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In a world of change, where do you belong? The

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answer's clear, it's time to be strong. Mindful

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growth, that's where we thrive. With Angela's

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guidance, watch your best self arise. Transform

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with strong, reach for the stars. Resilient minds,

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that's who we are. No weakening potential, near

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and far. Angela, our strong. Welcome to episode

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four. of Transformation Talks with Angela R.

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Strong, Empowered Edge Season. I am Angela R.

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Strong and today we're tackling one of the most

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challenging, yet liberating topics in personal

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transformation, moving from victim to victor.

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This isn't about denying that bad things happen

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or pretending that pain doesn't exist. This is

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about reclaiming your power to choose how you

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respond to life's challenges. It's about recognizing

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that while you can't control what happens to

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you, you absolutely can control what happens

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next. For months during my final year in the

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US Coast Guard, I lived in victim mode. I had

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every reason to. I was facing false accusations,

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my reputation that I worked so hard for was being

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destroyed, and systems that I had trusted for

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27 years were failing me. I felt powerless, angry,

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and completely at the mercy of forces that were

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beyond my control. One morning, I looked in the

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mirror and I barely recognized myself. The woman

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staring back at me was defeated, bitter, and

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felt so small. That's when I made a choice that

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changed everything. I decided to stop asking,

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why is this happening to me? And start asking,

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how is this happening to me? That shift from

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victim to victor didn't happen overnight. But

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it started with that single question, though.

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First, let's be clear. Being a victim of circumstances

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does not make you weak. Sometimes we genuinely

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are victims of other people's actions, systemic

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failures, or life's random cruelties. The victim

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mindset becomes problematic when we stay there

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permanently. Here's some victim mindset characteristics.

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It's when you focus on what's being done to you,

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or feeling powerless to change your situation,

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or waiting for external circumstances to improve,

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defining yourself by your pain, believing that

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others control your happiness. Now, Victor mindset

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characteristics are these. Focusing on what you

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can do despite your circumstances. Identifying

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areas where you do have power. Taking action

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within your sphere of influence. Using your pain

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as fuel for growth. Taking responsibility for

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your response and recovery. The transformation

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happens in the space between stimulus and response.

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That is where your power lives. Reclaiming your

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power involves four key steps. Step one, acknowledge

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the reality. Stop minimizing or denying what

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happens. You can't heal what you won't feel.

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Give yourself permission to be angry, to be hurt,

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or disappointed. Step two, identify your agency.

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Even in the worst situations, you do have some

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choices. Maybe you can't control the situation,

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but you can control your response. And maybe

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you can't change the past, but you can influence

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your future. Step three. Refrain your story.

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This doesn't mean making excuses or for other

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people or pretending that everything happens

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for a reason. It just means finding empowering

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meaning in your experience. How has this challenge

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revealed your strength? What have you learned?

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How can you use this experience to help others?

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Step four, take a line action. Power without

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action is just potential. What one small step

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can you take today that aligns with your values

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and moves you towards the future that you desire?

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Remember, this isn't about forgiveness. That's

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a whole separate journey altogether. This is

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about refusing to let your past pain dictate

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your future possibilities. Let's practice the

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Victor's Power Calls. I want you to think of

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a situation where you've been feeling powerless.

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Take three deep breaths. Now ask yourself, what

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aspects of this situation are truly outside of

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my control? What aspects do I have some influence

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over? And what would take taking responsibility

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for my response look like? What's one small action

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I could take that would honor my values? How

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might this challenge be developing strength that

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I didn't know that I had? Feel the shift from

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powerlessness to possibility. That is your Victor

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Energy Awakening. This week, I want you to practice

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the daily power assessment. Each morning I want

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you to ask yourself, where do I have power today?

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Each evening I want you to reflect, and how did

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I use my power today? Choose one area that you've

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been feeling victimized and identify three specific

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actions that you could take to reclaim some of

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that power back in that situation. Moving from

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victor to victor isn't about becoming invulnerable.

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It's about becoming unstoppable. It's about recognizing

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that your power doesn't come from avoiding pain,

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but from choosing how you respond to that pain.

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Next week, we're exploring the courage to feel,

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emotional intelligence in action. Until then,

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I want you to remember that you are not what

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happened to you. You are what you choose to become

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because of what happened to you. I'm Angela R.

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Strong, and this is Transformation Talks with

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Angela R. Strong, season two, the Empowered Edge

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series. I look forward to seeing you guys next

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week. Please like. share, and comment. Bye everybody.