WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:05.139 Welcome back to Internet Frenzy. Oh my. I am 00:00:05.139 --> 00:00:07.540 so thrilled to be back. You guys have no idea. 00:00:07.960 --> 00:00:11.060 Maybe it's because I almost died, but I am grateful 00:00:11.060 --> 00:00:13.699 to be here, grateful to be alive. And I can't 00:00:13.699 --> 00:00:15.179 wait to tell you all the things we've been up 00:00:15.179 --> 00:00:17.120 to last week and why we didn't have an episode 00:00:17.120 --> 00:00:20.100 for you. My ass was at the hospital all week. 00:00:20.660 --> 00:00:24.420 OK, three or four days felt like a month or five 00:00:24.420 --> 00:00:29.179 or six, maybe maybe 12. Who's counting? Not me. 00:00:29.519 --> 00:00:32.420 You guys will never know four days. Yeah four 00:00:32.420 --> 00:00:36.200 days and I am just grateful to be here Thanks 00:00:36.200 --> 00:00:37.960 for being patient with us. Sorry. There was no 00:00:37.960 --> 00:00:40.979 episode last week, but now you know why and Trust 00:00:40.979 --> 00:00:44.179 me. You're gonna know way more as we continue 00:00:44.179 --> 00:00:48.579 this episode So where's your gallbladder? It's 00:00:48.579 --> 00:00:51.880 gone. Oh You don't have one. No, the doctor took 00:00:51.880 --> 00:00:55.280 it and who knows what he did with it Do you even 00:00:55.280 --> 00:00:57.259 know what they do with it? I'm pretty sure they 00:00:57.259 --> 00:00:59.909 like they put them out in the sun they dehydrate 00:00:59.909 --> 00:01:02.109 them and then they put them in a food processor 00:01:02.109 --> 00:01:05.049 and ground it into powder and then they put it 00:01:05.049 --> 00:01:09.370 in veggie capsules and then they eat it oh are 00:01:09.370 --> 00:01:12.250 they for sale or do i get any yes they're for 00:01:12.250 --> 00:01:14.150 sale they're expensive you don't get any unless 00:01:14.150 --> 00:01:18.629 you buy them which you can't afford it that's 00:01:18.629 --> 00:01:21.950 my gallbladder sorry yeah you had to pay them 00:01:21.950 --> 00:01:26.129 a lot actually to take it out yeah well no really 00:01:26.129 --> 00:01:28.579 what do they do just throw it away I would assume 00:01:28.579 --> 00:01:31.840 so. Yeah it was full of gallstones and it was 00:01:31.840 --> 00:01:35.000 infected you guys so I don't know if it has much 00:01:35.000 --> 00:01:37.420 use after that. Yeah so rumor has it you can't 00:01:37.420 --> 00:01:40.599 keep it after that. Sucked. It was it was actually 00:01:40.599 --> 00:01:43.780 sad I'm not gonna lie it's like she found out 00:01:43.780 --> 00:01:45.459 that she had to have surgery after we were there 00:01:45.459 --> 00:01:48.459 for seven hours in the emergency room. They finally 00:01:48.459 --> 00:01:51.560 told us we were gonna be admitted and the nurse 00:01:51.560 --> 00:01:53.459 is like yeah you're the good news is you're gonna 00:01:53.459 --> 00:01:59.019 have it taken out and she's like Good news. Yeah, 00:01:59.260 --> 00:02:01.099 well, then you start crying and then you're like, 00:02:01.099 --> 00:02:02.959 I don't want to I don't want them to take it 00:02:02.959 --> 00:02:06.019 out. They can't have it Well, we'll get more 00:02:06.019 --> 00:02:08.460 into the details later because the story is hilarious. 00:02:08.460 --> 00:02:10.560 Yeah, that's true. That's true. That's true We'll 00:02:10.560 --> 00:02:13.000 get more into it. But let's recap first. Yeah 00:02:13.000 --> 00:02:16.000 cap last time Middle -aged mama drama with a 00:02:16.000 --> 00:02:18.659 couple of middle -aged moms and they were smoking 00:02:18.659 --> 00:02:22.159 hot. That's your mom. That's your mom's Yeah, 00:02:22.240 --> 00:02:32.150 my mom and air hot. Yeah Okay, but to jump in 00:02:32.150 --> 00:02:35.710 first story was about OP not letting her mother 00:02:35.710 --> 00:02:37.509 -in -law hold the baby because mother -in -law 00:02:37.509 --> 00:02:40.250 wanted a paternity test She didn't believe that 00:02:40.250 --> 00:02:43.569 that was that her son was the dad. Yeah. No, 00:02:43.610 --> 00:02:46.189 that's crazy I feel like there's more to that 00:02:46.189 --> 00:02:48.650 story. I felt like there were so many holes There's 00:02:48.650 --> 00:02:50.889 so much I wanted to pick apart and like figure 00:02:50.889 --> 00:02:52.849 out Well, why does the mother -in -law feel like 00:02:52.849 --> 00:02:54.710 that like has the daughter -in -law had like 00:02:54.710 --> 00:02:57.389 history of cheating or whatever? so there's a 00:02:57.389 --> 00:03:00.669 lot there but we do know that that was a real 00:03:00.669 --> 00:03:03.789 story and that was not the fake oh well spoiler 00:03:03.789 --> 00:03:08.310 alert okay uh next one was the wicked witch yes 00:03:08.310 --> 00:03:11.969 having that song played at the funeral that was 00:03:11.969 --> 00:03:14.849 a vibe and shannon was about that life she was 00:03:14.849 --> 00:03:18.310 like yeah please play that at my funeral i was 00:03:18.310 --> 00:03:21.710 like yeah we'll do that in 75 years yeah why 00:03:21.710 --> 00:03:25.490 not or more hopefully more yep she's not allowed 00:03:25.490 --> 00:03:28.729 to die No, she's not. Nope. None of our family. 00:03:28.949 --> 00:03:31.629 Well, that was, believe it or not, a real story. 00:03:31.830 --> 00:03:34.610 So that was not the fake. True story, true story. 00:03:34.909 --> 00:03:37.330 And then there was the mom's Facebook rant about 00:03:37.330 --> 00:03:39.750 her daughter not making the volleyball team saying, 00:03:40.030 --> 00:03:42.629 like, back in our day, we used to ride our bikes 00:03:42.629 --> 00:03:44.610 in the street and drink from the hose and blah, 00:03:44.789 --> 00:03:47.430 blah, blah. Here's the thing with that is you 00:03:47.430 --> 00:03:50.210 hear people say all the time, like sports aren't 00:03:50.210 --> 00:03:54.069 what they were back then. Like sports are way 00:03:54.069 --> 00:03:57.210 more competitive now. You're getting into club 00:03:57.210 --> 00:04:00.969 ball seven, eight years old at this point nowadays. 00:04:02.669 --> 00:04:06.289 I have a hard time believing that sports were 00:04:06.289 --> 00:04:09.789 as hard to make like teams back then as they 00:04:09.789 --> 00:04:13.189 are now. Do you agree? Yeah, I mean, it's there's 00:04:13.189 --> 00:04:15.930 certainly more competition and like more access 00:04:15.930 --> 00:04:18.449 for kids to get better. So it's what it is. But 00:04:18.449 --> 00:04:20.370 the point the mom was making is the daughter's 00:04:20.370 --> 00:04:23.389 like. Doesn't practice doesn't do anything just 00:04:23.389 --> 00:04:25.350 sits on her phone and is like on social media. 00:04:25.389 --> 00:04:28.350 Yeah Well, that is realistic and that was not 00:04:28.350 --> 00:04:31.230 fake. No fake. Let's talk about which one was 00:04:31.230 --> 00:04:35.170 the fake. Tell them tell people Well, I wrote 00:04:35.170 --> 00:04:39.829 it with my brain and Jedi GBD it was the BYOB 00:04:39.829 --> 00:04:43.149 Facebook post for the mom accidentally Sent it 00:04:43.149 --> 00:04:45.629 to the wrong Facebook group and they like blew 00:04:45.629 --> 00:04:47.970 up and they had this huge block party after and 00:04:47.970 --> 00:04:50.620 they were all Rebelling and it was crazy So anyways, 00:04:51.540 --> 00:04:55.439 it was so crazy and Shannon and Teresa didn't 00:04:55.439 --> 00:04:57.220 guess it, which I was very surprised. I thought 00:04:57.220 --> 00:04:59.899 for sure. So I'm curious to know if you guys 00:04:59.899 --> 00:05:02.100 guessed it right. So comment on our socials. 00:05:02.100 --> 00:05:04.759 DM us on socials. Like we love hearing from you 00:05:04.759 --> 00:05:06.860 guys what your guys's guesses are, what you think 00:05:06.860 --> 00:05:09.759 it is. We love chatting. We love being frenzies. 00:05:09.839 --> 00:05:11.740 That's the whole point of Internet frenzy is 00:05:11.740 --> 00:05:16.759 like we love having friends. I'm so glad you 00:05:16.759 --> 00:05:20.350 can edit that out. I can't. Is this the truth? 00:05:20.829 --> 00:05:24.550 No. Also, guys, can I say this trigger warning? 00:05:24.629 --> 00:05:28.709 I don't really know, but I'm on pain pills. So 00:05:28.709 --> 00:05:31.870 whatever happens in this episode, just like don't 00:05:31.870 --> 00:05:35.329 don't judge. I'm recovering from a freaking surgery 00:05:35.329 --> 00:05:40.149 and I've been a bump on a log for seven days 00:05:40.149 --> 00:05:42.610 straight. So and I feel like my stitches are 00:05:42.610 --> 00:05:44.449 currently popping out of the seams right now 00:05:44.449 --> 00:05:48.110 on my stomach. So here we are. Well, where's 00:05:48.110 --> 00:05:50.300 your gallbladder? Can you find it? I literally 00:05:50.300 --> 00:05:52.899 have to grieve the fact that that organ is gone 00:05:52.899 --> 00:05:54.839 out of my body. Can you imagine an organ being 00:05:54.839 --> 00:05:58.040 taken out of your body, the body that God created? 00:05:59.360 --> 00:06:01.819 If it was full of gallstones and infected, I'm 00:06:01.819 --> 00:06:07.019 saying yank that thing, yoink it out. Guys, the 00:06:07.019 --> 00:06:09.819 gallbladder attacks were the worst. They were 00:06:09.819 --> 00:06:13.019 so bad and I kept it from I suffered for months 00:06:13.019 --> 00:06:16.360 for months. Aren't you glad that it's out? I 00:06:16.360 --> 00:06:18.420 don't know yet because I haven't been able to 00:06:18.420 --> 00:06:21.360 reap the benefits yet because I'm dying. My stomach, 00:06:21.660 --> 00:06:25.000 my abs, I just, surgery is hard. Recovery is 00:06:25.000 --> 00:06:27.199 hard. Follow your personal, tell them to follow 00:06:27.199 --> 00:06:29.399 your personal account for all the hacks on if 00:06:29.399 --> 00:06:31.000 you need to get your gallbladder removed. Oh 00:06:31.000 --> 00:06:35.500 yeah, follow my TikTok at WhitneyPsych6, I believe. 00:06:35.769 --> 00:06:38.170 Six is so random. Yeah, I know. I need it. I 00:06:38.170 --> 00:06:40.569 need to change my username, like literally. Gallbladder 00:06:40.569 --> 00:06:45.170 girl. See, this is bad. I can't laugh either 00:06:45.170 --> 00:06:48.029 in this episode because it hurts my stomach, 00:06:48.089 --> 00:06:51.829 but I will laugh with my mouth, not my belly. 00:06:55.750 --> 00:07:01.389 That was the worst thing ever. Well, I for one 00:07:01.389 --> 00:07:03.769 am excited. That was so bad. Please don't do 00:07:03.769 --> 00:07:05.920 that again. I'm excited that you don't have a 00:07:05.920 --> 00:07:09.500 gallbladder anymore. The surgeon was too. He 00:07:09.500 --> 00:07:11.300 came out. He came out to me in the waiting room, 00:07:11.500 --> 00:07:13.079 dapped me up. He's like, hey, dude, don't worry, 00:07:13.180 --> 00:07:17.720 bro. She's alive. Wow. That's legendary. Now, 00:07:17.720 --> 00:07:20.300 yeah, we were homies. We were celebrating. As 00:07:20.300 --> 00:07:23.439 you should. But that the experience at the hospital, 00:07:23.540 --> 00:07:27.199 it was an ever loving nightmare. Seven hours 00:07:27.199 --> 00:07:30.170 in the ER before we were admitted. among many 00:07:30.170 --> 00:07:32.949 other things, all the chaos. We could do a whole 00:07:32.949 --> 00:07:35.209 episode just on that alone, but we're not gonna 00:07:35.209 --> 00:07:37.389 go into all of it right now. That experience 00:07:37.389 --> 00:07:39.730 and your lack of a gallbladder is what inspired 00:07:39.730 --> 00:07:43.310 our topic for this week, which is - You're welcome. 00:07:44.410 --> 00:07:47.529 Paging Doctor Disaster. One of the things I have 00:07:47.529 --> 00:07:49.509 to tell a story before we get into the stories. 00:07:50.009 --> 00:07:53.529 This is a short one. It was your second night 00:07:53.529 --> 00:07:55.959 there. You were a little spooked. I had to go 00:07:55.959 --> 00:07:57.720 home and put our daughter down to go to sleep 00:07:57.720 --> 00:07:59.980 at our house because she was with grandma yeah 00:07:59.980 --> 00:08:03.480 and so I was like getting you all tucked in you 00:08:03.480 --> 00:08:05.660 were nice and doped up so you weren't feeling 00:08:05.660 --> 00:08:08.100 too much pain but you were a little scared yeah 00:08:08.100 --> 00:08:10.279 I was scared and all of a sudden they come over 00:08:10.279 --> 00:08:12.360 the intercom in the hallway and they're like 00:08:12.360 --> 00:08:15.759 attention all floors code purple code purple 00:08:15.759 --> 00:08:19.699 I repeat code purple in your face Joel's it was 00:08:19.699 --> 00:08:21.759 code purple and he goes straight to his phone 00:08:21.759 --> 00:08:25.430 I said I said, don't look it up. He's like, I'm 00:08:25.430 --> 00:08:27.709 looking it up. He looks it up and I say, fine, 00:08:27.709 --> 00:08:30.069 if you look it up, just don't tell me. I had 00:08:30.069 --> 00:08:33.350 to tell you. So if for anybody that is familiar 00:08:33.350 --> 00:08:36.330 with the medical field, Code Purple, like almost 00:08:36.330 --> 00:08:39.330 universally means that there was like an abduction 00:08:39.330 --> 00:08:42.629 of a minor. So it's like somebody's come in and 00:08:42.629 --> 00:08:47.309 abducted a minor and is like holding them hostage 00:08:47.309 --> 00:08:49.730 or has taken them out of the hospital or something 00:08:49.730 --> 00:08:54.200 so scary. And so I just Google code purple hospital. 00:08:54.480 --> 00:08:57.700 It pops up and I was like, it's like nighttime, 00:08:57.919 --> 00:09:00.620 like midnight or whatever. I'm like, I got to 00:09:00.620 --> 00:09:03.200 leave the hospital, leave you here. There's no 00:09:03.200 --> 00:09:05.259 locks on a hospital door. You push a lever and 00:09:05.259 --> 00:09:07.440 the thing opens. It's like there should be a 00:09:07.440 --> 00:09:10.480 lock. It's terrifying. No security. That's actually 00:09:10.480 --> 00:09:12.179 horrifying. So I was thinking about that. I'm 00:09:12.179 --> 00:09:14.000 like, I know. Anyway, I'm not going to go into 00:09:14.000 --> 00:09:18.840 that. But I was like, cool. So not leaving. Now 00:09:18.840 --> 00:09:22.889 what is there's a minor that has been stolen. 00:09:23.830 --> 00:09:28.070 So I was, I was nervous. I did tell you, you 00:09:28.070 --> 00:09:33.230 got really scared. Rightfully so. And then I 00:09:33.230 --> 00:09:34.970 did, luckily I did a little bit more digging 00:09:34.970 --> 00:09:38.990 and just this like, just this organization, this 00:09:38.990 --> 00:09:41.809 particular hospital that we were at, Code Purple 00:09:41.809 --> 00:09:44.429 just meant that they were at capacity. Didn't 00:09:44.429 --> 00:09:48.220 mean child abduction. Most of them do. I was 00:09:48.220 --> 00:09:50.639 like, that's such a stupid, like they probably 00:09:50.639 --> 00:09:54.159 get at capacity a lot. So many people are in 00:09:54.159 --> 00:09:55.899 there and they hear code purple. If they do look 00:09:55.899 --> 00:09:59.019 it up, they're like all panicking. I wouldn't 00:09:59.019 --> 00:10:03.159 have done that, but it's fine. It's fine. So 00:10:03.159 --> 00:10:07.259 that's the motivation of the story. Hospitals 00:10:07.259 --> 00:10:09.480 are crazy. Okay. So I'm going to start with my 00:10:09.480 --> 00:10:32.179 story. It's pretty good. So this is from rrant 00:10:32.179 --> 00:10:35.159 on Reddit. My girl left me right after a life 00:10:35.159 --> 00:10:39.759 -saving surgery. Me 22m, her 22f. Good day everyone. 00:10:40.200 --> 00:10:42.480 First off, please excuse my imperfect English 00:10:42.480 --> 00:10:45.159 as it isn't my first language. I've been in a 00:10:45.159 --> 00:10:47.120 relationship with this girl for about a year. 00:10:47.559 --> 00:10:49.460 All has been great. We have a great connection 00:10:49.460 --> 00:10:51.759 both mentally and physically. no problems in 00:10:51.759 --> 00:10:54.679 the bedroom, and generally no arguments. So a 00:10:54.679 --> 00:10:57.000 couple days ago, last Monday, I went to the hospital 00:10:57.000 --> 00:10:59.879 with what later turned out to be testicular cancer. 00:11:00.299 --> 00:11:02.299 Luckily it was discovered early and it hadn't 00:11:02.299 --> 00:11:04.460 spread anywhere, so I needed surgery for the 00:11:04.460 --> 00:11:07.159 affected testicle to be removed. Unfortunately, 00:11:07.419 --> 00:11:09.779 there was no other way I am now recovering from 00:11:09.779 --> 00:11:11.919 the surgery at home. To get to the point, when 00:11:11.919 --> 00:11:13.820 my girlfriend and I had to get a testicle removed, 00:11:13.940 --> 00:11:16.320 she immediately expressed some sort of repulsion. 00:11:16.899 --> 00:11:18.720 The day I got home from the hospital, she sent 00:11:18.720 --> 00:11:21.220 me a text saying, She didn't want to be with 00:11:21.220 --> 00:11:24.659 half a guy because I quote, now you just have 00:11:24.659 --> 00:11:27.360 one ball. I asked her if this is because she's 00:11:27.360 --> 00:11:29.500 afraid we wouldn't be able to have kids together. 00:11:29.679 --> 00:11:31.740 And for some reason, that wasn't even the point. 00:11:32.019 --> 00:11:34.740 I'm still very fertile and I even have had them 00:11:34.740 --> 00:11:37.799 free sperm cells just in case. So I'm at a conflict 00:11:37.799 --> 00:11:40.059 with myself now. On one hand, I want to try and 00:11:40.059 --> 00:11:42.059 salvage the relationship. On the other hand, 00:11:42.379 --> 00:11:44.559 I feel like I deserve better than someone who 00:11:44.559 --> 00:11:46.820 calls me half a man just because I had cancer. 00:11:47.080 --> 00:11:49.720 I'm just very angry and sad now especially because 00:11:49.720 --> 00:11:52.740 she did it over text even while I'm still in 00:11:52.740 --> 00:11:56.039 a lot of pain Yo So the big question is do I 00:11:56.039 --> 00:11:58.179 try to save the relationship with a person like 00:11:58.179 --> 00:12:00.639 this? Or do I save my self -respect and move 00:12:00.639 --> 00:12:02.980 on to find someone who will value me for the 00:12:02.980 --> 00:12:07.080 full man? I still am her reach, bro. That is 00:12:07.080 --> 00:12:11.500 insane that I guarantee That happens more than 00:12:11.500 --> 00:12:15.350 we think don't say that No, it's horrible. So 00:12:15.350 --> 00:12:18.450 you're telling me you would leave me if I got 00:12:18.450 --> 00:12:21.230 that? Absolutely not. We're married. You're like 00:12:21.230 --> 00:12:23.029 the first thing out of your mouth. You're like 00:12:23.029 --> 00:12:28.769 probably happens a lot. I don't know. No, I'm 00:12:28.769 --> 00:12:31.769 saying girls are shallow and they're also uneducated 00:12:31.769 --> 00:12:34.590 like it's not like he has one ball. It's completely 00:12:34.590 --> 00:12:38.070 taken off. It's still there. It's not like aesthetically 00:12:38.070 --> 00:12:40.960 not pleasing. I don't even know where to try 00:12:40.960 --> 00:12:46.039 to help you with this. Listen. I'm not going 00:12:46.039 --> 00:12:49.559 to go into a male anatomy 101 right now, but 00:12:49.559 --> 00:12:53.000 what I will tell you is aesthetically, not going 00:12:53.000 --> 00:12:55.220 to change a whole lot of anything. Yeah, I wouldn't 00:12:55.220 --> 00:12:57.659 think so. No, I mean, it's like, yeah, I'm not 00:12:57.659 --> 00:12:59.220 going to talk about that. I'm literally not going 00:12:59.220 --> 00:13:02.200 to talk about that. It's for her. It's something 00:13:02.200 --> 00:13:04.500 psychologically that she's like not cool with 00:13:04.500 --> 00:13:07.259 and that is so f'd up Oh, it's so f'd up. The 00:13:07.259 --> 00:13:09.919 guy has testicular cancer He's been with her 00:13:09.919 --> 00:13:12.639 for a year too. That's not just like a couple 00:13:12.639 --> 00:13:15.799 months summer fling This is like they are in 00:13:15.799 --> 00:13:18.639 a full -blown relationship for a year now. She's 00:13:18.639 --> 00:13:22.639 like, oh this this guy He's prone to cancer and 00:13:22.639 --> 00:13:26.580 he only has one nut now East that's so sad so 00:13:26.580 --> 00:13:29.860 wrong This poor guy, well, I definitely do think 00:13:29.860 --> 00:13:33.659 he deserves much better. Yes. Like that just 00:13:33.659 --> 00:13:36.940 shows her character through and through and it's 00:13:36.940 --> 00:13:39.879 rotten. But I'm just trying to say I do think 00:13:39.879 --> 00:13:42.039 it probably happens more often than you would 00:13:42.039 --> 00:13:44.940 think, whether it's this type of cancer or just 00:13:44.940 --> 00:13:48.340 like a sickness or any type of cancer. I'm sure 00:13:48.340 --> 00:13:52.200 the other partner steps back more often than 00:13:52.200 --> 00:13:54.039 you think. Couldn't fathom it. I mean, you might 00:13:54.039 --> 00:13:56.360 be right. I don't know. We should look up the 00:13:56.360 --> 00:13:59.399 statistics on that. You're down a whole gallbladder 00:13:59.399 --> 00:14:03.820 and I'm not going anywhere. I really appreciate 00:14:03.820 --> 00:14:06.360 that, Joe. Thank you so much. It's like I literally 00:14:06.360 --> 00:14:09.559 don't even care. You don't? I only care about 00:14:09.559 --> 00:14:11.659 you being in pain. You want me in pain or you 00:14:11.659 --> 00:14:14.080 don't want me in pain? I don't want you in pain. 00:14:14.120 --> 00:14:16.940 There you go. That's what I mean. I only care 00:14:16.940 --> 00:14:18.379 about the fact that you're in pain, not that 00:14:18.379 --> 00:14:20.440 you're down a gallbladder. I know. I was just 00:14:20.440 --> 00:14:23.899 kidding. I mean, we'll see if you can still eat 00:14:23.899 --> 00:14:27.269 in and out. It remains to be seen. Oh, if I can't 00:14:27.269 --> 00:14:31.470 I'm gonna cry 20 % of all people that have their 00:14:31.470 --> 00:14:35.889 gallbladder removed Remain symptomatic according 00:14:35.889 --> 00:14:38.750 to the surgeon my guy. Yep. That's your man. 00:14:39.049 --> 00:14:41.789 Yep. So we'll see what happens. But yeah, there's 00:14:41.789 --> 00:14:44.590 a couple comments Well, there's a lot of comments 00:14:44.590 --> 00:14:48.090 actually, but it was a good one 58 to be exact. 00:14:48.090 --> 00:14:53.909 Oh my gosh so Nanotomy 44 said Let that worthless 00:14:53.909 --> 00:14:56.669 woman go and wave goodbye. Do not waste your 00:14:56.669 --> 00:14:59.470 time on such an unfeeling heifer. You can get 00:14:59.470 --> 00:15:03.190 a prosthetic test implanted so you look even 00:15:03.190 --> 00:15:05.690 and when are recovered physically and emotionally 00:15:05.690 --> 00:15:08.370 tell your partner upfront once you get past the 00:15:08.370 --> 00:15:12.559 casual dating stage without any more. unempathetic 00:15:12.559 --> 00:15:15.440 partners before you get dreadfully involved and 00:15:15.440 --> 00:15:17.840 beginning conflict says yeah i was told about 00:15:17.840 --> 00:15:20.039 a prosthetic we'll look into it but given the 00:15:20.039 --> 00:15:22.059 recovery now i don't think it's worth it i'm 00:15:22.059 --> 00:15:24.379 in hella pain but thanks for the kind words and 00:15:24.379 --> 00:15:27.620 advice it's very much appreciated i could not 00:15:27.620 --> 00:15:31.820 imagine oh a prosthetic like who cares if it 00:15:31.820 --> 00:15:34.340 hangs a little lower on one side is that basically 00:15:34.340 --> 00:15:36.879 all it is yeah just be a little lopsided that's 00:15:36.879 --> 00:15:39.230 it Who cares? Who's staring at people's balls 00:15:39.230 --> 00:15:41.950 anyway? That's like what I was going to say without 00:15:41.950 --> 00:15:45.149 saying it, you know? I'll be the one to say it. 00:15:45.190 --> 00:15:47.730 Yeah, you would. Yeah. You naturally would. I 00:15:47.730 --> 00:15:50.269 got you guys. Well, hopefully OP has moved on 00:15:50.269 --> 00:15:53.629 to a nice, healthy relationship. Yeah, 100%. 00:15:53.629 --> 00:15:56.169 This was a year ago, so. He was young too, only 00:15:56.169 --> 00:15:59.690 22. That's so sad. It's horrible. He's in the 00:15:59.690 --> 00:16:01.710 clear. He's got the rest of his life to live. 00:16:01.929 --> 00:16:04.649 Yes, he's a charming young lad who would do greats 00:16:04.649 --> 00:16:07.779 in life. he do just fine and he'll produce lots 00:16:07.779 --> 00:16:12.899 of babies for a hotter more successful emotionally 00:16:12.899 --> 00:16:16.019 intelligent babe that'll be gone as soon as his 00:16:16.019 --> 00:16:20.000 other testicle gets cancer too okay my turn am 00:16:20.000 --> 00:16:22.139 i the asshole for deciding not to tell my family 00:16:22.139 --> 00:16:24.360 that the surgery i'm getting will probably kill 00:16:24.360 --> 00:16:28.519 me no I'm getting a major surgery done in about 00:16:28.519 --> 00:16:30.940 three weeks and I was told there's a 60 to 80 00:16:30.940 --> 00:16:34.299 % chance it will kill me. It's 60 % if I do all 00:16:34.299 --> 00:16:36.039 the things the surgeon told me to do to prepare 00:16:36.039 --> 00:16:38.399 for the surgery, take supplements, gain weight 00:16:38.399 --> 00:16:40.860 fast, lots of protein, and I'm following all 00:16:40.860 --> 00:16:43.159 the rules. So let's say my chances of dying are 00:16:43.159 --> 00:16:46.519 60%. That's not great, but not too horrible. 00:16:46.779 --> 00:16:49.539 The thing is, I've had this exact surgery before 00:16:49.539 --> 00:16:52.330 and I came out just fine. So my family has no 00:16:52.330 --> 00:16:54.210 reason to think this time will be any different, 00:16:54.210 --> 00:16:56.230 aside from the risk involved with any surgery. 00:16:56.509 --> 00:16:58.970 However, for reasons involving my medical condition, 00:16:59.169 --> 00:17:01.850 which he put in parentheses TM, I wanted to look 00:17:01.850 --> 00:17:04.950 up what TM was and I forgot, so I'll look it 00:17:04.950 --> 00:17:07.990 up after. This time the surgery is riskier. My 00:17:07.990 --> 00:17:10.670 family consists of my older brother, 28M, who 00:17:10.670 --> 00:17:14.910 I, 27M, live with, and my mom, 54F, who lives 00:17:14.910 --> 00:17:16.569 on the other side of the country. My brother 00:17:16.569 --> 00:17:18.650 is very protective of me and my mom still acts 00:17:18.650 --> 00:17:21.009 like I'm her little boy. The only reasons I could 00:17:21.009 --> 00:17:23.509 think of to tell them would be one, give them 00:17:23.509 --> 00:17:25.589 time to prepare for the possibility of my death, 00:17:25.910 --> 00:17:27.730 but I don't think this is something they can 00:17:27.730 --> 00:17:29.970 prepare for. I'm sure they'd just be miserable 00:17:29.970 --> 00:17:31.910 for the time leading up to the surgery and I 00:17:31.910 --> 00:17:33.950 don't want that. The second reason is give us 00:17:33.950 --> 00:17:36.029 all a chance to make happy memories before the 00:17:36.029 --> 00:17:37.869 surgery. Again, I don't think that can happen 00:17:37.869 --> 00:17:39.910 when we'd only be doing it because I might die 00:17:39.910 --> 00:17:42.130 soon. It would feel forced and desperate and 00:17:42.130 --> 00:17:44.650 they would only be pretending to not be miserable 00:17:44.650 --> 00:17:46.710 and I'd be unhappy because I would know they're 00:17:46.710 --> 00:17:49.049 miserable. I'm leaning towards ignorance is bliss 00:17:49.049 --> 00:17:51.869 for everyone involved. If I survive, no harm 00:17:51.869 --> 00:17:54.009 done and all that potential misery would be for 00:17:54.009 --> 00:17:56.230 nothing. If I die, well, that's the risk of any 00:17:56.230 --> 00:17:58.170 surgery and their final moments with me wouldn't 00:17:58.170 --> 00:18:00.569 have had that misery. And with my medical condition, 00:18:00.890 --> 00:18:04.049 TM it's unlikely I'd make it to retirement age 00:18:04.049 --> 00:18:06.369 anyway But is it right for me to hide something 00:18:06.369 --> 00:18:09.369 this big even if it's to spare them pain. What 00:18:09.369 --> 00:18:13.230 are your thoughts? Oh I say don't tell them. 00:18:13.329 --> 00:18:15.930 I think I think that's what I'm saying, too But 00:18:15.930 --> 00:18:18.470 it's sad. He doesn't have any emotional support. 00:18:18.470 --> 00:18:21.349 He has no one to like for his own sake He's got 00:18:21.349 --> 00:18:23.829 to have someone there to like be there for him 00:18:23.829 --> 00:18:26.450 because that's heavy. That's so heavy. That's 00:18:26.450 --> 00:18:29.609 Devastating I would tell I would if it was me 00:18:29.720 --> 00:18:32.039 Like, hearing the story, reading about it, if 00:18:32.039 --> 00:18:33.819 it was my family member, I don't think I would 00:18:33.819 --> 00:18:35.880 want to know, because that would be so devastating. 00:18:36.700 --> 00:18:39.019 You wouldn't want to know if your brother was 00:18:39.019 --> 00:18:41.720 going into a surgery that had a 60 % chance that 00:18:41.720 --> 00:18:44.640 he was going to die. 60 -80. I think I would 00:18:44.640 --> 00:18:46.960 want to know what the surgery was for, but yeah, 00:18:47.099 --> 00:18:50.680 it's like... I would absolutely want to know 00:18:50.680 --> 00:18:53.779 if someone I loved going into a surgery had 68 00:18:53.779 --> 00:18:56.519 percent chance of dying I'm saying if it was 00:18:56.519 --> 00:18:59.099 me going into that surgery I mean knowing me 00:18:59.099 --> 00:19:02.099 I would be telling that I have a 60 to 80 percent 00:19:02.099 --> 00:19:04.759 chance of dying I just know how like who I am 00:19:04.759 --> 00:19:07.160 I would definitely be telling everyone yeah because 00:19:07.160 --> 00:19:09.700 I would need that emotional support I would need 00:19:09.700 --> 00:19:12.259 that love and comfort and like I would want to 00:19:12.259 --> 00:19:17.180 say my goodbyes just in case mm -hmm, but It 00:19:17.180 --> 00:19:19.460 sounds like he obviously doesn't want to, so 00:19:19.460 --> 00:19:21.660 maybe he just doesn't need that type of like 00:19:21.660 --> 00:19:24.039 support. I think everybody does to a certain 00:19:24.039 --> 00:19:26.819 extent, but he's also, he's being the type of 00:19:26.819 --> 00:19:29.019 person that's like kind of taking it on the chin 00:19:29.019 --> 00:19:31.180 for his family. Like he thinks it's the noble 00:19:31.180 --> 00:19:35.160 thing to do. Yes, yes, yes. So there's several 00:19:35.160 --> 00:19:38.980 edits. The first one says the surgery is 100 00:19:38.980 --> 00:19:41.859 % necessary. I will die without it, but it would 00:19:41.859 --> 00:19:44.220 take maybe a year or so and be very unpleasant. 00:19:45.299 --> 00:19:47.680 Edit number two. I've already gone over how I'd 00:19:47.680 --> 00:19:49.799 want my body dealt with. The last time I had 00:19:49.799 --> 00:19:52.539 surgery, which I want it donated to science or 00:19:52.539 --> 00:19:54.660 cremated if science doesn't want it. I have no 00:19:54.660 --> 00:19:56.440 debts and my brother knows about all my bank 00:19:56.440 --> 00:19:59.720 accounts. Well. Edit number three. I will write 00:19:59.720 --> 00:20:02.180 letters to them. Oh, I don't love that. Edit 00:20:02.180 --> 00:20:05.119 four. Maybe I wasn't very clear about this because 00:20:05.119 --> 00:20:07.119 a few people have commented about it. I'm not 00:20:07.119 --> 00:20:09.680 hiding the surgery itself from my family. just 00:20:09.680 --> 00:20:11.900 how risky it is. They're gonna come see me off 00:20:11.900 --> 00:20:14.500 and will say our I love yous and good lucks at 00:20:14.500 --> 00:20:18.000 the hospital. Edit five. I already have an advanced 00:20:18.000 --> 00:20:20.160 medical directive from the last time I had this 00:20:20.160 --> 00:20:22.460 surgery. I don't have any idea what that means. 00:20:22.680 --> 00:20:25.140 And yes, I promise to post an update if I survive. 00:20:25.640 --> 00:20:27.380 You're all very sweet for wishing me well. It 00:20:27.380 --> 00:20:29.420 turns out Reddit isn't as scary as I feared. 00:20:29.700 --> 00:20:32.140 I just joined and this was my first post. Edit 00:20:32.140 --> 00:20:34.470 number six. Thanks to everyone who responded 00:20:34.470 --> 00:20:36.170 with their thoughts. I honestly don't know what 00:20:36.170 --> 00:20:38.410 I want anymore. There seems to be no good answer 00:20:38.410 --> 00:20:40.289 and spending the last four hours reading what 00:20:40.289 --> 00:20:42.690 everyone has said and thinking about my upcoming 00:20:42.690 --> 00:20:45.170 surgery has left me feeling pretty drained. I'm 00:20:45.170 --> 00:20:47.269 gonna take a break and recharge. Edit number 00:20:47.269 --> 00:20:49.490 seven. Okay, I'm feeling very overwhelmed here. 00:20:49.630 --> 00:20:51.789 I was only expecting to get 10 comments, maybe 00:20:51.789 --> 00:20:54.730 20 at the most. Now there's nearly 400 comments. 00:20:55.400 --> 00:20:57.480 I wrote this post feeling pretty confident of 00:20:57.480 --> 00:20:59.240 my decision, but I wanted to see if anyone out 00:20:59.240 --> 00:21:01.400 there had a different perspective, another point 00:21:01.400 --> 00:21:03.579 of view that I hadn't considered. After reading 00:21:03.579 --> 00:21:05.279 over a hundred of these comments, I don't know 00:21:05.279 --> 00:21:07.059 what I should do anymore. I'm feeling guilty 00:21:07.059 --> 00:21:08.900 for hiding this, but I can't see what the right 00:21:08.900 --> 00:21:11.099 thing to do is. There probably isn't a right 00:21:11.099 --> 00:21:13.180 thing to do. So many of you have shared their 00:21:13.180 --> 00:21:15.180 stories and experiences with the death of a loved 00:21:15.180 --> 00:21:17.599 one. I'm truly sorry you had to go through that 00:21:17.599 --> 00:21:19.740 and I appreciate your perspectives. I'm going 00:21:19.740 --> 00:21:21.819 to revisit this in the morning and look at this 00:21:21.819 --> 00:21:24.220 with fresh eyes. P .S. To all the people who 00:21:24.220 --> 00:21:27.109 are setting for three weeks, a bit morbid, but 00:21:27.109 --> 00:21:29.509 I understand you should make it four weeks if 00:21:29.509 --> 00:21:31.609 I survive on the time to recover it and get out 00:21:31.609 --> 00:21:34.089 of the ICU before I come back to Reddit. Dang, 00:21:34.250 --> 00:21:36.589 so people are literally seeing if he comes back. 00:21:36.809 --> 00:21:39.750 Yeah, people are setting reminders to see. Oh. 00:21:41.369 --> 00:21:44.910 Devastating. Oh my gosh. I wonder what he does. 00:21:45.069 --> 00:21:48.309 I wonder if he ends up telling them that 68 % 00:21:48.309 --> 00:21:52.900 chance. 60 to 80%. What would you guys do? Like, 00:21:53.039 --> 00:21:55.119 do you do you tell the family or do you not? 00:21:55.359 --> 00:21:57.339 I don't know. You tell the family. That's your 00:21:57.339 --> 00:22:00.059 family. That's your loved ones. You make them 00:22:00.059 --> 00:22:02.500 so miserable for a month or do you tell them 00:22:02.500 --> 00:22:05.480 when it's closer to the surgery? Maybe? Oh, well, 00:22:05.480 --> 00:22:08.000 I know for me, I would want as much time as possible 00:22:08.000 --> 00:22:10.319 with my family and they would give me that time 00:22:10.319 --> 00:22:13.799 if they knew I was going into a surgery 60 80%. 00:22:13.799 --> 00:22:18.059 So I just if I heard that I'm thinking that they're 00:22:18.059 --> 00:22:21.839 gonna die. 60 to 80 percent chance. Yeah. Yeah, 00:22:21.839 --> 00:22:24.380 it's majority. It's like and if it's the negative, 00:22:24.500 --> 00:22:26.500 that's the majority you're like it's for sure 00:22:26.500 --> 00:22:28.759 because you always hear about when it's like 00:22:28.759 --> 00:22:31.440 the five percent chance and they die. You know 00:22:31.440 --> 00:22:33.940 what I mean? It's like that's so scary. It's 00:22:33.940 --> 00:22:36.880 horrible. It's horrible. Please. I just please 00:22:36.880 --> 00:22:39.440 tell me there's an update. Oh my gosh. I'll give 00:22:39.440 --> 00:22:43.859 you an update. No, this was six years ago. There 00:22:43.859 --> 00:22:46.059 was never there was never another post in that 00:22:46.059 --> 00:22:48.710 the account was deleted. I know, give me chills. 00:22:49.769 --> 00:22:54.049 No, he died. I think so. Oh, that's so sad. I 00:22:54.049 --> 00:22:56.910 wonder if he ever told the family. No idea. I 00:22:56.910 --> 00:23:00.890 mean, they know now he's dead. Oh, that's horrible. 00:23:01.170 --> 00:23:04.509 Wow. Way to make me depressed. Crazy story, right? 00:23:05.109 --> 00:23:07.690 That's a crazy, crazy story. Is there comments 00:23:07.690 --> 00:23:11.910 like RIP and things like that? Wow. There's basically 00:23:11.910 --> 00:23:13.589 everything was like, please just make sure that 00:23:13.589 --> 00:23:16.160 your affairs are in order. like to make it easier 00:23:16.160 --> 00:23:18.099 for them. If you decide not to tell them, make 00:23:18.099 --> 00:23:21.019 sure that everything is like, oh, where it needs 00:23:21.019 --> 00:23:24.240 to be. My thought is like as a family member, 00:23:24.420 --> 00:23:27.259 especially like a parent, you would think that 00:23:27.259 --> 00:23:29.640 you would do enough research to know that it 00:23:29.640 --> 00:23:32.420 was 60 to 80 percent just based on like what 00:23:32.420 --> 00:23:34.740 surgery they're doing. And it's the second time 00:23:34.740 --> 00:23:37.759 around. Like I know if it's my kid, I'm researching 00:23:37.759 --> 00:23:40.539 like what are the chances of survival in this 00:23:40.539 --> 00:23:43.940 surgery? You know, yeah. So maybe the family 00:23:43.940 --> 00:23:46.180 did know and they just never had the discussion 00:23:46.180 --> 00:23:48.319 with him. So there's a comment. It says, may 00:23:48.319 --> 00:23:50.880 I ask what kind of surgery you're having? I asked 00:23:50.880 --> 00:23:53.720 for my own education. It's extremely unusual 00:23:53.720 --> 00:23:55.940 to perform a non -emergent surgery with that 00:23:55.940 --> 00:23:58.059 high of a mortality rate, let alone do it twice. 00:23:58.559 --> 00:24:00.299 I've scanned the comments and don't seem to find 00:24:00.299 --> 00:24:02.440 it. I'm also not aware of any surgery in which 00:24:02.440 --> 00:24:04.559 rapidly gaining weight using protein powders 00:24:04.559 --> 00:24:07.220 or taking supplements improved mortality. Source. 00:24:07.690 --> 00:24:10.890 This person is an anesthesiologist. And so the 00:24:10.890 --> 00:24:13.509 edit says, update, I received PM from OP, story 00:24:13.509 --> 00:24:16.329 checks out, details being kept private by request. 00:24:16.490 --> 00:24:21.230 Best wishes and good luck, OP. Oh, dang. I was 00:24:21.230 --> 00:24:23.410 hoping this was like some fake story on Reddit. 00:24:23.869 --> 00:24:26.990 Oh, and this is another great one. No. Well, 00:24:26.990 --> 00:24:29.049 OP, I think I have to change my judgment on this 00:24:29.049 --> 00:24:31.289 one and say, you're the asshole. You're the asshole 00:24:31.289 --> 00:24:33.549 for one of the following reasons. Number one, 00:24:33.609 --> 00:24:35.230 you made it through the surgery and haven't come 00:24:35.230 --> 00:24:37.690 back to update us all. Or you've forgotten your 00:24:37.690 --> 00:24:39.750 Reddit logins. I really hope this is the case 00:24:39.750 --> 00:24:41.809 and I still keep checking the thread daily for 00:24:41.809 --> 00:24:44.970 some signs. All will be forgiven and you'll be 00:24:44.970 --> 00:24:47.690 NTA again, not the asshole. We're all still rooting 00:24:47.690 --> 00:24:50.269 for you, OP. Number two, you didn't make it through 00:24:50.269 --> 00:24:52.269 and you failed on your promise to come and haunt 00:24:52.269 --> 00:24:54.630 everyone who comments. Or number three, you didn't 00:24:54.630 --> 00:24:56.190 make it through and you've left a big hole in 00:24:56.190 --> 00:24:58.250 this world. If this is the case, I hope your 00:24:58.250 --> 00:25:00.150 family are doing well. We will all be thinking 00:25:00.150 --> 00:25:03.380 of them. Whatever the case, OP, we... We hope 00:25:03.380 --> 00:25:05.119 you're doing okay. If you made it through, I 00:25:05.119 --> 00:25:07.180 hope you're fighting to get fit. If not, I hope 00:25:07.180 --> 00:25:10.279 you're at peace now. Oh my goodness. This is 00:25:10.279 --> 00:25:14.460 so sad. He's dead. Yeah. He died. He didn't make 00:25:14.460 --> 00:25:18.059 it through surgery and the family is sad. Yeah, 00:25:18.079 --> 00:25:21.160 and they've been sad for six years. Yeah. So 00:25:21.160 --> 00:25:24.440 that's my story. Wow, Joan. That's a sad one. 00:25:24.720 --> 00:25:28.599 Do I win the award of saddest story? Yeah, but 00:25:28.599 --> 00:25:31.579 I got a really good story coming up right now. 00:25:31.839 --> 00:25:33.920 Talk to me. So this is on Reddit. Am I the asshole 00:25:33.920 --> 00:25:36.200 for refusing to speak to my husband because he 00:25:36.200 --> 00:25:40.059 chose work over my surgery? I26F recently found 00:25:40.059 --> 00:25:42.799 out that I have a mass on my tonsil. My doctor 00:25:42.799 --> 00:25:44.980 immediately opted for a tonsillectomy. It could 00:25:44.980 --> 00:25:46.779 be cancer, so we wanted to get it out as soon 00:25:46.779 --> 00:25:49.799 as possible. I have had cancer once before. My 00:25:49.799 --> 00:25:53.160 husband 27M works all the time. He almost never 00:25:53.160 --> 00:25:55.819 calls off and recently got another job. My surgery 00:25:55.819 --> 00:25:58.299 is scheduled for a day that he works. He told 00:25:58.299 --> 00:26:00.339 me that he was not going to be taking me because 00:26:00.339 --> 00:26:02.460 he has to work. I don't have a way to get there 00:26:02.460 --> 00:26:04.519 because I cannot drive myself and I have had 00:26:04.519 --> 00:26:06.900 to ask my friends to take me. They are not able 00:26:06.900 --> 00:26:09.180 to and I'm pretty introverted naturally so I 00:26:09.180 --> 00:26:10.880 don't have a ton of close friends in general. 00:26:11.059 --> 00:26:13.619 I have two close friends who live here and one 00:26:13.619 --> 00:26:16.200 doesn't have a car. I don't really have any family 00:26:16.200 --> 00:26:18.259 that is close enough to be able to. I'm struggling 00:26:18.259 --> 00:26:20.720 to find someone in time. I also need someone 00:26:20.720 --> 00:26:22.940 to stay with me for the entire first 24 hours 00:26:22.940 --> 00:26:25.079 to help me manage pain meds while being high 00:26:25.079 --> 00:26:27.700 on anesthesia and making sure there are no complications 00:26:27.700 --> 00:26:30.019 from it basically. And he says he can't because 00:26:30.019 --> 00:26:32.220 he has to work. They are wondering why he won't 00:26:32.220 --> 00:26:34.160 take a day off work and especially why he won't 00:26:34.160 --> 00:26:36.359 take a few days off so he can help me out if 00:26:36.359 --> 00:26:38.839 I need it as I'm coming off the anesthesia. This 00:26:38.839 --> 00:26:41.259 upset me so much that I haven't even been able 00:26:41.259 --> 00:26:43.920 to look at him or speak to him for the past two 00:26:43.920 --> 00:26:46.619 days. He told me I'm the asshole because I don't 00:26:46.619 --> 00:26:48.619 care about his job and he called me controlling. 00:26:48.960 --> 00:26:51.500 for getting upset and ignoring him. I'm starting 00:26:51.500 --> 00:26:53.640 to think maybe I am a bit of an asshole here. 00:26:53.740 --> 00:26:58.160 So Reddit, am I the asshole? Oh my gosh. There's 00:26:58.160 --> 00:27:01.059 no way she thinks that she's the asshole. It's 00:27:01.059 --> 00:27:03.420 actually like really sad. I understand it's a 00:27:03.420 --> 00:27:06.500 new job and he has to work. But here's the deal, 00:27:06.500 --> 00:27:09.339 honey. If you really can't take that day off, 00:27:09.700 --> 00:27:11.960 then you are going to be the one to take charge 00:27:11.960 --> 00:27:14.500 of accommodating and being like, I got you an 00:27:14.500 --> 00:27:18.160 Uber. I got your caretaker. I hired somebody. 00:27:18.539 --> 00:27:20.740 They are going to take you and they're gonna 00:27:20.740 --> 00:27:23.059 stay with you and then bring you back and when 00:27:23.059 --> 00:27:25.759 you get back I'm gonna have dinner ready or whatever 00:27:25.759 --> 00:27:28.480 like he needs to take initiative here instead 00:27:28.480 --> 00:27:30.819 of being like no you figure it out. I'm working 00:27:30.819 --> 00:27:34.539 and it's a tonsillectomy No idea what that is. 00:27:34.799 --> 00:27:38.000 So you're taking a mess off a tonsil or you're 00:27:38.000 --> 00:27:41.480 taking your tonsils out Really? Yeah, I think 00:27:41.480 --> 00:27:44.779 and then how's that work? I don't think I don't 00:27:44.779 --> 00:27:46.779 know. I don't know. I'm not a medical pro. I 00:27:46.779 --> 00:27:52.029 mean I'm not a doctor. Yeah. I work in the dental 00:27:52.029 --> 00:27:54.329 field. I know. I feel like you should know this. 00:27:55.150 --> 00:27:58.390 I feel like tonsils are not that important. Like 00:27:58.390 --> 00:28:00.089 I'm pretty sure kids have their tonsils removed 00:28:00.089 --> 00:28:02.369 sometimes. That's true. Or like your tonsils 00:28:02.369 --> 00:28:05.349 are swollen. Yeah. Yeah. You're right. But this 00:28:05.349 --> 00:28:08.650 is a mass on her. Right. No. The biggest issue 00:28:08.650 --> 00:28:10.890 is that she's had cancer before and now she has 00:28:10.890 --> 00:28:14.039 a mass. on her tonsils yeah and the dude's like 00:28:14.039 --> 00:28:16.940 so so sorry i'm clocked in not gonna be able 00:28:16.940 --> 00:28:20.559 to help you at all like hope you don't die let 00:28:20.559 --> 00:28:23.539 me know if it's cancer i gotta work it's horrible 00:28:23.539 --> 00:28:27.859 that's so sad he's the jerk i hate him she's 00:28:27.859 --> 00:28:30.539 not the jerk so there is an edit thank you guys 00:28:30.539 --> 00:28:32.980 for all the love and advice i will be contacting 00:28:32.980 --> 00:28:35.740 my doctor on monday to figure out a plan it really 00:28:35.740 --> 00:28:37.680 helps it means a lot to see everyone's input 00:28:37.880 --> 00:28:40.240 I'll try to keep up with comments and also I'll 00:28:40.240 --> 00:28:42.539 be updating again when I have a plan update. 00:28:42.680 --> 00:28:44.500 My husband got me beautiful flowers and made 00:28:44.500 --> 00:28:47.359 me my favorite breakfast this morning. He apologized 00:28:47.359 --> 00:28:49.740 a bunch. He realized he was being a huge asshole 00:28:49.740 --> 00:28:52.299 and he's taking the day off for my surgery. My 00:28:52.299 --> 00:28:54.059 friend is going to hang out here with me the 00:28:54.059 --> 00:28:55.940 next couple days after that to make sure I'm 00:28:55.940 --> 00:28:58.319 all good. Thank you everyone for your input. 00:28:58.640 --> 00:29:01.500 I'm glad he came to his senses. He is even pushing 00:29:01.500 --> 00:29:03.859 off starting his new job so he won't be working 00:29:03.859 --> 00:29:06.279 both jobs and not home at all during my recovery. 00:29:06.750 --> 00:29:08.849 He's never had surgery, so he didn't realize 00:29:08.849 --> 00:29:11.950 that just tonsils could be so bad. We are also 00:29:11.950 --> 00:29:14.190 going to start going to marriage counseling to 00:29:14.190 --> 00:29:16.309 help us communicate better and to help him be 00:29:16.309 --> 00:29:20.789 more sensitive to my needs. This seems gross 00:29:20.789 --> 00:29:23.390 to me. I feel like I don't know why. What do 00:29:23.390 --> 00:29:25.910 you mean? It feels like she's just trying to 00:29:25.910 --> 00:29:28.910 put a bandaid over it for red. That's fair. That's 00:29:28.910 --> 00:29:31.410 very fair and like. Because she really hit all 00:29:31.410 --> 00:29:34.670 of the pain points there. Reddit's a scary place. 00:29:34.809 --> 00:29:36.890 You don't want the reddest savages coming after 00:29:36.890 --> 00:29:40.089 you seeking blood. Yeah, you would know. Don't. 00:29:41.630 --> 00:29:44.390 We're not giving context here, but one time Joe 00:29:44.390 --> 00:29:46.829 did like a burner account and he posted a fight 00:29:46.829 --> 00:29:48.910 that we had and was like, who's the asshole? 00:29:49.609 --> 00:29:51.569 It was like real life fight we actually had. 00:29:52.559 --> 00:29:56.240 guess who was the asshole and Joe was salty for 00:29:56.240 --> 00:29:59.839 literally like two weeks. He was so upset. He 00:29:59.839 --> 00:30:05.500 was so mad. I still don't agree. That's crazy. 00:30:06.660 --> 00:30:10.059 So many people blamed you. They don't get it. 00:30:10.319 --> 00:30:12.640 No, they get it. The people that get it, get 00:30:12.640 --> 00:30:16.140 it. I hope they go to marriage counseling. Everyone 00:30:16.140 --> 00:30:18.589 should be doing that. 10 out of 10. Recommend. 00:30:18.970 --> 00:30:20.650 Recommend, baby. I'm not going to try it. I'm 00:30:20.650 --> 00:30:22.589 not going to jump to any conclusions about his 00:30:22.589 --> 00:30:25.470 character. All I know is that I've never had 00:30:25.470 --> 00:30:27.710 surgery either. The truth is that like when I 00:30:27.710 --> 00:30:29.049 found out that your gallbladder was going to 00:30:29.049 --> 00:30:32.190 be removed, I felt a sense of relief about the 00:30:32.190 --> 00:30:33.750 fact that you weren't going to be in pain anymore. 00:30:33.849 --> 00:30:35.589 You're going to be writhing in the middle of 00:30:35.589 --> 00:30:38.509 the night anymore. So I was like, OK, good. Now 00:30:38.509 --> 00:30:40.650 we know what's going on. Let's get this thing 00:30:40.650 --> 00:30:43.670 out of you and we move on. There was never a 00:30:43.670 --> 00:30:46.410 question whether or not I was going to work. 00:30:47.000 --> 00:30:50.220 I understand the responsibility to provide and 00:30:50.220 --> 00:30:52.640 be there for you when you're having surgery. 00:30:53.519 --> 00:30:55.099 Don't know what his work arrangement's like. 00:30:55.660 --> 00:30:58.440 If it was like he was gonna get fired, if he 00:30:58.440 --> 00:31:02.900 didn't show up, then he's in a predicament. Just 00:31:02.900 --> 00:31:07.000 based on what OP said, the right thing, obviously, 00:31:07.220 --> 00:31:09.119 is for him to just know that it's important for 00:31:09.119 --> 00:31:10.940 him to be there for his wife. And that is not 00:31:10.940 --> 00:31:13.680 rocket science. That is... marriage 101 yeah 00:31:13.680 --> 00:31:16.819 the majority vote was that she is not the asshole 00:31:16.819 --> 00:31:21.339 and that he was so the people did good on reddit 00:31:21.339 --> 00:31:25.460 they're decent good one good story thanks you 00:31:25.460 --> 00:31:28.359 can tell me one joe let's hear it i'm excited 00:31:28.359 --> 00:31:32.000 for this one i feel like this one could be good 00:31:32.000 --> 00:31:34.420 we'll see this one's about to be a round tripper 00:31:34.420 --> 00:31:36.660 if you like my last story is this one gonna make 00:31:36.660 --> 00:31:40.740 me cry again it could oh great can never rule 00:31:40.740 --> 00:31:44.220 that out with you true where's your gallbladder 00:31:44.220 --> 00:31:49.339 I don't know all right this one also comes from 00:31:49.339 --> 00:31:53.099 our rant subreddit rant it's a good one if you 00:31:53.099 --> 00:31:57.119 ever just want to blow off steam it says my hospital 00:31:57.119 --> 00:32:01.140 roommate tried to convert me mid -fever what 00:32:01.140 --> 00:32:07.000 listen up pull up a chair pulled up a chair ready 00:32:08.319 --> 00:32:11.059 So I got hospitalized a few weeks ago for a kidney 00:32:11.059 --> 00:32:14.839 infection that turned septic. Not fun. I came 00:32:14.839 --> 00:32:17.940 in with a 103 degree fever, felt like my spine 00:32:17.940 --> 00:32:20.619 was on fire, and ended up getting admitted for 00:32:20.619 --> 00:32:24.079 IV antibiotics and fluids. Standard stuff. Because 00:32:24.079 --> 00:32:25.940 the hospital was full, I was put in a shared 00:32:25.940 --> 00:32:28.720 room with an older woman, I'm guessing late 70s. 00:32:29.000 --> 00:32:31.700 Her name is Marlene. Super sweet at first, she 00:32:31.700 --> 00:32:33.960 introduced herself, asked if I had family nearby, 00:32:34.259 --> 00:32:37.220 offered me half her pudding. that kind of thing. 00:32:37.859 --> 00:32:40.059 Ew. Like, here, you want some of this chocolate 00:32:40.059 --> 00:32:44.160 pudding? Hospital food's nasty. It's so gross. 00:32:44.779 --> 00:32:47.160 Later that evening, she casually invited me to 00:32:47.160 --> 00:32:49.440 her church. I didn't think anything of it. I 00:32:49.440 --> 00:32:51.079 said something polite and went back to trying 00:32:51.079 --> 00:32:53.900 not to throw up. But it escalated. That night 00:32:53.900 --> 00:32:56.700 around 3 a .m., I woke up to her softly reading 00:32:56.700 --> 00:32:59.440 Bible verses out loud. At first, I thought she 00:32:59.440 --> 00:33:01.759 was praying for herself. Then I realized she 00:33:01.759 --> 00:33:04.859 was inserting my name into the verses. Stuff 00:33:04.859 --> 00:33:10.279 like quote and the truth shall set my name free 00:33:10.279 --> 00:33:14.400 fever or not i was awake enough to know that 00:33:14.400 --> 00:33:18.240 was weird the next day she asked if i had a personal 00:33:18.240 --> 00:33:21.259 relationship with jesus i told her no and that 00:33:21.259 --> 00:33:23.079 i wasn't really looking to get into that kind 00:33:23.079 --> 00:33:26.180 of conversation okay so she shut it down pretty 00:33:26.180 --> 00:33:29.980 fast yeah like as fast as she can while still 00:33:29.980 --> 00:33:33.740 being normal and polite She smiled, nodded, and 00:33:33.740 --> 00:33:36.140 then a few hours later asked if I wanted to get 00:33:36.140 --> 00:33:38.759 baptized in the hospital. She even said that 00:33:38.759 --> 00:33:40.940 she knew a pastor who made hospice rounds and 00:33:40.940 --> 00:33:45.259 he could probably swing by. I told the nurse 00:33:45.259 --> 00:33:48.059 I was uncomfortable and she basically said, oh 00:33:48.059 --> 00:33:50.960 yeah, Marlene does that. Like it was just a thing. 00:33:51.259 --> 00:33:54.359 What? Marlene must just be like the hospital 00:33:54.359 --> 00:33:57.000 regular. Yeah, she's just in all the time. She's 00:33:57.000 --> 00:34:00.079 got like great insurance, can just go in, $90 00:34:00.079 --> 00:34:03.039 copay. Then she just... She just be in there 00:34:03.039 --> 00:34:06.420 sharing the good news. Honestly, that's a great 00:34:06.420 --> 00:34:08.280 place to do it because you're trapped. You're 00:34:08.280 --> 00:34:10.559 not going anywhere when you're in the ER. Yeah, 00:34:10.559 --> 00:34:13.940 unless you do go somewhere like die or go to 00:34:13.940 --> 00:34:18.360 a well. No, like this OP says I left AMA the 00:34:18.360 --> 00:34:20.980 next morning. My labs were stable enough. I figured 00:34:20.980 --> 00:34:24.239 I'd recover faster at home without midnight sermons 00:34:24.239 --> 00:34:29.219 and surprise altar calls. AMA means against medical 00:34:29.219 --> 00:34:33.489 advice. So she just dipped. Apparently that's 00:34:33.489 --> 00:34:36.210 a thing. Apparently you just roll out if you 00:34:36.210 --> 00:34:39.150 want to. And the way that OP writes it sounds 00:34:39.150 --> 00:34:41.710 like she's in the medical field. She ends it 00:34:41.710 --> 00:34:43.869 by saying, and look, I respect people of faith, 00:34:44.309 --> 00:34:47.090 but hospitals are not revival tents. If someone's 00:34:47.090 --> 00:34:49.010 hooked up to fluids and barely keeping their 00:34:49.010 --> 00:34:52.409 eyes open, maybe wait to pitch salvation. Just 00:34:52.409 --> 00:34:58.389 a thought. Oh, there's so much here. I literally 00:34:58.389 --> 00:35:02.250 can't even imagine. Having that be my experience 00:35:02.250 --> 00:35:04.409 one that's like a that's out of a movie like 00:35:04.409 --> 00:35:07.130 that's nightmare freaking movie right there Just 00:35:07.130 --> 00:35:08.929 the fact that it was that nighttime and she's 00:35:08.929 --> 00:35:11.449 in the Bible just like in the truth shall set 00:35:11.449 --> 00:35:14.030 you free in the truth shall set Whitney free 00:35:14.030 --> 00:35:16.050 and she's freaking right next to me and I wake 00:35:16.050 --> 00:35:19.409 up see like you're in that like When I was in 00:35:19.409 --> 00:35:25.389 the ER, it's dirty It smells are you good, bro? 00:35:25.849 --> 00:35:28.269 I can't control when I sneeze. I'm so sorry. 00:35:28.289 --> 00:35:30.849 It's all right Don't ever do it again. Are you 00:35:30.849 --> 00:35:32.630 gonna say bless you or is everyone gonna know 00:35:32.630 --> 00:35:37.409 that you're me? I'm just envisioning like I guess 00:35:37.409 --> 00:35:39.309 I can only relate to this story when it comes 00:35:39.309 --> 00:35:44.210 like my experience in the ER Because it is it's 00:35:44.210 --> 00:35:46.550 not fun. It is not enjoyable If you've been to 00:35:46.550 --> 00:35:49.070 the ER, you know, they take hours and hours and 00:35:49.070 --> 00:35:51.769 hours and hours. It's disgusting there It's dirty. 00:35:52.250 --> 00:35:55.889 It smells the smells we were smelling people 00:35:55.889 --> 00:35:58.130 left and right from us were throwing up. I don't 00:35:58.130 --> 00:35:59.909 know if it was just a really bad night, crazy 00:35:59.909 --> 00:36:02.550 night in the ER. It was a, it had to have been 00:36:02.550 --> 00:36:04.889 a bad night. It had to have been because we've 00:36:04.889 --> 00:36:08.590 been to the ER before and it was not that crazy 00:36:08.590 --> 00:36:11.309 of an experience that took as long, but I was 00:36:11.309 --> 00:36:13.730 not seeing people throw up left and right the 00:36:13.730 --> 00:36:16.949 way we were Thursday night, last Thursday. When 00:36:16.949 --> 00:36:20.170 I was at the ER, I go in, there's people left 00:36:20.170 --> 00:36:23.190 and right smelling so bad, screaming, groaning. 00:36:24.009 --> 00:36:26.510 Throwing up all the things like we I'm pretty 00:36:26.510 --> 00:36:29.190 sure two people died that were next to me I get 00:36:29.190 --> 00:36:32.230 all my tests done and things like that and this 00:36:32.230 --> 00:36:35.389 nurse comes back in and she's like and When you're 00:36:35.389 --> 00:36:37.090 at the ER, there's just like a little curtains 00:36:37.090 --> 00:36:39.690 that separate you from the people next to you 00:36:39.690 --> 00:36:42.329 This may not be the case at every hospital. Yeah 00:36:42.329 --> 00:36:44.869 for this particular hospital where we were we 00:36:44.869 --> 00:36:47.750 had like I mean literally it was like it was 00:36:47.750 --> 00:36:50.690 the width of our couch right here. Yeah and like 00:36:50.800 --> 00:36:54.119 it's just a curtain and you can hear everything 00:36:54.119 --> 00:36:57.039 that other people are saying next to you and 00:36:57.039 --> 00:37:01.000 we were sitting there and there was a person 00:37:01.000 --> 00:37:04.860 that was next to us that was doing like a telehealth 00:37:04.860 --> 00:37:07.539 type of appointment so all the smells and the 00:37:07.539 --> 00:37:11.309 sounds it was disgusting and After my testing 00:37:11.309 --> 00:37:13.610 was done, the nurse finally comes back in and 00:37:13.610 --> 00:37:16.090 she's like, okay, I have good news for you. And 00:37:16.090 --> 00:37:17.969 I'm thinking like, oh great, like it's not gonna 00:37:17.969 --> 00:37:20.090 be anything crazy. I can take an antibiotic and 00:37:20.090 --> 00:37:23.250 this pain will go away finally after months of 00:37:23.250 --> 00:37:26.590 dealing with this. And she was like, you're gonna 00:37:26.590 --> 00:37:29.110 have emergency surgery tomorrow morning and we're 00:37:29.110 --> 00:37:30.809 gonna take it out. It's your gallbladder. It's 00:37:30.809 --> 00:37:34.789 full of gallstones and it's infected. And I just 00:37:34.789 --> 00:37:38.730 stared at her and I'm like, what? I was like, 00:37:38.769 --> 00:37:42.019 where? Where's the good news? She's like, oh, 00:37:42.019 --> 00:37:43.920 that's it. We're going to get it out in surgery. 00:37:44.199 --> 00:37:45.940 And I'm just sitting here like staring at her. 00:37:46.139 --> 00:37:48.239 What do you mean? I've never had surgery before. 00:37:48.300 --> 00:37:51.099 I'm absolutely horrified. I get this pit in my 00:37:51.099 --> 00:37:52.840 stomach. I feel like I'm going to throw up. I'm 00:37:52.840 --> 00:37:57.280 so scared. And eventually, she just walks away. 00:37:57.320 --> 00:37:59.340 So we have no idea what's happening next. I'm 00:37:59.340 --> 00:38:01.320 thinking she's going to check us out. And then 00:38:01.320 --> 00:38:03.719 we're going to schedule a surgery for the morning. 00:38:03.780 --> 00:38:05.579 And I'm going to come back into the hospital 00:38:05.579 --> 00:38:09.079 for surgery. Yeah, no, I was like literally an 00:38:09.079 --> 00:38:11.820 hour later. She comes back and because my husband 00:38:11.820 --> 00:38:14.280 Joe was like what's happening? Like are we what 00:38:14.280 --> 00:38:17.460 can we go and she's like no you guys are being 00:38:17.460 --> 00:38:19.739 she's being admitted into the hospital like you 00:38:19.739 --> 00:38:22.760 have to stay here I Just have to insert this 00:38:22.760 --> 00:38:25.900 like we're there for an hour and a half after 00:38:25.900 --> 00:38:28.260 literally and I'm like checking the clock We 00:38:28.260 --> 00:38:30.519 have a toddler that's with grandma and grandpa 00:38:30.519 --> 00:38:33.159 and I'm like, what are we doing? Yeah, like how 00:38:33.159 --> 00:38:35.650 did it just tell us what time to come back? and 00:38:35.650 --> 00:38:37.769 the worst is there's two nurses just outside 00:38:37.769 --> 00:38:41.190 of the outside of the little curtain and they're 00:38:41.190 --> 00:38:46.170 like uh it's so annoying i bought a 5700 square 00:38:46.170 --> 00:38:48.630 foot house don't buy that much house it's so 00:38:48.630 --> 00:38:51.889 hard to clean i just don't buy a big house it 00:38:51.889 --> 00:38:55.829 sucks having a big house i'm like what is going 00:38:55.829 --> 00:38:59.409 on yeah why am i here and you're over here like 00:38:59.409 --> 00:39:05.360 just flaunting yes i i was very upset so i Go 00:39:05.360 --> 00:39:09.260 over and ask like, um, when are we leaving? When 00:39:09.260 --> 00:39:12.019 do we get to go home for the night? And the nurse 00:39:12.019 --> 00:39:14.559 is like the other one that didn't come in and 00:39:14.559 --> 00:39:16.760 talk to us is like you guys are being admitted 00:39:16.760 --> 00:39:19.260 What are you talking about? Yeah, and I was like, 00:39:19.440 --> 00:39:22.440 oh We didn't know that would have been nice to 00:39:22.440 --> 00:39:24.360 know that had been that have been swell because 00:39:24.360 --> 00:39:26.099 I've been over here for an hour and a half just 00:39:26.099 --> 00:39:28.659 like Not knowing and mind you we went in at like 00:39:28.659 --> 00:39:31.219 530. It's after midnight at this point. So I'm 00:39:31.219 --> 00:39:34.219 like that would have been cool and the nurse 00:39:34.219 --> 00:39:36.460 is like, wait, did you not tell him? And the 00:39:36.460 --> 00:39:38.340 other nurse is like, yeah, I came in, I told 00:39:38.340 --> 00:39:39.760 you that you're gonna have surgery tomorrow. 00:39:40.519 --> 00:39:42.219 Like, obviously that you're gonna have surgery. 00:39:42.539 --> 00:39:45.679 And I was like, yeah, you said she's gonna have 00:39:45.679 --> 00:39:48.380 surgery tomorrow. Sorry, like there's disconnect 00:39:48.380 --> 00:39:51.239 here. We don't know what we're doing. I was just, 00:39:51.239 --> 00:39:53.440 I was not chill with that. I was not happy with 00:39:53.440 --> 00:39:57.159 it. So we're getting admitted. Joe is then... 00:39:57.179 --> 00:39:59.380 Looking me dead straight in the eyes and he's 00:39:59.380 --> 00:40:01.300 saying I have to go get our daughter She needs 00:40:01.300 --> 00:40:03.179 to go to bed. She's been at grandma and grandpa's 00:40:03.179 --> 00:40:06.599 it's like 12 31 o 'clock at that point I gotta 00:40:06.599 --> 00:40:10.179 go she goes to sleep at 7 every night Yeah, and 00:40:10.179 --> 00:40:12.780 I start bawling because I'm like I just found 00:40:12.780 --> 00:40:14.980 out about to have surgery in the morning I'm 00:40:14.980 --> 00:40:18.099 so scared granted. It is gallbladder removal. 00:40:18.099 --> 00:40:20.940 It is very very common I understand that but 00:40:20.940 --> 00:40:24.199 like to me it was so terrifying like this is 00:40:24.199 --> 00:40:28.980 I'm horrified so then they tell me that there's 00:40:28.980 --> 00:40:31.840 no room available for me so I have to sleep in 00:40:31.840 --> 00:40:35.239 the ER and it's disgusting in there you guys 00:40:35.239 --> 00:40:38.019 it is horrifying the lights are on they don't 00:40:38.019 --> 00:40:40.199 turn the lights off there so I'm gonna have to 00:40:40.199 --> 00:40:43.659 sleep in the light the the beds are so uncomfortable 00:40:43.659 --> 00:40:46.340 and I'm smelling throw up left and right and 00:40:46.340 --> 00:40:48.880 everyone there is like dying that night I don't 00:40:48.880 --> 00:40:51.239 know why something was in the air but it was 00:40:52.039 --> 00:40:54.500 literal chaos in there it was so scary hearing 00:40:54.500 --> 00:40:56.380 all the screams and there was a bunch of like 00:40:56.380 --> 00:40:59.320 old ladies I mean literally screaming like I 00:40:59.320 --> 00:41:01.519 thought they were about to die I'm in this room 00:41:01.519 --> 00:41:04.099 and that this is why this story to me I'm just 00:41:04.099 --> 00:41:06.579 like envisioning it I would be so scary I mean 00:41:06.579 --> 00:41:09.880 to share a room with someone like that and finally 00:41:09.880 --> 00:41:13.480 like dozing off and then hearing someone read 00:41:13.480 --> 00:41:16.420 the Bible out loud and inserting your name like 00:41:16.420 --> 00:41:23.429 that is so creepy creepy. So anyways, I didn't 00:41:23.429 --> 00:41:25.829 get a wink of sleep that night. Joe left and 00:41:25.829 --> 00:41:29.650 I was just I have never been so scared. I think 00:41:29.650 --> 00:41:31.570 I don't remember the last time I was that scared. 00:41:32.230 --> 00:41:35.889 I just felt so scared the whole time. I didn't 00:41:35.889 --> 00:41:40.630 get one ounce of relief. And 5am rolls in and 00:41:40.630 --> 00:41:42.630 the nurse like comes in she's like, Oh, you're 00:41:42.630 --> 00:41:44.429 still awake. And so at this point, I've been 00:41:44.429 --> 00:41:46.650 awake for four and a half hours like since Joe 00:41:46.650 --> 00:41:49.630 had left. just on tiktok watching every gallbladder 00:41:49.630 --> 00:41:52.349 video no i stopped i stopped i literally just 00:41:52.349 --> 00:41:55.610 tried to close my eyes and pray honestly but 00:41:55.610 --> 00:41:58.829 she's like oh and i go yeah the lights are so 00:41:58.829 --> 00:42:00.510 bright like i i'm not gonna be able to sleep 00:42:00.510 --> 00:42:02.349 with lights on there's just no way and she's 00:42:02.349 --> 00:42:06.630 like oh i'm sorry and i can get you a mask an 00:42:06.630 --> 00:42:08.230 eye mask and i'm literally looking here like 00:42:08.230 --> 00:42:11.429 are you f -ing kidding me and then she says oh 00:42:11.429 --> 00:42:14.409 and i can get you earplugs too So then I don't 00:42:14.409 --> 00:42:16.829 have to hear all the screaming frickin people 00:42:16.829 --> 00:42:21.550 dying. So that was cool So then I put my headphones 00:42:21.550 --> 00:42:25.110 in I mean my earplugs and the eye mask and I 00:42:25.110 --> 00:42:30.150 fell asleep So fast after that 533 rolls in and 00:42:30.150 --> 00:42:33.750 a doctor comes into my room. Hello, and I'm like 00:42:33.750 --> 00:42:38.730 what? Hello. No, he's a big big doctor guy guy 00:42:38.730 --> 00:42:44.320 and He walks and he's like so and I'm like literally 00:42:44.320 --> 00:42:46.400 trying to like wake up like I was having the 00:42:46.400 --> 00:42:48.219 hardest time like understanding what was happening 00:42:48.219 --> 00:42:51.960 and I like pull my my eye mask up and I'm looking 00:42:51.960 --> 00:42:56.079 at him and he's like yeah literally I'm like 00:42:56.079 --> 00:42:59.460 so confused trying to like sit up he's like so 00:42:59.460 --> 00:43:01.820 you're getting your appendix appendix out today 00:43:01.820 --> 00:43:05.760 right and I was like what and I was like no no 00:43:05.760 --> 00:43:08.380 it's the other useless organ I was like no I'm 00:43:08.380 --> 00:43:12.059 getting my gallbladder I think no it's your appendix 00:43:13.210 --> 00:43:16.650 And I'm like, no, it's my gallbladder. And he's 00:43:16.650 --> 00:43:20.210 like, are you sure? Hmm. Let me take a look. 00:43:20.369 --> 00:43:22.510 And he's like talking to me. Like I'm stupid. 00:43:22.510 --> 00:43:25.110 Like I don't understand like what I'm getting 00:43:25.110 --> 00:43:29.110 surgery for. And he goes to look at my name and 00:43:29.110 --> 00:43:31.070 like searching. He's like, Oh, yep. I'm sorry. 00:43:31.130 --> 00:43:33.210 It is the gallbladder. And so I'm like, cool. 00:43:33.510 --> 00:43:36.309 This doctor doesn't even know what I'm getting 00:43:36.309 --> 00:43:39.150 out. Like he's getting freaking tell people I'm 00:43:39.150 --> 00:43:42.070 getting my appendix out. So I'm worried like 00:43:42.070 --> 00:43:44.960 nervous as hell. Then he's trying to tell me, 00:43:44.960 --> 00:43:47.420 you know what's gonna happen and all these things 00:43:47.420 --> 00:43:51.619 and Just so nervous. I was just absolutely horrified 00:43:51.619 --> 00:43:55.159 Finally about what would you say like 8 a .m. 00:43:55.340 --> 00:43:57.480 Rolls by and they finally had a room available 00:43:57.480 --> 00:44:00.639 So I was able to go to a room and get settled 00:44:00.639 --> 00:44:03.940 in there before I had my surgery So pause there 00:44:03.940 --> 00:44:07.019 Joe. It's your turn when we're in the ER. We're 00:44:07.019 --> 00:44:08.840 smelling things things that people are throwing 00:44:08.840 --> 00:44:13.059 up What do you hear on the? curtain next to us. 00:44:13.219 --> 00:44:17.460 Yeah. So first of all, all the noises, they were 00:44:17.460 --> 00:44:20.179 the they were the most the worst things you've 00:44:20.179 --> 00:44:22.139 ever heard in your life. I won't replicate them 00:44:22.139 --> 00:44:24.380 for the sake of the listeners, but just use your 00:44:24.380 --> 00:44:27.679 imagination. Draft up the worst noises that you 00:44:27.679 --> 00:44:31.760 could hear at the hospital and smells and I freaking 00:44:31.760 --> 00:44:34.719 started on the smells literally don't seven hours, 00:44:35.179 --> 00:44:38.480 seven hours. Oh, it sucks. It's like, first of 00:44:38.480 --> 00:44:40.929 all, This is like a real point here before I 00:44:40.929 --> 00:44:43.130 say what I was going to say. Shout out to all 00:44:43.130 --> 00:44:45.369 of you that work in emergency medicine. Yeah, 00:44:45.369 --> 00:44:50.090 because no way. No way. No, I was there for just 00:44:50.090 --> 00:44:51.670 the amount of time I was there. Seven hours. 00:44:51.889 --> 00:44:56.150 My cortisol levels, my stress dog. No, it was 00:44:56.150 --> 00:44:59.090 up over my brain. Just like, no, we got to get 00:44:59.090 --> 00:45:01.530 out of here. Yes, there's no way it was. It was 00:45:01.530 --> 00:45:05.510 not good. So there was that. But the craziest 00:45:05.510 --> 00:45:09.570 thing, you guys. Despite all the people puking 00:45:09.570 --> 00:45:12.909 and being sick on the inside Somebody comes in 00:45:12.909 --> 00:45:15.630 and we didn't know it right at the time but mental 00:45:15.630 --> 00:45:19.349 health concerns which first and foremost like 00:45:19.349 --> 00:45:22.570 I'm very sympathetic towards So I don't mean 00:45:22.570 --> 00:45:26.690 to make light of anything like that however This 00:45:26.690 --> 00:45:29.969 individual that was getting treatment Was hard 00:45:29.969 --> 00:45:32.590 of hearing and so again imagine it we're in these 00:45:32.590 --> 00:45:37.510 little tiny curtain drapes things and there's 00:45:37.150 --> 00:45:40.090 just like a million people in this square on 00:45:40.090 --> 00:45:43.130 the bottom floor of the hospital. And this guy's 00:45:43.130 --> 00:45:47.690 probably a couple of stalls down, but he can't 00:45:47.690 --> 00:45:51.349 hear. So that he's talking to a telehealth provider 00:45:51.349 --> 00:45:55.369 and the volume is at like way too loud. So all 00:45:55.369 --> 00:45:59.210 we can hear is their questions to him. And we 00:45:59.210 --> 00:46:01.269 can't really hear him answering too well, but 00:46:01.269 --> 00:46:04.789 they're like, OK, have you ever wanted to cause 00:46:04.789 --> 00:46:08.179 harm to yourself? Oh, do you? Like, have you 00:46:08.179 --> 00:46:11.380 ever wanted to cause harm to any other human 00:46:11.380 --> 00:46:14.179 beings? Oh, you don't want to cause harm to another 00:46:14.179 --> 00:46:16.679 human being right now, do you? Like, that's like 00:46:16.679 --> 00:46:18.519 where it started. And then she starts getting 00:46:18.519 --> 00:46:21.099 into more questions like, have you ever wanted 00:46:21.099 --> 00:46:23.920 to cause harm to an animal? Why do you want to 00:46:23.920 --> 00:46:27.099 live? Just all the things. And we are literally, 00:46:27.139 --> 00:46:29.739 we're just sitting in there like, oh my gosh. 00:46:29.880 --> 00:46:32.980 It felt so invasive because we could hear everything 00:46:32.980 --> 00:46:36.329 and we were like. What in the hell is happening? 00:46:36.349 --> 00:46:39.610 Like she was going on and on about asking have 00:46:39.610 --> 00:46:41.550 you killed an animal? Have you heard an animal? 00:46:41.590 --> 00:46:44.809 Have you strangled it? Like it was like all the 00:46:44.809 --> 00:46:47.130 things it felt it just felt dark. That's the 00:46:47.130 --> 00:46:50.690 way I would go so sad and dark and like I'm really 00:46:50.690 --> 00:46:53.070 glad that the person made it to the hospital 00:46:53.070 --> 00:46:55.309 Yeah with that type of thing and it was like 00:46:55.440 --> 00:46:57.880 I heard them asking about, like, family. And 00:46:57.880 --> 00:46:59.579 at a certain point, you try to tune it out. Like, 00:46:59.599 --> 00:47:01.699 it's not that I wanted to hear it, but it was 00:47:01.699 --> 00:47:05.340 so loud. It was so loud. And it's like, the times 00:47:05.340 --> 00:47:07.579 that I wasn't hearing it, it was because Petunia 00:47:07.579 --> 00:47:11.440 over here is just, just vomiting all over the 00:47:11.440 --> 00:47:14.340 floor. Violently, you guys. Like, literally violently. 00:47:14.400 --> 00:47:17.820 And she was shaking because the curtain was like, 00:47:17.980 --> 00:47:20.559 the husband didn't close his side of the curtain 00:47:20.559 --> 00:47:23.380 all the way. And so, like, you could see the 00:47:23.380 --> 00:47:26.559 husband and the wife. And if I laid back I could 00:47:26.559 --> 00:47:30.099 see and she what I thought she was gonna die 00:47:30.099 --> 00:47:33.239 and hers was the appendix And so when the doctor 00:47:33.239 --> 00:47:35.099 the next morning came into mine, I was like, 00:47:35.300 --> 00:47:37.300 oh no, that's the girl next to me is that's her 00:47:37.300 --> 00:47:40.519 appendix I'm just the gallbladder girl. Yeah. 00:47:40.539 --> 00:47:43.559 Yeah. Yeah, it's crazy So anyways more of the 00:47:43.559 --> 00:47:47.980 story. There's some wild e are stories out there 00:47:47.980 --> 00:47:52.019 guys, and if you have any Please email us at 00:47:52.019 --> 00:47:54.840 internet frenzy at gmail .com or shoot us a dm 00:47:54.840 --> 00:47:57.280 on instagram at internet frenzy. We're on tiktok 00:47:57.280 --> 00:48:01.380 facebook youtube Our podcasts we're on all the 00:48:01.380 --> 00:48:04.159 things. 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