1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:01,640 Welcome to Hot Couple Chronicles, 2 00:00:01,640 --> 00:00:04,240 a podcast exploring the swinging lifestyle. 3 00:00:04,240 --> 00:00:06,440 Our discussions may contain explicit content 4 00:00:06,440 --> 00:00:09,440 and adult themes intended for mature audiences. 5 00:00:09,440 --> 00:00:11,920 While we strive to offer valuable insights and entertainment, 6 00:00:11,920 --> 00:00:13,820 please be aware that the views expressed 7 00:00:13,820 --> 00:00:16,860 are based on personal experiences and opinions. 8 00:00:16,860 --> 00:00:19,120 We encourage listeners to approach the content 9 00:00:19,120 --> 00:00:21,800 with an open mind and to prioritize communication, 10 00:00:21,800 --> 00:00:25,000 consent, and respect in their relationships. 11 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:26,680 Remember everyone's journey is unique, 12 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:29,280 so take what resonates with you and leave what doesn't. 13 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:31,380 Thank you for joining us on this adventure. 14 00:00:31,380 --> 00:00:32,380 Oh. 15 00:00:32,380 --> 00:00:33,380 Oh. 16 00:00:33,380 --> 00:00:34,380 Oh. 17 00:00:34,380 --> 00:00:35,380 Oh. 18 00:00:35,380 --> 00:00:36,380 Oh. 19 00:00:36,380 --> 00:00:37,380 Oh. 20 00:00:37,380 --> 00:00:38,380 Oh. 21 00:00:38,380 --> 00:00:39,380 Oh. 22 00:00:39,380 --> 00:00:40,380 Oh. 23 00:00:40,380 --> 00:00:41,380 Oh. 24 00:00:41,380 --> 00:00:42,380 Oh. 25 00:00:42,380 --> 00:00:43,380 Oh. 26 00:00:43,380 --> 00:00:44,380 Oh. 27 00:00:44,380 --> 00:00:45,380 Oh. 28 00:00:45,380 --> 00:00:46,380 Oh. 29 00:00:46,380 --> 00:00:47,380 Oh. 30 00:00:47,380 --> 00:00:48,380 Oh. 31 00:00:48,380 --> 00:00:49,380 Oh. 32 00:00:49,380 --> 00:00:50,380 Oh. 33 00:00:50,380 --> 00:00:51,380 Oh. 34 00:00:51,380 --> 00:00:52,380 Oh. 35 00:00:52,380 --> 00:00:53,380 I'm Russ. 36 00:00:53,380 --> 00:00:54,380 And I'm Ashley. 37 00:00:54,380 --> 00:00:57,480 And this is Hot Couple Chronicles. 38 00:00:57,480 --> 00:00:58,480 Happy Wednesday. 39 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:02,800 Welcome back to us again. 40 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:03,800 Us again. 41 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:04,800 It's been a week. 42 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:05,800 A whole week. 43 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:06,800 It's been a whole week. 44 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:07,800 It's been a whole weekend. 45 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:12,680 We had pretty much a copy-paste of last weekend. 46 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:14,480 We just had different people this time. 47 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:16,400 Yeah, we had the Orgrant couple this weekend. 48 00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:21,760 Yeah, we had some close friends of ours go and they all live a little too far. 49 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:24,680 They live three, four, five plus hours. 50 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:28,800 So we just had them here all weekend and it was a good time. 51 00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:30,080 We did a whole lot of nothing. 52 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:31,080 It was pretty good. 53 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:32,080 Yeah. 54 00:01:32,080 --> 00:01:33,080 It was pretty good. 55 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:34,080 We went to the museum. 56 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:36,360 Yeah, we relaxed a lot. 57 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:37,360 And then ate a lot. 58 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:38,360 Ate a lot. 59 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:39,360 We ate a lot. 60 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:40,360 Yeah, we had a lot of fires. 61 00:01:40,360 --> 00:01:41,360 Hung out on the back porch. 62 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:42,360 We did go out for dinner once. 63 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:43,360 A lot, yeah. 64 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:44,360 Yeah, Friday we went out to dinner. 65 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:47,360 We went to a new restaurant that we haven't been to. 66 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:49,360 It just opened. 67 00:01:49,360 --> 00:01:54,480 And then we had a couple drinks, came right home and ate some more food and sat by the 68 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:59,960 fire and watched TV and watched some football Sunday and ate again on Saturday. 69 00:01:59,960 --> 00:02:02,000 I had an accident. 70 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:06,400 Yeah, yeah, he was slicing vegetables for a tray. 71 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:07,400 Yeah. 72 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:08,400 Making sense. 73 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:10,280 I had a little mishap with the mandolin. 74 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:12,280 They're no joke. 75 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:13,280 Everybody be careful if you got a mandolin. 76 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:17,120 Well, with his finger out, we thought he was just... 77 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:20,560 I thought he just cut himself with a knife because he does that every time he cooks pretty 78 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:21,560 much. 79 00:02:21,560 --> 00:02:22,560 Easy now. 80 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:25,560 It happens pretty much every time he cooks. 81 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:26,560 So that's pretty normal. 82 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:27,560 It happens. 83 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:32,560 I didn't realize how much he took off until he brought it to the back porch to show it. 84 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:34,560 Yeah, it was a big old chunk of finger. 85 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:35,560 It just got bleeding. 86 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:36,560 It was horrible. 87 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:37,560 Yeah, it's an open wound. 88 00:02:37,560 --> 00:02:38,560 Anyways, he was... 89 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:43,560 Yeah, that's why his finger's all clipped up, wrapped up. 90 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:46,560 This is a smaller bandage than what it was. 91 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:47,560 It was pretty big. 92 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:48,560 I didn't have it pretty... 93 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:49,560 It's finally... 94 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:50,560 The bleeding's gone. 95 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:52,560 It's finally under control. 96 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:55,560 Yeah, we went to the museum and just relaxed. 97 00:02:55,560 --> 00:02:58,560 It was a good friend weekend, good night weekend. 98 00:02:58,560 --> 00:03:00,560 Now we're here again. 99 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:01,560 It's starting to get busy. 100 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:02,560 It's holiday season. 101 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:03,560 It's coming. 102 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:05,560 I can feel it in my bones. 103 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:07,560 Time is flying now all of a sudden. 104 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:08,560 So fast. 105 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:09,560 Time is going so quickly. 106 00:03:09,560 --> 00:03:10,560 Today we are here. 107 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:11,560 We are going to talk about... 108 00:03:11,560 --> 00:03:12,560 We're going to bring it all the way back. 109 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:15,560 We're going to rewind to the very beginning because I feel like we need to cover a lot 110 00:03:15,560 --> 00:03:18,560 of topics that we skipped forward and skipped through. 111 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:21,560 This one's going to be all about joining the lifestyle and becoming a swinger. 112 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:22,560 How does that even go about? 113 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:27,560 This one's for the newbies, the new people that are interested in joining the lifestyle. 114 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:31,560 We'll just throw around that conversation and how to even get started, how to... 115 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:33,560 We literally get asked this question. 116 00:03:33,560 --> 00:03:34,560 Every single day. 117 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:36,560 15 times a day. 118 00:03:36,560 --> 00:03:39,560 That's why I keep telling you we need to do an episode about this because we need to just 119 00:03:39,560 --> 00:03:43,560 talk about all the things and then be able to refer people back to it later. 120 00:03:43,560 --> 00:03:48,560 So this will be the episode that everyone comes back to, how to join the lifestyle. 121 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:50,560 And we're going to talk more about that. 122 00:03:50,560 --> 00:03:56,560 And yeah, last week we talked about body positivity and kind of pretty much our journey. 123 00:03:56,560 --> 00:03:57,560 It ended up being... 124 00:03:57,560 --> 00:03:58,560 It goes so fast. 125 00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:01,560 Time goes so quickly that it ended up really just being our story. 126 00:04:01,560 --> 00:04:06,560 And I plan on doing more about that and touching more about body positivity and confidence 127 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:07,560 a little bit later. 128 00:04:07,560 --> 00:04:08,560 I think it resonates with a lot of people though. 129 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:11,560 Like even just if we talk about our story, people usually can. 130 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:14,560 Like at least someone can relate to it. 131 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:15,560 That's all that matters. 132 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:18,560 If someone, one person, that helps one person. 133 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:19,560 I tell myself every day. 134 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:20,560 I'm good. 135 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:21,560 How I keep going. 136 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:22,560 That's why I'm still here. 137 00:04:22,560 --> 00:04:23,560 Yeah. 138 00:04:23,560 --> 00:04:25,560 We're going to start out talking about that. 139 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:28,560 But first, the simple question of what is the lifestyle? 140 00:04:28,560 --> 00:04:29,560 What is a swinger? 141 00:04:29,560 --> 00:04:30,560 What is... 142 00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:31,560 What is a swinger? 143 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:32,560 What is that? 144 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:34,560 In my opinion, in my own words. 145 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:35,560 Yeah. 146 00:04:35,560 --> 00:04:36,560 In your words. 147 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:46,560 It is a alternative relationship model where you can centrally having physical... 148 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:47,560 Sex. 149 00:04:47,560 --> 00:04:48,560 Yeah. 150 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:52,560 Physical or sexual interactions with other consenting adults. 151 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:53,560 Yep. 152 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:54,560 Pretty much. 153 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:55,560 Pretty much. 154 00:04:55,560 --> 00:04:59,560 And lifestyle pretty much is an umbrella term that we all use because... 155 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:01,560 Mostly because people hate the word swinger. 156 00:05:01,560 --> 00:05:02,560 Yeah. 157 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:03,560 It's an aque word for a lot of people. 158 00:05:03,560 --> 00:05:04,560 Yeah. 159 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:10,560 And it encompasses the lifestyle, the life of a swinger and everything that includes 160 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:11,560 being a swinger. 161 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:12,560 Yeah. 162 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:13,560 And it's... 163 00:05:13,560 --> 00:05:16,560 Honestly, for most people we know it really is just a better word. 164 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:17,560 Yeah. 165 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:20,560 L.S. lifestyle, E&M, Z&M, they're all... 166 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:21,560 They all mean pretty much the same thing. 167 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:22,560 Yeah. 168 00:05:22,560 --> 00:05:26,560 They're all just different terms that we use to define swinger because swinger is an aque 169 00:05:26,560 --> 00:05:27,560 word. 170 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:29,560 And then what the lifestyle is not a reason just to cheat on people. 171 00:05:29,560 --> 00:05:31,560 That is definitely a huge physical... 172 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:34,560 It's definitely not the lifestyle that is not what it is. 173 00:05:34,560 --> 00:05:36,560 It has nothing to do with cheating. 174 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:37,560 It has nothing... 175 00:05:37,560 --> 00:05:43,560 It's all consensual, all communicated and all agreed upon prior to anything ever. 176 00:05:43,560 --> 00:05:44,560 Oh, yeah. 177 00:05:44,560 --> 00:05:49,560 And most people we talk to, it's months prior. 178 00:05:49,560 --> 00:05:50,560 They talk about it for... 179 00:05:50,560 --> 00:05:51,560 Oh, yeah. 180 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:52,560 Years. 181 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:53,560 There's people that... 182 00:05:53,560 --> 00:05:54,560 Yeah. 183 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:55,560 For a long time. 184 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:58,560 Before they even dip their toes into it, they talk about it, fantasize about it. 185 00:05:58,560 --> 00:05:59,560 Yeah. 186 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:03,560 And then eventually just take the plunge and just see what... 187 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:05,560 Go to a club, go to an event. 188 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:09,560 Another misconception is it's not a reason just to have sex with everyone. 189 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:11,560 That's not how it goes. 190 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:12,560 It's not what it is. 191 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:13,560 It's not how it is. 192 00:06:13,560 --> 00:06:17,560 It's not just a free for all, whatever, all the time, anything. 193 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:18,560 Yeah. 194 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:20,560 It's not an excuse to just have sex. 195 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:25,560 That is a big one because we've talked to a lot of people that think... 196 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:28,560 Are afraid to go to a club because they think... 197 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:31,560 They assume that you have to have sex when you walk in the door. 198 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:32,560 Or a party or... 199 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:33,560 Yeah. 200 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:34,560 They assume that you have to... 201 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:35,560 Completely. 202 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:38,560 They just strip down naked and have sex immediately as soon as you walk in. 203 00:06:38,560 --> 00:06:43,560 You don't think it can be as evolved or not evolved as you like what you're comfortable 204 00:06:43,560 --> 00:06:44,560 with. 205 00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:47,560 And a club is just a regular club with playrooms. 206 00:06:47,560 --> 00:06:53,560 Other than that, it's 100% just a nightclub that you see porn on the TV. 207 00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:54,560 That's scary. 208 00:06:54,560 --> 00:06:58,560 Everybody is always so terrified to go to a club and then different benefits of being 209 00:06:58,560 --> 00:06:59,560 in the lifestyle. 210 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:02,560 What would you say are some of the benefits? 211 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:04,560 The arc communication. 212 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:05,560 Yeah. 213 00:07:05,560 --> 00:07:10,560 Being able to explore with your partner. 214 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:11,560 Yeah. 215 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:12,560 With fellow fantasies. 216 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:13,560 Yeah. 217 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:14,560 Fuck it, Liz. 218 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:20,560 And just travel too and just spend time together is a good one, a big one. 219 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:27,560 And then, so it just...there's not many...most people you get married to, a lot of people, 220 00:07:27,560 --> 00:07:31,560 not most people, but a lot of people just give up on all of those fantasies. 221 00:07:31,560 --> 00:07:35,560 A lot of people have a lot of things that they fantasize about. 222 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:38,560 It's not normal to have fantasies about sex. 223 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:43,560 Also, really toxic relationship dynamics stem from that though. 224 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:50,560 Like resentment, a lot of men and women resort to porn to try and fulfill those fantasies. 225 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:51,560 Infidelity. 226 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:53,560 Yeah, I would say it that way. 227 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:55,560 They can't communicate. 228 00:07:55,560 --> 00:08:01,560 They can't talk about what they fantasize and what they really want in the bedroom or behind 229 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:02,560 closed doors with their partner. 230 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:06,560 So they look for another outlet to fulfill that. 231 00:08:06,560 --> 00:08:10,560 And then it just...it's a downward spiral. 232 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:17,560 It's a way to actually safely and consensually fulfill these things that you think about 233 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:19,560 and you dream about and you want. 234 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:25,560 Especially a lot of people are bisexual and have kind of, you know, or a different sexuality 235 00:08:25,560 --> 00:08:31,560 than heterosexual and they want to test it out and try it out and see how they like it 236 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:36,560 or try different things or explore that more when they weren't able to. 237 00:08:36,560 --> 00:08:40,560 And a lot of times when you get married, that's another thing that you just got to accept 238 00:08:40,560 --> 00:08:44,560 that you will probably never get to experience. 239 00:08:44,560 --> 00:08:47,560 In my case, like being with a woman or a man or for you. 240 00:08:47,560 --> 00:08:52,560 And again, then it leads to a lot of stuff like you were saying, resentment and stifled 241 00:08:52,560 --> 00:08:57,560 feelings and cheating affairs. 242 00:08:57,560 --> 00:09:00,560 Not be able to express yourself, period. 243 00:09:00,560 --> 00:09:02,560 Stems, resentment. 244 00:09:02,560 --> 00:09:09,560 And then also the lifestyle is about community and finding, meeting people that are just pretty awesome. 245 00:09:09,560 --> 00:09:11,560 People that we love. 246 00:09:11,560 --> 00:09:15,560 And the community is most of what we do. 247 00:09:15,560 --> 00:09:17,560 Most of the time. 248 00:09:17,560 --> 00:09:26,560 It's just a...in general, it's just an amazing group of people being their genuine true selves. 249 00:09:26,560 --> 00:09:30,560 They don't have to put up this facade of... 250 00:09:30,560 --> 00:09:32,560 As long as you go to an event... 251 00:09:32,560 --> 00:09:33,560 What they're supposed to do. 252 00:09:33,560 --> 00:09:35,560 You are a newbie, you will definitely...you'll see. 253 00:09:35,560 --> 00:09:37,560 You'll be like, oh, I'll get it. 254 00:09:37,560 --> 00:09:43,560 Everyone in the lifestyle knows that it is a fact that the best human beings in this world are in the lifestyle. 255 00:09:43,560 --> 00:09:44,560 For sure. 256 00:09:44,560 --> 00:09:45,560 Period. 257 00:09:45,560 --> 00:09:51,560 And luckily when we go to these events and clubs and stuff like that, we get to have them all in one room and all in one space. 258 00:09:51,560 --> 00:09:53,560 And it's pretty fucking amazing. 259 00:09:53,560 --> 00:09:54,560 That's one of my favorite things. 260 00:09:54,560 --> 00:09:56,560 It's the best humans. 261 00:09:56,560 --> 00:10:01,560 It's the community that we have and the people that have your back and love you and are there. 262 00:10:01,560 --> 00:10:08,560 And that is, for me, my number one favorite thing about being in the lifestyle at all. 263 00:10:08,560 --> 00:10:10,560 And the people that has brought us. 264 00:10:10,560 --> 00:10:13,560 And it's definitely taken to my life. 265 00:10:13,560 --> 00:10:14,560 Oh, yeah. 266 00:10:14,560 --> 00:10:15,560 Yeah. 267 00:10:15,560 --> 00:10:16,560 And enhanced. 268 00:10:16,560 --> 00:10:20,560 We definitely found some ride or dies. 269 00:10:20,560 --> 00:10:26,560 The people you can call at 3 a.m. for any reason whatsoever and they answer. 270 00:10:26,560 --> 00:10:29,560 Most of them because they don't sleep. 271 00:10:29,560 --> 00:10:33,560 And they're up all night and they're like, oh, that's the most reason. 272 00:10:33,560 --> 00:10:37,560 And then how do you decide if the lifestyle is right for you? 273 00:10:37,560 --> 00:10:44,560 And if that's something that you settle upon and think maybe that is something that you and yourself could be interested in? 274 00:10:44,560 --> 00:10:47,560 First step, within yourself, why? 275 00:10:47,560 --> 00:10:48,560 Why? 276 00:10:48,560 --> 00:10:49,560 You know? 277 00:10:49,560 --> 00:10:50,560 Yeah. 278 00:10:50,560 --> 00:10:53,560 What do you want to get out of these experiences? 279 00:10:53,560 --> 00:10:54,560 What do you want to explore more? 280 00:10:54,560 --> 00:10:55,560 Right. 281 00:10:55,560 --> 00:10:57,560 What are your bucket bucket lists? 282 00:10:57,560 --> 00:11:01,560 Like what are some fantasies and things that you want to do? 283 00:11:01,560 --> 00:11:05,560 Definitely sit back and think about what is it that intrigues you about this. 284 00:11:05,560 --> 00:11:09,560 That's where it really starts with a lot of people is it's a fantasy. 285 00:11:09,560 --> 00:11:16,560 And then once they have done, you've done your self reflecting, you've sat on it with your own self on the reasons why you would you're intrigued by this. 286 00:11:16,560 --> 00:11:19,560 The reasons why you want to approach your partner with this. 287 00:11:19,560 --> 00:11:20,560 The reasons why you might be interested. 288 00:11:20,560 --> 00:11:23,560 This might be something that you and your spouse might enjoy. 289 00:11:23,560 --> 00:11:26,560 Some of the reasons figure out your motivations. 290 00:11:26,560 --> 00:11:27,560 What are your motivations? 291 00:11:27,560 --> 00:11:28,560 What are your? 292 00:11:28,560 --> 00:11:32,560 What do you want more intimacy with your partner? 293 00:11:32,560 --> 00:11:34,560 Is it something like that? 294 00:11:34,560 --> 00:11:35,560 Is it something to do with your relationship? 295 00:11:35,560 --> 00:11:39,560 Is it more of exploring a variety of different people? 296 00:11:39,560 --> 00:11:40,560 Yeah. 297 00:11:40,560 --> 00:11:43,560 Is it curiosity about your sexuality? 298 00:11:43,560 --> 00:11:47,560 No, a sexuality thing or is it you're looking for a community of people. 299 00:11:47,560 --> 00:11:52,560 You just want to hang out naked and have like minded people surrounding you and just have friends. 300 00:11:52,560 --> 00:11:56,560 And or do you just want to have sex with as many people as you possibly can? 301 00:11:56,560 --> 00:11:57,560 And which is perfectly OK. 302 00:11:57,560 --> 00:12:01,560 Or do you just want to have sex with your partner and just have people around? 303 00:12:01,560 --> 00:12:02,560 Yeah. 304 00:12:02,560 --> 00:12:06,560 That's why I was saying like, do you want to make it more of an intimacy thing between you and your spouse? 305 00:12:06,560 --> 00:12:11,560 Is it more of you want to watch other people having sex with your spouse or do you want to have sex? 306 00:12:11,560 --> 00:12:13,560 Have people watching you have sex? 307 00:12:13,560 --> 00:12:16,560 Do you just want to be in a club environment with your spouse? 308 00:12:16,560 --> 00:12:20,560 Figure out what are your motivations on top of why? 309 00:12:20,560 --> 00:12:22,560 What is it that intrigues you about this? 310 00:12:22,560 --> 00:12:23,560 Why? 311 00:12:23,560 --> 00:12:29,560 Make sure that you've sat down on it for a second and think about why you. 312 00:12:29,560 --> 00:12:31,560 Why starting you on or why you're. 313 00:12:31,560 --> 00:12:38,560 Yeah, I think it's the self-reflection of what you want to get out of it and then talking to your partner about it. 314 00:12:38,560 --> 00:12:39,560 That comes next. 315 00:12:39,560 --> 00:12:44,560 But before you do that, I think you sit on it for a second and work through it and everything. 316 00:12:44,560 --> 00:12:48,560 And then the next step is talking to your partner about it. 317 00:12:48,560 --> 00:12:50,560 The next step, you've got to pull a plug. 318 00:12:50,560 --> 00:12:51,560 You've got to do it. 319 00:12:51,560 --> 00:12:53,560 Yeah, like you can't keep it a secret. 320 00:12:53,560 --> 00:12:56,560 Looking to add some excitement to your social life? 321 00:12:56,560 --> 00:13:03,560 Meet 3Fun, the free app that connects open-minded singles and couples for fun adventures with thousands of active users. 322 00:13:03,560 --> 00:13:08,560 3Fun is our ticket to new friendships, flirty encounters and unforgettable experiences. 323 00:13:08,560 --> 00:13:10,560 The best part, it's completely free to use. 324 00:13:10,560 --> 00:13:12,560 No hidden fees or subscription. 325 00:13:12,560 --> 00:13:13,560 Ready to join the fun? 326 00:13:13,560 --> 00:13:20,560 Download 3Fun app now from the App Store or Google Play Store and start connecting with like-minded individuals in your area. 327 00:13:20,560 --> 00:13:21,560 Don't miss out on the excitement. 328 00:13:21,560 --> 00:13:24,560 Find the link below and get started with 3Fun today. 329 00:13:29,560 --> 00:13:33,560 And then the next big step is going to your partner and talking to your partner about it. 330 00:13:33,560 --> 00:13:34,560 Pulling the plug. 331 00:13:34,560 --> 00:13:35,560 How do you know about that? 332 00:13:35,560 --> 00:13:40,560 I've heard a couple things like pillow talk after sex. 333 00:13:40,560 --> 00:13:43,560 Like talking about different fantasies and stuff like that. 334 00:13:43,560 --> 00:13:47,560 And how you would go about fulfilling those fantasies. 335 00:13:47,560 --> 00:13:52,560 Yeah, just as simple as what do you think about? 336 00:13:52,560 --> 00:13:57,560 Or I think it'd be hot to have sex next to other people having sex. 337 00:13:57,560 --> 00:13:58,560 Or not even that. 338 00:13:58,560 --> 00:14:03,560 Just have you ever seen anything about this? 339 00:14:03,560 --> 00:14:04,560 Yes. 340 00:14:04,560 --> 00:14:09,560 Or have you ever seen that there are couples that have sex with other couples? 341 00:14:09,560 --> 00:14:11,560 Have you ever heard of swangers? 342 00:14:11,560 --> 00:14:12,560 Have you ever heard of the lifestyle? 343 00:14:12,560 --> 00:14:14,560 Have you ever heard of upside down pineapples? 344 00:14:14,560 --> 00:14:15,560 What do you think about it? 345 00:14:15,560 --> 00:14:23,560 And then like now social media, just go send her or him a TikTok or Instagram reel or something and just what I'm saying. 346 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:24,560 A podcast. 347 00:14:24,560 --> 00:14:30,560 Yeah, or a podcast or episode highlight, like a highlight reel or something and just be like, so what do you think about that? 348 00:14:30,560 --> 00:14:31,560 I think it would be hot. 349 00:14:31,560 --> 00:14:33,560 Like just bring up that conversation. 350 00:14:33,560 --> 00:14:35,560 And send them some hints. 351 00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:38,560 Sometimes they need a few little breadcrumbs. 352 00:14:38,560 --> 00:14:40,560 Just, I don't know, this is interesting. 353 00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:48,560 The biggest concern I hear people is they're afraid their partner is going to feel inadequate. 354 00:14:48,560 --> 00:14:56,560 And that's never the case when people that are serious about getting into the lifestyle, they want to add some. 355 00:14:56,560 --> 00:14:57,560 We know that. 356 00:14:57,560 --> 00:14:58,560 But it's hard. 357 00:14:58,560 --> 00:15:07,560 We're basically blindsided by it, it's a knee jerk reaction to just automatically, I'm not enough. 358 00:15:07,560 --> 00:15:08,560 Something's wrong. 359 00:15:08,560 --> 00:15:09,560 It's because I'm not enough. 360 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:16,560 That's the biggest fear I have gathered from a lot of people that haven't brought this up. 361 00:15:16,560 --> 00:15:17,560 I'm not going to lie. 362 00:15:17,560 --> 00:15:22,560 I'm really glad that we found it together because I really don't know if I would have ever even, I don't know. 363 00:15:22,560 --> 00:15:25,560 It's never, it never was in my fantasy list. 364 00:15:25,560 --> 00:15:27,560 It was never even an option for me. 365 00:15:27,560 --> 00:15:28,560 I never even. 366 00:15:28,560 --> 00:15:29,560 I didn't even know it existed. 367 00:15:29,560 --> 00:15:32,560 I never thought about swinging. 368 00:15:32,560 --> 00:15:33,560 No, never. 369 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:37,560 Not even, it's weird, but not even really even a threesome. 370 00:15:37,560 --> 00:15:40,560 It was like when we got married, we were just married and our sex was us. 371 00:15:40,560 --> 00:15:42,560 It was very much just like that. 372 00:15:42,560 --> 00:15:44,560 I never really thought about threesomes. 373 00:15:44,560 --> 00:15:45,560 No. 374 00:15:45,560 --> 00:15:50,560 And I've had threesomes, I've had swaps and stuff since I was 17 years old. 375 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:55,560 And I never once even with you was like, oh yeah, this is something that we should do ever. 376 00:15:55,560 --> 00:15:58,560 Which I don't know, maybe down the road it would have maybe come up with. 377 00:15:58,560 --> 00:16:00,560 It's hard to, it's hard to. 378 00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:03,560 I always watch you like kiss girls. 379 00:16:03,560 --> 00:16:04,560 Yeah, I've always done. 380 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:07,560 I've always flirted with girls, kissed girls, everything, but it was never really. 381 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:10,560 I never even considered it. 382 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:12,560 Like, oh my gosh, you just kissing a girl. 383 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:14,560 Like it's, she's having fun. 384 00:16:14,560 --> 00:16:20,560 It was just very much like when the opportunity arises, he was always down for watching me kiss girls. 385 00:16:20,560 --> 00:16:21,560 Oh yeah. 386 00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:30,560 Just can't be sexing and flirty and playful and stuff, but never once was like, oh, let's go find another couple and swap partners or anything. 387 00:16:30,560 --> 00:16:31,560 I don't know. 388 00:16:31,560 --> 00:16:36,560 See, it's hard to say what would have came up or what would not have come up. 389 00:16:36,560 --> 00:16:46,560 I do know for a fact, I watch far less pornography nowadays than I did before we found lifestyle. 390 00:16:46,560 --> 00:16:58,560 So it tells me I am more satisfied now and that's saying maybe down the road I would have brought something up like I did with BDSM. 391 00:16:58,560 --> 00:17:00,560 You would have stumbled upon it maybe. 392 00:17:00,560 --> 00:17:02,560 But again, it's hard to say. 393 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:07,560 And again, I don't, I'm not sure how I would approach you with it. 394 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:13,560 I'm going to, that's why I'm giving out the tips for the things I would hope, I would think that I would do and different. 395 00:17:13,560 --> 00:17:15,560 We've heard so many different stories. 396 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:18,560 Try and say how I would want to be approached by it. 397 00:17:18,560 --> 00:17:31,560 And again, it's a weird awkward conversation at first, but you have to be able to have those weird awkward conversations in the lifestyle. 398 00:17:31,560 --> 00:17:34,560 That's just the first of many. 399 00:17:34,560 --> 00:17:43,560 If you go down this road, because you're going to have to get used to processing your emotions. 400 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:50,560 And then verbalizing those emotions in a unhurtful way to your partner. 401 00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:54,560 And then being able to receive those. 402 00:17:54,560 --> 00:18:04,560 And then after you've approached your partner and if that partner is completely turned off and upset and not okay with it, you have to respect that. 403 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:05,560 You have to be okay with that. 404 00:18:05,560 --> 00:18:07,560 You have to let them sit on that. 405 00:18:07,560 --> 00:18:15,560 You can't expect somebody like when you come to me out of the blue, they've never even mentioned this stuff about be like, okay, let's do it. 406 00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:16,560 Yeah. 407 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:17,560 There are people like that. 408 00:18:17,560 --> 00:18:20,560 There are a lot of us out there. 409 00:18:20,560 --> 00:18:22,560 But it takes some processing. 410 00:18:22,560 --> 00:18:27,560 And that some people are not, they're not going to ever be anonymous. 411 00:18:27,560 --> 00:18:28,560 It's okay. 412 00:18:28,560 --> 00:18:33,560 Sometimes you're like your spouse is just going to be an anonymous person and they want to be like that forever. 413 00:18:33,560 --> 00:18:34,560 And there's nothing wrong with that. 414 00:18:34,560 --> 00:18:35,560 That's one thing. 415 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:39,560 Hey, everybody thinks I'm trying to convince people to swing on social media all the time and doing this. 416 00:18:39,560 --> 00:18:41,560 And that's not the case whatsoever. 417 00:18:41,560 --> 00:18:49,560 I'm reaching the people that want to be reached and that I should be reached and that are curious about it and that are interested and they're looking for this. 418 00:18:49,560 --> 00:18:52,560 But I am definitely not trying to sell the lifestyle to anyone. 419 00:18:52,560 --> 00:18:54,560 Some people are never going to be non-monogamous. 420 00:18:54,560 --> 00:18:57,560 They're 100% be monogamous and okay with that. 421 00:18:57,560 --> 00:18:58,560 And that's fine. 422 00:18:58,560 --> 00:19:00,560 And no judgment. 423 00:19:00,560 --> 00:19:02,560 If your partner says no, that's a hard no. 424 00:19:02,560 --> 00:19:03,560 It's never going to happen. 425 00:19:03,560 --> 00:19:04,560 You have to respect that. 426 00:19:04,560 --> 00:19:13,560 And that's what we run into every single day is the wife or the husband saying, yeah, I see my spouse will never do it. 427 00:19:13,560 --> 00:19:15,560 I see it in the DMs all the time. 428 00:19:15,560 --> 00:19:17,560 From both the wife and the husband. 429 00:19:17,560 --> 00:19:18,560 How do I make her do it? 430 00:19:18,560 --> 00:19:19,560 How do I make him? 431 00:19:19,560 --> 00:19:20,560 How do I talk my... 432 00:19:20,560 --> 00:19:21,560 Yeah, talk them into it. 433 00:19:21,560 --> 00:19:22,560 Talk them into it. 434 00:19:22,560 --> 00:19:23,560 They said no. 435 00:19:23,560 --> 00:19:24,560 You don't talk them into it. 436 00:19:24,560 --> 00:19:26,560 And how do I get them to change their mind? 437 00:19:26,560 --> 00:19:28,560 And you can't. 438 00:19:28,560 --> 00:19:29,560 You can't. 439 00:19:29,560 --> 00:19:30,560 You cannot. 440 00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:32,560 You can keep talking about it. 441 00:19:32,560 --> 00:19:33,560 Open up the conversation. 442 00:19:33,560 --> 00:19:35,560 You can get down about it. 443 00:19:35,560 --> 00:19:38,560 Get uncomfortable and make it a real conversation. 444 00:19:38,560 --> 00:19:46,560 But in the end, if that person says no, this is not anything I'm ever going to be interested in and it's never going to happen, you have to sit on it for you. 445 00:19:46,560 --> 00:19:52,560 If it's that serious and you can without a doubt not be a monogamous person, then you have to... 446 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:54,560 That's a lot of work that you have to do. 447 00:19:54,560 --> 00:20:01,560 Self-work and decisions you have to make and stuff you have to sit on because that's also a thing where people just are not monogamous. 448 00:20:01,560 --> 00:20:04,560 They just can't be monogamous and that's also okay. 449 00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:05,560 And that's fine. 450 00:20:05,560 --> 00:20:10,560 But maybe I'm very big on be happy. 451 00:20:10,560 --> 00:20:11,560 Spend your life being happy. 452 00:20:11,560 --> 00:20:12,560 Right. 453 00:20:12,560 --> 00:20:13,560 And don't be unhappy. 454 00:20:13,560 --> 00:20:16,560 But regardless, you're going to have those hard conversations. 455 00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:17,560 That's what I mean. 456 00:20:17,560 --> 00:20:18,560 Yeah. 457 00:20:18,560 --> 00:20:24,560 Like even if it's that, if you're that serious about it and you feel like, you know, we can't do this. 458 00:20:24,560 --> 00:20:26,560 I can't be in this relationship. 459 00:20:26,560 --> 00:20:30,560 One, you can't use it as an ultimatum. 460 00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:31,560 Like it's not an ultimatum. 461 00:20:31,560 --> 00:20:32,560 This is a foundation of trust. 462 00:20:32,560 --> 00:20:33,560 And then... 463 00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:34,560 Keep having conversation. 464 00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:35,560 Keep talking. 465 00:20:35,560 --> 00:20:36,560 Just keep talking. 466 00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:41,560 So is that actually your forever relationship? 467 00:20:41,560 --> 00:20:42,560 Yeah. 468 00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:43,560 And sometimes... 469 00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:44,560 Sometimes it's not. 470 00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:46,560 Make that decision too, but... 471 00:20:46,560 --> 00:20:47,560 And that's fine. 472 00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:48,560 No. 473 00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:50,560 It was good that you found that, but you have to... 474 00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:51,560 Be happy living with someone else. 475 00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:52,560 Yeah. 476 00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:53,560 Live your best life. 477 00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:54,560 Live your best life. 478 00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:55,560 Yeah. 479 00:20:55,560 --> 00:20:56,560 You got to work on that though. 480 00:20:56,560 --> 00:20:59,560 And then if that conversation stays open, you know, there's going to be concerns. 481 00:20:59,560 --> 00:21:00,560 There's going to be fears. 482 00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:01,560 There's going to be worries. 483 00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:02,560 There's going to be... 484 00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:06,560 It's going to be, again, going to be uncomfortable conversations full of that stuff. 485 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:07,560 And there are a lot of fears. 486 00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:17,560 Most of the fears, like we were saying, was it's supernatural to be jealous and have jealous feelings and to feel like not enough and to feel inadequate and question why you need someone. 487 00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:19,560 As a man, it's, oh, she just... 488 00:21:19,560 --> 00:21:20,560 I'm not... 489 00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:21,560 I don't satisfy her. 490 00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:26,560 Like your ego, like as a man, your ego automatically comes forward. 491 00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:27,560 Is I don't satisfy her. 492 00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:29,560 I'm not good enough. 493 00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:30,560 I don't... 494 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:31,560 I'm not big enough. 495 00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:32,560 I don't laugh long enough. 496 00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:34,560 It's a lack of something when that's not the case. 497 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:37,560 And you're adding to something already incredible. 498 00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:41,560 It has nothing to do with needing to fix anything ever. 499 00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:44,560 This is never a way to fix a relationship. 500 00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:46,560 It's never a way to solve problems. 501 00:21:46,560 --> 00:21:47,560 It's never a way to start conversation. 502 00:21:47,560 --> 00:21:53,560 You need to do that stuff way before you even anticipate, even think about getting into a style. 503 00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:57,560 Because that's what I also tell everyone as well. 504 00:21:57,560 --> 00:21:59,560 Go slow and take your time. 505 00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:04,560 And just for words of affirmation for those feelings is the cheat codes to your partner. 506 00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:06,560 No one's going to do it better than you. 507 00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:08,560 It's super normal to feel like that. 508 00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:09,560 It's okay. 509 00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:10,560 It is. 510 00:22:10,560 --> 00:22:11,560 You have to be okay. 511 00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:15,560 And that's like I said, it's like a foundation of your trust at the beginning of your lifestyle journey. 512 00:22:15,560 --> 00:22:16,560 It starts here. 513 00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:22,560 You have to be open and willing to have those conversations and to not get defensive and not get... 514 00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:27,560 Yeah, you have to be open and nonjudgmental. 515 00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:31,560 You have to be able to be on both sides of that conversation. 516 00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:38,560 And then to help navigate the fears and the concerns, usually what we do is we have rules, boundaries, stuff that we put into place. 517 00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:42,560 Lay down the foundation of what this is going to look like. 518 00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:48,560 How that's going to look, what you're okay with, what you're not okay with, what your limits are. 519 00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:49,560 Yeah. 520 00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:51,560 And they're always changing. 521 00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:53,560 Yeah, they're never set in stone. 522 00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:58,560 We've met many couples in lots of different stages of their journey. 523 00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:02,560 And we've met people from... 524 00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:03,560 No kissing. 525 00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:04,560 No kissing. 526 00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:10,560 Another really common one is communication, like group texts and messages. 527 00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:13,560 No solo communication. 528 00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:19,560 We had the pretty common same room protection, communication together. 529 00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:21,560 They're pretty common ones. 530 00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:25,560 And now at this point, we pretty much are down to protection and... 531 00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:26,560 Communication. 532 00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:27,560 Yeah, just communication. 533 00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:29,560 That's pretty much it. 534 00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:30,560 Consent, communication. 535 00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:35,560 Those are our big things about where we are now at this point. 536 00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:37,560 But it's really what's for you. 537 00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:38,560 You can change that. 538 00:23:38,560 --> 00:23:39,560 Yeah, you can change it. 539 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:42,560 That's three years in and lots of experience. 540 00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:47,560 As you become more comfortable and more secure as a couple, you're always evolving. 541 00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:49,560 You should always sit down and go over those again. 542 00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:50,560 So your boundaries are always... 543 00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:52,560 Yeah, adjust them, figure them out. 544 00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:56,560 It's a way also for your spouse to feel a little bit more... 545 00:23:56,560 --> 00:23:59,560 Because you can make those boundaries and you can make those limits, I guess. 546 00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:00,560 Anything that you want them to. 547 00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:02,560 Any rule, any... 548 00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:03,560 There's no... 549 00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:09,560 That was the one thing that I wanted to really drive home on this episode is there is no rule book. 550 00:24:09,560 --> 00:24:11,560 There is no Bible that we go by. 551 00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:14,560 There is no has to be this, has to be not. 552 00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:17,560 The only thing that it has to be is consensual. 553 00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:20,560 And that's pretty much unsafe. 554 00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:21,560 Those are the only things. 555 00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:22,560 A lot of people don't think about it. 556 00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:24,560 It can be whatever you want it to be. 557 00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:25,560 People... 558 00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:26,560 I think that's the really... 559 00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:27,560 You can only kiss people. 560 00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:28,560 You can only... 561 00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:29,560 Not kiss people. 562 00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:33,560 You can only kiss people's feet if you only want to kiss people's feet. 563 00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:36,560 You can make it whatever you want it to be. 564 00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:41,560 I think a lot more we get that question is about, oh, how do I get a lifestyle? 565 00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:44,560 They're looking for a rule book. 566 00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:47,560 That tells me they're out there. 567 00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:48,560 Many people are making them. 568 00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:50,560 It's bullshit. 569 00:24:50,560 --> 00:24:55,560 But step back and it can be whatever turns you on, whatever doesn't turn you on. 570 00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:56,560 Whatever you want it to be. 571 00:24:56,560 --> 00:25:02,560 And as long as it's consensual and it works between you and whoever is participating, that's all that matters. 572 00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:05,560 It doesn't matter how odd it looks, how different it looks. 573 00:25:05,560 --> 00:25:09,560 There's no one way fits all, one size fits all, anything like that. 574 00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:12,560 It can be whatever you dream it to be. 575 00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:13,560 Absolutely. 576 00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:16,560 That's the most important thing we always try to tell people. 577 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boundaries and we're now ready to like dip our toe in. 588 00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:08,560 Where do we go next? 589 00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:09,560 Online. 590 00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:13,560 Get on the internet together and start learning. 591 00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:15,560 Start researching. 592 00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:17,560 Get all the information you possibly can. 593 00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:26,560 Learn about the lifestyle first together and educate yourselves together on the ways to go about it and different things to. 594 00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:29,560 Different ways to navigate. 595 00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:31,560 Just educate yourself because you're going to be a lot more confident. 596 00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:42,560 Enjoy your lifestyle if you are, you're educated and if you know what to do and to do that there is so many online communities out there. 597 00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:48,560 There's STC, SLS, Cassidy, all of them have educational content in within them. 598 00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:50,560 And then there's social media. 599 00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:57,560 There's lots of influencers and people out there that teach you and give you information and share a few terms. 600 00:26:57,560 --> 00:27:10,560 And get familiar with words and terms and things you might hear and just because you will be more confident the more you know about a topic, the more you can walk in feeling like you know what's going down the better. 601 00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:14,560 Because that is definitely going to make you feel better about the whole thing. 602 00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:16,560 And then go online and make profiles. 603 00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:20,560 Start making profiles on all the accounts or like all of the sites. 604 00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:21,560 Detailed profiles. 605 00:27:21,560 --> 00:27:24,560 Yes, make sure to spend some time on your profiles. 606 00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:28,560 Put some effort, some time into it because trust me, it'll pay off if you do. 607 00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:31,560 And take good, clean, bright pictures. 608 00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:33,560 And you don't have to show your face. 609 00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:35,560 You could show whatever you want but just make sure that they're bright. 610 00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:37,560 There's some light. 611 00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:38,560 Make sure they're attractive. 612 00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:40,560 You don't have to show your face. 613 00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:44,560 But if you don't want to show your face, you have to show like something. 614 00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:45,560 At least. 615 00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:46,560 Light. 616 00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:48,560 Put some light. 617 00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:54,560 Oh, we get say like on SDC, SLS, Free Fun. 618 00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:56,560 You want your profile to look attractive. 619 00:27:56,560 --> 00:28:03,560 We get a lot of messages and I honestly I ignore a lot of them because you can't see anything. 620 00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:07,560 And I get their profile and it's super vague. 621 00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:09,560 Oh, here for a good time. 622 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:10,560 Yeah. 623 00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:12,560 And we know absolutely nothing about you. 624 00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:13,560 You give us nothing. 625 00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:15,560 I love when people put effort and time into their profile. 626 00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:16,560 Yeah. 627 00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:18,560 And describe who they are as people. 628 00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:20,560 Approach it like you're dating again. 629 00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:21,560 Yeah. 630 00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:22,560 But you're dating with your partner. 631 00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:23,560 Essentially that's what it is. 632 00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:24,560 It's a dating profile. 633 00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:25,560 And put some effort, put some time. 634 00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:28,560 And unfortunately, like you're going to have to put some money into it. 635 00:28:28,560 --> 00:28:32,560 There's a way to do the lifestyle without all of that and all the extra stuff. 636 00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:38,560 But it sure makes life heck of a lot easier if you have a connection to all those people that are in the lifestyle. 637 00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:44,560 And then you'll find on there, you'll find events and it'll open up the doors for all of the clubs. 638 00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:55,560 Well, like when you see, like when we go through SDC, just for example, you can see if they're a paid member, a lifetime member, a free trial member. 639 00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:57,560 You can see that. 640 00:28:57,560 --> 00:29:06,560 You take the people that have paid memberships and lifetime memberships more serious than you do somebody that's on a trial. 641 00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:07,560 Yeah. 642 00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:08,560 Someone just testing it out. 643 00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:09,560 Someone just being nosy. 644 00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:10,560 Someone just looking in. 645 00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:15,560 Yeah, because you don't know those people's motives. 646 00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:24,560 Because I hate to say it, but it happens is people make fake profiles like everywhere else. 647 00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:34,560 And most people that make a fake profile aren't going to spend money on that fake profile. 648 00:29:34,560 --> 00:29:35,560 Yeah. 649 00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:41,560 And usually a lot of them when you pay, you do have to verify and you do have to have some kind of check to make sure that is who you are. 650 00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:58,560 I know when I made our 3FUN app, our 3FUN profile years and years ago, we put our pictures up and then we had to take pictures together with doing certain things just to verify that we're... 651 00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:03,560 Hold a sign up saying your name, your birthday, all the things. 652 00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:04,560 Yeah. 653 00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:05,560 And you have to... 654 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:06,560 It comes along with a lot of verification. 655 00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:07,560 Yeah, and it's in the picture. 656 00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:09,560 But like just go and stuff like that. 657 00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:13,560 Like you get verified rooms, you get special things that you can be a part of. 658 00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:15,560 It's nice to be verified on all of these websites. 659 00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:17,560 There is so many websites, so many. 660 00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:19,560 And then Facebook, there's groups of people. 661 00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:23,560 If you're looking for local, Facebook is a good place to look for locally. 662 00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:26,560 That's how we found PAD and groups like that. 663 00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:30,560 There's a few of them that we've been a part of and lots of different things and stuff. 664 00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:37,560 But fortunately though, a lot of times you have to get a connection with somebody already in those groups. 665 00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:46,560 So you have to have an SDC or SLS or 3FUN to meet somebody in the lifestyle and connect with those people. 666 00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:53,560 And then they will...they can invite you because you can't search up a lot of these Facebook groups. 667 00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:54,560 They're private. 668 00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:57,560 You just can't put them in a search engine and pop up. 669 00:30:57,560 --> 00:31:00,560 It's a very discrete lifestyle, so you have to find the people. 670 00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:04,560 That's why we say go onto SDC, SLS, Cassidy, one of them. 671 00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:07,560 And they've been here for decades upon decades. 672 00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:16,560 And then on those websites, the best part about being a part of SDC and SLS and them is that that's where most big events post all their events. 673 00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:21,560 And all of the clubs that you could find are all in the directory there. 674 00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:29,560 And you'll find...you can go by state and find exactly where your local meet and greets are, where your local clubs are, where your local events are. 675 00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:31,560 And that's the main reason why I do well. 676 00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:32,560 Search zip code and then... 677 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:33,560 Everything around. Yeah. 678 00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:39,560 And then the private, more private things and the meet and mingles and the greets and stuff like that, you can find that. 679 00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:44,560 And you can...there's lots of groups that have profiles on there. 680 00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:45,560 And you're going to a place... 681 00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:49,560 Yeah, like little local groups have their own like groups. 682 00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:53,560 And you can see who's going to that event or who's RSVP to this or that. 683 00:31:53,560 --> 00:32:05,560 And it's a good place to go on there and start connections with people that you're like, hey, this person's coming to this event that I'm going to, you know, starting that connection and going into it with not just being alone too. 684 00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:11,560 You can find somebody that you're familiar with and that you know ahead of time or that has been and you can ask questions and stuff. 685 00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:18,560 The more you're educated, the more confident you will be, I promise, if you know what you're going into and know where you're going. 686 00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:30,560 And then we get on STC and SLS and those sites and you get to looking, deciding on what kind of event that you want to try first, whether it be a club or a meet and greet or what's the difference between all of these things. 687 00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:31,560 I guess we should start there. 688 00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:32,560 Oh, the difference between... 689 00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:33,560 Each thing. 690 00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:35,560 So when we say an event, we'll just... 691 00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:37,560 Okay. So you're... 692 00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:38,560 Take over. 693 00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:39,560 Or... 694 00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:40,560 A club. 695 00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:42,560 Like it's just like it sounds. 696 00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:44,560 It's a nightclub. 697 00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:45,560 Yeah. 698 00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:46,560 That... 699 00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:49,560 You have to get a membership and it's like an exclusive private little club. 700 00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:50,560 Right. 701 00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:56,560 But all in all, it's a normal nightclub with usually with playrooms in the back and... 702 00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:57,560 And a dance floor. 703 00:32:57,560 --> 00:33:00,560 ...rules posted and dance floors and usually a DJ. 704 00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:02,560 Usually a great time. 705 00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:07,560 And it's a nightclub with sometimes the option, sometimes not the option to have sex. 706 00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:12,560 And then you have a house party, which are usually invite only, private. 707 00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:13,560 Yeah. 708 00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:14,560 Yeah. 709 00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:15,560 Smaller. 710 00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:16,560 Like somebody's house. 711 00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:17,560 Yeah. 712 00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:18,560 That's why it's a lot more... 713 00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:19,560 Yeah. 714 00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:20,560 A lot more if you know... 715 00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:21,560 Somebody's house is usually a... 716 00:33:21,560 --> 00:33:23,560 Private invitation thing. 717 00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:27,560 Like a friend group that's known to everybody and like... 718 00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:28,560 Facebook has a lot of house parties. 719 00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:30,560 You'll find all the house parties on Facebook. 720 00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:33,560 Facebook is like the place that you find house parties. 721 00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:34,560 Yeah. 722 00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:37,560 You get into the groups and in your local groups, I guarantee there's a ton of these 723 00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:41,560 little tiny groups that they like to get together at people's houses and have their own little 724 00:33:41,560 --> 00:33:44,560 version of Hotel Takeover and these little house parties. 725 00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:49,560 And you'll find like where the people like they'll have quote unquote like mansion takeovers 726 00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:51,560 and stuff like that where it's a lot like a house party. 727 00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:52,560 Yeah. 728 00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:56,560 But they have Airbnb, somebody that has a rental house that they let them use it. 729 00:33:56,560 --> 00:33:57,560 Smaller. 730 00:33:57,560 --> 00:33:58,560 Smaller. 731 00:33:58,560 --> 00:33:59,560 Usually a smaller group. 732 00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:02,560 Usually I'd say a normal house party is what? 733 00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:05,560 25 to 30, 40 people. 734 00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:06,560 Yeah. 735 00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:07,560 Yeah. 736 00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:08,560 I'd say 10 to... 737 00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:13,560 I definitely recommend if you're going to a house party to know at least somebody before 738 00:34:13,560 --> 00:34:14,560 you go. 739 00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:18,560 We went to a house party, the only house party we've ever been to. 740 00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:19,560 And that was... 741 00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:20,560 Yeah. 742 00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:21,560 We didn't know one single person there. 743 00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:22,560 That was advertised. 744 00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:24,560 It was intimidating because it was someone's house. 745 00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:26,560 And that felt so different. 746 00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:27,560 That felt different. 747 00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:30,560 Walking in the front door right into the kitchen. 748 00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:32,560 Into their house and they were all on the porch hanging out talking. 749 00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:34,560 We didn't know a single soul there. 750 00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:35,560 We didn't. 751 00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:36,560 We were invited. 752 00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:41,560 It was from a Facebook group that we were in and we were invited, but we didn't know 753 00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:45,560 anyone and I wish you would have set some kind of communication up with a couple. 754 00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:46,560 Yeah. 755 00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:47,560 We didn't know anyone. 756 00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:50,560 So we didn't do anyone because it was hard to talk to a lot of people. 757 00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:51,560 We did. 758 00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:52,560 We ended up meeting a lot of people and it was fine and it was fun. 759 00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:56,760 But going into it, especially if that was my first experience, I would have definitely 760 00:34:56,760 --> 00:34:57,760 been terrified. 761 00:34:57,760 --> 00:34:58,760 Right? 762 00:34:58,760 --> 00:34:59,760 Because I was almost dead. 763 00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:00,760 At this point, yeah. 764 00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:01,760 It was an experience for us. 765 00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:02,760 At that point, we were already seasoned. 766 00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:03,760 I don't know. 767 00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:04,760 I was pretty close to running too. 768 00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:05,760 It was intimidating. 769 00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:07,560 It definitely took us out of our comfort zone. 770 00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:08,560 For sure. 771 00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:09,560 It was good. 772 00:35:09,560 --> 00:35:16,520 Before that house party, we were going to takeovers and secrets with a lot of people 773 00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:18,320 we'd known for a while. 774 00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:22,320 So it took us out of the comfort zone where we were forced to meet new people, which I 775 00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:25,200 think was really actually good for us. 776 00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:30,040 But then after the house parties, you would have, I'd say floor parties like hotels where 777 00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:32,000 they take over just one floor. 778 00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:33,000 Yeah. 779 00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:35,000 That's pretty much all a hotel takeover. 780 00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:40,720 They just take over either a floor or a block or the entire hotel. 781 00:35:40,720 --> 00:35:44,720 And you're at a hotel, usually a weekend thing, usually a whole weekend thing. 782 00:35:44,720 --> 00:35:49,400 And then you have resorts like Hito and you've got secrets. 783 00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:52,920 If that's more your vibe, maybe you just want to do a spicy vacation once a year. 784 00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:58,200 You're just looking for an experience once or just somewhere tropical or somewhere warm, 785 00:35:58,200 --> 00:35:59,560 somewhere you can relax, more vacation. 786 00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:04,000 Then you have lifestyle friendly that aren't really lifestyle resorts like Temptations. 787 00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:05,000 Yeah. 788 00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:10,720 And Desire, which aren't technically lifestyle resorts, but they're lifestyle friendly. 789 00:36:10,720 --> 00:36:12,720 And then you have like mixers and meet and greets. 790 00:36:12,720 --> 00:36:16,240 That's usually just at a bar or in a restaurant or something like that. 791 00:36:16,240 --> 00:36:21,440 And you just show up and it's just hang out, get a drink or get something to eat and just 792 00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:22,440 meet other people. 793 00:36:22,440 --> 00:36:23,760 It's very vanilla. 794 00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:25,080 And yeah, just hang out. 795 00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:26,080 Hanging out, meeting people. 796 00:36:26,080 --> 00:36:27,080 Smaller group of people usually. 797 00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:29,120 And it's just, it's in a vanilla setting. 798 00:36:29,120 --> 00:36:30,840 Usually there's other people around usually. 799 00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:31,840 Yeah. 800 00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:34,200 But there's no people and families and stuff like that, nothing crazy. 801 00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:39,960 So we would just hang out and talk and just, yeah, it's just, it's a mean, like any other 802 00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:40,960 mean greatness. 803 00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:41,960 Yeah. 804 00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:46,080 And then on the other side of that, you also can just connect with a couple and go out 805 00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:47,080 on a date. 806 00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:48,080 Yeah. 807 00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:49,080 Dating is very, very normal. 808 00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:50,080 That's very normal. 809 00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:51,080 We do it. 810 00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:55,240 We still date people and go out to dinner and go places with them on the side. 811 00:36:55,240 --> 00:37:00,200 Go out to dinner, go out to meet new people and just connect, make connections. 812 00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:01,640 We went to the Mexican restaurant. 813 00:37:01,640 --> 00:37:02,640 Longhorn. 814 00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:03,640 Longhorn. 815 00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:04,640 Yeah. 816 00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:06,720 Threefun was our app for pretty much the first year and a half. 817 00:37:06,720 --> 00:37:08,120 We met a lot of our local friends. 818 00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:09,120 Yeah. 819 00:37:09,120 --> 00:37:11,480 At Threefun you'll find people like directly on top of you. 820 00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:12,640 Like where you live. 821 00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:13,640 It's a local app. 822 00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:16,360 It's an app that you can pull up people based on distance. 823 00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:20,120 So I mean, SEC and as well as that too, but this app is just an app. 824 00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:21,120 Like it's like right. 825 00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:22,120 It works well like Tinder. 826 00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:23,120 Yeah. 827 00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:26,840 And it's like this person is 0.8 miles away and stuff like that. 828 00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:29,120 But that's how we found a lot of our local friends. 829 00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:32,760 And then we would just get on there, connect, get onto a kick or snap or something on the 830 00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:34,200 side or text or whatever. 831 00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:36,680 And then we would go out to dinner and stuff. 832 00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:38,840 And that might make it a little bit easier for you too. 833 00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:40,080 Maybe that's more your style. 834 00:37:40,080 --> 00:37:44,640 Maybe more two on two or two on one scenario or two on four, however many people you take 835 00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:45,640 on a date. 836 00:37:45,640 --> 00:37:48,000 But maybe that's more of your vibe. 837 00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:54,400 And let's say find an event or find a club or find a hotel takeover or whatever. 838 00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:56,000 It is that you're going to Zoom. 839 00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:57,000 Book it. 840 00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:58,360 Go on that date. 841 00:37:58,360 --> 00:37:59,360 Take the date. 842 00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:02,600 Go plan ahead of time and just keep on communicating. 843 00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:03,600 Keep talking. 844 00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:04,600 Yeah. 845 00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:08,960 You got to keep open line of communication with your partner. 846 00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:11,040 Don't test the waters. 847 00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:12,040 Go very slowly. 848 00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:16,320 That's my biggest recommendation is go in with no expectations at all. 849 00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:19,840 Don't walk in expecting to have sex with anyone at all. 850 00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:22,680 And just take your time. 851 00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:30,760 Don't let the person that's most excited about it lead the way. 852 00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:35,840 Stay at the pace of the most apprehensive person because you don't want to push those 853 00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:37,920 people into uncomfortable situations. 854 00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:40,600 You want to be comfortable. 855 00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:48,640 And I just recommend going as a couple, as a you thing, as a date, as a let's go experience 856 00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:49,640 the environment. 857 00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:50,640 Let's go see what this is about. 858 00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:52,520 Let's go meet people. 859 00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:53,640 Let's go meet people. 860 00:38:53,640 --> 00:39:00,400 Go in and into it and just go into it wanting to meet people and learn as much as you possibly. 861 00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:05,200 I think that's the number one thing is just it's not that serious. 862 00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:06,960 Don't make it weird. 863 00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:12,720 It can just be going and sitting down and having dinner at a club and just meeting people 864 00:39:12,720 --> 00:39:15,780 and talking to people and seeing what's going on. 865 00:39:15,780 --> 00:39:16,780 Dance for a little bit and go home. 866 00:39:16,780 --> 00:39:18,640 It doesn't have to be. 867 00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:25,600 Just like the club or hotel takeovers or even floor parties. 868 00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:27,680 It's so much going on. 869 00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:28,680 It's overwhelming. 870 00:39:28,680 --> 00:39:30,240 You have to have time to acclimate. 871 00:39:30,240 --> 00:39:31,240 Yeah. 872 00:39:31,240 --> 00:39:34,600 And there's no it's there's so much going on. 873 00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:36,160 There's so much stuff to see. 874 00:39:36,160 --> 00:39:37,160 Yeah. 875 00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:42,040 And you're your first time there and you're not and no one's going to you might be proposed. 876 00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:44,520 You might be asked, but there's no one's going to. 877 00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:48,760 No one's going to approach you for the most part and other than a friendly. 878 00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:50,760 Yeah, they're going to approach you. 879 00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:55,520 But even if you are approached to go play, there's no aggressive or anything. 880 00:39:55,520 --> 00:39:57,440 It's going to be just a friendly. 881 00:39:57,440 --> 00:40:01,280 Get to know your conversation and a normal conversation that you have with the grocery 882 00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:02,680 store is people that you meet. 883 00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:04,040 You're not going to see. 884 00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:05,040 No pressure. 885 00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:08,240 Yeah, that's what I was trying to the word I was looking for. 886 00:40:08,240 --> 00:40:09,240 There's no pressure. 887 00:40:09,240 --> 00:40:10,240 That's what I was trying to do. 888 00:40:10,240 --> 00:40:13,320 If you feel any pressure, don't be afraid to say no to back out of that situation. 889 00:40:13,320 --> 00:40:16,240 But for the most part, I guarantee you know, I'm going to be mad. 890 00:40:16,240 --> 00:40:17,240 What's your name? 891 00:40:17,240 --> 00:40:18,240 And by hearing. 892 00:40:18,240 --> 00:40:22,440 Yeah, it's going to be very even when if you go on a date with another couple or anything 893 00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:24,760 like that, it's just a normal regular. 894 00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:27,960 I have to dinner with anyone that you don't know. 895 00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:32,160 Get to know them people and talk to the people and get to know them and I get their planes 896 00:40:32,160 --> 00:40:33,160 a little bit. 897 00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:34,160 You're similar in some ways. 898 00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:36,280 How long have you guys been a lifestyle? 899 00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:39,600 What got you guys in the lifestyle? 900 00:40:39,600 --> 00:40:42,920 Tell people don't be afraid to tell people that you don't know what you're doing, that 901 00:40:42,920 --> 00:40:45,720 this is your first time that you have no idea what's going on. 902 00:40:45,720 --> 00:40:50,600 And everyone in this lifestyle that I've ever met has been nothing but friendly and nice 903 00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:54,400 and caring and they're willing to answer all the questions if you have the right attitude. 904 00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:59,080 And if you go into it and you want to learn, there are people that are going to teach you. 905 00:40:59,080 --> 00:41:03,040 There are so many people out there willing to grab your hand because I know the people 906 00:41:03,040 --> 00:41:09,040 like we've met a lot of people where it was their first event, first takeover, first club 907 00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:11,680 experience when we met a lot of people. 908 00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:12,880 Yeah. 909 00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:16,320 And I always like to hear their perspective anyway. 910 00:41:16,320 --> 00:41:18,600 Like, what do you think? 911 00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:20,040 That's how you find events and stuff. 912 00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:23,920 That's another thing that I didn't bring up was finding events, finding clubs, finding 913 00:41:23,920 --> 00:41:26,560 all of these house parties, these hotel takeovers, all of that. 914 00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:30,640 Go in there and look at the reviews and ask people what their favorite hotel takeover 915 00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:35,040 is, what their favorite club is, what, especially locally, like where do they go and hang out? 916 00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:37,280 Where do they enjoy going on dates? 917 00:41:37,280 --> 00:41:40,480 Where they enjoy going to the club, going to the takeover and stuff like that and get 918 00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:47,440 people's recommendation on legit events, you know, in clubs and stuff that have all the 919 00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:53,440 things that you need, the safety and the, you know, a good time too that draws a good 920 00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:54,840 crowd, a good group of people. 921 00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:59,360 Well, depending on what vibe you're looking for, what kind of atmosphere it brings and 922 00:41:59,360 --> 00:42:00,980 the reputation is a lot. 923 00:42:00,980 --> 00:42:06,880 Make sure that the hosts are, you know, have some education and they know what they're 924 00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:07,880 doing and they're an exercise. 925 00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:12,720 Cause every host and every party vibe is a little bit different. 926 00:42:12,720 --> 00:42:16,120 So you just have to match your vibe and you have to figure it out. 927 00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:19,080 It's all like I said, there's no playbook. 928 00:42:19,080 --> 00:42:20,880 It's all trial and error. 929 00:42:20,880 --> 00:42:24,340 You have to have people recommend so many different things to you and so many different 930 00:42:24,340 --> 00:42:26,560 resorts and places to go and everything. 931 00:42:26,560 --> 00:42:30,320 And each person is going to have something that they, we like to hang out with certain 932 00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:35,040 groups because we just like the vibe, you know, and it's just, this is the group of 933 00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:39,320 people that these people attract or other people that we're attracted to. 934 00:42:39,320 --> 00:42:42,440 And those are obviously ones that we're going to go to and spend money on. 935 00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:45,880 Everybody's going to find that group too, like their own group. 936 00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:48,680 So you're going to find, you got to find your people and then to do that, you're going to 937 00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:54,280 just go and test it out and try it out and get, talk to people, more people that you 938 00:42:54,280 --> 00:42:55,280 meet. 939 00:42:55,280 --> 00:43:01,280 We've, I've heard both spectrums of just about every group that we've, you know, is out there. 940 00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:02,280 Oh yeah. 941 00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:03,280 People that love. 942 00:43:03,280 --> 00:43:09,120 This group likes to do this, this group only does this, this group likes this, this one 943 00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:10,120 I don't like about this. 944 00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:11,560 I love this about this group. 945 00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:14,400 You'll hear all the things and you're really going to have to just test it out and try 946 00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:17,000 it out and see which one fits you and your partner. 947 00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:21,960 And then once you're done, the event and everything's over and you're going and you're leaving and 948 00:43:21,960 --> 00:43:26,400 you were there, then what, then where you go from there? 949 00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:31,360 What we do is we unpack for, we talk about it. 950 00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:38,400 Yeah, like, cause again, so much is going on. 951 00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:39,400 You have to take time. 952 00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:40,400 It happens so fast. 953 00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:41,400 Yeah. 954 00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:43,280 You're talking about this. 955 00:43:43,280 --> 00:43:47,360 You're talking about the whole situation like that next morning. 956 00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:48,360 Yeah. 957 00:43:48,360 --> 00:43:54,440 You're talking about the things you saw as you heard, you're going to remember things 958 00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:57,960 and oh, did you see this or did you see that? 959 00:43:57,960 --> 00:44:03,160 And you're going to relive these experiences and it's going to turn you both over. 960 00:44:03,160 --> 00:44:07,000 You're going to remember details and stuff that you saw and didn't even think about it 961 00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:08,600 until the next day. 962 00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:13,400 Sometimes we drive home in complete silence, but then the next morning we'll sit on the 963 00:44:13,400 --> 00:44:15,520 back porch and just like start just like spewing. 964 00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:19,240 And then sometimes we talk the entire way home nonstop about it. 965 00:44:19,240 --> 00:44:23,800 It's just sometimes some experiences, some depending on what happened or sometimes it 966 00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:28,640 is like overwhelming and you just need to self-reflection first and to sit on it for 967 00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:29,640 a minute. 968 00:44:29,640 --> 00:44:33,920 A lot has happened or anything, boundaries that have adjusted or changed or anything 969 00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:36,320 or feelings that you sitting on. 970 00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:40,560 Sometimes driving home in silence, like it just is, there's no right or wrong way to 971 00:44:40,560 --> 00:44:41,560 do it. 972 00:44:41,560 --> 00:44:43,560 Sometimes you have to process it yourself before you. 973 00:44:43,560 --> 00:44:44,560 You immediately start communicating. 974 00:44:44,560 --> 00:44:45,560 But other times we'll be sitting. 975 00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:51,280 Yeah, we'll sit there for eight, we've driven 13 hours and just talk straight through the 976 00:44:51,280 --> 00:44:53,880 whole entire drive about everything. 977 00:44:53,880 --> 00:44:57,520 So there's no right or wrong way as long as you communicate about it, as long as you talk 978 00:44:57,520 --> 00:44:58,600 through it. 979 00:44:58,600 --> 00:45:01,020 And then you can adjust boundaries, adjust rules. 980 00:45:01,020 --> 00:45:05,520 Maybe after that, maybe we can lose this rule or we can adjust it a little bit or maybe 981 00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:06,920 we can back off of that one. 982 00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:08,320 Or I didn't like how I felt. 983 00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:11,040 Or maybe I don't like that and we need to add boundaries. 984 00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:14,280 We can add rules to it to make me feel more comfortable. 985 00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:18,240 Or maybe I didn't like, it's good and bad to talk about all of the things. 986 00:45:18,240 --> 00:45:23,520 Anything that you felt, any feeling that came up, any jealousy, any uncomfortable feelings 987 00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:28,280 that you had during the whole experience, anything that you saw that you didn't love, 988 00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:31,320 anything about the event itself that you loved or didn't love. 989 00:45:31,320 --> 00:45:34,520 You have to be okay with just talking each little detail about it. 990 00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:35,520 Yeah, all of it. 991 00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:39,700 And then so you can adjust and you can navigate and you can find out the way you're going 992 00:45:39,700 --> 00:45:41,880 to navigate this whole journey. 993 00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:44,200 See, there's no wrong way to do it. 994 00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:45,200 There's no wrong way. 995 00:45:45,200 --> 00:45:47,000 As long as it works for you guys, it doesn't. 996 00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:51,000 As long as it works for you guys and you're talking and you're getting stronger. 997 00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:52,480 Yeah, it's nothing. 998 00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:54,680 You're doing it right. 999 00:45:54,680 --> 00:45:55,680 You're doing it right. 1000 00:45:55,680 --> 00:45:57,440 So just keep on trying things. 1001 00:45:57,440 --> 00:45:59,400 Keep on talking about these things. 1002 00:45:59,400 --> 00:46:06,120 Keep on being willing to experiment and learn and be open and communicate. 1003 00:46:06,120 --> 00:46:10,000 And if you don't enjoy yourself, try something different. 1004 00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:11,000 Try something else. 1005 00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:12,000 Right. 1006 00:46:12,000 --> 00:46:13,000 Try a different atmosphere. 1007 00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:16,680 Maybe like you were saying before, like maybe hotel takeovers are your thing. 1008 00:46:16,680 --> 00:46:18,680 They're overwhelming and they're a lot for some people. 1009 00:46:18,680 --> 00:46:22,280 Maybe they would be better with a club night. 1010 00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:28,160 I was talking to a guy, one of our friends last week or two weeks ago, something like 1011 00:46:28,160 --> 00:46:29,160 that. 1012 00:46:29,160 --> 00:46:35,200 And they were headed to a hotel takeover and he was telling me that it's really not, 1013 00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:38,680 they're starting to get to the point where they like a more intimate setting instead 1014 00:46:38,680 --> 00:46:42,160 of this big hotel thing. 1015 00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:44,480 Or there's people like, I'm bored of the small groups. 1016 00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:47,040 I want to do something big. 1017 00:46:47,040 --> 00:46:49,200 And so there's no right or wrong. 1018 00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:50,400 There's no right or wrong. 1019 00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:53,680 And there's like, your feelings are valid and you're okay. 1020 00:46:53,680 --> 00:46:54,680 Like you're okay. 1021 00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:55,680 It's okay to feel that way. 1022 00:46:55,680 --> 00:46:57,040 And it's okay to have preferences. 1023 00:46:57,040 --> 00:46:58,040 And it's okay. 1024 00:46:58,040 --> 00:47:01,840 You can pick and choose and make this journey exactly what you want it to be. 1025 00:47:01,840 --> 00:47:03,360 There's no right or wrong way. 1026 00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:05,760 It can take me tailored to your liking. 1027 00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:06,760 Just go slow. 1028 00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:08,160 No expectations. 1029 00:47:08,160 --> 00:47:10,760 Just have a good time. 1030 00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:12,400 Just enjoy yourself. 1031 00:47:12,400 --> 00:47:15,560 And don't let other people push their expectations on you. 1032 00:47:15,560 --> 00:47:16,920 No, it's okay. 1033 00:47:16,920 --> 00:47:23,840 Because you will run into that too where somebody expects something and you're going to have 1034 00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:24,840 to shut that down. 1035 00:47:24,840 --> 00:47:25,840 Yeah. 1036 00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:30,080 Don't let anybody push their expectations on you either. 1037 00:47:30,080 --> 00:47:32,720 That's all the time that we have to talk about that. 1038 00:47:32,720 --> 00:47:34,160 Hey there listeners. 1039 00:47:34,160 --> 00:47:37,120 Are you looking to prioritize your sexual health and wellness? 1040 00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:38,680 We've got just the thing for you. 1041 00:47:38,680 --> 00:47:43,480 Shameless Care offers at home testing kits, telehealth consultations, and even treatment 1042 00:47:43,480 --> 00:47:48,200 for ED and performance anxiety for when you want to play but your body says otherwise. 1043 00:47:48,200 --> 00:47:51,680 It's convenient, discreet, and all about keeping you at your 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00:48:25,560 with you and what's going to happen when you get there. 1056 00:48:25,560 --> 00:48:29,960 There's so much more that we could say in the whole of this and we can continue on. 1057 00:48:29,960 --> 00:48:34,240 But this was the basics of how to start the conversation, what to expect, getting dipping 1058 00:48:34,240 --> 00:48:37,560 your toes in, and how to navigate all of that. 1059 00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:41,560 So next week we're going to talk about red flags. 1060 00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:43,600 And green flags. 1061 00:48:43,600 --> 00:48:44,920 All the flags. 1062 00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:45,920 But all the flags. 1063 00:48:45,920 --> 00:48:46,920 Beige flags. 1064 00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:47,920 Going off of this. 1065 00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:48,920 Yeah. 1066 00:48:48,920 --> 00:48:49,920 Going off this episode. 1067 00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:55,600 Just something, not necessarily a hard stop, but definitely stuff to look out for. 1068 00:48:55,600 --> 00:48:56,600 Stuff to look out for. 1069 00:48:56,600 --> 00:48:57,600 Stuff we ran into. 1070 00:48:57,600 --> 00:48:58,600 To help protect you guys. 1071 00:48:58,600 --> 00:48:59,600 Some red flags we ran into. 1072 00:48:59,600 --> 00:49:04,240 Noticed a pattern and we've seen along the journey in Heather about along the journey 1073 00:49:04,240 --> 00:49:09,320 that kind of keep an eye on important stuff to keep in mind there. 1074 00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:12,720 And yeah, other than that we've got, we're going to Trappies November 15th. 1075 00:49:12,720 --> 00:49:15,440 We'll be in Trappies if you're going to be, if you're in Atlanta. 1076 00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:18,640 We're going there with Pad if you're in Pad and all of that. 1077 00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:20,080 Birthday party for anything but. 1078 00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:22,160 Yes, we've got birthday party coming up. 1079 00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:25,280 And then after that we've got, what have we got next? 1080 00:49:25,280 --> 00:49:26,960 We've got New Year's Eve with Pad as well. 1081 00:49:26,960 --> 00:49:28,520 Yeah, we're doing New Year's Eve with Pad. 1082 00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:30,560 Yes, we'll be there New Year's Eve. 1083 00:49:30,560 --> 00:49:32,440 And we'll have a link for that as well. 1084 00:49:32,440 --> 00:49:35,960 Yeah, so if you're looking for tickets, come to, that's going to be a great time. 1085 00:49:35,960 --> 00:49:37,960 And it's like a Tuesday or Wednesday, something like that. 1086 00:49:37,960 --> 00:49:39,440 So we get to come to it. 1087 00:49:39,440 --> 00:49:41,600 We've never ever left our house for New Year's Eve. 1088 00:49:41,600 --> 00:49:42,920 We always friend it with the kids. 1089 00:49:42,920 --> 00:49:47,160 Our anniversary is the 29th so we've always, if we did, we always did it that night. 1090 00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:52,120 But we've never celebrated New Year's Eve together outside of our home. 1091 00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:53,120 So that's going to be exciting. 1092 00:49:53,120 --> 00:49:54,640 And I'm excited that it's the end of the week. 1093 00:49:54,640 --> 00:49:55,640 It works out. 1094 00:49:55,640 --> 00:49:56,640 It's going to be good. 1095 00:49:56,640 --> 00:49:57,640 It's going to be a good time. 1096 00:49:57,640 --> 00:49:58,640 It's going to be a good family and then there's food, cocktails. 1097 00:49:58,640 --> 00:49:59,640 There's going to be, it's going to be such a good- 1098 00:49:59,640 --> 00:50:00,640 It's a whole big thing. 1099 00:50:00,640 --> 00:50:01,640 It's going to be a good time. 1100 00:50:01,640 --> 00:50:05,760 So if you have any questions about that or any information that you're looking for, it's 1101 00:50:05,760 --> 00:50:08,880 going to be down below and then in all of our socials as well. 1102 00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:09,880 And then after that- 1103 00:50:09,880 --> 00:50:10,880 Secrets. 1104 00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:11,880 Sold out. 1105 00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:13,920 So there's nothing to say really about that. 1106 00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:14,920 Yeah. 1107 00:50:14,920 --> 00:50:15,920 No. 1108 00:50:15,920 --> 00:50:18,320 Just if you're still looking for a room to get on a wait list, just email. 1109 00:50:18,320 --> 00:50:21,560 Yeah, if you want to get on a wait list, let us know and we can get you on there. 1110 00:50:21,560 --> 00:50:22,560 But yeah, it's sold out. 1111 00:50:22,560 --> 00:50:23,560 It sold out quickly. 1112 00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:24,560 It was a quick one. 1113 00:50:24,560 --> 00:50:25,560 I knew it would be. 1114 00:50:25,560 --> 00:50:26,560 See, there were a couple rooms that- 1115 00:50:26,560 --> 00:50:27,560 I tried to tell you. 1116 00:50:27,560 --> 00:50:31,880 There'll be a couple rooms that might open up, but again, there's already a wait list. 1117 00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:32,880 There's always cancellations. 1118 00:50:32,880 --> 00:50:36,880 There's chances if you're on the wait list, you probably will get a room and especially 1119 00:50:36,880 --> 00:50:38,240 closer to it. 1120 00:50:38,240 --> 00:50:41,360 You'll definitely have a lot of cancellations and things that happen. 1121 00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:42,360 Life happens and stuff. 1122 00:50:42,360 --> 00:50:45,320 Get on that wait list if you want to go so you can go. 1123 00:50:45,320 --> 00:50:47,880 It's going to be a good time as well with Stinger Society. 1124 00:50:47,880 --> 00:50:50,600 And then that's all we've got on the book so far. 1125 00:50:50,600 --> 00:50:51,600 We'll see. 1126 00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:53,880 We're going to do a lot of, I think, closer local to home stuff. 1127 00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:54,880 It's winter time. 1128 00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:58,440 We're going to stay a little closer to home, more Atlanta. 1129 00:50:58,440 --> 00:51:01,280 It's local bonfire hanging out with- 1130 00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:02,280 Local Atlanta stuff. 1131 00:51:02,280 --> 00:51:07,200 Unless something comes up where we're spontaneous and we never know where to expect us. 1132 00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:08,680 We'll just pop up randomly. 1133 00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:09,680 We do. 1134 00:51:09,680 --> 00:51:12,080 You never know where you're going to be, but those are the things on our calendars right 1135 00:51:12,080 --> 00:51:13,080 now. 1136 00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:15,800 And then we'll be back with you guys next Wednesday though. 1137 00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:18,280 So we'll see you guys next week. 1138 00:51:18,280 --> 00:51:19,760 We will talk to you very soon. 1139 00:51:19,760 --> 00:51:20,760 We love you guys. 1140 00:51:20,760 --> 00:51:21,760 All right, guys. 1141 00:51:21,760 --> 00:51:22,760 It's not that serious. 1142 00:51:22,760 --> 00:51:23,760 We'll make you weird. 1143 00:51:23,760 --> 00:51:24,760 Bye. 1144 00:51:24,760 --> 00:51:25,760 Bye. 1145 00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:54,760 Bye.