1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:04,960 Welcome back to internet friends. What's happening? What up? What up? What's up guys? What's up? 2 00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:08,400 I'm 3 00:00:08,400 --> 00:00:15,440 Freaking excited for this. Yeah, we got some very special guests on the pod on the show this week s and sammy stewart 4 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:20,920 Welcome, let's go. Hello. Hello in town for the big football game tomorrow. Go youths. Go youths, baby 5 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:26,640 Who are they to you? They're my lifeblood. It's actually a better question for my friend see his hat 6 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:31,840 No, we're talking about we're not talking about the youths. We're talking about your friends the guests that are here 7 00:00:31,840 --> 00:00:36,960 Who are they to you Joe? I know you love the youth. I thought I thought she did them my hat 8 00:00:38,480 --> 00:00:40,480 They're my bloodline. I was like, oh 9 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:47,360 Why you asking me questions just so early 10 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:50,720 I am nervous. This feels like pressure 11 00:00:50,720 --> 00:00:56,160 Joe's nervous because his besties here. Don't embarrass me in front of my friends and america 12 00:00:57,520 --> 00:01:02,160 Yeah, and and a nationally. Yeah, and yeah all of our cool things everyone 13 00:01:02,480 --> 00:01:06,640 I'm literally gonna shit myself because of all the candy I eat too. So everything's great 14 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:14,480 Oh, so who's s to you? How long have you known s and obviously sammy so s my day one a one we go way back 15 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:18,640 Back to one time we went to breakfast. This is like my favorite 16 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:20,880 We went to breakfast together on his birthday 17 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:23,520 And this fool didn't tell me that it was his birthday 18 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:27,600 So we went through the whole breakfast and I saw on facebook afterwards that it was his birthday 19 00:01:28,320 --> 00:01:31,840 This was like early on in the in the homey ship and absolutely not 20 00:01:32,240 --> 00:01:35,040 And now just i'm gonna spend the rest of my life living it down 21 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:40,640 Yeah, just kind of and that moment we just had. Yes. Yeah, don't remind me, please 22 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:46,080 Have you forgotten his birthday since I don't remember the date? No, but it's in my calendar 23 00:01:46,080 --> 00:01:49,760 It's in my calendar. Why are you guys putting February? 24 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:52,640 Oh 25 00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:57,440 That's love. I passed the test. Yeah, you did. Yeah, you did. I'm honestly, I'm proud of that 26 00:01:57,440 --> 00:01:59,440 And you've known sammy's in high school, right? 27 00:01:59,920 --> 00:02:06,720 Like of each other. Yeah, yeah, mutual friends pretty much didn't really honestly didn't really get to know you until 28 00:02:07,360 --> 00:02:13,840 You came down for the game. Yeah, cute. Okay, and fun fact joe married s and sammy 29 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:16,880 And that's a really fun memory that we have that is true 30 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:21,360 I wasn't even I wasn't gonna mention that but I'm pretty proud of that best efficient ever 31 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:24,800 And they are celebrating their one year 32 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:28,560 anniversary married there are 13 months in though 33 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:31,680 So over a year just hit the year mark. Yeah 34 00:02:32,240 --> 00:02:36,800 That's big time. That's exciting. Congrats you guys. Thanks. We survived 35 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:44,160 Survived so far. I was actually I was gonna bring that up because you guys have been married for three months ish 36 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:49,040 Two three months. What is it? Yeah, it's been three months. I think it's almost four almost four 37 00:02:49,520 --> 00:02:53,600 So if you guys need any marriage advice, you just ask us 38 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:57,040 That's actually why we brought you here 39 00:02:57,760 --> 00:02:59,760 We're gonna talk about marriage 40 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:03,680 No, the the topic for this week is pet peeves 41 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:07,840 So I thought that we're just just too fitting eight years of marriage 42 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:10,560 We've got one year of marriage 43 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:12,880 And a couple of months of marriage and lots of pet peeves 44 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:18,000 So yeah, you don't you don't have to like blatantly flame your partner, but if it just happens 45 00:03:19,040 --> 00:03:24,160 Go for it. Like you just you just let it happen. This is a safe space before we get into it. Let's quickly recap 46 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:26,240 We can identify the fake from last week 47 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:30,560 Last week's episode was ghosts of social media past. Yes 48 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:35,520 Yes. Oh, yeah, starting out was marley story the facebook friend that was messaging from the other side of 49 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:38,240 the veil next we have 50 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:43,760 What was it yours the husband? No, who's this husband dragging his x y phone social media about the affair? 51 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:49,360 Of course, that was mine blasting letting everyone know that she was a cheater. Yeah, everyone sucks in that story 52 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:51,520 Yeah, for sure. Next is 53 00:03:52,240 --> 00:03:57,360 The story of the guy going missing in mexico that one was crazy that could be the fake and then 54 00:03:57,360 --> 00:04:03,840 The last one was my story that was the one that where the guy found the explicit video of his girlfriend on the internet 55 00:04:03,840 --> 00:04:05,840 And he broke up with her because of it 56 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:09,200 Did like the image the face image search and 57 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:16,000 That popped up. He's not the asshole. He couldn't you know, he's a pin for that one. That one shook you up 58 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:18,160 He had standards and hey 59 00:04:18,720 --> 00:04:21,520 You gotta do what you gotta do. I mean, all right, which one was the fake? 60 00:04:21,520 --> 00:04:29,360 Oh, I'm gonna go isam the message is from the other side. That was my it was marley. It was me. Oh, I guess they're wrong 61 00:04:45,280 --> 00:04:48,880 You guys you guys are off the hook because that episode has not dropped yet 62 00:04:48,880 --> 00:04:54,560 So you're not expected to know but now right? Yeah, now i'm dying to listen to it. You need to sign up 63 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:56,720 What is it affidavit or whatever it's called? 64 00:04:57,760 --> 00:05:02,640 Confidentiality like yeah, and yeah, oh, yeah, you can't tell people what the fake is yet 65 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:05,200 We're gonna we're gonna draft that up right after this for sure 66 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:10,240 But i'm kind of wondering why you guys didn't know that was a fake because 67 00:05:10,720 --> 00:05:12,960 Sounds like I mean i haven't heard the story but 68 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:19,440 But you're messaging a dead person. It was uh, it was red flags right away. It would be like was it was 69 00:05:19,840 --> 00:05:23,600 Sounded good enough that you were like, hmm. Is somebody like trolling this guy 70 00:05:23,840 --> 00:05:27,600 Maybe someone was high as a kite and they thought they saw it like, you know 71 00:05:27,840 --> 00:05:30,800 You should have added that in there like they were like high or something 72 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:38,960 Can you tell when the person's like someone's better at chat gpt than another person here joe's definitely the best at chat gpt 73 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:43,680 Okay, joe's very good. I mean I feel like I've had the fake a lot 74 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:47,840 So I've had good practice, but I'm not like I wouldn't say i'm the best 75 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:52,240 Jo's definitely the best you get out of it what you put into it for sure 76 00:05:53,040 --> 00:05:58,720 I like I make it refine my story so much. It's his full-time job. He's just like pretty much shout out 77 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:03,440 Edit we edit. It's like oh i have to open into tab. I can't do any more questions 78 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:08,080 Oh, yeah start over am I being flamed for being the best at this podcast? 79 00:06:10,880 --> 00:06:15,520 Jo's just because we're insecure about our own ability. Exactly. It's fine. You guys will level up so we're projecting 80 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:20,720 Thank you joe. Who wants to go first? Oh, I'll go first. I was gonna say that. Thank you marley 81 00:06:20,800 --> 00:06:28,080 Yeah, you're welcome. Okay. Am I the asshole for cancelling all of our streaming services to hire a housekeeper without asking my husband first 82 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:34,240 My 28f and my husband 30m just welcomed our first baby almost three months ago 83 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:40,400 Understandably it has been a huge adjustment for both of us. She's still not sleeping through the night and we're both back to work full-time 84 00:06:40,800 --> 00:06:46,400 We have always flipped the household responsibilities 50 50. We just help were needed and it's always worked out well 85 00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:52,960 Lately my husband has been doing the chores terribly and I've had to come behind him to fix things or clean them again 86 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:58,240 For example, he cleaned the bottles the other night and they were cleaned so poorly. I had to do them again 87 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:02,080 He dropped pump parts down the disposal and then ran it ruining them 88 00:07:02,400 --> 00:07:06,480 There have been several clothes that he didn't clean after a blowout that are now ruined 89 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:09,680 There are many more instances like this 90 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:14,320 I've confronted him a few times letting him know we all make mistakes and I know we're both tired 91 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:16,880 But it feels like he's not even trying to do these things well 92 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:21,200 He just keeps saying he's so tired and is having a hard time working and taking care of the house 93 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:27,360 And baby I do sympathize because I am working pumping recovery and taking care of the house and baby 94 00:07:27,440 --> 00:07:30,880 The final straw for me was when he told me to go to sleep and he'd put up the milk 95 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:34,080 I just pumped and finished the dishes. This makes me so mad 96 00:07:34,480 --> 00:07:38,560 I was so grateful until I got up and realized the milk had been sitting on the counter 97 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:40,800 And at this point was no good anymore 98 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:46,480 He said he was sorry and he put it on a show to relax for a bit before doing the dishes and fell asleep 99 00:07:46,560 --> 00:07:49,760 The next day I decided to cancel all of our streaming services 100 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:51,760 PlayStation Plus 101 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:55,600 And our theme park passes in order to hire a housekeeper 102 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:59,920 I figured he's too tired to do basic household chores than a housekeeper is necessary 103 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:04,720 If he's too tired to put milk up then he's too tired to play video games or for us to go to a theme park 104 00:08:04,880 --> 00:08:09,520 We still have cable in the PlayStation games and we can do other activities outside of the local theme park 105 00:08:09,680 --> 00:08:12,960 He blew up at me and said I had no right doing that and was so furious 106 00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:18,480 I thought I was doing as a favor so we could get more sleep and not worry as much about household tasks 107 00:08:18,480 --> 00:08:22,080 So am I the asshole for hiring a housekeeper without asking? 108 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:29,760 Edit to add I see a lot of comments about communication. I have been communicating non-stop about my needs and expectations 109 00:08:30,240 --> 00:08:33,520 I've led a lot of mistakes slide because I know this is hard for both of us 110 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:38,960 But when it became a daily thing I let him know if he's unable to do his part then I need additional help 111 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:42,640 I mentioned hiring some help and he laughed and said what a ridiculous way some money 112 00:08:42,720 --> 00:08:46,320 I knew if I asked again the answer would be no so I made the decision for both of us 113 00:08:46,320 --> 00:08:50,880 Also, I didn't throw away the tv replace station. I just canceled our subscriptions for them 114 00:08:51,120 --> 00:08:56,320 Housekeeping is 300 a month and everything I canceled including disney passes is about 230 115 00:08:56,640 --> 00:09:02,800 So won't be as much of a financial burden plus it will save more money as well since I won't have to replace destroyed pumps 116 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:07,840 Clothes and breast milk. So am I the asshole for hiring a housekeeper without asking? 117 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:14,800 Yes, I love that all the guys are shaking their heads during that whole story 118 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:16,800 And then I'm just like preach girl 119 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:23,520 Valid because first of all she works. Yes as well. Um 120 00:09:24,320 --> 00:09:30,400 And I don't know if there's any wife out there that wouldn't have had that thought to hire some help or 121 00:09:31,520 --> 00:09:35,280 Also the thought about her edit about the communication 122 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:36,640 I 123 00:09:36,640 --> 00:09:39,440 Guarantee there's not a chance that she did not 124 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:44,880 Not communicate with him and tell him a million times that he was doing it wrong 100% 125 00:09:47,360 --> 00:09:49,360 Okay, okay 126 00:09:49,440 --> 00:09:51,440 So the thing about communication 127 00:09:52,240 --> 00:09:54,960 Is you you can't just stop 128 00:09:55,760 --> 00:10:02,240 When it's convenient for you to like do your point like you kind of have to communicate until you get your point across unfortunately 129 00:10:02,880 --> 00:10:06,560 This guy was not getting it joe. Well, ah, so 130 00:10:06,560 --> 00:10:14,160 He obviously is having his own struggles. It's it's hard to be a dad with the baby too. Like we're tired too 131 00:10:15,120 --> 00:10:17,120 He should he should definitely have helped 132 00:10:17,680 --> 00:10:22,240 More like he should not be ruining pump parts and all that but she's definitely the asshole 133 00:10:22,560 --> 00:10:27,040 for making the executive decision to cancel all the things and hire 134 00:10:28,560 --> 00:10:29,280 Uh 135 00:10:29,280 --> 00:10:31,280 Higher help in my mind 136 00:10:31,280 --> 00:10:34,320 They could have budgeted for that like they could have been like, okay 137 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:37,120 We need extra help around here because we're both exhausted 138 00:10:38,160 --> 00:10:43,280 Let's let's do everything that we can to hire somebody to to help instead of it being like the blame game 139 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:45,600 They're both exhausted. They both have a child 140 00:10:46,240 --> 00:10:50,320 But she did talk to him about like hey, what can we do to make this better? 141 00:10:50,320 --> 00:10:56,720 And he just said I'm so tired. I'll just try better and like I'll try to be better and he wasn't getting better 142 00:10:57,200 --> 00:11:02,720 So obviously she's at a point where she's like snapped and she's like, okay f this I'm not doing the same thing 143 00:11:02,720 --> 00:11:07,440 Okay, f this I'm not doing this anymore. I'm hiring a housekeeper. I don't care what you say 144 00:11:07,760 --> 00:11:13,120 Well, I like joe's point because maybe they could have had an actual conversation and brought up the housekeeper 145 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:15,920 Because I'm sure that he would not be mad about that 146 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:21,520 Like if it wasn't the circumstances and if they did like agree on it, I'm sure he'd be like, oh, yeah, that'd be great 147 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:25,280 To have a housekeeper that I like I have to do less 148 00:11:25,920 --> 00:11:27,520 Than I'm already doing 149 00:11:27,520 --> 00:11:33,200 Yeah, they could have communicated a little bit. I'm curious if she ever did bring up the housekeeper and all right 150 00:11:33,360 --> 00:11:39,600 Did she say because yeah, I wonder what his reaction was to that because I think that would be an easy thing where it's like, okay 151 00:11:39,680 --> 00:11:43,040 Hey, we both feel like we're drowning. Let's hire some help 152 00:11:43,600 --> 00:11:49,200 Maybe like what's one thing you could sacrifice? Maybe not cancel the playstation if I canceled his xbox live 153 00:11:49,680 --> 00:11:51,280 That would probably be the end of our marriage 154 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:54,800 But the thing is you can still you can still play games 155 00:11:54,800 --> 00:12:00,720 It says you can't play online with other friends. Okay, so but then he can still play 156 00:12:01,440 --> 00:12:05,920 Okay, where where do we want to cut corners? What's worth it? You know, yeah 157 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:10,880 Yeah, and it's not saying that she talked about hiring a housekeeper. So that that was a good point then 158 00:12:11,040 --> 00:12:16,080 I think that she did she did mention it. Where so in the story it does say that she brought it up to him 159 00:12:16,080 --> 00:12:20,800 And he's like that's just a ridiculous waste of money. So that's just initially though, right? 160 00:12:20,800 --> 00:12:25,040 So like if you revisit this is what I'm saying about communication is 161 00:12:25,760 --> 00:12:30,800 You you kind of have to revisit things and communicate until you get on the same page 162 00:12:31,040 --> 00:12:33,760 Even if that's like, look, we cannot keep going 163 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:36,960 Through this. This is driving me absolutely crazy 164 00:12:37,680 --> 00:12:39,680 How are we gonna cross this bridge? 165 00:12:39,680 --> 00:12:42,160 Well, that's what's hard is because probably for him 166 00:12:42,240 --> 00:12:46,480 He feels like it's a waste of money because he's probably not as peeved about 167 00:12:46,480 --> 00:12:51,200 Him doing things wrong and things. Yeah, the house so her 168 00:12:51,840 --> 00:12:56,880 She's probably bothered enough by it where it's like, no, this is worth the money for me because it's like my sanity 169 00:12:57,360 --> 00:13:03,200 Yeah, and it does say it says I mentioned hiring some help and he laughed and said what a ridiculous waste of money 170 00:13:03,520 --> 00:13:08,320 I knew if I asked again the answer would be no so I made the decision for both of us. So yeah, you're it 171 00:13:08,480 --> 00:13:11,040 But yeah, that's the thing is it's that's that like 172 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:13,280 it's not 173 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:20,400 Females, it's not only females that do this we us men we can make executive decisions too. Yeah, that's never the right idea in my opinion 174 00:13:21,280 --> 00:13:25,040 Like she was obviously fed up with them. You don't you don't get to just like 175 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:27,120 cancel 176 00:13:27,120 --> 00:13:29,120 everything and make a 177 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:31,120 $300 a month purchase 178 00:13:31,600 --> 00:13:33,440 I kind of like it 179 00:13:33,440 --> 00:13:41,520 Just send it. Just yeah, just send it like he's like playing video games while they have a kid like 180 00:13:41,520 --> 00:13:42,400 I'm like 181 00:13:42,400 --> 00:13:45,600 Get up man. Yeah, it's time to grow up. Let's 182 00:13:46,480 --> 00:13:48,480 Put the controller away 183 00:13:48,720 --> 00:13:53,520 For each hidden wow the the irony of this situation is actually crazy 184 00:13:54,080 --> 00:13:56,080 If you know how much you put video games 185 00:13:57,280 --> 00:14:00,160 I mean, we don't have kids yet. So maybe a little change 186 00:14:00,800 --> 00:14:07,840 But I'm gonna replay that clip when he has kids put down the controller man. Get up take care of your kids 187 00:14:07,840 --> 00:14:12,480 That clip is gonna be on repeat. Yeah, you save that you save that 188 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:19,440 The level of fatigue i'm just gotta say that's a real thing that like it's very hard to explain 189 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:23,520 How tired you get just caring for a baby like women 190 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:28,080 Especially breastfeeding like they have it worse than us. I will give you 191 00:14:28,720 --> 00:14:30,480 everything 192 00:14:30,480 --> 00:14:36,800 Where you going with this buddy? I'm trying to say that it's it doesn't matter. You're so exhausted that I guess you can just relate to like 193 00:14:36,800 --> 00:14:42,560 Okay, I tried to wipe the counter down and yes, I missed the spot. I'm like, I'm sorry like 194 00:14:43,120 --> 00:14:45,120 I'm exhausted and I am 195 00:14:45,120 --> 00:14:49,360 Just trying to get to that point where I can shut my brain off and watch a watch 196 00:14:49,920 --> 00:14:52,960 Disney plus let me watch the lilo and stitch with my wife 197 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:59,600 Well, that brings me to how do you think couples should balance household the responsibilities and mental exhaustion? 198 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:02,560 Especially after a major life change like having a baby 199 00:15:02,560 --> 00:15:05,600 So how do you balance that therapy? 200 00:15:06,720 --> 00:15:08,400 I don't think you do well 201 00:15:08,400 --> 00:15:12,720 I think the the housekeeper is a great if you can't afford it 202 00:15:13,200 --> 00:15:16,400 The compromise is where it's like, hey, we're both drowning here 203 00:15:16,960 --> 00:15:20,960 I am not happy with the job that you're doing. I feel like it's putting a straight on the relationship 204 00:15:21,520 --> 00:15:26,160 So why don't we hire someone to do it and then we can spend our energy to get a little bit more sleep? 205 00:15:27,040 --> 00:15:30,160 You know, there's there's definitely pros and cons to like 206 00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:36,320 If you're not having your video games live anymore, but you are getting someone to come clean your house 207 00:15:36,880 --> 00:15:38,880 And you could afford it at that point like 208 00:15:39,600 --> 00:15:43,200 I will say there was something I didn't mention in here when I read the story 209 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:48,000 I kind of left it out, but it did talk about her saying like I'm sacrificing as well 210 00:15:48,160 --> 00:15:51,120 Like I love video games. So she actually games as well 211 00:15:52,080 --> 00:15:59,600 Um, and she watches way more tv than he does and so she's like I was it was a sacrifice for me as well 212 00:15:59,600 --> 00:16:04,240 By canceling all this stuff in order for us to have so she's not doing shit then 213 00:16:05,760 --> 00:16:08,800 I watch more tv and I play more video games 214 00:16:10,720 --> 00:16:12,720 But 215 00:16:16,240 --> 00:16:21,520 She's trying to she's trying to like hype herself up and justify what she did 216 00:16:22,240 --> 00:16:23,600 I do more of it 217 00:16:23,600 --> 00:16:28,160 I do feel like that he's like losing out way more than she's losing out 218 00:16:28,160 --> 00:16:33,280 Even though she said that comment. I just like it seems hard to believe that like 219 00:16:34,800 --> 00:16:36,000 She's 220 00:16:36,000 --> 00:16:42,640 She's able to play video games and do all these things, but he can't like and so she's like I'm gonna take his stuff away 221 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:46,960 You know, I just feel like that it's gonna it hurts him way more than her 222 00:16:46,960 --> 00:16:50,880 Why don't she take away one of her subscriptions and one of his 223 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:55,680 subscriptions and like but she did because all the streaming services like 224 00:16:55,680 --> 00:16:59,680 Are the tv stuff so you're he doesn't watch tv at all 225 00:17:00,640 --> 00:17:03,200 Well, it's a they both watch tv, you know 226 00:17:03,840 --> 00:17:08,240 I think it's just a matter of like she's willing because it's her pet peeve 227 00:17:08,320 --> 00:17:14,960 She doesn't want to live with like anything being dirtier and disarray like yeah the stuff not being done like to her 228 00:17:15,760 --> 00:17:22,800 Satisfaction, that's why it's like she's willing to make the sacrifice. It's a lot easier to sacrifice when it's something that like you are 229 00:17:22,800 --> 00:17:27,120 Liking like he probably doesn't really care about the house being super clean 230 00:17:27,120 --> 00:17:30,720 So I'm having to sacrifice. He didn't even get to choose like yeah 231 00:17:30,720 --> 00:17:35,200 He's gonna be way less happy like I'm I would be much more inclined to cancel 232 00:17:35,600 --> 00:17:39,760 Hulu and netflix if it meant that I could go and spend that money on golf clubs 233 00:17:39,840 --> 00:17:42,720 Like that's like a no-brainer and I be pissed right 234 00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:45,200 Yep, that's not happening 235 00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:51,280 But I think this is a really common thing with all marriages and relationships of like, okay, how do we balance? 236 00:17:51,280 --> 00:17:54,240 Who's doing what and is it enough and is it fair? 237 00:17:54,960 --> 00:18:00,080 So what do you guys feel like a good compromise is removing the cleaning service? 238 00:18:00,720 --> 00:18:03,600 Like do you guys think that there could have been a way that they? 239 00:18:05,440 --> 00:18:07,440 Resolve that without 240 00:18:08,480 --> 00:18:10,480 I like that you're good at this sammy 241 00:18:12,160 --> 00:18:19,920 Sammy used to try and institute like Saturday cleaning deep cleanings and I would not recommend that 242 00:18:19,920 --> 00:18:26,160 It just moved in together. It would be Saturday morning and he would be like watching college football. I'm like no Saturdays we clean 243 00:18:27,120 --> 00:18:29,920 But that's not a thing anymore. Oh man 244 00:18:31,120 --> 00:18:34,160 But we've had that even like we don't have kids but we both work full time 245 00:18:34,240 --> 00:18:39,840 Yes, so I was like I was doing a lot of the cooking and like, you know cleaning and things 246 00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:46,080 So we had to make kind of a schedule where he takes dinner on Tuesdays and Fridays and then I cook the rest of the nights or 247 00:18:46,080 --> 00:18:50,560 Hey, you these are the kind of things that you're in charge of and then I'm in charge of this 248 00:18:51,120 --> 00:18:55,440 Mm-hmm, but I mean as like a woman I kind of face that to where I'm like, okay 249 00:18:55,440 --> 00:18:57,440 No, like when I asked you to clean the bathroom 250 00:18:57,440 --> 00:18:58,160 Yeah 251 00:18:58,160 --> 00:19:03,040 Like we clean like the tub and the shower and the floor is like we don't just like wipe off the counter 252 00:19:03,120 --> 00:19:06,240 You know like there are things that you have to clean. Yes. Yes 253 00:19:06,480 --> 00:19:11,440 Um, and so that's hard because you you kind of you can communicate that to a certain extent 254 00:19:11,760 --> 00:19:14,880 But know that like it's probably never going to be done how you want it to be done 255 00:19:14,880 --> 00:19:19,760 Very true. Um, and so you kind of have to just like let that go or do it yourself. Yep 256 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:22,800 So I don't know if there is like a perfect compromise 257 00:19:25,120 --> 00:19:27,120 I just all I can think is 258 00:19:27,200 --> 00:19:31,520 communication, right like it's just a matter of how it's relayed and 259 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:36,480 It's very easy when you're like in the heat of the moment to be like, hey, you suck at cleaning 260 00:19:36,480 --> 00:19:39,680 Do you not see that you f this up and it's not clean like 261 00:19:39,680 --> 00:19:44,080 Like whether it doesn't matter if it's like the guy or the girl like it doesn't matter 262 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:47,120 But the bottom line is it's like, hey, this is something that's like 263 00:19:47,920 --> 00:19:50,720 Important to me. This is making me to lose my mind 264 00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:53,440 What can we do to make this like work? 265 00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:57,200 Well, it's communication and compromise because you're gonna have to compromise at some point 266 00:19:57,680 --> 00:19:59,680 Like me in the middle 267 00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:00,640 He's gonna have to give 268 00:20:00,640 --> 00:20:01,280 Yeah 269 00:20:01,280 --> 00:20:06,800 And like there's action that needs to be taken place as well because you can communicate as well as possible 270 00:20:06,800 --> 00:20:12,160 But nothing's gonna happen or like nope. What is going on over there? I know I'm 271 00:20:13,120 --> 00:20:19,840 I'm dying it why he's because what you said or like the other day I went I kind of freaked out I'm Harley 272 00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:25,200 Check your shits all over the floor like this shits over here. What the hell are we doing? 273 00:20:27,680 --> 00:20:29,680 She's like 274 00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:32,400 She's so crying 275 00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:34,400 So 276 00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:39,040 How do you guys do things? 277 00:20:39,760 --> 00:20:44,080 Well, I work full-time he golfs 36 holes a day, which is what? 278 00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:51,280 I'm working full-time. I'm trying to make it to the tour the grind on the grind don't sleep 279 00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:55,600 There's my answer 280 00:20:55,760 --> 00:21:01,040 So then do you expect him to do all the chores? No, no, no, no, I don't I do all the chores 281 00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:02,320 I 282 00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:05,280 Expect him to take out the trash. So what do you do? 283 00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:07,280 The dishes 284 00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:12,080 I know I do have some to do the dishes a lot because I hate doing I do the dishes every time 285 00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:17,040 But it takes a million times for me to like get you to do it 286 00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:23,040 And you throw your clothes all over the floor everywhere because I have to change my outfit 287 00:21:23,120 --> 00:21:27,200 Hey the good news is and she doesn't unplug the curling iron in the morning 288 00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:30,560 Yeah, that's a good thing you were at home. Listen. Yeah 289 00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:41,920 So the good news is you guys are still really you guys are still really new at this and you're gonna figure it out 290 00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:46,960 We're new here. This whole being married thing. Yeah, there's 291 00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:49,920 Cheeks are that peeves happen. Oh 292 00:21:51,760 --> 00:21:53,760 Then he's like roasting you for having 293 00:21:54,480 --> 00:21:56,000 messes 294 00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:58,000 Meanwhile not doing the dishes 295 00:21:58,240 --> 00:21:59,440 Step it up young man 296 00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:04,080 Safe to say that this lady's in good company because yes, I'll have the same issue 297 00:22:05,120 --> 00:22:12,160 This is every but okay. I was gonna say I had a client today and she was talking about how she was getting some house cleaning like 298 00:22:13,120 --> 00:22:14,800 um quotes 299 00:22:14,800 --> 00:22:22,480 And that's a steal 300 dollars because she her quote was like 700. Yeah, that's insane like that means a big house too 300 00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:26,400 Yeah for the record. Yeah, it is bigger. So charge your mark 301 00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:32,480 Right, but I'm just saying like I feel like that's so worth it. That's all I want to say though 302 00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:35,040 as a woman 303 00:22:35,760 --> 00:22:38,000 When we are talking about communication 304 00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:41,360 You got to back it up with some action 305 00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:44,080 That's all I'm saying. So she says honey 306 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:50,960 It really really upset me that you left my breast milk that I pumped and worked so hard for on the counter because you were too busy 307 00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:53,520 Playing video games. Please don't ever do that again 308 00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:59,600 He better never frickin do that again. He I literally did that one time and I never did it again 309 00:22:59,920 --> 00:23:02,960 No, you never did that. I you would not be here if you did that 310 00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:06,000 Did you do that 311 00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:12,720 One time no, yeah, I remember very vividly. Don't worry. I was still alive. She's sleeping upstairs. It's okay. Everything's great 312 00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:15,840 Did I get mad at you? Yes? Oh, and we got over it 313 00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:20,320 But it was literally the exact same thing you took action. She communicated you took action 314 00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:24,400 He's never done it again. You're still alive and I forgot him. It's fine. And I'm really good at cleaning 315 00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:31,440 Did you spill it? No, I just left it out. Oh my okay. Okay. Everything's fine. I'm an age 316 00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:35,680 Let's let's keep going. Oh my hell. This one comes from am I the asshole? 317 00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:42,800 Am I the asshole if I gave my girlfriend the silent treatment for constantly interrupting me slash talking over me? 318 00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:48,400 And Winnie did that about five seconds ago 319 00:23:48,400 --> 00:23:53,040 I saw it. I saw it the looks that Joe was giving one in your hand now or 320 00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:59,600 It is actually crazy. It is recorded. You guys. I'm actually really scared about this story and how much I'm gonna be roasted today 321 00:23:59,920 --> 00:24:01,920 But let's do this. Here we go 322 00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:04,400 Is it cool if I start now? 323 00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:11,760 All right, first time post it. Let's do it. No, I'm just doing it 324 00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:19,040 You have no idea how demoralizing it is to just be like 325 00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:21,920 Okay 326 00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:24,880 First time posting something like this, but it's really been bothering me 327 00:24:25,360 --> 00:24:29,520 My gf f26 has always had a bad habit of talking over me 328 00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:31,920 No exaggeration three to six times a day 329 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:36,480 She finds the need to speak over or interrupt me to give input correct me, etc 330 00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:42,240 I've explained that this is hurtful and rude, but she continues to do it and not making excuses, but 331 00:24:42,240 --> 00:25:08,560 She has autism and quote doesn't even really realize 332 00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:13,280 Pause not trying to make excuses, but she does have autism 333 00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:18,320 Like you just stopped reading. Why'd you stop reading? 334 00:25:23,120 --> 00:25:25,120 You read the first two sentences 335 00:25:25,120 --> 00:25:37,600 I've explained that this is hurtful and rude, but she continues to do it and quote 336 00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:44,160 Not making excuses, but and quote doesn't even really realize she's doing it and I met my wit's end 337 00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:46,160 I love her and I know she loves me 338 00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:51,440 But this this is problem behavior that she doesn't even seem to feel the need to apologize over her work on 339 00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:55,840 So I've been keeping my talking to her besides the absolute necessities to a minimum 340 00:25:56,160 --> 00:26:00,080 She's already noticed and asked what was wrong and I just told her I'm tired of being interrupted 341 00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:03,840 She's upset by this and seems to feel like I'm being an asshole. So 342 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:05,600 A it a 343 00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:08,240 Am I the asshole? 344 00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:10,640 No, no 345 00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:17,920 The girl is definitely the asshole, I mean here's my hesitancy because 346 00:26:19,120 --> 00:26:21,040 he's like 347 00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:24,320 We're on his side clearly because she's keeps interrupting him. Yes 348 00:26:25,120 --> 00:26:30,240 But is that the best way to handle it? Probably not, but maybe he's just 349 00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:33,440 You just get so shut down that you 350 00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:36,640 Get rid of the sudden treatment. I don't know. Yeah 351 00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:40,720 This this uh hits particularly close to home 352 00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:47,840 I'm not gonna ever point any fingers. It's his first wife. Let's talk you about listen 353 00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:49,840 The thing about it is 354 00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:53,280 I only relate to opi because 355 00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:58,560 There's times where like you kind of just feel defeated. You kind of feel like okay. I cannot 356 00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:01,600 Say my peace 357 00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:04,560 Like you got to interrupt me with some like degrading little 358 00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:08,560 Good buddy. Go ahead buddy. You have the talking stick 359 00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:11,920 You I'm gonna keep going 360 00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:13,920 I'm not gonna interrupt 361 00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:15,920 I'm not gonna interrupt 362 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:21,280 No, I'm here. I'm ready to talk 363 00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:32,480 So the weird part is that this is a real pet peeve for me and 364 00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:35,680 It drives me insane 365 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:42,000 But the truth is like in a social setting if I get interrupted a lot and it's not just like it's like it happened to me growing up 366 00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:47,760 Whatever and it's like I can't help it. I lose I lose the ability to like 367 00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:53,040 Want to contribute to the conversation. So yes, he could handle it a better way 368 00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:57,040 he could like not be a douchebag to her but 369 00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:02,560 It it gets it's a difficult thing to deal with when you can't get your thoughts across 370 00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:08,400 Some people speak differently. Some people like takes time to get all the thoughts out. I'm I'm that way 371 00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:12,000 I'm a very easy person to interrupt. Would you like to speak? 372 00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:24,080 Okay, one I have gotten tremendously better 373 00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:31,600 I didn't even say anything but you pat yourself on the back. Thank you 374 00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:37,360 I have gotten a lot better, but I have seen like in social settings you get interrupted 375 00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:42,320 All the time like you were that person that just constantly gets interrupted 376 00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:45,120 And it's really sad 377 00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:49,360 And I will say she's like tearing up for you Joe. Poor little guy 378 00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:52,640 I would hate to be you 379 00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:56,000 You don't command the room like 380 00:28:57,280 --> 00:28:58,800 Like us no 381 00:28:58,800 --> 00:29:05,280 But I will say like it's always the people that get interrupted the most that are actually the best to listen to 382 00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:09,280 And they're the funniest and they're by far the coolest 383 00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:14,720 You're just buttering me up now, but it's working. That's why I get interrupted all the time 384 00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:24,080 Have any of you guys ever had the silent treatment work or benefit of an argument? 385 00:29:24,880 --> 00:29:26,880 No, yes 386 00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:28,880 Breakups all the time 387 00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:30,960 Oh, well, yeah, that's more like 388 00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:35,040 Play hard to get but like in your actual relationship 389 00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:39,440 Like if you're mad at Joe for something and then you just give him the silent treatment 390 00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:43,040 You feel like that helps the fight or makes it worse 391 00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:45,920 um 392 00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:51,360 Okay, so I feel like with the silent treatment if Joe does something that's like definitely crossing the line 393 00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:55,360 And if I do give it I feel like it gives him time and me time 394 00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:58,800 Especially him time to like breathe and like realize what he did 395 00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:03,440 Yeah, so I do think that was 396 00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:08,880 That was a thought that I had of like her being like what's like her finally asking him what's wrong and he was like 397 00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:11,920 Okay, so now you can see this is actually really affecting me 398 00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:16,880 I've been telling you that this has been bugging me and now you're saying what's wrong and then 399 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:20,880 I'm telling you and then you can see that it's like actually hurting my feelings and I'm 400 00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:23,040 It makes me not even want to talk 401 00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:27,200 So maybe like he could give the silent treatment. She might be mad that he's like 402 00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:32,400 Give him silent treatment or whatever, but then they may come back around and then be like, okay 403 00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:36,240 Hey, I'm taking you seriously now. I'm really gonna try and stop 404 00:30:36,720 --> 00:30:41,120 Like maybe that's what guys have to do sometimes to like really get you to take them seriously 405 00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:45,600 Joe's done that exact thing multiple times with me and yes 406 00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:52,400 It works. Yeah, I mean, I'm not perfect like I am someone that's very loud and like I talk and 407 00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:55,280 I have a thought I just say it 408 00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:57,440 But I feel like I have gotten better with that 409 00:30:58,480 --> 00:31:03,360 What are the boys opinions on the silent treatment? Yeah, like if I were to give you the silent treatment 410 00:31:03,840 --> 00:31:05,840 Are you just like 411 00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:07,920 Stop your being a baby or are you like, oh 412 00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:10,640 She's going the other room turn on a game or 413 00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:14,480 All right, see you see you later 414 00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:16,000 You're just soaking up talking to me 415 00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:18,000 Off the look for a couple hours 416 00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,520 That's hilarious. Have you ever given the silent treatment? 417 00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:24,960 Yeah, I'm sure I have 418 00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:27,280 I'm sure I have 419 00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:31,280 But that's what I wonder is I'm like, do you do you take the silent treatment as like? 420 00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:37,760 Oh, wow, this is serious or is it like k you're being a baby like I'll come back in 10 minutes and see if you've right 421 00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:39,760 atured up yet? 422 00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:42,000 Probably 423 00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:47,520 The first I think that it's probably serious and I'm like, what do I do to fix this? 424 00:31:47,760 --> 00:31:51,840 Because I think that's everyone's intention in giving the silent treatment is like, okay 425 00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:56,560 No, now I'm shutting down you need to grovel a little bit you need to come back to me after what you did 426 00:31:56,800 --> 00:31:59,840 Yep. So it's definitely like a call for help. Yeah, for sure 427 00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:02,960 and that like 428 00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:06,640 My first reaction when you asked about the silent treatment is I'm like, no that's stupid 429 00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:10,000 like no silent treatment works, but it's funny because at the beginning of our 430 00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:14,160 relationship if I felt like she was upset with me and like if I got I mean 431 00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:17,240 it could have been for anything. If I messed up I said something that was 432 00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:22,800 offensive, I get the silent treatment. I would not ever be like okay we're gonna 433 00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:26,400 like we're gonna have space I'm gonna go away I'd be like what's wrong are you 434 00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:30,240 okay what's wrong with you yeah why are you mad are you mad at me what did I do 435 00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:34,040 that's not the way to do it either so there's definitely a balance somewhere 436 00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:42,400 like it can serve a purpose but it's not the answer all the time. So my girlfriend 437 00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:46,680 26 female has this huge pet peeve about grammar she's super well-spoken and 438 00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:50,840 always priding herself on using perfect English which like good for her right 439 00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:55,720 but the problem is I 28 male grew up in a more casual household and I don't 440 00:32:55,720 --> 00:32:59,680 usually speak with perfect grammar. Sometimes I say things like me and John 441 00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:04,040 or use double negatives nothing crazy but definitely not a hundred percent 442 00:33:04,040 --> 00:33:07,960 grammatically correct. Here's where the issue is every time I say something 443 00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:11,400 slightly off especially when we're with friends or even at family gatherings 444 00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:16,320 she'll interrupt me and correct me every single time. It's not just a quick oh 445 00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:20,760 you mean John and I right? She goes on these little rants about how people 446 00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:25,400 sound uneducated when they don't use proper grammar and how it's a reflection 447 00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:30,000 of intelligence. The worst part is she does it in front of people it's embarrassing. 448 00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:33,720 A couple of weeks ago we were at a party and I said I should have went to the 449 00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:38,680 store earlier classic mistake I get it but she literally stopped the entire 450 00:33:38,680 --> 00:33:43,960 conversation to give a mini lecture on how saying instead of saying should of 451 00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:48,840 is wrong and that the correct phrase is should have in front of everyone. People 452 00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:56,160 were looking at me like I was an idiot after the party they're like yeah stupid. 453 00:33:56,160 --> 00:34:00,280 After the party I told her how much it bothers me that she corrects me in 454 00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:03,920 public. She brushed it off and said she would it was just trying to help me 455 00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:08,080 speak better because she doesn't want me to embarrass myself. She does she said 456 00:34:08,080 --> 00:34:11,560 it's like someone correcting spinach in your teeth you'd want to know right. I 457 00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:16,160 told her it's not the same and then it makes me feel small. Then last weekend 458 00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:19,920 we were hanging out with some of our friends some of her friends and I made 459 00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:26,120 another minor mistake saying less instead of fewer. Hello and she did it again 460 00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:30,480 right in front of her friends I snapped and told her to stop being a grammar 461 00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:35,800 Nazi and let me speak how I want. We had a big argument afterward and she said I 462 00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:39,800 was overreacting and then I need to toughen up and stop being so sensitive. 463 00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:43,440 Now she's mad at me for calling her out and I'm mad at her for always making me 464 00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:47,640 feel dumb. I know grammar is important to her but is it really that big of a deal 465 00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:51,720 that she has to call me out like that in front of people? Am I the asshole for 466 00:34:51,720 --> 00:34:55,160 losing my temper over this or is she being the asshole for constantly 467 00:34:55,160 --> 00:35:00,440 correcting me? You had me as she was interrupting him to tell him. You have 468 00:35:00,440 --> 00:35:05,880 experience. I feel like I've had someone do that to me before. 469 00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:11,640 They're like no you said that wrong and it's like shit it were around 40 people 470 00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:16,360 like shut up. Yeah I had a thing in high school I probably still do it I just 471 00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:22,440 don't care anymore but I would always use the word for in like the most random 472 00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:27,440 sentences like I would always be saying for. Do I still do it? No you'd get 473 00:35:27,440 --> 00:35:31,600 like disappeared from like she used to say instead of because yeah she would say 474 00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:40,160 for yeah so like we went to the store like for my for like shows that I'm gonna 475 00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:45,320 make tonight. I can't think of a good example but I it was like in place of 476 00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:52,200 because. I just would say for a lot and I had a friend that would constantly like 477 00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:55,840 whether it was in front of people or just us to like try and correct me on it 478 00:35:55,840 --> 00:36:01,000 and like it doesn't make you feel good like yes I know I'm oh I didn't know I 479 00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:05,800 was saying it wrong until they started correcting me but I also was like I don't 480 00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:11,000 know what other word to use I'm not I don't know so I'm just gonna use it. Why? Like what do you 481 00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:15,640 what do you care about right now? Just let me talk just let me sound dumb. It's 482 00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:19,360 literally trying to communicate that's it. Yeah just trying to speak English like 483 00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:24,120 so anyways I can relate a little bit to this girl. I mean guy. Yeah I was just 484 00:36:24,120 --> 00:36:31,920 gonna say she is obviously embarrassed because of him. Yeah. She like she equates 485 00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:38,320 being smart with how you speak and she thinks he sucks at speaking so he's 486 00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:42,680 dumb which I don't know why she's with him if she thinks he's dumb but it gets 487 00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:48,640 super frustrating when someone corrects you on everything. Well I think it's 488 00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:53,120 dumb that she has such a big problem with it but like it sounds like she's not 489 00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:57,600 really doing it to anybody else so like that kind of stuff I mean maybe just 490 00:36:57,600 --> 00:37:02,960 everybody else around her is just doing great at it but he probably does feel 491 00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:07,160 like very attacked by it because it sounds like she's not she's not really 492 00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:11,240 doing it to anybody else other than him and if anything she should not be doing 493 00:37:11,240 --> 00:37:15,680 it to him. Well yeah I think there's something about like putting your partner 494 00:37:15,680 --> 00:37:21,000 down in front of other people like it really did bother her she could when 495 00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:25,680 they're alone and like hey you keep saying this but like it's actually this 496 00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:30,000 or like did you know I don't know right sounds weird when you say that or 497 00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:33,560 whatever if she really if it really does bother her she could be like hey I'm 498 00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:39,320 gonna try and help you out but I feel like you got to be careful of when 499 00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:41,960 you're correcting your partner especially if you're doing it over and over 500 00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:45,680 again and like making them look dumb in front of other people that's where it 501 00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:48,720 would like really bother me it wouldn't be so much correct in the grammar it'd 502 00:37:48,720 --> 00:37:51,960 be more of like making me feel like an idiot in front of all our friends or 503 00:37:51,960 --> 00:37:57,440 whatever. Maybe he's just really funny and she hates that. Yeah maybe she's just 504 00:37:57,440 --> 00:38:01,880 jealous of it. I think she's stuck up. So she's just trying to bring him down. Yeah. 505 00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:08,680 Yeah she's definitely an asshole. She is cute. Absolutely. And he needs to dump her. 506 00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:13,440 Like she's the one on social media constantly being like there you meant 507 00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:20,320 THER. Not THER. Yeah nobody likes the grammar police like they're not a good 508 00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:26,480 time. No. I don't care who you are. Maybe something important. Yeah. Like I don't know. 509 00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:31,240 Like is he a good person? Does he have a good kind heart? I don't know. Does he use the 510 00:38:31,240 --> 00:38:42,280 right there in a sentence? The right your? Yeah. I say it doesn't. This is our story 511 00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:50,600 of this. Wow. Thanks. It just yeah it speaks more to her insecurities like that's 512 00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:53,400 just the thing that like you don't need to you don't need to flame your partner 513 00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:58,360 in front of other people. Bro why are you just out in public with those things on 514 00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:02,040 your feet? You're not at the beach not at home not at the pool just casually 515 00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:07,240 flip and flop in those ugly dump truck toes with hair out in public thinking 516 00:39:07,240 --> 00:39:11,480 that the world needs to see those things. I have news for you. No one wants to see 517 00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:15,720 them. What are you going to do if a fire breaks out and need to save a kid? Or if 518 00:39:15,720 --> 00:39:23,320 you're out with your lady and some dude starts harassing her are you just going 519 00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:27,520 to kick off those foam pads you have tucked between your fat piggy toes and 520 00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:32,720 be ready for action then she'll be ready in public for anything. I can't be walking 521 00:39:32,720 --> 00:39:36,720 around sounding like flipper when I need to change a spare tire in an emergency 522 00:39:36,720 --> 00:39:41,040 especially people of color like myself I already have to put coconut butter on my 523 00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:45,720 legs and feet so I'm already surfing in my slippers when I'm at the beach. Geez 524 00:39:45,720 --> 00:39:50,280 grown men need to step it up and look a little bit presentable these days lol. So 525 00:39:50,280 --> 00:39:57,160 the pet peeve is grown men like going in public with just flip flops. I didn't get 526 00:39:57,160 --> 00:40:02,120 that for all that. Okay I'm right there I followed the whole thing I don't think 527 00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:06,320 he's talking about flip flops I think he's talking about like that between the 528 00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:11,560 big toe yeah like them them flipper action boys but I don't think he wants 529 00:40:11,560 --> 00:40:16,880 to see toes at all like he doesn't want to see a foot he wants to see a shoe 530 00:40:16,880 --> 00:40:20,360 with the sock well he's gonna have to have a conversation with my wife who 531 00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:26,800 really likes my feet. Do you guys know about that? No I'm sure. We'll tell you later. 532 00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:31,480 It's this really good story. Do you guys feel like seeing a guy in a thong? 533 00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:40,240 Um no I love it. I love it. I think that isn't it a well-known thing like isn't it 534 00:40:40,240 --> 00:40:46,480 a guide code that you can't just have your feet out for everyone to see? Is that 535 00:40:46,480 --> 00:40:51,360 a thing? Like isn't that why guys wear socks with slides? Is that not I thought 536 00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:55,520 that was like a well-known thing? That's why I do. That's why you do? To hide your toes? 537 00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:58,960 I don't want people to look I don't want people looking at my feet I feel weird 538 00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:03,920 about that. Actual flip flops with your slides. Yeah if I'm in public I'm wearing 539 00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:07,680 socks if I have sandals on. There's probably no reason for a guy to like 540 00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:13,600 ever wear flip flops like the thong flip flops. The beach? Like if you wear slides 541 00:41:13,600 --> 00:41:19,640 like you really need the like flip flops? Yeah that's the dead giveaway that it 542 00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:23,680 slides I mean that it's flip flops and not slides. These don't make noise I walk 543 00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:27,440 with these they don't slap my feet. They have all sorts of types of slides you 544 00:41:27,440 --> 00:41:31,560 don't need flip-flops. If he did show up to beach day with them what would you do? 545 00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:37,480 I have nothing. But why? If I was on a first date at the beach and he showed up 546 00:41:37,480 --> 00:41:40,880 wearing flip-flops that's a whole other story because that's your man I don't 547 00:41:40,880 --> 00:41:46,480 care if he's wearing flip-flops. That's your man. You know? I have a thing so they 548 00:41:46,480 --> 00:41:52,000 they say how do you feel about slides? They responded. No one should be flipping 549 00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:57,880 flopping or sliding out in public. Oh so we just not agree with the flop. Or sliding. I happen to 550 00:41:57,880 --> 00:42:02,880 disagree. Here's the thing when it comes to flip flops where my mind went was 551 00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:07,920 like there's full grown adult men that will wear the thong style flip flops 552 00:42:07,920 --> 00:42:12,640 with a pair of jeans. I was gonna say the same thing. That doesn't drive me insane. 553 00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:18,280 Like I don't want to see your like sock white toes protruding out of your blue 554 00:42:18,280 --> 00:42:26,040 jeans. Like that's a problem. If you see a guy at Safeway with just his toes out 555 00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:32,360 and slides or flip flops are you gonna be like oh that's awesome. Yeah I would 556 00:42:32,360 --> 00:42:39,840 think twice. I would definitely look at it and be like mmm a little distasteful. 557 00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:46,960 Really? Yeah. What if he gets a pedicure and his toes are painted and stuff. Yeah 558 00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:52,160 you should see Hayden's. Hayden got a pedicure today. He literally has his toes 559 00:42:52,160 --> 00:42:59,200 painted. That's awesome. So can I have my toes out? You bring flip flops? No. I think it's 560 00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:03,120 I honestly think it's better if you do have your toes painted. Yeah. That's like a 561 00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:10,440 bare toe now. Yeah. Oh here's the thing like if Hayden like if he goes to softball 562 00:43:10,440 --> 00:43:14,000 and has his cleats on or whatever or plays baseball and then he slides his 563 00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:18,800 slides on with his socks like leaving the baseball stadium I'm like oh that's 564 00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:23,800 kind of hot. No it's not. Like I'm down for like some slides is like a post sports 565 00:43:23,800 --> 00:43:29,680 look. With socks though. With socks yeah and like he has he has some slides like 566 00:43:29,680 --> 00:43:33,200 that but like I feel like the only time I'm like ever good with him wearing them 567 00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:37,920 is like when he takes out the garbage. Yeah. But we also live in Utah so I think 568 00:43:37,920 --> 00:43:42,480 it may be a different like culture if it's Arizona where it's hot all the time 569 00:43:42,480 --> 00:43:47,200 like you guys are human you deserve to you know air your feet out and let him 570 00:43:47,200 --> 00:43:51,600 breathe. But then the sweat is like going up against the thing is like 571 00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:59,840 squeak. Yeah. Swish. We're just gonna swash him. Also riddle me this like if we go to the pool 572 00:43:59,840 --> 00:44:03,920 so like let's say tomorrow at our hotel we go to the pool and he brings his slides 573 00:44:03,920 --> 00:44:07,680 like is he just supposed to wear socks and then I thought he'd come across that 574 00:44:07,680 --> 00:44:10,400 at the beach when he's like what am I supposed to do with my socks and I'm 575 00:44:10,400 --> 00:44:16,560 like why'd you even wear socks. You know. So there's like I think the whole point 576 00:44:16,560 --> 00:44:20,880 of that was like there's a time and a place. Yes. You know the airport the 577 00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:27,520 grocery store not the place to like. Yeah. Like being in a plane and you just see someone 578 00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:33,360 with. Just in the aisle. Sandals in the airport are just a no no for boys and girls. 579 00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:39,440 Right. Or I had a co-worker the other day who wore heels to work and then we were in 580 00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:43,840 like a meeting and she took off her shoes and like was just letting her feet and 581 00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:49,840 like we're in like a public workplace. No. Like don't take off your shoes. Like you 582 00:44:49,840 --> 00:44:54,320 don't know who that could affect. Yeah. I think just taking off your like girls you 583 00:44:54,320 --> 00:44:58,800 can wear sandals you know but if girls have gross feet no one wants to see that either. 584 00:44:58,800 --> 00:45:03,600 Right. So just gross feet in general. Yeah. Yeah. Hide your gross feet. How do you know 585 00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:08,960 if you have gross feet or not. You can tell. You got like Harry Tell was in Longfinger 586 00:45:08,960 --> 00:45:17,360 Nails and like dried skin everywhere and you know or toenails. I'm like I feel slightly 587 00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:22,240 attacked. Yeah. Don't you feel like I feel actually like yeah very very victimized right 588 00:45:22,240 --> 00:45:26,560 now. No but the truth is this is what I was going to say about your like the sock point 589 00:45:26,560 --> 00:45:33,520 is I like living here I used to always wear socks everywhere and I'm like fully like 590 00:45:34,080 --> 00:45:38,400 anti sock now I go to the gym and I wear vans with no socks. Oh. 591 00:45:38,400 --> 00:45:44,160 Like Joe. No listen and it's it's it's gotten so much better. My feet used to just be hot 592 00:45:44,160 --> 00:45:49,440 all the time and now I can go get a workout in in vans and my feet don't sweat. It's amazing. 593 00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:54,960 Vans. Yes. What kind of work are we doing. They don't even stink. I just lift. He just 594 00:45:54,960 --> 00:46:00,480 sits there. I just lift. That's it. And he stretches. I'm completely serious. That's like 595 00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:06,000 they're over there. Anyone is welcome to smell them. They don't stink and I'm like anti socks 596 00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:11,920 now. So. So for our podcast listeners Joe is currently just wearing barefoot or bare feet 597 00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:16,560 and he has slides on so that's why he's getting roasted right now. So is this the common thing 598 00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:20,240 like would you go out to dinner like that. Yes. I literally wore these to dinner. Oh. 599 00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:28,240 Seem like with with no socks with no socks. I went to dinner. Don't point that out. 600 00:46:29,680 --> 00:46:35,120 And look this is going to be super unpopular. I know this but I also just I just don't care. 601 00:46:35,120 --> 00:46:40,960 I don't care about this. It just doesn't bother me. I will wear these on an airplane but I will 602 00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:47,040 wear socks. I don't care about the whole sandals thing and I'm getting a window seat and nobody 603 00:46:47,040 --> 00:46:52,800 has to look at my feet facts. What about toe socks. I like your feet toe socks with the thong. 604 00:46:52,800 --> 00:46:59,840 That is a that is a oh my gosh. So I just died. If you go to that if you go to the airport 605 00:46:59,840 --> 00:47:08,320 or you wear socks just because you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or germs because I 606 00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:14,400 have to take them off to go through the scanner. I'm like sense. But like I'm all about comfort. 607 00:47:14,400 --> 00:47:18,480 If I'm flying why would I not be as comfortable as possible. It's so uncomfortable. 608 00:47:18,480 --> 00:47:22,640 See and you do get to a certain age where like if I was in that same situation but you don't 609 00:47:22,640 --> 00:47:26,960 want to let my feet out. I don't care who sees it. I want to be comfortable. It's hot 610 00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:32,640 as hell outside. So who cares. So if you want to do it do it but just know that we'll all judge you. 611 00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:37,520 I'm I'm I'm first I was feeling insecure but now I'm accepting the judgment. 612 00:47:37,520 --> 00:47:40,560 I won't judge because I like feet. Thank you everyone for coming. 613 00:47:44,560 --> 00:47:51,120 That was perfect. That was fun. That was really fun seriously. Thank you guys so much for joining 614 00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:56,560 us this week. That was so fun to have you guys. You guys are invited every week. Yeah we'll just 615 00:47:56,560 --> 00:48:01,600 Skype you guys in next week. Skype in when we're big and famous we'll fly you out. Yeah 616 00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:07,440 that's I like that next week. I like it. Well we're excited to hear who you guys think is the 617 00:48:07,440 --> 00:48:14,080 fates. Stay tuned. Yeah comment on socials who you think the fake was. What your favorite story 618 00:48:14,080 --> 00:48:18,560 was. We're still encouraging you guys to share your own stories with us. So if you if you have your 619 00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:23,520 own pet peeve story you want to share email internet frenzy at gmail.com. We'll read them at the 620 00:48:23,520 --> 00:48:30,560 intro of next week and thank you guys for the support. Much love. Be good. Friends on three 621 00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:57,040 one. No we don't you don't have to. I'll never do it. I got your.