Hello. Welcome to the Tudors of Life podcast, episode 52. This is your host, Sean Tudor.
And this is Sam.
How are you, Sam?
I'm doing pretty good. How about you?
I'm doing well. I wrote my blog for tomorrow. This Wednesday, by the way. So that's good.
That's cool?
Yeah. I wrote about the power of job coaches. So if you're interested, check it out on TudorsOfLife.com.
There we go.
I talk about just some of the ways that Josh and Audrey have helped me getting to where
I'm at thus far. And see, it's a pretty good read. If you want to check it out.
Maybe I'll read it myself.
Ooh, nice. Say it.
What?
Wait, is this something that should be on a talk, not a tutor?
Well, the stock market and the crypto market has been uber down.
Uber down.
Uber down. So I was like, why is this happening? Ryan informed me this morning that Jerome
Powell had a talk today, or was planned to talk today when I talked to him about the Fed
and what interest rates could possibly go to. And so that may have been playing a role
into such drastic declines in the market. Because it seems about every time Jerome
Powell talks about the Fed and interest rates, shit just hits the floor.
So I'm really hoping after, I guess Ryan said talks went well today. He must have watched
it or whatever, but talks went well. So I'm really hoping to see somewhat of a rebound.
Definitely saw a massive rebound already in cryptos. Those start bouncing back really
good today at about two o'clock.
Yeah, I was going to say, I got a notification that Riot was going out.
I haven't yet, but we'll see maybe in the coming days they will.
We have cryptos have already started doing a pretty good bounce back.
That's cool.
Yeah. Yeah. So that's that. I went to Whiskoria yesterday. That's kind of a tutor thing,
right?
Kind of a tutor thing.
Yeah. And so Whiskoria had a Christmas party. It was fun. Got to chat with everyone. I did
it at a new location. What was that called? River jams.
River jams. Had good food.
Very good food.
Nice staff. There was a good time.
It was a really cool place.
Looking forward to going there some more. All right, Sam, what do you got for me this
week?
Well, I got notes.
Let's do it. All right. Hey, for people watching on the on the YouTube's, how cute is this
peppers?
We need a bigger couch just for Mimi.
That was you just such a pretty girl.
Mm hmm.
She is.
Okay, go ahead, Sam.
So we're going to do something not real estate or financial today. How do you feel about
that?
Let's try it out.
Okay. Today we're going to talk about mental toughness.
All right.
Sean, how did we ever start thinking about mental toughness or where did it come from?
Like in our lives?
Um, uh, I guess I don't know the answer you're looking for.
I mean, there's one main person that talks about it.
Mental toughness.
Yes.
Andy forcella.
Yes.
On the real AF podcast.
Correct.
All right. Check it out, guys. There's a fee. Okay.
And I'm going to pay the fee right now. Check out Andy forcellas podcast called real AF.
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put on some of the best content into a podcast that I've ever listened to.
I am not kidding when I say I spent, I started listening at six, six 15 AM at the gym today.
I started listening to it.
Besides for when I was having conversations with people, I listened to it all day at work
and even repeated episodes until I got home at three 05 PM.
I have to admit, I did not listen to the episode you told me to today.
I listened to that one twice today.
I really couldn't though today at work.
Sure. I just want everybody to know, check out real AF podcast. Phenomenal.
And so this is where he, he's a big reason we started thinking a lot about mental toughness.
He has the set. He is the creator of the 75 hard program.
Do it blows my mind how people know about the 75 hard program and don't know who Andy
forcella is.
Yeah. It's great. What a crazy thing he created that it's so, it's so known that the people
don't even know who created it.
They just know the program.
Right. And we've talked about it on the podcast before because we've kind of called some people
out about it.
Yeah.
But the program is created to gain mental toughness.
And right now people are doing it for like a weight loss journey or they modify it to
fit their lifestyles, but that's not the point of the program.
Right. Yep. And that's that. He talks about that in, in length.
It has nothing. I shouldn't say it has nothing. It is not about the physical aspects of it
that you receive. It is the sheer mental toughness you have to have to complete the program successfully.
And I think a lot of things you can take from that program. We haven't done it yet.
No.
I do want to do it after the wedding. I'd like to do it after the wedding. But people take
things from that program and implement it into daily life. And I think that's very good.
That's very powerful. But you've got to remember what it's for.
Right.
Right. And that's, that's to gain mental toughness and, and really gain the confidence in yourself
that you completed a program like that.
And so a lot of people that, that like we had, you know, some friends who were trying
75 soft, which is that's not, that is for like the weight loss and the health. And,
and like, that's great. Like if that's your goals, right? If your goals is the weight
loss portion, then just do a weight loss program like that. If you're looking for the mental
rigidity, then you know, this, this 75 hard program is the route to go. So, so I guess
enough about that, Sam, what do you, what do you got on, on the mental toughness gambit
for us today?
Okay. So what do you, what do you think mental toughness is?
Oh, is there a definition I should be having?
I honestly don't have a definition, but what do you think mental toughness is?
Mental toughness to me is the ability to do something or not do something that you do
or do not want to do. Right? So
That was a very interesting definition, but I liked it.
Does, does that make sense?
Yeah. Yeah.
So like mental toughness to me is I am awful. I am awful when I get home from work. If it's
like five, six PM, I'm in a downward slope to doing nothing.
Okay. Oh, you're awful at doing stuff.
I'm awful at doing stuff after like, cause once I think it's the car ride home, the car
ride home kills me because
It's like you're wind down
It's my wind down from work. So hell, I could come home. It does. It actually really doesn't
even matter when I come home. It's that car ride that winds me down and I kind of just
want to nap. Right?
And I could take a quick nap, but typically
Usually we just, now we've been coming up to the office to make sure we do stuff.
And that's right. And so mental toughness in that situation for me is I want to just
nap and chill. I want to just draw on some Netflix, eat some food and chill. Right?
My mental toughness kicks in because I go up and I work in the office. We take Mimi
for a walk. We podcast blog, do whatever it is. Right? We are doing shit. Clean the house,
do the dishes. We are doing stuff.
I think it's definitely like the sitting down in the car because as long as I come home,
I set my stuff down and as soon as I don't sit down or lay in bed or lay on the couch,
then I can keep going.
So yeah, my mental toughness for me personally is coming home and not chilling and just doing
stuff. And so then controversial, right? Or the contradiction, right? Or whatever,
the opposing thing, whatever. You have mental toughness in not doing something. Okay?
So like something like bad that's like tempting the seven sins, the seven sins. There you
go. Absolutely. Check out what the seven sins are. There's a lot of, I don't have to go
too in depth here. Here's the thing. I'll make it very simple. Every single person is
going to be able to understand this. You see a hot chick or a hot guy, you would like relations
with them, but you have a significant other, mental toughness. You don't have a relation
with them then too easy. And that goes into diet, right? Diet, huge cookies, Christmas
season. I don't have mental toughness right now for cooking season. And when it's Christmas,
I put a couple pounds on it's just the way it is. I do it every single year. I know it's
wrong, but it's what I do. But here's the thing. The majority of the year, I practice
that mental toughness. I see the sweets. Every day I'm at the checkout at Menards. They got
the little carousel there with all the little Debbie's just staring at me saying, Hey,
Sean, why don't you come, why don't you just come test us out? Right? I say no. Okay? That's
the other side of mental toughness. I definitely am way stronger with like, why can temptations
than you? Okay. So that's my definition. It took like five, 10 minutes, but that's everything
with you. So how I decided to go about learning about mental toughness was there's one very
common way that it's measured. Okay. So I kind of I took those measurements, they kind
of went deep in each of those measurements. And I did blogs on all of these. You guys
want to read the blogs to go for it. So the format, the four ways that they measure mental
toughness is control, commitment, challenge, confidence.
I just want to picture you on Mimi. She's so cute. Keep going. Anyways, do you remember
what the four are Sean? Control. Yep. Confidence. Yep. Commitment. Yep. Do you say the last
one yet? Yep. Challenge. Challenge. Damn it. Should we go over them in general and then
talk about how you and I scored? Um, or do you want to go over our scores first? Do you
remember my score? I have it down. Okay. Um, let's just do a quick overview of them. So
everyone kind of understands a quick GIF of it. Yeah. Um, so the first one that is, they
also call them four pillars of mental toughness. So the first pillar is control. Uh, so they
kind of relate control to like self esteem, I guess, um, or motivation. But a person with
high control will not use any emotions in any situations. Okay. But a person with low
control uses their emotions. That makes a lot of sense. We also call those people liberals.
Keep going. Um, but as someone who has high control, it takes ownership of their actions
because they're in control of their life. So people with low control obviously feel like,
I'm guessing that they're failing all the time because that they're, they can't control
their life. Like they have no control over it. Like all these things keep happening to
them, but it's not their fault. Okay. Um, so one thing that I like to think about that
or compare it to is having a positive and negative view on life. Right. So people who
are more positive about life, um, usually will, I mean, they take ownership of all their actions.
They feel more control in their life. Okay. Right. I agree. Yes. I agree that that, uh,
if you've ever read or listened to thinking grow rich, that plays a massive role. That
that is control verb, like verbatim, essentially. Yeah. You know, your thought process and
stuff. Um, and so control is more of a internal part of mental toughness too. Uh, so then
we have commitment, which is very obvious, but we'll go with the definition, uh, state
or quality of being dedicated to a cause. So like you and I were committed to each other.
Absolutely. Um, and to me, me and to me, she's a very pretty girl. She's a little baby, but
a person with higher commitment is very goal oriented and very focused on their tasks.
So they don't let things distract them. Like they know what they need to do and they get
it done. Obviously a person with low commitment usually won't get their goals or tasks done.
Pretty obvious. And that one is all. Why is that? What? They don't usually do their personal
goals. Uh, someone with low commitment. Oh, all right. Okay. That makes a lot of sense.
Low commitment, don't reach it. High commitment typically do. Yeah. All right. I missed when
you said the low and I was like, okay, this doesn't make sense though. Okay. Keep going.
Now you get I'm tracking. I'm following. I'm following. Um, but that, so that is an outer
orientation of mental toughness, right? Cause you're doing actions. You're doing your goals,
doing your absolutely. So then if you combine control and commitment, then you have resilience.
Okay. Which is just like a little subgroup they got going. Um, and that is the ability
to bounce back from any setback. So you gotta think a lot of people who are more positive
about life. If anything sets them back, they are just like, you know what? I can get past
this. Like this is a learning experience. Like we'll move on. Right. And then they finish
their tasks or their goals. Right. And then they have the commitment, right? Outer commitment
to do the things that will get them out of their setback. Yeah. Yeah. All right. Um,
and challenge kind of goes with resilience too, I think, but they put it separately,
put whatever. Okay. Uh, so that is embracing change and pushing your boundaries. Sean,
you are very good at this. You love challenges. I literally live for that challenge. I live
for that shit. So people with higher challenge scores. Um, they view challenges and change
as opportunities, not threats. Dude, I tell you, I love that shit. Love it. This is the
key part where I think Sean and I differed 100%. We differ here 100%. Yep. Um, which
I, it's not, it doesn't show in our scores, but we did take the free, super easy test.
And I think if we would have done a more in depth one, our scores would have been way
different. Dude, that's like, um, when we took the, uh, the free, whatever for the, um,
the, the, the, the face. No, not face. Uh, a personality test. Um, what is it? You,
but then we paid for like the actual test. And right. We paid for like the, the test
with the app or whatever. Oh, you're talking about the an anagram. The anagram. Oh, okay.
An anagram. Yeah. That's a personality one. Yeah. Personality. That shit's cool. That
one's really good. We should review that again. Yes, we should review that again. Um, we should
do a podcast on that one. Cause I think we've just done an, oh no, we did a very short podcast.
I think we can do that one. Yeah. Um, we got, we got like the rest of our lives. Yeah.
Yeah. We can do another one. Um, but also, so a person with higher challenge also gets
board of routine. That is me. Yep. I was going to say, Sean, do you get board of routines?
Oh my God guys. I watched a fucking ad this morning about ADHD and this bitch goes on
to name every single personality trait about me. And I was just like, this negativity this early
in the morning is not for me. And so I turned it off. Nice job. Thanks. You know what that,
you know what that is? ADHD. Mental toughness. Keep going, babe. Um, so obviously a person
with a lower challenge is viewed as someone who is boring because they don't, they like routines
and they like to just do the same things over and over. I will tell you that is a very good quality
to have. I feel higher challenge, lower challenge. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Because the hardest thing I get
into, I've never been able to stick to one thing for a long, long period of time. I'm talking five,
over five years. Okay. So I started lifting when I was 14 years old and I power lifted until I was
eight. Ah, I power lifted really till I was about 17. Yeah. So about three years, then 17 to 19.
I really did like a combo of power lifting, body building stuff, right? I was, I just,
I just love lifting. And so I wasn't doing anything in particular to like,
necessarily get really strong. I just loved working out, right? Right. Then from like 19
to 21 or 22 when we start dating 21, 19 to 21 was all about weightlifting, snatch, clean,
and jerk and literally nothing else mattered. My back, everything always hurt. I had a belly,
nothing mattered, right? Snatch, clean, jerk. Then I was like, at this, got back into power
lifting, power lifted from 21 to 24. Yeah. 21 to 24. Now he just kind of bounces around and does
random shit. And now I just kind of stay healthy. Yeah. But I look at these guys that started when
they were, you know, kids and they stuck with it. And those are the guys that are breaking
world records and shit, you know, and are really close. And I'm not saying I had that kind of
talent necessarily. I'm just saying what commitment can do, you know, really allows people to progress.
You need to cut your stories down. Why? People, what? People tune in to listen to my stories,
babe. You just go on and on. This is what this is for. So obviously, Sean gets bored of routines,
so he likes to change them. I guess I could have just said that. Yep. Damn. I think you need to
be in the middle of, like, I think being in the middle of challenges good, because you stick
with your routines, but you're not, but you also do try new things and like, don't fear challenges.
Sure. You know what I mean? Sure. Anyways, but with that, right, I just feel if you can do a routine
day in and day out, it's about repetition in business. So if you can repeatedly, you know,
work in your business. So I'm talking about if you own a business, right? For the main example
here, because this is a tutor's. Yep. If you can be in your business working on your business,
doing the shit you need to do for 20 years, you're going to be leaps and bounds ahead of people that
could only focus and do things bouncing around here and there, you know, right? But okay. Anyways,
what do you got? What do you got? But what, babe? If you don't like try new things or
like think about like you starting to invest in real estate, every one of those was like a challenge
that you like accepted and like did. Okay. But let's say once you got to the properties that
you're at and you didn't challenge yourself to get more and get bigger properties, you're going to
be the same place in 20 years. Boy, I really see what you just did there. And that's so true,
because I know it might not be good. And Sam's getting upset with me for how long I'm going on
these. But I'm relating to what you're saying. I do feel like I want to get bigger properties. I
want to do bigger projects. You know, I want like more of a challenge. You know, oh yeah. So I see
where you're saying that that could be a, I guess not you're saying that could be a good thing.
Yeah, no challenges. Mimi just left us. She just went to lay in her bed. My fanny packs in her bed.
Oh, now she has no to do. Come on. Come on up. Come on up. Come on up. All right. What do you
got first next, Sam? Confidence is number four. Confidence. All right. What's confidence?
Um, feeling of self assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities and qualities.
Okay. Um, so a person with higher confidence can complete more tasks. Okay. It's basically kind
of what I did. Someone with higher confidence can complete more tasks. I could see that being a
thing. Yeah. Um, because obviously if you have more confidence in what you're doing, then it's
easier to push through them and to like keep doing them. You know what? Like, I'm thinking about like
my confidence in the gym has grown so much lately that it's so much easier now to just go to the
gym, get what I need to get done and then leave. Yes. So I can get my workouts done in half the
time that I used to be able to because I know what I'm doing. Absolutely. And that is a massive,
massive help. Yeah. So you built up confidence. Makes sense. Okay. What would we score, Sam? We
made it through this. What we score. So, uh, we'll start with control. Okay. Um, so each is, it's a
score out of a hundred. So overall I was a 68, you were a 74. So you're pretty close. Score of a hundred, you're at 68, I'm at 74.
Yep. So then I'm in control. So that's overall. Sorry. That's overall for all four. So for control,
I'm at 18 out of 25 and you're at 19 out of 25. All right. Which I feel pretty good. Yeah. I feel like
that's pretty realistic with UNI. Internal control. Yeah. Okay. So like emotional control.
Yes. Yep. Yep. And I think too it's more about like emotional control like in business, like business
situations. That makes a lot of sense. Yeah. So number two is commitment. Okay. I'm at a 14,
you're at a 15. Okay. Um, this I am not, I'm not surprised by. Okay. Uh, only by the fact that
we don't, like we've tried to do lifting programs. I'm sorry, I'm relating everything to lifting.
Yeah. But we try to do lifting programs, but we don't stay committed to them.
100%. Yep. 100%. Yep. Yep. Challenge. Okay. I'm a 17. You're 19. Yeah. That makes sense.
I think you, I think you should be a little higher to be honest. It's out of 25. Yeah. You know what?
I should be higher. Most likely. Yeah. I love that she's just sitting there watching the back.
She's just a neat little puppy. Okay. And what else we got? What's the last, what did we
score on the last one? Confidence. I'm a 19. You're 21. Okay. Okay. That's decent.
All right. Do you think that's accurate? I think, yeah, I do. I think they're all pretty accurate.
I, I think our channel, like my challenge score might be a little too high to be honest.
I think so. Yep. But so we just, I just searched like a free mental toughness quiz,
and it was like a four minute long quiz. It was not that long. But I think your commitment might
be a little higher because you are really committed. Like you don't let me skip blogs because I would.
You make sure we post twice a week for podcasts because I definitely wouldn't. That's very true.
Yeah. I mean, you like make sure we do this stuff. Otherwise, I would just be like, yeah, well,
why don't we just do two next week? That's very true. I am. See, and I wonder if that's more
of a lower challenge because I'd like my routines. Ah, you know, that makes a lot of,
these kind of intertwine together. Oh, yeah, they do. That makes sense. And I was, when I was writing
these down, I thought it was interesting too, because people with higher challenge, like I,
there's no way you can have 100 because people with higher challenge likes changes, right? Yeah.
Where was I going with this? Maybe with the commitment. Yeah. Yeah, I feel like someone
who likes changes has to have a hard time being committed, right? You know, yeah, you, you, it'd
be harder. It'd be harder. That's for sure. Yeah. Hmm. All right. Oh, yeah. What do you think of
mental toughness? Mental toughness is a really fun topic. It's very Sam's just getting pissed
that I'm talking. No, I'm just upset Mimi is all over you. Oh, yeah. It's mental toughness is so
crucial to really, for both personal and business life. And so I like that we talked today about
some of the things that break it down, you know, that break down mental toughness. I thought that
was pretty cool. She's just gonna sit on you. Yeah. Oh my goodness. I think you need to get her back.
There you go. There. No, she's just sitting on the front.
Yeah, I liked, I liked doing this because it was nice to break them down. Because I feel like
that way you can work on one part of it at a time. Yeah. It's like the book, the atomic habits,
right? They mentioned to do like small things do small little changes in your habits. Because
even one like if you're 1% better today than you were yesterday, that's still 1% better. Absolutely.
And if you keep doing that every single day, like it compounds and you eventually I'm going to skyrocket.
Yep. So by breaking it down, you can really dissect like what like habits or traits like you
need to change in yourself. So it was it was fun. It was very interesting. I do think we should take
a paid one. Yeah. A more intense one to really see where we're at. Because I think that would help us
then decide like what parts of these we need to work on. I think that's a really good idea.
It's a really good idea. But it was very it was very fun. I honestly, I think I scored higher
than I expected. I expected to be around 50. I don't know why but I did. I guess I don't really
know what I was expecting for mine. I was happy with the result. I think through obviously through
a lot of building habits, you would increase your mental toughness. Oh, yeah. Yeah. For sure. So
yeah, it's cool. It's good. And if we do 75 when we do 75 hard, but that's going to help quite a bit
too. Oh, yeah. So we'll definitely talk about mental toughness again, while we're doing 75 hard.
Andy for cell has got to break that fucking thing, right? If you took that mental toughness
quiz, you'd have to break it. Oh, yeah. 100%. They wouldn't even be able to score. You are now the
creator of the mental toughness quiz. Right. Yeah. And then you'd be like, it's because I
created 75 hard and they're like, oh, yeah, yeah, I would do it. So cool. Love it. Well, hey, thanks
for joining us today, guys. Check out the video so you can see a really cute Mimi sitting on my
lap and not paying any attention to Sam. Check out my blog I just wrote on tutors of life.com.
Yeah, I don't know what I'll be posting the day after this podcast is released, but
there'll be something. Yeah. Say good night, Sam. Good night, Sam.