1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,000 Welcome back. Holy smokes 2 00:00:04,680 --> 00:00:06,280 Me too 3 00:00:06,280 --> 00:00:07,360 Been a minute 4 00:00:07,360 --> 00:00:11,440 That's been a minute. I say that a lot, but this time feels like it's actually been a minute 5 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:16,760 We've taken a week off. No one knows. No one knows no one will know well, you'll know now 6 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:22,520 Peak behind the curtain sleep. No, but last last episode was fun 7 00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:26,920 But I think we just got a little just got a little hungover from having the arms on yeah 8 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:33,480 Yeah, that's true. No, well in Dallas. We had a good old time with them. I'm still scarred by my story. I'm not gonna lie 9 00:00:33,480 --> 00:00:36,200 I don't think I'll ever forget it and I'm 10 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:43,920 It's over right merrim it'll forever haunt me. Do you mean to remind you? Yeah one word vibrator? 11 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:52,840 Yeah, yeah, that was that was that was why like I think that's gonna be the story I'm known for for the rest of my career 12 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:58,040 The rest of it. Yeah, you peeked there. Oh, no 13 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:05,880 Peak like a little valley is more like a climax. Oh, hey, I'm so sorry 14 00:01:06,520 --> 00:01:08,520 So that's the same as a peak 15 00:01:09,520 --> 00:01:13,560 Yeah, I was trying to give you the the word valley like 16 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:18,200 Guys 17 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:25,120 That's story. I yeah, that was grotes. I can't but we all know mine was not the fake because 18 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:28,320 I'm telling you right now. It was not the fake 19 00:01:29,600 --> 00:01:31,760 Who do we think was the fake of last week? 20 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:41,520 So Noel voted Marley as the fake and Dallas our guest voted Isaiah as the fake and we will say that one of them 21 00:01:41,920 --> 00:01:43,920 was right 22 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:48,080 Boys rule it was the dude. He was right there 23 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:51,680 We did it again the boys 24 00:01:52,880 --> 00:01:54,880 Stupid boys when it's anything 25 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:57,920 You just gonna do sign language 26 00:01:58,560 --> 00:02:00,560 trying to be garlic 27 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:02,800 Didn't say anything 28 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:05,920 Let's go 29 00:02:05,920 --> 00:02:12,160 How did Phil to get called out though? What I thought you were gonna scoop by with no one guessing you 30 00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:17,280 Mm-hmm. I don't know. I think it was because he just I think it's because he saw my phone. Oh 31 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:21,280 You think I'm out you're calling him out 32 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:30,800 Yeah, Dallas listening Isaiah thinks you cheated you're exposed. I don't think you cheated but I think you knew I wasn't on reddit 33 00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:32,800 I think that's what it was 34 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:35,760 Maybe 35 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:38,600 Maybe he's just a really good guy looking at my phone 36 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:42,560 Yeah, but all of you guys were like like but everyone else just kind of just chill with it 37 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:49,360 Yeah, I would have overreacted you wouldn't they would have both no, yeah, you're right. You know, but also I think he just called you 38 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:53,600 I think he guessed it right. Let's give him a little credit. I'll give him credit. He did it. He did it 39 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:59,200 He did whether you saw it or not a good job Dallas. I'm proud of it and we're excited. We need to have them back on 40 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:06,080 You know that was a vibe. It was really fun. Well, I'm looking forward to this week's let's go 41 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:08,680 It's Valentine's Day's around the corner. Oh 42 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:13,040 Yes, if you guys have plans absolutely 43 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:19,080 So Joe and I honestly, okay, if there is any couple to talk about Valentine's Day with it's me and Joe 44 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:22,560 We go all out. Are you stressed right now? Yeah, Dave? 45 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:26,080 My dog. I'm so sorry my dog 46 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:32,000 The only the hell comes to it 47 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:37,320 I'm getting ready to kill someone. I'm so sorry my dog just scared the crap out of me. Okay, anyway 48 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:40,920 That little 30 pound killer back there did something crazy. Yeah, that was terrifying 49 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:44,200 Okay, if anyone you need to talk to about Valentine's Day 50 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:47,960 It's Joe and I so every year you guys should do this if you want you don't have to be us 51 00:03:47,960 --> 00:03:51,640 But you probably should want to be for this not for everything 52 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:57,560 Anyway, I'll tell you something after go ahead. Okay. Yeah. Yeah every year we take turns being in charge of Valentine's Day 53 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:03,760 So this year it's my year and Joe and I go all out like we really try and make it special and 54 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:08,280 For the first like few years we would like take work off for Valentine's Day 55 00:04:08,280 --> 00:04:15,040 Like we spent like the whole day the whole day we would do things like oh my gosh the Valentine's Day is that Joe 56 00:04:15,040 --> 00:04:17,400 Has planned for me. There was one that I will never forget 57 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:20,000 It was absolutely 58 00:04:20,920 --> 00:04:22,640 Amazing we woke up 59 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:27,680 We went out into the mountains we climbed up onto this like hole in the rock in Phoenix 60 00:04:28,280 --> 00:04:33,480 So romantic first sunrise watch sunrise. He had a picnic. There was a blanket 61 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:38,080 He had a yogurt yogurt like yogurt parfait 62 00:04:38,720 --> 00:04:45,440 And then he brought his laptop and he created a video for me slideshow saying all the reasons why he loved me 63 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:51,280 I'm not kidding you guys this man is so romantic then we're not done. That was literally just the morning 64 00:04:51,280 --> 00:04:57,360 The a am yeah take notes literally then we went to 65 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:03,160 I'm waiting to see if she even remembers at all. We went he surprised me 66 00:05:03,160 --> 00:05:07,920 He blindfolded me and we went to an ice skating rink and we went ice skating 67 00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:11,280 Then he blindfolded me and we went to the movies 68 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:15,200 Saw a rom-com. It was bad. It was really bad 69 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:19,360 But we saw a lot of fun then he blindfolded me and then we went and got massages 70 00:05:19,360 --> 00:05:25,560 Couple massage. It was the best couple massage. I've ever had my life central oils massage an hour and a half. It was 71 00:05:27,320 --> 00:05:32,520 Unbelievable then we're all oiled up and feeling Lucy goosey. Guess what we did next 72 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:35,880 No 73 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:39,600 No, I 74 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:44,640 Tricked yeah, no then we went home and I got ready for the day 75 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:50,120 We looked super cute and then all of a sudden I get out of the bathroom and Jobs know where to be found 76 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:56,900 He's gone and I see notes and he took me on a scavenger hunt where I had to go find him 77 00:05:57,000 --> 00:05:59,000 So I'm going to different places 78 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:06,720 Literally like our mailbox are like all over the place getting all these different notes and then I find him at a park 79 00:06:07,440 --> 00:06:12,120 And he is dressed up in a suit and tie with a rose in his hand you guys 80 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:19,080 And he read me a poem that he wrote me and I cried it was the most beautiful 81 00:06:19,080 --> 00:06:23,680 It sounds so cheesy, but like when you're in love you're in love and you're feeling it, okay? 82 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:27,520 And I was crying and it was raining by the way 83 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:31,400 It was like sprinkling like the good kind of rain not like oh my gosh. I'm soaked my makeup my hair 84 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:35,160 It was like let's make out in the rain, but like it feels nice 85 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:36,960 so then 86 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:39,560 He reads me the poem and then guess where he takes me 87 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:45,480 Then our butts go to cheesecake factory my favorite restaurant shout out please sponsor and 88 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:52,400 We go to cheese factory then we go home. He had chocolate strawberries ready for us and then we did a little 89 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:57,560 Date like a little dainty the sexy time thing and then we went to bed 90 00:06:58,360 --> 00:07:01,160 Did I get it you get it? You did good? Yeah? 91 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:05,280 Those are our Valentine's Day is so cute 92 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:08,080 You want to hear why first of all? 93 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:09,280 Uh 94 00:07:09,280 --> 00:07:17,440 The title of this episode is romance stood no chance. Yes, so perfect place to start. It's our first Valentine's Day together 95 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:23,640 Cirque up 2016. I'm living with my brother at the time. I'm working at the golf course. We're dating 96 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:27,280 We were not yet engaged, but we were talking about marriage and 97 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:32,720 She for Valentine's Day. She decided she was gonna heart attack my house 98 00:07:32,720 --> 00:07:39,040 My my brother's house. She has no doubt what heart attacking is. Yeah, like the spoons and the things and all of it 99 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:42,160 I'm working at the golf course at the time, right? So I'm waking up early 100 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:47,200 On the days that I go in it's whatever so she spends an 101 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:52,160 Unbelievable amount of time writing all the things she loves about me. She puts them all over my car 102 00:07:52,160 --> 00:07:56,800 She does like the saran wrap thing on the car photos on individual hearts and like literally like 103 00:07:56,800 --> 00:08:03,360 It's so long. It wasn't just like cutting out hearts and putting them out there. It was like each heart was individualized 104 00:08:04,160 --> 00:08:10,320 Beautiful cute and this is Valentine's morning. It was a Sunday. I remember vividly kissed his car everywhere 105 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:15,760 Red lipstick on his uh windows and she started so early. She started at what time? 106 00:08:16,320 --> 00:08:24,000 Probably like 435. Oh no earlier than that. I bet. Oh probably. I don't because you were you were calling me at like 550 107 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:26,000 Oh 108 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:27,040 So 109 00:08:27,040 --> 00:08:32,240 I like this is what happened. She did all this work and then she's just she's just sitting in her car 110 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:34,960 And she's just waiting. She's like she's so excited 111 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:38,480 Like for me to wake up for me to see it. So she 112 00:08:39,440 --> 00:08:42,560 Like calls me and calls me and somehow she gets me to wake up 113 00:08:43,520 --> 00:08:44,640 and 114 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:46,640 I'm no I'm just like 115 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:50,080 What time is it like she's 116 00:08:50,880 --> 00:08:51,920 Okay 117 00:08:51,920 --> 00:08:56,320 And like so I'm like not coherent not all there, but she's super stoked. So she like 118 00:08:56,880 --> 00:09:00,160 Tries to get me to go outside. I don't know what's going on and then she finally like 119 00:09:00,560 --> 00:09:04,080 She gets me to go out there and we're going through all of it and I'm like it's amazing 120 00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:08,640 I'm I'm loving it. There's so many things that I get to read. It was very thoughtful. It's so sweet 121 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:11,600 And we go back inside and it's like 620 122 00:09:13,120 --> 00:09:17,840 And I'm like yawning and just like I'm just like tired, but like like 123 00:09:18,560 --> 00:09:20,400 Happy to be with her 124 00:09:20,400 --> 00:09:23,920 And she asks me the question. She's like should I just like let you sleep? 125 00:09:25,920 --> 00:09:28,640 Did you say yes? I said yes 126 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:30,960 Oh 127 00:09:31,840 --> 00:09:33,840 I literally 128 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:40,640 No, I was so excited. This was my first like real boyfriend during Valentine's Day 129 00:09:40,960 --> 00:09:43,360 It was it was cute and like looking back 130 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:46,160 I feel like the biggest dickhead of all time and I like 131 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:50,160 I'm like we'll never live it down and so that's why like everything that's come after that 132 00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:51,760 I feel like I'm the rest of my life 133 00:09:51,760 --> 00:09:58,000 I'll be making up for this because she just like sad puppy like instantly just like eyes just welled up. She just was like 134 00:09:58,960 --> 00:10:03,680 And like boom darts that darts out the door. I was like, I'm sorry and I just left 135 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:09,200 And I was just like we didn't see it to the rest of the Valentine's Day until that night 136 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:11,280 He convinced me to come 137 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:15,600 And I was pissed the whole time. It was terrible. It was the worst Valentine's Day ever 138 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:20,080 It was so bad. Yeah, but I felt like the biggest jerk of all time dude 139 00:10:20,960 --> 00:10:26,080 It was freaking you made me you've made it up. Well that yeah that one Valentine's Day that alone made up for it 140 00:10:26,080 --> 00:10:29,680 Yeah, and I've never felt worse about anything in my life. So 141 00:10:30,880 --> 00:10:33,520 Yeah, he's that literally I used to get emo thinking about it 142 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:35,360 Yeah, you did 143 00:10:35,360 --> 00:10:39,440 Do you think you could still know if you really thought about it? Well, yeah, for sure if I wasn't mad at you 144 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:40,720 Yeah, that's true 145 00:10:40,720 --> 00:10:43,760 Joe and I are in a little fighting but we're really excited for Valentine's Day 146 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:48,480 It's gonna be lit to your turn. Yeah, he's like count so glad I don't have to do it 147 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:54,320 Oh, yeah, I don't did we say that on the podcast that Joe and I we take turns every year being in charge. Okay 148 00:10:55,040 --> 00:10:57,920 Yeah, so it's my your dang it and we've like we've watered it down 149 00:10:58,000 --> 00:11:02,000 So like we don't take work off anymore. We're like just doing the normal thing now 150 00:11:02,160 --> 00:11:07,360 At least for now if we're like rolling in the dough we for sure will take it off again because it's so fun 151 00:11:07,360 --> 00:11:13,280 It is fun. Yeah, but I mean we haven't been rolling in the dough since a long time ago. So I know 152 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:18,800 Times are tough man. Life's hard. But hey internet frenzy pop off 153 00:11:19,840 --> 00:11:25,440 Sponsor us cheesecake factory. We'll go to belt. We'll do our podcast there for Valentine's Day for it 154 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:28,880 We'll be able to hear one word we say so loud there 155 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:34,080 And it's dark. Yeah, just ping ping ping ping ping ping ping ping ping 156 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:36,880 It's like literally a freaking 157 00:11:37,520 --> 00:11:39,040 battlefield in there 158 00:11:39,040 --> 00:11:42,800 Well, you know, what's crazy is this will be mine and Isaiah's first 159 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:50,400 valentines in like three years like together like spending it actually together. That's fun. Do you guys have plans? 160 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:53,280 We're going to Utah for a wedding. Oh heck yeah 161 00:11:53,680 --> 00:11:58,960 Yeah, so we'll be there only word of advice I have for you guys and anyone else all our listeners out there 162 00:11:58,960 --> 00:12:05,840 For a Valentine's Day if you are going to take your spouse or girlfriend or boyfriend out to dinner 163 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:10,000 only go places that there are reservations or 164 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:13,760 Eat at home 165 00:12:13,760 --> 00:12:15,760 please 166 00:12:15,760 --> 00:12:20,800 Eat at home make it make like whatever the meal is at home because it's way better to just 167 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:26,480 Be together. Yes, because at restaurants. It's so packed in the waiting it takes so long 168 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:32,720 It's not romantic. Then you sit on top of each other like a cheesecake. You know, they sit you like 169 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:37,520 So that's something we started doing a few years ago and we really like it 170 00:12:38,320 --> 00:12:39,600 But hey, it's each their own 171 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:45,600 I also love the switching off part because it doesn't like put the load all on one person like every single time 172 00:12:46,720 --> 00:12:52,800 I love that my favorite Valentine's Day tradition is waking up really early and going to like 173 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:57,840 Wherever fries or whatever is open to buy flowers and there are 174 00:12:58,640 --> 00:13:01,360 100 dudes there doing the same exact thing 175 00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:08,400 Valentine's morning. It's like all the procrastinating dudes. We're all there spending 50 bucks on a bouquet. It should cost $12 176 00:13:08,480 --> 00:13:11,760 I don't and I tell them every year. I'm like go to Trader Joe's 177 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:17,840 You will save so much money and you can also buy me chocolate too when you're there and still pay less 178 00:13:17,840 --> 00:13:21,600 Yes, always go to Trader Joe's. Yeah, but how like 179 00:13:22,960 --> 00:13:26,000 How do you how do you hide it? How do you keep it a secret? 180 00:13:26,480 --> 00:13:28,480 Because I'm not I can't go to Trader Joe's 181 00:13:28,480 --> 00:13:32,880 Before you wake up. I mean I can but it's Trader Joe's opens at eight. Oh 182 00:13:33,440 --> 00:13:36,400 For sure. Okay. I mean, it doesn't have to be secret. Why don't you go? 183 00:13:36,880 --> 00:13:39,840 Okay, this year you go at night the night before 184 00:13:40,640 --> 00:13:44,400 And then and then it's not a surprise Valentine's morning. Do you see the dilemma? Oh 185 00:13:44,400 --> 00:13:47,280 Okay, okay. I get you I get you I get you 186 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:51,040 Hey girls don't have to worry about that. We don't get you flowers. Yeah, I know 187 00:13:51,600 --> 00:13:56,480 You always hear the whole thing like it's sad that the first time a man gets flowers is during their funeral 188 00:13:56,960 --> 00:14:01,280 Yes, because we don't care about flowers. So sad. Do you need flowers? 189 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:04,240 No, I want flowers. What do you want? 190 00:14:04,640 --> 00:14:06,080 I want golf balls 191 00:14:06,080 --> 00:14:12,800 Yeah, you have so many golf balls. Me more. Give me give me a watch band. Yeah, you like that big boy? 192 00:14:12,800 --> 00:14:14,800 You like that 193 00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:20,880 Do you like that big boy? 194 00:14:22,000 --> 00:14:24,000 You want a watch band? 195 00:14:26,800 --> 00:14:28,800 Give me a watch band. Oh 196 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:36,560 Okay, well, I'm excited for this episode. Thanks for letting us start out with a little Valentine's Day stories. Yeah, how's that for an intro? 197 00:14:37,120 --> 00:14:41,840 It's beautiful. I'm feeling good. Let's hear the story that you found miss. Oh, okay 198 00:14:41,840 --> 00:14:47,200 You get to go first. I guess I love that for me. Listen. Is that kind of rhyming or yeah, that's oh 199 00:14:48,400 --> 00:14:53,760 It's it rhymes for sure and chat you be cheating come up with that one. That's straight Joe this brin 200 00:14:53,760 --> 00:15:08,160 You love that it's in there 201 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:21,440 No 202 00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:24,040 the worst Valentine's Day imaginable 203 00:15:24,040 --> 00:15:26,620 and possibly ruining the holiday for her forever. 204 00:15:26,620 --> 00:15:29,440 All right, so I20M might have just single-handedly 205 00:15:29,440 --> 00:15:31,520 destroyed a girl's ability to ever celebrate 206 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:32,620 Valentine's Day again. 207 00:15:32,620 --> 00:15:34,400 Like, I genuinely think I scarred her. 208 00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:35,840 And before you assume anything, 209 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:38,840 no, I did not ghost her, insult her, or stand her up. 210 00:15:38,840 --> 00:15:39,720 I showed up. 211 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:41,040 I tried. 212 00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:42,920 And that was the problem. 213 00:15:42,920 --> 00:15:44,760 It started with me matching with this girl. 214 00:15:44,760 --> 00:15:46,600 Let's call her Emily on a dating app. 215 00:15:46,600 --> 00:15:48,440 We had a couple of good conversations 216 00:15:48,440 --> 00:15:50,560 and I figured why not ask her out? 217 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:51,960 Only day she was free? 218 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:53,520 Valentine's Day. 219 00:15:53,520 --> 00:15:55,040 Did I take that as a warning sign? 220 00:15:55,040 --> 00:15:55,880 No, I did not. 221 00:15:55,880 --> 00:15:57,160 I took it as fate. 222 00:15:58,080 --> 00:15:59,160 Oh, it looks so. 223 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:00,120 Red, black. 224 00:16:00,120 --> 00:16:00,960 Yeah. 225 00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:01,920 Now let me be clear. 226 00:16:01,920 --> 00:16:03,840 I did not plan this date with her in mind. 227 00:16:03,840 --> 00:16:05,480 I planned the perfect date for me 228 00:16:05,480 --> 00:16:08,040 and I assumed she'd just be down for the ride. 229 00:16:08,040 --> 00:16:08,880 When I picked her up, 230 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:10,400 she walked out in a dress and heels 231 00:16:10,400 --> 00:16:13,440 and realized she was probably expecting a romantic evening 232 00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:15,280 and that's not what I had planned. 233 00:16:15,280 --> 00:16:17,040 I took her to my favorite spot in town 234 00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:20,400 and it's like an arcade bar, comic book shop, hybrid, 235 00:16:20,400 --> 00:16:21,880 that I go to with my boys a lot. 236 00:16:21,880 --> 00:16:24,440 Is that like a thing or are there things out there like that? 237 00:16:24,440 --> 00:16:26,440 Sounds like a hype place to hang out. 238 00:16:26,440 --> 00:16:28,080 Wait, so what's the combo? 239 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:32,920 It's like a arcade bar, comic book shop, hybrid. 240 00:16:33,800 --> 00:16:36,280 Arcade bar, comic book shop. 241 00:16:36,280 --> 00:16:37,200 If this... 242 00:16:37,200 --> 00:16:39,280 Arcade bar, that works. 243 00:16:39,280 --> 00:16:41,160 Throw some comics in there and the nerds are in. 244 00:16:41,160 --> 00:16:42,000 It's cool. 245 00:16:42,000 --> 00:16:43,360 Okay, sure. 246 00:16:43,360 --> 00:16:45,680 I wonder if there's anything down here like that. 247 00:16:45,680 --> 00:16:46,520 You wanna go? 248 00:16:46,520 --> 00:16:48,320 Cool. 249 00:16:48,320 --> 00:16:50,760 Sounds like a good place to pick up dudes. 250 00:16:50,760 --> 00:16:52,000 Yeah, we should go. 251 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:53,760 She's just testing the waters to see 252 00:16:53,760 --> 00:16:56,120 if you're down for this Valentine's. 253 00:16:56,120 --> 00:16:57,440 Oh yeah, that sounds like the... 254 00:16:57,440 --> 00:16:59,480 Is this like something you would want me to plan for you? 255 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:01,360 Yeah, that's the hang for sure. 256 00:17:01,360 --> 00:17:02,680 When we walked into the arcade, 257 00:17:02,680 --> 00:17:04,400 she started to look a bit uncomfortable 258 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:05,640 so I tried to warm her up and said, 259 00:17:05,640 --> 00:17:06,600 sick, right? 260 00:17:06,600 --> 00:17:08,040 I love this place. 261 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:10,400 She kind of smiled. 262 00:17:10,400 --> 00:17:12,680 We played some games and I felt like she was opening up 263 00:17:12,680 --> 00:17:14,760 a little more so I continued on with my plan. 264 00:17:14,760 --> 00:17:17,120 I took her to my favorite place to eat a wings joint 265 00:17:17,120 --> 00:17:19,920 where they have a blazing inferno death challenge. 266 00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:22,640 Who is this guy? 267 00:17:22,640 --> 00:17:23,840 Who's this guy you know? 268 00:17:23,840 --> 00:17:25,600 He should have taken a literal boy. 269 00:17:25,600 --> 00:17:26,440 I know. 270 00:17:26,440 --> 00:17:27,280 He's a Chad. 271 00:17:28,920 --> 00:17:32,240 I ordered the spiciest wings on the menu for myself. 272 00:17:32,240 --> 00:17:33,840 Didn't ask what she wanted. 273 00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:35,920 Didn't even check if she liked spicy food. 274 00:17:35,920 --> 00:17:38,960 I just assumed she'd watch me suffer and be into it. 275 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:43,280 She ordered a salad and then my wings arrived. 276 00:17:43,280 --> 00:17:45,280 I took one bite and immediately started sweating. 277 00:17:45,280 --> 00:17:46,920 My nose was running, my eyes were watering, 278 00:17:46,920 --> 00:17:49,600 but instead of emitting defeat, I tried to play it cool. 279 00:17:49,600 --> 00:17:51,440 She just sat there visibly repulsed, 280 00:17:51,440 --> 00:17:53,560 like actually physically leaning away from me 281 00:17:53,560 --> 00:17:57,600 as I turned into a human waterfall of sweat and regret. 282 00:17:57,600 --> 00:17:59,040 That's funny. 283 00:17:59,040 --> 00:18:02,040 At this point, at this point, she looked checked out, 284 00:18:02,040 --> 00:18:03,280 but did I pick up on it? 285 00:18:03,280 --> 00:18:04,120 No. 286 00:18:04,120 --> 00:18:04,960 Instead I asked her, 287 00:18:04,960 --> 00:18:07,000 ever wonder what your future kids will look like? 288 00:18:07,000 --> 00:18:08,840 I feel like ours would have sick hair. 289 00:18:10,160 --> 00:18:11,200 My gosh. 290 00:18:11,200 --> 00:18:13,960 She said nothing and kept taking small bites of salad 291 00:18:13,960 --> 00:18:16,200 looking around like she was looking for help. 292 00:18:16,200 --> 00:18:17,600 To cap off this terrible day, 293 00:18:17,600 --> 00:18:18,960 I decided to give her a gift. 294 00:18:18,960 --> 00:18:20,000 Romantic, right? 295 00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:20,960 No. 296 00:18:20,960 --> 00:18:21,960 As we're driving home, 297 00:18:21,960 --> 00:18:25,120 I had a photo of me pinned in the passenger seat visor 298 00:18:25,120 --> 00:18:27,080 for my high school wrestling days. 299 00:18:27,080 --> 00:18:29,200 When she pulled it down to look at herself in the mirror, 300 00:18:29,200 --> 00:18:30,320 she saw my photo and said, 301 00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:33,520 oh, I then said, here, take it as I unpinned it 302 00:18:33,520 --> 00:18:34,760 and handed it to her. 303 00:18:34,760 --> 00:18:37,720 I thought you might like something to remember tonight by. 304 00:18:38,760 --> 00:18:40,000 Her mouth was literally open 305 00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:41,240 and she burst it out laughing 306 00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:43,360 and said nothing the entire car ride home. 307 00:18:43,360 --> 00:18:46,160 We pulled up to her house and she quickly said thanks 308 00:18:46,160 --> 00:18:47,400 and practically jumped out. 309 00:18:47,400 --> 00:18:49,040 She didn't even let me walk her to the door. 310 00:18:49,040 --> 00:18:52,000 So yeah, I'm pretty sure I traumatized this girl. 311 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:53,960 I don't think she'll ever be able to hear the words 312 00:18:53,960 --> 00:18:56,320 Valentine's Day without thinking about me. 313 00:18:56,320 --> 00:18:58,040 So guys, am I the asshole? 314 00:19:00,320 --> 00:19:01,720 It's not giving asshole. 315 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:06,280 It's giving just dumb boy, 316 00:19:06,280 --> 00:19:10,400 like there's just X on every category. 317 00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:11,480 Everything he does. 318 00:19:11,480 --> 00:19:12,800 Like this is thick, right? 319 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:15,360 This is where me and my boys go all the time. 320 00:19:15,360 --> 00:19:18,120 And she's literally wearing a dress and heels. 321 00:19:18,120 --> 00:19:18,960 Here's the thing though, 322 00:19:18,960 --> 00:19:20,920 I'm the type that a guy's taking me on a date 323 00:19:20,920 --> 00:19:21,840 to the arcade. 324 00:19:21,840 --> 00:19:22,680 I'm getting down. 325 00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:26,600 I'm gonna beat him in basketball every time. 326 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:29,440 And like air hockey, he beats me. 327 00:19:29,440 --> 00:19:31,400 He can take that. 328 00:19:31,400 --> 00:19:32,680 Look, why are you lying about one 329 00:19:32,680 --> 00:19:33,960 and being truthful about another? 330 00:19:33,960 --> 00:19:35,160 Whoa, whoa, whoa. 331 00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:36,600 How'd I beat you in basketball? 332 00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:39,680 That was once and I was like, my arm was sore. 333 00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:43,240 I was, I broke my arm. 334 00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:44,600 I was shooting lefty. 335 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:48,880 I would bet $50 right now. 336 00:19:48,880 --> 00:19:50,560 That's a lot of money. 337 00:19:50,560 --> 00:19:53,600 $50 that if we went to my arcade tonight 338 00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:58,440 and we did it one time, the first time, I would beat him. 339 00:19:58,440 --> 00:20:00,160 Okay, this is for the listeners. 340 00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:02,040 You can get in on this wager. 341 00:20:02,040 --> 00:20:03,720 We will live stream this event. 342 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:04,560 Yes. 343 00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:05,880 We'll go live. 344 00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:06,720 Any platform. 345 00:20:06,720 --> 00:20:07,560 Deal. 346 00:20:07,560 --> 00:20:08,400 $50? 347 00:20:08,400 --> 00:20:09,240 $50. 348 00:20:09,240 --> 00:20:11,200 Okay, it's a $50 gift card to cheesecake 349 00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:13,160 or a $50 gift card to the golf store. 350 00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:14,320 Deal. 351 00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:15,160 Okay. 352 00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:16,640 I want my shoulder. 353 00:20:16,640 --> 00:20:18,800 And guys, me and Joe went on a date. 354 00:20:18,800 --> 00:20:20,760 Many golfing and I beat him by six strokes 355 00:20:20,760 --> 00:20:22,120 and he was a college golfer. 356 00:20:22,120 --> 00:20:24,760 So guys, I am very athletic. 357 00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:26,480 And I will destroy you. 358 00:20:26,480 --> 00:20:28,400 Blind squirrel finds a nut. 359 00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:32,240 This one comes from, am I the asshole? 360 00:20:32,240 --> 00:20:35,560 17 days ago, go find it. 361 00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:39,400 Am I the asshole for not letting my friend's husband 362 00:20:39,400 --> 00:20:41,160 come to my Gallentine's party? 363 00:20:43,040 --> 00:20:46,000 No, cause you know what a freaking Gallentine's is. 364 00:20:46,000 --> 00:20:48,000 This dude's gotta go. 365 00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:50,520 Oh, you guys just buckle up, okay? 366 00:20:50,520 --> 00:20:53,200 Your Gallentine's parties are gonna be threatened forever 367 00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:54,040 after this one. 368 00:20:56,360 --> 00:21:00,640 Backstory, one of my 29 F best friends, 32 F, 369 00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:02,360 got married last spring. 370 00:21:02,360 --> 00:21:04,440 Since she got married, we do mostly group hangouts 371 00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:06,160 with her husband who's 38 M, 372 00:21:06,160 --> 00:21:07,560 my partner and some other friends, 373 00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:09,120 which is totally fine and fun. 374 00:21:09,120 --> 00:21:11,560 Now, I have a Gallentine's party every year 375 00:21:11,560 --> 00:21:13,880 for my girlfriends, usually about four or five of us 376 00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:16,120 and we all bring in appetizer and have wine, 377 00:21:16,120 --> 00:21:17,440 play some games, et cetera. 378 00:21:17,440 --> 00:21:18,880 I texted the group to let them know 379 00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:19,960 and everyone responded. 380 00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:21,640 My friend messaged me privately to say that 381 00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:23,720 if her husband can't come, she can't come 382 00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:25,360 and asked if he could come with her. 383 00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:29,360 I normally would welcome him, 384 00:21:29,360 --> 00:21:31,720 but no one else's husband or boyfriends will be there 385 00:21:31,720 --> 00:21:34,360 and it just isn't that kind of party, LOL. 386 00:21:34,360 --> 00:21:36,760 I told her that no one else's partners would be there 387 00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:38,640 and she said that since being married, 388 00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:42,120 they are a package deal and only attend things together. 389 00:21:42,120 --> 00:21:43,000 Gag. 390 00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:44,920 I told her I respected whatever arrangements 391 00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:45,840 they had in their marriage 392 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:48,400 and if she wasn't able to attend, I understood. 393 00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:50,680 However, a few days later, a mutual friend told me 394 00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:52,920 that they talked and she said she was hurt by the fact 395 00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:55,520 I wouldn't invite him and felt I was being rude. 396 00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:57,360 Oh my gosh. 397 00:21:57,360 --> 00:21:58,840 I do plan to talk to her about it, 398 00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:00,560 but I just need some feedback from Reddit. 399 00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:01,560 Uh, this is weird. 400 00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:03,280 Edit, a few words. 401 00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:04,600 Edit number two. 402 00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:05,920 Because a lot of people asked, 403 00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:09,400 this party is held on the 13th, not on Valentine's Day. 404 00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:10,400 Edit number three. 405 00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:12,440 Thanks everyone who has taken the time to respond. 406 00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:14,160 I had a lot of anxiety about this. 407 00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:16,480 I knew I had done the right thing in my head, 408 00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:17,920 but then I second guessed myself. 409 00:22:17,920 --> 00:22:19,920 Now I feel good in the boundaries I set. 410 00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:21,000 But wait, there's more. 411 00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:21,920 Edit number four. 412 00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:24,680 Valentine's Day, a day to celebrate female friendship 413 00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:26,000 similar to Valentine's Day, 414 00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:28,240 but for friends instead of romantic partners. 415 00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:30,320 It's often celebrated on February 13th, 416 00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:32,360 the day before Valentine's Day. 417 00:22:32,360 --> 00:22:35,560 It's for all female friendships and not just singles. 418 00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:36,840 That was, this is obviously, 419 00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:39,560 she's referring to stuff that's in the comments. 420 00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:41,120 And then update. 421 00:22:41,120 --> 00:22:43,080 My friend ended up reaching out to me. 422 00:22:43,080 --> 00:22:44,880 She said that her husband is uncomfortable 423 00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:47,440 with girls nights or events that he cannot attend. 424 00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:50,240 He told her, I know what happens at girls nights. 425 00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:52,560 I guess he was cheated on in his previous marriage 426 00:22:52,560 --> 00:22:54,320 and he said he worries a lot. 427 00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:58,520 Doesn't mean you can be the only person with a d*** this party. 428 00:22:58,520 --> 00:22:59,360 That's right. 429 00:22:59,360 --> 00:23:00,200 You wish. 430 00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:01,720 No, that's exactly what it means. 431 00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:02,880 Oh yeah? 432 00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:04,080 Yeah, tell her dude. 433 00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:04,920 Yeah. 434 00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:05,760 Like. 435 00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:06,600 Stick it to me. 436 00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:08,720 You guys are a package deal. 437 00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:09,560 Stick what? 438 00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:10,400 For sure. 439 00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:11,240 No. 440 00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:13,320 No. 441 00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:14,160 No. 442 00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:15,160 When you do your stuff, 443 00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:17,040 I'll, yeah, you just go do your stuff. 444 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:18,600 When I do my stuff, I do my stuff. 445 00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:19,440 Yeah. 446 00:23:19,440 --> 00:23:20,280 Oh, so you're normal? 447 00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:21,640 You do our stuff together. 448 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:22,800 That's tight. 449 00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:24,880 You guys are normal, that's tight. 450 00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:26,840 But I don't think, yeah. 451 00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:28,320 That's so weird. 452 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:29,160 Like. 453 00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:30,000 That dude's crazy. 454 00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:31,240 And if he's already uncomfortable as a girl, 455 00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:33,200 like, you know how freaking, 456 00:23:33,200 --> 00:23:35,120 like that would just change literally, 457 00:23:35,120 --> 00:23:37,840 like that would make everybody else so uncomfortable 458 00:23:37,840 --> 00:23:39,080 if he was there. 459 00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:40,960 He's just like the one dude, 460 00:23:40,960 --> 00:23:43,280 they're all talking about like their favorite toys 461 00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:45,320 and all the stupid stuff that girls talk about 462 00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:46,320 at girls nights. 463 00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:48,160 And the dudes are just over there like. 464 00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:51,760 Yeah, that's cool. 465 00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:55,520 Like that guy is weird for even wanting to go. 466 00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:56,360 Like. 467 00:23:56,360 --> 00:23:57,200 Yeah. 468 00:23:57,200 --> 00:23:58,360 Like to see just like the girls attention, 469 00:23:58,360 --> 00:24:01,520 like that's obviously some, like I just, 470 00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:04,800 I get being triggered because of, 471 00:24:04,800 --> 00:24:07,320 in his past relationship, 472 00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:09,280 she cheated on him during a girls night. 473 00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:11,720 However, this is a completely different girl. 474 00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:14,480 And they're girls, she says what they're doing. 475 00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:15,920 They're literally at someone's house 476 00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:18,400 with appetizers and playing games. 477 00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:19,400 Drinking some wine. 478 00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:21,000 Drinking wine, but you're not at a, 479 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:21,840 you're not going clubbing. 480 00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:23,840 Yeah, no, you're not going out. 481 00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:26,680 Where there'll be other people, you know, like. 482 00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:27,520 It's a very different. 483 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:28,840 It could influence. 484 00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:29,680 It would be different. 485 00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:32,640 And I would understand if it was like a trip to Vegas. 486 00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:33,680 Right. Yeah. 487 00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:35,520 Like something weird. 488 00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:38,400 I can understand being triggered, 489 00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:41,800 but however, this is not that. 490 00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:42,640 No. 491 00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:43,920 Just like, hey girls, we're going to Vegas 492 00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:45,080 for Galantines this year. 493 00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:48,120 This dude's just like, I'm ready to go. 494 00:24:48,120 --> 00:24:50,080 Like I will be with you. 495 00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:51,640 We're going to make sure that none of you 496 00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:53,040 cheat on your partners. 497 00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:54,880 That actually killed it. 498 00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:55,920 I'll be the police. 499 00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:57,680 Unless it's with me. 500 00:24:57,680 --> 00:24:58,520 Oh. 501 00:24:58,520 --> 00:24:59,360 Right. Yeah. Maybe he just wants to bang. 502 00:24:59,360 --> 00:25:00,200 Plot twist. 503 00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:01,040 All right. 504 00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:02,800 I mean, hey, no one's, 505 00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:05,240 no guy's actually wanting to go to a Galantines 506 00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:07,680 unless he likes the attention of other girls. 507 00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:10,680 I would legitimately rather sit at home 508 00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:12,080 and watch paint dry. 509 00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:13,720 Then go to a Galantines party. 510 00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:16,520 Like I cannot think of a place I'd rather not be. 511 00:25:16,520 --> 00:25:19,400 Five girls, five of Marley's friends, 512 00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:21,480 all doing a little paint night. 513 00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:23,280 And you're like, I'm coming. 514 00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:25,840 Not like if it's at your house, 515 00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:27,120 it's at someone else's house. 516 00:25:27,120 --> 00:25:28,760 It's a different thing if it thinks 517 00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:30,280 it's at your house. Yeah, I know I'm not going. 518 00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:31,240 I'm gonna go golf. 519 00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:32,080 Exactly. 520 00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:33,320 It's night. 521 00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:35,400 You're gonna freaking play video games. 522 00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:38,120 Yeah, you're gonna do anything but go. 523 00:25:38,120 --> 00:25:39,680 Yeah, no, I'm not going. 524 00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:40,680 Yeah. 525 00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:42,040 That's like a, 526 00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:43,200 And I wouldn't even ask to go. 527 00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:44,800 I would ask like, oh, are other guys going? 528 00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:45,640 No, it's just girls. 529 00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:46,480 Okay, I was down. 530 00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:47,480 Like I'm home. 531 00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:49,640 You're like, oh, are other guys go, 532 00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:51,400 like there's other guys that are going? 533 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:52,600 They're stupid. 534 00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:53,760 Tell them to have fun. 535 00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:55,360 But here's the thing too, 536 00:25:55,360 --> 00:25:57,760 this guy, you don't get to stop Galantines from happening 537 00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,000 because you're feeling a little insecure 538 00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:01,720 from your past relationship. 539 00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:02,560 Yeah. Right. 540 00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:05,160 Like going to hang out at a friend's house, 541 00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:07,320 doing a girls night, if you can't handle that, 542 00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:09,320 like you got bigger fish to fry. 543 00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:10,160 Yeah. 544 00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:11,000 Hmm. 545 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:13,080 Like maybe you go to the therapy. 546 00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:16,240 Am I overreacting to my boyfriend having his mom 547 00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:17,880 get my Valentine's gift? 548 00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:22,880 My boyfriend, 17N and me are big on sentimental gifts 549 00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:24,600 rather than expensive gifts 550 00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:26,880 since we are young and saving up for college. 551 00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:28,600 Because of this, for Valentine's Day, 552 00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:30,400 I got him a picture book of us, 553 00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:32,160 a letter and some small gifts. 554 00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:34,080 I was very surprised with what he got me 555 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,560 because it was bigger than any other previous gift. 556 00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:39,360 However, I was slightly suspicious about the contents. 557 00:26:39,360 --> 00:26:41,640 He got me a weight loss journal. 558 00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:45,480 I'm a healthy weight and have never expressed any urge 559 00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:46,840 to lose weight. 560 00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:48,240 Various chocolate nuts. 561 00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:49,880 He knows I hate nuts. 562 00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:51,920 A candle and a stuffed animal. 563 00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:53,160 These ones are normal. 564 00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:54,880 I just assumed the journal and the nuts 565 00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:56,320 were an honest mistake. 566 00:26:56,320 --> 00:26:58,600 He also made me a very nice card 567 00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:00,520 where he cut out construction paper 568 00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:02,480 to make a cute arts and crafts for me, 569 00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:03,960 which was my favorite gift. 570 00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:05,800 When asked about the weight loss journal, 571 00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:09,040 he claimed to not have paid attention when he bought it. 572 00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:10,640 Fast forward to recently, 573 00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,920 I was playing on his phone because mine was charging. 574 00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:15,800 We have each other's passcodes and are okay 575 00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:17,800 with each other being on the other's phone. 576 00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:20,280 Now, I know it was probably an invasion of privacy, 577 00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:22,880 but I decided to look up my name in his text 578 00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:24,920 to see what he said about me to other people, 579 00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:26,360 just out of curiosity. 580 00:27:26,360 --> 00:27:27,520 That was genius. 581 00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:29,800 I found a conversation with his mother 582 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:31,840 where he asked her to buy me a gift 583 00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:33,520 the day before Valentine's Day. 584 00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:35,280 She asked what kind of candy I like 585 00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:37,880 and he didn't respond, explaining the nuts. 586 00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:42,880 I also found out that she made the card I liked so much. 587 00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:45,240 I completely understand if he couldn't afford 588 00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:46,080 to get me anything, 589 00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:48,520 but the fact that he couldn't even bother 590 00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:49,920 to go to the store with his mom 591 00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:52,800 to pick out my gifts makes me feel so insulted. 592 00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:55,720 He couldn't even be bothered to make a card for me. 593 00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:57,920 I thought that it was so thoughtful of him 594 00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:00,280 to take the time and effort to do that for me, 595 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:02,840 but finding out it was all his mother hurt me. 596 00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:04,440 I confronted him about it 597 00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:07,920 and he said that he had procrastinated until February 13th 598 00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:10,080 and he didn't get me anything himself. 599 00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:11,760 He's starting early. 600 00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:14,040 Even though it was a few months ago, 601 00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:16,560 I still feel betrayed and saddened. 602 00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:17,600 How old are they? 603 00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:18,440 17. 604 00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:19,280 17. 605 00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:21,120 See, here's my thoughts. 606 00:28:21,120 --> 00:28:23,320 He's just still too young. 607 00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:25,280 I don't think he's the asshole. 608 00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:26,600 I don't know that she's overreacting. 609 00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:27,960 Am I overreacting? 610 00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:30,320 Okay, yeah, I think she's overreacting. 611 00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:31,440 I think that's a hard word. 612 00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:33,080 I don't know if it's overreacting, 613 00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:36,400 but I do think that she needs to recognize 614 00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:38,920 and know that a boy will be a boy. 615 00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:43,560 That seems very much on character for a 17-year-old little kid. 616 00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:45,800 But she's also a 17-year-old little girl. 617 00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:48,000 But girls are way more mature and responsible 618 00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:50,720 and thoughtful and better than little boys. 619 00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:52,640 I think that's a bunch of bullshit. 620 00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:54,160 Boy, you were 20. 621 00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:57,320 How old? And you said, yeah, I wish you let me sleep. 622 00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:59,560 Huh? On Valentine's Day. 623 00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:03,120 You were 17 and you woke me up at 5.30. 624 00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:04,600 I was not 17. 625 00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:06,360 I was 19. 626 00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:07,200 Right. 627 00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:08,720 And you're 20-something. 628 00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:09,880 That's my point, though. 629 00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:11,040 It's like you... 630 00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:12,120 Yeah, I messed up, but so did you. 631 00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:13,240 Because boys are... 632 00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:17,600 But generally speaking, 633 00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:21,720 girls are better at planning that out. 634 00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:22,840 Yeah. 635 00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:24,640 Make a case for the weight loss journal. 636 00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:25,480 Let's hear it. 637 00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:26,600 Yeah, this mom... 638 00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:27,360 That was pretty bad. 639 00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:28,200 That's like balancing. 640 00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:29,440 And that was a girl. 641 00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:30,280 That was a lady. 642 00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:35,240 A grown woman gave a little 17-year-old girl 643 00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:36,320 a weight loss journal. 644 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:39,360 This mother-in-law needs to teach her something better. 645 00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:41,840 And it just shows how terrible she is 646 00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:44,440 because she's giving her a terrible gift. 647 00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:45,360 That's messed up. 648 00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:46,680 That's just like... 649 00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:47,840 That's just mom... 650 00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:49,560 That's boy moms. 651 00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:50,120 They would... 652 00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:52,160 They do stuff like that because they're like... 653 00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:53,880 They love their son so much 654 00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:55,720 and then there's this other girl in their life. 655 00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:59,200 Like, she probably loved that he gave her that opportunity 656 00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:01,280 so that she could just sabotage. 657 00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:01,480 That was... 658 00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:03,480 100%. 659 00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:04,120 All right. 660 00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:05,360 100%. 661 00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:06,600 That was bad. 662 00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:07,840 The weight loss journal. 663 00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:09,120 That weight loss journal is bad. 664 00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:09,880 Yeah. 665 00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:10,880 You don't just do that. 666 00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:12,800 Like, oh my gosh, she's gonna love this. 667 00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:13,560 Like, what did you think? 668 00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:15,120 Oh, this is just a daily planner. 669 00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:17,320 And she literally is probably... 670 00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:18,360 And she says, she's like, 671 00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:20,680 I've never struggled my way like... 672 00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:21,720 Yeah. 673 00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:24,000 But this girl is kind of pimp, though, 674 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:25,400 because it's not a fact. 675 00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:26,840 The weight loss journal, she just said, 676 00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:29,560 she was like, oh, maybe just thought it was a daily planner. 677 00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:32,200 She's just banged up months later 678 00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:33,960 that Valentine's Day sucked. 679 00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:35,040 And that's the part where I'm like, 680 00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:38,600 okay, she's obviously a little kid because get over it. 681 00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:40,200 Yeah. 682 00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,520 Like, I'm just saying, like, a couple months later, 683 00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:44,640 and it's like, you got gifts. 684 00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:45,560 Yeah, she's still struggling. 685 00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:49,240 Your boyfriend is a high school kid. 686 00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:51,280 Like, yeah, he's still gonna have mom help him out 687 00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:52,560 with some things occasionally. 688 00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:56,560 Like, the gifts and what the mother-in-law did, 689 00:30:56,560 --> 00:30:58,280 that's a different story. 690 00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:00,400 But like, if she's not banged up about the weight loss thing, 691 00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:03,080 that's the only thing that bears any weight, in my opinion. 692 00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:06,160 Because she made the gift, she made the card, 693 00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:07,800 like whatever, you got like five things 694 00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:09,960 for Valentine's Day and you're a little kid. 695 00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:12,240 Do you guys wanna hear one of the comments? 696 00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:13,080 Yes. 697 00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:13,920 Well, bad. 698 00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:18,000 Foreign cow 1189 said, weight loss journal, 699 00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:24,200 bunch of question marks, the gift that all women love. 700 00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:25,080 Facts. 701 00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:27,840 Like, obviously that's a horrible gift. 702 00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:29,360 That's not the mother-in-law. 703 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:31,960 I thought I was like, is this being sarcastic or serious? 704 00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:33,160 Yes, something's like that. 705 00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:34,000 Okay, yeah. 706 00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:36,600 That would be horrible. 707 00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:38,280 That's a stupid ass gift. 708 00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:39,240 It doesn't matter who you are. 709 00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:41,200 A dude doesn't wanna weight loss journal. 710 00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:43,880 Yeah, it's like that just sucks anyways. 711 00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:46,680 Especially for like a romantic holiday. 712 00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:47,520 Yeah. 713 00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:49,480 It's like, just get over it. 714 00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:51,480 Is she overreacting? 715 00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:53,960 It's okay to be mad, but a few months later, 716 00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:56,800 it's time to like move on. 717 00:31:56,800 --> 00:31:58,200 Cause like, you could have been broken up 718 00:31:58,200 --> 00:32:00,080 and with a new guy and in love by now, 719 00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:01,800 in high school, like you never know. 720 00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:02,640 True that. 721 00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:03,600 Definitely. 722 00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:06,040 Okay, so this is from Relationship Advice. 723 00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:10,560 And it's, my boyfriend thinks my dad's gifts are creepy. 724 00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:11,800 Oh. 725 00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:13,200 Every year for Valentine's Day, 726 00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:14,880 my dad, a 59 male, 727 00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:18,320 Gives slash sends me 23 female flowers 728 00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:19,320 and a box of chocolate. 729 00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:20,400 He has done this every year 730 00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:21,800 since I've been old enough to remember. 731 00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:23,560 He'd always give them to me when I was little, 732 00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:25,600 when we went to college and beyond, 733 00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:27,840 he was, he has them delivered to me. 734 00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:29,440 It's just a tradition for us. 735 00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:30,280 I think it's sweet. 736 00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:32,440 I grew up in a really tight knit close family. 737 00:32:32,440 --> 00:32:35,120 I started dating my boyfriend, Mark, 25 male, 738 00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:36,960 a little over a year ago. 739 00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:38,000 Last Valentine's Day, 740 00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:39,920 I got the usual delivery from my dad. 741 00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:40,960 Mark saw and said, 742 00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:42,720 Oh, your dad sent those? 743 00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:43,600 Oh, okay. 744 00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:44,560 And then that was it. 745 00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:46,520 Fast forward to this year last night, 746 00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:49,000 Mark and I were discussing our Valentine's Day plans 747 00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:49,840 for this year. 748 00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:51,360 Like what restaurant we should go to. 749 00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,920 And he had a passing comment about hoping 750 00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:58,000 I don't get any creepy gifts in the mail this year. 751 00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,160 I was confused and asked him what he meant. 752 00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:02,200 He said, you know how you got that stuff 753 00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:03,240 from your dad last year. 754 00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:06,440 It's creepy for a dad to be sending his adult daughter 755 00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:07,960 Valentine's Day gifts. 756 00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:10,080 I was taken back because it's not like my dad 757 00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:12,120 had sent me lingerie or something. 758 00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:13,920 It was just flowers and some chocolate. 759 00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:16,280 I tried explaining to Mark that this is a tradition 760 00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:17,920 and I've always shared with my dad. 761 00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:20,600 He stands firm that it's creepy and weird. 762 00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:22,240 And he said he asked his friends 763 00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:24,200 and they thought it was weird too. 764 00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:25,200 I tried to let it go, 765 00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:27,440 but it was, it has been bothering me. 766 00:33:27,440 --> 00:33:30,360 One, I have never heard these kinds of negative comments 767 00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:31,440 from Mark before. 768 00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:33,480 And I'm not sure whether it's a red flag. 769 00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:36,480 I have never been in a serious relationship before 770 00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:37,960 and I'm still figuring it out. 771 00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:40,640 Two, my dad's delivery comes this month. 772 00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:42,680 I don't want Mark to feel uncomfortable. 773 00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:44,560 Three, is it actually creepy for my dad 774 00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:45,880 to be sending this stuff? 775 00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:47,440 I've never found it so, 776 00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:49,480 but I would like to hear other perspectives. 777 00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:50,320 Thanks. 778 00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:52,520 That guy sucks. 779 00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:53,960 He does suck. 780 00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:55,640 What's his name, Mark? 781 00:33:55,640 --> 00:33:56,480 Mark. 782 00:33:56,480 --> 00:33:59,960 Yeah, Mark can go freaking poop 783 00:33:59,960 --> 00:34:01,680 and then throw it down his throat. 784 00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:03,840 He wrote it. 785 00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:04,920 This is the dude. 786 00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:06,080 Sounds like you hate him. 787 00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:07,000 Yeah, I do. 788 00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:10,320 Like Mark is, Mark is a bad guy. 789 00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:11,720 Cause I say it's about to be a girl dad. 790 00:34:11,720 --> 00:34:12,560 So he's like, 791 00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:13,400 Oh yeah, he knows. 792 00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:15,440 No, that's so messed up. 793 00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:17,160 That's, you can't do that. 794 00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:18,120 That's like, yeah. 795 00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:19,440 So this is weird 796 00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:21,440 because this is the first time this has happened. 797 00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:23,760 My brain melted when you started reading this story 798 00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:25,680 cause I've come across this story before. 799 00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:26,520 Oh really? 800 00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:27,360 For a different episode. 801 00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:29,720 And I was like the first, a minute of it, 802 00:34:29,720 --> 00:34:30,560 I was thinking, 803 00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:32,600 did I read this already on the podcast? 804 00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:34,000 And obviously you guys didn't recognize it. 805 00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:37,360 So I didn't, but I 100% have read the story. 806 00:34:38,240 --> 00:34:39,480 You're not fake. 807 00:34:39,480 --> 00:34:43,680 And yeah, I cannot believe. 808 00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:46,680 I like what type of trauma does Mark have to have 809 00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:48,080 to think that that's creepy? 810 00:34:48,080 --> 00:34:48,920 Yeah. 811 00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:49,760 Right. 812 00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:51,560 Because that is so, that's so tender. 813 00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:52,400 That's so sweet. 814 00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:53,240 It's so sweet. 815 00:34:53,240 --> 00:34:54,080 That's goals. 816 00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:54,920 Like literally. 817 00:34:54,920 --> 00:34:55,760 Goals. 818 00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:56,600 Goals. 819 00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:57,440 100%. 820 00:34:57,440 --> 00:34:59,360 Like the dad is still like, this is about love. 821 00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:00,640 I love my daughter. 822 00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:01,480 Yes. 823 00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:03,120 Here's some chocolate and flowers. 824 00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:07,120 No, and that's how, like he wants the person 825 00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:10,080 that she falls in love with to treat her the same way. 826 00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:13,320 Like he's just showing her how she deserves to be treated. 827 00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:15,960 Then it broke my heart to feel like she's now questioning 828 00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:17,280 like, wait, is this creepy? 829 00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:18,920 Like does anyone else think this is? 830 00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:21,760 Like because that's such a special memory and bond 831 00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:23,400 that she has with her dad. 832 00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:26,200 Then it liked to think she, what if she's still with Mark? 833 00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:29,320 You know, like what if they don't actually break up? 834 00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:31,280 Wait, but my dad used to literally do this. 835 00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:33,240 He would always bring flowers to school. 836 00:35:33,240 --> 00:35:36,360 Like if it was on like a school day, like he would always, 837 00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:37,920 we would always get called to the office 838 00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:40,560 and there'd always be like a little bouquet of flowers 839 00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:42,480 for each of us girls. 840 00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:44,120 I know he doesn't do it anymore, 841 00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:46,880 but and it always came with like, you know, 842 00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:49,640 like the like little card, you know? 843 00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:53,240 And like I have like, I'm pretty sure I have all of them. 844 00:35:53,240 --> 00:35:55,080 Like somewhere in like a box somewhere, 845 00:35:55,080 --> 00:35:56,880 but I just always loved it. 846 00:35:56,880 --> 00:35:59,920 So I'm like, girl dads are the best. 847 00:35:59,920 --> 00:36:00,760 Just saying. 848 00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:03,080 So there is an update. 849 00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,160 So they did end up breaking up. 850 00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:06,000 She said, we broke up. 851 00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:08,680 I've tried, I tried having a legitimate conversation 852 00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:11,480 with Mark about why he found the gifts creepy. 853 00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:13,320 He is close with his family. 854 00:36:13,320 --> 00:36:15,440 They show a regular amount of affection 855 00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:18,160 for close, for a close American family. 856 00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:20,720 So it wasn't that he could not articulate to me 857 00:36:20,720 --> 00:36:22,000 why he found it creepy. 858 00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:24,600 He just kept saying it made him uneasy. 859 00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:26,200 No further explanation. 860 00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:29,240 This, there is only so much I can do regarding that. 861 00:36:29,240 --> 00:36:31,800 So I gave up on trying to find the root of the issue. 862 00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:33,960 He originally said he talked to his friends about it 863 00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:35,400 and they all found it weird. 864 00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:37,040 Yeah, he never did that. 865 00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:38,800 He admitted he made it up. 866 00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:41,800 Cause I'm like, if he really talked, 867 00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:43,560 like they would have been like, dude, you're so dumb. 868 00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:47,040 He also confessed he cheated on me with two different girls, 869 00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:49,360 which took me by complete surprise. 870 00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:52,520 I got tested, I got tested all is fine in that regard. 871 00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:53,680 So yeah, I ended it. 872 00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:57,360 He begged me this day and I was, and said I was the one. 873 00:36:57,360 --> 00:36:58,200 I refused. 874 00:36:58,200 --> 00:37:00,760 I said something along the lines of you cheated on me, 875 00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:03,640 you lied to me and we have different core family values. 876 00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:05,200 When he realized I wasn't coming back, 877 00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:07,680 he told everyone I cheated on him. 878 00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:09,480 My friends were furious on my behalf, 879 00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:11,200 wanting to give me a piece of their minds, 880 00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:14,360 but I told them I don't want to deal with him ever again. 881 00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:15,280 I am so done. 882 00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:16,360 I just don't care anymore. 883 00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:17,200 He's blocked. 884 00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:19,280 So basically I have no idea what his problem is 885 00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:21,560 with the gift was, but good riddance. 886 00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:23,680 And for everyone who said I had a good dad, trust me, 887 00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:25,080 I know and I'm so lucky. 888 00:37:25,080 --> 00:37:27,160 I'm going to visit him next month and can't wait. 889 00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:28,520 Thank you all. 890 00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:29,680 Oh my gosh, it's crazy. 891 00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:31,920 Cause when you first started talking about the update, 892 00:37:31,920 --> 00:37:33,600 I was thinking, oh my gosh, 893 00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:36,400 she probably was literally projecting 894 00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:38,240 that he's never going to be that for her. 895 00:37:38,240 --> 00:37:40,680 Like the dad's way better than him. 896 00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:42,320 And then you're like, he's cheating. 897 00:37:42,320 --> 00:37:43,640 And I'm like, oh my gosh. 898 00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:44,480 It all makes sense. 899 00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:45,320 It all makes sense. 900 00:37:45,320 --> 00:37:47,080 He was probably just jealous. 901 00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:47,920 Yes. 902 00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:51,360 He loves the relationship that she has with her dad. 903 00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:52,200 Yes. 904 00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:54,480 And he just probably doesn't have that. 905 00:37:54,480 --> 00:37:55,320 Yeah, he probably felt bad 906 00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:56,640 cause he'd probably cheated on her. 907 00:37:56,640 --> 00:37:58,880 And then her dad is sending her something. 908 00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:01,240 He's like, oh, that's weird. 909 00:38:01,240 --> 00:38:03,800 But also me being a girl, I think it wasn't weird. 910 00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:05,120 Yeah, I was just saying. 911 00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:07,520 Why does he have any respect for you? 912 00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:08,360 I don't get it. 913 00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:09,200 Yeah. 914 00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:12,520 Does he love you now that you're over 18? 915 00:38:12,520 --> 00:38:15,240 Is that like real love or? 916 00:38:15,240 --> 00:38:16,960 Just thinking how cool is it that this guy, 917 00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:18,400 like whether she was single, 918 00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:20,280 she's been dating this guy for a year, 919 00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:23,200 but like he sent her the flowers and the chocolates 920 00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:24,480 when she was single too. 921 00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:26,800 Cause they like, they live far apart, right? 922 00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:29,320 So like this was just their normal tradition. 923 00:38:29,320 --> 00:38:31,240 He doesn't know if Mark's going to stick around 924 00:38:31,240 --> 00:38:32,080 for the longterm. 925 00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:34,840 If he's just going to go bang another girl like he did. 926 00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:37,120 Like what a guy just, just holding down the fort 927 00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:38,440 for his daughter. 928 00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:40,640 And for a second there, I was so lost. 929 00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:42,040 I'm like, why is the cheating? 930 00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:43,640 Like, huh? 931 00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:46,400 What happened here with like, oh yeah, by the way, 932 00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:48,520 not only did I not figure out why he had a problem 933 00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:50,800 with this, but he banged two other girls. 934 00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:52,400 So we broke up. 935 00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:56,840 It's like, not the update I was expecting, but. 936 00:38:56,840 --> 00:38:58,160 He's the ultimate dirt bag. 937 00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:00,680 But glad she found out so she could just fricking leave 938 00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:02,920 and not feel bad about her dad being sweet. 939 00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:04,200 Yeah. 940 00:39:04,200 --> 00:39:05,680 I cannot wrap my head around this. 941 00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:07,800 I'm just thinking, he's like, yeah, no, seriously, 942 00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:08,760 your dad's a creep. 943 00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:09,600 It's weird. 944 00:39:09,600 --> 00:39:12,000 And I had sex with two other girls. 945 00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:14,000 And I made it up that I didn't talk to my friends. 946 00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:15,560 Because yeah, he's like, you know, 947 00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:17,880 the truth is that I lied and I've lied about other stuff, 948 00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:19,640 but your dad's still weird. 949 00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:20,480 Like, how did this? 950 00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:21,320 Yeah. 951 00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:22,160 It's so weird. 952 00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:26,280 I would really love to know like, his actual genuine, 953 00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:28,520 like why he thought that that was weird. 954 00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:33,520 So like, us going to that extent for Valentine's Day, 955 00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:36,400 I used to get in trouble with the boys. 956 00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:38,080 Like the homies would be like, dude. 957 00:39:38,080 --> 00:39:38,920 Why are you doing this? 958 00:39:38,920 --> 00:39:40,480 What are you doing, bro? 959 00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:41,320 Really? 960 00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:42,520 Like you're making us all look bad. 961 00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:45,000 Two separate ones in particular. 962 00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:46,080 We'll not name names. 963 00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:46,920 Yeah. 964 00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:49,640 But like, they're like, yeah, be like. 965 00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:52,320 Cause their wives would be upset with them. 966 00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:55,040 Cause they would see what Joe did for me. 967 00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:56,880 Well, they're like, dude. 968 00:39:56,880 --> 00:39:59,120 Level up, level up, level up. 969 00:39:59,120 --> 00:40:00,640 Thank you guys for listening. 970 00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:02,640 Tell us who you think the fake is. 971 00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:05,920 Comment on socials, follow us. 972 00:40:05,920 --> 00:40:09,720 We have a slightly growing podcast audience. 973 00:40:09,720 --> 00:40:12,080 So we just want to let you know, we appreciate all of you. 974 00:40:12,080 --> 00:40:15,160 And if you would take the few seconds that it takes 975 00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:16,440 to give us a five star review, 976 00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:18,240 it will help us reach more people. 977 00:40:18,240 --> 00:40:19,400 We're having fun with this. 978 00:40:19,400 --> 00:40:20,960 And so we appreciate the support. 979 00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:22,640 Thanks for listening. 980 00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:24,840 Let us know who you think is the fake. 981 00:40:24,840 --> 00:40:27,200 It's not Marley or me. 982 00:40:27,200 --> 00:40:28,040 Or me. 983 00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:28,880 Or me. 984 00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:30,640 So you let us know what you think. 985 00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:32,120 I don't know. 986 00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:34,160 And we'll see you guys next week. 987 00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:35,440 Internet frenzies on three. 988 00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:36,280 One, two, three. 989 00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:42,280 Internet frenzies.