1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:04,560 Welcome to Hot Couple Chronicles, a podcast exploring the singing lifestyle. 2 00:00:04,560 --> 00:00:10,080 Our discussions may contain explicit content and adult themes intended for mature audiences. 3 00:00:10,080 --> 00:00:14,000 While we strive to offer valuable insights and entertainment, please be aware that the 4 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:19,840 views expressed are based on personal experiences and opinions. We encourage listeners to approach 5 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:25,040 the content with an open mind and to prioritize communication, consent, and respect in their 6 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:30,240 relationships. Remember everyone's journey is unique, so take what resonates with you and leave 7 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:33,200 what doesn't. Thank you for joining us on our adventure. 8 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:58,160 I'm Russ and I'm Ashley and this is Hot Couple Chronicles. 9 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:07,200 Happy Wednesday. We're back again. Once again. Yeah, we don't really have a topic for this episode. 10 00:01:08,320 --> 00:01:12,960 We figured we'd talk a little bit more about, we went to the Night of Spice and kind of what 11 00:01:12,960 --> 00:01:19,680 happened there and we went out last night and we're just going to talk about what's going on. 12 00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:26,320 It's only what, three weeks into the year and it has been busy. Yeah, we've been busy. And today 13 00:01:26,320 --> 00:01:32,160 we have snow day. Yeah, it's freaking snowing outside in Georgia. It's like 20 degrees. This is 14 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:38,400 ridiculous. So cold. The kids don't have school. They had off yesterday. Martin Luther King Day 15 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:42,240 and now they have off today and we don't know if they're gonna have off tomorrow or not. 16 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:48,880 So it's to snow all day today and then freeze and then. Our school district is really. They don't 17 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:52,960 close for anything. I'm surprised they closed today. I couldn't believe they called it like 10 18 00:01:52,960 --> 00:01:56,960 a.m. too. So and they never close. So you know it's gonna be bad if they're. Yeah, I mean the 19 00:01:56,960 --> 00:02:01,760 last time it rained everybody was mad because. Yeah, hurricanes, tornadoes, they go to school. 20 00:02:02,640 --> 00:02:09,280 They don't cancel school for anything. So it's like serious here and yeah, it's absolutely freezing. 21 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:12,720 It's so cold. I hate it so much. We moved to Georgia thinking that we weren't gonna ever 22 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:17,680 have to be cold like this again. I threw away my snow shovel and it's snowing outside. We got rid 23 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:23,760 of all of our winter supplies. I don't have like a heavy jacket anymore. No, we got rid of everything. 24 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:28,400 We were fooled. We thought we lived south enough. That's bullshit. It's been like 20 years since it 25 00:02:28,400 --> 00:02:34,640 snowed here and 20 years since we hit this cold weather and we're here for that and it's only 26 00:02:34,640 --> 00:02:42,400 because we're here. Yeah, yeah. 100%. We're hitting all these winter records for the first time ever. 27 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:47,280 I hate it. Yeah, but we're just chilling, relaxing today. We're just. Well, 28 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:54,160 last week's episode though, it was just you. So this is my return. More about my HS journey 29 00:02:54,160 --> 00:03:00,560 and a little bit more in depth about that and people always wonder about what it is I have and 30 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:04,880 what I talk about. I've mentioned it a few times and so I just figured a whole episode to kind of 31 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:11,520 connect with people that deal with any chronic illness really, not just HS but. Well, I liked it 32 00:03:11,520 --> 00:03:19,600 because it wasn't just about you and HS. It was really just about body confidence and insecurities 33 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:25,440 and dealing with that as just a person. Try to pull it all together as like a whole, just body 34 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:31,840 confidence and any kind of issue or insecurity that you have with your body and kind of a little 35 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:38,320 bit more about my personal issues and what I got going on and maybe some tips and things about how 36 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:43,680 to deal with it. But yeah, and then this week we figured we'd break down night of spice. So 37 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:50,640 our friends life of spice and her husband DJ life of spice. They hosted a night at trapeze, 38 00:03:50,640 --> 00:03:56,960 which is our home club in Atlanta and I had to be there because had to, he couldn't get off because 39 00:03:56,960 --> 00:04:02,400 he's taking off for a birthday this weekend. So he couldn't get off. So I figured I'd do a solo 40 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:07,760 trip trapeze is easy. I've done it alone before it's safe to me. It's my second home. And then 41 00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:14,640 all of our pineapples after dark was also co-hosting as well as swing nation. So everyone 42 00:04:14,640 --> 00:04:18,880 we knew was going to be there. Yeah. So I have everybody from everywhere. Yeah. Everyone, 43 00:04:18,880 --> 00:04:23,520 pretty much everyone we've ever met in the lifestyle. Yeah. I wasn't there. I knew it was 44 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:28,800 going to be packed. It was insane, but he had to work. And so he brought me to anything but 45 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:36,800 vanilla Robin Lindsay's house on Friday. Yeah. Friday. And it was a snowstorm as well, but we 46 00:04:36,800 --> 00:04:40,800 weren't getting it here, but they were getting in Atlanta and it was mostly like freezing rain and 47 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:45,360 slush and ice. And it was pretty nasty. And I'll probably were like, well, we were driving up. The 48 00:04:45,360 --> 00:04:52,480 roads were pretty nasty. Luckily, luckily though we made record time through Atlanta because there's 49 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:58,320 no one on the road. No one. It was like everyone was so terrified and scared enough. I wish that 50 00:04:58,320 --> 00:05:01,840 everyone would be that scared to be on the road in Atlanta. Cause it was deserted. It was us. And 51 00:05:01,840 --> 00:05:07,920 like I made record time record time going like we made record time going to North basically North 52 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:15,760 Atlanta, going 45 miles an hour. Pretty much the whole time. Half the time is a sunny regular day 53 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:20,640 going up to Atlanta. It was insane. And we were going like 40, 45 the whole entire time. And it 54 00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:25,920 was pretty, pretty sketchy. I hate driving in the crap. I have a lot of PTSD from living up North 55 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:31,360 and snow and stuff. So I was terrified, but he was like, I'll get you there. No problem. 56 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:36,720 And I trusted him enough that I knew he knew how to handle, handle it. It was everyone else. I was 57 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:42,080 worried about everybody else. Pretty impressed the way people were driving people skid off. 58 00:05:42,080 --> 00:05:49,440 There was a couple of people that were iffy, but going 10 miles an hour and stopping on the 59 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:55,600 interstate and riding on your brakes. Like obviously they had no idea. Yeah. But for the 60 00:05:55,600 --> 00:06:00,720 most part, everybody did pretty good. I think it wasn't too bad. We had, we made it there. We went 61 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:06,480 up to Robin Lindsay's house in there, but I wasn't making it back. No, well on the way back, 62 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:12,400 there was a really bad accident. It was a semi looks like a jackknife and a block the interstate. 63 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:19,040 So the interstate going back South was completely closed. So bad. He planned on taking me and then 64 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:22,800 coming, turning around and coming back pretty much going to work and going to work for the weekend. 65 00:06:22,800 --> 00:06:28,480 And so he, once we saw that, and once we saw the roads and it was only getting colder and worse, 66 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:33,280 he was like, I'm just going to call it. I'm just going to stay for the night. So he stayed up there 67 00:06:33,280 --> 00:06:43,520 with me and Robin Lindsay had a dog. We have a new family member. Thanks to them. We got up there 68 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:53,600 and they had three dogs. And one of them was this big shaggy doodle love book. And he won my heart 69 00:06:53,600 --> 00:06:56,960 over and she's like, we're trying to find a home for her. We don't want him anymore. We need to get 70 00:06:56,960 --> 00:07:03,360 rid of him. And he stole stole my heart. It is the sweetest, sweetest thing. And we did not want any 71 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:07,440 more dogs. We have two big dogs. We were like, these are our lifetime dogs and then we're done. 72 00:07:07,440 --> 00:07:13,120 We're good. We don't need any more dogs, but he won my heart. I, he's an animal lover and I didn't 73 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:16,880 even say any, he was like, well, I guess he's coming home with us. And you're like, I guess so. 74 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:21,280 And that was, that's all it was. It wasn't much of a conversation. It was just kind of like, all 75 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:26,560 right. Yeah. Um, we agree. So he went home with you the next, the next morning. And then she's like, 76 00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:31,120 if it doesn't work out, just bring him back when you come back on Monday and it worked out. He's 77 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:34,720 doing really good there. They're getting, we're already teaching them tricks. Yeah. He knows how 78 00:07:34,720 --> 00:07:40,640 to sit now and lay down and lay down and he's learning his name and we changed his name. And 79 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:46,160 yeah, he's the cutest little thing. He's big. He's a big boy. He's a tank. He made our big dog look 80 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:52,960 little. I thought they were the same size, but he, he made her way smaller, way smaller, but he's, 81 00:07:52,960 --> 00:07:56,960 he's fitting right in. He's working his way and everybody loves him. He stole everybody's hearts, 82 00:07:56,960 --> 00:08:03,280 like immediately his eyes. He's a big baby. He is. He's sweet and he's very smart. He's attached. 83 00:08:03,280 --> 00:08:09,920 He's your dog. He's definitely like, he just literally follows you around like a puppy dog. 84 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:13,440 He's in between your legs at all times. Like you can't help but love him so much. He's so cute, 85 00:08:13,440 --> 00:08:18,800 but yeah, we came home with a family member and he came home with a dog and left me in Atlanta. 86 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:24,560 So the next day it, the sun started to come out and it started melting and it was still, I don't 87 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:27,920 know, everybody was kind of like freaking out and they weren't coming and then people were coming 88 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:31,760 and people weren't coming. So we didn't know what was going to happen. So when I left 89 00:08:32,560 --> 00:08:41,600 Robin Lindsay's house Saturday morning, like everybody was still pretty panicky. Like, 90 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:46,720 and so the roads were still pretty clear, but they were perfectly dry and good. There's nothing 91 00:08:46,720 --> 00:08:53,680 like the road. I got home in really record time because I could go the speed limit. Yeah. 92 00:08:54,560 --> 00:08:59,600 And there was no one on the road. It was pretty awesome. Actually, it ended up being fine. And 93 00:08:59,600 --> 00:09:05,360 then we went out to lunch with Davey from Panamastor Dark. Panamastor Dark had a table there. 94 00:09:05,360 --> 00:09:10,320 So they were promoting for the playground and, you know, welcoming people as they came into the 95 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:14,640 club. So we dropped off like the table and got it set up and everything and got to see some people 96 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:20,480 Dan and Lacey were there, SwingNation and Spices were there setting up. And so we stopped in there 97 00:09:20,480 --> 00:09:24,880 for a little bit, got a couple of videos and pictures of the club while it was closed. We 98 00:09:24,880 --> 00:09:29,520 don't get to see, do that very often. It's hard to get pictures and videos of clubs. 99 00:09:29,520 --> 00:09:33,360 You're not allowed to take any videos or pictures. So it's like really hard to navigate that while 100 00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:39,280 you're trying to promote them and help, you know, the party out there and stuff. So while no one 101 00:09:39,280 --> 00:09:43,280 was there, we were trying to get pictures and videos and stuff. And then we were like, 102 00:09:43,280 --> 00:09:47,200 we're going to get pictures and videos and then we left and it was time to get ready. 103 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:52,880 Already we got a hotel. We ended up getting a hotel as we always do in the same hotel as we 104 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:59,200 always do. And yeah, we went to the club. We got there early because we wanted to set up and 105 00:09:59,200 --> 00:10:04,400 get everything all ready. And it was going, we knew it was going to be insane because it was like 106 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:11,360 three groups of people with pretty big followings that were going to be there. And the RSVP list was 107 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:17,040 ginormous. And I was, I mean, for you had you there that you announced you were going to be there. 108 00:10:17,040 --> 00:10:23,200 You had pineapples after dark. Yeah. You had swing nation and you had life of spice. That's 109 00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:28,240 what I mean. It's like, that's a lot of people were coming to that. There was even with the snow, 110 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:33,600 they were like, I heard the weight they just get in the club was nuts. I don't think I would have 111 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:40,400 done it. That's commitment. And it was like 20 degrees outside, 15, 20 degrees outside. It was, 112 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:45,920 it was so cold. I don't know that I would have had the ability to stand out there that long. 113 00:10:45,920 --> 00:10:52,240 Yeah. And I know it's a big place and they can fit a lot of people, but I'm curious how close they 114 00:10:52,240 --> 00:11:00,560 were to like the, you know, max capacity of that place. Oh yeah. We've, we packed that place full, 115 00:11:00,560 --> 00:11:07,920 full of people and Dan DJed at the beginning until like about 11 o'clock. And I said most of that 116 00:11:07,920 --> 00:11:12,320 time I was up at the table. I love like saying hi to everybody as they come in. There were so 117 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:17,520 many people that again, were never there before. Even people from social media, a lot of new people 118 00:11:17,520 --> 00:11:22,080 that have just never come to that club before. There was a lot of new, like I wouldn't say new 119 00:11:22,080 --> 00:11:26,320 people, but a lot of people knew their trapeze. So I was like going around telling people if they 120 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:32,640 needed a tour, I was volunteering for tours and just welcoming you're good at that stuff like that. 121 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:39,920 I think you're, you're a very good, like just host this period. I love like welcome to my home 122 00:11:41,120 --> 00:11:48,160 here are my friends and yeah. So I like felt comfortable staying at the table and I stayed 123 00:11:48,160 --> 00:11:53,040 there till like probably around midnight. I tried to eat because we hadn't really eat anything other 124 00:11:53,040 --> 00:11:57,120 than some sushi for lunch. So I was, I knew I had to eat something and I went to the buffet because 125 00:11:57,120 --> 00:12:02,000 it was right there where the table was out front and I tried to eat, but there was so many people 126 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:07,760 we got to see the cracking beards. Oh yeah. See, I haven't, you got to see the crack and beards. 127 00:12:07,760 --> 00:12:14,800 I like, I'm a little jealous student. I miss, I miss those people. I was trying to eat and then I 128 00:12:14,800 --> 00:12:19,280 got distracted and then they took my plate. And so then I saw them eating at the table 129 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:26,800 down there and he was like, come here, sit. Yes sir. I missed him. I missed that energy. I miss, 130 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:30,320 I miss that. He's like, I always call him my second daddy. I don't really call anybody that 131 00:12:30,320 --> 00:12:35,520 except for him. He's like my, he knows he understands me and we're super close with them, 132 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:40,560 but we just haven't seen them for so long and they had to, they have a poly situation going on and 133 00:12:40,560 --> 00:12:48,000 then I got to meet their, their girls and she's also Dallas is pregnant. So yeah, got the love on 134 00:12:48,000 --> 00:12:53,600 her for a little bit and she's the cutest pregnant person ever. She's so adorable. I know they've 135 00:12:53,600 --> 00:12:58,640 waited a long time for that. So very excited for them. And yeah, there was just so many people, 136 00:12:58,640 --> 00:13:02,480 so many faces, everywhere you turn, there's people and people coming up, you know, 137 00:13:03,440 --> 00:13:07,440 that had just never been to anything, but didn't clubs. I was trying to help everybody plus, 138 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:10,640 you know, we were promoting for the playground because if you don't know what the playground is, 139 00:13:10,640 --> 00:13:17,680 you should be there. It is the next, the newest, coolest, best thing ever. Forget about SDS and 140 00:13:17,680 --> 00:13:23,520 SLS. Like this is the group that you want to be with. The thing about like those two, like SLS and 141 00:13:23,520 --> 00:13:29,520 SDC are it's clunky and old and outdated. So outdated. And this group they want and it's 142 00:13:29,520 --> 00:13:34,960 going to keep on changing and you know, it's always, it's already just aesthetically better 143 00:13:34,960 --> 00:13:40,480 and it has a really good, it's pretty small still, but it has a really good group of people in the 144 00:13:40,480 --> 00:13:45,520 other, really active, very active all the time. There's always, yeah. And they're always getting 145 00:13:45,520 --> 00:13:49,760 together and meeting and trying to, you know, they do a lot of vanilla stuff too. So if you're, 146 00:13:49,760 --> 00:13:53,920 if you're looking for a good group and they're always like, every time I'm with them, they're 147 00:13:53,920 --> 00:13:59,280 like brainstorming new ideas and new platforms to use and new updating all the things they want to 148 00:13:59,280 --> 00:14:07,440 be. Yeah. We talked to them a lot just about what are your ideas and that's, I feel we've looked for 149 00:14:07,440 --> 00:14:13,520 that for the whole time. That's what we've been looking for. We always told our friends that we're 150 00:14:13,520 --> 00:14:18,880 here for to help you with anything you need. And this is the first group of friends that get together 151 00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:27,120 and that get that and really take what we say in our opinions and thoughts into consideration. 152 00:14:27,840 --> 00:14:33,760 And don't gatekeep. Yeah. They want us to know about every idea they have, every 153 00:14:33,760 --> 00:14:40,400 absolutely. I feel more of a partnership with these, this group of friends. No competition at all. 154 00:14:40,400 --> 00:14:45,600 It's not collaboration and how can we help the lifestyle and the people and that's always like, 155 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:50,640 they're always asking us like, how can we help you? Like you're doing this and this and this for us. 156 00:14:50,640 --> 00:14:55,760 Like we want to help you. Like honestly, we don't like, we don't need anything for like, 157 00:14:55,760 --> 00:15:00,320 no, we just want to, we just want our friends to all thrive. Yeah. And they want us to thrive too, 158 00:15:00,320 --> 00:15:05,440 which is awesome. But all we've asked for five years now, like that's all we've been asking for. 159 00:15:05,440 --> 00:15:11,840 There's no competition. It's real. It's just collaboration and for the community. And 160 00:15:11,840 --> 00:15:16,240 that's the key. It's for the people. It's for people in the lifestyle. It's not anything to 161 00:15:16,240 --> 00:15:20,560 do with us and we don't want it to be about us at all. We don't need that's why we don't, 162 00:15:20,560 --> 00:15:24,480 we don't need our faces on anything. No, we don't need our name on anything. We just want the people 163 00:15:24,480 --> 00:15:30,640 in the lifestyle to find their people. That's the only thing we love helping people find their people. 164 00:15:30,640 --> 00:15:37,040 Yes. Because they say it's clicky and they say it's, you know, these groups of people are so 165 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:42,560 clickish and these circles and everything. And have we even talked about like people talking 166 00:15:42,560 --> 00:15:50,800 like saying it's clicky because I just wanted to say like, sometimes it does seem clicky. I will, 167 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:58,560 it's, but it's unintentional. It's people, people are comfortable with each other. Exactly. And they 168 00:15:58,560 --> 00:16:03,280 tend to, you're going to find people in a crowd that you know, that are familiar that you feel 169 00:16:03,280 --> 00:16:08,640 comfortable, especially in such a vulnerable environment and situation and people that feel 170 00:16:08,640 --> 00:16:13,360 comfortable. Hey everyone. 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So you're excited. 177 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:01,680 On social media, it looks like we're together all the time because you're seeing these pictures 178 00:17:01,680 --> 00:17:05,680 we're taking and we're posting them randomly and all this stuff, but we really don't see each other 179 00:17:05,680 --> 00:17:10,240 very much. And so when we get to see each other, it's like any other long distance friendship where 180 00:17:10,240 --> 00:17:13,600 you're just so excited to spend every minute together. Absolutely. And it's not that we're 181 00:17:13,600 --> 00:17:18,560 trying to exclude anyone. We're not trying to like kick people out or not trying to, you know, make 182 00:17:18,560 --> 00:17:24,240 it clicky. We just have groups of people that we want more people. Oh yeah. We're always searching 183 00:17:24,240 --> 00:17:31,840 for more people. So I learned something when we hosted for libertine events in Miami and she said, 184 00:17:33,520 --> 00:17:41,120 she understood that whole dynamic of talking to old friends and meeting new friends, but people 185 00:17:42,560 --> 00:17:49,680 are reluctant to just interrupt the conversation. Like when a group of people are in a conversation, 186 00:17:49,680 --> 00:17:56,880 you're not going to go try and interrupt or just butt into a conversation. And it's less welcoming 187 00:17:56,880 --> 00:18:00,960 because you're always in a circle. So cause everybody wants to hear and talk and everything. 188 00:18:01,760 --> 00:18:09,680 She said, keep the circle open, make it a horseshoe, make it a horseshoe. I'm like, that is genius. 189 00:18:09,680 --> 00:18:15,520 That's more welcoming. Like everybody can come in and involve themselves. Cause we are always 190 00:18:15,520 --> 00:18:22,080 here for everybody. I'm like, I'm actively trying to do that. But again, I'm not perfect. 191 00:18:22,080 --> 00:18:26,560 And it's hard to hear. And it's hard to hear. You tend to do, you do tend to get in a circle, 192 00:18:26,560 --> 00:18:31,120 but if you ever see us in a circle, butt into our circle, please. Because we always want new 193 00:18:31,120 --> 00:18:35,920 friends. We always want more friends and there are cliques out there and there are groups that 194 00:18:35,920 --> 00:18:40,400 aren't welcoming and that don't want you to be a part of it, but we're not those people. No. And 195 00:18:40,400 --> 00:18:44,080 all of our friends are not those people and we're always looking for new people, new faces. I know 196 00:18:44,080 --> 00:18:48,480 I've gotten that question quite a few times this week where they're like, do you only talk to the 197 00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:53,200 people that you always are seen with all the time? The thing is that with that, like most of the 198 00:18:53,200 --> 00:18:58,480 people that we do talk to that you don't know about it's because they're discreet and they don't do 199 00:18:58,480 --> 00:19:02,720 social media. I can only post so many people's faces. I can only put so many videos with people 200 00:19:02,720 --> 00:19:07,360 because they don't, a lot of people in the lifestyle don't want to be on social media and 201 00:19:07,360 --> 00:19:12,400 don't want to have their picture taken. And it's a very discreet world. And say we respect that. So 202 00:19:12,400 --> 00:19:18,240 we don't push it on anybody. I've actually gotten that question quite a few times this week. Really? 203 00:19:18,240 --> 00:19:25,520 Are you only play with people that you know, can only share so many, like people that are open. 204 00:19:25,520 --> 00:19:32,000 And we keep a lot of stuff to our, we have the spicy sides. It's me. It's pictures of me. Sorry, 205 00:19:32,000 --> 00:19:38,800 just because all the spicy content we make is organic and it's literally just hot. Everybody 206 00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:47,360 that is in the room has one and we're having fun and it's always the, do you want to put a camera up? 207 00:19:47,360 --> 00:19:56,320 Yeah, so we can have this for later. Yeah. And yeah, it's always. We put it on a SharePoint or a 208 00:19:56,320 --> 00:20:05,120 OneDrive or a Dropbox. So everybody has it and. No, it's not. Yeah. We're not. It's not going to make us, 209 00:20:05,120 --> 00:20:10,800 this lifestyle is not making us money. No. Danger. No. But we do love, we do have lots of people. 210 00:20:10,800 --> 00:20:18,240 We talk to a lot of people. We are some reason, somehow we are the newbie people. Like we are the 211 00:20:18,240 --> 00:20:24,640 ones. We've been hearing that a lot. I don't, I've never really tried to be like, oh, like you're 212 00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:30,240 great. Cause we hear a lot, like you are great for newbies, your podcast, your content. Like you guys 213 00:20:30,240 --> 00:20:37,840 are a newbie like couple. Couple. We're like, we never thought of ourselves like that, but thinking 214 00:20:37,840 --> 00:20:43,680 back. Oh yeah. We've always. We used to joke about it all the time. We're like, well, newbies, they always come to us. 215 00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:51,600 Like they attracted to us. I never understood the mentality of a lot of people in the lifestyle said, 216 00:20:51,600 --> 00:20:57,440 Oh, we don't mess with newbies. We don't talk to newbies. Which I understand. I know. It can be. A lot. 217 00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:02,640 A lot. They're still trying to figure it out and learn. And they don't really, they don't have 218 00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:06,480 experience. They just don't know what they're doing and they make mistakes. There's mistakes that, you 219 00:21:06,480 --> 00:21:11,680 know, happen, but that also happens with very seasoned couples with lots of experience. And we've 220 00:21:11,680 --> 00:21:16,320 learned that. And so it's like, well, why wouldn't you want as many people as you possibly can? 221 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:22,960 Yeah. More than marrying. Sharing is caring. We like all the people to join us. We love sharing 222 00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:29,120 this lifestyle. And we do think that, and I think, you know, we've heard so many times in our 223 00:21:30,080 --> 00:21:34,560 journey that, you know, if it wasn't for you, I would never have known about the lifestyle. 224 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:38,960 It would have, my life would have been completely different. It seems like we get those people as 225 00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:46,960 right when we get to the point where like, I don't think we want to do this anymore. You know, it's 226 00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:55,440 like, is there is a lot of negativity online and social media and it is very time consuming and 227 00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:59,200 mentally draining for a lot of this stuff. So we get to a point a lot of times, which is like, 228 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:07,360 is it worth it? Like, is it worth my mental wellness and all this time for literally nothing? 229 00:22:07,360 --> 00:22:12,800 Then as soon as we get to that point, always get like three or four people, like our couples, 230 00:22:12,800 --> 00:22:19,040 they're like, you know, you changed my life. And it's like, and it reinvigorates us. And we 231 00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:24,080 go right back into it. It's crazy how it happens. Every time the universe is like, Hey, keep going, 232 00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:28,080 keep going. One, one, one, one, one, one, one, one's always all the time. You're on the right path. 233 00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:32,800 It's going to, it's going to be, it's for the best. We're changing lives. And that to me is 234 00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:39,360 priceless and worth. Yeah. Everything. You can't put a price on that. Yeah. I mean, therapists can, 235 00:22:39,360 --> 00:22:50,080 but we don't, we're going the wrong way with that. Yeah. We just love the people and we do like, 236 00:22:50,080 --> 00:22:54,800 I don't know. That is where we thrive over like, welcome, come here. We'll hold your hand and show 237 00:22:54,800 --> 00:23:00,640 you our world and introduce you. We do that with our own friends. It turned into just our niche, 238 00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:07,520 like with our own friends, like they come to us with questions like, oh yeah. And predicaments 239 00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:12,320 and just, they like to bounce ideas and they like to just bend. Like, what do you like? This is what 240 00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:18,560 happened. What do you think? Or this is what's going on or this is how I feel. I don't know how 241 00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:24,080 exactly it is. You know, have you ever seen this before? Have you ever seen this before? Yeah. 242 00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:30,480 That we get a lot of inquiries, I should say. Yeah. And it is usually from new people and they're 243 00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:37,040 new. We're not necessarily new in the lifestyle, but newer to those experiences, new, new 244 00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:42,560 to those experiences. Like there's a lot of people in the lifestyle that's been in it for two or three 245 00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:49,280 years that are just really selective and really slow. Oh yeah. Like not as you should. It's like, 246 00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:56,720 yeah, not everybody just goes full throttle. Not everybody is like us. And I don't recommend it. 247 00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:04,400 We, we've been always really good at communicating our feelings to each other. So this lifestyle, 248 00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:10,000 we like it fit perfect. And we thrive. Yeah. Somehow, someway, never would have seen it. 249 00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:15,520 There's always exceptions to the rule, but we've had mistakes. We always tell people to go slow. 250 00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:19,440 Like that's the safest route. And that's the thing. We've not, it's not always been perfect 251 00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:24,640 and wonderful. We have made mistakes. We have messed up. We have seen a lot of things. We have, 252 00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:29,040 I mean, just a couple of weeks ago in the episode, I talked about a feeling that I've never felt 253 00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:35,280 before. Like, and I was trying to navigate that because that was a whole new thing. And then it 254 00:24:35,280 --> 00:24:40,720 opened a whole new conversation. Cause you're like, that's how I feel with so-and-so and you. 255 00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:47,040 And they were like, I'm like, Oh, I'm like, I just thought it was, you know, this, but you, 256 00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:51,280 if you felt this way, I never want to make you feel this way. Like I never want to make you feel a 257 00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:58,480 certain sort of way anyways, but I never understood it was that deep. And it's like, and you're always 258 00:24:58,480 --> 00:25:02,320 learning that. So we were talking about that last night with one of our friends about, he's like, 259 00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:06,400 is this feeling like, I don't know, I feel like I don't know what I'm doing. And I feel like I 260 00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:10,160 always have butterflies. I feel nervous. I feel anxious about things and I, it's always something 261 00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:13,840 different. I never know how to, you know, things are always constantly changing all the time. And 262 00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:18,480 I'm like, that's what I don't know. I guess we're weird, but I love that. That's why I told them, 263 00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:24,800 like, that's my favorite part, man. I'm like, it gives you that exhilaration and feeling of like a 264 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:29,520 first date all over again. Yeah. But even when it's like weird and awkward and messy, it always is 265 00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:34,080 like amazing and beautiful in the end because you're working, you're working and communicating 266 00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:39,200 and you're navigating and you're doing so much self work. We talked about so much about yourself 267 00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:43,680 and you learn to like think before you speak and you learn to just take a moment and pause and 268 00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:49,680 don't react so quickly. And it really does help you become a better person just in general. And 269 00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:53,680 yeah. And then, yeah, I love that you never know. It's always different people, always different 270 00:25:53,680 --> 00:26:02,720 situations, even with the same people, you know, stuff pops up and so we were new in the lifestyle 271 00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:08,720 when I was in this type of position. I just got back in before like a leadership position. 272 00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:19,920 I've noticed I'm completely different leader and manager than I was before. Yeah. And I put that 273 00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:26,000 too because I do show, because before I was hard nose, rigid, I was an asshole. Yeah. 274 00:26:27,680 --> 00:26:37,600 And I've found myself now showing more care and concern. I have more compassion. I want to develop 275 00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:44,160 more. I understand, like I seek to understand where before it's like, this was your job. I have, 276 00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:49,200 this is your job requirement. You didn't do it. Here's your write up. Black and white. Yeah. And 277 00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:57,120 now there's so much gray. Like I talked just this, just yesterday morning, I talked to one of my DMS 278 00:26:57,120 --> 00:27:07,840 into letting me not issue a write up because normally it would be black and white. Yeah. 279 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:16,000 It's no question. But after I explained the whole situation, cause I learned about this guy's 280 00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:26,400 situation, then he's like, okay, I can support this. I'm like, okay, thanks. I'm like, we need 281 00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:31,200 to develop, like I'm more about team development, which I was always trying to develop a team, but 282 00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:38,160 I was doing it a different way. And I owe that to the lifestyle and learning how to listen 283 00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:47,280 and being more empathetic. Cause I, empathy is something that I had to learn how to be. 284 00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:58,000 But my emotional intelligence has, I've watched you grow. Like it's great. I'm, it's just so much in 285 00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:04,000 the last few years. I, and this lifestyle, the way that we were navigating it, the very beginning 286 00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:09,760 was very much like, fuck everybody else. Like it was against the world. And we were like, yeah, 287 00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:13,840 didn't care about really these like messy little feelings and these people navigating their own 288 00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:20,960 little shit and stuff like that, where now it's completely, we slowed down so much and completely 289 00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:26,800 fell in love with the people and the humans and the whole lifestyle as a whole. And I've seen just, 290 00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:31,920 and I prefer it this way for sure. Definitely. But yeah. And I think a lot of that was because 291 00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:36,720 we learned to stop and listen to people and understand why they were doing these things, 292 00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:40,800 why they were getting jealous all the time, why they were, you know, just not feeling things and 293 00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:50,400 not into it. And I, the lifestyle has done amazingly. And I know here, Mike, personally, 294 00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:58,480 it forces me to practice what I preach. Yeah. Yeah. You can say it all. I can say it. Yeah. 295 00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:06,400 And we got it memorized at this point, but yeah, it is really like, again, like on a couple episodes 296 00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:17,280 ago, when I was, I was spiraling, but I had, I was, had a slow down and really unpack on like 297 00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:22,800 why I was feeling a certain sort of way. And then we were with those friends and 298 00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:29,600 we got on that topic again and I explained it to him a little bit differently. He's like, 299 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:35,840 he's like, I a hundred percent. I'm like, it's not like it wasn't directed toward you. 300 00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:42,800 It wasn't directed towards your wife. It was this, this is how I felt. It was a combination 301 00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:48,640 of all the things. And this is why he's like, oh, he's like, I would be the same exact way. 302 00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:53,360 That's why I feel like it's funny. Cause you said, I gave you a side eye. He's like, yeah, man, you, 303 00:29:53,360 --> 00:30:00,640 you on your laptop, you looked up and you just gave me that. And he's like, oh shit, what just 304 00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:05,920 happened? But they first listened to the podcast and the first thing they did was like apologize 305 00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:12,000 and apologize. Yeah. And I tried it. It wasn't, well, yeah, they texted us and they're just 306 00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:17,200 apologize, apologize, apologize. I'm like, no, like it's, it's not like, I'm not gonna do that. 307 00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:22,880 I'm like, no, like it's, this was definitely a me thing. It wasn't the you thing. It wasn't a bad 308 00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:29,760 thing. Like it wasn't a bad thing. It was a learning opportunity. And I learned a lot. Yeah. 309 00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:34,560 Through that experience. Even the bad stuff, even the weird, awkward, stupid stuff, the stuff that 310 00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:40,880 doesn't work out great. It's all for good and it's all very good. And not only I learned that you 311 00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:51,040 learned more about me. Oh yeah. And then they learned more about, like it was everybody involved. 312 00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:55,680 Just, yeah, it was a whole learning opportunity. It's always everything you learn from everything. 313 00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:59,600 Even if it doesn't work out good and it's not okay. It's still like you've learned, you've 314 00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:06,720 changed, you've evolved it and it's good. This lifestyle is my favorite. I cry about it every 315 00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:13,760 day. You did. I love it here so much. I love the people. The people, the people are good. 316 00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:18,160 Looking for a fresh way to connect in the lifestyle? Welcome to the Playground, 317 00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:23,520 a modern space where open-minded adults meet, explore, and create unforgettable connections. 318 00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:28,400 Built for the lifestyle community, the Playground is where curiosity meets connection. 319 00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:37,920 Ready to join the fun? Click the link below and start your adventure with the Playground today. 320 00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:43,680 But anyway, we went down a rabbit hole there. I love it. That's the goal. That was the goal today. 321 00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:47,600 We don't really have a real set thing. We were just kind of like, we're just going to talk about 322 00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:54,560 life and what's going on. But yeah, the night of Spice, we had a trapeze night. I honestly, 323 00:31:54,560 --> 00:32:00,080 most of that night was very overwhelming for me. I was very anxious and overwhelmed because there 324 00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:05,840 was a lot of people and not very people-y people or person. For as much as I do love talking to 325 00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:10,560 people and like saying hi and everything, I have like a time limit where it kind of like. Yeah, 326 00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:15,520 your social battery depletes. It does. And once it's gone, it's gone. And it's just for hours. 327 00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:21,680 It usually is like, I need space. But again, when we're together, you don't have to worry about that 328 00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:30,880 as much because my social battery is much larger than yours. So once you're peopled out, I take 329 00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:40,960 control and you just kind of stand there and smile. Shake baby's kiss hands. I, on the other hand, 330 00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:46,880 didn't have him. And also those nights anyway, when I'm by myself, I already feel that way because I 331 00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:52,000 feel incomplete. Like I feel like half of me is missing. I know it's so cliche, but it does. 332 00:32:53,440 --> 00:32:58,320 Like half of me is missing. I feel out of place and I feel like I can't be that hot couple in 333 00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:03,600 Georgia without, which is by myself, that I'm Ashley in Georgia and nobody wants that. So I feel 334 00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:10,400 like everyone wants that. I don't know everybody with their person and I didn't know where to fit 335 00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:15,840 in. I didn't really know where to go. I didn't know where to fit in. And you're everybody's 336 00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:23,440 favorite hot wife at this point in pad. I didn't get to do any hot wifeing. I was just kind of 337 00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:27,680 alone, just wandering around, finding people. And then as people would come up, then I'd find a new 338 00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:31,760 group of people and then I'd go find out. I'd look for familiar faces and just go over there. 339 00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:35,440 And then I did my dancing. That's usually how I check out when I don't want to talk to people 340 00:33:35,440 --> 00:33:39,360 anymore and I just need a minute to just not, I go out to the dance floor and I did. That's what 341 00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:44,320 I did. I just went out and did my wobble. Luckily Dan put on the wobble for me. DJ Dan put on 342 00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:49,120 my wobble. I was like, that was the one thing missing was like the line dancing section. 343 00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:53,440 Cause a lot of, you know, Saturday night, they have like a whole 10 minutes where they just do 344 00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:57,680 all the line dancing things. And so that's what I like wait for all the time. And they didn't do, 345 00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:02,000 they don't really do that. So he did put the wobble on and I was excited. So I did the wobble and I 346 00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:08,720 got to dance with my girls and did some dancing and a lot of, a lot of talking, a lot of hanging 347 00:34:08,720 --> 00:34:15,040 out, a lot of dancing, a lot of talking, never got to eat anything. Diamond club was way busier 348 00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:19,520 than that pop. I would be like, go to take a breath in, in the general areas, like very rare, 349 00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:23,840 like usually you go out there to like party and dance and do all the things. And then you go back 350 00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:28,880 to diamond to cool off and chill and yeah quiet, but no, it wasn't like that. I went back there 351 00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:33,760 like twice, I think all night just cause I had to use the bathroom. And then I think cause I had to 352 00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:38,720 get another sprite or something like that. And I was like, I was trying to avoid it as much as 353 00:34:38,720 --> 00:34:43,920 possible, but it was a lot of good old faces that I haven't seen in a really long time. People I 354 00:34:43,920 --> 00:34:49,600 haven't, we just used to be together all the time and we don't get to see each other. Yeah. 355 00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:56,000 Maybe once or twice a year, everyone's doing their own thing and everybody is busy. So it was good to 356 00:34:56,000 --> 00:35:00,640 see everybody. And then we went back to the hotel room, to the hotel, everybody drove because of the 357 00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:05,920 ice and everyone wasn't sure about Uber drivers in Atlanta. Yeah, that never I get that have driven 358 00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:10,320 an ice before and we knew it was cold enough. It was already freezing. Luckily the roads had dried 359 00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:14,320 up during the day, so it wasn't yeah, but then you're worried about black ice. That's the thing. 360 00:35:14,320 --> 00:35:18,880 We were all worried about that. So everybody drove themselves for the most part. And so I hitched a 361 00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:25,280 ride and went back to the hotel and I was going to meet up with a couple and do some hot life thing. 362 00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:31,040 And it's a couple that we, I always, every time I'm alone somehow, even when we're together and 363 00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:42,400 like with them together, it's always very, oh yeah, like intense. Really long, many years. And like 364 00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:48,160 we all, four of us like mesh really well, but something always happens and we always get 365 00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:52,640 separated. Yeah. And then I've the past couple of times I've been alone. It's like, okay, come back 366 00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:55,760 to our room, come back to our room. And they were like, this is our room, come back to our room. So 367 00:35:55,760 --> 00:35:59,120 I kept going and it was right down the hallway. So I kept going down there randomly and knocking 368 00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:04,560 because I didn't, I got back there and everyone was, had came back an hour or so earlier. So 369 00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:09,680 everyone already was in rooms and the room I was staying was empty. And so I was like, I don't 370 00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:13,520 really know. Should I go to bed? I probably should. It's like three in the morning, two in the morning. 371 00:36:13,520 --> 00:36:18,000 So I was like, do I do that or do I just walk down there and knock and see? And so I kept like going 372 00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:21,200 down there, really knocking. I didn't know where anybody was. Nobody was like answering because 373 00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:25,760 everybody was busy. So I didn't understand. I really have like a room to go back to. I came back with 374 00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:30,640 like just a couple. They brought me back from trapeze and they were going to bed. So I was like, 375 00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:33,360 I don't really know. I think I'm going to go to bed. So then I was like, I'm going to knock one 376 00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:38,000 more time and see. And then I went to go knock and then a whole bunch of our friends came out of a 377 00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:42,160 random room and we're like, what are you doing? Where have you been? Why are you wandering the 378 00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:47,760 hallway? And they pulled me into the room that we always get pulled in with the same people that 379 00:36:47,760 --> 00:36:52,480 always party hard. I just didn't know where anybody was. So I went in there and that was 380 00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:57,440 that was fun. We had some fun. I was like, I'm just going to a lot of us were just watching 381 00:36:57,440 --> 00:37:01,200 that night because it was a long night and it was pretty late by then. And most people had had all 382 00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:06,080 their fun and stuff. So I was like, I'm just watching. I had a hoodie on and leggings. I think 383 00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:10,560 like I was, I was like done for the night and I was ready to go to bed. And well, I ended up with 384 00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:18,400 no pants on. So I got to play a little bit. I didn't, I didn't get to play much, but I did. 385 00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:24,400 I did dabble. I dabbled here and there with a few, a few things that are my faves. You know, 386 00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:30,000 I was on my knees, you know, what happens, what happens. And then I felt so overdressed because 387 00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:33,200 everybody was naked and I was like, I'm going to take my pants off, but I'm still frozen 388 00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:37,040 because that's me. So I kept my hoodie on and I took my pants off. I was like, yeah, because 389 00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:43,200 I was at work and we were, you texted me and you're like, you're in like your sweat pants. 390 00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:48,000 One more chance. I'm going to go out there and see if they're back yet. They just never came back to 391 00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:54,000 the hotel. They ended up messaging me like two hours later, like we didn't get to say good night. 392 00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:57,760 I was like, I tried. I didn't get to talk to them until the next morning. I tried. I was knocking. 393 00:37:57,760 --> 00:38:01,440 They said they didn't get back to the hotel to like four or five in the morning or whatever. So 394 00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:05,280 we just miss each other again. Now I have their cell phone number, so we're definitely not having 395 00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:13,280 that happen next time. But yeah, but yeah, um, got to play with some friends and some people that were 396 00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:18,080 close with and I felt comfortable with them. Yeah. I know I just, that's always nice. This was once 397 00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:26,560 after like your social battery is like dead in like a club environment where it's packed. 398 00:38:26,560 --> 00:38:32,000 It's always nice to go back and be with a group that you're just, you know, comfortable with. 399 00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:35,600 Unfortunately, it was in a room that I didn't know the people that were, it was their room. 400 00:38:36,240 --> 00:38:39,680 So it was like, and everyone was kind of in the middle of everything when I got in there. So I 401 00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:44,400 didn't really get to introduce. I mean, that's how it was when last time we were, went to trap together 402 00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:51,600 because everybody ended up in our room. We had some, we had some, uh, different people in there. 403 00:38:51,600 --> 00:38:56,880 It's like, Oh, Hey, yeah, nice. And finally meet you. But like in the middle of playing and stuff. 404 00:38:56,880 --> 00:39:02,000 So I got to play a little bit. I didn't really, you know, I didn't have sex or anything, but I did get 405 00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:09,120 to play here and there jumped in as needed as I felt like, as I felt like I needed wanted a hand 406 00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:14,640 or a mouth play with like mother f*****g leaves. I had to play with him for a little bit. He's good 407 00:39:14,640 --> 00:39:20,720 when I'm feeling that way. He's a safe person to go to and play with. We love him and yeah, we, 408 00:39:20,720 --> 00:39:26,720 and then me and his wife, Sam, we, everybody was still going because they would not stop. 409 00:39:26,720 --> 00:39:32,640 It was a nonstop night. And so she laid down on the bed and we all, me, her and Rachel were cuddling. 410 00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:37,280 We cuddled, snuggle up and cuddle with her. And we had a good snuggle. That's a good, that's a good, 411 00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:41,120 that's a good ending. That's a good cuddle puddle right there. Let's snuggle in with my girls. I 412 00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:45,600 love snuggling with her too. It was a good, good ending to the night. And yeah. And then the next 413 00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:50,080 day I went back to their house till Monday when they had to fly out the next day. So she had to 414 00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:56,720 leave us and me and Rob and got to hang out till Monday until you came back. And yeah, that was 415 00:39:56,720 --> 00:40:03,520 pretty much, that was night of spice. The weekend. There was some spice. There was a little bit of spice. 416 00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:10,240 A lot of, a lot of people, a little bit of spice. It was fun. DJ Life Spice is amazing as always. 417 00:40:10,240 --> 00:40:15,680 He always kills it. Yeah. I love watching him. I had so many moments that night. Again, I cry. 418 00:40:15,680 --> 00:40:20,800 I'm a random cryer. It's not a bad cry. It's a mental cry. It's an emotional, overwhelming cry. 419 00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:25,680 And I always have a moment. I had a moment with his wife and just stood up there in front of him. 420 00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:29,760 I always got to make sure he knows that I'm there supporting and you know, I'm always front row girl. 421 00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:37,280 And it was just a moment of like, man, the Airbnb watching him DJing and the Airbnb years ago to 422 00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:42,800 here now with all of his fans and friends and everybody. And it's like, oh my gosh, I just 423 00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:51,120 loved them so much. So far. So far from, yeah, setting up his, just a hobby, just stuff and then 424 00:40:51,120 --> 00:40:59,360 living room of Airbnb with like 10 of us just. And not just them. It was the Swing Nation. There 425 00:40:59,360 --> 00:41:05,200 was a lot of Swinger's Sidey crew there and there was a lot of feels and emotion and, and navigating 426 00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:11,120 that whole dynamic and stuff with them. So it's a lot of, I love you no matter what. Just so you know, 427 00:41:11,120 --> 00:41:16,480 no matter what happens, no matter where life takes us, don't forget it. I love you guys. 428 00:41:16,480 --> 00:41:21,680 And it was a lot of that. It was good feels, good emotion, good cries, always good care. I never was 429 00:41:21,680 --> 00:41:28,640 a cryer before this lifestyle. Not like this. It was bad cries, if anything here and there, 430 00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:34,880 but not like this. I am an emotional hot mess now, but I, I feel safe to do that. And it's good. 431 00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:40,480 That's good. It's a good thing. So yeah, and that was nice. And then not much has happened since then. 432 00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:46,720 Really honestly, there's been some birthday celebrations and we had my best friend's birthday 433 00:41:46,720 --> 00:41:51,840 was last week and we had a little surprise party for her and got to go get my nails did and had 434 00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:56,960 lunch with her and celebrate her. Always love celebrating her and being with her. So that's 435 00:41:56,960 --> 00:42:02,160 pretty much been last week. And then last night, Paddle was Up Dark was like, who wants to go together 436 00:42:02,160 --> 00:42:06,400 and watch the game tonight? Or Monday? The National Championship. The National Championship Monday. 437 00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:12,480 And so we were like, she texted me and was like, you want to go? We could go, go get dinner. And so 438 00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:18,000 I was like, sure. So they picked us up and we all went together. And that's the one thing that's one 439 00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:24,160 of my favorite things too, is like the vanilla part of the lifestyle, just getting to like be with 440 00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:32,880 good people. Yeah, it was fun. I got to finally talk to the mixed up life. Yes. Yeah. Like his 441 00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:37,680 wife wasn't there, but he was there. Me and him stood there and talked and talked and talked. 442 00:42:37,680 --> 00:42:44,880 He's a fellow pocket. Yeah. Fellow pocket. If you, if you haven't heard of them, check them out. 443 00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:51,120 Mixed up life. They're awesome people. They're both really hot before. And like in passing, 444 00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:54,560 we've talked briefly, but it's always like a trapped environment where there's a lot of people 445 00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:58,560 are suckling around. We've going on. This is the first time we've actually had a chance to talk. 446 00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:02,640 That's why I love about the vanilla meetups and stuff is because it's quieter. We get to 447 00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:08,960 actually sit there and talk about, you know, real things. Like I met so many new, new people. 448 00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:13,920 Oh yeah. Just they're just coming, just coming to watch the game. So let's go. It's more comfortable 449 00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:18,640 too though. Like that's what I do love about dark. It doesn't have to clubs and like events and all 450 00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:23,840 of that. It's really intimidating for a lot of new people. And it's scary and to do it more in a, 451 00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:27,360 everyone knows Twin Peaks and they know what to expect. You know, you're in there, you kind of know 452 00:43:27,360 --> 00:43:32,080 what sitting around and watching the game is like, that's less scary. You can say hi to people and 453 00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:38,960 meet people, but they said, Oh, so in an awesome spot, we had a good setup, Davey. He made it, 454 00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:44,000 made it happen. And he, yeah, we had a whole entire back section and we had all this couches and 455 00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:48,720 fireplace. It was a good, it was a good way to spend a Monday night and the kids had off today. 456 00:43:48,720 --> 00:43:55,360 So it was kind of like, yeah, it was really nice. It was good to just talk to people. There was a 457 00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:58,320 bunch of things. There was some single men there that were just trying to learn, you know, 458 00:43:58,320 --> 00:44:04,400 you know, taking feedback and asking a lot of questions. A lot of people knew are wanting to 459 00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:08,960 know like tips and tricks and things and stuff, you know, how to get into the lifestyle. And it 460 00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:12,560 was a good way to, it's a quieter environment where we could just sit around with no pressure. 461 00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:22,240 That's what I love about. Yeah. So it's just great to socialize without the pressure of possible 462 00:44:22,240 --> 00:44:27,760 play, I guess. Yeah. You're not trying to impress anybody. You literally just relax and talk and 463 00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:33,040 meet people. And unfortunately, single guys, they, it's hard in that environment to like people just 464 00:44:33,040 --> 00:44:36,880 automatically assume that they want to look up with you and they want to do this. But a lot of 465 00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:41,680 the time they really do just want to ask questions and just make you feel comfortable and just talk 466 00:44:41,680 --> 00:44:46,320 and have a conversation. So it was nice. We met a singer and he was in the kink world. So he was, 467 00:44:46,320 --> 00:44:51,360 you know, very familiar with the local kink land and all of their places and stuff. So I was really 468 00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:55,680 excited to kind of get like a connection to that and check more of that stuff out. We really want 469 00:44:55,680 --> 00:45:00,320 to go to like rumors and stuff and see what that's all about. And so it was kind of, it was good. 470 00:45:00,320 --> 00:45:06,560 It was nice. It was my favorite part of the night. We were all talking and I was actually with 471 00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:14,160 your best friend and we're just sitting each other talking with a group of people. 472 00:45:14,720 --> 00:45:19,600 And one of the women that we'd just met, she's like, Oh, so you're together. 473 00:45:19,600 --> 00:45:25,840 And we started laughing. We're like, no, like that's her husband over there. And here's my wife over 474 00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:33,520 here. She's like, Oh, confusing. We just kind of looked like, I love this place. And the fact that 475 00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:38,720 they were like, Oh, okay, no big deal. Like that's not weird at all. It was funny. They don't really 476 00:45:38,720 --> 00:45:42,240 hang out, like stand next to each other when we're in that environment. Cause we're always busy 477 00:45:42,240 --> 00:45:46,400 doing like, we get caught up in this conversation and you're caught up with the guys and the, you 478 00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:50,320 know, like talking to the guys. And so it is confusing for people like who's with who. Cause we, 479 00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:55,360 everybody does kind of separate and get their own conversations. I like to just check up on you. 480 00:45:55,360 --> 00:45:59,520 How you doing? Are you good? And then you'd be like, yeah. And then I do the same thing like anybody 481 00:45:59,520 --> 00:46:04,480 we're with. So I went to her and just kind of, you know, put my hand on the small of her back and 482 00:46:04,480 --> 00:46:09,280 just make sure she was okay. They've not done many things and stuff. And we're more familiar with. 483 00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:13,760 Yeah. I just wanted to make sure everybody's like people. Yeah. No one's overwhelmed. I guess. 484 00:46:13,760 --> 00:46:18,320 Yeah. And we need to take a break or ready to leave when I already, yeah. Like we're down the 485 00:46:18,320 --> 00:46:23,360 leaf. So we ended up staying until everybody, everybody left around like 10 ish. I think it was. 486 00:46:23,360 --> 00:46:27,360 Yeah. That was around the game. Wasn't over yet. We had two hour drive and it was a Monday night. 487 00:46:27,360 --> 00:46:34,720 So it felt like we needed to go and everybody was kind of right. Again, we left Buckhead. Yeah. 488 00:46:35,360 --> 00:46:40,560 Oh yeah. Record time and made it home. No traffic. Yeah. We were home just 1130. Like it wasn't. 489 00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:47,120 Yeah. It was 1130 because it was early enough for, okay. Cause we got Taco Bell and everything. 490 00:46:47,120 --> 00:46:51,840 We came home and ordered Taco Bell because we went to a restaurant slash bar and didn't eat. 491 00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:58,240 We just had like flat bread and yeah, snacked on it. And then yeah, I had a few drinks, but we got 492 00:46:58,240 --> 00:47:03,360 home like, I am star. Yeah. By then it was already like, Oh yeah. 1130 almost midnight. We were like, 493 00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:08,480 we are so hungry. So he ran out and got Taco before they closed. This is what we do. We're 494 00:47:08,480 --> 00:47:14,480 closed. This is why I do. This is why I'm chubby. The worst thing that ever happened to our town 495 00:47:14,480 --> 00:47:20,880 is a brand new Taco Bell two minutes away from our home. Yeah. Best and worst thing ever happened. 496 00:47:20,880 --> 00:47:25,360 Yeah. 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It's time to 503 00:47:59,200 --> 00:48:04,080 take charge of your sexual health today with shameless care because your health is nothing 504 00:48:04,080 --> 00:48:15,760 to be ashamed of. Yeah. But yeah, that was, that was that. And then now this week we're gearing 505 00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:19,920 up for your birthday, baby. When you're listening to this, this is my birthday. It is my birthday. 506 00:48:19,920 --> 00:48:26,080 It is your birthday when you're listening to this. I tried it a few years ago and threw you a party 507 00:48:26,080 --> 00:48:33,520 at trapeze, but then it was like a joint party and it wasn't all about you. This time I'm making 508 00:48:33,520 --> 00:48:44,880 it about you. I have, I'm so excited. I know I got an Airbnb with four other couples. I got that. Get 509 00:48:44,880 --> 00:48:50,240 along with each other with we all met and we had that conversation. I had that conversation with one 510 00:48:50,240 --> 00:48:55,760 of the guys that will be at the house. He's like, what about so and so? Why aren't they there? 511 00:48:55,760 --> 00:49:01,280 You're like, why, why didn't you invite them? And I said, I'm like, I wanted to make sure 512 00:49:01,280 --> 00:49:10,880 everybody meshed really well. I'm like, they would mesh a hundred percent. Oh yeah. But they're not, 513 00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:16,720 I want to make sure everybody was comfortable already. That way there was no chance for, 514 00:49:16,720 --> 00:49:19,600 they'll be there. They're coming to trapping and they're coming to trapeze. They'll be there all 515 00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:24,720 weekend and stuff and they're going to participate. So, I mean, we'll still, we have a lot of people 516 00:49:24,720 --> 00:49:28,400 coming that are not going to be at the Airbnb, but they are going to be. We got, I got some local 517 00:49:28,400 --> 00:49:36,400 friends coming. So yeah. Yeah. So if you have nothing else, Saturday night, 25th is Ashley's 518 00:49:36,400 --> 00:49:44,320 birthday celebration. The trapeze is steam night is the color nude, the color nude, beige, 519 00:49:44,320 --> 00:49:53,680 beige. So that for Ashley's birthday, we all know she's a pink whore. So it's 50 shades of pink. 520 00:49:53,680 --> 00:50:02,320 50 shades of pink. I have a pink suit. So excited. Pink pink is like my kink for sure. Pink is like 521 00:50:04,240 --> 00:50:13,280 Rose gold together. Oh my God. So, so it, I love pink princess. Yeah. Everyone's wearing pink and I 522 00:50:14,320 --> 00:50:20,640 see where your tiara is. Yes, I do. Okay. And your birthday. Okay. I've been waiting. I've been 523 00:50:20,640 --> 00:50:24,640 waiting. It's Rose gold and my shoes are Rose gold. Everything's Rose gold. And then I love it. I love 524 00:50:24,640 --> 00:50:32,720 it. I'm excited to celebrate you and make you feel like, I know you always feel loved, but I wanted 525 00:50:32,720 --> 00:50:39,520 you to see the magnitude of people that love you. You know what I mean? I want to try and get 526 00:50:39,520 --> 00:50:46,800 everybody there. I guess me butterflies. Now, like that being said, if you're listening to this 527 00:50:46,800 --> 00:50:54,480 and you did not get a text or call from me or snap, like don't take it personally. Yeah. There's a 528 00:50:54,480 --> 00:51:01,040 lot of people. All right. I love, I love you. I'm doing the best I can have a lot on my plate right 529 00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:13,760 now. And I love you. Please come surprise me too. Yeah. Yes. We're one. But yes, if you're bored and 530 00:51:13,760 --> 00:51:19,280 you have nothing to do, are you Saturday night trapeze 25th, we're pink. If you're wearing pink, 531 00:51:19,280 --> 00:51:24,480 we're going to assume you're there for Ashley. It's going to be a flag for sure. It's a trapeze 532 00:51:24,480 --> 00:51:29,600 color of the night. We're taking over, taking over trapeze unofficially. Like we're just kind of 533 00:51:29,600 --> 00:51:36,960 doing it as we do. We got, I got a table reserved. It's the whole thing, but come join us. We love 534 00:51:36,960 --> 00:51:41,200 the more the merrier. That's what we always say. Yes. More than the merrier. We love all, all the 535 00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:45,520 people that could possibly be there. We appreciate it and love it. And I'll be crying a lot. It's 536 00:51:45,520 --> 00:51:51,920 going to be such a good weekend. I'm excited and I don't have to be at work this weekend. So it 537 00:51:51,920 --> 00:51:57,680 makes it even better. Always a cherry on top. You don't gotta work very well. Yeah. It's going to 538 00:51:57,680 --> 00:52:02,960 be good. I'm so excited. I can't wait. Yeah. That's, that's about it. That's what we got going on. 539 00:52:02,960 --> 00:52:07,440 Yeah. That was actually for us not coming in with the plan that actually turned out really well. 540 00:52:07,440 --> 00:52:12,960 Yeah. I like these episodes where we just talk. It's good. I think we need to do more of these. 541 00:52:12,960 --> 00:52:17,040 Yeah. We're always very organized people. We try to make sure we have a topic. It's just very, 542 00:52:17,040 --> 00:52:22,880 help everyone. It's anxiety inducing going in without a plan. Yes. Yeah. A little nerve wracking. 543 00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:29,200 That's why we put it off until the day before. We've been so busy. So busy. It's been a busy 544 00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:36,560 wild. That we were, we had a conversation like last week, like we're in the middle of doing other 545 00:52:36,560 --> 00:52:43,920 stuff. We have to film a podcast for now, like how, when, how there's something and we're, we 546 00:52:43,920 --> 00:52:48,640 broke down in the calendar. I'm like, the only chance we got is doing this Tuesday. They're only 547 00:52:48,640 --> 00:52:56,400 there. Yeah. Hurry up, edit it, do all the, put the logos on it, do the thing and we're best at 548 00:52:57,200 --> 00:53:02,160 procrastinating though and get it out by midnight. Best things come out now. How's the last minute? 549 00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:13,120 The last, not the last week, but the weekend before I was in such a hurry. I accidentally 550 00:53:14,800 --> 00:53:23,840 posted her podcast like at 11 45, 11 50. So technically it came out Tuesday. Yeah. 551 00:53:24,800 --> 00:53:29,600 It's like it wasn't past midnight. I'm like, oops. I'm like, it's fine. That's fine. It's close enough. 552 00:53:29,600 --> 00:53:35,680 It's early. Yeah. Fine. Yeah. You're welcome. It got up. Like it was so technically like the 553 00:53:35,680 --> 00:53:42,400 post-dates are not all messed up. I'm like, after that, I am, we have nothing for February on purpose. 554 00:53:42,960 --> 00:53:48,080 Yeah. You're going to be grandparents. I know that's crazy. We're going to be grandparents. 555 00:53:48,080 --> 00:53:53,600 Our grandson will be here sometime before March 2nd, but it's looking more like February. So 556 00:53:53,600 --> 00:53:58,960 yeah. Keeping the calendar clear. I'm going to Florida for a week after, right after we get back 557 00:53:58,960 --> 00:54:03,360 Monday, going to Florida for the week. And then I'm coming home and then I'll the next time be there 558 00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:08,480 when she has him. And so we're kind of keeping everything cleared out until we got to get it 559 00:54:08,480 --> 00:54:17,520 clear so we can, well, you'll be down there, but I got to keep it clear up here so I can just scoot 560 00:54:17,520 --> 00:54:24,080 on down whenever he can. And so he'll probably be doing some solo stuff. You're seeing a little bit 561 00:54:24,080 --> 00:54:30,720 more of just him and less of me. I have to hold down the fort. Yeah, that's our life. That's what's 562 00:54:30,720 --> 00:54:37,440 going on. That's, that's about it. After that, we have my birthday weekend. We have the St. Patty's 563 00:54:37,440 --> 00:54:45,120 day party, March 14th with $20 a ticket guys. Yeah. $20. It's $40. Like you're not going to find 564 00:54:45,120 --> 00:54:50,160 no, nothing in this party and lifestyle party for $40 a couple. Nothing in this lifestyle period is 565 00:54:50,160 --> 00:54:54,880 $20. There's nothing like what do you have to lose? And it's at a, you know, it's a bar Loganville, 566 00:54:54,880 --> 00:54:58,480 like North Georgia. Yeah. It's going to be amazing. It's going to be just like the glow party, 567 00:54:58,480 --> 00:55:04,160 which was so much fun and so good. So what do you have to lose? $20. And it's my birthday weekend 568 00:55:04,160 --> 00:55:09,120 that week. Yeah. And it's your birthday. We're celebrating St. Patrick, but no, it just so happens 569 00:55:09,120 --> 00:55:16,800 to be over as your birthday and period. So yeah, come out, do that. We have all of that down below 570 00:55:16,800 --> 00:55:20,640 all of that in our link tree. We've got all of that in all of our stories and all of our social 571 00:55:20,640 --> 00:55:25,600 media. We're pushing that out. Nothing to lose. It's like, come see what we're talking about when 572 00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:29,840 we talk about Params after dark and playground, playground and whatever we call it. It's all the 573 00:55:29,840 --> 00:55:35,040 same thing and all the same people. And yeah, it's an amazing community full of beautiful people. 574 00:55:35,040 --> 00:55:40,480 Yeah. Inside and out. Yeah. And it's a good, you want to be a part of it. That's my favorite part 575 00:55:40,480 --> 00:55:45,120 about joining all these groups of people and helping promoting all these events and stuff like 576 00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:50,720 that. My favorite part is just watching them thrive and grow and just introducing them to the world 577 00:55:50,720 --> 00:55:55,600 because they deserve it. They definitely are great people. That's good people. Good hearts. It's all 578 00:55:55,600 --> 00:56:01,120 a love project for all of them. And they just get it and they align with us and what we believe. 579 00:56:01,120 --> 00:56:06,400 Yes. What we feel and they get it. They just get it. They're trying to get us to move near them. 580 00:56:06,400 --> 00:56:13,040 They're trying their they, they love it and we love it and we love them. So definitely $20 a ticket. 581 00:56:13,040 --> 00:56:17,280 Come check it out. Yeah. There's dinner. Come hang out with a drink. You know, come listen to 582 00:56:17,280 --> 00:56:21,600 some good music and what do you have to lose? Nothing. Wear some green. Yeah. Wear some green. 583 00:56:22,240 --> 00:56:25,280 St. Patrick's day. It's cheaper than any other St. Patrick's day you're going to go to. Yeah. 584 00:56:25,280 --> 00:56:30,240 And it's just full of amazingly wonderful people in the lifestyle and you get to be yourself and 585 00:56:31,040 --> 00:56:36,160 you can't beat it. No. You can't beat it. So come check that out. March 14th. We're doing that. And 586 00:56:36,880 --> 00:56:41,360 yeah. And then that's about it. That's all we got to say about that. That's all we got to say about 587 00:56:41,360 --> 00:56:49,360 that. Thumbs up. The last thing we got to say is it's not that serious. Don't make it weird. 588 00:56:49,360 --> 00:57:12,160 Bye. Love you guys. Bye.