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Hell come back. And this is my hell come back.

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Yes, exactly. And then hell come back. Well,

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home not home. Oh, my goodness gracious. Welcome

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back, friends. Friendsies, what is up? Guess

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who's back? Guess who's back, baby? Guess who's

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back. I'm back. Back again. No, I'm mostly in

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back. No, I'm back. Which one of you is shady?

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Shady's back, telephone? There you go, yellow

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shirt. Oh, yeah. He's here. Blonde hair. Shaved

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piercings. It's just which one you use a better

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rapper most. Yeah. Oh totally me 1000 percent

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me. Okay. Well, it depends who comes up with

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random songs all the times about random topics.

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They're not raps though. If you put on Usher

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or a little bit of Akon. Okay. All right. I'm

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your gal. Okay. I love it. I love it. Well, welcome

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back everyone. I'm Whitney and I'm Joe. I'm Noelle.

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I'm Dallas. He just stuffed his face with candy.

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The Yar bros are back at it again. Yes, we're

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having them guess. Guys, we just can't express

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enough how much we love having you guys on. Thanks

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for coming. It's just our honor every single

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time. This may or may not have gotten me through

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this week. I'm looking forward to it. It did.

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It did. Oh, that makes me so happy. We're going.

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We're going. We don't need a babysitter. We'll

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leave the kids. Posey will watch the boys. They'll

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be fine. Or eat them. Who knows? Guys, did you

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see Sean from The Bachelor? Their dog, which

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was a bulldog, bulldog. Attacked him. Attacked

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him. That was wild. Insane. That was the video

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I wanted to show you. Tell me more. And you didn't

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send this to me. I didn't. I didn't. The one

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time you were ahead of pop culture. I know. Wow.

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I know. Crazy. We'll watch the video later. We'll

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watch it. Well, what is it called? Screenplay?

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Yeah, no, but he had guys. He got stitched all

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up on his arm, went to the ER, got it all stitched.

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Well, guess what? He came back home and the wife

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or something happened with the doors actually

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let the dog back out again hours later. And this

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bulldog would be lined for Shawn again. And the

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wife was screaming and he just got back from

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the ER getting his whole arm stitched up. The

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dog went for the other arm because of course

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he's going to use the other one. And this dude

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got destroyed by this dog again for the second

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time hours later. And he was literally laying

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on top of the bulldog until cops could come for

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ever. And Sean's like 220 pounds and he had a

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full on lay. I'll show you the footage. He is

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like his whole entire weight is on this dog.

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What kind of bulldog is this? It was a rescue.

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And what happened was basically they believe

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that Sean had friends over and they were doing

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like a barbecue and things like that. And He

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was outside and something happened inside where

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the smoke alarm went off and they believe that

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the alarm is what triggered the bulldog and Scared

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him and then he attacked Sean because due to

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the alarm that's what he's saying But before

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that like literally hours before that I believe

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he was posting stories of his dog like licking

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and kissing him and like loving him That's freaking

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sad because that dog's gone now Yeah, it's gone

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and they had little kids. They have a lot of

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little kids, but those kids thankfully weren't

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home But they were home and they were outside

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with Shawn at the second attack And so everyone

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was screaming telling the kids to get in the

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car Mm -hmm. I knew it. I knew it. I had to Google

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it what to help you? Oh, it was not a freaking

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bulldog. Oh, what was it? No, it's a boxer Oh,

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that's, oh I'm so sorry. Which makes more sense,

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makes more sense. When you say bulldog, I'm thinking

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okay. Bulldog's like so slow. English. Yeah.

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On their four inch legs. English or French, it

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doesn't matter. Neither one of them are the type

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that wanna fight. We gotta start this whole thing

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over. No. I know. There's no going back. There's

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no going back. That's so embarrassing. And that

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is the fake story for this week. Guys it was

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a wiener dog it kicked his ass like he was crazy

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right out He was bleeding out trying to wrestle

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this wiener dog man like this like it was an

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alligator He couldn't control him it was insane

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Dude I was crying watching the video is crazy.

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Anyways, we'll have to watch it later after this

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but absolutely insane What were we talking about

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before that? How my dog was watching the boys

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So he can be here tonight. Let's pray for Ziya.

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Ziya does nothing, which she won't. She's a saint.

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All she can do is lick. Yeah, she'll just lick

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the skin right off your bones. Oh, but don't

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test her. Yeah, don't test her. She will lick

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the bones off of your face and chase after the

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cats and won't even know what to do. She did

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protect Davey. We had her attached to Davey's

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tricycle. And so she just kind of walks along

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and pulls him along. And there's a neighbor dog

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who comes out and because she was attached to

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Davey, this dog tried to will always bark at

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her. She never barks back. She'll just keep walking.

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But she was attached to Davey. So she barked

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back at him. I was like, don't don't come at

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me or my boy. I got my Davey. Yeah, I got I got

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my boy on the back of me. Don't even test me.

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So, oh, he's a sweet girl. But our friends are

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watching. Yeah. Yeah. pocket pit bull. She's

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like so freaking cute. Not even medium. She's

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so beautiful. She's a cute girl. She's driving

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us crazy. Maybe we need a guest appearance of

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little Posey. Yes. 100%. We'll film an episode.

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We'll film an episode when we go camping or something.

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Oh, yes. Pose Malone. Welcome to the pod. Oh,

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I love it. She's so cute. Well, speaking of cute,

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just kidding. That was a terrible transition,

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but Speaking of cute, your mom. My mom is so

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cute and she will be here next week. So stay

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tuned. Anyways, we had some crazy stories last

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week. Episode was the dumbest hill to die on.

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Yes. Thank you, Joseph. And just a little quick

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recap, y 'all. Yep. First story was one of mine.

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Am I the asshole for locking my cousin out of

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my house? Story number two. Am I the asshole

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for keeping no contact with my sister after her

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husband, my ex, died? And then Joe, what were

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your stories? Dumbest hill to die on ever. Am

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I the asshole for not letting a neighbor borrow

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my tile saw because he assumed it belonged to

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my boyfriend? The story about the girl, she was,

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oh, he was offended because the neighbor came

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over wanting to borrow a tool and he just assumed

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that it was her boyfriend's, not hers. Yeah.

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So she was like bugged by that like why do you

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think it's his these are mine and no you can't

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borrow it Yeah, we gotta be spiteful now. Yeah,

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not gonna not gonna be able to do it's like whoa,

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bro. Chill like I'm sorry the last one Was am

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I the asshole for telling my mom her tractor

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parking rules make no sense and refusing to move

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it Oh, yeah, that one was so funny. That one

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had me dying when I was riding it Yeah This you

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know what spoiler alert you guys you guys haven't

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heard the episode hasn't aired yet, which is

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fine, but So you're gonna be? The the fake is

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gonna be spoiled for you. Sorry about it. That's

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okay. I'll be okay I still be on the edge of

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my seat. Yeah say yes Yeah, and you can attest

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to this when I was writing the story. I was dying

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laughing Like I couldn't stop I was dying because

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it was so stupid like I had the had the concept

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come to my head and I just was like, okay I'm

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gonna go with this and I like read it is mostly

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like Educated people. Yeah, and I wanted it to

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write the story. Like it was some like somebody

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that was like a hillbilly So that like I was

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just refining the prompt in any case Oh, that's

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what you have to look forward to. I'm excited

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to hear it. Yes. I don't know if everyone is

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going to know right away that it was fake. They

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might, but I don't think so. It was fun. However,

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I have been, this is what I've been looking forward

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to all week is telling you guys what the theme

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of this week's episode is. I'm so excited. I

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thought about it all week. I have no idea, but

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I can't wait. What are they going to come up

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with this week? Is it going to be this? Is it

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going to be that? Is it going to be this? Is

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it going to be that? I don't think you guessed

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it. I'll tell you that much. I think it's gonna

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shock ya. I think you might poop your pants.

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Is your diaper on? Did you wear your pull -ups?

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Today. But I can make an exception. Yeah, so

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sorry. It's okay. The theme is, the lies my parents

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told me. I love this. Oh, heck yeah! Talk today,

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baby! Oh, I'm a parent. I talk and I lie. Oh,

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sweet. I can't wait to hear about it. I can't

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wait to hear about it. All right. Who's who's

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going to go first this week? Because I have to

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just plug my own story. Yeah. First one. She's

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long. She's long. Oh, I get it. The story's long.

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Not like she the character is along. Yeah, I

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didn't know what that meant because she's a girl

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and you can't like what's long about her, you

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know, my kid calls me long He's like no you look

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so long. That's actually like such a compliment.

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What does that mean her hair? Are you ready?

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My hair could be long. It just says oh, yeah

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my beard hair You mean that sneeze was long.

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Yeah, so sorry. Okay. Keep going. Does you need

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an allergy medicine? Yeah. She needs more than

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that. Yeah, I need a lot of things. It's okay.

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I'll be okay. Do you need a spanking? Whoa. Yes.

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I'm sorry. That was out of line. Better delete

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that. Teresa's gonna get pissed. That was directly,

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that was not out of line. That was behind the

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line. That was behind the scenes. Oh my gosh.

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You guys. You guys need to chill and freak out,

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honestly. If you pooped your pants, I will not

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give you a spanking. Well. then we'll put that

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on the back burner save that one for next time

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then i guess fair fair fair so i think you should

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start with the along the story Okay, this one

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comes from best of redditor updates, which if

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you ever just are like trying to burn time on

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reddit Okay, there's some rabbit holes best of

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redditor updates. So that's all it's all the

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stories where There's an update. So they're the

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stories and the gifts. They just keep on giving

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This one is one of those so worth noting this

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story was originally posted in entitled parents

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and insane parents so it's on best of redditor

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updates because yeah the whole thing the whole

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thing so the title is my parents are stalking

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me because god told them to i love it when god's

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involved with it and he never tells you this

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one's good god is like he is with the dad this

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time you guys oh okay i'm listening we're talking

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we're talking lowercase g too i should say like

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this is Not the one I know. Yeah. Double D? No.

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Dallas. Hi. I'm a 24F and I live on my own out

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of my parents' house. I have a bit of a situationship

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going on with my friend. We'll call him David.

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He's also 24M. We had a fling a few months ago

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and now it's kind of happening again. It started

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out just hanging out and enjoying David's company

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then it slowly turned into more again. The thing

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is my parents knew about the first fling. David

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used to be inseparable from my dad. They were

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like father and son in a way. Until David and

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I had our fling. Now my dad is trying to control

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him. Hmm. Telling him he has to have no contact

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with me outside of a group chat we are all in.

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We both think this is stupid. Naturally. She's

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24. 24. Not living at home. A group chat with

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the mom and dad and her and her situation. Okay.

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And I have to, I just have to add this like.

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We don't get very much more context as to why

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David is close with the doubt. So don't look

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for it. Don't expect it. It doesn't come. Which

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bothered me, but it's fine. A few weeks ago we

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were hanging out and we went to Five Below to

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get snacks and just hang out. While we were there,

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my parents walked in. They don't live in the

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same city as me. I live about 20 minutes away

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from them. And they just randomly showed up at

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the store right by my house. They claimed it

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was to find batteries. And at that point, my

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dad confronted David and said that he told him

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not to be around me. And he told me he isn't

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going to care anymore and not and not to go crying

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to him when I get heartbroken. Oh, it's like

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Dad lost his bestie kind of thing for what I

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thought. My mom texted me later saying it was

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totally the Holy Spirit revealing that something

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was happening so that they could intervene. I'm

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kinda glad that that happened because after David

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and I left, that opened up a conversation about

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what's going on between us. We both enjoy our

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company and we both have feelings for each other,

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but we're taking it slow. While we were talking,

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my dad is texting me three page essays on why

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I'm stupid for not doing as he says and that

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he is no longer invested. He told me David only

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wants me for one thing and doesn't care about

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me as much as he does. And that if David is in

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love with me, he'd ask him for permission to

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date his daughter and play by his rules. David

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told me he does really care about me and that

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it's a lie that he doesn't. I just, OP. Just

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tender. Anyways, we decided to continue hanging

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out, especially since my dad said he no longer

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cares. We both have annual passes to Disneyland,

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so we decided to go together after work. While

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we were there, my mom and dad texted me asking

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if I was at Disneyland. I ignored their texts.

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We were there till closing, and as we were walking

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out, my dad walked up to us with a Starbucks

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bag and asked to talk. No. Nope. Uh -uh. David

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kept walking and said no, and of course me wanting

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to keep the peace begged David to beg David to,

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and he said no, so she's begging him to stop.

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I told him I'm his ride, and he said he'd just

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get an Uber, and I told him no, so I just left

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my parents there and left. I cried in the car,

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and David told me it's not my fault. While I

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was in the car, I texted my mom. how she knew

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I was there and she said God is watching and

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I asked again how she knew and she said she'd

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meet me at my house and tell me and I said no

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you will not meet me at my house that's weird

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mom how did you know I was at Disneyland she

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stopped messaging me and then my dad messaged

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me this and it's in quotations and so it says

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If you want to know how we knew you were there,

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you can talk to us in person. We brought peace

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and we tried to be loving even though I knew

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David was doing stuff that he said he wouldn't

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do. I just want him to care for you as much as

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I do and your mother does, but you're gonna find

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out honey and it's really sad. He had every opportunity

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right there to confess his love for you and to

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ask us for space. We could have had a good discussion,

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but instead he was a coward and ran away. From

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here on out, you are not to come to my home.

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We can meet in public to talk about how we knew

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you were at Disneyland because we had every intention

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of telling you and That was gonna be a part of

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the conversation. I've never lied to you and

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I never will I do not have anything to hide That's

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sketch except How you knew okay? All right. All

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right guys. This is like the tip of the first

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sentence of a 12 -page book It's yeah, I mean,

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it's good. Let me just wait. Oh That conversation

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could have been great and we're still willing

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to have it, but David sadly is not. I did nothing

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to him to deserve the treatment that we got from

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him and I've never treated him any way other

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than I would treat a good son. I hope and pray

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that he doesn't do what I know he's going to

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do. Wolves come into the sheep and they separate

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the sheep from the flock and then they devour

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the sheep. But the Good Shepherd will protect

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you, and if David ever was a sheep, he will listen

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to the voice of God, the people that loved him

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and cherished him. I love you, and I wish nothing

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but the best for you. If you want to talk, we

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are willing to talk to you about anything you

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want to know." So that was obviously Dad's message

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to her. And she says, I responded with... Dad,

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I don't expect him to be in love with me. That's

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way too soon. And if you don't want to hide the

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truth, just explain how you knew I was there.

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I will not be meeting in person for a conversation

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that can be had over text. He then responded

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with, then don't meet with me. That's how it's

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going to come out because you need to see my

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demeanor and everything. And shame on you guys

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for trying to point the finger back at us. You

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guys are the ones that are not doing right and

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hiding. Literally every box that was checked

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for you to like To like David was erased by David.

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All the things that you liked about him are now

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gone and it was by David's own hand. From now

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on, do whatever you want, I'm cutting this pain

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off. I mean it. We're gonna cut her, oh. Don't

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come by my house because we will not be able

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to support your drama any longer. True. You're

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gonna have to learn the hard way again. The only

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difference is now your mother and I are numb

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and we don't feel anything. God will show the

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truth, but I wanted to make sure you weren't

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hurt in the process. Oh. Yeah, the biggest eye

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roll So here's the thing OP in this story and

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both of the like where she posted both of these

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she posted screenshots of the whole conversation

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Thank you. So you literally can go back and you

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can look at everything that like the whole thing.

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She has the whole thing outlined So that's just

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for context for anybody that wants to follow

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along feel free And so after that, she says,

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I don't care if I don't meet with them or not,

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I can't handle the helicopter parenting anymore.

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And I feel that anytime I've ever brought a boy

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around, my dad has to place himself in the middle,

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forcing the guy out. The guys that have been

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okay with it in the past end up not working out

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because of my fear that if my dad can control

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him, now my whole future will still be controlled

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by him. Which, valid. If I don't do it their

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way, then I'm doing it wrong. I really like David

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and he likes me. I'm 24 years old and for once

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I have a guy that doesn't run away from me because

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of a crazily super involved parent. Because of

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my crazily super involved parents. I don't know

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what to do. What I'm concerned about is how my

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parents followed me there and why. I just don't

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know what to do. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

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Thank you for reading as much as you did and

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please any suggestions would help because I feel

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alone right now. I bet she could call her parents

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and she wouldn't be alone but I'm sure they already

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know. Exactly worse. Yeah, don't worry dude open

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your closet dad's in there Dad's creating the

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drama. He is pure drama. This is this is where

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religion sometimes just has such a It's just

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sad to see the negative effects. It can have

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on someone if they are not Well, well, yes like

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So I think with David case David and daddy Daddy

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and David. They obviously had a relationship.

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A fling. A fling, yeah. They were hooking up,

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for sure. Absolutely. This reminds me of, you

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know the movie with, oh, what's his freaking

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name? So it's Ryan Gosling, I knew his name.

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Yes, Crazy Stupid Love. Yes, it kind of gives

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me those vibes a little bit. They're all connected.

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Yes. He knows how much of this player David is.

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And then he finds out that like, my freaking

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daughter is dating him. Like, no. So, I don't

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know. And like, does dad know something? Some

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deep secret? Well, it's like, yeah, did they

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make an inappropriate trip somewhere together?

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That's where my mind went. It was like, do you

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like really know that this guy is like, not a

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good guy? And how? Okay, what's the update? Are

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you guys ready for it yet? I I mean I have guessed

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what I could so here's a couple of the good couple

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of the good comments First commenter check your

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car for a tracking device if they have keys to

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your place change the locks There's something

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very wrong with them. This level of stalking

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and harassment is concerning adding it Adding

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in to the religious aspect of it. They sound

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unhinged Yeah, it's creepy To say the least unhinged

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is the best word for these psychotic freaks.

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Mm -hmm This all happened last so this is op

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responding This all happened last night. So i'm

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going to be spending the day looking for anything

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like that They don't have any keys to my place.

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Thankfully Somebody else said are you 100 absolutely

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positively sure that they don't have keys to

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your house? Is there any opportunity for them

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to get keys long enough to have a copy made?

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I would change the locks as a precaution people

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are like Something here is not right. They don't

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they're not just naturally knowing where you're

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at. Sorry like Even if you are a deeply spiritual

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deeply religious person You don't get flashing

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lights that are like your daughter's at Disneyland

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with the guy that you're concerned about well

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not only that but like oh we went to five blow

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to like find batteries 20 minutes away from like

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any other store like there's no way like that's

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too many coincident like They're way too many.

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Yeah. Mom and dad, you guys are dumb. Okay, pause.

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Let me find the right thing because it's all

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in one thread. So here's the first edit that

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came on OP's post. So this happened the same

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day. Thank you everyone who gave advice and suggestions.

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I decided I'm going to let myself settle for

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a few days. I'm going to agree to hear my parents

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out just to know how they got my location. As

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controlling as they are, I still love them and

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I can say with certainty they have always been

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honest. My dad said he will tell me how they

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found out I was there in person. I'm going to

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give myself a few days to get my own nerves and

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emotions down. I'll post an update when that

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happens. Honestly, thank you everyone. It's nice

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to see I'm not crazy. I'm not a terrible person.

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It's reassuring to see that this isn't normal

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behavior and I can't thank you all enough for

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that. It gave me a bit of a peace of mind to

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be honest. Thank you all for giving advice to

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a no name person on Reddit who writes like they're

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having a stroke. Edit 2. I texted my dad and

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told him I'd be willing to talk within the next

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few days. He then told me I need to find a new

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phone provider. This is the last bill I have

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connected with my folks. They pay for it in their

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account. I just pay them back for my line every

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month. No one does that. I think that cancels

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out. them tracking me via phone provider, especially

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now, since this is another attempt to control

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by using fear of cutting off a service I can

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very easily get on my own. I looked for any air

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tags. I couldn't find anything. He still refuses

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to tell me how he tracked me unless I meet with

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him, my mother and our pastor, unless I meet

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with him, my mother and our pastor at our church.

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That is so manipulative. Is he like a police

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officer or something? He sounds like it, right?

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He's got to be Liam Neeson from Taken. Yes, he's

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gonna have like I will find a connection somewhere

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and I will kill you Like if he's not an officer

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like a buddy of his has to be an officer like

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who knows this guy or like Something like that

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if he's going through these lines, that's yeah,

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that's just a little bit on Behavior to say the

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least. Yeah. Okay. Okay. I'm ready. I'm ready

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OP clarifies, I've known this church for 16 years.

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My pastor has stuck up for me when I needed him.

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He stuck up for me when I was being physically

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abused and brought that to a stop. My dad is

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the uber religious person. My pastor has always

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put him in his place. Just to clarify that aspect

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a bit more. It's people I trust to look out for

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my well -being. Abused by who? The dad physically

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abused her. Okay, so update. Same post. Yeah,

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no because it's there's there's more Update from

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to the same post so it's late the very next day

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She didn't give herself days. She met with them

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the next day update I met with them today my

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pastor and his wife had my back 100 % My dad

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told me how they found me. I guess I was still

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sharing my location with him on my phone through

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messages Wow, why isn't that the first place

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you look and that was everyone is like are you

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Well, you look with your eyes. Did you did you

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if you think somebody knows where you're at?

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You're like whole am I sharing my looks? Yeah,

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I I'm doing that and the next thing I'm doing

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is I'm checking the tracker on my car. Mm -hmm.

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Yeah, what's check my phone? Yeah, you guys know

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Shout out to Apple because you can't have an

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Apple device traveling with you without it notifying.

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Yeah So that they did that update so air tags

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will not allow somebody to track you unless it's

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your air tag but now you do but yeah other trackers

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who knows there's other gps and stuff out there

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that's why it didn't work when i tried to stalk

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you all right so here's here's dad he said god

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revealed that he still had my location thank

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you i cannot right now my parents then drove

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to my house to see if my car was there they saw

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david's car there we carpooled to disney then

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they waited outside of disneyland until we left

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I told them that's freaking weird and that makes

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me uncomfortable and they said they did it out

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of love because they were concerned. And but

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they're not sharing the concern just that David's

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gonna do something. No, it's we're not gonna

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be there for you when David breaks your heart

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and we're just we're just generally concerned

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about you dating him. Like they're not banging

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and dishing out like everything's fine. I don't

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know. Have you ever wrote it's a small world?

00:27:14.930 --> 00:27:17.650
You guys would know. You guys did that. We didn't

00:27:17.650 --> 00:27:20.289
ride with the small world actually. Or with the

00:27:20.289 --> 00:27:22.490
poop ride that we always go on that's trippy.

00:27:22.829 --> 00:27:25.450
Poo? Winnie the Pooh? Oh, you guys got crazy

00:27:25.450 --> 00:27:29.329
in that ride? You're gonna get kicked out if

00:27:29.329 --> 00:27:33.970
you announce that. I've never done anything inappropriate

00:27:33.970 --> 00:27:36.569
at Disneyland. Is there any one ride that lasts

00:27:36.569 --> 00:27:39.910
more than two minutes? Yes. Pirates. You better

00:27:39.910 --> 00:27:44.609
be quick. Oh yeah, Pirates is long. Indiana Jones

00:27:44.609 --> 00:27:51.309
is fun, by the way. It was close You know, it's

00:27:51.309 --> 00:27:55.009
freaking sick dude that was literally supporting

00:27:55.009 --> 00:27:57.470
my leftward love handle and you just tugged it

00:27:57.470 --> 00:28:05.329
out The lower or the upper half the literally

00:28:05.329 --> 00:28:11.819
the whole kit and caboodle Yeah, I was it was

00:28:11.819 --> 00:28:14.700
nice like all that warmth and support just it

00:28:14.700 --> 00:28:17.119
just flopped and just went right out That kind

00:28:17.119 --> 00:28:21.380
of jiggle when it dropped obviously, that's All

00:28:21.380 --> 00:28:25.900
right basically But but basically my pastor and

00:28:25.900 --> 00:28:29.900
his wife are 100 % behind my back regarding dating

00:28:29.900 --> 00:28:33.900
which is a weird way of saying have my back Dating

00:28:33.900 --> 00:28:36.440
who I want not letting my parents decide I should

00:28:36.440 --> 00:28:38.339
have the opportunity to decide if I like the

00:28:38.339 --> 00:28:41.309
guy first One -on -one then bring him to meet

00:28:41.309 --> 00:28:43.210
my parents. It's a little different because we

00:28:43.210 --> 00:28:45.609
have all known David for years But still I have

00:28:45.609 --> 00:28:47.710
the right to decide when my parents will be involved.

00:28:47.990 --> 00:28:50.789
My dad did not like this He said he'd leave the

00:28:50.789 --> 00:28:53.130
church and then blocked me on all of his social

00:28:53.130 --> 00:28:55.690
medias He said he can't stand around and wait

00:28:55.690 --> 00:28:57.730
for my heart to get broken and the whole time

00:28:57.730 --> 00:29:00.329
he was trashing on David He called me a few names

00:29:00.329 --> 00:29:02.410
that were extremely hurtful and I was glad to

00:29:02.410 --> 00:29:04.869
see the pastor had my back They told me I am

00:29:04.869 --> 00:29:06.990
no longer under his roof and I'm not doing anything

00:29:06.990 --> 00:29:09.619
wrong The conversation ended with my dad claiming

00:29:09.619 --> 00:29:11.839
he wants to go no contact, which I'm sure he

00:29:11.839 --> 00:29:14.420
won't follow through on. It sucks, I love my

00:29:14.420 --> 00:29:16.460
parents, but in my dad's eyes, if he can't have

00:29:16.460 --> 00:29:18.599
control over this aspect, I don't get him at

00:29:18.599 --> 00:29:20.519
all. And that's probably how it's gonna be for

00:29:20.519 --> 00:29:33.450
a while. Thank you guys. daughter issues. Dad

00:29:33.450 --> 00:29:36.369
has daddy issues and daughter issues of himself.

00:29:36.930 --> 00:29:41.349
Yes. Dad has issues. Dad's not okay. There's

00:29:41.349 --> 00:29:43.650
some really good stuff. I'm just going to recommend

00:29:43.650 --> 00:29:46.009
all the listeners go and go and find this on

00:29:46.009 --> 00:29:48.009
best of redditor updates so you can read all

00:29:48.009 --> 00:29:51.009
the context. There's lots. Lots. But we're going

00:29:51.009 --> 00:29:55.170
to keep it merving and we're going to read the

00:29:55.170 --> 00:29:59.089
last of the updates. Oh my gosh. Oh, is that

00:29:59.089 --> 00:30:01.589
okay with you? He is scrolling down, y 'all.

00:30:01.789 --> 00:30:04.650
It's because the best of Redditor updates compiles

00:30:04.650 --> 00:30:07.269
everything. So it makes it really easy for you

00:30:07.269 --> 00:30:09.390
to get the full thing without having to navigate

00:30:09.390 --> 00:30:12.710
all around. But in this case... We just need

00:30:12.710 --> 00:30:17.029
you, Joe. So this is update post number two.

00:30:18.569 --> 00:30:21.630
And let me just make sure, because this is a

00:30:21.630 --> 00:30:29.059
lengthy back and forth of text between... The

00:30:29.059 --> 00:30:34.359
daddy and the daughter Okay update post two so

00:30:34.359 --> 00:30:38.539
this is three months later From the og post three

00:30:38.539 --> 00:30:40.619
months after well I didn't think I'd be here

00:30:40.619 --> 00:30:44.279
again if anyone saw my original post near like

00:30:44.279 --> 00:30:46.980
November I think that has the whole context backstory

00:30:46.980 --> 00:30:49.619
to it But long story short the guy was seeing

00:30:49.619 --> 00:30:52.099
we decided to just be friends, and he is honestly

00:30:52.099 --> 00:30:54.809
my best friend was sad about it though and I

00:30:54.809 --> 00:30:57.150
told my dad that me and him were done in that

00:30:57.150 --> 00:30:59.410
regard and he actually acted like a dad and comforted

00:30:59.410 --> 00:31:07.190
me it was nice my dad he's literally just just

00:31:07.190 --> 00:31:10.589
having a freaking bodygasm just rolling around

00:31:10.589 --> 00:31:18.210
he he will roll roll on the ground and like run

00:31:18.210 --> 00:31:20.869
his body into the couch well he's yeah anyway

00:31:22.279 --> 00:31:24.779
Yes, feed her in the air. He's pretending he's

00:31:24.779 --> 00:31:32.619
dead. It's cool So my dad slowly came back into

00:31:32.619 --> 00:31:37.099
contact with me and him Slowly came back into

00:31:37.099 --> 00:31:39.940
contact with me and him and things felt like

00:31:39.940 --> 00:31:42.480
they were going back to normal Until I got a

00:31:42.480 --> 00:31:44.480
text from my friend telling me my dad was blowing

00:31:44.480 --> 00:31:46.700
up his phone saying he hated him for stealing

00:31:46.700 --> 00:31:49.859
his daughter's virginity Which is not what happened

00:31:50.140 --> 00:31:53.259
I'm a 24 year old female living completely independently

00:31:53.259 --> 00:31:55.839
with no help from my family I mean, I don't need

00:31:55.839 --> 00:31:58.400
to tell my dad about my sex life. It isn't his

00:31:58.400 --> 00:32:01.059
business I already lost my V card, but he doesn't

00:32:01.059 --> 00:32:04.079
need to know that again not his business I said

00:32:04.079 --> 00:32:06.000
something though because he kept accusing my

00:32:06.000 --> 00:32:08.160
friend of stealing it. So I texted my dad and

00:32:08.160 --> 00:32:10.660
this was the text exchange I am now completely

00:32:10.660 --> 00:32:13.720
no contact that was his second chance and after

00:32:13.720 --> 00:32:16.180
everything I've been through he will not be getting

00:32:16.180 --> 00:32:19.609
another chance I'm about to read the text conversation.

00:32:19.849 --> 00:32:21.950
So this is literally them going back and forth.

00:32:22.289 --> 00:32:27.250
It is yugly. So the original poster OOP, she

00:32:27.250 --> 00:32:30.049
says, and this is where it's weird because at

00:32:30.049 --> 00:32:32.829
some point they insert that the guy's name that

00:32:32.829 --> 00:32:35.750
they've been calling David, his real name is

00:32:35.750 --> 00:32:38.589
Daniel. And so he's just Daniel in the rest of

00:32:38.589 --> 00:32:40.789
this post because she forgot to edit it in one

00:32:40.789 --> 00:32:42.509
of the screenshots. And so everyone knew it was

00:32:42.509 --> 00:32:45.299
Daniel. Of course, of course you call him David,

00:32:45.480 --> 00:32:47.460
but his real name is Daniel. It happens to everyone.

00:32:47.920 --> 00:32:50.140
My friend didn't take my virginity. What the

00:32:50.140 --> 00:32:52.240
hell is wrong with you? I never told you I slept

00:32:52.240 --> 00:32:54.500
with him. I never told you I had any sex with

00:32:54.500 --> 00:32:57.000
him. All I said was it could lead to a pregnancy

00:32:57.000 --> 00:32:59.619
the way things were going. First of all, the

00:32:59.619 --> 00:33:01.619
way that she - Why would you say that to your

00:33:01.619 --> 00:33:04.799
dad? Like, I'm sorry, OP. Don't say that. Like

00:33:04.799 --> 00:33:07.400
- That's weird. Especially when you know your

00:33:07.400 --> 00:33:09.599
parents are helicopter parents. Yeah. How do

00:33:09.599 --> 00:33:11.880
you not know the line not to - of things not

00:33:11.880 --> 00:33:15.700
to say she's like we didn't have sex but it could

00:33:15.700 --> 00:33:19.180
have led to pregnancy like all i said was it

00:33:19.180 --> 00:33:20.720
could lead to a pregnancy the way things were

00:33:20.720 --> 00:33:23.319
going i never once said i slept with him stop

00:33:23.319 --> 00:33:26.779
whatever crazy tirade you're going you're whatever

00:33:26.779 --> 00:33:28.819
tirade you're doing because you hate him for

00:33:28.819 --> 00:33:31.259
taking my virginity when you don't even know

00:33:31.470 --> 00:33:33.630
This is disrespectful to me that you are speaking

00:33:33.630 --> 00:33:36.549
like this about me. You are hurt. This is hurting

00:33:36.549 --> 00:33:38.730
my feelings a lot more thinking my dad thinks

00:33:38.730 --> 00:33:41.730
that I'm a whore. Oh, this is making me uncomfortable.

00:33:42.890 --> 00:33:48.410
This dad... New text. And going off more on my

00:33:48.410 --> 00:33:51.150
friend is by no means going to help the situation.

00:33:51.670 --> 00:33:54.450
Ignore him and leave him alone. Imagine how my

00:33:54.450 --> 00:33:57.950
dad is now that while I'm at work, I randomly

00:33:57.950 --> 00:34:00.430
get a text that my dad thinks my friend stole

00:34:00.430 --> 00:34:03.200
my virginity. It makes me feel dirty that you

00:34:03.200 --> 00:34:05.440
are even speaking to somebody about my virginity

00:34:05.440 --> 00:34:08.300
is none of your concern It's between me and God

00:34:08.300 --> 00:34:10.840
you don't know nor will you ever know who takes

00:34:10.840 --> 00:34:13.619
my virginity Like she's acting like it hasn't

00:34:13.619 --> 00:34:16.320
happened yet Or not and that is not for you to

00:34:16.320 --> 00:34:18.719
decide other than me when I am ready and married

00:34:18.719 --> 00:34:24.639
you already New text. Talking to my friend about

00:34:24.639 --> 00:34:26.300
this stuff isn't going to make him magically

00:34:26.300 --> 00:34:28.460
want me. It's going to push him away even more

00:34:28.460 --> 00:34:30.940
from me. You need to literally stop and just

00:34:30.940 --> 00:34:32.699
vent your feelings somewhere else. I don't want

00:34:32.699 --> 00:34:34.320
to be in a position again where I'm choosing

00:34:34.320 --> 00:34:37.260
between people. Stop being like this. And now

00:34:37.260 --> 00:34:40.679
he responds. The conversation I'm having with

00:34:40.679 --> 00:34:42.980
him is between us. I'm only saying what hurt

00:34:42.980 --> 00:34:45.340
me and your mother and we should be able to share

00:34:45.340 --> 00:34:47.500
that with your friend. This part is none of your

00:34:47.500 --> 00:34:52.000
business. That is not... He's an idiot. Like,

00:34:52.099 --> 00:34:58.019
dude, are you not an adult? Wow, you caught that?

00:34:58.059 --> 00:35:00.139
That was sick. You threw that four inches above

00:35:00.139 --> 00:35:05.780
your mouth. Wow. How'd you do that? You should

00:35:05.780 --> 00:35:09.179
show that at parties, Whit. Please do like a

00:35:09.179 --> 00:35:21.559
slow -mo of you being like... The podcasters

00:35:21.559 --> 00:35:23.300
are gonna be confused and if you cut this out

00:35:23.300 --> 00:35:25.579
of the YouTube you're literally missing the best

00:35:25.579 --> 00:35:31.420
content Better not podcasters watch this YouTube

00:35:31.420 --> 00:35:41.219
So Should we just hang out like shit and this

00:35:41.219 --> 00:35:46.829
is story one of three so Okay, that part is none

00:35:46.829 --> 00:35:48.730
of your business. If you don't like it, you don't

00:35:48.730 --> 00:35:50.929
have to be around me or your mom, trying to make

00:35:50.929 --> 00:35:53.550
things right with a friend to restore everything

00:35:53.550 --> 00:35:56.170
and that involves truth. Otherwise, I will go

00:35:56.170 --> 00:35:58.889
back right where we were, which is not having

00:35:58.889 --> 00:36:00.690
a relationship with you guys until you are ready

00:36:00.690 --> 00:36:02.929
to get right. You threatened me and your mom

00:36:02.929 --> 00:36:04.750
acting like we were begging you to come back

00:36:04.750 --> 00:36:07.170
to church. That is not the truth. The truth is

00:36:07.170 --> 00:36:09.869
we were letting you guys cook. From your responses

00:36:09.869 --> 00:36:12.650
to me, clearly you are not done. The truth is

00:36:12.650 --> 00:36:14.989
we were letting you guys cook. From your responses

00:36:14.989 --> 00:36:17.289
to me, clearly you were not done, so I'm gonna

00:36:17.289 --> 00:36:20.530
just leave you in the cooker. He didn't say that,

00:36:20.530 --> 00:36:22.809
I said that. If you wanna run off and do what

00:36:22.809 --> 00:36:25.309
you wanna do, go for it. It's gonna be hurtful

00:36:25.309 --> 00:36:27.550
and painful out there. It's literally none of

00:36:27.550 --> 00:36:29.550
my concern at this point and everything I said

00:36:29.550 --> 00:36:31.510
to the friend was supposed to be between him

00:36:31.510 --> 00:36:34.030
and I and it was solely focused on how he hurt

00:36:34.030 --> 00:36:36.190
me and your mother and how to get back to where

00:36:36.190 --> 00:36:39.050
he was with us. Nothing to do with you, you're

00:36:39.050 --> 00:36:42.469
an idiot brother. Only read your first text and

00:36:42.469 --> 00:36:44.809
I will read the rest when I have time So that's

00:36:44.809 --> 00:36:47.889
just an additional text that he sent to her and

00:36:47.889 --> 00:36:51.230
then she says do not discuss my virginity He

00:36:51.230 --> 00:36:53.769
didn't take my virginity. I don't care what you

00:36:53.769 --> 00:36:55.849
think or assume. He didn't take my virginity

00:36:55.849 --> 00:36:59.449
and don't claim that he did dad Do not tell me

00:36:59.449 --> 00:37:02.050
what to discuss. My assumption was he did take

00:37:02.050 --> 00:37:03.989
it, and that hurt me as a father, especially

00:37:03.989 --> 00:37:06.610
from him who I trusted. Believe it or not, I

00:37:06.610 --> 00:37:08.610
have my own feelings, and in order for me to

00:37:08.610 --> 00:37:10.610
get right with him, I have to express the feelings

00:37:10.610 --> 00:37:13.110
that I have. Don't tell me to stuff my feelings.

00:37:13.349 --> 00:37:24.860
I hate you. I think he should, at this point.

00:37:25.019 --> 00:37:26.900
I think he's having too many feelings and he

00:37:26.900 --> 00:37:29.079
needs to just shut up. Dude, somebody needs to

00:37:29.079 --> 00:37:31.980
tell him to like, bruh, no, you're done. Talk

00:37:31.980 --> 00:37:37.619
to a therapist if you are so hurt that you have

00:37:37.619 --> 00:37:42.460
to go to the boy and also that's, she had no

00:37:42.460 --> 00:37:45.239
control over the situation. He can only talk

00:37:45.239 --> 00:37:48.199
to the friend and be like, well, you did this.

00:37:48.300 --> 00:37:51.530
Yeah. Got it. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, like dude

00:37:51.530 --> 00:37:53.670
naturally. You're my little friend It's the same

00:37:53.670 --> 00:37:55.889
age as my daughter and I'm mad at you because

00:37:55.889 --> 00:37:59.150
you stole her virginity from her Meanwhile, she's

00:37:59.150 --> 00:38:01.730
banged other dudes and like this guy just happens

00:38:01.730 --> 00:38:04.989
to be someone that dated her I think Daniel David

00:38:04.989 --> 00:38:09.269
whatever he is the D Worked for the dad. I think

00:38:09.269 --> 00:38:11.050
there was something there where maybe he worked

00:38:11.050 --> 00:38:12.889
on their land or something. I'm this is what

00:38:12.889 --> 00:38:17.500
I'm thinking I'm getting like Like the dad got

00:38:17.500 --> 00:38:20.440
somebody pregnant in high school and like this

00:38:20.440 --> 00:38:24.000
is like a long -lost son or something like that.

00:38:24.000 --> 00:38:30.519
Oh He's freaking out yo, they would be siblings,

00:38:30.539 --> 00:38:35.079
holy yes, and that's why Like you're at Disneyland

00:38:35.079 --> 00:38:39.039
with your your brother actually low -key that's

00:38:39.039 --> 00:38:43.320
crazy like that That's what I'm getting is like

00:38:44.170 --> 00:38:46.369
Yeah. Because it's like, why do you care so much?

00:38:46.949 --> 00:38:50.250
Also, I thought another thing could be, and this

00:38:50.250 --> 00:38:52.329
is, I mean, everyone's probably thought this

00:38:52.329 --> 00:38:55.269
at one point. Maybe the dad has a crush on him.

00:38:55.730 --> 00:38:57.590
Maybe the dad fell in love with him. Well, we

00:38:57.590 --> 00:39:01.090
are certainly covering our bases here. But I

00:39:01.090 --> 00:39:04.250
like Dallas is way better. Is he the son or is

00:39:04.250 --> 00:39:10.789
it his love interest? Daddy, I love him. If that's

00:39:10.789 --> 00:39:14.639
real, if that's true, that was a snag. You pulled

00:39:14.639 --> 00:39:18.760
that one down. Yeah. And this doesn't say, so

00:39:18.760 --> 00:39:21.000
we might have to order a paternity test or something.

00:39:22.780 --> 00:39:25.440
That was the noise I made giving birth. That

00:39:25.440 --> 00:39:28.400
was like right on it. Don't you think? Pretty

00:39:28.400 --> 00:39:34.099
close. Yeah, you do it. And I pushed for three

00:39:34.099 --> 00:39:37.539
hours. That was the sounds. That's so fun. And

00:39:37.539 --> 00:39:40.739
I remember, sorry, so off topic, Joe. I'm so

00:39:40.739 --> 00:39:43.389
sorry. Don't apologize to me. You edit this shit.

00:39:45.449 --> 00:39:48.690
I remember coming out of my mouth and literally

00:39:48.690 --> 00:39:52.949
being like, I want to laugh because I can't control

00:39:52.949 --> 00:39:55.789
it. This is what's just coming out. But I was

00:39:55.789 --> 00:39:58.070
in so much pain. I was so pissed the baby wasn't

00:39:58.070 --> 00:40:00.510
coming out for that long that it was like, if

00:40:00.510 --> 00:40:03.469
anyone f -ing laughs in this room, I will kill

00:40:03.469 --> 00:40:07.190
you. I remember just looking around after I would

00:40:07.190 --> 00:40:11.599
make the noise. You'll try. Did you and the nurse

00:40:11.599 --> 00:40:14.920
ever look at each other in the lap? Marnie? I

00:40:14.920 --> 00:40:17.420
think I don't remember who I was enduring that

00:40:17.420 --> 00:40:19.599
with. Harder! Push, push harder! I was like,

00:40:19.800 --> 00:40:21.739
you say that one more freaking time. The first

00:40:21.739 --> 00:40:24.239
time you let it out, like the way you let it

00:40:24.239 --> 00:40:28.119
out, it was like to the top of the range and

00:40:28.119 --> 00:40:33.599
like the the yodely part that was like long lasting

00:40:33.599 --> 00:40:36.739
and like her and I holding your legs were like...

00:40:39.440 --> 00:40:41.739
I'm just gonna put the blanket up a little bit

00:40:41.739 --> 00:40:45.320
more so you can't see and kill us Like that sounded

00:40:45.320 --> 00:40:47.880
helpful. That sounded like you just baby's just

00:40:47.880 --> 00:40:53.239
sliding on out and you make that noise I'm nervous

00:40:53.239 --> 00:40:56.199
to get birth again because I'm so scared Don't

00:40:56.199 --> 00:40:58.079
worry about it then I'm gonna make that noise

00:40:58.079 --> 00:41:00.980
and it's like it's such a known thing now that

00:41:00.980 --> 00:41:04.920
if it did come out just a little peep would immediately

00:41:04.920 --> 00:41:09.619
like I I I don't know I think I would laugh even

00:41:09.619 --> 00:41:13.360
if I was in so much pain because I would certainly

00:41:13.360 --> 00:41:16.239
laugh my birth noise I would have to take a seat

00:41:16.239 --> 00:41:17.800
at that point and then you're gonna be really

00:41:17.800 --> 00:41:23.679
pissed Okay after he said don't tell me to stuff

00:41:23.679 --> 00:41:26.159
my feelings She says you don't have any right

00:41:26.159 --> 00:41:29.219
to discuss my virginity my body anything. That

00:41:29.219 --> 00:41:32.400
is me He says, when you're ready to talk to me

00:41:32.400 --> 00:41:34.519
as your father, then we will talk. Otherwise,

00:41:34.760 --> 00:41:39.619
don't text me no more. Wait, text me no more,

00:41:39.800 --> 00:41:42.679
girl? What you finna mean, though, brother? Okay,

00:41:43.139 --> 00:41:45.579
you can talk about me as a daughter, not as someone's

00:41:45.579 --> 00:41:49.960
sex toy. Ew. True. She's laying it on thick.

00:41:50.059 --> 00:41:52.340
She's like, dude, I'm sick of this. This is not

00:41:52.340 --> 00:41:54.960
chill. That's gross, though. And I get why she

00:41:54.960 --> 00:41:57.280
feels like that, because the... The dad doesn't

00:41:57.280 --> 00:42:00.480
know her situation and he's talking to this person

00:42:00.480 --> 00:42:03.659
offending her deeply Like assuming this person

00:42:03.659 --> 00:42:05.480
took her virginity and she's like do this. You

00:42:05.480 --> 00:42:07.019
don't know anything about my life Yeah, it's

00:42:07.019 --> 00:42:10.280
not his to talk about yeah at all. And even if

00:42:10.280 --> 00:42:13.980
it was a fact even if it was like dude, you still

00:42:13.980 --> 00:42:18.679
have nothing to do with this and Dad says the

00:42:18.679 --> 00:42:20.380
reason why I'm saying that is because you're

00:42:20.380 --> 00:42:22.619
bringing fire instead of actually trying to understand

00:42:22.619 --> 00:42:25.250
my perspective You can talk about me as a daughter,

00:42:25.389 --> 00:42:27.710
not as someone sex toy. Then he says, the reason

00:42:27.710 --> 00:42:29.230
why I'm saying that is because you're bringing

00:42:29.230 --> 00:42:31.210
fire instead of actually trying to understand

00:42:31.210 --> 00:42:34.409
my perspective. Then his next text says, that's

00:42:34.409 --> 00:42:36.750
not what I was doing if you read my text. So

00:42:36.750 --> 00:42:39.809
he's defending himself. And then OOP says, you

00:42:39.809 --> 00:42:42.489
were telling my friend that you hated him in

00:42:42.489 --> 00:42:45.170
the moment because he stole my virginity. Forgive

00:42:45.170 --> 00:42:48.050
and forget and move on. He didn't steal my virginity.

00:42:48.170 --> 00:42:50.449
He didn't take my virginity. I didn't give him

00:42:50.449 --> 00:42:52.789
my virginity. Your perspective is wrong. These

00:42:52.789 --> 00:42:55.170
are all separate text messages. And then he says,

00:42:55.489 --> 00:42:58.010
these are my exact words. And this is the last

00:42:58.010 --> 00:42:59.949
time I will share with you what I am speaking

00:42:59.949 --> 00:43:04.969
to him in private. And she says, I don't care

00:43:04.969 --> 00:43:07.510
what the rest of your stuff you think. That part

00:43:07.510 --> 00:43:11.710
of you is very wrong. I am struggling to read

00:43:11.710 --> 00:43:14.510
the way she writes because she is struggling.

00:43:14.710 --> 00:43:17.190
Okay, OOP's dad attaches screenshots of his messages

00:43:17.190 --> 00:43:20.150
with the friend transcribed below. Okay, so then

00:43:20.150 --> 00:43:23.750
the dad sends her screenshots Of what he said

00:43:23.750 --> 00:43:29.429
to Daniel David. Yes So dad says this to David

00:43:29.429 --> 00:43:32.849
Proverbs 28 13 he who covers his sins will not

00:43:32.849 --> 00:43:35.170
prosper but whoever confesses and forsakes them

00:43:35.170 --> 00:43:38.690
will have mercy New text I hated you after you

00:43:38.690 --> 00:43:41.730
turned your back on my My peace that I offered

00:43:41.730 --> 00:43:44.409
you at Disneyland and I hated you even more when

00:43:44.409 --> 00:43:46.449
you took my daughter's virginity without committing

00:43:46.449 --> 00:43:48.909
to her The Bible says that if I hate another

00:43:48.909 --> 00:43:51.570
I've committed murder And so I confess to the

00:43:51.570 --> 00:43:53.550
Lord my sins and he forgave me and encouraged

00:43:53.550 --> 00:43:55.429
me to love you Even though you took something

00:43:55.429 --> 00:43:57.690
from me That was one of the most important things

00:43:57.690 --> 00:43:59.829
that my daughter had and that I wanted to give

00:43:59.829 --> 00:44:02.670
I wanted her to give to her husband You also

00:44:02.670 --> 00:44:04.889
did it under my nose and I called you my son.

00:44:04.889 --> 00:44:07.469
I'm sorry that I hated you I also called you

00:44:07.469 --> 00:44:09.710
a coward, but you're not a coward I choose to

00:44:09.710 --> 00:44:11.570
believe that you were just afraid and you were

00:44:11.570 --> 00:44:13.829
still afraid to make things right with me. There's

00:44:13.829 --> 00:44:15.929
a big difference between cowards and being afraid.

00:44:16.289 --> 00:44:18.670
I feel sorry for you and your fear takes over

00:44:18.670 --> 00:44:21.469
and cripples you. You must through Christ overcome

00:44:21.469 --> 00:44:25.449
this giant because it has the... OP writes a

00:44:25.449 --> 00:44:28.170
note here that is all I'll show because it drones

00:44:28.170 --> 00:44:32.090
on. OP says, I don't need to see anything else.

00:44:54.750 --> 00:45:03.630
Then OOP says, Accusing someone of taking my

00:45:03.630 --> 00:45:06.730
virginity is a big thing dad and reply to dad's

00:45:06.730 --> 00:45:09.130
last text I do care meaning I don't need to see

00:45:09.130 --> 00:45:10.929
the rest of the private conversation between

00:45:10.929 --> 00:45:14.190
you and him Dad says I mean it don't come around

00:45:14.190 --> 00:45:16.170
me and don't speak with me anymore. I'm done

00:45:16.170 --> 00:45:18.570
with you You are partially to blame for the loss

00:45:18.570 --> 00:45:22.929
of my friend Meaning Daniel in my life, and he

00:45:22.929 --> 00:45:25.130
is the other half of it I don't want to see you

00:45:25.130 --> 00:45:27.230
or him and I'm done being kind to your stupid

00:45:27.230 --> 00:45:30.940
ways. You can come back with me Right now with

00:45:30.940 --> 00:45:32.840
fire, but just know that I don't care anymore

00:45:32.840 --> 00:45:35.719
and that was the last straw he cares so much

00:45:35.719 --> 00:45:42.360
That's why he's doing all of this You can't disregard

00:45:42.360 --> 00:45:45.199
you can't disregard Dallas's theory so like no

00:45:45.199 --> 00:45:47.639
good I was thinking oh like before you said that

00:45:47.639 --> 00:45:51.139
okay What if Daniel or David or whoever? Was

00:45:51.139 --> 00:45:53.599
the abuser and like the dad is truly trying to

00:45:53.599 --> 00:45:56.519
watch out and like that but like now knowing

00:45:56.519 --> 00:46:00.969
that it's like No, he's no he's that's That the

00:46:00.969 --> 00:46:04.150
daughter's virginity That you took something

00:46:04.150 --> 00:46:08.409
from me So did it just end with another did the

00:46:08.409 --> 00:46:10.190
ties are cut because I feel like she's gonna

00:46:10.190 --> 00:46:13.829
go back Yeah, so that's gonna keep fighting.

00:46:14.329 --> 00:46:16.869
No, I meant it. Yeah, I meant it. I'm not talking

00:46:16.869 --> 00:46:20.429
to you anymore Okay, that's fine. No, I said

00:46:20.429 --> 00:46:24.090
I'm not going to talk to you anymore She's like,

00:46:24.090 --> 00:46:26.530
okay. Yeah, of course. She tried to clarify.

00:46:26.590 --> 00:46:30.269
She's like I'm dad. I'm not saying like we need

00:46:30.269 --> 00:46:32.090
to be done or you need to keep sending me the

00:46:32.090 --> 00:46:34.630
messages Like I want this to be over. I just

00:46:34.630 --> 00:46:36.889
don't want you to slander me anymore. Yeah, and

00:46:36.889 --> 00:46:39.230
then he just is like it's like he's like, no,

00:46:39.250 --> 00:46:42.030
I said I'm banishing you Yeah, no, you cannot

00:46:42.030 --> 00:46:45.070
come to the house anymore the princess of my

00:46:45.070 --> 00:46:48.250
small castle any longer. Yeah So here's what

00:46:48.250 --> 00:46:51.119
one commenter said Okay. You're responding way

00:46:51.119 --> 00:46:53.519
too much to this. Your father is disgusting and

00:46:53.519 --> 00:46:55.800
the fact you have 10 pages of screenshots defending

00:46:55.800 --> 00:46:58.659
your virginity to him is too much. Yeah. And

00:46:58.659 --> 00:47:00.699
she replied and said, it was more so trying to

00:47:00.699 --> 00:47:02.860
defend my friend in the best way that I could

00:47:02.860 --> 00:47:05.059
think of. And at the time I was emotional. So

00:47:05.059 --> 00:47:07.099
yeah, I did respond way too much. I agree. I'm

00:47:07.099 --> 00:47:09.760
completely no contact now. No, that poor girl.

00:47:09.820 --> 00:47:12.099
She's just getting bullied by some other commenter

00:47:12.099 --> 00:47:15.820
and she's like trying to... But they're trying

00:47:15.820 --> 00:47:17.960
to say I mean because it is it's so much back

00:47:17.960 --> 00:47:20.880
and forth and the dad is not here How do you

00:47:20.880 --> 00:47:23.599
not exit the insanity? How do you not be like,

00:47:23.599 --> 00:47:27.019
okay? She was raised by insanity. So she's like

00:47:27.019 --> 00:47:29.980
trying to break out of that mold Oh, but she

00:47:29.980 --> 00:47:32.639
probably got it in her tail. What would you say

00:47:32.639 --> 00:47:35.739
to her? Just say it right now. I would say God

00:47:35.739 --> 00:47:41.909
is with her We may have missed some of the meat

00:47:41.909 --> 00:47:44.730
and potatoes, but we didn't we got all the stuff

00:47:44.730 --> 00:47:48.170
that we did great, babe We do need to go to the

00:47:48.170 --> 00:47:51.389
next story though Joe great story, but now we're

00:47:51.389 --> 00:47:54.269
on to mine. That's even better. Don't worry This

00:47:54.269 --> 00:47:58.269
is from our relationship advice. My mom lied

00:47:58.269 --> 00:48:04.969
to make me dislike my dad. Oh Yeah, edit am I

00:48:04.969 --> 00:48:17.559
sorry? I'll just skip that. Yeah. Okay, here

00:48:17.559 --> 00:48:24.199
we go. My F -22 mom, F -50 and dad M -52 divorced

00:48:24.199 --> 00:48:26.000
when I was young and I stayed with my mom most

00:48:26.000 --> 00:48:28.820
of the time but had regular well scheduled visitation

00:48:28.820 --> 00:48:32.260
with my dad too. Custody always followed a plan

00:48:32.260 --> 00:48:34.239
and they both knew when I was scheduled where

00:48:34.239 --> 00:48:37.000
so did I. They shared long school holidays 50

00:48:37.000 --> 00:48:39.679
-50 and alternated the shorter holidays. I'm

00:48:39.679 --> 00:48:41.519
an adult now and I've just found out through

00:48:41.519 --> 00:48:43.099
a mutual friend of theirs that a lot of what

00:48:43.099 --> 00:48:45.179
my mom told me about what happened between her

00:48:45.179 --> 00:48:49.300
and my dad was in fact BS. She would often discuss

00:48:49.300 --> 00:48:51.099
things in detail with me when I was growing up

00:48:51.099 --> 00:48:54.260
and I always obviously believed her. My dad on

00:48:54.260 --> 00:48:56.099
the other hand didn't discuss issues with me

00:48:56.099 --> 00:48:58.280
and in hindsight he was clearly trying to protect

00:48:58.280 --> 00:49:01.750
me from the adult drama. For example, My dad

00:49:01.750 --> 00:49:03.710
worked away sometimes and my mom would be invited

00:49:03.710 --> 00:49:05.650
out with her friends and would ask my dad to

00:49:05.650 --> 00:49:07.690
have me on a specific night while I was in her

00:49:07.690 --> 00:49:10.190
custody. He'd be away for work and tell her he

00:49:10.190 --> 00:49:12.889
couldn't, but she'd tell me dad has plans with

00:49:12.889 --> 00:49:15.469
his girlfriend and doesn't want me there. I wouldn't

00:49:15.469 --> 00:49:17.110
bring this up with my dad because I was hurt

00:49:17.110 --> 00:49:19.210
by it and my mom would rearrange a babysitter

00:49:19.210 --> 00:49:21.969
for me. He actually wasn't the asshole for not

00:49:21.969 --> 00:49:24.550
looking after me. She was for making plans with

00:49:24.550 --> 00:49:26.929
her friends. There's lots more and I'm thinking

00:49:26.929 --> 00:49:28.929
the only way forward is to sit down and talk

00:49:28.929 --> 00:49:31.420
to my dad, getting his side of it all. That would

00:49:31.420 --> 00:49:33.539
give me more info. And yes, I know there's three

00:49:33.539 --> 00:49:35.440
sides to every story, but how do I deal with

00:49:35.440 --> 00:49:38.480
this as far as my mom is concerned? She blatantly

00:49:38.480 --> 00:49:41.519
lied and made out my dad was an idiot and didn't

00:49:41.519 --> 00:49:43.920
have a clue how to be a father. But I'm learning

00:49:43.920 --> 00:49:47.400
now just how much nonsense that was to make her

00:49:47.400 --> 00:49:50.019
look like an awesome mom to her friends and also

00:49:50.019 --> 00:49:52.019
the victim where her relationship with my dad

00:49:52.019 --> 00:49:54.679
was concerned. That happens all the time. Honest

00:49:54.679 --> 00:49:58.300
answer is not honest answer. Honest answer, too

00:49:58.300 --> 00:50:01.860
close to home. Yeah. yeah i know somebody who

00:50:01.860 --> 00:50:05.780
a situation like that has happened and it wasn't

00:50:05.780 --> 00:50:09.860
until the person was in like their 30s that they

00:50:09.860 --> 00:50:11.760
finally reconnected with one of their parents

00:50:11.760 --> 00:50:15.719
to like get their side of the story of what happened

00:50:15.719 --> 00:50:19.320
after like becoming a teenager and like hearing

00:50:19.320 --> 00:50:22.480
all the past drama that like the one parent did

00:50:22.480 --> 00:50:25.639
and recognizing like All the lies that the one

00:50:25.639 --> 00:50:28.900
parent said and it was like multiple marriages

00:50:28.900 --> 00:50:31.980
that happened to how do you have conversation

00:50:31.980 --> 00:50:34.880
like hard conversations are like give perspective

00:50:34.880 --> 00:50:39.380
to your kids without being too overbearing or

00:50:39.380 --> 00:50:43.019
like. I don't know it's just it's hard to find

00:50:43.019 --> 00:50:45.320
that balance of like I'm still the parent but

00:50:45.320 --> 00:50:48.679
also like I can relate and I understand where

00:50:48.679 --> 00:50:52.199
you're coming from totally I will say I I grew

00:50:52.199 --> 00:50:55.579
up in a divorced. family my parents got divorced

00:50:55.579 --> 00:50:58.139
when I was three months old and I was really

00:50:58.139 --> 00:51:01.159
grateful after hearing that story because that

00:51:01.159 --> 00:51:03.699
was not my experience whatsoever in the sense

00:51:03.699 --> 00:51:06.300
that like My parents did not tell me anything

00:51:06.300 --> 00:51:09.920
about the other My whole growing up and all of

00:51:09.920 --> 00:51:12.139
a sudden I was an adult and I started asking

00:51:12.139 --> 00:51:14.739
like random questions And I would get their perspective

00:51:14.739 --> 00:51:16.760
on things and I would be like, oh my gosh I didn't

00:51:16.760 --> 00:51:20.179
even know they're like, you know that was being

00:51:20.179 --> 00:51:23.380
yeah, so like felt gratitude that that was not

00:51:23.380 --> 00:51:26.079
my situation, because especially before you have

00:51:26.079 --> 00:51:28.880
the perspective and the understanding, what do

00:51:28.880 --> 00:51:31.019
you do with any of that information? I was going

00:51:31.019 --> 00:51:33.659
to ask, were you glad that you didn't know as

00:51:33.659 --> 00:51:38.320
a like a teen, as a like growing up? Yes. I mean,

00:51:38.320 --> 00:51:40.199
maybe it's a double edged sword, right? Because

00:51:40.199 --> 00:51:43.460
you grow up thinking that your life and your

00:51:43.460 --> 00:51:47.079
family is perfect. And like even as a kid, like

00:51:47.079 --> 00:51:52.619
I was a single or only child. Single parent household

00:51:52.619 --> 00:51:56.800
like I didn't I didn't foster any animosity towards

00:51:56.800 --> 00:51:59.539
the other parent right and like still had a good

00:51:59.539 --> 00:52:02.380
relationship with them and Who's to say what

00:52:02.380 --> 00:52:04.079
could have been different if it they were like,

00:52:04.079 --> 00:52:07.019
you know Yeah Soiling the water on both sides

00:52:07.019 --> 00:52:09.380
or like trying to make me pick a side or any

00:52:09.380 --> 00:52:11.519
of that stuff Like there was not something I

00:52:11.519 --> 00:52:13.320
had to deal with at all. Yeah, that's really

00:52:13.320 --> 00:52:16.380
good That was it was good and then I grew up

00:52:16.380 --> 00:52:19.260
and I learned things. Yeah, but all parents are

00:52:19.260 --> 00:52:22.559
not Perfect humans and I'm not a perfect human

00:52:22.559 --> 00:52:25.219
I'm pretty but I'm married to a perfect human.

00:52:25.219 --> 00:52:27.960
Yeah. Thank you. I was like I was waiting for

00:52:27.960 --> 00:52:32.639
it. Yeah. No job was following right behind That's

00:52:32.639 --> 00:52:34.860
one of the work like one of probably the most

00:52:34.860 --> 00:52:38.780
prototypical Stories about parents lying to kids,

00:52:38.820 --> 00:52:40.860
you know that happens in divorced households

00:52:40.860 --> 00:52:44.300
all the time This one's good. If you guys like

00:52:44.300 --> 00:52:50.320
the first one. Yes Is this steam here? Is it

00:52:50.320 --> 00:52:53.699
longer, shorter? Way shorter. Deeper in detail.

00:52:55.260 --> 00:52:58.699
You be the judge. Okay, I'm ready. Hit me. Am

00:52:58.699 --> 00:53:00.880
I the brown starfish for not telling my kids

00:53:00.880 --> 00:53:04.019
about a massive inheritance for 15 years? Whoa.

00:53:04.420 --> 00:53:07.300
Initial thoughts? No. Throw away because my son

00:53:07.300 --> 00:53:10.219
and daughter are absolutely furious. So some

00:53:10.219 --> 00:53:13.099
background. I grew up dirt poor. Not broke for

00:53:13.099 --> 00:53:16.300
a little while poor. I mean actual poor. Food

00:53:16.300 --> 00:53:19.179
stamps, eviction notices. Heat getting shut off

00:53:19.179 --> 00:53:21.380
in the middle of winter. My mom did her best

00:53:21.380 --> 00:53:23.639
but money was always a stressor and it stuck

00:53:23.639 --> 00:53:26.840
with me. So when I became a dad, I swore that

00:53:26.840 --> 00:53:28.920
my kids would never feel that kind of insecurity.

00:53:29.800 --> 00:53:32.619
I worked in sales. Didn't have a bad job but

00:53:32.619 --> 00:53:35.179
it was commission based so nothing is ever guaranteed.

00:53:35.420 --> 00:53:38.760
I always had this nagging fear that one bad year

00:53:38.760 --> 00:53:41.639
or month or anything like that and I would be

00:53:41.639 --> 00:53:45.119
screwed. So I lived frugally as hell. clipped

00:53:45.119 --> 00:53:47.619
coupons, drove my car into the ground, always

00:53:47.619 --> 00:53:50.619
bought things on sale. My wife, who had a much

00:53:50.619 --> 00:53:52.719
more stable upbringing, used to joke that I was

00:53:52.719 --> 00:53:54.739
preparing for an apocalypse that wasn't coming.

00:53:55.380 --> 00:53:58.019
But to me, it really was just paranoia from having

00:53:58.019 --> 00:54:00.199
to be in survival all those years. Then when

00:54:00.199 --> 00:54:04.079
I was 38, my biological father died. Now this

00:54:04.079 --> 00:54:06.480
man was a total stranger to me. He walked out

00:54:06.480 --> 00:54:08.960
before I was old enough to remember him. Never

00:54:08.960 --> 00:54:11.099
called, never sent a birthday card, nothing.

00:54:11.469 --> 00:54:13.769
I didn't even really think about him. Didn't

00:54:13.769 --> 00:54:16.650
even know if he was alive, honestly. So, some

00:54:16.650 --> 00:54:19.130
lawyer ended up calling me and says that he left

00:54:19.130 --> 00:54:22.010
everything to me. I thought it was a scam. Turns

00:54:22.010 --> 00:54:24.570
out he never had any other kids, barely spent

00:54:24.570 --> 00:54:26.889
any of his money, and for some reason decided

00:54:26.889 --> 00:54:31.469
to drop it all in my lap. And we're not talking

00:54:31.469 --> 00:54:35.030
a nice little inheritance. We're talking millions.

00:54:35.889 --> 00:54:38.050
Like life -changing, never -have -to -work -again

00:54:38.050 --> 00:54:42.699
kind of money. Where's that for us? Do you have

00:54:42.699 --> 00:54:44.900
a biological dad anywhere somewhere? Yeah, I

00:54:44.900 --> 00:54:47.840
do. You've met him. I mean, I met like a second

00:54:47.840 --> 00:54:50.760
one. Yeah, I... Nope. I don't have one of those.

00:54:51.000 --> 00:54:55.860
Only one biological dad. That sucks for you.

00:54:56.260 --> 00:54:58.980
You think that would be a relief, right? Yes,

00:54:59.360 --> 00:55:01.440
obviously. That I'd feel secure for the first

00:55:01.440 --> 00:55:04.000
time in my life? No. If anything, it made me

00:55:04.000 --> 00:55:06.980
more paranoid. My whole life has been about saving,

00:55:07.500 --> 00:55:10.239
planning for worst case scenarios, cutting every

00:55:10.239 --> 00:55:13.579
unnecessary cost. That mindset doesn't just disappear

00:55:13.579 --> 00:55:17.000
overnight. So my wife and I sat down. We agreed.

00:55:17.099 --> 00:55:19.519
First thing, we pay off our mortgage and any

00:55:19.519 --> 00:55:21.699
other debt. Then we would set up a will and put

00:55:21.699 --> 00:55:24.079
everything in order so the kids would be taken

00:55:24.079 --> 00:55:26.699
care of eventually. And we just left the rest

00:55:26.699 --> 00:55:29.039
untouched. We figured we'd wait until I retired

00:55:29.039 --> 00:55:31.679
to do anything big like buying a place somewhere

00:55:31.679 --> 00:55:34.000
warm. But beyond that, we weren't gonna start

00:55:34.000 --> 00:55:36.400
living differently and we sure as hell were not

00:55:36.400 --> 00:55:40.679
going to tell our kids. Whoa. At the time, they

00:55:40.679 --> 00:55:43.909
were 12 and 15. They were good kids but still

00:55:43.909 --> 00:55:46.289
just kids i didn't want them growing up thinking

00:55:46.289 --> 00:55:48.849
they had. A safety net so big that they never

00:55:48.849 --> 00:55:51.510
have to worry about money i wanted them to work

00:55:51.510 --> 00:55:53.969
to struggle a little bit to learn how to budget

00:55:53.969 --> 00:55:56.429
and earn their own way in life. We figured we

00:55:56.429 --> 00:55:58.429
tell them when they were older maybe twenty five

00:55:58.429 --> 00:56:00.409
or thirty once they've gotten some real world

00:56:00.409 --> 00:56:03.630
experience under their belts wall but then time

00:56:03.630 --> 00:56:06.579
just kept passing. So when my son turned 18,

00:56:06.699 --> 00:56:09.099
we thought maybe now's the time. But beyond that,

00:56:09.139 --> 00:56:10.780
we weren't gonna start living differently and

00:56:10.780 --> 00:56:12.679
we sure as hell aren't gonna start telling the

00:56:12.679 --> 00:56:18.019
kids. At the time, they were 12 and 15. Good

00:56:18.019 --> 00:56:20.559
kids, but still kids. I didn't want them growing

00:56:20.559 --> 00:56:22.599
up thinking they had a safety net so big that

00:56:22.599 --> 00:56:24.900
they'd never have to work or worry about money.

00:56:25.480 --> 00:56:27.619
I wanted them to work, to struggle a little bit,

00:56:27.719 --> 00:56:29.679
to learn how to budget and earn their way in

00:56:29.679 --> 00:56:32.539
life. When my son turned 18, we thought maybe

00:56:32.539 --> 00:56:35.289
now's the time. But he was heading off to college

00:56:35.289 --> 00:56:37.250
and we worried it might mess with his motivation.

00:56:37.389 --> 00:56:39.369
So we said, let's wait until after he graduates.

00:56:40.030 --> 00:56:42.349
Then our daughter hit 18 and by then we still

00:56:42.349 --> 00:56:45.010
hadn't told our son. So telling her first felt

00:56:45.010 --> 00:56:47.449
weird. So he said, we'll just wait a little longer.

00:56:47.829 --> 00:56:51.869
And before we knew it, 15 years had passed. I

00:56:51.869 --> 00:56:54.010
guess we just got comfortable with them not knowing.

00:56:54.809 --> 00:56:57.510
They worked minimum wage jobs, took out student

00:56:57.510 --> 00:57:00.469
loans, lived on a budget just like I had to.

00:57:00.809 --> 00:57:02.800
And in my mind that was a good thing. They were

00:57:02.800 --> 00:57:04.840
learning responsibility. They weren't growing

00:57:04.840 --> 00:57:08.860
up entitled. Oh, but the interest. That's like,

00:57:09.400 --> 00:57:13.400
all I know is if I was OP dude, there's no possible

00:57:13.400 --> 00:57:15.599
way I would let my kids take out student loans.

00:57:15.920 --> 00:57:18.179
Yeah, that's where I that's where I'm kind of

00:57:18.179 --> 00:57:20.099
drawing the line in my mind right now. But I

00:57:20.099 --> 00:57:22.960
want I want to keep hearing what happens. So

00:57:22.960 --> 00:57:26.440
last month, my son, who is now 27, and his wife

00:57:26.440 --> 00:57:28.380
started looking into buying their first house.

00:57:28.570 --> 00:57:30.929
He was going over finances, trying to see what

00:57:30.929 --> 00:57:32.750
kind of loan he could get, and at some point

00:57:32.750 --> 00:57:35.389
he pulled my credit report to check if I could

00:57:35.389 --> 00:57:38.269
co -sign if needed. That's when he saw something

00:57:38.269 --> 00:57:40.590
weird, an account in my name with way too much

00:57:40.590 --> 00:57:42.929
money in it. He came to me confused, asking what

00:57:42.929 --> 00:57:46.130
it was, and like an idiot, I panicked. I tried

00:57:46.130 --> 00:57:48.429
to brush it off, told him it was an old investment

00:57:48.429 --> 00:57:50.250
account I forgot about, but he wasn't buying

00:57:50.250 --> 00:57:53.030
it. Started asking more questions, I kept fumbling,

00:57:53.250 --> 00:57:55.510
throwing out half -truths, hoping he would drop

00:57:55.510 --> 00:57:57.750
it. But my son's not dumb, he knows when I'm

00:57:57.750 --> 00:58:00.139
full of it. Next thing I know he's pulling up

00:58:00.139 --> 00:58:02.619
public records looking into my dad's estate and

00:58:02.619 --> 00:58:05.360
putting the pieces together himself At that point

00:58:05.360 --> 00:58:07.860
I had no choice but to come clean and of course

00:58:07.860 --> 00:58:10.900
he told his sister right away. Oh Now they're

00:58:10.900 --> 00:58:12.900
both livid They feel like we straight -up lied

00:58:12.900 --> 00:58:15.659
to them like we let them struggle for no reason

00:58:15.659 --> 00:58:17.840
My daughter is especially pissed because she

00:58:17.840 --> 00:58:20.559
skipped a study abroad program in college thinking

00:58:20.559 --> 00:58:24.139
she couldn't afford it. My son says he might

00:58:24.139 --> 00:58:25.940
have taken a different career path if he knew

00:58:25.940 --> 00:58:27.860
he had a financial cushion. They keep turning

00:58:27.860 --> 00:58:30.079
around words like betrayal and manipulation.

00:58:30.619 --> 00:58:32.980
And I get it. I really do. But I still believe

00:58:32.980 --> 00:58:35.039
we did the right thing. If they had known at

00:58:35.039 --> 00:58:36.960
15 and 12 that they'd never have to worry about

00:58:36.960 --> 00:58:38.679
money, they would have made different choices.

00:58:39.059 --> 00:58:41.539
Maybe worse ones. Now my wife's feeling guilty

00:58:41.539 --> 00:58:43.500
wondering if we should have told them years ago.

00:58:43.760 --> 00:58:45.980
I don't know. I still think we did what was best.

00:58:45.980 --> 00:58:48.139
But now my kids barely want to talk to me. Am

00:58:48.139 --> 00:58:51.320
I the asshole? I take it back. Yeah, yeah, I

00:58:51.320 --> 00:58:54.019
think he is I I think they could have said something

00:58:54.019 --> 00:58:57.860
Like hey, we have you don't have to say hey we

00:58:57.860 --> 00:59:01.940
have millions in the bank for you but like when

00:59:01.940 --> 00:59:04.760
your kid is going to college say like Like if

00:59:04.760 --> 00:59:07.320
you need something, please let us know or like

00:59:07.320 --> 00:59:09.840
we can help you figure out And they don't even

00:59:09.840 --> 00:59:11.900
have to say where the money came from but they

00:59:11.900 --> 00:59:14.039
can say oh hey you wanted to go to that study

00:59:14.039 --> 00:59:17.150
abroad trip like Why don't you pay for half of

00:59:17.150 --> 00:59:19.849
it and we'll pay for half of it? Yeah, and like

00:59:19.849 --> 00:59:22.929
I don't know I feel like you could be more collaborative

00:59:22.929 --> 00:59:25.329
See that's to me. That seems logical. That seems

00:59:25.329 --> 00:59:28.320
like the right thing to do I don't know I like

00:59:28.320 --> 00:59:31.980
coming from like a poor family that like I didn't

00:59:31.980 --> 00:59:34.119
have any assistance when I started in college

00:59:34.119 --> 00:59:36.159
and anything and I had to work in college if

00:59:36.159 --> 00:59:38.719
he was as poor as he says he was all growing

00:59:38.719 --> 00:59:40.900
up and like had to budget and make things work

00:59:40.900 --> 00:59:43.559
like kind of field your kids by not teaching

00:59:43.559 --> 00:59:45.739
them better like different routes and having

00:59:45.739 --> 00:59:48.659
to take out loans and things like that I guess

00:59:48.659 --> 00:59:51.619
for me like the attitude I've had is If you ask

00:59:51.619 --> 00:59:53.679
your parents for money once, then you're just

00:59:53.679 --> 00:59:55.900
going to keep asking your parents for money.

00:59:56.079 --> 00:59:57.960
If you did it once and then you're not going

00:59:57.960 --> 01:00:00.219
to do it again. Like, I know for me, I'd be like,

01:00:00.239 --> 01:00:02.179
well, you did it this one time. Why aren't you

01:00:02.179 --> 01:00:04.579
willing to do it now? Like why? I don't know.

01:00:04.679 --> 01:00:08.420
Cause. And you see it's easier to like, Hey,

01:00:08.519 --> 01:00:11.079
mom and dad, can I have this? Yeah. It's like,

01:00:11.159 --> 01:00:13.199
why wouldn't you go back and ask again? You're

01:00:13.199 --> 01:00:16.559
taking like more of the easier route. Yeah. Like.

01:00:16.980 --> 01:00:19.710
And that's why I'm saying don't be. You don't

01:00:19.710 --> 01:00:22.849
have to say he's you got millions. But if you

01:00:22.849 --> 01:00:25.590
say like, hey, your grandfather left you some

01:00:25.590 --> 01:00:28.949
money that will can help pay for college or help

01:00:28.949 --> 01:00:32.130
pay for like, I've met people that have had an

01:00:32.130 --> 01:00:34.449
inheritance and they're like, well, I'm, I'm

01:00:34.449 --> 01:00:36.710
going to keep it in there. And then like, something

01:00:36.710 --> 01:00:38.989
comes up and they're like, Oh, well, I've got

01:00:38.989 --> 01:00:40.809
the inheritance, I can just pull the money out

01:00:40.809 --> 01:00:43.909
and then I'll put more back in and then they

01:00:43.909 --> 01:00:46.630
never do. And also the fact that he was like,

01:00:46.630 --> 01:00:49.070
uh, I would feel secure and safe and like, no,

01:00:49.289 --> 01:00:51.210
with all that money, you're going to feel more

01:00:51.210 --> 01:00:53.869
insecure, more unsafe, unless you have therapy

01:00:53.869 --> 01:00:57.230
to like work through all of those feelings of

01:00:57.230 --> 01:01:02.710
like scarcity and like fear of what's going to

01:01:02.710 --> 01:01:06.849
happen next. So like, well, I feel like your

01:01:06.849 --> 01:01:09.590
childhood ruined that for your kids now. I just

01:01:09.590 --> 01:01:12.059
can't relate. Let's put it that way. Yep. because

01:01:12.059 --> 01:01:14.860
if i if i got a big lump sum like that and i

01:01:14.860 --> 01:01:17.320
didn't i my dad was very generous growing up

01:01:17.320 --> 01:01:19.739
and he like he did fine but it was just me and

01:01:19.739 --> 01:01:22.679
him i didn't have i definitely didn't have a

01:01:22.679 --> 01:01:26.880
scarcity mindset but in adulthood have definitely

01:01:26.880 --> 01:01:29.340
had financial struggles and so i like i relate

01:01:29.340 --> 01:01:31.519
to that feeling of like frick i can't spend a

01:01:31.519 --> 01:01:36.440
dime right now but if i got a fatty sum of money

01:01:36.440 --> 01:01:39.539
i'd be like who wants to go on a golf trip like

01:01:39.539 --> 01:01:42.949
who's like let's go Freaking have fun, especially

01:01:42.949 --> 01:01:46.010
my kids like dude I would be pissed at my parents

01:01:46.010 --> 01:01:48.389
if I find out after they're dead that they've

01:01:48.389 --> 01:01:52.070
had it since I was 15 And I'm like it was mine.

01:01:52.389 --> 01:01:55.289
I could have been living a much different life

01:01:55.289 --> 01:01:57.590
much different life Yeah, I don't know that would

01:01:57.590 --> 01:02:00.349
be hard, but I get the whole like him wanting

01:02:00.349 --> 01:02:03.909
them to work hard and how do you if you're listening

01:02:03.909 --> 01:02:07.210
and if you have Money in an account for me that

01:02:07.210 --> 01:02:09.329
you're just waiting now is the freaking time

01:02:11.340 --> 01:02:16.739
He's just reloading it. Please phone mommy. That's

01:02:16.739 --> 01:02:19.059
a crazy story, but you're not ready for mine.

01:02:19.260 --> 01:02:22.219
This was posted off two hot takes. Mother -in

01:02:22.219 --> 01:02:25.360
-law lied to my husband about his bio dad his

01:02:25.360 --> 01:02:27.400
whole life, and now he doesn't want her around

01:02:27.400 --> 01:02:32.199
our child. So I 21F met my husband 21M almost

01:02:32.199 --> 01:02:34.320
a year and a half ago. We are getting ready to

01:02:34.320 --> 01:02:36.599
welcome our baby girl in June, but we are in

01:02:36.599 --> 01:02:38.719
a predicament. My husband, let's call him A.

01:02:38.840 --> 01:02:41.360
was told his entire childhood and up until this

01:02:41.360 --> 01:02:43.659
point that his bio dad signed over his rights

01:02:43.659 --> 01:02:46.320
almost as soon as he was born verbally abused

01:02:46.320 --> 01:02:48.360
his mom while she was pregnant and so quote -for

01:02:48.360 --> 01:02:50.849
-quote that he didn't claim him as his baby.

01:02:51.130 --> 01:02:53.110
It was something that has always bothered A.

01:02:53.269 --> 01:02:55.309
He hated his bio dad and said he would never

01:02:55.309 --> 01:02:57.170
reach out to him but didn't understand why his

01:02:57.170 --> 01:02:59.289
bio father would do that to him. His stepdad

01:02:59.289 --> 01:03:01.829
wasn't a huge influence on him his entire life

01:03:01.829 --> 01:03:03.630
from what he said and doesn't have a wonderful

01:03:03.630 --> 01:03:06.170
connection with him. When A met my dad he clung

01:03:06.170 --> 01:03:08.389
to him and still does. It made me so sad seeing

01:03:08.389 --> 01:03:10.349
this because all A wanted was a father figure

01:03:10.349 --> 01:03:12.530
that he could connect with. I think the relationship

01:03:12.530 --> 01:03:14.329
he has built with my father and talking with

01:03:14.329 --> 01:03:16.969
me had given him some push. to reach out to his

01:03:16.969 --> 01:03:19.050
dad because my dad has two other kids he wasn't

01:03:19.050 --> 01:03:21.190
involved a whole lot with due to their mothers

01:03:21.190 --> 01:03:23.389
not wanting him around and he worked in the pipeline

01:03:23.389 --> 01:03:26.570
so he wasn't around a whole lot anyways. A talked

01:03:26.570 --> 01:03:28.369
to his mom about reaching out to his dad and

01:03:28.369 --> 01:03:30.130
at first she said she would give him the documents

01:03:30.130 --> 01:03:32.349
she had from court and so on but as time came

01:03:32.349 --> 01:03:35.010
closer and he pushed more she started getting

01:03:35.010 --> 01:03:37.590
aggravated and condescending about it. Before

01:03:37.590 --> 01:03:40.269
she gave A any paperwork she pulled me to a room

01:03:40.269 --> 01:03:42.530
alone and asked me very possibly aggressively

01:03:42.530 --> 01:03:45.920
why he needs to talk to him and what pushed him

01:03:45.920 --> 01:03:48.260
to this. She started crying and showing me paperwork,

01:03:48.480 --> 01:03:54.960
saying how horrible he was that she was not okay

01:03:54.960 --> 01:03:57.239
with him reaching out. This was kind of a red

01:03:57.239 --> 01:03:59.440
flag for me, but I just wanted to keep the peace

01:03:59.440 --> 01:04:01.280
in that moment. I explained everything when A

01:04:01.280 --> 01:04:03.539
and I had left their home. After that incident,

01:04:03.539 --> 01:04:05.539
he desperately wanted to reach out, and so he

01:04:05.539 --> 01:04:07.300
forced his mom to hand over the paperwork, and

01:04:07.300 --> 01:04:09.280
when he read all the letters and court documents,

01:04:09.320 --> 01:04:11.820
he sobbed for hours. He finally made contact

01:04:11.820 --> 01:04:15.460
with his bio dad. We will call him B. We call

01:04:15.460 --> 01:04:17.699
him B. B wasn't anything that A expected, and

01:04:17.699 --> 01:04:19.739
B explained his side of the story. B didn't know

01:04:19.739 --> 01:04:22.139
about A until he was around three, and the only

01:04:22.139 --> 01:04:24.280
reason why he was notified was because he was

01:04:24.280 --> 01:04:26.500
served with a paternity test, along with three

01:04:26.500 --> 01:04:28.820
other men. We looked at papers, and this checked

01:04:28.820 --> 01:04:31.280
out because paternity was established in 2005.

01:04:31.659 --> 01:04:34.880
A was born in 2002. His mom had went after B

01:04:34.880 --> 01:04:37.980
for child support and back. Child support. B

01:04:37.980 --> 01:04:39.980
was unprepared, but still paid and fought for

01:04:39.980 --> 01:04:42.219
custody for three years. Also, to give context,

01:04:42.719 --> 01:04:45.119
B lived nine hours away. He would send A letters,

01:04:45.320 --> 01:04:47.139
emails, try to call, and even would try to visit,

01:04:47.179 --> 01:04:48.739
but his mom was the one who made it difficult.

01:04:49.099 --> 01:04:51.019
B didn't have a reliable car and only worked

01:04:51.019 --> 01:04:53.500
in an auto parts store. We looked into all of

01:04:53.500 --> 01:04:55.219
this and everything checked out. Even the letters

01:04:55.219 --> 01:04:58.059
were sent with an old Riley stamp. B sent A screenshots

01:04:58.059 --> 01:05:00.139
of her conversations with his mom, and he was

01:05:00.139 --> 01:05:02.349
civil. while his mother was very nasty towards

01:05:02.349 --> 01:05:04.489
him. This went on for three years before his

01:05:04.489 --> 01:05:06.469
mom's lawyer told him that he needs to just sign

01:05:06.469 --> 01:05:08.289
over his rights because all of these money was

01:05:08.289 --> 01:05:11.130
going towards rent and attorney fees. He said

01:05:11.130 --> 01:05:13.150
he regrets it and has never been able to get

01:05:13.150 --> 01:05:15.510
over it. He tried making contact with A up until

01:05:15.510 --> 01:05:17.969
2016, then officially decided he would wait until

01:05:17.969 --> 01:05:21.710
A turned 18 and let A decide when he and if he

01:05:21.710 --> 01:05:24.349
ever wanted to try. B is almost exactly like

01:05:24.349 --> 01:05:26.710
A and A grieves the father relationship he could

01:05:26.710 --> 01:05:28.710
have had. They are already planning to meet up

01:05:28.710 --> 01:05:30.300
and have lunch and share more documents. about

01:05:30.300 --> 01:05:32.980
the situation. The real kicker though is that

01:05:32.980 --> 01:05:36.059
as mom impersonated him talking to B's mom, his

01:05:36.059 --> 01:05:38.739
bio grandma, she did that for months until grandma

01:05:38.739 --> 01:05:41.139
caught on and quit replying. The real kicker

01:05:41.139 --> 01:05:43.480
though is that as mom impersonated him talking

01:05:43.480 --> 01:05:46.500
to B's mom, his bio grandma, she did that for

01:05:46.500 --> 01:05:49.400
months until grandma caught on and quit replying.

01:05:49.619 --> 01:05:51.739
A has been in contact with his bio dad for two

01:05:51.739 --> 01:05:53.840
months now and won't go see his mom or talk to

01:05:53.840 --> 01:05:56.409
her. She doesn't know what... She doesn't know

01:05:56.409 --> 01:05:58.670
that he is in contact with his bio dad and that's

01:05:58.670 --> 01:06:01.250
where we are stuck. He wants his bio dad to come

01:06:01.250 --> 01:06:05.289
down for the birth of our daughter. A's mom has

01:06:05.289 --> 01:06:07.750
approached me multiple times asking if he reached

01:06:07.750 --> 01:06:09.789
out. It's not my business to tell so I always

01:06:09.789 --> 01:06:12.250
say no. But the last thing she said to me kind

01:06:12.250 --> 01:06:14.750
of stuck. She said he was very happy he never

01:06:14.750 --> 01:06:16.670
reached out and that he would never disrespect

01:06:16.670 --> 01:06:19.630
her like that. She even said she knows he respects

01:06:19.630 --> 01:06:21.570
her for even giving him the opportunity to reach

01:06:21.570 --> 01:06:24.719
out. Yikes. We both know his mom is going to

01:06:24.719 --> 01:06:26.500
spiral when she sees him. He doesn't know how

01:06:26.500 --> 01:06:28.960
to approach his mom about this but refuses to

01:06:28.960 --> 01:06:31.000
not include his bio dad simply because his mom

01:06:31.000 --> 01:06:33.639
would be angry. He doesn't trust his mom anymore

01:06:33.639 --> 01:06:36.659
and he told and told he would prefer to stay

01:06:36.659 --> 01:06:39.260
low contact with her until further notice even

01:06:39.260 --> 01:06:41.460
when our baby gets here. We also know there are

01:06:41.460 --> 01:06:44.059
always two sides to a story but B's matches the

01:06:44.059 --> 01:06:47.559
timeline and he has actual court documents emails

01:06:47.559 --> 01:06:50.820
and messages to back everything he has expressed.

01:06:51.050 --> 01:06:53.449
What do you guys think? I've heard of stuff like

01:06:53.449 --> 01:06:58.409
that happening. And it is like that's trauma.

01:06:58.550 --> 01:07:01.750
Yeah, that's so much trauma. Like being lied

01:07:01.750 --> 01:07:07.210
to about your parent that is not there to defend

01:07:07.210 --> 01:07:11.289
themselves. Oh, I just I hate that. I hate that.

01:07:11.329 --> 01:07:14.769
And he is constantly being lied to by he got

01:07:14.769 --> 01:07:18.429
stuck with the worst parent like true. She was

01:07:18.429 --> 01:07:21.840
a bad she was a a bad person like had to have

01:07:21.840 --> 01:07:24.019
a paternity test or have four or five different

01:07:24.019 --> 01:07:27.179
guys take paternity tests to determine who the

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dad was yet she wanted to trash the dad to the

01:07:30.059 --> 01:07:31.840
son it's like did she even know who the dad was

01:07:31.840 --> 01:07:34.920
when did she find out you know but wanted child

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support but didn't want him in the child's life

01:07:38.860 --> 01:07:42.340
oh yeah and how it's so backwards it's like what

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are you even trying to accomplish the dad wants

01:07:44.519 --> 01:07:47.159
to be in the child's life reached out multiple

01:07:47.159 --> 01:07:51.739
times The child only knows what she's saying

01:07:51.739 --> 01:07:55.019
like that Only gets the information from the

01:07:55.019 --> 01:07:58.239
mom who's batshit. This is she's got a first

01:07:58.239 --> 01:08:01.719
-class ticket. Actually a coach take it Oh Definitely

01:08:01.719 --> 01:08:04.739
not first class. I think I think that's maybe

01:08:04.739 --> 01:08:08.059
a little too good for her That's pretty cargo

01:08:08.059 --> 01:08:11.980
hold she's like she's she's going she she is

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gonna be like Hanging on the door as it's taken

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off and then like falls off the shoelace is caught

01:08:18.300 --> 01:08:22.760
in it. And so she's Dang but is she taking a

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plane to hell? Oh Jet Does she get on a submarine?

01:08:27.979 --> 01:08:32.020
I mean, it's a legion Sorry, Oh plastics plastic

01:08:32.020 --> 01:08:33.500
seats a legion. Have you guys ever written one

01:08:33.500 --> 01:08:38.260
of those? No Flew from here to Billings a hundred

01:08:38.260 --> 01:08:42.060
years ago not padded seats. They were plastic.

01:08:42.279 --> 01:08:49.140
Oh I Was like you're not dumb the story she interrupts

01:08:49.140 --> 01:08:52.479
something weird. What do I do with that? Two

01:08:52.479 --> 01:08:55.279
and a half hour flight. Oh We get up to cruising

01:08:55.279 --> 01:08:58.279
altitude captain comes on. He's like, sorry ladies

01:08:58.279 --> 01:09:01.979
and gentlemen the back lavatory It's no longer

01:09:01.979 --> 01:09:04.319
operational You're gonna have to use the front

01:09:04.319 --> 01:09:07.720
lavatory Everyone starts making a line to the

01:09:07.720 --> 01:09:10.539
front, not 10 minutes later. Ladies and gentlemen,

01:09:10.939 --> 01:09:14.939
the front lavatory has gone out. We have no place

01:09:14.939 --> 01:09:17.800
for you to use the restroom on this flight. There's

01:09:17.800 --> 01:09:21.119
only two hours remaining. Do what you gotta do.

01:09:21.319 --> 01:09:24.060
And it was the worst. It was so hot. It was so

01:09:24.060 --> 01:09:27.340
uncomfortable. And everyone was so irritable

01:09:27.340 --> 01:09:30.539
because everyone had to pee and poop and throw

01:09:30.539 --> 01:09:34.079
up. I just said it so you could felt like you

01:09:34.079 --> 01:09:41.869
could chime in. Are there any updates? No updates.

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Comments were kind of lame. Sorry commenters.

01:09:45.390 --> 01:09:47.689
I wasn't impressed. I want that one to be the

01:09:47.689 --> 01:09:50.270
fake because I hate that so much. I think it

01:09:50.270 --> 01:09:55.510
is a fake. I think it's not. I think it couldn't

01:09:55.510 --> 01:09:58.569
be what it isn't. Couldn't be what it is when

01:09:58.569 --> 01:10:02.569
it isn't. It's not. Well, what do you guys think?

01:10:02.729 --> 01:10:04.470
Which one do you guys think is the fake? We had

01:10:04.470 --> 01:10:06.550
a few, so I don't know if you remember them all.

01:10:07.550 --> 01:10:11.590
Final answer. D, I mean, the last one. My story.

01:10:11.729 --> 01:10:15.390
Yes. Okay, what about you? Your first story.

01:10:15.710 --> 01:10:19.229
My first story, okay. Well, stay tuned for next

01:10:19.229 --> 01:10:21.390
week to hear if they're right. Can't wait to

01:10:21.390 --> 01:10:23.670
find out. Don't you just freaking hate it though

01:10:23.670 --> 01:10:27.250
when your parents lie to you? Yes. No. Never

01:10:27.250 --> 01:10:29.590
happened. No. They're perfect. If they did, I

01:10:29.590 --> 01:10:32.390
don't know yet. I love it. My mom makes me spend

01:10:32.390 --> 01:10:34.729
thousands in therapy. It makes me feel good.

01:10:35.750 --> 01:10:37.329
You don't have to go to bed. We're going to go

01:10:37.329 --> 01:10:41.750
home and eat ice cream. What a great episode.

01:10:42.210 --> 01:10:44.989
Yes. Thank you. Thank you guys for joining us.

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I'm going to try to wrap this up. No, I just

01:10:47.090 --> 01:10:49.350
want to keep talking. We have all night. We have

01:10:49.350 --> 01:10:53.350
all night. Is Posey okay? I don't know. I got

01:10:53.350 --> 01:10:55.970
to check the cameras. The lies our parents tell

01:10:55.970 --> 01:10:58.590
us. Go on our social media, let us know which

01:10:58.590 --> 01:11:01.189
one you think is the fake. Comment on Instagram,

01:11:01.569 --> 01:11:05.369
YouTube, TikTok, Facebook, any of them. Leave

01:11:05.369 --> 01:11:08.710
us a rating on Spotify or on Apple Podcasts.

01:11:08.710 --> 01:11:10.970
Yes. Please, we love you. Thank you guys for

01:11:10.970 --> 01:11:13.510
listening. This one you're going to want to see

01:11:13.510 --> 01:11:16.170
on YouTube. If you're a podcaster, like watch

01:11:16.170 --> 01:11:18.930
it again on YouTube, okay? That's so fun. It's

01:11:18.930 --> 01:11:22.119
different. And you'll like it. And Whit caught

01:11:22.119 --> 01:11:25.279
a gummy in her mouth and it was next level. And

01:11:25.279 --> 01:11:27.439
then I replicated it and it was way sicker. Kate,

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thank you guys for the support. We love you so

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much. Internet Frenzy on three. One, two, three.

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Internet Frenzy! Love you guys. Bye. Bye, Mom.

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Click no pretending