WEBVTT 00:00:04.329 --> 00:00:08.949 Yeah Turn your volume up. This ain't small talk. 00:00:09.250 --> 00:01:07.680 This is real talk Every single Monday What is 00:01:07.680 --> 00:01:09.879 up? What is up? What is up? Everyone, everyone, 00:01:10.000 --> 00:01:14.939 everyone. We are back for another season, another 00:01:14.939 --> 00:01:17.420 episode of We'll Talk Monday. We've been off 00:01:17.420 --> 00:01:21.400 for about a good two weeks, but we're back now, 00:01:21.480 --> 00:01:24.420 y 'all. We are back. One thing we will do is 00:01:24.420 --> 00:01:29.599 take time for family, for shirts, for our kids. 00:01:30.140 --> 00:01:32.700 That's one thing we're gonna do if we are not 00:01:32.700 --> 00:01:37.189 the same for it. So first off sis, how is my 00:01:37.189 --> 00:01:41.689 nieces? How are they like at school? We are doing 00:01:41.689 --> 00:01:45.530 good. We are on week three of school. So it's 00:01:45.530 --> 00:01:50.930 going, getting the routine down. So everybody's 00:01:50.930 --> 00:01:54.370 on the bus and you know, bossy people, a bossy 00:01:54.370 --> 00:01:56.930 people that carpool lane is dangerous, but all 00:01:56.930 --> 00:02:01.400 is well. Amen, amen. All right, all right, all 00:02:01.400 --> 00:02:03.599 right. So you all, we got a great conversation 00:02:03.599 --> 00:02:07.180 for y 'all tonight. But y 'all already know we 00:02:07.180 --> 00:02:09.979 got to start it off with prayer. So Hannah, I'm 00:02:09.979 --> 00:02:12.180 gonna let you lead us in prayer tonight. It's 00:02:12.180 --> 00:02:16.280 your turn. Okay, okay. Dear Lord Heavenly Father, 00:02:16.419 --> 00:02:18.340 we thank you for this day. We thank you for everything 00:02:18.340 --> 00:02:20.379 that you have done and all that you are continuing 00:02:20.379 --> 00:02:24.199 to do for us in our lives. We thank you Lord 00:02:24.199 --> 00:02:26.860 for this broadcast. We thank you Lord for everything 00:02:26.860 --> 00:02:29.479 that you are doing through this network. Lord 00:02:29.479 --> 00:02:32.740 take myself and Hannah out of the way even now 00:02:32.740 --> 00:02:37.000 Lord Jesus and let your name be praised. We glorify 00:02:37.000 --> 00:02:39.319 you, we honor you and we praise you and we love 00:02:39.319 --> 00:02:43.860 you and Jesus then we pray. Amen. Amen. All right 00:02:43.860 --> 00:02:46.240 y 'all before we get started tonight I want to 00:02:46.240 --> 00:02:50.759 let y 'all know that this week you all will only 00:02:50.759 --> 00:02:54.580 be getting lives on tonight and Tuesday night. 00:02:55.300 --> 00:02:57.759 Tonight in the mall night is the only two nights 00:02:57.759 --> 00:03:00.379 y 'all getting lives. But don't worry, don't 00:03:00.379 --> 00:03:03.500 panic. We have pre -recorded for the rest of 00:03:03.500 --> 00:03:06.800 the week. So Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, y 'all 00:03:06.800 --> 00:03:10.139 still getting y 'all souls into, but there's 00:03:10.139 --> 00:03:14.319 some things that I gotta take care of that definitely 00:03:14.319 --> 00:03:17.219 has called my attention. So I gotta make sure 00:03:17.219 --> 00:03:21.000 that we are good and handle business as well. 00:03:21.719 --> 00:03:24.219 But don't fret. I'm not leaving y 'all without 00:03:24.219 --> 00:03:26.919 any souls. I promise you Wednesday, Thursday, 00:03:27.300 --> 00:03:29.550 Friday. Y 'all will still get sales. It just 00:03:29.550 --> 00:03:32.289 won't be live swing, but it will be brand new 00:03:32.289 --> 00:03:34.909 episodes. All right, y 'all. All right, let's 00:03:34.909 --> 00:03:37.550 get into the conversation tonight. So Hannah, 00:03:37.729 --> 00:03:40.530 tell them what we talking about tonight. Because 00:03:40.530 --> 00:03:47.069 tonight, y 'all, we got a good one. Who hurt 00:03:47.069 --> 00:03:53.090 you and why are they paying for it? Who hurt 00:03:53.090 --> 00:03:57.659 you and why are they paying for it? My God. Yeah, 00:03:57.680 --> 00:04:01.240 paying for it. His side hurts that guy's way. 00:04:01.360 --> 00:04:06.280 We're gonna do a series on About you know what 00:04:06.280 --> 00:04:08.860 we've been talking about men and women experiencing 00:04:08.860 --> 00:04:12.819 The same relationship hurt rejection or season 00:04:12.819 --> 00:04:17.019 completely different Just remembering like when 00:04:17.019 --> 00:04:20.259 you heal different You get a different outcome 00:04:24.040 --> 00:04:26.439 building high value. If you continue to be the 00:04:26.439 --> 00:04:28.120 same person, you're going to keep attracting 00:04:28.120 --> 00:04:33.300 the same type. With your heel different, you 00:04:33.300 --> 00:04:35.819 get a different outcome. My God, that's good. 00:04:37.220 --> 00:04:41.100 So, sis, let's head into this discussion tonight. 00:04:41.240 --> 00:04:45.819 I'm going to let you kick us off. I think what 00:04:45.819 --> 00:04:48.540 I like is that, you know, my light's a little 00:04:48.540 --> 00:04:56.189 off. I'm sorry. No, you didn't. And I say this 00:04:56.189 --> 00:05:00.569 all the time, especially now in my life, the 00:05:00.569 --> 00:05:02.269 hurt you have from someone else, don't bring 00:05:02.269 --> 00:05:06.089 it into what we are doing. You gotta sit on somebody's 00:05:06.089 --> 00:05:08.009 sofa, you need a journal, you need a workout, 00:05:08.649 --> 00:05:11.470 you need to pray it out, you need to fast it 00:05:11.470 --> 00:05:13.370 out, you need to remove that and don't bring 00:05:13.370 --> 00:05:15.689 that to what we are building and what we are 00:05:15.689 --> 00:05:18.970 doing. You have to heal past that. You cannot 00:05:18.970 --> 00:05:22.050 bring that hurt from being cheated on, being 00:05:22.050 --> 00:05:26.050 lied to, just all kind of things. You can't have 00:05:26.050 --> 00:05:28.129 that hurt and then be with someone else new because 00:05:28.129 --> 00:05:31.250 then you have that same hurt in a new relationship 00:05:31.250 --> 00:05:35.810 is just in a different form. I agree with that 00:05:35.810 --> 00:05:39.149 because I can honestly say like there's been 00:05:39.149 --> 00:05:44.069 times where even I'm thinking that I'm healed, 00:05:44.750 --> 00:05:48.769 thinking that I'm over a situation. And a lot 00:05:48.769 --> 00:05:50.829 of times the way that we get over a situation 00:05:50.829 --> 00:05:54.430 is We try to move on to the next one so quick. 00:05:55.310 --> 00:05:59.149 But sometimes you got to sit in that. Sit down. 00:06:00.850 --> 00:06:05.750 Sometimes you got to sit and be like, yo, that 00:06:05.750 --> 00:06:33.850 hurt. Like, that did not feel good. Have you 00:06:33.850 --> 00:06:36.850 actually identified where you have heard the 00:06:36.850 --> 00:06:40.990 story? Yes. And that's the first step. And it 00:06:40.990 --> 00:06:48.149 is the icebreaker and the deal maker. Because 00:06:48.149 --> 00:06:50.370 you have to have those conversations where you 00:06:50.370 --> 00:06:53.069 can say, hey, I don't like when you do that because 00:06:53.069 --> 00:06:55.910 this triggers due to this happening in the past. 00:06:56.170 --> 00:06:58.509 And I'm working on it. But I would appreciate 00:06:58.509 --> 00:07:01.720 if you didn't do that because of that. And then 00:07:01.720 --> 00:07:03.600 I, you can also, it goes first, first. So you 00:07:03.600 --> 00:07:06.360 can say, I noticed when I said this, you reacted 00:07:06.360 --> 00:07:08.560 like this. So I feel like that's a trigger, but 00:07:08.560 --> 00:07:10.879 you might not want to identify it is that, but 00:07:10.879 --> 00:07:14.639 the reaction that you gave me signified that 00:07:14.639 --> 00:07:19.800 it was a trigger for you. For sure. And let me 00:07:19.800 --> 00:07:25.680 be honest with y 'all, like a lot of times, let's 00:07:25.680 --> 00:07:29.160 be real, I'm a workaholic. I will run myself 00:07:29.160 --> 00:07:34.050 to the ground. And sometimes you gotta have people 00:07:34.050 --> 00:07:37.350 around you that will kill you. Yo, sit down somewhere. 00:07:38.050 --> 00:07:42.569 Get you some rest. Make sure you're good. For 00:07:42.569 --> 00:07:45.589 instance, last Monday, I had a fennel that I 00:07:45.589 --> 00:07:48.829 had to do last Monday that I had to be at. I 00:07:48.829 --> 00:07:51.310 was still determined that we was gonna do a song 00:07:51.310 --> 00:07:55.069 last Monday. Thank God for Hannah Irby that told 00:07:55.069 --> 00:07:58.149 me, bro, we already said we wasn't doing a song. 00:07:58.730 --> 00:08:01.759 Sit down somewhere. Get you some rest. Even though 00:08:01.759 --> 00:08:06.620 I was tired, I think sometimes we have a thing 00:08:06.620 --> 00:08:11.500 of imposter syndrome sometimes to where we feel 00:08:11.500 --> 00:08:16.279 like we gotta be on at all times. And that's 00:08:16.279 --> 00:08:18.199 where you gotta get people around you that will 00:08:18.199 --> 00:08:21.500 tell you, yo, you just as good even when you 00:08:21.500 --> 00:08:25.120 not on, even when you not showing up. Because 00:08:25.120 --> 00:08:27.240 sometimes you gotta show up for yourself and 00:08:27.240 --> 00:08:36.919 not everybody else. And so I definitely agree 00:08:36.919 --> 00:08:41.820 that I've definitely identified it because I 00:08:41.820 --> 00:08:44.539 identified where the pain started from. And it 00:08:44.539 --> 00:08:49.159 took me a while to identify him because especially 00:08:49.159 --> 00:08:54.759 for men, we have been swaying all up your emotions. 00:08:55.480 --> 00:08:58.980 Don't show your emotions. Real men don't cry. 00:09:00.799 --> 00:09:04.980 Suck it up. get over it. That's the stuff that 00:09:04.980 --> 00:09:09.940 has been ingrained in our head. And then you 00:09:09.940 --> 00:09:15.000 get women that want us to be open, want us to 00:09:15.000 --> 00:09:19.299 be vulnerable, want us to be like, yo, open up 00:09:19.299 --> 00:09:22.039 to me. Tell me what's going on with you. Tell 00:09:22.039 --> 00:09:28.740 me how you're feeling. And it's hard for us because 00:09:28.740 --> 00:09:34.970 sometimes we have had our vulnerability weaponized. 00:09:35.289 --> 00:09:44.090 It's been used against us. So how do you feel 00:09:44.090 --> 00:09:47.629 about that? It's very true because a lot of people, 00:09:48.029 --> 00:09:51.210 some people will definitely weaponize it against 00:09:51.210 --> 00:09:52.789 you and use it against you. So then you feel 00:09:52.789 --> 00:09:55.210 like you can't share the open with people because 00:09:55.210 --> 00:09:56.950 they take it and they throw it in your face. 00:09:57.549 --> 00:09:59.970 Or they manipulate it to work for their benefit. 00:10:00.230 --> 00:10:02.590 Or if it doesn't work out, they air all your 00:10:02.590 --> 00:10:05.350 dirty laundry. Because you were vulnerable with 00:10:05.350 --> 00:10:06.850 that person. You trusted that person. You thought 00:10:06.850 --> 00:10:09.490 you could build something with that person. You 00:10:09.490 --> 00:10:11.590 thought that was your future. You probably that 00:10:11.590 --> 00:10:17.190 was your final destination. Man, like you done 00:10:17.190 --> 00:10:22.409 said to yourself, I got. How many times have 00:10:22.409 --> 00:10:26.129 we done told ourselves? Man, I got about one 00:10:26.129 --> 00:10:31.750 more relationship in me. One more. And then it's 00:10:31.750 --> 00:10:33.950 like God's like, oh, you think you got one more? 00:10:35.190 --> 00:10:37.350 Let me tell you how many more you really got. 00:10:38.190 --> 00:10:44.250 You got until I tell you that it's enough. Because 00:10:44.250 --> 00:10:48.509 sometimes what we do is, I think sometimes also 00:10:48.509 --> 00:10:57.049 we make relationships our God. because we want 00:10:57.049 --> 00:11:06.009 to be loved so badly. So can somebody swig a 00:11:06.009 --> 00:11:11.110 wound that they didn't create? Yes, very much 00:11:11.110 --> 00:11:17.980 so. And you have to... Communicate and tell them 00:11:17.980 --> 00:11:20.639 those things so that that you know and then realize 00:11:20.639 --> 00:11:22.799 like are they changing their behavior after you 00:11:22.799 --> 00:11:24.679 said that's a trigger Or they're still moving 00:11:24.679 --> 00:11:26.159 forward with it because they're still moving 00:11:26.159 --> 00:11:32.080 forward with it That's another Because I already 00:11:32.080 --> 00:11:34.759 told you that's a trigger that bothers me that 00:11:34.759 --> 00:11:37.580 makes me uncomfortable. I don't like that right 00:11:37.580 --> 00:11:46.350 I agree Like you got to have that conversation 00:11:46.350 --> 00:11:48.610 like there's some people where they're like, 00:11:48.669 --> 00:11:53.690 you know what I Like is they said so true like 00:11:53.690 --> 00:11:56.090 you got to have that conversation with them You 00:11:56.090 --> 00:11:59.149 got to let them know like yo this bothers me 00:11:59.149 --> 00:12:02.990 and how that was fine is letting you know if 00:12:02.990 --> 00:12:07.549 this is your person or not That lets you know 00:12:07.549 --> 00:12:10.850 yo, are you really for me? Are you not for me? 00:12:11.809 --> 00:12:15.429 because if I'm telling you, yo, what you do is 00:12:15.429 --> 00:12:19.389 this hurts. If you telling me to suck it up and 00:12:19.389 --> 00:12:23.250 get over it, you probably are not my person. 00:12:26.149 --> 00:12:30.710 But if you are making efforts to say what I'm 00:12:30.710 --> 00:12:34.929 telling you is hurting me, guess what? That makes 00:12:34.929 --> 00:12:38.710 me my person because that's the one me that yo, 00:12:38.830 --> 00:12:45.289 you're willing to update what you're doing, despite 00:12:45.289 --> 00:12:48.309 how long you might been doing it, and you're 00:12:48.309 --> 00:12:50.210 willing to show up for me in the way that I need 00:12:50.210 --> 00:13:02.110 you to show up for me. Your turn, Sissy. His 00:13:02.110 --> 00:13:06.230 heart doesn't always look like her. Why do some 00:13:06.230 --> 00:13:10.570 men become distant, quiet, angry, sarcastic, 00:13:11.039 --> 00:13:13.539 or emotionally unavailable instead of saying 00:13:13.539 --> 00:13:19.500 that hurt? I said it earlier. We've been told 00:13:19.500 --> 00:13:26.879 not to show our emotions. We've been told that's 00:13:26.879 --> 00:13:31.080 a sissy move. We've been told that makes you 00:13:31.080 --> 00:13:37.639 look like a little girl. So for grown men that's 00:13:37.639 --> 00:13:40.679 been talked at, Guess what? We ain't showing 00:13:40.679 --> 00:13:44.480 our emotions. We trying to act like we all good. 00:13:44.779 --> 00:13:47.120 We trying to act like we got it all together. 00:13:48.039 --> 00:13:53.460 When deep down, we don't. I think the biggest 00:13:53.460 --> 00:13:58.139 problem in our community is that when somebody 00:13:58.139 --> 00:14:01.360 says they go to therapy, we automatically think 00:14:01.360 --> 00:14:06.899 something is wrong with them. The oldest generation 00:14:06.899 --> 00:14:10.559 thinks that. But our generation, about our age, 00:14:10.940 --> 00:14:15.240 thinks that, yo, we understand that, yo, I need 00:14:15.240 --> 00:14:24.419 Jesus and Debbie. I need both. I need both, because 00:14:24.419 --> 00:14:27.679 dealing with the stuff that we deal with on a 00:14:27.679 --> 00:14:31.019 daily basis, it's like, you gotta have that way 00:14:31.019 --> 00:14:33.860 to vent. You gotta have that way to let it out. 00:14:37.540 --> 00:14:40.539 like the exam is one way you can let it out. 00:14:41.059 --> 00:14:43.960 Finding something that you love is a way that 00:14:43.960 --> 00:14:47.419 you can let it out. It's like a lot of times 00:14:47.419 --> 00:14:53.100 what we do is we lose our self by trying to act 00:14:53.100 --> 00:14:57.539 like we're good for everybody else. How do you 00:14:57.539 --> 00:15:01.659 feel about that? I agree with that wholeheartedly. 00:15:02.220 --> 00:15:04.220 I'm definitely as a person like working really 00:15:04.220 --> 00:15:08.549 hard on learning my identity, learning what works 00:15:08.549 --> 00:15:13.169 for me, learning what's healthy for me, and healing 00:15:13.169 --> 00:15:18.330 from trauma, and knowing what, communicating 00:15:18.330 --> 00:15:20.309 better. That's the biggest thing. Like you have 00:15:20.309 --> 00:15:23.129 to communicate. Cause it'll be like, you know, 00:15:23.230 --> 00:15:25.370 I might reject call, reject calls the day I haven't 00:15:25.370 --> 00:15:26.870 rejected a call. I got like going on a day, like 00:15:26.870 --> 00:15:29.889 I got the dog fix, kids, you know what I'm saying? 00:15:30.250 --> 00:15:33.049 So, but people, I send them, sorry, I can't talk 00:15:33.049 --> 00:15:35.049 right now instead of just hitting the red button. 00:15:35.469 --> 00:15:38.830 It starts with the little things. Like, didn't 00:15:38.830 --> 00:15:39.909 call because I don't have my energies a little 00:15:39.909 --> 00:15:41.289 tense today, because everything that could go 00:15:41.289 --> 00:15:44.429 wrong was going on this morning, okay? Everybody 00:15:44.429 --> 00:15:47.830 missed the bus, got to the doctor appointment 00:15:47.830 --> 00:15:48.990 a couple of minutes late, didn't know if he was 00:15:48.990 --> 00:15:50.370 going to have surgery. Just everything that could 00:15:50.370 --> 00:15:51.750 go wrong went wrong. But it was a blessing that 00:15:51.750 --> 00:15:53.690 I was able to work everything out without, you 00:15:53.690 --> 00:15:55.289 know, just everything lined up. It just wasn't 00:15:55.289 --> 00:15:58.929 lined up the way I wanted it to line up. And 00:15:58.929 --> 00:16:01.230 communicating just saying, hey, you know what, 00:16:01.269 --> 00:16:03.629 I had a rough morning, good morning, all is well. 00:16:04.399 --> 00:16:06.399 we gonna chitchat this afternoon because I need 00:16:06.399 --> 00:16:09.720 to. And you know, like relax, reset, decompress. 00:16:10.399 --> 00:16:12.580 And by doing that, I need to let me go do my 00:16:12.580 --> 00:16:16.519 reading for today, let me go pray, let me go 00:16:16.519 --> 00:16:18.820 to the gym, do some cardio, do some weightlifting, 00:16:19.399 --> 00:16:22.200 and then eat healthy and I'll circle back with 00:16:22.200 --> 00:16:25.019 you. Because I'm not giving off the right energy. 00:16:25.340 --> 00:16:28.659 And I'm so busy healing and becoming the woman 00:16:28.659 --> 00:16:32.559 that I desire to be, that God has made me, that 00:16:32.559 --> 00:16:35.750 I'm not gonna Be toxic and lash out at you because 00:16:35.750 --> 00:16:39.409 I'm off balance and things didn't go right. Thanks. 00:16:45.450 --> 00:16:49.490 Thanks. And like the ones that really get you 00:16:49.490 --> 00:16:52.110 and the ones that understand you, they understand 00:16:52.110 --> 00:16:56.330 when you're telling that, when you tell us like, 00:16:56.450 --> 00:16:59.629 yo, I can't talk right now. But like, okay, we 00:16:59.629 --> 00:17:03.379 got you. Like, I can't tell y 'all how many times 00:17:03.379 --> 00:17:05.640 I might hit her up and I'll get that red butt 00:17:05.640 --> 00:17:08.440 and I'm like, I already know my sister will hit 00:17:08.440 --> 00:17:11.180 me up later on. Cause there's been times when 00:17:11.180 --> 00:17:13.960 she's hit me up and I'm like, yo, I can't talk 00:17:13.960 --> 00:17:19.279 right now. I'm gonna hit you back. But the real 00:17:19.279 --> 00:17:22.960 ones understand that like, yo, what's understood 00:17:22.960 --> 00:17:26.980 don't need to be explained. We ain't gotta talk 00:17:26.980 --> 00:17:31.140 every day to understand each other. When it's 00:17:31.140 --> 00:17:47.099 real it's real How does the unhealed man unintentionally 00:17:47.099 --> 00:17:59.059 punish a good woman Let me let me say it like 00:17:59.059 --> 00:18:08.519 this A little boy, because that's what an unhealed 00:18:08.519 --> 00:18:14.299 man is, is a little boy. A little boy will make 00:18:14.299 --> 00:18:19.279 a woman pay for stuff that a little girl did. 00:18:23.119 --> 00:18:26.380 So in other words, what I'm saying is, because 00:18:26.380 --> 00:18:32.540 a little girl didn't respect him, now he's Now 00:18:32.540 --> 00:18:35.400 he's thinking that this grown woman isn't going 00:18:35.400 --> 00:18:38.319 to respect him. He's talking to her all different 00:18:38.319 --> 00:18:43.799 type of ways. Because of what he's dealt with 00:18:43.799 --> 00:18:46.400 with a little girl, where the grown woman is 00:18:46.400 --> 00:18:48.339 like, baby, all we got to do is communicate. 00:18:52.299 --> 00:18:56.460 But for a grown man that's been dealing with 00:18:56.460 --> 00:18:59.779 past her and hasn't really properly healed from 00:18:59.779 --> 00:19:03.740 it. He's thinking that communication means a 00:19:03.740 --> 00:19:08.200 man re -argument. And it ain't even like that. 00:19:11.299 --> 00:19:18.759 Let me be real. For a man, the worst thing that 00:19:18.759 --> 00:19:22.700 you could be in a man's life is when he sees 00:19:22.700 --> 00:19:29.170 that name come across his phone. And he's sitting 00:19:29.170 --> 00:19:31.890 here contemplating, do I even want to answer 00:19:31.890 --> 00:19:34.049 this call? Because I know it ain't going to be 00:19:34.049 --> 00:19:46.210 nothing but drama. And there's sometimes where 00:19:46.210 --> 00:19:48.269 a man's like, you know what? I'm just using peace 00:19:48.269 --> 00:20:01.250 over this. All right. So how do you go there? 00:20:02.069 --> 00:20:05.490 How do you stop making the new person pay the 00:20:05.490 --> 00:20:12.589 old person's bill? Hmm. Ah, ma 'am, you do it 00:20:12.589 --> 00:20:18.430 by going to therapy. You do it by praying. First 00:20:18.430 --> 00:20:21.609 stop praying, going to therapy, doing that proper 00:20:21.609 --> 00:20:24.910 healing work. You don't do it by jumping from 00:20:24.910 --> 00:20:27.309 relationship to relationship to relationship. 00:20:27.740 --> 00:20:30.500 You do it by sitting down, finding out who you 00:20:30.500 --> 00:20:33.400 are, finding out what you like, finding out what 00:20:33.400 --> 00:20:38.019 makes you happy, finding out why you went through 00:20:38.019 --> 00:20:41.299 this. Because every relationship is a lesson 00:20:41.299 --> 00:20:46.220 or a blessing. You've got to figure out what 00:20:46.220 --> 00:20:57.730 it is. So. her independence might be a survival 00:20:57.730 --> 00:21:03.589 response. Is he really too independent or did 00:21:03.589 --> 00:21:09.349 life teach that depending on people wasn't safe? 00:21:13.329 --> 00:21:20.170 That's good. How do you feel about that? I feel 00:21:20.170 --> 00:21:28.910 like life teach you Well, now this is where the 00:21:28.910 --> 00:21:31.529 village come in. You gotta have the right village. 00:21:31.750 --> 00:21:33.450 This is where the village, I'm going to say that 00:21:33.450 --> 00:21:35.529 is I've learned and grown and been through so 00:21:35.529 --> 00:21:38.789 much by grace of God and overcome things that 00:21:38.789 --> 00:21:41.829 people can never imagine. So the village will 00:21:41.829 --> 00:21:43.890 bring you in saying, because my village is like, 00:21:44.210 --> 00:21:49.500 okay, nah, this, you know. It was times you wanted 00:21:49.500 --> 00:21:51.640 to cut it off, and this, this, and that, and 00:21:51.640 --> 00:21:53.700 now you're still here. And your village will 00:21:53.700 --> 00:21:55.539 hold, I'm not doing the rollercoaster with you 00:21:55.539 --> 00:21:57.039 today, and don't do the rollercoaster with him. 00:21:57.140 --> 00:22:00.240 Your village gonna hold you accountable. So I 00:22:00.240 --> 00:22:03.539 think being too independent is not life teach. 00:22:04.000 --> 00:22:07.059 On that aspect, I feel like even in a relationship 00:22:07.059 --> 00:22:08.859 or your friendships or the people that you interact 00:22:08.859 --> 00:22:11.859 with, your circle, because you can have many 00:22:11.859 --> 00:22:16.480 circles that all serve a purpose. So your circle 00:22:16.480 --> 00:22:20.380 needs to be the right group of people so that 00:22:20.380 --> 00:22:24.099 you can make wise decisions you need wise counsel 00:22:24.099 --> 00:22:26.259 by you and you need your own knowledge base you 00:22:26.259 --> 00:22:37.339 need to You know Have your own knowledge base 00:22:37.339 --> 00:22:41.619 read pray getting your Bible so you can see the 00:22:41.619 --> 00:22:45.420 things that those people went through and Being 00:22:45.420 --> 00:22:48.339 too independent like we say that and we do that 00:22:48.339 --> 00:22:50.140 but a lot of people really be flexing on the 00:22:50.140 --> 00:22:53.380 independence Not really that independent but 00:22:53.380 --> 00:22:58.839 the ones that are They did it because they didn't 00:22:58.839 --> 00:23:00.859 have no other option But you have to be careful 00:23:00.859 --> 00:23:02.920 that because you'll get burnt out and you limit 00:23:02.920 --> 00:23:07.900 your ability to be at ease and have peace So 00:23:07.900 --> 00:23:11.319 that's like the thing with it. I think when you 00:23:11.319 --> 00:23:13.079 meet the right person your independence will 00:23:13.079 --> 00:23:16.470 scale back because the right person will know 00:23:16.470 --> 00:23:19.109 how to communicate and lighten your load. You 00:23:19.109 --> 00:23:21.190 want someone to lighten your load. So even if 00:23:21.190 --> 00:23:23.849 you're misindependent, that person should be 00:23:23.849 --> 00:23:26.670 able to do things to help make you less misindependent. 00:23:29.430 --> 00:23:33.130 I agree with them. I agree with them because 00:23:33.130 --> 00:23:37.430 I believe that like sometimes what happens is 00:23:37.430 --> 00:23:43.289 we try to be so independent. that we act like 00:23:43.289 --> 00:23:47.390 we don't need nobody. And that's a bad place 00:23:47.390 --> 00:23:53.890 to be in. Because we will sit there and be like, 00:23:54.029 --> 00:23:56.549 you know what? No, I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. 00:23:57.089 --> 00:23:59.849 I don't need nobody. I can handle this on my 00:23:59.849 --> 00:24:07.589 own. No, you can't. You aren't meant to carry 00:24:07.589 --> 00:24:14.319 those burdens by yourself. Right. So how can 00:24:14.319 --> 00:24:17.940 disappointments turn into control over thinking 00:24:17.940 --> 00:24:27.140 I just I'll do it myself This frustration So, 00:24:27.180 --> 00:24:32.180 okay, let me ask you as a mom of two beautiful 00:24:32.180 --> 00:24:36.900 girls and as a business owner as a straight up 00:24:36.900 --> 00:24:41.769 boss in these streets Has there ever been moments 00:24:41.769 --> 00:24:43.890 where you done got so frustrated? Where you like, 00:24:43.910 --> 00:24:47.009 you know what? Bump it, I'll do it myself. I 00:24:47.009 --> 00:24:50.410 don't need nobody. And then when you had a means 00:24:50.410 --> 00:24:51.990 to do it yourself, you're definitely going to 00:24:51.990 --> 00:24:56.150 be like, look, you look once, twice. I got someone 00:24:56.150 --> 00:24:57.890 I face want to do it, like, especially when you 00:24:57.890 --> 00:25:01.410 have the means, the means change the whole mindset. 00:25:01.930 --> 00:25:03.789 The whole mentality is totally different when 00:25:03.789 --> 00:25:08.500 you have your own financial like you just And 00:25:08.500 --> 00:25:10.220 when you get to that vantage point, you're really 00:25:10.220 --> 00:25:13.640 delegating. Like, hmm, you missed the bus. I 00:25:13.640 --> 00:25:16.920 got somewhere to go. Uber Black. Oh, you forgot 00:25:16.920 --> 00:25:20.740 your folder. I'm busy with work. Uber Connect. 00:25:21.660 --> 00:25:24.480 Oh, I don't feel like cooking dinner. I'm tired. 00:25:25.019 --> 00:25:29.839 Milk prep for the week. It gives you a different 00:25:29.839 --> 00:25:33.740 standard of living. And that standard will intimidate 00:25:33.740 --> 00:25:36.589 many. But if it gives you a piece of mind, then 00:25:36.589 --> 00:25:39.250 do it, because you'd rather do that than be disappointed 00:25:39.250 --> 00:25:40.750 by someone saying they're going to do something 00:25:40.750 --> 00:25:49.390 and they don't do it. Facts, facts, facts. Hello, 00:25:49.529 --> 00:25:52.369 hello, hello, Dr. Stevie, God bless you, God 00:25:52.369 --> 00:25:55.690 bless you. Yeah, for sure. I agree with that. 00:25:55.950 --> 00:25:58.589 And y 'all, I have watched my sister do that. 00:25:59.210 --> 00:26:02.670 My nieces will call her, my oldest one especially 00:26:02.670 --> 00:26:05.210 will call her and be like, Mama, I forgot this. 00:26:06.089 --> 00:26:09.069 All right, don't worry about it, boom. There 00:26:09.069 --> 00:26:16.150 it is. And I might, when I tell y 'all the growth 00:26:16.150 --> 00:26:19.690 that I've seen in my sister, because like we've 00:26:19.690 --> 00:26:22.849 said before, this is over a decade of being connected. 00:26:24.369 --> 00:26:27.690 So I knew my sister went at a point in time she 00:26:27.690 --> 00:26:33.470 didn't have the means to make that happen. But 00:26:33.470 --> 00:26:37.680 now that she does, Oh baby, C is determined, 00:26:38.140 --> 00:26:40.180 ain't nobody pulling their back to that state 00:26:40.180 --> 00:26:44.799 again. Nobody. Family, friend or foe, it ain't 00:26:44.799 --> 00:26:49.099 gonna happen. Boom. And that's on marrying all 00:26:49.099 --> 00:26:54.960 them little lambs. Yup. Like C is determined, 00:26:55.299 --> 00:26:58.859 like I'm not going back to that state again. 00:27:00.509 --> 00:27:03.430 I'm not going back to working a dead -end job 00:27:03.430 --> 00:27:08.630 just to say I got money coming in. And I ain't 00:27:08.630 --> 00:27:12.630 going to be stressed out. Hair falling out, weight 00:27:12.630 --> 00:27:17.210 going up, migraines dropping, working on someone's 00:27:17.210 --> 00:27:23.029 job. Mm -mm. Mm -mm. Mm -mm. Because my sister 00:27:23.029 --> 00:27:25.789 will quit her job in a heartbeat. I have not 00:27:25.789 --> 00:27:28.440 quit jobs in a while. Thank you very much. I've 00:27:28.440 --> 00:27:30.940 been good, since I had Bella. You're like, don't, 00:27:30.940 --> 00:27:33.160 you're like, don't be me. Don't do that. I didn't 00:27:33.160 --> 00:27:35.019 grow up. Now I was real bad in my younger days, 00:27:35.099 --> 00:27:39.779 my twenties. Yes. Oh, oh, oh, oh. I was, I had, 00:27:39.859 --> 00:27:43.119 let me tell you, I was so, I've been, I'm in 00:27:43.119 --> 00:27:44.880 my thirties still. My thirties, I calmed down 00:27:44.880 --> 00:27:47.839 my twenties. I was so bad with it, like, I would 00:27:47.839 --> 00:27:49.940 quit a job, but started, like I would quit their 00:27:49.940 --> 00:27:52.220 job on Friday and I already done signed a paperwork, 00:27:52.339 --> 00:27:54.920 got my badge, my new job on Monday. I was out 00:27:54.920 --> 00:27:57.359 of control with it. So we all liked that in our 00:27:57.359 --> 00:27:59.599 20s. So when I interact with people in their 00:27:59.599 --> 00:28:01.619 20s and they tell me, they, you know, they mindset, 00:28:01.940 --> 00:28:04.619 I, you know, I, I'm like, I was like that too 00:28:04.619 --> 00:28:07.359 when I was your age. I get it, you know. Like 00:28:07.359 --> 00:28:10.319 I would be on the phone with her and she be like, 00:28:10.380 --> 00:28:13.019 yeah, I just quit the job. I'm like, huh? And 00:28:13.019 --> 00:28:16.980 she's like, I'm like, oh, okay, okay. but you 00:28:16.980 --> 00:28:19.279 know I'm sorry I already got a new one I started 00:28:19.279 --> 00:28:24.559 on Monday. How did you she said I ain't never 00:28:24.559 --> 00:28:26.819 quit this job without having another one I already 00:28:26.819 --> 00:28:30.319 lined up. That's what people that you gotta you 00:28:30.319 --> 00:28:37.960 gotta always move with common sense. And that's 00:28:37.960 --> 00:28:43.160 real because I can remember. I could remember 00:28:43.160 --> 00:28:47.900 like in my late 20s, I was at a job that really 00:28:47.900 --> 00:28:51.279 wasn't getting paid that much. I love the people 00:28:51.279 --> 00:28:55.819 that I worked with. There was this one that me 00:28:55.819 --> 00:29:01.140 and her could not do. One day I walk in, we have 00:29:01.140 --> 00:29:05.900 some words. After we have our words, I go back 00:29:05.900 --> 00:29:11.279 and I do my job. I get stopped and I get told, 00:29:11.640 --> 00:29:13.680 Yo bro, you might want to look at the schedule. 00:29:14.519 --> 00:29:16.940 For what? I already know I'm getting crappy hours 00:29:16.940 --> 00:29:20.019 for the rest of the month. Like, what's it mean? 00:29:20.200 --> 00:29:21.640 Like, why do I need to look at the schedule? 00:29:22.059 --> 00:29:24.400 And they're like, you might want to go look. 00:29:24.559 --> 00:29:26.180 Don't worry about it. I'll handle this customer. 00:29:27.140 --> 00:29:34.440 I go up and look. I went from maybe four hours 00:29:34.440 --> 00:29:40.079 to eight hours a week. to basically, this woman 00:29:40.079 --> 00:29:44.819 put me down for four hours a week. So I'm like, 00:29:45.119 --> 00:29:48.099 you're trying to prove a point that you got this 00:29:48.099 --> 00:29:52.400 much power. I looked right at my coworker and 00:29:52.400 --> 00:29:55.259 I'm like, I'm going on break. And she's like, 00:29:55.640 --> 00:29:58.519 you just got, I'm like, if I don't go on break 00:29:58.519 --> 00:30:01.799 right now, I'm probably not about to have a job. 00:30:03.299 --> 00:30:06.960 Your safest bet is to let me go on break. Because 00:30:06.960 --> 00:30:11.599 at this point, we got you. We got you going here. 00:30:12.819 --> 00:30:16.920 So I go home, boy. I cool off, and I come back. 00:30:17.680 --> 00:30:21.460 When I come back, magically, I'm put back where 00:30:21.460 --> 00:30:25.140 I need to be. But at this point, you don't show 00:30:25.140 --> 00:30:29.680 me what you capable of. I bet that next day I'm 00:30:29.680 --> 00:30:32.559 off. While I'm off, I'm putting in an application. 00:30:34.460 --> 00:30:36.720 Soon as I put in that application five minutes 00:30:36.720 --> 00:30:38.799 after I put that application in I'm getting called 00:30:38.799 --> 00:30:45.900 in for an interview But Like now don't play that 00:30:45.900 --> 00:30:49.319 cuz this is like God gave me this job You can 00:30:49.319 --> 00:30:53.140 give me another one and I'm gonna get paid twice 00:30:53.140 --> 00:30:57.680 with you payment Yeah, let me run over here with 00:30:57.680 --> 00:31:01.910 crew But there comes a point to where like like 00:31:01.910 --> 00:31:07.029 what you said in your 20s you do that but now 00:31:07.029 --> 00:31:10.650 that we're in our 30s we ain't doing that as 00:31:10.650 --> 00:31:19.789 much so I when does protecting yourself start 00:31:19.789 --> 00:31:28.470 preventing someone from loving you um when does 00:31:28.470 --> 00:31:31.410 protecting yourself start preventing someone 00:31:31.410 --> 00:31:37.029 from loving you. When you... Ooh, that's a good 00:31:37.029 --> 00:31:43.190 one. What you think? I think it stops preventing 00:31:43.190 --> 00:31:46.430 someone from loving you when you stop loving 00:31:46.430 --> 00:31:57.490 yourself. So you can protect yourself. You can 00:31:57.490 --> 00:32:01.880 protect yourself to the point to where You build 00:32:01.880 --> 00:32:06.279 a wall up. And when you build that wall, you 00:32:06.279 --> 00:32:10.799 start acting as if you don't need anybody or 00:32:10.799 --> 00:32:14.460 anything. And after a while, people are gonna 00:32:14.460 --> 00:32:16.579 get tired of knocking on that wall and trying 00:32:16.579 --> 00:32:19.099 to break that wall down. They're just gonna be 00:32:19.099 --> 00:32:28.279 like, no, I'm just going to move around. And 00:32:28.279 --> 00:32:32.119 we're not, we're not owned by any jobs. We aren't, 00:32:32.640 --> 00:32:36.640 we are not. What about you? How you feel about 00:32:36.640 --> 00:32:41.799 that? I think when you're protecting yourself, 00:32:41.920 --> 00:32:46.859 you're not really fully being yourself. And so 00:32:46.859 --> 00:32:48.819 you're not open to the person. Like you say, 00:32:48.960 --> 00:32:52.480 like you're not, you giving them a mass version 00:32:52.480 --> 00:32:55.289 because you're protecting yourself. And you don't 00:32:55.289 --> 00:32:58.690 trust them and you don't trust it. So you're 00:32:58.690 --> 00:33:01.869 not being fully transparent. You're not vulnerable 00:33:01.869 --> 00:33:06.829 at all. Or you're very limited in it. I agree. 00:33:07.190 --> 00:33:08.789 It's like peek -a -boo. You know, I say sign, 00:33:08.890 --> 00:33:10.769 I see how you react. I say sign, I see how you 00:33:10.769 --> 00:33:13.750 react. I say sign, I see how you react. I agree. 00:33:14.369 --> 00:33:17.230 And I think sometimes we're not vulnerable with 00:33:17.230 --> 00:33:25.519 ourselves. We put on the mask of I'm good I'm 00:33:25.519 --> 00:33:28.539 straight. I don't I don't have to deal with my 00:33:28.539 --> 00:33:35.119 emotions right now Mm -hmm But you need to deal 00:33:35.119 --> 00:33:38.119 with it and I know somebody to show you like 00:33:38.119 --> 00:33:41.039 yo, I got your back You're not dealing with this 00:33:41.039 --> 00:33:46.680 by yourself You're good Like back in February 00:33:48.970 --> 00:33:51.410 when everything was going on with my mother. 00:33:52.730 --> 00:33:59.309 I was acting as if I'm straight, I'm good, I'm 00:33:59.309 --> 00:34:04.450 okay. But I thank God for Hannah and for Team 00:34:04.450 --> 00:34:08.809 Marine. Because them too, when I just let me 00:34:08.809 --> 00:34:13.809 act like I'm good, that would be like, bro, tell 00:34:13.809 --> 00:34:17.280 us what's really going on. Give us a real deal. 00:34:17.579 --> 00:34:20.699 Like don't give us the preacher answer We don't 00:34:20.699 --> 00:34:22.860 want to hear what we're even clever. They're 00:34:22.860 --> 00:34:27.159 saying we want to hear Thanks, like how are you? 00:34:32.500 --> 00:34:35.079 And I think sometimes we can lose ourselves and 00:34:35.079 --> 00:34:45.460 forget that we are human We're not robots So 00:34:45.460 --> 00:34:50.420 okay, let me give you another one Stop making 00:34:50.420 --> 00:34:55.639 the new person pay the old person's bill My god 00:34:55.639 --> 00:35:00.699 So your egg seeded, but does that mean everybody 00:35:00.699 --> 00:35:09.380 is seeding? No, I'm gonna meet what we know a 00:35:09.380 --> 00:35:12.869 lot We know a lot of people that do that. We 00:35:12.869 --> 00:35:14.030 know a couple of people that be running through 00:35:14.030 --> 00:35:15.429 them phones. We know some people that like to 00:35:15.429 --> 00:35:18.469 pull up. You know, we all have some people and 00:35:18.469 --> 00:35:22.530 that we know that and when you start getting 00:35:22.530 --> 00:35:25.170 yourself together, you like, yeah, you really, 00:35:25.849 --> 00:35:30.630 you need to go sell somebody's soul. We need 00:35:30.630 --> 00:35:32.630 to have a prayer. We need to let me get a couple 00:35:32.630 --> 00:35:36.989 people to pray with us over you. And I need you 00:35:36.989 --> 00:35:39.730 to go get in somebody. I need you to do all three. 00:35:39.829 --> 00:35:42.230 Do the whole combo. do it or actually I need 00:35:42.230 --> 00:35:43.949 you read the Bible to me and I need you read 00:35:43.949 --> 00:35:45.869 this book right here. So it might be a combination 00:35:45.869 --> 00:35:48.309 but we know some people that do all of that and 00:35:48.309 --> 00:35:50.329 we have probably done it at one point in our 00:35:50.329 --> 00:35:53.650 life but thank God for healing, amen. Guilty, 00:35:54.170 --> 00:35:57.250 guilty. Somebody abandoned you. I have just overcome 00:35:57.250 --> 00:36:01.050 that myself and but does that mean everybody 00:36:01.050 --> 00:36:03.730 is leaving? No, you got to work through that 00:36:03.730 --> 00:36:06.849 and I think the more the one thing I could say 00:36:06.849 --> 00:36:09.829 the better you feel about yourself. the better 00:36:09.829 --> 00:36:14.269 love that you put out. How you feel good about 00:36:14.269 --> 00:36:16.570 yourself? We're gonna teach y 'all about it too. 00:36:16.710 --> 00:36:18.570 You know, we always mention it, the gym, eating 00:36:18.570 --> 00:36:22.670 right, loving yourself, pampering yourself, self 00:36:22.670 --> 00:36:26.849 -care, all those things. So yeah, those are good 00:36:26.849 --> 00:36:30.550 things. And the favorite one, the last one. Go 00:36:30.550 --> 00:36:31.590 on and tell them about the last one, because 00:36:31.590 --> 00:36:35.849 we all know that one right there. Fasting. Oh 00:36:35.849 --> 00:36:38.639 yeah. I need to get a look at it. I ain't even 00:36:38.639 --> 00:36:40.760 got a new guy there. I already know what that 00:36:40.760 --> 00:36:43.599 last one is. I already know what that last one 00:36:43.599 --> 00:36:47.039 is. Gonna get that discernment, that clarity. 00:36:48.659 --> 00:36:52.800 Gonna come out like a no limit soldier. Let me 00:36:52.800 --> 00:36:58.139 be honest with y 'all like when I tell you there 00:36:58.139 --> 00:37:03.519 are times where I've wanted to act a plum food 00:37:03.519 --> 00:37:12.139 and God made me call Hannah Hanna sat there and 00:37:12.139 --> 00:37:16.760 she listen and she listen and she listen she 00:37:16.760 --> 00:37:21.420 listen to me go off And then she hit me with 00:37:21.420 --> 00:37:25.460 this. All right, are you done? Cuz this is what 00:37:25.460 --> 00:37:32.920 we're really gonna do She's like I just let you 00:37:32.920 --> 00:37:37.730 get that little way and page out But this is 00:37:37.730 --> 00:37:41.750 what we're really going to do. So I got an idea, 00:37:42.269 --> 00:37:46.530 Hannah, since we got some people on here and 00:37:46.530 --> 00:37:50.929 we are always talking about the gym about getting 00:37:50.929 --> 00:37:54.809 healthy and both of us own that health is wealth 00:37:54.809 --> 00:38:02.590 journey. Here's my question. You all. If Hannah 00:38:02.590 --> 00:38:08.989 and I created a group chat on Facebook. and invited 00:38:08.989 --> 00:38:13.670 you all in to get workout tips, different workout 00:38:13.670 --> 00:38:19.030 tips, different healthy eating tips, different 00:38:19.030 --> 00:38:22.909 things to make you healthy, mentally, emotionally, 00:38:23.309 --> 00:38:26.070 spiritually. I want you to comment below if you 00:38:26.070 --> 00:38:31.230 would be interested in that. Let us know if you 00:38:31.230 --> 00:38:33.789 would be interested in that, because I feel like 00:38:33.789 --> 00:38:36.750 that is something that a lot of people I need 00:38:36.750 --> 00:38:45.269 you. Like, I feel like a lot of people, and like 00:38:45.269 --> 00:38:53.449 we would hold you accountable, all of that. And 00:38:53.449 --> 00:38:56.730 like, like I said, like I appreciate the fact 00:38:56.730 --> 00:39:00.409 that Hannah did that for me on more than one 00:39:00.409 --> 00:39:09.780 occasion. So we already got it. Okay. All right. 00:39:09.860 --> 00:39:12.159 All right. Dr. Stevie, as soon as this show is 00:39:12.159 --> 00:39:15.780 over, I'll add you in there and I will, I will 00:39:15.780 --> 00:39:19.960 make a post on social media, letting people know 00:39:19.960 --> 00:39:24.019 like if y 'all want that, let us know. But yeah, 00:39:24.179 --> 00:39:30.199 for sure. Like, I feel like, like we said, the 00:39:30.199 --> 00:39:34.579 fasting, the praying, the discerning, You're 00:39:34.579 --> 00:39:36.400 going to come out like a no -limit soldier for 00:39:36.400 --> 00:39:40.559 sure. After you're done, you're going to come 00:39:40.559 --> 00:39:50.900 out 10 times better than what you were. So, let's 00:39:50.900 --> 00:40:00.539 hit this last one. Work with. You know what? 00:40:01.179 --> 00:40:08.769 Healing is your responsibility. Are you waiting 00:40:08.769 --> 00:40:17.889 on an apology before you heal? You should not 00:40:17.889 --> 00:40:19.849 because you might not get in you still gonna 00:40:19.849 --> 00:40:22.889 be unhealed so I don't recommend that but you 00:40:22.889 --> 00:40:26.150 know we have that bothered that's what we need 00:40:26.150 --> 00:40:29.449 but you honestly don't need that you got to want 00:40:29.449 --> 00:40:34.889 it for yourself and bring it about yourself facts 00:40:34.889 --> 00:40:38.579 facts like you gotta want better for yourself 00:40:38.579 --> 00:40:41.719 you gotta want to do better for yourself and 00:40:41.719 --> 00:40:44.400 you gotta want to be like you know what despite 00:40:44.400 --> 00:40:47.280 everything that i'm going through right now i'm 00:40:47.280 --> 00:40:49.900 determined that i'm gonna be better i'm determined 00:40:49.900 --> 00:40:56.219 that i'm gonna be stronger so yeah like somebody's 00:40:56.219 --> 00:41:02.980 apology you gotta forgive people Even when they 00:41:02.980 --> 00:41:05.960 don't apologize and let me let y 'all in on a 00:41:05.960 --> 00:41:09.420 secret that of that forgiveness is not for them. 00:41:09.599 --> 00:41:14.400 It's for you. It's for you Because holding on 00:41:14.400 --> 00:41:18.579 to bitterness is basically drinking the poison 00:41:18.579 --> 00:41:25.980 and waiting on somebody else to die You drinking 00:41:25.980 --> 00:41:28.820 the poison but you might know somebody else to 00:41:28.820 --> 00:41:37.320 die That's not good. Like that's not healthy 00:41:37.320 --> 00:41:44.260 at all. What would your relationships look like 00:41:44.260 --> 00:41:47.659 if you stopped letting yesterday makes today's 00:41:47.659 --> 00:41:56.179 decisions? That's what we ended in. What would 00:41:56.179 --> 00:41:58.480 your relationship look like if we stopped letting 00:41:58.480 --> 00:42:02.079 yesterday make today's decisions? There would 00:42:02.079 --> 00:42:08.840 be peace. happiness. Because you're in the now, 00:42:08.920 --> 00:42:12.199 not the past. You're not bringing out an excess 00:42:12.199 --> 00:42:17.960 baggage from all the trauma and drama. So, and 00:42:17.960 --> 00:42:20.860 you can see what is good and what is bad for 00:42:20.860 --> 00:42:24.260 you because you know what the bad is. And now 00:42:24.260 --> 00:42:34.329 you're in the good. There used to be a saying 00:42:34.329 --> 00:42:38.449 that my former principal used to say, good, better, 00:42:38.550 --> 00:42:41.710 best, never let it rest until your good is better 00:42:41.710 --> 00:42:47.610 and your better is best. Like, we got to stop 00:42:47.610 --> 00:42:50.130 letting yesterday make today's decisions. Okay, 00:42:50.210 --> 00:42:53.809 you messed up yesterday, I bet. But you can be 00:42:53.809 --> 00:42:57.829 determined you ain't gonna mess up today. Okay, 00:42:57.989 --> 00:43:02.119 bet, you fell down yesterday, that's cool. But 00:43:02.119 --> 00:43:03.920 you can be determined you ain't falling down 00:43:03.920 --> 00:43:13.059 today Like you gotta make yourself better You 00:43:13.059 --> 00:43:19.860 gotta make yourself better and not bitter So 00:43:19.860 --> 00:43:23.199 we love y 'all Hannah I'm gonna let you hit them 00:43:23.199 --> 00:43:26.619 with your closing remarks and announce the new 00:43:26.619 --> 00:43:32.150 series that we got coming out We are having fun 00:43:32.150 --> 00:43:34.530 like we definitely have some great things in 00:43:34.530 --> 00:43:38.329 store for you all So we are coming out with a 00:43:38.329 --> 00:43:51.349 series of Series is Which I love he'll different 00:43:51.349 --> 00:43:54.929 his side her side God's way we're gonna talk 00:43:54.929 --> 00:43:58.489 about how You can experience the same relationship 00:43:58.489 --> 00:44:01.929 hurt rejection or season completely differently 00:44:01.929 --> 00:44:04.889 versus a man and a woman, which we started tonight. 00:44:06.070 --> 00:44:07.809 And we're gonna talk about what happens when 00:44:07.809 --> 00:44:13.550 you stop depending on your side and start asking 00:44:13.550 --> 00:44:16.610 what healing looks like and God requires from 00:44:16.610 --> 00:44:20.030 both of us. So that is what we are talking about. 00:44:20.210 --> 00:44:23.429 And what I wanna leave with you today, two things 00:44:23.429 --> 00:44:26.309 I have a question for you. Are you loving the 00:44:26.309 --> 00:44:28.920 person in front of you? or are you still fighting 00:44:28.920 --> 00:44:32.900 the person who hurt you? And I want you to remember 00:44:32.900 --> 00:44:36.360 that it's his truth, her truth, but ultimately 00:44:36.360 --> 00:44:46.480 what does God say? Have a wonderful night. Man, 00:44:46.820 --> 00:44:49.980 his truth, her truth, but ultimately we leave 00:44:49.980 --> 00:44:53.440 what this God said, my God. Y 'all definitely 00:44:53.440 --> 00:44:57.199 said that video, definitely said this out. Let 00:44:57.199 --> 00:45:00.260 everybody know that starting next week, we're 00:45:00.260 --> 00:45:04.300 in a new series. And let everybody know that 00:45:04.300 --> 00:45:08.400 we're starting some new stuff over here. We are 00:45:08.400 --> 00:45:12.059 grinding, we are working, and we know that God 00:45:12.059 --> 00:45:15.559 has some great things in store. So we love y 00:45:15.559 --> 00:45:18.059 'all, God bless y 'all, and I'll see y 'all on 00:45:18.059 --> 00:45:26.500 tomorrow night. Peace. for watching another episode 00:45:26.500 --> 00:45:30.119 on James H. Glover Network. We appreciate you 00:45:30.119 --> 00:45:33.340 for all of your love, all of your support and 00:45:33.340 --> 00:45:37.599 all of your just comments. Now what I need y 00:45:37.599 --> 00:45:41.239 'all to do is like it says, like and subscribe. 00:45:41.840 --> 00:45:43.840 Also, I need y 'all to share and I need y 'all 00:45:43.840 --> 00:45:46.400 to tag and I need y 'all to turn on that notification 00:45:46.400 --> 00:45:50.460 bell over here on YouTube. That lets YouTube 00:45:50.460 --> 00:45:54.030 know that you like content like this. 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