WEBVTT 00:00:03.870 --> 00:00:08.490 Yeah Turn your volume up This ain't small talk 00:00:08.490 --> 00:00:25.149 This is real talk Monday rolls around And you 00:00:25.149 --> 00:00:29.929 know the spot James H. Glover Network We bring 00:00:29.929 --> 00:00:35.189 the real talk And I got the questions James James 00:00:35.189 --> 00:00:41.369 got the fire Every single Monday We take it higher 00:00:41.369 --> 00:01:08.579 At eight o 'clock CST you know What is up? What 00:01:08.579 --> 00:01:11.040 is up? What is up? Everyone, everyone, everyone. 00:01:11.219 --> 00:01:13.280 It is another day, another time, and another 00:01:13.280 --> 00:01:17.719 week. We will talk Monday. What is up, Hannah? 00:01:18.480 --> 00:01:23.420 Good evening. How are you? I'm good. I am good. 00:01:23.760 --> 00:01:27.799 How are you? I'm holding on. I feel you. I feel 00:01:27.799 --> 00:01:33.219 you. Y 'all know y 'all must be doing something 00:01:33.219 --> 00:01:35.980 right because y 'all got me and Hannah. two weeks 00:01:35.980 --> 00:01:38.680 in a row. Y 'all know we quick to run and we 00:01:38.680 --> 00:01:42.439 won. We quick to run and we won. Because we have 00:01:42.439 --> 00:01:44.900 real life and we believe in quality over quantity. 00:01:45.159 --> 00:01:47.280 I'm real heavy on quality over quantity. So it's 00:01:47.280 --> 00:01:50.079 like, we had a check in. I'm like, how you doing? 00:01:50.260 --> 00:01:52.140 How was your weekend? Because we're not burning 00:01:52.140 --> 00:01:56.120 ourselves out anymore. We are being very considerate 00:01:56.120 --> 00:02:00.000 of ourselves. We will definitely check in with 00:02:00.000 --> 00:02:04.920 me. And I appreciate that. C is one of the ones 00:02:04.920 --> 00:02:07.280 that's like, mm -hmm. How are you when we do 00:02:07.280 --> 00:02:11.139 one? I'm like, I'm good. I'm good. It was definitely 00:02:11.139 --> 00:02:14.340 a weekend this weekend, but yo, we might do it. 00:02:14.639 --> 00:02:18.060 We got through it. So, Hannah, I'm gonna let 00:02:18.060 --> 00:02:20.000 you play us in and then we're gonna get started 00:02:20.000 --> 00:02:24.960 tonight. Okay. Dear Heavenly Father, thank you 00:02:24.960 --> 00:02:27.000 for allowing us to have this platform and touch 00:02:27.000 --> 00:02:30.360 the people that we are. We appreciate the influence 00:02:30.360 --> 00:02:32.180 that you're putting on us, the growth that you 00:02:32.180 --> 00:02:34.520 have for us, all that you have done for us, all 00:02:34.520 --> 00:02:37.800 that you're doing for us. Thank you for the patience 00:02:37.800 --> 00:02:41.479 and building us up and helping us expand James 00:02:41.479 --> 00:02:44.060 vision to the full extent of your divine purpose 00:02:44.060 --> 00:02:46.969 Dear Heavenly Father. Let us touch every listener 00:02:46.969 --> 00:02:49.689 that is meant to be touched. Let us have a fun 00:02:49.689 --> 00:02:52.009 and successful show, and we thank you for everything 00:02:52.009 --> 00:02:53.889 that you have done for us in the name of Jesus. 00:02:54.430 --> 00:03:01.229 Amen. Amen, amen, amen. Last week we started 00:03:01.229 --> 00:03:05.030 the new series, and tonight we're taking it to 00:03:05.030 --> 00:03:08.550 another level. Hannah, tell them what we're talking 00:03:08.550 --> 00:03:11.889 about tonight. Tonight we are talking about pursuit 00:03:11.889 --> 00:03:17.679 versus pressure. Who should be chasing who? who 00:03:17.679 --> 00:03:21.419 pursued versus pressure, who should be pursuing 00:03:21.419 --> 00:03:24.259 who. So first thing I'm going to do, I'm going 00:03:24.259 --> 00:03:26.240 to get all these announcements out of the way 00:03:26.240 --> 00:03:28.439 because I already know that once we get started 00:03:28.439 --> 00:03:32.620 with this conversation, we ain't stopped. I already 00:03:32.620 --> 00:03:35.900 know. So you all, I want you all to go over there 00:03:35.900 --> 00:03:40.199 to the other YouTube channel that is the sister. 00:03:41.209 --> 00:03:44.650 are the offerings of J .J .S. Gleber Network, 00:03:45.050 --> 00:03:48.629 which is Kingdom Kids Network. I want you all 00:03:48.629 --> 00:03:51.889 to go over there to that, and I want you all 00:03:51.889 --> 00:03:55.110 to subscribe to that channel, ladies and gentlemen. 00:03:56.050 --> 00:03:58.389 I want you all to subscribe to that channel. 00:03:58.629 --> 00:04:02.310 I am putting that in the comments below. I want 00:04:02.310 --> 00:04:04.509 you all to subscribe to that. There is going 00:04:04.509 --> 00:04:08.210 to be great content that is going to be released 00:04:08.210 --> 00:04:12.780 weekly for you all over there. We are doing quality 00:04:12.780 --> 00:04:18.839 over quality over there to my sister Marie and 00:04:18.839 --> 00:04:23.639 I'm sorry, doesn't name doesn't a and I really 00:04:23.639 --> 00:04:27.180 working hard on that one doesn't a and I are 00:04:27.180 --> 00:04:30.360 really doing our thing over there with that one. 00:04:30.560 --> 00:04:33.980 So we want y 'all to subscribe if y 'all are 00:04:33.980 --> 00:04:38.279 into your health journey. Let me in here to know 00:04:38.279 --> 00:04:41.300 put it in the comments below. Let us know that 00:04:41.300 --> 00:04:44.439 you're into it and me and Hannah will put you 00:04:44.439 --> 00:04:47.680 in a group site that we got going on over there 00:04:47.680 --> 00:04:51.519 on Facebook, you all. Where we are focusing on 00:04:51.519 --> 00:04:56.000 our health. So we want you all, because we understand 00:04:56.000 --> 00:04:59.379 that health is definitely well, we understand 00:04:59.379 --> 00:05:02.139 that if you feel better, you do better. And if 00:05:02.139 --> 00:05:05.180 you do better, you live longer. So we want you 00:05:05.180 --> 00:05:08.579 all to definitely let us know. Let's work on 00:05:08.579 --> 00:05:11.500 this together, y 'all. All right, let's get into 00:05:11.500 --> 00:05:18.800 this conversation. All right. So let's start 00:05:18.800 --> 00:05:24.699 with a quotation. If a man really wants a woman, 00:05:25.040 --> 00:05:27.360 should she ever have to question whether he's 00:05:27.360 --> 00:05:42.589 interested? The grown man is going to let you 00:05:42.589 --> 00:05:45.250 know that he's in the West End off -jump. A grown 00:05:45.250 --> 00:05:47.629 man is going to let you know off -jump like, 00:05:47.870 --> 00:05:51.629 yo, I'm feeling you and this is what I'm willing 00:05:51.629 --> 00:05:54.250 to do to show it to you. Like I know you got 00:05:54.250 --> 00:05:57.129 a lot on your plate. Let me release some of that 00:05:57.129 --> 00:05:59.790 off of your plate. Let me take some of that pressure 00:05:59.790 --> 00:06:02.810 off of you. Let me be that soda that you can 00:06:02.810 --> 00:06:06.829 cry on. Let me be that one. that you can lean 00:06:06.829 --> 00:06:09.110 on. Let me be that one that you can depend on. 00:06:09.250 --> 00:06:12.149 Let me be that one that can lighten up that load 00:06:12.149 --> 00:06:15.209 for you. That's what a grown man is going to 00:06:15.209 --> 00:06:20.009 do. Well, a little boy is going to find excuses 00:06:20.009 --> 00:06:24.689 of why he can't do it. A grown man don't make 00:06:24.689 --> 00:06:28.569 excuses. We make actions. We take action. We 00:06:28.569 --> 00:06:34.490 don't make excuses. Go on ahead. What you put 00:06:34.490 --> 00:06:38.420 about that? I agree with that completely. Definitely 00:06:38.420 --> 00:06:42.060 I have experience both and it's very real out 00:06:42.060 --> 00:06:48.180 here in East Street. It is, it is, it is. I mean, 00:06:48.240 --> 00:06:50.800 there's a lot of little boys that pretend to 00:06:50.800 --> 00:06:53.759 be grown men. And let's keep it real. There's 00:06:53.759 --> 00:06:56.399 a lot of little girls that pretend to be grown 00:06:56.399 --> 00:07:05.000 women too. So it's about knowing your person. 00:07:05.360 --> 00:07:08.120 and knowing them well enough to know, OK, this 00:07:08.120 --> 00:07:10.899 is what I want, and this is what I desire, and 00:07:10.899 --> 00:07:14.600 I'm not settling until I keep this. And that 00:07:14.600 --> 00:07:16.259 comes to building yourself up to that point, 00:07:16.339 --> 00:07:19.480 though. You can't be like, if you want to top 00:07:19.480 --> 00:07:21.439 tier, you need to get top tier yourself, though, 00:07:21.980 --> 00:07:24.860 so that you can attract what you desire. You 00:07:24.860 --> 00:07:28.220 need to be matching that same level so that it 00:07:28.220 --> 00:07:31.339 is a match and not, it could be equally oaked. 00:07:35.180 --> 00:07:37.879 I agree with that. I agree with that. Like, you 00:07:37.879 --> 00:07:40.459 can't be drunk, be saying you want to count on 00:07:40.459 --> 00:07:46.740 that, but you got a pension budget. You can't 00:07:46.740 --> 00:07:49.399 be doing that. Like, you got to make sure what 00:07:49.399 --> 00:07:53.120 you want matches what you are showing that you 00:07:53.120 --> 00:08:09.060 want, in my opinion. And I'll go with the next 00:08:09.060 --> 00:08:14.920 question for y 'all. The next one. Next one that 00:08:14.920 --> 00:08:19.459 we're going to hit y 'all with is, what makes 00:08:19.459 --> 00:08:24.279 a man decide a woman is worth pursuing? And what 00:08:24.279 --> 00:08:27.220 do you think? What makes a man decide that? Coming 00:08:27.220 --> 00:08:31.480 from a woman's perspective, what you think? I 00:08:31.480 --> 00:08:34.059 don't know that, that's your perspective to share. 00:08:34.220 --> 00:08:37.960 I can tell some of the behavior, like that Amanda 00:08:37.960 --> 00:08:40.399 - Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Consistency, 00:08:40.899 --> 00:08:43.580 like a man that wants you is gonna be so consistent, 00:08:43.799 --> 00:08:45.340 it's not gonna be no begging and chasing and 00:08:45.340 --> 00:08:48.039 forcing. He will respect your boundaries and 00:08:48.039 --> 00:08:51.360 your standards. He will want you to reach your 00:08:51.360 --> 00:08:53.220 full potential and he will not hold you back, 00:08:53.279 --> 00:08:56.559 no matter how much you have going on. I think 00:08:56.559 --> 00:08:59.139 those are some of the biggest things, but that 00:08:59.139 --> 00:09:02.559 consistency. just being a genuine man would be 00:09:02.559 --> 00:09:08.440 the man that's actually the one for you. I agree, 00:09:08.700 --> 00:09:14.000 I agree. And for me, I would say like, some of 00:09:14.000 --> 00:09:16.500 the characteristics that a woman would have as 00:09:16.500 --> 00:09:22.820 for me, her prayer life. I know that she's a 00:09:22.820 --> 00:09:25.899 praying woman of God. Like, I know that my wife 00:09:25.899 --> 00:09:30.370 got to be a praying woman of God because I can't 00:09:30.370 --> 00:09:35.269 have mediocre. It's like, at this point where 00:09:35.269 --> 00:09:38.850 I'm at in my life, I know that where I'm headed 00:09:38.850 --> 00:09:43.110 is where God is trying to take me higher. I know 00:09:43.110 --> 00:09:45.090 that God is trying to take me higher with where 00:09:45.090 --> 00:09:47.830 I'm headed. So with that being said, I have to 00:09:47.830 --> 00:09:50.590 be consistent. I have to continue working. I 00:09:50.590 --> 00:09:53.009 have to continue grinding. I have to continue 00:09:53.009 --> 00:09:55.789 doing what I have to do as well, but I know that 00:09:55.789 --> 00:10:01.009 my wife. is going to be doing that same thing. 00:10:01.269 --> 00:10:03.090 I know that the same way that I'm working on 00:10:03.090 --> 00:10:05.629 myself right now, my wife is doing the same thing. 00:10:07.070 --> 00:10:10.350 So it's like when we come together, it's going 00:10:10.350 --> 00:10:13.350 to be like a perfect piece to the puzzle. Where 00:10:13.350 --> 00:10:16.809 I like at, she's swung in, where I'm swung at, 00:10:17.149 --> 00:10:21.190 she might like that, but together, as Neo said, 00:10:21.549 --> 00:10:23.549 we are movement by herself, but we are force 00:10:23.549 --> 00:10:31.389 when we together. So I want to circle back because 00:10:31.389 --> 00:10:32.970 I didn't get to the spiritual part. I have this 00:10:32.970 --> 00:10:37.769 little minion that's doing the most. So definitely 00:10:37.769 --> 00:10:41.149 with the man that, when you grow spiritually, 00:10:41.649 --> 00:10:45.029 you want that man to have a, not only a prayer 00:10:45.029 --> 00:10:47.110 life, but I want you to have a relationship with 00:10:47.110 --> 00:10:50.470 God. Not, you know, it's my own prophet apostle, 00:10:50.690 --> 00:10:52.230 all that. No, no, no. I want you to actually 00:10:52.230 --> 00:10:54.169 have a relationship with God. I want you to have 00:10:54.169 --> 00:10:56.049 a prayer life. I would like you to be serving 00:10:56.049 --> 00:11:01.940 in your ministry. And that's the type. of spiritual 00:11:01.940 --> 00:11:06.679 relationship that I desire from my better half. 00:11:09.320 --> 00:11:13.460 I like it, I like it, I like it. You said I play 00:11:13.460 --> 00:11:18.620 like, y 'all, another thing that her husband's 00:11:18.620 --> 00:11:22.179 gonna have to know how to do is fast, because 00:11:22.179 --> 00:11:26.240 Hannah is quick on the fast, quick on the fast, 00:11:26.720 --> 00:11:37.820 quick to call her fast, quick. like she'll call 00:11:37.820 --> 00:11:40.840 it in the quickness like we need to fast right 00:11:40.840 --> 00:11:46.620 now. That's right now so. But I tell y 'all, 00:11:46.879 --> 00:11:54.980 but I tell y 'all. The reason why, so I know 00:11:54.980 --> 00:11:57.980 the reason why things are going as strong and 00:11:57.980 --> 00:12:00.919 as well as they're going with this network is 00:12:00.919 --> 00:12:06.039 because I have women like female weed, dogs and 00:12:06.039 --> 00:12:13.299 that. I have women like that around me that are 00:12:13.299 --> 00:12:19.539 weighing women. And when I tell you, when you 00:12:19.539 --> 00:12:24.480 get that together, the devil can't help but to 00:12:24.480 --> 00:12:41.059 be scared. And that's what we want. I think it's 00:12:41.059 --> 00:12:44.519 my question again. Sorry, I might ask you one. 00:12:46.200 --> 00:12:52.480 Does texting or calling automatically mean that 00:12:52.480 --> 00:12:59.600 a woman is facing after a man? I mean, I tell 00:12:59.600 --> 00:13:02.539 my daughter that. Like I'm saying, you can text 00:13:02.539 --> 00:13:05.460 and call one time. That's all one call. That's 00:13:05.460 --> 00:13:09.529 all one text. Don't do more than that. So, okay, 00:13:09.750 --> 00:13:12.370 okay, okay. I'm going to give you something from 00:13:12.370 --> 00:13:16.029 a personal situation. So I was out and about 00:13:16.029 --> 00:13:20.889 one time and we're into this beautiful young 00:13:20.889 --> 00:13:27.990 lady. And I had seen her twice. So the second 00:13:27.990 --> 00:13:31.350 time that I saw her, I'm like, I bet I got it. 00:13:33.049 --> 00:13:36.470 I asked someone that I knew about her. I'm like, 00:13:36.529 --> 00:13:40.649 yo, who is that? They told me, not mine, okay, 00:13:40.850 --> 00:13:45.970 bad. So immediately they come over there, I'd 00:13:45.970 --> 00:13:47.990 like, you know, bring them over there to get 00:13:47.990 --> 00:13:50.710 attention for me. They're like, I might just 00:13:50.710 --> 00:13:53.250 bring over here. So they bring over there, we 00:13:53.250 --> 00:13:56.149 have a conversation. And I finally tell them, 00:13:56.230 --> 00:13:58.269 I'm like, yo, this is like my second time out 00:13:58.269 --> 00:14:02.509 in Saudi. And I really love your smell. And I 00:14:02.509 --> 00:14:04.509 would have to get to know you better. Can I have 00:14:04.509 --> 00:14:08.960 your telephone number? Her first response to 00:14:08.960 --> 00:14:11.960 me is, I don't give out my number on the first 00:14:11.960 --> 00:14:18.980 time I talk to a man, you got social media. I'm 00:14:18.980 --> 00:14:22.559 like, yeah, I got Facebook. Cool, I can give 00:14:22.559 --> 00:14:25.139 you my Facebook name and we can talk over there, 00:14:25.259 --> 00:14:28.240 but I'm not giving you my number right now. But 00:14:28.240 --> 00:14:30.620 be real, I respected that, because I'm like, 00:14:32.679 --> 00:14:35.500 okay, bad, you're making me work for it, bad. 00:14:39.350 --> 00:14:42.210 That's true. And I think that that's good. I 00:14:42.210 --> 00:14:44.230 think some of the best relationships are built 00:14:44.230 --> 00:14:47.450 off of making someone work for it or putting 00:14:47.450 --> 00:14:52.809 that time and not just being so easygoing. So 00:14:52.809 --> 00:14:57.509 I agree with that. Especially the younger generation, 00:14:57.649 --> 00:14:59.909 they're real big on social media. As I serve 00:14:59.909 --> 00:15:02.110 in ministry, I'm learning they use that Instagram 00:15:02.110 --> 00:15:05.350 heavy bad and like Instagram tick to all that 00:15:05.350 --> 00:15:07.029 they don't do phone numbers. I don't know if 00:15:07.029 --> 00:15:08.389 they have anybody phone number in real life. 00:15:09.509 --> 00:15:13.610 Dude, that younger generation, they're like, 00:15:13.809 --> 00:15:16.230 I don't know, but... They play Scandinavian, 00:15:16.470 --> 00:15:19.070 I don't know, I don't understand. You know, I'm 00:15:19.070 --> 00:15:26.769 an IT. Not you and IT. I tell them I'm an IT. 00:15:28.409 --> 00:15:36.399 And they probably address you as an IT. How old 00:15:36.399 --> 00:15:39.899 are the kids that you watch at church? I work 00:15:39.899 --> 00:15:45.519 with all kids. My specialty, the ones that is 00:15:45.519 --> 00:15:48.120 three and four, but Bella's four now. So that's 00:15:48.120 --> 00:15:50.639 kind of like, I try to be not in there with my 00:15:50.639 --> 00:15:52.899 own child because she's alive, because she does 00:15:52.899 --> 00:15:56.139 things like call me Miss Hannah mom. Miss Hannah 00:15:56.139 --> 00:15:57.960 mom. Just things that aggravate me. It's like, 00:15:58.080 --> 00:16:00.879 why are you doing both names? So it's just, but 00:16:00.879 --> 00:16:03.289 I'm in there at least. you know, once a month 00:16:03.289 --> 00:16:06.070 with her. But I've been leaning more toward the 00:16:06.070 --> 00:16:10.169 teens as I am entering a teen mother for my child. 00:16:10.490 --> 00:16:13.549 She's becoming a teenager. So I'm working with 00:16:13.549 --> 00:16:16.230 the teens more and getting their sides and perspectives 00:16:16.230 --> 00:16:20.090 and learning a lot. So it's kind of like three 00:16:20.090 --> 00:16:22.309 and four. I love them. They're my babies. I love 00:16:22.309 --> 00:16:25.490 them. I see them grow up. I've had a couple of 00:16:25.490 --> 00:16:27.470 them that are now in second and third grade. 00:16:28.389 --> 00:16:31.730 But I want to those teens is just where I'm at 00:16:31.730 --> 00:16:33.350 because I had a teen and I'm going through so 00:16:33.350 --> 00:16:36.409 much raising a pre -teen that I'm leaning in 00:16:36.409 --> 00:16:39.009 that direction right now a little bit more. I'm 00:16:39.009 --> 00:16:43.789 active in both. Yeah, I'm still laughing at a 00:16:43.789 --> 00:16:46.950 baby girl calling me mishandamama. Mishandamama. 00:16:47.909 --> 00:16:51.409 She's a she's a little menace at times. Okay. 00:16:52.649 --> 00:16:56.409 Not too much on my mini Mishu. Not too much on 00:16:56.409 --> 00:16:58.870 my little Mishu. It is hard raising a version 00:16:58.870 --> 00:17:01.590 of yourself. but it's really hard raising too. 00:17:03.169 --> 00:17:05.789 Amen. Oh God, give me strength. Okay, what's 00:17:05.789 --> 00:17:16.029 next? I'm telling you now that oldest one. That's 00:17:16.029 --> 00:17:25.569 the one. That's the one. What is healthy weapon? 00:17:26.609 --> 00:17:31.529 What is healthy weapon? With rotation actually 00:17:31.529 --> 00:17:43.390 look right. Okay. I would say. So he's consistent, 00:17:44.230 --> 00:17:47.670 um, which I love. So consistent is like the calling, 00:17:47.910 --> 00:17:50.670 the planning, um, communicating, checking on 00:17:50.670 --> 00:17:53.650 you, showing interest, following through. So 00:17:53.650 --> 00:17:59.779 like, um. They're going to call you. You're not 00:17:59.779 --> 00:18:01.019 going to have to call them. They're going to 00:18:01.019 --> 00:18:03.799 call you. You're going to start the day. You're 00:18:03.799 --> 00:18:05.519 going to eat the day with them and hopefully 00:18:05.519 --> 00:18:07.920 with the prayer while y 'all are ending the day. 00:18:08.880 --> 00:18:12.759 Planning, it will be like a standard. It's every 00:18:12.759 --> 00:18:15.839 Saturday a date or every week. You know, if a 00:18:15.839 --> 00:18:18.440 man is truly interested, I want to hear about 00:18:18.440 --> 00:18:20.480 pockets because you can go to the park. There's 00:18:20.480 --> 00:18:22.140 so many things you can do with a low budget. 00:18:22.400 --> 00:18:24.950 Okay. So that ain't gonna work. He's not gonna 00:18:24.950 --> 00:18:26.690 be a man of excuses. He's gonna be a man of action. 00:18:26.809 --> 00:18:30.150 So he's gonna plan something for you. And you're 00:18:30.150 --> 00:18:33.769 gonna have to have those sitters ready. So dedicated 00:18:33.769 --> 00:18:36.630 planning to putting it together, not you trying 00:18:36.630 --> 00:18:39.029 to throw it together. He throws it, he plans 00:18:39.029 --> 00:18:45.250 it. No chasing it all though. Like we really 00:18:45.250 --> 00:18:49.230 gotta stop chasing. We gotta break that because 00:18:49.230 --> 00:18:51.349 your kids are watching you. So you gotta stop 00:18:51.349 --> 00:18:56.769 chasing. But just checking on you, like, oh, 00:18:56.849 --> 00:18:57.910 I ain't talking to you in a couple of hours. 00:18:58.029 --> 00:18:58.950 They're going to check on you throughout the 00:18:58.950 --> 00:19:02.990 day without a doubt. Like, you OK? How's your 00:19:02.990 --> 00:19:05.529 day going? They're going to pay attention to 00:19:05.529 --> 00:19:06.890 how you move, and they're going to know your 00:19:06.890 --> 00:19:08.170 movements, and they're going to know when something 00:19:08.170 --> 00:19:10.990 off. And that's that genuine connection you want 00:19:10.990 --> 00:19:17.109 to build with that person. Yeah, I believe it. 00:19:17.329 --> 00:19:19.809 I believe it. Like, for me, I believe that it 00:19:19.809 --> 00:19:27.140 starts with... doing the little things like paying 00:19:27.140 --> 00:19:30.980 attention to the little things that you tell 00:19:30.980 --> 00:19:33.559 them. Like if you tell them that you like the 00:19:33.559 --> 00:19:37.140 color blue, they find out, they find something 00:19:37.140 --> 00:19:42.960 blue and they get it for you. Or just randomly 00:19:42.960 --> 00:19:45.720 they might message you throughout the day, hey, 00:19:45.900 --> 00:19:51.720 are you good? I'm just sucking on you. or even 00:19:51.720 --> 00:19:57.960 randomly being like, yo, I know like you haven't 00:19:57.960 --> 00:20:02.480 eaten the day is like do or that's I'm do or 00:20:02.480 --> 00:20:05.980 that's in you something. Yes, very much so like 00:20:05.980 --> 00:20:09.319 first day in school was a lot. And it was emotional 00:20:09.319 --> 00:20:10.779 because my baby was going to school and just 00:20:10.779 --> 00:20:15.299 like I had comfort food delivered to me. You 00:20:15.299 --> 00:20:16.900 know, that's the it's the it's the little things 00:20:16.900 --> 00:20:19.930 that make it. important. It's the little things 00:20:19.930 --> 00:20:21.609 remembering that you are a mother, you are a 00:20:21.609 --> 00:20:23.210 business woman, but you are still a woman and 00:20:23.210 --> 00:20:27.529 a lady and you desire that attention. So knowing 00:20:27.529 --> 00:20:30.230 that, you know, hey, Saturday I got five, three 00:20:30.230 --> 00:20:32.289 people I could depend on babysing, scheduling 00:20:32.289 --> 00:20:35.690 my sitters so that I can be available because 00:20:35.690 --> 00:20:38.029 I got plans. I got to have clothes. I got to 00:20:38.029 --> 00:20:40.769 make sure my hair is right because every Saturday 00:20:40.769 --> 00:20:50.910 we got plans. I agree. I agree. Like, literally, 00:20:51.569 --> 00:20:56.869 like, I think it comes to a point to where you 00:20:56.869 --> 00:20:59.630 gotta be like, you gotta make that time to like, 00:20:59.849 --> 00:21:05.289 yo, this time is our time. Let's cut off the 00:21:05.289 --> 00:21:08.829 rest of the world. Let's do something for us. 00:21:11.509 --> 00:21:16.730 I have a question for you. Go on ahead. What 00:21:16.730 --> 00:21:20.470 makes a man say I really like this woman, but 00:21:20.470 --> 00:21:35.509 I'm done trying All right for me For a grown 00:21:35.509 --> 00:21:41.210 man We only gonna keep showing up so many times 00:21:41.210 --> 00:21:45.250 after so long it's going to be like a thing of 00:21:45.250 --> 00:21:48.750 why am I keep pushing when I know that this ain't 00:21:48.750 --> 00:21:54.650 something that you want. So you can't be mad 00:21:54.650 --> 00:22:01.170 when I go somewhere else and I find somebody 00:22:01.170 --> 00:22:03.589 that appreciates everything that I'm going to 00:22:03.589 --> 00:22:08.150 do to take it because a lot of women look far 00:22:08.150 --> 00:22:13.900 for that 80 -20 move. And a lot of men fall for 00:22:13.900 --> 00:22:18.779 it too. But I think for a lot of men, the reason 00:22:18.779 --> 00:22:21.940 why they stop trying so hard is because they're 00:22:21.940 --> 00:22:25.440 like, why am I pushing on something that don't 00:22:25.440 --> 00:22:30.740 want me? Why am I pursuing somebody or something 00:22:30.740 --> 00:22:36.099 that don't want me? She has made it clear that 00:22:36.099 --> 00:22:42.009 I'm not a pig. So if I'm not a pig. Why am I 00:22:42.009 --> 00:22:48.250 pushing myself? But here's what a lot of men 00:22:48.250 --> 00:22:52.390 will do. We'll give a woman three or four swaths 00:22:52.390 --> 00:22:56.329 before we finally get them. Trust me, I've been 00:22:56.329 --> 00:23:02.210 there. But just like when a woman's better, when 00:23:02.210 --> 00:23:14.279 a man is really done, it's a wrap. What about 00:23:14.279 --> 00:23:22.839 you as far as on a woman's side? I Think on a 00:23:22.839 --> 00:23:27.259 woman's side is the lack of effort the lack of 00:23:27.259 --> 00:23:30.059 consistency so like when you really sit down 00:23:30.059 --> 00:23:48.640 and you analyze it you're like You know When 00:23:48.640 --> 00:23:52.000 you're done, you're done like I'm not gonna like 00:23:52.000 --> 00:23:55.279 force anything. I think as you get older and 00:23:55.279 --> 00:23:57.680 you have experiences you're like I'm not forcing 00:23:57.680 --> 00:24:01.039 anyone to do anything. And when I'm checked out, 00:24:01.240 --> 00:24:03.519 we do give out, for me, you know, my cutoff game 00:24:03.519 --> 00:24:05.079 is like, we talked about this earlier today. 00:24:05.200 --> 00:24:06.480 We talked about this on the way to my baby's 00:24:06.480 --> 00:24:09.180 day. My cutoff game is strong. You know, God 00:24:09.180 --> 00:24:12.440 is working on me. He is working on me. Oh, amen. 00:24:13.299 --> 00:24:17.200 So I have to pray through it because it's some 00:24:17.200 --> 00:24:23.420 things that I had to heal from and I had to evolve 00:24:23.420 --> 00:24:28.640 from to become the woman that I need to be. And 00:24:28.640 --> 00:24:32.079 so I'm still working on those things, but definitely 00:24:32.079 --> 00:24:34.619 moving a little bit more mature, verbalizing 00:24:34.619 --> 00:24:37.420 and communicating effectively and respectfully 00:24:37.420 --> 00:24:40.519 about things that bother. So if you say something 00:24:40.519 --> 00:24:43.460 to someone and it keeps happening like for me, 00:24:43.640 --> 00:24:48.519 and I explain to you why, that's gonna be it 00:24:48.519 --> 00:24:51.980 for me. If it happens like two times three, we 00:24:51.980 --> 00:24:59.529 done. Cause repeated behavior is a choice. Go 00:24:59.529 --> 00:25:02.369 ahead, go ahead, go ahead. And so you have to 00:25:02.369 --> 00:25:06.829 choose you and know that you have value and you 00:25:06.829 --> 00:25:09.529 don't need anyone that doesn't value you but 00:25:09.529 --> 00:25:16.069 you need to value them as well. I agree, I agree, 00:25:16.250 --> 00:25:20.269 I agree. And y 'all, Hannah's cut off game, baby. 00:25:24.769 --> 00:25:30.210 That cut off game was so strong. Let me tell 00:25:30.210 --> 00:25:34.490 you, it will be one day. Oh, he's the sweetest 00:25:34.490 --> 00:25:37.730 thing in the world. Oh, that's nice. That's nice. 00:25:38.190 --> 00:25:41.609 Two days later, how my brother and I are doing. 00:25:43.069 --> 00:25:52.450 What do you do? What do you do? Right. But look, 00:25:52.630 --> 00:25:54.549 I think that was both of us, because both of 00:25:54.549 --> 00:25:57.029 us had that, but I cut off game which was real 00:25:57.029 --> 00:26:05.460 strong. I think both of us have to help each 00:26:05.460 --> 00:26:10.680 other on that. So I got another one for you and 00:26:10.680 --> 00:26:13.980 I think this is really a good one. Do men need 00:26:13.980 --> 00:26:28.839 to feel chosen too? I'm trying to work this correctly. 00:26:30.339 --> 00:26:33.539 I wouldn't say soldier, but I would say appreciate 00:26:33.539 --> 00:26:38.339 it. Value. Yeah. And appreciate it. Yeah. Because 00:26:38.339 --> 00:26:42.000 let's be honest, there's a lot of men that's 00:26:42.000 --> 00:26:44.480 running around here talking about data prize. 00:26:45.400 --> 00:26:48.200 And the scripture says, see that finds a white, 00:26:48.440 --> 00:26:52.380 finds a good thing to find paper and obtain some 00:26:52.380 --> 00:26:56.400 paper from the Lord. So no, boy, you ain't the 00:26:56.400 --> 00:27:01.269 prize. That queen is the prize. Even when you 00:27:01.269 --> 00:27:05.690 play in SES, the most important piece on that 00:27:05.690 --> 00:27:09.849 SES board besides that king is that queen. That 00:27:09.849 --> 00:27:12.069 queen can move around anywhere and everywhere 00:27:12.069 --> 00:27:17.670 and protect you. So no, you ain't the prize, 00:27:17.890 --> 00:27:22.309 my brother. But also being a prize doesn't mean 00:27:22.309 --> 00:27:25.609 you need to be paved like you're punishing somebody. 00:27:30.639 --> 00:27:33.700 So we take that, and I think we kind of blow 00:27:33.700 --> 00:27:35.619 that out of proportion, especially as a culture. 00:27:36.900 --> 00:27:42.200 And it's causing a lot of confusion and conflict 00:27:42.200 --> 00:27:47.200 that we have to work through. But I do feel that 00:27:47.200 --> 00:27:51.640 men need to feel appreciated. I'm fasting, so 00:27:51.640 --> 00:27:54.059 I'm learning that. That's a good thing, too. 00:27:54.200 --> 00:27:57.250 Like, hey, I already appreciate you. knowing 00:27:57.250 --> 00:28:01.130 the week is hard with the kids and you know taking 00:28:01.130 --> 00:28:03.170 some of that pressure off of me but still getting 00:28:03.170 --> 00:28:05.430 your time and but being respectful and saying 00:28:05.430 --> 00:28:07.950 hey let's do this then let's do this that you 00:28:07.950 --> 00:28:10.730 know shutting it down at a certain time you know 00:28:10.730 --> 00:28:13.529 just having your best interest at heart like 00:28:13.529 --> 00:28:16.230 hey it's getting late you don't need to be up 00:28:16.230 --> 00:28:17.529 you got to get a brother with the kids you got 00:28:17.529 --> 00:28:19.049 to go to work you know you go to the gym in the 00:28:19.049 --> 00:28:21.710 morning like just has someone that actually cares 00:28:21.710 --> 00:28:25.730 about you genuinely. So when you do get that 00:28:25.730 --> 00:28:27.509 type of person make sure you sound like I appreciate 00:28:27.509 --> 00:28:38.750 you Like for me, I can tell y 'all last night 00:28:38.750 --> 00:28:43.769 where the movie It had been a crazy weekend like 00:28:43.769 --> 00:28:47.230 I've been on the world all weekend preach like 00:28:47.230 --> 00:28:52.319 twice I preached yesterday and had like three 00:28:52.319 --> 00:28:54.799 different, four different services that I went 00:28:54.799 --> 00:28:58.700 into. I was just all over the place. So by the 00:28:58.700 --> 00:29:03.339 time I got home last night, I was worn out. And 00:29:03.339 --> 00:29:08.700 literally, I'm nervous. I could text from Team 00:29:08.700 --> 00:29:15.240 Marine. And she was just like, I appreciate you. 00:29:17.339 --> 00:29:19.819 for all that you do for me, like the way this 00:29:19.819 --> 00:29:23.680 should show up for me, I appreciate you. And 00:29:23.680 --> 00:29:30.000 I'm like, I called up on them immediately. I'm 00:29:30.000 --> 00:29:33.480 like, why did you send in? She said, I felt like 00:29:33.480 --> 00:29:35.059 you needed to know that you was a appreciate 00:29:35.059 --> 00:29:42.650 it. Mandu, that's the value. That's the appreciation. 00:29:42.990 --> 00:29:46.509 It's very important. And I do that. And I did 00:29:46.509 --> 00:29:48.990 that. And I'm like, OK, put a little bit more 00:29:48.990 --> 00:29:52.069 thought in them. Good morning, Tex. Come on. 00:29:52.250 --> 00:29:56.009 Come on, good morning. Yeah. Oh, so you don't 00:29:56.009 --> 00:30:00.230 beside GPT and then Tex? No. I write it myself. 00:30:00.750 --> 00:30:04.910 I do spell shaping. OK, come on. Come on. Come 00:30:04.910 --> 00:30:16.339 on. So, I got one for you. So, you ready? All 00:30:16.339 --> 00:30:20.160 right, here it goes. Can a woman make her interest 00:30:20.160 --> 00:30:24.720 clear while still allowing a man to lead or pursue? 00:30:28.400 --> 00:30:34.740 Yes. Explain. Give the women that free game. 00:30:34.980 --> 00:30:37.799 Give the women that free game. So you have to 00:30:37.799 --> 00:30:39.539 be careful with this because I think a lot of 00:30:39.539 --> 00:30:41.779 men take it and they run with it, especially 00:30:41.779 --> 00:30:44.819 if they don't have pure intention. Don't go in 00:30:44.819 --> 00:30:48.140 and tell someone like, hey, I want to be their 00:30:48.140 --> 00:30:51.579 wife. You have to be careful with that. That's 00:30:51.579 --> 00:30:55.220 between you and God, number one. So God will 00:30:55.220 --> 00:30:59.579 reveal that to you. Trust him. Stop releasing 00:30:59.579 --> 00:31:02.039 things before he's telling you to release them. 00:31:02.970 --> 00:31:05.450 And I think that's a big play because if you 00:31:05.450 --> 00:31:07.450 tell the wrong person, because you know, the 00:31:07.450 --> 00:31:09.710 devil hears your prayers too. So if you tell 00:31:09.710 --> 00:31:12.630 the wrong person that you're going to get caught 00:31:12.630 --> 00:31:14.970 up in a situation that was never part of your 00:31:14.970 --> 00:31:17.589 path, well, it's always part of the path, but 00:31:17.589 --> 00:31:19.569 it's going to be a painful situation because 00:31:19.569 --> 00:31:24.589 that person took your desire and made it, turned 00:31:24.589 --> 00:31:28.029 it and molded it for what they wanted, not what 00:31:28.029 --> 00:31:33.289 was the divine purpose. And therefore, you in 00:31:33.289 --> 00:31:35.569 a situation, I think you can verbalize and say, 00:31:35.650 --> 00:31:42.349 hey, you know, I desire for one day, like I like 00:31:42.349 --> 00:31:46.150 to word it me personally. And we, I have this 00:31:46.150 --> 00:31:48.609 conversation and it's just like, you know, I 00:31:48.609 --> 00:31:52.009 do want to get married one day. And then, you 00:31:52.009 --> 00:31:53.849 know, the next thing will be like, okay, well, 00:31:53.930 --> 00:31:57.990 do you know who you're going to marry? Or will 00:31:57.990 --> 00:32:01.250 you marry me? And the color of the, my response 00:32:01.250 --> 00:32:05.470 is, God will let me know when the time is right. 00:32:07.289 --> 00:32:10.329 So that's how I handle those type of situations. 00:32:10.569 --> 00:32:11.730 I don't be like, oh, I want to give it because 00:32:11.730 --> 00:32:13.029 you're going to tell the wrong person and become 00:32:13.029 --> 00:32:14.470 a whole new situation. Then it could be a little 00:32:14.470 --> 00:32:16.930 messy if they're a little spiritual. It just 00:32:16.930 --> 00:32:19.750 be some scenario that would have to take a whole 00:32:19.750 --> 00:32:23.289 podcast and talk about because we got some stories. 00:32:23.670 --> 00:32:27.730 But it's very good to be specific and let people 00:32:27.730 --> 00:32:30.660 know what your expectation is. It's just all 00:32:30.660 --> 00:32:32.680 about how you present it. So pray through it 00:32:32.680 --> 00:32:34.980 before you speak it to that person because everybody 00:32:34.980 --> 00:32:38.819 doesn't need to know everything. I think that's 00:32:38.819 --> 00:32:42.740 next week's episode. The stories. The stories. 00:32:44.460 --> 00:32:49.519 What got us to this point? My God. My God today. 00:32:52.140 --> 00:32:59.720 The stories. Because all I'll say is this, there's 00:32:59.720 --> 00:33:03.240 been a couple of times that Hannah has to talk 00:33:03.240 --> 00:33:07.599 me off the list. You know how we have to list 00:33:07.599 --> 00:33:11.059 a couple of times, but it is where I'm at now. 00:33:11.500 --> 00:33:16.000 That's where both of us are at. That's why you 00:33:16.000 --> 00:33:20.180 gotta have people around you that at that moment, 00:33:21.079 --> 00:33:24.759 they think it's clear. Because at that moment, 00:33:24.960 --> 00:33:30.079 you not. So your plan is going to be like, sis, 00:33:30.680 --> 00:33:32.380 you ain't about to go up there and act out for 00:33:32.380 --> 00:33:35.859 me. All right, boy. You ain't about to act out 00:33:35.859 --> 00:33:41.619 for me. And then it's like, at that moment, you 00:33:41.619 --> 00:33:43.599 don't appreciate it because you're mad. You're 00:33:43.599 --> 00:33:53.420 like, please join in my photo. No. All right. 00:33:53.539 --> 00:33:55.220 All right. Let's hit them with a couple of more. 00:33:57.299 --> 00:34:12.599 I'll let you go first. I got a good one. Should 00:34:12.599 --> 00:34:17.900 you make somebody prove they're not the person 00:34:17.900 --> 00:34:20.500 who hurt you? Should you give them the opportunity 00:34:20.500 --> 00:34:27.320 to show them who they are? So can we fight that 00:34:27.320 --> 00:34:32.679 question? Yeah. So should you make somebody prove, 00:34:33.400 --> 00:34:36.119 well, I'm going to say the statement and we're 00:34:36.119 --> 00:34:37.619 going to say it like this. So don't make somebody 00:34:37.619 --> 00:34:40.179 prove they're not the person who hurt you. Give 00:34:40.179 --> 00:34:43.260 them the opportunity to show you who they are. 00:34:44.059 --> 00:34:49.420 That's good. So should you do that or should 00:34:49.420 --> 00:34:51.880 you just, because that's kind of like bringing 00:34:51.880 --> 00:34:53.079 that pain. And remember what we were saying on 00:34:53.079 --> 00:34:56.480 our last episode, let your past be in your past 00:34:56.480 --> 00:34:59.059 and I literally just talk one of my besties through 00:34:59.059 --> 00:35:01.539 this and you have to let the past be the past 00:35:01.539 --> 00:35:02.699 all that hurt from that previous relationship. 00:35:02.940 --> 00:35:05.980 I can't take the trauma from my daughter's father 00:35:05.980 --> 00:35:07.360 and bring that in my relationship right now. 00:35:07.500 --> 00:35:09.320 I can't do that. I gotta let that go. That's 00:35:09.320 --> 00:35:12.579 why I took the time to sit down and heal and 00:35:12.579 --> 00:35:16.739 why I fast consistently to keep that clarity 00:35:16.739 --> 00:35:22.219 and connection. I like that. I like that. For 00:35:22.219 --> 00:35:26.190 me, I think that's you sitting because at that 00:35:26.190 --> 00:35:29.230 point that's when you mess up. You miss your 00:35:29.230 --> 00:35:32.250 blessing because you are looking back at what 00:35:32.250 --> 00:35:35.409 was supposed to be a lesson. Right. You're sitting 00:35:35.409 --> 00:35:37.230 here making something that was supposed to be 00:35:37.230 --> 00:35:40.429 a lesson paid for something. You're making something 00:35:40.429 --> 00:35:42.590 that was supposed to be a blessing paid for something 00:35:42.590 --> 00:35:45.570 that was a lesson in your life. Yeah. God called 00:35:45.570 --> 00:35:48.849 you to go through that for a season. For such 00:35:48.849 --> 00:35:53.690 a season such as is. and you only sit here and 00:35:53.690 --> 00:35:55.949 make that another person pay for something that 00:35:55.949 --> 00:36:04.150 a seasonal person be. That's right. We can't 00:36:04.150 --> 00:36:08.349 do that. You have to man up a woman and be like, 00:36:08.449 --> 00:36:14.949 you know what? Yo, this hurt, this scarred me, 00:36:15.090 --> 00:36:19.409 but it didn't break me. Okay. I got bruises from 00:36:19.409 --> 00:36:24.280 it, but I'm coming out of it. Okay. That's what 00:36:24.280 --> 00:36:26.639 we have to be like at that very moment. We have 00:36:26.639 --> 00:36:29.079 to be like, you know what? What do you think 00:36:29.079 --> 00:36:35.760 of me made me stronger? And for me, I'm gonna 00:36:35.760 --> 00:36:40.159 be honest. I'm a team of people. I'm gonna tell 00:36:40.159 --> 00:36:44.719 you, I am a little bit of a petty. So when I 00:36:44.719 --> 00:36:47.760 meet my wife - I gotta cut you off. This is King 00:36:47.760 --> 00:36:52.230 Petty. I have not met anybody else. on this beautiful 00:36:52.230 --> 00:36:55.869 earth that God has created, is Patty is him. 00:36:56.510 --> 00:37:01.670 And besides you, besides you, besides you, besides 00:37:01.670 --> 00:37:07.190 you. But Bella might have you be. Bella is baby 00:37:07.190 --> 00:37:10.710 Patty. So she real Patty. She tired of the Patty 00:37:10.710 --> 00:37:12.269 because she said she had grown out a big girl 00:37:12.269 --> 00:37:13.809 because she was right with her. She patty too 00:37:13.809 --> 00:37:15.530 though. She patty like her. Yeah, she patty like 00:37:15.530 --> 00:37:18.050 you. She must, yeah. She patty like her mama. 00:37:18.829 --> 00:37:21.679 That's her mama. Paddy Paddy. God been working 00:37:21.679 --> 00:37:26.900 on me. God is working through me. All right. 00:37:27.860 --> 00:37:35.000 So, okay, let me tell you, I am a little Paddy, 00:37:35.179 --> 00:37:38.559 a little Paddy. Like, I'm like this much Paddy. 00:37:39.260 --> 00:37:41.719 Like, to the point where when I find my wife, 00:37:42.539 --> 00:37:44.599 I'm telling her, like, I want to meet all your 00:37:44.599 --> 00:37:47.019 exes and I want to thank them for bubbling the 00:37:47.019 --> 00:37:52.130 ball with you. Like, literally, I want to thank 00:37:52.130 --> 00:37:53.750 them for pumbling the ball with you, because 00:37:53.750 --> 00:37:55.610 if I didn't pumble, I wouldn't have been there. 00:37:55.869 --> 00:37:58.590 So I appreciate them for not being man enough 00:37:58.590 --> 00:38:08.550 to handle what they needed to handle. My question 00:38:08.550 --> 00:38:12.730 to you. And it goes with our last one. Are you 00:38:12.730 --> 00:38:14.710 guarding your heart or are you building walls? 00:38:16.030 --> 00:38:22.780 Ooh. I would say I'm guarding my heart. Previously, 00:38:23.539 --> 00:38:25.679 if he was asked me a couple of months ago, I 00:38:25.679 --> 00:38:30.400 would say I was building walls. Because I was 00:38:30.400 --> 00:38:40.300 protecting myself from making a mistake. This 00:38:40.300 --> 00:38:46.110 season that I'm in now, I'm not. I would say 00:38:46.110 --> 00:38:49.329 I'm more mature and have to realize that you 00:38:49.329 --> 00:38:53.289 know what mistakes are going to happen. But what 00:38:53.289 --> 00:39:02.730 don't kill you only makes you stronger. So there's 00:39:02.730 --> 00:39:05.389 another thing I think people do. Am I discerning? 00:39:05.630 --> 00:39:10.869 Am I discerning? Or am I lonely? I think that 00:39:10.869 --> 00:39:13.969 some people that are lonely. We look in at that 00:39:13.969 --> 00:39:18.400 clock. I'd be like, man, look, it's about to 00:39:18.400 --> 00:39:23.139 be wintertime. It's about to be fall. Let me 00:39:23.139 --> 00:39:27.019 give me a little cuddle, buddy, real quick. Yeah, 00:39:27.119 --> 00:39:30.039 and for women, it's like, you know, we have this 00:39:30.039 --> 00:39:32.599 stigma. Well, I think it's changing now, but 00:39:32.599 --> 00:39:34.219 it was, you know, you don't want to have your 00:39:34.219 --> 00:39:38.940 kids after 35 or 30. So you settle down and have 00:39:38.940 --> 00:39:40.940 it. But, you know, I'm gonna say this. My petty 00:39:40.940 --> 00:39:43.420 toddler told me today as we were walking to the 00:39:43.420 --> 00:39:47.739 car to go back to her school. Mom, is you old? 00:39:48.699 --> 00:39:50.619 Because you got some gray hair in your head. 00:39:54.480 --> 00:40:00.039 So don't matter. Don't put those clocks on you 00:40:00.039 --> 00:40:03.500 because the kids I'm not saying nothing. I'm 00:40:03.500 --> 00:40:06.400 not saying nothing. I'm definitely going to get 00:40:06.400 --> 00:40:09.960 some color in my hair ASAP. I'm not saying nothing. 00:40:10.440 --> 00:40:13.199 I'm not saying nothing. Next question. I'm not 00:40:13.199 --> 00:40:18.420 saying nothing. I'm not saying anything. Or chasing. 00:40:19.719 --> 00:40:23.269 That's it. Am I reciprocating or chasing? These 00:40:23.269 --> 00:40:28.170 are questions you need to ask yourself. We ain't 00:40:28.170 --> 00:40:30.809 chasing no more. I'm reciprocating. And it was 00:40:30.809 --> 00:40:36.070 hard for me to reciprocate because I was healing 00:40:36.070 --> 00:40:38.090 and I wanted to make sure that I was reciprocating 00:40:38.090 --> 00:40:42.289 to the wrong party. I agree with that. I got 00:40:42.289 --> 00:40:44.710 to make sure that you are the person that I'm 00:40:44.710 --> 00:40:47.769 supposed to reciprocate to. I got to make sure 00:40:47.769 --> 00:40:53.730 that... I am safe reciprocating to you. Oh, that's 00:40:53.730 --> 00:41:00.489 good. Say that one more time. I have to make 00:41:00.489 --> 00:41:03.929 sure that I'm safe reciprocating to you. I love 00:41:03.929 --> 00:41:09.389 that. I love that. This is another question you 00:41:09.389 --> 00:41:12.110 have to ask yourself. Do I actually want this 00:41:12.110 --> 00:41:17.369 person or do I just want somebody? I think a 00:41:17.369 --> 00:41:22.760 lot of times. We just like, you know what? I 00:41:22.760 --> 00:41:28.719 just want somebody because I will tell you. Can 00:41:28.719 --> 00:41:34.079 I be willing to expand on it? Let's do it. There 00:41:34.079 --> 00:41:40.420 was one. I had to set it up, set it up, set it 00:41:40.420 --> 00:41:42.780 up, set it up. I'm gonna mute my mic. Go ahead. 00:41:43.840 --> 00:41:50.019 There was one. That the minute they saw her. 00:41:51.530 --> 00:41:53.909 And they call me. I'm coming back to the cell. 00:41:55.550 --> 00:42:00.090 I'm coming back. I'm coming back. I'm coming 00:42:00.090 --> 00:42:04.130 back. See that? Because obviously you need your 00:42:04.130 --> 00:42:08.650 big sister because what's she going to whine 00:42:08.650 --> 00:42:13.030 or whiney? This is who you see today? For real? 00:42:17.969 --> 00:42:23.780 Literally. She let me have it. She had a nickname 00:42:23.780 --> 00:42:33.619 for her and everything. I think I'm just now 00:42:33.619 --> 00:42:36.820 living that one day. Yeah, you brought it back 00:42:36.820 --> 00:42:38.800 today though. So we're going to keep it moving. 00:42:40.480 --> 00:42:45.139 Am I asking God for confirmation after I've already 00:42:45.139 --> 00:42:49.070 decided what I want him to say? a lot of us do 00:42:49.070 --> 00:42:56.329 that real bad. Thank God for growth. Thank God 00:42:56.329 --> 00:42:59.329 for growth. Guilty, guilty. I knew what God was 00:42:59.329 --> 00:43:01.630 going to say. I knew what God was going to say. 00:43:02.130 --> 00:43:05.849 And I'm still like, you know where I'm going 00:43:05.849 --> 00:43:12.010 to go over here and do what I do. So the key 00:43:12.010 --> 00:43:14.929 thing I think that we need to remember after 00:43:14.929 --> 00:43:17.869 this great episode is that we have to stop asking 00:43:17.869 --> 00:43:20.730 God to bless a relationship that you had to abandon 00:43:20.730 --> 00:43:27.050 your boundaries to get into. Do you agree with 00:43:27.050 --> 00:43:33.590 that James? We have to stop asking God to bless 00:43:33.590 --> 00:43:36.869 a relationship you had to abandon your boundaries 00:43:36.869 --> 00:43:46.280 to get into. Oh, that's good. That is good right 00:43:46.280 --> 00:43:50.139 there. Mm hmm. That was good right there. You 00:43:50.139 --> 00:43:52.599 got to stop asking God to bless your relationship. 00:43:54.880 --> 00:43:57.059 That's right there, banding your boundaries. 00:43:58.059 --> 00:44:01.300 Yes. We got one more thing to do, y 'all, because 00:44:01.300 --> 00:44:03.860 we have a really good time tonight. This is going 00:44:03.860 --> 00:44:05.820 to be real quick. These are going to be quick 00:44:05.820 --> 00:44:09.059 names. These are the last one. Okay. Let's go. 00:44:09.099 --> 00:44:11.320 This is going to be his side, but it's her side. 00:44:11.820 --> 00:44:14.909 Okay. Let's go. Who should text first after the 00:44:14.909 --> 00:44:19.989 first date? The man. I agree. Should a woman 00:44:19.989 --> 00:44:24.570 ever ask a man on a date? It depends. It depends. 00:44:25.130 --> 00:44:28.969 I say no. It depends. It depends. It depends. 00:44:31.449 --> 00:44:39.090 First date, coffee or dinner? Dinner. Okay. How 00:44:39.090 --> 00:44:42.030 long? This is a good one. How long is too long? 00:44:42.510 --> 00:44:49.030 without defining the relationship? I say after 00:44:49.030 --> 00:44:51.769 three days, you need to know what y 'all doing. 00:44:53.130 --> 00:44:57.710 We ain't in high school no more. After three 00:44:57.710 --> 00:45:03.090 days, what's up? What we doing? It's the good 00:45:03.090 --> 00:45:05.269 one right here. Can you date multiple people 00:45:05.269 --> 00:45:14.090 before it's close? The fuse takes the wrong way. 00:45:14.269 --> 00:45:16.469 Trying to sex in between cooking dinner and buying 00:45:16.469 --> 00:45:19.610 groceries. I ain't gonna try. Then it got caught 00:45:19.610 --> 00:45:27.690 up. What would you do? I'm too old for that now. 00:45:27.929 --> 00:45:31.599 I'm too old. I'm too old. I mean, you are young 00:45:31.599 --> 00:45:33.780 people, y 'all do what y 'all do. I mean, you 00:45:33.780 --> 00:45:37.340 are that 40, so I mean. I'm not 40. I am 38. 00:45:37.800 --> 00:45:41.300 You're disrespectful. That's no. I'm not at 40 00:45:41.300 --> 00:45:44.079 to you at 40. And when I'm at 40, my body is 00:45:44.079 --> 00:45:48.199 going to be banging, moving right along. Should 00:45:48.199 --> 00:45:52.280 a man try again after she says no? For sure. 00:45:52.980 --> 00:45:56.360 For sure. If you really feeling it, because it 00:45:56.360 --> 00:46:00.150 might just be her, she ain't ready yet. That's 00:46:00.150 --> 00:46:02.969 true. I can say that because I've had someone 00:46:02.969 --> 00:46:05.929 that's done that. All right, who should say I 00:46:05.929 --> 00:46:12.530 love you first? Whoever feels it. That's good. 00:46:12.710 --> 00:46:16.050 I agree with that. Can playing hard to get make 00:46:16.050 --> 00:46:22.369 you lose somebody good? I feel like no, because 00:46:22.369 --> 00:46:25.550 what guy has for you is for you. I would agree 00:46:25.550 --> 00:46:29.239 with that, but I believe also You sitting there 00:46:29.239 --> 00:46:31.500 trying to play hard to get and you mess around 00:46:31.500 --> 00:46:34.940 and lose out on a good person. It could go either. 00:46:35.880 --> 00:46:39.860 Oh, this is a good one. Can a woman do too much 00:46:39.860 --> 00:46:44.420 too early? Let us know. Break it down. You got 00:46:44.420 --> 00:46:48.360 30 second pitch. So a woman can definitely do 00:46:48.360 --> 00:46:53.440 too much too early. If I am telling you that 00:46:53.440 --> 00:46:56.440 I have a busy day and I got this going on and 00:46:56.440 --> 00:47:01.300 I got that going on. and all you want to do is 00:47:01.300 --> 00:47:06.820 argue on the phone with me. That's too much too 00:47:06.820 --> 00:47:09.760 early. If you asking me, what am I doing when 00:47:09.760 --> 00:47:13.300 I didn't told you that I got a busy day? That's 00:47:13.300 --> 00:47:16.119 doing too much too early. If you talking about 00:47:16.119 --> 00:47:18.920 I'm not spending time with you when you know 00:47:18.920 --> 00:47:22.599 how busy my day is, that's doing too much too 00:47:22.599 --> 00:47:32.510 early. That's just me. So can a man do too much 00:47:32.510 --> 00:47:38.190 to work? Yes. A man can do too much too early 00:47:38.190 --> 00:47:40.449 with some of your scenarios I have experienced 00:47:40.449 --> 00:47:42.289 but I think if you communicate and say, look, 00:47:42.730 --> 00:47:44.190 like all that you're doing, you put too much 00:47:44.190 --> 00:47:45.570 pressure on me. And I don't mean no more pressure 00:47:45.570 --> 00:47:47.110 on me because I already got no pressure on me 00:47:47.110 --> 00:47:51.170 as being me. I think you have to let them know 00:47:51.170 --> 00:47:54.199 like I understand you. desire these things for 00:47:54.199 --> 00:47:56.340 me, but this is all I can do. And I always told 00:47:56.340 --> 00:47:57.800 you this I can do. Now I can try to rearrange 00:47:57.800 --> 00:47:59.900 some things, but you have to be flexible as well, 00:47:59.900 --> 00:48:01.840 because this is what we're working with. Because 00:48:01.840 --> 00:48:04.239 I have this goal and I have to reach it. I have 00:48:04.239 --> 00:48:06.360 these numbers. I have to meet financially to 00:48:06.360 --> 00:48:09.400 sustain my life. So I'm not going to be rude 00:48:09.400 --> 00:48:11.199 and say getting where you fit in, but this is 00:48:11.199 --> 00:48:13.719 what we can work with. I have to go back to the 00:48:13.719 --> 00:48:15.300 drawing board and say, OK, how can I fit this 00:48:15.300 --> 00:48:19.900 in? But the same token, he has to be on board 00:48:19.900 --> 00:48:23.960 with it as well. But it can be pressure. It just 00:48:23.960 --> 00:48:25.599 be too much pressure like you're stressing me 00:48:25.599 --> 00:48:28.840 and I literally I said you stressing me out like 00:48:28.840 --> 00:48:32.440 you doing too much You want too much and I can't 00:48:32.440 --> 00:48:35.559 do all that and never told you I could cuz I 00:48:35.559 --> 00:48:44.420 saw no dream So I Definitely agree with that 00:48:44.420 --> 00:48:47.519 so y 'all definitely gonna tune in next week 00:48:47.519 --> 00:48:50.400 because next week we telling some of our horror 00:48:50.400 --> 00:48:54.280 stories Yes. We might, we're only going to do 00:48:54.280 --> 00:48:56.360 like 15 minutes. We're not going to go because 00:48:56.360 --> 00:48:58.519 we got too many. We're not going to go, there'll 00:48:58.519 --> 00:49:03.119 be so toxic. There'll be so toxic. We got to 00:49:03.119 --> 00:49:04.800 pull the oil out. We ain't going to do all that. 00:49:04.920 --> 00:49:11.320 We ain't going to go long. My god today. Yeah. 00:49:11.699 --> 00:49:14.420 Y 'all definitely want you there next week. So 00:49:14.420 --> 00:49:18.579 here are the famous clothes. Do not let your 00:49:18.579 --> 00:49:21.719 procrastination Be the assassination of your 00:49:21.719 --> 00:49:25.980 success. We are learning to heal different. Choose 00:49:25.980 --> 00:49:30.880 different. Be different. Have a marvelous week. 00:49:31.900 --> 00:49:34.360 Yes, yes, yes. And as I always say, sometimes 00:49:34.360 --> 00:49:36.420 I do disappointments and nothing more than God's 00:49:36.420 --> 00:49:38.619 appointments meeting. Sometimes we're looking 00:49:38.619 --> 00:49:40.659 at his bag. God is only coming to the round for 00:49:40.659 --> 00:49:43.139 our good, stay blessed, be blessed, and be a 00:49:43.139 --> 00:49:46.199 blessing to someone else. 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Sometimes 00:51:08.440 --> 00:51:11.260 if we look at his bag, God is only coming around 00:51:11.260 --> 00:51:13.699 for our goods. Stay blessed, be blessed, and 00:51:13.699 --> 00:51:15.920 be a blessing to someone else. And I will see 00:51:15.920 --> 00:51:18.159 God on the next episode. Peace.