1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:00,800 What's up gang? 2 00:00:01,360 --> 00:00:02,020 What up? 3 00:00:02,020 --> 00:00:02,520 What's up? 4 00:00:02,520 --> 00:00:03,520 Oh no. 5 00:00:03,960 --> 00:00:05,000 Back for another one. 6 00:00:05,000 --> 00:00:07,120 Gosh, we sound exhausted. 7 00:00:07,120 --> 00:00:08,620 Already. 8 00:00:08,620 --> 00:00:14,120 It's been a long week, but it's been a fun week full of lots of adventures, you know. 9 00:00:14,620 --> 00:00:17,500 Period. What have yours been? Because I don't know. 10 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:21,000 I don't know that my week is adventurous. 11 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:23,060 As soon as I said adventures, I was thinking, 12 00:00:23,060 --> 00:00:26,160 what could I make up right now to talk about adventure-wise? 13 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:27,460 I've had zero. 14 00:00:27,460 --> 00:00:29,960 I don't even remember my week, so... 15 00:00:29,960 --> 00:00:32,960 So, last week was the Petty Olympics. 16 00:00:33,460 --> 00:00:36,460 Personally, really enjoyed that one. That was fun. 17 00:00:36,460 --> 00:00:37,460 Really good. 18 00:00:37,460 --> 00:00:42,460 And like, I don't know who had the fake, but there's one story that I remember vividly 19 00:00:42,960 --> 00:00:44,460 that could have been fake. 20 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:47,960 So, let's see if I'm right. 21 00:00:48,460 --> 00:00:50,460 If you had the fake, raise your hand. 22 00:00:52,960 --> 00:00:54,460 Yeah, yeah. 23 00:00:54,460 --> 00:00:57,460 Isaiah, raise his hand if you're listening to the podcast. 24 00:00:57,460 --> 00:00:58,460 This is true. 25 00:00:58,460 --> 00:01:00,460 Mr. Programmer. 26 00:01:00,460 --> 00:01:02,460 Mr. Say No to Apps. 27 00:01:03,460 --> 00:01:05,960 Oh my goodness, that was petty as can be. 28 00:01:05,960 --> 00:01:07,460 Here's the thing though. 29 00:01:07,460 --> 00:01:11,460 I feel like if I would have known that was fake ahead of time, I would have reacted differently. 30 00:01:12,460 --> 00:01:13,460 Joe was so into it. 31 00:01:13,460 --> 00:01:16,960 I was like, I was in it to win it. 32 00:01:16,960 --> 00:01:18,460 I was like, what a nerd. 33 00:01:18,460 --> 00:01:21,960 What a weirdie that would take the time to write this book. 34 00:01:21,960 --> 00:01:22,960 It was you. 35 00:01:22,960 --> 00:01:24,460 It was you. You're the nerd. 36 00:01:24,460 --> 00:01:25,460 You did. 37 00:01:25,460 --> 00:01:26,460 You are. 38 00:01:26,460 --> 00:01:28,460 So, well, that's crazy. 39 00:01:28,460 --> 00:01:32,460 And in retrospect, like, might have been obvious. 40 00:01:32,460 --> 00:01:34,460 You guys let us know what you think. 41 00:01:34,460 --> 00:01:37,460 Yeah, I would love to know if everyone got it or not. 42 00:01:37,460 --> 00:01:39,460 Sometimes, it's crazy. 43 00:01:39,460 --> 00:01:43,460 Sometimes people get it, and then other times it's like, it was very random. 44 00:01:43,460 --> 00:01:46,460 Like, the guesses would be all across the board from the listeners. 45 00:01:46,460 --> 00:01:47,460 Yeah. 46 00:01:47,460 --> 00:01:53,460 I feel like people wouldn't because it was just something like, yeah, I do that too. 47 00:01:53,460 --> 00:01:54,460 It was really unboreable. 48 00:01:54,460 --> 00:01:55,460 People do it. 49 00:01:55,460 --> 00:01:56,460 You know? 50 00:01:56,460 --> 00:01:59,460 I mean, yeah, like, but to take the time to write the post. 51 00:01:59,460 --> 00:02:00,460 That's the same thing. 52 00:02:00,460 --> 00:02:06,460 It was like, I was like, who is the nerd behind the keyboard that's like, wanting to make sure 53 00:02:06,460 --> 00:02:09,460 that he gets this guilt off his chest. 54 00:02:09,460 --> 00:02:14,460 We need to look that up and see if there's any people that actually do write stuff about that. 55 00:02:14,460 --> 00:02:15,460 I'm sure there is. 56 00:02:15,460 --> 00:02:16,460 I'm sure. 57 00:02:16,460 --> 00:02:18,460 There are people for everything. 58 00:02:18,460 --> 00:02:20,460 Yeah, the internet's a vast place. 59 00:02:20,460 --> 00:02:25,460 So I'm sure there's posts out there, but yours would have been one of them now. 60 00:02:25,460 --> 00:02:29,460 That was something special. 61 00:02:29,460 --> 00:02:30,460 Nice. 62 00:02:30,460 --> 00:02:33,460 Well, this one should be fun too. 63 00:02:33,460 --> 00:02:34,460 Yeah. 64 00:02:34,460 --> 00:02:35,460 This should be a good episode. 65 00:02:35,460 --> 00:02:38,460 It is, but wait, you're not the main character. 66 00:02:38,460 --> 00:02:39,460 Period. 67 00:02:39,460 --> 00:02:44,460 So probably going to be some, some main character vibes one way or the other. 68 00:02:44,460 --> 00:02:45,460 100%. 69 00:02:45,460 --> 00:02:47,460 But let's, let's jump in. 70 00:02:47,460 --> 00:02:49,460 I'm going to guess that we're going to start with you. 71 00:02:49,460 --> 00:02:50,460 Wow. 72 00:02:50,460 --> 00:02:51,460 That's me. 73 00:02:51,460 --> 00:02:52,460 That's always me. 74 00:02:52,460 --> 00:02:53,460 It's crazy. 75 00:02:53,460 --> 00:02:54,460 That's crazy. 76 00:02:54,460 --> 00:02:55,460 It's crazy. 77 00:02:55,460 --> 00:02:56,460 We start with me. 78 00:02:56,460 --> 00:03:14,460 Internet fancy, electric love so trendy, right in this world blending, one click, no pretending. 79 00:03:14,460 --> 00:03:16,460 But the mic's going to be really good. 80 00:03:16,460 --> 00:03:20,460 Why am I in my 30th plant because I'm quite passionate about my wedding. 81 00:03:20,460 --> 00:03:21,460 Not by being sorts. 82 00:03:21,460 --> 00:03:25,460 準備, make my birthday certain. 83 00:03:25,460 --> 00:03:26,460 I was thinking. 84 00:03:26,460 --> 00:03:28,460 This would be perfect for me. 85 00:03:28,460 --> 00:03:32,660 girlfriend 26f has been on my case about this wedding her sister has been 86 00:03:32,660 --> 00:03:36,580 planning for like two years. I get it's a big deal to her family or whatever but 87 00:03:36,580 --> 00:03:40,700 it's not like I'm even close to her sister. I've met her what five times and 88 00:03:40,700 --> 00:03:43,860 three of those were at like family barbecue is where I was basically just 89 00:03:43,860 --> 00:03:47,020 there to bring beer and hang with her dad. We don't vibe and I don't feel like 90 00:03:47,020 --> 00:03:50,260 I should have to take an entire weekend out of my life for a wedding when I 91 00:03:50,260 --> 00:03:54,020 could be relaxing. The wedding was last Saturday and yeah I said I'd go months 92 00:03:54,020 --> 00:03:58,180 ago because my girlfriend was nagging me about it non-stop but the thing is I had 93 00:03:58,180 --> 00:04:01,580 a long week at work and my boys hit me up at Friday night saying they were 94 00:04:01,580 --> 00:04:05,980 having a little get-together. Just a chill night, poker, some beers, the usual. I 95 00:04:05,980 --> 00:04:11,500 figured what's one night to unwind so I went. I thought I'd leave early but then 96 00:04:11,500 --> 00:04:15,180 the game got intense and before I knew it it was 3 a.m. my girlfriend was blowing 97 00:04:15,180 --> 00:04:19,460 up my phone but I figured she'd get over it. She always does. I wake up Saturday 98 00:04:19,460 --> 00:04:23,140 hungover as hell and she's furious because I wasn't answering her texts 99 00:04:23,140 --> 00:04:26,300 and now we're late for the wedding. She's screaming about how I promised her I'd 100 00:04:26,300 --> 00:04:30,940 go and how this day is so important for her family and blah blah blah but I'm 101 00:04:30,940 --> 00:04:34,020 sitting there thinking why is everyone making such a big deal out of one day? 102 00:04:34,020 --> 00:04:38,660 It's just a wedding. Like am I supposed to ruin my weekend for a free meal and 103 00:04:38,660 --> 00:04:43,220 some bad DJ music? Plus I wasn't feeling great and honestly didn't feel like 104 00:04:43,220 --> 00:04:48,300 going so I told her to go without me and I'd stay home to recover. She went but 105 00:04:48,300 --> 00:04:52,180 now she's saying I embarrassed her in front of her entire family. Her mom even 106 00:04:52,180 --> 00:04:56,260 texted me which I think is insane because what grown man gets scolded by his 107 00:04:56,260 --> 00:05:00,620 girlfriend's mom. She's saying I let her down and made it all about me but 108 00:05:00,620 --> 00:05:04,340 honestly what was I supposed to do? Go there looking like death and be miserable 109 00:05:04,340 --> 00:05:07,860 the whole time? I feel like it's better for everyone that I stayed home. To add to 110 00:05:07,860 --> 00:05:11,180 it she's bringing up other stuff now like the fact that I build on her work 111 00:05:11,180 --> 00:05:14,300 holiday party last month because the Eagles were playing or that time she 112 00:05:14,300 --> 00:05:17,340 asked me to pick her up from the airport and I told her to Uber because I was in 113 00:05:17,340 --> 00:05:20,620 the middle of a FIFA match with my buddy. I don't think those things are 114 00:05:20,620 --> 00:05:24,460 comparable but she's making it sound like I'm some kind of terrible boyfriend. I 115 00:05:24,460 --> 00:05:27,380 don't think I'm the bad guy here. I just bug in my time and don't see why I need 116 00:05:27,380 --> 00:05:30,780 to bend over backward for every little thing. Like I treat her well most of the 117 00:05:30,780 --> 00:05:38,700 time so isn't that enough? Am I the asshole? Oh my gosh so is he the like is 118 00:05:38,700 --> 00:05:43,140 he trying to ask just about the wedding situation or all? Just the just the 119 00:05:43,140 --> 00:05:48,060 wedding situation? We'll start with the wedding. Just asking what we could talk about all the other things. 120 00:05:48,060 --> 00:05:52,620 Just the wedding then. He definitely made himself the main character here like he 121 00:05:52,620 --> 00:05:57,660 doesn't care about anything else but him as his boys. No very self-centered. Very 122 00:05:57,660 --> 00:06:01,980 clearly that's the way that he lives his entire existence. He is the he is the 123 00:06:01,980 --> 00:06:07,180 center of the world. I can't believe it. And he's like shocked that it got blown up. 124 00:06:07,180 --> 00:06:11,220 I'm like bro it definitely got blown up. You sound like an asshole. Yeah exactly. 125 00:06:11,220 --> 00:06:16,260 People love hearing this. Exactly. They want to destroy you. Yeah. That's so funny 126 00:06:16,260 --> 00:06:21,180 because he like hearing you read it he's such a bro. He's such like a frat boy 127 00:06:21,180 --> 00:06:26,540 like bro. I don't even know how he has a girlfriend honestly. Yeah she must not 128 00:06:26,540 --> 00:06:31,500 like herself. She loves the attention. Like not getting the attention and then 129 00:06:31,500 --> 00:06:36,660 like the asshole. Yeah she loves that. She's in fact. A lot of girls like that. 130 00:06:36,660 --> 00:06:42,820 They do. They love that they love the d-bags. Yeah. Yeah we do. Oh please. They're two assholes. 131 00:06:42,820 --> 00:06:48,820 That must be your boyfriend because not me. I will say I get a little bit where 132 00:06:48,820 --> 00:06:53,740 he's coming from of like there's there's weddings that I've not wanted to go to. 133 00:06:53,740 --> 00:06:57,940 Yeah. The difference to you what you have to consider is like obviously we're all 134 00:06:57,940 --> 00:07:01,940 married so it is a little bit of a different vibe when they're just dating. 135 00:07:01,940 --> 00:07:07,380 Yeah. So like he's not he's not invested to the point where like yeah your whole 136 00:07:07,380 --> 00:07:14,060 family is my family already. Yeah. So it's like. And also like what's up with planning a 137 00:07:14,060 --> 00:07:20,260 wedding for two years. That's normal. I've had weddings that a lot of people do that. 138 00:07:20,260 --> 00:07:24,340 Yeah. Some some people do take more than 15 minutes. I just filmed a wedding a couple 139 00:07:24,340 --> 00:07:29,700 of November where they booked with me two years ago. Actually too. Because we got married 140 00:07:29,700 --> 00:07:35,820 in three months. Yeah. But like. But still like that's just yeah. Okay. That's crazy to me. 141 00:07:35,820 --> 00:07:43,300 But like I just I don't know. I honestly don't think he is. The asshole. I don't. 142 00:07:43,300 --> 00:07:46,900 But you don't think she's the asshole though right either. It's just kind of like a crappy 143 00:07:46,900 --> 00:07:51,020 situation. I just think it's like. Like get over it. Don't really want to go to the wedding. 144 00:07:51,020 --> 00:07:55,740 But it's really not about that. It's about showing up for your girlfriend and like she 145 00:07:55,740 --> 00:08:00,420 wants to take a plus one to the date like to the to like the wedding that I feel like he 146 00:08:00,420 --> 00:08:04,980 should care about that like oh like I'm going to be here. I mean because then she's just at 147 00:08:04,980 --> 00:08:11,500 this wedding alone. But what if he doesn't vibe like he said with her family. I think he can 148 00:08:11,500 --> 00:08:17,900 suck it up. It's one night. Drink a couple beers and just show up. Don't remember it. 149 00:08:17,900 --> 00:08:24,940 He's just one of the dudes just just a dude being a bro bro. Hey shout out to our videographer 150 00:08:24,940 --> 00:08:32,660 and DJ. Hey they're right there. They're right there. I know I'm saying I don't want to go 151 00:08:32,660 --> 00:08:38,980 to some shitty DJ. I know I was like not ours. You weren't at my wedding. That's hilarious 152 00:08:38,980 --> 00:08:44,820 because I was thinking like yeah that that like hype music to dance to at a wedding is 153 00:08:44,820 --> 00:08:50,660 like a must. Yeah but it's not. I'm kind of with him on that like the music just is kind 154 00:08:50,660 --> 00:08:57,260 of like don't give me like techno or the cha cha slide. And like that's the same type 155 00:08:57,260 --> 00:09:05,180 of vibe the entire dance. I'm like I'm going to die. Give me like shake down the little 156 00:09:05,180 --> 00:09:11,300 you know what I get out of your mind. Get out of your mind. 157 00:09:11,300 --> 00:09:16,500 To the window. To the wall. 158 00:09:16,500 --> 00:09:28,060 I was just like she's getting down to my legs. Yes she was. Oh man. Well great story. Love 159 00:09:28,060 --> 00:09:33,260 that. Love you guys. Next story. Am I the devil. This one after the title you're not 160 00:09:33,260 --> 00:09:37,300 going to need much more but it's just this is the story that keeps on giving. So brace 161 00:09:37,300 --> 00:09:48,620 yourselves and for real trigger warning maybe cheated for years on GF slash wife. I'm triggered. 162 00:09:48,620 --> 00:09:56,220 Well buckle up buttercup. Say it again. Like cheated for years on GF slash wife. Meaning 163 00:09:56,220 --> 00:10:04,900 from the time. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Here I am 27 started dating my wife F 25 and summer 164 00:10:04,900 --> 00:10:10,380 2017 around that time an old friend F 26 from high school reached out and was also interested 165 00:10:10,380 --> 00:10:15,580 in dating me at the time my wife had a very rough home life filled with abuse and poverty 166 00:10:15,580 --> 00:10:20,580 and I felt incredibly bad for her. I let her move in with me by early 2018 and things were 167 00:10:20,580 --> 00:10:25,340 pretty okay the first few months but I soon learned her and I were not compatible in this 168 00:10:25,340 --> 00:10:29,900 relationship wouldn't last over this time. I still occasionally talked to my high school 169 00:10:29,900 --> 00:10:33,940 friend. She was aware that I had a GF living with me but I assured her things weren't 170 00:10:33,940 --> 00:10:39,480 that serious yet and things were only like this to help my GF get out of a bad home life. 171 00:10:39,480 --> 00:10:43,460 My plan was to help my girlfriend find a decent job and support her for a bit until she was 172 00:10:43,460 --> 00:10:47,300 on her feet and then break up with her and start dating the high school friend. Well 173 00:10:47,300 --> 00:10:51,420 weeks turned to months and no changes had been made. Girlfriend had trouble finding 174 00:10:51,420 --> 00:10:56,100 a steady job and had no aspirations of education but I couldn't find it in my gut to break 175 00:10:56,100 --> 00:11:00,540 it off knowing if I did she could possibly be homeless so I just smiled and pretended 176 00:11:00,540 --> 00:11:07,940 to be happy with her. Every chance I got I would text and call my high school friend 177 00:11:07,940 --> 00:11:12,300 we talked for hours nearly every day. I worked a job where I was alone at an office for most 178 00:11:12,300 --> 00:11:17,140 of my days so it worked out. We video called talked about our dreams and planned out lives 179 00:11:17,140 --> 00:11:21,860 together given I could get the guts to leave my girlfriend and shamefully even sexted quite 180 00:11:21,860 --> 00:11:29,060 a bit. We met up in person a few times as well but this was a pretty hard thing to pull 181 00:11:29,060 --> 00:11:33,260 off due to many reasons so it didn't happen much. This girl was my soulmate and I was 182 00:11:33,260 --> 00:11:37,940 just waiting for the right time to make my move. This freaking guy. I hate him. Same 183 00:11:37,940 --> 00:11:42,460 but I never did. Nothing ever happened. I folded under the pressure of family and friends 184 00:11:42,460 --> 00:11:47,140 and married my girlfriend in 2022. I'm pretty tech savvy and my wife is not so it wasn't 185 00:11:47,140 --> 00:11:51,660 hard to hide the messages and call logs. My mistress learned my schedule and knew exactly 186 00:11:51,660 --> 00:11:56,060 when I would be at work every day so we could talk. Neither one of us told another soul. 187 00:11:56,060 --> 00:12:00,860 She dated a few guys during all this time and always kept our secret and let it continue. 188 00:12:00,860 --> 00:12:05,460 We were 1000% in love but I just couldn't throw my gf slash wife out on the streets 189 00:12:05,460 --> 00:12:10,700 even if I knew her and I weren't meant to be. This went on from 2017 all the way until 190 00:12:10,700 --> 00:12:15,900 summer of 2023. My mistress and I finally decided that had went on long enough and ripped the 191 00:12:15,900 --> 00:12:20,460 bandaid off. We both knew I didn't have the heart to ever do what needed to be done so 192 00:12:20,460 --> 00:12:24,940 that was it. I haven't heard from her in over a year now and I'm still heartbroken. Worst 193 00:12:24,940 --> 00:12:28,300 part is that I can't tell anyone that I'm heartbroken but that's what I get for not 194 00:12:28,300 --> 00:12:36,140 having the guts to do the right thing. Let's pray right now. I'll take my hat off. For 195 00:12:36,140 --> 00:12:42,300 me because I'm about to blow. Okay you better step up to the plate here because you teed that up. 196 00:12:42,940 --> 00:12:51,580 This guy is the worst human. I hate him and him saying this poor girl. This poor 197 00:12:52,540 --> 00:13:00,140 poor girl. She's better off homeless you little fetcher like a dumb harass. Like the pity. 198 00:13:00,140 --> 00:13:13,020 The pity part. The condescending little vibe. Condescending little vibe. Yeah enough said. 199 00:13:13,020 --> 00:13:20,220 I'm so mad. No for real. Oh that poor girl. I can't stand the end where he says we have not 200 00:13:20,220 --> 00:13:25,500 spoken in over a year and I'm so heartbroken. I'm just picturing how horrible he is in that 201 00:13:25,500 --> 00:13:29,420 marriage and she's like what's wrong honey what's wrong what's wrong. Like why are you so 202 00:13:29,420 --> 00:13:35,580 distant why are you so mad and he's just so like he can't tell her he's shut off he's pissed off at her 203 00:13:36,140 --> 00:13:44,700 for his own shit. Yeah oh I just feel like that's terrible. Could you imagine no like like honey open 204 00:13:44,700 --> 00:13:50,860 up like could you tell me what's going on. It's like okay well if you really want to know like I 205 00:13:50,860 --> 00:13:55,100 only dated you because you were about to be homeless and you were traumatized as a child and I was 206 00:13:55,100 --> 00:13:59,580 really in love with this other girl and cheated on you all this time and then we decided to break 207 00:13:59,580 --> 00:14:04,620 it off a little while ago and I've never had the balls to tell you. And I miss her. And I miss her. 208 00:14:04,620 --> 00:14:11,100 And I'm heartbroken that I've lived like this. And I wanted to be with her. And I still do. Yeah. 209 00:14:12,140 --> 00:14:17,660 She would say goodbye. Of course she would and she would say thanks for the memories even though 210 00:14:17,660 --> 00:14:23,100 they weren't that great. She'd say in your name the song. It's fine you guys are children. It's 211 00:14:23,100 --> 00:14:26,140 John Mayer. No. Bob Ross. No. 212 00:14:29,980 --> 00:14:36,540 And it's like he's really just torturing himself. It's like yeah he really just has zero guts 213 00:14:36,540 --> 00:14:41,180 whatsoever. All right here's a good one. I totally cheated on my wife because I didn't want to hurt 214 00:14:41,180 --> 00:14:48,780 her. I feel like we've had a few of those. Yeah. Just insane. Just trying to protect her feelings. 215 00:14:48,780 --> 00:14:56,380 Someone else said fake. There's no way two women would fall in love with this loser. Oh I'd be surprised. 216 00:14:56,380 --> 00:15:01,100 The top one says you're a coward and deserve to be heartbroken and somebody responded and said 217 00:15:01,100 --> 00:15:08,780 this may he forever step on Lego's barefoot. You guys ready. Sounds good. This sounds really good 218 00:15:08,780 --> 00:15:14,780 guys. Am I the asshole for calling my girlfriend selfish for refusing to learn sign language for 219 00:15:14,780 --> 00:15:23,100 my daughter. My daughter Ruby was born mute. She can understand words but we use sign language to 220 00:15:23,100 --> 00:15:28,780 communicate. While she can use her phone or write obviously she prefers to sign. The issue is my 221 00:15:28,780 --> 00:15:33,340 girlfriend Amanda. We've been dating for around nine months and introduced our children around 222 00:15:33,340 --> 00:15:38,780 three months ago. They don't know sign language so communication with Ruby was awkward at first. 223 00:15:38,780 --> 00:15:44,620 She hates having to write or use her phone at home. So I taught Amanda some basic signs beforehand 224 00:15:44,620 --> 00:15:49,740 and I've continued teaching her and Mia more and this time. Mia is getting a lot better actually. 225 00:15:49,740 --> 00:15:54,940 So Mia is the daughter of the girlfriend. But Amanda has apparently decided it's too hard and 226 00:15:54,940 --> 00:15:59,980 refuses to learn anymore. She says that it's unnecessary since Ruby can understand her 227 00:15:59,980 --> 00:16:05,340 and communicate other ways. While Ruby is usually willing to do that for them. She doesn't enjoy it 228 00:16:05,340 --> 00:16:10,540 and finds it frustrating. I told Amanda she's being selfish and lazy. That it's not fair to put all 229 00:16:10,540 --> 00:16:16,060 the effort on Ruby. It's one thing if she doesn't get it after years but it's only been a few months. 230 00:16:16,060 --> 00:16:20,700 It's just ridiculous. We got into a fight over it and she basically called me an asshole and said 231 00:16:20,700 --> 00:16:26,220 it's not her fault she struggles with it. But that doesn't mean just give up. If she wants to be in 232 00:16:26,220 --> 00:16:31,980 our life it's the bare minimum effort to put in. I clearly think she's just being selfish. While she 233 00:16:31,980 --> 00:16:37,260 thinks I'm an asshole and unfair. I vented to my brother and he agreed with Amanda that I can't 234 00:16:37,260 --> 00:16:42,220 force her to learn and not everyone is good with language. And that Ruby doesn't need it and I'm 235 00:16:42,220 --> 00:16:47,820 coddling her. I'm honestly still pissed off but I do love Amanda. She's normally thoughtful and kind 236 00:16:47,820 --> 00:16:52,700 and I guess it's possible it's just me being overprotective of Ruby. I think it's a reasonable 237 00:16:52,700 --> 00:17:01,100 expectation but I'm starting to doubt myself. Yo. Yo. No. Goodbye Amanda. Literally goodbye. 238 00:17:01,100 --> 00:17:05,340 Like I'm putting my daughter over anything at that point especially if you're just dating. 239 00:17:05,340 --> 00:17:11,340 You're not married to that person. Right. Like no one red flag is over. My kid before anything 240 00:17:11,340 --> 00:17:18,220 else. Well that's a big one. That's a huge one. That is so wrong. And it really is the bare minimum 241 00:17:18,220 --> 00:17:24,780 for her to just figure it out. You gotta just learn. It takes time. It could take years but 242 00:17:24,780 --> 00:17:34,700 that's okay as long as you're willing to try. Right. She's a b****. I know when I read this I was 243 00:17:35,980 --> 00:17:45,180 sorry. Sign language for anyone honestly is like I think if I put two months of like wanting to learn 244 00:17:45,820 --> 00:17:51,500 and actually trying. Yeah. Like that's like any language when you actually are like trying to 245 00:17:51,500 --> 00:17:56,700 do it with someone. Yeah. You learn it. You're going to learn it. Yeah. Like you will no matter 246 00:17:56,700 --> 00:18:01,580 how terrible you are if you don't have a gift for it at all. You will learn it. I love sign language. 247 00:18:01,580 --> 00:18:06,780 I mean I'm definitely not fluent in sign language but I really enjoy sign language. I feel like 248 00:18:06,780 --> 00:18:12,380 you could absolutely learn it. It's not impossible and it is the bare minimum like you said. I feel 249 00:18:12,380 --> 00:18:18,620 so sad. I like want to cry for it. That one is really sad. He cannot be like he can't overlook 250 00:18:18,620 --> 00:18:23,820 that one thing because I promise you if he did that he's going to regret it for the rest of his 251 00:18:23,820 --> 00:18:29,260 life. He's going to get married to her and he's going to get a divorce. You 100% off. Yeah. 252 00:18:29,260 --> 00:18:34,300 Because there's going to be more things down the road where she's going to push more and more of 253 00:18:34,300 --> 00:18:39,740 certain things. Here's the other thing. How hard is it to learn the alphabet and sign language? 254 00:18:39,740 --> 00:18:45,500 Not freaking hard. That's like a day. Yeah. And then you can just spell of things. You can just 255 00:18:45,500 --> 00:18:51,420 communicate that way and then like learn. Yeah. I mean it goes without saying that there's literally 256 00:18:51,420 --> 00:18:59,740 there's no excuse for not being willing to learn how to communicate with his daughter. Yeah. It's 257 00:18:59,740 --> 00:19:05,100 like what are we even talking about here? You're dating. Are you going to blend families or are you 258 00:19:05,100 --> 00:19:11,180 not going to do what's required for that? Well and her daughter seems just fine with it. She 259 00:19:11,180 --> 00:19:17,260 loves it and she's learning fast and the thing is about like sign language it's like and lots of 260 00:19:17,260 --> 00:19:21,980 like every other language it's like there's English is so hard. Like there's different 261 00:19:21,980 --> 00:19:27,500 conjugations. There's all like one word could mean 12 different things you know and like spell 262 00:19:27,500 --> 00:19:34,620 the same way but like really like sign language is pretty straightforward and the signs most of the 263 00:19:34,620 --> 00:19:41,100 time like make sense and look like what you're trying to say and so it's like it's really not I 264 00:19:41,100 --> 00:19:46,140 mean I don't want to say it's not that hard because I mean I'm sure it is for some people but she can 265 00:19:46,140 --> 00:19:50,940 do it. She can handle it. She's a grown woman. Yeah it's like she's not she doesn't have to learn 266 00:19:50,940 --> 00:19:57,260 Mandarin. No. Like it's not you don't have to learn some crazy language. That's okay honey. Yeah. 267 00:19:59,180 --> 00:20:03,260 She's gonna have that's literally the type of stuff that would have to be unpacked in therapy 268 00:20:03,260 --> 00:20:07,180 right years down the road because nobody's even gonna have the conversation with her like hey 269 00:20:07,180 --> 00:20:11,740 it's not your fault that Amanda got kicked to the curb like that you know this didn't work out. 270 00:20:12,780 --> 00:20:20,940 What do you think of the brother deciding with the girlfriend? He's the brother from 271 00:20:20,940 --> 00:20:25,340 the couple weeks ago that was going through the phone for the nudes. Yeah same guy. Yeah. 272 00:20:25,340 --> 00:20:30,220 Same guy. That's the brother that has a crush on the brother's girlfriend. What about that one? 273 00:20:30,220 --> 00:20:36,220 Yeah he's sucking up to her for sure. Ten years later he's like dude I need your insight. 274 00:20:37,500 --> 00:20:45,740 Oh yeah dude. You're wrong. Like bad idea like don't do that. Yeah. All right you guys are 275 00:20:45,740 --> 00:20:52,060 gonna hear some comments. Pepper90210 said this should be a deal breaker for you. 276 00:20:52,060 --> 00:21:01,900 Yeah. Yeah. No I agree. Little Ilean said your brother is an asshole too asking for someone 277 00:21:01,900 --> 00:21:06,460 that I'm guessing you might see a future with to learn how to best communicate with your daughter 278 00:21:06,460 --> 00:21:12,620 is not coddling her and she does in fact need to be able to communicate but more importantly 279 00:21:12,620 --> 00:21:18,060 in a manner she feels most comfortable with asking a child to accommodate an adult is honestly one 280 00:21:18,060 --> 00:21:23,420 of the most entitled things I've ever heard. The fact that adult is saying this is too hard for me 281 00:21:24,220 --> 00:21:28,780 do it how I want to is troubling and something you should really consider before taking any 282 00:21:28,780 --> 00:21:34,220 further steps with Amanda. That sums it up. Amanda's gotta go. She's gotta go. I literally 283 00:21:34,220 --> 00:21:40,700 started tearing up. I've never done that in any store we have ever had on this show podcast 284 00:21:40,700 --> 00:21:49,740 because that is so sad. Like he needs to hear my voice right now. You need to leave. Dude like 285 00:21:49,740 --> 00:21:55,900 are you listening? You son of a bitch. She's talking to you. Guys I'm gonna start crying. 286 00:21:56,940 --> 00:22:06,780 You just relax. Let's okay. Let's move on. I love you Ruby. My fiance 29 and I 31M just found out 287 00:22:06,780 --> 00:22:11,580 that we're pregnant. My fiance mentioned that she wanted to wait to announce it at her cousin's 288 00:22:11,580 --> 00:22:16,140 wedding which will be taking place on Sunday. Her cousin and her husband have been struggling 289 00:22:16,140 --> 00:22:22,140 getting pregnant even with IVF or tons of others. Recently they just got some news that their insurance 290 00:22:22,140 --> 00:22:27,340 has stopped funding IVF and not to mention the heartbreak of a recent miscarriage on Mother's Day. 291 00:22:27,340 --> 00:22:33,580 They almost understandably held off on the wedding so my fiance brought it up to me. I told her it's 292 00:22:33,580 --> 00:22:39,180 not at all a good idea. This just seems so wrong especially it being at their wedding. I asked if 293 00:22:39,180 --> 00:22:43,660 she was going to at least ask her cousin for permission and she said no because she wanted it 294 00:22:43,660 --> 00:22:48,300 to be a surprise for everyone. I told her it's not the time nor the place for that and they would 295 00:22:48,300 --> 00:22:53,180 take the spotlight off the couple. In their family there hasn't been a baby in three years so we'd 296 00:22:53,180 --> 00:22:57,900 be the first in that time. My fiance feels that the that it's the perfect time because it's such a 297 00:22:57,900 --> 00:23:02,700 joy and it's not like she can keep it away forever and their problems shouldn't keep her from telling 298 00:23:02,700 --> 00:23:07,980 something so positive. So it's on them and they turn it negative. I told her that's not the point. 299 00:23:07,980 --> 00:23:12,140 She knows what they've been struggling with and she's being selfish if she actually goes through 300 00:23:12,140 --> 00:23:16,300 with that. She cried and claimed I wasn't being supportive and I shouldn't be calling my 301 00:23:16,300 --> 00:23:21,820 pregnant fiance selfish. She doesn't want me to come to come with her to the wedding anymore either 302 00:23:21,820 --> 00:23:26,940 feeling as if I would kill the mood and she hasn't been talking to me either and then this is like 303 00:23:26,940 --> 00:23:32,460 an edit it says so about my fiance and her cousin's relationship. My fiance always saw competition 304 00:23:32,460 --> 00:23:38,940 in her cousin because her cousin would be better at things than her grades dancing cosmetics. 305 00:23:38,940 --> 00:23:43,660 Since they were kids they and she hates that. Last year they hadn't argument about it because my 306 00:23:43,660 --> 00:23:49,500 fiance felt her cousin bragged too much whereas my fiance also mentioned there was one thing her 307 00:23:49,500 --> 00:23:55,660 cousin wasn't good at but never said what it was. So in shorter terms the relationship is in between 308 00:23:55,660 --> 00:24:00,140 good and bad but her cousin wanted to invite her to the wedding. I'm guessing to rekindle that. 309 00:24:00,140 --> 00:24:04,940 If anyone is reading this update coming soon just been going through some stuff for a long 310 00:24:04,940 --> 00:24:12,140 wait. Oh please tell me there's an update. What was one year ago. Oh oh dude that girl sucks. 311 00:24:13,660 --> 00:24:20,620 The worst. So bad. Just be the fact that you could be insensitive enough to want to announce it 312 00:24:20,620 --> 00:24:25,260 in front of the couple. Right. That's been going through the infertility. That's crazy but then 313 00:24:25,260 --> 00:24:30,380 to do it at their wedding on top of that. And then we're going to cancel it because of the 314 00:24:30,380 --> 00:24:35,500 miscarriage and all of the stuff. That's heartbreaking. They're just like hey we're so glad this worked 315 00:24:35,500 --> 00:24:40,620 out for you guys and we're expecting and we didn't have to spend thousands of dollars and it happened 316 00:24:40,620 --> 00:24:46,300 for us naturally and everything's great and like why aren't you guys happy for us. Oh congrats on 317 00:24:46,300 --> 00:24:53,340 your wedding. That's on you. That is grade A the worst. Like this fits in all the categories. 318 00:24:53,340 --> 00:25:00,060 This is like worst person of the year. This is like literally in all the things. Definitely main 319 00:25:00,060 --> 00:25:06,780 character vibes but oh my gosh. Yeah. And not to mention that their relationship has been strained 320 00:25:06,780 --> 00:25:13,900 basically their the whole life now too. So it's like you really care that much about like one 321 00:25:13,900 --> 00:25:19,260 up in your cousin that you're going to like do that at her wedding. I hope her cousin does something 322 00:25:19,260 --> 00:25:23,420 shitty at her wedding if she actually does that because they're not married. She won't survive. 323 00:25:23,420 --> 00:25:32,060 Her cousin's going to pop her one. That's like the level of the level of like what's the word. 324 00:25:32,700 --> 00:25:38,780 Like the way that that would hurt for the cousin to have them announce it at her wedding. 325 00:25:39,820 --> 00:25:44,540 Like oh just that infertility stuff too. Like not to beat the dead horse. That is like 326 00:25:44,540 --> 00:25:50,380 it's so hard to explain what that feels like for those people and like you start to want to just 327 00:25:50,380 --> 00:25:56,380 wrap yourself in bubble wrap. Yeah. Because it's like you're it's so emotional. You can't avoid it. 328 00:25:56,380 --> 00:26:01,500 You see it everywhere and then like you have to think that somebody would like make a competition 329 00:26:01,500 --> 00:26:08,140 out of it. That person's such a bad person. Yeah. They weren't having that problem. Yeah. 330 00:26:08,140 --> 00:26:15,100 It doesn't matter. Like when someone's wedding like it's like wearing a white dress but worse 331 00:26:15,100 --> 00:26:20,700 getting proposed to at a wedding. Yeah. That is I think that you want to hear if you want to hear 332 00:26:20,700 --> 00:26:27,900 crazy story. Yes. At someone's baptism in South Africa. Someone got baptized right as soon as they 333 00:26:27,900 --> 00:26:33,500 got dunked and were walking out of the font. Literally someone announced now look behind you 334 00:26:33,500 --> 00:26:42,780 and the guy was on his mean proposing. No. Just just people in the ward. A guy and a girl. 335 00:26:42,780 --> 00:26:45,100 They both got from their missions and he was proposing. 336 00:26:47,500 --> 00:26:53,180 How messed up is that right as soon as the girl the girl gets dunked at the baptism. 337 00:26:54,540 --> 00:26:59,660 And then they close it. They close it and then one of the person's announces like 338 00:26:59,660 --> 00:27:06,620 now look behind there. Everyone's everyone turns around and then like freaking out. 339 00:27:06,620 --> 00:27:11,580 They just do it because all their family was there at that point. No clue. Who cares. Yeah. 340 00:27:12,940 --> 00:27:17,980 We're this committed. We're this committed to the gospel like our life which we're started on the 341 00:27:17,980 --> 00:27:25,900 right foot. Like it was really weird. You're getting baptized and literally someone's getting 342 00:27:25,900 --> 00:27:31,020 engaged right in front of you after you come out of the water and everyone's like you look and 343 00:27:31,020 --> 00:27:35,900 everyone's turned around looking at someone else and you're just like oh okay. That's your day. 344 00:27:37,500 --> 00:27:42,460 So I just want to clarify like how it ended. So the wedding hasn't happened yet. 345 00:27:43,420 --> 00:27:46,620 It's happening Sunday. So he probably wrote this like 346 00:27:47,580 --> 00:27:51,980 Tuesday and it's happening that weekend. She's like don't come with me. He has no idea if she's 347 00:27:51,980 --> 00:27:55,740 going to do it or not but she probably will do it because there's nothing stopping her. 348 00:27:55,740 --> 00:28:01,100 Yeah. She's just her world. Yep. Everybody's living in it. Can you imagine that couple's face 349 00:28:01,100 --> 00:28:06,460 at their wedding and hearing it? Yeah. It's like how and the family's probably like this is so 350 00:28:06,460 --> 00:28:10,780 awkward. Like we want to be happy for you but we don't want to do it here. Like that's weird. 351 00:28:10,780 --> 00:28:16,140 Yeah. That makes sense. That's the whole that's so tone deaf. Like that's the other thing is 352 00:28:16,140 --> 00:28:19,980 you have to consider the fact that there's you're affecting a lot of people because yeah. 353 00:28:20,700 --> 00:28:25,420 Like a lot of people would want to celebrate that moment for them but you putting them 354 00:28:25,420 --> 00:28:32,620 between the couple that just got married it's just a horrible thing. And she's actually the 355 00:28:32,620 --> 00:28:37,340 cousin the bad cousin. She's actually selling herself short air to you because she could get 356 00:28:37,340 --> 00:28:42,300 a way better reaction and a way better experience and memory with her family and loved ones if she 357 00:28:42,300 --> 00:28:48,220 did it outside of the couple that's struggling with infertility like a completely different day time. 358 00:28:49,660 --> 00:28:54,380 It could be such a beautiful moment but like you said it's she's not going to get that out of them. 359 00:28:54,380 --> 00:29:00,700 No. No. They're just all gonna she's rude and I hope so. Well and the thing is too is she 360 00:29:01,740 --> 00:29:07,580 is just gonna like how is she gonna she's just gonna stand up and like without her husband there too. 361 00:29:07,580 --> 00:29:13,500 She's like I'm praying like what like how is that gonna go down like but my baby dad is not here. 362 00:29:14,460 --> 00:29:17,820 She's gonna give a toast. I'm telling you right now. Yeah like goes up to the microphone. 363 00:29:17,820 --> 00:29:25,100 Like me and Sally have been competing our entire lives and like Sally I'm really happy for you 364 00:29:25,100 --> 00:29:30,940 and for everyone else like I I just want to let you know I'm pregnant. Sorry about your guys 365 00:29:30,940 --> 00:29:38,300 it's results but I'm pregnant. Oh my god. It's so bad. This is like it's like the scene of like a 366 00:29:38,300 --> 00:29:43,900 Steve Carell movie where it's so cringy. Yeah. And you literally just want to exit your skin like 367 00:29:43,900 --> 00:29:48,540 you just want to not exist anymore. That's what it feels like like the office. It's the office. 368 00:29:48,540 --> 00:29:55,180 It's like dinner for schmucks. That whole movie is like the most uncomfortable thing. We found the 369 00:29:55,180 --> 00:30:01,900 update. Isaiah found the update everybody. Yeah I found it. Okay you read it. Okay holy shit. 370 00:30:03,260 --> 00:30:08,540 Oh wait this is really good guys. Whoa. Sorry for the long wait as I have been working through 371 00:30:08,540 --> 00:30:16,460 some things. Me and my fiance breaking up working death of my grandfather etc. Oh RIP granddad. 372 00:30:16,460 --> 00:30:21,340 You know so I didn't expect to get a bunch of replies to my posts but a lot of them are helpful. 373 00:30:21,340 --> 00:30:26,540 My ex has determined to go to the wedding despite my protest and even planned out how she was going 374 00:30:26,540 --> 00:30:32,540 to refuse alcohol when offered. I did tell my ex's parents about what she was planning on doing. 375 00:30:32,540 --> 00:30:36,620 I didn't want to tell the groom or the bride because I wouldn't know how to put into words 376 00:30:36,620 --> 00:30:41,260 that they were making the whole situation any less awful. Ex's parents did end up telling the 377 00:30:41,260 --> 00:30:46,780 bride's parents and then they told the bride. The bride was so upset that she unfortunately 378 00:30:46,780 --> 00:30:57,740 called off the wedding. Oh my gosh. Everyone wanted her to continue it and invite my ex 379 00:30:57,740 --> 00:31:03,900 for a couple of plans. Guess thought of. Oh couple of plans like basically they were going to bomb 380 00:31:03,900 --> 00:31:09,260 her thing. Like they were going to like destroy her. Oh yeah this is an example when my ex announced 381 00:31:09,260 --> 00:31:13,900 it everyone would just say nonchalant and not give her excitement reaction she was hoping for 382 00:31:13,900 --> 00:31:19,660 and the classic just don't invite her plan. Oh my gosh. The bride was just understandably 383 00:31:19,660 --> 00:31:24,780 wanting to be left alone and she just texted my fiance a very long paragraph telling her what a 384 00:31:24,780 --> 00:31:29,980 horrible person she was. She just decided not to do the wedding anymore and her fiance was very 385 00:31:29,980 --> 00:31:35,180 heartbroken but all in all they were both grateful to me. My ex instantly knew that I was the cause 386 00:31:35,180 --> 00:31:40,700 of this and that she was furious with me even more because I posted about it on here but I 387 00:31:40,700 --> 00:31:46,460 also said a pretty sick thing about how she was still pretty much one anyways. I just decided to 388 00:31:46,460 --> 00:31:52,140 break up with her myself after that. Some of her family members are kind of upset at me as they 389 00:31:52,140 --> 00:31:56,700 believed I just caused a bunch of drama. Now I'm currently in the works of talking to an attorney 390 00:31:56,700 --> 00:32:02,060 as my ex told me I will not be seeing the baby after they are born. Oh yeah that sucks. I was 391 00:32:02,060 --> 00:32:07,100 already thinking that. I wasn't I didn't even think about that. So all that on top of grief working 392 00:32:07,100 --> 00:32:12,460 breakup being called a messy a mess starter by some of her family and still feeling like shit 393 00:32:12,460 --> 00:32:17,820 because either way the bride and groom were heartbroken. It's just a bunch of anxiety and 394 00:32:17,820 --> 00:32:24,780 stress on me. Anyway here's a long awaited update. Any questions I'll answer and then he has an edit 395 00:32:24,780 --> 00:32:29,340 and he says so they are pretty much already contemplating on canceling the wedding. They were 396 00:32:29,340 --> 00:32:34,220 already family members did stress her out over her miscarriage and canceling. Her fiance's family 397 00:32:34,220 --> 00:32:40,140 were excessive about oh she couldn't carry a baby to full term like a real woman. No way. 398 00:32:41,180 --> 00:32:46,940 Her fiance's family was saying that to her. Wow. Not to mention her own family went around 399 00:32:46,940 --> 00:32:52,460 spreading her miscarriage like wildfire which is how my ex and I found out. They told it to 400 00:32:52,460 --> 00:32:57,740 co-workers even. It's not the first time my ex has also interrupted her cousin's big events. 401 00:32:57,740 --> 00:33:04,540 Example when they turn when turning 17 my ex cake smashed her which wasn't fun for her cousin. 402 00:33:04,540 --> 00:33:08,700 Her their first pregnancy announcement which was the miscarriage was ruined because my ex 403 00:33:08,700 --> 00:33:15,100 blurted the news out but her cousins told her to go to get over that because it was a miscarriage 404 00:33:15,100 --> 00:33:22,380 anyways. So she told my family members. So she's told my family members. This is what I was told 405 00:33:22,380 --> 00:33:27,180 when asking about. So she's been at a breaking point for a while. She was considering just 406 00:33:27,180 --> 00:33:30,860 still continuing the wedding but wanted to be left alone. They didn't call off the wedding 407 00:33:30,860 --> 00:33:40,620 permanently just until the bride has cooled herself down. That's good. That's why. Well good for him 408 00:33:40,620 --> 00:33:48,300 that he did. Yes. That whole family sounds like a shit show. Right. Even her even the bride's 409 00:33:48,300 --> 00:33:55,420 fiance like hurt his family. Like who says that. Seriously. She's not a real woman because she 410 00:33:55,420 --> 00:34:02,060 can't carry a baby. That is ridiculous. That's so gross. On the update it says I'm concerned 411 00:34:02,060 --> 00:34:07,340 about this baby. The timing of it almost makes it seem like the ex got pregnant just to show 412 00:34:07,340 --> 00:34:12,620 up her cousin. I'm glad they're getting a lawyer early. Even think about that. Like maybe she was 413 00:34:12,620 --> 00:34:18,780 like oh my gosh like her wedding is coming up. Like I'm not married yet. So I'm pregnant. 414 00:34:20,620 --> 00:34:27,340 And if that is where she's coming from that is absolutely terrible. Oh my gosh. Can you imagine 415 00:34:27,340 --> 00:34:32,700 caring that much about like your cousin. That's embarrassing. Like how do you not just root for 416 00:34:32,700 --> 00:34:37,740 each other in life. I don't give a shit about mine. I'm just kidding. Well that that was that was 417 00:34:37,740 --> 00:34:42,620 crazy. There were some there were some triggering things in this episode. I'm feeling a little a 418 00:34:42,620 --> 00:34:49,260 little stirred up emotionally. Good thing I have therapy tomorrow. Shit. Yeah. Good to be back. 419 00:34:50,140 --> 00:34:55,340 I started school. That was so awesome. I love that for you. Nice. Call your therapist. Well let 420 00:34:55,340 --> 00:35:02,060 us know you guys. 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