1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:20,720 Hello. Welcome to the Tudors of Life podcast, episode 52. This is your host, Sean Tudor. 2 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:22,280 And this is Sam. 3 00:00:22,280 --> 00:00:23,280 How are you, Sam? 4 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:25,160 I'm doing pretty good. How about you? 5 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:35,720 I'm doing well. I wrote my blog for tomorrow. This Wednesday, by the way. So that's good. 6 00:00:35,720 --> 00:00:38,720 That's cool? 7 00:00:38,720 --> 00:00:47,160 Yeah. I wrote about the power of job coaches. So if you're interested, check it out on TudorsOfLife.com. 8 00:00:47,160 --> 00:00:48,160 There we go. 9 00:00:48,160 --> 00:00:55,640 I talk about just some of the ways that Josh and Audrey have helped me getting to where 10 00:00:55,640 --> 00:01:02,520 I'm at thus far. And see, it's a pretty good read. If you want to check it out. 11 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:04,520 Maybe I'll read it myself. 12 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:07,520 Ooh, nice. Say it. 13 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:08,520 What? 14 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:13,840 Wait, is this something that should be on a talk, not a tutor? 15 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:21,400 Well, the stock market and the crypto market has been uber down. 16 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:22,400 Uber down. 17 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:27,120 Uber down. So I was like, why is this happening? Ryan informed me this morning that Jerome 18 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:37,920 Powell had a talk today, or was planned to talk today when I talked to him about the Fed 19 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:44,720 and what interest rates could possibly go to. And so that may have been playing a role 20 00:01:44,720 --> 00:01:53,000 into such drastic declines in the market. Because it seems about every time Jerome 21 00:01:53,000 --> 00:02:02,640 Powell talks about the Fed and interest rates, shit just hits the floor. 22 00:02:02,640 --> 00:02:09,200 So I'm really hoping after, I guess Ryan said talks went well today. He must have watched 23 00:02:09,200 --> 00:02:16,520 it or whatever, but talks went well. So I'm really hoping to see somewhat of a rebound. 24 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:23,120 Definitely saw a massive rebound already in cryptos. Those start bouncing back really 25 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:25,120 good today at about two o'clock. 26 00:02:25,120 --> 00:02:30,680 Yeah, I was going to say, I got a notification that Riot was going out. 27 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:36,000 I haven't yet, but we'll see maybe in the coming days they will. 28 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:39,640 We have cryptos have already started doing a pretty good bounce back. 29 00:02:39,640 --> 00:02:40,640 That's cool. 30 00:02:40,640 --> 00:02:47,440 Yeah. Yeah. So that's that. I went to Whiskoria yesterday. That's kind of a tutor thing, 31 00:02:47,440 --> 00:02:48,440 right? 32 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:49,440 Kind of a tutor thing. 33 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:56,440 Yeah. And so Whiskoria had a Christmas party. It was fun. Got to chat with everyone. I did 34 00:02:56,440 --> 00:03:02,600 it at a new location. What was that called? River jams. 35 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:05,200 River jams. Had good food. 36 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:06,200 Very good food. 37 00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:09,360 Nice staff. There was a good time. 38 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:12,160 It was a really cool place. 39 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:16,200 Looking forward to going there some more. All right, Sam, what do you got for me this 40 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:17,200 week? 41 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:21,360 Well, I got notes. 42 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:27,640 Let's do it. All right. Hey, for people watching on the on the YouTube's, how cute is this 43 00:03:27,640 --> 00:03:28,640 peppers? 44 00:03:28,640 --> 00:03:30,120 We need a bigger couch just for Mimi. 45 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:31,920 That was you just such a pretty girl. 46 00:03:31,920 --> 00:03:32,920 Mm hmm. 47 00:03:32,920 --> 00:03:33,920 She is. 48 00:03:33,920 --> 00:03:35,400 Okay, go ahead, Sam. 49 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:41,440 So we're going to do something not real estate or financial today. How do you feel about 50 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:42,440 that? 51 00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:43,960 Let's try it out. 52 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:47,000 Okay. Today we're going to talk about mental toughness. 53 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:48,000 All right. 54 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:53,760 Sean, how did we ever start thinking about mental toughness or where did it come from? 55 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:57,480 Like in our lives? 56 00:03:57,480 --> 00:04:04,960 Um, uh, I guess I don't know the answer you're looking for. 57 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:07,800 I mean, there's one main person that talks about it. 58 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:08,800 Mental toughness. 59 00:04:08,800 --> 00:04:09,800 Yes. 60 00:04:09,800 --> 00:04:10,800 Andy forcella. 61 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:11,800 Yes. 62 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:12,800 On the real AF podcast. 63 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:13,800 Correct. 64 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:17,240 All right. Check it out, guys. There's a fee. Okay. 65 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:27,480 And I'm going to pay the fee right now. Check out Andy forcellas podcast called real AF. 66 00:04:27,480 --> 00:04:37,200 That shit is gold. That man, and he does it with DJ, his security guard, dude, those guys 67 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:43,200 put on some of the best content into a podcast that I've ever listened to. 68 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:50,000 I am not kidding when I say I spent, I started listening at six, six 15 AM at the gym today. 69 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:52,360 I started listening to it. 70 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:59,080 Besides for when I was having conversations with people, I listened to it all day at work 71 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:04,520 and even repeated episodes until I got home at three 05 PM. 72 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:07,720 I have to admit, I did not listen to the episode you told me to today. 73 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:09,920 I listened to that one twice today. 74 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:12,440 I really couldn't though today at work. 75 00:05:12,440 --> 00:05:19,600 Sure. I just want everybody to know, check out real AF podcast. Phenomenal. 76 00:05:19,600 --> 00:05:26,520 And so this is where he, he's a big reason we started thinking a lot about mental toughness. 77 00:05:26,520 --> 00:05:32,080 He has the set. He is the creator of the 75 hard program. 78 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:40,000 Do it blows my mind how people know about the 75 hard program and don't know who Andy 79 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:41,000 forcella is. 80 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:49,320 Yeah. It's great. What a crazy thing he created that it's so, it's so known that the people 81 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:50,920 don't even know who created it. 82 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:52,920 They just know the program. 83 00:05:52,920 --> 00:05:57,960 Right. And we've talked about it on the podcast before because we've kind of called some people 84 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:00,120 out about it. 85 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:01,120 Yeah. 86 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:06,400 But the program is created to gain mental toughness. 87 00:06:06,400 --> 00:06:12,040 And right now people are doing it for like a weight loss journey or they modify it to 88 00:06:12,040 --> 00:06:17,640 fit their lifestyles, but that's not the point of the program. 89 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:22,160 Right. Yep. And that's that. He talks about that in, in length. 90 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:30,080 It has nothing. I shouldn't say it has nothing. It is not about the physical aspects of it 91 00:06:30,080 --> 00:06:41,200 that you receive. It is the sheer mental toughness you have to have to complete the program successfully. 92 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:49,440 And I think a lot of things you can take from that program. We haven't done it yet. 93 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:50,440 No. 94 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:59,880 I do want to do it after the wedding. I'd like to do it after the wedding. But people take 95 00:06:59,880 --> 00:07:04,640 things from that program and implement it into daily life. And I think that's very good. 96 00:07:04,640 --> 00:07:13,920 That's very powerful. But you've got to remember what it's for. 97 00:07:13,920 --> 00:07:14,920 Right. 98 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:20,680 Right. And that's, that's to gain mental toughness and, and really gain the confidence in yourself 99 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:26,560 that you completed a program like that. 100 00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:33,640 And so a lot of people that, that like we had, you know, some friends who were trying 101 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:41,680 75 soft, which is that's not, that is for like the weight loss and the health. And, 102 00:07:41,680 --> 00:07:46,160 and like, that's great. Like if that's your goals, right? If your goals is the weight 103 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:52,520 loss portion, then just do a weight loss program like that. If you're looking for the mental 104 00:07:52,520 --> 00:07:59,000 rigidity, then you know, this, this 75 hard program is the route to go. So, so I guess 105 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:03,240 enough about that, Sam, what do you, what do you got on, on the mental toughness gambit 106 00:08:03,240 --> 00:08:04,240 for us today? 107 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:08,280 Okay. So what do you, what do you think mental toughness is? 108 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:11,600 Oh, is there a definition I should be having? 109 00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:18,360 I honestly don't have a definition, but what do you think mental toughness is? 110 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:38,800 Mental toughness to me is the ability to do something or not do something that you do 111 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:42,840 or do not want to do. Right? So 112 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:45,840 That was a very interesting definition, but I liked it. 113 00:08:45,840 --> 00:08:47,240 Does, does that make sense? 114 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:48,520 Yeah. Yeah. 115 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:59,280 So like mental toughness to me is I am awful. I am awful when I get home from work. If it's 116 00:08:59,280 --> 00:09:04,280 like five, six PM, I'm in a downward slope to doing nothing. 117 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:06,360 Okay. Oh, you're awful at doing stuff. 118 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:12,800 I'm awful at doing stuff after like, cause once I think it's the car ride home, the car 119 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:14,200 ride home kills me because 120 00:09:14,200 --> 00:09:15,200 It's like you're wind down 121 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:20,640 It's my wind down from work. So hell, I could come home. It does. It actually really doesn't 122 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:24,920 even matter when I come home. It's that car ride that winds me down and I kind of just 123 00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:27,760 want to nap. Right? 124 00:09:27,760 --> 00:09:29,920 And I could take a quick nap, but typically 125 00:09:29,920 --> 00:09:35,480 Usually we just, now we've been coming up to the office to make sure we do stuff. 126 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:43,760 And that's right. And so mental toughness in that situation for me is I want to just 127 00:09:43,760 --> 00:09:49,840 nap and chill. I want to just draw on some Netflix, eat some food and chill. Right? 128 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:55,560 My mental toughness kicks in because I go up and I work in the office. We take Mimi 129 00:09:55,560 --> 00:10:06,520 for a walk. We podcast blog, do whatever it is. Right? We are doing shit. Clean the house, 130 00:10:06,520 --> 00:10:10,880 do the dishes. We are doing stuff. 131 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:15,920 I think it's definitely like the sitting down in the car because as long as I come home, 132 00:10:15,920 --> 00:10:21,560 I set my stuff down and as soon as I don't sit down or lay in bed or lay on the couch, 133 00:10:21,560 --> 00:10:24,200 then I can keep going. 134 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:33,120 So yeah, my mental toughness for me personally is coming home and not chilling and just doing 135 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:43,440 stuff. And so then controversial, right? Or the contradiction, right? Or whatever, 136 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:54,000 the opposing thing, whatever. You have mental toughness in not doing something. Okay? 137 00:10:54,000 --> 00:10:59,720 So like something like bad that's like tempting the seven sins, the seven sins. There you 138 00:10:59,720 --> 00:11:05,800 go. Absolutely. Check out what the seven sins are. There's a lot of, I don't have to go 139 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:10,760 too in depth here. Here's the thing. I'll make it very simple. Every single person is 140 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:18,640 going to be able to understand this. You see a hot chick or a hot guy, you would like relations 141 00:11:18,640 --> 00:11:24,760 with them, but you have a significant other, mental toughness. You don't have a relation 142 00:11:24,760 --> 00:11:34,000 with them then too easy. And that goes into diet, right? Diet, huge cookies, Christmas 143 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:40,240 season. I don't have mental toughness right now for cooking season. And when it's Christmas, 144 00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:44,880 I put a couple pounds on it's just the way it is. I do it every single year. I know it's 145 00:11:44,880 --> 00:11:55,520 wrong, but it's what I do. But here's the thing. The majority of the year, I practice 146 00:11:55,520 --> 00:12:01,960 that mental toughness. I see the sweets. Every day I'm at the checkout at Menards. They got 147 00:12:01,960 --> 00:12:07,320 the little carousel there with all the little Debbie's just staring at me saying, Hey, 148 00:12:07,320 --> 00:12:12,840 Sean, why don't you come, why don't you just come test us out? Right? I say no. Okay? That's 149 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:22,520 the other side of mental toughness. I definitely am way stronger with like, why can temptations 150 00:12:22,520 --> 00:12:30,800 than you? Okay. So that's my definition. It took like five, 10 minutes, but that's everything 151 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:40,240 with you. So how I decided to go about learning about mental toughness was there's one very 152 00:12:40,240 --> 00:12:45,320 common way that it's measured. Okay. So I kind of I took those measurements, they kind 153 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:48,720 of went deep in each of those measurements. And I did blogs on all of these. You guys 154 00:12:48,720 --> 00:12:54,720 want to read the blogs to go for it. So the format, the four ways that they measure mental 155 00:12:54,720 --> 00:13:01,400 toughness is control, commitment, challenge, confidence. 156 00:13:01,400 --> 00:13:08,360 I just want to picture you on Mimi. She's so cute. Keep going. Anyways, do you remember 157 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:16,800 what the four are Sean? Control. Yep. Confidence. Yep. Commitment. Yep. Do you say the last 158 00:13:16,800 --> 00:13:24,320 one yet? Yep. Challenge. Challenge. Damn it. Should we go over them in general and then 159 00:13:24,320 --> 00:13:30,920 talk about how you and I scored? Um, or do you want to go over our scores first? Do you 160 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:36,160 remember my score? I have it down. Okay. Um, let's just do a quick overview of them. So 161 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:43,120 everyone kind of understands a quick GIF of it. Yeah. Um, so the first one that is, they 162 00:13:43,120 --> 00:13:50,120 also call them four pillars of mental toughness. So the first pillar is control. Uh, so they 163 00:13:50,120 --> 00:13:58,320 kind of relate control to like self esteem, I guess, um, or motivation. But a person with 164 00:13:58,320 --> 00:14:05,160 high control will not use any emotions in any situations. Okay. But a person with low 165 00:14:05,160 --> 00:14:12,040 control uses their emotions. That makes a lot of sense. We also call those people liberals. 166 00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:20,760 Keep going. Um, but as someone who has high control, it takes ownership of their actions 167 00:14:20,760 --> 00:14:28,080 because they're in control of their life. So people with low control obviously feel like, 168 00:14:28,080 --> 00:14:32,320 I'm guessing that they're failing all the time because that they're, they can't control 169 00:14:32,320 --> 00:14:35,480 their life. Like they have no control over it. Like all these things keep happening to 170 00:14:35,480 --> 00:14:42,520 them, but it's not their fault. Okay. Um, so one thing that I like to think about that 171 00:14:42,520 --> 00:14:47,520 or compare it to is having a positive and negative view on life. Right. So people who 172 00:14:47,520 --> 00:14:57,440 are more positive about life, um, usually will, I mean, they take ownership of all their actions. 173 00:14:57,440 --> 00:15:05,800 They feel more control in their life. Okay. Right. I agree. Yes. I agree that that, uh, 174 00:15:05,800 --> 00:15:11,200 if you've ever read or listened to thinking grow rich, that plays a massive role. That 175 00:15:11,200 --> 00:15:17,440 that is control verb, like verbatim, essentially. Yeah. You know, your thought process and 176 00:15:17,440 --> 00:15:25,040 stuff. Um, and so control is more of a internal part of mental toughness too. Uh, so then 177 00:15:25,040 --> 00:15:29,320 we have commitment, which is very obvious, but we'll go with the definition, uh, state 178 00:15:29,320 --> 00:15:36,200 or quality of being dedicated to a cause. So like you and I were committed to each other. 179 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:42,720 Absolutely. Um, and to me, me and to me, she's a very pretty girl. She's a little baby, but 180 00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:50,040 a person with higher commitment is very goal oriented and very focused on their tasks. 181 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:54,840 So they don't let things distract them. Like they know what they need to do and they get 182 00:15:54,840 --> 00:16:01,520 it done. Obviously a person with low commitment usually won't get their goals or tasks done. 183 00:16:01,520 --> 00:16:06,680 Pretty obvious. And that one is all. Why is that? What? They don't usually do their personal 184 00:16:06,680 --> 00:16:12,160 goals. Uh, someone with low commitment. Oh, all right. Okay. That makes a lot of sense. 185 00:16:12,160 --> 00:16:16,160 Low commitment, don't reach it. High commitment typically do. Yeah. All right. I missed when 186 00:16:16,160 --> 00:16:19,760 you said the low and I was like, okay, this doesn't make sense though. Okay. Keep going. 187 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:25,520 Now you get I'm tracking. I'm following. I'm following. Um, but that, so that is an outer 188 00:16:25,520 --> 00:16:32,120 orientation of mental toughness, right? Cause you're doing actions. You're doing your goals, 189 00:16:32,120 --> 00:16:38,680 doing your absolutely. So then if you combine control and commitment, then you have resilience. 190 00:16:38,680 --> 00:16:43,320 Okay. Which is just like a little subgroup they got going. Um, and that is the ability 191 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:48,680 to bounce back from any setback. So you gotta think a lot of people who are more positive 192 00:16:48,680 --> 00:16:53,920 about life. If anything sets them back, they are just like, you know what? I can get past 193 00:16:53,920 --> 00:16:58,520 this. Like this is a learning experience. Like we'll move on. Right. And then they finish 194 00:16:58,520 --> 00:17:03,800 their tasks or their goals. Right. And then they have the commitment, right? Outer commitment 195 00:17:03,800 --> 00:17:09,400 to do the things that will get them out of their setback. Yeah. Yeah. All right. Um, 196 00:17:09,400 --> 00:17:13,280 and challenge kind of goes with resilience too, I think, but they put it separately, 197 00:17:13,280 --> 00:17:18,200 put whatever. Okay. Uh, so that is embracing change and pushing your boundaries. Sean, 198 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:25,200 you are very good at this. You love challenges. I literally live for that challenge. I live 199 00:17:25,200 --> 00:17:34,560 for that shit. So people with higher challenge scores. Um, they view challenges and change 200 00:17:34,560 --> 00:17:40,880 as opportunities, not threats. Dude, I tell you, I love that shit. Love it. This is the 201 00:17:40,880 --> 00:17:50,440 key part where I think Sean and I differed 100%. We differ here 100%. Yep. Um, which 202 00:17:50,440 --> 00:17:59,640 I, it's not, it doesn't show in our scores, but we did take the free, super easy test. 203 00:17:59,640 --> 00:18:02,840 And I think if we would have done a more in depth one, our scores would have been way 204 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:08,560 different. Dude, that's like, um, when we took the, uh, the free, whatever for the, um, 205 00:18:08,560 --> 00:18:19,920 the, the, the, the face. No, not face. Uh, a personality test. Um, what is it? You, 206 00:18:19,920 --> 00:18:25,440 but then we paid for like the actual test. And right. We paid for like the, the test 207 00:18:25,440 --> 00:18:30,320 with the app or whatever. Oh, you're talking about the an anagram. The anagram. Oh, okay. 208 00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:34,560 An anagram. Yeah. That's a personality one. Yeah. Personality. That shit's cool. That 209 00:18:34,560 --> 00:18:38,320 one's really good. We should review that again. Yes, we should review that again. Um, we should 210 00:18:38,320 --> 00:18:42,240 do a podcast on that one. Cause I think we've just done an, oh no, we did a very short podcast. 211 00:18:42,240 --> 00:18:46,960 I think we can do that one. Yeah. Um, we got, we got like the rest of our lives. Yeah. 212 00:18:46,960 --> 00:18:52,160 Yeah. We can do another one. Um, but also, so a person with higher challenge also gets 213 00:18:52,160 --> 00:18:57,600 board of routine. That is me. Yep. I was going to say, Sean, do you get board of routines? 214 00:18:57,600 --> 00:19:07,600 Oh my God guys. I watched a fucking ad this morning about ADHD and this bitch goes on 215 00:19:07,600 --> 00:19:15,120 to name every single personality trait about me. And I was just like, this negativity this early 216 00:19:15,120 --> 00:19:21,120 in the morning is not for me. And so I turned it off. Nice job. Thanks. You know what that, 217 00:19:21,120 --> 00:19:28,000 you know what that is? ADHD. Mental toughness. Keep going, babe. Um, so obviously a person 218 00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:36,400 with a lower challenge is viewed as someone who is boring because they don't, they like routines 219 00:19:36,400 --> 00:19:45,200 and they like to just do the same things over and over. I will tell you that is a very good quality 220 00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:54,400 to have. I feel higher challenge, lower challenge. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Because the hardest thing I get 221 00:19:54,400 --> 00:20:06,640 into, I've never been able to stick to one thing for a long, long period of time. I'm talking five, 222 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:14,320 over five years. Okay. So I started lifting when I was 14 years old and I power lifted until I was 223 00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:23,760 eight. Ah, I power lifted really till I was about 17. Yeah. So about three years, then 17 to 19. 224 00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:29,680 I really did like a combo of power lifting, body building stuff, right? I was, I just, 225 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:34,160 I just love lifting. And so I wasn't doing anything in particular to like, 226 00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:41,520 necessarily get really strong. I just loved working out, right? Right. Then from like 19 227 00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:54,560 to 21 or 22 when we start dating 21, 19 to 21 was all about weightlifting, snatch, clean, 228 00:20:54,560 --> 00:21:01,840 and jerk and literally nothing else mattered. My back, everything always hurt. I had a belly, 229 00:21:01,840 --> 00:21:10,960 nothing mattered, right? Snatch, clean, jerk. Then I was like, at this, got back into power 230 00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:20,240 lifting, power lifted from 21 to 24. Yeah. 21 to 24. Now he just kind of bounces around and does 231 00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:29,280 random shit. And now I just kind of stay healthy. Yeah. But I look at these guys that started when 232 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:37,520 they were, you know, kids and they stuck with it. And those are the guys that are breaking 233 00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:42,240 world records and shit, you know, and are really close. And I'm not saying I had that kind of 234 00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:53,760 talent necessarily. I'm just saying what commitment can do, you know, really allows people to progress. 235 00:21:53,760 --> 00:22:00,880 You need to cut your stories down. Why? People, what? People tune in to listen to my stories, 236 00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:07,920 babe. You just go on and on. This is what this is for. So obviously, Sean gets bored of routines, 237 00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:16,320 so he likes to change them. I guess I could have just said that. Yep. Damn. I think you need to 238 00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:21,280 be in the middle of, like, I think being in the middle of challenges good, because you stick 239 00:22:21,280 --> 00:22:26,800 with your routines, but you're not, but you also do try new things and like, don't fear challenges. 240 00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:36,000 Sure. You know what I mean? Sure. Anyways, but with that, right, I just feel if you can do a routine 241 00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:43,840 day in and day out, it's about repetition in business. So if you can repeatedly, you know, 242 00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:48,240 work in your business. So I'm talking about if you own a business, right? For the main example 243 00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:53,280 here, because this is a tutor's. Yep. If you can be in your business working on your business, 244 00:22:53,840 --> 00:23:02,720 doing the shit you need to do for 20 years, you're going to be leaps and bounds ahead of people that 245 00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:09,120 could only focus and do things bouncing around here and there, you know, right? But okay. Anyways, 246 00:23:09,120 --> 00:23:16,000 what do you got? What do you got? But what, babe? If you don't like try new things or 247 00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:22,560 like think about like you starting to invest in real estate, every one of those was like a challenge 248 00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:30,000 that you like accepted and like did. Okay. But let's say once you got to the properties that 249 00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:34,960 you're at and you didn't challenge yourself to get more and get bigger properties, you're going to 250 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:42,080 be the same place in 20 years. Boy, I really see what you just did there. And that's so true, 251 00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:49,600 because I know it might not be good. And Sam's getting upset with me for how long I'm going on 252 00:23:49,600 --> 00:23:59,360 these. But I'm relating to what you're saying. I do feel like I want to get bigger properties. I 253 00:23:59,360 --> 00:24:06,560 want to do bigger projects. You know, I want like more of a challenge. You know, oh yeah. So I see 254 00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:10,800 where you're saying that that could be a, I guess not you're saying that could be a good thing. 255 00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:19,280 Yeah, no challenges. Mimi just left us. She just went to lay in her bed. My fanny packs in her bed. 256 00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:26,640 Oh, now she has no to do. Come on. Come on up. Come on up. Come on up. All right. What do you 257 00:24:26,640 --> 00:24:32,960 got first next, Sam? Confidence is number four. Confidence. All right. What's confidence? 258 00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:41,280 Um, feeling of self assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities and qualities. 259 00:24:41,280 --> 00:24:50,800 Okay. Um, so a person with higher confidence can complete more tasks. Okay. It's basically kind 260 00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:59,600 of what I did. Someone with higher confidence can complete more tasks. I could see that being a 261 00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:07,200 thing. Yeah. Um, because obviously if you have more confidence in what you're doing, then it's 262 00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:13,840 easier to push through them and to like keep doing them. You know what? Like, I'm thinking about like 263 00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:18,880 my confidence in the gym has grown so much lately that it's so much easier now to just go to the 264 00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:24,800 gym, get what I need to get done and then leave. Yes. So I can get my workouts done in half the 265 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:31,840 time that I used to be able to because I know what I'm doing. Absolutely. And that is a massive, 266 00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:38,880 massive help. Yeah. So you built up confidence. Makes sense. Okay. What would we score, Sam? We 267 00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:47,760 made it through this. What we score. So, uh, we'll start with control. Okay. Um, so each is, it's a 268 00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:56,480 score out of a hundred. So overall I was a 68, you were a 74. So you're pretty close. Score of a hundred, you're at 68, I'm at 74. 269 00:25:56,480 --> 00:26:02,560 Yep. So then I'm in control. So that's overall. Sorry. That's overall for all four. So for control, 270 00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:12,480 I'm at 18 out of 25 and you're at 19 out of 25. All right. Which I feel pretty good. Yeah. I feel like 271 00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:19,600 that's pretty realistic with UNI. Internal control. Yeah. Okay. So like emotional control. 272 00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:28,160 Yes. Yep. Yep. And I think too it's more about like emotional control like in business, like business 273 00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:37,440 situations. That makes a lot of sense. Yeah. So number two is commitment. Okay. I'm at a 14, 274 00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:47,360 you're at a 15. Okay. Um, this I am not, I'm not surprised by. Okay. Uh, only by the fact that 275 00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:55,680 we don't, like we've tried to do lifting programs. I'm sorry, I'm relating everything to lifting. 276 00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:59,280 Yeah. But we try to do lifting programs, but we don't stay committed to them. 277 00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:10,080 100%. Yep. 100%. Yep. Yep. Challenge. Okay. I'm a 17. You're 19. Yeah. That makes sense. 278 00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:16,480 I think you, I think you should be a little higher to be honest. It's out of 25. Yeah. You know what? 279 00:27:16,480 --> 00:27:22,960 I should be higher. Most likely. Yeah. I love that she's just sitting there watching the back. 280 00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:31,440 She's just a neat little puppy. Okay. And what else we got? What's the last, what did we 281 00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:38,400 score on the last one? Confidence. I'm a 19. You're 21. Okay. Okay. That's decent. 282 00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:44,480 All right. Do you think that's accurate? I think, yeah, I do. I think they're all pretty accurate. 283 00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:52,480 I, I think our channel, like my challenge score might be a little too high to be honest. 284 00:27:52,480 --> 00:28:01,120 I think so. Yep. But so we just, I just searched like a free mental toughness quiz, 285 00:28:01,120 --> 00:28:05,360 and it was like a four minute long quiz. It was not that long. But I think your commitment might 286 00:28:05,360 --> 00:28:12,240 be a little higher because you are really committed. Like you don't let me skip blogs because I would. 287 00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:17,840 You make sure we post twice a week for podcasts because I definitely wouldn't. That's very true. 288 00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:22,720 Yeah. I mean, you like make sure we do this stuff. Otherwise, I would just be like, yeah, well, 289 00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:30,480 why don't we just do two next week? That's very true. I am. See, and I wonder if that's more 290 00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:36,160 of a lower challenge because I'd like my routines. Ah, you know, that makes a lot of, 291 00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:42,880 these kind of intertwine together. Oh, yeah, they do. That makes sense. And I was, when I was writing 292 00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:50,000 these down, I thought it was interesting too, because people with higher challenge, like I, 293 00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:56,480 there's no way you can have 100 because people with higher challenge likes changes, right? Yeah. 294 00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:05,600 Where was I going with this? Maybe with the commitment. Yeah. Yeah, I feel like someone 295 00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:12,640 who likes changes has to have a hard time being committed, right? You know, yeah, you, you, it'd 296 00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:20,720 be harder. It'd be harder. That's for sure. Yeah. Hmm. All right. Oh, yeah. What do you think of 297 00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:30,240 mental toughness? Mental toughness is a really fun topic. It's very Sam's just getting pissed 298 00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:38,800 that I'm talking. No, I'm just upset Mimi is all over you. Oh, yeah. It's mental toughness is so 299 00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:48,080 crucial to really, for both personal and business life. And so I like that we talked today about 300 00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:53,280 some of the things that break it down, you know, that break down mental toughness. I thought that 301 00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:59,600 was pretty cool. She's just gonna sit on you. Yeah. Oh my goodness. I think you need to get her back. 302 00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:03,680 There you go. There. No, she's just sitting on the front. 303 00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:12,720 Yeah, I liked, I liked doing this because it was nice to break them down. Because I feel like 304 00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:21,280 that way you can work on one part of it at a time. Yeah. It's like the book, the atomic habits, 305 00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:28,400 right? They mentioned to do like small things do small little changes in your habits. Because 306 00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:35,360 even one like if you're 1% better today than you were yesterday, that's still 1% better. Absolutely. 307 00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:42,080 And if you keep doing that every single day, like it compounds and you eventually I'm going to skyrocket. 308 00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:50,640 Yep. So by breaking it down, you can really dissect like what like habits or traits like you 309 00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:58,480 need to change in yourself. So it was it was fun. It was very interesting. I do think we should take 310 00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:07,280 a paid one. Yeah. A more intense one to really see where we're at. Because I think that would help us 311 00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:14,320 then decide like what parts of these we need to work on. I think that's a really good idea. 312 00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:21,440 It's a really good idea. But it was very it was very fun. I honestly, I think I scored higher 313 00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:28,320 than I expected. I expected to be around 50. I don't know why but I did. I guess I don't really 314 00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:35,840 know what I was expecting for mine. I was happy with the result. I think through obviously through 315 00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:44,800 a lot of building habits, you would increase your mental toughness. Oh, yeah. Yeah. For sure. So 316 00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:52,560 yeah, it's cool. It's good. And if we do 75 when we do 75 hard, but that's going to help quite a bit 317 00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:57,360 too. Oh, yeah. So we'll definitely talk about mental toughness again, while we're doing 75 hard. 318 00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:02,080 Andy for cell has got to break that fucking thing, right? If you took that mental toughness 319 00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:07,200 quiz, you'd have to break it. Oh, yeah. 100%. They wouldn't even be able to score. You are now the 320 00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:13,040 creator of the mental toughness quiz. Right. Yeah. And then you'd be like, it's because I 321 00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:19,680 created 75 hard and they're like, oh, yeah, yeah, I would do it. So cool. Love it. Well, hey, thanks 322 00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:24,800 for joining us today, guys. Check out the video so you can see a really cute Mimi sitting on my 323 00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:33,040 lap and not paying any attention to Sam. Check out my blog I just wrote on tutors of life.com. 324 00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:37,840 Yeah, I don't know what I'll be posting the day after this podcast is released, but 325 00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:56,080 there'll be something. Yeah. Say good night, Sam. Good night, Sam.