WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.600 Welcome back to internet frenzy. Welcome back 00:00:02.600 --> 00:00:05.559 guys. What's up frenzy gang? What's good? What's 00:00:05.559 --> 00:00:07.759 happening? Today's kind of a big deal. I don't 00:00:07.759 --> 00:00:11.839 think a today's a Almost the most important day 00:00:11.839 --> 00:00:14.019 my break days next week. So that's more important. 00:00:14.240 --> 00:00:18.519 But today is pretty important What is today today's 00:00:18.519 --> 00:00:22.559 Mother's Day? And I'm a mom. That's a big deal. 00:00:22.559 --> 00:00:25.620 It's a huge deal Well before we get into the 00:00:25.620 --> 00:00:29.789 episode this week. Yeah Let's uh, let's recap 00:00:29.789 --> 00:00:33.929 the fake from last week. Oh, I'm so excited to 00:00:33.929 --> 00:00:36.890 tell you guys. Wait, what are you doing? Get 00:00:36.890 --> 00:00:48.310 cozy. What? Wait, this is actually kind of nice. 00:00:49.670 --> 00:00:53.729 This is heavy material, by the way. This is not 00:00:53.729 --> 00:00:56.799 the cheap stuff, you guys. This is like. Super 00:00:56.799 --> 00:01:01.740 thick, I have a concussion. Oh my gosh, look 00:01:01.740 --> 00:01:04.260 how stretchy this is. Okay, for those on the 00:01:04.260 --> 00:01:07.099 podcast listening, Joe just gave through, chucked 00:01:07.099 --> 00:01:10.379 at my face, a Cozy's blanket. If you have never 00:01:10.379 --> 00:01:13.700 heard of them, go to their website. I'm telling 00:01:13.700 --> 00:01:16.180 you, we not only have the blanket here to show 00:01:16.180 --> 00:01:19.599 you, we also are wearing their pajamas and they 00:01:19.599 --> 00:01:23.790 are so soft and cozy and breathable. They're 00:01:23.790 --> 00:01:27.430 perfect for Arizona girlies and men. Joe is also 00:01:27.430 --> 00:01:29.530 repping the pants. She had to wake me up from 00:01:29.530 --> 00:01:32.290 a big fat nap in these things to even do the 00:01:32.290 --> 00:01:35.890 podcast. These are so comfy. So true. Big shouts 00:01:35.890 --> 00:01:38.930 to Cozy's. You guys go buy some stuff. Go get 00:01:38.930 --> 00:01:41.469 yourself cozied up. Pretty cool thing with Cozy's. 00:01:41.469 --> 00:01:44.609 They sent us this little care package here and 00:01:44.609 --> 00:01:48.230 in it they had a note. It had their story and 00:01:48.230 --> 00:01:50.530 they detail. So if you order from them, you would 00:01:50.530 --> 00:01:52.780 receive this too. the detail that they struggled 00:01:52.780 --> 00:01:55.000 with infertility. That's something that hits 00:01:55.000 --> 00:01:57.459 particularly close to home for us. We have friends 00:01:57.459 --> 00:01:59.640 that are going through it right now and just 00:01:59.640 --> 00:02:02.980 a really just a tender spot for us. So it's pretty 00:02:02.980 --> 00:02:05.219 cool there. They talk about how that's where 00:02:05.219 --> 00:02:07.739 their journey started was to kind of support 00:02:07.739 --> 00:02:10.780 their IVF journey. They started making these 00:02:10.780 --> 00:02:13.400 products and they are next level products. They're 00:02:13.400 --> 00:02:17.330 super comfy. Just a brand that we love. the support 00:02:17.330 --> 00:02:20.229 because stuff sucks to go through. I definitely 00:02:20.229 --> 00:02:23.409 felt like when I read this, I got a little emotional 00:02:23.409 --> 00:02:25.349 because it definitely hits close to home. We 00:02:25.349 --> 00:02:27.229 dealt with infertility for two and a half years, 00:02:27.250 --> 00:02:30.490 and it was so isolating, so hard. I love that 00:02:30.490 --> 00:02:32.370 they're going through one of the hardest things 00:02:32.370 --> 00:02:35.569 you can go through at the time. Yeah. However 00:02:35.569 --> 00:02:38.569 that transpired for them, they wanted to create 00:02:38.569 --> 00:02:42.389 something to provide comfort. Yeah. They do just 00:02:42.389 --> 00:02:44.500 that. these are awesome anyways if you're listening 00:02:44.500 --> 00:02:46.919 on the pod go check our youtuber or social media 00:02:46.919 --> 00:02:49.560 and you can see what they look like but it's 00:02:49.560 --> 00:02:51.759 beautiful it's so high quality you're not going 00:02:51.759 --> 00:02:54.039 to find anything better or more comfy than these 00:02:54.039 --> 00:02:56.919 that's right i love this brand last week was 00:02:56.919 --> 00:03:00.780 celebrity time you remember yeah you you might 00:03:00.780 --> 00:03:03.000 not remember all the stories because we did 150 00:03:03.000 --> 00:03:05.139 000 of them but they were fun here's a quick 00:03:05.139 --> 00:03:08.599 quick overview so we had We started the podcast 00:03:08.599 --> 00:03:11.620 with your most painfully cringy moment of your 00:03:11.620 --> 00:03:15.719 entire life with SOMO. Was that true? Yeah, that 00:03:15.719 --> 00:03:18.539 is 100 % true. That actually happened. Yeah, 00:03:18.539 --> 00:03:22.280 thank you. He probably would remember too. Oh, 00:03:22.439 --> 00:03:25.060 he probably does. He's like, oh, Arizona. I don't 00:03:25.060 --> 00:03:27.419 know if I want to go back there. Probably hasn't 00:03:27.419 --> 00:03:31.199 been back since. You'd probably know. Yeah. That'd 00:03:31.199 --> 00:03:33.219 make you feel some type of way if you came back. 00:03:36.480 --> 00:03:39.900 You got me there, oh my god. Got ya. Then we 00:03:39.900 --> 00:03:42.800 have Adam Sandler, the contractor at Adam Sandler's 00:03:42.800 --> 00:03:45.759 house. True or fake? True. That's right, that 00:03:45.759 --> 00:03:48.939 really happened. Then we have Abby Lee Miller 00:03:48.939 --> 00:03:51.840 in the movie theater, remember that one? Yeah, 00:03:51.919 --> 00:03:54.319 true. Cursed the girls with diarrhea? We don't 00:03:54.319 --> 00:03:55.879 know for sure. She obviously shouldn't really 00:03:55.879 --> 00:03:57.979 curse them, but that was a real story, real post. 00:03:58.620 --> 00:04:01.020 That's embarrassing, she posted that. And we 00:04:01.020 --> 00:04:03.500 have Justin Timberlake and Jessica Beale keeping 00:04:03.500 --> 00:04:05.979 a low key at the Grizzlies game. It's obviously 00:04:05.979 --> 00:04:10.400 real. Obviously. Obviously. We had my experience 00:04:10.400 --> 00:04:12.419 with Donovan and McNabb. That was pretty embarrassing 00:04:12.419 --> 00:04:16.579 and real. Then we had Kris Jenner checking the 00:04:16.579 --> 00:04:20.800 vibes. Fake. Big fake. Big fake. I would love 00:04:20.800 --> 00:04:23.220 to know if you guys listening, if you guys picked 00:04:23.220 --> 00:04:24.920 that out or if you thought something different, 00:04:25.000 --> 00:04:27.360 let us know on the socials. That was the fake. 00:04:27.420 --> 00:04:30.040 Then we had the Elon Musk story. Really short, 00:04:30.540 --> 00:04:32.740 fun one. Apparently that happened according to 00:04:32.740 --> 00:04:35.290 Reddit. And then Action Kutcher, the murder thing 00:04:35.290 --> 00:04:37.389 that happened. Yes. I had a few people message 00:04:37.389 --> 00:04:39.290 me screenshots because they were like, I had 00:04:39.290 --> 00:04:41.850 to go look to see if this one was real. Super 00:04:41.850 --> 00:04:43.649 real. And so they went and looked and it was 00:04:43.649 --> 00:04:47.149 real. That is a fact. So it was kind of a fun 00:04:47.149 --> 00:04:49.410 episode, something different. But this week, 00:04:49.870 --> 00:04:54.129 we're going to get back to the basics. Lots of 00:04:54.129 --> 00:04:57.029 M .I .B .A. hole with some other stuff maybe 00:04:57.029 --> 00:05:00.029 mixed in there. Love. So the title for this week 00:05:00.029 --> 00:05:04.930 is Whose Mom is the A .H.? I'm ready. Are you? 00:05:05.230 --> 00:05:07.689 Perfect for Mother's Day. Perfect for Mother's 00:05:07.689 --> 00:05:09.970 Day. We could just be like singing all the mom's 00:05:09.970 --> 00:05:12.069 praises. That's what you all deserve. You all 00:05:12.069 --> 00:05:15.310 deal with a lot. But instead we're gonna find 00:05:15.310 --> 00:05:18.470 the times where maybe we're not so proud. Fair. 00:05:19.649 --> 00:05:22.649 Alright, can I start? Yes, please start. Dibs 00:05:22.649 --> 00:05:45.129 first. This one comes from Rant, from the subreddit 00:05:45.129 --> 00:05:47.930 Rant. He got me flowers and a card for Mother's 00:05:47.930 --> 00:05:49.910 Day and I still feel like crap. I'm not trying 00:05:49.910 --> 00:05:51.949 to be that wife, but seriously, I've been sitting 00:05:51.949 --> 00:05:54.990 with this all day and I need to vent. I, 24F, 00:05:55.050 --> 00:05:57.310 have been married to my husband, 26M, for two 00:05:57.310 --> 00:05:59.610 years. We're not trying for kids yet, probably 00:05:59.610 --> 00:06:01.889 not for another couple years, but I still thought 00:06:01.889 --> 00:06:04.410 Mother's Day would be a thing. I'm a dog mom. 00:06:04.589 --> 00:06:06.490 I do all the emotional labor in our household. 00:06:06.649 --> 00:06:08.910 I keep his life on track. So yeah, I thought 00:06:08.910 --> 00:06:10.810 maybe he'd want to make me feel special today. 00:06:11.050 --> 00:06:13.430 Instead, I got a last minute bouquet from the 00:06:13.430 --> 00:06:15.649 grocery store. Still had the price sticker on 00:06:15.649 --> 00:06:18.709 it, LOL. And a Hallmark card with some generic, 00:06:18.930 --> 00:06:21.230 you're going to be a great mom someday message 00:06:21.230 --> 00:06:24.329 inside. That's it. No breakfast in bed, no little 00:06:24.329 --> 00:06:27.490 gift, not even coffee. I had to ask her to unload 00:06:27.490 --> 00:06:30.420 the dishwasher because I was being moody. I know 00:06:30.420 --> 00:06:32.259 some of you are gonna say, he got you flowers 00:06:32.259 --> 00:06:35.259 in a car, what more do you want? But like, I 00:06:35.259 --> 00:06:37.899 always go above and beyond for him. For Valentine's 00:06:37.899 --> 00:06:39.980 Day, I made a whole scavenger hunt with inside 00:06:39.980 --> 00:06:43.120 jokes, his favorite snacks, and a message at 00:06:43.120 --> 00:06:45.160 the end. For his birthday, I booked a weekend 00:06:45.160 --> 00:06:47.860 trip and handled everything. Meanwhile, I get 00:06:47.860 --> 00:06:50.319 daisies from Safeway and a half -hearted, you'll 00:06:50.319 --> 00:06:53.800 be a great mom one day. That's cool. It's not 00:06:53.800 --> 00:06:56.560 even just about today, it's like, he never thinks. 00:06:56.920 --> 00:06:59.079 I told him a week ago that Mother's Day was kind 00:06:59.079 --> 00:07:01.399 of hard for me because my mom and I are estranged 00:07:01.399 --> 00:07:03.939 and I wanted to feel a little love. He nodded, 00:07:03.980 --> 00:07:06.560 said he understood. Then today rolls around and 00:07:06.560 --> 00:07:09.980 it's like bare minimum vibes. Also, I'm sorry, 00:07:10.199 --> 00:07:12.060 but is it that hard to listen when I say I like 00:07:12.060 --> 00:07:14.839 lavender and punies? I've told him a dozen times, 00:07:14.980 --> 00:07:16.959 but he always just grabs whatever bouquet is 00:07:16.959 --> 00:07:19.699 cheapest or closest. It's not the money. I don't 00:07:19.699 --> 00:07:23.430 need luxury, but like effort. Anyway, he's now 00:07:23.430 --> 00:07:26.050 sulking because I wasn't grateful and I'm the 00:07:26.050 --> 00:07:28.069 bad guy because I said this just made me feel 00:07:28.069 --> 00:07:30.370 forgotten. I'm tired of being the one who has 00:07:30.370 --> 00:07:32.550 to make everything special. It's exhausting. 00:07:33.310 --> 00:07:35.370 Whatever. Happy Mother's Day to all the moms 00:07:35.370 --> 00:07:38.069 and almost moms out there. Some of us are just 00:07:38.069 --> 00:07:40.810 out here emotionally mothering grown men, I guess. 00:07:43.529 --> 00:07:47.990 I think he's the asshole. Really? Yeah, he didn't 00:07:47.990 --> 00:07:50.649 even write in the card. No, I think he did. I 00:07:50.649 --> 00:07:53.279 think he wrote. That you're gonna be a great 00:07:53.279 --> 00:07:55.779 mom someday. Oh, she can't really tell but yeah, 00:07:56.139 --> 00:07:59.800 it sounded like he just gave her one that already 00:07:59.800 --> 00:08:03.639 had something in it then that was it and Then 00:08:03.639 --> 00:08:06.399 flowers that she's new light. She's also not 00:08:06.399 --> 00:08:10.319 a mom So I wasn't a mom for many years and it 00:08:10.319 --> 00:08:13.319 was really hard and she already has mommy issues 00:08:13.319 --> 00:08:16.100 So it's already a harder day. So the fact that 00:08:16.100 --> 00:08:18.279 she has mommy issues is understandable. Like 00:08:18.279 --> 00:08:21.420 that would make it more difficult for sure, but 00:08:21.420 --> 00:08:23.279 she didn't say that she's trying for kids. She 00:08:23.279 --> 00:08:25.180 said they're waiting a couple years. Yeah, but 00:08:25.180 --> 00:08:27.279 when you don't want children Mother's Day, you're 00:08:27.279 --> 00:08:29.680 celebrating your mom. And so like growing up, 00:08:29.720 --> 00:08:32.179 that's all I thought about was like my mom celebrating 00:08:32.179 --> 00:08:35.639 her. Yeah. And then when I did start to try to 00:08:35.639 --> 00:08:38.639 have kids, that's when I became like sad because 00:08:38.639 --> 00:08:42.019 the Mother's Days were depressing because I wasn't 00:08:42.019 --> 00:08:45.899 a mom yet. Especially she communicated with him 00:08:45.899 --> 00:08:49.299 what she wanted and he still didn't do it. I 00:08:49.299 --> 00:08:52.059 think the breakfast in bed, like, she doesn't 00:08:52.059 --> 00:08:54.659 need to get that, but you should have put more 00:08:54.659 --> 00:08:57.139 thought into it. And if she's told him, these 00:08:57.139 --> 00:08:59.159 are my favorite flowers, and this is what I want, 00:08:59.419 --> 00:09:05.159 go get her what she wants. Like, some of us don't 00:09:05.159 --> 00:09:09.019 know different types of flowers. There's workers 00:09:09.019 --> 00:09:12.360 that do. Like, when I go to Trader Joe's, I'm 00:09:12.360 --> 00:09:16.600 not like, hey, where's the punies? But you know 00:09:16.600 --> 00:09:20.330 what calls are. I might know them if I saw them. 00:09:20.330 --> 00:09:22.669 Really? Depending on what they are by title. 00:09:23.009 --> 00:09:25.429 Joe got me flowers. They're the ones on the left. 00:09:25.830 --> 00:09:28.370 He did. Snow white colors. That was so cute. 00:09:29.110 --> 00:09:31.110 Our daughter is obsessed with snow white. Here's 00:09:31.110 --> 00:09:33.149 the thing. Okay, so Joe got me flowers. They're 00:09:33.149 --> 00:09:36.990 red and yellow with some like white, what are 00:09:36.990 --> 00:09:38.750 those flowers called? I don't know. It shows 00:09:38.750 --> 00:09:40.830 me and I'm like, oh my gosh, snow white colors. 00:09:40.929 --> 00:09:43.710 He was like, what? No, these are Mother's Day 00:09:43.710 --> 00:09:46.690 colors. I'm like, what? I didn't know Mother's 00:09:46.690 --> 00:09:51.470 Day colors were red and yellow. I mean, that's 00:09:51.470 --> 00:09:55.129 in my mind. If you were looking at a calendar 00:09:55.129 --> 00:09:59.450 of all the months of the year and it was color 00:09:59.450 --> 00:10:01.789 coordinated, like they used to do in school, 00:10:02.289 --> 00:10:07.070 May is going to be red. No. Or yellow. Yeah. 00:10:07.509 --> 00:10:11.269 Ask anyone. Like a dark red like those. I swear. 00:10:11.970 --> 00:10:14.480 If I'm wrong about this. Really? And I'll admit 00:10:14.480 --> 00:10:17.539 that I was wrong. But I feel like May is like 00:10:17.539 --> 00:10:20.860 a reddish month. April is like light pink. Yeah, 00:10:20.879 --> 00:10:24.240 it's always like pastel. June is blue. Really? 00:10:24.519 --> 00:10:27.559 Yep. And then July is like darker blue, maybe. 00:10:27.980 --> 00:10:29.840 I don't know. Maybe this was just one calendar 00:10:29.840 --> 00:10:32.120 I had one time when I was a kid, but it's like 00:10:32.120 --> 00:10:35.139 it's in there. Wow. And you say Snow White colors. 00:10:35.480 --> 00:10:38.360 Snow White's dress. Is it blue? Is all blue. 00:10:38.379 --> 00:10:40.480 And it has like accents that are red and yellow. 00:10:40.820 --> 00:10:43.830 Stop. Okay, but there is red and yellow on there. 00:10:43.970 --> 00:10:45.950 Yeah, but that's like, look, that's Mother's 00:10:45.950 --> 00:10:48.129 Day. Oh, well, I would love to hear you guys' 00:10:48.230 --> 00:10:49.909 thoughts on that. You didn't tell them what else 00:10:49.909 --> 00:10:52.970 you said. What'd I say? You said, oh, you didn't 00:10:52.970 --> 00:10:57.490 give me a bouquet? I was just surprised the church 00:10:57.490 --> 00:11:00.250 was having them already made. So you handed me 00:11:00.250 --> 00:11:02.850 three different bags and I'm like, oh, I got 00:11:02.850 --> 00:11:06.750 to assemble it now. I just was confused. I'm 00:11:06.750 --> 00:11:08.129 surprised you didn't just get a bouquet. It's 00:11:08.129 --> 00:11:09.889 cheaper. That's like literally what I thought. 00:11:10.029 --> 00:11:12.190 Yeah, they were, they were just out. Yeah. They 00:11:12.190 --> 00:11:15.009 were out of the bouquets. Yes, last minute. The 00:11:15.009 --> 00:11:19.129 individual ones. I'm like, hmm, grabbing different 00:11:19.129 --> 00:11:21.230 ones. I'm like, oh, this would look sick. Not, 00:11:21.230 --> 00:11:24.870 not thoughtless. No, of course not. Well, thank 00:11:24.870 --> 00:11:28.470 you for my Mother's Day flowers. You're welcome. 00:11:28.649 --> 00:11:30.830 We got them on the way home from your Mother's 00:11:30.830 --> 00:11:33.190 Day photoshoot. Yeah, we took a photo shoot last 00:11:33.190 --> 00:11:35.169 night. It was so fun. Okay, so here's a comment. 00:11:35.330 --> 00:11:37.679 Okay. So wait, you're mad he got you flowers 00:11:37.679 --> 00:11:39.919 and a card for a day that's not really for you 00:11:39.919 --> 00:11:42.720 yet? Like, yeah, maybe it wasn't perfect, but 00:11:42.720 --> 00:11:44.759 he did do something. This kind of just sounds 00:11:44.759 --> 00:11:47.620 like you're mad no matter what he does. IDK, 00:11:47.720 --> 00:11:49.879 it's giving nothing is ever good enough vibes. 00:11:50.379 --> 00:11:53.820 I disagree. That's crazy. I just know a woman 00:11:53.820 --> 00:11:58.620 and I just feel like she has expressed what she 00:11:58.620 --> 00:12:01.000 needs from him and wants from him. I just can 00:12:01.000 --> 00:12:05.950 feel it. And he's still not giving. And so that's 00:12:05.950 --> 00:12:08.090 frustrating. So yeah, you might lash out and 00:12:08.090 --> 00:12:09.889 be like, oh my gosh, she only got me one drink 00:12:09.889 --> 00:12:12.090 when I literally asked him yesterday for two. 00:12:12.909 --> 00:12:16.330 It's like, very well you asked. Or we didn't 00:12:16.330 --> 00:12:20.830 ask and you still pulled us anyway. Here's somebody 00:12:20.830 --> 00:12:24.429 that was supporting her request. Maybe more voices 00:12:24.429 --> 00:12:27.970 to echo you. I know the people that listen to 00:12:27.970 --> 00:12:29.549 our podcast, they're all going to be supporting 00:12:29.549 --> 00:12:32.190 you, so that's fine. You think so? I don't think 00:12:32.190 --> 00:12:34.230 so. I think most of them. I feel like I might 00:12:34.230 --> 00:12:37.570 be the odd man out here. Doubt it. So somebody 00:12:37.570 --> 00:12:39.809 else said, nah, I get it. It's not about the 00:12:39.809 --> 00:12:41.909 flowers. It's about the thought. Like, yeah, 00:12:41.909 --> 00:12:43.950 he checked the box. But if you've told him lavender 00:12:43.950 --> 00:12:46.129 is your fave and he's out here grabbing daisies 00:12:46.129 --> 00:12:48.049 with the price tag still on it, it just screams, 00:12:48.669 --> 00:12:51.029 I remembered this 12 minutes ago. Yeah. You're 00:12:51.029 --> 00:12:53.070 not ungrateful. You're just tired of carrying 00:12:53.070 --> 00:12:57.730 the mental load. Box. It's so true, though. Do 00:12:57.730 --> 00:13:01.330 we all experience this? Yeah, apparently. Gosh, 00:13:01.330 --> 00:13:03.779 I didn't get the fricking bouquet. Okay, I'm 00:13:03.779 --> 00:13:06.120 sorry you had to assemble the flowers yourself. 00:13:06.659 --> 00:13:09.700 It's okay. No, I just didn't get breakfast in 00:13:09.700 --> 00:13:12.100 bed. Well, and that's because every time I make 00:13:12.100 --> 00:13:17.039 you breakfast, it just gets cold. In bed? Well, 00:13:17.039 --> 00:13:18.700 I don't bring it up to your bed because I don't 00:13:18.700 --> 00:13:20.440 know when you're going to wake up. It's like 00:13:20.440 --> 00:13:22.960 I'm cooking breakfast at 8 a .m. and you're like, 00:13:22.980 --> 00:13:26.080 I wanted to wake up at 10. Okay, well. Am I the 00:13:26.080 --> 00:13:28.259 asshole for telling my husband what his mother 00:13:28.259 --> 00:13:30.909 has been doing? So yesterday was Mother's Day 00:13:30.909 --> 00:13:34.210 in Sweden and it was my first ever Mother Mother's 00:13:34.210 --> 00:13:36.750 Day. My daughter just turned one week this Saturday 00:13:36.750 --> 00:13:38.629 and unfortunately my husband worked this Sunday 00:13:38.629 --> 00:13:41.029 so his mother texted me telling me she would 00:13:41.029 --> 00:13:43.129 love to come over and help me to get the house 00:13:43.129 --> 00:13:45.789 in order and cook some food. I told her that 00:13:45.789 --> 00:13:48.350 she didn't have to but she insisted and I told 00:13:48.350 --> 00:13:51.750 her that I was so grateful. So she came around 00:13:51.750 --> 00:13:53.789 seven in the morning and immediately talked about 00:13:53.789 --> 00:13:56.370 how messy it was and that we would have to do 00:13:56.370 --> 00:13:58.879 something about it. I said that I know, and I 00:13:58.879 --> 00:14:02.179 was again so thankful that she came. She said 00:14:02.179 --> 00:14:03.899 that it was the least she could do and asked 00:14:03.899 --> 00:14:05.820 to hold the baby. I handed her over and thought 00:14:05.820 --> 00:14:07.980 she just wanted to be with her before she got 00:14:07.980 --> 00:14:10.539 going, but immediately she told me that she got 00:14:10.539 --> 00:14:13.320 it and I could go on and do what I needed in 00:14:13.320 --> 00:14:16.919 the house. I was confused, and I guess she saw 00:14:16.919 --> 00:14:19.639 that because she said to clean. That's why I'm 00:14:19.639 --> 00:14:22.659 here, right? I did not want to say anything and 00:14:22.659 --> 00:14:25.059 just started with it. At about 12, she asked 00:14:25.059 --> 00:14:27.480 if I was done soon because she was hungry. I 00:14:27.480 --> 00:14:29.139 said that I could take the baby so that she could 00:14:29.139 --> 00:14:31.500 go make herself something, to which she said 00:14:31.500 --> 00:14:33.460 that she would just wait until I thought that 00:14:33.460 --> 00:14:37.320 it was an appropriate time to eat. I was done 00:14:37.320 --> 00:14:40.460 at about 15, 3 in the afternoon, and she said 00:14:40.460 --> 00:14:42.600 that I shouldn't hesitate if I need help again 00:14:42.600 --> 00:14:44.860 and that she was glad she could help me with 00:14:44.860 --> 00:14:47.919 everything. My husband got home at about 5, and 00:14:47.919 --> 00:14:49.980 he said something like, I'm glad she was such 00:14:49.980 --> 00:14:52.019 a help to you. I hope you got some rest this 00:14:52.019 --> 00:14:54.620 day. I told him that I didn't and that I cleaned 00:14:54.620 --> 00:14:56.720 everything while his mother spent time on our 00:14:56.720 --> 00:14:59.419 sofa watching the baby. He told me that I couldn't 00:14:59.419 --> 00:15:02.580 be serious, but I assured him I was. He went 00:15:02.580 --> 00:15:05.440 out in the kitchen and called his mom. I don't 00:15:05.440 --> 00:15:07.299 know what was said, but she texted me later. 00:15:07.710 --> 00:15:09.950 She basically told me that this was the last 00:15:09.950 --> 00:15:12.509 time that she would ever help me and that I was 00:15:12.509 --> 00:15:15.210 ungrateful and sick if I thought she would clean 00:15:15.210 --> 00:15:17.950 someone else's house. She told me that she cleaned 00:15:17.950 --> 00:15:20.669 every day while my husband was a newborn and 00:15:20.669 --> 00:15:23.570 you didn't hear her complain. I feel like an 00:15:23.570 --> 00:15:25.429 ass and wonder if I should have just lied to 00:15:25.429 --> 00:15:29.049 my husband and if I'm ungrateful. Dot, dot, dot. 00:15:29.610 --> 00:15:34.669 Oh my goodness. I know. Mother -in -law. Monster 00:15:34.669 --> 00:15:38.399 -in -law. You don't offer to come over to clean 00:15:38.399 --> 00:15:42.279 someone's house. And then not? All the issues 00:15:42.279 --> 00:15:45.019 with this. So I want to make sure we're clear 00:15:45.019 --> 00:15:48.100 here. So mother -in -law said I can come over 00:15:48.100 --> 00:15:50.500 and I can help clean. Yeah, that's the way that 00:15:50.500 --> 00:15:53.700 she said it was my mother -in -law offered to 00:15:53.700 --> 00:15:58.179 come over to get the house in order. So like, 00:15:58.480 --> 00:16:00.779 yeah, sure. I mean, yeah, I just don't see a 00:16:00.779 --> 00:16:05.820 world where being one week postpartum. Like this 00:16:05.820 --> 00:16:09.039 poor woman just barely gave birth. And all she 00:16:09.039 --> 00:16:11.500 should be doing is sitting on a couch, shatting 00:16:11.500 --> 00:16:14.899 in her bed with that baby. Like if you want to 00:16:14.899 --> 00:16:18.919 offer help, the help is not to hold and get grandma 00:16:18.919 --> 00:16:22.860 time with your precious newborn while the postpartum 00:16:22.860 --> 00:16:26.059 mom is working like a busy bee cleaning the house. 00:16:26.379 --> 00:16:28.200 Sorry, but you're not actually helping. That's 00:16:28.200 --> 00:16:30.919 close. It's horrible. Yeah. Because guess what? 00:16:31.039 --> 00:16:33.720 She can, the mom when she wants to. She can feed 00:16:33.720 --> 00:16:36.120 the baby and then set the baby down on a swaddle 00:16:36.120 --> 00:16:38.519 and a bassinet, do a little chores here and there. 00:16:38.759 --> 00:16:41.019 The whole point is that the mom is exhausted. 00:16:41.500 --> 00:16:44.559 That those first couple of weeks after a baby 00:16:44.559 --> 00:16:48.460 is born in months, really, you look like that. 00:16:48.980 --> 00:16:53.379 It is a it is a level of exhaustion is truly 00:16:53.379 --> 00:16:55.259 if you're not a parent, it's just it's something 00:16:55.259 --> 00:16:58.879 that you will only ever understand when it's 00:16:58.879 --> 00:17:01.940 three forty five a .m. and you're Beating a baby 00:17:01.940 --> 00:17:06.259 or rocking a hungry sad baby like you just yeah, 00:17:06.259 --> 00:17:09.759 you have no idea like everything is just blah 00:17:09.759 --> 00:17:14.059 It's just survival. It's horrible. It's so brutal. 00:17:14.160 --> 00:17:16.420 It really is so brutal and it's so exhausting 00:17:16.420 --> 00:17:19.140 It's amazing and you look back and it's like 00:17:19.140 --> 00:17:22.039 I remember those days of like Rocking Isla to 00:17:22.039 --> 00:17:24.180 sleep on our little rocking chair in the in the 00:17:24.180 --> 00:17:27.299 front room. Yeah Just being so glad that she 00:17:27.299 --> 00:17:30.259 was just peaceful This is the freaking best thing 00:17:30.259 --> 00:17:33.759 ever. Like, I just love her so much. Yeah, I 00:17:33.759 --> 00:17:36.559 just pass out. Like, on her so quick. Yeah, you 00:17:36.559 --> 00:17:40.039 could fall asleep standing up. Pretty much. Yeah. 00:17:40.240 --> 00:17:42.220 Pretty much. And I've gotten less like that as 00:17:42.220 --> 00:17:44.220 I've gotten older. When I was a kid, I would 00:17:44.220 --> 00:17:46.640 sleep anywhere. It's one thing to come for a 00:17:46.640 --> 00:17:48.960 visit, but if you're offering help... Yeah. Be 00:17:48.960 --> 00:17:52.880 helpful. It's so crazy to me. And then to have 00:17:52.880 --> 00:17:55.920 it be a point of animosity. This poor Ma. I know. 00:17:56.019 --> 00:17:59.789 Like, she's like family drama. one week postpartum. 00:18:00.690 --> 00:18:04.549 And it's her first Mother's Day. Oh, no. I didn't 00:18:04.549 --> 00:18:06.309 even think about that. I don't know if it was 00:18:06.309 --> 00:18:09.250 if it was Mother's Day or she just became a mom. 00:18:09.970 --> 00:18:12.410 Yeah, but hey, it was her first Mother's Day 00:18:12.410 --> 00:18:16.230 some time. Maybe today. This party today. Happy 00:18:16.230 --> 00:18:18.869 Mother's Day. I hope things are well. Someone 00:18:18.869 --> 00:18:21.349 said not the asshole, of course, but practice 00:18:21.349 --> 00:18:23.829 standing up for yourself, OP. It's not rude at 00:18:23.829 --> 00:18:26.410 all. I think there's been a misunderstanding. 00:18:26.650 --> 00:18:28.549 I thought you were offering to tidy up the house. 00:18:28.630 --> 00:18:30.730 I won't be cleaning today as I don't feel up 00:18:30.730 --> 00:18:33.450 to it. It's like, yeah, I'm sorry, but I'm just 00:18:33.450 --> 00:18:36.210 going to rest. All right, this one comes from 00:18:36.210 --> 00:18:39.809 M .I. the A -hole. Mm. M .I. the A -hole for 00:18:39.809 --> 00:18:42.150 forcing my husband to choose between me and his 00:18:42.150 --> 00:18:47.069 mother. OK. We just love a good story like this. 00:18:48.069 --> 00:18:51.630 I, 31F, and my fiance, 36M, are set to get married 00:18:51.630 --> 00:18:54.049 in July this year. We met through a mutual friend 00:18:54.049 --> 00:18:56.970 earlier years ago, and our relationship progressed. 00:18:57.529 --> 00:18:59.289 He's literally the perfect guy, but the problem 00:18:59.289 --> 00:19:02.809 is his mother, Katie, in parentheses fake name. 00:19:03.529 --> 00:19:05.849 Katie has been critical of me from day one. She 00:19:05.849 --> 00:19:07.769 often tells my husband that he could do better. 00:19:08.089 --> 00:19:11.190 I'm just an uneducated slum. I could usually 00:19:11.190 --> 00:19:13.970 disregard her, but when he proposed, she went 00:19:13.970 --> 00:19:16.650 to a whole new level. The main incident occurred 00:19:16.650 --> 00:19:19.630 when we went to visit her a few days ago to announce 00:19:19.630 --> 00:19:23.069 our engagement. My future husband excitedly showed 00:19:23.069 --> 00:19:25.630 her the ring, but she just grimaced. She looked 00:19:25.630 --> 00:19:28.069 at him and I repeat said, are you really going 00:19:28.069 --> 00:19:32.349 to marry that blank gold digger? The word in 00:19:32.349 --> 00:19:38.369 blink is a politically incorrect way to say it's 00:19:38.369 --> 00:19:41.809 a word that starts with an R. A little context, 00:19:41.829 --> 00:19:45.150 I have high functioning autism. It doesn't affect 00:19:45.150 --> 00:19:47.809 me too much on a daily basis, but I have trouble 00:19:47.809 --> 00:19:51.750 interpreting emotion. After we got home, I sobbed 00:19:51.750 --> 00:19:53.690 and asked my husband to tell his mom this needs 00:19:53.690 --> 00:19:56.309 to stop. He didn't say much, just that he loves 00:19:56.309 --> 00:19:58.750 me and he will get better. But he can't say anything 00:19:58.750 --> 00:20:01.230 to his mom. When I pushed for answers, he said 00:20:01.230 --> 00:20:03.950 he can't do anything about it and left. His sister 00:20:03.950 --> 00:20:06.009 sent me a text later telling me I can't make 00:20:06.009 --> 00:20:08.269 him choose between me and his mother. I'm so 00:20:08.269 --> 00:20:10.109 confused because I literally didn't even ask 00:20:10.109 --> 00:20:11.930 him to do that. Is there something I'm missing? 00:20:14.069 --> 00:20:20.359 The freaking guy is stupid. Is it over? No. Oh 00:20:20.359 --> 00:20:23.460 my gosh. I'm like I okay keep going. So there's 00:20:23.460 --> 00:20:26.940 there's two updates. Oh my gosh First update. 00:20:27.259 --> 00:20:28.880 Hey y 'all. Thanks so much for all your reply. 00:20:28.940 --> 00:20:30.720 Sorry. I didn't respond to any comments I'm just 00:20:30.720 --> 00:20:33.059 in a really dark place right now for the update 00:20:33.059 --> 00:20:36.240 My fiance came home the next morning two days 00:20:36.240 --> 00:20:38.259 ago and started acting like everything was normal. 00:20:38.660 --> 00:20:41.220 He didn't even mention the fight we had Finally 00:20:41.220 --> 00:20:43.259 that night I sat him down and asked him why he 00:20:43.259 --> 00:20:45.740 was acting normally He responded that it was 00:20:45.740 --> 00:20:48.349 a minor fight and we shouldn't dwell on it This 00:20:48.349 --> 00:20:50.589 made me mad because it was a big deal for me 00:20:50.589 --> 00:20:52.569 and that fight made me question our relationship. 00:20:53.170 --> 00:20:55.430 I told him this and he scoffed. In that moment 00:20:55.430 --> 00:20:57.849 I looked at him and asked him, is it really not 00:20:57.849 --> 00:21:00.410 a big deal that your mother called me an R word 00:21:00.410 --> 00:21:03.269 gold digger? He just scoffed again and said something 00:21:03.269 --> 00:21:05.049 about her getting older and not knowing what 00:21:05.049 --> 00:21:07.829 that meant. I was done at that point. His mother 00:21:07.829 --> 00:21:10.529 is 63 years old and acts the same way she did 00:21:10.529 --> 00:21:13.710 when I met her years ago. I packed the bag, called 00:21:13.710 --> 00:21:15.890 my friend to pick me up and left. I've been staying 00:21:15.890 --> 00:21:18.500 at her place since then. Not sure where my life 00:21:18.500 --> 00:21:23.960 is headed now. Oh, hun. I'm so sad for her. Please 00:21:23.960 --> 00:21:28.619 don't marry him. Swerve, girl. It's like swerve 00:21:28.619 --> 00:21:34.619 so hard. I am shook. Ready for update dose? Hey 00:21:34.619 --> 00:21:36.200 everyone, thanks so much for all your support. 00:21:36.240 --> 00:21:38.259 I'm so tired of everything right now. Here's 00:21:38.259 --> 00:21:40.759 the final update, I hope. As some of you may 00:21:40.759 --> 00:21:43.400 have seen, my fiance posted an A .I .T .A. post 00:21:43.400 --> 00:21:46.220 earlier today. I haven't seen him since our last 00:21:46.220 --> 00:21:48.420 fight. He was pretty much getting destroyed in 00:21:48.420 --> 00:21:50.259 the comments, so that made me feel a little better. 00:21:50.619 --> 00:21:53.839 Hell yeah. Here's a link to his post. No way. 00:21:54.279 --> 00:21:56.799 Open that in a new tab. Already did. So we'll 00:21:56.799 --> 00:21:58.660 finish this one and then we'll go and read his. 00:21:59.119 --> 00:22:01.559 Or should we read his now? Let's read his now. 00:22:01.599 --> 00:22:04.559 Okay. I'm dying to know his side. So his post 00:22:04.559 --> 00:22:08.220 says, am I be a hole for choosing my mom over 00:22:08.220 --> 00:22:11.339 my fiance? Hey Reddit, yesterday my friend sent 00:22:11.339 --> 00:22:13.940 me a post on this sub that was made by my fiance. 00:22:14.269 --> 00:22:16.369 She totally makes me look like the villain so 00:22:16.369 --> 00:22:18.470 I just have to say my side. We've been dating 00:22:18.470 --> 00:22:20.450 for a while now and it's been great aside from 00:22:20.450 --> 00:22:23.690 the past few days. My mother, 63F, is a single 00:22:23.690 --> 00:22:26.170 mother that raised me and my sister alone. She 00:22:26.170 --> 00:22:27.970 has always been the most supportive mother ever 00:22:27.970 --> 00:22:30.230 and I love her to the end of the world. She is 00:22:30.230 --> 00:22:32.109 getting on in her years now and is not the same 00:22:32.109 --> 00:22:34.450 person she was. She has always been a little 00:22:34.450 --> 00:22:37.309 overprotective of me and so she has never fully 00:22:37.309 --> 00:22:39.690 accepted my fiance. I didn't think it was that 00:22:39.690 --> 00:22:41.470 big of a deal since she doesn't say anything 00:22:41.470 --> 00:22:44.240 directly to my fiance. Then last weekend when 00:22:44.240 --> 00:22:46.319 we were announcing our engagement at her house, 00:22:46.759 --> 00:22:48.759 my mom wasn't too thrilled and I admit made a 00:22:48.759 --> 00:22:51.640 rude remark regarding my fiance's autism. We 00:22:51.640 --> 00:22:53.779 left quickly after and I comforted my fiance 00:22:53.779 --> 00:22:56.519 for over an hour. I ordered her takeout, made 00:22:56.519 --> 00:22:58.880 a bath for her and put on a movie. I explained 00:22:58.880 --> 00:23:00.680 to her that my mom is getting older and doesn't 00:23:00.680 --> 00:23:03.619 have full control over what she says. My fiance 00:23:03.619 --> 00:23:05.559 kept pushing and I eventually snapped and told 00:23:05.559 --> 00:23:07.779 her I can't do anything about it. I'm not sure 00:23:07.779 --> 00:23:11.339 my fiance understands because she doesn't have 00:23:11.339 --> 00:23:14.000 a close bond with her mom. I stayed at my mom's 00:23:14.000 --> 00:23:16.700 house, went back in the morning. Long argument 00:23:16.700 --> 00:23:19.559 short, my fiance started blowing the comments 00:23:19.559 --> 00:23:21.799 my mother made way out of proportion, not even 00:23:21.799 --> 00:23:27.960 bothering to mention her age. Are we? Oh, her 00:23:27.960 --> 00:23:31.140 age. Like she's just some dementia ridden... 00:23:31.140 --> 00:23:36.599 She's in her early 60s. Sorry, but that's not 00:23:36.599 --> 00:23:39.339 quite old enough to be like, say whatever I want 00:23:39.339 --> 00:23:42.059 and get away with it. Yeah, no. Like I said, 00:23:42.339 --> 00:23:44.480 my mom is old now. She doesn't understand this 00:23:44.480 --> 00:23:46.920 fully. She left and I haven't seen her since. 00:23:47.059 --> 00:23:49.339 Her friend contacted me and said, I'm the AH 00:23:49.339 --> 00:23:51.880 for choosing my mom over her. I'm not choosing 00:23:51.880 --> 00:23:54.079 my mom over her though, and we are still getting 00:23:54.079 --> 00:24:00.579 married, so it might be a hole. I don't... What 00:24:00.579 --> 00:24:02.880 are the comments? Oh, you're right. I just think 00:24:02.880 --> 00:24:07.599 exactly... Oh, they're exactly what you would 00:24:07.599 --> 00:24:10.619 think. This is so funny. Age is not an excuse 00:24:10.619 --> 00:24:13.559 to be a crappy person. After 63 years, your mother 00:24:13.559 --> 00:24:15.619 doesn't have the self -control to keep rude comments 00:24:15.619 --> 00:24:18.500 to herself. You absolutely could have done something. 00:24:18.940 --> 00:24:21.259 You chose to not defend your fiance because you're 00:24:21.259 --> 00:24:24.339 too busy hanging on mom's teat. Sorry, I didn't 00:24:24.339 --> 00:24:26.039 know what that was gonna say. They'd literally 00:24:26.039 --> 00:24:29.599 spelled T -E -A -T -Y -T -A and your fiance dodged 00:24:29.599 --> 00:24:34.859 an effing nuke. Yes. Creak. It's big time. Somebody 00:24:34.859 --> 00:24:37.460 else said, my husband is gonna be 62 in July. 00:24:37.559 --> 00:24:39.440 I didn't realize he is old and should no longer 00:24:39.440 --> 00:24:44.420 be accountable for what he says. I love it. Here's 00:24:44.420 --> 00:24:46.559 another good one. This one's got some colorful 00:24:46.559 --> 00:24:49.079 language in it, but I won't say it even one time. 00:24:49.599 --> 00:24:52.880 Y -T -F -ing -A. Oh, wow. Your mom called your 00:24:52.880 --> 00:24:56.740 autistic fiance a R -word gold digger. How is 00:24:56.740 --> 00:24:59.880 that not a big deal? There is no good flippin' 00:25:00.180 --> 00:25:02.480 excuse for your mom to call her that. I'm not 00:25:02.480 --> 00:25:04.539 buying the whole age excuse because my mom is 00:25:04.539 --> 00:25:06.420 five years younger than yours, and she's very 00:25:06.420 --> 00:25:09.720 much alert and aware of what is and isn't okay 00:25:09.720 --> 00:25:12.019 to say to other people. Unless your mom has early 00:25:12.019 --> 00:25:14.539 onset dementia, she knows exactly what the flip 00:25:14.539 --> 00:25:17.579 she's doing. You're a flippin' mommy's boy. You 00:25:17.579 --> 00:25:20.380 can't stand up for your fiance's dignity. That's 00:25:20.380 --> 00:25:25.099 flippin' pathetic. Shame on you. Good. Tell him. 00:25:25.319 --> 00:25:28.839 He's getting ripped. Oh, yeah. You know what? 00:25:29.459 --> 00:25:32.019 Shout out to him for one, not deleting the post 00:25:32.019 --> 00:25:34.740 and not deleting his account. Yeah, true. Most 00:25:34.740 --> 00:25:37.559 people that get that eviscerated, they just disappear. 00:25:37.660 --> 00:25:39.980 They say that never happened. You're right. Somebody 00:25:39.980 --> 00:25:41.799 else said, perhaps you should have remained quiet 00:25:41.799 --> 00:25:44.059 and let us think you're an ass instead of posting 00:25:44.059 --> 00:25:49.140 and removing all doubt. Like you, we already 00:25:49.140 --> 00:25:51.680 thought you were a piece of junk. That's so true. 00:25:51.960 --> 00:25:53.660 And then you're just like, no, no, let me tell 00:25:53.660 --> 00:25:55.519 you why I'm right about being a piece of junk. 00:25:55.660 --> 00:26:00.000 It's because she's 63. She's so old and decrepit 00:26:00.000 --> 00:26:03.680 and like, she's my mom, I love her. So back to 00:26:03.680 --> 00:26:06.880 OP's final update. Oh gosh. So anyway, after 00:26:06.880 --> 00:26:09.960 he posts this, he calls me and like an idiot, 00:26:09.980 --> 00:26:12.519 I pick up. And let me tell you, this man did 00:26:12.519 --> 00:26:15.160 not sound stable. First, he was crying, begging 00:26:15.160 --> 00:26:18.000 for me back and then he was screaming at me to 00:26:18.000 --> 00:26:20.779 get the eff back here. It was heartbreaking to 00:26:20.779 --> 00:26:22.680 hear the man I thought I was going to marry sound 00:26:22.680 --> 00:26:25.599 so psycho. I reported the call just in case I 00:26:25.599 --> 00:26:27.640 needed evidence and then I hung up and blocked 00:26:27.640 --> 00:26:30.500 him everywhere. About an hour later he shows 00:26:30.500 --> 00:26:32.660 up to my friend's house acting crazy and saying 00:26:32.660 --> 00:26:35.700 some things I can't repeat here. I called the 00:26:35.700 --> 00:26:38.359 police and they took him away. I left to stay 00:26:38.359 --> 00:26:40.220 at a hotel. My friend has been really supportive 00:26:40.220 --> 00:26:42.740 but I can't put her in danger. I hope this is 00:26:42.740 --> 00:26:44.680 the final update but if anything else happens 00:26:44.680 --> 00:26:47.079 is there a different sub I can post in? I feel 00:26:47.079 --> 00:26:50.480 like I'm deviating from AITA. Sorry if this isn't 00:26:50.480 --> 00:26:52.819 edited properly I just can't with life today. 00:26:53.049 --> 00:26:55.069 Again, thanks for all the support. It truly means 00:26:55.069 --> 00:26:59.069 more than I can ever say. Oh my gosh. Kind of 00:26:59.069 --> 00:27:01.529 sounds like you dodged the crazy bullet. Yes, 00:27:01.869 --> 00:27:04.569 for sure. Mm -hmm, mm -hmm. Okay, I'm not gonna 00:27:04.569 --> 00:27:09.609 lie, your story was absolutely insane and I just 00:27:09.609 --> 00:27:12.970 could not with that one. I'm telling you, some 00:27:12.970 --> 00:27:15.650 people's moms out there just be acting crazy. 00:27:15.869 --> 00:27:17.710 And they think they can get away with it. It's 00:27:17.710 --> 00:27:20.809 so ridiculous. That one especially, like, using 00:27:20.809 --> 00:27:24.599 the R word. Are we so serious? Yeah, that's ridiculous. 00:27:25.180 --> 00:27:28.279 High functioning. No excuse. No excuse. Doesn't 00:27:28.279 --> 00:27:30.619 matter. Husband said you weren't my mother, so 00:27:30.619 --> 00:27:32.900 I don't have to celebrate you on Mother's Day. 00:27:33.259 --> 00:27:35.279 Background. Been married to my husband for two 00:27:35.279 --> 00:27:37.799 and a half years. I have three children and three 00:27:37.799 --> 00:27:40.240 stepchildren. Not only is it Mother's Day, but 00:27:40.240 --> 00:27:42.579 also my mother's birthday. His mother's birthday 00:27:42.579 --> 00:27:45.099 was last week. I thought of the present, bought 00:27:45.099 --> 00:27:47.339 it, planned a dinner for her, ordered and bought 00:27:47.339 --> 00:27:50.160 the cake. She wanted to celebrate with her 98 00:27:50.160 --> 00:27:52.640 year old mother today. I did the same things 00:27:52.640 --> 00:27:55.339 for my mother today. He vacuumed before my parents 00:27:55.339 --> 00:27:57.500 came over. He grilled the steaks and salmon and 00:27:57.500 --> 00:28:01.119 helped clean up after dinner. That is it. I show 00:28:01.119 --> 00:28:03.400 up for all my stepkids' performances, games, 00:28:03.539 --> 00:28:05.319 school events. I plan their birthday parties 00:28:05.319 --> 00:28:07.460 and buy all their presents. Same with Christmas. 00:28:07.880 --> 00:28:10.579 I remind him of all these events. He rarely even 00:28:10.579 --> 00:28:13.460 knows what I get them. I do the same on any important 00:28:13.460 --> 00:28:16.299 holidays for him. Birthday, anniversary, Valentine's, 00:28:16.299 --> 00:28:18.720 Father's Day, and Christmas. Hardly anything 00:28:18.720 --> 00:28:21.559 happened for me today. Two of my kids said happy 00:28:21.559 --> 00:28:24.140 Mother's Day. My 11 -year -old stepdaughter also 00:28:24.140 --> 00:28:26.160 said it and gave me a very cute jar of all the 00:28:26.160 --> 00:28:29.279 things she loves about me. That's sweet. My 16 00:28:29.279 --> 00:28:31.019 -year -old son told me the present he bought 00:28:31.019 --> 00:28:33.920 me doesn't come until tomorrow. My 13 -year -old 00:28:33.920 --> 00:28:35.700 daughter told me that she asked my husband to 00:28:35.700 --> 00:28:37.920 buy text to help her with several things and 00:28:37.920 --> 00:28:41.160 he never responded. When she had asked me what 00:28:41.160 --> 00:28:43.400 I wanted, I told her updated pictures from my 00:28:43.400 --> 00:28:45.619 office, knowing it wouldn't be expensive to just 00:28:45.619 --> 00:28:48.019 print some of her favorite photos and it would 00:28:48.019 --> 00:28:50.460 mean a lot to me. I was disappointed that all 00:28:50.460 --> 00:28:53.299 I asked of my 18 year old son was to take a new 00:28:53.299 --> 00:28:55.319 picture with me and he couldn't be bothered. 00:28:55.680 --> 00:28:57.859 I was disappointed that my husband told me that 00:28:57.859 --> 00:29:00.359 you are not my mother and I didn't do anything 00:29:00.359 --> 00:29:02.759 for my kid's mother so why would I do something 00:29:02.759 --> 00:29:06.559 for you? I am hurt and I feel bad for feeling 00:29:06.559 --> 00:29:10.420 hurt. I feel selfish. He did help with dinner 00:29:10.420 --> 00:29:13.480 but all I would have liked would be a happy Mother's 00:29:13.480 --> 00:29:16.869 Day from him and maybe a card. Bonus points if 00:29:16.869 --> 00:29:18.890 you could understand that helping the 13 year 00:29:18.890 --> 00:29:21.589 old print some pictures would mean a lot to her 00:29:21.589 --> 00:29:23.829 and to me. That would have made me feel valued 00:29:23.829 --> 00:29:26.970 and special. I don't need the spa day, breakfast 00:29:26.970 --> 00:29:29.890 in bed, being celebrated every moment like my 00:29:29.890 --> 00:29:32.150 brother does for his wife, and I'm so happy for 00:29:32.150 --> 00:29:34.690 her that he does that. That isn't my husband's 00:29:34.690 --> 00:29:37.170 personality, I would never expect that. But is 00:29:37.170 --> 00:29:40.650 he too, as holy, to just want a little understanding 00:29:40.650 --> 00:29:43.319 for all the things that I do? for all of our 00:29:43.319 --> 00:29:46.599 kids, even if it is a commercial holiday. He 00:29:46.599 --> 00:29:48.680 says that I'm mean and an asshole for being upset. 00:29:49.160 --> 00:29:51.720 I didn't yell and scream, just cried and didn't 00:29:51.720 --> 00:29:54.579 want him to cuddle me to ease his own anxiety. 00:29:55.119 --> 00:29:58.279 I can't even believe that guys get a holiday 00:29:58.279 --> 00:30:03.960 too. Guys just, guys are just the worst. You 00:30:03.960 --> 00:30:07.200 feel? I'm nodding my head very aggressively. 00:30:07.500 --> 00:30:11.180 No, this guy was a piece of work for sure. Here's 00:30:11.180 --> 00:30:13.660 the thing though. My mind goes to a million different 00:30:13.660 --> 00:30:18.400 places. Let's just say men are men. Men are simpletons 00:30:18.400 --> 00:30:23.180 a lot of the time. Yeah. And most men, most of 00:30:23.180 --> 00:30:26.779 our brains like to take the path of least resistance. 00:30:27.859 --> 00:30:31.380 So like, whatever is the easier thing, a lot 00:30:31.380 --> 00:30:36.079 of times that's what gets done. And this is tough. 00:30:36.279 --> 00:30:39.150 I heard the part about him. cooking and grilling 00:30:39.150 --> 00:30:42.569 food for everybody. Yeah. And that is it. It's 00:30:42.569 --> 00:30:45.569 like, you have to just, you have to really look 00:30:45.569 --> 00:30:47.509 at what the expectations would be. What does 00:30:47.509 --> 00:30:51.210 she want? And then I need to do 25 % more than 00:30:51.210 --> 00:30:55.109 that to make sure that you stay in happy range 00:30:55.109 --> 00:30:57.710 for the woman. The happy wife, happy life type 00:30:57.710 --> 00:31:00.910 stuff. So there's a funny comment, garlic cheese 00:31:00.910 --> 00:31:03.549 bread said, you can kindly repay the favor on 00:31:03.549 --> 00:31:06.690 Father's Day by not doing a beep. sing for him 00:31:06.690 --> 00:31:09.470 and remind him he's not your father so there's 00:31:09.470 --> 00:31:12.509 nothing to celebrate and then they said yes op 00:31:12.509 --> 00:31:14.490 should take the day for herself on father's day 00:31:14.490 --> 00:31:16.369 and her husband can spend the day with the kids 00:31:16.369 --> 00:31:18.809 seriously op is crazy if she does a thing for 00:31:18.809 --> 00:31:22.869 that a -hole on father's day there you go yeah 00:31:22.869 --> 00:31:25.069 it's like okay well if you're not gonna celebrate 00:31:25.069 --> 00:31:28.509 me i'm not gonna celebrate you but it's sad because 00:31:28.509 --> 00:31:30.829 she seems like the type that she wants to celebrate 00:31:30.829 --> 00:31:34.549 him she wants to like make it special and she 00:31:34.549 --> 00:31:38.049 wants The favor returned, or what's the saying? 00:31:38.690 --> 00:31:41.769 Yeah, she wants to feel special on Mother's Day. 00:31:41.769 --> 00:31:46.170 Yeah. For sure. Well, this was one year ago, 00:31:46.190 --> 00:31:49.809 so who knows? Maybe this year he stepped up or 00:31:49.809 --> 00:31:54.369 they're divorced. It's one or the other. Facts. 00:31:54.730 --> 00:31:57.190 And I bet he had a bang -up Father's Day last 00:31:57.190 --> 00:31:59.410 year. I bet it was nothing. I bet she stuck it 00:31:59.410 --> 00:32:02.829 to him. Yes, definitely. Here's the thing. that 00:32:02.829 --> 00:32:05.309 their father's day and mother's day are so different. 00:32:05.430 --> 00:32:08.329 Really? Well, I look at your first couple of 00:32:08.329 --> 00:32:10.470 mother's days and like what you had expressed 00:32:10.470 --> 00:32:13.289 to me at the time was that you didn't want to 00:32:13.289 --> 00:32:16.230 have to like grind over the kids stuff. So it 00:32:16.230 --> 00:32:18.750 was like like I was going to change diapers. 00:32:18.869 --> 00:32:20.430 I was going to put her down and you were going 00:32:20.430 --> 00:32:22.809 to rest from your motherly labors and just be 00:32:22.809 --> 00:32:25.150 celebrated. Yeah. Which is fine. Like that's 00:32:25.150 --> 00:32:27.130 that's good. That's fine. That's not the case 00:32:27.130 --> 00:32:29.910 on Father's Day. Really? I feel like golfing 00:32:29.910 --> 00:32:32.630 is like the big thing for Father's Day. When 00:32:32.630 --> 00:32:34.109 have I ever golfed on Father's Day? I don't know. 00:32:34.210 --> 00:32:35.890 I just meant like in general. I'm not saying 00:32:35.890 --> 00:32:38.630 it's just you. So you feel like Father's Day, 00:32:38.930 --> 00:32:41.470 it's more like the father being around the kids. 00:32:41.950 --> 00:32:45.769 Yeah, it's like I'm still just doing dad things. 00:32:45.809 --> 00:32:48.450 Oh, okay. And usually like we might be watching 00:32:48.450 --> 00:32:50.950 golf on Father's Day because that is usually 00:32:50.950 --> 00:32:54.549 the US Open falls on Father's Day. But like outside 00:32:54.549 --> 00:32:56.430 of that, it's kind of the same thing. I made 00:32:56.430 --> 00:32:59.250 us breakfast on Father's Day. No way. What did 00:32:59.250 --> 00:33:01.769 I do for you on Father's Day? But my whole point 00:33:01.769 --> 00:33:04.329 with all this was that it's not the same, like, 00:33:04.450 --> 00:33:06.369 there's not this bar. And I think a lot of it 00:33:06.369 --> 00:33:09.049 has to do with the fact that moms, you guys are 00:33:09.049 --> 00:33:10.930 obviously way more hands on with the kids. You're 00:33:10.930 --> 00:33:14.329 way more like, your whole life is tied to the 00:33:14.329 --> 00:33:17.630 title of being a mother. And so to be able to 00:33:17.630 --> 00:33:21.130 recs from that for a day is warranted and I'm 00:33:21.130 --> 00:33:24.289 all for that. I'm not like begrudging about that. 00:33:24.289 --> 00:33:26.369 I just think it is interesting that it is not 00:33:26.369 --> 00:33:31.339 the same for fathers. I thought about that last 00:33:31.339 --> 00:33:35.619 Father's Day quite a bit, actually. Okay, well 00:33:35.619 --> 00:33:41.160 noted for this year. No, but the roles are just 00:33:41.160 --> 00:33:44.759 different and the moral of the story is men, 00:33:45.140 --> 00:33:47.779 get your shiz together. Do what the wife wants, 00:33:47.940 --> 00:33:51.420 but do it better than she wants it. Yes. Do the 00:33:51.420 --> 00:33:55.180 chores. Don't complain. Have a good attitude. 00:33:55.380 --> 00:33:59.309 Don't breathe. Buy the nice things. Give me a 00:33:59.309 --> 00:34:05.509 foot massage. Give her a foot massage. If she 00:34:05.509 --> 00:34:09.369 gets moody, let it happen. It's Mother's Day. 00:34:09.869 --> 00:34:11.909 This day only comes around once a year, but somehow 00:34:11.909 --> 00:34:14.389 it feels like every day is Mother's Day, you 00:34:14.389 --> 00:34:23.329 know? Oh my gosh. I'm just kidding. Men have 00:34:23.329 --> 00:34:25.269 to step their game up because we just fall short. 00:34:25.500 --> 00:34:29.099 And there's some crazy mamas out there, so stay 00:34:29.099 --> 00:34:32.139 safe. Yeah, so watch out for the crazy moms. 00:34:32.239 --> 00:34:35.539 Watch out for the crazy mother -in -laws. If 00:34:35.539 --> 00:34:37.460 they're offering to help, maybe make sure that 00:34:37.460 --> 00:34:39.119 they're not just expecting you to make the meal 00:34:39.119 --> 00:34:43.099 for them. That, I just, I can't. Thankfully, 00:34:43.139 --> 00:34:46.079 I never had that experience, but I cannot with 00:34:46.079 --> 00:34:49.480 that one. I hope that was the fake. I hope so 00:34:49.480 --> 00:34:52.019 too. Yeah, what do you guys hope? What's your 00:34:52.019 --> 00:34:54.550 new guys' thing to fake? Let us know. Go to our 00:34:54.550 --> 00:34:57.070 social media. We got Facebook, TikTok, YouTube. 00:34:57.849 --> 00:35:00.409 Instagram. Instagram. That's mainly where we 00:35:00.409 --> 00:35:04.190 see you guys and we so appreciate you. And one 00:35:04.190 --> 00:35:07.530 last shout out to Cozy's. I felt so good this 00:35:07.530 --> 00:35:11.849 entire episode. So cozy and comfy. So comfy and 00:35:11.849 --> 00:35:15.530 cozy. It's so stretchy. These PJs are not real. 00:35:15.989 --> 00:35:17.949 Right? They are so comfy. These are probably 00:35:17.949 --> 00:35:20.630 the best PJs you've ever owned. Without a doubt. 00:35:20.869 --> 00:35:24.099 Yes. Like I don't I've never really been a PJs 00:35:24.099 --> 00:35:26.960 person because usually I just sleep in the old 00:35:26.960 --> 00:35:30.659 undies but these I could sleep in these. Yes, 00:35:30.699 --> 00:35:33.400 they're breathable too. It's not too like the 00:35:33.400 --> 00:35:35.460 geared on to be sweating in them. That's what 00:35:35.460 --> 00:35:38.019 I love because they still have such a good quality 00:35:38.019 --> 00:35:41.800 like thick material, but it's breathable. So 00:35:41.800 --> 00:35:45.119 anyways, I could go on and on about Cozy's dense 00:35:45.119 --> 00:35:49.309 material. Oh. Is that the right one? I don't 00:35:49.309 --> 00:35:51.730 know. It's something. But it's so stretchy. I 00:35:51.730 --> 00:35:54.130 need to just get up and show you guys the cute 00:35:54.130 --> 00:36:00.230 print. It's so freaking cute. And then I have 00:36:00.230 --> 00:36:07.170 my bows. So dang cute. I love her. Yeah, go to 00:36:07.170 --> 00:36:09.650 bed. Yeah, I'm going to bed. We're going to go 00:36:09.650 --> 00:36:13.130 to our brother. Now when my daughter gets into 00:36:13.130 --> 00:36:16.909 her bed and she says, I'm not cozy. I'm not cozy. 00:36:17.650 --> 00:36:20.309 I know just what to give her. I'm going to give 00:36:20.309 --> 00:36:23.110 her my pajama pants and just like swaddle her 00:36:23.110 --> 00:36:26.130 up and let her sleep. She would sleep so good. 00:36:26.369 --> 00:36:29.289 Straight up. Straight up. All right. Well, thank 00:36:29.289 --> 00:36:31.170 you guys for listening to another episode of 00:36:31.170 --> 00:36:34.070 the pod. Thank you for watching. Wow. Looking 00:36:34.070 --> 00:36:35.670 forward to seeing your comments on the social 00:36:35.670 --> 00:36:38.989 media. And last plug for the podcast, because 00:36:38.989 --> 00:36:41.449 it is it's growing. 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Look forward 00:37:12.949 --> 00:37:15.130 to some fun episodes with some new guests. Yeah, 00:37:15.190 --> 00:37:16.969 we've got a few guests coming on this week and 00:37:16.969 --> 00:37:18.909 we're really excited about it. So we'll see you 00:37:18.909 --> 00:37:21.929 guys soon. Frenzy's on three or internet frenzy 00:37:21.929 --> 00:37:25.329 on three. One, two, three. Happy Mother's Day. 00:37:27.150 --> 00:37:37.190 Happy Mom's Day. Well, it's my day. Give me your 00:37:37.190 --> 00:37:41.429 bus. Because you it's so dad. No, you're not 00:37:41.429 --> 00:37:42.989 gonna find better than this. I'm telling you 00:37:42.989 --> 00:37:45.489 right now No, I'm not hey, that's your quality 00:37:45.489 --> 00:37:49.989 cozy. Give us an affiliate code Because we love 00:37:49.989 --> 00:37:55.150 your stuff We'll get you sales broke. Hi cozies. 00:37:55.610 --> 00:38:04.070 Thank you For our pajamas we uh, we love we love 00:38:04.070 --> 00:38:08.550 this stuff It's so cozy. I don't think I'm gonna 00:38:08.550 --> 00:38:11.090 get Joe out of this blanket pajamas for like 00:38:11.090 --> 00:38:14.690 four days Nope, not gonna be able to do for my 00:38:14.690 --> 00:38:16.670 birthday. I want you to buy me the baseball one. 00:38:16.670 --> 00:38:19.050 How many baseball ones? They have really cool 00:38:19.050 --> 00:38:22.550 guy ones, too This is sick. You make me look 00:38:22.550 --> 00:38:27.570 Jack Yeah, you like my pajamas. They're cool. 00:38:27.650 --> 00:38:30.530 They're cute, huh? Cute little bows. Happy Mother's 00:38:30.530 --> 00:38:31.989 Day. It's good thing somebody got you something 00:38:31.989 --> 00:38:33.630 from Mother's Day. I know right