Welcome back to internet friends. What's happening? What up? What up? What's up guys? What's up?
I'm
Freaking excited for this. Yeah, we got some very special guests on the pod on the show this week s and sammy stewart
Welcome, let's go. Hello. Hello in town for the big football game tomorrow. Go youths. Go youths, baby
Who are they to you? They're my lifeblood. It's actually a better question for my friend see his hat
No, we're talking about we're not talking about the youths. We're talking about your friends the guests that are here
Who are they to you Joe? I know you love the youth. I thought I thought she did them my hat
They're my bloodline. I was like, oh
Why you asking me questions just so early
I am nervous. This feels like pressure
Joe's nervous because his besties here. Don't embarrass me in front of my friends and america
Yeah, and and a nationally. Yeah, and yeah all of our cool things everyone
I'm literally gonna shit myself because of all the candy I eat too. So everything's great
Oh, so who's s to you? How long have you known s and obviously sammy so s my day one a one we go way back
Back to one time we went to breakfast. This is like my favorite
We went to breakfast together on his birthday
And this fool didn't tell me that it was his birthday
So we went through the whole breakfast and I saw on facebook afterwards that it was his birthday
This was like early on in the in the homey ship and absolutely not
And now just i'm gonna spend the rest of my life living it down
Yeah, just kind of and that moment we just had. Yes. Yeah, don't remind me, please
Have you forgotten his birthday since I don't remember the date? No, but it's in my calendar
It's in my calendar. Why are you guys putting February?
Oh
That's love. I passed the test. Yeah, you did. Yeah, you did. I'm honestly, I'm proud of that
And you've known sammy's in high school, right?
Like of each other. Yeah, yeah, mutual friends pretty much didn't really honestly didn't really get to know you until
You came down for the game. Yeah, cute. Okay, and fun fact joe married s and sammy
And that's a really fun memory that we have that is true
I wasn't even I wasn't gonna mention that but I'm pretty proud of that best efficient ever
And they are celebrating their one year
anniversary married there are 13 months in though
So over a year just hit the year mark. Yeah
That's big time. That's exciting. Congrats you guys. Thanks. We survived
Survived so far. I was actually I was gonna bring that up because you guys have been married for three months ish
Two three months. What is it? Yeah, it's been three months. I think it's almost four almost four
So if you guys need any marriage advice, you just ask us
That's actually why we brought you here
We're gonna talk about marriage
No, the the topic for this week is pet peeves
So I thought that we're just just too fitting eight years of marriage
We've got one year of marriage
And a couple of months of marriage and lots of pet peeves
So yeah, you don't you don't have to like blatantly flame your partner, but if it just happens
Go for it. Like you just you just let it happen. This is a safe space before we get into it. Let's quickly recap
We can identify the fake from last week
Last week's episode was ghosts of social media past. Yes
Yes. Oh, yeah, starting out was marley story the facebook friend that was messaging from the other side of
the veil next we have
What was it yours the husband? No, who's this husband dragging his x y phone social media about the affair?
Of course, that was mine blasting letting everyone know that she was a cheater. Yeah, everyone sucks in that story
Yeah, for sure. Next is
The story of the guy going missing in mexico that one was crazy that could be the fake and then
The last one was my story that was the one that where the guy found the explicit video of his girlfriend on the internet
And he broke up with her because of it
Did like the image the face image search and
That popped up. He's not the asshole. He couldn't you know, he's a pin for that one. That one shook you up
He had standards and hey
You gotta do what you gotta do. I mean, all right, which one was the fake?
Oh, I'm gonna go isam the message is from the other side. That was my it was marley. It was me. Oh, I guess they're wrong
You guys you guys are off the hook because that episode has not dropped yet
So you're not expected to know but now right? Yeah, now i'm dying to listen to it. You need to sign up
What is it affidavit or whatever it's called?
Confidentiality like yeah, and yeah, oh, yeah, you can't tell people what the fake is yet
We're gonna we're gonna draft that up right after this for sure
But i'm kind of wondering why you guys didn't know that was a fake because
Sounds like I mean i haven't heard the story but
But you're messaging a dead person. It was uh, it was red flags right away. It would be like was it was
Sounded good enough that you were like, hmm. Is somebody like trolling this guy
Maybe someone was high as a kite and they thought they saw it like, you know
You should have added that in there like they were like high or something
Can you tell when the person's like someone's better at chat gpt than another person here joe's definitely the best at chat gpt
Okay, joe's very good. I mean I feel like I've had the fake a lot
So I've had good practice, but I'm not like I wouldn't say i'm the best
Jo's definitely the best you get out of it what you put into it for sure
I like I make it refine my story so much. It's his full-time job. He's just like pretty much shout out
Edit we edit. It's like oh i have to open into tab. I can't do any more questions
Oh, yeah start over am I being flamed for being the best at this podcast?
Jo's just because we're insecure about our own ability. Exactly. It's fine. You guys will level up so we're projecting
Thank you joe. Who wants to go first? Oh, I'll go first. I was gonna say that. Thank you marley
Yeah, you're welcome. Okay. Am I the asshole for cancelling all of our streaming services to hire a housekeeper without asking my husband first
My 28f and my husband 30m just welcomed our first baby almost three months ago
Understandably it has been a huge adjustment for both of us. She's still not sleeping through the night and we're both back to work full-time
We have always flipped the household responsibilities 50 50. We just help were needed and it's always worked out well
Lately my husband has been doing the chores terribly and I've had to come behind him to fix things or clean them again
For example, he cleaned the bottles the other night and they were cleaned so poorly. I had to do them again
He dropped pump parts down the disposal and then ran it ruining them
There have been several clothes that he didn't clean after a blowout that are now ruined
There are many more instances like this
I've confronted him a few times letting him know we all make mistakes and I know we're both tired
But it feels like he's not even trying to do these things well
He just keeps saying he's so tired and is having a hard time working and taking care of the house
And baby I do sympathize because I am working pumping recovery and taking care of the house and baby
The final straw for me was when he told me to go to sleep and he'd put up the milk
I just pumped and finished the dishes. This makes me so mad
I was so grateful until I got up and realized the milk had been sitting on the counter
And at this point was no good anymore
He said he was sorry and he put it on a show to relax for a bit before doing the dishes and fell asleep
The next day I decided to cancel all of our streaming services
PlayStation Plus
And our theme park passes in order to hire a housekeeper
I figured he's too tired to do basic household chores than a housekeeper is necessary
If he's too tired to put milk up then he's too tired to play video games or for us to go to a theme park
We still have cable in the PlayStation games and we can do other activities outside of the local theme park
He blew up at me and said I had no right doing that and was so furious
I thought I was doing as a favor so we could get more sleep and not worry as much about household tasks
So am I the asshole for hiring a housekeeper without asking?
Edit to add I see a lot of comments about communication. I have been communicating non-stop about my needs and expectations
I've led a lot of mistakes slide because I know this is hard for both of us
But when it became a daily thing I let him know if he's unable to do his part then I need additional help
I mentioned hiring some help and he laughed and said what a ridiculous way some money
I knew if I asked again the answer would be no so I made the decision for both of us
Also, I didn't throw away the tv replace station. I just canceled our subscriptions for them
Housekeeping is 300 a month and everything I canceled including disney passes is about 230
So won't be as much of a financial burden plus it will save more money as well since I won't have to replace destroyed pumps
Clothes and breast milk. So am I the asshole for hiring a housekeeper without asking?
Yes, I love that all the guys are shaking their heads during that whole story
And then I'm just like preach girl
Valid because first of all she works. Yes as well. Um
And I don't know if there's any wife out there that wouldn't have had that thought to hire some help or
Also the thought about her edit about the communication
I
Guarantee there's not a chance that she did not
Not communicate with him and tell him a million times that he was doing it wrong 100%
Okay, okay
So the thing about communication
Is you you can't just stop
When it's convenient for you to like do your point like you kind of have to communicate until you get your point across unfortunately
This guy was not getting it joe. Well, ah, so
He obviously is having his own struggles. It's it's hard to be a dad with the baby too. Like we're tired too
He should he should definitely have helped
More like he should not be ruining pump parts and all that but she's definitely the asshole
for making the executive decision to cancel all the things and hire
Uh
Higher help in my mind
They could have budgeted for that like they could have been like, okay
We need extra help around here because we're both exhausted
Let's let's do everything that we can to hire somebody to to help instead of it being like the blame game
They're both exhausted. They both have a child
But she did talk to him about like hey, what can we do to make this better?
And he just said I'm so tired. I'll just try better and like I'll try to be better and he wasn't getting better
So obviously she's at a point where she's like snapped and she's like, okay f this I'm not doing the same thing
Okay, f this I'm not doing this anymore. I'm hiring a housekeeper. I don't care what you say
Well, I like joe's point because maybe they could have had an actual conversation and brought up the housekeeper
Because I'm sure that he would not be mad about that
Like if it wasn't the circumstances and if they did like agree on it, I'm sure he'd be like, oh, yeah, that'd be great
To have a housekeeper that I like I have to do less
Than I'm already doing
Yeah, they could have communicated a little bit. I'm curious if she ever did bring up the housekeeper and all right
Did she say because yeah, I wonder what his reaction was to that because I think that would be an easy thing where it's like, okay
Hey, we both feel like we're drowning. Let's hire some help
Maybe like what's one thing you could sacrifice? Maybe not cancel the playstation if I canceled his xbox live
That would probably be the end of our marriage
But the thing is you can still you can still play games
It says you can't play online with other friends. Okay, so but then he can still play
Okay, where where do we want to cut corners? What's worth it? You know, yeah
Yeah, and it's not saying that she talked about hiring a housekeeper. So that that was a good point then
I think that she did she did mention it. Where so in the story it does say that she brought it up to him
And he's like that's just a ridiculous waste of money. So that's just initially though, right?
So like if you revisit this is what I'm saying about communication is
You you kind of have to revisit things and communicate until you get on the same page
Even if that's like, look, we cannot keep going
Through this. This is driving me absolutely crazy
How are we gonna cross this bridge?
Well, that's what's hard is because probably for him
He feels like it's a waste of money because he's probably not as peeved about
Him doing things wrong and things. Yeah, the house so her
She's probably bothered enough by it where it's like, no, this is worth the money for me because it's like my sanity
Yeah, and it does say it says I mentioned hiring some help and he laughed and said what a ridiculous waste of money
I knew if I asked again the answer would be no so I made the decision for both of us. So yeah, you're it
But yeah, that's the thing is it's that's that like
it's not
Females, it's not only females that do this we us men we can make executive decisions too. Yeah, that's never the right idea in my opinion
Like she was obviously fed up with them. You don't you don't get to just like
cancel
everything and make a
$300 a month purchase
I kind of like it
Just send it. Just yeah, just send it like he's like playing video games while they have a kid like
I'm like
Get up man. Yeah, it's time to grow up. Let's
Put the controller away
For each hidden wow the the irony of this situation is actually crazy
If you know how much you put video games
I mean, we don't have kids yet. So maybe a little change
But I'm gonna replay that clip when he has kids put down the controller man. Get up take care of your kids
That clip is gonna be on repeat. Yeah, you save that you save that
The level of fatigue i'm just gotta say that's a real thing that like it's very hard to explain
How tired you get just caring for a baby like women
Especially breastfeeding like they have it worse than us. I will give you
everything
Where you going with this buddy? I'm trying to say that it's it doesn't matter. You're so exhausted that I guess you can just relate to like
Okay, I tried to wipe the counter down and yes, I missed the spot. I'm like, I'm sorry like
I'm exhausted and I am
Just trying to get to that point where I can shut my brain off and watch a watch
Disney plus let me watch the lilo and stitch with my wife
Well, that brings me to how do you think couples should balance household the responsibilities and mental exhaustion?
Especially after a major life change like having a baby
So how do you balance that therapy?
I don't think you do well
I think the the housekeeper is a great if you can't afford it
The compromise is where it's like, hey, we're both drowning here
I am not happy with the job that you're doing. I feel like it's putting a straight on the relationship
So why don't we hire someone to do it and then we can spend our energy to get a little bit more sleep?
You know, there's there's definitely pros and cons to like
If you're not having your video games live anymore, but you are getting someone to come clean your house
And you could afford it at that point like
I will say there was something I didn't mention in here when I read the story
I kind of left it out, but it did talk about her saying like I'm sacrificing as well
Like I love video games. So she actually games as well
Um, and she watches way more tv than he does and so she's like I was it was a sacrifice for me as well
By canceling all this stuff in order for us to have so she's not doing shit then
I watch more tv and I play more video games
But
She's trying to she's trying to like hype herself up and justify what she did
I do more of it
I do feel like that he's like losing out way more than she's losing out
Even though she said that comment. I just like it seems hard to believe that like
She's
She's able to play video games and do all these things, but he can't like and so she's like I'm gonna take his stuff away
You know, I just feel like that it's gonna it hurts him way more than her
Why don't she take away one of her subscriptions and one of his
subscriptions and like but she did because all the streaming services like
Are the tv stuff so you're he doesn't watch tv at all
Well, it's a they both watch tv, you know
I think it's just a matter of like she's willing because it's her pet peeve
She doesn't want to live with like anything being dirtier and disarray like yeah the stuff not being done like to her
Satisfaction, that's why it's like she's willing to make the sacrifice. It's a lot easier to sacrifice when it's something that like you are
Liking like he probably doesn't really care about the house being super clean
So I'm having to sacrifice. He didn't even get to choose like yeah
He's gonna be way less happy like I'm I would be much more inclined to cancel
Hulu and netflix if it meant that I could go and spend that money on golf clubs
Like that's like a no-brainer and I be pissed right
Yep, that's not happening
But I think this is a really common thing with all marriages and relationships of like, okay, how do we balance?
Who's doing what and is it enough and is it fair?
So what do you guys feel like a good compromise is removing the cleaning service?
Like do you guys think that there could have been a way that they?
Resolve that without
I like that you're good at this sammy
Sammy used to try and institute like Saturday cleaning deep cleanings and I would not recommend that
It just moved in together. It would be Saturday morning and he would be like watching college football. I'm like no Saturdays we clean
But that's not a thing anymore. Oh man
But we've had that even like we don't have kids but we both work full time
Yes, so I was like I was doing a lot of the cooking and like, you know cleaning and things
So we had to make kind of a schedule where he takes dinner on Tuesdays and Fridays and then I cook the rest of the nights or
Hey, you these are the kind of things that you're in charge of and then I'm in charge of this
Mm-hmm, but I mean as like a woman I kind of face that to where I'm like, okay
No, like when I asked you to clean the bathroom
Yeah
Like we clean like the tub and the shower and the floor is like we don't just like wipe off the counter
You know like there are things that you have to clean. Yes. Yes
Um, and so that's hard because you you kind of you can communicate that to a certain extent
But know that like it's probably never going to be done how you want it to be done
Very true. Um, and so you kind of have to just like let that go or do it yourself. Yep
So I don't know if there is like a perfect compromise
I just all I can think is
communication, right like it's just a matter of how it's relayed and
It's very easy when you're like in the heat of the moment to be like, hey, you suck at cleaning
Do you not see that you f this up and it's not clean like
Like whether it doesn't matter if it's like the guy or the girl like it doesn't matter
But the bottom line is it's like, hey, this is something that's like
Important to me. This is making me to lose my mind
What can we do to make this like work?
Well, it's communication and compromise because you're gonna have to compromise at some point
Like me in the middle
He's gonna have to give
Yeah
And like there's action that needs to be taken place as well because you can communicate as well as possible
But nothing's gonna happen or like nope. What is going on over there? I know I'm
I'm dying it why he's because what you said or like the other day I went I kind of freaked out I'm Harley
Check your shits all over the floor like this shits over here. What the hell are we doing?
She's like
She's so crying
So
How do you guys do things?
Well, I work full-time he golfs 36 holes a day, which is what?
I'm working full-time. I'm trying to make it to the tour the grind on the grind don't sleep
There's my answer
So then do you expect him to do all the chores? No, no, no, no, I don't I do all the chores
I
Expect him to take out the trash. So what do you do?
The dishes
I know I do have some to do the dishes a lot because I hate doing I do the dishes every time
But it takes a million times for me to like get you to do it
And you throw your clothes all over the floor everywhere because I have to change my outfit
Hey the good news is and she doesn't unplug the curling iron in the morning
Yeah, that's a good thing you were at home. Listen. Yeah
So the good news is you guys are still really you guys are still really new at this and you're gonna figure it out
We're new here. This whole being married thing. Yeah, there's
Cheeks are that peeves happen. Oh
Then he's like roasting you for having
messes
Meanwhile not doing the dishes
Step it up young man
Safe to say that this lady's in good company because yes, I'll have the same issue
This is every but okay. I was gonna say I had a client today and she was talking about how she was getting some house cleaning like
um quotes
And that's a steal 300 dollars because she her quote was like 700. Yeah, that's insane like that means a big house too
Yeah for the record. Yeah, it is bigger. So charge your mark
Right, but I'm just saying like I feel like that's so worth it. That's all I want to say though
as a woman
When we are talking about communication
You got to back it up with some action
That's all I'm saying. So she says honey
It really really upset me that you left my breast milk that I pumped and worked so hard for on the counter because you were too busy
Playing video games. Please don't ever do that again
He better never frickin do that again. He I literally did that one time and I never did it again
No, you never did that. I you would not be here if you did that
Did you do that
One time no, yeah, I remember very vividly. Don't worry. I was still alive. She's sleeping upstairs. It's okay. Everything's great
Did I get mad at you? Yes? Oh, and we got over it
But it was literally the exact same thing you took action. She communicated you took action
He's never done it again. You're still alive and I forgot him. It's fine. And I'm really good at cleaning
Did you spill it? No, I just left it out. Oh my okay. Okay. Everything's fine. I'm an age
Let's let's keep going. Oh my hell. This one comes from am I the asshole?
Am I the asshole if I gave my girlfriend the silent treatment for constantly interrupting me slash talking over me?
And Winnie did that about five seconds ago
I saw it. I saw it the looks that Joe was giving one in your hand now or
It is actually crazy. It is recorded. You guys. I'm actually really scared about this story and how much I'm gonna be roasted today
But let's do this. Here we go
Is it cool if I start now?
All right, first time post it. Let's do it. No, I'm just doing it
You have no idea how demoralizing it is to just be like
Okay
First time posting something like this, but it's really been bothering me
My gf f26 has always had a bad habit of talking over me
No exaggeration three to six times a day
She finds the need to speak over or interrupt me to give input correct me, etc
I've explained that this is hurtful and rude, but she continues to do it and not making excuses, but
She has autism and quote doesn't even really realize
Pause not trying to make excuses, but she does have autism
Like you just stopped reading. Why'd you stop reading?
You read the first two sentences
I've explained that this is hurtful and rude, but she continues to do it and quote
Not making excuses, but and quote doesn't even really realize she's doing it and I met my wit's end
I love her and I know she loves me
But this this is problem behavior that she doesn't even seem to feel the need to apologize over her work on
So I've been keeping my talking to her besides the absolute necessities to a minimum
She's already noticed and asked what was wrong and I just told her I'm tired of being interrupted
She's upset by this and seems to feel like I'm being an asshole. So
A it a
Am I the asshole?
No, no
The girl is definitely the asshole, I mean here's my hesitancy because
he's like
We're on his side clearly because she's keeps interrupting him. Yes
But is that the best way to handle it? Probably not, but maybe he's just
You just get so shut down that you
Get rid of the sudden treatment. I don't know. Yeah
This this uh hits particularly close to home
I'm not gonna ever point any fingers. It's his first wife. Let's talk you about listen
The thing about it is
I only relate to opi because
There's times where like you kind of just feel defeated. You kind of feel like okay. I cannot
Say my peace
Like you got to interrupt me with some like degrading little
Good buddy. Go ahead buddy. You have the talking stick
You I'm gonna keep going
I'm not gonna interrupt
No, I'm here. I'm ready to talk
So the weird part is that this is a real pet peeve for me and
It drives me insane
But the truth is like in a social setting if I get interrupted a lot and it's not just like it's like it happened to me growing up
Whatever and it's like I can't help it. I lose I lose the ability to like
Want to contribute to the conversation. So yes, he could handle it a better way
he could like not be a douchebag to her but
It it gets it's a difficult thing to deal with when you can't get your thoughts across
Some people speak differently. Some people like takes time to get all the thoughts out. I'm I'm that way
I'm a very easy person to interrupt. Would you like to speak?
Okay, one I have gotten tremendously better
I didn't even say anything but you pat yourself on the back. Thank you
I have gotten a lot better, but I have seen like in social settings you get interrupted
All the time like you were that person that just constantly gets interrupted
And it's really sad
And I will say she's like tearing up for you Joe. Poor little guy
I would hate to be you
You don't command the room like
Like us no
But I will say like it's always the people that get interrupted the most that are actually the best to listen to
And they're the funniest and they're by far the coolest
You're just buttering me up now, but it's working. That's why I get interrupted all the time
Have any of you guys ever had the silent treatment work or benefit of an argument?
No, yes
Breakups all the time
Oh, well, yeah, that's more like
Play hard to get but like in your actual relationship
Like if you're mad at Joe for something and then you just give him the silent treatment
You feel like that helps the fight or makes it worse
um
Okay, so I feel like with the silent treatment if Joe does something that's like definitely crossing the line
And if I do give it I feel like it gives him time and me time
Especially him time to like breathe and like realize what he did
Yeah, so I do think that was
That was a thought that I had of like her being like what's like her finally asking him what's wrong and he was like
Okay, so now you can see this is actually really affecting me
I've been telling you that this has been bugging me and now you're saying what's wrong and then
I'm telling you and then you can see that it's like actually hurting my feelings and I'm
It makes me not even want to talk
So maybe like he could give the silent treatment. She might be mad that he's like
Give him silent treatment or whatever, but then they may come back around and then be like, okay
Hey, I'm taking you seriously now. I'm really gonna try and stop
Like maybe that's what guys have to do sometimes to like really get you to take them seriously
Joe's done that exact thing multiple times with me and yes
It works. Yeah, I mean, I'm not perfect like I am someone that's very loud and like I talk and
I have a thought I just say it
But I feel like I have gotten better with that
What are the boys opinions on the silent treatment? Yeah, like if I were to give you the silent treatment
Are you just like
Stop your being a baby or are you like, oh
She's going the other room turn on a game or
All right, see you see you later
You're just soaking up talking to me
Off the look for a couple hours
That's hilarious. Have you ever given the silent treatment?
Yeah, I'm sure I have
I'm sure I have
But that's what I wonder is I'm like, do you do you take the silent treatment as like?
Oh, wow, this is serious or is it like k you're being a baby like I'll come back in 10 minutes and see if you've right
atured up yet?
Probably
The first I think that it's probably serious and I'm like, what do I do to fix this?
Because I think that's everyone's intention in giving the silent treatment is like, okay
No, now I'm shutting down you need to grovel a little bit you need to come back to me after what you did
Yep. So it's definitely like a call for help. Yeah, for sure
and that like
My first reaction when you asked about the silent treatment is I'm like, no that's stupid
like no silent treatment works, but it's funny because at the beginning of our
relationship if I felt like she was upset with me and like if I got I mean
it could have been for anything. If I messed up I said something that was
offensive, I get the silent treatment. I would not ever be like okay we're gonna
like we're gonna have space I'm gonna go away I'd be like what's wrong are you
okay what's wrong with you yeah why are you mad are you mad at me what did I do
that's not the way to do it either so there's definitely a balance somewhere
like it can serve a purpose but it's not the answer all the time. So my girlfriend
26 female has this huge pet peeve about grammar she's super well-spoken and
always priding herself on using perfect English which like good for her right
but the problem is I 28 male grew up in a more casual household and I don't
usually speak with perfect grammar. Sometimes I say things like me and John
or use double negatives nothing crazy but definitely not a hundred percent
grammatically correct. Here's where the issue is every time I say something
slightly off especially when we're with friends or even at family gatherings
she'll interrupt me and correct me every single time. It's not just a quick oh
you mean John and I right? She goes on these little rants about how people
sound uneducated when they don't use proper grammar and how it's a reflection
of intelligence. The worst part is she does it in front of people it's embarrassing.
A couple of weeks ago we were at a party and I said I should have went to the
store earlier classic mistake I get it but she literally stopped the entire
conversation to give a mini lecture on how saying instead of saying should of
is wrong and that the correct phrase is should have in front of everyone. People
were looking at me like I was an idiot after the party they're like yeah stupid.
After the party I told her how much it bothers me that she corrects me in
public. She brushed it off and said she would it was just trying to help me
speak better because she doesn't want me to embarrass myself. She does she said
it's like someone correcting spinach in your teeth you'd want to know right. I
told her it's not the same and then it makes me feel small. Then last weekend
we were hanging out with some of our friends some of her friends and I made
another minor mistake saying less instead of fewer. Hello and she did it again
right in front of her friends I snapped and told her to stop being a grammar
Nazi and let me speak how I want. We had a big argument afterward and she said I
was overreacting and then I need to toughen up and stop being so sensitive.
Now she's mad at me for calling her out and I'm mad at her for always making me
feel dumb. I know grammar is important to her but is it really that big of a deal
that she has to call me out like that in front of people? Am I the asshole for
losing my temper over this or is she being the asshole for constantly
correcting me? You had me as she was interrupting him to tell him. You have
experience. I feel like I've had someone do that to me before.
They're like no you said that wrong and it's like shit it were around 40 people
like shut up. Yeah I had a thing in high school I probably still do it I just
don't care anymore but I would always use the word for in like the most random
sentences like I would always be saying for. Do I still do it? No you'd get
like disappeared from like she used to say instead of because yeah she would say
for yeah so like we went to the store like for my for like shows that I'm gonna
make tonight. I can't think of a good example but I it was like in place of
because. I just would say for a lot and I had a friend that would constantly like
whether it was in front of people or just us to like try and correct me on it
and like it doesn't make you feel good like yes I know I'm oh I didn't know I
was saying it wrong until they started correcting me but I also was like I don't
know what other word to use I'm not I don't know so I'm just gonna use it. Why? Like what do you
what do you care about right now? Just let me talk just let me sound dumb. It's
literally trying to communicate that's it. Yeah just trying to speak English like
so anyways I can relate a little bit to this girl. I mean guy. Yeah I was just
gonna say she is obviously embarrassed because of him. Yeah. She like she equates
being smart with how you speak and she thinks he sucks at speaking so he's
dumb which I don't know why she's with him if she thinks he's dumb but it gets
super frustrating when someone corrects you on everything. Well I think it's
dumb that she has such a big problem with it but like it sounds like she's not
really doing it to anybody else so like that kind of stuff I mean maybe just
everybody else around her is just doing great at it but he probably does feel
like very attacked by it because it sounds like she's not she's not really
doing it to anybody else other than him and if anything she should not be doing
it to him. Well yeah I think there's something about like putting your partner
down in front of other people like it really did bother her she could when
they're alone and like hey you keep saying this but like it's actually this
or like did you know I don't know right sounds weird when you say that or
whatever if she really if it really does bother her she could be like hey I'm
gonna try and help you out but I feel like you got to be careful of when
you're correcting your partner especially if you're doing it over and over
again and like making them look dumb in front of other people that's where it
would like really bother me it wouldn't be so much correct in the grammar it'd
be more of like making me feel like an idiot in front of all our friends or
whatever. Maybe he's just really funny and she hates that. Yeah maybe she's just
jealous of it. I think she's stuck up. So she's just trying to bring him down. Yeah.
Yeah she's definitely an asshole. She is cute. Absolutely. And he needs to dump her.
Like she's the one on social media constantly being like there you meant
THER. Not THER. Yeah nobody likes the grammar police like they're not a good
time. No. I don't care who you are. Maybe something important. Yeah. Like I don't know.
Like is he a good person? Does he have a good kind heart? I don't know. Does he use the
right there in a sentence? The right your? Yeah. I say it doesn't. This is our story
of this. Wow. Thanks. It just yeah it speaks more to her insecurities like that's
just the thing that like you don't need to you don't need to flame your partner
in front of other people. Bro why are you just out in public with those things on
your feet? You're not at the beach not at home not at the pool just casually
flip and flop in those ugly dump truck toes with hair out in public thinking
that the world needs to see those things. I have news for you. No one wants to see
them. What are you going to do if a fire breaks out and need to save a kid? Or if
you're out with your lady and some dude starts harassing her are you just going
to kick off those foam pads you have tucked between your fat piggy toes and
be ready for action then she'll be ready in public for anything. I can't be walking
around sounding like flipper when I need to change a spare tire in an emergency
especially people of color like myself I already have to put coconut butter on my
legs and feet so I'm already surfing in my slippers when I'm at the beach. Geez
grown men need to step it up and look a little bit presentable these days lol. So
the pet peeve is grown men like going in public with just flip flops. I didn't get
that for all that. Okay I'm right there I followed the whole thing I don't think
he's talking about flip flops I think he's talking about like that between the
big toe yeah like them them flipper action boys but I don't think he wants
to see toes at all like he doesn't want to see a foot he wants to see a shoe
with the sock well he's gonna have to have a conversation with my wife who
really likes my feet. Do you guys know about that? No I'm sure. We'll tell you later.
It's this really good story. Do you guys feel like seeing a guy in a thong?
Um no I love it. I love it. I think that isn't it a well-known thing like isn't it
a guide code that you can't just have your feet out for everyone to see? Is that
a thing? Like isn't that why guys wear socks with slides? Is that not I thought
that was like a well-known thing? That's why I do. That's why you do? To hide your toes?
I don't want people to look I don't want people looking at my feet I feel weird
about that. Actual flip flops with your slides. Yeah if I'm in public I'm wearing
socks if I have sandals on. There's probably no reason for a guy to like
ever wear flip flops like the thong flip flops. The beach? Like if you wear slides
like you really need the like flip flops? Yeah that's the dead giveaway that it
slides I mean that it's flip flops and not slides. These don't make noise I walk
with these they don't slap my feet. They have all sorts of types of slides you
don't need flip-flops. If he did show up to beach day with them what would you do?
I have nothing. But why? If I was on a first date at the beach and he showed up
wearing flip-flops that's a whole other story because that's your man I don't
care if he's wearing flip-flops. That's your man. You know? I have a thing so they
they say how do you feel about slides? They responded. No one should be flipping
flopping or sliding out in public. Oh so we just not agree with the flop. Or sliding. I happen to
disagree. Here's the thing when it comes to flip flops where my mind went was
like there's full grown adult men that will wear the thong style flip flops
with a pair of jeans. I was gonna say the same thing. That doesn't drive me insane.
Like I don't want to see your like sock white toes protruding out of your blue
jeans. Like that's a problem. If you see a guy at Safeway with just his toes out
and slides or flip flops are you gonna be like oh that's awesome. Yeah I would
think twice. I would definitely look at it and be like mmm a little distasteful.
Really? Yeah. What if he gets a pedicure and his toes are painted and stuff. Yeah
you should see Hayden's. Hayden got a pedicure today. He literally has his toes
painted. That's awesome. So can I have my toes out? You bring flip flops? No. I think it's
I honestly think it's better if you do have your toes painted. Yeah. That's like a
bare toe now. Yeah. Oh here's the thing like if Hayden like if he goes to softball
and has his cleats on or whatever or plays baseball and then he slides his
slides on with his socks like leaving the baseball stadium I'm like oh that's
kind of hot. No it's not. Like I'm down for like some slides is like a post sports
look. With socks though. With socks yeah and like he has he has some slides like
that but like I feel like the only time I'm like ever good with him wearing them
is like when he takes out the garbage. Yeah. But we also live in Utah so I think
it may be a different like culture if it's Arizona where it's hot all the time
like you guys are human you deserve to you know air your feet out and let him
breathe. But then the sweat is like going up against the thing is like
squeak. Yeah. Swish. We're just gonna swash him. Also riddle me this like if we go to the pool
so like let's say tomorrow at our hotel we go to the pool and he brings his slides
like is he just supposed to wear socks and then I thought he'd come across that
at the beach when he's like what am I supposed to do with my socks and I'm
like why'd you even wear socks. You know. So there's like I think the whole point
of that was like there's a time and a place. Yes. You know the airport the
grocery store not the place to like. Yeah. Like being in a plane and you just see someone
with. Just in the aisle. Sandals in the airport are just a no no for boys and girls.
Right. Or I had a co-worker the other day who wore heels to work and then we were in
like a meeting and she took off her shoes and like was just letting her feet and
like we're in like a public workplace. No. Like don't take off your shoes. Like you
don't know who that could affect. Yeah. I think just taking off your like girls you
can wear sandals you know but if girls have gross feet no one wants to see that either.
Right. So just gross feet in general. Yeah. Yeah. Hide your gross feet. How do you know
if you have gross feet or not. You can tell. You got like Harry Tell was in Longfinger
Nails and like dried skin everywhere and you know or toenails. I'm like I feel slightly
attacked. Yeah. Don't you feel like I feel actually like yeah very very victimized right
now. No but the truth is this is what I was going to say about your like the sock point
is I like living here I used to always wear socks everywhere and I'm like fully like
anti sock now I go to the gym and I wear vans with no socks. Oh.
Like Joe. No listen and it's it's it's gotten so much better. My feet used to just be hot
all the time and now I can go get a workout in in vans and my feet don't sweat. It's amazing.
Vans. Yes. What kind of work are we doing. They don't even stink. I just lift. He just
sits there. I just lift. That's it. And he stretches. I'm completely serious. That's like
they're over there. Anyone is welcome to smell them. They don't stink and I'm like anti socks
now. So. So for our podcast listeners Joe is currently just wearing barefoot or bare feet
and he has slides on so that's why he's getting roasted right now. So is this the common thing
like would you go out to dinner like that. Yes. I literally wore these to dinner. Oh.
Seem like with with no socks with no socks. I went to dinner. Don't point that out.
And look this is going to be super unpopular. I know this but I also just I just don't care.
I don't care about this. It just doesn't bother me. I will wear these on an airplane but I will
wear socks. I don't care about the whole sandals thing and I'm getting a window seat and nobody
has to look at my feet facts. What about toe socks. I like your feet toe socks with the thong.
That is a that is a oh my gosh. So I just died. If you go to that if you go to the airport
or you wear socks just because you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or germs because I
have to take them off to go through the scanner. I'm like sense. But like I'm all about comfort.
If I'm flying why would I not be as comfortable as possible. It's so uncomfortable.
See and you do get to a certain age where like if I was in that same situation but you don't
want to let my feet out. I don't care who sees it. I want to be comfortable. It's hot
as hell outside. So who cares. So if you want to do it do it but just know that we'll all judge you.
I'm I'm I'm first I was feeling insecure but now I'm accepting the judgment.
I won't judge because I like feet. Thank you everyone for coming.
That was perfect. That was fun. That was really fun seriously. Thank you guys so much for joining
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