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Hi Russ and I'm Ashley and this is Hot Couple Chronicles. Welcome back. Welcome. It's been a
long time. It's been three weeks. Three weeks. 2025 now. Happy 2025. Happy Christmas. Happy
everything in between. Hope everybody's holidays were amazing because I know ours were really.
Yeah it was a good one. It was a really good holiday season this year. I was skeptical.
We've been busy bees the last three weeks or so. We've been staying busy. I don't know how we would
have done the podcast without taking a break. I don't know. I'm glad we took a little bit. We
needed a little bit of a breather. I think we're going to do seasons. I think that was a good idea
to change it and do seasons and take a couple weeks off in between just to keep everything fresh.
Yeah because this is our love project. We do this out of love. We do this because we love it. We want
to keep that alive and we want to keep you know keep it fresh. Yeah it's definitely a passion
project. Doing it every week can be overwhelming. It's a full time job. I had no idea how much work
went into a podcast. I thought you just sat down talked and put it on and I mean you can but we're
also perfectionists. That's true. So we spent a lot of time editing the words and making sure
making sure the training lighting is great. Yeah the picture is great. We take a lot of time and
then we plan. We take a lot of time planning and doing all that stuff in between. But yeah we're
just going to sit down today and talk about what's happened over the last three weeks. A lot has
happened over the last three weeks. We've had a busy and we still are we have a busy January ahead
so we're going to be sharing all of our stories coming with you. Yeah we do. Yeah we still got
some more stuff. We have a whole bunch of stuff coming for every single weekend this month or
something. So yeah it's a good way to start the year. 2025 is going to be our year. It really is.
I can feel it. I've never felt this way before about it like during a new year. It's a good
feeling. It's a new feeling for me but it's not my gut says this is it. It's gonna be a good one.
I'm excited. Yeah so am I. But let's start with our weekend trip I guess. Right before Christmas.
We'll go back to when we stopped the podcast and go from there and kind of talk about what we've
been doing. Yeah so we was it the weekend after we our last episode? I believe so. Right after.
Yeah but our friends asked us if we wanted to do a last minute just spur the moment spontaneous
trip and they're supposed to be like seven of us going. We were supposed to go with them another
couple and then their bowl and that was a new dynamic for them. They just told announced they
were exclusive with this bowl. They were still trying to decide whether they they were going
through that navigating like a poly relationship with the bowl and they are talking about being in
a deeper relationship with him and being exclusive and they're kind of working through that and
yeah so we were we were along for the ride. Yeah we were. It was definitely a different experience.
He had been a part of their life for two years now. Yeah. And we knew of him and we knew about
him but we never had met him. Every time we went to go meet him something would happen
and and our schedules were always on opposites and we just miss him every single time. So we
just now met him the first time we went and we were spending Friday through Sunday. Yeah. With
that. A cabin. Yeah in Blue Ridge. Yeah. Right outside of Blue Ridge. You guys went up like you
drove up with them because I had to work. Yeah. We were leaving Friday morning and you had to work.
They wanted to get up there early and get settled and get everything unpacked and stuff. So they were
going and they're like we can swing by and just pick you up. You can come with us. So I went ahead
up with them. And how was that drive? That's good. We all we had a good conversation. Talked. Yeah.
Talked our shit. Normal. Listen to some some good music. She had to work the whole time on our
computer. So that was kind of a bummer for her. Yeah. I mean the guys we talked and just I mean
it was like a four hour drive. Yeah. There was this particular weekend between me and the husband.
Like we had he we had a lot of deep conversations just me and him because he was. They love picking
our brains. They're kind of new. They're new ish to the lifestyle. Yeah. Like they've kind of
done their own thing like privately but new ish to like being out and about and you know like
meeting people and stuff. So they're always wanting to pick our brains and we're really close with
them. So we don't mind at all telling them what we've seen our experience and stuff. And
they're such good people. They are. Our favorite people. They're probably our favorite people.
They're like my best friend. Yeah. Yeah. But through the weekend it was before the weekend
I guess it was a fantasy for because he never really had a good experience. Most of their dynamic
is her and bulls. So they usually have a third and it's usually a male and that's usually how
it goes. They have played but it's not been very successful with females or with couples and stuff.
Yeah. They haven't had the greatest experience with swapping. Yeah. So they really wanted to
experience that. And so I kind of knew going in. I didn't really know. I don't know. I didn't know
going into it. I know that we've always wanted to play but we've never had the chance to. Yeah.
It's a bit we've had you could cut the sexual tension between everybody when we just hang out
like with a freaking. But we do very vanilla usually when we're hanging out. It's very vanilla.
It's there's you know there's children usually we have kids and they have kids and so there's
like children. It's always a vanilla setting. Yeah. So it's really close to each other. So it's very
exciting. We're legit really good friends not just lifestyle friends. They are like their friends
who happen to be in less out to you. Yeah. They're like do life together friends. Yes. Yeah. So we're
really friends that we've never had the opportunity to. We've never really spent the weekend with the
four of us together. So we've never really had the opportunity to. And yes it was kind of a fantasy
of hers all weekend to get me and him together. Yeah. All weekend. And so we were going to make
that happen somehow. Well she was determined to make that happen and I was down. I mean I didn't
mind at all being you know. Yeah. No. And we talked about it before we went and I was good with it.
Yeah. And I'm like no I'm fine. Yeah. We've always talked about playing with boys like flirted back
and forth. We've always discussed playing every time we go to trapeze with them or something. But
the curve ball in this whole situation is they were trying this whole exclusive thing. Yeah.
Trying this whole exclusive where her and the ball would only play together. Yeah. There was no.
That was the only thing outside of her like her husband. Yeah. And if you know my husband he's
usually the one who plays. I'm usually the one who doesn't play. So it was different for us too
because normally he's the one who's like the main attraction. That's not true. It is true. Very true.
And so it was different. Different. It was just a different. It was a different dynamic. But
yeah. That's why we had a conversation about it because we knew I wasn't going to be playing.
Yeah. And I'm like yeah that's fine. Yeah. I'm good. Yeah. She was awful on it because they were
still navigating that and they were pretty much exclusive. Yeah. So they both wouldn't have been
playing. Yeah. But oh we got up there the first. I got up there that Friday night. We all met. You
guys were already out and about on the town. Yeah. We went to go get dinner and it was late. So I
didn't get up there till like nine. Yeah. But I met you guys at a bar there in Blue Ridge or something
like that. Yeah. And we all had a drink and then went back to the house and just hung out.
Really. Got in the hot tub. Had a fire. Just the normal. Yeah. The normal mountain activities.
All talked and just it was a good Friday night or whatever. But then Saturday came along we went out
on the town and found things to do. We went shopping and went to eat. Then we were sitting
there we were like we could be eating and drinking and doing all this comfortably at the cabin that
we paid for with the hot tub and all the things. All our alcohol. All the things were already there.
Yeah. Or paying to. I want to if anybody that knows me my thing is I love cooking. I love
cooking for people. So I was cooking all the meals which I love doing and there was no complaints.
Yeah. He went to culinary school. That's like his passion. So we went back. I cooked dinner and we
had some drinks. Chicken Alfredo and it was so freaking good. That's my birthday meal. Every
time I asked for a meal that's usually what I ask for. It's so good. But yeah we went to the grocery
store. Ate that and then got ready to go to the fire. We hung out by the fire and got in the hot
tub and that's when. That's when things started shifting. Yeah. Things got a little bit spicy.
Yeah. Now she's like OK how are we going to make this happen? Because if anyone is in lifestyle you
know the hardest part is making that first move. Yeah that transition. Especially when you're
friends with somebody for years and you just like are so friendly with them. It's been very vanilla
friendship for the most part. It's like making that first step. And me and him are pretty much
the same people. Like we have the same brain somehow. Yeah you're both anxious. Super anxious.
Nellie's or whatever you want to call it. And I'm definitely not going to. I don't make the first move like
ever. So yeah it's hard. It was outside of my comfort zone and so I was like I'm going to go shower.
So I ran upstairs. Well because we were in the hot tub all hanging out. Yeah it was like no
matter what I need to shower first before anything. Yeah get all the chlorine chemicals off. So I got
shower and I got out of the shower and he walks into the room and shuts the door and you know the
rest. I mean it pretty much. Yeah after that happened. We were because you got out and then
we had already discussed. They got out. So I knew it was happening. Yeah. And so me and. Well he didn't believe that I
wanted that I would want to play with him. Like he is me. I was going to say because you both. He's so much me.
Yeah. He didn't believe that. He's like she's not into me. She doesn't like me. She doesn't see me like
that. I was like yeah I do. Obviously I feel like I've been very clear about it. I don't know. But it's
you know. Yeah. I get it. That's how I am too. But yeah he came into the bedroom and shut the door and
then that it was pretty much easy from there on. Once you start. I missed a lot of that because I was
in the hot tub. Yeah he stayed. He was still in the hot tub. I knew what was going on but like I didn't know the
specifics. And we play together. We're always playing together. So that was also like a different. Yeah.
Well and like I knew what was going on and I was fine. But it was I think we missed some communication
along the way. And not very often do I feel a certain sort of way. But this night was different
and I did not feel great. Yeah. He was not. I was having internal struggles. He was not OK.
But it had nothing to do with you playing with him.
Through the weekend we're talking and even the wife said that I was being like I didn't. I wasn't
being real flirty and this and that. And she was making sure I was OK because I'm like no I'm just
trying to be respectful of your guys is dynamic. They were kind of struggling. They're kind of
going through all of it. Yeah. And there was they're navigating that whole thing. So
anyways to allow all the conversations and then the progress of things to happen so quickly and
we didn't get to talk right beforehand. And I didn't know that it was you and him and then
the wife and the bowl in separate rooms. And my brain because I was in the hot tub. Everybody was
in the same room and I assumed that the wife and the bowl were with him and you guys were just
hanging out. I had no idea. So she had ran down and then grabbed him out of the hot tub
and took him inside. Yeah. I didn't know that. And from my perspective to me it just looked like OK
do you got he she got you guys together then they went to join you guys. Yeah. Yeah. And we had
first. Yeah. And then as I sat in the hot tub alone looking at the stars because the stars were
really bright that night I started thinking about it and just do the conversations and stuff like I
didn't have I don't know the bowl was nice and like I didn't have a big but I just was getting
there was a lot of red flags with him all weekend. Yeah. There was I was getting bad feelings.
Every once in a while and just kind of like hmm. OK. He was throwing some red flags out.
And like I was getting two different stories from that like the couple and the bowl. Yeah. And that
was a problem all weekend and it was a tension pretty much all weekend. And that's I mean we
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whole vibe was off dinner but in my head what I'll as I sit in the hot tub I thought you were all
together and I thought wait a minute they're all in there swapping together doing everything together
and they just chose to know if I like I felt like the kid that wasn't big dodgeball. I've been there
and I felt that feeling I'm like what the heck. And so for what the hour so I didn't want to over
react. And so I sat there I was just trying to rationalize everything and going through
it by myself and I ended up like on the back like I took a shower came out when I took a shower and
got like my flannel pajamas on because I was cold like I like closed up the hot tub like I was stewing
and I took a shower got warm clothes on and I was sitting on the back porch in my flannels.
And I was doing something on the computer and he's getting on Netflix. He walked like the husband
walked out with me and apparently I didn't realize apparently I gave him a side eye.
And you had your hood up and you were just like I didn't mean to. It was just how I was feeling in
that moment but apparently he's like oh shit. And I was like I'm not going to do that. I'm not going
to do that. But apparently he's like oh shit. He's like and he's so worried about her like his main
focus the whole weekend was making sure that you were the most comfortable. And I was and we had
numerous conversations with about it and he thought like he messed it up because me and him are good
friends. And that's what he's like it'd be fun to do this. He's like but I don't want to do anything.
I won't do anything. Our friendship. That's been his number one. And so that was his where he
immediately went because he's like me. And he goes directly to worst case scenarios. I messed up.
It's my fault. And he thought like friendship's over. This is it. But and so but anyway like I
apparently side-eyed him and then you came out and you started talking and you're like are you good.
I'm like no I'm not like I was. And so we talked it out together. And then I realized what was
actually happening where you guys were upstairs. They were downstairs. I'm like oh OK. That was
just a really bad. I'm like I did not feel good because all these conversations I had with this
single guy that was exclusive with one of my best friends. And he told me that he was a lot basically
allowed to play but they didn't like it and this and that. And so I thought like you're all together
swapping together. And it was a whole thing. And yeah it was just one of those moments. Yeah it was
one of those. It wasn't my best moment. But we talked it out and then I was in this communication.
I talked to him. Then he came back out. He's like are you good. I'm like I am now. Like once he
once we talked and I said no no no none of that happened. It's and I was playing him like I wasn't
ever mad at him. If I was mad at anybody I would be mad at the bull because he was the one that was
being wishy washy. And he was the one that said I was he's I wasn't allowed to play at all. Yeah he's
being very possessive. Yeah. Yeah. And the whole weekend throughout. Well long story short they're
no longer in his life. I think yeah I think that we can kind of expose a lot of stuff and it was
kind of uncomfortable. Yeah. But like online that was a different. It was one of the most awkward
weekends I've had. Yeah. Yeah. And then my buddy old pal that next morning we all went to breakfast
and had to bring it up at the breakfast table in the middle of IHOP. And I'm like like well I gotta
make it weird. Like we talked this out. He's one of those people he's just like so anxious that if he
doesn't say something and keep talking about it. Like we thought we talked this out. We're good.
But yeah it was funny. You have to make sure you're good. He's always got to make it weird. I love him.
Yeah. If anyone if I'm glad it was them of anybody that it could have been because it could have been
bad but I'm glad it was them. But it was a that was a different. It's a different. Experience I've
ever had because I've that was the first time I felt that way. I felt feelings every now and
again. But that was the first time I felt like I am not good. Yeah. I've felt that way with like and I
felt like a third rail before. I felt that feeling. It's not. It's not a good feeling. You gotta work
through that one. And that's what like that's the whole time. That's what I was trying to do. I was
trying to work through it myself. Why am I feeling this way? Yeah. Yeah. And that's how I went by the
time you guys came out. I already figured I'm like I just feel left out. Yeah. Yeah. Like I'm not mad
that like everybody. Yeah. I just felt that. Yeah. You know I was intentionally pushed out because I
was the fifth wheel. It was supposed to be you the husband and the bull and the wife. And that's why
I'm like I like when I was struggling with I'm like why I even come up here. Like I would have been
fine if I would have stayed at home because then there wouldn't have been an option. Yeah. But she
got excited once he was busy. She was finally he has never had a good really good experience and
she really was pushing for him to play and have fun and like let's do this. And so she was like so
turned on and excited that she just ran and got the bull because she wanted to play right then. She
was she was in rare form that weekend. Yeah. That day. She was in her best life. She was so excited to finally have it go down and.
Well and that's one of the like we have a few times where we hang out with them without kids
around. Yeah. And she likes to have fun. Yeah. Oh yeah. She's one of those. Yeah. Goes all you would never
expect to see like knowing her from the vanilla world. She looks so innocent and sweet but so do I. So
those ones you got to watch for. Yeah. It ends up great and good. Yeah. It turned out OK. Unfortunately
the bulls and that relationship is kind of done. And yeah. I mean that weekend I think between us
being completely open and honest with everyone it exposed a lot of things that everybody was. You're
not going to say something to me. He doesn't realize how close we were. Yeah. He thought we were just
lifestyle friends. He didn't realize that we're like. He said some pretty shady stuff and I of course
I'm going to tell her what he's saying because I'm not. Yeah. I like that for my best friend. Yeah.
Because you will be talking like well that's not what he said. Yeah. That's weird. What you're saying
is totally not what's lining up. There was a bunch of red flags. It was a lot of uncomfortable and it
was for the best I think. Yeah. They're excited and on to the next thing and they're ready to try
some new stuff. They're still navigating and figuring it out. We all do it and feelings happen
and jealousy happens and feeling left out happens and it's what you do with it. We always say that
all the time like this stuff's going to happen. This was our first like in a long time where we felt
you know something different and excitement. Yeah. Other than like yeah let's go. You know but it was
the first time in a long time where we've had to sit down and talk positive emotions. Yeah. Yeah.
It was a weird. It was a weird weekend. It was it was not weird. It was just different. It was. It
was different. There were definitely weird moments. Weird moments. Not so great moments. But overall
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doing the Christmas thing we baked the cookies and did all the movies. We've watched every Christmas
Christmas movie ever made. Yeah. Our son was all about the Christmas movies this year. I love it.
Yeah. I was excited. I think every year before Christmas like a month before Christmas I want
to take away his electronics. Yeah. I think that was part of it. His xbox broke. So from Thanksgiving
until Christmas. It was it was actually on Thanksgiving. Or the day. I was gonna know it was right then. It was on
Thanksgiving it broke because our daughter and her boyfriend were at our house. He was trying so hard to get him
set up and get it fixed. It was just old and it needed updated. And yeah it just couldn't handle the fixed one.
They tried. They tried so hard. But he had no electronics from Thanksgiving till Christmas. And of course
they're off school pretty much all of that. He had his like curl book and his tablet but he didn't have
xbox which is his main. And we told him that you know I don't think we can afford one this year.
Yeah I don't think so. Oh that's a big one. That's a big one. It's pretty close. He was he was really upset. He was really upset.
We played that one off good until Christmas day until he opened it. He I thought I it was
his we were funny to watch because he was trying to be grateful for everything he was getting. He was getting all
kind of all this stuff. Almost 13. He yeah that was all he wanted. That was it. That was the only thing on his list.
He was trying to be so grateful and he was trying to put a smile on. But you could see the internal
struggle. Every time he opened a present he was like defeated. And then when we got done we were like okay
Merry Christmas. Hope you like everything. And then we kept all their big stuff and that's the stuff we gave
them afterwards. But we let them stew on it for a second because we were so excited because they had
some really good ones this year. And again everyone was like trying was grateful but then
they could see the disappointment behind their items were not like under the tree. And so they were
like okay okay. That's like go put yourself away. Yeah go take yourself to your room. And then we're like all right
there's one more and we gave them all their big stuff. And he got his Xbox back. He geared up. He was so happy.
Oh yeah he cried. He cried. It was a good Christmas. Everyone was happy. The kids are happy. That's all that
matters. That's really all that matters. I cooked prime rib. Cooked a giant enormous meal like always.
That's we eat so good. I gained at least 20 pounds. I know. Between Thanksgiving and Christmas.
But in between Christmas and cookies and New Year's my like work pants don't fit the same. I need to get my
stuff together. Yeah same. Definitely. That's one of my I was on my uh ornament that I wrote for this year.
I need to get my life together. So my manifestations. I need to get my life back to health. Health
focus. But we'll work on that. It's cold right now. It's so cold. So cold. It was supposed to be getting snow. It was this morning when I got off work.
It was like 65. Yeah it was rainy and wet but it wasn't cold. It was humid. It wasn't cold. Like I had
like a sweatshirt on. And all of our Georgia or Georgia or Illinois and up Pennsylvania and Jersey
friends they're all getting feet of snow right now. But just in between me going to sleep this
afternoon and waking up this evening. Yeah. The temperature had dropped 25 degrees. So cold.
Like it's nuts how fast it's got cold. I'm like nope I don't like it. And then after Christmas we had
our anniversary which is the first year we've not celebrated on our anniversary. Our anniversary is
the biggest holiday in our house. We've always celebrated. I had to work. Yeah he worked this year so but we were
going out for New Year's which we never do. This was the first New Year's Eve we've gone out by ourselves.
Ever. Yeah we've never done anything on New Year's Eve. Usually Christmas we were stuck like we
hunker down and stay in sweatpants from Christmas until they get back to school. Yeah pretty much.
Pretty much. So we don't go anywhere. We don't do anything. But this year we went to Atlanta to trapeze.
We were. That was a good time. We went to a New Year's Eve party at Trap and that was fun. That was good.
That was a good time. I'm glad we went. Yeah. We went with the. Now Trap was fun. It was. Trap's always fun.
But the food for New Year's Eve they hyped it up and it was not great. So disappointed in the food.
I am so sad. I understand that theme they were going for. Yeah it was the Chinese New Year the
dragon. The year the dragon. So they were doing all. Oriental food. So they had like foe and all sorts of.
Yeah fried rice and beef and broccoli. Teriyaki chicken. Teriyaki chicken. Problem was that it the quality of it was like freezer.
Yeah it was totally freezer. It's something that you could go. I could go to the grocery store
and throw in the. It was like one of those skillet meals. Yeah I was so disappointed because I mean
they had lobster. They did have lobster. They did. It was. It was on the buffet and it wasn't.
That's what. I don't know. They. I feel like the buffet food was better. It was. Yeah for the first time.
And that's never. We didn't have any food in Diamond. Well they had like little.
They had those like hors d'oeuvres and stuff like that. I wish they would have had a menu with like steak
and like seafood. They did have that one thing that was ended up being chicken that I was hoping it
was duck. When I grabbed it. I didn't try that one. And they had little cheesecake bites. It was like
teriyaki chicken. It was OK. I wish they would have had a like menu back there like they normally do.
But we were all going to the buffet and then bringing our plates back to Diamond. And it was. Yeah.
Yeah the food was definitely lackluster. But we got. But the best part is we got to spend New Year's with
some of the best friends. Yeah. We have. Well our pad group. Yeah. When I was out of dark has been
the best thing we've ever done. Hands down. Best group of people we've ever met in a lifestyle.
Well and even like New Year's Eve day we hung out all day with Davey and Lauren. Yeah. Yep. We went
to lunch at Ponce and then we went shopping and did all the things. We spent most of the day.
No we stayed. We woke up and they were like do you want to go get queso and margaritas for lunch. I
was like yes please. Thank you. So we hung out at the hotel and then we left around noon and went
there and had queso and margaritas and quesadillas. That was a very good idea. Yeah. I was glad about
that. But yeah. And I had a really good day. We love Ponce anyway. Ponce is so nice to just walk
around and most even went shopping. Went to a few stores. Got a few things. And you got a robe. A
pineapple. Yes. The best purchase he's ever made in his whole life. So soft and comfortable. And I love it.
Big fluffy chubby robe. As soon as we get done with this I'm putting it on. And it was like
40 percent off. It was only like 30 bucks too. You can't beat it at all. It's big and fluffy.
I'm sure you'll be seeing it in him in it many a time because he lives in it now. This is where I
live this winter. She found it at first and she was like this is your Christmas present. Don't look at it.
And then he was like I'm not going to wear that. Just so you know. And I'm like I will. She's even
said she's going to go back and get it because she'll wear it. It's the best purchase ever. So he
grabbed it and yeah we went shopping and hung out and then as always it was time to get to the
freaking hotel. Yeah or get to get to the hotel to get back. This was the first time in a long time.
We had we got ready and had time to take pictures and do a couple of TikToks. That's true. We were
and we weren't in a rush. Like we were ready to go before the Uber. The thing with them is that they
always order an Uber like seven thirty seven forty five. So it's like we got to be on our on our stuff
because they schedule it. Usually we're just like getting Uber whenever we're done and get ready.
And last time the Uber showed up early. We're like that's not our problem. Yeah.
But yeah. So I know I need to be on it because there's a time limit and I've been on it
last week and you were on like you were so good. I was excited about that dress. You were
looked amazing. You looked amazing too. The red was on. I was I'm glad we did red. That was it
was sharp. It was good. Everyone was in sequence. Yeah. Everybody was in sparkly. It was all
variations of my dress. All like greens and reds and blacks. It was good. But we went with a room
for a few and the mother motherfucking leaves which we love so much. And there was a couple
other people that we met that I don't think we can share their names. Yeah. We never asked. We
didn't ask before. Yeah. I'm not going to. But the whole group of us you've seen us together. We all
took pictures together and did all the things together. And yeah we went there and did our
normal went back got food and were disappointed by the food. So we went to go dance and had a good
time and hung out and did the normal trap thing. And yeah. And then bringing the new year on the
dance floor surrounded by all see I wasn't I wasn't sure because everyone for the most part
everyone stays in diamond with this crew. They mostly hung out on the couches for the most part
made out did all you know hung around did all the things and took pictures which I do love about
this group everyone. The first thing we do when we get there is everyone go to the back cigar
lounge to take pictures. Yeah. Yeah. The photo booth is the manager trap. She calls sick every
time we show up she knows where we'll be. She's like she calls it the photo studio. Here's the photo
studio. Everyone taking their pictures. That's what it's for. It's pretty. It's got like you'll be
doing tours tours for new people. So you take pictures and like this is a cigar lounge but
while these they're here it's the photo studio. So everyone takes pictures. And it's the only
private room. It's tucked away in the back. It's big enough to fit a lot of people. And you shut
the door and nobody's you can't get anybody in the background and it's a safe place to take pictures
with everybody. And it's also got a cool like vibe and background school. The wall's cool.
The bell you know the whole vibe is cool. So we take pictures. The first thing we do and get there
because they understand it's like hurting cats. You can't get anybody all together after you know
you wait like 10 minutes and it's too late. So you've got to immediately as soon as we get there
we go back there and take pictures which I love because I'm really bad at taking pictures. I'm
horrible at it believe it or not. And so it's good to just get it done get it over with while we still
look good. All our clothes are on. Everybody's ready and then we're done. The girls are like all
right let's go get the pictures for my makeup gets messed up. Yeah. Yeah. We're all fresh ready to go.
We just got there. It's still early usually when we get there. It's like eight o'clock so it's kind
of quiet. There's no one there yet so getting it over with and then then we can don't worry about
it. We can put our phones in our lockers and keep them there and don't worry about it. So but it's
good to have memories and I love these pictures that we've been taking and I appreciate it because
I've been there so many times and not taken one picture or had a memory of it. So yeah it's a
good it's fun. Yeah. And then yeah I wasn't sure I wasn't sure if I should have changed into my
lingerie or kept my dress on for the new year. I was torn. I was like I don't know and then everybody
else was torn so I wore my dress the whole way till the new year. You did. Everyone else gave up
except me I think. I was the only one in a dress but and then I was like are we doing this in the
Diamond Club? Are we doing this out in the main floor? We just we made I think we. I was like we're
going to the main floor. I think we kind of led the. Yeah. I was like everyone needs to go and one
place. We need to all be together. Yeah so we went to the dance floor at the very least like we'll
just do it with a big. I knew they'd be like confetti or I'd be dropping and everything
that'd be going on when the dance floor. That's where it's gonna go down. We went out there and we were dancing
right before the ball dropped. They started doing my line dancing. They started doing my line
dancing so I was already out there. As soon as like it was three minutes till midnight. We were like where's everybody at?
Everybody's like. Everybody starts flocking around. And then you're like oh there they are like where are
the motherfucking leaves? Everybody's like oh here you are. There's the room for a few. We're like trying to
find all our faces and make sure because it was packed. I mean there was a lot of people there and
I started bawling like a fucking baby. Yeah you're like I love it here. Like my heart I don't think you
guys understand how much this lifestyle means to me. Like this is my heart. My passion. This is everything
and every it it just. Well I think the first New Year's we've had where it's been more than just us
and the energy was so positive. Everyone was so happy. Everyone just looked around and everyone was so
excited to be there. So happy. Living their best life and it was the best group of humans ever to
celebrate the New Year's Eve. It was so good. So good. I cried and cried. I couldn't stop crying. I was
we. But I love it. It was the first. This year was the first year we didn't go out and celebrate our
anniversary because I had to work. But we did not. Did not miss our 15th New Year's kiss. No. No that's
even before we like got to Atlanta. I was like we have the only rule. I don't care what's going on.
Where you're at. What we're doing. We're stopping and we're going to kiss at midnight. We've never
missed a kiss ever. So we're not going to start. Yeah you said that and I'm like yeah. I'm like
wait a minute. Like when are we ever separated. I don't know. Just in case. Just in case it happens.
I can respect the plating for. Well I don't care who you're fucking what you're doing. Like you're
stopping it. You're coming and finding me. Because we have to kiss. And that was my only rule for the
night. Other than flirting and kissing and doing stuff. We didn't actually fuck. Yeah we left early.
Pretty early. Pretty early. For us. Shortly after the New Year. Yeah for us. I changed my
lingerie and then they're like okay we're going back to the hotel. Because that's where the real
fun has been happening. So we got an Uber with all of France. You got shoved in the trunk again. I
didn't even put clothes on. I just wore my lingerie. I didn't have a jacket. I had a petticoat.
Yeah you did have your red. I didn't bother. I was like come on let's go do this now.
We were ready. Everyone was ready. We were so ready. We were counting down the days from the
last time we saw these people. It was funny. We got back to the hotel and we got in the motherfucking
Lee's room. And then we started thinking about it. And we're not a quiet group when we start
these things. And we thought we had a block more. But they had put a family. Like in between rooms.
Next to them. So we were like alright who's got a line of rooms in this group that are all lifestyle.
And we were right in the middle of everything. So we hosted this time. Which we don't do very
often. We got two cream beds. But the hotel we stayed at this time. The rooms were so tiny.
Yeah. Teeny teeny tiny. Like a dorm room style. At one time we had 20 people in our room. Yeah at
least. It was a lot. That was the number I got. What did you even count? The room for a few.
Husband. Yeah. He's like I just counted 20. I need to start counting. Cause people always.
I'm like yeah. Cause it was packed. It's always 20. 20 seems to be like the magic number for us
anymore. It's like 10 couples. Like it's nothing. That's our norm though. We only do like 20.
It's fine. It's just a small group of 20. But there's some new people in there. Yeah.
Some really hot people in there. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We've found some.
Quite a few hot friends lately that we've been hanging around and I'm pretty sad about it.
It was funny cause everybody like. So we switched to our room. We put the wet blankets down on the
beds. Which didn't last very long. They got pushed off with all the commotion. But what's funny to me
is everybody's just kind of standing around talking cause no one. We're all standing around being
awkward cause no one. Like I said earlier. That getting started part is the hardest part.
The wife of the motherfucking Lee's. This is like all right. And she just laid down on the bed
and she's like I'm ready. And so I laid down with her. She's like Russ understands the assignment.
Come on fuckers. And then I was on and then everybody's like yeah. And it was hot. And the
next morning picked up so many kind of rappers. Oh my god. I've never seen so many condoms in my
entire life ever. Like I've done. We've done a lot of these. We've had a lot of. We love group play.
Group play is like our thing. It's our king. We love group play. I never have seen this many
condoms ever. We were just spending. We spent like the at least 30 minutes just cleaning up
condoms and wrappers and wipes and everyone was using all the things. Thankfully I had a whole
bag of all the loops and things because they were putting it to good use. People were having fun. We
had fun. We were out shopping and stuff with Davey and Lauren. I remembered. We stopped. Oh crap.
Yeah. I need more condoms. And so because we had six, which is normally. Yeah, that'd be fine.
Fine. I wasn't even planning on hosting a room, but like usually for a night six is
that means I've been with the six different ones.
I mean, like I said, my husband is not used to being left out, but not me. I don't use this condom,
but anyways, I'm like, oh crap, I better. We went through that entire box of condoms.
I mean, and I put them out. I'm like, oh, here we go. And I buy the latex free because I don't
want anybody. Yeah. There's a lot of people with late allergies and stuff. So I made sure they were
on the nightstand in between the beds and they were gone. There was not one kind of not one.
And the condoms that were in our bag were gone. Like you bunch of sluts. I love it. I love it.
This crew knows how to get down. They know how to have fun. I got to suck all the penises. That's
all. That's all. We finally got to meet and hang out with a couple that we started talking to,
but then they had real life stuff going on for their lives. So we really just, they weren't
radio silent because they had to. Yeah. And what we understand. Yeah. Completely. That's what we
talked about that. I'm like, no, we get it. Like we're that usually. Yeah. Usually that's us. Yeah.
Usually we're the ones that, you know, kind of accidentally goes to people. We don't require
much attention. We just check in here and there when we, when we can. But we met then she was,
oh, I loved her. So he is. Yeah. Yeah. He was fun. He was fun. So we got to play with them finally.
Finally. And she likes it. They like it rough. Yeah. Which we love. Which we like. If you like
it rough, we're usually, we're probably going to connect pretty well. And then of course we had
the motherfucking Lees and the room for a few. And we love all of them so much. But I didn't realize
this. We are Unicorn friend that's usually in this group with us. She was in our room. I didn't, she
didn't play at all. I didn't even realize it at the time. I didn't either. Cause I was seeing on like
the pad Facebook. Oh yeah. I did see that. I saw that. I saw she's like mother nature. That was in our group.
Yeah. Say, oh, like new year. It was like a new year's thing. And body count starts. Body count restarts.
And people are commenting on it. It's like, well, it lasted like an hour. Hour and a half. Yeah. But the one.
Yeah. She said, she said mother nature made sure that I didn't, I didn't restart or whatever. Yeah.
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yeah, I assume she was playing. When you're in that situation, you're focused on what you're going
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Yeah, it's coming. So he's been planning a surprise birthday party. So that's not so much a surprise
anymore. All right. So I reached out to, I made a group text with me and four other husbands of
close friends of ours. And I said, Hey, I have this Airbnb. I want to book it for Ashley's birthday
on, you know, like the 24th through the 26th. It's five days a week. And I'm like, Hey, I'm
like, it's five bedrooms. They're all adult beds. There's not, it's not what those air babies were.
It's like this room's bunk bed. Yeah. Like they're all like real bedrooms. And they have, it has,
there's a hot tub at the house, private. And it's a few minutes away from trapeze. And it's only a few
minutes away from trapeze. I'm like, how about we, which is hard to find. Like are you guys, it's
everybody down and they're like, we're down. Let's do that Ashley. And so I got funny stories with
this, but we, I planned it, I booked it and I forgot that that Airbnb account is linked to that
hot couple in GA email address. And as soon as I booked it, I saw the email and I'm not an email
person. I'm not a notification person. It's just ruined. So I sent you a text and I'm like, why are
you so, you just saw it, but yeah, we have a group go out of house for your birthday. I didn't see it.
I just like, I don't get any notifications on my phone. I turned everything off. I don't get any of that.
I'm like, I just sent them face palm emoji. I'm like my bad. But now I know. And I'm so excited.
We're spending Friday through Sunday with them. And it's like, you couldn't have handpicked a better,
like you did perfect with the group of people and everyone gets along. Everyone's super close. Yeah.
I was pretty, it was a good group. Everybody knows each other. And I still need to reach out to like
other friends saying, we're going to be at trapeze. Yes. But so if you want to come trapeze, we're
celebrating my birthday, January 25th. We want everybody there. All of our friends there. So it's
going to be fun. But so in this process of the last few weeks, like where I nailed down the house,
I was trying to plan everything with trap and with everything going on, I made, I started with
just the husbands. And then I said, well, since the cat's out of the bag,
go ahead and add your wives to this group. And it was like hurting cats. As soon as we got,
like the guys were all like straight to the point, we're in this and that. As soon as we got you girls
in there, and this is before I added, I was like, I'm going to keep Ashley out of it so we can still
plan as a big group, but still keep some sort of surprise. And it was like hurting cats. And it
wasn't five minutes into this group text with these other eight people that you start seeing nudes,
but whole but whole penises and boots, like it was just a great added me to it. And my phone
glitched so hard trying to get all the pictures. I was trying to delegate some volunteers to help
me because they live. So I don't have to do everything myself. And it was like, they're
it being flirty and funny and this and that. And I'm like, so I need I'm being like the moderator.
I'm like, what kind of cake shops are around you? This and that. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like looking
about whole first. Yeah, exactly. I like. OK. So I said to text to the group. I'm like, all right.
So this got a lot spicier than I was expecting. I'm adding Ashley just for transparency.
And I call it the smut group text. It was originally it was just actually birthday. Now it's smut.
But yeah, I'm like, I don't think anything. I actually did this. But yeah, I'm like any
planning things like I'll just text you directly. I've never had a birthday like this before ever.
But yeah. But also, I was hesitant doing this because we also have other friends with the same
birthday. Everyone has the same birthday as me and everyone we were invited for the type of thing to
with another group of friends. And I had to send her a text message to be like, hey, this is why I
have responded. I feel so bad. I didn't like I love you both. But I also want actually to feel
celebrated. I want I want everybody to feel celebrated because everybody deserves to feel
celebrated on the birthday. But I also feel that if we had the same air and be with you two, it's
hard to balance two people's birthdays, you know, in the same house. We can celebrate everyone at
that club. Yeah. And that way it still is you feel celebrated yourself and then we can celebrate
together. So that was my thought. And like I felt I didn't I was struggling with it for. Oh, yeah. I
still struggle. I'm still struggling because I mean, it's not just like her. It's a lot of people all
share the same. That's actually how this group text started with the guys, because I was looking
for some type of like guidance because I was back and forth back and forth. And they're like, you're
in a tough spot. I'm like, but also like, there's quite a few like also I want everybody to feel
celebrated. I don't want to hurt their feelings because I care about them. But also you are my
priority. So I need that's why I ended up like I'm needed to focus on you. It's there. I hate to say
it, but their emotions aren't my that's their husband's responsibility, which I don't know.
I felt a certain way and I'm still struggling with it a little bit. I do feel guilt because I
feel like I don't want to steal their thunder. But I unfortunately, for some reason, share a birthday
with everyone in the world. Like even my best friend is a few days before mine and we all have
and like hers the day after it's or the same day as my share of the same day with multiple people
that I know. So it's always been a group party. It's always been a group birthday. I've never had
like a birthday weekend. So it's that's why I know that. That's why I was trying to get you.
And we tried to do this. I tried to do this a couple of years ago, like trap. Yeah. And
you're still sharing a birthday with the guy. I'm like, so Bella and Ashley's birthday. I just
wanted to be Ashley's birthday. I wasn't expecting it because I just assumed we would all be together.
All the birthday girls like we always do and do that. But I wasn't expecting this, but I'm
really excited. So it's going to be good. Yeah, it's going to be so much fun. We're all playing.
Everyone meshes. We're all planning to bring games and stuff because Friday night's going to be chill.
I'm excited about that. I'm getting some stuff together. And I think we're just going to be
hanging out at the house and chill. That's what I'm like most excited about. It's just like having time to just
not have an agenda or time or anything. It's going to be fun. That's my favorite thing. They're just,
everybody with the thing at the house with is so chill. Everyone meshes so good together.
Everybody gets together. Yeah, they all. Yeah. It's chemistry. I'm so excited for your birthday.
It's going to be like my birthday too. I'm so excited. I just get to play in this one.
Yeah, it's going to be fun. I'm excited. But then this weekend I will be at Trappie's again. I have
lots of Trappie's time. He has to work, unfortunately. Yeah, I have to work. So this is going to be a solo
trip for me. I would love to go to this one because life is spice. Everyone's going to be there.
And a lot of our friends are going to be there. Crack and Beards are going to be there. And they
have been seeing them in a year and a half or so. And we are super, super close with them. I mean, we talk.
You and her talk. All the time. And they're expecting a baby boy. And so this will be their
last hurrah before he gets here. And so I'm really excited to see that. And I'm so excited for them.
Yeah, because they've been trying to. Oh my gosh, she's been trying to have a baby for such a long
time. Yeah, so I'm excited for them. This is like their last hurrah. So cannot wait. But there's
something so many people and friends that we've made along the road. And I'm also having really
high anxieties about it. And there's some people there I haven't seen in a long time as well. So
yeah, navigating that. Plus it's supposed to snow and we have to drive to Atlanta and he has to go
to work. The snow this year is bullshit. That's freaking ridiculous. So like how does it snow in 20 years?
Well, guess what? We live here now. So sorry. You're welcome. But that's us. That's our fault.
But also it's not. I mean, we are going to be fine. We know how to navigate in a dusting of snow,
but it's everyone else panicking that I'm worried about. And Atlanta, being in Atlanta and driving
Atlanta. Oh my gosh, I'm so anxious. We're going to close down the state if it snows. We're going to
close the state down. I don't know. I'm anxious about it. I mean, luckily it's happening Friday
and the club and everything's happening Saturday. So we do have that. That'll be okay. It's going to
be in the forties on Saturday. So it should be long gone and fine. But I'm an anxious kind of girl.
So I'm just having anxieties. There's some things. I don't know. I'm just, I don't know. I think
there's going to be so many people there that I'm worried that I won't have anyone to hang out with,
which is so weird. I don't know if anyone's going to want to hang out with me because there's so
other options. You told me that earlier. I'm like, that's ridiculous. Especially without you.
You're my partner in crime. I think that's really what it's about is because, you know,
you won't have to. I'm going to feel lonely no matter how many people are there just because
they're not there. It's not the same, but I do think I want to support Spices. They're our people.
Yeah. Rider dies. Like we love them so much and they're hosting with Pinellas After Dark.
And yeah, Swing Nation. We've known the Spices for like four, five years. We've known them for a long
time. Swing Nation. We've known them for that long and we've known and we're really close with
Pinellas After Dark now. And so it's all their night. So I'm like, I really want to be there to
support everybody. And it's within, like I can do it. I have nothing going on. I can get there. I
have it all planned out, all worked out. It just, I get anxious. I get anxious sometimes.
Yeah, what happens?
I've been anxious about it all.
Yeah.
So we shall see.
But do you have anything other than April?
Um, nope. That's all we have.
Well, they haven't announced it yet, but they're planning something it looks like for Pad.
Yeah, Pad just put out like a little teaser thing and it's all green, shamrock.
Shamrock. So we're assuming it's St. Patrick's Day.
Which is your birthday weekend.
Which is my birthday weekend.
So it's a Russ weekend. Joke's on them. They didn't even know it.
They didn't even know it.
It's your birthday weekend now.
So that's happening.
We just informed them that is that. But yeah, keep an eye on that on all the socials.
Get on the playground. All that's going to be below. Get on there.
Yeah.
That's where all of these friends and people are.
You'll be at Trap the 11th and I'll put the, your birthday night at Trap on there.
25th, come out. Both nights. Come out the 11th, come out the 25th.
Come hang out. Come hang out on Trap Ease.
It's going to be a great group of people.
Let's go celebrate the spices this weekend and then let's go celebrate.
That's what I'm excited about. Celebrating you on the 25th.
Like I'm excited.
Don't say it like that.
No, I just want to have fun with my friends. I just want to hang out with my friends.
I want it to be all about that.
And we're doing pink.
Figuring out Trap Ease on the 25th do pink because pink, I'm a pink whore.
Pink and rose gold is my...
I'm making everybody out of your car pink.
I've already done it.
Yeah. I don't think they're too excited.
They're being good jams about it, but pink is my obsession.
Well, I think a couple girls already bought dresses for Trap for that Saturday night, the 25th.
And they weren't pink.
But then like we weren't planning on going...
A lot of them were not planning on going on the 11th for a spice night.
So I'll just wear that dress for the spice night on the 11th.
And then I'll get a pink dress for your birthday.
A pink slut.
Ah, the pink. That's my obsession.
So I am super excited about that.
But yeah, come the 11th of January and the 25th of January to Trap Ease Atlanta.
Come join us.
It's going to be such a good time both weekends.
You can't go wrong with either group of people.
It's going to be packed out this weekend.
This weekend is going to be packed.
Packed out.
So make sure you get there early, especially if you want to upgrade.
But it's going to be insane.
It's going to be a good time.
It is.
It's a good crew.
Going to be fun.
Yeah, that's it.
We're out of time.
We are way over time.
But...
Are we?
Yeah.
Oh, we're going to need to...
So fun.
This was a quick one.
Oh, we had a lot to talk about because we haven't been on here for so long.
Yeah.
We need to catch you guys up on our life.
But next Wednesday, I am doing a solo episode all about my problems.
Don't put it like that.
Don't say it like that.
We're going to talk about having chronic illness and my journey with dealing with HS
and being in the lifestyle and all of that.
You'll find out what that is and more about it and everything.
And it's just me.
So hopefully you like it.
I don't know.
We're going to try.
We're going to try some different topics.
I know a few people actually have it as well and have chronic illness.
So we've had women come up to you and talk about it.
And we wanted to share a little bit about me because it's a huge, huge, huge part of
me and explains a little bit about my body and what you might see here.
But hopefully it resonates with people and it's not too bad.
It was weird trying to record it by myself and not having somebody to bounce off of or
keep me on track or I don't know, a lot of rambling.
Yeah.
If you like, you're talking to yourself.
She's just winging it over here.
But hopefully you enjoyed a little bit.
But yeah, that's next week.
And until then, I will talk to you next Wednesday.
Yeah.
We'll be here for a while now.
But as always, as always, it's not that serious.
Don't make it weird.
We love you guys.
Bye.