what's happening guys welcome to the next episode
titled red green and beige flags this week we
are going to be discussing four crazy stories
divorcing over fertility issues spilling mom
secrets to our daughter past relationship secrets
huge red flags and sneaking leftovers to my ex
oh they'd be crazy so Stay tuned and we'll get
into them. But first, we got to recap last week's
episodes and go over which one is the fake. If
you're joining us for the first time, part of
the premise of this podcast is that we're going
to give you four stories every week, at least
sometimes more. One of them is going to be completely
fake generated by Chad GPT. And so it's your
job as the listener to determine which one is
the fake and then let us know on socials. Come
through and let us know which one you think is
the fake. Oh, this is going to be so good. It's
crazy. That's the reason. It was really good
to you though. Agreed. Yeah, it was super fun.
Last week we had Ashlyn and Ryan on as guests
and we had a great time and one of them guessed
the fake correctly. Was it Ashlyn? You guessed
it right. Shout out. Which one was the fake?
The fake one was the guy with the shoplifting
problem. It was the C -level executive that...
had to steal from the time that he was a little
kid. That was a couple of different ideas in
my head and Chad GPT really put the cherry on
top, but shout out to Ashlyn for getting it right.
Shout out to any of you if you got it right.
Yeah. I feel like that one would have been tougher,
but I haven't really checked the comments. I
was shocked that she got it right. So far no
one else has, but it's crazy little secret here
and I won't say anything else. So silver little
secret secret. Joe got that story based off someone
he knows It's true somebody that they used to
compulsively steal one of the items listed in
the story That's that's a real thing people do
that people will steal just to steal nuts But
quick should we quick recap the other ones we
had the the story of the cross dresser cross
dresser cross dresser house watcher that could
have been fake like that is so sketched it's
real op who had her husband pass away and the
best friend started coming around and trying
to like make his move that was very real that
sounds real anyway and then there was the one
where the op her husband and the affair partner
they had twins and they both died in a car accident
that was real i was really hoping that was going
to be the fake but it wasn't all the family being
like no you should take care of the your cheating
husband's kids, because he's gone now. That's
insane. It's crazy. So sketch. But anyway, that
was that was a super fun episode. Yes. Thank
you to Ashlyn and Ryan for coming on. And we've
got some some more fun guests coming up. You
guys will be able to see it's gonna be a good
time. Really, really, really, really, really,
really fun time. Speaking of fun times, Joe and
I just go back from San Diego. And that was really
fun. We went and saw Hardy. That's right. You
are a diehard Hardy fan like us. We love you
And if you're not we still love you, but we love
Hardy. We have loved him from the beginning and
it was so Amazing seeing him live. That was it
was super cool. If you guys are music fans I'm
a diehard like I'm like passionate music guy
always loved Hardy for the last like six years
or so There was other guys that were on the tour
that were awesome to McCoy Moore opened Yeah.
And he signed a record deal last week, last Monday.
So brand, brand new. Go check his stuff out.
It's McCoy Moore. Yeah. Steven Wilson Jr. opened.
Coe Wetzel was also on the tour, but he had to
leave because his kid was born. Yeah. So that's
super exciting for him. We didn't get to see
Coe. We were a little bummed about that, but
congrats to him on having the baby. And McCoy
Moore, Steven Wilson Jr. were insane. especially
Stephen Wilson Jr. Then Hardy's production. If
you get a chance, it's the Jim Bob World Tour.
Yeah. Snack tickets if he comes through because
it was a party. The whole production was just
insane. And Hardy can sing and then he can scream.
And he sounds so good. And he put on a killer
show for so long. Yeah, the whole time it was
going so ham. I was so impressed. I was like,
how is this dude not dying? But it was really,
really fun. So anyways, yeah, we're back now.
We're excited. We're looking forward to this
week's episode. Thanks for tagging along and
let's get into it. Let's get into it. Red, green,
and beige flags. The first story is a goodie.
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right up and if you if you foodgas them again
it's like it's fine it happens. All right, this
one comes from best of Redditor updates And there's
only one update. That's a good one buckle up.
Am I the a -hole for divorcing my husband for
being infertile? Yeah, so I'm just gonna say
brace yourself. I 29F have been with my husband
29M for six years, married for three. We both
come from family oriented backgrounds and have
always wanted kids. We're financially stable
and provide a child an amazing life. We've officially
started trying for a baby in early 2023. After
months of nothing, I started to get worried.
I wanted to get our fertility checked then, but
he said I was being a worry rat. Let's wait a
year of trying before we get any testing. A year
was in February and I scheduled our testing then.
The results shocked us. We were both ignorant
and assumed that I was the one with the issues,
if there was one. I mainly see women talking
about being infertile so it didn't cross our
mind it could be something else. The doctor calls
us in and one of the worst days of our lives
tells us that my husband has a condition called
azuspermia, meaning he has no sperm. In his case,
they say that the surgery to extract directly
from his testicle doesn't seem that it will yield
high results, but it wouldn't hurt to try. My
husband and I were devastated. I wanted us to
explore all routes, him taking the medication
and getting the surgery. And if that fails, either
a sperm donor or adoption. I understand this
is life changing news, especially for my husband.
But since February, he's refused to do anything
about it. He said he doesn't want to take meds
and get the surgery if it will be a waste like
the doctor thinks. that using a sperm donor makes
him feel emasculated and he doesn't want to raise
my child with another man's DNA even if it's
from a relative of his and that the adoption
and that adoption isn't something that he's ever
wanted I have no one to talk to about this in
real life since he doesn't want his diagnosis
out there it's been affecting me really bad mentally
there's nothing more I want than to be a mom
I've begged him to go to therapy and he refuses
saying he accepts it I'm the one that isn't Every
time I try to start a conversation, he shuts
it down by saying that we will never have a child
together. He will never be able to be a real
dad. So to move on, I know what I want for myself.
And that's motherhood. I'm willing to go down
any avenue to motherhood, but he doesn't want
to. I realized this past summer that he's right.
We will never have a child together. I had one
final conversation with him since he avoids the
topic like the plague last night. I sat him down
and said I empathize with him about this life
-changing diagnosis and that he doesn't want
to get the surgery, which I respect, or use a
donor or adopt, but that I want to be a mom and
I'm not getting any younger. And if he isn't
willing to explore any avenue or go to fertility
therapy, that I want a divorce. He broke down
saying he can't believe I would be willing to
walk away from our marriage over this. that if
the shoe was on the other foot, he would never
leave me for being infertile. He says I'm a horrible
person and that I'm punishing him for something
he can't control. I told him it's not for being
infertile, I can work with that, but that it's
because he's refusing to go down any route to
become a parent knowing that's something we both
wanted. He says that I never loved him, otherwise
I would never contemplate divorce over kids that
don't exist yet. He cried about it afterwards
and refused to let me console him. I feel so
horrible. But what else can I do? Continue begging
him to change his mind or speak to a professional?
He only wants bio kids and refuses to do the
surgery because it's too much prep. Daily vitamins,
meds, no hot showers, etc. Am I the a -hole?
I don't know. I think he's being more the a -hole.
Okay, but also, I changed my mind. She needs
to give him time. To like really come to terms
with all this because that's huge how much time
at least a year is there 29 Yeah, at least a
year. I just think she's it's too much for him.
Like you just found this like Terrible news that's
gonna crush him. It doesn't feel like a man.
He doesn't want to do it any other way He needs
time to like come to terms with it before they
do even discuss like adoption or The sperm donor
one I understand that I feel like that would
be really really hard but adoption that's something
where it's like She's definitely compromising
at that point because she's not gonna be able
to like carry the baby and experience that type
of Whatever experience motherhood. Yeah. Oh What
do you think? Well, my first my knee -jerk reaction
was like dude sack up like when we went through
our fertility struggles In my mind, like I was
thinking, okay, fine, let's adopt. Look, I was
like, what, whatever we have to do to start this
process, like, let's do it. Is it not ideal?
Like, right. It's not, it's not necessarily ideal.
It's not what you call for. It's not what you
imagine growing up, but it's also a really good,
positive thing. And so yeah, I get it that it
could take time to come to that conclusion, but
the part that I was missing that the update is
going to point out. is like this is this is squarely
on him like it is it's not like a mystery why
they're not having kids and so there's there's
kind of this big elephant in the room that's
like totally affecting his thought pattern and
and what he's doing so we'll read the update
but before we go on to the update those of you
that are listening go to our socials right now
tell us what you think give your feedback enter
the convo because i want to see i want to hear
it but there's a lot of good a lot of good comments
best of redditor updates is the best place to
deep dive so you can go and read the story yourself
if you'd like to read all of the all the comments
and kind of the feedback that people are giving
a lot of it has to do with like dude sorry but
this guy kind of have to hold a mirror up like
this is something he's gonna have to come to
terms with and the update comes eight months
later so the final judgment is that op with this
desire to be a mother is not the a -hole Oh,
okay. And eight months later, we get an update.
Is she pregnant? Let us find out. Or she's gone
and maybe she's pregnant with the next guy's
kid. That's what I thought. Hello, everyone.
I posted this last year and received so much
amazing feedback that genuinely changed my life.
Since no one in my personal life knew what was
going on, being able to talk about it and get
so much amazing advice was great. A lot of the
people in the comments opened my eyes up to the
possibility that he was refusing the surgery
since that would be the final nail in the coffin.
that if it failed, that would be the end and
that could be the reason he was refusing to do
anything. I took some time after posting that
to do some self -reflection on the whole scenario
and to go at the situation differently. We spoke
about it extensively and I told him about how
I completely understand his fears in not wanting
to do the surgery, but I really want us to try
a fertility therapist and we could just do one
session. It didn't have to be a deep commitment.
He agreed and that therapy session went amazing.
We both spoke separately and then together and
we did five sessions overall. Shout out therapy.
You guys were right. My husband was scared to
try anything because he didn't want it to fail
He was pre rejecting the rejection He opened
up to me about a lot of fears and anxiety about
his diagnosis We deeply connected afterwards
and got even closer as a couple I know shout
out therapy. It's that's that's so good One day
I saw vitamins on his dresser and realized he'd
been taking them without even telling me I was
so happy We did another sperm analysis and they
saw two sperm We were so happy. Then to my complete
and utter surprise, my husband forwards me an
email. He scheduled a consultation for the micro
T surgery in December. It went well and he was
approved for surgery this February. We went in
with low expectations and to still be happy at
the progress he's made, but they were able to
get three sperm. My husband and I were ecstatic
and couldn't stop crying. Everything went well
at his two week checkup. Best ever. Now we're
in the process of IVF. I started taking medication
to do my egg retrieval right after his surgery
and so far I have 12 eggs. Last month we just
found out we have two embryos. Both healthy,
one boy and one girl. Our implantation date for
our daughter was May 1st and I tested positive
a few days ago. We are so so happy. I'm so happy
that we were able to get through this bump in
the road. This has been amazing. I'm so happy
my husband's fear and my sadness to this fear
was something we were able to get over. We have
both extensively apologized to each other, him
for shutting down and wanting to give up, and
me for not being more understanding to the life
-changing news. Thank you guys again for all
the advice you gave me. That was so cute. I love
that story. Is that the best one ever? Yes, that's
probably one of my favorite ones we've ever told
because that just hits so close to home for me.
That's it. Infertility sucks. It sucks so bad.
It feels so hopeless. And it's one thing that's
interesting, but I feel like this story points
out really like poignantly is that for a lot
of women, not all, but for a lot of women, that
desire to have a baby is like, it goes deep.
That maternal instinct is like something that
is just innate in so many women. And so even
though it is hard for us men, it's a totally
different thing. And this kind of pointed that
out. He shut his feelings off. He's like, nope,
this sucks. It's never going to happen. Like,
sorry. and her longing like led her to the point
where she didn't have any other option. She had
to do something else to become a mom. And ultimately
that led to them getting the help that they needed,
the therapy, another therapy success story. Go
to therapy guys. And honestly, we love therapy.
We love everything about it. Big believers. We're
just gonna move on to the next one. And I'm sorry
in advance guys, it's all downhill from here.
Okay, that was a green flag. So this one comes
from Emae the A -hole. Emae the A -hole for breaking
up with my new girlfriend because she said her
past is none of my business. So I recently got
together with my now ex. Things were going good
during the dating stage. Anyways, she introduced
me to some of her friends, including a male friend
of hers. She had other male friends, but this
one in particular made me feel uncomfortable
with how we acted with my new girlfriend. So
I asked my girlfriend if there was any history
between them. My girlfriend then says, that is
none of your business. My past is none of your
business. Honestly, I've been here before. Another
ex I had did this BS and cheated on me. So I
told her we were done right then and there. I
don't think she expected me to actually break
up with her then. She followed me to my car and
said, we can talk about this. But I told her
no. If she's going to be like that, it's better
if we are together. I'll be honest, I kind of
forced myself to act like I didn't care and can
walk away like nothing. Like, I'm not hurting
because I broke up, but I am. I have so many
thoughts. So many thoughts. First of all, to
address her. Yeah. Massive red flag. Like, what
do you guys think? If you start a new relationship
and you're in a group setting and all of a sudden
there's this weird chemistry between like your
now girlfriend and somebody else, you'd kind
of be like, hmm. I'm not a jealous person by
nature. So like, this is like on a spectrum,
right? People have different feelings on this
kind of stuff, but if you're aware of it, if
something feels off and you can't even ask about
it. I mean, he's like, hey, do you guys, like
have you guys dated before? And who knows? Like
I'm thinking in a worst case scenario, if OP
was like the super controlling type and like
really jealous type, then I could see her being
like, I don't want to go down. this road. Like,
I don't want to go and discuss all this stuff
just for you to be like worried about everything.
But he doesn't sound that way in the way that
he wrote the post, I feel like a little context
is missing. But either way, you should be able
to openly discuss your past relationships, especially
if they're still in your life, you're still in
that circle 1000%. Yeah, no, I whether he's controlling
or not, I feel like there is no reason at all.
that you should not disclose that no and for
different contexts we come from a very different
background a different whole thing like imagine
being our age now and you're living in some big
city and you have these big circles of friends
like you're gonna run into people that have been
with other people like it's it's a foreign concept
to us because we got married very young and like
for instance i didn't have a circle when i came
here yeah so it's just a if you get to be older
and you're dating and you live in this area,
like you have lots of mutuals, I could just see
it being a little bit more complicated is the
way that I would put it. The problem though is
that she wasn't willing to say, oh yeah, like
we dated or oh yeah, we hooked up or whatever.
It was like none of your business. And he's sitting
here like, okay, well, there's clearly a chemistry,
like I'm not stupid. It's not like. there's something
here. So did you guys used to date? Like, why
are you guys so chummy? Yeah, no. And that's
I agree. That is a massive red flag. Yeah, it's
you should be able to express it. I just was
making space for the fact that it could be more
complicated than just like, hey, like, yeah,
I don't I didn't know your ex. So like, why would
be fine? You could tell me anything about your
guys's relationship. It's not going to affect
our relationship. But yeah, it's like they If
they are friends, they've been in the same circles
or whatever. And like it could totally change
things if he was just like, we are never seeing
him again. You dated him. So we're never going
to be around him again. Then I could see her
being like, OK, well, that sucks. I'm going to
lose like my group. Yeah, that kind of thing.
But regardless, it's I'm still on OP side when
it comes to like, that's not chill. Yeah. And
I love I love that he's like, all right, I know
I know what I need to know now. I come out. I
love that he just dumped her right then and there.
This girl sounded like a freaking pompous little
bit. Whoa, sorry about that. I stopped myself.
You should put this in your mouth. How about
pompous little unicorn? Much better. No, but
it takes a level of maybe just self -esteem.
It takes a lot to be in the beginning stages
of relationship and be like, okay. That's enough
of a red flag for me to be like, nah, I'm good.
And to each their own on whether or not that
is, if that calls for breaking up. I just think
if you can't be open with your partner, especially
from the beginning, like what do you have? One
of the comments on here, it said from throw the
cloud away 20, says OP isn't really concerned
about their past. He's worried about the potential
present or future. Yeah. Yeah. And I thought
that was kind of funny because when I read that,
I also thought about The girlfriend she's not
so much worried about like the past and having
to tell him about it He's worried that once she
tells him then the present or future is gonna
have to change Because if she was hooking up
with him, it's not like he's gonna be cool with
them all hanging out like you said or Yeah, I
mean and everyone's different with that kind
of stuff. Truly everyone has different levels
of like what they are comfortable with but starting
out with lying Doesn't work or starting out with
concealing the truth does not work for the long
term. Yeah, for sure. And something, it's like
she was, she was point blank withholding information.
It's none of your business who I've dated. It's
like, okay, well, if you have dated this guy
and you want to still hang out, let's start out
by you explaining what the nature of your relationship
was. And like, I'm not saying that you're gonna
have to destroy your friend group. Let's just,
let's just be open with each other. If you guys
did date, that is fine. because you had a past
before we got together were yeah in our late
20s early 30s yes you've dated other people and
also just be respectful like when we're all together
i don't want to be looking at you guys being
like wow they have so much chemistry together
you're not thinking that unless they're actually
like actively well and he didn't even say that
but having a good old times i said i said the
chemistry part but yes oh he didn't no he didn't
say anything about chemistry he just said that
one of the one of the guys like he noticed Made
me feel uncomfortable with how he acted with
my new girlfriend. Yeah Hmm. Yeah wonder what
that was. Yeah. Well, that's my story Red flag
beige flag green flag. Oh major red. Yeah major
red flag. Okay. Yeah. No, there's no question.
It's Open or bust this one comes from am I the
asshole? Am I the asshole for telling my daughter
that her mom cheated on me? When my daughter
said my new girlfriend looks like an only -pants
chick throwaway account and fake names I 49 M
got divorced from my wife Emily 49 F because
she cheated on me with multiple men we have a
son and a daughter our son 22 M has always been
closer to his mom and our daughter 19 F has always
been closer to me not knowing why we got divorced
the kids took their mom's side I recently started
dating Lisa 54 F she has a fun personality she's
smoking hot and she dresses very fun When I introduced
Lisa to my kids, Nick took a liking to, oh, sorry,
Nick is the boy, Skylar is the girl. When I introduced
Lisa to my kids, Nick took a liking to her while
Skylar looked annoyed. Days later, Skylar said
that Lisa looks like an OnlyFans chick. If you
knew Skylar, you would be shocked that she would
use that as a way to insult another woman. I
told her that her mom, Emily, was the one who
cheated on me, and that I met Lisa after the
divorce. Skylar just said, oh, and she got quiet.
But the next day, my wife Emily confronted me.
I reminded her that I never promised to keep
her cheating a secret. She said that I implied
that it would be a secret based on the fact that
I never said whether or not I would tell our
kids. Am I the asshole? Yes. Really? Yeah, I
think he's the asshole because he obviously had
never told the kids that the mom cheated. And
he just like, there's a reason why. And then
he just like popped off and was like, you think
my girlfriend's an OnlyFans chick? Well, your
mom cheated on me. So who's the OnlyFans chick
now? And the sister just being like, the daughter
being like, ouch, that hurt. Like, that's just
so, like that was asshole behavior. It was not
illogically, like it just was not emotionally
mature at all to respond that way. That is, that's
fair. that is fair to say he could have handled
the situation way better but also like what a
crazy life that this mom lives where the kids
take her side she cheated on dad yet the kids
still support her and dad's just like believe
what you want kids tear my heart out stomp it
on the ground but i'm gonna keep your mom's secret
for some reason yeah you shouldn't he doesn't
need to keep the secret it's just the way he
went about finally telling what it was. Yeah,
he could have done it in much better terms. But
also, he mentions being surprised because his
daughter is not the type that would say something
like that. So it was like a lashing out behavior
from her that he was just like, Whoa, they probably
thought the mom was telling her that. Yeah, exactly.
There'd be like that retaliation of like, well,
hold on a second. Yeah. And so there is an edit.
It's a short one. And it's kind of all over the
place. But we'll still read it. Something of
an update since I posted Even though my daughter
is in her bedroom in my house, I messaged her
because she said she doesn't want to see anymore.
This is where it gets weird. It says she doesn't
want to see anymore. I thought maybe he meant
see me. But then contextually, that doesn't make
a whole lot of sense. So it then goes on to say
she sent me a very, very long message she had
written beforehand. In the message, my daughter
admitted that her mom and her maternal aunt said
those kinds of things about Lisa. So the mom
and her sister are are hating on dad's new girlfriend.
Which like get a life dude you cheated on this
guy let him move on and yeah It's your family
get together on Sunday night. Like that's the
least of your worries. Yeah move on Unless she
really is like not a great influence for the
kids. It doesn't matter at that point No, well,
let's talk about influence. She cheated on dad
multiple times and that's just a secret Yeah,
she said she's embarrassed as she repeated those
awful things. She said that she thought that
I was the one who cheated on her mom She said
she thought I had cheated on her mom with Lisa.
She said she's not mad at me. She said that she's
mad at her mom. She said Lisa seems like a wonderful
woman and that she wants to talk about this face
to face but not anytime soon. She said she'll
tell me when she's up to talking about it face
to face when she thinks she can do it without
crying. So the daughter's banged up here. The
daughter is like, she's feeling bad because she
regurgitated the crap that mom said and then
she comes to find out that. The reason her parents
got divorced was because of mom And so and I
mean she's dad was cheating Yep with his new
girlfriend lisa the only fans girl. That's not
an only fans girl and she's just fun She just
she just is 54 and single and smoking hot dating
but yeah, I was like, wow, that's uh, that's
Unfortunate for this young girl. She's 19 So
it's like she's old enough to You know to know
the truth. Yeah, but young enough to maybe not
be able to process it very well on her own That
would rock her world. That's so sad and Yeah,
the big major a holes in the story in my opinion
are the mom and the aunt the mom just because
of the whole story Like I I don't know. What
do you guys think? I want it. I want your feedback
on if you've either been through a divorce where
there was Yeah infidelity or just what your perspective
is on it. Like, if I tried to put myself in that
situation, if our kids were that old, at some
point, I feel like we would probably have a conversation
with them together about why our relationship's
not gonna work. They're old enough to be like,
hey, look, and people make mistakes. Like, whether
it was me or you, like, let's just say hypothetically,
I'm in OP shoes. If you had cheated, be like,
look, this doesn't make your mom a bad person.
It just shows that we have differences. And there's
like this is something our lives are all going
to change. But you guys are old enough now to
be included in this. We want to support you with
your feelings, whatever the case may be. But
not not shielding them, not letting them just
come up with their own ideas. Right. That's like
a big no, no, for sure. And yes, the mom just
has no problem. She's like, you know, maybe her
flavor of the week has changed. Maybe she's not
dating anybody anymore. So she's just she's just
mad that she doesn't have her old husband. Oh,
yeah. She's so salty. She still loves him for
sure. That's she messed up. Oh, my gosh. That's
a crazy story. I feel really bad for the daughter.
Poor daughter. Am I being a hole for flipping
out after I found out my boyfriend was giving
our leftovers to his ex. So my boyfriend and
I have been living together for like eight months
now. He's honestly been amazing in a lot of ways.
Super thoughtful, super chill, very like emotionally
mature. Like, he's the kind of guy who insists
on doing the dishes every night after we cook,
and I remember thinking, wow, that's such a green
flag. Love a man who handles his business, you
know? Anyway, a few nights ago, I come home early
from work. Surprise! I was gonna bring a matcha
and just like, bye. And I walk in right as he's
packing up our leftover pasta into a Tupperware.
Which is whatever, we always save leftovers.
But then I see him like, stuffing it into his
backpack. So I'm like, um, where is that going?
and he freezes, looks at me like I just caught
him smuggling diamonds. After some awkward mumbling,
he goes, I didn't want to tell you because I
knew you'd overreact, but I've been bringing
our leftovers to Natalie. Natalie? His ex? I'm
sorry, what? He says she's been going through
it lately. Apparently money's tight and she misses
his cooking and he just wants to make sure she
eats. like he's acting like he's the food security
department of LA or something I literally stared
at him and was like you're feeding your ex out
of our fridge with food I literally helped cook
and he goes babe you're blowing this way out
of proportion it's not like I'm sleeping with
her I'm just making sure she's okay so I kind
of lose it like not screaming or anything but
I told him it was wildly disrespectful secretive
and honestly super weird he got all defensive
and said I'm being selfish and uncompassionate
and not Just because someone's an ex doesn't
mean they don't deserve help. Now he's mad at
me for making it about me and says it's just
food and I should be proud he's not like other
guys who ghost their exes. Am I the a -hole for
feeling totally violated by this or like am I
being dramatic? What in the hell? What in the?
I don't even know how to react to that. Like
who is this guy? I have so many questions. I
have so many concerns. He is still so in love
with her. Like he's either, yes, either still
has feelings for, I don't know. Is it because
if he's not cheating on her, is he literally
just like showing up to her doorstep and placing
Tupperware on the doorstep and then dipping?
Honey, he is 1000 % in love with her. And if
he's not sleeping with her now, he will very,
very soon. It is such a wild concept for him
to say like she just kind of misses my cooking
Why are you talking to her so is he she missing
your cooking or is she going through our time
and she has no money that she can't feed herself
well and like if it's if it is just falling on
hard times like there's there's a world where
People in adult relationships, maybe there's
like not boundaries being crossed if he's just
looking out for her if they're still Contact
and like she's going through a hard time. It's
whatever Sneaking it into a backpack sneak in
the leftovers. Like I'm sorry sneaking is never
the answer never So she's being like, oh like
I'm gonna she freaking loves my spaghetti Like
she's gonna be so stoked on this since she can't
buy her own meals That's it's freaking weird.
It's bizarre. I think this is 1000 % a red flag
And yeah, maybe he is just a really really good
guy just looking out for people, but I don't
see him delivering meals for the homeless Well,
you know, maybe he does that on the weekends.
No, he doesn't Maybe not busy with Natalie. I
mean that's that's frowned upon in general Don't
sneak around if you're gonna do something nice
for somebody maybe include your significant other
And if they're not comfortable with it, then
they're not comfortable with it. Right. Boundaries
are boundaries. You kind of have to respect them,
even if you don't like them. No, you have to.
That's a crazy one. That gets me riled up. Something
to be said about the fact that he has his stuff
together enough to be cooking every night. True.
And cleaning up afterwards, too. That's rare.
Would you trade that for dropping off food at
the... The ex -girlfriend's house hell no, so
you'd rather cook every night clean it all up
every night Yeah, I would dump him so fast like
stop feeding your ex Hey, well, that's my story
Wow Yeah, he's the a -hole for sure yeah, he
is I don't think she's the a -hole I think that
she has every reason to be like why is he talking
to her? and she needs to go on his phone and
look at literally every little thing because
there's no way they don't still have something
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