1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,100 This week on Hot Couple Chronicles. 2 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:06,880 This week we are going to talk about something that we get asked about. 3 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:10,680 And it is one of the main topics of all the questions and all the 4 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:11,640 things that we get. 5 00:00:11,640 --> 00:00:13,680 It's about jealousy. 6 00:00:13,740 --> 00:00:16,520 If you're feeling jealous, dig inside yourself. 7 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:17,180 Yeah. 8 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:18,640 Probably a you thing. 9 00:00:18,800 --> 00:00:24,360 You have some kind of fear of abandonment or that someone's going to be better 10 00:00:24,360 --> 00:00:29,480 than you or bigger than you or you know, I've seen jealousy does some crazy 11 00:00:29,480 --> 00:00:30,240 stuff to people. 12 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:31,960 Jealousy isn't your worst enemy. 13 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:34,120 It's what you do with the jealousy. 14 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:38,600 We always say this lifestyle can make or break your relationship and it does it 15 00:00:38,600 --> 00:00:39,440 very quickly. 16 00:00:39,480 --> 00:00:40,440 We've noticed. 17 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:43,040 I mean, you'll know pretty fast if it's going to work out or not. 18 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:46,160 The ultimate prize is how close we've become. 19 00:00:46,160 --> 00:00:46,480 Yeah. 20 00:00:46,520 --> 00:00:50,600 What you get out of working through it and dealing with it and getting through 21 00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:55,480 jealousy and all the bad feels so you can have all the good feels together. 22 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:59,080 Welcome to Hot Couple Chronicles, a podcast exploring the 23 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:00,120 swinging lifestyle. 24 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:04,400 Our discussions may contain explicit content and adult themes intended for 25 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:05,640 mature audiences. 26 00:01:06,040 --> 00:01:09,640 While we strive to offer valuable insights and entertainment, please be aware 27 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:13,760 that the views expressed are based on personal experiences and opinions. 28 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:17,520 We encourage listeners to approach the content with an open mind and to 29 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:21,720 prioritize communication, consent, and respect in their relationships. 30 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:24,120 Remember everyone's journey is unique. 31 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:26,640 So take what resonates with you and leave what doesn't. 32 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:28,800 Thank you for joining us on our adventure. 33 00:01:50,280 --> 00:01:51,000 I'm Russ. 34 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:51,800 And I'm Ashley. 35 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:54,320 And this is Hot Couple Chronicles. 36 00:01:54,320 --> 00:01:55,160 Happy Wednesday. 37 00:01:55,160 --> 00:01:56,480 Happy Wednesday. 38 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:57,560 Thanks for coming back. 39 00:01:57,920 --> 00:01:58,760 We appreciate you. 40 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:04,880 So last week we talked with Robin Lindsay and we covered your birthday weekend. 41 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:09,160 So now that you've had some time to let everything really soak in, cause we got 42 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:14,120 it fresh, fresh, we recorded it like in the midst of it. 43 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:22,520 It was a lot to, I was like overwhelmed in a good way, but speechless still. 44 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:26,960 But I can't say I'm not, it was such a good weekend. 45 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:30,040 I want to do it again, like a redo. 46 00:02:30,040 --> 00:02:30,240 Same. 47 00:02:30,240 --> 00:02:31,800 Well, like another one right now. 48 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:32,960 I need a redo. 49 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:34,000 I'm ready. 50 00:02:34,280 --> 00:02:34,800 I'm ready. 51 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:36,000 It's been a couple of weeks. 52 00:02:36,200 --> 00:02:37,080 It's time to go back. 53 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:42,920 But yeah, we're busy planning all sorts of plans with our friends. 54 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:45,760 Everybody's like, when can we get together again? 55 00:02:45,760 --> 00:02:47,120 We need to see you now. 56 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:48,600 So I don't know. 57 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:49,520 We'll see. 58 00:02:49,520 --> 00:02:49,800 Yeah. 59 00:02:49,800 --> 00:02:54,480 I just, this whole work in every weekend thing really puts a diaper on it. 60 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:58,080 I was like, everybody's more than welcome to come over whenever, anytime. 61 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:01,280 I'm here all the time, but you won't be here. 62 00:03:01,520 --> 00:03:04,520 So it's kind of a bummer. 63 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:10,200 I'll be here, but I'll be in bed to sleep or at work when you're up. 64 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:12,160 Here, it starts shift weekend. 65 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:16,400 So kind of a buzzkill. 66 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:17,760 Yeah, that happens. 67 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:21,600 The fun, fun killer, but it's okay. 68 00:03:21,920 --> 00:03:23,040 We're going to have fun soon. 69 00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:23,800 We got your birthday. 70 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:26,360 We've got Patty's weekend coming up tomorrow. 71 00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:29,640 I will be at Chappie's got all sorts of stuff. 72 00:03:29,640 --> 00:03:31,960 We're not doing anything for February and March. 73 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:32,720 We sure are doing. 74 00:03:32,720 --> 00:03:32,960 Yeah. 75 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:34,920 Yeah. 76 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:37,080 For now, do anything in February. 77 00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:38,160 You're doing an awful lot. 78 00:03:38,160 --> 00:03:43,040 I didn't have anything planned all of February and I don't know. 79 00:03:43,040 --> 00:03:44,560 It hasn't stopped since the new year. 80 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:45,560 I'm not going to. 81 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:46,080 I'm not going to. 82 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:48,080 Since the new year, I'm not complaining. 83 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:49,280 No, it's been busy. 84 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:49,720 Yeah. 85 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:52,560 Like every other weekend, we've been doing something. 86 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:53,080 Yeah. 87 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:55,520 It's been a lot of a lot of fun time. 88 00:03:55,600 --> 00:04:01,040 It's been good, but this week we are going to talk about something that we get 89 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:06,040 asked about and is one of the main topics of all the questions and all the things 90 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:08,640 that we get, it's about jealousy. 91 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:10,400 We're going to talk all about jealousy. 92 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:12,960 We all have been there. 93 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:14,000 We've all been through it. 94 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:16,360 We all hate it, but we're going to talk about it. 95 00:04:16,360 --> 00:04:17,320 It helps to talk about it. 96 00:04:17,320 --> 00:04:17,760 It does. 97 00:04:17,800 --> 00:04:22,640 We've picked up a few little pointers and tips and tricks and stuff in the last five 98 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:23,200 years or so. 99 00:04:23,200 --> 00:04:28,320 Even though we don't get that as much, it still focuses on the ugly little face up 100 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:29,320 every once in a while. 101 00:04:29,520 --> 00:04:29,880 Yeah. 102 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:31,120 No, we don't. 103 00:04:31,920 --> 00:04:32,760 We'll talk about that more. 104 00:04:32,800 --> 00:04:35,160 Looking for a fresh way to connect in the lifestyle? 105 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:39,560 Welcome to the Playground, a modern space where open-minded adults meet, explore, 106 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:41,520 and create unforgettable connections. 107 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:45,320 Built for the lifestyle community, the Playground is where curiosity meets 108 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:46,200 connection. 109 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:47,600 Ready to join the fun? 110 00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:50,880 Click the link below and start your adventure with the Playground today. 111 00:04:56,760 --> 00:05:01,000 Before we can talk about jealousy, we need to talk about, understand what jealousy 112 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:06,720 is and the types of jealousy and where it comes from and all the things about it. 113 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:09,760 Usually it's an insecurity that's where it stems from. 114 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:14,320 Usually it's an, I always say if you're feeling jealous, dig inside yourself. 115 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:14,840 Yeah. 116 00:05:15,080 --> 00:05:16,480 It's probably a you thing. 117 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:22,360 You have some kind of fear of abandonment or that someone's going to be better than 118 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:27,120 you or bigger than you or whatever it is, prettier than you, have more. 119 00:05:27,520 --> 00:05:30,480 And then you're scared to lose your partner and you always have that. 120 00:05:31,640 --> 00:05:36,080 You're aware that that can be taken away and that can be, it hits you sometimes 121 00:05:36,080 --> 00:05:40,160 when you're comparing, for me anyway, a lot of my jealousy that I've ever had, 122 00:05:40,160 --> 00:05:43,760 especially at the beginning, was I wasn't good enough. 123 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:44,680 Yeah. 124 00:05:44,680 --> 00:05:45,960 Like I wasn't pretty enough. 125 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:47,240 My boobs weren't big enough. 126 00:05:47,240 --> 00:05:49,120 My body wasn't good enough. 127 00:05:49,120 --> 00:05:49,600 You know what I mean? 128 00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:53,840 Like it was like a physical thing for me when it would pop up and that all, 129 00:05:53,840 --> 00:05:58,320 honestly, all you can really do in that situation is get confident. 130 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:00,320 Like that's what's going to happen. 131 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:00,600 It's that easy. 132 00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:01,440 It's that easy, guys. 133 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:02,160 Just get confident. 134 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:07,680 Over time, as you hit that, it's really a new thing. 135 00:06:07,840 --> 00:06:08,280 Yeah. 136 00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:13,520 Well, that's where the last time I felt a certain sort of way, it was I felt left out. 137 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:15,120 Yeah, that can be. 138 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:17,160 And like it could be like a physical jealousy. 139 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:19,560 It can be more of that emotional connection. 140 00:06:19,560 --> 00:06:24,120 I know a lot of the time that's a big one that pops its big ugly head out is the 141 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:27,840 emotional part when people see their partners getting deep conversation. 142 00:06:27,840 --> 00:06:30,120 Actually connecting with somebody else. 143 00:06:30,120 --> 00:06:33,680 Chemistry with somebody, and that's usually when it flags like the physical 144 00:06:33,680 --> 00:06:36,480 part for some reason or another is a lot easier. 145 00:06:36,840 --> 00:06:37,680 Yeah, definitely. 146 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:41,480 Especially when you enjoy it and you have that comparison and you like enjoy 147 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:43,440 watching your partner with someone else. 148 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:48,160 It's like that's hot, but it's anything beyond that where it comes up. 149 00:06:48,280 --> 00:06:52,280 So you've got emotional and then you've got physical jealousy. 150 00:06:52,320 --> 00:06:57,640 And then you've got the comparative one where it's more of an envy than a jealousy. 151 00:06:57,840 --> 00:06:58,120 Yeah. 152 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:03,880 I really think it's she's, you know, or he or whatever you get that. 153 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:08,640 Yeah, I feel like the compare like men compare themselves when it comes to like 154 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:09,880 their size. 155 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:14,960 Yeah, like for the most part or how muscular they are like their physique or 156 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:17,760 their how tall they are. 157 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:20,560 People guys are like weird about their heights and stuff, too. 158 00:07:20,600 --> 00:07:21,520 Yeah, I don't get that. 159 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:22,440 I'm not like that. 160 00:07:22,480 --> 00:07:23,200 But I know. 161 00:07:23,200 --> 00:07:28,960 But also people, when they meet me in person that have met me in person, 162 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:30,400 they're like, you're taller than I thought. 163 00:07:30,440 --> 00:07:31,800 A lot of you. 164 00:07:31,840 --> 00:07:32,200 Thanks. 165 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:33,200 I said the same thing. 166 00:07:33,200 --> 00:07:35,440 That was the first thing I said to you when I met you in person. 167 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:39,040 Also, you're a lot taller than I thought you would be. 168 00:07:39,080 --> 00:07:41,280 Apparently I look short. 169 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:42,320 You look very short. 170 00:07:42,360 --> 00:07:43,920 Apparently. 171 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:44,960 I don't know. 172 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:45,920 That's what I thought too. 173 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:46,840 And you're not even tall. 174 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:48,360 You're only average. 175 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:49,760 Yeah, I don't know. 176 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:54,520 I don't know if you have that comparing wanting something that someone else has. 177 00:07:54,560 --> 00:08:01,000 For me, it was really bad with my boobs, like a big boob issue. 178 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:05,760 Yeah, because they all deflated and went away. 179 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:09,400 And I've had four kids and I'm not as young as I once was. 180 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:10,360 Also gravity. 181 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:15,160 And I would love more than anything to get a brand new parent, but I'm unable to 182 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:16,960 physically right now. 183 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:22,880 So that was a hard one for me was comparing because everyone, especially the groups 184 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:26,080 that we were hanging out with and the crews that we were, the parties we were 185 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:30,440 going to and the events and stuff, everyone had the tummy tucks and the mommy 186 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:33,920 makeovers and everyone's got boobs. 187 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:35,560 Like BBL. 188 00:08:35,600 --> 00:08:41,800 Now BBBLs came in there and all the Ozempic and all the things that everyone's doing. 189 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:42,720 And it's hard not. 190 00:08:42,760 --> 00:08:45,640 And the Botox and the fillers and lip flips and all of that. 191 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:47,560 It's hard to keep up with all of that. 192 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:48,760 So you always find yourself. 193 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:51,240 I found myself comparing at the beginning really bad. 194 00:08:51,280 --> 00:08:52,760 Now I don't. 195 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:55,040 I barely ever. 196 00:08:55,080 --> 00:08:55,880 Everyone's beautiful. 197 00:08:55,920 --> 00:08:57,120 Everyone's great and wonderful. 198 00:08:57,160 --> 00:08:58,440 And that kind of is. 199 00:08:58,480 --> 00:08:59,920 But that was a journey. 200 00:08:59,960 --> 00:09:00,480 Oh, yeah. 201 00:09:00,520 --> 00:09:01,920 Like, yeah. 202 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:04,720 That's something that these are feelings, especially at the beginning. 203 00:09:04,760 --> 00:09:06,160 Comparing myself to people. 204 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:11,400 The envy was a hard thing because everyone felt like for a while there. 205 00:09:11,440 --> 00:09:14,360 It felt really like everyone had the perfect body. 206 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:16,600 So why would he want a body that looks like mine? 207 00:09:16,640 --> 00:09:17,120 You know what I mean? 208 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:22,040 Like that feeling like he's with these supermodels. 209 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:25,240 Why would he want to have this full time? 210 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:26,080 All this. 211 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:27,880 So it was a lot of that getting through that. 212 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:30,440 And really, honestly, that's. 213 00:09:30,480 --> 00:09:32,080 That was definitely a B. 214 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:37,200 That was when this lifestyle turned into like this is way more about me. 215 00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:39,680 Journey than is about us or anyone else. 216 00:09:39,720 --> 00:09:43,840 And that's when it really hit me, like how much I have to work on myself 217 00:09:43,840 --> 00:09:47,960 and gaining confidence and self esteem and dealing with all that. 218 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:54,240 And that helped the jealousy so much because you realize like 219 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:59,560 we've got way more than that history and life we've done together. 220 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:02,680 And it's like it's not it's not a physical thing. 221 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:06,840 And it's kind of how to navigate that and just gain self confidence. 222 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:07,960 Hey there, listeners. 223 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:10,880 Are you looking to prioritize your sexual health and wellness? 224 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:12,640 We've got just a thing for you. 225 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:16,720 Shameless care offers 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Run. 234 00:10:36,240 --> 00:10:40,320 It's time to take charge of your sexual health today with shameless care 235 00:10:40,320 --> 00:10:42,800 because your health is nothing to be ashamed of. 236 00:10:42,840 --> 00:10:51,400 I've seen jealousy does some crazy stuff to people. 237 00:10:51,440 --> 00:10:52,720 We have been through. 238 00:10:52,760 --> 00:10:54,800 Yeah, I've seen some. 239 00:10:54,840 --> 00:10:57,240 We have been through some weird doozies. 240 00:10:57,280 --> 00:10:58,040 Uncomfortable. 241 00:10:58,080 --> 00:10:58,720 We've never really. 242 00:10:58,760 --> 00:11:02,000 We've dealt with jealousy quietly a lot of the time. 243 00:11:02,040 --> 00:11:04,280 And we've done a lot of personal work and stuff. 244 00:11:04,320 --> 00:11:07,240 And that's usually when we come inward and we're like, what's going on here? 245 00:11:07,280 --> 00:11:07,920 There's something. 246 00:11:07,920 --> 00:11:13,720 One time we've ever had a discussion about feeling a certain sort of way is in private. 247 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:14,520 Oh, yeah. 248 00:11:14,560 --> 00:11:16,760 I would never do it in front of anyone. 249 00:11:16,800 --> 00:11:20,040 But for sure, that's just respect and stuff. 250 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:24,480 I just really have a hard time with people who feel the need to argue and fight 251 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:27,520 with their spouse in front of people. 252 00:11:27,560 --> 00:11:28,480 You know what I mean? 253 00:11:28,520 --> 00:11:31,960 Especially who they don't know and people they don't know very well. 254 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:32,520 Yeah. 255 00:11:32,520 --> 00:11:40,880 I mean, that's some deep stuff there that's way deeper than just little feelings 256 00:11:40,920 --> 00:11:42,200 of jealousy that we've experienced. 257 00:11:42,240 --> 00:11:45,240 Luckily, we've not felt really experienced like hardcore. 258 00:11:45,280 --> 00:11:52,600 I've had some moments here and there when I felt like it wasn't even like a jealousy. 259 00:11:52,640 --> 00:11:54,960 It just felt like I wasn't getting enough attention. 260 00:11:55,000 --> 00:11:55,960 Yeah. 261 00:11:56,000 --> 00:11:56,480 Yeah. 262 00:11:56,520 --> 00:11:57,960 That's usually where it stems from. 263 00:11:58,000 --> 00:12:01,080 I was paying attention too much to somebody else. 264 00:12:01,080 --> 00:12:03,280 I started feeling like a third wheel. 265 00:12:03,320 --> 00:12:04,040 Yeah. 266 00:12:04,080 --> 00:12:09,200 And I've had moments there where it's been a lot of people and a lot of stuff going on 267 00:12:09,240 --> 00:12:13,240 and not because you intentionally left me out, but in the moment it was like... 268 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:17,360 You caught yourself in a moment alone. 269 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:17,880 Yeah. 270 00:12:17,920 --> 00:12:19,560 And lonely felt like. 271 00:12:19,600 --> 00:12:23,800 So it was like I can't even say that it was really a jealousy thing. 272 00:12:23,840 --> 00:12:29,320 I mean, I guess a little bit of like, I need attention maybe. 273 00:12:29,320 --> 00:12:39,280 I think it's more of a you catch yourself alone and then our minds move really fast. 274 00:12:39,320 --> 00:12:40,320 Because he doesn't want me. 275 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:41,800 It's because he doesn't love me anymore. 276 00:12:41,840 --> 00:12:42,840 Because he likes her better. 277 00:12:42,880 --> 00:12:44,920 Our thoughts move really fast. 278 00:12:44,960 --> 00:12:48,600 It might be three to five seconds. 279 00:12:48,640 --> 00:12:52,640 At that point, at that three to five seconds, we've gone through every scenario in our brain. 280 00:12:52,680 --> 00:12:53,280 Worst case. 281 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:54,280 Worst case. 282 00:12:54,320 --> 00:12:55,080 Yeah. 283 00:12:55,120 --> 00:12:58,920 I'm definitely in the worst case scenario so I can prepare for the worst first. 284 00:12:58,920 --> 00:13:00,920 Yeah. And that's been a lot. 285 00:13:00,960 --> 00:13:07,400 And then you just go down this rabbit hole and it ruins your mood. 286 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:09,160 And then you feel... 287 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:10,840 These were pretty big events. 288 00:13:10,880 --> 00:13:15,160 And honestly, where it all stemmed from was just being overwhelmed and social. 289 00:13:15,200 --> 00:13:17,800 I didn't recognize this easily before. 290 00:13:17,840 --> 00:13:20,400 Like my social button is just off. 291 00:13:20,440 --> 00:13:21,800 I need to move myself. 292 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:23,680 I need some recharge time. 293 00:13:23,680 --> 00:13:29,160 Where before we were new and excited and we were helping. 294 00:13:29,200 --> 00:13:33,360 We were running around with all of our people and there were so many people. 295 00:13:33,400 --> 00:13:33,760 Yeah. 296 00:13:33,800 --> 00:13:34,880 I mean, we were excited. 297 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:40,800 At the beginning too, that's when our social media was really big, big, big, big. 298 00:13:40,840 --> 00:13:46,520 And we would go from the time we woke up to the time we finally woke up. 299 00:13:46,560 --> 00:13:53,480 We would wake up, do whatever and then go to a party, then come back and do 300 00:13:53,480 --> 00:13:59,360 some more social media stuff or content or whatever, then go back down for another 301 00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:06,440 party and come back up and do more social media stuff and then get ready for the night party. 302 00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:08,960 I even feel like a lot of it wasn't even jealousy at all. 303 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:12,640 And it was just being overwhelmed and anxious already. 304 00:14:12,680 --> 00:14:16,840 And I think that doesn't help when that all comes piling in there. 305 00:14:16,880 --> 00:14:20,200 And I didn't recognize like, hey, you can take time. 306 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:20,960 We need to eat. 307 00:14:20,960 --> 00:14:26,640 That's when we learned eating was important, drinking water, taking an hour or two and 308 00:14:26,680 --> 00:14:32,680 just laying in bed together, sleep, just laying relaxed just for an hour, take a shower, 309 00:14:32,720 --> 00:14:37,680 something and turn the lights off and just hang out for. 310 00:14:37,720 --> 00:14:39,960 I don't know about you, but when we do that, 311 00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:44,800 like just to lay down in bed before we get ready or whatever, 312 00:14:44,840 --> 00:14:50,520 I always have the moment where it's like we could not just stay here. 313 00:14:50,520 --> 00:14:56,240 Usually when I'm in the shower, we're getting ready and I'm like, we could not. 314 00:14:56,280 --> 00:14:58,720 Well, and like you have to start getting ready before me. 315 00:14:58,760 --> 00:15:01,320 I know. So he sleeps while I start. 316 00:15:01,360 --> 00:15:06,120 So I take a nap for an hour while you're showering. 317 00:15:06,160 --> 00:15:11,600 Because it only takes me 20 minutes to shower, shave, do my hair, put my clothes on. 318 00:15:11,640 --> 00:15:13,000 I'm done. 319 00:15:13,040 --> 00:15:17,960 I always have a little bit for a minute when I'm starting to get ready, 320 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:22,840 because it's usually after a good nap or dinner or something when I want to nap. 321 00:15:22,880 --> 00:15:29,160 And then I have to get ready and you get to just like lay on the bed and just pass out. 322 00:15:29,200 --> 00:15:31,320 It's nice. It is nice. 323 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:33,160 I'm not going to lie. It's nice. 324 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:36,560 But getting back on track, we're talking about jealousy. 325 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:37,680 Oh, yeah. 326 00:15:37,720 --> 00:15:42,720 The thing about jealousy, too, is that I have said this a million bazillion times, 327 00:15:42,760 --> 00:15:45,160 but it's not it's going to happen. 328 00:15:45,200 --> 00:15:46,360 It's going to pop up. 329 00:15:46,400 --> 00:15:47,400 Yeah, it's going. 330 00:15:47,400 --> 00:15:52,440 It's a natural, normal human emotion that everyone has and experiences. 331 00:15:52,480 --> 00:15:54,920 It's not jealousy isn't your worst enemy. 332 00:15:54,960 --> 00:15:57,360 It's what you do with the jealousy. 333 00:15:57,400 --> 00:15:59,680 Absolutely. And that's the key. 334 00:15:59,720 --> 00:16:08,880 Well, I think it's our just our human response to blame everybody else or your 335 00:16:08,920 --> 00:16:11,200 emotions deflect and you deflect it. 336 00:16:11,240 --> 00:16:15,680 It's hard, especially for somebody that's just getting into the lifestyle and hasn't 337 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:22,360 had to deal with these type of emotions very often is what is unpacking doing the 338 00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:24,520 self work. Usually it's just fear. 339 00:16:24,560 --> 00:16:25,720 Like you're scared. Yeah. 340 00:16:25,760 --> 00:16:27,120 Of something. Yeah. 341 00:16:27,160 --> 00:16:32,640 For some reason, like, yeah, you're scared that your partner all of a sudden is 342 00:16:32,680 --> 00:16:37,720 going to get this white picket fence fantasy with this other person. 343 00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:41,200 Yeah. And it triggers like, no, that's mine. 344 00:16:41,240 --> 00:16:43,440 You know. Yeah. 345 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:49,440 And usually like what we've seen a lot of jealousy about is that that like 346 00:16:49,480 --> 00:16:51,800 territorial is mine. 347 00:16:51,840 --> 00:16:53,200 Mine. This is mine. 348 00:16:53,240 --> 00:16:54,720 You get the what do we call it? 349 00:16:54,760 --> 00:16:56,800 What do you always say? Finding Nemo. 350 00:16:56,840 --> 00:16:57,840 Finding Nemo. 351 00:16:57,880 --> 00:17:00,160 The seagulls. Mine. Mine. 352 00:17:00,200 --> 00:17:02,160 Mine. You belong to me. 353 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:03,880 You're mine. Or she's mine. 354 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:04,920 Or don't look. 355 00:17:04,960 --> 00:17:06,640 It's like this weird. 356 00:17:06,680 --> 00:17:08,840 Well, we're programmed to do that. 357 00:17:08,880 --> 00:17:11,960 Yeah. Like from a childhood, to be honest. 358 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:18,520 This for ninety nine percent of the people in the lifestyle, this is a newer. 359 00:17:18,560 --> 00:17:21,840 Like even if they've been doing it 20 years for most of their life, they were 360 00:17:21,880 --> 00:17:25,960 trained to be monogamous from childhood. 361 00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:28,240 So socially acceptable way. 362 00:17:28,280 --> 00:17:29,560 Yeah. 363 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:32,760 And you belong to your spouse. 364 00:17:32,800 --> 00:17:36,400 Yeah, there's definitely an ownership like. 365 00:17:36,440 --> 00:17:41,480 And we're kind of breaking that cycle where like, yeah, you. 366 00:17:41,480 --> 00:17:42,760 I am your person. 367 00:17:42,800 --> 00:17:43,800 Yeah. 368 00:17:43,840 --> 00:17:48,920 But also, I don't know, physically, we are free. 369 00:17:48,960 --> 00:17:50,440 You know what I mean? Yeah. 370 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:57,240 Like it's hard. It's really hard to explain in that regard because I do have some stuff. 371 00:17:57,280 --> 00:17:59,680 I do have a mind mentality. 372 00:17:59,720 --> 00:18:00,760 Like you are mine. 373 00:18:00,800 --> 00:18:01,640 Yeah. 374 00:18:01,680 --> 00:18:04,760 And that's why we have boundaries and rules. 375 00:18:04,800 --> 00:18:10,600 Yeah. That's why that's like kind of going into like tips and tricks and things 376 00:18:10,600 --> 00:18:12,360 that we've learned along the way. 377 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:17,480 Boundaries are there for that reason to help negate that jealousy feeling. 378 00:18:17,520 --> 00:18:17,920 Yeah. 379 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:21,320 If you have something that repeatedly brings up jealousy and you're feeling a 380 00:18:21,360 --> 00:18:26,080 certain like mind way about it and you know that that's when you can stick a 381 00:18:26,120 --> 00:18:28,120 boundary there and be like, we're not doing that anymore. 382 00:18:28,160 --> 00:18:30,600 Right. It can be whatever you want it to be. 383 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:34,840 If that helps that feeling and stuff until you work through it, then so be it. 384 00:18:34,840 --> 00:18:43,400 It could just be a boundary that you just put there to deal until you deal with the 385 00:18:43,440 --> 00:18:50,160 trauma or whatever is bringing that up or it could be something that's there forever. 386 00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:51,280 Yeah, it could be something. 387 00:18:51,320 --> 00:18:52,880 It's like a hard no. 388 00:18:52,920 --> 00:18:53,280 Yeah. 389 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:57,000 Like no one will ever call you daddy. 390 00:18:57,200 --> 00:18:58,040 That's my heart. 391 00:18:58,080 --> 00:18:59,840 Yeah. That makes your eye twitch. 392 00:18:59,880 --> 00:19:01,240 It has happened a few times. 393 00:19:01,240 --> 00:19:04,680 I watch your whole facial expression change. 394 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:10,280 It's like, well, what would we be leaving now? 395 00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:11,640 It's just not. 396 00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:13,040 That'll never change. 397 00:19:13,080 --> 00:19:15,040 I'm like, we'll be living now. 398 00:19:15,080 --> 00:19:20,080 You just know we really honestly, the jealousy is just not a thing. 399 00:19:20,120 --> 00:19:23,480 And I know people think that you think that you're saying that you're better 400 00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:26,840 swinger. That's the first thought is people roll their eyes and they're like, 401 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:28,480 oh, you think you're professional. 402 00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:29,800 You think you're better swingers. 403 00:19:29,800 --> 00:19:31,600 We are is not that at all. 404 00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:36,600 We have just been through so many different things and worked really hard 405 00:19:36,640 --> 00:19:40,920 trust and security, and you're not going anywhere. 406 00:19:40,960 --> 00:19:45,720 And I know it in our marriage and relationships never been more solid, 407 00:19:45,760 --> 00:19:47,720 which brings security there. 408 00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:53,040 Yeah, that's where it really we talk about. 409 00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:59,640 We've used every experience where we've had a negative emotion 410 00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:00,960 as a trust building. 411 00:20:01,000 --> 00:20:02,600 Yeah, like a good thing. 412 00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:10,280 And so we've always unpacked, especially in the beginning, like when 413 00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:15,720 we were just navigating the beginning stages of the lifestyle, we would have 414 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:19,480 an experience and talk about it for weeks. 415 00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:21,280 Yeah. 416 00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:25,400 And like, I don't like it when this happened or I really like that. 417 00:20:25,440 --> 00:20:26,440 Or did you see that? 418 00:20:26,480 --> 00:20:28,040 What do you think about that? 419 00:20:28,040 --> 00:20:30,000 We talked about it for weeks. 420 00:20:30,040 --> 00:20:30,520 Oh, yeah. 421 00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:32,080 Our first experiences. 422 00:20:32,120 --> 00:20:32,880 Oh, yeah. 423 00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:37,320 And that's how we started. 424 00:20:37,360 --> 00:20:40,000 Building our certain boundaries. 425 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:41,160 Yeah, because we're fair. 426 00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:42,520 Yeah, that helps. 427 00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:44,320 And like, I didn't like that. 428 00:20:44,360 --> 00:20:47,000 I'm like, OK, let's not do that then. 429 00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:56,680 And then as we explored and got more comfortable with each other and our trust 430 00:20:56,680 --> 00:21:03,720 grew, and we're like, oh, like and that helps and get rid of the more trust you 431 00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:09,480 have the cycle, the more really open we really are like secure. 432 00:21:09,520 --> 00:21:11,400 I don't think 433 00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:14,760 three years ago, I would let you go to trap by yourself. 434 00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:17,760 No, no, no, no, no. 435 00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:18,840 I know, like once a month. 436 00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:24,000 I like because I know exactly what it's going to be. 437 00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:25,280 Yeah. 438 00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:26,560 Every time. Yeah. 439 00:21:26,600 --> 00:21:30,040 And I know, you know, the people I know the deep enough. 440 00:21:30,080 --> 00:21:31,720 I know people that are there. 441 00:21:31,760 --> 00:21:33,160 I'm there. 442 00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:33,880 Yeah. 443 00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:35,200 Just 444 00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:37,520 in a roundabout way. 445 00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:38,320 Yeah. 446 00:21:38,360 --> 00:21:39,560 Yeah. 447 00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:43,600 I know you're good, but yeah. 448 00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:45,680 Three years ago, I didn't know. 449 00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:47,680 We would have never even if I would have known the people there. 450 00:21:47,720 --> 00:21:51,280 I'm like, no, we were always same room. 451 00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:54,480 We were never open to anything else other than that. 452 00:21:54,480 --> 00:21:57,520 Obviously, since then, we've experimented with pretty much everything. 453 00:21:57,560 --> 00:22:00,960 But like that was like a hard no for quite a while. 454 00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:03,760 We had to be within like arms. 455 00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:07,520 Yeah, we had to be able to touch each other. 456 00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:08,880 Yeah, it was the whole thing. 457 00:22:08,920 --> 00:22:09,560 Yeah. 458 00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:11,960 And they are talking about boundaries. 459 00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:12,680 That is one. 460 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:16,720 Like now another the whole like I don't get jealous or whatever. 461 00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:18,000 We just don't. 462 00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:21,960 And then the whole boundaries thing, they're like, what are your boundaries? 463 00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:25,920 I have Tic Tocs out there with like five different things on the screen. 464 00:22:25,960 --> 00:22:28,040 And now I was trying to think of an updated one. 465 00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:29,880 What are your boundaries? 466 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:34,080 I don't know. 467 00:22:34,120 --> 00:22:35,400 I don't know anymore. 468 00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:36,200 Protection is. 469 00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:37,880 Yeah, I think we're left on the list. 470 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:42,920 I honestly think we're to the point now when it comes to boundaries and 471 00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:49,000 navigating jealousy is we'll let each other know if we hit. 472 00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:50,200 That's where we're at. 473 00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:53,640 I know that's like a red flag that we used to talk about at the beginning. 474 00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:56,640 Like if someone says they don't have boundaries or don't get jealous, that's 475 00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:58,520 a red flag. And I hear me saying it. 476 00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:01,240 And then I think about all the people rolling their eyes. 477 00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:04,920 But like, I just think that's how deep we are. 478 00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:05,720 Like how tight. 479 00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:11,360 Yeah, like I just honestly think that we're honest enough with each other. 480 00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:15,200 That's we if I don't something comes up, we're going to talk about it. 481 00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:16,000 Oh, yeah, immediately. 482 00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:17,800 And we both don't have to have any more. 483 00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:22,160 Like we used to have like hand movements and cues and colors and names. 484 00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:26,160 I honestly it's to the point where I just be like, I'm not good. 485 00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:27,000 We got to go. 486 00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:27,840 I'm not good. 487 00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:29,040 Let's go step outside. 488 00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:35,400 Or a lot of times when I can see you kind of debating on your emotions, I'll just 489 00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:39,640 like you have a certain face that you make and you just kind of like that's a very 490 00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:44,400 like overwhelmed and checked out face that you make just kind of blank. 491 00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:47,000 And that's why I'm like, you good. 492 00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:50,280 You'd be like, can we go outside? 493 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:51,960 Let's go for a walk. 494 00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:53,880 Yeah, I'm like, all right, let's go. 495 00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:55,000 And that's not even jealousy. 496 00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:57,000 That's usually just anxiety. 497 00:23:57,040 --> 00:24:00,840 Yeah, anxiety or something is making me uncomfortable. 498 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:04,640 And thinking about your birthday weekend, 499 00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:08,600 there was a couple of times where. 500 00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:14,160 I didn't feel a certain sort of way at all the weekend, but there is a couple 501 00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:18,360 of moments where I'm like, we would have never three years ago. 502 00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:24,400 Like Saturday night after we got back from Trap, your social battery just kind of just 503 00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:26,720 and you just went upstairs, didn't say anything. 504 00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:28,360 You just went to bed. 505 00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:29,600 You just went to bed. 506 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:33,320 Like five minutes went by and you were up in bed. 507 00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:34,640 I'm so tired. 508 00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:37,880 I've been up since I look around and I'm like, where's Ashley? 509 00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:41,040 And I went upstairs and you were asleep. 510 00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:42,840 I'm like, oh, okay. 511 00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:44,360 But like, I know you're good. 512 00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:47,960 Like back in the day, I used to have to like we would. 513 00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:52,760 I mean, we would be attached to each other at all times, every no matter what. 514 00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:58,080 And now it's just like when I need to go, I just go and then you find me. 515 00:24:58,280 --> 00:24:59,600 And it works out that way. 516 00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:00,440 Same way with you. 517 00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:01,680 I'm like, I'll keep up with you. 518 00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:03,760 I'll figure it out. I'll check in. 519 00:25:03,800 --> 00:25:05,440 We always are checking all the time. 520 00:25:05,640 --> 00:25:09,440 And that's another part of the jealousy tips and things that we've learned is 521 00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:13,720 like physical touching, holding hands, just reconnecting for a moment. 522 00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:15,800 Lock your eyes, just checking in. 523 00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:16,720 It's those check ins. 524 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:20,640 It's definitely the check ins that it kind of just reassures. 525 00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:22,040 It's a reassurance part of it. 526 00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:22,720 Yeah. 527 00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:24,120 You good. I'm good. 528 00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:26,520 Or if anything like I didn't end again 529 00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:30,480 with the relationship being pretty close and tight, like that's the moment where I 530 00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:31,720 would be like, I'm not okay. 531 00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:32,280 Yeah. 532 00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:34,080 Or you'd be like, not doing great. 533 00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:35,040 Let's go talk about it. 534 00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:36,440 And we will talk about it. 535 00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:39,760 It's not we're not going to hold it off or put it off or anything. 536 00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:42,280 It needs to be dealt with at least enough. 537 00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:42,760 Yeah. 538 00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:46,200 Get that reassurance because that's what like sometimes it's assumptions. 539 00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:48,760 And well, yeah, there's a lot here. 540 00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:51,880 You know, yeah, you heard something wrong or you thought something wrong or you 541 00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:53,800 turned it around on your head. 542 00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:58,240 Also, like a lot of people assume that 543 00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:02,880 the it's the end of the night when you have these conversations now, which isn't the 544 00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:08,960 case night, like I'd say most of the time it is, hey, 545 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:10,560 I feel this sort of way. 546 00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:12,080 Can we talk about it real quick? 547 00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:16,080 And it's literally a five, 10, 5, 10 minute conversation. 548 00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:19,120 And we go back out and we're good. 549 00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:24,600 Like usually it's like a miscommunication or you saw I saw something or you saw 550 00:26:24,800 --> 00:26:29,440 something that you didn't necessarily like or it had, you know, that just triggered 551 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:35,680 some type of feeling and we go talk about like we'll go behind closed doors 552 00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:41,280 and we'll just talk about it and move on. 553 00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:46,560 Now, sometimes it's very rarely now, but in the past, it used to be, OK, 554 00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:47,680 we're done for the night. 555 00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:50,960 We're going to lay in bed and talk about it, go to sleep, 556 00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:53,160 talk about it in the morning. 557 00:26:53,360 --> 00:26:56,560 We've also always like our relationship is number one. 558 00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:59,800 The only reason we're there is because we want to be there. 559 00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:00,440 Yes. 560 00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:04,040 So it's like if we're not good and we're not or someone's not having fun, 561 00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:05,800 then what is the point exactly? 562 00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:07,480 And we always, always. 563 00:27:07,520 --> 00:27:09,360 That's one thing that stuck around since the beginning. 564 00:27:09,360 --> 00:27:10,920 As we've always said, this is an us thing. 565 00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:11,520 There's nothing. 566 00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:12,960 And that's our saying all the time. 567 00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:16,800 And we have had to numerous times like look at each other and be like, this is 568 00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:19,320 enough thing for not good, we're not good. 569 00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:20,920 And we're not doing it like why would you? 570 00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:24,200 Why would we keep going to an event or if we're not having fun? 571 00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:28,000 Yeah, I would be partying and stuff together if we're not OK. 572 00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:32,960 Yeah, but our relationship is the old reason for literally everything. 573 00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,160 So we've always held it there. 574 00:27:35,360 --> 00:27:37,480 And so the lifestyle is no different. 575 00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:40,320 If we're not OK, we're not one's not OK. 576 00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:41,880 We're both not OK. 577 00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:47,440 And some people need different things, any different, you know, adjust boundaries. 578 00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:49,280 I can help. We're talking about that. 579 00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:53,160 Or some people just need time and they need a moment. 580 00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:57,360 And writing it down is a good tip, like writing through it. 581 00:27:57,560 --> 00:28:02,080 Yeah, there's like I'm not like I could see you doing that. 582 00:28:02,120 --> 00:28:06,280 Yeah, like it all depends on how you process information, be honest in emotions. 583 00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:09,080 Like I just have a very analytical brain. 584 00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:15,480 And so I can logically think through my problems. 585 00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:19,840 Now, I understand a lot of people are very emotional people and can't do that. 586 00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:20,760 That's what I mean. 587 00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:25,600 And that's where I could see writing it down and when you write it down and look 588 00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:29,800 at it like that's not that's what I do normally. 589 00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:32,520 Like, what am I? That's why I write things all the time. 590 00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:38,240 By seeing it written down, you actually see how ridiculous you can step away. 591 00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:39,600 Your thoughts are. Yeah. 592 00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:42,920 It's like a different outlook on it from writing it down. 593 00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:44,840 And that's why I usually do it just for myself. 594 00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:47,440 Nobody else. I just, you know, write for myself. 595 00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:50,920 But also hand in hand with that, like meditation, taking a deep breath, 596 00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:55,520 walking away, taking space, just, you know, keeping your person informed. 597 00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:57,400 Though don't just run away and leave. 598 00:28:57,600 --> 00:28:59,840 Yeah, we have seen some really bad jealousy 599 00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:04,440 situations where at clubs we've talked about it before, like just literally 600 00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:09,560 leaving your spouse there or just start walking or thinking they left or just not 601 00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:11,960 communicating like just either the bathroom or something. 602 00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:17,040 One idea, one partner just needing a little break. 603 00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:22,080 So they go get water or go for a walk or if it's a hotel, take a walk through 604 00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:26,000 the hotel real quick in the bathroom or sit in the bathroom or something like this. 605 00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:28,480 You have the other spouse panic, quiet place. 606 00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:32,600 And then the other spouse thinks they're running around. 607 00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:35,680 Worst case scenario, worst case scenario. 608 00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:41,800 But also, I think we need a touch about the influence of drugs and alcohol, 609 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:44,720 drugs and alcohol. That has been a huge issue. 610 00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:52,120 A huge issue. It amplifies and you kind of lose those inhibitions to deescalate 611 00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:55,840 the situation. It's become a very escalate. 612 00:29:56,040 --> 00:30:00,160 It definitely every single time and. 613 00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:02,360 You automatically become defensive. 614 00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:09,840 And I've seen numerous times people use it as a crutch, like they have to numb 615 00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:14,360 and it's because there's unhealed, un dealt with. 616 00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:17,440 If they have jealousy and trauma, things that have happened. 617 00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:19,880 If you need. 618 00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:25,560 Like I feel like you need the drink to involve yourself in lifestyle. 619 00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:27,320 You need a huge problem. 620 00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:31,120 You need to figure out why you stop being a lifestyle, 621 00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:33,560 at least for a permit, until you figure it out. 622 00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:37,480 I think some I do think that a lot of jealousy issues, couples that have repeated 623 00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:41,360 jealousy over and over again, I 100 percent believe that they need to step away from 624 00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:42,360 the lifestyle. Oh, yeah. 625 00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,640 They need to work on if it's a problem and you're constantly fighting and bickering 626 00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:50,080 and arguing and you're making things uncomfortable for people and for yourselves. 627 00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:52,400 And you're always as a problem. 628 00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:55,560 You need to work on you and your spouse. 629 00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:58,560 You need to tap back into why you're there and what you're doing there. 630 00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:02,360 Because I think a lot of couples lose sight of what they're really there for. 631 00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:05,760 They get caught up in getting these partners and having sex and getting to have 632 00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:08,520 all this fun and party and themes and all this crazy stuff. 633 00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:12,760 When the whole reason and purpose you're there is for you and your partner. 634 00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:16,880 Yeah, it's it's easy to get caught up in all the excitement. 635 00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:18,040 It is. It is. 636 00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:22,480 And the glitz and the glam and the fun it is. 637 00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:26,000 But yeah, in the end of the day, you're there with your partner. 638 00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:31,240 I think a lot of couples forget that and they or and they put themselves on the 639 00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:35,160 back burner and they focus on the lifestyle and the glitz and the glamour and the 640 00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:39,360 dressing up and having fun and the drinking and the dancing and doing all of that. 641 00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:42,240 But it always goes back to like you're there. 642 00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:44,760 Yeah, it's us thing. 643 00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:45,920 It's us thing. 644 00:31:46,120 --> 00:31:47,440 And this is an us thing. 645 00:31:47,640 --> 00:31:48,720 And it's about us. 646 00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:52,840 So, yeah, we've seen some nasty if you can't tell by our tone. 647 00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:55,760 We've seen some nasty fights with some really good people. 648 00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:58,400 Just we can't do jealousy very much. 649 00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:02,160 We have a hard time dealing with the constant not jealousy, the fighting. 650 00:32:02,360 --> 00:32:02,800 Yeah. 651 00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:05,640 If you if it gets to the point where you're fighting with your spouse, 652 00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:10,480 that's not much of a problem, then we're going to probably piece. 653 00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:14,360 Yeah, we're going to definitely back off quite a bit because that means there is 654 00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:17,640 some deep, deep shit there that you haven't dealt with and you're not dealing 655 00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:19,520 with and you need to work on. Yeah. 656 00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:22,760 And usually that's when we're like, you need to take that time step away. 657 00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:24,000 Love you. Bye. 658 00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:25,600 Like it's that easy. 659 00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:26,600 It's that simple for us. 660 00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:32,760 It's we love hanging around couples that are solid and have their shit together. 661 00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:38,840 And, you know, I understand that jealousy is going to happen here and there. 662 00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:41,560 Feeling going to happen and we said it at the beginning. 663 00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:42,560 Stuff's going to happen. 664 00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:45,560 But and we'll say it a million times more. 665 00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:47,400 It's not 666 00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:52,160 that if you feel jealous, it's how you deal with how you deal with it. 667 00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:56,600 And you can tell when the person or the couple or whatever 668 00:32:56,800 --> 00:33:02,280 has healthy coping mechanisms and they have good ways to work around it. 669 00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:10,720 Open line of communication and listening skills and when they're genuinely sorry 670 00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:14,920 and genuinely, yeah, because every because every time you fell a certain way or I 671 00:33:15,120 --> 00:33:18,640 felt a certain way, we were like, I never meant to make you feel that way. 672 00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:19,680 I'm so sorry. 673 00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:23,200 Like, what can I do not to make you feel this way again? 674 00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:26,240 And sometimes there's nothing you could do. 675 00:33:26,440 --> 00:33:27,840 It was just a me thing. 676 00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:34,040 Or it's I it was when you did this like, OK, I won't do that anymore. 677 00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:36,080 You can work on that. OK, no biggie. 678 00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:38,000 We can avoid that. Yeah. 679 00:33:38,200 --> 00:33:48,360 But that open line of communication and being able to say, hey, I'm not OK without 680 00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:52,600 the fear of judgment is probably the biggest part. 681 00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:53,720 Yeah. 682 00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:55,560 And it's a hard part for people. 683 00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:56,440 Oh, yeah. 684 00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:58,960 I wouldn't say it became it came easy to us. 685 00:33:59,160 --> 00:33:59,920 No, no. 686 00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:03,680 Like we are always we were always pretty honest with each other. 687 00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:08,360 So it wasn't hard for us, but it's at a whole different level. 688 00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:10,120 It's not so easy for a lot of people. 689 00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:11,000 No, it's not. 690 00:34:11,200 --> 00:34:15,400 And then you find them like, but then again, why? 691 00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:18,600 If it's not that easy for you to talk to your partner, why? 692 00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:22,640 Yeah, it all boils down to you got to work on that together. 693 00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:25,800 Whatever it is, it could be a whole list of things. 694 00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:28,240 It could be a whole bunch of stuff that triggered it, too. 695 00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:31,440 And you have to figure it out together and figure out what you're going to do 696 00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:34,440 about it because it will keep copying up and it will. 697 00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:38,240 The more that you keep stuffing it down and stuffing it down, I promise there will 698 00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:42,920 be a moment where you can't anymore and it's going to be dealt with whether you 699 00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:45,040 like it or not. Yeah, it's going to come up with it. 700 00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:49,520 And say it's going to. 701 00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:51,240 Pop up eventually, 702 00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:55,400 no, and it's definitely how you are not saying we're perfect, that's for sure. 703 00:34:55,600 --> 00:35:00,040 I know that I'll be jealous again and you'll have moments of jealousy, too, again. 704 00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:01,680 And it's going to happen again. 705 00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:04,360 There's more than what, especially with all the different people we meet and the 706 00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:05,800 different scenarios we get into. 707 00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:11,920 And the more we trust each other and the more we experience this world like this 708 00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:13,240 and stuff is going to pop up. 709 00:35:13,240 --> 00:35:18,840 Yeah, I mean, because the more open we get, the more you open yourself up to the more 710 00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:22,840 you open yourself up to an experience that's going to trigger something 711 00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:27,120 called all going to be like, you know, it's not all rainbows and unicorns, 712 00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:32,480 which I do love me some unicorns, but I love some rainbows. 713 00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:39,240 But we try to get to that all the time, but we're going to we're going to fail 714 00:35:39,240 --> 00:35:40,800 here and there. We're going to fall down. 715 00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:41,840 Things are going to be weird. 716 00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:43,120 Things are always weird. 717 00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:47,760 Like, I know our saying is it's not that serious to make it weird, but like, 718 00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:53,240 we're always be making it weird and other people be people in and making it really 719 00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:56,280 weird and it's what you do with it and how you navigate. 720 00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:59,800 I don't know. I always try and make jokes. 721 00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:05,960 There's nothing worse than just not when you know a couple is just not good. 722 00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:07,000 Yeah. 723 00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:10,000 And they're good people and they're nice people because that's the thing about the 724 00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:12,920 lifestyle is everyone is so nice. 725 00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:16,880 I say that all of the time and everyone we've talked to this. 726 00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:18,400 It comes up the same way. 727 00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:22,800 Everyone is so nice, but. 728 00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:30,080 But it's a say it's when you get in these situations and these masks come off. 729 00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:31,120 Yeah, it can. 730 00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:32,920 And you start to see 731 00:36:33,120 --> 00:36:35,840 like the people they are. 732 00:36:36,040 --> 00:36:38,000 Yeah. And they let those walls down. 733 00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:41,960 They let those walls down. And again, 734 00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:44,440 just because. 735 00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:49,840 We are friends with you and we see these things come up doesn't mean we're going 736 00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:53,560 to stop talking to you, but we're probably not going to play for a while until we see. 737 00:36:53,560 --> 00:36:56,200 Oh, yeah, we're going to remove ourselves from that part of it. 738 00:36:56,400 --> 00:37:00,520 Yeah, we're going to definitely take a step back from that part of it until we see 739 00:37:00,720 --> 00:37:02,680 you guys better. Yeah, we don't. 740 00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:04,240 We just don't tolerate it. 741 00:37:04,240 --> 00:37:05,320 We don't tolerate fighting. 742 00:37:05,320 --> 00:37:08,520 We don't talk, especially physically, we don't. You touch each other. 743 00:37:08,720 --> 00:37:10,840 And pretty much that's it for us. 744 00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:16,200 I probably would never put myself into a situation with you again to make me 745 00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:19,360 because I'm like that. That's that's that's you. 746 00:37:19,560 --> 00:37:21,160 We've seen some stuff we've seen some. 747 00:37:21,360 --> 00:37:22,920 Yeah, we've seen people cry. 748 00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:25,880 We've seen people physically. 749 00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:28,800 We've done like touch each other. 750 00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:33,880 We've seen people just nasty, nasty things you can say to somebody. 751 00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:37,320 That's your person. You know, it always blows my mind. 752 00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:39,480 And so it's hard for me to really get past that. 753 00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:42,720 I'm like, that's your human, your person in the world. 754 00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:44,160 You're yeah. 755 00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:47,040 If you say that to your person, nasty stuff. 756 00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:47,440 Yeah. 757 00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:49,440 I thought, what are you going to say? 758 00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:52,960 I think I'm going to involve myself in between that. 759 00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:55,040 It's going to take some trust and it's going to take some time. 760 00:37:55,240 --> 00:37:59,360 It's going to take a whole lot of work because I am not going to be a part of it. 761 00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:03,920 Why would I ever put myself in that vulnerable situation when you're doing 762 00:38:04,120 --> 00:38:06,480 that with your person, all the people? 763 00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:09,160 So jealousy can be pretty nasty thing. 764 00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:09,920 I really can't. 765 00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:16,560 They've seen some nasty, nasty part of where we we got to go now. 766 00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:19,760 Yeah, you have to work on like, OK, bye. 767 00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:22,960 We're going to we've that's what I pull or cheese because of it. 768 00:38:23,160 --> 00:38:24,000 Oh, yeah. Yeah. 769 00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:25,560 Like we saw stuff going on. 770 00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:27,040 We're like, it's definitely where I say 771 00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:30,400 that disgusting is acceptable to just remove yourself from that situation, 772 00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:33,600 especially if it's like not safe situation. 773 00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:36,800 And also, like, it's clearly a them thing. 774 00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:37,320 Oh, yeah. 775 00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:40,840 So why would I involve myself in them? 776 00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:41,720 And that's what we've said. 777 00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:46,120 We're like, OK, this is like you've got some stuff you guys have to work on together. 778 00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:50,360 Yeah, we're going to be going on our way. 779 00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:51,480 We'll be over here. 780 00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:52,280 Hey, beautiful. 781 00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:54,040 If you're looking to feel confident and sexy, 782 00:38:54,040 --> 00:38:57,320 the voluptuous fix and it's got you covered with stunning lingerie and outfits 783 00:38:57,520 --> 00:39:01,840 that fit every curve and for our listeners, you can snag 10 percent off your order 784 00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:04,440 with code hot couple in check out. 785 00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:05,400 Don't miss out. 786 00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:09,640 Check out the link below and find your next favorite piece. 787 00:39:13,000 --> 00:39:19,200 And we in this last four or five years, we have become the newbie coach. 788 00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:20,560 Don't know how it happened. 789 00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:21,520 It just has. 790 00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:24,760 I don't know, we became the couple for new people and I love it. 791 00:39:24,960 --> 00:39:27,000 I don't hate it. It's it's perfect. 792 00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:27,320 It was there. 793 00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:29,800 There's a lot of people that like avoid newbies. 794 00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:31,040 I don't necessarily hate it. 795 00:39:31,240 --> 00:39:34,560 Yeah. So then they're like, here, meet Ashley and us. 796 00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:36,000 These are your new. 797 00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:38,800 I love sharing our experiences with people. 798 00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:40,440 Yeah, it makes sense. 799 00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:41,720 And what we've learned. 800 00:39:41,920 --> 00:39:43,920 But coming along with that, though, 801 00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:45,480 was that what I was saying? 802 00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:49,280 That's where we've seen some pretty nasty stuff because it's jealousy 803 00:39:49,280 --> 00:39:52,520 popping its head for the first time, people that don't know and have never 804 00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:55,720 really dealt with these emotions and these like things that they're seeing. 805 00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:56,800 Yeah, that comes along. 806 00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:59,240 And then what 807 00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:03,120 seems seems to be the trend is. 808 00:40:03,320 --> 00:40:08,600 Everything's hunky dory, then they'll have, you know, a situation. 809 00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:11,760 We'll see ourselves out of that situation. 810 00:40:11,960 --> 00:40:16,320 And then the next day or two, they're calling and texting us or snapping us. 811 00:40:16,320 --> 00:40:19,360 I feel like trying to explain. 812 00:40:19,560 --> 00:40:21,800 And we're just like, we understand. 813 00:40:21,800 --> 00:40:22,520 We get it. 814 00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:24,040 But that's something you guys got to deal with. 815 00:40:24,240 --> 00:40:26,560 We can't like we can't deal with it for you. 816 00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:30,200 Yeah, we had to learn how to remember that because we at the very beginning. 817 00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:30,800 That's where I was going. 818 00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:31,920 We were trying to fix marriage. 819 00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:35,080 I hope it became like therapists almost. 820 00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:37,200 And we were not qualified for that. 821 00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:39,480 And I have never wanted to be that. 822 00:40:39,680 --> 00:40:42,960 And it just kind of was like we wanted to help our people because we love these 823 00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:46,400 people, get really close to people and you feel connected. 824 00:40:46,600 --> 00:40:51,360 And then you're stuck in between a marriage that is just not not good. 825 00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:55,680 And you get to the point where you do have you have to remove yourself. 826 00:40:55,880 --> 00:40:57,400 Yeah, you have to draw that line. 827 00:40:57,600 --> 00:41:04,240 Yeah, because when you start like when you start kind of getting involved 828 00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:10,680 with the other people's relationship, emotions get blurred and you're 829 00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:14,160 opening the door to attachment things and this and that. 830 00:41:14,160 --> 00:41:15,280 And it's like, no, I'm good. 831 00:41:15,480 --> 00:41:19,520 And then like when they all there's been times where people have gotten divorced 832 00:41:19,520 --> 00:41:23,440 and then you're stuck in the whole pick a side, pick a side, someone pick a side. 833 00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:25,760 And I don't pick sides. 834 00:41:25,960 --> 00:41:28,080 I don't do that. I'm not a pick. 835 00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:29,600 Yeah, I'm always Switzerland. 836 00:41:29,800 --> 00:41:32,640 And I it does put you in those weird. 837 00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:34,920 We've been through some weird things. 838 00:41:35,120 --> 00:41:37,080 We've seen jealousy absolutely destroyed. 839 00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:41,240 We always say this lifestyle can make or break your relationship and it does it 840 00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:43,080 very quickly. We've noticed. 841 00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:45,920 I mean, you'll know pretty fast if it's going to work out or not. 842 00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:50,040 And it can make a marriage amazing and wonderful. 843 00:41:50,240 --> 00:41:53,200 And you can thrive like never before. 844 00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:54,720 But then you have that other side. 845 00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:56,800 But you have to be honest. 846 00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:59,080 That's the thing. And you have to do the work. 847 00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:01,160 Yeah. And it's going to be a whole bunch 848 00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:06,680 of uncomfortable work that nobody wants to do stuff that we forced out. 849 00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:11,120 And we just keep quiet and we don't listen to those thoughts and those feelings 850 00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:12,280 and stuff. You don't deal with them. 851 00:42:12,280 --> 00:42:14,000 But like I said, it will come out. 852 00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:18,440 Promise in this lifestyle, you are put in some vulnerable situations and it'll 853 00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:20,160 escape eventually. Yes. 854 00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:22,920 And it's not going to be good unless you know how to deal with it. 855 00:42:23,120 --> 00:42:24,240 And that's why we're here today. 856 00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:26,040 Just kind of help 857 00:42:26,240 --> 00:42:27,840 take a moment. 858 00:42:28,040 --> 00:42:32,320 Aftercare is another huge one that we didn't talk about dealing with it, 859 00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:35,880 making sure and in the lifestyle aftercare is different than like BDSM. 860 00:42:35,880 --> 00:42:40,240 In the lifestyle, it can be as simple as just a physical touch. 861 00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:41,440 Yeah. 862 00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:43,560 I hate the word reclaiming. 863 00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:46,400 I think reconnecting is a better word for that. 864 00:42:46,600 --> 00:42:46,880 Yeah. 865 00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:49,920 It feels territorial. 866 00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:51,320 It feels icky and weird. 867 00:42:51,320 --> 00:42:52,440 And you're not property. 868 00:42:52,640 --> 00:42:53,680 It's just a whole thing. 869 00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:54,080 Yeah. 870 00:42:54,280 --> 00:42:58,960 But reconnecting, I do think, is a very good because we have always done that. 871 00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:03,160 We always have like after the night is over, we have our marriage sex. 872 00:43:03,360 --> 00:43:04,280 We connect. 873 00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:05,640 Yeah, this. 874 00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:07,800 But it's always so hot. 875 00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:08,800 It's so good. 876 00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:09,520 So good. 877 00:43:09,720 --> 00:43:11,280 And it's so sweaty and nasty. 878 00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:12,720 It's raw like marriage sex. 879 00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:15,320 It's like a comfortable, hot. 880 00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:17,440 But it's like all of the things that have happened. 881 00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:20,440 And then at the end of the night and I don't call. 882 00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:21,880 I don't really think that's reclaiming. 883 00:43:22,080 --> 00:43:26,880 I think that is just reconnecting and comfortable being with your person. 884 00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:30,280 And you've been turned on for like hours and like excited. 885 00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:32,280 Yeah. Like I need to get off. 886 00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:33,480 It's hot. Yeah. 887 00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:34,200 Yeah. Yeah. 888 00:43:34,400 --> 00:43:38,680 But, you know, after care can look different in the lifestyle than it can be. 889 00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:43,200 It could just simple, simple like snack and a drink going to get a snack together. 890 00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:44,560 We've sat outside. 891 00:43:44,760 --> 00:43:49,160 We've sat outside of hotels and stuff like that and got like snacks in the front 892 00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:54,720 bar, ice cream and stuff like that little cafe, freezers and stuff. 893 00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:59,080 They have just been like randomly talking about all the things that have happened 894 00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:04,400 and getting snacks and putting sweatpants on finally or going outside waiting for 895 00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:08,920 the door dasher to show up pizza or some kind of food involved. 896 00:44:09,120 --> 00:44:10,520 Usually, usually. 897 00:44:10,720 --> 00:44:12,560 Yeah. Usually we finally get back to the room. 898 00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:14,320 We're like, I'm hungry. 899 00:44:14,520 --> 00:44:16,680 Yeah. That's like I'm thirsty. 900 00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:21,160 I need a water and I need to put sweatpants on and eat something bad for me or snack 901 00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:24,080 on something. But that's that's usually when we're sitting there. 902 00:44:24,080 --> 00:44:27,360 We'll sit there and talk about what it was just happened or oh, my God, 903 00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:30,720 did you just see that or hear that or feel that or how do you how do you think? 904 00:44:30,920 --> 00:44:32,960 It can be as simple as just how are you? 905 00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:34,120 Are you OK? 906 00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:36,040 Yeah. You're saying checking in and stuff. 907 00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:37,520 That's a lot of after cares. 908 00:44:37,720 --> 00:44:41,280 Just checking in and being like, how are you physically, mentally, 909 00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:43,320 emotionally, all the things. 910 00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:47,040 And it doesn't have to be anything huge and crazy. 911 00:44:47,240 --> 00:44:51,680 And it can be like cuddling and blankets and people cuddle. 912 00:44:51,880 --> 00:44:52,880 A lot of people cuddle. 913 00:44:53,080 --> 00:44:55,320 Yeah. A lot of our friends are cuddle puddlers. 914 00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:57,120 They're always any cuddle puddle. 915 00:44:57,120 --> 00:44:58,880 You're not. But I am. 916 00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:01,320 So he's all about the cuddle puddle. 917 00:45:01,320 --> 00:45:02,720 I love a good cuddle puddle. 918 00:45:02,720 --> 00:45:03,360 I have a hard time. 919 00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:05,400 I could have a physical touch person. 920 00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:07,000 No, you're not. 921 00:45:07,200 --> 00:45:09,840 I'm not. I just don't like your. 922 00:45:10,040 --> 00:45:12,000 Not used. I love it. 923 00:45:12,200 --> 00:45:14,640 But I don't like to be touched. 924 00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:15,840 Tell me how it works. 925 00:45:16,040 --> 00:45:17,040 I don't know. 926 00:45:17,240 --> 00:45:19,120 No, it does. 927 00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:22,120 But all of our friends and Tim are all cuddlers. 928 00:45:22,320 --> 00:45:25,520 So they're always like, want to go to be like 1 p.m. 929 00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:27,240 We'll be eating at 1 p.m. You want to go cuddle puddle? 930 00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:29,400 It comes up all day every time we're together. 931 00:45:29,600 --> 00:45:30,000 Yeah. 932 00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:31,800 Cudddle puddle time yet? 933 00:45:32,000 --> 00:45:36,520 I will cuddle puddle, but I don't get off on it like you all do. 934 00:45:36,720 --> 00:45:37,480 I don't know. 935 00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:40,520 I just it's like a warm hug. 936 00:45:40,720 --> 00:45:43,080 I hate hugs. 937 00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:46,000 I don't know. I just I feel. 938 00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:49,320 It's hard to explain how it like a cuddle puddle feels. 939 00:45:49,520 --> 00:45:50,760 No, I get it. I get it. 940 00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:52,760 I've been in many of them. I do. 941 00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:54,440 I just. 942 00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:58,600 Usually, especially after all that, I just want to be like, 943 00:45:58,800 --> 00:46:00,120 I'm all sweaty. 944 00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:01,040 I need to get a shower. 945 00:46:01,240 --> 00:46:02,160 I need to take a moment. 946 00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:07,560 Yeah, I feel the cuddle puddle after a shower or the best cuddle puddles. 947 00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:09,880 Everybody be trying to do it in the mornings. 948 00:46:10,080 --> 00:46:13,920 I'm like, oh, yeah, I need to brush my teeth first. 949 00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:16,760 I love you. 950 00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:19,800 But also, can I just brush my teeth real quick? 951 00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:21,520 I need. 952 00:46:22,040 --> 00:46:22,960 To be good. 953 00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:24,440 Yeah, clean. 954 00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:25,440 Hey, everyone. 955 00:46:25,640 --> 00:46:29,040 If you ever wondered where we get our outfits, accessories and even some 956 00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:32,560 of the cool decor that you see in our content, look no further. 957 00:46:32,760 --> 00:46:37,320 We've got all linked in our Amazon storefront from stylish fits, fun accessories 958 00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:38,960 to the decor that sets the vibe. 959 00:46:39,160 --> 00:46:41,440 We've handpicked our favorites just for you. 960 00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:44,080 Head over to our Amazon storefront to check it out. 961 00:46:44,280 --> 00:46:46,640 And you might just find something that fits your style. 962 00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:48,920 Shopping our picks help support the show. 963 00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:53,920 So thank you for all the love. 964 00:47:08,120 --> 00:47:13,400 Yeah, those are just some things and some tips and some stuff that maybe hopefully 965 00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:16,480 might help someone just deal with it. 966 00:47:16,480 --> 00:47:19,920 I think that's where I think that's the overall message. 967 00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:23,160 Communication is key, as always and forever. 968 00:47:23,360 --> 00:47:25,520 The same thing we say every single episode. 969 00:47:25,720 --> 00:47:27,120 Communication really is key. 970 00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:30,360 Communication and honest, even if you don't know how to frame it and you don't 971 00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:35,360 know where that feeling is coming from and you just say that it's OK to say it's OK 972 00:47:35,360 --> 00:47:37,120 to be like, I'm feeling a certain sort of way. 973 00:47:37,320 --> 00:47:43,080 I'm not really sure where it's coming from or why, but I would like to work on it. 974 00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:47,680 Right when we need to work through it and just take time to connect with each other. 975 00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:49,520 Yeah, it's definitely not a race. 976 00:47:49,720 --> 00:47:52,560 I feel like there's a lot of people that 977 00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:56,040 feel that they have to rush into things. 978 00:47:56,240 --> 00:48:00,000 Yeah, and there's not no there's no rush. 979 00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:03,240 You can be like we knew people that were 980 00:48:03,440 --> 00:48:09,320 navigating lifestyle for a year and a half before they even touched anybody else. 981 00:48:09,520 --> 00:48:10,800 Yeah. Longer than that. 982 00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:15,520 I mean, we know a couple of people, just there's people that still have never. 983 00:48:15,720 --> 00:48:18,560 Yeah, that's just just a thing. 984 00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:20,480 And that's fine. 985 00:48:20,680 --> 00:48:23,720 That's again, the lifestyle is whatever you want it to be. 986 00:48:23,920 --> 00:48:28,400 It can have you can have four hundred and boundaries and rules, a contract. 987 00:48:28,600 --> 00:48:32,000 You can make it whatever you want it to be to make you the most comfortable. 988 00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:36,880 But again, biggest tip work on where that's 989 00:48:36,880 --> 00:48:41,240 coming from and why you feel the need to have these rules and these boundaries. 990 00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:43,440 And what is that coming from? 991 00:48:43,640 --> 00:48:45,200 Is it fear of abandonment? 992 00:48:45,400 --> 00:48:46,760 Like what's going on there? 993 00:48:46,960 --> 00:48:50,280 Are you feeling not secure, not confident and deal with that? 994 00:48:50,280 --> 00:48:54,000 And usually with that, you'll be able to actually because the whole point is to 995 00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:59,360 just be able to fulfill all fantasies, any fantasies that you ever could want to do 996 00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:05,200 together. And that's like the ultimate goals to fulfill every fantasy, all the fantasies together. 997 00:49:05,200 --> 00:49:09,280 Yeah. And you're going to have to work on getting there because it's not easy. 998 00:49:09,480 --> 00:49:11,440 No, it's not. 999 00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:12,720 There's some uncomfortable. 1000 00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:15,200 It takes a lot of work. 1001 00:49:15,400 --> 00:49:20,080 Yeah. Get comfortable being uncomfortable because you're going to be also comfortable. 1002 00:49:20,280 --> 00:49:23,320 You get sweet like we've gotten so close 1003 00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:29,080 through those conversations that I don't know if it's definitely worth it. 1004 00:49:29,280 --> 00:49:30,400 Yeah. From that. 1005 00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:31,320 Yeah. 1006 00:49:31,520 --> 00:49:33,600 We've had some weird. 1007 00:49:33,600 --> 00:49:37,120 We've had some crazy experiences and we've had a lot of fun. 1008 00:49:37,320 --> 00:49:42,200 But in the end, like the ultimate prize is how close we've become. 1009 00:49:42,400 --> 00:49:46,680 What you get out of working through it and dealing with it and getting through 1010 00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:51,520 tell scene all the bad feels so you can have all the good feels together. 1011 00:49:51,720 --> 00:49:53,120 Yeah. Unlimited good feels. 1012 00:49:53,320 --> 00:49:54,960 That's the only goal. 1013 00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:56,800 I were all here. 1014 00:49:57,000 --> 00:50:02,400 Yeah, that's if you have any questions or anything, want to talk about it more 1015 00:50:02,400 --> 00:50:03,600 about it, we're not professionals. 1016 00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:08,920 We're here just feeling whatever we've seen or whatever we've done. 1017 00:50:08,920 --> 00:50:09,840 It's our opinions. 1018 00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:13,480 We're not sure why anyone wants to listen to us talking about these things, 1019 00:50:13,680 --> 00:50:15,160 but we're here to talk about them. 1020 00:50:15,360 --> 00:50:17,600 It's definitely you. It's not me. 1021 00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:18,600 They're here for you. 1022 00:50:18,800 --> 00:50:21,280 No, no. 1023 00:50:21,480 --> 00:50:24,640 But yeah, they, you know, we want to talk about it. 1024 00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:28,880 If you don't agree or you think something different or you have your own thoughts, 1025 00:50:29,080 --> 00:50:31,520 put them Instagram, reach out on our Instagram. 1026 00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:36,160 We have a podcast, a couple of Chronicles podcast on TikTok and Instagram. 1027 00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:43,040 And we are always to make a story, something we're always trying to get your input 1028 00:50:43,240 --> 00:50:45,920 and just a little bit so we can address it. 1029 00:50:46,120 --> 00:50:46,400 I know. 1030 00:50:46,600 --> 00:50:49,720 Whatever you want to hear us talk more about, let us know. 1031 00:50:49,920 --> 00:50:51,720 We like to talk. We're talkers. 1032 00:50:51,920 --> 00:50:55,120 So that's why we started this. 1033 00:50:56,080 --> 00:50:57,040 We're ramblers. 1034 00:50:57,240 --> 00:50:57,920 We are ramblers. 1035 00:50:58,120 --> 00:50:58,920 We are ramblers. 1036 00:50:58,920 --> 00:51:03,640 We suck at podcasting if you haven't noticed, because we kind of just 1037 00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:06,240 have a topic and trail off that way. 1038 00:51:06,440 --> 00:51:08,720 A whole outline things that we really want to cover. 1039 00:51:08,920 --> 00:51:14,000 We want to be more professional, but then we just start talking with our hearts, 1040 00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:16,200 not our brains. 1041 00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:19,400 We go off on lots of tangents and it kind of gets lost. 1042 00:51:19,400 --> 00:51:22,360 And then all of a sudden we're looking at it and it's an hour in. 1043 00:51:22,560 --> 00:51:24,520 And then you're got to wrap it up. 1044 00:51:24,720 --> 00:51:27,160 Yep. Already time to go. 1045 00:51:27,160 --> 00:51:31,640 So next week we're going to talk about 1046 00:51:32,040 --> 00:51:37,000 the big bad word that makes me not a real swinger. 1047 00:51:37,200 --> 00:51:39,880 Only fans. 1048 00:51:40,080 --> 00:51:42,520 It's the worst word you could ever say. 1049 00:51:42,720 --> 00:51:45,320 Yeah, there's a lot I have to say about that. 1050 00:51:45,520 --> 00:51:48,280 And I've been wanting to say about that for a really long time. 1051 00:51:48,480 --> 00:51:51,000 And I do get judged every day. 1052 00:51:51,200 --> 00:51:52,120 Pretty much every day. 1053 00:51:52,320 --> 00:51:53,880 You get judged from both sides of it. 1054 00:51:54,080 --> 00:51:54,480 Oh, yeah. 1055 00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:56,400 It's very confusing. 1056 00:51:56,400 --> 00:52:01,160 And yeah, it's been a it's been a tour to journey for my fans. 1057 00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:04,600 But we're going to talk about that a little bit more next week and tap into that. 1058 00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:08,720 And then filming this now, it is now Thursday. 1059 00:52:08,920 --> 00:52:12,720 So tomorrow I'm going to Trappi's solo. 1060 00:52:12,920 --> 00:52:18,200 Yes. For first Friday, first Friday with Pineapples After Dark. 1061 00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:21,800 When you're listening to this, it'll be already a week after. 1062 00:52:22,000 --> 00:52:24,480 And then, yes, superheroes. 1063 00:52:24,480 --> 00:52:28,080 So I and we don't do superheroes. 1064 00:52:28,280 --> 00:52:30,240 So I'm trying to come up with a costume 1065 00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:32,960 because this was another last minute decision to kind of go. 1066 00:52:33,160 --> 00:52:36,600 Yeah, you weren't going until last week. 1067 00:52:36,800 --> 00:52:38,960 Yeah, you brought it up and you suggested it. 1068 00:52:39,160 --> 00:52:41,680 And I was like, and I thought about it for a little bit. 1069 00:52:41,680 --> 00:52:43,040 And I'm like, OK, whatever. 1070 00:52:43,040 --> 00:52:46,680 Yeah, because I won't be able to make March and we'll have the party party. 1071 00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:48,120 And it felt like so far away. 1072 00:52:48,320 --> 00:52:51,920 So I'm like, yeah, yeah, because my work schedule has me. 1073 00:52:51,920 --> 00:52:56,520 Yeah, busy for the next month, basically. 1074 00:52:56,720 --> 00:52:58,760 So I won't be able to get away for a weekend. 1075 00:52:58,960 --> 00:53:04,720 So he's like, unless you just go by yourself on Friday and it's. 1076 00:53:04,920 --> 00:53:09,960 With PAD, so it's pretty safe, and it's our people, so it'll be good. 1077 00:53:10,160 --> 00:53:12,720 And I'm trying to come up with some kind of costume. 1078 00:53:12,920 --> 00:53:17,280 I'm thinking, I don't know if you know secrets two years ago, 1079 00:53:17,480 --> 00:53:20,200 a long time ago, two or three years ago, I went. 1080 00:53:20,200 --> 00:53:22,440 He was super, super man. 1081 00:53:22,640 --> 00:53:24,120 Yeah, and I was Lois Lane. 1082 00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:27,360 Yeah, so I was going to try and pull together something similar to that. 1083 00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:29,760 But without you, it's going to be a little bit different. 1084 00:53:29,960 --> 00:53:31,360 So I'm trying to your idea. 1085 00:53:31,560 --> 00:53:32,840 I just have to find that. 1086 00:53:33,040 --> 00:53:34,680 Yeah. So we'll see. 1087 00:53:34,880 --> 00:53:35,840 I'm sure you'll see pictures. 1088 00:53:35,840 --> 00:53:37,400 I'm sure I'll be taking pictures of that. 1089 00:53:37,600 --> 00:53:41,160 You'll see them on the social media by the time you listen to this. 1090 00:53:41,360 --> 00:53:42,800 But yeah. 1091 00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:44,600 And then we have PAD party. 1092 00:53:44,800 --> 00:53:46,080 Yeah, the same party. 1093 00:53:46,280 --> 00:53:47,000 We've got that. 1094 00:53:47,000 --> 00:53:50,120 And that's my birthday weekend, March 14th, March 14th. 1095 00:53:50,320 --> 00:53:51,840 And where's that? 1096 00:53:52,040 --> 00:53:54,080 That's in Loganville, Georgia. 1097 00:53:54,280 --> 00:53:55,880 Yeah. It's an atmosphere. 1098 00:53:56,080 --> 00:53:57,400 And we have a day. 1099 00:53:57,600 --> 00:53:59,560 We have a link for that down below. 1100 00:53:59,760 --> 00:54:04,040 And then after that is secrets, April's Swinger Society. 1101 00:54:04,240 --> 00:54:06,720 Yeah, April's coming fast. 1102 00:54:06,920 --> 00:54:07,840 It's coming quick. 1103 00:54:08,040 --> 00:54:10,400 And I am so excited. 1104 00:54:10,600 --> 00:54:13,720 Let me know if you want to get on the waitlist because there's a waitlist, 1105 00:54:13,720 --> 00:54:17,000 quite a waitlist, but people are starting to back out. 1106 00:54:17,200 --> 00:54:19,000 Yeah, everybody happens. 1107 00:54:19,200 --> 00:54:21,480 So it booked it. 1108 00:54:21,680 --> 00:54:24,520 It booked out like really, really fast. 1109 00:54:24,720 --> 00:54:27,520 But it was so far in advance that life happens. 1110 00:54:27,720 --> 00:54:29,400 We get it and people back out. 1111 00:54:29,600 --> 00:54:32,680 And so rooms become available and come open. 1112 00:54:32,880 --> 00:54:35,160 So get on the waitlist. 1113 00:54:35,360 --> 00:54:36,440 Hopefully you can get a room. 1114 00:54:36,640 --> 00:54:39,840 Definitely recommend secrets is our faith. 1115 00:54:40,040 --> 00:54:40,920 We love secret. 1116 00:54:41,120 --> 00:54:42,520 Yeah, we love it's a whole vibe. 1117 00:54:42,520 --> 00:54:45,200 It's just three days vacation for us. 1118 00:54:45,400 --> 00:54:48,880 Yeah, like it's our vacation time and we take full advantage of it. 1119 00:54:48,880 --> 00:54:49,720 Yeah. Every moment. 1120 00:54:49,720 --> 00:54:51,320 Well, and this time we've talked about it, 1121 00:54:51,520 --> 00:54:54,000 that we decided that we're not going to do a room crawl. 1122 00:54:54,200 --> 00:54:54,400 Anything. 1123 00:54:54,600 --> 00:54:58,360 But we are going to we are going to do a luncheon in our room. 1124 00:54:58,560 --> 00:55:03,600 Yes. All of our listeners, we're going to get you in a little secret Saturday 1125 00:55:03,800 --> 00:55:06,600 at noon ish. I'll for sure put something on Instagram. 1126 00:55:06,800 --> 00:55:08,080 The time and all of that. 1127 00:55:08,280 --> 00:55:10,800 But we are bringing back Margarita's and pizza. 1128 00:55:10,800 --> 00:55:12,440 That was always our thing at secrets. 1129 00:55:12,640 --> 00:55:16,200 And we stopped doing it the last two terms and everyone's been super about it. 1130 00:55:16,200 --> 00:55:18,160 So we're going to we're going to bring it back. 1131 00:55:18,160 --> 00:55:20,200 And yeah, we're going to have like a little lunch in our room. 1132 00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:23,320 So if you're going to be there, come, come hang out. 1133 00:55:23,520 --> 00:55:24,840 Come say hi. Come hang out. 1134 00:55:25,040 --> 00:55:27,880 We love pizza. I love I'll have plenty of Margarita's. 1135 00:55:27,880 --> 00:55:29,280 I'll plenty of food, plenty of drink. 1136 00:55:29,480 --> 00:55:31,400 And we will have all sorts of goodies. 1137 00:55:31,600 --> 00:55:35,080 We always do. We carry a whole bunch of stuff along with us. 1138 00:55:35,280 --> 00:55:36,280 It's a good time. I promise. 1139 00:55:36,480 --> 00:55:38,160 It's like room one forty one. 1140 00:55:38,360 --> 00:55:39,480 Yeah, one forty one. 1141 00:55:39,480 --> 00:55:40,960 So come, it's going to be good. 1142 00:55:41,160 --> 00:55:41,960 It's going to be good. 1143 00:55:42,040 --> 00:55:43,200 Yeah. A whole new Tiki Bar now. 1144 00:55:43,200 --> 00:55:45,280 So we're excited to go see it and it's going to be fun. 1145 00:55:45,480 --> 00:55:47,360 So yeah, come along with us to secrets. 1146 00:55:47,360 --> 00:55:50,680 Get on the wait list. Let me know and check out all of our social media. 1147 00:55:50,880 --> 00:55:53,560 Make sure you're following Instagram, Tick Tock. 1148 00:55:53,760 --> 00:55:57,200 We've got all the pages and that's all in our link tree. 1149 00:55:57,400 --> 00:55:59,720 And you can find that. 1150 00:55:59,920 --> 00:56:03,400 Yeah, we have individual links below in the whole link tree below. 1151 00:56:03,400 --> 00:56:05,200 So pretty much anywhere on social media you can find. 1152 00:56:05,400 --> 00:56:07,640 Yeah, you can find everywhere you can find us. 1153 00:56:07,640 --> 00:56:08,400 Follow us on Instagram. 1154 00:56:08,400 --> 00:56:11,400 That's like your best bet to keep track of where I'm going to be because I am a 1155 00:56:11,600 --> 00:56:13,680 last minute girl. She is. 1156 00:56:13,880 --> 00:56:15,200 Yeah, she'll pop up on you. 1157 00:56:15,400 --> 00:56:18,000 I do never know where I want to be next. 1158 00:56:18,200 --> 00:56:21,480 But yeah, that's all I got to say about that. 1159 00:56:21,680 --> 00:56:25,120 Yeah. So as always, it's not that serious. 1160 00:56:25,120 --> 00:56:38,640 Don't make it weird. Bye, guys.