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Welcome back to Internet Frenzy. How the hell

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are you? I'm doing really good. How the hell

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are you? Better than ever. Perfect. Love that.

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Love to hear it, Joe. Better than ever. Coming

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at you. This episode's gonna be fun, but before

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we get into it, we gotta recap last week's episode.

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Yeah, baby. A quickie. We've got OP that went

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on vacation, fell in love with this guy who ends

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up being her best friend's therapist. Tough?

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Tough. Was that the fake? No. Might be. Next

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we have the therapist that sent through the email.

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Remember this? Yes. Crazy. Yeah. Bad deal. Wonder

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if that was fake. Maybe. Then there's a therapist

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asking for tips. Was that the fake? No. Was it

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the story about the couple getting kicked out

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of therapy by the old therapist because she wouldn't

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take accountability? No, that one sounds pretty

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realistic. That one sounds like it could absolutely

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happen any day of the week. Yeah, it's not happened

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to us, but that does sound like it would happen.

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So which one was the fake are you gonna enlighten

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us because it wasn't mine Well, it was mine the

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fake story of last week's episode therapy is

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scarapy Was my story and it was the one where

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the therapist accidentally sends the email out

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and I was I'm so relieved Yeah, I feel like everyone's

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got to be very relieved because I think by far

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that one was like the most like that is damaging

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your entire life at that point. To ruin a kid's

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whole life. Good job on that one. Thank you.

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Thank you, everyone. Very nice work. So if I

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got you, joke's on you. If I didn't, joke's on

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me. That's right. Yeah. That's right. I don't

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think that's right. I don't know. But listen,

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this week's episode is going to be crazy. I'm

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so excited for this week's episode. But first,

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before we get started, for those that are new,

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I'm Whitney. And I'm Joe. This is Internet Frenzy.

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Each week, one of the four stories is a fake

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story generated by Chad GBT and our creative

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little brains. That's right. Yes, we changed

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it up a little bit. Each week, our listeners

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will listen to all the stories and then they

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guess which one's the fake. So go to our social

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media and you'll be able to comment and let us

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know which story you think is the fake. And then.

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The next week's episode, we always air in the

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beginning of the episode, which one was the fake

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of last week's episode. Stay tuned, stick along,

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ride along with us. Stick along, ride along with

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us. Hop on my back and get down to Canter Town.

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Get down to Canter Town. That's good. It's a

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good little, it's a good refresher. Yes. It's

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the old two truths and a lie. Boom. but we're

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using Chad's EPT. So find out which one's the

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fake, see if you can sniff it out, and then let

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us know on the socials. And you can listen wherever

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you get your podcasts, or you can watch on YouTube,

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or you can just view the stories on social media,

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whatever you like to do. Yeah, we're gonna get

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right into this week's episode. this week it

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is called stock market crash but not stock like

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you think these are gonna be stories about crazy

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stuff stocking yeah that that kind of stuff so

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trigger warning if you have a stalker if you

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think you have a stalker don't listen you're

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not ready for this this is a this is a little

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bit of a lengthy one Buckle the frick up. I feel

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like you're going to be able to relate on a hundred

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levels. Oh, I love that buckled. This post comes

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from, am I overreacting? A .I .O. I feel like

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a dad at the daycare I work for is hitting on

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me. Should I tell you how many updates there

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are to this right now? Or should I just? Yeah.

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Five. I literally thought you were going to say

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13. So five is great. Let's do this. OK, five.

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Oh, that scared me. I work at a daycare and I've

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noticed that one of the children's parents always

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makes inappropriate comments to me. At first

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I thought he was just one of those people who's

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always complimenting others or that he just wanted

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to have a friendly relationship with his kids'

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educators, but now I think it's more than that.

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During my first weeks there, I was always assigned

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to his younger daughter's group. the babies,

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so I would see him often. At first it was brief

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friendly talk but it really escalated when I

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started working with the older kids, the four

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year olds. His other daughter, let's call her

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Emmy, and I clicked right away when we found

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out we're birthday twins. She always wants me

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to play with her and asks for hugs literally

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every two minutes. Whenever her dad comes to

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pick up his kids she always makes sure to give

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me a big hug and tells her dad that we're best

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friends. Last month, Emmy's dad and I ran into

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each other at the grocery store and started small

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talk. We were mostly talking about Emmy, and

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he just kept saying how much she loves me and

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that she wants me to come over to their house.

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And I said something like, Oh, she's so cute.

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I love spending time with her, too. And tried

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to end the conversation, but he just kept talking.

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I noticed him looking at my chest a couple of

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times, which was one of the reasons I wanted

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to leave. He then offered me a ride. And although

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I initially declined, he kept pushing it. So

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I accepted. I didn't let him see my house. I

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told him to drop me off downtown. My gosh since

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then I keep running into him but to the point

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where I don't think it's a coincidence He doesn't

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live in the same neighborhood as me. I live near

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downtown In fact when he dropped me off the first

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time he kept going on and on about how you could

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never live somewhere as far away as I do So why

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do I keep seeing him in our conversations? He

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always makes sure to compliment my physical appearance

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or mention my age and how young and smart I am

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It obviously makes me uncomfortable, but for

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the sake of his daughters, especially Emmy, I

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don't really say anything. I've tried to set

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some boundaries, but it's really uncomfortable.

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I jokingly said once, well, if I were your age,

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I don't think I'd date someone as young as me.

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And he was like, well, good thing I would. And

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he laughed. Oh, yeah, there it is. I casually

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mentioned this in a conversation with one of

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my colleagues and she said something like, oh,

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he's a flirt. That's what he does. She kept talking

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about how handsome he is. He is handsome, but

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also a married dad of two. I asked if there's

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anything we could do if hypothetically a parent

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is being too friendly slash flirty with us. And

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she basically said no. Anyway, it's gotten hot

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outside, so I started wearing sundresses, shorts

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and crop tops. And he always compliments my outfits

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when he sees me and says he likes seeing my belly

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button piercing out. Ew. Also, Emmy has told

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me that her dad said I'll be their nanny for

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the weekends when the daycare is closed. I don't

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know if he actually said that because she's four

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but I don't even want to ask because I don't

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want to give him any ideas if he didn't actually

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say it. He's tried multiple times to give me

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his phone number to call him if there's anything

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and I always gently remind him that we can communicate

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through the daycare app. He always says that

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he would rather call me directly than through

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the app. He was being super pushy and I felt

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a little trapped so I gave him my phone number.

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He texts me all the time asking what I'm doing,

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etc. I have FaceTimed his daughters a couple

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of times but it just feels wrong. I briefly talked

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about this to a friend and she said that she

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would have told his wife. I don't even think

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I have the guts to do that. Ever since my friend

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told me that, I started casually bringing up

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his wife in conversations. He would always change

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the subject or say she's not here. Anyway, all

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this is to ask, what should I do? Am I imagining

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things? I feel trapped. I can't lose my job.

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I'm scared that it'll take me forever to find

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another one. Also, the kids love me and I love

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them. I've really gotten attached to them. I

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love Emmy too, and I mostly feel bad for her.

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What would you do in this situation? I've asked,

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and you can't ban a family from attending a daycare,

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so that option is out the window. Also, we can't

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be on our phones 24 -7, so it's extremely hard

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to get evidence. Anything helps, thank you. I

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don't know if I'm posting this on the right subs,

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if not, sorry about that. The husband's 100 %

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in the wrong. Like, what a creep. What the frick

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is he doing? This girl, one, should have never

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given him the phone number, especially after

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all these signs leading up to it. And she still

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did that, like that. pissed me off. That's yeah.

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Like, honey, don't do that. Don't do that. He

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is married and he has and you know his intentions.

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Don't give him the frickin number. So that really

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bothers me because there is something in there

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where like she was that's not just like being

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stupid. That's like there could have been possibly

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she likes the attention. I mean, you can't you

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can't rule it out. But also it's hot. Let her

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wear what she wants. No, I'm not saying she's

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wearing what she's wearing to get his attention

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specifically. I'm saying Her giving him his number

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is showing that like she low -key There's got

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to be something in there where she's kind of

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like, oh, let's see where this goes Potentially

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it obviously her post makes it sound like she's

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just appalled by this guy and creeped out and

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like I think he might be stalking me but You're

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gonna give him his number after seeing all of

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these signs and then hearing he's good -looking

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and all the daycare girls are like, oh like he

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fights with everyone but like dang girl like

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Nice work. Like he really likes you. I don't

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know. I'm a little bugged by her, but I also

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know he is the main villain in this story. So

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I need to like shift my focus on that. Do we

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think he's actually stalking her? But wait, there's

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more. Oh, okay. I'm ready. I'm scared. Okay.

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So that's, that's my first reaction to hearing

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just this side of the story. So let's see if

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I'm right. Which is fair. It seems like she's

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a little bit, walls are down. Yeah. Like what

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are you doing? Yeah. Okay, I'm ready. So here's

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a couple edits. The first edit is, I've never

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seen his wife. He's the one who does everything.

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Emmy has mentioned her a few times. Says things

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like, mommy got me this shirt or something like

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that. But I don't even know what she looks like.

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He doesn't talk about her unless I bring her

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up. Edit two, about the crop tops. We are allowed

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to wear them at work with long pants. Same thing

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with shorts. We can wear them with a non -cropped

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shirt. 90 % of his comments about my piercing

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were outside of work when I would run into him.

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Also, I blocked him. I don't know if he noticed,

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but he's blocked. Okay. Headed number three.

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A lot of people are asking me why slash what

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I am scared of. I don't have an exact answer.

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I've had a lot of traumatizing experiences with

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men and I don't feel comfortable around any man

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in general. I don't have any guy friends. It's

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like I think of all the things they could do

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to me if they wanted to then I get scared slash

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uncomfortable. I know I have a fond trauma response

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and I'm working on it. I really am. Also, I have

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work on Friday or Wednesday maybe and I will

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talk to my supervisors and update. That's really

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sad. So... I'm just gonna invite the listeners.

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There's a lot of context, there's a lot of comments

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throughout each of the updates. And it is a rabbit

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hole. So you can go and spend as much time as

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you want researching this. It's in, am I overreacting?

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I feel like a dad at the daycare I work at is

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hitting on me. The post went absolutely bonkers.

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So, you'll be able to find it. Update number

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two. The first update. Hello, everyone. I want

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to thank everyone who gave me advice. I tried

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to read every comment. Before I give you an update,

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I need to clarify a few things. I don't work

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at a school. It's private, family -owned daycare.

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I have three managers, two women and one man.

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They became the new owners in January. I primarily

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interact with one of the female managers. I've

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tried to discuss the situation with her, but

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it's never the right time. For example, I'd knock

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on her office door and say I needed to talk about

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Emmy's dad. She'd say she's busy and ask me to

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come back later. When I did, she'd apologize

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and ask to talk the next day. She also suggested

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texting, but I didn't feel comfortable telling

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her everything through text. Two, some suggested

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having another teacher watch my group when he

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arrives, but that's not possible. In the afternoon,

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after nap time, we take the kids outside until

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their parents pick them up. All educators need

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to stay outside to supervise. When parents arrive,

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I discuss their child's day and hand over their

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keychain. It's difficult because he always approaches

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me when I'm distracted, so I can't warn a coworker.

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Number three rides. The first time I saw him

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outside of work was at the grocery store. He

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recognized me. We chatted briefly and he offered

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me a ride. I declined but he insisted saying

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it was ungentlemanly to let me carry groceries

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alone. He paid for my groceries and drove me

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home despite my discomfort. I sat in the back

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seat but still. I shouldn't have said yes, I

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was just so weirded out by the entire situation.

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The second time was at a gas station. After hanging

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out with a friend in his neighborhood, I stopped

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there for a drink. He saw me and again offered

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a ride. He was pushy so I reluctantly agreed.

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That was the last time I accepted a ride from

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him. 4. Clothing Most of his comments about my

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piercing happened outside of work. I don't wear

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revealing clothes to work. I mostly wear sweats.

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Occasionally, I wear a long sleeve crop top with

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sweatpants, which my managers don't mind. We're

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allowed to wear mom shorts, but again, I most

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of the time wear sweats. FaceTime. I FaceTimed

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his daughters three times and each call lasted

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less than five minutes. I realize now that this

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was inappropriate, but yes, it happened. Six

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texting I don't always respond to his texts if

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he texts ten times I might reply three times

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The thing is he often asks in person why I don't

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respond telling me he had something important

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to say He'd sometimes say that in front of Emmy

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and say you see that Emmy. She's not nice to

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daddy She doesn't want to talk to me frickin

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loser literally. I'm like sick to my stomach.

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I've cried twice Listening and I yeah, I'm very

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emotional right now Keep going. Yeah, hold my

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hand. Yeah, this makes me so sad Seven I live

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in Canada some suggested carrying pepper spray

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for protection, but it's illegal here. So that's

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not an option eight I don't know his exact age,

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but I guess late 30s to mid 40s. I've never seen

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his wife Some suggested they may be separated

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maybe Emmy has mentioned her mom before but she

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seems closer to her dad 9. The dating comment.

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I had zero idea my comment could be seen as flirting.

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I thought I was indirectly turning him down.

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When the topic of dating came up, I said I didn't

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want a relationship. He joked that we'd get along

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great and I responded by saying, don't you think

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you're a little too old for me? And he said jokingly,

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oh man, don't say that. You're very mature. That's

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when I said that I wouldn't date someone my age

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if I were his age. Men are pigs, and I'm so disgusted.

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This guy is a pig. I'm so grossed out. Blast

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this guy. Okay, so here's the update. That was

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just a preface to the update. I was only scheduled

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on Friday this week, but ended up working today

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too. I texted my manager saying that I have something

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very important to tell her about a parent and

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that I'm afraid my safety could be compromised.

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She asked me to come to her office before work

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to talk about it. I was very scared because reading

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the comments made me realize that I could lose

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my job because I gave him my number. But I still

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told her everything. Looking back, I missed a

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few things, but I told her the most important

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things. I told her about how in the beginning

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when I was assigned to his two -year -old daughter's

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group, he was very friendly and nice to me, but

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it escalated when I started caring for Emmy.

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I told her about the grocery incident, the gas

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station incident, and seeing him near my neighborhood.

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She kind of defended him by saying that I live

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near downtown, so it's not a miracle to run into

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somebody there. I then brought up the fact that

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yes, I understand that, but he's told me that

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he enjoys staying in his neighborhood and that

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I live so far away and he doesn't understand

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how I'm able to work at a job so far away. So

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it was weird to see him so much. I think it made

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her understand more. I told her about the comments

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about my appearance. I asked her if it was possible

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to get assigned to another group and she said

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yes. I told her about me giving him my number

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after feeling pressured and she said that I shouldn't

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have done that. that it is very dangerous to

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give out personal information like that. She

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also said that especially with my job, all communication

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must be through the app. She said that she was

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a little more upset at the dad because he's been

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attending that daycare for almost four years

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and he knows that parents are not allowed to

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do that. I then told her about how he makes Emmy

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play with her friends when it's time to go just

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to talk to me longer. She said that since I won't

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be assigned to Emmy's group, I won't even have

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to talk to him at all. She said that she'll take

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care of it and let the other girls know to keep

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an eye on him. I told her about the FaceTimes

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and how he told Emmy that I was mean for not

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answering one time and how he made her cry. She

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only said that that was out of line. I asked

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if it was possible to ban him from attending

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and she said maybe. She doesn't have any solid

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proof. I showed her some text messages, but she

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said that that he was being friendly in the messages

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and that there was nothing sexual. She said that

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most of this was basically hearsay and she doesn't

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have a concrete proof of him being an actual

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predator. As for Emmy... We played together on

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the playground as usual. I think the hardest

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part for me is to slowly distance myself from

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her. I did, however, encourage her to play with

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her friends, but she would always come back every

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five minutes to ask to play with me. When her

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dad arrived, he greeted me and asked me about

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Emmy's day in her keychain. I said that I did

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not take care of her today and pointed to the

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girl that did. I then got up to get Emmy. to

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tell her to leave he tried to stop me but i just

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kept walking i didn't really give him the time

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to talk to me when i got emmy i gave her a hug

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then stayed on the other side of the playground

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and they left i know it's not much but at least

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i avoided an interaction with them today i think

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that's it i tried to answer everything edit he's

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never driven me home i would always ask him to

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drop me off downtown so obviously it's escalating

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with the debt that's the issue here is it yeah

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no matter what she's trying to do he's not slowing

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down i'm He's he's obviously a bad dude and spoiler

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alert. There's updates and it gets worse So let's

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keep it rolling. Oh my gosh. I'm I don't I can't

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my motion. I cannot handle this I know this poor

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girl. Are you okay? No, but I'm ready. Okay update

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to same title Hi, I saw some comments asking

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for an update So I wanted to share what happened

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because I'm too ashamed to tell someone in real

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life I had work from yesterday 8am to 5pm and

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then went straight to the gym to workout with

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a friend. I got there around 6pm and worked out

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until about 8 .30pm. I was walking home, I live

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about 10 minutes away from the gym, when I heard

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someone behind me. Looking back, I know I shouldn't

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have walked home, but I didn't think about it

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in the moment. I had music in my ear, so I didn't

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know if someone was talking to me or on the phone,

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so I just kept walking. I felt the person getting

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closer and immediately thought, oh my gosh, what

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if it's him? I started walking a little faster.

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After a minute or two, the person tapped me on

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the shoulder. When I turned around, it was him.

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My heart dropped. I immediately froze. I had

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practiced what to say if I ever got into this

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situation, but of course I had forgotten everything.

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He acted like we ran into each other and said,

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hey, it's nice seeing you. I said, hi, nice seeing

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you, but I have to go. He complimented my hair.

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Parentheses, I recently dyed it and said it looked

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good on me. I said a quick thank you and tried

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to leave. He then grabbed my wrist and said,

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I don't like when you act like that. I just froze

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up. I couldn't move. He asked why I didn't take

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care of Emmy anymore. He said that she constantly

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asks about me at home and that I make her cry.

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I stuttered and said I didn't know and that I'm

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not the one who decides. I said I have to go

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now. Sorry. He then asked if I blocked him. I

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said I really can't talk right now. He then blurted

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out that he saw me working out He was doing all

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of this while grabbing my wrist mind you I didn't

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know what to say so I repeated that I had to

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go He started looking at me up and down in a

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disgusting way. He was staring at my boobs while

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smiling He then started caressing my arms one

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arm stopped at my waist and the other one kept

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caressing my arm He would sometimes move it to

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my chest and touch me there. What? I don't know

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why I didn't just punch him in the face. I just

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could not move. Before you ask, I wasn't wearing

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anything revealing. I had on a hoodie and sweatpants.

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I even removed my belly piercing because I don't

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like this type of attention. I eventually quietly

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said, can you please stop? He looked at me, smiled,

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and then left. I've been getting sexually assaulted

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by men since the age of seven. I promised myself

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after getting sexually assaulted at 18 by a friend

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that I would never let it happen again. Now this.

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I don't know why this keeps happening. Most of

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the time, I feel like my body isn't even mine,

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just for someone else to use whenever they feel

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like it, no matter if I want it or not. Maybe

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it was my fault because I shouldn't have walked

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home knowing I had a stalker. Maybe it's my fault

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because I didn't tell him to leave me alone earlier.

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Maybe it's my fault because I am 20 years old

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and I can't say no. I know he didn't full on

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grab my... chest and squeeze them, but I feel

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so so violated. I am too ashamed to reveal this

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to anyone. I told my boss I was sick to avoid

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going to work for a couple days. I went to the

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police station, but they said there wasn't anything

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they could do legally because he didn't commit

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actual crimes and that I didn't really have any

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proof. I just feel like they didn't take me seriously.

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They gave me tips to be more careful, like don't

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walk late at night, change your number, don't

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have the same routine, etc. But that's it. They

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won't give me a restraining order. I'll be honest,

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I didn't understand half of the terminology they

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were using, but from what I understood, we're

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both adults so the texting and FaceTimes aren't

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incriminating enough. I guess I'll just stay

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home. I feel so dirty I thought I had everything

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under control because I found a way to avoid

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him at work, but I guess I was wrong. I genuinely

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thought I found a way to make everything stop.

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The worst part is I saw some comments saying

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that this whole situation could escalate if he

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finds out that I'm avoiding him and I didn't

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believe them. Again, I was wrong. I don't know

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if I'm looking for advice or sympathy, but I

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don't have anyone in my life who could help.

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Maybe some friends, but I'm just so ashamed and

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embarrassed to say that a man was groping me

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and I basically let it happen because I was scared.

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It's just humiliating. As for my family, knowing

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my mom, she would most likely sl - Slut shame

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me and say it's my fault. But yeah, here's the

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update. I guess I don't know if I'll update after

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this mainly because I don't know what else to

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do Okay, so here's an edit because I posted about

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him four days ago But I started having doubts

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about him stalking me like a month ago I think

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I talked to my manager Wednesday and I got assigned

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to another group I didn't interact with him Wednesday

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and yesterday. He is the one saying that his

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daughter is crying about not seeing me. I know

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it's not true. He keeps saying stuff like this,

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saying things about his daughter to make me feel

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bad because he knows we're close. When this incident

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happened I went straight to the police station

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near my home to tell them what happened because

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it's open day and night. I asked if with what

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I have I can have a restraining order and they

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said no. I know I'm updating quick but I genuinely

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don't have anyone I can talk to about this. Hello.

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A few weeks ago I made a post about a man stalking

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me at the daycare where I work. I don't know

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how to link it if I knew I would. I told my boss

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I was sick for four days in a row to avoid going

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to work. When I tried to call in sick again she

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said she would have to fire me if I continued

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to skip work. I decided to quit because I was

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too scared to return and even more scared to

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reveal the real reason for quitting. When this

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happened I moved in with my friend. I initially

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told her I had a fight with my mom and needed

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a place to stay. Later I explained the real reason

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and she helped me write an email to my boss explaining

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everything. I filed a police report, but nothing

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happened. My boss contacted me two days later

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to discuss the situation. We had a Zoom meeting

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with all three of my bosses and we talked about

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everything. She apologized for not taking me

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seriously and promised to do better. I asked

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if the man could be banned, but they said it

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was harder than I thought and would be hard on

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the kids. The best they could do was wait until

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August -September when his oldest daughter would

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start school and they would ask him to enroll

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his youngest in another daycare. My boss asked

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if I could eventually return to work and I agreed

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on the condition that I wouldn't have to go outside

00:23:06.839 --> 00:23:09.059
or take care of his daughters. They agreed and

00:23:09.059 --> 00:23:11.500
I returned to work the next day. I also found

00:23:11.500 --> 00:23:13.859
his wife's email address on the daycare app and

00:23:13.859 --> 00:23:16.180
told her everything. I was scared it could backfire

00:23:16.180 --> 00:23:18.579
but I felt she needed to know. She thanked me,

00:23:18.700 --> 00:23:20.579
explained that they were separated and in the

00:23:20.579 --> 00:23:23.039
process of getting a divorce and said this wasn't

00:23:23.039 --> 00:23:48.759
the first I have the chills. My first few days

00:23:48.759 --> 00:23:50.920
back at work were fine. I would stay in the kitchen

00:23:50.920 --> 00:23:52.900
in the mornings to avoid him and would clock

00:23:52.900 --> 00:23:55.559
out before the parents arrived. However, I ran

00:23:55.559 --> 00:23:57.779
into him once when he picked up his youngest

00:23:57.779 --> 00:24:00.240
early. We were both surprised and he tried to

00:24:00.240 --> 00:24:02.480
talk to me, but I quickly said hi and left. Are

00:24:02.480 --> 00:24:05.019
you kidding me? After that incident, I started

00:24:05.019 --> 00:24:08.380
receiving no caller ID calls again, which had

00:24:08.380 --> 00:24:11.500
stopped when I moved in with my friend. No. I

00:24:11.500 --> 00:24:13.500
went to the police to document everything and

00:24:13.500 --> 00:24:15.440
showed them the email from his ex -wife. They

00:24:15.440 --> 00:24:17.799
advised me to change my number, which I did,

00:24:17.920 --> 00:24:20.440
but they haven't contacted me since. He found

00:24:20.440 --> 00:24:22.779
my Instagram and sent me a request. My account

00:24:22.779 --> 00:24:25.099
is private, so I deleted the request, but he

00:24:25.099 --> 00:24:28.420
sent another one. My Instagram username is my

00:24:28.420 --> 00:24:30.839
first and last name, and I have an uncommon last

00:24:30.839 --> 00:24:33.099
name, so I'm worried about what he could find

00:24:33.099 --> 00:24:37.240
next. Yes. Just tell him. Yes, that's all I have

00:24:37.240 --> 00:24:39.859
to say. Keep going. I changed my username, but

00:24:39.859 --> 00:24:42.500
he already saw it. My email address also is my

00:24:42.500 --> 00:24:44.940
first and last name. I'm considering quitting

00:24:44.940 --> 00:24:47.759
again and I'm wondering if I'm exaggerating because

00:24:47.759 --> 00:24:50.299
he hasn't done anything yet. However, he knows

00:24:50.299 --> 00:24:53.660
my job, my full name, Instagram, old phone number,

00:24:53.819 --> 00:24:56.319
and possibly my address and email. Should I tell

00:24:56.319 --> 00:24:58.559
his wife or meet up with her? I feel that if

00:24:58.559 --> 00:25:00.400
I tell my boss, they will just tell me to wait

00:25:00.400 --> 00:25:03.079
until September and the police aren't doing anything.

00:25:03.339 --> 00:25:05.599
I partly blame myself for going back to the job

00:25:05.599 --> 00:25:07.720
where my problem started, but I love it and it

00:25:07.720 --> 00:25:10.160
pays well. I think moving to another city would

00:25:10.160 --> 00:25:12.279
be the best scenario, but I can't afford it right

00:25:12.279 --> 00:25:14.359
now. Hence why I went back to work in the first

00:25:14.359 --> 00:25:17.039
place. I always carry a rape alarm on me now,

00:25:17.160 --> 00:25:19.160
feeling that he could appear anytime and it's

00:25:19.160 --> 00:25:21.680
so unfair. Please, I need advice. Thank you.

00:25:22.819 --> 00:25:26.170
Sad. It's so sad. So sad. And I'm the biggest

00:25:26.170 --> 00:25:28.069
jerk in the world. We're gonna pretend like I

00:25:28.069 --> 00:25:30.390
didn't say what I said the first time you told

00:25:30.390 --> 00:25:34.529
this first story part. See, I'm sorry, OP. I'm

00:25:34.529 --> 00:25:39.950
so sorry, OP, because literally, that was literal

00:25:39.950 --> 00:25:43.690
proof of like, someone not believing you. And

00:25:43.690 --> 00:25:45.869
then now I'm eating my words and I feel like

00:25:45.869 --> 00:25:49.519
a jerk. But there are people also that are. What

00:25:49.519 --> 00:25:52.240
I said there. Yeah. Yeah, it's kind of like,

00:25:52.299 --> 00:25:54.059
okay, so I need to give myself grace, but I'm

00:25:54.059 --> 00:25:55.500
also like, really, really sorry because that

00:25:55.500 --> 00:25:59.420
was like the sad story. Is there more? Is there

00:25:59.420 --> 00:26:01.740
more? Shut up. Is there more? Oh, there's lots

00:26:01.740 --> 00:26:05.380
more. No, shut up. There's lots more. I'm literally.

00:26:05.819 --> 00:26:08.599
Yeah. There's a really good comment on this one.

00:26:08.720 --> 00:26:11.319
I want to read. Okay. A really good supporter

00:26:11.319 --> 00:26:15.230
for for OP. Good. says op there's a lot of good

00:26:15.230 --> 00:26:17.490
advice here let me add my thoughts i was the

00:26:17.490 --> 00:26:19.529
victim of a stalker for eight months when i was

00:26:19.529 --> 00:26:22.529
30 he was released from prison and on probation

00:26:22.529 --> 00:26:25.589
for stalking he moved in with his mother in my

00:26:25.589 --> 00:26:27.529
apartment building and found me it took a lot

00:26:27.529 --> 00:26:29.769
of work to keep my sanity and safety but it's

00:26:29.769 --> 00:26:31.970
critical that you put your energy into it because

00:26:31.970 --> 00:26:34.609
you have done nothing wrong you do not deserve

00:26:34.609 --> 00:26:37.670
this you are not alone although many people will

00:26:37.670 --> 00:26:39.910
either fail you take it less seriously or will

00:26:39.910 --> 00:26:43.019
be inactive Yes, you will slip and automatically

00:26:43.019 --> 00:26:45.220
say hi without thinking and then realize it was

00:26:45.220 --> 00:26:48.609
him. My thoughts for you. Find a woman's shelter

00:26:48.609 --> 00:26:50.329
and schedule an appointment with one of their

00:26:50.329 --> 00:26:52.309
counselors. Tell them you need recommendations

00:26:52.309 --> 00:26:54.569
on sources of help and guidance on what to do

00:26:54.569 --> 00:26:57.269
to protect yourself. You need to know what to

00:26:57.269 --> 00:26:59.410
say to your employer and how they can support

00:26:59.410 --> 00:27:01.769
you. You need to know what legal steps you can

00:27:01.769 --> 00:27:04.410
take to protect yourself. You may need an attorney

00:27:04.410 --> 00:27:06.750
to send a demand letter to him and even apply

00:27:06.750 --> 00:27:09.170
for a protective order. They can help you and

00:27:09.170 --> 00:27:11.630
you need counseling on how to process the situation.

00:27:11.710 --> 00:27:13.970
You are the victim of an ongoing crime. You cannot

00:27:13.970 --> 00:27:16.319
navigate this on your own. Continue documenting

00:27:16.319 --> 00:27:18.720
everything. Send the ex -wife the police case

00:27:18.720 --> 00:27:21.579
number so she has it if she or her attorney want

00:27:21.579 --> 00:27:24.259
it. She may ask you for updates which will help

00:27:24.259 --> 00:27:27.059
both her situation and will bolster you reminding

00:27:27.059 --> 00:27:29.619
you that you are not alone. I cannot remember

00:27:29.619 --> 00:27:31.839
if I read this or not. You must tell him to stop

00:27:31.839 --> 00:27:34.039
communicating with you. It will be uncomfortable

00:27:34.039 --> 00:27:36.240
and difficult, but you have to do so even if

00:27:36.240 --> 00:27:39.079
it is right after you blurt out high instinctively.

00:27:39.240 --> 00:27:42.130
Say something short and to the point. I've noticed

00:27:42.130 --> 00:27:44.309
your level of attraction and communication is

00:27:44.309 --> 00:27:46.289
increasing. This is not comfortable or welcome.

00:27:46.410 --> 00:27:48.869
Stop interacting with me. Did your employer send

00:27:48.869 --> 00:27:51.230
him any note or message? I would ask them to

00:27:51.230 --> 00:27:54.049
send him a note saying, an employee has registered

00:27:54.049 --> 00:27:56.970
a complaint and the daycare requests he eliminate

00:27:56.970 --> 00:27:59.750
interacting with you. Yes. Yes, yes, yes, yes,

00:27:59.750 --> 00:28:02.210
yes. They may not want to do it, but ask them.

00:28:02.359 --> 00:28:04.859
Here's the BS thing about men like this people

00:28:04.859 --> 00:28:06.900
don't really know how to handle this and too

00:28:06.900 --> 00:28:09.819
often people marginalize the situation My own

00:28:09.819 --> 00:28:11.619
family really didn't understand what was happening

00:28:11.619 --> 00:28:14.220
to me until they arrested him and he was sentenced

00:28:14.220 --> 00:28:17.940
to a year in prison Consider keeping an air horn

00:28:17.940 --> 00:28:20.220
on you. If he bothers you, you can blast it,

00:28:20.339 --> 00:28:22.380
startle him, and generate attention of others.

00:28:22.500 --> 00:28:25.420
Just keep saying, get away. Go directly to the

00:28:25.420 --> 00:28:27.279
police department and report the interaction.

00:28:27.460 --> 00:28:30.359
The air horn is not illegal like mace or a weapon

00:28:30.359 --> 00:28:32.480
might be, and it is a unique sound that will

00:28:32.480 --> 00:28:34.759
cause attention, which may be a deterrent. Like,

00:28:34.759 --> 00:28:36.700
that's so freaking sad to think she's got to

00:28:36.700 --> 00:28:38.880
carry a dang air horn. No, that literally breaks

00:28:38.880 --> 00:28:42.200
my heart. I'm... There's so much more. I can't.

00:28:42.380 --> 00:28:45.049
I'm literally losing it right now. Here's another

00:28:45.049 --> 00:28:47.609
piece of advice. Please do not consider uprooting

00:28:47.609 --> 00:28:50.609
your life, career, and city because of him until

00:28:50.609 --> 00:28:52.769
you first meet with counselors who are professionally

00:28:52.769 --> 00:28:55.170
trained in stalking and unwanted advances from

00:28:55.170 --> 00:28:57.849
men. You've done nothing wrong and deserve to

00:28:57.849 --> 00:29:00.369
live your life the way you want to live. Good

00:29:00.369 --> 00:29:02.369
luck. You can do this. We are all behind you.

00:29:02.390 --> 00:29:05.130
Feel free to message me if you want. Auntie in

00:29:05.130 --> 00:29:09.009
Connecticut is here for you. I want to be like

00:29:09.009 --> 00:29:11.769
Auntie. I know. Shout out. Shout out Auntie in

00:29:11.769 --> 00:29:16.319
Connecticut. Cool support that she's getting

00:29:16.319 --> 00:29:19.980
this is very well. She deserves it. She's going

00:29:19.980 --> 00:29:23.859
through it. Oh It's so sad. It's so sad that

00:29:23.859 --> 00:29:26.200
like it could be that real She has that much

00:29:26.200 --> 00:29:28.900
evidence stuff currently happening and people

00:29:28.900 --> 00:29:31.799
just will not listen to her It just breaks my

00:29:31.799 --> 00:29:33.859
heart because she's one of those girls and I

00:29:33.859 --> 00:29:36.480
don't know if there's many but this one's definitely

00:29:36.480 --> 00:29:38.420
one of them actually there probably is many but

00:29:38.420 --> 00:29:41.359
like a guy asked for your number and you felt

00:29:41.359 --> 00:29:43.039
Uncomfortable and you don't want to give it to

00:29:43.039 --> 00:29:45.339
them But you give it to them because of how pressured

00:29:45.339 --> 00:29:47.400
you feel and you don't want to like you feel

00:29:47.400 --> 00:29:50.039
like you're a people pleaser. Yeah. And that's

00:29:50.039 --> 00:29:52.720
like all it was. It had nothing to do with her

00:29:52.720 --> 00:29:56.140
being like low key like, oh, yeah. OK. Yeah.

00:29:56.140 --> 00:29:58.420
Like wanting. Yeah. Wanting to reciprocate anything.

00:29:58.460 --> 00:30:01.339
Like maybe just a smidge, but like it does not

00:30:01.339 --> 00:30:03.559
seem like she is just genuinely a really sweet

00:30:03.559 --> 00:30:07.259
girl with a lot of trauma and scared. That's

00:30:07.259 --> 00:30:12.500
so sad. That's so sad. Freaking and it's so insane.

00:30:12.680 --> 00:30:16.779
That nothing can be done. It's just like this

00:30:16.779 --> 00:30:18.779
massive hole in the system. That is horrifying.

00:30:19.019 --> 00:30:20.940
And this dude's just getting off on all of it,

00:30:20.940 --> 00:30:22.900
thinking it's the best thing, a gentle and rash,

00:30:22.960 --> 00:30:26.180
just having the best time. He's just such a piece

00:30:26.180 --> 00:30:30.140
of crap. No, he's a scary dude. Just impulsive,

00:30:30.200 --> 00:30:32.779
just does whatever the frick he wants. Piece

00:30:32.779 --> 00:30:35.140
of crap. Maybe does whatever he wants, but he's

00:30:35.140 --> 00:30:37.839
sick in the head. There's something not right

00:30:37.839 --> 00:30:41.619
there. Both things can be true. It's really scary.

00:30:41.880 --> 00:30:45.819
Yeah. And it's sad like Auntie said was like

00:30:45.819 --> 00:30:48.539
like no one's gonna take you seriously You have

00:30:48.539 --> 00:30:50.660
to take it serious like now's the time to take

00:30:50.660 --> 00:30:53.700
action. You have to be on alert That's so horrible.

00:30:53.700 --> 00:30:56.059
Just imagine the air horn like some guy like

00:30:56.059 --> 00:30:59.480
walks up to a girl and she's just like Dude,

00:30:59.799 --> 00:31:02.019
I just it sucks. You can't even carry pepper

00:31:02.019 --> 00:31:05.180
spray that sucks, but I hate that for her hate

00:31:05.180 --> 00:31:08.019
that for her I would love to see her just spray

00:31:08.019 --> 00:31:10.799
that dude right in the face. I'm scared for her.

00:31:11.160 --> 00:31:14.640
Yeah. And can we talk about the school? It's

00:31:14.640 --> 00:31:17.819
so stupid. It really bothers me. It really, really

00:31:17.819 --> 00:31:20.920
bothers me because she's coming to them telling

00:31:20.920 --> 00:31:24.519
them, this man groped me, this man touched me.

00:31:25.720 --> 00:31:28.599
Sorry, I'll just say she's too embarrassed to

00:31:28.599 --> 00:31:30.700
say that. So she didn't tell them? That's the

00:31:30.700 --> 00:31:33.440
one thing that she hasn't said yet. At all, even

00:31:33.440 --> 00:31:35.359
after all those updates? Why did I think she

00:31:35.359 --> 00:31:38.339
did? Oh my gosh. She writes it, she writes it

00:31:38.339 --> 00:31:41.480
in here somewhere that she couldn't even tell

00:31:41.480 --> 00:31:43.519
the police because she was so ashamed about it.

00:31:44.460 --> 00:31:46.920
Nooo. Are people telling her you need to tell

00:31:46.920 --> 00:31:51.920
the police? I'm sure. Oh, that is so sad. So

00:31:51.920 --> 00:31:55.720
sad. This poor girl. No, it's like you gotta,

00:31:56.200 --> 00:31:58.240
gosh, you gotta, you gotta tell them everything.

00:31:58.680 --> 00:32:00.809
How could you? Withhold that when you're trying

00:32:00.809 --> 00:32:02.529
to get a restraining order. Yeah, that's the

00:32:02.529 --> 00:32:06.569
only thing that actually could protect her. We'll

00:32:06.569 --> 00:32:08.450
get to it I think it's in this one or the next

00:32:08.450 --> 00:32:10.950
one but she says Like she talks about how he

00:32:10.950 --> 00:32:13.390
grabbed both of her wrists and was like using

00:32:13.390 --> 00:32:15.869
force to like with strength like withhold her

00:32:15.869 --> 00:32:19.410
And that wasn't enough for them. Update number

00:32:19.410 --> 00:32:22.890
four Hi, everyone. Just a quick update. I'm alive

00:32:22.890 --> 00:32:24.549
and well. I don't know why it's not letting me

00:32:24.549 --> 00:32:27.150
respond to DMs. Maybe it's me. Haha. I barely

00:32:27.150 --> 00:32:29.549
know how to work the app. I basically live with

00:32:29.549 --> 00:32:31.450
my friend now. I still go to work, but I'm trying

00:32:31.450 --> 00:32:33.849
to find a new job. I'm keeping this one until

00:32:33.849 --> 00:32:35.890
I find another. The only thing is I don't know

00:32:35.890 --> 00:32:38.170
where to apply. Can't live with my friend forever.

00:32:38.250 --> 00:32:40.250
She's trying to find a roommate for July 1st.

00:32:40.250 --> 00:32:42.289
I can't officially move out yet. I feel like

00:32:42.289 --> 00:32:44.089
if I apply for a job near my house, it would

00:32:44.089 --> 00:32:47.500
be easy for him to find me. If I apply far from

00:32:47.500 --> 00:32:49.119
home, I feel like it would be easier for him

00:32:49.119 --> 00:32:51.460
to attack me on my way back every day. I've been

00:32:51.460 --> 00:32:53.380
trying to pick up the habit of recording every

00:32:53.380 --> 00:32:55.759
time I leave my classroom or go outside to gather

00:32:55.759 --> 00:32:58.420
evidence. I forget sometimes, but I really try.

00:32:58.940 --> 00:33:00.819
I stop going to the gym because he knows where

00:33:00.819 --> 00:33:03.359
it is. He also found my new number. I have no

00:33:03.359 --> 00:33:05.900
idea how. He keeps calling me, so I always have

00:33:05.900 --> 00:33:09.200
my phone on do not disturb now. On June 18th

00:33:09.200 --> 00:33:11.539
he called me 19 times from different numbers

00:33:11.539 --> 00:33:15.700
with the 647 area code. It used to be 249. I

00:33:15.700 --> 00:33:17.599
don't have concrete proof it's him, but I can

00:33:17.599 --> 00:33:20.420
feel it. I changed my email address, deactivated

00:33:20.420 --> 00:33:22.940
my Instagram, and made a new one with about 15

00:33:22.940 --> 00:33:25.869
close friends. I showed the phone calls to the

00:33:25.869 --> 00:33:27.569
police and they told me to send the evidence

00:33:27.569 --> 00:33:30.250
to an email address they gave me. However, since

00:33:30.250 --> 00:33:32.170
the numbers keep changing, it's not considered

00:33:32.170 --> 00:33:34.390
good evidence. They told me to keep trying to

00:33:34.390 --> 00:33:37.529
find more evidence. Isn't that their job with

00:33:37.529 --> 00:33:39.529
three question marks and to change my number

00:33:39.529 --> 00:33:42.349
again? That's annoying. Having to constantly

00:33:42.349 --> 00:33:45.279
change your number. Oh my gosh. I also emailed

00:33:45.279 --> 00:33:47.799
his ex -wife telling her that he found my Instagram

00:33:47.799 --> 00:33:49.980
a new number. She replied with the lengthy email

00:33:49.980 --> 00:33:52.880
basically advising me not to respond to him because

00:33:52.880 --> 00:33:55.099
he's dangerous. She gave me examples of how he

00:33:55.099 --> 00:33:57.819
used to treat her and her kids, said he buys

00:33:57.819 --> 00:34:00.220
their love with toys, and that she caught him

00:34:00.220 --> 00:34:04.319
viewing previous nannies' pictures. She suggested

00:34:04.319 --> 00:34:06.680
deleting any photos of me on social media because

00:34:06.680 --> 00:34:08.940
he might be doing the same with mine. I'm gonna

00:34:08.940 --> 00:34:12.429
throw up. She's been wanting a divorce for a

00:34:12.429 --> 00:34:14.289
long time, but he keeps dragging it out He tells

00:34:14.289 --> 00:34:16.230
everyone he's happily married and still wears

00:34:16.230 --> 00:34:18.730
his ring She's terrified for her kids because

00:34:18.730 --> 00:34:21.289
he always feeds them lies. I deleted my Facebook

00:34:21.289 --> 00:34:23.889
too I showed my boss the calls, but she didn't

00:34:23.889 --> 00:34:26.949
seem to care and doubted my concerns She was

00:34:26.949 --> 00:34:29.329
like, do you really think he's like that? I've

00:34:29.329 --> 00:34:31.630
known him for years. I promise. He's so nice.

00:34:31.630 --> 00:34:34.130
She's probably banging him. This boss sucks Yeah,

00:34:34.449 --> 00:34:36.530
I'm actually considering suing them because I

00:34:36.530 --> 00:34:39.139
think she finds me stupid I had a panic attack

00:34:39.139 --> 00:34:42.019
yesterday because I can't walk without thinking

00:34:42.019 --> 00:34:45.460
every man behind me is him. I don't know how

00:34:45.460 --> 00:34:47.579
to sue someone, let alone a workplace, but I'll

00:34:47.579 --> 00:34:50.800
do my research. I bought wasp spray, but I don't

00:34:50.800 --> 00:34:52.880
carry it because knowing myself I'll just freeze

00:34:52.880 --> 00:34:57.480
up. And what if he ends up using it on me? Ultimately,

00:34:57.539 --> 00:34:59.659
I think I'm going to move. I'm considering moving

00:34:59.659 --> 00:35:02.139
to Montreal. I have a friend there and just want

00:35:02.139 --> 00:35:04.639
to get away from everything. Sorry for posting

00:35:04.639 --> 00:35:06.760
about the same situation for a month straight,

00:35:06.780 --> 00:35:08.699
but I don't want to bother my roommate all the

00:35:08.699 --> 00:35:10.360
time and I don't want to scare her into making

00:35:10.360 --> 00:35:13.079
me move out. It's such a weird situation and

00:35:13.079 --> 00:35:15.840
it's hard to explain to people. Like, it's not

00:35:15.840 --> 00:35:18.219
like I'm a celebrity with a crazy stalker fan.

00:35:18.699 --> 00:35:20.360
But yeah, little update, I guess I'll change

00:35:20.360 --> 00:35:22.900
my number again. Also my phone's in French, haha

00:35:22.900 --> 00:35:25.780
don't mind that, blah blah blah. Oh, it's because

00:35:25.780 --> 00:35:28.519
she posted a screenshot of all the numbers calling.

00:35:29.179 --> 00:35:33.349
Oh, oh my gosh. How does he even do that with

00:35:33.349 --> 00:35:35.269
different numbers? Is there like an app you can

00:35:35.269 --> 00:35:38.570
do it? I'm sure I'm sure there's an app. I know

00:35:38.570 --> 00:35:41.369
Google voice. You can like create a number. I

00:35:41.369 --> 00:35:44.110
don't know So here's some more some more good

00:35:44.110 --> 00:35:46.650
comments. Oh P. Please do this You also need

00:35:46.650 --> 00:35:49.070
to set up a consultation with an employment lawyer.

00:35:49.329 --> 00:35:52.449
Your employer is behaving horrifically And you

00:35:52.449 --> 00:35:55.030
may have a solid case on your hands. Boom sue

00:35:55.030 --> 00:35:57.769
them make that money for a for real I wonder

00:35:57.769 --> 00:36:00.750
if she wouldn't win. She would. But she hasn't

00:36:00.750 --> 00:36:04.389
told them about the groping though. This is another

00:36:04.389 --> 00:36:07.130
comment. I'm HR. 10 bucks. Your boss gave him

00:36:07.130 --> 00:36:09.949
your number. Here's what you do. Set up a Google

00:36:09.949 --> 00:36:12.730
phone number and use that one for work. They're

00:36:12.730 --> 00:36:16.090
free. Don't give it to anyone else. So set up

00:36:16.090 --> 00:36:18.349
the Google voice. Don't give it to anyone else.

00:36:18.769 --> 00:36:21.489
If he gets the number again, you know how and

00:36:21.489 --> 00:36:25.570
then you have yourself a case. Could you imagine?

00:36:25.769 --> 00:36:29.110
If the If the work was giving out her number

00:36:29.110 --> 00:36:34.269
all to him That would be a massive case and it

00:36:34.269 --> 00:36:37.949
would be it would be So provable. I hope she

00:36:37.949 --> 00:36:40.630
did that. Oh, I bet she did. She says she's on

00:36:40.630 --> 00:36:42.710
top of it right now She's yeah, she's on her

00:36:42.710 --> 00:36:45.110
game, but it's because it's a whole entire life

00:36:45.110 --> 00:36:47.610
Deleted all of her social medias got a new phone

00:36:47.610 --> 00:36:50.010
number needs to do it again She's like living

00:36:50.010 --> 00:36:53.280
in fear because of this freaking monster And

00:36:53.280 --> 00:36:55.340
she's like lives with her friend and she's gonna

00:36:55.340 --> 00:37:00.119
move away. He's ruined her whole life Yes, it's

00:37:00.119 --> 00:37:04.539
so aft Makes me so angry. Yeah the boss like

00:37:04.539 --> 00:37:07.420
it's just so wild to me It's like honey get rid

00:37:07.420 --> 00:37:09.800
of them and you can get another family and then

00:37:09.800 --> 00:37:12.219
literally the next day. I can't believe he touched

00:37:12.219 --> 00:37:16.780
her like Shameless like that in in the middle

00:37:16.780 --> 00:37:20.179
of the street and the sidewalk. I'm it was it

00:37:20.179 --> 00:37:22.320
was Yeah, basically they were walking home from

00:37:22.320 --> 00:37:24.539
the gym. Yeah, I imagine it being dark, but I

00:37:24.539 --> 00:37:26.300
don't remember if there was that context in the

00:37:26.300 --> 00:37:30.159
story. It was after work and she's just out there

00:37:30.159 --> 00:37:32.840
and by herself and he was just following her

00:37:32.840 --> 00:37:37.800
home. That is so... Oh, and the way she just

00:37:37.800 --> 00:37:40.179
worded that whole experience. I was just literally,

00:37:40.179 --> 00:37:44.059
I was getting so choked up. It's terrible. That's

00:37:44.059 --> 00:37:46.440
her reality. Like she literally had to experience

00:37:46.440 --> 00:37:49.900
that. That's horrible. And he just... And he's

00:37:49.900 --> 00:37:53.989
just a... He's just a douche, just a sicko. Sicko!

00:37:54.150 --> 00:37:58.389
Like how is he? Oh my gosh, nothing has come

00:37:58.389 --> 00:38:02.849
from this for him. No. He's just... I wonder

00:38:02.849 --> 00:38:05.409
how much more he's done that we don't know. Probably

00:38:05.409 --> 00:38:07.250
a ton. That she hasn't known, you know? Yeah,

00:38:07.530 --> 00:38:10.670
probably lots. And he's separated, he's lonely,

00:38:10.929 --> 00:38:13.010
he's bored, he has nothing else to do but be

00:38:13.010 --> 00:38:16.579
fixated on another little girl. He's he's old

00:38:16.579 --> 00:38:19.820
and his life is falling apart. He's just a loser

00:38:19.820 --> 00:38:22.519
Can we talk about that nanny once if she probably

00:38:22.519 --> 00:38:24.980
found out that he was doing those things? Oh,

00:38:25.059 --> 00:38:29.000
bye that would shake me Alright, you ready for

00:38:29.000 --> 00:38:31.460
the final update? Holy shit. Yeah, I'm ready.

00:38:31.579 --> 00:38:33.880
Here we go. I warned you guys. It was a long

00:38:33.880 --> 00:38:39.099
ye hi everyone, okay I think this is officially

00:38:39.099 --> 00:38:41.340
the final update about my stalker situation.

00:38:41.739 --> 00:38:44.260
On Canada Day, I randomly ran into a girl I went

00:38:44.260 --> 00:38:46.239
to elementary school with and we chatted for

00:38:46.239 --> 00:38:48.320
a while. She told me she had moved to a new place,

00:38:48.780 --> 00:38:50.880
so I jumped at the chance to ask if she needed

00:38:50.880 --> 00:38:52.880
a roommate. She said it would be great because

00:38:52.880 --> 00:38:55.539
she desperately needs someone. Shut up. I looked

00:38:55.539 --> 00:38:57.579
up the area and found that I could definitely

00:38:57.579 --> 00:38:59.760
find a job there. I'll only tell a handful of

00:38:59.760 --> 00:39:01.860
people where I'm moving, but I am so happy I

00:39:01.860 --> 00:39:04.940
finally have a place. His ex -wife and I met

00:39:04.940 --> 00:39:07.219
up at a cafe and I updated her on everything.

00:39:07.440 --> 00:39:09.900
I finally told her about how he touched me that

00:39:09.900 --> 00:39:12.019
one night after the gym because up until that

00:39:12.019 --> 00:39:14.539
point I hadn't told anyone, not even the police.

00:39:16.099 --> 00:39:18.679
I also told her that he still wears his ring

00:39:18.679 --> 00:39:21.440
and says he's married. I shared everything I

00:39:21.440 --> 00:39:23.340
could and we comforted each other for a while.

00:39:23.619 --> 00:39:25.739
She said that one time she went through his work

00:39:25.739 --> 00:39:28.380
phone and saw videos of their previous nanny

00:39:28.380 --> 00:39:33.219
who was 16 or 17 at the - 16 or 17 at the time

00:39:33.219 --> 00:39:36.519
changing. I missed that too the first time. Bro!

00:39:36.880 --> 00:39:39.460
That's disgusting. Now I'm terrified he may have

00:39:39.460 --> 00:39:41.659
videos of me because I'm not sure he doesn't

00:39:41.659 --> 00:39:44.119
know where I live and I tend to change in front

00:39:44.119 --> 00:39:46.239
of my window sometimes without realizing it.

00:39:46.280 --> 00:39:48.920
Why would you do that? It happens to the best

00:39:48.920 --> 00:39:51.679
of us. I mean, I tend to close the window and

00:39:51.679 --> 00:39:55.039
I change. It also kind of surprised me but she

00:39:55.039 --> 00:39:57.500
said not to let him know that I know he's getting

00:39:57.500 --> 00:40:00.199
a divorce. She advised me to act like I don't

00:40:00.199 --> 00:40:02.670
know anything. As for my stalker, I haven't seen

00:40:02.670 --> 00:40:05.090
him since the incident where we ran into each

00:40:05.090 --> 00:40:07.429
other near the nursery, but I keep getting calls.

00:40:07.929 --> 00:40:09.909
People have asked me what he says when I pick

00:40:09.909 --> 00:40:12.789
up, but he doesn't say anything. He spams me,

00:40:12.829 --> 00:40:14.909
I answer, and then he doesn't say anything, so

00:40:14.909 --> 00:40:17.380
I hang up. As for my boss, I don't know if there

00:40:17.380 --> 00:40:19.679
is an HR department where I work. When I got

00:40:19.679 --> 00:40:21.800
hired, I didn't sign any paperwork. I just gave

00:40:21.800 --> 00:40:24.199
them my social security number and ID. I sent

00:40:24.199 --> 00:40:26.320
an email to my boss explaining that I am quitting

00:40:26.320 --> 00:40:28.739
because she's enabling sexual harassment. To

00:40:28.739 --> 00:40:30.739
summarize, I said that she's failing to protect

00:40:30.739 --> 00:40:32.880
her staff. I don't want to sue them because I

00:40:32.880 --> 00:40:34.659
don't want to get into this whole thing. I just

00:40:34.659 --> 00:40:38.340
want to leave. She apologized and asked to meet

00:40:38.340 --> 00:40:40.199
up, but I didn't answer because I feel like she

00:40:40.199 --> 00:40:43.059
will gaslight me. Yeah. I'm getting my number

00:40:43.059 --> 00:40:45.300
changed and moving soon. I told his ex -wife

00:40:45.300 --> 00:40:47.480
she could use everything I told her for her divorce.

00:40:47.619 --> 00:40:49.860
I told her that she could tell my boss what I

00:40:49.860 --> 00:40:52.000
told her too if she wanted. Hopefully everything

00:40:52.000 --> 00:40:54.480
is over now so I can finally shut up about this.

00:40:54.579 --> 00:40:57.119
Thank you all. And then there's one last edit.

00:40:57.440 --> 00:40:59.519
Okay, I'm receiving a lot of DMs right now and

00:40:59.519 --> 00:41:01.260
I don't even know if people are gonna see this

00:41:01.260 --> 00:41:03.179
edit. I was thinking of just ignoring it, but

00:41:03.179 --> 00:41:05.369
I just wanna make a few things clear. This is

00:41:05.369 --> 00:41:07.610
just random context for anybody that will actually

00:41:07.610 --> 00:41:09.769
understand it. I was born in Quebec, then moved

00:41:09.769 --> 00:41:11.809
to Ontario when I was young. I grew up speaking

00:41:11.809 --> 00:41:13.789
French, then moved to Ontario where I learned

00:41:13.789 --> 00:41:16.070
English. There are a lot of things I still struggle

00:41:16.070 --> 00:41:18.889
with in English. I didn't know SSN was an American

00:41:18.889 --> 00:41:22.130
thing. It's called SIN in Ontario, but also a

00:41:22.130 --> 00:41:24.849
lot of people I know use those terms interchangeably,

00:41:24.989 --> 00:41:27.050
especially in bilingual places like Montreal.

00:41:27.449 --> 00:41:29.719
So I thought you could use both. Two, when I

00:41:29.719 --> 00:41:31.500
went to the police for the first time, I said

00:41:31.500 --> 00:41:33.460
that he grabbed me and tried to intimidate me.

00:41:33.760 --> 00:41:35.500
I didn't have the courage to say that he touched

00:41:35.500 --> 00:41:37.480
my boobs, but I said that he grabbed my wrist

00:41:37.480 --> 00:41:39.519
and wouldn't let me go. I said that he kept touching

00:41:39.519 --> 00:41:41.920
my arm and tried to scare me. I should have told

00:41:41.920 --> 00:41:44.119
them everything I know, but I was just so embarrassed

00:41:44.119 --> 00:41:46.360
and still am. I don't want to talk about that

00:41:46.360 --> 00:41:48.239
at all, especially because I don't want to hear

00:41:48.239 --> 00:41:50.039
a question like, what did you do when he did

00:41:50.039 --> 00:41:52.260
that? Because I didn't do anything. I just froze.

00:41:52.440 --> 00:41:54.780
It's embarrassing to me. His ex -wife is the

00:41:54.780 --> 00:41:57.000
only one who knows the full story of what happened

00:41:57.000 --> 00:41:59.489
that night after the gym. I felt like I owed

00:41:59.489 --> 00:42:01.489
it to her, especially because she was so honest

00:42:01.489 --> 00:42:03.650
with me from the beginning. Three, what I mean

00:42:03.650 --> 00:42:06.150
by he spams me, I pick up, he doesn't say anything,

00:42:06.250 --> 00:42:08.789
so I hang up, is the first time he called me

00:42:08.789 --> 00:42:10.889
on my new number, I didn't answer, but he wouldn't

00:42:10.889 --> 00:42:13.309
say anything. The first times he called me on

00:42:13.309 --> 00:42:15.449
my new number, I did answer, but he wouldn't

00:42:15.449 --> 00:42:17.349
say anything, so I would hang up. I understood

00:42:17.349 --> 00:42:19.369
very quickly that it was him who would call me,

00:42:19.389 --> 00:42:21.530
so I stopped answering a long time ago. I'm sorry

00:42:21.530 --> 00:42:24.010
I wasn't 100 % clear. I hope it makes more sense

00:42:24.010 --> 00:42:26.659
now. Definitely feel like I got the full picture

00:42:26.659 --> 00:42:29.739
here on this story. Well, that's that's the full

00:42:29.739 --> 00:42:34.059
picture. There's that's new updates. Yeah Well,

00:42:34.059 --> 00:42:36.840
it sounds like she moved which good for her.

00:42:36.840 --> 00:42:39.780
Yeah, and this was all nine months ago. So no

00:42:39.780 --> 00:42:41.940
nothing Wow, that's good. That's a good thing.

00:42:41.940 --> 00:42:45.840
So we can we can assume I mean good and safe

00:42:45.840 --> 00:42:47.800
I don't almost feel like there should be an update

00:42:47.800 --> 00:42:50.659
that just says hey I moved and I changed my number

00:42:50.659 --> 00:42:53.460
and I've never heard from him again. Yeah, I'm

00:42:53.460 --> 00:42:56.940
safe That's kind of sketch, you know Does anyone

00:42:56.940 --> 00:42:58.900
like commented recently been like are you good,

00:42:59.000 --> 00:43:01.780
bro? Or all the comments are from nine months

00:43:01.780 --> 00:43:05.679
ago. It looks like oh my gosh I feel so bad for

00:43:05.679 --> 00:43:08.019
her. I really hope she was able to get a fresh

00:43:08.019 --> 00:43:11.119
start somewhere new Get a really good job. She's

00:43:11.119 --> 00:43:13.119
gonna be terrified of all the men though that

00:43:13.119 --> 00:43:14.920
pick come pick up their kids She might please

00:43:14.920 --> 00:43:17.400
don't talk to me. This is a good comment And

00:43:17.400 --> 00:43:19.199
I feel like this is good for the listener for

00:43:19.199 --> 00:43:21.739
anybody that's dealt with this Just an FYI for

00:43:21.739 --> 00:43:24.039
the future, it is not considered stalking or

00:43:24.039 --> 00:43:25.940
harassment unless you have proof that you have

00:43:25.940 --> 00:43:28.199
explicitly told the person to stop contacting

00:43:28.199 --> 00:43:30.679
you and proof that they continue to do so. If

00:43:30.679 --> 00:43:33.179
this ever happens again, be sure to text, email,

00:43:33.320 --> 00:43:36.460
record a phone call of you saying, stop contacting

00:43:36.460 --> 00:43:39.579
me. Once they receive slash hear that and continue

00:43:39.579 --> 00:43:41.760
to contact you, you can then press charges for

00:43:41.760 --> 00:43:44.079
unwanted contact and harassment. You should also

00:43:44.079 --> 00:43:46.440
consult with the pro bono lawyer about your employer.

00:43:46.579 --> 00:43:48.639
They were legally obligated to protect you and

00:43:48.639 --> 00:43:50.639
they did not. Good luck with your move and sorry

00:43:50.639 --> 00:43:53.579
it never came to that. Wow, that was a fantastic

00:43:53.579 --> 00:43:56.980
advice. Yeah, record it. Yeah. If you think that

00:43:56.980 --> 00:44:00.019
that's happening to you, like get proof that

00:44:00.019 --> 00:44:04.480
you're saying stop it. Yeah. And then document

00:44:04.480 --> 00:44:07.280
everything. No, that was very, very good advice.

00:44:07.579 --> 00:44:11.659
So that was that. Pretty crazy. Hope, hope he's

00:44:11.659 --> 00:44:15.199
okay. Like really? Yeah. You just you don't know

00:44:15.199 --> 00:44:19.039
what if. Once it becomes an episode of 2020 and

00:44:19.039 --> 00:44:22.559
they link the reddit post or if they link No,

00:44:22.559 --> 00:44:25.579
no. No, I do think if she moves pretty far away.

00:44:25.599 --> 00:44:27.920
There's no way he's coming after her at that

00:44:27.920 --> 00:44:30.179
point He's gonna find a new target. Well, that's

00:44:30.179 --> 00:44:32.980
he seems to me like the type that would just

00:44:32.980 --> 00:44:35.400
Target whatever's convenient. Yeah, he's just

00:44:35.400 --> 00:44:38.679
gonna have something exactly whatever's convenient.

00:44:38.699 --> 00:44:42.659
I agree. Okay, Hayden. Bye. Bye Okay, are we

00:44:42.659 --> 00:44:45.400
ready for mine? I am. Okay, so my story from

00:44:45.400 --> 00:44:48.219
today I f'd up by letting my obsession go too

00:44:48.219 --> 00:44:50.199
far. I don't know what's wrong with me, but I

00:44:50.199 --> 00:44:52.699
can't stop. It started as a bad habit and turned

00:44:52.699 --> 00:44:55.699
into something else. I see a girl and I get obsessed.

00:44:56.159 --> 00:44:58.860
Not in a romantic way, not even in a normal creepy

00:44:58.860 --> 00:45:02.519
way. I just need to know everything about her.

00:45:02.880 --> 00:45:05.320
Social media makes it way too easy. A name on

00:45:05.320 --> 00:45:07.599
a coffee cup, a college sweatshirt, a tagged

00:45:07.599 --> 00:45:09.679
photo from a friend's account, and suddenly I

00:45:09.679 --> 00:45:12.500
know her Instagram, her job, what gym she goes

00:45:12.500 --> 00:45:16.630
to. where she gets brunch on Sundays. M was the

00:45:16.630 --> 00:45:19.570
worst one. I saw her once at a bookstore, and

00:45:19.570 --> 00:45:22.130
three days later, I knew her whole life. Her

00:45:22.130 --> 00:45:24.869
major, her part -time job, what classes she was

00:45:24.869 --> 00:45:27.469
taking, where she lived. I never followed her,

00:45:27.489 --> 00:45:30.429
not really, but some, not really. But sometimes

00:45:30.429 --> 00:45:32.909
I'd end up in places she liked, just to see her

00:45:32.909 --> 00:45:35.489
in real life. Not to talk to her, just to be

00:45:35.489 --> 00:45:38.289
there. Creep. Then I started getting these thoughts

00:45:38.289 --> 00:45:40.449
I couldn't push away. One night, I watched her

00:45:40.449 --> 00:45:42.389
unlock her apartment door, and I caught myself

00:45:42.389 --> 00:45:44.610
wondering what the inside looked like. That was

00:45:44.610 --> 00:45:46.730
the first time I actually scared myself. I went

00:45:46.730 --> 00:45:49.329
home, deleted everything, and swore I was done.

00:45:49.750 --> 00:45:51.949
But I wasn't. I saw her again a few weeks later

00:45:51.949 --> 00:45:54.130
at a coffee shop. Total accident. But when she

00:45:54.130 --> 00:45:55.769
walked in, I already knew she was going to be

00:45:55.769 --> 00:45:57.570
there because she posted about getting coffee

00:45:57.570 --> 00:46:00.239
earlier that morning. I glanced at my phone without

00:46:00.239 --> 00:46:02.519
thinking, and then she looked at me. Not past

00:46:02.519 --> 00:46:05.760
me, at me. Like she recognized me. I got up and

00:46:05.760 --> 00:46:07.420
left, didn't say anything, didn't look back.

00:46:07.500 --> 00:46:09.900
I don't know if she actually knew who I was or

00:46:09.900 --> 00:46:12.619
if I was just in my own head. I told myself I'd

00:46:12.619 --> 00:46:15.300
stop, and for a while I did. But I still think

00:46:15.300 --> 00:46:17.260
about her. I wonder if she still goes to that

00:46:17.260 --> 00:46:20.079
bookstore. What kind of perfume she wears. If

00:46:20.079 --> 00:46:22.840
she ever noticed the way I watched her. What

00:46:22.840 --> 00:46:25.900
in the... Okay, so when I read this story, I

00:46:25.900 --> 00:46:28.570
kind of had a hard time... thinking like, okay,

00:46:28.710 --> 00:46:30.869
is this real or is he kind of just doing like

00:46:30.869 --> 00:46:34.989
a knockoff of you? You? Yeah. Because like when

00:46:34.989 --> 00:46:37.050
I was reading, I was like, oh, you know, this

00:46:37.050 --> 00:46:40.690
is kind of like you. But there obviously are

00:46:40.690 --> 00:46:42.670
a little bit of differences, but it does sound

00:46:42.670 --> 00:46:46.010
very similar to that. Well, obviously, if you've

00:46:46.010 --> 00:46:51.969
ever seen you, he's he's not. He's he's graduated

00:46:51.969 --> 00:46:54.449
like, oh, yeah, like you have graduated from

00:46:54.449 --> 00:46:57.420
stocking 101. That's that's really creepy because

00:46:57.420 --> 00:47:01.059
it's like how many people out there are Like

00:47:01.059 --> 00:47:04.320
that like kind of they know it's bad. They know

00:47:04.320 --> 00:47:06.659
that they should not act in a certain way, but

00:47:06.659 --> 00:47:09.820
they just like Like sliding down that slippery

00:47:09.820 --> 00:47:12.619
slope. I bet there's so many out there That's

00:47:12.619 --> 00:47:14.380
it's funny because that's exactly what I thought

00:47:14.380 --> 00:47:19.320
of was you yes, because he like almost has this

00:47:19.320 --> 00:47:21.579
Seems they make it seem like he's just this normal

00:47:21.579 --> 00:47:27.849
dude But then he is just Always obsessing like

00:47:27.849 --> 00:47:30.150
so hard the new season of that's coming out and

00:47:30.150 --> 00:47:33.670
I'm so excited But do you feel like she saw him

00:47:33.670 --> 00:47:35.969
like she recognized him and was like you've been

00:47:35.969 --> 00:47:37.510
following me around lately Like I don't feel

00:47:37.510 --> 00:47:40.230
good about this That's that's what I don't fully

00:47:40.230 --> 00:47:43.489
understand because he says in there That he doesn't

00:47:43.489 --> 00:47:45.789
actually follow her like he doesn't actually

00:47:45.789 --> 00:47:47.989
physically follow her. He just like keeps tabs

00:47:47.989 --> 00:47:51.670
on her online Well, he doesn't also said he saw

00:47:51.670 --> 00:47:53.349
her at the apartment. That's what I was just

00:47:53.349 --> 00:47:56.960
gonna say. So he said that he doesn't follow

00:47:56.960 --> 00:47:59.739
her but then he's like I saw her unlocking her

00:47:59.739 --> 00:48:02.219
door one night and then he doesn't wait you're

00:48:02.219 --> 00:48:03.780
saying he doesn't follow her on social media

00:48:03.780 --> 00:48:06.079
no like he doesn't follow her around physically

00:48:06.079 --> 00:48:10.539
yeah so what which one is it bro yeah he's not

00:48:10.539 --> 00:48:13.739
making sense here yeah he's a sketch ass anyway

00:48:13.739 --> 00:48:16.360
yeah I'm literally terrified of this dude I like

00:48:16.360 --> 00:48:18.119
can picture what he looks like and I don't love

00:48:18.119 --> 00:48:20.719
it and it's not Joe from you I'm telling you

00:48:20.719 --> 00:48:23.340
right now no he's not that handsome Joe's not

00:48:23.340 --> 00:48:29.559
that he's decent looking he's No, but I get what

00:48:29.559 --> 00:48:32.440
you're saying. He's not he's not like some freaking

00:48:32.440 --> 00:48:35.539
creeper ugly off the street Yeah, yeah dude in

00:48:35.539 --> 00:48:38.800
his mom's basement type. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yeah

00:48:38.800 --> 00:48:42.059
100 % which yeah That's what I would have thought

00:48:42.059 --> 00:48:43.800
for the first story. It's kind of what I would

00:48:43.800 --> 00:48:45.340
have pictured even though they say he was handsome

00:48:45.340 --> 00:48:48.840
Yeah, I mean there's so much to say here there.

00:48:49.219 --> 00:48:53.309
It's disgusting. It's creepy and He needs therapy,

00:48:53.530 --> 00:48:57.190
and I'm nervous for him. Therapy. He needs therapy.

00:48:57.409 --> 00:48:59.610
He's so obsessive over this girl. Jail time.

00:49:00.269 --> 00:49:02.969
There is an update. And it's much shorter than

00:49:02.969 --> 00:49:06.010
your updates from your last story. So I think

00:49:06.010 --> 00:49:09.010
this tells us everything we need to know, though.

00:49:10.289 --> 00:49:13.550
Update. I slipped up. I checked her profile last

00:49:13.550 --> 00:49:19.480
night. Private now. Well private yes, so she

00:49:19.480 --> 00:49:23.380
took it from public to private after seeing him

00:49:23.380 --> 00:49:29.039
at the coffee shop Dang so I think she was like

00:49:29.039 --> 00:49:31.099
dude. This guy's been around way too often. I

00:49:31.099 --> 00:49:34.900
have no idea who this guy is I Think she noticed

00:49:34.900 --> 00:49:40.199
I can't even fathom that'd be so sketchy. I Literally

00:49:40.199 --> 00:49:43.539
picture yourself walking in a grocery store you

00:49:43.539 --> 00:49:47.079
make eye contact with this dude You walk away

00:49:47.079 --> 00:49:48.780
you're great in your groceries blah blah blah

00:49:48.780 --> 00:49:51.159
you get to check out you see him again And he's

00:49:51.159 --> 00:49:53.099
like making sure he's like kind of pacing around

00:49:53.099 --> 00:49:55.280
the same time as you but it's only a couple times

00:49:55.280 --> 00:49:57.420
You see him, so it's not like that big of a deal

00:49:57.420 --> 00:50:01.699
Get you your car you drive away next day you're

00:50:01.699 --> 00:50:04.960
going and getting a soda at the soda shop And

00:50:04.960 --> 00:50:08.320
who's behind you in the line in the frickin line?

00:50:08.340 --> 00:50:11.679
It's him behind not in front behind. It's him

00:50:13.179 --> 00:50:15.780
Okay, so there's two incidents at that point,

00:50:16.059 --> 00:50:18.800
you know, this chick has seen him at least two

00:50:18.800 --> 00:50:22.500
different times Yeah, I mean like that alone

00:50:22.500 --> 00:50:25.619
just right there. I'd be like, uh -uh. I don't

00:50:25.619 --> 00:50:28.260
like that So I miss what I don't know this part.

00:50:28.320 --> 00:50:30.139
I don't know. I don't know one more thing. Of

00:50:30.139 --> 00:50:31.980
course. I'm so sorry Yeah, say what you want

00:50:31.980 --> 00:50:35.380
to say. I need to say this he's behind me. Yeah,

00:50:36.519 --> 00:50:38.480
and I'm saying you're like, that's weird. That's

00:50:38.480 --> 00:50:40.659
the same guy I saw the story yesterday. Don't

00:50:40.659 --> 00:50:44.440
know who he is Go on your social media. You look

00:50:44.440 --> 00:50:47.119
to see you viewed your story and there's the

00:50:47.119 --> 00:50:50.400
dude Oh hell your ass is putting that Instagram

00:50:50.400 --> 00:50:53.280
profile on private so fast. What wouldn't you

00:50:53.280 --> 00:50:57.460
just block him? Can you just do that? That's

00:50:57.460 --> 00:50:59.519
true. I would definitely block, but I would for

00:50:59.519 --> 00:51:01.440
sure be on private I'm on private anyways, but

00:51:01.440 --> 00:51:04.699
yeah, except for our Instagram internet frenzy,

00:51:04.699 --> 00:51:08.679
of course, but should we be I'm scared No, yeah,

00:51:08.679 --> 00:51:11.179
don't follow us. Don't follow us. Follow us,

00:51:11.219 --> 00:51:15.139
but don't Follow us online not in real life.

00:51:15.320 --> 00:51:19.440
I'm fine Follow us online online. I thought you

00:51:19.440 --> 00:51:22.280
said on vine. I probably freaking did bro. I

00:51:22.280 --> 00:51:25.780
was a little old those are the best days Golden

00:51:25.780 --> 00:51:28.760
days. My vine days were the best content I have

00:51:28.760 --> 00:51:31.099
ever put out in my life. I doubt that. Can I

00:51:31.099 --> 00:51:33.119
say something? Absolutely. Now it is your turn.

00:51:33.480 --> 00:51:36.760
Okay. I have the talking stick. You have it all.

00:51:37.139 --> 00:51:39.800
Yes, I do. I feel like maybe this is just in

00:51:39.800 --> 00:51:43.360
being a dude. I don't know. Yeah. But I'm like

00:51:43.360 --> 00:51:46.800
hyper aware of my surroundings. So if there was

00:51:46.800 --> 00:51:49.699
a situation like that for me, I would absolutely

00:51:49.699 --> 00:51:53.360
notice it fast. Yeah. Like I would because we

00:51:53.360 --> 00:51:56.219
like pull into our like to where we live and

00:51:56.219 --> 00:51:58.219
I look around like I'm noticing if a different

00:51:58.219 --> 00:52:00.719
car that I don't recognize is here. You are so

00:52:00.719 --> 00:52:03.699
observant. Like why is that this and like blah

00:52:03.699 --> 00:52:06.320
blah and like just the way I am just in my nature

00:52:06.320 --> 00:52:09.440
I'm just gonna notice things that are like that.

00:52:09.820 --> 00:52:11.639
Do you feel like that's most men or do you feel

00:52:11.639 --> 00:52:15.480
like it's just specific like people? I really

00:52:15.480 --> 00:52:18.239
don't know. I feel like it's probably more men

00:52:18.239 --> 00:52:20.980
than women I would think. At least with recognizing

00:52:20.980 --> 00:52:23.750
cars for sure. Well yeah I'm like that's That's

00:52:23.750 --> 00:52:26.409
something, that is something I feel like maybe

00:52:26.409 --> 00:52:29.590
somewhat more specific to me. Yeah. But I've

00:52:29.590 --> 00:52:31.710
always been that way. Even when I was like in

00:52:31.710 --> 00:52:33.690
elementary school, went through a phase of being

00:52:33.690 --> 00:52:37.150
like really into cars. And I just always recognized

00:52:37.150 --> 00:52:39.510
like if it was somebody that I knew. Oh, that's

00:52:39.510 --> 00:52:42.809
so funny. Like if it was their car. But yeah,

00:52:43.110 --> 00:52:45.090
what was I gonna say? There was something else.

00:52:50.269 --> 00:52:52.510
Oh, I was gonna make mention of the fact that

00:52:52.510 --> 00:52:57.750
like, I'm observant But then there's people that

00:52:57.750 --> 00:53:00.170
take you to a whole nother level of observant

00:53:00.170 --> 00:53:02.769
Yeah, like we have we have a neighbor that lives

00:53:02.769 --> 00:53:05.550
across from us. That is a homicide detective

00:53:05.550 --> 00:53:09.210
It's so dope. He's a stud that like I ran into

00:53:09.210 --> 00:53:11.670
him at the golf course that we live near like

00:53:11.670 --> 00:53:13.909
we were I was on the putting green he came up

00:53:13.909 --> 00:53:17.369
and he just like Outlined the whole lay of the

00:53:17.369 --> 00:53:19.510
neighborhood He's like, oh so like you guys like

00:53:19.510 --> 00:53:22.050
and are related to these people and like I know

00:53:22.050 --> 00:53:24.829
the people that live here and just Literally

00:53:24.829 --> 00:53:27.030
had the whole place mapped out at the back of

00:53:27.030 --> 00:53:29.409
his hand mapped out without actually knowing

00:53:29.409 --> 00:53:31.570
a good way to put it like he right as he Spotted

00:53:31.570 --> 00:53:33.730
him on the golf course. He was like, oh, hey

00:53:33.730 --> 00:53:36.510
He's like, hey, I know you like you have you

00:53:36.510 --> 00:53:39.010
have a little girl like yeah, I live across from

00:53:39.010 --> 00:53:41.190
you blah blah blah Yeah, you're like who the

00:53:41.190 --> 00:53:44.489
frick is this guy cuz I really I thought I was

00:53:44.489 --> 00:53:47.250
observant, but I've never seen him before Honestly,

00:53:47.269 --> 00:53:49.230
I just didn't recognize him over there. I would

00:53:49.230 --> 00:53:51.469
recognize this car though. Yeah, his car's so

00:53:51.469 --> 00:53:55.210
sick. Well anyways So there's levels to this,

00:53:55.309 --> 00:53:57.769
being observant, and it's probably a benefit

00:53:57.769 --> 00:54:02.150
to be observant. So you, watch your back, everyone.

00:54:03.389 --> 00:54:05.869
Look out for this guy, because he's out there

00:54:05.869 --> 00:54:08.789
apparently. Yeah, this like Joe wanna want 2

00:54:08.789 --> 00:54:12.510
.0, Joe 2 .0. From you, you're sorry, not you

00:54:12.510 --> 00:54:15.409
Joe. Yeah, just make it specific. You're Joseph,

00:54:15.750 --> 00:54:18.510
you're Josephy. Okay, well that's my first story,

00:54:18.530 --> 00:54:21.489
are you ready for my second one? That was pretty

00:54:21.489 --> 00:54:26.710
cool. I know. I loved that. I know. I know it

00:54:26.710 --> 00:54:29.750
was. It was neat. Thanks. Okay, so here is my

00:54:29.750 --> 00:54:43.469
next story. This is from Chew Off My Chest. I'm

00:54:43.469 --> 00:54:46.530
being stalked. Content warning sexual assault.

00:54:46.670 --> 00:54:51.199
I'm 23M, a regular at my local library. of these

00:54:51.199 --> 00:54:53.599
libraries. That's weird. I am never going to

00:54:53.599 --> 00:54:56.699
a library again. I'm 23m, a regular at my local

00:54:56.699 --> 00:54:59.900
library. About five days ago, I go in to return

00:54:59.900 --> 00:55:02.039
some books and check out some new ones. And when

00:55:02.039 --> 00:55:04.599
I go to check out, the librarian is one I don't

00:55:04.599 --> 00:55:07.300
recognize. I know all the librarians at my library

00:55:07.300 --> 00:55:09.719
pretty well, and I'm a pretty chatty person.

00:55:09.719 --> 00:55:12.059
And she was pretty cute on top of that. So I

00:55:12.059 --> 00:55:13.980
started talking to her. She asked me when I'm

00:55:13.980 --> 00:55:15.980
checking out the Golden Compass and a couple

00:55:15.980 --> 00:55:19.139
of volumes of the Chainsaw Man manga. If I recommend

00:55:19.139 --> 00:55:22.679
them, what else I recommend? It wasn't anything

00:55:22.679 --> 00:55:24.780
out of the ordinary until she sent me along the

00:55:24.780 --> 00:55:26.880
lines of, what's your girlfriend like to read?

00:55:27.320 --> 00:55:29.199
I'm single, and I tell her that. She just kind

00:55:29.199 --> 00:55:31.940
of smiles, a weird smile at me. It was after

00:55:31.940 --> 00:55:34.719
that I left. On my drive home I get a text notification,

00:55:34.920 --> 00:55:37.400
then two more. I don't check them, obviously,

00:55:37.539 --> 00:55:39.460
because I only live a few minutes from the library.

00:55:39.739 --> 00:55:41.619
When I finally check them, they're from an unknown

00:55:41.619 --> 00:55:44.619
number, they say. Message one. Hey, was nice

00:55:44.619 --> 00:55:46.940
talking to you today. Message two. If you ever

00:55:46.940 --> 00:55:48.920
want to talk about Chainsaw Man or whatever else

00:55:48.920 --> 00:55:51.860
you're reading, feel free. Message three, text

00:55:51.860 --> 00:55:54.460
me back soon. I almost threw up reading this.

00:55:54.760 --> 00:55:56.480
I don't give out my number freely and the fact

00:55:56.480 --> 00:55:58.159
that she mentioned the series I was checking

00:55:58.159 --> 00:56:00.500
out told me who it was. She must have looked

00:56:00.500 --> 00:56:02.780
at my number from my library account. I called

00:56:02.780 --> 00:56:05.139
the library, luckily someone else answered and

00:56:05.139 --> 00:56:07.320
demand to speak to someone in charge. I tell

00:56:07.320 --> 00:56:09.039
them what happened when they asked me to give

00:56:09.039 --> 00:56:11.300
the number when I read it. They said it wasn't

00:56:11.300 --> 00:56:13.699
any number of anyone that worked there. She wasn't

00:56:13.699 --> 00:56:15.880
texting me from an alternate number. The person

00:56:15.880 --> 00:56:18.179
on the phone tells me she'd investigate further,

00:56:18.179 --> 00:56:20.619
but she hung up before I could say anything further.

00:56:21.219 --> 00:56:23.039
I blocked the first number, but she's texted

00:56:23.039 --> 00:56:25.420
me from two others. She hasn't said anything

00:56:25.420 --> 00:56:27.440
that would give her away, mostly just a string

00:56:27.440 --> 00:56:30.199
of her telling me how she much. how much you

00:56:30.199 --> 00:56:32.179
enjoyed talking to me and how cute I was and

00:56:32.179 --> 00:56:34.460
other stuff you don't text a stranger who recommended

00:56:34.460 --> 00:56:36.659
Manga to you. I'm worried about leaving the house

00:56:36.659 --> 00:56:38.579
now, worried about going to work, worried that

00:56:38.579 --> 00:56:40.739
this psycho is gonna throw me into a white van

00:56:40.739 --> 00:56:42.500
and take me to some murder shack in the middle

00:56:42.500 --> 00:56:46.420
of the woods. This sucks. So this is a male afraid

00:56:46.420 --> 00:56:49.639
of a girl that he believes is stalking him. Yeah,

00:56:49.880 --> 00:56:54.179
I'm skeptical of this dude. Like you think this

00:56:54.179 --> 00:56:57.079
girl is gonna throw your ass into a van. Like,

00:56:57.219 --> 00:57:00.179
first of all. She made your job easy. You already

00:57:00.179 --> 00:57:05.420
said she was cute true like No, we got to be

00:57:05.420 --> 00:57:07.300
considerate. He's obviously very uncomfortable.

00:57:07.300 --> 00:57:10.139
No, we don't have to be considerate because listen

00:57:10.139 --> 00:57:13.360
I'll I will be on this hill. Okay, like if he

00:57:13.360 --> 00:57:17.079
was physically threatened by her Okay, that's

00:57:17.079 --> 00:57:19.679
one thing but he has a nice interaction with

00:57:19.679 --> 00:57:23.139
her Yeah, she violated some some privacy issues

00:57:23.139 --> 00:57:25.039
by getting his phone number from his library

00:57:25.039 --> 00:57:29.460
card. That is just some nerd stuff She have happened.

00:57:29.500 --> 00:57:32.539
That's like ballsy. Like she just went straight

00:57:32.539 --> 00:57:35.139
for that is chef curry with the shot She's like

00:57:35.139 --> 00:57:37.159
I'm not gonna even ask for your number buddy.

00:57:37.159 --> 00:57:40.039
I'm just going to steal it off the account Take

00:57:40.039 --> 00:57:42.480
it from your library card while you're checking

00:57:42.480 --> 00:57:46.719
out some Goofy books. That's so creepy It's like

00:57:46.719 --> 00:57:49.139
there's absolutely that element of creepy like

00:57:49.139 --> 00:57:52.739
that's like not chill to do that's but that's

00:57:52.739 --> 00:57:56.960
obsessive for this guy to like I'm sorry. Just

00:57:56.960 --> 00:58:00.340
yeah, I don't see it like Like he's in danger.

00:58:00.460 --> 00:58:02.699
That's a very different situation than the other

00:58:02.699 --> 00:58:05.079
ones and that's just my perspective as a dude

00:58:05.079 --> 00:58:07.460
Okay. Yeah, I don't know if he's endangered yet,

00:58:07.460 --> 00:58:10.599
but I what's interesting to me though is when

00:58:10.599 --> 00:58:13.880
he called the library They're not gonna give

00:58:13.880 --> 00:58:16.659
out like oh, yo, that's the number for Tracy.

00:58:16.820 --> 00:58:18.800
That's her number They're not gonna do that.

00:58:19.219 --> 00:58:22.079
You don't think they would know 100 % No, you

00:58:22.079 --> 00:58:24.380
think they would be protecting her in case he

00:58:24.380 --> 00:58:28.099
was a sketch. Yes, exactly Cuz that that's that

00:58:28.099 --> 00:58:29.920
would be my first thought is and I think there

00:58:29.920 --> 00:58:31.500
is like training on that You can't just be like,

00:58:31.500 --> 00:58:35.829
you know, that's her number. She I don't know

00:58:35.829 --> 00:58:38.170
how that would work if he's like, hey, I just

00:58:38.170 --> 00:58:41.610
was there. I checked out a manga book and I talked

00:58:41.610 --> 00:58:45.289
to a librarian and then she texted me in reference

00:58:45.289 --> 00:58:49.769
to the conversation from this number. Is this

00:58:49.769 --> 00:58:53.190
her number? Like, and again, it could be a Google

00:58:53.190 --> 00:58:55.789
voice thing, could be like a alternate number

00:58:55.789 --> 00:58:58.489
kind of deal. I don't know if you can text from

00:58:58.489 --> 00:59:01.550
Google voice, but. True. Also, another thought

00:59:01.550 --> 00:59:05.239
too is if she did do that and she. Got the phone

00:59:05.239 --> 00:59:07.219
number from the library court. She's also getting

00:59:07.219 --> 00:59:11.400
his address from there as well, right? So that's

00:59:11.400 --> 00:59:15.400
sketch one time I had a girl slide into my DMS

00:59:15.400 --> 00:59:20.059
on Twitter of all places Wow Based on me using

00:59:20.059 --> 00:59:23.780
my credit card at some pizza place So like I

00:59:23.780 --> 00:59:26.760
swiped to pay for my food. She got my name from

00:59:26.760 --> 00:59:29.900
the credit card and then found me on Twitter

00:59:29.900 --> 00:59:33.820
What'd she say? She said hey I thought you were

00:59:33.820 --> 00:59:38.199
cute. No. How old were you? This was just before

00:59:38.199 --> 00:59:44.360
we dated. That little pizza hoe. Pizza hoe Chi.

00:59:45.460 --> 00:59:48.679
So did you respond? Yeah. Oh, I'm so triggered.

00:59:48.980 --> 00:59:51.159
I didn't, I didn't think it was that creepy.

00:59:51.179 --> 00:59:53.239
I was like, wow, you're actually like really

00:59:53.239 --> 00:59:55.679
making an effort. That's crazy. You're so nice.

00:59:56.059 --> 00:59:59.400
Nothing went anywhere, obviously. But yeah, obviously

00:59:59.400 --> 01:00:02.119
I'm here. Obviously you're here, but seriously.

01:00:02.380 --> 01:00:05.280
Like I just didn't I didn't take that to be a

01:00:05.280 --> 01:00:07.539
threat. That's what I why I compared myself to

01:00:07.539 --> 01:00:11.239
it was like, okay, I I was striking I was like,

01:00:11.239 --> 01:00:15.199
okay, that's That's different. Yeah, like you're

01:00:15.199 --> 01:00:17.320
definitely like there's got to be a screw loose,

01:00:17.539 --> 01:00:23.360
you know, like you're not like normal Yeah, I

01:00:23.360 --> 01:00:27.460
didn't take it to be I didn't take it to be endangering

01:00:27.460 --> 01:00:30.429
stalking behavior. This is Like, sorry if this

01:00:30.429 --> 01:00:34.969
triggered anybody. We're triggered. But crazy,

01:00:34.969 --> 01:00:38.309
crazy stuff that's out there. If you have any

01:00:38.309 --> 01:00:41.170
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