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Hey man, look, we got um, I got my mama back
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It's funny to say that I'm a grandma because
our topic tonight is hot and heavy. When I talk
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excited about tonight's topic, James, because
I know you are young and - Youngest. Youngest.
Youngest is barking up these, barking up some
trees. in my generation right now and it's becoming
a thing. And so even though we are talking about
dating, not even though, in addition to talking
about dating while anointed, I wanted to talk
about the age gap conversation. So it's like,
We don't really think about it when it's a man
who is older dating a younger woman But it seems
to be taboo when it's an older woman dating a
younger man. Don't you take yourself down? Let's
talk about it You expressed to me at one time
that you know age gaps weren't a big deal for
you. So you at 38 38 36 36 36 36 What is the
how do you feel about age gap? For me, it's about
the maturity. So for me, I have always been instructed
to older, always have. But it's funny. It's funny.
It's funny that I always been instructed to older,
but the younger has always been instructed to
me. So it's funny how it works. For me, I just
like them holder because of the simple fact of
they are mature enough to handle what I'm dealing
with. Okay. Like with everything that I deal
with, being a CEO over a network, being a preacher,
doing everything that I do, it takes a special
woman to be able to walk in those rooms with
me. So with that being said I need her to have
like a little bit of self respect about herself
to where like she's like Okay, I can handle being
in these rooms with them Though I can do I can
respect that but I too being you know, typically
In my past I've always dated older I'm married
older. My ex -husband was 10 years older than
me. And so now in this season, I have a lot of
young men that approach. And they're the ones
that are not afraid to shoot their shot. And
when I say a lot, I mean 34, 35, 36. Wait a minute,
wait a minute. Tell them that you got a son that's
36 years old. If they ain't older than your son
at least five years, back off. But see, this
is the conversation we're having. The younger
children say, OK, well, Ma, you can't be rude
because that's a grown man. So you can't treat
him like he's a child. He's 35, 34, 35 years
old. And for me, I cringe because my daughter
is 33. My son is 30. You're 36. It's like running
for my life. But then what? Say laughing at you
laughing at you the why cuz I'm being honest
like we being transparent I could see you now
coming home to us Yeah, how old is he mama? He's
about your age, but even like it didn't start
it didn't start recently it started like right
when I turned 40 I had a young man who was very
mature had already sent like eight years in the
Marine Corps was already raising a son who was
29 years old. I could not get past the fact that
he was 29. Very mature. This man has served the
country. Very mature, but at 40 years old, I
was like, OMG. Like, are you kidding me? Okay,
so what stopped you from giving him a sense,
besides the fact that he was younger? That's
it. So tell me how you like how how does that
make you feel knowing that a woman of a mature
age might not talk to you or might not give you
the time because of your age? I've had that where
it's been like a woman that like she got all
of it going on and she's taking out every box
and I mean every box. And it gets to the point
where, when that question of how old are you,
gets asked, I'm like, I already know it's about
to be a deal breaker. I already know it. Well,
there's a lot of things to continue with as a
woman when you start, when you, I got my microphone
in the wrong place. There's a lot to continue
with as a woman when you start dating a younger
man, because most of the time, y 'all mamas don't
be with it. But here's the thing for us young
men that are mature and that know what we want
out of life We ain't dating for our mama. We
date him because we see something in you Yeah,
but Most of us, we talk about dating while anointed.
Typically if we're dating, we're dating with
some intention. Like we got plans to go somewhere
like marriage, not just to be dating because
we want companionship. And you say we ain't neither.
We might, we are probably doing that same thing.
Yeah, but the families don't typically agree.
And so what? Well, me or Julia's family didn't
agree. Wait a minute, that's a bad example. That's
a bad example. That might not have been the best
example. I get it, but typically in the reverse
roles. Now, I'll tell you that my son, one of
my boys that I was, my son, my other son who
is 36, 36, wait a minute. Yeah, 36 right now.
When he was about 17, there was a woman that
was 29. I was not having it. He was still in
high school. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. He was still
in high school and she was she was just out there.
Right. And not saying that it couldn't not saying
that he wasn't part of the problem. Right. But
I just wasn't having it. And that was because
he was still in high school. Now, if he had been
18 and he was already off and going to college,
that'd be a different idea. But you know, we
still, we still paying for lunch money. You know
what I'm saying? Like we still, you know, you're
still in Japan. Huh? You talking about we still
paying for lunch money. Right. We still giving
you lunch money. You know and so it became a
big thing and anybody that watches this that
knows me that was in The church at that time
understands that I went I did everything scripture
say I went privately I did not you know, and
this is when my space was a thing, right? I went
yeah, I went to this young lady privately and
she had come to our ministry with somebody else
who was dating multiple women at one time or
fooling around with multiple women at one time,
and she ended up fooling around with my 17 -year
-old son at the time, and I just wasn't having
it. So I had to, you know, I felt some type of...
You went through a woman to woman. I did, but,
you know, I didn't get the woman -to -woman response.
I got a very vulgar, outlandish response at the
time. Knowing full well that a young man at his
age, with the accessibility... to a woman at
her age and of that caliber, that meant that
he had access to money and things, right? And
that's really what, you know, somebody at his
age was looking for, looking at that time, knowing
that he full well was part of the problem because
he wasn't, he wasn't saying, no, he was like,
yeah, give it to me and I'm going to give you
what you want too. We can just be real. Because
her answer to me was like, he might be a boy
to you, but he's all man to me. Yeah So it became
a let me ask you a question. Let me ask you a
question. Is the woman still living? Um, she
is I did call my people I was like get your get
your Vaseline your uh, and I'm the first lady
at that time so Listen You can take the girl
out the hood, but you can't take the hood out
the girl But that's how I felt about that But
I think that had he been 18 or 19 and I would
have anything to say about that but 17 still
in high school No. I have to ask, was she still
living? Because when she said he all men to me,
ma 'am, I know how crazy my mama is. Yeah. So,
you know, and then when it comes to young people
and my children, and that's a different story,
like you exposing him to nightlife and exposing
him to things that. I don't really think that
somebody 17 should have been exposed to because
I was exposed to things too early. So, you know,
I'm very protective when it came to my children
and their teenage and their formidable years.
And thank God, you know, that they made it through
without experiencing some of the things that
I experienced. And I say some very lightly because
I know there are a lot of things that I learned
that had gone on that, you know, maybe I didn't
know. Yeah, and it happens right but when we
talk about age now me personally I don't think
that in this season of my life I would like I'm
about to be 50. I say it every show I'm about
to be 50, but I'm not Interested in dating somebody
that's 10 years older than me at this time again
because I already been through that it kind of
set in their ways and for me right now that would
be 60 years old and And even my dad was like
uh -uh because there's 60 that man slowing down
He gonna be sleep by the time it's time for y
'all to go out like now you don't you don't want
to deal with that and he knows cuz he's 60 plus
right so um Yeah age gap so how much is too much
so let's look at the fact that Scottie Pippen
is 60 years old dating a 23 year old girl How
much is she growing? She grown. I mean, wasn't
nobody saying that then when Scotty Pippin's
wife was messing with Michael's son. Well, he
grown. I think that people were saying something,
but they they. It is usually society. accepts
it more when it's a man than when a man's dating
a younger woman than they do when a woman is
dating a younger man. So, you know, the cougar
phenomenon has been revived now. It's like, now
it's the whole thing. There are people doing
podcasts about it, having events, introducing
older women to younger men because some younger
men just don't want to date girls, don't want
to date women, I'm sorry, that are in their age
group. And you just said it because you need
her to be able to walk into the rooms that you
are walking into because of the status that you
hold, what I feel like, and you could tell me
if I'm wrong, that some young men have made a
life for themselves. They have access to money
and resources, and they want to have a woman
that's going to add to them, not someone that's
coming with their hand out. I've said this before,
and I'll say it again, in the age, in the where
I'm at right now, in this big W6, with everything
that I got going on, you got to come with more
than keep facing the smile. Yeah, I mean, honestly,
and I think that they look at that men your age
look at women my age and say she already established.
Like we can be together. We can she can she can
help me finish this goal. She can add to what
I'm already doing. And so they're kind of opting
out of dating women in their age group. And then
here we are in an in between age and we could
be dating the son or the father. So we're trying
to figure out, you know, now, honestly, we could
be dating the son or the father. So we're trying
to. We could. And, you know, but it's me as a
woman at my age, I'm always thinking about what's
appropriate when the fact of the matter is James,
you a grown man. You don't want me to look at
you as. a child, although y 'all call me mom,
you don't want me to look at you that way when
it comes to what you have the ability to do as
a man. Right. Like for me, it's like I have had,
I'm gonna be real with you. I saw my side of
somebody in their fifties. Okay. Like she had
it going on didn't look like she was in her fifties
Had a lot going for herself was building And
I might man together we could be doing something
powerful We had a great conversation for a while
even talked on the phone for a little bit The
million dollar question got asked How old are
you? And at that time I think I was like 34 33
Well, I can I can speak for for a woman. I can
speak for women I think that we still have that
taboo about it being appropriate because even
Being like chased down by somebody that is five
years my senior And finally saying, okay, fine,
I'll go out with you. I'll go on a date with
you was a challenge for me. This man 44 years
old. And I was like, because, you know, there's
certain things that I look for and certain things
that I, that I have an expectation of that I
don't want to, that I don't want to put off on
somebody or, you know, that I feel like needs
to be a challenge, but man. When I say, okay,
yeah, I'm going to go out with you. I'm going
to date with you. Typically, my intuition has
been right about, okay, this man is younger.
It's some things that he has not experienced,
not lived, don't understand. But it could just
be that individual as a person. I really should
avoid generalization, what you think. First one,
because just because he's a certain age. don't
mean that all of us are the same way. You know,
I was on TikTok the night and I had stumbled
across this a lot and the women was talking about
like dating in this generation and they pulled
me up there onto the live screen with them and
I kind of gave my feedback on it and I said in
all honesty what has happened is you've had little
boys that are strapped in grown men bodies. Right.
And what happened is these little boys that are
strapped in grown men bodies and they could be
60 something years old, but still got that little
boy mindset. Right. And what has happened is
these little boys have sat here and jacked up
good women. And what has happened is the grown
men have had to come back and clean up the stuff
that these little boys done jacked up. So my
recommendation is these little boys need to stay
playing with the little girls and leave the grown
woman for a grown man. Okay, y 'all. James is
completely serious. So James, you said you shot
your shot at somebody in their 50s. For you,
what is the largest gap that you would entertain?
Is it 20 years? If he was to ask me a couple
of years, if he was to ask me about a year or
so ago, I couldn't do 60s. I could not do 60s.
Right. But if he was in your 50s, Steph carry
with it. Okay. Okay. For me right now, I can,
I can respect that from a man's perspective.
But me, I'm just, I still battle with the idea
of somebody younger, even if it's two or three
years, I struggle with it. And, you know, so
I'm typically right now, I'm like, five, seven,
five to seven years is enough for me. I don't
think I ever want to do 10 again because it was
a bad experience. And that's probably the reason
that I don't want to do 10 when it comes to going
in that direction. But I definitely know I would
not. And I'm, and I shudder to think, but I really
would not date somebody 10 years younger than
me. Okay. All right. So I'm going to give you
a scenario. Okay. Alright ready So there's a
guy, okay. Mm -hmm. That's got his own business
He's got his own money Multi -millionaire Got
everything going for himself like owns about
three businesses He approaches you he looks good
to he approaches you and he shoots his side The
only problem is he's 37 years old. Now he's sucking
up all of your boxes. Every box that you got
he's sucking up. The only thing is he's 37 years
old. He would, it would be very hard for me.
I mean, he would really have to lay it on thick.
He would have to convince me beyond a shadow
of a doubt that he's mature enough to handle
what I come with. So, okay, I'm gonna give it
to you like this. He shows up to every event
that you do and he don't show up empty handed.
He shows up with flowers. Invite you out to dinner.
Open your car door for you. There's all about
it. I still would be concerned with the gap.
I'm trying to overcome that. I don't even know
why I'm trying to overcome it. But I'm trying
to, I still would be concerned about the fact
that most of the time, most of me are going to
want to take you to meet their mama. And she
going to be like, what's your old behind doing
with my... With my young son. Then it's a double
no if he don't have no children So like I can
I can read my dog needs barking back in She's
like no She wanted to go outside like I can release
my My prohibition about dating somebody younger
if he already has children right because I'm
not having anymore ever. I'm not having anymore
ever. And so I was the last one. I was the last
one. I would prefer he already has children.
But then even in that men that are in their 30s
and early 40s still have little children. My
children are adults. So OK. OK. But what happens
James is I've been my rule and then I'm stuck
dealing with somebody that is ill prepared. That's
not ready. That thought they were ready, but
I can be a lot to handle. So I'm gonna give you
another one. Oh my Jesus. This one, same thing.
Got everything going on. Got kids. Do we love
Jesus? Yeah, he loves Jesus. He got three kids
by three different women. As soon as I said the
three different women, see already like three
kids by three different women. Now what ages
are they? Because see, wait, wait, wait, wait,
wait, wait, eight, 10 and 12. No. See, the problem
with it is, and this is what I want to say to
all of you that are dating while anointed, dating
in ministry, dating with whatever you got going
on, the problem is when you set your boundary.
Like my boundary said, I do not. want to date
anybody with young kids. When you set your boundary,
hold fast to it because exactly what you expect
is what you're going to get when you deal with
somebody that is, that you bent your boundary
for. Because those kids, those young kids age
6, 8, that age between 10 and 12. That age between
zero to 12. They come all kids come first, but
zero to 12 is even more so because you still
a little bit too close to that baby mama You're
not enough years removed from her when you have
zero to five or zero to six because it's likely
that she probably still want you or she gonna
cause problem and I'm not here for the drama.
So All right, I'm gonna give you one more this
one. I was watching a podcast country plane.
I was watching it. So And there's a character
on the soul, Anthony. He took his girlfriend
to Kentucky. See her family lives here, all of
that. They came here for like a birthday party.
He takes his young son that is just one years
old with him to Kentucky. from Georgia and fell
with the girlfriend and her son. And the baby
mama is already crazy. The baby mama flies to
Kentucky, pulls up at the event for the mothers
for the girlfriend's mama's birthday. And when
I say raise $10 worth of raise $10 worth of and
like destroyed everything started an argument
with everybody in there. Oh my goodness. So could
you stay with this man after his baby mama then
came in here? And this like the first time you
done had a wedding with the baby mama like you
and the baby mama done almost through hands one
time before nope No, because I want her to have
whatever she need to get from him and to deal
with her children and that's the thing like people
with young children Come with young children
issues Right you got you still Your kids are
young. They're formidable. They're still trying
to figure out their way in life You trying to
help them and then you trying to manage their
mama and what gives me is when they say oh No,
we cope here. Well, we get along fine I say yeah,
you get along fine until you show up with a woman
because then she has a problem Now now she better
really if she ain't causing you problem now Now
she might cause you problems if she's not married
and moved on with her life So, you know all those
things come into play so you guys make sure don't
don't break your rules even take it from me don't
lower your um not your standards but don't break
your own rules because when you break your own
rules you set yourself up for disappointment
if you never say yes when when all your um when
all your own rules for yourself are not met because
then you end up you know trying to figure out
okay now where we stand and what's next because
people that are dealing with young children,
dealing with baby mama, baby daddy drama, they
are typically inconsistent in behavior because
they're torn between what is right and what is
wrong for them when it comes to movement with
their children. And what I say to people that
just cause trouble for people that move on with
their lives, everybody need to grow up. Everybody
need to grow up. If you're not with that person,
there's a reason and even if he circled the block
or she circled the block, would you eat? Would
you still be together? No, be happy for them.
That's there's a whole nother discussion. We
can have a sound surrounding kids, but I don't
want to date nobody with no little kids. So I
don't we don't even got to get into that. But
that isn't the discussion we could have. Well,
OK, so all right. Before we close out, I'm going
to be one more. The kids are adults. Kids are
adults. Okay. All right. Not adults yet, but
they like 14, 15. So basically adults, basically
adults. The kids are 14, 15 and 16. He's in his
late 30s. Okay. So I mean he started having kids
when he was younger like probably 20 21 20 21
So he's like my Got everything going for himself.
He don't want no more kids Would you give him
a side where his mama It's mama is your best
friend. Oh, no, no, no No, no, no No, no, no
No, you think about it your best friend your
best friend's mama do not want her dating she
can't even think of what y 'all Potentially could
get into no way Jose or Maria You know you like
I was thinking about it. I was out you almost
had me on the you almost had me on the hook,
but The minute I said the mama is your best friend.
You like oh heck no Take me off of this rain
right now. No, I'm off of this train boy back
up Go over there sit down there for you because
no sir We're not doing that And it would, for
me, like it would have to be, and definitely
not somebody close to me, not my best friend,
not one of my friend's children, absolutely not.
But for me in somebody, and I know you don't
need the permission or the admonishment of people
you don't when you're talking about two adults
and a man that is 35 years old, 34 years old
is a grown man. But I still would for me to feel
good and this is just my mind say where I'm at
right now About our relationship. I would want
to know that it was accepted by his family Although
he still have the right at 34 35 years old to
make his own decision 36 37 whatever it is but
at 49 years old I still will feel awkward and
I think that Probably societal norms has done
that and it just may be wrong to think that way.
So I think that people should be, you know, people,
all of y 'all, everybody is free to date who
they want to no matter really what the age gap
is. When we were talking about to consenting
adults, I do not think that people should exercise
pedophilia. Now that is absolutely no. Chilled
if young people are underage you should not be
dating them. That is just an absolute No outright
absolutely not. No, that's a no for me So when
I talk about my son being 17 and this lady being
29 that was a no he is underage You should not
like don't don't don't do that like I don't I
don't think that that's good at all but She's
still living huh? She lucky she's still living
Well, when I tell you, God is gracious. Hallelujah.
He's an amazing God. Um, but yeah, age gap. Age
gap. I know my mama. She was ready, dude. What
behind first? Ask questions later. Absolutely.
I'm talking jogging pants, Vaseline, ball cap
and a baseball bat ready. You know, um, but our
children get into things and they perpetuate
situations as well so we can't take the responsibility
off of them but somebody that's under age should
never be considered as a consenting adult. They
can't even sign their own name for anything like
for nothing they barely got a driver's license.
You should not be in your 20s you know dating
somebody that age. Look at me and say He might
be ascending a boy to you, but he's all made
to me honey Right. So no So, you know this tonight
was dating while anointed talking about the age
gaps and a lot of times we just keep these things
Especially in the church. We sweep it under the
rug when in reality a lot of the times pastors
are 10 and 20 years older than their wives and
I saw a video. I know they are I've seen a video
of this pastor that was preaching. And he literally
said. They was talking to him about his wife.
And he said, and to the congregation, y 'all
stop asking her, what am I going to do with her?
Yes, I know she's 18. And I know I'm 50, but
that's my wife. She's 18 so She's she's considered
an adult, but that's still I'm sending the video.
I'm missing the video I think I know we talk
about and I and the thing about it is I still
think me personally That's too much for me if
I was her parents that would be too much for
me that be too much for me to accept But at the
same time she's a consenting adult and she can
sign her name on that marriage license I don't
have to sign her over But a 50 year old man,
I don't think there's any conversation or anything
that is relatable between the two other than
the fact that you could be her grandparent or
raise her at this point. And a lot of times it
has to do with narcissistic control and behaviors
is that much of a gap. You don't want anybody
that's gonna push back and not tell you no, so
you find somebody that. And I will take that
back. He's 63 and she was 18. Oh, yeah. No, he's
a Nat dirty old man Dirty old dirty old man That's
the way I see that so all to all the Cougars
and tigers out there Do you do your thing but
do it God's way? Whatever you do and make sure
that you know You're dealing with consenting
adults and you're not taking the vulnerability
of somebody's child For you know, for an advantage
me personally me personally I'm looking seven
years my senior seven eight years my senior might
just will not go to ten My senior is my tops
and I'm still working on that age gap in the
other direction. I think Y 'all, give me about
a couple of months. I'm gonna get a, except 38
or 39. In a couple of months, I should be looking
at my 50 -some -year -old husband. I'm gonna
say 38 or 39. 38 or 39 would be a good starting
point. Y 'all pray my strength in the Lord dealing
with Reverend James H Glover, because we got
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