WEBVTT 00:00:01.470 --> 00:00:04.490 In a world of change, where do you belong? The 00:00:04.490 --> 00:00:07.290 answer's clear, it's time to be strong. Mindful 00:00:07.290 --> 00:00:09.710 growth, that's where we thrive. With Angela's 00:00:09.710 --> 00:00:12.269 guidance, watch your best self arise. Transform 00:00:12.269 --> 00:00:17.449 with strong, reach for the stars. Resilient minds, 00:00:17.710 --> 00:00:21.670 that's who we are. No one can mean potential. 00:00:31.050 --> 00:00:34.049 with Angela R. Strong, where we transform pain 00:00:34.049 --> 00:00:38.450 into purpose and shadows into strength. I'm Angela 00:00:38.450 --> 00:00:41.170 R. Strong, and if you're joining us for the first 00:00:41.170 --> 00:00:44.850 time, this is episode two of our journey together 00:00:44.850 --> 00:00:49.350 towards empowerment and healing. Last week, we 00:00:49.350 --> 00:00:52.590 talked about understanding your cycle of pain, 00:00:53.469 --> 00:00:55.950 those patterns that keep us trapped in the shadows. 00:00:57.490 --> 00:01:00.549 Today, I want to address something that almost 00:01:00.549 --> 00:01:04.109 every person on a healing journey struggles with. 00:01:04.689 --> 00:01:06.909 Something that can make you feel like you're 00:01:06.909 --> 00:01:11.629 failing when you're actually succeeding. I'm 00:01:11.629 --> 00:01:14.569 talking about the nonlinear nature of healing. 00:01:15.510 --> 00:01:18.609 The fact that your journey doesn't look just 00:01:18.609 --> 00:01:23.989 straight line from pain to empowerment, but more 00:01:23.989 --> 00:01:28.909 like, well, a maze that goes any every which 00:01:28.909 --> 00:01:34.370 way. If you've ever felt frustrated because you 00:01:34.370 --> 00:01:38.290 thought you were your past something only to 00:01:38.290 --> 00:01:42.709 find yourself triggered once again. If you've 00:01:42.709 --> 00:01:45.390 ever wondered why you can feel strong one day 00:01:45.390 --> 00:01:52.069 and completely overwhelmed the next. If you've 00:01:52.069 --> 00:01:55.030 ever felt like you're taking two steps forward 00:01:55.030 --> 00:02:00.269 and one step back or sometimes even three steps 00:02:00.269 --> 00:02:06.790 back, this episode is definitely for you. Because 00:02:06.790 --> 00:02:09.110 what I'm going to share with you today might 00:02:09.110 --> 00:02:13.430 just change everything about how you view your 00:02:13.430 --> 00:02:18.830 healing process. I want to start today's episode 00:02:18.830 --> 00:02:21.990 by taking you to a morning about six years into 00:02:21.990 --> 00:02:25.449 my healing journey. I was sitting in my kitchen. 00:02:26.409 --> 00:02:29.990 the same kitchen where I had so many breakthroughs, 00:02:30.110 --> 00:02:32.650 where I'd written in my journal about my progress, 00:02:33.449 --> 00:02:38.370 where I'd celebrate those small victories. But 00:02:38.370 --> 00:02:41.969 this one particular morning, I was sobbing into 00:02:41.969 --> 00:02:48.210 my cup of tea. The day before, I'd had what I 00:02:48.210 --> 00:02:52.750 thought was a panic attack at work. Not a little 00:02:52.750 --> 00:02:58.599 anxiety, a full blown kinked Breathe. World is 00:02:58.599 --> 00:03:04.419 ending panic attack over something that rationally 00:03:04.419 --> 00:03:08.960 I knew wasn't a real threat. I remember thinking, 00:03:09.080 --> 00:03:13.780 what is wrong with me? I've been doing the work. 00:03:14.240 --> 00:03:18.159 I've been in therapy. I've read the books. I've 00:03:18.159 --> 00:03:21.620 done the exercises and I thought I was healing. 00:03:22.860 --> 00:03:26.520 How can I still be having these panic attacks. 00:03:28.479 --> 00:03:32.379 I felt like such a failure. Like all the progress 00:03:32.379 --> 00:03:37.599 I thought I'd made was just an illusion. Like 00:03:37.599 --> 00:03:41.300 I was fundamentally broken and would never truly 00:03:41.300 --> 00:03:45.780 heal. Does that sound familiar? Here's what I 00:03:45.780 --> 00:03:48.360 didn't understand then, but I do understand it 00:03:48.360 --> 00:03:52.599 now. That panic attack was an evidence that I 00:03:52.599 --> 00:03:57.270 wasn't healing. It was actually evidence that 00:03:57.270 --> 00:04:01.330 I was healing, but it was in a way that I did 00:04:01.330 --> 00:04:06.389 not recognize yet. You see, I'd been thinking 00:04:06.389 --> 00:04:09.590 about healing like a climbing a mountain. Start 00:04:09.590 --> 00:04:12.530 at the bottom, work your way up, reach the top, 00:04:12.650 --> 00:04:18.050 and then you're done. Healed, fixed, complete. 00:04:19.790 --> 00:04:23.160 But healing isn't climbing. A mountain, it's 00:04:23.160 --> 00:04:26.420 not like climbing a mountain. Hilling is like 00:04:26.420 --> 00:04:33.120 navigating a maze. Think about the last time 00:04:33.120 --> 00:04:36.860 you were in a maze. Maybe a corn maze, you know, 00:04:37.040 --> 00:04:39.379 during Halloween time they always come out with 00:04:39.379 --> 00:04:41.199 those, or fall they always come out with those 00:04:41.199 --> 00:04:44.480 mazes, corn mazes. Or one of those hedge mazes 00:04:44.480 --> 00:04:48.120 you see in movies. What's the experience like? 00:04:49.180 --> 00:04:52.160 You start walking. and at first you might feel 00:04:52.160 --> 00:04:55.680 confident you pick a direction and then you go 00:04:55.680 --> 00:05:00.379 but then you hit a dead end so you backtrack 00:05:00.379 --> 00:05:04.439 and you try another path sometimes you feel like 00:05:04.439 --> 00:05:07.819 you're making progress and then you're suddenly 00:05:07.819 --> 00:05:13.680 back where you started sometimes you can see 00:05:13.680 --> 00:05:18.540 the hedge over the walls of that hedge and you 00:05:18.540 --> 00:05:21.110 get a glimpse of where it is that you're trying 00:05:21.110 --> 00:05:25.189 to go. But the path to get there is not clear. 00:05:26.449 --> 00:05:29.230 Sometimes you think that you're completely lost, 00:05:29.629 --> 00:05:32.430 only to turn a corner and then you realize that 00:05:32.430 --> 00:05:35.490 you're closer to the exit than you actually thought. 00:05:36.910 --> 00:05:39.569 Sometimes you walk down a path that seems wrong, 00:05:39.970 --> 00:05:42.910 but it ends up being exactly the path that you 00:05:42.910 --> 00:05:48.290 needed to get to the next section. This is healing. 00:05:49.000 --> 00:05:53.800 This is exactly what healing looks like. But 00:05:53.800 --> 00:05:57.720 we've been sold this story by, well, meaning 00:05:57.720 --> 00:06:02.319 people, but by self -help culture, sometimes 00:06:02.319 --> 00:06:05.819 even by therapists. That healing should be linear. 00:06:06.560 --> 00:06:10.600 That if you're doing it right, you should see 00:06:10.600 --> 00:06:16.279 steady, consistent process, progress. That setbacks 00:06:16.279 --> 00:06:20.569 mean that you're doing something wrong. That's 00:06:20.569 --> 00:06:25.689 not just false, it's harmful. Because when we 00:06:25.689 --> 00:06:29.209 expect linear progress and we experience those 00:06:29.209 --> 00:06:32.529 natural ups and downs of healing, we add a layer 00:06:32.529 --> 00:06:35.889 of shame and self -judgment that actually slows 00:06:35.889 --> 00:06:41.389 down our healing process. Let me tell you why 00:06:41.389 --> 00:06:45.930 healing cannot be linear. First, trauma, it doesn't 00:06:45.930 --> 00:06:50.959 happen in layers. It happens in networks. Your 00:06:50.959 --> 00:06:53.600 brain doesn't store trauma in neat, organized 00:06:53.600 --> 00:06:57.980 files. It stores it in interconnected networks 00:06:57.980 --> 00:07:03.879 of memory, emotion, sensation, and belief. When 00:07:03.879 --> 00:07:07.779 you heal one part, it affects other parts in 00:07:07.779 --> 00:07:13.120 unpredictable ways. Second, healing happens on 00:07:13.120 --> 00:07:16.819 multiple levels simultaneously. You're not just 00:07:16.819 --> 00:07:19.720 healing emotionally. You're healing mentally, 00:07:20.399 --> 00:07:25.959 physically, spiritually, relationally. Progress 00:07:25.959 --> 00:07:29.420 in one area might temporarily destabilize another 00:07:29.420 --> 00:07:34.740 area while it integrates. Third, your system 00:07:34.740 --> 00:07:38.839 has its own wisdom timing. Sometimes your nervous 00:07:38.839 --> 00:07:42.720 system knows you're not ready to progress or 00:07:42.720 --> 00:07:47.000 process certain things. So what does it do? It 00:07:47.000 --> 00:07:49.959 protects you by keeping them locked away until 00:07:49.959 --> 00:07:54.399 you have more resources. When those things surface 00:07:54.399 --> 00:07:57.879 later, it's not regression. It's your system 00:07:57.879 --> 00:08:00.560 deciding that you're finally strong enough to 00:08:00.560 --> 00:08:04.279 handle them. I want to share a different metaphor 00:08:04.279 --> 00:08:08.019 with you. One that's been incredibly helpful 00:08:08.019 --> 00:08:12.110 for me and for my clients. Instead of thinking 00:08:12.110 --> 00:08:15.129 about healing as a straight line or even as a 00:08:15.129 --> 00:08:20.329 maze, I want you to think about it as a spiral 00:08:20.329 --> 00:08:24.889 staircase. Picture this. You're walking up the 00:08:24.889 --> 00:08:29.250 spiral staircase in a tower. As you walk, you 00:08:29.250 --> 00:08:33.470 keep passing those same windows, the same views. 00:08:34.590 --> 00:08:37.669 From the outside, it might look like you're going 00:08:37.669 --> 00:08:40.980 in circles covering the same ground over and 00:08:40.980 --> 00:08:46.320 over, but you're not. Each time that you pass 00:08:46.320 --> 00:08:51.360 that window you're at a higher level. The view 00:08:51.360 --> 00:08:54.519 might look similar, but you're seeing it from 00:08:54.519 --> 00:08:58.860 a different perspective. You have more wisdom, 00:08:59.539 --> 00:09:02.860 more tools, more resilience than you had the 00:09:02.860 --> 00:09:09.379 last time you were here. This is why you might 00:09:09.379 --> 00:09:11.480 find yourself dealing with the same triggers, 00:09:12.159 --> 00:09:16.059 the same patterns, the same fears multiple times 00:09:16.059 --> 00:09:20.259 on your healing journey. It's not because you're 00:09:20.259 --> 00:09:23.980 not making progress. It's because you're ready 00:09:23.980 --> 00:09:30.120 to heal that issue at a deeper level. That panic 00:09:30.120 --> 00:09:34.320 attack I had in my kitchen, I've dealt with anxiety 00:09:34.320 --> 00:09:40.409 before. But this time, I was strong enough to 00:09:40.409 --> 00:09:47.690 not just manage those symptoms. I was ready to 00:09:47.690 --> 00:09:49.990 understand and heal the root cause of those problems. 00:09:51.090 --> 00:09:53.750 My system was saying, okay, Angela, you built 00:09:53.750 --> 00:09:57.970 enough stability and resources. Now we can go 00:09:57.970 --> 00:10:02.490 deeper. The first time that I dealt with my abandonment 00:10:02.490 --> 00:10:06.490 issues, I was just trying to survive them. The 00:10:06.490 --> 00:10:09.779 second time, I was learning to set boundaries 00:10:09.779 --> 00:10:15.519 around them. The third time, I was ready to understand 00:10:15.519 --> 00:10:19.080 where they came from and start healing them. 00:10:20.179 --> 00:10:23.580 The fourth time, I was able to help someone else 00:10:23.580 --> 00:10:28.159 who was struggling with those same issues. See, 00:10:28.320 --> 00:10:32.559 same issue, different level of the spiral. Now, 00:10:32.559 --> 00:10:36.419 I know what you might be thinking. Okay, Angela. 00:10:36.639 --> 00:10:40.299 I get that healing isn't linear, but that doesn't 00:10:40.299 --> 00:10:45.259 make it any less frustrating. How do I deal with 00:10:45.259 --> 00:10:47.539 the fact that this is going to take longer and 00:10:47.539 --> 00:10:53.700 be messier than I thought? I want to share with 00:10:53.700 --> 00:10:55.860 you some of the gifts that come with understanding 00:10:55.860 --> 00:10:59.279 and accepting the nonlinear nature of healing. 00:11:00.960 --> 00:11:03.700 The first gift is the permission to be human. 00:11:04.679 --> 00:11:08.320 when you stop expecting perfection from your 00:11:08.320 --> 00:11:12.340 healing process, you can stop expecting perfection 00:11:12.340 --> 00:11:17.120 from yourself. You can have bad days without 00:11:17.120 --> 00:11:20.559 it meaning you're failing. You can have those 00:11:20.559 --> 00:11:24.559 setbacks without it meaning that you're broken. 00:11:26.559 --> 00:11:32.799 Give two. Deeper, more lasting change. Quick 00:11:32.799 --> 00:11:35.220 fixes rarely last because they don't address 00:11:35.220 --> 00:11:39.559 the complexity of human experience. When you 00:11:39.559 --> 00:11:43.879 heal in a spiral going deeper each time, the 00:11:43.879 --> 00:11:47.340 changes you make are more integrated and more 00:11:47.340 --> 00:11:54.899 permanent. Gift three. Wisdom and compassion. 00:11:56.320 --> 00:11:58.620 Every time you navigate a challenging period 00:11:58.620 --> 00:12:02.299 in your healing, you develop wisdom and compassion. 00:12:03.440 --> 00:12:06.960 not only for yourself and for others who are 00:12:06.960 --> 00:12:14.940 struggling. This wisdom becomes part of your 00:12:14.940 --> 00:12:19.980 strength. Gift four, trusting your own process. 00:12:20.799 --> 00:12:23.200 When you stop trying to control the pace and 00:12:23.200 --> 00:12:26.220 path of your healing, you start trusting your 00:12:26.220 --> 00:12:32.019 own inner wisdom. You learn to listen to what 00:12:32.029 --> 00:12:34.870 your system needs instead of forcing what you 00:12:34.870 --> 00:12:42.029 think it should need. But the biggest gift, the 00:12:42.029 --> 00:12:46.549 gift of presence. When you're not constantly 00:12:46.549 --> 00:12:49.029 evaluating whether you're healing fast enough 00:12:49.029 --> 00:12:52.710 or correctly enough, you can actually be present 00:12:52.710 --> 00:12:57.950 to your life as it is happening to you. You can 00:12:57.950 --> 00:13:01.549 appreciate how far you've come. instead of only 00:13:01.549 --> 00:13:05.990 focusing on how far you still have to go. So 00:13:05.990 --> 00:13:11.450 how do we practically navigate this maze? How 00:13:11.450 --> 00:13:14.909 do we maintain hope and momentum when the path 00:13:14.909 --> 00:13:21.389 is yet to be clear? There's three essential practices. 00:13:22.750 --> 00:13:27.809 Practice number one, patience as a radical act. 00:13:28.879 --> 00:13:32.460 In our instant gratification culture, patience 00:13:32.460 --> 00:13:36.860 feels almost revolutionary. But patience isn't 00:13:36.860 --> 00:13:40.100 passive waiting, it's active trust. It's saying, 00:13:40.340 --> 00:13:42.740 I trust that my system knows what it's doing, 00:13:43.539 --> 00:13:48.740 even when I don't understand the timeline. Patience 00:13:48.740 --> 00:13:52.340 means giving yourself permission to heal at your 00:13:52.340 --> 00:13:55.220 own pace. Not the pace that you think you should 00:13:55.220 --> 00:13:59.000 heal at, or the pace someone else healed that. 00:14:00.320 --> 00:14:04.399 I like to remind myself I'm not behind. I'm not 00:14:04.399 --> 00:14:09.200 ahead. I'm exactly where I need to be in this 00:14:09.200 --> 00:14:14.759 moment. Practice two. Self -compassion as your 00:14:14.759 --> 00:14:18.899 superpower. Self -compassion is not self -pity 00:14:18.899 --> 00:14:22.799 or self -indulgence. It's treating yourself with 00:14:22.799 --> 00:14:25.500 the same kindness that you'd show a beloved friend 00:14:25.500 --> 00:14:30.139 who was struggling. When you hit a setback instead 00:14:30.139 --> 00:14:34.159 of saying I should be over this by now try saying 00:14:34.159 --> 00:14:38.559 This is really hard and it makes sense that I'm 00:14:38.559 --> 00:14:43.000 struggling What do I need right now to take care 00:14:43.000 --> 00:14:48.360 of myself? Self -compassion doesn't slow down 00:14:48.360 --> 00:14:52.080 healing. It speeds it up by removing the additional 00:14:52.080 --> 00:15:00.429 burden of self -criticism Practice three Celebrating 00:15:00.429 --> 00:15:06.330 micro victories. In a non -linear journey, the 00:15:06.330 --> 00:15:09.649 big victories might be far and few between, right? 00:15:09.950 --> 00:15:12.909 But those micro victories happen every single 00:15:12.909 --> 00:15:16.049 day, and they're just as important as those big 00:15:16.049 --> 00:15:19.549 ones. Maybe today you felt triggered, but you 00:15:19.549 --> 00:15:23.409 didn't react the way that you used to. That's 00:15:23.409 --> 00:15:27.919 a victory. Maybe you caught yourself. in a negative 00:15:27.919 --> 00:15:31.220 self -talk and redirected it. That's a victory. 00:15:32.840 --> 00:15:35.600 Maybe you asked for help instead of isolating. 00:15:36.639 --> 00:15:40.559 Victory. Maybe you got out of bed on a day that 00:15:40.559 --> 00:15:45.159 it felt impossible. Victory. These aren't small 00:15:45.159 --> 00:15:47.980 things. This is evidence that you're changing 00:15:47.980 --> 00:15:55.340 even when it doesn't feel dramatic. I keep a 00:15:55.340 --> 00:15:57.730 victory journal. where I write down one small 00:15:57.730 --> 00:16:01.909 thing that I'm proud of myself for each day. 00:16:03.669 --> 00:16:06.549 Some days it can be just as simple as I had a 00:16:06.549 --> 00:16:09.889 difficult conversation with courage. Other days 00:16:09.889 --> 00:16:12.330 it's I took a shower when I really didn't want 00:16:12.330 --> 00:16:21.110 to. Both deserve to be celebrated. I want to 00:16:21.110 --> 00:16:24.509 challenge you to Redefine what progress looks 00:16:24.509 --> 00:16:28.370 like in your healing journey. Progress isn't 00:16:28.370 --> 00:16:32.809 just feeling better. Sometimes progress is feeling 00:16:32.809 --> 00:16:41.070 your feelings instead of numbing them. Sometimes 00:16:41.070 --> 00:16:43.450 progress is setting a boundary even though it's 00:16:43.450 --> 00:16:48.009 uncomfortable. Sometimes progress is recognizing 00:16:48.009 --> 00:16:53.319 a pattern you've been stuck in for years. Progress 00:16:53.319 --> 00:16:58.159 isn't just moving forward. Sometimes progress 00:16:58.159 --> 00:17:02.440 is just knowing when to rest, which is something 00:17:02.440 --> 00:17:04.859 that I always have to remind myself to do because 00:17:04.859 --> 00:17:08.000 I'm constantly going and constantly doing. So 00:17:08.000 --> 00:17:10.920 sometimes progress is just asking for help when 00:17:10.920 --> 00:17:14.119 you need it. Sometimes progress is saying no 00:17:14.119 --> 00:17:17.859 to things that you used to feel obligatory to 00:17:17.859 --> 00:17:23.029 do. Progress isn't just individual healing. Sometimes 00:17:23.029 --> 00:17:25.890 progress is using your experience to help someone 00:17:25.890 --> 00:17:29.710 else. Sometimes progress is breaking generational 00:17:29.710 --> 00:17:34.930 patterns. Sometimes progress is simply being 00:17:34.930 --> 00:17:40.670 the living example that healing is indeed possible. 00:17:44.309 --> 00:17:46.089 The morning that I was crying in the kitchen, 00:17:46.309 --> 00:17:48.730 I thought that panic attack was evidence of my 00:17:48.730 --> 00:17:52.630 failure. Now I can see it was evidence of my 00:17:52.630 --> 00:17:56.569 progress. My system was finally safe enough to 00:17:56.569 --> 00:17:59.990 process something that I've been caring for years. 00:18:01.410 --> 00:18:03.789 Your setbacks might actually be breakthroughs 00:18:03.789 --> 00:18:07.329 in disguise. Your struggles might actually be 00:18:07.329 --> 00:18:12.910 your strength developing. Your maze might be 00:18:12.910 --> 00:18:18.390 leading you exactly where you need to go. One 00:18:18.390 --> 00:18:21.670 of the most Profound shifts in my healing journey 00:18:21.670 --> 00:18:28.130 was changing my relationship with time. Instead 00:18:28.130 --> 00:18:32.609 of seeing time as something working against me, 00:18:32.950 --> 00:18:39.029 measuring how long I've been stuck or how long 00:18:39.029 --> 00:18:42.710 it was taking to heal, I started seeing time 00:18:42.710 --> 00:18:47.490 as something that was working with me. Time isn't 00:18:47.490 --> 00:18:51.700 just duration. It's depth. The time you spend 00:18:51.700 --> 00:18:55.700 in your healing process isn't wasted time. It's 00:18:55.700 --> 00:19:00.359 time that is invested. You're not just killing 00:19:00.359 --> 00:19:04.160 time until you're healed. You're using time to 00:19:04.160 --> 00:19:07.799 develop qualities that will serve you for the 00:19:07.799 --> 00:19:13.140 rest of your life. Patience, resilience, self 00:19:13.140 --> 00:19:18.559 -compassion, wisdom, faith. These things aren't 00:19:18.559 --> 00:19:21.759 just nice -to -haves they're your superpowers 00:19:21.759 --> 00:19:25.339 That you develop through the process of healing 00:19:25.339 --> 00:19:31.700 not just the destination I Want you to consider 00:19:31.700 --> 00:19:36.640 this What if your healing journey is? Taking 00:19:36.640 --> 00:19:41.740 exactly as long as it needs to take What if the 00:19:41.740 --> 00:19:47.609 pace isn't too slow What if it's perfect What 00:19:47.609 --> 00:19:50.470 if your system in its infinite wisdom is giving 00:19:50.470 --> 00:19:54.490 you exactly the time that you need to develop 00:19:54.490 --> 00:19:59.670 into the person that you are meant to be? Have 00:19:59.670 --> 00:20:02.289 you ever thought about that? Before we close 00:20:02.289 --> 00:20:05.269 I want to remind you of something crucial. Your 00:20:05.269 --> 00:20:09.970 maze is unique to you. Your path through healing 00:20:09.970 --> 00:20:12.329 will look different from everyone else's and 00:20:12.329 --> 00:20:16.289 not like everyone else's and that's just not 00:20:16.269 --> 00:20:18.869 Okay, that's how it's supposed to be because 00:20:18.869 --> 00:20:22.029 everybody's different. The person whose trauma 00:20:22.029 --> 00:20:24.990 looks similar to yours might heal faster or slower 00:20:24.990 --> 00:20:28.569 than you. The person who seems to have it all 00:20:28.569 --> 00:20:30.910 together might be struggling with things that 00:20:30.910 --> 00:20:35.049 you can't even see. The person who's been in 00:20:35.049 --> 00:20:36.970 therapy longer might be working on different 00:20:36.970 --> 00:20:42.210 things than you are. Comparison in healing is 00:20:42.210 --> 00:20:46.170 not just unhelpful is actually very, very harmful. 00:20:47.789 --> 00:20:51.450 Your journey is sacred. Your timeline is sacred. 00:20:52.230 --> 00:20:58.490 Your process is sacred, trusted, moderate, celebrated. 00:21:01.609 --> 00:21:03.970 And remember that the goal isn't to get through 00:21:03.970 --> 00:21:08.430 the maze as quickly as possible. The goal is 00:21:08.430 --> 00:21:12.490 to navigate it with as much grace, self -compassion, 00:21:12.529 --> 00:21:17.180 and wisdom as you can. The goal is to become 00:21:17.180 --> 00:21:19.700 the kind of person who can walk through mazes 00:21:19.700 --> 00:21:25.079 in healing and in life with both confidence and 00:21:25.079 --> 00:21:30.819 courage. As we close today, I want to leave you 00:21:30.819 --> 00:21:35.559 with this. You are not behind. You are not broken. 00:21:36.440 --> 00:21:42.519 You're not taking too long. You are exactly where 00:21:42.519 --> 00:21:47.130 you need to be. learning exactly what you need 00:21:47.130 --> 00:21:53.849 to learn. Developing the exact strength and the 00:21:53.849 --> 00:21:59.009 wisdom that you need for your path. This maze 00:21:59.009 --> 00:22:02.089 of healing isn't a punishment, it's a classroom. 00:22:03.349 --> 00:22:08.089 Every dead end teaches you something. Every backtrack 00:22:08.089 --> 00:22:12.349 builds resilience. Every moment that you feel 00:22:12.349 --> 00:22:15.650 lost makes the moments of clarity more precious. 00:22:17.470 --> 00:22:19.990 Your nonlinear healing journey isn't evidence 00:22:19.990 --> 00:22:23.410 that you're doing something wrong. It's evidence 00:22:23.410 --> 00:22:27.130 that you're doing something brave. It's evidence 00:22:27.130 --> 00:22:30.849 that you're not just surviving, you're transforming. 00:22:35.970 --> 00:22:39.049 Next week. We're going to talk about building 00:22:39.049 --> 00:22:42.390 your personal toolkit for transformation. How 00:22:42.390 --> 00:22:44.529 to find the specific strategies and practices 00:22:44.529 --> 00:22:48.829 that work for your unique healing journey. Because 00:22:48.829 --> 00:22:54.289 what works for one person might not work for 00:22:54.289 --> 00:22:58.549 another. That's how I develop calibrated resilience. 00:23:00.730 --> 00:23:03.150 Because it's precise to each individual person. 00:23:04.269 --> 00:23:07.569 So until then, be patient with yourself. and 00:23:07.569 --> 00:23:09.470 celebrate those small victories. I want you to 00:23:09.470 --> 00:23:12.210 trust your process and remember that every step 00:23:12.210 --> 00:23:15.190 in the maze is a step towards your strength. 00:23:18.109 --> 00:23:19.769 I want to thank you for walking through this 00:23:19.769 --> 00:23:22.430 maze with me today on Transformation Talk with 00:23:22.430 --> 00:23:26.670 Angela R. Strong. And if this episode helped 00:23:26.670 --> 00:23:29.410 you reframe your healing journey, I want you 00:23:29.410 --> 00:23:34.809 to please subscribe, like, and share this with 00:23:34.809 --> 00:23:38.109 someone who might need to hear that their own 00:23:38.109 --> 00:23:42.349 nonlinear path is exactly right for them. You 00:23:42.349 --> 00:23:46.309 can find show notes, resources, and your free 00:23:46.309 --> 00:23:51.170 small victories tracker at www .calibratedresilience 00:23:51.170 --> 00:23:55.029 .com. And also remember that your healing journey 00:23:55.029 --> 00:23:59.450 is not a race, it's a pilgrimage. Until next 00:23:59.450 --> 00:24:01.410 time, I want you to keep honoring your process 00:24:01.410 --> 00:24:04.950 and moving from shadows to strength. See you 00:24:04.950 --> 00:24:08.660 on the next episode. The trouble won't waken 00:24:08.660 --> 00:24:14.019 into legacy, we got the key Unlocking the leader 00:24:14.019 --> 00:24:19.099 you're meant to be Mindful, bold and totally 00:24:19.099 --> 00:24:19.720 free