1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:08,000 It's only $7 it won't break the bank. 2 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:10,000 I'm not even thinking about that. 3 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:11,000 Oh my God. 4 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:13,000 Okay that was better than I thought it was going to be. 5 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:15,000 Hello Rita. 6 00:00:15,000 --> 00:00:16,000 Hi. 7 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:18,000 How you doing? 8 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:20,000 I'm better now than I'm with you. 9 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:22,000 It's such a healing process just talking. 10 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:24,000 It really is. 11 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:27,000 And we have been talking actually face to face. 12 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:29,000 This is the first time we have recorded. 13 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:31,000 We are in the same space. 14 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:36,000 We are not separated by two screens, miles apart. 15 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:39,000 And I have to say, and I've been telling everybody this, 16 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:41,000 you give the greatest hugs. 17 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:43,000 Oh thank you. 18 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:44,000 You're welcome. 19 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:45,000 They're genuine. 20 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:46,000 Yes. 21 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:47,000 From the heart. 22 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:48,000 I could tell. 23 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:51,000 It was like you were throwing everything you could into it. 24 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:55,000 I have a friend of mine who also gives really good hugs of promise. 25 00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:57,000 He's a lot shorter than I am. 26 00:00:57,000 --> 00:01:01,000 He gave me a hug last night and he almost like dislodged my Adam's apple 27 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:03,000 because his arm went up so high. 28 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:05,000 Ace if you're out there I love you. 29 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:10,000 We couldn't not meet up and do an episode of the podcast. 30 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:11,000 Exactly. 31 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:16,000 I think both of us had a lot of stuff on our hearts that we just wanted to 32 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:19,000 just like get off our chest. 33 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:24,000 I feel like we've reached that good friendship level of talking. 34 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:30,000 We have like a moment doesn't pass where there's any kind of feeling 35 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:32,000 or thinking adversely about one another. 36 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:34,000 We definitely are a team. 37 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:35,000 Yeah. 38 00:01:35,000 --> 00:01:36,000 Yeah, definitely. 39 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:40,000 And I mean you came at me with some problems that you've been having. 40 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:43,000 And you know, I listened and gave my opinion. 41 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:48,000 And what came out of that is I think is what's going to make today's podcast 42 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:50,000 a good short one. 43 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:52,000 You know, we don't really want to do a full hour. 44 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:54,000 We both have things to do with that. 45 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:56,000 We've got places to go back home. 46 00:01:56,000 --> 00:01:57,000 People. 47 00:01:57,000 --> 00:02:00,000 People to see, people to deal with. 48 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:04,000 We came across something that I've been saying for years. 49 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:06,000 You found kind of interesting and you were like, 50 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:08,000 we should do the podcast about that. 51 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:10,000 Do you remember what that was? 52 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:11,000 Do you want to say it? 53 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:12,000 No. 54 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:13,000 Okay. 55 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:14,000 All right. 56 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:15,000 We did talk about so much. 57 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:16,000 We did. 58 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:19,000 So it was the difference in between humans and people. 59 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:20,000 Oh yes. 60 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:21,000 Yeah. 61 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:24,000 And we definitely want to touch base on that. 62 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:25,000 Yeah. 63 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:27,000 So do you want me to go into it first? 64 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:28,000 Can I? 65 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:29,000 Please. 66 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:30,000 Because I... 67 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:33,000 So humans and people, I have a different process. 68 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:37,000 I have goddesses and divine beings. 69 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:39,000 And then there's humans. 70 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:47,000 So for me, a human is someone who just is just navigating life. 71 00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:49,000 Just doing what they're told. 72 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:52,000 The television tells them to get A, B, and C to clean the house. 73 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:54,000 They go and get A, B, and C. 74 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:55,000 They're hungry. 75 00:02:55,000 --> 00:02:56,000 They stop on the side of the road. 76 00:02:56,000 --> 00:03:00,000 They get a hamburger and some french fries and a Coke. 77 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:05,000 A goddess or a divine being will know their limitations, 78 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:09,000 know their body, know their mind. 79 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:11,000 They're not going to stop at the drive-thru. 80 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:15,000 They're not going to go to the store just because someone told them to. 81 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:19,000 They're not going to eat things that create illness within them. 82 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:25,000 They do things to create a better life for themselves. 83 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:28,000 And I know you said humans and people. 84 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:32,000 So I want you to give your perspective. 85 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:33,000 Right. 86 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:35,000 So it's kind of along those same lines, 87 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:38,000 except there's less intent on just being better. 88 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:42,000 It's more along the lines on how they interact around their surroundings. 89 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:44,000 And I've said this ever since. 90 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:51,000 I started in my early 30s where I kind of came along this idea where people are cool, 91 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:54,000 but humans get on my nerves. 92 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:59,000 And humans are the kind of people, and I use the grocery store when I talk about this. 93 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:03,000 I say that humans are the kind of people who are going through the grocery store, 94 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:10,000 picking off the stuff on their counter, not the counter, the aisle. 95 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:11,000 The aisle. 96 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:12,000 They're out of the various aisles, right? 97 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:13,000 The shelves off the aisle. 98 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:15,000 And they're picking up that stuff. 99 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:16,000 They're putting in their carts. 100 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:20,000 They're going straight to the cash out, getting their stuff, 101 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:23,000 not looking at anybody, not worrying if they're in anybody's way. 102 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:26,000 They are solely focused on their tax. 103 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:27,000 They need their food. 104 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:31,000 The only way that they do it is just focusing, getting in, getting out, 105 00:04:31,000 --> 00:04:34,000 and chances are they're not returning the cart afterwards. 106 00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:37,000 Whereas people, they go in there. 107 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:38,000 Sure, they're doing the shopping. 108 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:40,000 They're in the grocery store for the reason, 109 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:44,000 but they're also aware enough of their surroundings that, you know, 110 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:47,000 maybe their path walking down the aisle swerves for somebody 111 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:49,000 because they see somebody coming. 112 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:54,000 They're actually saying, at least making eye contact with a head nod, 113 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:57,000 you know, the southern little head nod that you do when you pass somebody. 114 00:04:57,000 --> 00:04:58,000 Right. 115 00:04:58,000 --> 00:05:03,000 They're interacting with the world while still performing the function that they need to do. 116 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:06,000 When they get out after everything is done, 117 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:09,000 they're probably going to be the people who do return their carts to the... 118 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:10,000 That's me. 119 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:11,000 Yeah. 120 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:15,000 And so there are a lot of people who don't, who do not. 121 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:20,000 And I'm sure that, you know, human beings aren't so black and white 122 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:23,000 that they're going to fall immediately between these two. 123 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:30,000 But it really shapes the way that I interact with people on whether or not I see them being in their humanity, 124 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:34,000 just their ego, just their what's inside of them right now. 125 00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:38,000 They're feeling their need and they're not paying any attention. 126 00:05:38,000 --> 00:05:42,000 Now that I'm older, I realize that's not a slight against me. 127 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:43,000 I used to think that it was. 128 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:44,000 Oh. 129 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:46,000 And I used to think it was like, oh, they're just being, 130 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:48,000 they're just out there doing whatever they want. 131 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:49,000 They're being asshole. 132 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:52,000 No, they're just, they're living their life in their own space, 133 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:54,000 in their own space, in their own world. 134 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:59,000 And maybe they don't have the energy to give, you know, people at that time. 135 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:05,000 I had it posed to me that we're all living our own little movie. 136 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:06,000 Okay. 137 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:09,000 We're all directors of our own movie. 138 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:12,000 We're all creators of our own movie. 139 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:21,000 And to me, a human is someone who isn't aware that they are allowed to create. 140 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:24,000 They don't even know they have a choice, right? 141 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:25,000 Okay. 142 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:29,000 So they just navigate from this very low brainwave state. 143 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:31,000 Just this, it's almost asleep. 144 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:32,000 Okay. 145 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:33,000 It's almost just reactions. 146 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:34,000 Reactionary. 147 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:35,000 I was just about to say reactionary. 148 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:37,000 So it's more from a place of ego. 149 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:41,000 The other perspective is that when I, when I call you a divine being, 150 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:47,000 a divine being knows the limitations of themselves, 151 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:51,000 knows the wants and desires and needs of themselves, 152 00:06:51,000 --> 00:06:56,000 knows that their value doesn't solely come from looks, 153 00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:59,000 doesn't come from what they can give someone, 154 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:01,000 doesn't come from these things. 155 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:08,000 The value of a divine being comes from so deep within that your movie, 156 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:14,000 I want to watch because there's excitement, there's awareness, 157 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:21,000 there's constant creativity, there's joy, there's new people. 158 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:25,000 If you're just a basic human, they're just getting through the day. 159 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:28,000 It's like, oh, for Christ's sake, I'm just trying to get through the day. 160 00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:31,000 Which is not to say that I don't go through my own down points. 161 00:07:31,000 --> 00:07:33,000 You know, it's not, it's not a constant high. 162 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:36,000 I don't think I could survive a constant high. 163 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:44,000 But it's how you deal with highs and lows, I think is in your view is what makes the divine being. 164 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:48,000 I feel like if you're going just along with the ride where you're not, 165 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:52,000 you know, shaping your destiny, I mean, like to use, you know, more metaphors, 166 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:56,000 why not that you're in a ship, you're being tossed around in the ocean. 167 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:59,000 The ocean's going to toss you around, but you're still at that rudder, 168 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:04,000 you're still trimming those sails, you're still trying to get your boat to kind of go westerly 169 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:06,000 or wherever it is that you're going. 170 00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:10,000 And I feel like a divine being, if you're using your term, people, 171 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:14,000 maybe if I'm using mine, they are paying attention to that boat. 172 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:15,000 They are. 173 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:20,000 You know, it was before this trip, a divine being, what does a divine being do? 174 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:25,000 I mean, I had, my trip to Riodoso was chaos. 175 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:30,000 I won't go into that just yet, but I want you to know before I came here, 176 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:35,000 I made sure everything was paid, made sure I had enough money for the trip, 177 00:08:35,000 --> 00:08:38,000 made sure I had a place to stay, got gas for my car. 178 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:39,000 All the things. 179 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:40,000 Yeah. 180 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:41,000 And I'm just vibing. 181 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:44,000 I'm just going from moment to moment. 182 00:08:44,000 --> 00:08:45,000 I'm just flowing. 183 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:46,000 I'm not mad at myself. 184 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:48,000 I'm not telling myself a story. 185 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:50,000 I don't have to lose weight. 186 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:52,000 I don't have to wear makeup. 187 00:08:52,000 --> 00:08:54,000 My hair doesn't have to be brushed. 188 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:55,000 My teeth do. 189 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:57,000 Yeah, that's important. 190 00:08:57,000 --> 00:09:02,000 But in order for me to have a safe, calm space, I had to create that for myself. 191 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:09,000 And I feel like divine beings or people are aware of that. 192 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:11,000 Like, Hey, I got to do A, B, and C. 193 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:14,000 If I want to go on this trip, I got to elaborate. 194 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:16,000 I know you did. 195 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:19,000 I was definitely doing the same thing too. 196 00:09:19,000 --> 00:09:21,000 I was making sure that aspects of the house were clean. 197 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:23,000 I was making sure that everything was packed away. 198 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:26,000 I even packed away a couple of extra things. 199 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:32,000 As I was packing away my clothes, actually, I had everything that I needed. 200 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:36,000 Plus one pair of underwear just in case because you never know when something might go wrong. 201 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:37,000 You know, I'm over 40. 202 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:39,000 Something might go wrong. 203 00:09:39,000 --> 00:09:40,000 Luckily, nothing has. 204 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:45,000 But it's that kind of forward thinking, that kind of planning instead of just going, Hey, 205 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:48,000 the only because I know people who will pack and go. 206 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:49,000 And the only thing I need. 207 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:51,000 I just need one, one pair of shirt. 208 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:53,000 I need one pair of pants and two shirts. 209 00:09:53,000 --> 00:09:54,000 I'm good. 210 00:09:54,000 --> 00:10:03,000 I'm like, Yes, but what if, you know, people who have experienced things and use that for forward thinking, for planning. 211 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:09,000 Well, like the guy we were, you were playing with in the game last night who shot himself. 212 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:10,000 Oh, we did. 213 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:11,000 Yeah. 214 00:10:11,000 --> 00:10:12,000 Well, his character did. 215 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:13,000 I just want to point out. 216 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:14,000 Yeah. 217 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:16,000 No one, no one, no one shot themselves at the table. 218 00:10:16,000 --> 00:10:18,000 It was in the game. 219 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:22,000 You run across things, you drink too much magic liquid to poop your pants. 220 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:26,000 That's how D&D rolls, you know, anyone out there has played D&D. 221 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:27,000 You know what I'm saying. 222 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:29,000 You got to roll with the punches. 223 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:31,000 Roll, get it dice. 224 00:10:31,000 --> 00:10:37,000 Let's, let's actually divert and just kind of tell the people why you're down here in the first place. 225 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:44,000 So we wanted to get together during pride and that didn't fare well. 226 00:10:44,000 --> 00:10:47,000 That didn't fare well, but neither one of us were mad at that. 227 00:10:47,000 --> 00:10:48,000 No. 228 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:51,000 And then D's 20 came up with Todd. 229 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:53,000 Todd A. Davis, great. 230 00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:57,000 Todd A. Davis, I got to meet the comedian, the man, the GM. 231 00:10:57,000 --> 00:10:58,000 Yeah. 232 00:10:58,000 --> 00:11:02,000 Well, GM, DM, he called himself a dungeon daddy that night, which was. 233 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:03,000 Dungeon daddy. 234 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:04,000 Which is great. 235 00:11:04,000 --> 00:11:05,000 He had a kilton. 236 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:16,000 It was, look, so I drove 10, just wonderful hours to a little cabin in North Carolina that I procured. 237 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:20,000 And you had said to me, well, what about the, what about the house closer to the venue? 238 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:25,000 And I said, well, that was sold out within like minutes of my selecting it. 239 00:11:25,000 --> 00:11:37,000 So the universe sent me this, which was a lovely little shotgun cabin on the side of a mountain in, what did you say, Petunia, North Carolina? 240 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:38,000 Penrose? 241 00:11:38,000 --> 00:11:39,000 Penrose. 242 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:40,000 Penrose. 243 00:11:40,000 --> 00:11:41,000 North Carolina. 244 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:45,000 And it's right next to the D&D. 245 00:11:45,000 --> 00:11:50,000 So I may beep some of that out just so people don't try to find you. 246 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:53,000 But yes, the pictures that you show me were lovely. 247 00:11:53,000 --> 00:11:55,000 I mean, you're a biker. 248 00:11:55,000 --> 00:11:59,000 I think Todd thought you meant a motorcyclist. 249 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:02,000 We didn't, we didn't dissuade him from that. 250 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:05,000 We just, and now he just thinks you're a motorcycle baddie. 251 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:06,000 I love it. 252 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:09,000 Which, that would be great. 253 00:12:09,000 --> 00:12:11,000 But no, like we're talking. 254 00:12:11,000 --> 00:12:12,000 Cyclist. 255 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:14,000 Yeah, cyclist. 256 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:16,000 And there's some trails out there that you want to explore. 257 00:12:16,000 --> 00:12:24,000 But you got to come up here and see me do my first ever live stage performance of playing D&D in front of an audience. 258 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:26,000 With other comedians and a drag queen. 259 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:28,000 They were all fabulous. 260 00:12:28,000 --> 00:12:29,000 Yeah. 261 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:39,000 And to be considered cool enough to hang with these kids was wild for me because I consider myself a relatively entertaining individual, even funny at times. 262 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:43,000 Though my wife is hard pressed to see that it, you know, but you can't win them all over. 263 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:52,000 Being there and being, I'm better at doing reactionary comedy, like situational comedy than I am doing a script. 264 00:12:52,000 --> 00:12:56,000 So it was really fun to have you there and do that. 265 00:12:56,000 --> 00:13:05,000 But then, you know, after that, we, after all of those fun yucks and throwing the dice and whatnot, we have that real conversation in the coffee shop today, which led to this. 266 00:13:05,000 --> 00:13:07,000 I learned so much. 267 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:08,000 Yeah. 268 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:09,000 I learned so much. 269 00:13:09,000 --> 00:13:23,000 I mean, I think what happens to me is I get so involved in my own life that I forget there are people around me and they do, they have emotions too. 270 00:13:23,000 --> 00:13:24,000 Yeah. 271 00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:25,000 I forget that. 272 00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:38,000 No, it's easy to do, especially when you're going through the stress of trying to balance your work life and, you know, trying to balance, especially if you're a hardcore creative who wants to create things like this. 273 00:13:38,000 --> 00:13:48,000 Like a podcast every week or say that you're a painter or whatever it is that you're doing that's going to, it's going to draw you within yourself. 274 00:13:48,000 --> 00:13:58,000 I think that's why it's good to never really create in a total vacuum because that gives you the ability to share your emotional load with somebody else. 275 00:13:58,000 --> 00:14:09,000 Even if it's just like, hey, I have been doing this for like all week. Can we go out, have a coffee or have a drink or just go take a walk and talk with each other? 276 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:14,000 Maybe, maybe at first even start talking at each other to see where the conversation is going to go. 277 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:22,000 For me, that kind of support is what really defines friendship for me. 278 00:14:22,000 --> 00:14:32,000 I was actually having a conversation with Todd's wife last night. Well, she was there during our conversation, but I digress. 279 00:14:32,000 --> 00:14:38,000 We were talking about how I had met a friend that I had invited as well. 280 00:14:38,000 --> 00:14:42,000 He was sitting right next to me, the one that, you know, almost took out my Adam's apple with the hug. 281 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:43,000 Oh, right. 282 00:14:43,000 --> 00:14:44,000 Yeah. 283 00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:46,000 And she was asking how we met. 284 00:14:46,000 --> 00:14:53,000 I'm like, yeah, it's been seven, eight years, I think, since we last talked like face to face. 285 00:14:53,000 --> 00:15:02,000 She was asking, like, you know, what the friendship was like. I was like, the friendship's easy because I find myself having good friendships with people who I can talk to. 286 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:06,000 Those are the people who make friends that last the longest. 287 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:18,000 I find myself having good friends that I know that when I come back to them, the conversation just picks up from wherever we left it, or maybe just, you know, something completely new, but we just ease into it. 288 00:15:18,000 --> 00:15:26,000 And having those kinds of friends, the people who you can talk to like that, they help you kind of balance yourself. 289 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:35,000 So when you are dealing with harder things or maybe you have a relationship, say, you know, I don't want to pull too much out of your own life on here. 290 00:15:35,000 --> 00:15:43,000 You're in close proximity to somebody who has kind of been getting on your nerves recently and you don't really know how to approach it. 291 00:15:43,000 --> 00:15:49,000 That you can go up to that friend and be like, look, here's what's happening. 292 00:15:49,000 --> 00:16:01,000 And you trust that friend enough to be real with you and come back with not only empathy, not only sympathy, but also constructive criticism, which is huge as well. 293 00:16:01,000 --> 00:16:02,000 What can you say to that? 294 00:16:02,000 --> 00:16:04,000 I mean, look, I have pulled this card. 295 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:07,000 I have pulled this card out of my hat so many times. 296 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:08,000 I'm 55. 297 00:16:08,000 --> 00:16:09,000 I'm grown. 298 00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:11,000 I don't need you to tell me that. 299 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:21,000 And sometimes somebody does need to remind me about those things like maybe washing dishes in the sink or other things. 300 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:27,000 Because like you said, being creative, that's what's on my mind first and foremost. 301 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:33,000 Dishes in the sink can wait 10 years for all I care. 302 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:41,000 Do you have, and this comes from somebody who has grown up with attention problems and who has learned how to cope with them here very recently. 303 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:47,000 Actually, do you have a set established set of events that you do when you get up in the morning? 304 00:16:47,000 --> 00:16:49,000 There's a better way of saying that. 305 00:16:49,000 --> 00:16:50,000 Oh, sure. Habits. 306 00:16:50,000 --> 00:16:51,000 There you go. 307 00:16:51,000 --> 00:16:52,000 Yeah. 308 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:55,000 What does your habits look like and what do they focus around most? 309 00:16:55,000 --> 00:16:56,000 Okay. 310 00:16:56,000 --> 00:17:01,000 In the morning, I generally wake up really early. 311 00:17:01,000 --> 00:17:05,000 I'll wake up at six in the morning and I don't make coffee or tea. 312 00:17:05,000 --> 00:17:11,000 I'll make a big jug of water, ice water with lemons and vinegar, a little bit of vinegar. 313 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:12,000 And then I get dressed. 314 00:17:12,000 --> 00:17:13,000 Was that with this vinegar? 315 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:14,000 Yeah. 316 00:17:14,000 --> 00:17:15,000 Okay. 317 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:16,000 I was wondering. 318 00:17:16,000 --> 00:17:17,000 Yeah. 319 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:22,000 After 50, your stomach acid, you don't make as much stomach acid. 320 00:17:22,000 --> 00:17:23,000 I'll make a little sound. 321 00:17:23,000 --> 00:17:24,000 Yeah. 322 00:17:24,000 --> 00:17:25,000 Because there's no video to this podcast. 323 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:26,000 Can you hear it? 324 00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:27,000 Can you hear the shaking? 325 00:17:27,000 --> 00:17:28,000 I hope you can. 326 00:17:28,000 --> 00:17:34,000 So, in my travels, because I used to eat from every restaurant that I, like restaurant 327 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:40,000 on the road and every place that I stayed, I would eat, I would eat from there. 328 00:17:40,000 --> 00:17:43,000 And now I just bought a refrigerator. 329 00:17:43,000 --> 00:17:44,000 I saw that. 330 00:17:44,000 --> 00:17:45,000 Yeah. 331 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:48,000 So I have, I got, I got, that's what we have when we go camping. 332 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:49,000 I love that thing. 333 00:17:49,000 --> 00:17:50,000 Yeah. 334 00:17:50,000 --> 00:17:51,000 Well, not that particular one. 335 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:52,000 It's German. 336 00:17:52,000 --> 00:17:53,000 Yeah. 337 00:17:53,000 --> 00:17:55,000 It's German and it's super cute when you open it. 338 00:17:55,000 --> 00:17:58,000 They have prepackaged salads, so I have that. 339 00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:03,000 And then where I stayed, the little cabin that I stayed at had a grill outside. 340 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:08,000 So this morning I grilled all my protein, nice lean, I think it's venison that I have 341 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:09,000 right now. 342 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:13,000 I've got these quirky little weird habits that I have. 343 00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:18,000 So in the morning, I'll make all my food and then I go to the gym and I work out and I'm 344 00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:24,000 been working on parkour because generally people my age don't move very well. 345 00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:25,000 Okay. 346 00:18:25,000 --> 00:18:29,000 I mean, generally they actually can climb and I do a lot of floor work. 347 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:32,000 It helps me with doing tricks on my bike. 348 00:18:32,000 --> 00:18:33,000 That's awesome. 349 00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:34,000 Yeah. 350 00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:42,000 So gym in the morning, I come home, it's usually cleaning, get ready to go to work. 351 00:18:42,000 --> 00:18:45,840 And then I'm a nurse and I do pediatric, trach and bent. 352 00:18:45,840 --> 00:18:52,600 So I take care of the kiddos and then I come home and then if we have any editing or whatever, 353 00:18:52,600 --> 00:19:01,040 I like to take Monday, Tuesday off and do all my editing and producing and invitations 354 00:19:01,040 --> 00:19:03,840 like when we invite guests and things. 355 00:19:03,840 --> 00:19:05,840 So I'll do that on Monday and Tuesday. 356 00:19:05,840 --> 00:19:08,080 So and I work with like a regular job. 357 00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:10,120 So you're pretty much pegged yourself right. 358 00:19:10,120 --> 00:19:16,880 The focus that you are having on is bettering you physically, probably mentally, especially 359 00:19:16,880 --> 00:19:19,280 with the working on which I commend you for. 360 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:21,120 I need to do better that on myself. 361 00:19:21,120 --> 00:19:24,080 And then creative, creative, creative. 362 00:19:24,080 --> 00:19:33,040 I have been having to force myself to get a habit chain together when I get up things 363 00:19:33,040 --> 00:19:36,440 because I can't just do one event at a time. 364 00:19:36,440 --> 00:19:40,040 I kind of like do round robin in the kitchen until all the events are done and then I'm 365 00:19:40,040 --> 00:19:41,040 good. 366 00:19:41,040 --> 00:19:44,080 So like I'm throwing a few dishes and the dishwasher here, turning around, grabbing 367 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:49,200 the milk out of the fridge to put into my coffee, doing another turn, putting on an article 368 00:19:49,200 --> 00:19:50,200 of clothing. 369 00:19:50,200 --> 00:19:54,840 I'm doing circles in the kitchen in the morning, but it's the kitchen that I'm keeping clean 370 00:19:54,840 --> 00:19:56,640 the most because I use that the most. 371 00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:58,640 Marley works most of the time. 372 00:19:58,640 --> 00:20:04,040 Her eating habits are her own, but I will say this, I wish she ate more. 373 00:20:04,040 --> 00:20:07,560 She doesn't really do a lot for breakfast and normally she's not there for dinner to 374 00:20:07,560 --> 00:20:08,560 be able to make it. 375 00:20:08,560 --> 00:20:10,480 So I'm using the kitchen a lot more. 376 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:15,760 So I've taken it into my own to force myself to clean the kitchen every morning. 377 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:20,080 So when I come home, I don't have to worry about cleaning it again just to make dinner. 378 00:20:20,080 --> 00:20:27,880 And those little habits are there have kind of taken me out of my own need just to get 379 00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:32,600 ready and get out of the house and get things going and moving and also kind of foster my 380 00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:35,080 surroundings as well. 381 00:20:35,080 --> 00:20:38,480 And I'm not gonna lie, I think that's kind of helped our relationship a little bit. 382 00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:40,360 I'm sure it has. 383 00:20:40,360 --> 00:20:42,840 I think it's because I claimed a space. 384 00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:47,520 You know, it's easy to say that when you're living with somebody that you're going to 385 00:20:47,520 --> 00:20:55,080 share the spaces and the cleaning of those spaces equally, but realistically, if you 386 00:20:55,080 --> 00:21:01,040 have different jobs, which unless you're, I can't think of many married people who like 387 00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:04,800 to work with together in the same spot day after day after day. 388 00:21:04,800 --> 00:21:07,400 So different jobs, different schedules. 389 00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:11,400 I feel like claiming a space in the house that you know that you're going to take care 390 00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:16,880 of not only for you, but also for the betterment of your relationship is huge, which I don't 391 00:21:16,880 --> 00:21:19,160 know how much of that you've got going on. 392 00:21:19,160 --> 00:21:24,120 If you think of any space in the house other than maybe your own room as your own, maybe 393 00:21:24,120 --> 00:21:28,880 doing that might help me some of the rough edges that you may be feeling right now with 394 00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:29,880 your roommate. 395 00:21:29,880 --> 00:21:32,040 Something I was thinking as I was just now processing. 396 00:21:32,040 --> 00:21:33,040 No, I appreciate it. 397 00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:34,040 Yeah, you're welcome. 398 00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:35,040 I was just thinking. 399 00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:37,120 I was thinking the same thing. 400 00:21:37,120 --> 00:21:43,880 I only have my things in my room and in the bathroom and that's pretty much it. 401 00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:51,680 So I have created a habit though, when it comes to my room and that is it is a shit 402 00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:54,920 storm while I'm there. 403 00:21:54,920 --> 00:22:00,280 But when I leave in the morning, I make sure that I pick up all my little messes, which 404 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:01,960 are super easy. 405 00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:03,880 It takes me like 15 minutes. 406 00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:05,680 Because they're your mess. 407 00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:06,680 Yeah. 408 00:22:06,680 --> 00:22:08,600 You know, you know how that mess was made. 409 00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:09,600 You know how to fix it. 410 00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:10,600 Right. 411 00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:11,600 I know how to fix it. 412 00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:13,560 And I've gotten really good at it. 413 00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:15,640 We were talking about habits. 414 00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:22,160 So here's another habit that I like is I used to not pay attention to my money at all. 415 00:22:22,160 --> 00:22:23,160 Really hated it. 416 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:24,160 Hated it. 417 00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:25,160 Hated money. 418 00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:26,160 Hated it. 419 00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:27,160 I would say I hated money. 420 00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:28,160 I hated everything to do with money. 421 00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:29,960 Hated to talk about it. 422 00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:31,760 Now I'm all about it. 423 00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:33,240 I touch base with it every day. 424 00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:34,240 I talk to it. 425 00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:41,960 I tell myself I am going to make lots of money and I'm going to put it in the bank and that's 426 00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:42,960 that. 427 00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:45,440 I'm going to be taking a little bit of a image of you walking into Donald, not Donald, Scrooge 428 00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:49,440 McDuck's money tower and just like standing there and talking to the coins. 429 00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:52,960 He's like, all right, we're going to be taking care of you today. 430 00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:53,960 Exactly. 431 00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:58,000 And the worst Scrooge McDuck voice I've ever done in my life. 432 00:22:58,000 --> 00:23:01,440 I've also recently been taking more responsibility for my money. 433 00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:06,120 I've been every payday going through and like writing down, making sure that the bills that 434 00:23:06,120 --> 00:23:08,920 were supposed to be paid over the last week were actually paid, which a lot of them are 435 00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:15,240 automatic and then being real with myself on maybe how much money I may be splurged because 436 00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:18,240 I do like going to the occasional restaurant though. 437 00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:24,400 I have been eating at home more recently because the groceries are actually cheaper than eating 438 00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:25,400 out right now. 439 00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:28,040 It really is and the quality of the food. 440 00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:32,440 I can buy a pound of this venison for $11.99. 441 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:33,440 Dear God. 442 00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:37,000 That will feed me for two days. 443 00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:38,000 Okay. 444 00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:39,000 That's cool. 445 00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:41,000 That's $5 a day. 446 00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:42,000 Yes. 447 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:43,000 Protein. 448 00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:44,000 Yes. 449 00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:45,000 You can't go to a restaurant and eat like that. 450 00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:48,000 And this bag salad is like $3.99. 451 00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:51,960 You know, a pound of beef right now is only $5. 452 00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:53,480 The difference is ethical. 453 00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:54,480 Okay. 454 00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:55,480 Okay. 455 00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:57,240 It's all about your beliefs. 456 00:23:57,240 --> 00:23:58,240 That is true. 457 00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:01,160 And I have these beliefs. 458 00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:05,680 I have these beliefs and I only want ethical. 459 00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:06,680 Okay. 460 00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:07,680 In me. 461 00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:08,680 Okay. 462 00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:09,680 It's a weird thing. 463 00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:10,680 I understand. 464 00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:11,680 I get it. 465 00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:12,680 From you, I definitely understand. 466 00:24:12,680 --> 00:24:16,000 For me, it's all about the bottom line for me right now. 467 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:17,000 Yeah. 468 00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:18,000 Yeah. 469 00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:21,360 And I guess I live my ethics or more along the lines of trying to just be a better people 470 00:24:21,360 --> 00:24:22,360 above the humans. 471 00:24:22,360 --> 00:24:23,360 There. 472 00:24:23,360 --> 00:24:24,360 It's what we're talking about. 473 00:24:24,360 --> 00:24:25,360 Look what I did. 474 00:24:25,360 --> 00:24:26,360 I brought it around right here. 475 00:24:26,360 --> 00:24:27,360 Full circle. 476 00:24:27,360 --> 00:24:29,360 For the end of the podcast. 477 00:24:29,360 --> 00:24:31,680 It's like I've been doing this for a minute or something. 478 00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:34,920 Look, Edith, this has been a joy. 479 00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:40,640 We're going to wrap up here and then if anybody wants to check out my other podcast, which 480 00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:45,120 you know, it probably won't be out by the time this is out. 481 00:24:45,120 --> 00:24:46,920 But wait for Christmas. 482 00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:51,680 And my Christmas episode of It's Your Lost Podcast will be out where Edith and I will 483 00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:56,920 continue a conversation along a different kind of darker, kind of sadder line. 484 00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:58,200 And I'm looking forward to that. 485 00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:02,880 So we're going to try out a new thing here and we're going to shape it along as we go. 486 00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:08,360 But we want to let you know that we do care about listening to you because if you've 487 00:25:08,360 --> 00:25:15,200 listened to us long enough and you feel so inspired to ask us to discuss a certain thing, 488 00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:20,040 reach out to us by sexual coffee podcast, all one word at gmail.com because we can't 489 00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:22,240 afford to buy an official one right now. 490 00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:25,400 Anything else you want to tell them to do? 491 00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:26,400 Edith? 492 00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:27,400 What month is this coming out? 493 00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:29,640 It's probably going to be somewhere in November. 494 00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:30,880 So yeah. 495 00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:39,560 I just want to tie this all up with a knot, a big bow and express the gratitude, the gratitude 496 00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:42,040 that I have for the moment that we're sharing. 497 00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:43,640 We could release this along Thanksgiving. 498 00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:44,640 Yeah. 499 00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:48,800 And tell you that we really do want to give thanks to you guys, anybody out there. 500 00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:49,800 Absolutely. 501 00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:55,120 We're so grateful for as far as we've come, where we are in this moment, where we're going 502 00:25:55,120 --> 00:25:57,200 in the future. 503 00:25:57,200 --> 00:26:02,720 Listening has been so exciting and going so fast, so I just want to say I'm so grateful 504 00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:03,720 to our listeners. 505 00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:04,720 I'm grateful to you. 506 00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:05,720 Thank you. 507 00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:06,720 Grateful to you as well. 508 00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:07,720 Go bonk. 509 00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:08,720 What I was trying to get you to say, but it's okay. 510 00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:10,600 I liked what you said as well. 511 00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:14,040 If you really do like this podcast and if you happen to be listening to it on Spotify, give 512 00:26:14,040 --> 00:26:15,040 us a comment. 513 00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:19,280 If you're on any other platform and 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