1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,000 Welcome back in 2 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:16,780 I say is back everyone don't worry. He's here. Yep. Thank goodness was out of town, but I'm back. Where were you? 3 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:19,380 I don't 4 00:00:19,380 --> 00:00:21,080 Where'd you go? 5 00:00:21,080 --> 00:00:26,240 You didn't know no, we're to rocky point. You're lying. It's where you're lying 6 00:00:26,240 --> 00:00:33,320 That's why it looks so tan and beautiful. We literally went for two days. Yeah, no Whitney. You were like, I hate you 7 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:38,320 They I was believing it. I totally believe that's like well, that's awesome. Good for you guys 8 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:41,320 One click on pretending baby 9 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:45,640 Last week we did the 10 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:48,440 Dugrin show the group who had the fake 11 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:51,800 Marley. Nope. You lying 12 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:53,800 I 13 00:00:57,520 --> 00:01:00,560 Don't think it was me. I think it was you 14 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:04,880 I hadn't had it in a minute 15 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:07,440 It was me. So you little Grinch 16 00:01:09,040 --> 00:01:15,560 Humbug that's not the same story. I know it's not like you were trying to go. I just I was just stuck in the middle 17 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:22,320 Yep, I had the fake if you guessed that on socials, you were right nice this week 18 00:01:22,840 --> 00:01:24,840 We're doing the worst Christmas 19 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:27,480 Gift Christmas ever 20 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:45,480 And let's just jump right in do you want to do on a bat lead off for us ma'am? I would love to I wish you would 21 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:47,480 One click no pretending 22 00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:58,760 I'm by the asshole for refusing to make lasagna for Christmas after what my mother-in-law did last year I 23 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:05,160 30f have been together with my husband Michael 31m for seven years married for three and dating for four 24 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:09,400 My mother-in-law 58f has always hosted Christmas ever since I've known him 25 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:12,800 I've always made lasagna for Christmas and other special occasions 26 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:18,520 I am essentially the family lasagna maker and I honestly don't really mind since I love to cook and bake however 27 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:25,000 Last year my mother-in-law decided to make lasagna based off what she saw me doing when she was at my house and a recipe 28 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:25,960 She got off the internet 29 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:31,760 I was surprised that she prepared a pan of her own but didn't say anything and even got a small piece 30 00:02:31,760 --> 00:02:37,920 It did not taste good and it was barely touched whilst mine had almost half gone near the end of the dinner 31 00:02:37,920 --> 00:02:45,160 That infuriated my mother-in-law and she wound up doing a rant about how everyone loves me more than her and I tried to throw 32 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:52,160 My lasagna in the trash I say tried because it mainly ended up on the floor Michael and I quickly left after that and my mother-in-law has not 33 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:54,360 Apologized for it since yesterday 34 00:02:54,440 --> 00:03:01,480 She called me to confirm what I was making for Christmas this year and on her list of things I should make was lasagna 35 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:07,200 I politely said I wasn't going to make lasagna due to last year's incident and I'd be happy to make anything else 36 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:13,120 My mother-in-law wasn't as polite and called me vindictive for refusing to make the lasagna over a small mistake 37 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:16,400 I just refused again and made my mother-in-law angrier 38 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:19,240 So she told me that unless I show up with a lasagna in hand 39 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:22,760 She wouldn't be letting me at the Christmas celebration 40 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:28,240 My husband says it's easier to just make the lasagna to keep the peace and I shouldn't hold my mother-in-law's mistake 41 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:34,120 That she made out of anger against her word got to my sister-in-law and brother-in-law from my mother-in-law 42 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:41,100 And they're saying I should also make it even if it's just half of what I would usually make so you love lasagna 43 00:03:41,100 --> 00:03:49,880 I love lasagna. So tell us what you think fun fact Joan. He gave us a lasagna the other day. Oh, yes, I think 44 00:03:50,640 --> 00:03:56,500 Was there what was the point in short was it am I the asshole or what did you hear it? I did 45 00:03:56,500 --> 00:03:59,240 Okay, what was the very beginning? What is the title? 46 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:05,640 So am I the asshole for refusing to make lasagna for my for Christmas after what my mother-in-law did last year? 47 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:11,320 I don't think she is she's trying to I like I like it. She's trying to prove a point. So you think okay? 48 00:04:11,480 --> 00:04:17,120 Yeah, I just think like the mother-in-law hasn't said sorry. Yeah, and she threw a fit 49 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:31,720 Yeah, so it's like make a point. I would do the same thing to my mother-in-law. I 50 00:04:32,920 --> 00:04:38,000 Would do the same thing hypothetically if I was ever in that situation that maybe I would do that 51 00:04:39,080 --> 00:04:45,520 That would be hard because we're just kind of hard the mother-in-law was mad because no one was eating this her daughters 52 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:48,040 lasagna, but everyone was eating like let's say 53 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:53,280 This is the mom. It was hers. Oh was the mom's it was mother-in-law versus 54 00:04:53,800 --> 00:04:55,560 daughter-in-law and 55 00:04:55,560 --> 00:04:57,560 daughter-in-law one 56 00:04:57,560 --> 00:04:59,080 and like 57 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:01,360 Hello, that's the thing is like bruh 58 00:05:01,920 --> 00:05:09,120 The food speaks people are not picking the dish that they like they're not like oh, I like the daughter-in-law better 59 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:13,880 It's like oh this lasagna tastes better. Well, and she brings it every freaking year 60 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:19,400 And we know it's good. Yeah, like that's her thing to bring. It's like you can't get mad sweetheart 61 00:05:19,400 --> 00:05:23,400 Like that's like that's a crappy mother-in-law. She was trying to be like oh 62 00:05:23,800 --> 00:05:27,100 I could do it and I probably could do it better than you like you're not that great 63 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:32,160 Right, and she literally she had to be planning that for so long imagine the last the last 64 00:05:32,680 --> 00:05:36,760 Christmas dinner. She's like all this attention. She's like they freaking love her 65 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:39,720 I'm gonna make a better lasagna than this bitch next year 66 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:47,180 Or she was like I know mine's not gonna be better, but it'll give me a reason to be upset and like freak out 67 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:54,280 Okay, so that's already has some bad blood with the daughter-in-law and it's like okay 68 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:59,320 But that's like a different level of girl right cuz I would not have thought that she would have like plotted out 69 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:04,120 Like even if it's bad even if mine isn't as good as hers. I can do the pity party 70 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:06,120 I would just think that she'd be like oh 71 00:06:06,120 --> 00:06:10,320 I'm gonna make a better lasagna than her and then everyone's gonna like me more see that's like the boy 72 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:13,640 Yeah, and yeah, yeah like the girl like I 73 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:18,440 Think you're really competitive then cuz that way sounds psycho. Yeah, I 74 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:21,760 Like my thing is I'm not gonna try and step up 75 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:27,000 And compete with someone if I know that they like your sweet potato casserole 76 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:32,680 I ain't ever gonna make it again. That's your that's yours now. No, I don't want that 77 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:38,500 I'll make it. It's yours. I'll make it dude. I say you can have it the sweet potatoes getting those cooked 78 00:06:38,500 --> 00:06:44,640 I did it like three different ways in the oven boiled and in the microwave. I was like or ever 79 00:06:44,640 --> 00:06:50,280 For these things to cook all the way through I when I brought mine. I didn't have enough time and they weren't cooked all the way through 80 00:06:50,280 --> 00:06:52,280 They were like it's crunchy 81 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:54,160 Yeah 82 00:06:54,160 --> 00:06:57,800 Everything about that stupid devil guys are crunchy the top 83 00:06:57,800 --> 00:07:02,440 I was over the marshmallow is really delicious other than not really bad 84 00:07:03,440 --> 00:07:05,440 marshmallows and not go wrong 85 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:10,440 I didn't burn them. Yeah, it's good. Yeah, it's bad. But 86 00:07:11,240 --> 00:07:15,460 Yeah, this mother-in-law sucks like trying to be like I'm gonna make an even better one 87 00:07:15,460 --> 00:07:19,760 Like you're not that great, honey. Like let me show you it's so weird. That's messed up 88 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:27,120 And like what is anybody even doing trying to compete with the Kirkland signature? Legenda was on you literally like 89 00:07:28,240 --> 00:07:34,120 Get your lasagna from Costco because it's way easier and it's better probably so good 90 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:36,800 That's my that's my jam. I 91 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:40,560 Know so good 92 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:42,800 I think 93 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:46,340 Personally op should get over it and make the lasagna 94 00:07:46,340 --> 00:07:50,700 Yeah, because like mother-in-law stomping around does nothing 95 00:07:51,780 --> 00:07:54,600 There's no reason to be like no not too good 96 00:07:55,300 --> 00:07:59,800 Like you ruined it. It's like no make the lasagna everyone wants it just yeah 97 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:04,140 You're good at it. Just make it just bring it and like doesn't matter mother-in-law is gonna be mad either way 98 00:08:04,140 --> 00:08:07,220 I mean the girls. I was no he definitely has some 99 00:08:07,860 --> 00:08:14,140 PTSD though like last time I brought lasagna like I clearly heard lasagna does not make the mother-in-law happy 100 00:08:14,140 --> 00:08:21,660 Well, it's because of the competition. It's because mother-in-law is like cuckoo. Yeah, so do it for the rest of the group 101 00:08:21,860 --> 00:08:24,020 Do it for the fam. Yeah, literally 102 00:08:24,580 --> 00:08:26,580 Asking her to make it. That's true 103 00:08:27,220 --> 00:08:29,900 Maybe it's another sabotage. I thought you sent her 104 00:08:30,460 --> 00:08:33,260 Different foods and she said I'll do anything but the lasagna 105 00:08:33,300 --> 00:08:39,120 Yes, you sent her a list of and one of the things on the list was her lasagna and the girl was like 106 00:08:39,300 --> 00:08:43,140 All the only I'm not bringing a lasagna, but I can bring so why is 107 00:08:43,140 --> 00:08:48,900 It's then she was being petty then too. She also had to say it was no all bringing mashed potatoes 108 00:08:49,260 --> 00:08:51,260 She'd have to say I'll bring mashed potatoes 109 00:08:51,940 --> 00:08:54,780 But not lasagna if she got a list 110 00:08:55,100 --> 00:08:57,820 But that's probably what the mother-in-law was expecting her to pick 111 00:08:58,340 --> 00:09:03,700 So the mother-in-law sent her a list of like the exact things she wanted her to bring not like hey pick two 112 00:09:04,260 --> 00:09:10,500 Yeah, yeah, it was like a legit list of like I want you to bring this this this she was like, okay great 113 00:09:10,500 --> 00:09:14,180 I'll bring this this I'm not bringing lasagna. Is there something else I can bring? 114 00:09:14,180 --> 00:09:18,460 No, thanks. I obviously so what do we think about the husband though? 115 00:09:18,460 --> 00:09:21,740 Like his stance is like dude, just bring a lasagna. Let's just go 116 00:09:22,700 --> 00:09:27,320 Yeah, that's that's the male. He just wants to see his family. Yeah, he's like 117 00:09:27,900 --> 00:09:34,620 Okay, like I just don't want there to be fireworks at Christmas and your lasagna is good. Please make it. Yeah. Yeah, that's valid 118 00:09:35,220 --> 00:09:39,900 Is there a good way you can support his wife though with this other than just no do it? 119 00:09:39,900 --> 00:09:41,900 Yeah, it's like I mean, it's like 120 00:09:42,660 --> 00:09:44,660 Look if you're gonna choose not to 121 00:09:45,500 --> 00:09:51,320 It's the wrong choice, but well and like we're gonna not gonna let her in Christmas if she doesn't bring it 122 00:09:52,100 --> 00:09:57,540 Like you kind of have to play by mother-in-law's rules. Yeah, like it's she's kind of got you pinned 123 00:09:58,260 --> 00:10:00,260 so 124 00:10:00,260 --> 00:10:08,100 It's a stick it up and honestly all else fails go to Costco you guys are not ready for this. Please get hyped 125 00:10:10,460 --> 00:10:13,780 Am I the asshole for giving my girlfriend therapy for Christmas? 126 00:10:16,980 --> 00:10:26,460 Let's freakin go. All right, I am 32 literally my age got my girlfriend F29 six sessions of therapy for her birthday and 127 00:10:26,460 --> 00:10:33,540 Christmas present this year her birthday is December 16th. I couldn't book the appointments myself since it's not my insurance 128 00:10:33,540 --> 00:10:35,180 And she is not my dependent obviously 129 00:10:35,180 --> 00:10:41,300 So I gave her a nice card and inside said I would pay for the amount for six sessions of therapy based on the rates in my area 130 00:10:41,300 --> 00:10:44,820 I spent a lot of time researching providers that matched your health insurance and 131 00:10:45,060 --> 00:10:49,940 Settle on a general budget that is absolutely up for negotiation based on what provider she ends up liking 132 00:10:49,940 --> 00:10:54,580 We got into an argument when I gave it to her and she is staying with a friend which she has never done before 133 00:10:54,580 --> 00:11:00,420 She's been living in my apartment for five months. She screamed and cried asking if I thought she was crazier if I was unhappy 134 00:11:00,420 --> 00:11:06,980 Which is not the case at all. She's an amazing woman has been getting increasingly emotional over small things and has talked about 135 00:11:07,140 --> 00:11:12,020 Wanting to consider therapy. I think she would benefit from it because she is under a lot of stress from her job 136 00:11:12,020 --> 00:11:18,260 It's had some bad relationships in the past and over the last few months has gotten increasingly irritable no matter what I do to fix things 137 00:11:18,260 --> 00:11:23,820 I was trying to be thoughtful since therapy isn't something I would want to pay for myself since it isn't a fun purchase 138 00:11:23,820 --> 00:11:27,860 We've been together for over a year and I thought that is what partners do for each other 139 00:11:28,380 --> 00:11:33,780 She told the friend she's staying with f29 or something that I think she's crazy, which is not true 140 00:11:33,780 --> 00:11:38,060 I'm just not a trained professional and when she complains about work and things. I can't change 141 00:11:38,060 --> 00:11:39,740 I don't know what she wants from me 142 00:11:39,740 --> 00:11:44,580 I can't fix her problems because I'm not doing them to her and they are the same problems over and over 143 00:11:44,580 --> 00:11:49,500 I can't keep track of all the details and developments anymore. It is frustrating hearing the same old things 144 00:11:49,500 --> 00:11:54,260 I can't fix her shitty co-workers or her bad budgeting since I've never been in those situations 145 00:11:54,260 --> 00:11:57,820 So I wanted to set her up with someone who knows what to do also for the record 146 00:11:57,820 --> 00:12:02,980 I got her another gift she could unwrap on Christmas Day and an additional one she could unwrap in front of her family 147 00:12:02,980 --> 00:12:08,100 It is very nice slash expensive, but she hasn't opened that yet and doesn't know what I got her in parentheses 148 00:12:08,100 --> 00:12:12,500 It is expensive jewelry am I the asshole for genuinely trying to help my girlfriend 149 00:12:13,460 --> 00:12:15,460 Whoa, yeah, that's a no for me 150 00:12:15,460 --> 00:12:23,580 I feel like that's something like not a bad gift. Okay, not a bad gift first of all, but 151 00:12:24,500 --> 00:12:26,500 maybe 152 00:12:27,220 --> 00:12:35,200 That's so hard because it's like just to be blindsided like okay like I'm all like I'm gonna combine birthday and your Christmas 153 00:12:35,200 --> 00:12:37,800 And I'm gonna give you therapy 154 00:12:38,740 --> 00:12:42,580 It's just I don't know like on paper. That's terrible 155 00:12:42,580 --> 00:12:48,560 I could definitely see why it would be very offensive like a hundred percent 156 00:12:48,560 --> 00:12:53,260 I could see her not taking it well, but I don't think he's that's all I don't 157 00:12:53,620 --> 00:12:57,940 He is definitely came from a very good place. I think it's from a place of 158 00:12:58,860 --> 00:13:00,380 maybe 159 00:13:00,380 --> 00:13:06,180 Maybe not like the ultimate best place right, but just like I'm not equipped or 160 00:13:08,060 --> 00:13:10,060 emotionally 161 00:13:10,060 --> 00:13:15,980 Capable of helping you with your stuff, right, but it doesn't sound that major 162 00:13:16,500 --> 00:13:19,020 It's like complaining about work stuff 163 00:13:19,700 --> 00:13:23,180 And her getting irritable. Yeah, it's like that 164 00:13:23,180 --> 00:13:29,460 I think he's not like emotionally equipped even if it's something so small like I don't think he's like I 165 00:13:30,220 --> 00:13:34,540 Don't think he is the type of person that I can like carry it very maybe he needs help them 166 00:13:34,540 --> 00:13:37,780 Maybe he needs to take a class on how he can help his girlfriend 167 00:13:37,780 --> 00:13:42,900 Yeah, rather than him being like, okay, you need therapy you go talk to somebody else. Yeah, and 168 00:13:43,420 --> 00:13:50,100 I'll just get to reap the benefits of you being not being amazing here in a bowl. Oh, it's hard 169 00:13:50,340 --> 00:13:55,460 It's hard. Hey boys, please. I don't think it's a bad gift. It might be bad timing 170 00:13:55,740 --> 00:13:58,660 Like maybe January 5th. Okay 171 00:14:00,060 --> 00:14:03,460 Like here's some like I wanted to pay pay for these 172 00:14:03,460 --> 00:14:10,420 Yeah, you know, maybe we can just like go together to two and then four for you alone. I don't know 173 00:14:14,260 --> 00:14:16,420 I think for a Christmas gift though, that's 174 00:14:18,020 --> 00:14:22,300 I don't think it's messed. I just think it's bad timing. I think it's just a guy being a guy 175 00:14:22,500 --> 00:14:27,220 They've also talked about her going to therapy. She has definitely been open to it 176 00:14:27,220 --> 00:14:31,660 Oh, yeah, she's expressed that she would maybe want to okay, so I just I just don't think that's like 177 00:14:31,660 --> 00:14:33,660 Here's a card. I 178 00:14:34,780 --> 00:14:36,780 Don't know. I think it's just like 179 00:14:36,780 --> 00:14:40,540 Here's a Christmas for either. I like I think he should just not say there was a present 180 00:14:40,540 --> 00:14:46,740 Yeah, but I want to do this for you like yeah, don't but not for like a present. Yeah, like oh 181 00:14:48,260 --> 00:14:54,740 So many thoughts so many thoughts. I'm shook that I'm on an island here thinking this guy is the worst human being on the planet 182 00:14:55,540 --> 00:14:57,780 No, not the worst human being on the planet a 183 00:14:57,780 --> 00:15:03,140 Christmas gift think about how much six sessions of therapy is 184 00:15:03,740 --> 00:15:05,980 Think of all the things he could have gotten for her 185 00:15:06,860 --> 00:15:10,860 There's so many problems here. First of all, she's complaining about work 186 00:15:11,540 --> 00:15:19,460 work and like past relationships like they're in their late 20s early 30s like 187 00:15:20,940 --> 00:15:26,300 You're gonna have past relationships you're gonna have stuff that has happened like it's not like she's like 188 00:15:26,300 --> 00:15:28,720 Melting down and she can't deal with life 189 00:15:29,740 --> 00:15:38,060 It's like the standard baseline of operating. He's like I'm sorry. I can't I'm like sick of listening to you talk about your coworkers 190 00:15:38,300 --> 00:15:41,140 Here's therapy for Christmas and your birthday 191 00:15:41,740 --> 00:15:44,060 Six six sessions of therapy 192 00:15:44,700 --> 00:15:47,020 Like that's like I mean 193 00:15:47,740 --> 00:15:51,780 Minimum that's $600 minimum, but it's probably closer to a thousand 194 00:15:51,780 --> 00:16:02,220 And it's like the biggest the biggest issue here is that he's like you're in a relationship with this person and these are life problems 195 00:16:02,660 --> 00:16:07,460 You're like, sorry, but you got to go to a professional talk about your coworkers talk about 196 00:16:08,140 --> 00:16:14,060 Your previous relationships. Maybe that one like fringes it because like, you know people have issues, but 197 00:16:15,660 --> 00:16:18,060 How this made it to am I the devil 198 00:16:18,060 --> 00:16:20,740 Yeah, this guy sounds like he's making a lot of money 199 00:16:21,620 --> 00:16:27,340 Spensive jewelry and one present and she like I could just imagine she has every right 200 00:16:29,060 --> 00:16:35,980 What on earth would you do if you opened a card and it's like here you go you get to go to therapy six sessions 201 00:16:38,140 --> 00:16:44,660 It would it just depends on the circumstance if we had talked about that I would need it I wanted therapy and I wanted to go and like 202 00:16:45,300 --> 00:16:47,300 blah blah blah 203 00:16:47,300 --> 00:16:53,380 We're like three years in married at that point like I probably think like oh, it's that was so nice and thoughtful 204 00:16:53,380 --> 00:16:58,780 They're not married. It's one year into dating one year into being together. They're not married yet. They're not engaged 205 00:16:59,020 --> 00:17:05,460 Yeah, like that's a big investment for him. That's why I know like if they don't get married 206 00:17:05,460 --> 00:17:11,020 He's like wow, I just paid for this girl random girl to like get some therapy some guy's wife 207 00:17:12,020 --> 00:17:14,580 You're welcome. No, but oh 208 00:17:14,580 --> 00:17:16,100 Oh 209 00:17:16,100 --> 00:17:21,980 I cannot deal like yeah, I get where you're coming from Joe. Honestly this girl just sounds exhausting to me 210 00:17:22,380 --> 00:17:25,580 Locate she sounds like every human ever 211 00:17:27,660 --> 00:17:32,420 I don't know many guys that would be doing that unless they were hard 212 00:17:33,500 --> 00:17:35,220 They needed help 213 00:17:35,220 --> 00:17:36,540 No, I 214 00:17:36,540 --> 00:17:40,700 That's it's like do you not see the evasiveness in it money is not an issue for this guy 215 00:17:40,700 --> 00:17:44,620 So he's just like I I literally just don't really want to hear your problems 216 00:17:44,620 --> 00:17:49,940 So can you go to a professional? It could be the same things over and over again and nothing he does 217 00:17:49,940 --> 00:17:54,380 I know people that like you just want to talk and talk and talk. You don't take advice 218 00:17:54,740 --> 00:18:01,540 Just one event and like I'm one of those people. I don't I'm sorry. I'm not gonna hear it for a few years straight 219 00:18:02,380 --> 00:18:08,780 And you're not changing anything. They're just in a relationship like it's like all she wants is 220 00:18:08,780 --> 00:18:13,660 Emotional safety and it sounds to me like she just gets stonewalled. It sounds like he's just like hmm 221 00:18:13,900 --> 00:18:15,260 That sucks 222 00:18:15,260 --> 00:18:20,500 We don't know that after a while. I would the fact that he got her therapy for Christmas 223 00:18:20,860 --> 00:18:26,260 Proves that that's how he is because alternatively. Hey, let's have a fantastic Christmas together 224 00:18:26,260 --> 00:18:27,500 I'm gonna get you lots of nice stuff 225 00:18:27,500 --> 00:18:31,340 And then if therapy is a real issue and you bring that up and you agree on it together 226 00:18:31,340 --> 00:18:34,580 Then it's like hey, guess what like I know your financial situations tough 227 00:18:34,580 --> 00:18:40,060 I want to help you get started in therapy, but it's not your Christmas and birthday gift. Yeah, it's not like here 228 00:18:40,060 --> 00:18:44,380 You go. This is how you're gonna like celebrate this year. I knew you knew you 229 00:18:45,580 --> 00:18:50,020 Like therapy is a gift. There's people out there that like it's not a gift 230 00:18:51,020 --> 00:18:52,740 it's 231 00:18:52,740 --> 00:18:56,740 It is bad timing a donation a bad decision to donate 232 00:18:57,300 --> 00:18:59,860 It is cherry. Yeah, I 233 00:18:59,860 --> 00:19:03,580 Think that there could be good intention with it 234 00:19:03,580 --> 00:19:10,260 So I'll agree with you guys there that like it's not the worst thing that he wants her to go to therapy. It's that he's like 235 00:19:12,420 --> 00:19:17,420 He's really just being a boy would be worse if she was fat and gave her a treadmill no 236 00:19:18,060 --> 00:19:22,580 That'd be worse. No, I don't think so just like out of nowhere 237 00:19:22,580 --> 00:19:30,220 She had mentioned like oh like I think I want a treadmill to like get in shape he buys her a treadmill 238 00:19:30,540 --> 00:19:32,860 So that's fine, but if she mentioned 239 00:19:33,620 --> 00:19:36,060 Like I want I want therapy 240 00:19:36,060 --> 00:19:41,740 I don't know but it wasn't like I want therapy will you will you buy me therapy for Christmas like a 241 00:19:42,060 --> 00:19:48,540 Treadmill is a good is a good gift for a gift exactly, but it's like I I want a puppy for Christmas 242 00:19:48,540 --> 00:19:50,540 I want a jewelry I want 243 00:19:50,540 --> 00:19:52,540 Right kitchen aid I want 244 00:19:53,060 --> 00:19:57,580 Fun things I don't want therapy for Christmas. Yeah, that makes me sad 245 00:19:58,980 --> 00:20:00,980 Yeah, everyone hates him 246 00:20:01,340 --> 00:20:03,340 Everyone 247 00:20:04,780 --> 00:20:06,780 I said bad gift 248 00:20:07,220 --> 00:20:11,980 No, good good gift bad timing good donation bad time 249 00:20:12,180 --> 00:20:19,100 The one thing that is for sure is that the dude needs therapy to access his feelings because just being there for your girlfriend 250 00:20:19,100 --> 00:20:27,420 Shouldn't be that demanding especially for things like your work like especially for like oh my co-workers blah blah blah 251 00:20:27,740 --> 00:20:34,140 Yeah, it's like it's and it's not he it's not like he's like I'm so freaking tired of her complaining to me about her life 252 00:20:34,140 --> 00:20:36,140 That I need her to talk to somebody else 253 00:20:36,340 --> 00:20:37,780 He just like yeah 254 00:20:37,780 --> 00:20:41,820 She could she complains about things and like she mentioned that she'd be down to go to therapy 255 00:20:41,820 --> 00:20:42,940 So like I just think it's better 256 00:20:42,940 --> 00:20:44,540 So this is the top comment 257 00:20:44,540 --> 00:20:50,060 You're the asshole and then it's quoting his thing when she complains about work and things I can't change 258 00:20:50,060 --> 00:20:52,380 I don't know what she wants from me. That's what he said 259 00:20:52,820 --> 00:20:59,140 When she complains about work and thinks that I can't change. I don't know what she wants how many 260 00:21:00,300 --> 00:21:01,500 guilty 261 00:21:01,500 --> 00:21:09,300 Literally guilty complaining to Isaiah about things that he can't change I can't change and he's not telling he doesn't shut down and 262 00:21:10,100 --> 00:21:13,460 Freak out or whatever. No, and like that's not your gift 263 00:21:13,460 --> 00:21:15,460 You're not getting therapy for Christmas 264 00:21:22,620 --> 00:21:27,140 So the plot twist here is we actually got you guys therapies, but it's couples there. Thank you 265 00:21:27,140 --> 00:21:31,940 I would appreciate that jokes, but we love therapy in this household 266 00:21:31,940 --> 00:21:34,180 That's not of not lost on us 267 00:21:34,180 --> 00:21:39,420 So the number one comment said she wants you to listen to her vent for a frick sake 268 00:21:39,860 --> 00:21:42,940 Yeah, is that really a foreign concept to you? 269 00:21:42,940 --> 00:21:48,860 Am I the asshole for ruining Christmas and being upset the only gifts I got from my family were joke gifts 270 00:21:50,740 --> 00:21:52,740 That's 271 00:21:53,340 --> 00:21:58,620 Okay, so background my family likes to play pranks with Christmas and birthday gifts. It's nothing new I 272 00:21:59,380 --> 00:22:06,140 F21 as well as my five siblings from 29 to 37 years old have all been pranked on our birthdays and on Christmas 273 00:22:06,140 --> 00:22:08,780 And usually it's one or two gifts this Christmas though 274 00:22:08,780 --> 00:22:14,200 I was the only person to get all joke gifts for example I unwrapped a MacBook from my brother 275 00:22:14,340 --> 00:22:17,460 But when I opened it it was just some chocolate which I don't eat 276 00:22:17,460 --> 00:22:21,620 So I gave it away and the MacBook was actually given to my sister inside a bag 277 00:22:21,620 --> 00:22:26,580 She wanted another gift was that I thought another gift was what I thought was a book 278 00:22:26,580 --> 00:22:32,260 I put on my Christmas list was actually just the book cover put on a dictionary when I asked my mom about the book 279 00:22:32,260 --> 00:22:34,780 She told me she gave it to my to my sister 280 00:22:34,780 --> 00:22:41,000 This went on with each present my siblings or parents had given me AirPods was just a charger block adapter 281 00:22:41,340 --> 00:22:44,420 gift cards were used and had zero balance a 282 00:22:44,460 --> 00:22:49,060 Card with a monopoly money and so on totaling into about 12 joke gifts 283 00:22:49,060 --> 00:22:55,940 I realized I went out of my way to get everyone something they wanted or they liked didn't get anything at this point 284 00:22:55,940 --> 00:22:59,880 I was bummed so I went to the living room to watch TV with my boyfriend at dinner 285 00:22:59,880 --> 00:23:04,740 They were all talking about how much they love their gifts and when my dad asked why I hadn't said anything about mine 286 00:23:04,740 --> 00:23:10,780 I said there wasn't much to say everyone but my boyfriend laughed and my mom said it was no big deal as everyone else 287 00:23:11,060 --> 00:23:12,540 Also got some joke gifts 288 00:23:12,540 --> 00:23:18,540 I told her every gift I got was a joke gift and that the ones they got was also followed by the real one 289 00:23:18,540 --> 00:23:24,980 My dad told me I needed to relax as I'm making a big deal about it and I'd have next Christmas to get the stuff on my list 290 00:23:24,980 --> 00:23:28,620 Not wanting to go back and forth 291 00:23:28,620 --> 00:23:33,140 I told my boyfriend I wanted to leave and we could spend the rest of Christmas break with his family 292 00:23:33,140 --> 00:23:38,100 Then go home my family got mad and told me not to go and to just stay because it wasn't serious 293 00:23:38,100 --> 00:23:43,140 I left and put my phone on do not disturb during the drive and by the time we got to my boyfriend's 294 00:23:43,340 --> 00:23:48,220 Parents house. I had several missed calls and texts from them calling me names like I'm grateful 295 00:23:48,540 --> 00:23:54,020 Sensitive and childish they said I ruined Christmas and made my parents upset because I left the next day 296 00:23:54,020 --> 00:23:58,180 I exchanged and opened gifts with my boyfriend and his family and one of the gifts 297 00:23:58,180 --> 00:24:02,140 I had gotten was the book I wanted the book my mom pretended to gift me 298 00:24:02,140 --> 00:24:07,460 I posted it on my Instagram story and not even zero minutes after posting it 299 00:24:07,460 --> 00:24:14,060 My sister sent a screenshot of my story to the family group chat and they basically got mad at me for leaving and telling me 300 00:24:14,060 --> 00:24:16,300 I ruined Christmas over some presents 301 00:24:16,300 --> 00:24:23,140 They told me I owe everyone especially my parents an apology because my mom spent new years sad because of my actions now 302 00:24:23,140 --> 00:24:25,140 I just want an outside party to tell me 303 00:24:25,420 --> 00:24:32,300 If I'm the asshole here am I in the wrong for being upset about the gifts and for leaving after reading their messages and 304 00:24:32,540 --> 00:24:39,660 Sitting on this for a few days. I'm not I'm now feeling like maybe I was upset over nothing and need to apologize to them 305 00:24:39,660 --> 00:24:41,660 No, girl. Oh my gosh 306 00:24:41,900 --> 00:24:44,660 First of all, no, she doesn't need to apologize 307 00:24:44,660 --> 00:24:49,140 Not at all like is it the biggest deal in the world for Christmas like no 308 00:24:49,140 --> 00:24:54,580 It's not the biggest deal in the world, but like when you see everyone else in the circle opening really good stuff 309 00:24:54,740 --> 00:25:00,260 Right anybody's gonna be affected by that like well, and you also gave everybody a good gift like you 310 00:25:01,700 --> 00:25:09,060 It's like how did everybody just be like oh, I'm getting her the joke like isn't there any coordination? 311 00:25:09,740 --> 00:25:14,740 Not like if it's just one or two that's so sad. I hate that for her 312 00:25:14,740 --> 00:25:16,740 I think the worst part of the story is 313 00:25:16,740 --> 00:25:24,700 They each put a list to their parents and then the parents like would they would wrap it in something like they 314 00:25:25,260 --> 00:25:31,340 Like they had a MacBook for her and they gave it to her sister with a really nice bag. She wanted as well 315 00:25:32,060 --> 00:25:35,780 So it's a two-in-one and then he got she got a chocolate bar with the MacBook 316 00:25:37,460 --> 00:25:42,220 It makes you feel like yeah, it's like could that have actually happened or families that like 317 00:25:43,260 --> 00:25:45,260 Yeah, yeah, I mean sure 318 00:25:45,260 --> 00:25:50,100 It's just hard my mom and daddy getting every fool. I hope that's fake 319 00:25:50,940 --> 00:25:56,300 No, that's true though. That's like I feel like our Christmas was always so good. It was so fun 320 00:25:56,500 --> 00:26:03,520 My mom I say so badly wanted to be a skater you guys and so my mom freaking had all the guys from the family 321 00:26:03,540 --> 00:26:06,100 aka Greg shout out Greg our brother in law 322 00:26:07,420 --> 00:26:12,860 Literally make a half pipe for the dude and the kid wouldn't even go down it because he was so scared 323 00:26:12,860 --> 00:26:15,180 But the amount of hours and time 324 00:26:16,540 --> 00:26:21,820 Ever to put that thing was huge into my parents backyard 325 00:26:22,660 --> 00:26:29,620 Joe carried there's there's the building then there's the transporting and then there's the like sick is he ever gonna drop in 326 00:26:30,940 --> 00:26:34,180 But guess what? I'm a baller. So I'll take the house 327 00:26:34,260 --> 00:26:39,500 He literally I have a video of my say he like has his knee pads and like elbows pads and helmet 328 00:26:39,500 --> 00:26:40,780 I was before 329 00:26:40,780 --> 00:26:43,700 No, you were like 13 12 330 00:26:47,300 --> 00:26:51,060 And yet pillows and blankets all at the bottom of the half pipe 331 00:26:51,060 --> 00:26:55,020 So that if he fell he would just dive into it and he still wouldn't go bro 332 00:26:55,020 --> 00:27:00,780 It's a I will say is someone that did learn how to drop in it's nerve-wracking the first time it's scary 333 00:27:00,780 --> 00:27:06,280 Would you do it now? I think I would do it now doubt it. I think I would oh it doesn't get any easier 334 00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:11,140 You kind of just have to send it, but it's I will say it's a little easier on a shorter half pipe 335 00:27:11,140 --> 00:27:18,340 This he made you like a 10 foot. Yeah, it was huge. It's good size. It was big. I'm looking down. Yeah 336 00:27:19,140 --> 00:27:21,140 It's like all right first try 337 00:27:25,500 --> 00:27:29,700 12 hours later, that's that was a pretty good Christmas gift you got though 338 00:27:29,700 --> 00:27:36,380 Yeah, that was almost as sick as the truck the truck was the best I wish I saw have you ever gotten like a joke gift 339 00:27:36,380 --> 00:27:38,380 I've gotten one where it was like 340 00:27:39,620 --> 00:27:43,220 You the puppy the look remember the dog that would breathe 341 00:27:44,140 --> 00:27:46,140 So I'm a bomb 342 00:27:46,140 --> 00:27:51,140 I was begging my mom to get me a puppy for Christmas begging my mom does not like dogs 343 00:27:51,460 --> 00:27:57,740 Baking begging begging my mom thought it would be funny to get a pretend fake dog that like moves and like 344 00:27:57,740 --> 00:28:03,940 No, it just breathed. It was like curled up. Oh, yeah, but it would look like it was real. Yeah. Thank you. Yeah 345 00:28:03,940 --> 00:28:09,860 Um, I don't remember all the Jesus. I just remember she totally like pranks me basically 346 00:28:09,860 --> 00:28:12,060 Like she thought it would be like cute and like hey like look 347 00:28:12,060 --> 00:28:14,060 I can't get you this like a real dog 348 00:28:14,060 --> 00:28:16,620 But I got you this dog like you can have this as your old dog 349 00:28:16,620 --> 00:28:21,020 And when I saw I've started screaming freaking out and thinking it was real 350 00:28:21,020 --> 00:28:23,020 I started crying because I was so grateful 351 00:28:23,020 --> 00:28:27,860 And then I realized it was fake and everyone kind of like started laughing 352 00:28:27,860 --> 00:28:32,580 But then they were like oh, I feel bad actually because like she's devastated and didn't I like I 353 00:28:32,980 --> 00:28:34,980 Literally was sobbing and ran up to my bedroom 354 00:28:34,980 --> 00:28:39,320 Yeah, and mom ended up getting me a puppy after that because she felt so terrible 355 00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:43,180 How long did that dog think it was mulligan and he was there for like a couple months 356 00:28:43,180 --> 00:28:49,560 That was the last dog we ever got. That was my best friend. This is from my personal favorite subreddit today 357 00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:55,460 I f'd up. I love this one today. I f'd up by giving my friend a Christmas present that ruined her relationship 358 00:28:55,820 --> 00:29:00,980 So last year we did a secret sander with our friend group and I got my friend Rachel Rachel is dating this guy Mike 359 00:29:00,980 --> 00:29:04,620 Who's let's just say not exactly the most well-liked person in our circle 360 00:29:04,620 --> 00:29:09,500 He's one of those guys who's super controlling and low-key toxic, but Rachel is head over heels for him 361 00:29:09,500 --> 00:29:11,500 So we all just grin and bear it anyway 362 00:29:11,500 --> 00:29:17,060 I was struggling with what to get her then I remembered a conversation we had months earlier about how she loves those 363 00:29:17,060 --> 00:29:22,020 Personalized sentimental gifts. She mentioned wanting a cute photo album for her and Mike 364 00:29:22,020 --> 00:29:23,680 So I figured perfect. I'll make her one 365 00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:29,740 I spent hours pulling pictures off her social media getting them printed and putting them in a fancy leather bound album 366 00:29:29,740 --> 00:29:35,020 I even left a few blank pages on at the end with little notes like for all our future memories together 367 00:29:35,020 --> 00:29:38,100 I thought it was so sweet and thoughtful fast forward to the gift exchange 368 00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:41,700 Rachel opens the album and at first she looks thrilled 369 00:29:41,700 --> 00:29:48,300 She's flipping through the pages and shows it and showing it off to everyone, but then she freezes her smile drops 370 00:29:48,300 --> 00:29:51,500 And she slams the album shut turns out one of the pictures 371 00:29:51,500 --> 00:29:58,000 I included was one she had posted on Instagram stories months ago was from before she was dating Mike and in the picture 372 00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:02,540 She's cozyed up with her ex Jake honestly didn't even notice it when I printed the photos 373 00:30:02,540 --> 00:30:04,980 It was a cute group selfie from a trip 374 00:30:04,980 --> 00:30:08,840 We'd all taken Mike who is sitting next to her and noticed immediately 375 00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:15,040 He made some snide comment like wow didn't realize it was that kind of a photo album and things got awkward fast 376 00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:17,800 Rachel tried to laugh it off, but Mike wouldn't let it go 377 00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:21,460 He ended up storming out of the party and Rachel followed after him the fallout 378 00:30:21,460 --> 00:30:28,420 They had a massive fight that night and apparently Mike accused her of still being hung up on Jake because she hadn't deleted the picture from her phone 379 00:30:28,420 --> 00:30:30,120 Or her Instagram highlights 380 00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:36,380 She called me the next day furious that I'd sabotaged her relationship even though I swear it wasn't an innocent mistake 381 00:30:36,380 --> 00:30:41,140 They eventually made up but the things have been weird between Rachel and me ever since every time I see Mike 382 00:30:41,140 --> 00:30:44,900 He gives me this smug fake smile like he's just waiting for me to mess up again 383 00:30:44,900 --> 00:30:51,100 And now I triple check every gift anyone I give anyone because I'm terrified of accidentally ruining another relationship 384 00:30:51,700 --> 00:30:53,700 That's crazy 385 00:30:55,300 --> 00:30:57,300 Look don't mind if I jump in here 386 00:30:58,580 --> 00:31:04,120 Mike needs to grow up because you didn't own this girl her whole life. She had a previous relationship 387 00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:11,080 It's okay that that happened like she didn't know you what are you even freaking out about and like OP? 388 00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:13,240 How bad is it really? 389 00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:19,960 It's a group photo. It was a nice gift and it shouldn't have ended a relationship. That's my take I think Mike's a 390 00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:26,220 Loser and I think that if it was if this happened and somebody gave you a gift a photo album 391 00:31:26,220 --> 00:31:29,880 And it's like there's a picture of you and like an ex-boyfriend, but it's in a group 392 00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:37,520 Like cool is before we were together like why would I care about that? Like it's it's not like it's not like a hey 393 00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:42,160 This was better time of your life like celebrate that it's like just in there with the rest of the photos 394 00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:44,160 I'd be like okay cool 395 00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:48,480 Like what like what does that do to me? Why would I care before like you fits before we're together? 396 00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:52,840 Why would it matter? You're so cool. You don't have a jealous bone in your body. It's so cool 397 00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:56,000 I would literally be pissed. Oh, I'd be pretty frustrated 398 00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:59,160 I'd be pissed. How do you miss that? 399 00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:05,620 Like I just think I just think if Marley still had picked like 400 00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:11,000 If Marley yeah, I've Marley had a picture with her ex like in a photo album 401 00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:15,900 I'd just be like you have a hundred photos. Let's just get rid of this one because 402 00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:18,640 He does not matter in your life 403 00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:22,080 Samantha matters 404 00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:24,600 Right so we can keep the ones with you and Sam, but 405 00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:29,120 This guy doesn't need anything to do with like he doesn't he doesn't have to be in here 406 00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:33,280 That would like put a spit in my stomach if I saw that I'd be like yeah 407 00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:35,800 She made it 408 00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:40,320 You know it was like the friend made it, you know, yeah, I wasn't ready yet to get like mad 409 00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:46,360 Yeah, I'd be like well we can just ditch this one. Yeah, I will take this one out 410 00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:52,880 You wouldn't be mad really I would like not but the whole point is like it's before I was in your life, right? 411 00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:56,920 But like you wouldn't feel like kind of gross like or weird like 412 00:32:57,520 --> 00:33:02,960 Why does she still want that pig like why but like why if you put it in it's a different thing 413 00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:06,040 It's disrespectful for my friends to add photos of me and 414 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:14,280 Because no because they're they are in the picture too. It's like a memory that you guys had before I was in your life 415 00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:16,120 That's like that 416 00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:20,040 How was that a bad thing and I'm sitting on his lap? 417 00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:24,400 It's like smiling kissing. I mean yeah, like if you're making out with him 418 00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:26,900 I'd be like okay, then that's a more intentional 419 00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:49,800 If you guys were like if it was actually borderline and appropriate for instance 420 00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:55,760 If the couples were kissing that's a different thing altogether. That's not the same photo. I wouldn't have the same vibe 421 00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:59,280 I obviously that would affect me differently, but it sounds like they're all like huddled together 422 00:33:59,280 --> 00:34:05,180 It's like a group photo you're on a vacation and she's next to him just like yeah, like that's what it sounds like 423 00:34:05,180 --> 00:34:12,800 I'm burning it. Okay, but here's the thing the friends don't like him. They've already clearly stated that 424 00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:21,280 Yeah, so I think a hundred percent no doubt in my mind the friends saw that the X was in those photos 425 00:34:21,280 --> 00:34:25,280 It was fun memories. They don't give a frick if it hurts Mike's feelings or not 426 00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:30,520 This was my friend when I liked her more with this guy or like this is when we actually had fun memories 427 00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:34,420 And we could go on vacation like let's add this to the photo album 428 00:34:34,420 --> 00:34:39,100 I think a hundred percent there was no mistake. They put those photos in and they could have absolutely 429 00:34:39,100 --> 00:34:42,460 Left them out. Would you let me keep mine? 430 00:34:42,620 --> 00:34:43,540 It's again 431 00:34:43,540 --> 00:34:44,500 This is all like 432 00:34:44,500 --> 00:34:50,220 Circumstantial because if that happened and you're like opening it up and I like walk into the room and the it's like open to that photo 433 00:34:50,220 --> 00:34:52,620 I'd be like single day. Are you like are you like just 434 00:34:53,580 --> 00:34:58,900 Reminiscing like what is this if it's just in the photo book that your friend gave you for Christmas 435 00:34:58,900 --> 00:35:03,820 It's like not a big deal unless it's made into a big deal. That's what strikes me, right? 436 00:35:04,260 --> 00:35:06,260 Yeah, well 437 00:35:06,260 --> 00:35:11,780 I think it's big deal. Well, let us know thanks. Thanks for listening ladies and gents. We love ya 438 00:35:12,580 --> 00:35:14,580 married Chrysler and 439 00:35:14,700 --> 00:35:16,700 Follow us on all the socials 440 00:35:17,340 --> 00:35:21,980 Follow along and let us know which one you think is fake. That's the whole point in case you missed it 441 00:35:21,980 --> 00:35:23,980 And enough friends young three 442 00:35:24,380 --> 00:35:26,380 two three internet friends 443 00:35:31,220 --> 00:35:33,220 Nope never will be 444 00:35:33,220 --> 00:35:35,220 I