after I

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left her and in counseling, it all came up. She

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was still in love with the figment of a guy.

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This is where it gets so difficult and every

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person is unique. So I'm not saying your missus

00:24:44.950 --> 00:24:47.190
is like this. She needs to get professional help

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to understand herself. So my wife's ex cheated

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on her and got another girl pregnant and then

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he married her. However, Her ex was everything

00:24:55.380 --> 00:24:58.039
she dreamed of. He was taller, better built,

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better looking, could paint and play the guitar,

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and is generally a very talented dude. I, on

00:25:03.940 --> 00:25:06.859
the other hand, am not any of those things, but

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I am good at making money and being loyal and

00:25:09.000 --> 00:25:12.099
a provider. She never worked a day in her life,

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but still that was not enough. She dreamed of

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her perfect life with this perfect guy who could

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earn the money I could. So for 15 years, I was

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competing with the fantasy. That's the thing

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that got unpacked is that I was competing with

00:25:24.059 --> 00:25:26.160
the fantasy that this is where it gets weird.

00:25:26.519 --> 00:25:29.059
The real problem is quote, why she was unable

00:25:29.059 --> 00:25:31.339
to connect with me when I provided her with everything

00:25:31.339 --> 00:25:33.559
she could want close quote. So what it comes

00:25:33.559 --> 00:25:37.779
down to is her, her identity, essence, personality,

00:25:38.279 --> 00:25:41.259
her family system and attachment style. So the

00:25:41.259 --> 00:25:43.680
real reason she had a fantasy was to justify

00:25:43.680 --> 00:25:47.279
self disconnection as she is actually a dismissive

00:25:47.279 --> 00:25:49.579
avoidant person. And because of who she is as

00:25:49.579 --> 00:25:52.000
a person, and her upbringing, she just doesn't

00:25:52.000 --> 00:25:54.160
want to build a bonded relationship. She was

00:25:54.160 --> 00:25:56.619
much happier at just having a provider who expects

00:25:56.619 --> 00:25:59.200
nothing from her emotionally. At the time I was

00:25:59.200 --> 00:26:01.619
anxious attachment, avoidant and anxious people

00:26:01.619 --> 00:26:04.619
go together like frogs in a pond. So after much

00:26:04.619 --> 00:26:07.279
to and fro, I left her and by goodness, nine

00:26:07.279 --> 00:26:10.079
years is the best thing I ever did was to leave

00:26:10.079 --> 00:26:12.079
somebody that didn't really care to have me as

00:26:12.079 --> 00:26:14.420
a person in her life. She did say on the last

00:26:14.420 --> 00:26:17.099
session when I said we were done, Well, you have

00:26:17.099 --> 00:26:19.500
ruined my life. In the whole 15 years, she never

00:26:19.500 --> 00:26:22.240
did anything without huge duress, trying to make

00:26:22.240 --> 00:26:24.740
me happy. She was excellent at controlling the

00:26:24.740 --> 00:26:26.759
frame to make me keep her happy and anything

00:26:26.759 --> 00:26:29.279
I asked for was unreasonable. If any of this

00:26:29.279 --> 00:26:31.279
is really true, then you really need a lot of

00:26:31.279 --> 00:26:33.180
professional help to unpack the core of what

00:26:33.180 --> 00:26:35.640
a person is. And the core you have to get to

00:26:35.640 --> 00:26:37.819
is what sort of relationship do they want and

00:26:37.819 --> 00:26:40.200
what sort of relationship do you want. To be

00:26:40.200 --> 00:26:42.400
really clear, there is no wrong or right in any

00:26:42.400 --> 00:26:44.599
attack in style. It just has to work for both

00:26:44.599 --> 00:26:47.119
parties. Also, don't like being with anxious

00:26:47.119 --> 00:26:49.160
clingy partners or avoidant partners either,

00:26:49.180 --> 00:26:51.220
but it doesn't mean what I want is right It's

00:26:51.220 --> 00:26:55.019
just what is right for me. Oh, I like that Wow

00:26:55.019 --> 00:26:57.880
Well, he's learned a lot for his trauma. That's

00:26:57.880 --> 00:27:00.759
for sure good for him That is it and it's crazy

00:27:00.759 --> 00:27:02.859
because so many people just go throughout life

00:27:02.859 --> 00:27:06.000
not knowing about any of these things that underlie

00:27:06.000 --> 00:27:08.200
their behaviors their emotions their motives

00:27:08.200 --> 00:27:10.759
all the sudden life can be pretty freaking messy

00:27:10.759 --> 00:27:14.190
and and you're looking up like what what is what

00:27:14.190 --> 00:27:16.430
is going on where am i crazy that was just a

00:27:16.430 --> 00:27:19.509
comment on this but there is an update oh my

00:27:19.509 --> 00:27:22.990
gosh it's very short first okay so the update

00:27:22.990 --> 00:27:25.269
this the update was only two days ago it hasn't

00:27:25.269 --> 00:27:27.329
been good for our marriage i feel so unloved

00:27:27.329 --> 00:27:29.829
by my wife right now honestly ever since she

00:27:29.829 --> 00:27:31.589
said that it feels like i just want to get further

00:27:31.589 --> 00:27:34.190
away from her she still refuses to apologize

00:27:34.190 --> 00:27:36.470
and keeps insisting that she didn't mean it that

00:27:36.470 --> 00:27:39.069
way she told me she's getting sick of this i

00:27:39.069 --> 00:27:41.029
really don't want to divorce over this of all

00:27:41.029 --> 00:27:43.029
things And we are going to go into counseling.

00:27:43.029 --> 00:27:45.769
I want to at least try it. But damn, I've never

00:27:45.769 --> 00:27:47.690
felt so lonely in my life. I don't even want

00:27:47.690 --> 00:27:51.869
to look at her. OK, I think the man I think therapy

00:27:51.869 --> 00:27:54.130
is definitely going to be the best answer for

00:27:54.130 --> 00:27:56.109
them. I think that's going to really help him.

00:27:56.269 --> 00:27:59.789
I get why he's so upset, but it truly could have

00:27:59.789 --> 00:28:02.549
meant that she was just talking him up to the

00:28:02.549 --> 00:28:05.829
friend, not really fully being like, I still

00:28:05.829 --> 00:28:07.869
want to bone him. I still want him. I still want

00:28:07.869 --> 00:28:10.460
to get back with him. and she just said something

00:28:10.460 --> 00:28:12.779
super super stupid like she should have never

00:28:12.779 --> 00:28:15.519
said that that's super inappropriate but the

00:28:15.519 --> 00:28:17.700
fact that she was never mad that her friend was

00:28:17.700 --> 00:28:19.900
dating him that's what gives me a little bit

00:28:19.900 --> 00:28:22.859
of like hope that like maybe there really wasn't

00:28:22.859 --> 00:28:25.519
anything going on where she still has like strong

00:28:25.519 --> 00:28:28.460
feelings towards her ex well and the thing is

00:28:28.460 --> 00:28:31.880
is that different personality types will handle

00:28:31.880 --> 00:28:33.640
those types of things differently there's lots

00:28:33.640 --> 00:28:37.049
of people in the world that can break up with

00:28:37.049 --> 00:28:38.990
their ex after a very passionate relationship

00:28:38.990 --> 00:28:45.470
and still be friends. I don't mean like their

00:28:45.470 --> 00:28:47.369
best cow is hanging out, but I mean that they're

00:28:47.369 --> 00:28:49.289
still involving each other's lives, they run

00:28:49.289 --> 00:28:51.990
in the same circles, and it's not toxic whatsoever.

00:28:52.269 --> 00:28:55.150
They accept their relationship ended, and then

00:28:55.150 --> 00:28:57.410
you move on. Like a real adult relationship?

00:28:57.549 --> 00:28:59.049
I'm not talking high school, because I'm still

00:28:59.049 --> 00:29:02.359
friends with those guys, but I'm saying... adult

00:29:02.359 --> 00:29:04.019
relations. Yes and that's what I'm referring

00:29:04.019 --> 00:29:06.539
to as well. I think that and this is this is

00:29:06.539 --> 00:29:08.660
I mean you let us know in the comments listeners

00:29:08.660 --> 00:29:11.680
but I tend to believe sorry I'm not trying to

00:29:11.680 --> 00:29:14.619
make it personal but you have a very staunch

00:29:14.619 --> 00:29:17.440
feel on this type of thing and I think generally

00:29:17.440 --> 00:29:19.920
speaking in the world it's not always the same

00:29:19.920 --> 00:29:22.240
way not always is there a lot of people that

00:29:22.240 --> 00:29:24.680
will operate the same way of course I think majority

00:29:24.680 --> 00:29:28.000
think my way well it's I don't know about majority

00:29:28.000 --> 00:29:30.339
I don't know the numbers but I do know that this

00:29:30.339 --> 00:29:33.500
like If this is correct, it doesn't mean that

00:29:33.500 --> 00:29:35.960
the wife necessarily wants to get back with the

00:29:35.960 --> 00:29:40.920
guy. But I think it's healthy. It's a good thing

00:29:40.920 --> 00:29:43.839
that she's like, go ahead, date the guy. I thought

00:29:43.839 --> 00:29:46.920
he was a great person. It's just what she said

00:29:46.920 --> 00:29:50.079
was... Not okay. Yeah, my biggest regret was

00:29:50.079 --> 00:29:53.240
breaking up with him. That is yeah, that's ridiculous.

00:29:53.799 --> 00:29:55.940
No, that's crazy. That's crazy crazy I'm glad

00:29:55.940 --> 00:29:58.380
you shared that that's wild just a random insert.

00:29:58.420 --> 00:30:01.079
So enjoy listeners. Yeah, I still have more I'm

00:30:01.079 --> 00:30:03.500
excited for them to unpack all the things cuz

00:30:03.500 --> 00:30:05.819
I'm sure there's things on his end as well that

00:30:05.819 --> 00:30:08.819
he has never told his wife He absolutely has

00:30:08.819 --> 00:30:11.220
his own problems. Yeah. And the fact that he's

00:30:11.220 --> 00:30:13.319
so repulsed by her now and he's so avoidant,

00:30:13.319 --> 00:30:14.940
like I don't even want to look at her. Yeah.

00:30:15.039 --> 00:30:17.660
Like, dog, you are doing the avoidance now. Yeah,

00:30:17.680 --> 00:30:20.160
exactly. It's kind of like, all right, bud, you

00:30:20.160 --> 00:30:22.160
got to put on your big girl panties. But I mean,

00:30:22.180 --> 00:30:25.880
I understand he's hurt. So go to therapy. Let's

00:30:25.880 --> 00:30:28.440
take this as a subtle reminder and a subtle time

00:30:28.440 --> 00:30:32.259
to talk to you, the listener. If you if any of

00:30:32.259 --> 00:30:34.539
this stuff ever rings true, you go to therapy.

00:30:34.809 --> 00:30:37.589
Please get rid of the stigma, go to therapy,

00:30:38.130 --> 00:30:40.509
personal therapy, relationship counseling. It

00:30:40.509 --> 00:30:43.390
doesn't matter. Like sort through what's going

00:30:43.390 --> 00:30:46.750
on on the inside because it is so valuable in

00:30:46.750 --> 00:30:49.369
just living more in touch with yourself, not

00:30:49.369 --> 00:30:51.589
just being reactionary. So this is kind of fun.

00:30:51.609 --> 00:30:54.349
This is a four years later update. Would I be

00:30:54.349 --> 00:30:56.569
the a -hole if I stopped supporting my disabled

00:30:56.569 --> 00:30:58.890
father over his preferential treatment towards

00:30:58.890 --> 00:31:02.269
my siblings? I 26 M have two sisters. They're

00:31:02.269 --> 00:31:05.819
18 and 23. from the same mom and dad. When I

00:31:05.819 --> 00:31:07.920
was 16, my parents went through a messy divorce

00:31:07.920 --> 00:31:10.160
which resulted in my sister staying with my mom

00:31:10.160 --> 00:31:13.559
and I stayed with my dad. My dad is disabled

00:31:13.559 --> 00:31:15.819
and has been unable to work due to a long list

00:31:15.819 --> 00:31:18.660
of medical issues since I was 16. He has kidney

00:31:18.660 --> 00:31:20.960
failure and is currently on dialysis while awaiting

00:31:20.960 --> 00:31:22.859
a transplant. This has meant that I have been

00:31:22.859 --> 00:31:24.759
looking after him in a variety of caretaking

00:31:24.759 --> 00:31:27.039
ways for over a decade. Throughout this time

00:31:27.039 --> 00:31:29.200
his contact with my two sisters has been minimal.

00:31:29.400 --> 00:31:32.119
He has in the past allowed my oldest sister to

00:31:32.119 --> 00:31:34.880
claim benefits that she was not entitled to by

00:31:34.880 --> 00:31:37.119
claiming to be a carer for my father amongst

00:31:37.119 --> 00:31:39.519
others. She has at no point in her life provided

00:31:39.519 --> 00:31:42.119
care for my dad. This caused many fights between

00:31:42.119 --> 00:31:44.319
my dad and I as I felt he was allowing her to

00:31:44.319 --> 00:31:46.160
commit fraud just so he could feel like he was

00:31:46.160 --> 00:31:49.559
helping her. I was recently contacted by his

00:31:49.559 --> 00:31:51.559
doctor who told me that my dad was no longer

00:31:51.559 --> 00:31:53.759
on the transplant list to receive the kidney

00:31:53.759 --> 00:31:56.309
transplant he needs. Apparently his health is

00:31:56.309 --> 00:31:58.349
now so poor that they don't know for sure if

00:31:58.349 --> 00:32:00.849
he'll survive general anesthesia for the operation.

00:32:01.069 --> 00:32:03.190
I was told that a major factor for this was his

00:32:03.190 --> 00:32:06.289
poor diet which has exacerbated his existing

00:32:06.289 --> 00:32:08.630
health issues. Hearing this my wife and I decided

00:32:08.630 --> 00:32:10.710
to move back in with my dad to try to get him

00:32:10.710 --> 00:32:12.750
onto a healthier diet to hopefully prepare his

00:32:12.750 --> 00:32:15.210
body for the transplant he needs. After we moved

00:32:15.210 --> 00:32:17.069
in I was going through his most recent letters

00:32:17.069 --> 00:32:19.589
when I discovered a letter informing him that

00:32:19.589 --> 00:32:21.869
my youngest sister had applied for a grant for

00:32:21.869 --> 00:32:24.359
young carers as a result of caring for him. My

00:32:24.359 --> 00:32:26.920
dad is lucky to see my sister once a month, let

00:32:26.920 --> 00:32:29.859
alone the 16 hours a week this grant requires.

00:32:30.160 --> 00:32:32.519
Wow. I confronted him and he said he was just

00:32:32.519 --> 00:32:34.420
trying to help her out in any way that he could.

00:32:34.660 --> 00:32:36.660
This again led to a massive fight as currently

00:32:36.660 --> 00:32:38.920
me and my wife are the only family members supporting

00:32:38.920 --> 00:32:42.319
him. My sisters do nothing for him. They are

00:32:42.319 --> 00:32:44.559
both adults and yet neither has lifted a single

00:32:44.559 --> 00:32:47.119
finger once to help him. And yet here he is again

00:32:47.119 --> 00:32:49.259
essentially committing fraud to help them out.

00:32:49.420 --> 00:32:51.400
We can't help but feel taken for granted and

00:32:51.400 --> 00:32:54.089
simply unappreciated. We do everything we possibly

00:32:54.089 --> 00:32:56.789
can for him, sacrifice our time, energy, and

00:32:56.789 --> 00:32:58.849
money to ensure he has a more comfortable life,

00:32:59.089 --> 00:33:01.349
but time and again he chooses to focus his energy

00:33:01.349 --> 00:33:03.990
on helping my sisters cheat their way to funds

00:33:03.990 --> 00:33:06.309
and benefits they don't deserve. He's never once

00:33:06.309 --> 00:33:09.069
asked them to help him, so the burden of responsibility

00:33:09.069 --> 00:33:11.329
for his care rests entirely on our shoulders,

00:33:11.450 --> 00:33:13.569
despite the fact that, of the three siblings,

00:33:13.710 --> 00:33:16.190
I am the only one not currently receiving any

00:33:16.190 --> 00:33:18.500
benefit related to his care. We are now at the

00:33:18.500 --> 00:33:20.440
point where we are considering pulling all of

00:33:20.440 --> 00:33:23.259
our support, financial and physical, and leaving

00:33:23.259 --> 00:33:25.559
his care entirely to the two women who are actually

00:33:25.559 --> 00:33:28.500
benefiting from providing it. Would I be the

00:33:28.500 --> 00:33:30.519
a -hole for withdrawing support from my father?

00:33:31.160 --> 00:33:35.140
Oh, okay. Has he communicated with the father

00:33:35.140 --> 00:33:37.980
saying, hey, you either pay us or we're out?

00:33:38.400 --> 00:33:42.299
It's not that they could pay. Like the dad's

00:33:42.299 --> 00:33:45.599
not paying the daughters. He's He's indicating

00:33:45.599 --> 00:33:47.700
that they are taking care of him so that they

00:33:47.700 --> 00:33:50.720
can get a leg up in school so they can get grants

00:33:50.720 --> 00:33:52.319
and this and that. I don't even really know what

00:33:52.319 --> 00:33:55.440
the grants consist of. It's monetary gain that

00:33:55.440 --> 00:33:59.539
OP wouldn't benefit from. Oh, oh, then who cares?

00:34:00.420 --> 00:34:03.380
Right. OP is the ill. And it's yeah, it's not

00:34:03.380 --> 00:34:05.920
he has nothing to gain financially or nothing

00:34:05.920 --> 00:34:08.420
to lose financially. To my knowledge, obviously,

00:34:08.460 --> 00:34:10.949
there's going to be some tax stuff and like dependency

00:34:10.949 --> 00:34:12.969
I don't know all that this story comes from the

00:34:12.969 --> 00:34:16.429
UK too so it's even different oh okay yeah very

00:34:16.429 --> 00:34:18.070
different yeah because I know you know all the

00:34:18.070 --> 00:34:20.650
tax laws in the United States it's very different

00:34:20.650 --> 00:34:23.389
I could I could tell you the differences on both

00:34:23.389 --> 00:34:27.769
of them if you want yeah you're a CPA for both

00:34:27.769 --> 00:34:30.670
for both anyways there's a there's a bunch if

00:34:30.670 --> 00:34:32.750
anybody wants to go follow this I mentioned it

00:34:32.750 --> 00:34:35.710
comes from best of redditor updates that OP goes

00:34:35.710 --> 00:34:38.750
into detail about what gain the sisters are getting

00:34:38.750 --> 00:34:41.750
you know how it's not fair, how they're committing

00:34:41.750 --> 00:34:44.409
fraud, the way that it can be punished, all of

00:34:44.409 --> 00:34:47.929
those types of things are included. Some commenters

00:34:47.929 --> 00:34:51.469
are recommending that he report the fraud. Don't

00:34:51.469 --> 00:34:54.630
do that. Just all the things. And to me, what

00:34:54.630 --> 00:34:57.909
it comes down to is just that he feels underappreciated.

00:34:58.150 --> 00:35:00.190
And I can relate to the fact that if there's

00:35:00.190 --> 00:35:03.630
other siblings in the picture that want to gain

00:35:03.630 --> 00:35:05.869
from the dad, but like he's seeing his dad in

00:35:05.869 --> 00:35:07.960
the worst shape of his life, They're not even

00:35:07.960 --> 00:35:11.500
coming by and say hi. Yeah. They don't care at

00:35:11.500 --> 00:35:15.119
all about the case, the situation he's in. They

00:35:15.119 --> 00:35:19.019
just want to profit from him. Yeah. I would be

00:35:19.019 --> 00:35:21.179
bent out of shape about that, but I would certainly

00:35:21.179 --> 00:35:24.860
not withdraw care. So several commenters are

00:35:24.860 --> 00:35:27.500
telling him to leave his dad. There's information

00:35:27.500 --> 00:35:29.260
about his relationship with the sisters, which

00:35:29.260 --> 00:35:31.940
is not good. That is kind of where it is left

00:35:31.940 --> 00:35:35.980
off until June 1st of this year, four years later.

00:35:36.260 --> 00:35:39.460
Oh, shoot. So there is an update. And so OOP

00:35:39.460 --> 00:35:42.119
says, I remembered this post as my dad's birthday

00:35:42.119 --> 00:35:44.579
recently passed. I thought I might as well give

00:35:44.579 --> 00:35:47.440
an update, even though no one asked. In January,

00:35:47.519 --> 00:35:50.679
2023, my father passed away from complete kidney

00:35:50.679 --> 00:35:53.579
failure. It wasn't a surprise to me. His health

00:35:53.579 --> 00:35:55.719
had been in decline and a transplant wasn't going

00:35:55.719 --> 00:35:58.000
to happen. The rest of the family, though, were

00:35:58.000 --> 00:36:00.079
shocked. The last time he spoke to anyone, I

00:36:00.079 --> 00:36:02.260
showed him the seven week scan of my now two

00:36:02.260 --> 00:36:04.559
year old son, his first and only grandchild.

00:36:04.699 --> 00:36:06.920
We'd rushed to get the earliest scan we could,

00:36:07.059 --> 00:36:09.159
knowing he didn't have much time. My son looked

00:36:09.159 --> 00:36:11.860
like a seahorse tadpole. He cried when I showed

00:36:11.860 --> 00:36:13.780
him and he had a short talk about fatherhood

00:36:13.780 --> 00:36:16.099
before exhaustion took over. He fell asleep and

00:36:16.099 --> 00:36:18.619
never woke up. I asked him not to tell anyone

00:36:18.619 --> 00:36:20.400
since we were still early and I didn't want to

00:36:20.400 --> 00:36:22.519
jinx it. He said, I'll take you to the grave.

00:36:22.800 --> 00:36:26.039
Passed away three days later. He kept his word.

00:36:26.320 --> 00:36:28.179
I think seeing the scan and having that moment

00:36:28.179 --> 00:36:30.920
made him die happy. As for my sisters, they never

00:36:30.920 --> 00:36:33.500
changed. I let it go. I knew I couldn't change

00:36:33.500 --> 00:36:36.239
my dad and he was on borrowed time. For his birthday

00:36:36.239 --> 00:36:38.639
that year, we rented a canal boat since he'd

00:36:38.639 --> 00:36:41.300
always wanted one. He crashed it almost immediately.

00:36:41.900 --> 00:36:44.199
It gave him less and less consideration, ignoring

00:36:44.199 --> 00:36:46.519
him completely on what turned out to be his last

00:36:46.519 --> 00:36:50.280
birthday. No visit, no call, not even a text.

00:36:50.780 --> 00:36:53.159
He was devastated and reduced contact with them,

00:36:53.420 --> 00:36:55.159
though he never stopped helping them financially.

00:36:55.400 --> 00:36:57.280
When they found out he was dying, they rushed

00:36:57.280 --> 00:36:59.699
to his side and stayed until he passed. But like

00:36:59.699 --> 00:37:02.239
before, it was too little too late. He was already

00:37:02.239 --> 00:37:04.679
unconscious. They hadn't shown urgency when he

00:37:04.679 --> 00:37:07.099
first was admitted, only showing up when I told

00:37:07.099 --> 00:37:10.059
them he had chosen to end life support. I'd been

00:37:10.059 --> 00:37:12.519
told the day he was admitted over two weeks earlier

00:37:12.519 --> 00:37:14.599
that he might not survive and I believed it.

00:37:14.900 --> 00:37:17.119
I'd seen him in these situations before and this

00:37:17.119 --> 00:37:19.360
time just felt different. The rest of the family

00:37:19.360 --> 00:37:21.159
still thought he would recover and didn't treat

00:37:21.159 --> 00:37:23.960
him as a priority. Eventually, my dad asked me

00:37:23.960 --> 00:37:26.110
if he was dying. Everyone else had been giving

00:37:26.110 --> 00:37:28.750
him false hope, mostly for themselves, so I had

00:37:28.750 --> 00:37:32.190
to tell him, yes, you're gonna die soon. That

00:37:32.190 --> 00:37:34.949
was not an easy conversation. He passed surrounded

00:37:34.949 --> 00:37:37.030
by family who barely gave him their time when

00:37:37.030 --> 00:37:39.590
he was alive. My sisters definitely regret how

00:37:39.590 --> 00:37:41.849
they treated him, but it's too late. We were

00:37:41.849 --> 00:37:43.889
civil at the funeral, but hadn't spoken since.

00:37:44.190 --> 00:37:46.250
I scattered my share of his ashes at the end

00:37:46.250 --> 00:37:48.849
of the canal he never got to see. My sisters

00:37:48.849 --> 00:37:51.010
turned theirs into jewelry. I miss him every

00:37:51.010 --> 00:37:55.239
day, especially as his grandson looks Are you

00:37:55.239 --> 00:38:00.860
crying? Especially as his grandson looks so much

00:38:00.860 --> 00:38:04.199
like him. It's a shame things never got resolved

00:38:04.199 --> 00:38:06.619
with his daughters while he was alive. But I

00:38:06.619 --> 00:38:08.360
think he died a happy man and that's enough for

00:38:08.360 --> 00:38:12.380
me. I think I was in a different state of mind

00:38:12.380 --> 00:38:15.159
when I when I read this the first time because

00:38:15.159 --> 00:38:18.199
obviously it fits the episode the sisters the

00:38:18.199 --> 00:38:21.099
sisters suck, but there is perspective to be

00:38:21.099 --> 00:38:24.179
gained from this story that it's Don't take advantage

00:38:24.179 --> 00:38:27.360
of the time you have with loved ones. And if

00:38:27.360 --> 00:38:30.239
you're the sisters in this story, like be better

00:38:30.239 --> 00:38:34.219
to that person. You know? Yeah. That's that was

00:38:34.219 --> 00:38:37.719
my feeling. I was so glad that OP did update.

00:38:38.260 --> 00:38:40.260
He didn't withdraw care. He was with his dad

00:38:40.260 --> 00:38:44.440
till the end. Yeah, me too. And families are

00:38:44.440 --> 00:38:47.880
important. They are very important. And it was

00:38:47.880 --> 00:38:52.780
it was beautiful to like hear he was so intertwined

00:38:52.780 --> 00:38:55.619
with his father like he knew his dad sneezed

00:38:55.619 --> 00:38:58.280
he knew like what what was happening or like

00:38:58.280 --> 00:39:01.719
he just it was it was cool to hear how you can

00:39:01.719 --> 00:39:04.079
just tell he really took care of his dad because

00:39:04.079 --> 00:39:07.719
he knew anything that was going on he was like

00:39:07.719 --> 00:39:11.179
he was right there thank you yeah so he was 16

00:39:11.179 --> 00:39:14.019
when his dad started the disability and so he

00:39:14.019 --> 00:39:17.739
was literally the sole caretaker from age 16

00:39:17.739 --> 00:39:21.550
to 26 he's 26 when he wrote the first post and

00:39:21.550 --> 00:39:24.989
so that makes him about what makes him 30 this

00:39:24.989 --> 00:39:28.690
year and yeah so he took care of his dad for

00:39:28.690 --> 00:39:33.530
12 years that's a long time and him being able

00:39:33.530 --> 00:39:37.530
to show the ultrasound before he passed oh my

00:39:37.530 --> 00:39:40.849
gosh i feel like part of me is like i'm sure

00:39:40.849 --> 00:39:43.269
that made him so happy but i'm like i know if

00:39:43.269 --> 00:39:46.929
it was me it's like i'm never gonna meet my grandchild

00:39:46.929 --> 00:39:51.610
you know that would be so sad but also yeah Very

00:39:51.610 --> 00:39:55.329
joyous very like He that was his first his only

00:39:55.329 --> 00:39:59.130
grandchild. Yeah, see the very beginning. Yeah

00:39:59.130 --> 00:40:02.590
I love it. Well, I'm ready for mine. Am I the

00:40:02.590 --> 00:40:05.650
asshole for telling my twin sister her boyfriend

00:40:05.650 --> 00:40:10.309
hit on me? Yo, I 25 have a twin sister Kayla

00:40:10.309 --> 00:40:12.670
were identical technically, but over the years

00:40:12.670 --> 00:40:14.989
We've made small choices to look a little different

00:40:14.989 --> 00:40:18.130
mostly on purpose. She wears makeup every day.

00:40:18.130 --> 00:40:21.460
I don't I usually go for plain clothes. She likes

00:40:21.460 --> 00:40:24.260
stuff that stands out. If you know us personally,

00:40:24.519 --> 00:40:26.539
it's not hard to tell us apart, but strangers

00:40:26.539 --> 00:40:29.599
confuse us constantly. Kayla started dating this

00:40:29.599 --> 00:40:32.119
guy, Ryan, maybe six months ago. I've met him

00:40:32.119 --> 00:40:34.619
a handful of times, mostly at family stuff, and

00:40:34.619 --> 00:40:37.500
he always seemed defying. A little quiet, not

00:40:37.500 --> 00:40:39.940
the most warm person, but she seemed really into

00:40:39.940 --> 00:40:42.940
him, so I didn't say much. For context, I've

00:40:42.940 --> 00:40:45.429
been pretty closed off lately. I was in a serious

00:40:45.429 --> 00:40:47.409
relationship last year with someone I really

00:40:47.409 --> 00:40:49.590
thought I was going to marry, but it ended up

00:40:49.590 --> 00:40:52.670
pretty badly. Long story short, he cheated. It

00:40:52.670 --> 00:40:55.469
wrecked me. I haven't dated anyone since, and

00:40:55.469 --> 00:40:58.130
honestly, haven't even been that social. I've

00:40:58.130 --> 00:41:01.289
kinda just been in recovery mode, trying to feel

00:41:01.289 --> 00:41:03.849
like myself again. Kayla's been supportive, kind

00:41:03.849 --> 00:41:05.809
of, but lately it's felt more like she's walking

00:41:05.809 --> 00:41:08.210
on eggshells around me. So a couple weeks ago,

00:41:08.429 --> 00:41:10.449
Ryan randomly followed me on Instagram. I followed

00:41:10.449 --> 00:41:13.010
him back, no big deal. Then one night around

00:41:13.010 --> 00:41:16.349
1240 AM, he sent me a message that said, ever

00:41:16.349 --> 00:41:20.190
wonder what it'd be like if we kissed? No context,

00:41:20.570 --> 00:41:22.730
no lead up. I literally stared at it for a minute

00:41:22.730 --> 00:41:24.469
because I thought maybe he sent it to the wrong

00:41:24.469 --> 00:41:26.650
person. I replied with something like, uh, are

00:41:26.650 --> 00:41:29.750
you serious? You're dating my sister. He left

00:41:29.750 --> 00:41:32.110
it on read and didn't respond. The next day I

00:41:32.110 --> 00:41:34.309
texted Kayla and just told her what happened.

00:41:34.409 --> 00:41:36.349
I sent her a screenshot and everything. I was

00:41:36.349 --> 00:41:38.489
calm about it. I really thought she'd just be

00:41:38.489 --> 00:41:41.409
pissed at him, dump him and that'd be it. Instead,

00:41:41.550 --> 00:41:44.329
she got weirdly cold, so maybe I misread it.

00:41:44.610 --> 00:41:47.130
Then asked why he would even message me unless

00:41:47.130 --> 00:41:49.429
I had done something. I told her I hadn't even

00:41:49.429 --> 00:41:51.610
had a real conversation with him outside of family

00:41:51.610 --> 00:41:54.170
dinners. She kept pushing, said I was probably

00:41:54.170 --> 00:41:56.429
being dramatic, and eventually accused me of

00:41:56.429 --> 00:41:59.090
wanting attention because I've been lonely. Now

00:41:59.090 --> 00:42:01.929
she's blocked me on everything. No texts, no

00:42:01.929 --> 00:42:04.289
social. I haven't heard from her in almost two

00:42:04.289 --> 00:42:07.050
weeks. My mom says I shouldn't have said anything

00:42:07.050 --> 00:42:10.369
unless I was absolutely sure he meant it that

00:42:10.369 --> 00:42:13.349
way. Which honestly makes me feel insane. What

00:42:13.349 --> 00:42:16.449
other way is there? So now I'm just sitting here

00:42:16.449 --> 00:42:18.369
feeling like I ruined my relationship with my

00:42:18.369 --> 00:42:20.289
sister by doing what I thought was the decent

00:42:20.289 --> 00:42:22.650
thing. And I can't stop thinking that if the

00:42:22.650 --> 00:42:25.469
roles were reversed, I would have believed her

00:42:25.469 --> 00:42:31.449
without hesitation. Am I the a -hole? Like, what

00:42:31.449 --> 00:42:35.369
the... What? What? How could you interpret that

00:42:35.369 --> 00:42:39.570
any differently? It sounds like a drunk message.

00:42:40.150 --> 00:42:42.550
Oh, you think so? Because it's pretty bold. It's

00:42:42.550 --> 00:42:44.690
as direct as you can be. It's like they've hardly

00:42:44.690 --> 00:42:47.030
ever interacted. Yeah. They barely know each

00:42:47.030 --> 00:42:49.210
other. And why would he leave her on read? Like,

00:42:49.210 --> 00:42:50.829
if he's trying to cover it, he should have been

00:42:50.829 --> 00:42:53.849
like, dude, I'm so sorry. That was my dumb drunk

00:42:53.849 --> 00:42:57.469
friend. playing a prank, like make something

00:42:57.469 --> 00:43:01.030
up, bro. I'm so sorry, I meant to send that to

00:43:01.030 --> 00:43:03.309
your sister, who's your twin. Yeah, there you

00:43:03.309 --> 00:43:05.630
go. Like being flirty, I don't know, something.

00:43:05.949 --> 00:43:08.150
What an idiot. He left her on red. That enough

00:43:08.150 --> 00:43:11.050
is an answer to me. Oh, she's not down? Like,

00:43:11.150 --> 00:43:12.750
is she not attracted to me the way her sister

00:43:12.750 --> 00:43:15.469
is? Is that not how that works? Yeah, no, I guess

00:43:15.469 --> 00:43:18.170
not. I wonder if, I don't feel like I ever see

00:43:18.170 --> 00:43:21.489
twins. several like the crazy ones that go viral

00:43:21.489 --> 00:43:23.309
on social media whatever when like the twins

00:43:23.309 --> 00:43:25.429
marry the twin brothers or whatever does that

00:43:25.429 --> 00:43:28.750
happen oh yeah yes but there i feel like majority

00:43:28.750 --> 00:43:32.610
of all the twins oops of all the twins i know

00:43:32.610 --> 00:43:36.590
they marry or date guys that look completely

00:43:36.590 --> 00:43:41.809
different well yeah like so different i if i

00:43:41.809 --> 00:43:44.690
was to imagine being a twin i feel like i would

00:43:44.690 --> 00:43:47.519
want I would strive for different. Oh, please.

00:43:47.679 --> 00:43:50.199
Everything I would want to be different. I don't.

00:43:50.239 --> 00:43:52.360
Can you imagine your twin brother and you are

00:43:52.360 --> 00:43:55.119
in love with the same girl? Well, no. That's

00:43:55.119 --> 00:43:57.539
the whole point is it's like, OK, you have a

00:43:57.539 --> 00:43:59.219
preference. I'm going to try to make it so that

00:43:59.219 --> 00:44:02.880
I don't like the same girls as you. Yes. Well,

00:44:02.940 --> 00:44:05.460
OK, there are a couple of comments here. Not

00:44:05.460 --> 00:44:07.239
the a hole. You did the right thing by telling

00:44:07.239 --> 00:44:09.619
her if a guy was dating message my sister, something

00:44:09.619 --> 00:44:11.750
like that, I'd want to know right away. The fact

00:44:11.750 --> 00:44:14.130
that she's defending him instead of even considering

00:44:14.130 --> 00:44:17.530
your side is a red flag. Huge. She's got her

00:44:17.530 --> 00:44:20.610
blinders on. Woods, get out. Sorry, guys. That

00:44:20.610 --> 00:44:24.010
was my dog. She's got her blinders on and she

00:44:24.010 --> 00:44:26.289
ain't taking them off anytime soon. No, she's

00:44:26.289 --> 00:44:29.409
and when for what? The guy sounds like a goofball.

00:44:29.849 --> 00:44:32.110
And here's another thing. I think that Kayla

00:44:32.110 --> 00:44:34.769
is jealous of this twin sister, too, because

00:44:34.769 --> 00:44:38.139
I I feel like. There's there sounded like there's

00:44:38.139 --> 00:44:40.039
something there because for her to just be like

00:44:40.039 --> 00:44:42.900
you're lying you did something You're the reason

00:44:42.900 --> 00:44:45.539
why he would message you that block and if you

00:44:45.539 --> 00:44:47.599
were just judging the book by its cover She also

00:44:47.599 --> 00:44:49.699
said Kayla is the one that like wears makeup

00:44:49.699 --> 00:44:52.380
all the time and is always like getting more

00:44:52.380 --> 00:44:55.300
Dressed up like fancier type stuff. Yeah says

00:44:55.300 --> 00:44:57.380
that in the beginning So it just seems like she's

00:44:57.380 --> 00:45:00.239
more more outward more needing more of that type

00:45:00.239 --> 00:45:03.230
of like gratification as opposed to this girl

00:45:03.230 --> 00:45:05.829
who's like a hermit yeah that makes sense well

00:45:05.829 --> 00:45:11.369
i have an update oh two weeks later yeah so yeah

00:45:11.369 --> 00:45:14.210
this all sucks i hadn't heard from kayla at all

00:45:14.210 --> 00:45:16.130
until a few days ago when i got a message from

00:45:16.130 --> 00:45:20.130
her out of nowhere i'm sorry you were right no

00:45:20.130 --> 00:45:22.869
explanation just that then my phone started blowing

00:45:22.869 --> 00:45:25.489
up turns out ryan got caught sipping with one

00:45:25.489 --> 00:45:29.630
of kayla's co -workers at her job like in the

00:45:29.630 --> 00:45:32.429
office the same workspace that Kayla and Ryan

00:45:32.429 --> 00:45:35.349
go into every day. Apparently he got caught on

00:45:35.349 --> 00:45:37.329
security cameras sneaking back into the communal

00:45:37.329 --> 00:45:39.389
workspace with this other female co -worker.

00:45:39.949 --> 00:45:42.489
Her boss found out, Ryan and the co -worker got

00:45:42.489 --> 00:45:44.630
fired, and Kayla didn't know what was going on

00:45:44.630 --> 00:45:46.949
until after Ryan and the other girl were escorted

00:45:46.949 --> 00:45:50.909
out of the building. Her boss is the one that

00:45:50.909 --> 00:45:52.949
finally broke the news. I guess some of their

00:45:52.949 --> 00:45:55.070
mutual friends knew about the affair and never

00:45:55.070 --> 00:45:56.949
said anything, which makes this whole thing even

00:45:56.949 --> 00:45:59.730
messier. She still hasn't fully apologized for

00:45:59.730 --> 00:46:02.219
how she treated me. But at least the truth is

00:46:02.219 --> 00:46:05.139
out now. I don't feel good about any of it. Just

00:46:05.139 --> 00:46:07.239
kind of sad that I had to get this bad for her

00:46:07.239 --> 00:46:09.780
to see who he really was. Now we're both in our

00:46:09.780 --> 00:46:13.719
heartbreak era. Pray for us. Oh my gosh. I know.

00:46:14.239 --> 00:46:17.900
That is insane. In the workspace? Yeah. Be so

00:46:17.900 --> 00:46:21.000
for real. Be so for real. He's a savage. The

00:46:21.000 --> 00:46:24.719
dude is... is off his rocker. He just really

00:46:24.719 --> 00:46:26.719
wanted to take it to another level. I'm being

00:46:26.719 --> 00:46:29.039
the twin sister like that. You're just crazy,

00:46:29.039 --> 00:46:31.840
bro. And you can't make that make sense. There's

00:46:31.840 --> 00:46:34.179
no there's not a world where like, what are you

00:46:34.179 --> 00:46:37.219
shopping for? It's literally just. Yeah, that's

00:46:37.219 --> 00:46:40.980
so true. Like they are twins. Well, that that

00:46:40.980 --> 00:46:43.460
was a crazy story. Don't for shooting the shot

00:46:43.460 --> 00:46:47.260
with the twin. Yeah. So gnarly. I don't know

00:46:47.260 --> 00:46:49.260
if the listeners are going to be able to peg

00:46:49.260 --> 00:46:51.659
which of those four is fake. Let us know what

00:46:51.659 --> 00:46:54.260
you think. I will be so impressed if they get

00:46:54.260 --> 00:46:56.320
it right. If you get this one right, I'm going

00:46:56.320 --> 00:46:59.019
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