1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:16,400 Hello and welcome. I want to thank everybody for coming back on today to your go-to place, 2 00:00:16,400 --> 00:00:23,840 to be empowered and transformed. Every week when we come together, I'm here and I bring guests to 3 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:31,600 you that we're going to uplift you on your journey to building a stronger self-image, 4 00:00:31,600 --> 00:00:37,440 which is something so important and giving you that unshakable confidence to carry on 5 00:00:37,440 --> 00:00:46,080 with you every day of your life. My friends, it's so important for us to get practical strategies 6 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:52,640 and some inspiring stories from everybody that we bring on the program just so that you see that 7 00:00:52,640 --> 00:00:57,760 you're not alone, that you know there's people all around the world that go through the same thing 8 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:05,280 that you and I do on a daily basis. I want to say thank you for being here. I'm your host Susan 9 00:01:05,280 --> 00:01:12,080 East and I'm grateful that you're joining us today on this perfect day. And before we start, 10 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:18,880 I want to, before we start the episode, I want to take a moment to say thank you to all my subscribers. 11 00:01:18,880 --> 00:01:24,800 You mean so much to me. That means so much. Just being on this incredible journey with you, your 12 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:31,440 support, your feedback, your commitment to personal growth. That means the world to me and I know 13 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:37,440 that that means something special for you too. And to show my appreciation, I've created this 14 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:44,560 something special just for you. So I'm giving all my amazing listeners free access to my exclusive 15 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:51,760 community. And for 14 days we can connect and go on a deeper level together. We share resources, 16 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:58,880 we support each other. As we continue to grow and in this space, I'm going to guide you and inspire 17 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:06,320 you and give you those tools that you need to live the life you want on your terms. So all you'll 18 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:13,040 need to do is click that link and go there and join the community. So today I want to 19 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:21,280 I just can't tell you how excited I am about today. Today I have a very special guest with me who is 20 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:29,840 not only a guest but she's a friend, a very special friend that I had the privilege and honor to meet 21 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:37,040 her and her husband when we were in Marbella, Spain last year. And just the connection with each 22 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:43,040 other means everything to me and I'm so grateful, Claire, that you're with us. And my friends, I 23 00:02:43,040 --> 00:02:50,080 want to introduce you to Claire Nutt and Claire, come on and just share who you are, where you are, 24 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:57,520 what you do and let the audience just enjoy you as much as I have. Absolutely. And firstly, I'm so 25 00:02:57,520 --> 00:03:03,040 grateful to be here. I'm so grateful that you asked me to join you to have this conversation on a 26 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:10,080 topic that I am very, very passionate about. My name is Claire Nutt. I am first and foremost a very 27 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:18,640 powerful lady. I am an entrepreneur and started my business about three years ago. And around the 28 00:03:18,640 --> 00:03:26,880 same time, started to get into the idea and understanding of mindset, self image and mentorship. 29 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:33,200 So someone guiding me through my thoughts, my feelings, how they've impacted my life and how I 30 00:03:33,200 --> 00:03:40,160 could literally change my life. I am in the first year of my 40s and it's been incredible. I'm about 31 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:47,600 turn 41 in a month and never in a million years would I have said my life would be this good in 32 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:55,600 your 40s too. And it took me a while to get there but I'm here. I run a very successful six for bigger 33 00:03:55,600 --> 00:04:02,800 business. I have an amazing husband. We're currently building our dream home. I have a beautiful 34 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:10,480 network and connection of friends and I have to say my life is good. Life is really good and it's 35 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:16,640 got a lot to do with the topic that we're going to talk about today. Oh, that's awesome. And wow, 36 00:04:17,440 --> 00:04:24,800 that speaks volumes. That speaks so much and almost 41. Wow. So we don't even want to go there. 37 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:30,880 We don't want to go there where I am at that point. But you know what, when I was 41, 38 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:42,960 I had been married for, let's see, almost eight years, almost 10 years. And I can't say that I 39 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:51,440 was even close to where I am today. And just to see where you are and what's ahead of you, 40 00:04:51,440 --> 00:04:58,480 oh my gosh, that is, that's so awesome. That I'm so proud of you. So proud. It's that 41 00:04:59,680 --> 00:05:06,560 beautiful excitement and knowingness that every day just keeps getting better. Yes. And with 42 00:05:07,760 --> 00:05:14,640 understanding about empowerment, about mindset, about your self-image, with the learning and the 43 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:20,480 study and the mentorship around that, that literally changes your life. And I am absolutely 44 00:05:20,480 --> 00:05:28,480 a product of that success. I understand because I'm on that way too. My friends, I want you to 45 00:05:28,480 --> 00:05:36,080 know that, I mean, Claire and I are under the same mentor in the same mentorship. So we are 46 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:43,600 always or constantly improving ourselves because we know how important it is for us to grow 47 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:51,440 into the person that we were meant to be. And that's the whole purpose of this podcast is just to 48 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:58,480 help women understand there is so much more to you than just what you see on the outside, 49 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:04,960 just that surface stuff. And once we start learning how to start digging and like the onion, 50 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:14,240 start peeling the layers away, there is such a beautiful soul that is deep within us that we 51 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:21,440 need to bring out because people need to know who you are because you have something unique about you 52 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:27,360 that no one else has. We're all unique. And I think that's what's really important, right? 53 00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:35,600 Yeah. And being able to express that uniqueness in a comfortable and happy way is the key thing, 54 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:42,480 I think. You're not competing with yourself and I know we're going to tell you about that, but 55 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:50,560 it's been able to express yourself, be happy with who you are and know that the people around you 56 00:06:50,560 --> 00:06:57,840 support you and come into the likes of a community that you grow so you can be surrounded by those 57 00:06:57,840 --> 00:07:03,920 empowering people that do, they're you for the happiness, that do you understand you and do you 58 00:07:03,920 --> 00:07:12,880 understand how your mind works. Yeah, because that is something we're never taught. And it's that 59 00:07:12,880 --> 00:07:20,000 that void that we have. So there's always something within us that just kind of nags at you off and 60 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:25,600 on. It's just like, there's something more in here when you tap into it, you know, and we just, 61 00:07:25,600 --> 00:07:36,480 and it's just until you really stop and just pause for a moment and start connecting with what is 62 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:44,000 that that's going on inside you, because we never stop. We're we're we live in such a busy time, 63 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:51,600 busyness all the time that we forget that we need to stop and pause because there's something deep 64 00:07:51,600 --> 00:07:59,520 within and that can't come out if we allow all the busyness because that is more that silent 65 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:06,880 silent peace that is deep within. And I think that's basically what it is, is that peace, isn't it? 66 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:15,200 Yeah, and I think without us actually knowing it, we suppress a lot of that. We question ourselves, 67 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:20,880 we listen to the voice in our head, you know, how do we speak to ourselves? How do we treat 68 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:26,960 ourselves? How do we think other people treat us? What do we think? There's so many thoughts that 69 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:35,840 you process every single day. And if if you're not guided in how you process those, and how you 70 00:08:36,400 --> 00:08:41,440 respond rather than react to things, maybe that you don't want or you don't want to experience, 71 00:08:42,000 --> 00:08:47,760 and that that connection and that understanding, yeah, has a physical output in your life, 72 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:55,040 you know, that creates the environment around you. Yeah. And I don't believe we I don't believe 73 00:08:55,040 --> 00:09:04,160 the majority of people understand that they believe that that is just the way life is. Yeah. 74 00:09:04,720 --> 00:09:11,760 And they've no control over it. It's such so and and I'll have to admit I was that person, 75 00:09:12,320 --> 00:09:17,520 I was that person for the longest time because it was just like, okay, just get over it. Isn't 76 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:23,440 that what the saying is, you know, just get over it. You'll be all right. But that's not true, 77 00:09:23,440 --> 00:09:31,600 because you never get over it. So why why what does it mean, you know, instead of getting over it, 78 00:09:31,600 --> 00:09:38,640 what does that mean to compete against ourselves? How does that how does that affect who we are? 79 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:48,080 And how we how we act, you know, why is why is this mindset so powerful in that personal growth? 80 00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:55,120 Because you're telling yourself a story, and I believe and I've learned that that story has been 81 00:09:55,120 --> 00:10:01,680 created over a very long period of time. It's about experiences that you've had with other people. 82 00:10:01,680 --> 00:10:06,720 It's about family members, how you've grown up, the environment that you've been within. 83 00:10:07,760 --> 00:10:14,480 Little comments, even that people have said to you, and what you're likely to tend to lean towards, 84 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:20,400 and it's something, oh, it's always stuck in my mind. If nine people tell you you're doing an amazing 85 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:27,200 job and one person says to you, yeah, that that was okay. My mind would have always been on that 86 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:32,160 one. I need to change that one person's mind. What am I doing wrong? Why am I not good enough? 87 00:10:32,720 --> 00:10:39,280 Why have I not done enough to tell 10 people that I've done a great job? And that is you're 88 00:10:39,280 --> 00:10:46,720 competing with yourself. You're not in any competition with anyone. You know, there is no 89 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:52,320 one around you or outside of you that you need to think that you need to compete with. 90 00:10:52,880 --> 00:10:59,920 The only thing you need to think about is how do you compete within yourself? You know, how do you 91 00:10:59,920 --> 00:11:07,280 grow your mindset? How do you gain an understanding of how your mind works? How can you build those 92 00:11:07,280 --> 00:11:16,000 beautiful feelings? What voice are you listening to in your mind? And I learned through a lot of 93 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:22,000 reflection over the last few years, a lot of the beliefs that I held about myself and then 94 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:26,960 created my physical environment from were from comments that I've heard from other people that 95 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:35,360 were totally unjustified, that I thought people knew he didn't like me or didn't want to spend time 96 00:11:35,360 --> 00:11:42,000 with me. And that was never the issue or the problem. It's only when I started to develop 97 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:49,760 myself and how I think about myself. Do I love myself? You know, what do I tell myself? Do I 98 00:11:49,760 --> 00:11:57,200 tell myself I am successful? I am worthy. I am beautiful. I am filled with love. That was not 99 00:11:57,200 --> 00:12:03,760 conversation that was going on in my mind. So it totally explained the results that I was getting in 100 00:12:03,760 --> 00:12:09,920 my life. And like you, I had got to a point where I had decided this can't be it. You know, this cannot 101 00:12:09,920 --> 00:12:17,840 be as good as it gets. It has to be better. There has to be something else out there that I'm ready 102 00:12:17,840 --> 00:12:23,040 for that I, there was a yearning, but I couldn't explain it because I didn't have, I was on a 103 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:28,960 wire, you know, I didn't, I couldn't explain the mind. And then obviously through guided learning 104 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:34,560 and the support network that I had, I came to learn and understand what that was. But more 105 00:12:34,560 --> 00:12:43,840 importantly, I had the toolbox to deal with the past, let go and move on and create a new, beautiful 106 00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:50,080 future. And it's not just about the business and you know, and having a successful business. I love 107 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:57,360 it. But I have fantastic relationships. You know, I have great people around me that support me. And 108 00:12:57,360 --> 00:13:03,760 I think that network of friends or that network of people that you spend time with are critical in 109 00:13:03,760 --> 00:13:11,200 that process. Yeah, I agree with that totally because I, I know that there are a lot of people that 110 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:22,560 I've had to perhaps distance myself from more so because I found that if I, because I found that 111 00:13:22,560 --> 00:13:32,480 perhaps they were competing with themselves and then their, their behavior, their way of talking 112 00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:40,480 and stuff was then bouncing off of me like something's wrong with me because I'm not doing that, right? 113 00:13:40,480 --> 00:13:48,400 And so you're like, what does this mean? But you know, if we would just focus on our progress that we do get 114 00:13:48,400 --> 00:13:57,040 and just make an improvement, just a tiny improvement every day, you'll find that you're not, you won't 115 00:13:57,040 --> 00:14:06,320 compete with yourself as much as if you just try to improve just one thing, improve that from whatever 116 00:14:06,320 --> 00:14:13,520 you did yesterday, make one little step, those little progressive steps. And perhaps that will 117 00:14:13,520 --> 00:14:21,920 defeat that competing stuff that we constantly just, we get caught up in. We were, again, 118 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:30,320 we allow that outside world to dictate what it is, how we're going to be, how we're supposed to look, 119 00:14:30,320 --> 00:14:38,720 all of those things. And so if we would just stop for a moment and just think, you know, I always talk 120 00:14:38,720 --> 00:14:44,720 to my clients, I says, just think about the words that are coming out of your mouth. Think about 121 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:51,760 what it is you're thinking about. You know, why do you feel like you need to do this? Or why is this 122 00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:58,720 when, when people are start, when we ask the question as to why most people don't have an answer for us, 123 00:14:58,720 --> 00:15:07,120 they're just, they're just there and they're autopilot nearly. It's people, 124 00:15:07,120 --> 00:15:14,880 people have forgotten how to think. I think they listen too much and see too much and hear too much 125 00:15:14,880 --> 00:15:20,800 about what's going on around them and allow that to guide their thoughts so that they don't have to 126 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:27,120 think. And it's exactly what you're saying. You tell your clients, Susan, stop and question yourself. 127 00:15:27,920 --> 00:15:32,640 Why are you competing with yourself? Yeah. Why are you telling yourself these things? 128 00:15:32,640 --> 00:15:40,480 Yeah. And that it's, it amazed me. I was watching a Bob Proctor just video, you know, 129 00:15:40,480 --> 00:15:48,640 I watch them all the time. But the comment came up and the more I think about it, it's very interesting 130 00:15:49,280 --> 00:15:57,840 that society is like they have a pacifier in their mouth. They're just being, they're living 131 00:15:57,840 --> 00:16:04,240 outside. They're not thinking they have something that just satisfies what's taking care of them on 132 00:16:04,240 --> 00:16:11,680 the outside or this superficial because that's what most people live is that superficial life. 133 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:21,840 And it is a pacifier. And so therefore, everything around you is dictating who you are, what you're 134 00:16:21,840 --> 00:16:28,160 going to be, how long you're going to be able to do that. And, you know, I said there and I thought, 135 00:16:28,160 --> 00:16:37,200 oh my gosh, that's so sad to, that just saddens my heart to think that, and, and I guess the other 136 00:16:37,200 --> 00:16:45,120 thing that saddens me is I was one of those people. Me too. Yeah. And I totally agree with what you're 137 00:16:45,120 --> 00:16:50,480 saying. And I think people are afraid to question themselves because it makes them uncomfortable. 138 00:16:50,480 --> 00:16:58,080 It really does. And I'm not saying I'm perfect. And I don't have not so good days, but there's a lot 139 00:16:58,080 --> 00:17:07,360 more better days than there are bad days. And it's something I always stand by. I feel that I now 140 00:17:07,360 --> 00:17:12,160 live life with my eyes wide open because you're talking about people just existing, 141 00:17:12,160 --> 00:17:17,920 just drifting through life, not really paying much attention to their own thoughts. You know, 142 00:17:17,920 --> 00:17:23,920 they're being guided by the environment around them. I can honestly say, from the moment I wake up, 143 00:17:23,920 --> 00:17:31,200 I genuinely have my eyes wide open. But at the same time, I'm in absolute control about what I 144 00:17:31,200 --> 00:17:38,240 tell myself and how I speak to myself and how I treat myself, what love I show myself, all of those 145 00:17:38,800 --> 00:17:47,040 beautiful things that empower females that allow them to take control of the person that they are 146 00:17:47,040 --> 00:17:53,840 and experience all of that in the environment around them. See, in it, what you had said, 147 00:17:53,840 --> 00:18:01,120 what you had said something that you know, you're not perfect and all this, that is true. None of 148 00:18:01,120 --> 00:18:08,720 us are. But that's what we strive for. However, I think sometimes people get caught up and think, 149 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:17,920 oh, what makes you think you're so much better or whatever. And these negative thoughts start 150 00:18:17,920 --> 00:18:25,680 coming in when somebody is telling you or having a conversation with you about these are things 151 00:18:25,680 --> 00:18:33,840 that we can do to help you to release this. But they get caught on just certain words. And they 152 00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:40,880 hang on to those words and it's like, they don't hear anything else you say. And it amazes me because 153 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:47,120 I used to be one of these people and my friends out there listening to us, to the audience, I want 154 00:18:47,120 --> 00:18:54,320 you to know that Claire and I have gone through these things. So whatever we say, these are things 155 00:18:54,320 --> 00:19:00,240 that we've experienced. So it's not just like we're out here telling people what to do. It is what we 156 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:14,640 have learned that life is you make it. You make the decision. You have the power within you to change 157 00:19:15,680 --> 00:19:21,520 any part of your life you want. And I don't think we understand that. We don't understand it because 158 00:19:21,520 --> 00:19:28,400 we're never taught that. But we have that power. And until you have people like Claire and I coming 159 00:19:28,400 --> 00:19:36,480 out here and saying, you have the power to do that, you'll never know that. So when we talk about, 160 00:19:37,200 --> 00:19:44,880 well, I'm not perfect, well, none of us are perfect. I think what is it, the saying that I have heard 161 00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:50,400 is this, once you reach perfectionism, then there's another level that you need to reach for. So 162 00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:56,720 you never reach it because it's constantly is raising that bar all the time. 163 00:19:56,720 --> 00:20:03,760 Right. And some people will confuse perfection with happiness. That's not the same thing. It's 164 00:20:03,760 --> 00:20:11,120 not the same thing. My perfection that I strive for is that next level of professionalism in my 165 00:20:11,120 --> 00:20:19,200 role. The next exciting shift in my life. You know, that next goal that I've set myself. Yeah. 166 00:20:19,200 --> 00:20:26,960 Am I happy? Absolutely. And I'm happy even when I fail because where's the fun and continuous 167 00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:33,600 success you learn from the failures. You actually learn the most from those failures. You only fail 168 00:20:33,600 --> 00:20:42,160 whenever you stop pursuing those goals. So to me, perfection in my mind is my next level, my next 169 00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:47,600 tier, you know, how am I going to make today better than it was yesterday? You know, how am I going 170 00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:54,400 to take my goals and grow them beyond even my own dreams? And honestly, when Susan's telling you, 171 00:20:54,400 --> 00:21:00,880 we've learned this, I have learned this in the last few months. I mean, I am building a dream home 172 00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:07,280 that I never in a million years would have thought that I would be buying this year. And we just very 173 00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:13,120 casually extended the back of it and didn't give it a second thought because I'm thinking from the 174 00:21:13,120 --> 00:21:20,000 person I'm going to be, you know, in seven or eight months time, what I really want. Why could I not 175 00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:28,800 have it? Because I'm worthy. I love me. I am successful. And I have a good mental mindset 176 00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:34,640 around that. So it affects you're just it affects so many different things. So many decisions. You're 177 00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:43,360 like the smallest decisions. And even your sense is making one small change and have such an 178 00:21:43,360 --> 00:21:50,480 incredible impact on your life with consistency, you know, with support from you and in that kind 179 00:21:50,480 --> 00:21:57,120 of group or a network of people that are like minded and learning and going through that growth 180 00:21:57,120 --> 00:22:08,000 process at the same time. Yeah, just the thing that I don't that I learned was it's constant. It's not 181 00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:16,560 just okay, you do this for six months and you are good to go. You know, I've learned that growing, 182 00:22:17,760 --> 00:22:26,080 maturing in who I am as a person, understanding my purpose and know that that person purpose 183 00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:32,800 expands constantly because that's what we are for expansion and greater and fuller expression. 184 00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:39,440 And the more you learn about you, the more it just keeps growing. It's like you said, you know, 185 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:44,080 you never dreamed you were going to be this and now in seven, eight months, you're going to be this 186 00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:48,880 and in seven, eight months after that, you're going to be this and after that, it this it never stops. 187 00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:58,800 We were made to expand. We were made to express and experience all these things. We just never 188 00:22:58,800 --> 00:23:06,320 were taught what it was. And you know, and so what do you think because we're not taught that what 189 00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:11,680 are some of those battles that women faced? Do you think when it comes to that self image in 190 00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:20,960 that mindset around who they are? I think they compare themselves a lot to other women, which 191 00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:28,000 means that they they think they're in competition with others. So they'll compare and you've talked 192 00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:33,680 a lot already about this, their physical appearance, you know, are they beautiful? Are they beautiful 193 00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:38,960 enough? So are they starting to age? You know, all those conversations you have in your mind. 194 00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:47,840 And I learned through this three years ago now, a lot of my internal conversation about me not being 195 00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:54,960 good enough, actually stem back to conversations I've had with other people in my early years, 196 00:23:54,960 --> 00:24:01,680 in my teens. And it's so crazy, the impact that it has on your life. I'll give you a perfect example. 197 00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:08,080 And this was before I came into understanding about my mindset and how to change my mind. 198 00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:14,080 How to change my self image. I was studying for my master's level in human resources management. 199 00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:20,240 And from the outset told myself, because I had studied at level three, I'd been out of university 200 00:24:20,240 --> 00:24:25,920 for a very long time. And this was level seven. So this, in my mind, I told myself was a massive job. 201 00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:32,320 And oh, my goodness, it was going to be so difficult. And was I intelligent enough? And 202 00:24:32,320 --> 00:24:39,840 the first exam that I saw I failed. And that had a huge impact on my life. It actually took me an 203 00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:46,240 extra three years to complete that three years of my life. Because I listened to the voice inside 204 00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:51,920 of me saying, you're not smart enough to do this. You're not intelligent enough to complete this. 205 00:24:52,480 --> 00:25:01,040 Because I had one failure. I look back at that now. And honestly, I, it saddens me for the person 206 00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:08,720 that I was then. I think about the time that I wasted, you know, and all I had to do was, you know, 207 00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:16,160 have that internal conversation that was different. Yeah. Everybody learns from failures and mistakes. 208 00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:22,400 You only fail when you stop pushing on. And if I had to just push on at that point, I could have 209 00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:28,240 been finished three years earlier. I think a lot of the internal conversations are things we've picked 210 00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:33,840 up along the way from society. Society telling us we have to dress a certain way, behave a certain 211 00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:41,600 way, look a certain way. And we internalize that without actually realizing. I mean, how many people 212 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:48,240 aimlessly scroll through social media, the amount of content that your subconscious brain is actually 213 00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:55,040 taking in is scary. I know, because my husband still does it. And he comes off with random facts 214 00:25:55,040 --> 00:26:02,400 sometimes. And I think, what have you been watching? You know, I'd much rather build my mind or have 215 00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:13,200 conversations with people who are aware of mindset, who actively practice this and know how to catch 216 00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:19,680 themselves out, maybe with some of those internal battles. Yeah. And you brought up a very good point 217 00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:26,800 that I want to make sure the audience hears. When Claire was talking about her education 218 00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:33,920 and how she missed those three years, one thing that I've learned with our mindset, and I know 219 00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:43,360 Claire knows this too, is we think that we miss so much in life because of that. Because for me, 220 00:26:43,360 --> 00:26:48,800 my husband always says, I ran away from home when I was 20. I never saw it that way. I had a 221 00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:54,480 job and it was only a thousand miles away from where I live. So to me, that wasn't running away, 222 00:26:54,480 --> 00:27:00,560 but he always says I ran away from home. But, you know, and then I had all these different careers 223 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:08,080 and I think, why did I waste all of that time? But you and I both know we didn't waste that time. 224 00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:16,800 It took us that long to mature, to grow to where we are today, because we need to go through 225 00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:22,480 all of this craziness that we've gone through. And that's the same way with the audience. You may 226 00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:28,320 be going through some stuff and you're saying, that is way out there. I don't have time for this. 227 00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:35,760 You know, I've got my own bridges to burn or I've got this much stuff. I'm in school. I'm learning 228 00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:44,160 all this. But what Claire and I have learned is this. It doesn't matter what's going on outside of 229 00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:57,840 you, because everything that is important lies within you. And that is where people get messed up 230 00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:05,760 or people don't understand that. Because you're never taught. Because like you, I mean, you get 231 00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:12,000 the degrees, you know, I've been in the medical field. I've been in the fitness world. I've done 232 00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:21,520 the real estate industry. And I did all these things. But none of it ever taught me to really 233 00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:29,600 think about what do you want? What is it that you're seeking? Because I may have only had three 234 00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:39,520 careers in my life. But all that time, none of them showed me what I see today. Because what I 235 00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:53,840 have today is far more advanced than any education that a school, a university, and whatever institutes 236 00:28:53,840 --> 00:29:03,520 can ever give you. And it just makes us grow into the person that we really are. Once we start learning 237 00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:12,880 who we are, that self image, that mindset starts shifting. And once you start seeing you for who 238 00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:20,400 you are, I don't know about you, but that just is like, it gives you that wow. You know? 239 00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:29,280 And nothing, nothing has changed on the outside. You know, you may still be going to the same job, 240 00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:36,720 you know, have the same family, the same partner, but it's only inside that's different. And honestly, 241 00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:44,000 the only way I can describe that is when you are happy with yourself, when you are fulfilled with 242 00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:51,840 who you are and your true self, and you understand that, that radiates light. And you said, I mean, 243 00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:58,560 we went to Marbella last year, we had the most incredible time away, studying, learning, and 244 00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:06,080 creating beautiful friendships. But the people there just radiated life and love. And that is, 245 00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:13,600 because they have learned to understand their mindset and how to understand and change their 246 00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:20,240 self image, they're not changing it to please other people. They're not changing it because 247 00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:26,480 they're trying to compete with someone and be like that person. Every person is so beautifully 248 00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:32,480 unique in their own way. They decide to change that because they start to understand themselves, 249 00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:38,880 and they understand how much their own self image and mindset impacts their life. 250 00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:46,720 Yeah, you're not taught that. And I just, that's so beautiful, because I think once we learn 251 00:30:46,720 --> 00:31:00,640 to remove ourselves from all this exterior negativity and take a moment just to learn 252 00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:07,120 about who you are, because that, and that's another question. And I know you, you've asked this 253 00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:13,280 question yourself, you know, what is it that you want? You know, when I was asked that question 254 00:31:13,280 --> 00:31:19,600 by Bob years ago, I never, I never really took it. It was just like, okay, what kind of question is 255 00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:30,000 this, right? Because I still had that, that mentality of the exterior around me, you know, like, 256 00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:36,880 oh, what are people going to think about me if I say, oh, well, it's just like, oh, well, you 257 00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:48,160 want that. Oh, really? Right? So I just, I never took it seriously. But now that I, I teach this, 258 00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:55,520 I coach people on this, it's just like, that is what he meant when he asked that question. 259 00:31:56,320 --> 00:32:02,800 What is it you want? Because I'd never been asked that. And I know thousands of people that we 260 00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:10,080 talked to have never been asked that question. Yeah. So and when we, when we do that, I, I think it's 261 00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:17,440 important for us to ask our clients, ask the audience just to take a moment and think about, 262 00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:23,120 you know, if you could have whatever it is in your life, what is it you really want? 263 00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:31,440 And one of the things that Bob came across, it was very interesting, was the majority of people 264 00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:39,120 want freedom. Yeah. They want financial freedom. They want the freedom to be with their families. 265 00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:43,840 They want freedom to make, you know, if they want to go on a trip, they can go on a trip. 266 00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:51,120 They can do what they want. It's just freedom. And I, and I never thought about that, you know, but 267 00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:58,640 that is something that we desire, isn't it? To be free where we can be, what is that saying, 268 00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:06,480 be me, right? Be free to be. Yeah. And that, and it radiates into so many areas in your life. And 269 00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:12,480 one of the things I realized whenever I was presented with that question was I did not know, 270 00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:20,720 because my life was being dictated by my job. And by what I thought I needed to do is my next step, 271 00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:26,400 because that was the logical step that normal successful people were doing, staying in a permanent 272 00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:32,080 job and just continuing on that trajectory until their employer gives them an opportunity, or they 273 00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:41,200 had a magical idea to go to another employer. Yeah. And at that point, that's when that freedom 274 00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:49,520 concept started to become real for me. What if I was in control of my own decisions? When I work, 275 00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:56,320 who I work for, when I take time off, what I do in my time off, who I spend my time with, 276 00:33:56,880 --> 00:34:05,280 why I spend time with myself. And all of, all of the work that I've done and all of the learning 277 00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:10,720 that I've had around mindset has helped me with that. Yeah. Claire, that's beautiful. And that, 278 00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:19,440 that, that wasn't something you thought of a year or so ago, probably. It was just something that's 279 00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:25,840 that is eventually, it is just like, that's what this is about. That's what I need to do. 280 00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:33,680 That's what that means. That's how I'm supposed to feel. Because we don't ever get there. We never 281 00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:39,920 get there. And I just, I'm just like, wow, you know, because one of the things too that, that I 282 00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:45,600 like to talk about is when we start removing the hats, the labels and stuff like that, you know, 283 00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:50,640 you're not the mom, you're not the wife, you're not the friends, you're not all of these, who are you? 284 00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:56,560 What is it you want? Because like you said, you never, you don't think about things like that. 285 00:34:57,440 --> 00:35:01,040 And a lot of people, if you ask them that question, we'll say, I want happiness. 286 00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:08,560 Yeah. And that they think that's their answer. But what does happiness look like for you? I would 287 00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:14,080 say to your listeners, really think about that. What is your perfect day? What does that look like? 288 00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:20,560 Who are the people you surround yourself with? What do you spend your time doing in a day? How do 289 00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:25,440 you spend time with your children or your family or your partner? You know, how do you spend time 290 00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:30,720 with yourself? And you're thinking, you're talking there about goals and what do you really want? 291 00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:36,640 Yeah. Honestly. And even if your listeners come back and listen to this in six months time, 292 00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:45,920 dream big because you can make your dreams a reality. And I am not saying that lightly because 293 00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:52,720 you've experienced it, Susan. I mean, I am a product of that success as well. I'm still learning. 294 00:35:52,720 --> 00:35:59,520 You know, I continue to learn and work on me every day. And I'll do that for the rest of my life. 295 00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:07,840 Yeah. For a few reasons because I enjoy it. I actually enjoy being comfortable being me. 296 00:36:08,720 --> 00:36:14,880 And because I have desires and dreams and goals and I want to achieve them. And I know I'm capable 297 00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:24,160 of them. So being coached by you and in that community of like-minded people really is such 298 00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:32,640 an amazing support network that can help people to understand all of this. Yeah. That's beautiful 299 00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:40,480 because that's exactly what it's all about. Because I think people are sometimes, and this is, 300 00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:47,040 I can speak because I've felt this way, you're almost afraid. You're almost afraid of, 301 00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:56,320 ooh, what does that really look like? Am I really ready for that? Right? Because we don't identify 302 00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:08,400 with the positive. We don't identify with that beautiful, powerful, inspiring, talented, 303 00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:18,080 magnificent, perfect person that we really are. We don't have a clue what that person really looks 304 00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:24,480 like. That self-image. And the other part of that is that attitude that we bring along with that. 305 00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:33,600 Because that attitude, if it's not in the right place, we can do all the exterior work. 306 00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:45,920 Right? We can do all of that. But if we don't, yeah, but it's that change. You want to speak 307 00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:52,800 anything about the attitude and how that attitude can affect that self-image. And do you have 308 00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:57,520 any kind of stories on how that may have happened or taken place with you? 309 00:37:57,520 --> 00:38:05,520 Yeah, it's a big thing. And in the beginning, my attitude was stinking. Something we say in 310 00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:13,520 Northern Ireland. It's stinking. Really, per. But it's because I didn't know I wanted to blame 311 00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:21,680 outside circumstances for a lot of the results in my life. And honestly, it was because of my 312 00:38:21,680 --> 00:38:29,840 attitude. Attitude that was built on unfinded beliefs that were very, very weak. That I had 313 00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:35,840 drummed up in my own mind. Because let's be honest, you talk to yourself every day. Yes. You stop 314 00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:41,920 consciously taking things that are happening around you and you form an assumption or an opinion 315 00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:46,800 about something or an opinion about someone else's opinion or whatever it might be. So 316 00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:54,160 my attitude was not good. And through learning about mindset and how the mind works, I started 317 00:38:54,160 --> 00:39:00,400 to realise, and that's, it can be hard to swallow, that you are responsible for a lot of what shows 318 00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:08,640 up in your life. I realised that my attitude was not aligned with who I really was and who I actually 319 00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:16,880 wanted to express. So, yeah, I had to change the way I thought about myself. I had to change how I 320 00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:23,360 felt about myself. I had to do a lot of forgiveness for me and forgive myself for a lot of the things 321 00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:30,880 in the past that maybe I'd done or not done and move on from that. Do you know, it's almost like 322 00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:39,200 you shed an old skin. It's very, very hard to describe. You do shed, and it's uncomfortable, 323 00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:48,560 but you do shed the older version of you that doesn't serve you anymore, because you learn to realise, 324 00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:55,200 okay, well, if these are the goals I want to set and these are the things I want to achieve, what 325 00:39:55,200 --> 00:40:01,440 kind of person do I want to be in that role, you know, in that image that you're building of your 326 00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:09,280 future, and that takes a lot, it does take work, and it can be difficult. You may need to go through 327 00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:16,720 things that have happened in your past, not to poke at them or resurrect them, but to move on and let 328 00:40:16,720 --> 00:40:23,280 go. And I think a lot of us, and it's just, again, society, a lot of us have learnt that 329 00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:30,720 to earn forgiveness, there must be retribution for something, or, I mean, and there's certain 330 00:40:30,720 --> 00:40:37,120 things that have happened to me at a younger age that I did struggle to let go of, but I learnt 331 00:40:37,120 --> 00:40:47,040 that that was impacting my attitude. And I didn't need retribution or anapology or anything for what 332 00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:53,200 had happened in the past, the past, the past, there is nothing, you can change about it. You are in 333 00:40:53,200 --> 00:41:00,640 absolute control of your present moment and your future. And that, that was huge for me, that was 334 00:41:00,640 --> 00:41:07,360 a big, big eye opener. And I talk about wanting to life with your eyes wide open, that was massive, 335 00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:14,320 and that shifted me immensely to a point where I felt the shift, and I still feel shifts, 336 00:41:14,320 --> 00:41:21,200 you know, gradually every day, but that was, it's almost like something pushed me, pushed me forward 337 00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:28,960 and allowed me to let go. And I think when you start to align how you think, how you feel, and 338 00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:35,360 then how you actually act, how you talk to other people, the love that you give people, how you 339 00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:43,680 treat people, all of those things start to come together and formulate a new attitude that really 340 00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:52,000 does reflect your true self. Yeah, that's beautiful, very well said. Because if, as the audience heard 341 00:41:52,000 --> 00:42:00,960 that, there were so many things in that, that you shared and letting go and letting in. Yeah. 342 00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:10,320 You know, just learn to break through whatever it is that has been holding you back. I think that 343 00:42:10,320 --> 00:42:17,840 is probably one of the, I won't say toughest, because that is not what it is, it's not tough. 344 00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:27,360 It is to make a decision and to move on that decision you made. Yeah. Because when we use 345 00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:34,480 certain words, I think it's so important for us to know that certain words play a major role in 346 00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:41,920 how we respond to things. So, you know, and that when you were saying that, I'm like, 347 00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:50,880 that is so beautiful because the attitude about all of that, who you were, no longer serves you. 348 00:42:51,680 --> 00:43:00,480 Yeah. We hang on and it's time to let it go. Claire, that, that. 349 00:43:00,480 --> 00:43:07,600 No, and honestly, if you're listening to even think about the people in their lives or the 350 00:43:07,600 --> 00:43:15,040 people they've come across, I know people who find it really difficult to forgive, like really 351 00:43:15,040 --> 00:43:23,680 difficult to forgive. Yeah. And I see the results in their life. I see generally high unhappy they are. 352 00:43:23,680 --> 00:43:33,200 Yeah. And if only they could just learn to forgive and move on and let go, it allows that kind of 353 00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:39,120 love to come back into their life. It's, yeah, I mean, you can't hold those two emotions at the 354 00:43:39,120 --> 00:43:46,880 same time. If you want to be you, you have to move on. You cannot live in the past. And this again 355 00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:51,600 is something that we pick up from society. We ruminate over decisions or things that we've done 356 00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:55,840 in the past. It's gone. Yeah. You're in the opposite control of not. 357 00:43:56,400 --> 00:44:04,560 Of it. Yep. I did. It's just like the title of this podcast, you versus you. Yeah. Yeah. It's, 358 00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:09,440 you know, you only are competing against yourself and everything else out there. It's not really 359 00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:16,960 a competition, right? It's not a competition, my friends. So don't ever think you're competing. 360 00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:23,600 It's just a matter of changing up the way you think about yourself, the way you 361 00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:31,120 talk about yourself, the way that you treat yourself. It's all in the words that you're using. 362 00:44:32,000 --> 00:44:40,080 Yeah. And so choose your words wisely. And that's why together and in this group, my friends, just 363 00:44:40,080 --> 00:44:47,200 I want you to feel comfortable enough that you come in and you understand that there's no judgments 364 00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:54,000 here. And there's nothing wrong with what goes on with you. What it is is you, it's a learning process. 365 00:44:54,000 --> 00:45:01,200 And we don't learn unless we can start talking about it and getting it out of us so that we can 366 00:45:01,200 --> 00:45:08,720 allow the good to come within us. Because as long as you have all that negativity, all that bad 367 00:45:08,720 --> 00:45:18,000 blood and that unforgiveness within you, you can't bring in the good. So it's like a cleansing thing, 368 00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:28,640 isn't it? It really is. And I'm sure you've got some technique. So it's so good. So soul refreshing, 369 00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:33,440 I think. I think that's the only way to describe it. When you do, you do those exercises. And, 370 00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:40,160 you know, you may get emotional, there may be things you need to process and think about. But 371 00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:47,760 my goodness, on the other side of that is just beauty. And I would say like that is such a good 372 00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:55,200 thing to do. Yeah. And I love that because when we start, and my friends, this is the thing too, 373 00:45:55,200 --> 00:46:00,240 Claire and I are constantly mentored. So it's one of those things, it's not something that you just 374 00:46:00,240 --> 00:46:06,480 do once and you've got it. We are constantly because Claire and I both, we have a tendency, 375 00:46:06,480 --> 00:46:13,040 we fall back, we're not perfect, you know? And we fall back, but it's always good to have somebody 376 00:46:13,040 --> 00:46:19,600 out there saying, I understand or I hear what you're saying, but let's look at it a different way. 377 00:46:19,600 --> 00:46:27,920 Challenging. Yes. And I love that challenge. I love to be challenged. Yeah. I love it. Well, 378 00:46:27,920 --> 00:46:34,800 Claire, is there anything else that you would like the audience to know about what you thought about 379 00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:42,480 the podcast? What are some closing things that maybe you want the audience to know about you 380 00:46:42,480 --> 00:46:51,920 versus you, about competing with you? Yeah, I would say I am a product of the success. You are too, 381 00:46:51,920 --> 00:47:01,200 too. Everybody can be. And this is not just about me being a successful entrepreneur or, you know, 382 00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:09,840 being into control of my own business now. I have a beautiful life. I am very happy. I'm very happy 383 00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:17,920 with the results that I'm creating. I love me and I'm not ashamed to say that. I have wonderful 384 00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:24,480 relationships with the people that I surround myself with and I choose who I surround myself with now. 385 00:47:24,480 --> 00:47:34,320 That's not dictated to me. And all of that has stemmed from me stopping competing with myself. 386 00:47:35,200 --> 00:47:42,160 Yeah. I stopped listening to the voice that was in my head. And one final thing I would say to 387 00:47:42,160 --> 00:47:49,440 your listeners is know that you are enough. You are good enough. This is not just something for 388 00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:57,680 oh, she'll be successful at it because she's such and such or she's already quite successful. So 389 00:47:57,680 --> 00:48:05,280 it'll work for her. It works for everyone or you want it to. So I would say do not let that stop you. 390 00:48:05,280 --> 00:48:15,440 This is powerful and it's such a beautiful change in yourself. And honestly, your life is amazing 391 00:48:15,440 --> 00:48:21,360 when you do make that shift. Yeah, that's beautiful Claire. That is so true. And I think 392 00:48:21,920 --> 00:48:30,160 what you had said there is so important that this is for everybody. It doesn't matter where you live. 393 00:48:30,160 --> 00:48:36,400 It doesn't matter what you look like. It doesn't matter your age. It doesn't matter if you're 394 00:48:36,400 --> 00:48:45,040 tall or short or thin or what it doesn't matter. Yeah, it's all about your thinking. 395 00:48:46,000 --> 00:48:51,760 And all about because once you start changing that everything around you changes. 396 00:48:51,760 --> 00:48:59,600 And you see life in the brightness that it's meant to be in, not the darkness. 397 00:49:00,720 --> 00:49:05,120 Well, my friends, I want to thank you for joining us today. It's really been a great day. And this 398 00:49:05,120 --> 00:49:13,520 has been so awesome, Claire. You're just, I love your energy. I love just your friendship and just 399 00:49:13,520 --> 00:49:20,720 everything that you brought here today. So I trust this episode has sparked a fire within you too. 400 00:49:20,720 --> 00:49:31,280 And to embrace this authentic self, that is you and take and make a decisive decision to take 401 00:49:31,280 --> 00:49:39,040 action, actionable steps towards your goals, your life. So I hope that you will 402 00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:46,080 join us again the next time. And if you found this inspirational, I hope that you'll 403 00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:54,640 click the link, join us, send it out to your friends and make a transformational journey 404 00:49:54,640 --> 00:50:01,600 going together with you, your friends and all of us here inside Alignment Activator. 405 00:50:02,400 --> 00:50:08,480 So if you're ready to elevate that journey, make sure you click that link and join and join into 406 00:50:08,480 --> 00:50:15,040 the exclusive free community. And here you're going to get the value and the support and all 407 00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:22,960 the resources that are waiting for you. So until the next time, stay connected, stay empowered, 408 00:50:22,960 --> 00:50:46,880 and let your brilliance shine brightly for the world to see. See you next time.