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all, you all, you all. Yeah, I know. We supposed
to have my sister Hannah with us again tonight,
but she texts me and tells me that she's still
a little bit under the weather. So we gonna,
wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute.
Right. When did she I am so you just forgot because
I was been sick for like a month My bad. My bad.
My bad. Y 'all ladies and gentlemen. That's that's
how you're rolling out Ladies and gentlemen ladies
and gentlemen ladies and gentlemen we got my
sister my co -host Miss Panna I'll be back in
the building y 'all. What is up sis? Like let's
say I have missed you for real Yeah, we We have
talked about what it's so Like y 'all don't understand.
There's been days where she has told me I'm good.
I'll be at the barbershop Leave in the barbershop
and I get a phone call Mm -hmm And I'm like,
all right, I got you covered tonight But y 'all
look, this is the, this is why I love my sister
because when she comes, we come correct y 'all.
Y 'all already know it. Y 'all know how we come
when we come. So since we are glad to have you
back tonight. So I want you to open us up in
prayer if you don't mind. I think her internet
is trying to buff our owner Her internet I want
you to open this up in places Am I coming through
now, I just had to go to hot yeah, you good you
coming through okay Thank you for allowing us
to come together again and let us touch the hearts
and minds of the people that we need to. We thank
you for your healing power because you are the
ultimate healer. We thank you for your protection.
We thank you for increase. We thank you for clarity.
We thank you for discernment. And we thank you
for helping us evolve in our divine purpose.
We are so grateful for all things that you have
done for us, all things that you shall do for
us, and just giving us the strength to do all
things possible. We thank you for all the increase
and exceedingly and abundantly things you are
doing for this network, and for James and I and
everyone on the network. We thank you for all
our listeners. We pray that we touch them, influence
them, or help them feel anything that they're
missing. God, just speak through us. Touch us.
It is your will and your way. In the name of
Jesus. Amen. My God, for I was unmuted. Amen,
amen, amen. Y 'all, I know y 'all was tired of
me being by myself because y 'all, look, I was
struggling. I was struggling, but we made it
through it. We made it through it. I am so happy
to have my sister back though for real, y 'all.
So say some of that. You tell them what we're
talking about tonight. Tonight we are talking
about Who told you that? And I'm learning the
lies that shaped you. And learning the lies that
unshaped you. Mm -hmm. Some of us do kick it
off. So, like, many of us are living from beliefs
that we never chose. They were taught to us from
various experiences, our parents, our grandparents.
our aunts and uncles, sometimes churches, religions
that we were into, clubs. And sometimes they've
made us too much, you know, they made us too
broken, too emotional, too loud, too needy or
too ambitious. And today we're just talking about
identifying the lies, challenging them and replacing
them with God's truth. That's real, like that,
that's real. Identifying the lies and replacing
them with God's truth. That's what it was like
there. So some of those two kick us off with
the first question or the first point. I got
you. What is the lie you believed about yourself
for years? Man, one was that I had to be perfect.
That was one of the biggest lies that I believed
about myself was that I had to be perfect. Because
we live in a day and time where people are expecting
perfection out of you, but not willing to give
perfection themselves. They want to give themselves
grace, but they want you to be perfect in all
things. What about you? I will say one is kill
yourself, take care of everybody else, neglect
yourself. You don't matter, but taking care of
your elders is the most important thing it all
costs. True. I think sometimes we forget about
self because we don't want to be selfish, but
really we need to think about self more because
if you ain't thinking about yourself and all
you're doing is thinking about others, who's
going to be there for the others that you can't
think about when something happens to you. Another
thing that we've got to do is, we've got to remember,
we think you always have an identity. So very
true. Because a lot of us aren't identifying
the same. We're not identifying what is going
to be good news. And also that many of us are
fighting battles rooted in words spoken over
us years ago. Childhood, teenage years, it's
carrying into our adulthood. facts like there's
so many of us that are some of us are carrying
in traumas from salary or generational cultures
from salary but wondering why we can't be blessed
because we came around step from past generations
that others have swept into the world So, who
influenced the way you see yourself? I would
say number one is God for sure. It's like once
I realized who I was in him, then I could be
who I needed to be for him. And I think sometimes
you got to realize who we are too, because I
think sometimes we lose ourselves trying to please
everybody else. We suffer from people pleasing.
We trying to run around and trying to be everything
for everybody. And guys, I ain't calling you
to be everything for everybody. Just be you.
Yeah. I definitely, as I have grown in my relationship
with God and on my journey, I definitely can,
like, people ask me to do stuff and I'm like,
no, that's not my assignment. And when you have
that kind of response, they look at you, but
I'm like, that's not my assignment. And it is
such a empowering statement to say that. That's
not my assignment. Like... This isn't what I
was called to do. Get somebody else to do it.
I remember one of the things that has helped
me is learning to say no to certain people because
it's like after a while you get to a point where
you're saying yes to everybody else and you're
telling yourself no. Like your body's on E. But
you're saying yes to everybody else, just to
make sure that everybody else is doing. Yeah.
It took me getting sick with COVID twice for
me to realize that yo, I need to slow down. I
need to make sure that I'm doing. Another one
would be, so my question for you would be, how
do you navigate beliefs, affect, how do negative
beliefs affect your decisions we make? How does
that? The thoughts that we have eventually become
our actions. You're gonna believe you're unworthy
You often make decisions that reflect your belief
so like if You were told you're always not good
enough because I had that as well You're gonna
feel that way when you grow up and you're adulting
and your relationships And when you carry that
It's going to be heavy It's gonna be hard for
you to ever feel like you're excelling at something.
You're not gonna really be able to take a compliment.
You're always gonna feel inadequate. And I think
they, you know, previous generations believed
that being tough, you know, was a way, but really
sometimes it just doesn't work out. And so you'll
feel low about yourself and the people that you
attract will see that and feed on you at that
low level. and take advantage of you and then
you get caught up in situations and scenarios
and entanglements and it can just be like a whole
like spider web of issues. I believe that because
people will see how you are treating yourself
and basically that you ain't treating yourself
with respect. How do you expect them to respect
you? Yep Because that's what they like man if
he ain't respecting yourself, I'm not gonna respect
them Mm -hmm because he saw me how to Sweden
Mm -hmm Cuz think about it what you repeatedly
think about yourself shapes how you live how
you feel about yourself Say have one more time
for the people in the back what you repeatedly
think about yourself, shapes how you live and
how you feel about yourself. How you feel about
yourself shapes how you feel about yourself.
I like that. I like that. I like that. That's
good right there. That's real good. Because a
lot of people don't believe that but it's very
true. It's true like how you sweet yourself is
so and others How you expect to be sweeter what
you expect what you're gonna tell away Mm -hmm
So yeah, I believe that first of all My next
one Would be One of the scripts is that i love
that goes along with that is part verbs 23 and
7 where it says for as he thinks in his heart
so is he and in woman's 12 and 2 says do not
confirm to this pattern to the pattern of this
world but be transformed by the renewing of your
mind i love both of those because both of those
souls like that your mind is very key thing it's
important All right, your turn, sis. Have you
ever outgrown a version of yourself but kept
the old mindset? For sure, for sure. There's
been a few times where I outgrew the version,
but the mindset was still there because the mindset
was always, let me continue to please others,
let me continue to do what others expect of me
to do. In our honesty, it was like I had to help
grow at mindset and be like, you know what? What
would God have me to do? Forget about what other
people want me to do. What would God have me
to do? Because as long as he's happy and as long
as he's pleased I'm good Yeah, because growth
requires a mental upgrade I think that's something
that we have to Remember and that's why sometimes
like it's hard to be around certain people that
you used to be around Or like we always say you
say it too like the conversations are different
when you're around certain people I was just
with my friend And I love her to death and she's
amazing and you know, I was like, oh, I got a
250 ,000 life which is policy. I'm think I'm
thinking I'm on my shit, you know She was like,
nah, Hannah, we do million dollar policies. We
got kids. I said, OK, let me go back. Let me
get on the phone and give me another policy.
It needed to be, you know, she said, when do
we do many? And then the question someone said,
well, how much is that going to cost? I said,
it don't matter. It's about these kids setting
them up for leaving them something that can really
change their entire life. Because think about
it. You can't even get a condo for $400 ,000.
Pax. And I think a lot of times in our community,
in the African -American community especially,
we have a bad tendency of not leaving our kids
nothing but headaches and babes. But in the other
parts, our other parts, our other counterparts.
Ma 'am, they leaving them set up for life. They
leaving them businesses. They leaving them houses.
The houses paid off, deeded. Don't have to go
back to work enough money to take care of them
kids for the next 15, 20 years, you know what
I'm saying? And still keep the kids in activities.
And now we not talking Rick, we talking about
real stuff where they travel, summer camps, playing
two to three sports at one time, you know, dance,
instrumental. You know, they really leave a whole
way that you could never wrap your head around.
But it is definitely an eye opener for sure.
It is. That's why you gotta get into different
rooms so that she can have the different mindsets.
Like you gotta walk in the rooms with people
that are making million dollar deals. And once
you walk in those rooms with the people that
are making million dollars deals, you're not
gonna be able to have that five dollar mindset
no more. Your walk is different. Your talk is
different. The way that you handle things is
totally different. Because of the connection
and the conversation that you've had Like let's
say what we got planned for but it's coming up
Y 'all don't know it yet, but that'll be announced
soon like what we got coming up It's bigger Than
what we are mm -hmm It's bigger than us And that's
what we have to realize like I had to realize
like okay God like this is bigger than me this
assignment is bigger than what I am This is bigger
than me Yep And we thank God for it. Like we
thank God that the task is bigger than what we
are. Because what that does is that makes us
realize like, yo, we serve a God that's doing
exceedingly, abundantly more than we can ask
or think. It's like we not serving no pity pack
like. small things, which we thank God for the
small things as well. But, y 'all, we expecting
like some big things from God. So as you go higher,
that mindset got a sense. Your prayer life got
a sense. The way that you walk, the way that
you talk, the way that you maneuver, it's got
a sense. And do you know why it's got the same?
Because you're moving differently. You're walking
with more of an intentional. You're walking in
an intentional patternality. So why do you think
people struggle to accept compliments but easily
accept criticism? That's funny because that was
something that I struggled with And let me tell
you what happened to me. I was preaching somewhere
and As I was preaching at this place this person
they After I finished everybody was complimenting
me and telling me like they really enjoyed the
message But when they did that I'm like God bless
you God bless you God bless you But I have my
head down And I remember somebody coming up to
me. And then like, after service, this woman
came up to me and she said, keep your head up.
And I'm thinking, she talking about like, keep
your head up. I'm like, oh yeah, yeah, yeah,
yeah, yeah. Of course, of course, of course.
Always, always, always. She said, no, look at
me. She said, when they complimenting you. Lift
that head up. Since I know you're trying to be
humble with him, she said, but sir, when you
preach like that, take that. Lift that head up,
take that. And for me, it was because I was trying
to be humble. I wasn't trying to be high and
mighty. So I was like, man, let me just keep
my head down like, God bless you, God bless you.
But I had to work on that. What about you? I
think I spent so many years getting criticized
that I didn't know how to take compliments. Because
I didn't grow up in a complimenting household.
So that's why I'm different with my children.
Even if they do things that I don't like, I always
try to compliment the good things they do. I
always try to reward the behavior that is positive
from point so that they can have the balance
of both. Like, yeah, you did it, but it took
you like, oh, I don't understand it, you know?
But I'm very proud of you. Or, you know, if you
say, hey, you're not doing this, you're not getting
this. And then I see them actually working and
pushing through and persevering. I'm like, hey,
your phone's ringing. Why don't you go talk to
your friend for a few minutes and then we'll
come back to this. So acknowledging when they
do do the right things, I feel is very important.
I like that. I like that. I think our generation
is doing better with that. Because we've seen
where the other generations have failed. And
we're like, we're not going to do that. We're
going to be better. We're going to do better.
We're going to make sure that our kids know how
proud of them, where we are. Your turn. How does
comparison keep us stuck? It makes you try to
be something that's you're not, try to be like
somebody that you're not. Like comparison will
have you trying to be a Malcolm X when God called
you to be a Martin Luther King. both of them
are great, both of them are powerful, both of
them was powerful, both of them was great, but
they was great in what they did. What do you
think about that? I think that is very true.
Yeah, I think sometimes And I think also it's
like this internet generation It makes it harder
because you see people getting it quick So you
won't eat just as quick as what they get me Not
what it really takes and we know that because
we've been building things up from the bottom
Like, you know, I had the Amazon I have the Amazon
store. I had eBay, you know, and all the styles
was I've done you You know, I'm saying this you've
been with me with this from day one. Mm -hmm
So you've seen the groundwork that we've done
Mm -hmm And I've always had two jobs like I don't
I think I might take a couple weeks off but I
always keep two jobs and I think you know you
see me go for my life insurance license like
you just see me do so much and I think comparison
distracts from purpose and that's the biggest
thing and that that is the distraction and I
think another thing people don't is that someone
else's blessing doesn't diminish yours. Like
for me like it's One of my friends is making
a million dollars. I'm proud of him. Happy for
him. Even with me and me. Yo, I'm happy for my
friends out of me. Because I know eventually
it'll happen to me. And God's timing. So, alright,
alright, alright. All right, we're going to go
to the last one. This is good. What does God
say about you that you've been struggling to
believe? And we're going to reference some scriptures
because this is essential. Psalm 139, 14, I praise
you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
That's a good one. Jeremiah 29 and 11, for I
know the plans. That I have for you declares
the Lord Hmm Ephesians 2 saying for we are God's
handy word created in Christ Jesus to do good
works First Peter two and nine, but you are souls
and people a royal priest to it my God That's
the good one, but this is what we got to remember
like God didn't make a mistake when he created
you He made you Your worth was established by
the Creator And then we got to remember that
God's plan for us are not based on our past mistakes
Johnny McClellan said, there's no body but a
man who fell down, but continue to get up. Getting
back up is the thing that we got to do. We got
to continue to get up. We got to continue this
over. We got to continue to get in God's place.
Continue to ask God for forgiveness. Continue
to sow up better than what we was on the day
before. And then we got to remember You we were
created on purpose and for a purpose Like God
had a plan for every last one of us Now it's
playing for you is different than it's playing
for me But the thing is he has a plan and what
we got to remember is God's plan for us doesn't
stop until that final buzzer goes off when he
calls us home that's when the plan stops because
that means we've done all that we were supposed
to do so y 'all first off i'm just so glad to
have my sister back with me tonight like whoof
y 'all don't understand like I was telling prophetess
team a week, the other day, I said, what people
don't realize is the bond that Hannah and I have
is so imbalanced. I said, and the reason why
that is is this is being what, a decade? Oh,
I'm longer than that because Angelic Bobby 13.
How old was my Nisi poo? She was a Nisi poo.
So this like young like the young one Was she
like it's over a decade for sure Definitely I
would say cuz Nisi poo was a Nisi So she was
like one So that's what I'm saying y 'all like
When y 'all see our chemistry on the air, y 'all
gotta understand that chemistry comes from hard
work. That chemistry comes from, we have to point
to where now we can go two weeks or three weeks
where we don't talk on the phone. But the minute
we get back on that phone, it's like ain't nothing
happened. And we always know when like, we're
sick or we're going through something. Because
it all started with my daughter having a seizure.
She has complex fever seizures. So her temperature
rises and she seizes when she gets the illness.
And it all stemmed from water day at summer camp.
But she got the fever and then the diagnosis
of what caused it came later. Um, and it was
my kindest and then when she's sick, I hold her.
She's like a baby. She's like a newborn, even
though she's almost four feet tall, 40 over 40
pounds. And, um, then I got it. Like I got her
back healthy. I sit her down for a week and our
God is a healer. Um, she's had multiple seizures
and no damage because God is amazing. And after
the seizure, we got a, we came home with the
hospital and, um, I got it about a week later
when she was good, but it just went shake. It
was like bronchitis, so I did a telebusy, you
know, trying to save money. And I just kept trying
to dance. I don't feel good. Like, and my voice
was gone. And as I was talking to my customers
and talking to James, after a week of finishing
the medicine, and it was antibiotic and steroids,
I just wasn't right. And I said, my body is just
weak. And I was talking to somebody like, you
know, you need to go back. Like, you need to
go see a real doctor. And I sat down and I was
like, let's go to the doctor. Sunday, I was sitting
down at a date and I was like, I gotta go. My
body ain't right. I had to sit up for kids. And
I went. And I was like, hey, I need a chest x
-ray. Like this ain't normal. We a week off.
I got a vacation coming up. My kids are looking
for, we gotta figure out what's going on. And
I'll chill out. Just, you know, you might have
a little dismissive. Well, it's just, you know,
cause you got asthma. It's just to my God. I
said, it don't make sense. Like we seven days
fast in medication. And when I couldn't go to
the gym anymore, I knew it was bad. Like I couldn't
finish my workouts. I could only do like 10,
15 minutes. And all my cardio, I couldn't even
get to the weight lift and I'd be exhausted.
And I still didn't have my voice. And I was just
like, okay, God. And I was praying through it.
And I asked them for a chest x -ray. And we did
the chest x -ray. We found out that I had like
lingular pneumonia. And they were like, oh, and
then the whole treatment plan changed. And I
was still actually finishing up my medication
when I was on vacation with my kids, but I got
them on that vacation because their granny was
looking forward to it. They had a heart -set
on it. And I want them to have those experiences,
you know? And y 'all, that's why I like, but
that whole time I was second on, I'm like, yo,
you good? Are you sure? You need anything? What's
up? I told her I'm like, don't worry about the
soul. I got you on that. Because for us, it's
deeper than the soul. We family. Everybody here
on this network, it's bigger than the soul. It's
family. And I can say Tima Wee and Hannah told
me back in February. when my mom was here and
we didn't know what was going on with her like
literally i remember i got a message from both
of y 'all do y 'all like and we said damn like
ain't no questions asked because i was gonna
try to pull through and try to see but i can't
make sake as far as getting some cells done they
like no like i ain't no cells this week And that's
why I love them because we That's what we do
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