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I'm Russ and I'm Ashley and this is Hot Couple Chronicles.
Happy Wednesday. We're back again. Once again. Yeah, we don't really have a topic for this episode.
We figured we'd talk a little bit more about, we went to the Night of Spice and kind of what
happened there and we went out last night and we're just going to talk about what's going on.
It's only what, three weeks into the year and it has been busy. Yeah, we've been busy. And today
we have snow day. Yeah, it's freaking snowing outside in Georgia. It's like 20 degrees. This is
ridiculous. So cold. The kids don't have school. They had off yesterday. Martin Luther King Day
and now they have off today and we don't know if they're gonna have off tomorrow or not.
So it's to snow all day today and then freeze and then. Our school district is really. They don't
close for anything. I'm surprised they closed today. I couldn't believe they called it like 10
a.m. too. So and they never close. So you know it's gonna be bad if they're. Yeah, I mean the
last time it rained everybody was mad because. Yeah, hurricanes, tornadoes, they go to school.
They don't cancel school for anything. So it's like serious here and yeah, it's absolutely freezing.
It's so cold. I hate it so much. We moved to Georgia thinking that we weren't gonna ever
have to be cold like this again. I threw away my snow shovel and it's snowing outside. We got rid
of all of our winter supplies. I don't have like a heavy jacket anymore. No, we got rid of everything.
We were fooled. We thought we lived south enough. That's bullshit. It's been like 20 years since it
snowed here and 20 years since we hit this cold weather and we're here for that and it's only
because we're here. Yeah, yeah. 100%. We're hitting all these winter records for the first time ever.
I hate it. Yeah, but we're just chilling, relaxing today. We're just. Well,
last week's episode though, it was just you. So this is my return. More about my HS journey
and a little bit more in depth about that and people always wonder about what it is I have and
what I talk about. I've mentioned it a few times and so I just figured a whole episode to kind of
connect with people that deal with any chronic illness really, not just HS but. Well, I liked it
because it wasn't just about you and HS. It was really just about body confidence and insecurities
and dealing with that as just a person. Try to pull it all together as like a whole, just body
confidence and any kind of issue or insecurity that you have with your body and kind of a little
bit more about my personal issues and what I got going on and maybe some tips and things about how
to deal with it. But yeah, and then this week we figured we'd break down night of spice. So
our friends life of spice and her husband DJ life of spice. They hosted a night at trapeze,
which is our home club in Atlanta and I had to be there because had to, he couldn't get off because
he's taking off for a birthday this weekend. So he couldn't get off. So I figured I'd do a solo
trip trapeze is easy. I've done it alone before it's safe to me. It's my second home. And then
all of our pineapples after dark was also co-hosting as well as swing nation. So everyone
we knew was going to be there. Yeah. So I have everybody from everywhere. Yeah. Everyone,
pretty much everyone we've ever met in the lifestyle. Yeah. I wasn't there. I knew it was
going to be packed. It was insane, but he had to work. And so he brought me to anything but
vanilla Robin Lindsay's house on Friday. Yeah. Friday. And it was a snowstorm as well, but we
weren't getting it here, but they were getting in Atlanta and it was mostly like freezing rain and
slush and ice. And it was pretty nasty. And I'll probably were like, well, we were driving up. The
roads were pretty nasty. Luckily, luckily though we made record time through Atlanta because there's
no one on the road. No one. It was like everyone was so terrified and scared enough. I wish that
everyone would be that scared to be on the road in Atlanta. Cause it was deserted. It was us. And
like I made record time record time going like we made record time going to North basically North
Atlanta, going 45 miles an hour. Pretty much the whole time. Half the time is a sunny regular day
going up to Atlanta. It was insane. And we were going like 40, 45 the whole entire time. And it
was pretty, pretty sketchy. I hate driving in the crap. I have a lot of PTSD from living up North
and snow and stuff. So I was terrified, but he was like, I'll get you there. No problem.
And I trusted him enough that I knew he knew how to handle, handle it. It was everyone else. I was
worried about everybody else. Pretty impressed the way people were driving people skid off.
There was a couple of people that were iffy, but going 10 miles an hour and stopping on the
interstate and riding on your brakes. Like obviously they had no idea. Yeah. But for the
most part, everybody did pretty good. I think it wasn't too bad. We had, we made it there. We went
up to Robin Lindsay's house in there, but I wasn't making it back. No, well on the way back,
there was a really bad accident. It was a semi looks like a jackknife and a block the interstate.
So the interstate going back South was completely closed. So bad. He planned on taking me and then
coming, turning around and coming back pretty much going to work and going to work for the weekend.
And so he, once we saw that, and once we saw the roads and it was only getting colder and worse,
he was like, I'm just going to call it. I'm just going to stay for the night. So he stayed up there
with me and Robin Lindsay had a dog. We have a new family member. Thanks to them. We got up there
and they had three dogs. And one of them was this big shaggy doodle love book. And he won my heart
over and she's like, we're trying to find a home for her. We don't want him anymore. We need to get
rid of him. And he stole stole my heart. It is the sweetest, sweetest thing. And we did not want any
more dogs. We have two big dogs. We were like, these are our lifetime dogs and then we're done.
We're good. We don't need any more dogs, but he won my heart. I, he's an animal lover and I didn't
even say any, he was like, well, I guess he's coming home with us. And you're like, I guess so.
And that was, that's all it was. It wasn't much of a conversation. It was just kind of like, all
right. Yeah. Um, we agree. So he went home with you the next, the next morning. And then she's like,
if it doesn't work out, just bring him back when you come back on Monday and it worked out. He's
doing really good there. They're getting, we're already teaching them tricks. Yeah. He knows how
to sit now and lay down and lay down and he's learning his name and we changed his name. And
yeah, he's the cutest little thing. He's big. He's a big boy. He's a tank. He made our big dog look
little. I thought they were the same size, but he, he made her way smaller, way smaller, but he's,
he's fitting right in. He's working his way and everybody loves him. He stole everybody's hearts,
like immediately his eyes. He's a big baby. He is. He's sweet and he's very smart. He's attached.
He's your dog. He's definitely like, he just literally follows you around like a puppy dog.
He's in between your legs at all times. Like you can't help but love him so much. He's so cute,
but yeah, we came home with a family member and he came home with a dog and left me in Atlanta.
So the next day it, the sun started to come out and it started melting and it was still, I don't
know, everybody was kind of like freaking out and they weren't coming and then people were coming
and people weren't coming. So we didn't know what was going to happen. So when I left
Robin Lindsay's house Saturday morning, like everybody was still pretty panicky. Like,
and so the roads were still pretty clear, but they were perfectly dry and good. There's nothing
like the road. I got home in really record time because I could go the speed limit. Yeah.
And there was no one on the road. It was pretty awesome. Actually, it ended up being fine. And
then we went out to lunch with Davey from Panamastor Dark. Panamastor Dark had a table there.
So they were promoting for the playground and, you know, welcoming people as they came into the
club. So we dropped off like the table and got it set up and everything and got to see some people
Dan and Lacey were there, SwingNation and Spices were there setting up. And so we stopped in there
for a little bit, got a couple of videos and pictures of the club while it was closed. We
don't get to see, do that very often. It's hard to get pictures and videos of clubs.
You're not allowed to take any videos or pictures. So it's like really hard to navigate that while
you're trying to promote them and help, you know, the party out there and stuff. So while no one
was there, we were trying to get pictures and videos and stuff. And then we were like,
we're going to get pictures and videos and then we left and it was time to get ready.
Already we got a hotel. We ended up getting a hotel as we always do in the same hotel as we
always do. And yeah, we went to the club. We got there early because we wanted to set up and
get everything all ready. And it was going, we knew it was going to be insane because it was like
three groups of people with pretty big followings that were going to be there. And the RSVP list was
ginormous. And I was, I mean, for you had you there that you announced you were going to be there.
You had pineapples after dark. Yeah. You had swing nation and you had life of spice. That's
what I mean. It's like, that's a lot of people were coming to that. There was even with the snow,
they were like, I heard the weight they just get in the club was nuts. I don't think I would have
done it. That's commitment. And it was like 20 degrees outside, 15, 20 degrees outside. It was,
it was so cold. I don't know that I would have had the ability to stand out there that long.
Yeah. And I know it's a big place and they can fit a lot of people, but I'm curious how close they
were to like the, you know, max capacity of that place. Oh yeah. We've, we packed that place full,
full of people and Dan DJed at the beginning until like about 11 o'clock. And I said most of that
time I was up at the table. I love like saying hi to everybody as they come in. There were so
many people that again, were never there before. Even people from social media, a lot of new people
that have just never come to that club before. There was a lot of new, like I wouldn't say new
people, but a lot of people knew their trapeze. So I was like going around telling people if they
needed a tour, I was volunteering for tours and just welcoming you're good at that stuff like that.
I think you're, you're a very good, like just host this period. I love like welcome to my home
here are my friends and yeah. So I like felt comfortable staying at the table and I stayed
there till like probably around midnight. I tried to eat because we hadn't really eat anything other
than some sushi for lunch. So I was, I knew I had to eat something and I went to the buffet because
it was right there where the table was out front and I tried to eat, but there was so many people
we got to see the cracking beards. Oh yeah. See, I haven't, you got to see the crack and beards.
I like, I'm a little jealous student. I miss, I miss those people. I was trying to eat and then I
got distracted and then they took my plate. And so then I saw them eating at the table
down there and he was like, come here, sit. Yes sir. I missed him. I missed that energy. I miss,
I miss that. He's like, I always call him my second daddy. I don't really call anybody that
except for him. He's like my, he knows he understands me and we're super close with them,
but we just haven't seen them for so long and they had to, they have a poly situation going on and
then I got to meet their, their girls and she's also Dallas is pregnant. So yeah, got the love on
her for a little bit and she's the cutest pregnant person ever. She's so adorable. I know they've
waited a long time for that. So very excited for them. And yeah, there was just so many people,
so many faces, everywhere you turn, there's people and people coming up, you know,
that had just never been to anything, but didn't clubs. I was trying to help everybody plus,
you know, we were promoting for the playground because if you don't know what the playground is,
you should be there. It is the next, the newest, coolest, best thing ever. Forget about SDS and
SLS. Like this is the group that you want to be with. The thing about like those two, like SLS and
SDC are it's clunky and old and outdated. So outdated. And this group they want and it's
going to keep on changing and you know, it's always, it's already just aesthetically better
and it has a really good, it's pretty small still, but it has a really good group of people in the
other, really active, very active all the time. There's always, yeah. And they're always getting
together and meeting and trying to, you know, they do a lot of vanilla stuff too. So if you're,
if you're looking for a good group and they're always like, every time I'm with them, they're
like brainstorming new ideas and new platforms to use and new updating all the things they want to
be. Yeah. We talked to them a lot just about what are your ideas and that's, I feel we've looked for
that for the whole time. That's what we've been looking for. We always told our friends that we're
here for to help you with anything you need. And this is the first group of friends that get together
and that get that and really take what we say in our opinions and thoughts into consideration.
And don't gatekeep. Yeah. They want us to know about every idea they have, every
absolutely. I feel more of a partnership with these, this group of friends. No competition at all.
It's not collaboration and how can we help the lifestyle and the people and that's always like,
they're always asking us like, how can we help you? Like you're doing this and this and this for us.
Like we want to help you. Like honestly, we don't like, we don't need anything for like,
no, we just want to, we just want our friends to all thrive. Yeah. And they want us to thrive too,
which is awesome. But all we've asked for five years now, like that's all we've been asking for.
There's no competition. It's real. It's just collaboration and for the community. And
that's the key. It's for the people. It's for people in the lifestyle. It's not anything to
do with us and we don't want it to be about us at all. We don't need that's why we don't,
we don't need our faces on anything. No, we don't need our name on anything. We just want the people
in the lifestyle to find their people. That's the only thing we love helping people find their people.
Yes. Because they say it's clicky and they say it's, you know, these groups of people are so
clickish and these circles and everything. And have we even talked about like people talking
like saying it's clicky because I just wanted to say like, sometimes it does seem clicky. I will,
it's, but it's unintentional. It's people, people are comfortable with each other. Exactly. And they
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These are friends that a lot of times you don't see a lot. So you're excited.
On social media, it looks like we're together all the time because you're seeing these pictures
we're taking and we're posting them randomly and all this stuff, but we really don't see each other
very much. And so when we get to see each other, it's like any other long distance friendship where
you're just so excited to spend every minute together. Absolutely. And it's not that we're
trying to exclude anyone. We're not trying to like kick people out or not trying to, you know, make
it clicky. We just have groups of people that we want more people. Oh yeah. We're always searching
for more people. So I learned something when we hosted for libertine events in Miami and she said,
she understood that whole dynamic of talking to old friends and meeting new friends, but people
are reluctant to just interrupt the conversation. Like when a group of people are in a conversation,
you're not going to go try and interrupt or just butt into a conversation. And it's less welcoming
because you're always in a circle. So cause everybody wants to hear and talk and everything.
She said, keep the circle open, make it a horseshoe, make it a horseshoe. I'm like, that is genius.
That's more welcoming. Like everybody can come in and involve themselves. Cause we are always
here for everybody. I'm like, I'm actively trying to do that. But again, I'm not perfect.
And it's hard to hear. And it's hard to hear. You tend to do, you do tend to get in a circle,
but if you ever see us in a circle, butt into our circle, please. Because we always want new
friends. We always want more friends and there are cliques out there and there are groups that
aren't welcoming and that don't want you to be a part of it, but we're not those people. No. And
all of our friends are not those people and we're always looking for new people, new faces. I know
I've gotten that question quite a few times this week where they're like, do you only talk to the
people that you always are seen with all the time? The thing is that with that, like most of the
people that we do talk to that you don't know about it's because they're discreet and they don't do
social media. I can only post so many people's faces. I can only put so many videos with people
because they don't, a lot of people in the lifestyle don't want to be on social media and
don't want to have their picture taken. And it's a very discreet world. And say we respect that. So
we don't push it on anybody. I've actually gotten that question quite a few times this week. Really?
Are you only play with people that you know, can only share so many, like people that are open.
And we keep a lot of stuff to our, we have the spicy sides. It's me. It's pictures of me. Sorry,
just because all the spicy content we make is organic and it's literally just hot. Everybody
that is in the room has one and we're having fun and it's always the, do you want to put a camera up?
Yeah, so we can have this for later. Yeah. And yeah, it's always. We put it on a SharePoint or a
OneDrive or a Dropbox. So everybody has it and. No, it's not. Yeah. We're not. It's not going to make us,
this lifestyle is not making us money. No. Danger. No. But we do love, we do have lots of people.
We talk to a lot of people. We are some reason, somehow we are the newbie people. Like we are the
ones. We've been hearing that a lot. I don't, I've never really tried to be like, oh, like you're
great. Cause we hear a lot, like you are great for newbies, your podcast, your content. Like you guys
are a newbie like couple. Couple. We're like, we never thought of ourselves like that, but thinking
back. Oh yeah. We've always. We used to joke about it all the time. We're like, well, newbies, they always come to us.
Like they attracted to us. I never understood the mentality of a lot of people in the lifestyle said,
Oh, we don't mess with newbies. We don't talk to newbies. Which I understand. I know. It can be. A lot.
A lot. They're still trying to figure it out and learn. And they don't really, they don't have
experience. They just don't know what they're doing and they make mistakes. There's mistakes that, you
know, happen, but that also happens with very seasoned couples with lots of experience. And we've
learned that. And so it's like, well, why wouldn't you want as many people as you possibly can?
Yeah. More than marrying. Sharing is caring. We like all the people to join us. We love sharing
this lifestyle. And we do think that, and I think, you know, we've heard so many times in our
journey that, you know, if it wasn't for you, I would never have known about the lifestyle.
It would have, my life would have been completely different. It seems like we get those people as
right when we get to the point where like, I don't think we want to do this anymore. You know, it's
like, is there is a lot of negativity online and social media and it is very time consuming and
mentally draining for a lot of this stuff. So we get to a point a lot of times, which is like,
is it worth it? Like, is it worth my mental wellness and all this time for literally nothing?
Then as soon as we get to that point, always get like three or four people, like our couples,
they're like, you know, you changed my life. And it's like, and it reinvigorates us. And we
go right back into it. It's crazy how it happens. Every time the universe is like, Hey, keep going,
keep going. One, one, one, one, one, one, one, one's always all the time. You're on the right path.
It's going to, it's going to be, it's for the best. We're changing lives. And that to me is
priceless and worth. Yeah. Everything. You can't put a price on that. Yeah. I mean, therapists can,
but we don't, we're going the wrong way with that. Yeah. We just love the people and we do like,
I don't know. That is where we thrive over like, welcome, come here. We'll hold your hand and show
you our world and introduce you. We do that with our own friends. It turned into just our niche,
like with our own friends, like they come to us with questions like, oh yeah. And predicaments
and just, they like to bounce ideas and they like to just bend. Like, what do you like? This is what
happened. What do you think? Or this is what's going on or this is how I feel. I don't know how
exactly it is. You know, have you ever seen this before? Have you ever seen this before? Yeah.
That we get a lot of inquiries, I should say. Yeah. And it is usually from new people and they're
new. We're not necessarily new in the lifestyle, but newer to those experiences, new, new
to those experiences. Like there's a lot of people in the lifestyle that's been in it for two or three
years that are just really selective and really slow. Oh yeah. Like not as you should. It's like,
yeah, not everybody just goes full throttle. Not everybody is like us. And I don't recommend it.
We, we've been always really good at communicating our feelings to each other. So this lifestyle,
we like it fit perfect. And we thrive. Yeah. Somehow, someway, never would have seen it.
There's always exceptions to the rule, but we've had mistakes. We always tell people to go slow.
Like that's the safest route. And that's the thing. We've not, it's not always been perfect
and wonderful. We have made mistakes. We have messed up. We have seen a lot of things. We have,
I mean, just a couple of weeks ago in the episode, I talked about a feeling that I've never felt
before. Like, and I was trying to navigate that because that was a whole new thing. And then it
opened a whole new conversation. Cause you're like, that's how I feel with so-and-so and you.
And they were like, I'm like, Oh, I'm like, I just thought it was, you know, this, but you,
if you felt this way, I never want to make you feel this way. Like I never want to make you feel a
certain sort of way anyways, but I never understood it was that deep. And it's like, and you're always
learning that. So we were talking about that last night with one of our friends about, he's like,
is this feeling like, I don't know, I feel like I don't know what I'm doing. And I feel like I
always have butterflies. I feel nervous. I feel anxious about things and I, it's always something
different. I never know how to, you know, things are always constantly changing all the time. And
I'm like, that's what I don't know. I guess we're weird, but I love that. That's why I told them,
like, that's my favorite part, man. I'm like, it gives you that exhilaration and feeling of like a
first date all over again. Yeah. But even when it's like weird and awkward and messy, it always is
like amazing and beautiful in the end because you're working, you're working and communicating
and you're navigating and you're doing so much self work. We talked about so much about yourself
and you learn to like think before you speak and you learn to just take a moment and pause and
don't react so quickly. And it really does help you become a better person just in general. And
yeah. And then, yeah, I love that you never know. It's always different people, always different
situations, even with the same people, you know, stuff pops up and so we were new in the lifestyle
when I was in this type of position. I just got back in before like a leadership position.
I've noticed I'm completely different leader and manager than I was before. Yeah. And I put that
too because I do show, because before I was hard nose, rigid, I was an asshole. Yeah.
And I've found myself now showing more care and concern. I have more compassion. I want to develop
more. I understand, like I seek to understand where before it's like, this was your job. I have,
this is your job requirement. You didn't do it. Here's your write up. Black and white. Yeah. And
now there's so much gray. Like I talked just this, just yesterday morning, I talked to one of my DMS
into letting me not issue a write up because normally it would be black and white. Yeah.
It's no question. But after I explained the whole situation, cause I learned about this guy's
situation, then he's like, okay, I can support this. I'm like, okay, thanks. I'm like, we need
to develop, like I'm more about team development, which I was always trying to develop a team, but
I was doing it a different way. And I owe that to the lifestyle and learning how to listen
and being more empathetic. Cause I, empathy is something that I had to learn how to be.
But my emotional intelligence has, I've watched you grow. Like it's great. I'm, it's just so much in
the last few years. I, and this lifestyle, the way that we were navigating it, the very beginning
was very much like, fuck everybody else. Like it was against the world. And we were like, yeah,
didn't care about really these like messy little feelings and these people navigating their own
little shit and stuff like that, where now it's completely, we slowed down so much and completely
fell in love with the people and the humans and the whole lifestyle as a whole. And I've seen just,
and I prefer it this way for sure. Definitely. But yeah. And I think a lot of that was because
we learned to stop and listen to people and understand why they were doing these things,
why they were getting jealous all the time, why they were, you know, just not feeling things and
not into it. And I, the lifestyle has done amazingly. And I know here, Mike, personally,
it forces me to practice what I preach. Yeah. Yeah. You can say it all. I can say it. Yeah.
And we got it memorized at this point, but yeah, it is really like, again, like on a couple episodes
ago, when I was, I was spiraling, but I had, I was, had a slow down and really unpack on like
why I was feeling a certain sort of way. And then we were with those friends and
we got on that topic again and I explained it to him a little bit differently. He's like,
he's like, I a hundred percent. I'm like, it's not like it wasn't directed toward you.
It wasn't directed towards your wife. It was this, this is how I felt. It was a combination
of all the things. And this is why he's like, oh, he's like, I would be the same exact way.
That's why I feel like it's funny. Cause you said, I gave you a side eye. He's like, yeah, man, you,
you on your laptop, you looked up and you just gave me that. And he's like, oh shit, what just
happened? But they first listened to the podcast and the first thing they did was like apologize
and apologize. Yeah. And I tried it. It wasn't, well, yeah, they texted us and they're just
apologize, apologize, apologize. I'm like, no, like it's, it's not like, I'm not gonna do that.
I'm like, no, like it's, this was definitely a me thing. It wasn't the you thing. It wasn't a bad
thing. Like it wasn't a bad thing. It was a learning opportunity. And I learned a lot. Yeah.
Through that experience. Even the bad stuff, even the weird, awkward, stupid stuff, the stuff that
doesn't work out great. It's all for good and it's all very good. And not only I learned that you
learned more about me. Oh yeah. And then they learned more about, like it was everybody involved.
Just, yeah, it was a whole learning opportunity. It's always everything you learn from everything.
Even if it doesn't work out good and it's not okay. It's still like you've learned, you've
changed, you've evolved it and it's good. This lifestyle is my favorite. I cry about it every
day. You did. I love it here so much. I love the people. The people, the people are good.
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But anyway, we went down a rabbit hole there. I love it. That's the goal. That was the goal today.
We don't really have a real set thing. We were just kind of like, we're just going to talk about
life and what's going on. But yeah, the night of Spice, we had a trapeze night. I honestly,
most of that night was very overwhelming for me. I was very anxious and overwhelmed because there
was a lot of people and not very people-y people or person. For as much as I do love talking to
people and like saying hi and everything, I have like a time limit where it kind of like. Yeah,
your social battery depletes. It does. And once it's gone, it's gone. And it's just for hours.
It usually is like, I need space. But again, when we're together, you don't have to worry about that
as much because my social battery is much larger than yours. So once you're peopled out, I take
control and you just kind of stand there and smile. Shake baby's kiss hands. I, on the other hand,
didn't have him. And also those nights anyway, when I'm by myself, I already feel that way because I
feel incomplete. Like I feel like half of me is missing. I know it's so cliche, but it does.
Like half of me is missing. I feel out of place and I feel like I can't be that hot couple in
Georgia without, which is by myself, that I'm Ashley in Georgia and nobody wants that. So I feel
like everyone wants that. I don't know everybody with their person and I didn't know where to fit
in. I didn't really know where to go. I didn't know where to fit in. And you're everybody's
favorite hot wife at this point in pad. I didn't get to do any hot wifeing. I was just kind of
alone, just wandering around, finding people. And then as people would come up, then I'd find a new
group of people and then I'd go find out. I'd look for familiar faces and just go over there.
And then I did my dancing. That's usually how I check out when I don't want to talk to people
anymore and I just need a minute to just not, I go out to the dance floor and I did. That's what
I did. I just went out and did my wobble. Luckily Dan put on the wobble for me. DJ Dan put on
my wobble. I was like, that was the one thing missing was like the line dancing section.
Cause a lot of, you know, Saturday night, they have like a whole 10 minutes where they just do
all the line dancing things. And so that's what I like wait for all the time. And they didn't do,
they don't really do that. So he did put the wobble on and I was excited. So I did the wobble and I
got to dance with my girls and did some dancing and a lot of, a lot of talking, a lot of hanging
out, a lot of dancing, a lot of talking, never got to eat anything. Diamond club was way busier
than that pop. I would be like, go to take a breath in, in the general areas, like very rare,
like usually you go out there to like party and dance and do all the things. And then you go back
to diamond to cool off and chill and yeah quiet, but no, it wasn't like that. I went back there
like twice, I think all night just cause I had to use the bathroom. And then I think cause I had to
get another sprite or something like that. And I was like, I was trying to avoid it as much as
possible, but it was a lot of good old faces that I haven't seen in a really long time. People I
haven't, we just used to be together all the time and we don't get to see each other. Yeah.
Maybe once or twice a year, everyone's doing their own thing and everybody is busy. So it was good to
see everybody. And then we went back to the hotel room, to the hotel, everybody drove because of the
ice and everyone wasn't sure about Uber drivers in Atlanta. Yeah, that never I get that have driven
an ice before and we knew it was cold enough. It was already freezing. Luckily the roads had dried
up during the day, so it wasn't yeah, but then you're worried about black ice. That's the thing.
We were all worried about that. So everybody drove themselves for the most part. And so I hitched a
ride and went back to the hotel and I was going to meet up with a couple and do some hot life thing.
And it's a couple that we, I always, every time I'm alone somehow, even when we're together and
like with them together, it's always very, oh yeah, like intense. Really long, many years. And like
we all, four of us like mesh really well, but something always happens and we always get
separated. Yeah. And then I've the past couple of times I've been alone. It's like, okay, come back
to our room, come back to our room. And they were like, this is our room, come back to our room. So
I kept going and it was right down the hallway. So I kept going down there randomly and knocking
because I didn't, I got back there and everyone was, had came back an hour or so earlier. So
everyone already was in rooms and the room I was staying was empty. And so I was like, I don't
really know. Should I go to bed? I probably should. It's like three in the morning, two in the morning.
So I was like, do I do that or do I just walk down there and knock and see? And so I kept like going
down there, really knocking. I didn't know where anybody was. Nobody was like answering because
everybody was busy. So I didn't understand. I really have like a room to go back to. I came back with
like just a couple. They brought me back from trapeze and they were going to bed. So I was like,
I don't really know. I think I'm going to go to bed. So then I was like, I'm going to knock one
more time and see. And then I went to go knock and then a whole bunch of our friends came out of a
random room and we're like, what are you doing? Where have you been? Why are you wandering the
hallway? And they pulled me into the room that we always get pulled in with the same people that
always party hard. I just didn't know where anybody was. So I went in there and that was
that was fun. We had some fun. I was like, I'm just going to a lot of us were just watching
that night because it was a long night and it was pretty late by then. And most people had had all
their fun and stuff. So I was like, I'm just watching. I had a hoodie on and leggings. I think
like I was, I was like done for the night and I was ready to go to bed. And well, I ended up with
no pants on. So I got to play a little bit. I didn't, I didn't get to play much, but I did.
I did dabble. I dabbled here and there with a few, a few things that are my faves. You know,
I was on my knees, you know, what happens, what happens. And then I felt so overdressed because
everybody was naked and I was like, I'm going to take my pants off, but I'm still frozen
because that's me. So I kept my hoodie on and I took my pants off. I was like, yeah, because
I was at work and we were, you texted me and you're like, you're in like your sweat pants.
One more chance. I'm going to go out there and see if they're back yet. They just never came back to
the hotel. They ended up messaging me like two hours later, like we didn't get to say good night.
I was like, I tried. I didn't get to talk to them until the next morning. I tried. I was knocking.
They said they didn't get back to the hotel to like four or five in the morning or whatever. So
we just miss each other again. Now I have their cell phone number, so we're definitely not having
that happen next time. But yeah, but yeah, um, got to play with some friends and some people that were
close with and I felt comfortable with them. Yeah. I know I just, that's always nice. This was once
after like your social battery is like dead in like a club environment where it's packed.
It's always nice to go back and be with a group that you're just, you know, comfortable with.
Unfortunately, it was in a room that I didn't know the people that were, it was their room.
So it was like, and everyone was kind of in the middle of everything when I got in there. So I
didn't really get to introduce. I mean, that's how it was when last time we were, went to trap together
because everybody ended up in our room. We had some, we had some, uh, different people in there.
It's like, Oh, Hey, yeah, nice. And finally meet you. But like in the middle of playing and stuff.
So I got to play a little bit. I didn't really, you know, I didn't have sex or anything, but I did get
to play here and there jumped in as needed as I felt like, as I felt like I needed wanted a hand
or a mouth play with like mother f*****g leaves. I had to play with him for a little bit. He's good
when I'm feeling that way. He's a safe person to go to and play with. We love him and yeah, we,
and then me and his wife, Sam, we, everybody was still going because they would not stop.
It was a nonstop night. And so she laid down on the bed and we all, me, her and Rachel were cuddling.
We cuddled, snuggle up and cuddle with her. And we had a good snuggle. That's a good, that's a good,
that's a good ending. That's a good cuddle puddle right there. Let's snuggle in with my girls. I
love snuggling with her too. It was a good, good ending to the night. And yeah. And then the next
day I went back to their house till Monday when they had to fly out the next day. So she had to
leave us and me and Rob and got to hang out till Monday until you came back. And yeah, that was
pretty much, that was night of spice. The weekend. There was some spice. There was a little bit of spice.
A lot of, a lot of people, a little bit of spice. It was fun. DJ Life Spice is amazing as always.
He always kills it. Yeah. I love watching him. I had so many moments that night. Again, I cry.
I'm a random cryer. It's not a bad cry. It's a mental cry. It's an emotional, overwhelming cry.
And I always have a moment. I had a moment with his wife and just stood up there in front of him.
I always got to make sure he knows that I'm there supporting and you know, I'm always front row girl.
And it was just a moment of like, man, the Airbnb watching him DJing and the Airbnb years ago to
here now with all of his fans and friends and everybody. And it's like, oh my gosh, I just
loved them so much. So far. So far from, yeah, setting up his, just a hobby, just stuff and then
living room of Airbnb with like 10 of us just. And not just them. It was the Swing Nation. There
was a lot of Swinger's Sidey crew there and there was a lot of feels and emotion and, and navigating
that whole dynamic and stuff with them. So it's a lot of, I love you no matter what. Just so you know,
no matter what happens, no matter where life takes us, don't forget it. I love you guys.
And it was a lot of that. It was good feels, good emotion, good cries, always good care. I never was
a cryer before this lifestyle. Not like this. It was bad cries, if anything here and there,
but not like this. I am an emotional hot mess now, but I, I feel safe to do that. And it's good.
That's good. It's a good thing. So yeah, and that was nice. And then not much has happened since then.
Really honestly, there's been some birthday celebrations and we had my best friend's birthday
was last week and we had a little surprise party for her and got to go get my nails did and had
lunch with her and celebrate her. Always love celebrating her and being with her. So that's
pretty much been last week. And then last night, Paddle was Up Dark was like, who wants to go together
and watch the game tonight? Or Monday? The National Championship. The National Championship Monday.
And so we were like, she texted me and was like, you want to go? We could go, go get dinner. And so
I was like, sure. So they picked us up and we all went together. And that's the one thing that's one
of my favorite things too, is like the vanilla part of the lifestyle, just getting to like be with
good people. Yeah, it was fun. I got to finally talk to the mixed up life. Yes. Yeah. Like his
wife wasn't there, but he was there. Me and him stood there and talked and talked and talked.
He's a fellow pocket. Yeah. Fellow pocket. If you, if you haven't heard of them, check them out.
Mixed up life. They're awesome people. They're both really hot before. And like in passing,
we've talked briefly, but it's always like a trapped environment where there's a lot of people
are suckling around. We've going on. This is the first time we've actually had a chance to talk.
That's why I love about the vanilla meetups and stuff is because it's quieter. We get to
actually sit there and talk about, you know, real things. Like I met so many new, new people.
Oh yeah. Just they're just coming, just coming to watch the game. So let's go. It's more comfortable
too though. Like that's what I do love about dark. It doesn't have to clubs and like events and all
of that. It's really intimidating for a lot of new people. And it's scary and to do it more in a,
everyone knows Twin Peaks and they know what to expect. You know, you're in there, you kind of know
what sitting around and watching the game is like, that's less scary. You can say hi to people and
meet people, but they said, Oh, so in an awesome spot, we had a good setup, Davey. He made it,
made it happen. And he, yeah, we had a whole entire back section and we had all this couches and
fireplace. It was a good, it was a good way to spend a Monday night and the kids had off today.
So it was kind of like, yeah, it was really nice. It was good to just talk to people. There was a
bunch of things. There was some single men there that were just trying to learn, you know,
you know, taking feedback and asking a lot of questions. A lot of people knew are wanting to
know like tips and tricks and things and stuff, you know, how to get into the lifestyle. And it
was a good way to, it's a quieter environment where we could just sit around with no pressure.
That's what I love about. Yeah. So it's just great to socialize without the pressure of possible
play, I guess. Yeah. You're not trying to impress anybody. You literally just relax and talk and
meet people. And unfortunately, single guys, they, it's hard in that environment to like people just
automatically assume that they want to look up with you and they want to do this. But a lot of
the time they really do just want to ask questions and just make you feel comfortable and just talk
and have a conversation. So it was nice. We met a singer and he was in the kink world. So he was,
you know, very familiar with the local kink land and all of their places and stuff. So I was really
excited to kind of get like a connection to that and check more of that stuff out. We really want
to go to like rumors and stuff and see what that's all about. And so it was kind of, it was good.
It was nice. It was my favorite part of the night. We were all talking and I was actually with
your best friend and we're just sitting each other talking with a group of people.
And one of the women that we'd just met, she's like, Oh, so you're together.
And we started laughing. We're like, no, like that's her husband over there. And here's my wife over
here. She's like, Oh, confusing. We just kind of looked like, I love this place. And the fact that
they were like, Oh, okay, no big deal. Like that's not weird at all. It was funny. They don't really
hang out, like stand next to each other when we're in that environment. Cause we're always busy
doing like, we get caught up in this conversation and you're caught up with the guys and the, you
know, like talking to the guys. And so it is confusing for people like who's with who. Cause we,
everybody does kind of separate and get their own conversations. I like to just check up on you.
How you doing? Are you good? And then you'd be like, yeah. And then I do the same thing like anybody
we're with. So I went to her and just kind of, you know, put my hand on the small of her back and
just make sure she was okay. They've not done many things and stuff. And we're more familiar with.
Yeah. I just wanted to make sure everybody's like people. Yeah. No one's overwhelmed. I guess.
Yeah. And we need to take a break or ready to leave when I already, yeah. Like we're down the
leaf. So we ended up staying until everybody, everybody left around like 10 ish. I think it was.
Yeah. That was around the game. Wasn't over yet. We had two hour drive and it was a Monday night.
So it felt like we needed to go and everybody was kind of right. Again, we left Buckhead. Yeah.
Oh yeah. Record time and made it home. No traffic. Yeah. We were home just 1130. Like it wasn't.
Yeah. It was 1130 because it was early enough for, okay. Cause we got Taco Bell and everything.
We came home and ordered Taco Bell because we went to a restaurant slash bar and didn't eat.
We just had like flat bread and yeah, snacked on it. And then yeah, I had a few drinks, but we got
home like, I am star. Yeah. By then it was already like, Oh yeah. 1130 almost midnight. We were like,
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to be ashamed of. Yeah. But yeah, that was, that was that. And then now this week we're gearing
up for your birthday, baby. When you're listening to this, this is my birthday. It is my birthday.
It is your birthday when you're listening to this. I tried it a few years ago and threw you a party
at trapeze, but then it was like a joint party and it wasn't all about you. This time I'm making
it about you. I have, I'm so excited. I know I got an Airbnb with four other couples. I got that. Get
along with each other with we all met and we had that conversation. I had that conversation with one
of the guys that will be at the house. He's like, what about so and so? Why aren't they there?
You're like, why, why didn't you invite them? And I said, I'm like, I wanted to make sure
everybody meshed really well. I'm like, they would mesh a hundred percent. Oh yeah. But they're not,
I want to make sure everybody was comfortable already. That way there was no chance for,
they'll be there. They're coming to trapping and they're coming to trapeze. They'll be there all
weekend and stuff and they're going to participate. So, I mean, we'll still, we have a lot of people
coming that are not going to be at the Airbnb, but they are going to be. We got, I got some local
friends coming. So yeah. Yeah. So if you have nothing else, Saturday night, 25th is Ashley's
birthday celebration. The trapeze is steam night is the color nude, the color nude, beige,
beige. So that for Ashley's birthday, we all know she's a pink whore. So it's 50 shades of pink.
50 shades of pink. I have a pink suit. So excited. Pink pink is like my kink for sure. Pink is like
Rose gold together. Oh my God. So, so it, I love pink princess. Yeah. Everyone's wearing pink and I
see where your tiara is. Yes, I do. Okay. And your birthday. Okay. I've been waiting. I've been
waiting. It's Rose gold and my shoes are Rose gold. Everything's Rose gold. And then I love it. I love
it. I'm excited to celebrate you and make you feel like, I know you always feel loved, but I wanted
you to see the magnitude of people that love you. You know what I mean? I want to try and get
everybody there. I guess me butterflies. Now, like that being said, if you're listening to this
and you did not get a text or call from me or snap, like don't take it personally. Yeah. There's a
lot of people. All right. I love, I love you. I'm doing the best I can have a lot on my plate right
now. And I love you. Please come surprise me too. Yeah. Yes. We're one. But yes, if you're bored and
you have nothing to do, are you Saturday night trapeze 25th, we're pink. If you're wearing pink,
we're going to assume you're there for Ashley. It's going to be a flag for sure. It's a trapeze
color of the night. We're taking over, taking over trapeze unofficially. Like we're just kind of
doing it as we do. We got, I got a table reserved. It's the whole thing, but come join us. We love
the more the merrier. That's what we always say. Yes. More than the merrier. We love all, all the
people that could possibly be there. We appreciate it and love it. And I'll be crying a lot. It's
going to be such a good weekend. I'm excited and I don't have to be at work this weekend. So it
makes it even better. Always a cherry on top. You don't gotta work very well. Yeah. It's going to
be good. I'm so excited. I can't wait. Yeah. That's, that's about it. That's what we got going on.
Yeah. That was actually for us not coming in with the plan that actually turned out really well.
Yeah. I like these episodes where we just talk. It's good. I think we need to do more of these.
Yeah. We're always very organized people. We try to make sure we have a topic. It's just very,
help everyone. It's anxiety inducing going in without a plan. Yes. Yeah. A little nerve wracking.
That's why we put it off until the day before. We've been so busy. So busy. It's been a busy
wild. That we were, we had a conversation like last week, like we're in the middle of doing other
stuff. We have to film a podcast for now, like how, when, how there's something and we're, we
broke down in the calendar. I'm like, the only chance we got is doing this Tuesday. They're only
there. Yeah. Hurry up, edit it, do all the, put the logos on it, do the thing and we're best at
procrastinating though and get it out by midnight. Best things come out now. How's the last minute?
The last, not the last week, but the weekend before I was in such a hurry. I accidentally
posted her podcast like at 11 45, 11 50. So technically it came out Tuesday. Yeah.
It's like it wasn't past midnight. I'm like, oops. I'm like, it's fine. That's fine. It's close enough.
It's early. Yeah. Fine. Yeah. You're welcome. It got up. Like it was so technically like the
post-dates are not all messed up. I'm like, after that, I am, we have nothing for February on purpose.
Yeah. You're going to be grandparents. I know that's crazy. We're going to be grandparents.
Our grandson will be here sometime before March 2nd, but it's looking more like February. So
yeah. Keeping the calendar clear. I'm going to Florida for a week after, right after we get back
Monday, going to Florida for the week. And then I'm coming home and then I'll the next time be there
when she has him. And so we're kind of keeping everything cleared out until we got to get it
clear so we can, well, you'll be down there, but I got to keep it clear up here so I can just scoot
on down whenever he can. And so he'll probably be doing some solo stuff. You're seeing a little bit
more of just him and less of me. I have to hold down the fort. Yeah, that's our life. That's what's
going on. That's, that's about it. After that, we have my birthday weekend. We have the St. Patty's
day party, March 14th with $20 a ticket guys. Yeah. $20. It's $40. Like you're not going to find
no, nothing in this party and lifestyle party for $40 a couple. Nothing in this lifestyle period is
$20. There's nothing like what do you have to lose? And it's at a, you know, it's a bar Loganville,
like North Georgia. Yeah. It's going to be amazing. It's going to be just like the glow party,
which was so much fun and so good. So what do you have to lose? $20. And it's my birthday weekend
that week. Yeah. And it's your birthday. We're celebrating St. Patrick, but no, it just so happens
to be over as your birthday and period. So yeah, come out, do that. We have all of that down below
all of that in our link tree. We've got all of that in all of our stories and all of our social
media. We're pushing that out. Nothing to lose. It's like, come see what we're talking about when
we talk about Params after dark and playground, playground and whatever we call it. It's all the
same thing and all the same people. And yeah, it's an amazing community full of beautiful people.
Yeah. Inside and out. Yeah. And it's a good, you want to be a part of it. That's my favorite part
about joining all these groups of people and helping promoting all these events and stuff like
that. My favorite part is just watching them thrive and grow and just introducing them to the world
because they deserve it. They definitely are great people. That's good people. Good hearts. It's all
a love project for all of them. And they just get it and they align with us and what we believe.
Yes. What we feel and they get it. They just get it. They're trying to get us to move near them.
They're trying their they, they love it and we love it and we love them. So definitely $20 a ticket.
Come check it out. Yeah. There's dinner. Come hang out with a drink. You know, come listen to
some good music and what do you have to lose? Nothing. Wear some green. Yeah. Wear some green.
St. Patrick's day. It's cheaper than any other St. Patrick's day you're going to go to. Yeah.
And it's just full of amazingly wonderful people in the lifestyle and you get to be yourself and
you can't beat it. No. You can't beat it. So come check that out. March 14th. We're doing that. And
yeah. And then that's about it. That's all we got to say about that. That's all we got to say about
that. Thumbs up. The last thing we got to say is it's not that serious. Don't make it weird.
Bye. Love you guys. Bye.